January 7, 2025 • 26 mins
Happy New Years!! We're talking about the things we're no longer accepting this new year and new things we are practicing and building habits to better ourselves and have the best year possible!
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome back to the Overcomfort Podcast. I am your host,
Jennica Lopez. Thank you guys so much for choosing to
watch and listen to this episode. Happy New Year. We
took a much needed holiday break. Obviously it was Christmas,
it was New Year's and now we're back, We're locked in,
we're focused. I pray that this new year is treating
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you well. It is twenty twenty five, y'all. I cannot
believe those words are coming out of my mouth right now.
I honestly, I will always say I never thought I
would make it this far. And I don't know if
you know people can relate, but you know, it's been
it's been a tough, tough road out there. And I
want to encourage you guys today. It is the new year.
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It is new vibes, new energies, new purpose, new whatever
newness it may be for you. And I just want
to just be encouraging to you guys today. And we're
gonna talk about the ins and outs of twenty twenty five.
There's this awesome trend going around what are we bringing
in and what are we leaving out of twenty twenty five?
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And I want to share with you guys, my personal
ins and outs and give you some hope or inspiration, Like,
what are we not accepting this year? There's you know,
we're we're changing, we're new people. We talked about being
in our winter arc. You guys, we you know if
you were like me, I mean I didn't do it perfectly,
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but you know, we're we should be already in a momentum.
We should already be doing something. But no pressure. It
is totally fine if you do not have it figured out.
We're gonna figure it out together along the way. We
got a lot of things. You know that we're no
longer accepting this year. We're gonna talk about the out.
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So what are we We're done doing? We're done just
we're no longer accepting this. These are some of mine,
you know. Please don't judge me. It may be different
for you. But the point of this is to also,
we want to come into the new year fresh. We
want to come into the new year expectant of good things, hopeful.
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I'm also fasting right now. I don't know if you
guys know what it is, but in the Bible there's
a man named Daniel who also fasted for twenty one
days and the purpose is to die to yourself for God.
And it is a very not easy thing to do.
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It is sacrificing something. Some people sacrifice like the one
the twenty one fast is usually fruits and vegetables, only grains.
That's what Daniel did. Some people do things differently me
and I'm gonna be super honest and vulnerable. I'm giving
up weed, you guys for twenty one days. May sound
a little bit, you know, like, is it really that bad?
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It kind of is, you guys. I was chain smoking
it for the past month, but that's also because I
knew I was going to do this fast. It is
a sacrifice because I use marijuana medicinally, if that is
the world word. It is something that I not struggle with,
but it is something I don't no longer want my
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body to be dependent on. I want to have it
in moderation and take control of it. I'm also reducing
my screen time. I'm reading. And the whole purpose is
also that twenty one days helps build a habit. If
you're trying to do something, stick to it for twenty
one days, and you build that habit and you can
continue it. So I want to go ahead and start
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building that habit, and not only for this month, but
for the rest of the year. So that is where
I'm at right now. So excuse me if I sound
a little bit jittery or anxious or you know, just
pray for your girls. Beautiful time over here. But it's
also rough anyways, Okay, let's start because there's a lot
of things I'm no longer accepting. And this is going
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to be in my personal life, my dating life, my
my relationship with my friends, just in general. I'm number
one scrolling I feel like scrolling on the internet, scrolling
through TikTok. I'm kind of over it, you know. I
want to feed my body with good things. I do
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feel like the internet has a lot of hold negativity,
and that's also another thing that I'm taking out, negativity.
I do not want any part of anything like I do.
I want positive vibes. Obviously, you know, I can't control everything.
Not everyone's going to be on the same page as me.
Some people, you know, it's normal. There's going to be
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some type of negativity. And I'm also like good human,
but I want to, like, I want to implement positivity
in my life. I want to wake up and look
at life and also be that light for other people
who are surrounded by negativity. I'm also these are little things.
I'm also kind of done with overthinking. I am a
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professional overthinker, and I feel like I need to take
that control. I feel like, right now there's certain parts
where my mind and my thoughts take control of me,
and I want to take that power back. I'm done overthinking.
I'm done creating scenarios in my head and making it
worse for myself in the long run. Toxicity, toxic environments,
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toxic family members. I'm your cutout. If you're not for me,
you're not with me, or if you've talked behind my
back or whatever, like I out, We're cutting That's it,
cold turkey. No second chances. That's another thing. I do
not want to give multiple chances. I feel like I'm
the type of person and that maybe you guys can relate.
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I give the benefit of the doubt to people too much,
and I feel like that bites me in the ass
and it is not the most healthiest thing. You know,
Sometimes I think that I'm like mother Teresa and like
I can save the world, and you know, I don't
want to say necessarily change people but I do feel
like I love to help and be there so much
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that again, it bites me in the ass in the
long run, because you know, at the end of the day,
you can't. You can't. You can hope for change for
someone's life so much that they only they're the only
ones that can make that change for themselves. And I
needed to accept that. And that's why this year I'm
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done playing mother Teresa. Also a little here and there gossiping.
