September 27, 2025 • 14 mins
In this next episode of the Outweigh Q&A series, we’re diving into the delicate balance of supporting a loved one in recovery from an eating disorder, particularly from a mom's perspective. We’ll discuss practical ways to encourage and uplift your child as they navigate their journey to healing. Whether you’re a parent of a child in recovery or juggling your own eating challenges while raising a family, this episode offers compassionate advice and heartfelt support. It’s all about creating a nurturing environment where everyone in the family can thrive, heal, and learn healthier relationships with food together.
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy
Leanne Ellington // StresslessEating.com // @leanneellington
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made, don't won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning to love who I am again.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Strong, I feel free. I know every part of me.
It is beautiful.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
And I will always out way if you feel it,
but you are She'll some love to the bood.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Why get there? Take you one day?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Anita? Did you and die?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Out Way?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Happy Saturday?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Outweigh Amy here, and I've got my sidekick, Leanne Hello, Hello,
She's the expert when it comes to this stuff. And
the tagline for outweigh, which I haven't said at the
last couple of weeks, and sometimes it may get lost
in the mix, but the tagline is a life without
disordered eating outweighs Everything. And a lot of the questions
(00:57):
that we covered the last three weeks were about just
or behaviors, body image, knowing your words, and today we're
going to be talking to parents, family members. These three
questions are from moms or partners, at least from what
I can tell the way they described to me. The
question box can only fit so many characters. But the
first question is my daughter is in recovery from anarexia
(01:19):
she's doing great. How can I support her? The next
one is as a mom of a kid in recovery
from an eating disorder, I applaud you for sharing your story.
And that's more of a statement, not a question. But
we threw it in here because it applies because the
first mom's asking a question, how do I support my
daughter in recovery? And then you had another mom saying
(01:40):
they have a kid in recovery, So boom, there's a connection.
There's other moms out there, and one way to find
support would be do you know other moms in your community,
your network? How can y'all connect and be a light
for each other, a refuge, a place to go, a
place to retreat and maybe even vent or share or
(02:00):
cry or scream or be confused together. Because I know
that when I first went to my mom and said
I threw up my food today, I don't even know
what to say about that, Like I didn't even really
understand what was happening, and my mom didn't know really
how to support me.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
And the Internet was.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Sort of in play, but I don't think as a
mom she could go Google, or there wasn't Instagram, there
wasn't a way to connect with other people. And the
gift of the Internet is community and connection. So this
just shows you there's another mom out there. And then
for us like sharing our story, yeah, we're doing it
here on a podcast like a platform such as this,
But that doesn't mean everybody's vulnerabilities and stories that that's
(02:40):
the way to share it. I have plenty of stories
of my own that I don't share publicly, but I
have shared privately with friends that maybe needed that comfort,
or I share it in other communities. So it doesn't
mean just put your story out there for all. And
voney can look so different. But at the end of
the day, when you share your story, whoever it's with
or however it looks, you're helping someone feel seen and
(03:03):
comforted with that. Yeah. Then the third question is how
do you handle partners that have disordered eating or behaviors
and they're healing from that, But then there's a toddler involved,
and as a parent, I think that that can get
really weird. I mean, my ex husband had to live
through some of my weird restrictions that I wanted to
(03:24):
enforce on our kids when he wasn't necessarily in agreement
with that, but he just sort of went with the flow,
but I was causing more tension, and I think that
if he had sought out help, he maybe could have
come to me and been like, hey, so I've been
very confused by this. I know you're trying to do
the right thing, but this seems very restrictive towards our
(03:45):
kids and even me for the matter, and I would
like us to figure out a new way, but instead
you would just sort of go with the flow. And
I commend him for doing the best that he could
in that moment, right, I'm not shaming him for noting
to get help, but I guess in a way, looking back,
I wish he would have challenged me a little bit more,
(04:07):
but we had other fish to bry.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Yeah, you're doing your best, the best that you could,
you know, So yeah, shall we just dive on in?
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
So yeah, this mass and my daughter's in recovery from anorexia.
She's doing great. How can I support her? So the
first thing is you sought the help that she needs
and she's getting that expert help. What I would invite
you to take on without saying it's like harder fast advice.
