We Hear You Sis with JoJo Alonzo

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Speaker 1 (00:45):
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Speaker 1 (00:56):
Let's get straight to it.

Speaker 4 (00:57):
The citizen is about always being heard time, It's about
making others feels seen. Workomes the perspective Bank. Yeah today
I got my dog with me.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
Yeah, Jojo? What's up? Jojo?

Speaker 3 (01:10):
Already?

Speaker 1 (01:11):
Bank? How you feeling.

Speaker 3 (01:12):
I'm feeling great. I'm finally. I'm glad I'm here.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
What's your energy? What's your what I always asks, what's
your mental? What's your mental?

Speaker 3 (01:19):
My mental.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
Sit?

Speaker 5 (01:22):
My mental right now is I'm in a good space
right now. I feel good. I'm living good, I'm making money, kids, straight,
career straight, shein on.

Speaker 4 (01:34):
Straight and an that than being straight in fact, Hey,
for people who might not know you, let him know
who you is, where you're from, how you come, where
you come from, what you represent, what you do?

Speaker 5 (01:46):
Okay, So I'm Jojo Alonzo, the baddest body squad in
the game.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
I'm from Chicago and Meph's yes both uh.

Speaker 5 (01:53):
And I'm a radio personality for ninety six point one
bet so I do radio, I do hostings, I moderate panels.
I'm a media correspondence so I cover like essence, BT Awards,
celebrity basketball games like just you know, really you know.

Speaker 3 (02:12):
That, bitch?

Speaker 4 (02:15):
Hey, what was it like growing up though in Memphis
and Chicago?

Speaker 1 (02:18):
What was it like?

Speaker 3 (02:21):
Uh?

Speaker 5 (02:22):
Shoot, it was cool for the most part, Like I
feel like so growing up for real, I would say,
I grew up in Memphis. So growing up in Memphis,
it was cool, Like I was always surrounded by solid,
solid people. It was rare that I came across anybody
that want solid, so it was straight. But at the
same time, you know, I had to go through what

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I went through, you know, like fights in school, bullying
and shit like that. Like I literally I got bullied
in school.

Speaker 3 (02:50):
You think so because I'm like, and this is probably
gonna get it, but I don't care.

Speaker 5 (02:55):
But because I was short, light skinned and cute and
when I was an athlete, so like they didn't like that.
So I always had to fight because because people always
be trying me, like they'll try to put on in
front of people and stuff like that. And I dealt
with it for a long time, like for a long time,
Like I even cried sometimes and my mama, man, please,

(03:19):
she she wasn't going so she like, nah, I stand
up for yourself. When she finally told me to stand
up for myself, I got into a fight on a playground.

Speaker 3 (03:27):
Iin't never go forget this girl she had.

Speaker 5 (03:29):
I ain't gonna say her name, but she had kicked
some of woodchucks at me as the playground and trying
to talk shit about me in front of somebody, and
we end up fighting and ever since then no issues.
So yeah, yeah, like it's crazy because I had an
attitude problem too, like because even after that, like I

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don't think a lot of people talk about that a lot, Like,
once you get bullied, a lot of us become bullies.
So after that and I her and be her ass,
I ended up being a bully, like as short as
I was like because now I like just picking on
like the people, like the you know, like the the
ones you could tell ain't really have much like.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
On some bullshit.

Speaker 5 (04:14):
Yeah, but but I was just doing what was done
to me. And I finally got to an age to
where I was like, like what am I doing? Like
I'm doing the same exact thing she's doing to me.
And what changed that moment was one day I had
went into the bathroom I think I was like fifth grade.
I had went into the bathroom and this girl who

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everybody was bullying was in there, like boo who crying,
like by myself, and she was crying because she was musty,
and people was talking about her being musty.

Speaker 3 (04:45):
So I literally went in there.

Speaker 5 (04:46):
I had some deorderance literally like helped her like may
her like let her wash up or whatever, gave gave
her some diorderant and like ever since then, like I
ain't bullied ever since, cause it's like I was always
the one. I'll get bullied, but then I'll go through
my emotions at home by myself or literally by myself,
not even with my mama A lot. See it was
times where I wouldn't even tell them what was going on.
I was like, nah, I just I just go through it.

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But then once I saw somebody going through the same
thing I was going through but at school, and she
like went in the bathroom and secluded.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
Herself from that. Like I was like damn.

Speaker 5 (05:17):
And that like I stopped being a believer since then,
it did, cause I'm like damn, like I'm literally that girl.
I was literally that same girl.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
So, so growing up, what was your first dream was
to be an athlete or what? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (05:32):
Yeah for sure.

Speaker 5 (05:33):
So like in school, Shah, I was really hard, Like
I did volleyball, basketball, and track, so and I was
good at all of them, went to state all of them.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
Like so that's all. That's all I saw.

Speaker 5 (05:47):
Myself is doing really just doing doing basketball or doing track.
I just knew either or I was going to see
it neither one of them. But I ended up tearing
my ecl three times. Right, So then after that, I'm like, shit,
I gotta figure out what the hell I'm.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
Gonna do, and that's when you transition.

Speaker 5 (06:04):
Yeah, but that took a whole lot of other ship too,
like I ain't never know what the hell I was gonna.

Speaker 3 (06:09):
Do, what the road like to like to figure out
like radio. Yeah, that was tough.

Speaker 5 (06:17):
Because since I was in sports, I always wanted to
do sports, so I had did physical therapy. I tried
to do physical therapy. But literally in the in the
entry level class, you had to the test was you
had to know every bone in your body with no
word bank.

Speaker 3 (06:38):
Man, I loved that test. How many you know? How
many bones are? Two hundred and something something I don't.

Speaker 5 (06:43):
Even know, like right then and now like this ain't
for me, Like my brain capacity can't keep up with
this ship, Like I can't do this. So literally that
same day I walked out on the test like told
my professor like this ain't it. This ain't what I
wanna do, And honestly, I didn't know what I wanted
to do. I just know I wanted to do something
in sports. And one of my homegirls, Lucretia, shout out

(07:04):
to her. She told me about communications, and she was like,
it's just like it's media. Communications is just media. Like
you got a lot of personality just to look into that.
So then that's when I took up communications journalism. And
even when I did that, like, I still didn't think
I was gonna do radio, like cause at that time,
I'm not even thinking about radio, Like what the hell,

(07:24):
Like who listened to radio dead ass? I'm really thinking that,
So I'm like, okay. So I ended up doing like videography.
So I started doing like I started doing what's it called,
like highlight reels. So I was still doing sports, but
I was doing like, like the top athlete in the school.
I would go, I would follow him around and make

(07:45):
highlight reels or like do like a documentary or something
about him, like follow him around doing a documentary or
something like that. Then I did like music videos and stuff,
and I really loved doing that. And then one of
my classes was a radio class, and then my I
really loved it.

Speaker 3 (08:01):
I can't even remember his name.

Speaker 5 (08:02):
But so then I had did an internship with the
sports radio station, and then I liked it cause I'm like, damn,
I could just.

Speaker 3 (08:08):
Say whatever I want to say. Don't nobody even know
who I am?

Speaker 5 (08:11):
Like I say my name, but like it's so many
people in school like they know me or they don't,
but they gonna listen to what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
So I like that.

Speaker 5 (08:17):
So I'm like, okay, bet I want people to like
put me based off of what I say and not
based off of how I love, how I dress, like
what my hair looked like, like like just with me
based off of what you hear. And so I'm like, okay, yeah,
let me get into radio. And so then that's when
I started like trying to find out like different radio
stations and stuff like that. But I ended up taking

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like a I went to a trade school where they
taught me everything, Like they taught me how to fly drones,
they taught me web design, they taught me everything. And
I interned at a sports radio station and then ended
up landing at a landing a radio gig at an
urban radio station.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
Okay, what was some of the.

Speaker 4 (08:59):
Adversity and tribes relations of just trying to get here.

Speaker 3 (09:03):
Uh, people taking you serious or people taking me serious.

Speaker 5 (09:09):
That's always been like a thing for me, Like I
really feel like I don't know what it is, and
I come down to like how I look like people
will always be like look at me and judge me
based off of that. So I remember trying to get
into radio and there was this lady. She didn't want
to hire me, and she said straight up like I

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don't want to She didn't want to hire me because
I'm pretty and pretty girls don't work hard. I'm just
like what, Like, I've been working hard my whole life,
Like even like in sports, like I ain't have no
school I went to, ain't have nothing for me to
get better. I did everything to get better on my own,
literally standing up late at night outside on a basketball
go or if I'm running track or learning how to jump,

(09:53):
I'm in the front yard hopping over boxes. I'm just
like working hard, Like what, that's just all That's all
I do. So just having to get through, you know,
proving the people that like I'm good for real, because
when you when you first starting out, you you gotta
understand like somebody got it. Somebody got to trust in

(10:14):
you based off of nothing, like say, you ain't got
a resume at all, but you want to start doing
something you went to school for or whatever you have.
You have as many like internships as you got, but
somebody gotta trust you enough to put you on something
to show and prove something.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
So that was that was tough.

Speaker 5 (10:33):
But I ended up having an interview with like five
different people within the station and twice, so two times
with five different people, and just really like my personality
just kind of took over, Like you know, anywhere I go,
I'm gonna be me all the way, all hands in,
all the way through.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
Like so that's really what caught them.

Speaker 5 (10:52):
But just initially trying to get people to really rock
with me from the beginning, that was tough, like getting
them to believe and like I got something.

Speaker 1 (11:00):
It's tough.