I feel like it's you know, I don't want to
say it's normal, but it is. I'm a girl. Girls
are girls. We talk about Oh my god, did you
see this? Did you see that? I don't want to
talk about it anymore, you know, obviously see if it's like,
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let's say, a list celebrity, I don't know, or whatever.
Like I'm just kind of over it. Like I wish
well to everybody. I want to just whatever going on
in other people's lives, if it has nothing to do
with me, I don't want to talk about it. What
else rushing. I want to take control of my time
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management again. Why Because I want to be more considerate
of other people's timing and my own. I want to,
you know, wake up earlier, if I need to get
ready for church like this last Sunday, I went to
church and I couldn't, And I like doing my makeup
for church, like I like getting cute and pretty, and
I couldn't and it was frustrating, and I was like, Okay,
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maybe to you guys, it might not be that big
of a deal, but I think about, like, man, if
I just woke up a little bit earlier, if I
figured out, you know, my outfit, maybe yesterday I would
have had this done and I was able, I would
would have been able to do my makeup. I don't
want to rush. I want everything to go at ease.
I want my life to be as peaceful as possible.
And I'm also not saying that this is gonna be perfect,
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you guys, this sounds like I'm trying to be a perfect,
perfect person. No. I know I'm gonna fail and make mistakes.
But these are examples of things that I want to
work on. I want to acknowledge and I want to
take accountability in my faults of things that I'm not
the most greatest at. And that's why this year I
want to, you know, obviously, write these things down and
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work on them. Another thing is my posture. I want
to go ahead and fix my posture. I want to
get back to wearing my faha all the time, especially
if you've gotten surgery, ladies, we need to be wearing
that fah. If we want to get slim thick, we
want that waste ways to be in. We gotta, you know,
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get back on it. For sure. I did mention screen time.
Screen time scrolling is definitely you know that. Also, I
want to be more I don't really cancel plans, but
you know, we get a little lazy, we get like
we don't want to do it. I don't want to
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be that person anymore. I don't want to cancel last minute.
I want to be more of a woman of my word.
I'm great, I'm great. I'm a woman of my word.
I know that I am. But when it comes to
like plans and like if I get a little lazy
and I just I'm over it, like I will cancel.
And I don't want to do that because I want
to commit. If I'm saying I'm going to do something,
I'm going to do it unsolicited opinions, opinions that I've
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never asked for. Like I'm no longer accepting. I will
only listen and accept advice or opinions unless asked for
and from someone that I can trust and I know
has been in the same experience. I feel like we
have friends in our lives or people that try to
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give us our give their opinions, and it comes off
as controlling even when it was unasked for, and you
have to take that control back. I feel like twenty
twenty five is a year of taking your control back
and really listening to yourself and what does good for
your body and also for the people around you. If
you're again, I will always say, if you're taking care
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of yourself on the inside, it'll reflect on the outside
and in your relationships. And that also starts with you know,
toxic behaviors in your friendships. This year, I really wanted
to be a year of this is Jenica, Like this
isn't because other people told me or I was influenced
by this person or whatever, Like I want to be
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my own influencer, Like I want to be my own
person and make decisions for myself instead of people pleasing,
because again, I feel like I struggle with never being
like good enough and like people pleasing and abandonment and
being scared that, you know, I'm gonna lose people if
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I don't do exactly what they're opinionating on or what
they're recommending. You know, that is something that I've always
just personally have have had a little issue with. All Right,
you guys, we're gonna want a quick break and will
be right back. Welcome back, you guys. Another thing that
is out masculine energy. I got a lot of in
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my dating life this last year. I've been number one
thing that I was told is that I'm very intimidating
and make men feel insecure. Now that's necessarily not necessarily
a bad thing, but I also want to be more feminine.
I want to be more soft. I want to feel
like I like, I know, I'm a lady, but I
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feel like I've been on a fight or flight mode
since I've been young, and I've been figuring out my
whole life by myself. That when a man comes in,
like it's hard for me to let that person take lead.
And I want to do that this year because at
this point this year, I'm looking for my husband. Guys.
That's it. Like I'm done, like the dayting like this
is the year I'm done being single. I know that
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I am ready. I know what I can provide, and
I know that what I can again bring to the table.
And I want to be feminine. I want to be led.
I want more. I don't know, like I just want
to feel soft, like a little soft girl, and I
think that has to be the right person and also
with other people, like I don't want to come off
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as like this, like my way or no way type person,
you know. And I'm not saying that the people have
ever told me that, but I don't want to personally
feel like that also dimming my light for other people. Again,
I'm tired of people pleasing. I think that's the number
one thing people pleasing, and I it's hard. I don't
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care what people think. But I also want to keep
people around, so I do things so that they can stay.
You know, it's a it's a it's an off on
off situation. But if you can understand me, like I,
I want to be able to shine. I want to
shine and not be scared. I want to let go
of fear. Fear is also out fearing of what people
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will say about me. For sure, little things like Uber eats,
less delivery, staying in all day. Definitely, I do not out.
Is gonna be definitely not going out to the bars.