Part of it is like you don't need to be
the expert, like now, it's just you get to be mom, right,
(04:35):
And so part of it is just identifying who you
want to be as a mom. But also like just
I've worked with so many teens as well at this
point in time, and so I have a lot of
perspective of like, well, what they needed from their parents.
And one of the most common things I hear from
my teens is they say, I wish my mom had
just asked me what I needed rather than trying to
like fix me or fix it or whatever. Like part
(04:57):
of it is like instead of assuming what you think
she'll need need to be supported, like you could literally
just ask or be like, hey, I know you're going
through recovery. I'm not here to be your coach, Like
I know you're working with this expert, this therapist, this whatever,
and so I just want you to know I fully
support you. How can I best support you right now?
Like what do you think you need?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:14):
And at first you might be like, I don't know,
because that's a very common response, right, and then it
could just be painting that scene of like hey, even
if you don't know right now, I just want you
to know I want to support you however you need,
and even if that means like you want to keep
up the wall and like talks to your therapist right
now and let me in later whenever you're comfort because
because sometimes people they want to kind of incubate and
(05:36):
they want to figure it out because they might literally
not have the words to communicate to their parent what
they're actually experiencing because they're so in it. So even
giving them that permission to say, hey, you don't have
to talk about it right now with me. You can
talk about it when you're ready. But I think what
happens is, at least from the experiences that I've had
with the teens I've worked with with their parents, is
their parents take on this extra responsibility that they need
(05:58):
to fix something that they need to be part of
the healing journey. And part of it is is what
your kid might need is just that unconditional love, that
unconditional support, and giving her permission to ask for what
she needs when she needs it without necessarily assuming it. Now,
here's the thing you're asking this because your heart is
so big, we can just tell like you just want
to love on your daughter and support her, and so
(06:19):
thank you for you just being the woman that you are, right,
but part of what she might need right now is
a little bit of that space, but also with the
permission slip of like, hey, I'm here to support you,
will you let me know what you need right But
I think the big distinction here is like I wouldn't
try to get in the arena of the expertise, be
(06:40):
that unconditional cheerleader support all of that, but how you
might typically cheerlead might not be as productive this time around.
That's why you might want to just ask her like hey,
because sometimes they might just want to be incubated with
the person that they're working with. But sometimes they might
be like, hey, mom, you know what, I really want
to incubate myself. But then Friday nights, let's go grab
(07:01):
a movie and dinner and we'll and I'll fill you in.
But I think it's really like, without assuming what she needs,
just just ask her and give her permission to know
and not know and tell you as she figures it out.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I feel like that's advice for any relationship. Like I
know right now we're speaking to this mom, but I
think that that's such helpful advice for a best friend,
a sister, a significant other, what do you need? And
they may not know right away, but mentally something may
come to them and they'll know you're there, You're willing,
you're open, you want to support once they do have
(07:33):
an answer for you. What about that question of partners
that are healing, they're in a needing disorder, but there's
toddlers involved in healthy food and yeah, for sure in
the home, it affects everybody, right, Yeah, So.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
It's interesting because I could see how this question might
have been intended a couple different ways. So I'll kind
of answer both. It says, how do you handle partners
disordered eating while healing? So does that mean that they're
healing or that you're all so healing from it and
then teaching a toddler healthy food. So either way, what
I'd say is this is, you know, first of all,
that toddler is going to be very impressionable.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I remember when I heard that somebody in my family
told my niece who was like two at the time,
that peanut butter was bad for you, and I was like, aha,
like blasphemy. But anyways, like words can withstand, they can
just like stand the test of time. Like you hear
something so just keep in mind the impressionability of this
child at the time, and so thank you for even
asking because it shows that you're aware of that. But
(08:30):
I want to kind of stack on something that Amy
was saying with her experiences with Ben. So part of
it is like if we just take your partner's disordered
eating out of it for a second, right, and we
just think of it of like how do you want
to model to your child about air quotes, health and
healthy eating, right, And so part of it is modeling,
I think is the first and foremost thing. I think
introducing words and language to a toddler of like good, bad, healthy, unhealthy,
(08:55):
like should shouldn't all of that? I personally believe that
that should be avoided as much as possible. And you
can encourage them like, oh my gosh, like this broccoli
has so many nutrients or whatever, like you can say
the data of what it is without adding the emotional
value to the to the word like cause again good
for you, bad for you, healthy, that being all those
things we learned so early. So but back to what
(09:18):
Amy was saying, if you know that your partner has
a like a disorder behavior and they're getting help, they're
obviously aware of their disorder eating, so it's not like
the elephant in the room. So this is an example.