Speaker 4 (11:01):
Hey, I see you're doing interviews since you didn't do
an interview, and people like Gucca Man's Arena vice president Kamala,
like how do you switch everything up? Like from going
from a rapper to a comedian to a politician, Like.

Speaker 5 (11:19):
Yeah, just being prepared, so like first you gotta do
your research, number one, so always be prepared. And then
the second thing is is my interview process or how
I interview people is different. Like I'm a vibe kind
of person, so when I get around you, like then
I can feel your vibe and I go based off

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of that. I'm an around the way type of girl,
like I'm down to earth. So I done been with
these hood niggas over here on the south side cutting shit,
or I've been in Myphis on the north side or
on the East side cutting shit with niggas like so,
and I've also been in certain situations to where it's
like because my household wasn't that.

Speaker 3 (12:00):
My household was not.

Speaker 5 (12:02):
Like hood against the struggle whatever, like we was put together,
but my surroundings was that. So I've always was able to,
you know, go in here or go in here. And
I also had a mentor her name was Misfeats. Out
to her she will always like speaking to me and

(12:22):
teach me the ways of being a young lady and
having manners and faking until you make it like she
was the one that always did that. So just putting
all that together, it just made me who I am.
So really it's just me going in the room knowing
the vibes and just chilling like me being me. I
don't really feel like what I do is really difficult

(12:44):
because I'm just having a conversation. Every time somebody come
and sit down with me to be oh, that's one
of the best interviews I ever had, It's just felt
that conversation.

Speaker 3 (12:51):
I'd be like, yeah, because that's what it is.

Speaker 1 (12:53):
What's your most memorable guest though, but.

Speaker 5 (12:56):
My most memorable guest hmmm mm hmm. Boosy, Boosy Boosy
and uh it gotta be Boosy and Sukiana they go
ahead for head because like me and Bousy really like
sat down. You know, Boosy he feel how he feels.
He gonna say what he gonna say, and me too.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
So me and him was.

Speaker 3 (13:19):
Like, oh no, but you said this, but I don't care.
I feel like this.

Speaker 1 (13:21):
Why would you feel like that?

Speaker 3 (13:22):
You crazy? So like that was real memorable for me
and Sukie, like both of them.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
Scorpio, I think school, uh.

Speaker 5 (13:30):
Too, she is well then yeah, because we was really
like we was like we was bobbing.

Speaker 3 (13:35):
It was it was a party when we was talking.

Speaker 1 (13:40):
Uh, what's the most wildest thing that doesn't happen on air,
like unexpected.

Speaker 5 (13:44):
The wildest thing that happened on air, Bro, the wildest
thing is in me and conversation. I had somebody who
ain't gonna say, like, try to fire up a.

Speaker 3 (13:57):
Blunt in the studio. Bro, I think that's the wildest thing.

Speaker 5 (14:04):
A matter of fact, yeah, I would say that was
the wildest thing because I was nervous as hell because
I had just got there.

Speaker 3 (14:09):
So I'm like, Bro, you don't even be fired Like,
what are you doing? Not you trying to fire up
a blunt. Then another one I had was we was talking.

Speaker 5 (14:18):
We was talking to somebody, but we were talking about everything
else instead of like what he had going on.

Speaker 1 (14:26):
I don't know, you can send her up. H I'm
gonna ask a question over here.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Okay, what do we question?

Speaker 4 (14:44):
Was what was the wildest What's the most wildest thing
that ever happened on are?

Speaker 3 (14:49):
Okay? So I got to Okay.

Speaker 5 (14:51):
So the first one was this dude who I'm not
gonna say his name, but as we was in the studio,
he tried to fire up a whole blunt. First of all,
First of all, I already let him get away with
the fact that he was getting a haircut. He had
his barber pull up and he was rolling up a
blunt at the same time he was getting his haircut
at the studio. So I'm thinking, yes, bro, So I'm thinking,

(15:15):
like I you know what I'm saying. He finna ain't
no way he gonna fire up in the south.

Speaker 2 (15:21):
Bro.

Speaker 3 (15:21):
After he rolled up the blunt he went to fire
it up, I'm like, yo, like.

Speaker 4 (15:27):
What you want?

Speaker 5 (15:27):
Who's like, nah, this you won't see the fucking sign
out there, Bro, this is not that. So that was
one and then another one was this dude. So like,
like I said, like when we talked, like when I
have my interviews, it's just be like a conversation. So
as we're talking, I guess we weren't talking about exactly
what he wanted to talk about, because he wanted to

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talk about his music, which one time about none but
I was still, you know, letting him have a platform
or whatever. But we was gonna get to it. We
were talking about everything else. Man, Please excuse me that
man got up and walked out me a interview, man, right,
And then to this day, like then the gag shit, honestly,

(16:10):
like he not, he ain't got nothing going on. Like
he was like trying to push his music and like
he was like a little known at that time, not
for real none now, to be honest, if I really
remember who he was, I would have said it right now.

Speaker 3 (16:23):
I don't even remember. That's how much of a like
like how much? Yeah? Like he wan nothing?

Speaker 1 (16:30):
Hey, what inspired you to start?

Speaker 4 (16:31):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (16:32):
We hear you? Like what inspired you to started?

Speaker 5 (16:36):
So we hear he says, is a it's a toiletry
drive that I do each month, and it's a toilet
it's a toiletry drive for women and mothers. So what
inspired me to do it is is so I had
two kids, like my daughter she's eight, my son he won, and.

Speaker 3 (16:53):
I needed help.

Speaker 5 (16:54):
Hell, I really wish somebody would have helped me when
I needed help. So like I do a toilet drive,
I get everything that women need and also like pampers, diapers,
clothes for babies and stuff like that. So really just
being in those situations to where like I needed help
and I ain't had nobody to help me, Like bro,
like it's crazy because like me getting me becoming an

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adult or me what happened me me me as a okay,
so me as a child, like it wasn't that bad
like growing up. It didn't get bad for me until
like my adult years. I went through shit in my
adult years. So like when people be like, oh, I've
been through the struggle, I've been through the ah, like

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you think like they grew up like that. See me,
I didn't grow up like that. I grew up with
everything straight put together. It wasn't until I was an
adult and moved out the crib is when I struggles
hard as fuck and I was in the trenches.

Speaker 3 (17:49):
I was in the WOD.

Speaker 5 (17:50):
I ain't had nothing, like had to figure out. I
was on Medicaid, food stamps like all that. So me
going through that, I was I was screaming for help,
you know, like I couldn't. But there was nothing out
there that was really you know, nobody, at least there
was nobody that I knew that was helping women.

Speaker 3 (18:08):
In that aspect.

Speaker 5 (18:10):
So I just felt like I needed to start something
for that reason. And that's just the beginning, you know.
Right now, I do have a lot going on, Like
I'm a mother of two, I have a career, but
I'm also trying to start a foundation to help women,
single women or single mothers or just women in general,

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Like so I do this toilet you drive like once
a month. But I'm also looking at it to be
way bigger than that, because I know if I'm out
here and it's like, damn, this shit hard, I know
it's millions of women out there who need the same
amount of help.

Speaker 4 (18:48):
So as a mother, how you balance, like because you
got a fast paced career, Like how you balance that?

Speaker 5 (18:54):
Like it ain't no balance, It's unbalanced as fuck. But
I figure it out, you know what I'm saying, Like
I don't have no choice. You know, It'll gets to
the point to where at the last minute, I'm like.

Speaker 3 (19:09):
I had this.

Speaker 5 (19:09):
Event and I ain't even know I was gonna be
able to make it, but somebody came through like an
hour before, and now here I am. You know, it's
really difficult because like having kids, you can't trust everybody
with your kids.

Speaker 3 (19:21):
People crazy as hell too. And like now, like I
do well, So I do nights.

Speaker 5 (19:27):
So I'm on air seven pm to midnight, so shoot,
i gotta be there like seven pm.

Speaker 3 (19:34):
The mid night is a very crucial time for kids.

Speaker 5 (19:37):
So because I get there at six, so at this time,
you know, homework goes on, bath dinner all that. So
I got to depend on somebody that's basically gonna take
up the role that I'm supposed to be doing, not
just watching you. You got all these other responsibilities. Yeah,
it's a lot. So being able to do that is
it's just it's it's tough, and it's a lot on

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my mental because you know, know my kids, I'm doing
this now so that later they ain't gotta worry about nothing.
I ain't gotta worry about nothing. But I still had
that mom guilt. That's like damn, Like the only time
I get to see my daughter is when I take
her to school at five and six, six in the morning.

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It's the only time I get to see her. So
that's the only time we got unless it's on the weekend.
Then on the weekend, I got host things. I got this,
I got that. So like you know, I gotta I
gotta find people, and I finally found something.

Speaker 3 (20:29):
Miss LaToya. I love her so much. I love you
so much. She came through and she's.

Speaker 5 (20:33):
Actually the head, she's the director over my daughter's aftercare program.
So I've known her for years and I literally got
her out of retirement to like help me with my kids,
and she does that for us and and like without her,
I promise, I don't.

Speaker 3 (20:46):
Know what I would do. But it's really tough, bro,
that'sh's so tough. And it's on.

Speaker 5 (20:50):
Top of like me working hard, sleepy as hell, then
mom get on top of that. But I gotta do
what I gotta do because once they get to a
certain age, I'm gonna be to the point where like, Okay,
I ain't gotta do all that. Like right now, I'm still,
you know, trying to make a name for myself, Like
I got a name, but that ain't it ain't it
ain't enough for me, Like I need to be like okay, stamped,

(21:12):
I made my own schedule. I ain't your schedule making
my own. So that's why I'm working so hard right now.
But it comes with his sacrifices, like you know what
I'm saying, Like with the whole mom then you know
the whole mom thing. You know, my son he only
want so he don't really realize my daughter. She she
feel that, so like on the weekends, I gotta do
what I gotta do.