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I'm tired of going out to the bars. I mean
I did, like I only did it for like a
couple months, but like you know, I just felt like
it was fine, cute. You know. Now time to give
lucked back in. I think as far as out, I
think that's pretty much it. And things that I want
for the like to bring in is I want to
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slow down. I want again my feminity, femininity. You guys
know what I mean, feminit, You know what I mean, Okay,
my soft girl. I know I'm in my sofcer or,
but I want to feel soft and like a relationship
Like I want to feel confident enough in my relationship
that I can just be like and I feel like
every woman deserves to be that way. In a consistent routine,
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my routine. I need my routine back. I'm a person
of routine. I need to get to the gym, I
need to come home, I need to get to work
and then I can you know, et cetera, et cetera.
I'm huge on routine. It makes me feel better. I
want to get ready more. I want to be girlier.
I want to be presentable. I always. I want to
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continue that. In twenty twenty four, that is something that
I definitely worked on, especially because like I started feeling
better about myself that I wanted to feel and look
like that as well. And it helps with my confidence
showing up for myself before anybody else. I think people
struggle showing up for themselves. I'm putting other people before
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again goes back to the people pleasing quality time with
my family. If you guys know me, you guys know
that my family is everything to me. Quality time is significant.
There's a lot of things that like, I think it's
important right now, especially you know, little things that happen
here and here, here and there in my family, like
and I you know that's everyone has their own thing,
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but I want to be there for them and spend
actual quality time no phones. Like obviously to take pictures
and stuff is cute, but I want to be able
to engage. And also, like the kids are getting older.
If you have kids, like I want to be more present,
you guys can understand, like you want to be more
present they the time goes by so fast, and I
feel like with social media and everything going on. Their
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innocence is getting a little bit robbed, and I don't
like that, and I want to be able to bring
them and ground them back to earth, like of things
that matter. And also I want to not be scared
to buy myself things. I want to take myself shopping.
I'm usually the person to buy everything for everybody else
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except for myself, being selective with my time who I
give my time to, because not everybody is worthy or
deserving of it. To be honest, I'm going back to
my private life I've stayed off of, like you know,
posting a lot of my friends on social media. I
want to keep it private. I'm not saying, just like
I like having that separate life, you know, my social media,
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my work, and then my family and then my friends.
I don't like mixing them. I want to have those
boundaries and keeping it private because those are so like
my circle. If I take care of those things, that's
what feeds me and that's what energizes me as well.
And I feel like once people start picking at that,
anybody starts to find a problem, and I don't like that.
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Out Okay, so I set out bars and going out,
so more dinner parties, more dinner in general. I want
to cook at home more. I'm usually good at that,
but you know, obviously, I think the holidays just makes
us feel like we're really slacking, and I think that
is a misconception because you know, we're doing so good
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up until November December. So I, you know, again, I
want to get back to cooking. I want to practice
more self love, being kind to myself. Also, keeping my
phone on D and D. I learned that from Sebas
from La Platica. You know, he he just has his
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phone on D and D unless it's important. I don't
need my phone unless it's super super important. Obviously I
work on my phone and everything like that, but I
that's what I want to keep it at. Like, you know,
if you're not my family, if you're not my immediate
close circle, I don't need to be directly on my phone, like,
I want to keep it there. And it's for my
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peace of mind, because once I grab that phone, then
it goes to scrolling, then it goes to you know,
the back to like a endless cycle. In I'm bringing
this in. Also simple makeup, less is more type girl,
prioritizing my sleep, my rest, my health. Definitely. I want
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to live a slow paced life. I feel like I've
been in a rush my whole life that I and
especially living in La and you know, being Latinos and
growing up like you're always like you need to work,
we need to work and we're hard workers. We are
like this isn't like you know, it's in our blood.
But I also want to live slow. I want to enjoy.
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I want to romanticize everything, like I think that life
is so beautiful and should be cherished, cherished, which leads
me to my next one. I want to travel, definitely
more travel this year. Last year I was able to
go to Peru, Cuba, Paris, Rome and Italy whatever that
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I loved and enjoyed it that. I want to be
able to do that this year. And also donating more,
going back to the Cuba thing. Like you guys know
that my life changed when I went to Cuba. I
want to do it again. I would love to go back.
I want to open a foundation something some sort I
told you guys, I'm figuring it out, but definitely more donations.
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I want to volunteer more. I want my time to
just be valuable. I want like I want to feel
good about what I'm doing, and if I'm able to
help or be there or be someone in the world
for somebody, I would love to. I also want to
stop taking things personal. There's some things where I'm just like, oh,
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like it affects me, and maybe sometimes that's not fair
to the other person because they may or may not
mean that intentionally, and if they don't, then we take
it out on them. So I want to stop taking
things personally and taking it a lot to pray or
I want to directly lead a lot of things in prayer.
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I'm not saying that I don't like I didn't in
twenty twenty four, but I want the moments that I
that I wake up to be prayer to be about Jesus.
