April 19, 2025 • 10 mins
OUTWEIGH: We are kicking off a brand new series here on Outweigh with a truth most women never hear: you don’t have to love yourself first in order to feel worthy. In this powerful conversation, Leanne redefines worthiness—not as something you have to earn, hustle for, or feel 100% confident about—but as something you can reclaim right now. Even if self-love feels out of reach. Even if you still have doubts. This episode lays the foundation for a brain-based, heart-centered path to remembering your inherent worth… no perfection required.
HOST: Leanne Ellington // StresslessEating.com // @leanneellington
To learn more about re-wiring your brain to heal from the all-or-nothing diet mentality for good....but WITHOUT restricting yourself, punishing your body, (and definitely WITHOUT ever having to use words like macros, low-carb, or calorie burn) check out Leanne's FREE Stressless Eating Webinar @ www.StresslessEating.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made, don't won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning love who I am, I get, I'm strong,
I feel free, I know everybody of me. It's beautiful
and that will always out way if you feel it
(00:24):
with your hands and there feels some love to the
bo I give that, say good day and did you
and die out way? Happy Saturday, outweigh. It's lee Anne
here and today we're kicking off a powerful new mini
series called Reclaiming Your Worthiness Even if you don't accept
(00:44):
yourself yet. Now, before we jump in, I just want
to say this. If you've ever felt like, no matter
what you do, no matter how much you achieve, no
matter how much weight you lose, or how perfectly you
follow you know the air quotes rules, you still don't
feel worthy enough, then this series is for you because
the truth is is that no diet and no achievement,
(01:05):
and no makeover and no relationship and no fill in
the blank can ever fill the void that comes from
not believing that you're enough. But how do you believe
you're enough when you don't believe that you're enough? Or
when you don't believe that you're worthy, and it's a paradox,
it's a catch twenty two. So today we're going to
start the conversation around worthiness, but not in a fluffy,
(01:26):
motivational quote on Instagram kind of way. I'm talking in
a real, grounded, brain based and heart centered way. So
let's get right into it now. When I talk to
women who struggle with food and their body, or even
just their sense of self, there's often this common thread
woven into every area of their life, and it sounds like, Okay,
(01:46):
I'll finally feel okay once I lose the weight, or
I'll finally love myself when I stop binging or emotionally eating,
or recover from my disordered eating or eating disorder, or
maybe once I fix my body body or stop obsessing
about food, then I'll feel confident or worthy. And maybe
you can relate to that. I know I definitely could.
(02:07):
For years, I was living in that cycle, and I
thought that my body was the problem, and I thought
if I could just fix it, i'd finally feel at peace.
But here's what I learned. Your body image is not
just about how you look. It's about how you see yourself,
and that lens, the one that you're looking through. It's
wired into your brain. Now, there's a part of your
(02:30):
brain called the anterior singular cortex. If you've been listening
to this podcast for a while, you know, I talk
about it a lot. I call it the ACC or
it's called the ACC for short, so other people call
it that too. But this part of the brain is
like your inner scoreboard, and it keeps track of how
you compare yourself to others. And so it tracks rejection, approval, love, connection, worth,
(02:52):
and yeah, your own sense of enoughness. And so if
your brain is wired to see yourself through the lens
of not being enough, that's what you'll feel and that's
what you'll live into. And that's why even when women
lose the weight or look the part, or hit that goal,
they still don't feel any different on the inside because
(03:13):
their self image and their worth haven't changed. And so
let's talk about the elephant in the room. Right. We
hear this advice all the time. You know, just love
yourself or you know, tell yourself you're worthy, or learn
to love your body, or you know, you've got to
love yourself first. But if you're anything like me or
the thousands of women I've worked with. Sometimes loving yourself
(03:34):
feels impossible, or maybe you've spent years hating your body,
or decades criticizing every part of yourself or your looks
or your personality or your worthiness, and so how are
you supposed to just flip a switch and start loving yourself? Well,
you don't, and that's okay, right, And this series isn't
about forcing yourself to love your body or fall in
love with yourself overnight. It's about taking your power back,
(03:58):
one small step at a time. And it's about reclaiming
the truth that even if you don't love and accept
yourself yet, or even if you still criticize your reflection,
or even if you still struggle with food or your
body and it feels like a prison, you are still
worthy of love and acceptance and worthy of belonging and
peace and freedom, freedom from all of that. And so
(04:19):
worthiness isn't something that you earn, and it's not a
reward for being you know, good enough or thin enough
or disciplined enough. Worthiness is your birthright, like you don't
have to earn it. It is just yours. But somewhere
along the way, you picked up the lie that it's
something that you have to achieve. And so maybe someone
told you, you know, directly or indirectly, that you weren't
(04:40):
good enough or smart enough or cut out for whatever
you were trying to achieve. And so maybe the culture
of dieting or perfectionism made you feel like your body
was a project to fix, or maybe you just started
believing that your worth is tied to your weight and
your will power or your ability to just get it
all right. But I want to offer you a different
(05:01):
What if you were never the problem? Like, what if
the real problem is the lens that you're looking through,
the goggles and the mental blueprint that's been etched into
your brain for years, maybe even decades, maybe your whole life.