Speaker 3 (21:29):
You know, I'll be tired, bro, it's twin I'm talking about.

Speaker 5 (21:32):
She looked like she looked more like me than I
look like me, but like my straight twin though, like
on the weekends, I'll be tired as hell, but she
want to do something, so I gotta take that time
to do something.

Speaker 3 (21:42):
But balancing it is insane. It's unbalanced as hell.

Speaker 1 (21:45):
What's the most important lesson that you feel like you're
gonna pass to?

Speaker 3 (21:50):
The most important lesson that I'm up passed to my daughter?
Mm hm.

Speaker 5 (21:56):
Hm as she watches me, I would say, it's a
whole bunch. But never stop grinding, Like, always work hard

(22:16):
to for whatever it is that you want, cuz it'll
be some people that'll come in real quick and try
to like cancel everything you got going on and be
like I'll do that for you. You ain't gotta do it,
I'll do it. Just do this like, nah, we ain't
doing that. We won't have to do that because we

(22:36):
got this going on. So like really just instilling that
in her, like you don't need nobody for nothing, because
you can do it on your own.

Speaker 1 (22:46):
If you weren't doing radio, what you think you'll be doing.

Speaker 5 (22:48):
Probably being somebody baby mama on an island somewhere. Straight up, nah,
straight up, be somebody baby mama Instagram influencer like ass
out like.

Speaker 3 (23:04):
Not but for real dead ass because before.

Speaker 1 (23:06):
No for real, dead ass no.

Speaker 5 (23:10):
For real, cause like I almost really went down that road.
My daughter saved me from that. But straight up, man.

Speaker 3 (23:17):
What like please, I was outside, like.

Speaker 5 (23:21):
I had so many people that was on my line
trying to like whoop the whoop and all this other stuff.

Speaker 3 (23:26):
I was with it too.

Speaker 5 (23:27):
I was about to start acting. I gotta start modeling
doing all that. Then I found out I was breaking.

Speaker 4 (23:31):
Oh so so that so you're saying when you when
you did get pregnant, it that was a pivotal point
in your.

Speaker 5 (23:37):
Life, yes, for sure, Like it slowed my life all
the way down. It was like all right, bro, like
you gotta get your shit together all the way because
I was going to school to do what I was doing,
like to do what I wanted to do. But during school,
like the job that I had, I was a server
at a restaurant, and I was a server at a club,
so I was doing bottle service, and I was doing

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waitressing at a restaurant, and I was interning at a
radio station. So I had three jobs and I was
going to school. So shoot, I was outside so really,
I was making so much money at the club, even
though I was doing everything else that I was doing.
I was making so much money at the club and
meeting so many different people like artists and all different

(24:19):
type of celebrities and stuff like that. I was like, man, please,
it's so easy, Like I'm finna just let this man
spend that bread.

Speaker 3 (24:27):
And I'm finna just spend his bread.

Speaker 1 (24:30):
So what's Dayton like now? Though? Just being you said,
because you ain't got time for the kids, you ain't
got time? Do you got time for a dude?

Speaker 3 (24:39):
Not really, not really, But I'll tell a dude.

Speaker 5 (24:41):
I'll tell a dude that up front, like he'll be
trying to like get to know me and stuff like that,
and I'll tell him straight up like I don't want
to waste your time.

Speaker 3 (24:47):
I'm going to waste your time. That's what I tell you.
Hell cauz, Like.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
What if he be is it too?

Speaker 3 (24:56):
What you mean I'm.

Speaker 1 (24:57):
Saying, what if he bus you busy? I'll just need
in a little mm hmm.

Speaker 5 (25:02):
I mean I guess, but half the time, like it
just gotta make sense, like I don't really it's gonna
take me, Like I don't got time to waste. So
like you're gonna have to get me off rip, Like
it's gonna take you, not even a week, it's gonna
take you about three days.

Speaker 3 (25:18):
You're gonna have to show me what you're coming with, damn.

Speaker 5 (25:21):
Yeah, cause I don't have time to be playing around
doing nothing, cause I ain't got time. Like anytime I
give you, I gotta find that time like I'm either
taking my I'm either taking that time out of my sleep,
out of my kids, or out of my job. So
it gotta make sense. And if you show me off
rip that you just playing around like I'm good on you.

Speaker 4 (25:40):
Like everybody playing that for her though, right ah Na, nah, nigga,
meet you be ready to get married in three days?

Speaker 5 (25:46):
No, not get married, But I just need to know,
like I tell you straight up, like if we're on
a date.

Speaker 3 (25:50):
I want to know straight up, like I'm one.

Speaker 5 (25:51):
Of them, Like I'm one of them, So what what
are your intentions with me?

Speaker 3 (25:56):
I want to know. I don't got time to be
sitting here playing around on the all just so you
want to.

Speaker 1 (26:01):
What's the right answer, though, But what's the right answer?

Speaker 3 (26:04):
The right answer?

Speaker 1 (26:05):
I meet you? Okay, Okay, we're on a date right now.

Speaker 3 (26:07):
All right, ask me, ask you, so, what are your
intentions with me?

Speaker 1 (26:10):
I just want to get to know you right now.

Speaker 4 (26:12):
I think you're beautiful. I want to fuck really, but
I want to get to know you. If it leads
to something, then.

Speaker 3 (26:17):
Then what okay, then I'll then I'll take him series.

Speaker 5 (26:21):
I would take him series because he told me he said, yeah,
I want to fuck you, but I still want to
know what you got going on. Like if it lead
to that, I'm on that. But it'll be some niggas
that don't be on that. If you some niggas that
be like, yeah, you know, I think you're beautiful and
I just want to fuck boom period, that's it.

Speaker 1 (26:35):
And the nigga could throw just the fun though.

Speaker 5 (26:38):
I'm saying, but I'm saying, but that's cool too, Like
let me know. But one thing about me, I'm gonna
smell it. I'm gonna smell it on you. I know
what you want because I'm gonna ask all the right questions.
I want to know what you're doing around the kids
you got, like all that I can. I'm gonna be
able to feel your energy if RiPP So if you
want to just do that I might entertain you for
a little bit, you know what I'm saying, because I

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might want to too, So I entertain you for a while,
I mean not for a while, but for a little bit.
Then I'm gonna be like, all right, bro, like what
you're gonna trying to do this or not?

Speaker 1 (27:08):
What happened with past relationships? Though?

Speaker 4 (27:10):
Past past relationships? When you thought you were seriously you
thought it was the one, Like what happened?

Speaker 1 (27:14):
Who fucked? I mean, how you fuck it up?

Speaker 3 (27:16):
Okay? How I fuck it up? So I didn't? So
I did fuck up one relationship?

Speaker 1 (27:22):
I did? How would you?

Speaker 3 (27:23):
Oh my god?

Speaker 5 (27:24):
Like I'm embarrassed to say straight up though, like just
being a real nigga, Like, shit, it's more to it
than this, I swear it is. I'm not gonna get
deep into it, and I swear it's more to it
than this, But I'm gonna say it like I had
a baby on him.

Speaker 1 (27:42):
Damn.

Speaker 3 (27:42):
Yeah, it's more togas.

Speaker 5 (27:44):
Do right, right, But it's it's more to it than
that we were on a break, we didn't want to
be together no more. I had stopped dealing with him,
we had stopped having sex, okay, and then I had
to start.

Speaker 1 (27:55):
Dealing with someone else, but he was your person.

Speaker 5 (27:58):
But he was my person, yes, but we never like
we had stopped having sex, like everything was done, but he.

Speaker 4 (28:04):
Thought she probably going fucking around or whatever. We probably
fucking around, but she ain't finna keep that move on.

Speaker 5 (28:11):
Yeah, that was like you got pregnant, like what like
we was what you know, So that happened, and.

Speaker 3 (28:18):
He was I I.

Speaker 5 (28:21):
That was my dude, Like I love I love I
still love him to this day, like we will never
be able to be together again. Like I'm not trying
to rekindle nothing with him. He ain't trying to recondle it.
But we cool, like we was always cool, Like you know,
that was in college though after that my next relationship
which was for years that I'm still I don't know
what the hell is still going on?

Speaker 3 (28:43):
Uh, Like I don't know, bro, Like we.

Speaker 5 (28:47):
Nah, we're just trying to figure it out, Like we
don't know what the hell going on, But we're just
in a situation to where like I got to figure
out if I'm comfortable with some of the things that
he wants to do in life, and if he's comfortable
with some of the things that I want to like,
you know, like I want marriage. He doesn't know if
that's something that he wants. And you know, also like
he might want to like talk and converse with other women.

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I don't like him talking and conversing with other women.

Speaker 1 (29:10):
What you mean converse just any type of.

Speaker 5 (29:12):
Like meat, go to the club, meet the girl you are. No,
he wants other women, yes, converse with other women.

Speaker 1 (29:22):
Like conversionly to like everything else too.

Speaker 3 (29:24):
That I would assume because I ain't, no dumb ass nigga.

Speaker 1 (29:28):
So like he's saying basically like I want you to
be the one, but.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
I want to have whole right and I want you
to be okay with it, and you're not.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
Okay with it? Fuck no.

Speaker 4 (29:38):
But I thought women want the truth. I want the truth, okay,
But every nigga don't want holes.

Speaker 3 (29:43):
I know.

Speaker 5 (29:44):
So I'm in the process of trying to figure out
and what I told you were trying to figure it out.
So me knowing that I'm in the process of trying
to figure out, like, is that something I can deal with?

