October 7, 2025 • 26 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to the Overcomfort podcast. I'm your host, Jennica Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to tune in
and listen to this episode. Wherever you guys are at,
I am honored to have you guys here to be
watching and listening. We are doing an updated Q and A. Okay,
it has been a minute. I love doing these now
(00:22):
and then to see where you guys's head is at.
If you guys have any questions about what I'm doing
on social media or my personal life, ah while we
are going to make a macha comment down below. If
you are a Mancha girly or a coffee girl, I'm both,
(00:44):
but lately I have really just been into my macha pick.
So actually, I need to turn on this water and
once it's boiled, I will start the process. I already
have like my cup of hot milk in here. I
like doing them hot because they just I feel like
they feel better to me. Anyways, Okay, so while that's
(01:06):
heating up, we are going to get into these questions.
I asked you guys to ask me questions on Snapchat, Instagram,
my broadcast channel. If you guys are not in that
broadcast channel make sure you go ahead and join. I
would love to be I would love for you guys
to be a part of that family there, and we're
(01:28):
just gonna jump right into it. We have dating questions,
we have weight loss questions, we have faith questions, which
I'm all excited for. Okay, So I think one of
the most obvious questions here, because there's like a bunch
of like the same one is weight loss. What's the
tips and tricks? So I just did an episode about
(01:49):
finding and maintaining motivation. Watch that first then second step
is really just getting to it, getting in the gym,
staying locked in and focused. At least for me, I
feel like it has just helped my mental health. It's
helped my everyday life, my the way I feel. It's
(02:12):
something that I really enjoy. I love doing eating healthy.
I've turned like away from like processed foods. I know
it's something a little bit difficult, but it is something
so simple and so easy. I've turned to like whole foods,
so a lot of just fruits and vegetables and proteins,
and yeah, you just got to stay motivated, You got
to stay locked in, and you got to really just
(02:35):
keep pushing and remember why you're doing it. What's one
thing you've learned about love that didn't come from a relationship.
That is a great question. Okay, mmm, I think that
love requires boundaries, even with friends and family. It teaches
(03:01):
you to like say no and still care deeply, but
still honoring and loving yourself at the same time. So,
if anything, love has taught me boundaries. Have you ever
been afraid to trust God with your love life? You
(03:21):
guys are getting really deep this time. Oh my gosh. Okay,
I have because I feel like I've talked about it
a lot on the podcast, but I've been single for
a hot minute and which I used to just I
feel like it was giving desperate before, but now I'm
kind of just over it and letting it, enjoying my
waiting season and enjoying this time of like, Okay, I
(03:43):
need to be better at certain things before I can
add somebody onto my life, onto something that's so important
to me. I want to be whole. I want to
be better, but trusting God in that process, like knowing
like okay, knowing that God has something better for when
that I have because sometimes I do be getting bored,
(04:03):
you guys, I be getting bored, and I just, you know,
I want to do dumb things, but I don't. I
do not. I fight the boredom and I just continue
to trust God because surrendering feels like giving up control.
But I know that if I don't force it, it's going
to be so much better. So it's been a journey.
(04:27):
It's been tough. What was your I made it moment
with your podcast? I don't know. I feel like just
the podcast and growth in general has really just pushed
me to be like, Wow, I'm still lucky to be
able to do this. I'm still be lucky to be
able to talk and motivate people and to take people
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on this journey with me, because if you've seen from
season one, like the growth and where I was at
has led me to where I'm at now. I'm so
proud of myself and I'm proud of how far the
podcast has come and all the guests that have been
on the podcast. It's been a journey and it's been
beautiful and I'm just grateful for that. In general, do
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you eventually plan to get more surgery for weight loss
or why didn't you just get plastic surgery for weight loss? Okay, people,
love to be a little bit nosy about why I
didn't get this surgery or why I did or whatever,
But this is why. One because surgery is expensive. Two
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I want to be also proud of myself and be
able to say that I did this without having to
do surgery. Three because I just didn't want to. And
for I don't think that I plan on getting any
other surgery as of right now. I don't know, maybe later,
maybe after I have kids. Who knows, Like this is
what I'm doing right now right now, No, but just
(05:57):
a reminder, I have gotten like my tummy tuck, I've
gotten BBL and the other I've got my breasts soon.