And so here's the good news. Just like your brain
learned to see yourself through a lens of shame and
unworthiness or comparison, it can unlearn it and you can
(05:24):
rewire that lens, not through affirmations that feel fake, not
through forcing yourself to love your cellulate or smile in
the mirror, but through slowly, jetly and consistently shifting the
internal story that's been running your life. Okay, And so
I'm going to walk you through how your brain wires
into your beliefs about worthiness, the patterns that keep you
(05:47):
stuck in that shame and that self criticism, and most importantly,
how to take small steps to reclaim your self worth
even if you don't fully believe it yet. Now over
on by What's God Got to Do with It? Podcast?
I taught this from a faith based lens, and we
explored what it meant to receive God's love and worthiness
or see yourself through God's eyes even when you don't
(06:10):
feel like you deserve it or feel it. But I
know not everyone listening to Outweigh shares that same lens,
and that is totally okay. So in this series, we're
going to look at it through a universal truth that
you were designed to be loved and to belong and
to feel safe and to feel like you're enough. And
even if you don't feel it right now or don't
(06:31):
feel it yet okay, or even if you've never felt
worthy or loved without condition, because I know for me
it was always conditional, right or I felt like it was,
there's still a version of love that's available to you.
And so whether you call it grace or self love
or divine worth or simply receiving the love that's already here.
(06:52):
That's what this series will walk you through. And so
here's what I want you to do between now and
next week. I just want you to notice the moments
when you hear that old story of not enough. Okay.
Maybe it's when you catch your reflection in the mirror.
Maybe it's when you eat something and you feel something afterwards,
whether it's guilt or shame or disappointment or I should
(07:13):
know better, or that scolding little you know finger in
your face. Right. Maybe it's when you scroll social media
and you feel like you don't measure up, and all
of that comparison ititis sneaks in, right, And instead of
spiraling into that shame, instead of going down the rabbit hole,
just pause and take a breath and just say to yourself,
(07:33):
even if I don't believe it yet, I am worthy
of love, or I am worthy of acceptance, or even
if I don't believe it yet, I'm good Where I
am right now, I am good, I am good, I'm lovable, right,
and that even if I don't believe it yet. Part
and then whatever follows it, whether you say I am
worthy of love, I am enough, I'm good just as
I am that even if I don't believe it yet.
(07:55):
Part is the part that's going to change the game
for you because you're not going to question it, You're
not going to doubt it. It's going to meet you
in your doubt of like, I don't believe it yet.
Versus if you said, like, I am worthy of love,
I am enough, and you witness yourself and you're like,
wait a minute, that doesn't track. I don't feel like
I'm worthy of love. It's going to actually create a disconnect.
It's going to lay what's called negative neuro associations down
in your brain, and that is not good for long
(08:17):
term change. It actually creates a disconnect or dissonance in
your nervous system. So that even if I don't believe
it yet, part is the key. Right, even if I
don't believe it yet, I'm worthy of love or I'm enough. Right,
and say it like a whisper, say it like a prayer,
Say it like a rebellion, right, because it kind of
is a rebellion, Like you are rebelling against a system
(08:37):
that told you that your worth has to be earned,
and you are rebelling against a culture that says that
your body determines your value, right, and you're rebelling against
the lies that your brain's been conditioned to believe. And
so that is where we're going to pause for today.
But next week in part two, we're going to dive
deeper into what worthiness actually is and how it gets
(09:00):
wired into your brain and your emotions and your identity.
And we're gonna get practical, but we're also going to
get scientific and we're gonna get really real. But for now,
just remember this again. Even if you don't love and
accept yourself yet, even if you're still in the middle
of your food or body struggle, even if your brain
is still whispering not enough, not enough, didn't do that,
(09:22):
not doing this, can't do that, won't reach that. You
are worthy of love and acceptance right now as you are.
You don't have to earn it, you don't have to
air quotes fix yourself to feel it. You just have
to stop disqualifying yourself from receiving it. Okay, So that
is it. We will talk next week in part two.
(09:43):
Until then, be gentle with yourself and remember, right, even
if I don't feel it yet, is the key there? Right?