Speaker 3 (29:54):
Now here's my issue? Okay.

Speaker 5 (29:57):
I feel like that that's something that should be said upfront.
Now if saying do let me go, like, don't let
me and I got feelings and I'll kill a bitch
over you, and now you hit me with it. I
want to deal with those now, I gotta ask my feelings.

Speaker 1 (30:12):
But I ain't know I wanted you.

Speaker 3 (30:14):
Know, you always knew I wanted you. Okay, they know.

Speaker 4 (30:17):
I want you to be the one huge, just one
of my holes. Now I want you to be one
the one.

Speaker 5 (30:22):
I'm telling you the truth, right, and I respect that,
which is why I gotta figure out what.

Speaker 3 (30:26):
The hell I'm gonna do.

Speaker 4 (30:27):
Let me ask you something though, all right, Once you
figure out what you say that ain't what you want
to do, just say that's the one like that ain't
what you want to do?

Speaker 1 (30:35):
What are you gonna do? Then? What you rather? All right?

Speaker 4 (30:38):
This is a question I'm asking. I just ask somebody
that would you rather be lied to and happen or
the truth and hurt?

Speaker 3 (30:50):
Mm hmmm. I'd have been both before, So I would
rather be told the truth and hurt. And I'm gonna
tell you why.

Speaker 5 (31:00):
Because a woman's mind will wonder and think you doing
some whole other shit that you ain't even doing, and
she's gonna accuse you of some shit and leave you
over some shit that you ain't even doing facts, And
it's like, at least I know that you're being honest
with me and I can deal with what you're telling
me rather than me coming up with a whole other
scenario and ready to kill you and whoever else is

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in your path.

Speaker 3 (31:24):
So just tell me the truth and let me deal
with it.

Speaker 5 (31:26):
Like I'm a hurt, but let me go through my feelings,
let me go through my emotions, let me figure out
what I'm gonna do for me instead of like you
trying to hide it and not telling me and being
selfish about it. You know what I'm saying, Like, give
me an opportunity to pick and choose what I want
to do, which is why I respect him telling me
the truth, because okay, cool, Now I gotta decide what

(31:47):
I want to do. So after that, if I decide
that's not what I want to do. To be completely honest,
I don't think that that's something that I can do.

Speaker 1 (31:57):
What if y'all had an open relationship, did you tell
both ways?

Speaker 5 (32:01):
I did and he ain't going forward? That's the only
right I know. Like that's how niggas think, and I get.

Speaker 1 (32:09):
It, But niggas rather be lied to and happen.

Speaker 5 (32:13):
But see, I don't want to be I know that,
but I don't want to be that. I don't want
to be that.

Speaker 1 (32:19):
I don't want to.

Speaker 3 (32:21):
I don't want to lie. I don't want to be
a liar. I've been a liar in my whole life.

Speaker 5 (32:23):
I literally I be man bro like whoever if somebody
watching this and they know I did them dirty, like
they know I've been a liar, I've been a cheater.

Speaker 3 (32:32):
I done did that. I've been there, done that.

Speaker 5 (32:34):
I don't want to It's definitely in me and he
know that, and I could be that, but I don't
want to be that. So like let's just layer everything out.
I would rather the guy just tell me straight up,
like well he on, so that I can adjust my
feelings moving forward. Because if I'm already in a relationship
and I think we're being monogamous, then I'm thinking we'd

(32:54):
be in monogamous. So like, I got top tier ass
niggas on my line, So for you to tell me
that like we're monogamous, I'm yours all right, bet Like
I'm I'm cutting off the niggas that can do for
me financially that I don't really have to really too much,
care too much about because he's gonna do what he
needs to do on that end, and I could just

(33:15):
be out of it. But if you're telling me we're
gonna be monogamous and I love you and we're gonna
make it work, we're gonna do this and this, then
all my feelings are invested. So just tell me straight up.
So then when you do tell me, I'm like, okay,
I can move accordingly.

Speaker 3 (33:30):
I don't. I'm gonna be in love, but I know
what's going on.

Speaker 5 (33:32):
Like now, I'm not getting mad when I see like
women in your phone or like you like that won't
bother me.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
So basically, so basically you're saying you'll you'll put a
wall up.

Speaker 4 (33:48):
Yeah, you're rather him, You're rather him, So then he
wouldn't be getting.

Speaker 1 (33:52):
All of you.

Speaker 3 (33:54):
But I'm not getting all of him either.

Speaker 1 (33:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (34:00):
But see that's the thing. He wants all of me.
He wants that, he wants that he okay, but it's
not one sided. And men also think that just because
they're doing something for you financially that it's enough. I
don't need you to do nothing financially for me. I
never did anybody like any man that's never like.

Speaker 3 (34:17):
Here living in Atlanta.

Speaker 5 (34:18):
Men that's their first thing, their first go to when
they try to get to talk to me, like they
I'll take care of you, quit your job, get you
a house.

Speaker 3 (34:27):
You my girl?

Speaker 1 (34:28):
Who started that lane?

Speaker 5 (34:29):
Broh oh no, bruh. But that shit been going on
for a while. Like the first time I was offered
that had to been twenty twenty fourteen. Twenty fourteen. I
had a dude that I was talking to that was
on that, so my thing is and he was a
top tier, rich, famous type of guy. Never was on

(34:51):
that ever, cause I ain't care about that because I
knew what I had going on, what I was gonna do.
I was always gonna be successful. I was always gonna
have my own I don't want man, any man to
feel like that they're gonna be able to keep me
in the house, quiet and under control just because you're
paying a bill, noah, because money is too easy to

(35:12):
get for me for you to think you're gonna hold
that over my head.

Speaker 4 (35:15):
Okay, all right, So if a nigga met you and say,
all right, I'm gonna be.

Speaker 1 (35:19):
We just gonna be cool. You got your walle up.
I got my wall up. We just fucking basically, I
ain't paying no bills, I ain't doing nothing.

Speaker 5 (35:24):
Is that idea for what like ideal for what like
a situationship? Yeah, that's what I'm saying, Like a situation ship, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (35:32):
Like relationship whatever, whatever the fuck you want to call it.

Speaker 4 (35:35):
Because basically saying, he not gonna get all of you
if you're not giving him, if he's not giving you
all of him, right right, So that cuts that right
And then you just said a dude, think just because
he's giving his money or whatever, he's supposed to get
all of you, right, So okay, we take all that out.
I ain't getting you no money all on all of you.
You ain't got to get all of me where we're

(35:56):
laying with.

Speaker 5 (35:57):
That, so we just we ain't got nothing like as
fuck buddies at this point, because I'm.

Speaker 4 (36:01):
Saying we would just be fucked. But it's if hold
we were still just be fucked. But if I was
taking care of you and they ain't got all you
ain't got all of me.

Speaker 5 (36:07):
No, because it just because I'm not giving you all
of me emotionally doesn't mean that it don't come with
other things like I have other assets, Like what do
you mean Like if I'm saying, okay, so i'm living
with you, so that means like I'm ultimately taking care
of the crib, I'm taking care of the kids. You
may have kids too, I mean we at this age,
we probably all got kids. So I'm taking care of

(36:28):
your kids. I'm taking care of my kids. I'm taking
care of the house. I'm making sure you build me
come home like it's cooking.

Speaker 1 (36:34):
It's ust ain't taking the kid right now. So you busy.
Now we gotta think we gotta.

Speaker 3 (36:38):
Put all this in the assets while I'm working.

Speaker 1 (36:40):
Yeah, you're working, so I'm working too. So what do
we have? Know what I'm saying. I'm just trying to say,
like hypothetically, what do we have?

Speaker 3 (36:49):
I don't know. I think we have whatever it is
that we established that we have.

Speaker 4 (36:52):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying, Like how that works? That's
what I'm trying to see. Like relationships so fucked up
these days.

Speaker 1 (36:56):
It's like.

Speaker 4 (36:59):
If I did come to you and tell you, okay, cool,
like dude said, I just want to be this and
I agree that, Okay, you do what you want to
do to just be respectable, you know, what I'm saying,
want on kids, war on disease, won't want nothing, won't
want nothing to come back to the.

Speaker 3 (37:11):
House, right, is what is it that we have a
relationship with understanding? Like that'd be the thing.

Speaker 5 (37:18):
It'd be like people say, Like when people say relationship,
they think it's like, oh, you gotta be favoring nah nigga.
Like our relationship is what we decide on. So like
I'm fucking with you, I'm fucking with you, you fucking
with me. You tell me what you want, what you
don't want. I tell you what I want, what I
don't want, and then we go based off that. So
like if you agree that you want to be in
a relationship with me, but you want to fuck with

(37:39):
other bitches and I agree to it, bad, then we
still in a relationship. Just the certain boundaries that I have,
just don't cross them because I might say, Okay, you
want to converse with other women, cool, don't bring these
bitches to the house when I'm around. I don't want
to see these whole tep You might as well just
get a whole new phone and keep that shit in
your car, because when you and me on want to

(38:00):
see a bitch chexting your phone because you all with
me any any of that, Like whatever boundaries I have,
just respect that and it's and it's still a relationship.

Speaker 3 (38:08):
Like I'm still your girl and you're still my nigga.

Speaker 1 (38:10):
But do you think that man asks you some this
is this is a question.

Speaker 4 (38:15):
Do you think if you did say you with that,
a nigga can trust you? No, That's why women don't
don't say they with it, but they can't agree to
that cause they be like if I agree to that,
he ain't gonna trust.