And you know, it may be different for you guys also,
but that is my personal belief. I do believe that
if you wake up and you don't grab your phone,
that is one thing. Also, I want to stop grabbing
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my phone in the morning. I want my first thing
to be a prayer, like you know, putting on some
worship music. I feel like those how you start your
day is how it's going to play out, and those
are things that I want to continue practicing. Also, I'm
gonna leave it at this as well. Irish goodbyes. My
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grandpa Pedro does it all the time, and my uncles
and stuff. They kind of just disappear, like you're at
a party and you disappear. Never really got it up
until now, you know, I don't feel like I think
saying goodbye to people takes the longest amount at the party.
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You're there, still talking to people whatever, No said, Hi,
I'm gonna go if it's by my bedtime. Sorry, not sorry,
I'm leaving. And and yeah, these are just little things
that I know that could be beneficial in the long run.
You guys, sit down with yourselves, think, sit down, what
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do what? What am I no longer accepting? Sit down,
right down right now? Not right now, but when you
have time and if you're listening to this, like and
you're able to grab a pen or in your notes
on your phone, like what are we tired of? What
are we no longer accepting? And what are we gonna
accept now? You know, I think this year is a
year to put yourself first. And I'm also speaking to
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myself and I'm speaking to myself right now, like you
need to put yourself first. There's no exception. You are
the only person. You come into this world alone. You're
gonna die alone. How are you gonna die? Are you
gonna die happy? Are you gonna die with knowing that
you did what you did and you cared for yourself,
Knowing that your body is healthy, that your mind is healthy,
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that your home is healthy, that you can leave as
a good person, were you kind, and that those are
things that you know, and also like releasing that pressure,
you know those are it is obviously like a lot
of pressure. These are things that aren't the easiest thing
to do, but it has to start somewhere. And I
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think we overcomplicate the New year. We set these resolutions
and these unrealistic expectations like you know, I could have
said work out more, I could have said eat better
or whatever. It's like, no, they're simpler things like cooking
at home more. I want to be able to you know,
get ready, look cute. Those are little things that help
you and that will be beneficial versus having this stamp
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like oh I need to do this and I didn't
accomplish this resolution. It's like no, like you have to
change the mentality. It's all about perspective and the way
you look at things. So that's why resolutions, I feel
like it held a negative connotation with it and it
just sounds like too much pressure. So release that pressure
off of you right now. Take it day by day.
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Let's enjoy this year. Let's enjoy our lives because it's like, again,
the world is so ugly and like it could be
so evil. How are we going to make it better?
And how are we gonna you know, tolerate or enjoy
our lives? And that's pretty much it, you guys. I
just wanted to be a little you know, encouraging and
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just help you guys and give you insight on what
I'm working on and what I'm doing. If you guys
haven't done a vision board or a prayer board, also
do that. This year, I kind of mixed both. There's
a difference. Vision board is more of like the plan
you have for your life. From the prayer board is like, Okay, Lord,
I'm praying for these things, but I want you to
take control. And throughout the year you can like put
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little prayers inside these little envelopes and in the center
it says answered prayers. If you haven't seen it, go
look it up. I would love to show you, guys,
but I'm very careful about what you know, the energy,
and I don't like sharing it. We're keeping it private,
you guys. We're keeping it private. So if you guys
start it, it's not too late. It is amazing, you gotta.
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I would always consecrate myself in in God. I want
to continue to consecrate myself in God. And this is
the third year that I'm doing a fast and if
you guys haven't again look into it, it's beneficial. I
feel like we are not We're no one or nowhere
without God. And again, beliefs may be different for you guys,
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but that is mine. And I want to be able
to start my year and start my days with Jesus
because I know that that the person that is going
to lead me and ultimately want the best for me
and has already everything in plan and let his will
be done, and I'm going to surrender to it. And
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I don't mean to get so spiritual about this, but
we are not the owner. We are the owners of
our lives, but we also have to have something higher
and keep us humble and remember where it all began.
And yeah, and with that you guys. I'm just sending
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you guys lots of love, lots of hope, lots of
good vibes this year to you and your families. We
got this. We are going to conquer. We're going to
come out so much better and just healthier. The goal
is just to be healthy in all aspects. We're going
to have. We attract healthy and positive relationships. We attract
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healthy and positive friendships, y, mental health, we everything. We're
gonna take care of everything, and it's gonna be It's
gonna be a good year. I believe it, and I'm
believe in you guys, and you know ins and outs.
You guys, take them out, bring it in and bring
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in all the good vibes. And I cannot wait for
the podcast. I have so many great ideas for this year,
and hopefully you guys are still here and sticking around,
because it's gonna get a lot a lot better. So
make sure you guys like, comment, subscribe, leave a review,
and let me know what you guys are leaving in
and out of twenty twenty five and I will see
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Welcome back to the Overcomfort Podcast. I am your host,
Jennica Lopez. Thank you guys so much for choosing to
watch and listen to this episode. Happy New Year. We
took a much needed holiday break. Obviously it was Christmas,
it was New Year's and now we're back, We're locked in,
we're focused. I pray that this new year is treating
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you well. It is twenty twenty five, y'all. I cannot
believe those words are coming out of my mouth right now.