And you don't outweigh your struggles, right, you outweigh the
lies that tell you that you're not enough. Okay, So
that is it for today's outweigh. And if you I
want to learn more about how I teach my clients
to turn off the part of their brain that's shaming
(10:04):
themselves or that's obsessed with food or obsessed with their weight,
and rewire their own brain and self image and body
image for peace and freedom, then head on over to
Stressless Eating dot Com, where I've literally peeled back the
curtain and walked you through the exact strategy I teach
my clients to heal themselves from the all or nothing
diet mentality for good, but without restricting themselves punishing their bodies,
(10:29):
and definitely without words like macros or low carb or
calorie burn. So it is all over there for you
to access over at Stressless Eating dot Com. Buye for now,
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made, don't won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning love who I am, I get, I'm strong,
I feel free, I know everybody of me. It's beautiful
and that will always out way if you feel it
(00:24):
with your hands and there feels some love to the
bo I give that, say good day and did you
and die out way? Happy Saturday, outweigh. It's lee Anne
here and today we're kicking off a powerful new mini
series called Reclaiming Your Worthiness Even if you don't accept
(00:44):
yourself yet. Now, before we jump in, I just want
to say this. If you've ever felt like, no matter
what you do, no matter how much you achieve, no
matter how much weight you lose, or how perfectly you
follow you know the air quotes rules, you still don't
feel worthy enough, then this series is for you because
the truth is is that no diet and no achievement,
(01:05):
and no makeover and no relationship and no fill in
the blank can ever fill the void that comes from
not believing that you're enough. But how do you believe
you're enough when you don't believe that you're enough? Or
when you don't believe that you're worthy, and it's a paradox,
it's a catch twenty two. So today we're going to
start the conversation around worthiness, but not in a fluffy,
(01:26):
motivational quote on Instagram kind of way. I'm talking in
a real, grounded, brain based and heart centered way. So
let's get right into it now. When I talk to
women who struggle with food and their body, or even
just their sense of self, there's often this common thread
woven into every area of their life, and it sounds like, Okay,
(01:46):
I'll finally feel okay once I lose the weight, or
I'll finally love myself when I stop binging or emotionally eating,
or recover from my disordered eating or eating disorder, or
maybe once I fix my body body or stop obsessing
about food, then I'll feel confident or worthy. And maybe
you can relate to that. I know I definitely could.
(02:07):
For years, I was living in that cycle, and I
thought that my body was the problem, and I thought
if I could just fix it, i'd finally feel at peace.
But here's what I learned. Your body image is not
just about how you look. It's about how you see yourself,
and that lens, the one that you're looking through. It's
wired into your brain. Now, there's a part of your
(02:30):
brain called the anterior singular cortex. If you've been listening
to this podcast for a while, you know, I talk
about it a lot. I call it the ACC or
it's called the ACC for short, so other people call
it that too. But this part of the brain is
like your inner scoreboard, and it keeps track of how
you compare yourself to others. And so it tracks rejection, approval, love, connection, worth,
(02:52):
and yeah, your own sense of enoughness. And so if
your brain is wired to see yourself through the lens
of not being enough, that's what you'll feel and that's
what you'll live into. And that's why even when women
lose the weight or look the part, or hit that goal,
they still don't feel any different on the inside because
(03:13):
their self image and their worth haven't changed. And so
let's talk about the elephant in the room. Right. We
hear this advice all the time. You know, just love
yourself or you know, tell yourself you're worthy, or learn
to love your body, or you know, you've got to
love yourself first. But if you're anything like me or
the thousands of women I've worked with. Sometimes loving yourself
(03:34):
feels impossible, or maybe you've spent years hating your body,
or decades criticizing every part of yourself or your looks
or your personality or your worthiness, and so how are
you supposed to just flip a switch and start loving yourself? Well,
you don't, and that's okay, right, And this series isn't
about forcing yourself to love your body or fall in
love with yourself overnight. It's about taking your power back,
(03:58):
one small step at a time. And it's about reclaiming
the truth that even if you don't love and accept
yourself yet, or even if you still criticize your reflection,
or even if you still struggle with food or your
body and it feels like a prison, you are still
worthy of love and acceptance and worthy of belonging and
peace and freedom, freedom from all of that. And so
(04:19):
worthiness isn't something that you earn, and it's not a
reward for being you know, good enough or thin enough
or disciplined enough. Worthiness is your birthright, like you don't
have to earn it. It is just yours. But somewhere
along the way, you picked up the lie that it's
something that you have to achieve. And so maybe someone
told you, you know, directly or indirectly, that you weren't
(04:40):
good enough or smart enough or cut out for whatever
you were trying to achieve. And so maybe the culture
of dieting or perfectionism made you feel like your body
was a project to fix, or maybe you just started
believing that your worth is tied to your weight and
your will power or your ability to just get it
all right. But I want to offer you a different
(05:01):
What if you were never the problem? Like, what if
the real problem is the lens that you're looking through,
the goggles and the mental blueprint that's been etched into
your brain for years, maybe even decades, maybe your whole life.