Speaker 5 (38:28):
Me regardless regardless if that's no, that's that's true, but
regardless of whatever I decide, Like the man is never
gonna trust me anyway, Like especially I do too much,
like I'm around too many people, like I look good,
Like it's just what it is, like like like you

(38:48):
gonna automatically think and then you automaticly gonna think. And
then on top of that, like the guy that I'm
referring to, we've been best friends for fourteen years, so
he's seen.

Speaker 1 (38:57):
He know you.

Speaker 5 (39:00):
Okay, now I'm talking about know me, know me after
shit and did to all these other niggas. I did
it while I was with him, so he know how
sneaky a motherfucker can be.

Speaker 4 (39:09):
So do you think that's the reason why he want
to see other women just so he won't get too
attached to the person that he know you could be?

Speaker 1 (39:15):
Maybe?

Speaker 5 (39:16):
Maybe, But if that's how you feel, like, I'm in
a point to where now it's like, nigga, tell me what's.

Speaker 3 (39:22):
Going on, like like we could talk about it.

Speaker 5 (39:24):
I'm not gonna judge you off nothing, Like I'm not
gonna leave you based off nothing out of staye stuck
around through whatever. So like I just I just need
a person to just be honest with me and be
comfortable with expressing their true real feelings.

Speaker 3 (39:37):
But I don't ever think that a man will.

Speaker 5 (39:39):
I don't ever think that a man will trust me
if I agree to him dealing with other women. I
think he's always gonna think that I'm dealing with another man.
Well yeah, but like why if that's the case, then
why even try to like prove you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (39:57):
I can't prove it. Just be respect.

Speaker 3 (40:04):
If you aren't being respectable and the nigga still ain't,
he still think you doing something, he gonna think that, right,
it's okay, So that the woman don't think the same thing.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
We know that everybody's gonna think that. What I'm saying is,
I feel like.

Speaker 4 (40:15):
Respect is the whole key to this shit, Like if
you even though I think you doing it, if you're
making me feel as if though it's a possibility, you ain't.

Speaker 1 (40:24):
If that makes sense what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (40:25):
Yeah, well, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (40:27):
There is one point in time to where I had
a person tell me that I made him feel like
I was the only man that he was dealing with.
I made him feel like that, But then there was
a point in time he also went searching to see
if he was actually secure the only man, and he

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found out that I was still conversing with other people.

Speaker 3 (40:51):
But it's just like, like, why would you do that?

Speaker 5 (40:54):
If I was making you feel like you was the
only one I had nothing in your face, nothing, nothing,
I'll be everything towards you, and now you you like,
ain't no way I gotta find out that's insecurity.

Speaker 1 (41:08):
Well, he probably won't.

Speaker 4 (41:09):
To get rid of your head, though, I feel like
somebody go looking and that they want to find something.

Speaker 1 (41:13):
To get rid of you, a hold over your head,
because if I'm happy, what the fuck am I searching
for misery for.

Speaker 5 (41:21):
I mean, I ain't gonna say that because I was
happy when I went looking.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
But I was. I was happy. So what you're looking for,
I was looking for like it was just some like
inconsistencies going on that made you unhappy though, No, it
made me curious.

Speaker 4 (41:40):
Okay, So but I'm saying, but you're happy though, so
let me let me tell you how you're supposed to
did that. You're supposed to say, Hey, baby, this is
making me curious whatever you're doing, switch it back up,
because I'm happy.

Speaker 1 (41:51):
I don't want to go find nothing.

Speaker 3 (41:53):
Oh okay, I don't want to have to go find nothing.

Speaker 1 (41:55):
I don't want to go find nothing because I want to.

Speaker 3 (41:57):
Keep this okay, because once you find it then it's
all fucked up. Yeah yeah, yeah, that's that should have
probably been the first thing that I did. I ain't
think of that, mop, but I did straight up.

Speaker 5 (42:10):
But I did be like, hey, bro, like you moving funny?
Like are you doing some shit you ain't got no
business doing like? Cause you definitely moving funny. And I
know you moving funny.

Speaker 1 (42:21):
But when is a man not moving fun until? Mom? Man, please,
let's be real.

Speaker 3 (42:25):
Man, now, let's be honest though, like only nigga moving
a long time.

Speaker 1 (42:28):
The only nigga that's not moving funny is the nigga
you don't like. Mhm.

Speaker 4 (42:35):
The nigga you like gonna always be moving funny because
you always watching him.

Speaker 3 (42:40):
Mm hmmm mm hmmm. If I know you, I know you.
You know what I'm saying you. If you, if you're
in a relationship, you know your you know your spouse
just as well as you know your kid.

Speaker 4 (42:49):
But I don't know what's going on in these persons
people's mind because anything my moving funny could be.

Speaker 1 (42:53):
I'm broken. I don't even know how to tell you,
and I can't.

Speaker 3 (42:56):
Tell you.

Speaker 1 (42:57):
Don't know what moving funny.

Speaker 3 (42:58):
I'm that y'all stretched out right right to play.

Speaker 1 (43:01):
The bell that much, but you're thinking it's a.

Speaker 3 (43:02):
Bitch, okay.

Speaker 1 (43:04):
I can they ever know what's going on in the
man like?

Speaker 3 (43:07):
That's not a woman's fault. A man needs to learn
how to communicate.

Speaker 1 (43:10):
I ain't gotta tell you nothing. Why I would tell
you something to make.

Speaker 3 (43:12):
You stress too, because this is the thing.

Speaker 5 (43:14):
Now you're gonna be double stressed because now I'm thinking
you're fucking with a bitch, And now not only are
you broke, but now your bitch is on your line
because you think you're fucking another one someone else.

Speaker 3 (43:24):
But you could avoided all this stress, and.

Speaker 4 (43:26):
That's you didn't with a that's dealing with a low
vibration what they call it a little vibrational because because
guess what, I guess what a.

Speaker 1 (43:36):
Traditional woman would do.

Speaker 3 (43:38):
What.

Speaker 4 (43:38):
I'm gonna pray for my man whatever he's going through,
God take it off him.

Speaker 1 (43:43):
Bear these problems for my man, get him back to where.

Speaker 4 (43:45):
He needs to be at right and I'm gonna uplift
him when you come home up in the feet this
nigga fe and whatever I need to do to let
him know it ain't me bro mm hmmm.

Speaker 3 (43:54):
I can get that. I can get that.

Speaker 1 (43:56):
But no, we gotta jump right to the bush.

Speaker 5 (43:59):
No, no, no no.

Speaker 3 (44:02):
Because women are do that. They will do that. What
do you mean? Which was what you mean? Like me?

Speaker 1 (44:07):
What?

Speaker 3 (44:07):
I'm a prayer warrior, babe, As I sit here and
sip this drink.

Speaker 4 (44:11):
I praying for me, though you you you coming to
me with the bullshit?

Speaker 5 (44:16):
No, but but I'm not even saying that she's coming
at him with the bullshit. But she probably thinking that
you own bullshit. And if she asking, then just tell
her the truth.

Speaker 3 (44:26):
My thing is the truth is no.

Speaker 5 (44:29):
No, But I got some other ship going on. I
got some other ship going on. Men don't know how
to communicate.

Speaker 1 (44:34):
If I said I got some other shit going on,
I say that, then what's the next.

Speaker 3 (44:37):
Nah?

Speaker 1 (44:37):
But I just got a lot of shit going on.

Speaker 3 (44:39):
Like what is there anything?

Speaker 1 (44:40):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (44:40):
What you got going on? Ising? What can I help?

Speaker 4 (44:42):
Any of you can't help? Baby, It's something I want
to I want to keep it to myself as man ship.

Speaker 3 (44:46):
That's it. That's all you need to say.

Speaker 1 (44:48):
It ain't gonna end right there for me. No, for me,
it is to be like I supposed to be. I
supposed to I.

Speaker 3 (44:58):
Don't know, bro, I don't want ain't doing all that?

Speaker 1 (45:01):
Stop Jojo, I'm not.

Speaker 3 (45:05):
I'm really not. I'm not doing all that.

Speaker 5 (45:07):
That's the thing, like, and and that's and that's the problem.
You see how you just automatically think that I'm not
on that. Every nigga think that, They just automatically.

Speaker 3 (45:14):
Think she ain't on that, she ain't gonna she ain't.
It's just not gonna be that simple. And I'm literally
sitting here telling you that it's that simple, but you
don't want to believe it. No, because and that's why
you and every other nigga got all them issues with
communicating and stuff like that, because y'all think that a
woman can't do that.

Speaker 4 (45:32):
Okay, Okay, okay, you're right, You're right, once you once
you okay me right after I said what I said,
I don't want to just speak on the baby. But
it ain't you and it's not another woman, okay, And
you say, okay, okay, but your intuition it's telling you
that I'm moving fund and who are you gonna believe
me or your intuition?

Speaker 1 (45:52):
Let's be real, So it's just once that's an inn you, I'm.

Speaker 5 (45:59):
Gonna believe you. You understand. Like I done grew out of
that intuition ship for real, that ad bro, I slew.
That intuition ship used to kick my ass. Like now
I'm to the point to where it's like all right,
like I'm really trying to get better as a person,
as a woman.

Speaker 3 (46:17):
I'm really trying to get better.

Speaker 5 (46:21):
I really feel like like I'm trying to get out
of that intuition and trying to actually believe what a
nigga tell me so, which is why if I find
out that my intuition was right and you was a
lin ass nigga, now I'm a crash out because now
I'm going to explode because I really trust because like,

(46:42):
I'm putting my ship to the side to try to
better myself as a person to trust you, and then
as I do, that ends up being some whole other ship,
the ship that I knew from the beginning.