So I've done those things. But as far as like
anything else for weight loss, like, I'm happy with where
I'm at now. Obviously it's still a journey and still
things that I have to work on, but I'm happy.
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I'm happy with where I'm at. All Right, We're gonna
go on a quick break and we'll be right back
to answer more of your guys' questions. Welcome back, you guys. Ooh,
the pressure of social media on adolescence to maintain their
beauty standard status. Do you still struggle with body image
even now love that question, which is something that is
(06:42):
is like a great question because yes, it's not like
necessarily destination body like loving yourself and loving your body,
but it's like a daily choice and daily decision that
some days you have to make that choice to love
yourself and it is so hard. Like I do deal
with body dysmorphia. I do deal waking up on the
(07:05):
daily and looking in the mirror and not being happy
with what I'm looking at. Some days I look bloated,
some days I just don't look my best. But I
have to remind myself of my worth and who I
am and that I'm loved no matter what. But yes,
I do deal with that, and it is something that
I'm working on till this day. And as far as
like beauty standards and all that, Like I again, I'll
(07:29):
look at myself in the mirror and I'll remind myself like, Okay,
I have nieces, I have people that I want to
inspire and have them look up to and remind them
that it's not just how you feel on the outside,
it's what you feel on the inside. And if you
feel loved and you feel feel cared for and strong
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on the inside, then that's all that matters. Would you
date an influencer or anybody that you have previously filmed with?
That seems like a question. I've filmed with a lots
lots of people, so you have to be a little
bit more specific than that. But as far as an influencer, look,
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I'm not gonna knock anything that is coming my way
or that I feel like is sent from God. I
do feel like we both have to be on the
same page as far as what we're saying and what
we're sharing. I do like my my love life for
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that life to be very private. I saw something on
Instagram where it's like public but private, and it's like, yeah,
you private, but you know that I'm dating somebody just
to have that line of respect, because I don't feel
like everybody needs to be in the business. But I
wouldn't knock it. I just you know, yeah, whatever that means. Okay.
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How do you balance faith with being real and not
overly churchy? That's a great question. I think when I'm
speaking in general to God, I just talk to him
like a person. He just wants, like just an honest conversation,
like as a friend, as if like just a regular person.
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I don't take it super far with him, and I
don't really want to filter my faith or who I
am for Instagram. Some people like get upset or get
mad or have these expectations on Christians or realistically we're
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all human and it's like, dude, I'm going to fail,
I'm going to sin, I'm going to not be perfect,
And you have to get that in your head. The
goal is to always like treat people better and love
people and love people the way that Jesus loves them.
And I feel like that's the ultimate gift that anybody
can give, versus the sins that someone is committing or doing.
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Like you gotta like stop holding people at this standard
because at the end of the day, we're human and
we make mistakes. You can't judge somebody for doing something
that you wouldn't do or whatever. Like we're all on
the same journey and everyone has their own convictions. What
really matters is like our relationship and how we talk
to God and how much we practice and putting how
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much we practice and put Him in our lives. What
are your red flags? What are your red flags when
you're talking to someone new. I have a lot I'm
just kidding. I feel like inconsistency, inconsistency and over promising.
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Why because I'm a woman of my word and I
need you to be a man of your word. I
need you to also have those deep conversations with me
and be comfortable enough, like yeah, like those are moments
if we're looking, if we're gonna be locked in, like
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we need to have a mutual understanding. And if you're
over promising, if you're love bombing me, if you're like
promising and saying all these things and you're not really
gonna fulfill that, then I don't want that. And that's
a red flag for me, you know. I feel like
when someone doesn't try too hard, or when someone is
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just themselves and honest, like that is a green flag,
Like when they're not pursuing you, when they're not like
I don't say not pursuing you, but you know, when
it's just like mature. You'll realize when it's mature and
like genuine, that that's healthy instead of like oh, texting
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every day, texting all day, all night, going. I don't know,
like there has to be a balance. I guess we'll
go into the next one where she is how is
dating life, you guys. Honestly, I like I answered the
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question before, I'm kind of just enjoying this like chill season,
like I'm not. I'm not expecting anything anymore, Like I'm
I'm gonna take whatever God is sending my way. I
know what's good. I know it's not good. I know
what's like mature. I know what I want, even if
it's I can't. I have to like remember to not settle.
(12:45):
I feel like I've lived long enough to like I
lived long enough and I've lived through some things that
I'm just like, yeah, no, I can't. I'm not gonna
be putting up with this. I'm not gonna be doing
this over and over again, and what whatever that is?