I honestly, I will always say I never thought I
would make it this far. And I don't know if
you know people can relate, but you know, it's been
it's been a tough, tough road out there. And I
want to encourage you guys today. It is the new year.
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It is new vibes, new energies, new purpose, new whatever
newness it may be for you. And I just want
to just be encouraging to you guys today. And we're
gonna talk about the ins and outs of twenty twenty five.
There's this awesome trend going around what are we bringing
in and what are we leaving out of twenty twenty five?
(01:12):
And I want to share with you guys, my personal
ins and outs and give you some hope or inspiration, Like,
what are we not accepting this year? There's you know,
we're we're changing, we're new people. We talked about being
in our winter arc. You guys, we you know if
you were like me, I mean I didn't do it perfectly,
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but you know, we're we should be already in a momentum.
We should already be doing something. But no pressure. It
is totally fine if you do not have it figured out.
We're gonna figure it out together along the way. We
got a lot of things. You know that we're no
longer accepting this year. We're gonna talk about the out.
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So what are we We're done doing? We're done just
we're no longer accepting this. These are some of mine,
you know. Please don't judge me. It may be different
for you. But the point of this is to also,
we want to come into the new year fresh. We
want to come into the new year expectant of good things, hopeful.
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I'm also fasting right now. I don't know if you
guys know what it is, but in the Bible there's
a man named Daniel who also fasted for twenty one
days and the purpose is to die to yourself for God.
And it is a very not easy thing to do.
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It is sacrificing something. Some people sacrifice like the one
the twenty one fast is usually fruits and vegetables, only grains.
That's what Daniel did. Some people do things differently me
and I'm gonna be super honest and vulnerable. I'm giving
up weed, you guys for twenty one days. May sound
a little bit, you know, like, is it really that bad?
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It kind of is, you guys. I was chain smoking
it for the past month, but that's also because I
knew I was going to do this fast. It is
a sacrifice because I use marijuana medicinally, if that is
the world word. It is something that I not struggle with,
but it is something I don't no longer want my
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body to be dependent on. I want to have it
in moderation and take control of it. I'm also reducing
my screen time. I'm reading. And the whole purpose is
also that twenty one days helps build a habit. If
you're trying to do something, stick to it for twenty
one days, and you build that habit and you can
continue it. So I want to go ahead and start
(03:45):
building that habit, and not only for this month, but
for the rest of the year. So that is where
I'm at right now. So excuse me if I sound
a little bit jittery or anxious or you know, just
pray for your girls. Beautiful time over here. But it's
also rough anyways, Okay, let's start because there's a lot
of things I'm no longer accepting. And this is going
(04:08):
to be in my personal life, my dating life, my
my relationship with my friends, just in general. I'm number
one scrolling I feel like scrolling on the internet, scrolling
through TikTok. I'm kind of over it, you know. I
want to feed my body with good things. I do
(04:28):
feel like the internet has a lot of hold negativity,
and that's also another thing that I'm taking out, negativity.
I do not want any part of anything like I do.
I want positive vibes. Obviously, you know, I can't control everything.
Not everyone's going to be on the same page as me.
Some people, you know, it's normal. There's going to be
(04:50):
some type of negativity. And I'm also like good human,
but I want to, like, I want to implement positivity
in my life. I want to wake up and look
at life and also be that light for other people
who are surrounded by negativity. I'm also these are little things.
I'm also kind of done with overthinking. I am a
(05:12):
professional overthinker, and I feel like I need to take
that control. I feel like, right now there's certain parts
where my mind and my thoughts take control of me,
and I want to take that power back. I'm done overthinking.
I'm done creating scenarios in my head and making it
worse for myself in the long run. Toxicity, toxic environments,
(05:37):
toxic family members. I'm your cutout. If you're not for me,
you're not with me, or if you've talked behind my
back or whatever, like I out, We're cutting That's it,
cold turkey. No second chances. That's another thing. I do
not want to give multiple chances. I feel like I'm
the type of person and that maybe you guys can relate.
(05:58):
I give the benefit of the doubt to people too much,
and I feel like that bites me in the ass
and it is not the most healthiest thing. You know,
Sometimes I think that I'm like mother Teresa and like
I can save the world, and you know, I don't
want to say necessarily change people but I do feel
like I love to help and be there so much
(06:19):
that again, it bites me in the ass in the
long run, because you know, at the end of the day,
you can't. You can't. You can hope for change for
someone's life so much that they only they're the only
ones that can make that change for themselves. And I
needed to accept that. And that's why this year I'm
(06:39):
done playing mother Teresa. Also a little here and there gossiping.
I feel like it's you know, I don't want to
say it's normal, but it is. I'm a girl. Girls
are girls. We talk about Oh my god, did you
see this? Did you see that? I don't want to
talk about it anymore, you know, obviously see if it's like,
(07:00):
let's say, a list celebrity, I don't know, or whatever.