Speaker 3 (46:51):
So you just got to learn how to just not.

Speaker 5 (46:53):
Really you can't really do women like that, especially if
they're trying to like be better and learn to trust
you and whatever whatever. Because I want to be able
to communicate with my man. I want him to be
able to feel like this is a safe space. You
can tell me whatever it is, and then I'll be
able to trust you, because at the end of the day,
a man is supposed to lead, a man supposed to
you're supposed to follow his lead. So if he tell
me what's going on, then I'm still trying to learn

(47:16):
how to be submissive like I would love to be.
But I need to be able to find someone that
I can really be able to trust to be honest
with me with his feelings, with whatever's going on, because
being submissive it takes a lot from a woman, because
you got to be able to trust somebody all the
way through with everything. But if I feel like any

(47:36):
given moment you try to hide something from me because
you want to protect me, that's not cool.

Speaker 1 (47:43):
Because okay, let's let's rewind this. Let's rewind this, right,
because this is taking a slight detour.

Speaker 4 (47:56):
Earlier in the conversation, which you had said, was this
dude being your.

Speaker 1 (48:01):
Best friend for over fourteen years? Right? Yeah? And you
know he loves you, right, you know he got your
best interest at her and he was honest with you. Yeah,
but you don't know what you want to do.

Speaker 3 (48:14):
I know what I want to.

Speaker 1 (48:15):
Allow him to hold? Ho?

Speaker 2 (48:16):
Ho?

Speaker 1 (48:18):
Should he have just lied?

Speaker 4 (48:21):
Because now it's a toss up you You you don't
perspective saying you don't know what y'all got. But that
sound like the realationship you ever had, right though it
is so, but you're still confused about it.

Speaker 1 (48:32):
You don't know what you want to do.

Speaker 5 (48:34):
This is what I'm confused about. What I'm confused about
trying to if I'm trying to see if I can
handle it, that's that's I.

Speaker 1 (48:44):
Fuck with that. I fuck with that.

Speaker 4 (48:47):
You don't want to sign up for some ship you
know you gonna got damn up one day exactly.

Speaker 1 (48:50):
I respect that.

Speaker 3 (48:51):
I don't want to be like, Okay, boom, let's do it,
and you.

Speaker 1 (48:53):
Want to you really want to?

Speaker 3 (48:55):
Yeah, yeah, but deep down I don't I can do it.

Speaker 1 (48:59):
I fuck with that. Judge that if.

Speaker 5 (49:02):
You told me from the beginning, and I could like
control my emotions, but I'm already fully autom I'm invested
in you, like my whole emotions is involved with you,
like I ain't never been like this with a nigga before.
So you're basically telling me to pull out some emotions
that I don't really know how to do.

Speaker 1 (49:18):
So let me ask you, so, will he be some bullshit?
If he just walked away from you right now?

Speaker 3 (49:23):
He would never walk away from me, I'm.

Speaker 1 (49:25):
Saying, knowing that he don't want to hurt you, knowing
that he don't want to put you on.

Speaker 3 (49:30):
He tried.

Speaker 5 (49:31):
I mean, he told me straight up, I don't want
to be in a relationship because I know how you
feel about monogamy and I don't want to hurt you.

Speaker 1 (49:41):
And then what happened.

Speaker 3 (49:43):
I ain't leave them, so that's confusing.

Speaker 4 (49:45):
So basically you're trying to leave the crash out, that's
what you're doing.

Speaker 5 (49:50):
No, I'm trying to figure it out. I'm trying to
figure out like if I try to.

Speaker 1 (49:55):
Leave it up in that like, bro, I ain't never
agree to this.

Speaker 4 (49:57):
So when I snapped, you understand why she no no, no, no
no no.

Speaker 3 (50:01):
I did agree to it. I did agree to it
and for us to not be together, right.

Speaker 5 (50:09):
But now I'm in a place to where it's like, Okay,
you told me what you told me, but now I
want to figure out how can we make it work
because I do want to be with you, even though
you told me what you told me, and I appreciated
what you told me. So now let's figure out how
we can make this work for the both of us
with you telling me what you told me, and I.

Speaker 3 (50:26):
Can be honest, I don't really know. I think the
only way that's gonna work is if I'm able to
talk to.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
Other niggas, damn honestly, so I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (50:36):
Or or or.

Speaker 3 (50:39):
If he makes a full commitment to me and we
get engaged.

Speaker 1 (50:43):
So so if he was married to you, he can
have other women.

Speaker 3 (50:47):
Yes, because I know he ain't going nowhere.

Speaker 1 (50:50):
Oh it's not cheating.

Speaker 3 (50:54):
Let me ask you something, and it's not cheating because
cheating is doing something that.

Speaker 4 (50:58):
You Now that's a good point to just man, I
kind of like that. But let me say something, Jill that,
let me say something. If so, your fit is not fear,
but your hesitation is him finding somebody he liked more
than you. And it's still a toss up on what
y'all got.

Speaker 5 (51:18):
Not necessarily, it's just more of a of me being
secure because right now, like him telling me that he
wants to deal with other women, it makes me feel insecure.

Speaker 1 (51:31):
Because why he's marrit to him. You would feel secure.
I would you had a piece of paper, a piece of.

Speaker 3 (51:35):
Paper, it wouldn't even be a piece of paper.

Speaker 5 (51:37):
It would just be like, it's only a piece of
paper because the state or the law whatever says it
it's a piece of paper.

Speaker 3 (51:43):
It's more so of a because you it's I guess,
like in.

Speaker 1 (51:48):
Front of God, not a nigga, lie on God on God.

Speaker 5 (51:52):
It's not even that, it's just it's just I guess
it is the paper. I guess, Like I don't want
to really say it's the paper. It's just the fact
that I know that, like this is solidified because the ring.

Speaker 1 (52:06):
How does a ring solidify if he just go buy
your ring, y'all, don't go to the courthouse of y'all,
don't do a big with it. Does that solidified? If
you just came home today, like okay, I love you
your mind, I promise ring? Does that solidified?

Speaker 3 (52:19):
Mmmm? It's a start.

Speaker 1 (52:23):
See that's a fair That paper is a fair tive.

Speaker 3 (52:26):
I mean, I get it.

Speaker 5 (52:27):
I just I think it's more so like a For me,
it's more like a like like you said, like a
stature thing. Because I'm not a girlfriend or a baby mama.
I'm a fucking wife and I need to be wifed
and I'm not gonna be doing all these wifely duties
for a motherfucker that that can leave me to leave
me and my kids tomorrow.

Speaker 3 (52:48):
And I'm sitting here dealing with.

Speaker 1 (52:51):
With papers.

Speaker 5 (52:52):
Okay, Well you're gonna have to go through that. You're
gonna have to go through that paperwork to get that done.
And that's and it's gonna take that right, and it's
gonna take a lot. I just feel like a man
will work harder to make sure something works with like
being married. Then then like we don't have nothing, so
it's like it's quick to just be all right cool.
So so say, for instance, I deal with it. I'm
the one that's taking the sacrifice, me, not you.

Speaker 3 (53:12):
You're not taking a sacrifice. You having your cake and
you eating it too. Meanwhile, I hurt.

Speaker 5 (53:17):
I feel it, Like if I'm agreeing to do it,
I'm really agreeing with it because I love you, but
I'm still hurting.

Speaker 3 (53:23):
I'm still dealing with that. So you're telling me that
I can go and I can deal with that for
a one year, two years, three years, and then after
the third year he like, all right, I'm straight, I'm
finna go.

Speaker 1 (53:33):
So let me ask you something.

Speaker 4 (53:33):
So will he be better off just find a woman
that was cool with that instead of a woman that's
trying to be cool with that.

Speaker 1 (53:39):
Yeah, like for real, but in your mind.

Speaker 4 (53:43):
It'll be some bullshit. It'll be some bullshit that he
walked away life. He'd just be like, you know what, Jojo,
I can't put you through that, babe. You ain't my cup.

Speaker 3 (53:50):
Noah, I respect him.

Speaker 5 (53:50):
It'll be like a mutual thing because not only can
you not deal with it. I can't either, So like
what we're gonna do, just be out your miserable as
fuck both of us.

Speaker 3 (53:58):
Fuck no, I want to be happy, you want to
be happy. Do what you gotta do, Do what I
gotta do.

Speaker 5 (54:03):
The only thing with that is is though, like everybody
be telling me, niggas be cheating, niggas want to fuck
with other women.

Speaker 3 (54:13):
It's no such thing as a monogamous man.

Speaker 1 (54:17):
It is, but y'all just don't like him. I don't
know what that is. They ain't some of them ain't broke.
It's just I don't know. I don't know.

Speaker 4 (54:27):
It's a bunch of guys. I know, a bunch of
guys that don't cheat, like my man. I only want
to call a name him and this girl.

Speaker 1 (54:32):
Just broke up. And this nigga, I know, he ain't
no cheat nigga.

Speaker 4 (54:35):
He's a good guy and a good nigga. Like like,
the bitches want him, But I don't know, Like how
you how y'all break up?

Speaker 1 (54:44):
Yeah, I don't understand that. It seemed like to me
and I could be wrong. Relationships are justified a bye
being what you go through.

Speaker 4 (54:56):
That's what what I'm starting to see, Like because when
everything y'all good, that's what people break up. Right when
the shit be happy, they'd be riding out sooner we
get to a point that we happen. Now we've found ourselves.

Speaker 1 (55:09):
We split.

Speaker 3 (55:12):
Somebody didn't took enough of something.

Speaker 1 (55:14):
No, Bro, it's just like, Bro, you ain't doing You
ain't no bullshit no more.