You know? So right now, answer the question to answer
the short term, like am I dating? No? Is there
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potential candidates that I'm just maybe but not really to
be honest, I'm just enjoying this single season and waiting
season and viewing it as preparation and enjoying my life,
(13:29):
to be quite honest. Well, got mancho on me. What
is your current fitness or wellness goal. That's a great
question too. I I'm not looking to lose weight. It's
not about weight. I just want to gain more strength
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and endurance and mood. I just want to feel good
in my skin. Period. What's the hardest boundary you've ever
had to set? In dates cutting someone off that I've
had a chemistry with because they're inconsistent, because they are
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just not living up to their word or just not
really yeah being who they said they were. Like energy
isn't enough when there's like a sense of peace missing.
I'm twenty eight. I'm turning twenty eight, like there's no
more time to waste. Like I'm not putting like a
timeline on you. But again, I'm just looking for maturity
(14:34):
and looking for consistency. There's a lot of people that
just wanted to mess around and I'm not here for it.
Like I'm just not going to be doing this back
and forth over and over again. Like way too grown
for that. All Right, We're gonna go on a quick
break and we'll be right back to answer more of
your guys' questions. Welcome back, you guys. Ooh, how do
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you handle your emotions when you're temp to text someone toxic? Mmm?
First of all, honey, block him, that's it. I'm just kidding.
I would write it in my notes instead, and then
I would block, because you know what, what you're feeling
(15:22):
right now is just temporary, that sense of just like,
oh I'm upset, I need to text him and whatever.
You don't even have to be upset. You can just
be bored and want to do it. But it's like, no,
trust me blocking them. You know how many people I've blocked,
Like I just I don't. I I don't do it
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to like have bad burning bridges or like bad like
whatever with this with these people, I just feel like
it's just better, like we're not meeting ida I now,
Like there's just why am I going to keep that
door open? Why am I keep having that temptation be
there and entertaining the idea of maybe possible, Like, no,
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go write in your notes, call a friend, and you'll
feel better in ten minutes. Trust me. Stop going through
their instagram, stop looking for them, stop making fake pages
to go look at their instagrams. Don't be toxic about it.
Just stop stop doing it. If you want to move on,
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then move on, because the only person that's holding you
back is yourself. What do you do when you're doing
everything right spiritually but still feel stuck. I'm loving that
I'm getting a lot of faithful questions. I like that,
I think and I feel like this has happened to
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me too, And it's a season that I'm currently in.
Is stop performing, stop seeing it as something as a
job or something that when we have these checklists, we're
burning ourselves out. So just sit back, chill and talk
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to God like he's a friend. M What helped your
faith grow the most this past year? I think going
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through situations that have required, not required, but have resulted
in pain, grieving. I think I felt God more comfort
from God in those silent moments than I ever did,
just like when everything was clear and pretty, like I
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felt God closer when I was just and pain and
realizing starting to know like Okay, this is what He's
trying to teach me and trying to guide me. And
you start to fall in love with God more when
you just see it as like, Okay, all he asks
of me is just to be faithful and obedient to
him and to trust him. And sometimes that's really really hard,
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especially when things happen to like family or close friends
or whatever, like it's just really really hard to trust
in those moments. But I do feel like that's what
draws me closer and knowing that that's my lifeline, that's
what's going to keep me going and keep me alive.
Are you still abstinate bad? Actually, yes, I am. I
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have been. I have enjoyed it. Honestly, it's just like
kind of a weight off my shoulders, especially if like
your girl, like it's just like, Okay, I don't got
to I'm got a tripper. I gotta worry about this. No,
but really it's honestly like made me feel more confident
(19:08):
in my body. Weird to say I've enjoyed the peace.
I've enjoyed not having like a soul tie, and I
feel like I've talked about it with you guys, but
if you guys don't know, I do believe in soul ties.
I do believe that when you do interchange or have
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sex with somebody, like whatever that person has been through
or the other person that they've had sex with kind
of just really it does come to you and then
it just turns into that. And I had to realize
that after the last person that I was with, And
this is very vulnerable and kind of exposing, but it
is just like it's real, Like I remember, like the
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last person that I was with, that person had just
been very anxious and depressed, and then couple days later,
like I just started feeling that too. And it was
weird because I had felt like I let go of
that anxiety and that depression, but it's really true, like
I didn't have a reason why, and then I just
(20:12):
put tune together. And then when I stopped talking to
that person, when I stopped doing things with that person,
like it just felt better and I felt like myself again.