I'm not saying that you should do this, but an
example of this could look like, hey, hun, while you
are kind of going through your own process of healing
your own disorder, would you be okay if I did
(09:41):
the main like teaching or modeling to our child of
how we want to teach them about food or about
health or whatever. Would you be okay if I took
on that kind of role in our family for right now.
So that's one example, right So without it being like
a like putting your partner in defense or thinking that
they're doing anything wrong, obviously they know that. They're probably
(10:02):
self aware enough to know like, hey, I'm going through
my own thing right now, I'm probably not going to
be the best model for this for our child. So
hopefully they can kind of like you know, pass on
that and allow you to take that on. Right But
I think part of it too is like, you know,
creating positive neuro associations around food. And when I say
positive neuro associations, I mean you know, offering different varieties
(10:24):
like feeling happy and healthy and stress free around food.
Because kids pick up on those things making meal time enjoyable,
So adding music, adding cool utensils and plates and stuff
like that, getting them involved and prepping the food and
the cooking and stuff like that. So establishing really positive
experiences around food that have nothing to do with the
words that you're using to describe food like good, bad, right, wrong, should, shouldn't.
(10:48):
But those things that I just shared with you, you
could absolutely get your partner involved in those things, because
if it's a non verbal association with food that can
be modeled to a child beautifully, and then both of
you guys can get involved. But just knowing that when
you're talking about like using language around food, that maybe
until he or she feels that they're ready and have
(11:10):
like a more grounded version of themselves around food, that
you kind of take on that role in your partnership. Now,
again that's just a way. I'm not saying that's the way.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yeah, No, I think that that's good advice. And it
takes the awareness, and it takes communication, and it takes time.
And that's something I think younger me in my marriage,
my partnership didn't have. Even when I was starting to heal,
there was so much to learn for me to heal
within myself. But even just those little language things and
(11:40):
energy things.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
That kids pick up on how you.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Respond and react and the words you say, and you'll
catch yourself. And then if you talk to your partner
about it too, like hey, but not from a place
of judgment, more from a place of I know you're
working so hard, and I'm not sure if you noticed
that you did mention, Oh, I shouldn't have had this,
or I can't eat that, or this food is bad.
(12:05):
I'm just letting you know. Maybe you don't even realize
that you're saying it, but the kids are going to
pick up on it. So how can we come up
with some other words, or can we come up with
a system like a baseball play, you know, like you
tug your ear a cute little elbow tap, but more
of like you're coming alongside of the partner and you
want to support, not as a frustrated partner or roommate.
(12:26):
That's like having to deal with this person. You have
to know, there's so much going on. There's a lot
of behaviors and patterns and thought patterns and words that
have been a part of someone's vocabulary for decades.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
So long.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Grace is important. Compassion and grace even for yourself. Yeah,
absolute relationship can look so different. But I just I
can speak to what mine was with Ben in my home,
and I think I just probably wish I had had
more self awareness and I would have gone to Ben
and said, hey, when I say this or act this way,
can you help call me out on it privately?
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Doesn't have to be in front of the kid, So.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Just develop your own system. I didn't even have that
awareness to have that conversation with Ben, and he'd been
used to me being that way in our marriage, and
a lot of men, I would say, aren't as dialed
in with how those words can be damaging to kids,
especially young girls. So we didn't never know, but we
have learned, and we wish y'all sure, Leanne, where can
(13:27):
people find you? And this is part four of our
Q and A and we're going to wrap it up
next week will be part five.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
But in the meantime, yeah, you can head on over
to stresslesting dot com to see I feel back the
curtain around the thought process that I teach my clients
on how to turn off the part of their brain
that's obsessed with food. And really rewire it for freedom
and peace of mind and heal from the disorder. So
that's over on stressle seeding dot com and then you
can find out all about me about everything else over
on Leannellington dot com.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
And Leanne has a podcast called What's God Got to
Do with It which is awesome as well. I'm at
Radio Amy. I'll have a new fifth thing up on
Tuesday with Therapy Cat, and then four Things on Thursday,
and then next thing you know, it'll be next Saturday
and we will wrap up the Q and A episodes.