Like I'm just kind of over it. Like I wish
well to everybody. I want to just whatever going on
in other people's lives, if it has nothing to do
with me, I don't want to talk about it. What
else rushing. I want to take control of my time
(07:24):
management again. Why Because I want to be more considerate
of other people's timing and my own. I want to,
you know, wake up earlier, if I need to get
ready for church like this last Sunday, I went to
church and I couldn't, And I like doing my makeup
for church, like I like getting cute and pretty, and
I couldn't and it was frustrating, and I was like, Okay,
(07:45):
maybe to you guys, it might not be that big
of a deal, but I think about, like, man, if
I just woke up a little bit earlier, if I
figured out, you know, my outfit, maybe yesterday I would
have had this done and I was able, I would
would have been able to do my makeup. I don't
want to rush. I want everything to go at ease.
I want my life to be as peaceful as possible.
And I'm also not saying that this is gonna be perfect,
(08:06):
you guys, this sounds like I'm trying to be a perfect,
perfect person. No. I know I'm gonna fail and make mistakes.
But these are examples of things that I want to
work on. I want to acknowledge and I want to
take accountability in my faults of things that I'm not
the most greatest at. And that's why this year I
want to, you know, obviously, write these things down and
(08:28):
work on them. Another thing is my posture. I want
to go ahead and fix my posture. I want to
get back to wearing my faha all the time, especially
if you've gotten surgery, ladies, we need to be wearing
that fah. If we want to get slim thick, we
want that waste ways to be in. We gotta, you know,
(08:50):
get back on it. For sure. I did mention screen time.
Screen time scrolling is definitely you know that. Also, I
want to be more I don't really cancel plans, but
you know, we get a little lazy, we get like
we don't want to do it. I don't want to
(09:11):
be that person anymore. I don't want to cancel last minute.
I want to be more of a woman of my word.
I'm great, I'm great. I'm a woman of my word.
I know that I am. But when it comes to
like plans and like if I get a little lazy
and I just I'm over it, like I will cancel.
And I don't want to do that because I want
to commit. If I'm saying I'm going to do something,
I'm going to do it unsolicited opinions, opinions that I've
(09:34):
never asked for. Like I'm no longer accepting. I will
only listen and accept advice or opinions unless asked for
and from someone that I can trust and I know
has been in the same experience. I feel like we
have friends in our lives or people that try to
(09:55):
give us our give their opinions, and it comes off
as controlling even when it was unasked for, and you
have to take that control back. I feel like twenty
twenty five is a year of taking your control back
and really listening to yourself and what does good for
your body and also for the people around you. If
you're again, I will always say, if you're taking care
(10:17):
of yourself on the inside, it'll reflect on the outside
and in your relationships. And that also starts with you know,
toxic behaviors in your friendships. This year, I really wanted
to be a year of this is Jenica, Like this
isn't because other people told me or I was influenced
by this person or whatever, Like I want to be
(10:38):
my own influencer, Like I want to be my own
person and make decisions for myself instead of people pleasing,
because again, I feel like I struggle with never being
like good enough and like people pleasing and abandonment and
being scared that, you know, I'm gonna lose people if
(10:59):
I don't do exactly what they're opinionating on or what
they're recommending. You know, that is something that I've always
just personally have have had a little issue with. All Right,
you guys, we're gonna want a quick break and will
be right back. Welcome back, you guys. Another thing that
is out masculine energy. I got a lot of in
(11:21):
my dating life this last year. I've been number one
thing that I was told is that I'm very intimidating
and make men feel insecure. Now that's necessarily not necessarily
a bad thing, but I also want to be more feminine.
I want to be more soft. I want to feel
like I like, I know, I'm a lady, but I
(11:43):
feel like I've been on a fight or flight mode
since I've been young, and I've been figuring out my
whole life by myself. That when a man comes in,
like it's hard for me to let that person take lead.
And I want to do that this year because at
this point this year, I'm looking for my husband. Guys.
That's it. Like I'm done, like the dayting like this
is the year I'm done being single. I know that
(12:05):
I am ready. I know what I can provide, and
I know that what I can again bring to the table.
And I want to be feminine. I want to be led.
I want more. I don't know, like I just want
to feel soft, like a little soft girl, and I
think that has to be the right person and also
with other people, like I don't want to come off
(12:25):
as like this, like my way or no way type person,
you know. And I'm not saying that the people have
ever told me that, but I don't want to personally
feel like that also dimming my light for other people. Again,
I'm tired of people pleasing. I think that's the number
one thing people pleasing, and I it's hard. I don't
(12:46):
care what people think. But I also want to keep
people around, so I do things so that they can stay.
You know, it's a it's a it's an off on
off situation. But if you can understand me, like I,
I want to be able to shine. I want to
shine and not be scared. I want to let go
of fear. Fear is also out fearing of what people
(13:11):
will say about me. For sure, little things like Uber eats,
less delivery, staying in all day. Definitely, I do not out.
Is gonna be definitely not going out to the bars.