So yeah, it really does matter, and I'm still obstinate
and I'm very proud of it, and I plan to
stick to it for a long time and hopefully the
person that I'm with, my partner, can understand that and
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we can be on the same page about it. I've
gotten a lot of questions about my brand over Comfort
and about coming out with my own clothing line all
that stuff. Look to be quite honest, did I close
over Comfort, Yes? I did? I did I do not?
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I kind of did it silent lea. Look, there's things
that are for people and things that aren't. I am happy.
I'm grateful for what I did have and what I
was able to sell and give you, guys. But I
don't think selling is for me. I don't think selling
merchandise in general is for me. I think that I
just I love being able to communicate and have these
(21:22):
open conversations with you guys. But some people do great
at it. So yeah, as far as overcomfort, yes, but
there is something new in the works that doesn't have
to do with merchandise or selling anything. It's very exciting,
so hopefully they get to share with you, guys. Would
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you date someone from a different religion than what you believe?
If you guys are Christian, then you guys know the answer.
And if you don't, and if you aren't then you
would know then you should know. But I will obviously
talk about being equally yoked and unequally two people that
just aren't on the same page do not mesh well,
(22:08):
they don't go together, they don't things just it just
doesn't work out that way. So for me, I personally
do not think so, not that I don't think so,
it's probably a hard no where I just feel like
because when you raise kids, when you are like thinking
of future plans or whatever, you want to be able
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to be on the same page. Like for me like
I want to be able to present my kid. I
believe in baptism. I believe that they should be raised
in the Christian faith. I don't believe that they should
be raised in the Catholic faith where they believe in
the Saints are getting baptized when they're kids. All that, like,
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all that matters when you're raising kids. And those are
foundations that you need to have and set before you
commit yourself to somebody. Those are the uncomfortable convers stations
that you need to have and to know, like, Okay,
is this person for me or not? Okay, last question
so that we can wrap it up, what's your biggest
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glow up moment physically, mentally or spiritually. I'm gonna say
all the above. I think each one has its own
personal year. I feel like last year was my mental
glow up. I feel like I really healed myself mentally
my anxiety. And this year definitely has to be my
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physical and my spiritual. I got baptized this year. I'm
looking the best that I ever have in my life,
which I'm grateful for. I'm just happy with life in general.
I feel like once I've really set my self goals
and really set my eyes on God and really realize, like, okay,
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the importance of just taking care of yourself and who's
feeding into you and what you're doing on the daily
really matters. It's just helped me. It's helped me just
enjoy life for what it is. I have a great circle,
I have great friends. I love going to church. I
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love the church that I go to. It's not toxic,
it's not I don't feel betrayed. I don't feel like
I'm getting hurt there. My relationship with God more than
anything outside of the church is great. I just feel like,
you know, once you start putting things into a perspective
and you start seeing life differently, and you start seeing
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it the way that God wants you to, you start
just seeing everything beautiful and life is great. And I'm
just grateful to be in this position to be able
to have the knowledge, to be able to speak to
you guys, to have a better platform to encourage and
to motivate you guys. And if me going to the
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gym every day and posting about it, or me talking
about God or sharing my journey with you guys is motivating,
then I'm going to keep doing it and not just
for myself, but for you guys too, and for our
future generations because the world gets ugly and they're mean
and just uncomfortable. But I'm here to just remind you
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guys that life is beautiful and you can have the
same glow up or experience that I have had. And yeah,
so without further ado do, we're gonna do our Bible
Verse of the day just so that we can all
stay connected and enjoy it. Ready, Bible versus the Day
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is first Peter five ten. After you have suffered a
little while, he will restore, support and strengthen you. This
one has definitely been a personal Bible verse for me lately.
When I feel like I've been through so much and
experienced a lot, I always have to go back around
my myself that God is going to restore me, strengthen me,
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and support me. And I'm not in this alone and
neither are you guys. Thank you guys so much for
your questions. Thank you guys for being here tuning in.
Make sure you guys like comment, subscribe, let me know
which guests, which topics, which recipes you guys would like
to see next, And I will see you guys on
the next one
Welcome back to the Overcomfort podcast. I'm your host, Jennica Lopez.