Speaker 4 (55:20):
Like if if y'all dude did everything you asked him
to do as a man, you wouldn't like him no more.

Speaker 3 (55:26):
That's a lie.

Speaker 1 (55:27):
I'm telling you. No, you're not telling me if he
submit to you, you wouldn't like him. That in case,
you would be the woman.

Speaker 3 (55:35):
I mean, hey, why did I to be with a
woman just because of him?

Speaker 4 (55:43):
Like I'm saying, if you had a man that did
everything you asked him to do, how could you like him?

Speaker 1 (55:49):
How?

Speaker 3 (55:50):
Like, let's be real, I'm just saying, like, how could
you not? That's weird?

Speaker 1 (55:54):
What's his name?

Speaker 3 (55:55):
Coco?

Speaker 1 (55:56):
Can you help Hipper?

Speaker 3 (55:58):
Is that your holdo? Because I mean, I guess you
are chasing. I guess you know, look for I chase
because if manage with everything I asked for, he's bored,
he's bard, and you're gonna tell your friends like he goes, Okay,
so maybe you don't do everything right, but the one

(56:19):
thing that I want you to do right, I want
you to do right, which is don't fuck with other bitches.

Speaker 1 (56:23):
Okay, but that's hold up. But you just sat there
and said, hold oh, you just sat there and said
he did everything else right.

Speaker 3 (56:32):
I never said that.

Speaker 4 (56:34):
You said you're happy, So that means he's doing something right.
He's doing one thing right.

Speaker 3 (56:39):
Like I in love and be happy. You could be
de Lulu and be happy.

Speaker 1 (56:42):
Okay, what shit? You happy happy?

Speaker 3 (56:44):
I'm saying you can.

Speaker 1 (56:46):
All right, let me ask you something though your then
we could it.

Speaker 4 (56:54):
If he did everything else besides that one thing he
ought to though right.

Speaker 3 (57:02):
If he did everything right, besides being monogamous, Okay, all.

Speaker 1 (57:08):
Right now, I'm I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it.
I'm gonna do it another way.

Speaker 4 (57:10):
If he was a monogamous city at home play the
game ass Nigga and that's it, smoked weed.

Speaker 1 (57:15):
Could that be your idea, guy? Yes or no? No
ambition or nothing? So you said, if he did that
one thing, now, which one is it?

Speaker 3 (57:23):
I'm saying like, but you said, oh my god, said
you just you just you just did a whole lot.

Speaker 1 (57:29):
Oh, I just you just don't like you.

Speaker 3 (57:32):
You just did a whole.

Speaker 1 (57:34):
Always one thing that he ain't getting.

Speaker 3 (57:37):
So if he was doing everything but that, but we
were talking about that one particular guy.

Speaker 4 (57:41):
Okay, we were talking about him all him. Okay, him, Okay,
we're gonna just speak to him, speak on him. If
he did everything else, he was monogamy everything else, but
he didn't, it's good.

Speaker 1 (57:52):
You're gonna find one other thing that he needs to do.
We don't spend enough time.

Speaker 3 (57:55):
Now it's gonna be something.

Speaker 1 (57:57):
It's gonna be something. It's gonna be one more thing.

Speaker 3 (58:03):
That's true.

Speaker 1 (58:04):
Your communication is off.

Speaker 3 (58:06):
God damn, that's true. It's like what that's true.

Speaker 1 (58:10):
That's fucked up.

Speaker 3 (58:11):
I can agree to that. I can agree to that, but.

Speaker 5 (58:16):
I don't know, bro, Like fucking with other women is
just it's not even if it don't mean nothing.

Speaker 1 (58:23):
Okay, if you fixed that, we're gonna take that out.
He fixed that, what would be the issue. It will
be no issue, Yes it will.

Speaker 3 (58:32):
So you're saying, I gotta take something from somebody's gonna always.

Speaker 1 (58:36):
That's just like dude in high school that you I
mean that you had a kid on.

Speaker 5 (58:42):
He did everything right, he just didn't have no ambition.
You see what I'm saying, Right, that's.

Speaker 1 (58:49):
What fucked up.

Speaker 5 (58:52):
I'm like, but you but but but it's always one
I would rather. I've experienced both. I would rather now,
like if I were to go back, I would rather
have that guy. N You would rather have him because
you done got him. You know what I'm saying, because
you're comparing it to what you got.

Speaker 3 (59:11):
I'm saying him, not him per se, but you got
that guy with no ambition.

Speaker 1 (59:16):
You'll be fucking this guy on no ambition. That's what
it'll be. You're still because you something would be missing.

Speaker 3 (59:24):
Okay, So rather so regardless, I'm gonna be fucking another nigga,
right Na?

Speaker 1 (59:31):
No, not regardless if you was with you're satisfied.

Speaker 3 (59:36):
No, But I'm saying you just said, like the ambition nigga,
I mean the niggah ain't had no ambition at the home.
He ain't got everything. So not gonna go fuck another nigga? Okay?
Then cool? Then the nigga who doing everything.

Speaker 1 (59:45):
Else but him?

Speaker 3 (59:47):
You just complain on thing is just like, if we're
gonna make it work, how about this you do what
you do, and let me do what I do. Respect
and then and then let it be what it is.

Speaker 5 (59:55):
I don't let the ship get back home, you don't
let the ship get and then that's just the end
of it.

Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
No, And if you don't want that, then that's just
something that just gotta like, you gotta make a decision.

Speaker 4 (01:00:04):
You, but most women, not you, but most women not
gonna agree to that and say that they want to
do something because they want to always have one up.

Speaker 1 (01:00:12):
They want to always be able to be hurt.

Speaker 4 (01:00:14):
They want to always play victim, like I can't let
you know that I do me and you do me too,
because I know where you're gonna put me at.

Speaker 1 (01:00:21):
Now. You're not gonna put me up here. You're gonna
put me down there with your holes the girl.

Speaker 3 (01:00:26):
Yeah, okay, so now so you you really.

Speaker 1 (01:00:28):
Don't want to do that.

Speaker 4 (01:00:29):
You really don't want to be that dude, because now
you ain't gonna be what he putting you at. Now,
these conversations really ain't really enough fun to talk about, y'all.
You doing it right, and you know nothing, You just
because what dick rule for women. That's how niggas feel.
The nigga fuck you he can get my location.

Speaker 3 (01:00:49):
But what if you don't? But what if you what
if like sex ain't any like what if you're the
woman is not like.

Speaker 1 (01:00:54):
If he can talk to you, if she won't, she'll fuck,
she fucked, she'll suck, she do all that?

Speaker 2 (01:01:00):
She what?

Speaker 3 (01:01:01):
Okay, Well that's what they're gonna think.

Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
That's just how niggas go.

Speaker 4 (01:01:03):
So once a nigga feel like you're dealing with another dude,
even though they already feel like that, but once it's
confirmed that you're dealing with another dude, it's gonna be
it's a no sleep game.

Speaker 1 (01:01:13):
If I care about you.

Speaker 4 (01:01:14):
But if I but if I still still deal with you,
I'm gonna be gonna remove something from me that allow
me to.

Speaker 1 (01:01:19):
Deal with you. And you're gonna feel that.

Speaker 3 (01:01:21):
So what is the ending of that?

Speaker 1 (01:01:23):
Then?

Speaker 3 (01:01:23):
Like if a woman so so so women should just
keep lying, yes, and now were liars.

Speaker 1 (01:01:33):
That's her biggest that's her biggest asset.

Speaker 3 (01:01:40):
If the war you can pull over minds okay, But
then now say she gets found out and then that's
what it is, then all he'll gets broke loose by right,
That's what I'm saying. Like she she's trying to prevent that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:52):
One thing about it. You're flick. You're flick enough not
to get caught. If a woman get caught, she don't
like you.

Speaker 3 (01:01:58):
No, she want to get caught.

Speaker 1 (01:01:59):
That's what I'm saying. She she don't fuck with you.

Speaker 3 (01:02:01):
Yes, you want to get caught.

Speaker 1 (01:02:02):
Women are the strikers, that is man.

Speaker 4 (01:02:06):
They playing two years in the band, the fucking Nigga
one time. What are you talking about? I got an
off day in June in twenty twenty six. Yep, that's
just how this shit goes. So she get caught, she
won't to get caught, or she just didn't give a fuck.
The best thing a woman can.

Speaker 1 (01:02:25):
Do is be David Copperfield. Do the magic trick, make
me feel as if how I want to feel.

Speaker 3 (01:02:33):
And then when you do that, then you go look,
who go looking? I already told you that that happened.
Man told me straight up.

Speaker 2 (01:02:39):
He was just.

Speaker 3 (01:02:41):
I made him feel like he was the only one man.

Speaker 4 (01:02:44):
So many bitches Houdini, Man, they gonna they ain't Nigga
ain't gonna let you.

Speaker 1 (01:02:48):
He just didn't. He just went secure with himself.

Speaker 4 (01:02:51):
If he went to find something, that means he won't
to get rid of you. He would look for something
to get rid of you. You got women niggas can
know like this is a hope. But the way she
made me feel, I ain't looking for nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:02:59):
I want to keep this. I don't give a fuck.

Speaker 6 (01:03:02):
What's she doing?

Speaker 1 (01:03:03):
What she made me feel? I'm keeping them.

Speaker 3 (01:03:08):
What if he went nowhere after that?

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
He know what it is, but he still put you like. See,
I'm gonna tell you the feel what I think.

Speaker 4 (01:03:18):
This is my persuasive I think the fear of women
is is dropping down them, not just you know what
I'm saying. So that's where they lie because they want
to stay right here. Once I go to saying I'm
seeing another.