And so here's the good news. Just like your brain
learned to see yourself through a lens of shame and
unworthiness or comparison, it can unlearn it and you can
(05:24):
rewire that lens, not through affirmations that feel fake, not
through forcing yourself to love your cellulate or smile in
the mirror, but through slowly, jetly and consistently shifting the
internal story that's been running your life. Okay, And so
I'm going to walk you through how your brain wires
into your beliefs about worthiness, the patterns that keep you
(05:47):
stuck in that shame and that self criticism, and most importantly,
how to take small steps to reclaim your self worth
even if you don't fully believe it yet. Now over
on by What's God Got to Do with It? Podcast?
I taught this from a faith based lens, and we
explored what it meant to receive God's love and worthiness
or see yourself through God's eyes even when you don't
(06:10):
feel like you deserve it or feel it. But I
know not everyone listening to Outweigh shares that same lens,
and that is totally okay. So in this series, we're
going to look at it through a universal truth that
you were designed to be loved and to belong and
to feel safe and to feel like you're enough. And
even if you don't feel it right now or don't
(06:31):
feel it yet okay, or even if you've never felt
worthy or loved without condition, because I know for me
it was always conditional, right or I felt like it was,
there's still a version of love that's available to you.
And so whether you call it grace or self love
or divine worth or simply receiving the love that's already here.
(06:52):
That's what this series will walk you through. And so
here's what I want you to do between now and
next week. I just want you to notice the moments
when you hear that old story of not enough. Okay.
Maybe it's when you catch your reflection in the mirror.
Maybe it's when you eat something and you feel something afterwards,
whether it's guilt or shame or disappointment or I should
(07:13):
know better, or that scolding little you know finger in
your face. Right. Maybe it's when you scroll social media
and you feel like you don't measure up, and all
of that comparison ititis sneaks in, right, And instead of
spiraling into that shame, instead of going down the rabbit hole,
just pause and take a breath and just say to yourself,
(07:33):
even if I don't believe it yet, I am worthy
of love, or I am worthy of acceptance, or even
if I don't believe it yet, I'm good Where I
am right now, I am good, I am good, I'm lovable, right,
and that even if I don't believe it yet. Part
and then whatever follows it, whether you say I am
worthy of love, I am enough, I'm good just as
I am that even if I don't believe it yet.
(07:55):
Part is the part that's going to change the game
for you because you're not going to question it, You're
not going to doubt it. It's going to meet you
in your doubt of like, I don't believe it yet.
Versus if you said, like, I am worthy of love,
I am enough, and you witness yourself and you're like,
wait a minute, that doesn't track. I don't feel like
I'm worthy of love. It's going to actually create a disconnect.
It's going to lay what's called negative neuro associations down
in your brain, and that is not good for long
(08:17):
term change. It actually creates a disconnect or dissonance in
your nervous system. So that even if I don't believe
it yet, part is the key. Right, even if I
don't believe it yet, I'm worthy of love or I'm enough. Right,
and say it like a whisper, say it like a prayer,
Say it like a rebellion, right, because it kind of
is a rebellion, Like you are rebelling against a system
(08:37):
that told you that your worth has to be earned,
and you are rebelling against a culture that says that
your body determines your value, right, and you're rebelling against
the lies that your brain's been conditioned to believe. And
so that is where we're going to pause for today.
But next week in part two, we're going to dive
deeper into what worthiness actually is and how it gets
(09:00):
wired into your brain and your emotions and your identity.
And we're gonna get practical, but we're also going to
get scientific and we're gonna get really real. But for now,
just remember this again. Even if you don't love and
accept yourself yet, even if you're still in the middle
of your food or body struggle, even if your brain
is still whispering not enough, not enough, didn't do that,
(09:22):
not doing this, can't do that, won't reach that. You
are worthy of love and acceptance right now as you are.
You don't have to earn it, you don't have to
air quotes fix yourself to feel it. You just have
to stop disqualifying yourself from receiving it. Okay, So that
is it. We will talk next week in part two.
(09:43):
Until then, be gentle with yourself and remember, right, even
if I don't feel it yet, is the key there? Right?
And you don't outweigh your struggles, right, you outweigh the
lies that tell you that you're not enough. Okay, So
that is it for today's outweigh. And if you I
want to learn more about how I teach my clients
to turn off the part of their brain that's shaming
(10:04):
themselves or that's obsessed with food or obsessed with their weight,
and rewire their own brain and self image and body
image for peace and freedom, then head on over to
Stressless Eating dot Com, where I've literally peeled back the
curtain and walked you through the exact strategy I teach
my clients to heal themselves from the all or nothing
diet mentality for good, but without restricting themselves punishing their bodies,
(10:29):
and definitely without words like macros or low carb or
calorie burn. So it is all over there for you
to access over at Stressless Eating dot Com. Buye for now,
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Amy Brown
Leanne Ellington
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