Thank you guys so much for choosing to tune in
and listen to this episode. Wherever you guys are at,
I am honored to have you guys here to be
watching and listening. We are doing an updated Q and A. Okay,
it has been a minute. I love doing these now
(00:22):
and then to see where you guys's head is at.
If you guys have any questions about what I'm doing
on social media or my personal life, ah while we
are going to make a macha comment down below. If
you are a Mancha girly or a coffee girl, I'm both,
(00:44):
but lately I have really just been into my macha pick.
So actually, I need to turn on this water and
once it's boiled, I will start the process. I already
have like my cup of hot milk in here. I
like doing them hot because they just I feel like
they feel better to me. Anyways, Okay, so while that's
(01:06):
heating up, we are going to get into these questions.
I asked you guys to ask me questions on Snapchat, Instagram,
my broadcast channel. If you guys are not in that
broadcast channel make sure you go ahead and join. I
would love to be I would love for you guys
to be a part of that family there, and we're
(01:28):
just gonna jump right into it. We have dating questions,
we have weight loss questions, we have faith questions, which
I'm all excited for. Okay, So I think one of
the most obvious questions here, because there's like a bunch
of like the same one is weight loss. What's the
tips and tricks? So I just did an episode about
(01:49):
finding and maintaining motivation. Watch that first then second step
is really just getting to it, getting in the gym,
staying locked in and focused. At least for me, I
feel like it has just helped my mental health. It's
helped my everyday life, my the way I feel. It's
(02:12):
something that I really enjoy. I love doing eating healthy.
I've turned like away from like processed foods. I know
it's something a little bit difficult, but it is something
so simple and so easy. I've turned to like whole foods,
so a lot of just fruits and vegetables and proteins,
and yeah, you just got to stay motivated, You got
to stay locked in, and you got to really just
(02:35):
keep pushing and remember why you're doing it. What's one
thing you've learned about love that didn't come from a relationship.
That is a great question. Okay, mmm, I think that
love requires boundaries, even with friends and family. It teaches
(03:01):
you to like say no and still care deeply, but
still honoring and loving yourself at the same time. So,
if anything, love has taught me boundaries. Have you ever
been afraid to trust God with your love life? You
(03:21):
guys are getting really deep this time. Oh my gosh. Okay,
I have because I feel like I've talked about it
a lot on the podcast, but I've been single for
a hot minute and which I used to just I
feel like it was giving desperate before, but now I'm
kind of just over it and letting it, enjoying my
waiting season and enjoying this time of like, Okay, I
(03:43):
need to be better at certain things before I can
add somebody onto my life, onto something that's so important
to me. I want to be whole. I want to
be better, but trusting God in that process, like knowing
like okay, knowing that God has something better for when
that I have because sometimes I do be getting bored,
(04:03):
you guys, I be getting bored, and I just, you know,
I want to do dumb things, but I don't. I
do not. I fight the boredom and I just continue
to trust God because surrendering feels like giving up control.
But I know that if I don't force it, it's going
to be so much better. So it's been a journey.
(04:27):
It's been tough. What was your I made it moment
with your podcast? I don't know. I feel like just
the podcast and growth in general has really just pushed
me to be like, Wow, I'm still lucky to be
able to do this. I'm still be lucky to be
able to talk and motivate people and to take people
(04:48):
on this journey with me, because if you've seen from
season one, like the growth and where I was at
has led me to where I'm at now. I'm so
proud of myself and I'm proud of how far the
podcast has come and all the guests that have been
on the podcast. It's been a journey and it's been
beautiful and I'm just grateful for that. In general, do
(05:11):
you eventually plan to get more surgery for weight loss
or why didn't you just get plastic surgery for weight loss? Okay, people,
love to be a little bit nosy about why I
didn't get this surgery or why I did or whatever,
But this is why. One because surgery is expensive. Two
(05:35):
I want to be also proud of myself and be
able to say that I did this without having to
do surgery. Three because I just didn't want to. And
for I don't think that I plan on getting any
other surgery as of right now. I don't know, maybe later,
maybe after I have kids. Who knows, Like this is
what I'm doing right now right now, No, but just
(05:57):
a reminder, I have gotten like my tummy tuck, I've
gotten BBL and the other I've got my breasts soon.
