My Weightloss Journey, Being Single on Valentines Day and Learning to Surrender

Happy love week!! This week we’re getting into a much needed life update, where I’m at in my weight loss journey, how I feel being single on Valentine’s Day…again, and enjoying the process of surrendering and letting God do His thing. 

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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome back to the Overcome for podcast. I am your host,
Jennica Lopez. Thank you guys so much for choosing to
watch and listen to this episode today. It is our
love week, you guys. It is Valentine's Week and I'm
single and celebrating Valentine's Day. I know I'm not the

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only one out there, so whoever's listening to this, you
guys are not alone. I'm sure that we hoped and
prayed for finding love and you know, it just didn't
work out, and that's okay. We're gonna get more into
that more towards the middle of the episode. Today we're

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gonna be talking about my weight loss journey, Valentine's Day,
being single and Valentine's Day, and simply surrendering to God.
I'm sharing these three little topics with you guys because
I feel like this is where my life is at
right now, and I'm feeling really good and I want
to instill and hope and still hope to you guys,

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and yeah and encourage you today because you know what,
I know that we all have something going on and
we've all been through it and we need somebody to
help encourage us, encourage us today. So if I could
be that one person, I will gladly do so. But first,
you guys, I am on a weight loss journey. I've

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been basically you know, my whole life. But I've made
some traumatic, dramatic, not traumatic dramatic shifts and changes in
my in my life that has resulted in me losing
a lot of weight, which I'm so happy and grateful
for a lot of people have been asking me what

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I've been doing, how much I have lost, et cetera,
et cetera. So if you guys remember, or if you're
new here, I got surgery, breastlift surgery and a little
bit of lightpo in last July, and then I invited
my doctor on the podcast. If you guys know, you know,
and if you don't, you guys can go ahead and

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go watch those episodes about my doctor, doctor Remus Repta.
Shout out to him because he's amazing. But let's take
it back a couple of years. I believe I want
to say that my starting weight, even before like my
tummy talk and all that, I was almost three hundred pounds,

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I was weighing about two eighty. I want to say
somewhere around there definitely over two fifty almost three hundred.
That's when I basically started. I got with the trainer,
fixed my eating habits, and then I dropped about let's say,
I want to say fifty pounds, fifty pounds, and then
I got my tom Me tug surgery, my tummy tug BBL,

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which I was so happy and I loved again with
doctor Remus Repta. He is amazing again. If as a
plus sized girl, and if you guys don't know, a
lot of doctors, for example, don't take plus sized girls
because of their BMI, which is your body no, not

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your BMI, yeah, your body fat index. I want to
say something like that. You guys know what I'm talking about.
If if your index is over like you know, forty,
like your beast or whatever, A lot of doctors don't
want to take that risk to do the surgery, and
he is one of the few special doctors in the
world that specializes in plus size surgery. He does, he

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takes the risk, everyone ends up completely fine. Amazing, amazing work.
I absolutely love him. I got that done. I want
to say twenty one, no, twenty twenty two around there.
Love that still gained weight, which a lot of people
don't understand is that when you get light bulb or

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when you get surgery, you have to continue to maintain
it and work out and work twice as hard because
your fat goes to other places. So, for example, my
fat was a lot of it was sitting in my arms,
in my inner thighs, and a lot of it went
to my butt. You guys, when you get a BBL

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and you add like the fat transfer, it expands those
cells and when you eat, it just allows more room
for it to grow. And I was not having it.
It was not que was like, oh yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no,
I can have a BBL, but we're not trying to
have like a BBBB like huge. So I when I

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got my surgery, my breastleft surgery, I was weighing about
I want to say, to twenty two fifteen, which I was.
I was. I was content, but I didn't realize how
much happier I am now that I dropped more weight.
Now I dropped about like another fifty pounds. So let's

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say I lost like almost one hundred pounds in total
from like the beginning beginning of my journey, which I'm
so grateful for because I haven't been this weight since
I was like fifteen, before I was fifteen. And what
was crazy is that I always lied on my driver's
license picture little thing. You know, you when you put

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your weight, you're like, I'm not a little bit. I
always lied, And now I could say, like I weigh
less than what I have on my driver's license, Like
this is crazy, And I again, I do not want
to like promote, like I want to be fully transparent
and honest with you guys. I still struggle with like
body dysmorphia. I get in my head a lot. I'm

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working on those little things and they thinking of it
more as healthier because I do feel healthier the way
that I breathe, the way that I walk, my endurance,
I could see the muscle growth. I just I'm appreciating
and loving my body a lot more because I'm able
to do a lot more things, which is something that
we take for granted. So from that journey to here,

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from July to now, I have recently well before that,
I used to be on ozempic. You guys, before my
breastless surgery, I was on ozempic, and I do want
to let you guys know it does work. It works, wonders.
It's great, but it is not forever, and I'm sure
a lot of people can testify to that as well.