It'll be part five and we're gonna be talking about orthorexia.
(14:17):
We'll see then, Bye bye,
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made, don't won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning to love who I am again.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Strong, I feel free. I know every part of me.
It is beautiful.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
And I will always out way if you feel it,
but you are She'll some love to the bood.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Why get there? Take you one day?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Anita? Did you and die?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Out Way?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Happy Saturday?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Outweigh Amy here, and I've got my sidekick, Leanne Hello, Hello,
She's the expert when it comes to this stuff. And
the tagline for outweigh, which I haven't said at the
last couple of weeks, and sometimes it may get lost
in the mix, but the tagline is a life without
disordered eating outweighs Everything. And a lot of the questions
(00:57):
that we covered the last three weeks were about just
or behaviors, body image, knowing your words, and today we're
going to be talking to parents, family members. These three
questions are from moms or partners, at least from what
I can tell the way they described to me. The
question box can only fit so many characters. But the
first question is my daughter is in recovery from anarexia
(01:19):
she's doing great. How can I support her? The next
one is as a mom of a kid in recovery
from an eating disorder, I applaud you for sharing your story.
And that's more of a statement, not a question. But
we threw it in here because it applies because the
first mom's asking a question, how do I support my
daughter in recovery? And then you had another mom saying
(01:40):
they have a kid in recovery, So boom, there's a connection.
There's other moms out there, and one way to find
support would be do you know other moms in your community,
your network? How can y'all connect and be a light
for each other, a refuge, a place to go, a
place to retreat and maybe even vent or share or
(02:00):
cry or scream or be confused together. Because I know
that when I first went to my mom and said
I threw up my food today, I don't even know
what to say about that, Like I didn't even really
understand what was happening, and my mom didn't know really
how to support me.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
And the Internet was.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Sort of in play, but I don't think as a
mom she could go Google, or there wasn't Instagram, there
wasn't a way to connect with other people. And the
gift of the Internet is community and connection. So this
just shows you there's another mom out there. And then
for us like sharing our story, yeah, we're doing it
here on a podcast like a platform such as this,
But that doesn't mean everybody's vulnerabilities and stories that that's
(02:40):
the way to share it. I have plenty of stories
of my own that I don't share publicly, but I
have shared privately with friends that maybe needed that comfort,
or I share it in other communities. So it doesn't
mean just put your story out there for all. And
voney can look so different. But at the end of
the day, when you share your story, whoever it's with
or however it looks, you're helping someone feel seen and
(03:03):
comforted with that. Yeah. Then the third question is how
do you handle partners that have disordered eating or behaviors
and they're healing from that, But then there's a toddler involved,
and as a parent, I think that that can get
really weird. I mean, my ex husband had to live
through some of my weird restrictions that I wanted to
(03:24):
enforce on our kids when he wasn't necessarily in agreement
with that, but he just sort of went with the flow,
but I was causing more tension, and I think that
if he had sought out help, he maybe could have
come to me and been like, hey, so I've been
very confused by this. I know you're trying to do
the right thing, but this seems very restrictive towards our
(03:45):
kids and even me for the matter, and I would
like us to figure out a new way, but instead
you would just sort of go with the flow. And
I commend him for doing the best that he could
in that moment, right, I'm not shaming him for noting
to get help, but I guess in a way, looking back,
I wish he would have challenged me a little bit more,
(04:07):
but we had other fish to bry.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Yeah, you're doing your best, the best that you could,
you know, So yeah, shall we just dive on in?
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
So yeah, this mass and my daughter's in recovery from anorexia.
She's doing great. How can I support her? So the
first thing is you sought the help that she needs
and she's getting that expert help. What I would invite
you to take on without saying it's like harder fast advice.
Part of it is like you don't need to be
the expert, like now, it's just you get to be mom, right,
(04:35):
And so part of it is just identifying who you
want to be as a mom. But also like just
I've worked with so many teens as well at this
point in time, and so I have a lot of
perspective of like, well, what they needed from their parents.