So I've done those things. But as far as like
anything else for weight loss, like, I'm happy with where
I'm at now. Obviously it's still a journey and still
things that I have to work on, but I'm happy.
(06:18):
I'm happy with where I'm at. All Right, We're gonna
go on a quick break and we'll be right back
to answer more of your guys' questions. Welcome back, you guys. Ooh,
the pressure of social media on adolescence to maintain their
beauty standard status. Do you still struggle with body image
even now love that question, which is something that is
(06:42):
is like a great question because yes, it's not like
necessarily destination body like loving yourself and loving your body,
but it's like a daily choice and daily decision that
some days you have to make that choice to love
yourself and it is so hard. Like I do deal
with body dysmorphia. I do deal waking up on the
(07:05):
daily and looking in the mirror and not being happy
with what I'm looking at. Some days I look bloated,
some days I just don't look my best. But I
have to remind myself of my worth and who I
am and that I'm loved no matter what. But yes,
I do deal with that, and it is something that
I'm working on till this day. And as far as
like beauty standards and all that, Like I again, I'll
(07:29):
look at myself in the mirror and I'll remind myself like, Okay,
I have nieces, I have people that I want to
inspire and have them look up to and remind them
that it's not just how you feel on the outside,
it's what you feel on the inside. And if you
feel loved and you feel feel cared for and strong
(07:49):
on the inside, then that's all that matters. Would you
date an influencer or anybody that you have previously filmed with?
That seems like a question. I've filmed with a lots
lots of people, so you have to be a little
bit more specific than that. But as far as an influencer, look,
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I'm not gonna knock anything that is coming my way
or that I feel like is sent from God. I
do feel like we both have to be on the
same page as far as what we're saying and what
we're sharing. I do like my my love life for
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that life to be very private. I saw something on
Instagram where it's like public but private, and it's like, yeah,
you private, but you know that I'm dating somebody just
to have that line of respect, because I don't feel
like everybody needs to be in the business. But I
wouldn't knock it. I just you know, yeah, whatever that means. Okay.
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How do you balance faith with being real and not
overly churchy? That's a great question. I think when I'm
speaking in general to God, I just talk to him
like a person. He just wants, like just an honest conversation,
like as a friend, as if like just a regular person.
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I don't take it super far with him, and I
don't really want to filter my faith or who I
am for Instagram. Some people like get upset or get
mad or have these expectations on Christians or realistically we're
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all human and it's like, dude, I'm going to fail,
I'm going to sin, I'm going to not be perfect,
And you have to get that in your head. The
goal is to always like treat people better and love
people and love people the way that Jesus loves them.
And I feel like that's the ultimate gift that anybody
can give, versus the sins that someone is committing or doing.
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Like you gotta like stop holding people at this standard
because at the end of the day, we're human and
we make mistakes. You can't judge somebody for doing something
that you wouldn't do or whatever. Like we're all on
the same journey and everyone has their own convictions. What
really matters is like our relationship and how we talk
to God and how much we practice and putting how
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much we practice and put Him in our lives. What
are your red flags? What are your red flags when
you're talking to someone new. I have a lot I'm
just kidding. I feel like inconsistency, inconsistency and over promising.
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Why because I'm a woman of my word and I
need you to be a man of your word. I
need you to also have those deep conversations with me
and be comfortable enough, like yeah, like those are moments
if we're looking, if we're gonna be locked in, like
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we need to have a mutual understanding. And if you're
over promising, if you're love bombing me, if you're like
promising and saying all these things and you're not really
gonna fulfill that, then I don't want that. And that's
a red flag for me, you know. I feel like
when someone doesn't try too hard, or when someone is
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just themselves and honest, like that is a green flag,
Like when they're not pursuing you, when they're not like
I don't say not pursuing you, but you know, when
it's just like mature. You'll realize when it's mature and
like genuine, that that's healthy instead of like oh, texting
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every day, texting all day, all night, going. I don't know,
like there has to be a balance. I guess we'll
go into the next one where she is how is
dating life, you guys. Honestly, I like I answered the
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question before, I'm kind of just enjoying this like chill season,
like I'm not. I'm not expecting anything anymore, Like I'm
I'm gonna take whatever God is sending my way. I
know what's good. I know it's not good. I know
what's like mature. I know what I want, even if
it's I can't. I have to like remember to not settle.