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Like it stops working, I would take it as a
kickstart into your journey. I definitely think that it's beneficial.
I know people have certain people have health benefits or
side effects or whatever, so please make sure you confirm
with your doctor like I did. But I do want

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to let you guys know that it's not meant to
be forever. Like it just helps you kickstart and helps
you realize how much less of food that you need
to eat in order to lose the weight, like it
puts a lot into perspective. I've been going to the
gym almost every day, either gym or pilates. I'm doing
something which pilates has definitely tightened up my body and

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I love it. You guys well agree, not plates, but
they're about that. They're like sisters. Lagree is a little
bit more strength training hard harder. Pilates is a little
bit more soft. It's like a little bit more intense
than yoga. I've only done agree, I haven't done pilates,
which for me, as someone that's like I would like

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to consider myself strong. I like what Lagree does for
my body and the endurance that I have to have
in order to continue. So if you have a Lagree
studio around you, definitely, definitely, death would recommend it. It
helps tone certain muscles that you didn't even know you had. Also,

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my eating habits are a lot better. I eat a
lot less now I'm focusing on muscle growth and toning.
But yeah, I've lost over one hundred pounds. I feel good.
I look good. I feel good. Like I said, I
love what my body can do now and how food

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reacts in my body like I could see, like certain
things just don't sit well with me obviously, like the
processed foods. I don't drink any more soda unless I'm
really craving it. It's like a diet coke. If it's
anything carbonated, it's like a poppy lollipop. But if anything,
I'm only drinking water. I've cut out, you know, very
little to no coffee again. I have to be craving it,

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craving it or like I'm exhausted. I don't have coffee
every day. I have matched lots and lots of water,
my vitamins, my supplements, and going to the gym. I
know a lot of people have a hard time getting
into the gym, and it's been such a mental health
space for me that I could just be distracted and

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really focus and lock in. Without it, I feel like
completely out of routine. So yeah, I definitely recommend it.
If you guys have a hard time, you don't know
what to do, TikTok has a lot of videos, or
if you have the financial funds to please get a
trainer to help you. I had a trainer, started off
with her, was great, and now that I know what

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to do, I don't need her anymore. But yeah, okay,
we're gonna go on a quick break and we'll be
right back to talk about Valentine's Day and our singlehood.
Welcome back, you guys. Okay, if you're like me, you
guys also know we're single out here. We're single. We
are you know, Valentine's Days just not on the cards

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for us. Obviously we can have Gallantine's we could be
celebrating with our girls, but you know, it gets sad.
I'm gonna be I'm gonna I'm gonna be one hundred
percent with you guys. I know that it gets sad.
And it gets really hard to like, I we're tired.
I'm genuinely like, I'm tired of having Valentine's Day alone,
Like I want to be able to spoil somebody and
be spoiled. I want somebody to ask me to be

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their Valentine's Day Like I'm at that point. But I
hate to break it to you guys. And I've had
to learn this the hard way, and I've recently just
put in more work and more realization and over this
last couple months, God is preparing us for someone special.

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I know that sounds so cliche. I know it sounds
so corny, but God is hiding me and you for
that someone special because otherwise we're just wasting our time.
We're wasting all our time on potential, on people that
are not worth it. Because trust me, I have given
my time to people that are just not that aren't

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worth it. They're blocking what was it? How do they
say it? Don't let the people block me from what
you already have planned for me. Like you're like exactly
like those people that are coming in as distractions, Like
and we think that it may be from God. It's
like no, like this is the opposite you already know
that you shouldn't be entering into this and whatever I

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want to give you guys some hope it's going to
happen for us. I believe it. I am trusting God
one hundred percent when I tell you guys that this year,
I promised myself that I'm just going to completely surrender
to the will of God. And whether you guys believe
in him or not, this is my core, this is
my foundation, and I want to be honest and transparent
with you guys about how I live day to day,

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and it is because God is at the foundation of
my life. Anyways. It's not a punishment, but it's a
season of preparation. We are not being punished. We are
preparing ourselves for our future. Let's say, future husband, future wife,
you know, gay bye, whatever you guys, however you identify
as yourself. It is not a punishment but a season

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of preparation. I literally every day I'm like, Okay, God,
you're preparing me. There's parts of me that I need
to work on in order to be not perfect, but
to be good enough for somebody like I want to
be able to be okay in my brain, mental health wise, physically,
my spiritual life? Am I putting God first? Am I?