And one of the most common things I hear from
my teens is they say, I wish my mom had
just asked me what I needed rather than trying to
like fix me or fix it or whatever. Like part
(04:57):
of it is like instead of assuming what you think
she'll need need to be supported, like you could literally
just ask or be like, hey, I know you're going
through recovery. I'm not here to be your coach, Like
I know you're working with this expert, this therapist, this whatever,
and so I just want you to know I fully
support you. How can I best support you right now?
Like what do you think you need?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:14):
And at first you might be like, I don't know,
because that's a very common response, right, and then it
could just be painting that scene of like hey, even
if you don't know right now, I just want you
to know I want to support you however you need,
and even if that means like you want to keep
up the wall and like talks to your therapist right
now and let me in later whenever you're comfort because
because sometimes people they want to kind of incubate and
(05:36):
they want to figure it out because they might literally
not have the words to communicate to their parent what
they're actually experiencing because they're so in it. So even
giving them that permission to say, hey, you don't have
to talk about it right now with me. You can
talk about it when you're ready. But I think what
happens is, at least from the experiences that I've had
with the teens I've worked with with their parents, is
their parents take on this extra responsibility that they need
(05:58):
to fix something that they need to be part of
the healing journey. And part of it is is what
your kid might need is just that unconditional love, that
unconditional support, and giving her permission to ask for what
she needs when she needs it without necessarily assuming it. Now,
here's the thing you're asking this because your heart is
so big, we can just tell like you just want
to love on your daughter and support her, and so
(06:19):
thank you for you just being the woman that you are, right,
but part of what she might need right now is
a little bit of that space, but also with the
permission slip of like, hey, I'm here to support you,
will you let me know what you need right But
I think the big distinction here is like I wouldn't
try to get in the arena of the expertise, be
(06:40):
that unconditional cheerleader support all of that, but how you
might typically cheerlead might not be as productive this time around.
That's why you might want to just ask her like hey,
because sometimes they might just want to be incubated with
the person that they're working with. But sometimes they might
be like, hey, mom, you know what, I really want
to incubate myself. But then Friday nights, let's go grab
(07:01):
a movie and dinner and we'll and I'll fill you in.
But I think it's really like, without assuming what she needs,
just just ask her and give her permission to know
and not know and tell you as she figures it out.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I feel like that's advice for any relationship. Like I
know right now we're speaking to this mom, but I
think that that's such helpful advice for a best friend,
a sister, a significant other, what do you need? And
they may not know right away, but mentally something may
come to them and they'll know you're there, You're willing,
you're open, you want to support once they do have
(07:33):
an answer for you. What about that question of partners
that are healing, they're in a needing disorder, but there's
toddlers involved in healthy food and yeah, for sure in
the home, it affects everybody, right, Yeah, So.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
It's interesting because I could see how this question might
have been intended a couple different ways. So I'll kind
of answer both. It says, how do you handle partners
disordered eating while healing? So does that mean that they're
healing or that you're all so healing from it and
then teaching a toddler healthy food. So either way, what
I'd say is this is, you know, first of all,
that toddler is going to be very impressionable.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I remember when I heard that somebody in my family
told my niece who was like two at the time,
that peanut butter was bad for you, and I was like, aha,
like blasphemy. But anyways, like words can withstand, they can
just like stand the test of time. Like you hear
something so just keep in mind the impressionability of this
child at the time, and so thank you for even
asking because it shows that you're aware of that. But
(08:30):
I want to kind of stack on something that Amy
was saying with her experiences with Ben. So part of
it is like if we just take your partner's disordered
eating out of it for a second, right, and we
just think of it of like how do you want
to model to your child about air quotes, health and
healthy eating, right, And so part of it is modeling,
I think is the first and foremost thing. I think
introducing words and language to a toddler of like good, bad, healthy, unhealthy,
(08:55):
like should shouldn't all of that? I personally believe that
that should be avoided as much as possible. And you
can encourage them like, oh my gosh, like this broccoli
has so many nutrients or whatever, like you can say
the data of what it is without adding the emotional
value to the to the word like cause again good
for you, bad for you, healthy, that being all those
things we learned so early. So but back to what
(09:18):
Amy was saying, if you know that your partner has
a like a disorder behavior and they're getting help, they're
obviously aware of their disorder eating, so it's not like
the elephant in the room. So this is an example.