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I feel like I've lived long enough to like I
lived long enough and I've lived through some things that
I'm just like, yeah, no, I can't. I'm not gonna
be putting up with this. I'm not gonna be doing
this over and over again, and what whatever that is?
You know? So right now, answer the question to answer
the short term, like am I dating? No? Is there
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potential candidates that I'm just maybe but not really to
be honest, I'm just enjoying this single season and waiting
season and viewing it as preparation and enjoying my life,
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to be quite honest. Well, got mancho on me. What
is your current fitness or wellness goal. That's a great
question too. I I'm not looking to lose weight. It's
not about weight. I just want to gain more strength
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and endurance and mood. I just want to feel good
in my skin. Period. What's the hardest boundary you've ever
had to set? In dates cutting someone off that I've
had a chemistry with because they're inconsistent, because they are
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just not living up to their word or just not
really yeah being who they said they were. Like energy
isn't enough when there's like a sense of peace missing.
I'm twenty eight. I'm turning twenty eight, like there's no
more time to waste. Like I'm not putting like a
timeline on you. But again, I'm just looking for maturity
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and looking for consistency. There's a lot of people that
just wanted to mess around and I'm not here for it.
Like I'm just not going to be doing this back
and forth over and over again. Like way too grown
for that. All Right, We're gonna go on a quick
break and we'll be right back to answer more of
your guys' questions. Welcome back, you guys. Ooh, how do
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you handle your emotions when you're temp to text someone toxic? Mmm?
First of all, honey, block him, that's it. I'm just kidding.
I would write it in my notes instead, and then
I would block, because you know what, what you're feeling
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right now is just temporary, that sense of just like,
oh I'm upset, I need to text him and whatever.
You don't even have to be upset. You can just
be bored and want to do it. But it's like, no,
trust me blocking them. You know how many people I've blocked,
Like I just I don't. I I don't do it
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to like have bad burning bridges or like bad like
whatever with this with these people, I just feel like
it's just better, like we're not meeting ida I now,
Like there's just why am I going to keep that
door open? Why am I keep having that temptation be
there and entertaining the idea of maybe possible, Like, no,
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go write in your notes, call a friend, and you'll
feel better in ten minutes. Trust me. Stop going through
their instagram, stop looking for them, stop making fake pages
to go look at their instagrams. Don't be toxic about it.
Just stop stop doing it. If you want to move on,
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then move on, because the only person that's holding you
back is yourself. What do you do when you're doing
everything right spiritually but still feel stuck. I'm loving that
I'm getting a lot of faithful questions. I like that,
I think and I feel like this has happened to
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me too, And it's a season that I'm currently in.
Is stop performing, stop seeing it as something as a
job or something that when we have these checklists, we're
burning ourselves out. So just sit back, chill and talk
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to God like he's a friend. M What helped your
faith grow the most this past year? I think going
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through situations that have required, not required, but have resulted
in pain, grieving. I think I felt God more comfort
from God in those silent moments than I ever did,
just like when everything was clear and pretty, like I
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felt God closer when I was just and pain and
realizing starting to know like Okay, this is what He's
trying to teach me and trying to guide me. And
you start to fall in love with God more when
you just see it as like, Okay, all he asks
of me is just to be faithful and obedient to
him and to trust him. And sometimes that's really really hard,
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especially when things happen to like family or close friends
or whatever, like it's just really really hard to trust
in those moments. But I do feel like that's what
draws me closer and knowing that that's my lifeline, that's
what's going to keep me going and keep me alive.
Are you still abstinate bad? Actually, yes, I am. I
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have been. I have enjoyed it. Honestly, it's just like
kind of a weight off my shoulders, especially if like
your girl, like it's just like, Okay, I don't got
to I'm got a tripper. I gotta worry about this. No,
but really it's honestly like made me feel more confident
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in my body. Weird to say I've enjoyed the peace.
I've enjoyed not having like a soul tie, and I
feel like I've talked about it with you guys, but
if you guys don't know, I do believe in soul ties.
I do believe that when you do interchange or have
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sex with somebody, like whatever that person has been through
or the other person that they've had sex with kind
of just really it does come to you and then
it just turns into that. And I had to realize
that after the last person that I was with, And
this is very vulnerable and kind of exposing, but it
is just like it's real, Like I remember, like the
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last person that I was with, that person had just
been very anxious and depressed, and then couple days later,
like I just started feeling that too. And it was
weird because I had felt like I let go of
that anxiety and that depression, but it's really true, like
I didn't have a reason why, and then I just
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put tune together. And then when I stopped talking to
that person, when I stopped doing things with that person,
like it just felt better and I felt like myself again.