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Or what else? Am I putting first? This relationship or
this type or this person? Like, No, we have to
put our faith and who we are first, work on
ourselves before we can love and offer that to somebody else,
because otherwise it's just going into straight disaster because that
other person may be prepared and you're not, and then

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it just it. They don't mesh, it doesn't work out. Pray,
pray for that person that you want. I've written it
down and I've said it in my prayers, the type
of person, the type of man that I want in
my life, tall, god, hearing man, etc. You have to
be so just like specific with God, and I promise

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you God will give you those desires of your heart.
So in this season of preparation of your life and
your singleness, because that's what we're gonna call it. We're
not gonna you know, we're not gonna add a negative
connotation to it. We're getting prepared for the future. Embrace
this time for personal growth and deepening your faith and

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pursue your God given purpose and whatever that other person
may have. Maybe you haven't even met this man or
woman or whatever. Pray for them, like God, wherever this
special person is for me, that you are preparing them
just like you're preparing me, so that when we meet,

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that we are equally yoked and that we can connect
and everything is aligned to your purpose and your plan.
And take it as God maybe protecting you from a
heartbreak or leading you, guys into something greater. Like I

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said in the beginning, well not the beginning, but like
I said before, we can't be going into these love bombing,
half assed relationships like no, just because we're lonely and
we're scared and this person's giving me attention, Like no,
this cannot We can't because we're just settling. We're not
here to settle you, guys. We've worked too hard on

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who we are. We've been through too much shit to
be just settling for somebody that gives the bare minimum.
We're not going to do that. God has a dust
and plan for you, for me, and it's all going
to be worth it in the end. I know God.
I heard this in church the other day. God is
never on time. God is never early, never early, right,

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but he's always on time. God is never early, but
he is always on time. And we have that blessing
to be able to know that He's Our plans are
way greater than his. I mean, his plans, What is
wrong with me? His plans are way greater. They're in ours.
Do you guys know that that Instagram or that meme

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where it's like God, the little kid is holding the
teddy Bear, but God Jesus is holding the bigger teddy
bear in the back. But the kid doesn't know about it,
and he says, but God, I want to keep it,
or something like that, and then Jesus and then Jesus says,
don't worry, I have something better for you, or something

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like that. And I think that's how we have to
view our lives and just trust God and surrender to it.
Which is my next topic is even as someone is
me a little control freak, you have to the power
of surrendering control to God instead of trying to force
relationships is so important and literally as simple as just

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taking it to prayer. I know it's hard to just
kind of leave it up in the air and leave
things just roaming around and whatever, and you know, have
a hard time just okay, but I don't know what's
gonna happen tomorrow. I don't know what's gonna happen here, this,
this and that. Like, no, you have to let go
and let God. You have to trust Him with all
your heart. And I don't mean to get so spiritual

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or whatever, but I'm telling you, guys, this has been
the core of who I am these days and what
I've been feeling, and I needed to share it with you, guys,
because surrendering leads to something so beautiful, Like when you
stop freaking out and stop trying to take control of
your life you and just letting God, you just start

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to see everything flourish and let God do and have
space because at the end of the day, it is
his will, it is not ours. We have to let
God lead us to our own purpose, not ourselves. And
I know that that may be the most difficult things.
But practical ways to surrender God are just prayer, journaling,

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seeking community, just connecting with other people and just trusting.
You just got to trust God. Write down what you want,
what is on your heart today, what you're praying or
believing for, Write it down, and I promise God is
going to fulfill and give you more of what you desire.
I have still yet to see certain things, but I

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can feel him and I can and knowing that I'm
seeking him is leading me the correct way versus looking
the other way and going down the wrong path. I
know that I'm guaranteed to go somewhere greater than where
I am right now if I just keep following and
seeking God. And I want the same for you, guys.
Your worth isn't found in a relationship status. Mine isn't either.

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Trust me. I know God's timing is always perfect, and
he's writing our love story right now, your love story,
my love story. He's writing it. And I'm going to
be praying for trust and patience and contentment for you guys,
and asking God to just continue to bless you guys
and protect you. And whether you guys are in your

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singleness or you're not, exert love, show kindness, love on
each other, whether you know you have a partner or not,
love is beautiful. And if you're single and you don't
have a partner, love on yourself. Love on yourself, and
that is the most important love you can get besides

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receiving the love of God. You guys, thank you so
much for listening. I hope you guys have such a
beautiful week and I will see you guys next Tuesday. Bye.
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