(13:32):
I'm tired of going out to the bars. I mean
I did, like I only did it for like a
couple months, but like you know, I just felt like
it was fine, cute. You know. Now time to give
lucked back in. I think as far as out, I
think that's pretty much it. And things that I want
for the like to bring in is I want to
(13:52):
slow down. I want again my feminity, femininity. You guys
know what I mean, feminit, You know what I mean, Okay,
my soft girl. I know I'm in my sofcer or,
but I want to feel soft and like a relationship
Like I want to feel confident enough in my relationship
that I can just be like and I feel like
every woman deserves to be that way. In a consistent routine,
(14:17):
my routine. I need my routine back. I'm a person
of routine. I need to get to the gym, I
need to come home, I need to get to work
and then I can you know, et cetera, et cetera.
I'm huge on routine. It makes me feel better. I
want to get ready more. I want to be girlier.
I want to be presentable. I always. I want to
(14:38):
continue that. In twenty twenty four, that is something that
I definitely worked on, especially because like I started feeling
better about myself that I wanted to feel and look
like that as well. And it helps with my confidence
showing up for myself before anybody else. I think people
struggle showing up for themselves. I'm putting other people before
(15:03):
again goes back to the people pleasing quality time with
my family. If you guys know me, you guys know
that my family is everything to me. Quality time is significant.
There's a lot of things that like, I think it's
important right now, especially you know, little things that happen
here and here, here and there in my family, like
and I you know that's everyone has their own thing,
(15:25):
but I want to be there for them and spend
actual quality time no phones. Like obviously to take pictures
and stuff is cute, but I want to be able
to engage. And also, like the kids are getting older.
If you have kids, like I want to be more present,
you guys can understand, like you want to be more
present they the time goes by so fast, and I
feel like with social media and everything going on. Their
(15:46):
innocence is getting a little bit robbed, and I don't
like that, and I want to be able to bring
them and ground them back to earth, like of things
that matter. And also I want to not be scared
to buy myself things. I want to take myself shopping.
I'm usually the person to buy everything for everybody else
(16:08):
except for myself, being selective with my time who I
give my time to, because not everybody is worthy or
deserving of it. To be honest, I'm going back to
my private life I've stayed off of, like you know,
posting a lot of my friends on social media. I
want to keep it private. I'm not saying, just like
I like having that separate life, you know, my social media,
(16:32):
my work, and then my family and then my friends.
I don't like mixing them. I want to have those
boundaries and keeping it private because those are so like
my circle. If I take care of those things, that's
what feeds me and that's what energizes me as well.
And I feel like once people start picking at that,
anybody starts to find a problem, and I don't like that.
(16:54):
Out Okay, so I set out bars and going out,
so more dinner parties, more dinner in general. I want
to cook at home more. I'm usually good at that,
but you know, obviously, I think the holidays just makes
us feel like we're really slacking, and I think that
is a misconception because you know, we're doing so good
(17:14):
up until November December. So I, you know, again, I
want to get back to cooking. I want to practice
more self love, being kind to myself. Also, keeping my
phone on D and D. I learned that from Sebas
from La Platica. You know, he he just has his
(17:35):
phone on D and D unless it's important. I don't
need my phone unless it's super super important. Obviously I
work on my phone and everything like that, but I
that's what I want to keep it at. Like, you know,
if you're not my family, if you're not my immediate
close circle, I don't need to be directly on my phone, like,
I want to keep it there. And it's for my
(17:56):
peace of mind, because once I grab that phone, then
it goes to scrolling, then it goes to you know,
the back to like a endless cycle. In I'm bringing
this in. Also simple makeup, less is more type girl,
prioritizing my sleep, my rest, my health. Definitely. I want
(18:18):
to live a slow paced life. I feel like I've
been in a rush my whole life that I and
especially living in La and you know, being Latinos and
growing up like you're always like you need to work,
we need to work and we're hard workers. We are
like this isn't like you know, it's in our blood.
But I also want to live slow. I want to enjoy.
(18:39):
I want to romanticize everything, like I think that life
is so beautiful and should be cherished, cherished, which leads
me to my next one. I want to travel, definitely
more travel this year. Last year I was able to
go to Peru, Cuba, Paris, Rome and Italy whatever that
(19:00):
I loved and enjoyed it that. I want to be
able to do that this year. And also donating more,
going back to the Cuba thing. Like you guys know
that my life changed when I went to Cuba. I
want to do it again. I would love to go back.
I want to open a foundation something some sort I
told you guys, I'm figuring it out, but definitely more donations.
(19:21):
I want to volunteer more. I want my time to
just be valuable. I want like I want to feel
good about what I'm doing, and if I'm able to
help or be there or be someone in the world
for somebody, I would love to. I also want to
stop taking things personal. There's some things where I'm just like, oh,
(19:45):
like it affects me, and maybe sometimes that's not fair
to the other person because they may or may not
mean that intentionally, and if they don't, then we take
it out on them. So I want to stop taking
things personally and taking it a lot to pray or
I want to directly lead a lot of things in prayer.
(20:06):
I'm not saying that I don't like I didn't in
twenty twenty four, but I want the moments that I
that I wake up to be prayer to be about Jesus.