So yeah, it really does matter, and I'm still obstinate
and I'm very proud of it, and I plan to
stick to it for a long time and hopefully the
person that I'm with, my partner, can understand that and
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we can be on the same page about it. I've
gotten a lot of questions about my brand over Comfort
and about coming out with my own clothing line all
that stuff. Look to be quite honest, did I close
over Comfort, Yes? I did? I did I do not?
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I kind of did it silent lea. Look, there's things
that are for people and things that aren't. I am happy.
I'm grateful for what I did have and what I
was able to sell and give you, guys. But I
don't think selling is for me. I don't think selling
merchandise in general is for me. I think that I
just I love being able to communicate and have these
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open conversations with you guys. But some people do great
at it. So yeah, as far as overcomfort, yes, but
there is something new in the works that doesn't have
to do with merchandise or selling anything. It's very exciting,
so hopefully they get to share with you, guys. Would
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you date someone from a different religion than what you believe?
If you guys are Christian, then you guys know the answer.
And if you don't, and if you aren't then you
would know then you should know. But I will obviously
talk about being equally yoked and unequally two people that
just aren't on the same page do not mesh well,
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they don't go together, they don't things just it just
doesn't work out that way. So for me, I personally
do not think so, not that I don't think so,
it's probably a hard no where I just feel like
because when you raise kids, when you are like thinking
of future plans or whatever, you want to be able
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to be on the same page. Like for me like
I want to be able to present my kid. I
believe in baptism. I believe that they should be raised
in the Christian faith. I don't believe that they should
be raised in the Catholic faith where they believe in
the Saints are getting baptized when they're kids. All that, like,
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all that matters when you're raising kids. And those are
foundations that you need to have and set before you
commit yourself to somebody. Those are the uncomfortable convers stations
that you need to have and to know, like, Okay,
is this person for me or not? Okay, last question
so that we can wrap it up, what's your biggest
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glow up moment physically, mentally or spiritually. I'm gonna say
all the above. I think each one has its own
personal year. I feel like last year was my mental
glow up. I feel like I really healed myself mentally
my anxiety. And this year definitely has to be my
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physical and my spiritual. I got baptized this year. I'm
looking the best that I ever have in my life,
which I'm grateful for. I'm just happy with life in general.
I feel like once I've really set my self goals
and really set my eyes on God and really realize, like, okay,
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the importance of just taking care of yourself and who's
feeding into you and what you're doing on the daily
really matters. It's just helped me. It's helped me just
enjoy life for what it is. I have a great circle,
I have great friends. I love going to church. I
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love the church that I go to. It's not toxic,
it's not I don't feel betrayed. I don't feel like
I'm getting hurt there. My relationship with God more than
anything outside of the church is great. I just feel like,
you know, once you start putting things into a perspective
and you start seeing life differently, and you start seeing
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it the way that God wants you to, you start
just seeing everything beautiful and life is great. And I'm
just grateful to be in this position to be able
to have the knowledge, to be able to speak to
you guys, to have a better platform to encourage and
to motivate you guys. And if me going to the
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gym every day and posting about it, or me talking
about God or sharing my journey with you guys is motivating,
then I'm going to keep doing it and not just
for myself, but for you guys too, and for our
future generations because the world gets ugly and they're mean
and just uncomfortable. But I'm here to just remind you
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guys that life is beautiful and you can have the
same glow up or experience that I have had. And yeah,
so without further ado do, we're gonna do our Bible
Verse of the day just so that we can all
stay connected and enjoy it. Ready, Bible versus the Day
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is first Peter five ten. After you have suffered a
little while, he will restore, support and strengthen you. This
one has definitely been a personal Bible verse for me lately.
When I feel like I've been through so much and
experienced a lot, I always have to go back around
my myself that God is going to restore me, strengthen me,
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and support me. And I'm not in this alone and
neither are you guys. Thank you guys so much for
your questions. Thank you guys for being here tuning in.
Make sure you guys like comment, subscribe, let me know
which guests, which topics, which recipes you guys would like
to see next, And I will see you guys on
the next one
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Jenicka Lopez
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