I'm not saying that you should do this, but an
example of this could look like, hey, hun, while you
are kind of going through your own process of healing
your own disorder, would you be okay if I did
(09:41):
the main like teaching or modeling to our child of
how we want to teach them about food or about
health or whatever. Would you be okay if I took
on that kind of role in our family for right now.
So that's one example, right So without it being like
a like putting your partner in defense or thinking that
they're doing anything wrong, obviously they know that. They're probably
(10:02):
self aware enough to know like, hey, I'm going through
my own thing right now, I'm probably not going to
be the best model for this for our child. So
hopefully they can kind of like you know, pass on
that and allow you to take that on. Right But
I think part of it too is like, you know,
creating positive neuro associations around food. And when I say
positive neuro associations, I mean you know, offering different varieties
(10:24):
like feeling happy and healthy and stress free around food.
Because kids pick up on those things making meal time enjoyable,
So adding music, adding cool utensils and plates and stuff
like that, getting them involved and prepping the food and
the cooking and stuff like that. So establishing really positive
experiences around food that have nothing to do with the
words that you're using to describe food like good, bad, right, wrong, should, shouldn't.
(10:48):
But those things that I just shared with you, you
could absolutely get your partner involved in those things, because
if it's a non verbal association with food that can
be modeled to a child beautifully, and then both of
you guys can get involved. But just knowing that when
you're talking about like using language around food, that maybe
until he or she feels that they're ready and have
(11:10):
like a more grounded version of themselves around food, that
you kind of take on that role in your partnership. Now,
again that's just a way. I'm not saying that's the way.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yeah, No, I think that that's good advice. And it
takes the awareness, and it takes communication, and it takes time.
And that's something I think younger me in my marriage,
my partnership didn't have. Even when I was starting to heal,
there was so much to learn for me to heal
within myself. But even just those little language things and
(11:40):
energy things.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
That kids pick up on how you.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Respond and react and the words you say, and you'll
catch yourself. And then if you talk to your partner
about it too, like hey, but not from a place
of judgment, more from a place of I know you're
working so hard, and I'm not sure if you noticed
that you did mention, Oh, I shouldn't have had this,
or I can't eat that, or this food is bad.
(12:05):
I'm just letting you know. Maybe you don't even realize
that you're saying it, but the kids are going to
pick up on it. So how can we come up
with some other words, or can we come up with
a system like a baseball play, you know, like you
tug your ear a cute little elbow tap, but more
of like you're coming alongside of the partner and you
want to support, not as a frustrated partner or roommate.
(12:26):
That's like having to deal with this person. You have
to know, there's so much going on. There's a lot
of behaviors and patterns and thought patterns and words that
have been a part of someone's vocabulary for decades.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
So long.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Grace is important. Compassion and grace even for yourself. Yeah,
absolute relationship can look so different. But I just I
can speak to what mine was with Ben in my home,
and I think I just probably wish I had had
more self awareness and I would have gone to Ben
and said, hey, when I say this or act this way,
can you help call me out on it privately?
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Doesn't have to be in front of the kid, So.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Just develop your own system. I didn't even have that
awareness to have that conversation with Ben, and he'd been
used to me being that way in our marriage, and
a lot of men, I would say, aren't as dialed
in with how those words can be damaging to kids,
especially young girls. So we didn't never know, but we
have learned, and we wish y'all sure, Leanne, where can
(13:27):
people find you? And this is part four of our
Q and A and we're going to wrap it up
next week will be part five.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
But in the meantime, yeah, you can head on over
to stresslesting dot com to see I feel back the
curtain around the thought process that I teach my clients
on how to turn off the part of their brain
that's obsessed with food. And really rewire it for freedom
and peace of mind and heal from the disorder. So
that's over on stressle seeding dot com and then you
can find out all about me about everything else over
on Leannellington dot com.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
And Leanne has a podcast called What's God Got to
Do with It which is awesome as well. I'm at
Radio Amy. I'll have a new fifth thing up on
Tuesday with Therapy Cat, and then four Things on Thursday,
and then next thing you know, it'll be next Saturday
and we will wrap up the Q and A episodes.
It'll be part five and we're gonna be talking about orthorexia.
(14:17):
We'll see then, Bye bye,
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