And you know, it may be different for you guys also,
but that is my personal belief. I do believe that
if you wake up and you don't grab your phone,
that is one thing. Also, I want to stop grabbing
(20:27):
my phone in the morning. I want my first thing
to be a prayer, like you know, putting on some
worship music. I feel like those how you start your
day is how it's going to play out, and those
are things that I want to continue practicing. Also, I'm
gonna leave it at this as well. Irish goodbyes. My
(20:50):
grandpa Pedro does it all the time, and my uncles
and stuff. They kind of just disappear, like you're at
a party and you disappear. Never really got it up
until now, you know, I don't feel like I think
saying goodbye to people takes the longest amount at the party.
(21:11):
You're there, still talking to people whatever, No said, Hi,
I'm gonna go if it's by my bedtime. Sorry, not sorry,
I'm leaving. And and yeah, these are just little things
that I know that could be beneficial in the long run.
You guys, sit down with yourselves, think, sit down, what
(21:34):
do what? What am I no longer accepting? Sit down,
right down right now? Not right now, but when you
have time and if you're listening to this, like and
you're able to grab a pen or in your notes
on your phone, like what are we tired of? What
are we no longer accepting? And what are we gonna
accept now? You know, I think this year is a
year to put yourself first. And I'm also speaking to
(21:55):
myself and I'm speaking to myself right now, like you
need to put yourself first. There's no exception. You are
the only person. You come into this world alone. You're
gonna die alone. How are you gonna die? Are you
gonna die happy? Are you gonna die with knowing that
you did what you did and you cared for yourself,
Knowing that your body is healthy, that your mind is healthy,
(22:16):
that your home is healthy, that you can leave as
a good person, were you kind, and that those are
things that you know, and also like releasing that pressure,
you know those are it is obviously like a lot
of pressure. These are things that aren't the easiest thing
to do, but it has to start somewhere. And I
(22:39):
think we overcomplicate the New year. We set these resolutions
and these unrealistic expectations like you know, I could have
said work out more, I could have said eat better
or whatever. It's like, no, they're simpler things like cooking
at home more. I want to be able to you know,
get ready, look cute. Those are little things that help
you and that will be beneficial versus having this stamp
(23:02):
like oh I need to do this and I didn't
accomplish this resolution. It's like no, like you have to
change the mentality. It's all about perspective and the way
you look at things. So that's why resolutions, I feel
like it held a negative connotation with it and it
just sounds like too much pressure. So release that pressure
off of you right now. Take it day by day.
(23:23):
Let's enjoy this year. Let's enjoy our lives because it's like, again,
the world is so ugly and like it could be
so evil. How are we going to make it better?
And how are we gonna you know, tolerate or enjoy
our lives? And that's pretty much it, you guys. I
just wanted to be a little you know, encouraging and
(23:45):
just help you guys and give you insight on what
I'm working on and what I'm doing. If you guys
haven't done a vision board or a prayer board, also
do that. This year, I kind of mixed both. There's
a difference. Vision board is more of like the plan
you have for your life. From the prayer board is like, Okay, Lord,
I'm praying for these things, but I want you to
take control. And throughout the year you can like put
(24:07):
little prayers inside these little envelopes and in the center
it says answered prayers. If you haven't seen it, go
look it up. I would love to show you, guys,
but I'm very careful about what you know, the energy,
and I don't like sharing it. We're keeping it private,
you guys. We're keeping it private. So if you guys
start it, it's not too late. It is amazing, you gotta.
(24:28):
I would always consecrate myself in in God. I want
to continue to consecrate myself in God. And this is
the third year that I'm doing a fast and if
you guys haven't again look into it, it's beneficial. I
feel like we are not We're no one or nowhere
without God. And again, beliefs may be different for you guys,
(24:51):
but that is mine. And I want to be able
to start my year and start my days with Jesus
because I know that that the person that is going
to lead me and ultimately want the best for me
and has already everything in plan and let his will
be done, and I'm going to surrender to it. And
(25:11):
I don't mean to get so spiritual about this, but
we are not the owner. We are the owners of
our lives, but we also have to have something higher
and keep us humble and remember where it all began.
And yeah, and with that you guys. I'm just sending
(25:32):
you guys lots of love, lots of hope, lots of
good vibes this year to you and your families. We
got this. We are going to conquer. We're going to
come out so much better and just healthier. The goal
is just to be healthy in all aspects. We're going
to have. We attract healthy and positive relationships. We attract
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healthy and positive friendships, y, mental health, we everything. We're
gonna take care of everything, and it's gonna be It's
gonna be a good year. I believe it, and I'm
believe in you guys, and you know ins and outs.
You guys, take them out, bring it in and bring
(26:18):
in all the good vibes. And I cannot wait for
the podcast. I have so many great ideas for this year,
and hopefully you guys are still here and sticking around,
because it's gonna get a lot a lot better. So
make sure you guys like, comment, subscribe, leave a review,
and let me know what you guys are leaving in
and out of twenty twenty five and I will see
(26:40):
you guys next Tuesday. Bye. Overcome for Podcasts is a
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