Speaker 2 (01:03:28):
Guy that.

Speaker 4 (01:03:30):
H yeah, that died with the regular hole, ain't no
more special ship, you know what I'm saying. So if
I keep lying on special, the bitch with the best
lives is the most special one.

Speaker 3 (01:03:45):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (01:03:46):
I'm just keeping it real.

Speaker 3 (01:03:50):
So it's no such thing as actually being open and
honest about sh because.

Speaker 4 (01:03:55):
If you're gonna work, if you're gonna be open the
uns that you're doing, that ain't gonna worry unless you
just want to be like we just fucking right like
because once once I know another dude that's in the mix,
I can't really fully trust you.

Speaker 3 (01:04:11):
Even if you're not fucking it don't matter because cause
you're gonna automatically think she fucking.

Speaker 1 (01:04:16):
Fucking ain't even what it is.

Speaker 4 (01:04:17):
Once he got your once he got your ear, your attention,
he could talk you out of some or into something.

Speaker 3 (01:04:22):
That's what a man is thinking.

Speaker 4 (01:04:24):
Yeah, because niggas pay attention to women, be loose, loose
lip when they when they thinking the nigga they.

Speaker 1 (01:04:29):
Friend and you don't know what I got going on.

Speaker 4 (01:04:31):
This nigga could be a whole robber, nigga could be
a whole goddamn scamming.

Speaker 1 (01:04:35):
He could be whatever fucking with you talking to you
to get me mm hmm. I can go for that.

Speaker 4 (01:04:43):
Nigga's gonna be the most secretive ever, Like bitch, I'm
down there, you farm, I'm keeping you away from my bitch.
You ain't gonna know nothing by what you stay, ain't
in the know nothing back my bitch. A woman let
you drop off at the door.

Speaker 1 (01:04:54):
If my friend shall lo location with another nigga, damn
nigga kept.

Speaker 3 (01:05:06):
Yeah, I ain't that type of woman, but I get it.

Speaker 1 (01:05:09):
No, but you get wrong saying that's what those on
in the man mind.

Speaker 4 (01:05:12):
Like once once she wants a man my privacy, Yeah,
once she wants you gonna tap?

Speaker 1 (01:05:18):
Then now you in my kingdom, bro, Like this is
my bitch.

Speaker 3 (01:05:20):
She knows too much about me and I don't know
what y'all talking about. What's gonna told?

Speaker 1 (01:05:26):
So now I gotta bump you down. We're cool, but bitch,
you ain't gonna know that bout now.

Speaker 3 (01:05:30):
Yeah, I don't trust you now, Oh yeah, you.

Speaker 1 (01:05:33):
Fuck with niggas.

Speaker 3 (01:05:34):
I don't.

Speaker 1 (01:05:34):
I can't. I don't know nothing about nothing, Like you
know what I'm saying, that's the old I think that's
the to me. I'm just saying like I could be wrong.
I could be passionately wrong.

Speaker 3 (01:05:43):
No, but like we your perspective is is is a
good one because like I ain't far from it, Like
I got a real nigga mentality.

Speaker 5 (01:05:53):
I'm just in a female's body, so I be knowing
what be going on. But there's just be certain things
i'd be like it just don't make sense. But like
what you're saying make perfect sense, Like I could get
that like a nigga. But but hold on though, But
a woman can feel the same way about when you
talking to another woman.

Speaker 1 (01:06:12):
Why they can't feel.

Speaker 5 (01:06:13):
That because, like you said, women are sneaky, women are evil. Sure,
women are men, they don't give a fuck as much
as women do.

Speaker 1 (01:06:22):
But you gotta trust your nigga that he's a secretive nigga.
He already don't tell you shit.

Speaker 5 (01:06:26):
Nah, it ain't about it ain't even that. It ain't
even that he can be secretive as fuck. But say
you got a good dick and you fucking the bitch,
you dicking her down right? You got this bitch mine
fucked up and he'd probably been.

Speaker 3 (01:06:40):
Told you like I'm I'm good on you, like I
got a bitch. Whatever. This bitch is gonna do every
research she can do to find out who yo, but
your girl.

Speaker 1 (01:06:49):
But the only difference between men and women with me
and a woman is already to kill this bitch about
my bitch. He ain't got a worry about that.

Speaker 4 (01:06:58):
Soon she do all that, we're gonna knock this wh
off because she played with both of us, not just you.

Speaker 1 (01:07:03):
But a bitch gonna be confused, Okay, she don't know
who to pick now.

Speaker 4 (01:07:08):
If if a bitch me and shall tell you how
if a bitch walk up try to confront me.

Speaker 1 (01:07:12):
I pushed it on about now you up stump you out? Yeah,
you don't care about this.

Speaker 4 (01:07:17):
Oh, if a nigga walks the front, shouldn't tell you
about me. She probably gonna be looking at like she.

Speaker 1 (01:07:23):
Don't know what to do. She bushed it. She don't
know what to do.

Speaker 3 (01:07:29):
No, I respect that, like and I don't care like
that's how.

Speaker 1 (01:07:34):
On the balcony.

Speaker 3 (01:07:35):
But but but I see what you're saying.

Speaker 5 (01:07:37):
But that's when you're involved, though, that's when you're around.
What if you not, what if you're not there when
the interaction takes place, if I'm not now and this
bitch get into a fight and now she finla beat
your ass?

Speaker 4 (01:07:48):
But no she no, she finished, Hey, I just whoop
the whole ass. Well she stay pull up, let.

Speaker 3 (01:07:55):
Go kill them, Let go kill some move. Did that right, okay?

Speaker 1 (01:08:00):
An opt now.

Speaker 4 (01:08:04):
Nah?

Speaker 3 (01:08:04):
I feel that No, just keeping the risk.

Speaker 1 (01:08:07):
No, it's trying to get at it because she violated us.

Speaker 3 (01:08:10):
Right, and I feel that that's some real ship and
that's how I want my nigga to step every time.

Speaker 1 (01:08:16):
But that's what it is, though, But you still it's still.

Speaker 4 (01:08:19):
But if I knew, if I was willingly knew that
she was doing this, then y'all hold fight of that,
y'all equal now, right cause but what is she not?

Speaker 3 (01:08:31):
Though?

Speaker 2 (01:08:32):
Like?

Speaker 3 (01:08:32):
What is she not? You see saying hold on?

Speaker 1 (01:08:35):
Hold on? Is she not?

Speaker 3 (01:08:36):
The that's lies?

Speaker 5 (01:08:38):
You don't know nothing about none? She got going on
and one of them bitches that you fuck with ended
up finding her some way somehow.

Speaker 1 (01:08:46):
Yeah, Like, but she's not missing already, know, you know
this is my wife. You know that she's not missing.

Speaker 5 (01:08:52):
It don't matter though, like some like some men don't
really know how to decipher these crazy assholes from like
a cool asshole, because you can see a woman and
you be mesmerized by her ass by how she looks
or whatever you you talking to her, whatever she's seeing.

Speaker 3 (01:09:06):
Cool cop pelet Right. But what I'm telling you is
is that that.

Speaker 5 (01:09:11):
Female, even when you tell her that you got something
going on, she's still gonna feel like but you're still
trying to fuck with me, So you obviously care about
something I got going on, woo woo, and you got
her feeling some kind of way. Now she feel like
she's more superior with you.

Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
Now.

Speaker 3 (01:09:25):
She felt like she's more superior and what you got
going on.

Speaker 1 (01:09:28):
I like you with you, I fuck with you, but
I don't fuck with you over that.

Speaker 3 (01:09:33):
Yeah, but she might, but she might not know that
because she feels like you're giving her everything that she
ain't never got no real hear me, This bitch ain't
never This bitch ain't never got fluid out. This bitch
ain't never been to a Hawks game court side. This
bitch ain't never had dick like you've ever given her

(01:09:53):
before ever. So now she's fucking digmatized and she don't
give a fuck about what you got going on. And
now she trying to blow up the spoor. She showing
know how to act or now she's lurking on its surround.

Speaker 1 (01:10:03):
Put me in her life to teach her a lesson.
He put me, He brought me. I look at everything
is God's will. God want me to show her that
this don't go like that when you do that. That
man told you that shows you, and he fits showed
you some bod that ain't what you do. I didn't

(01:10:28):
tell you nothing.

Speaker 4 (01:10:28):
There'll a bit different for out the line, Like yeah, man,
I'm trying to get a divorced man.

Speaker 1 (01:10:32):
It's crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:10:33):
That's different, right, But that's what most means.

Speaker 4 (01:10:36):
If you see me and you just together a last
night and not shit, I gotta go now, I gotta
tell you you see, we can fly tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (01:10:42):
We have a loving relationship. I'm Paul confessing my love
on my page. I'm not hiding her. I'm not nothing.
This is my love. And you still go searching for that.
You're trying to cause problems. You're a problem maker, you
are a problem man. You're not You're not for me.

(01:11:04):
You can't. You're the devil. You can't I like to
be the telvil. You're not for this campaign.

Speaker 3 (01:11:12):
But there are bitches just like that though.

Speaker 1 (01:11:14):
Okay, and they need to run into a guy.

Speaker 4 (01:11:16):
Like me.

Speaker 1 (01:11:18):
That would show them, sweetheart, that that don't go like that.

Speaker 5 (01:11:22):
So okay, So do you think because I think the
issue with that is that like just have like for me,
like my ego, like my ego is straight up like
can't deal with the fact that you're making a female
feel feel how you make me feel, and it's on
it's a different level with us, but with y'all's different

(01:11:43):
because like I said, she ain't never had this, this
and this and this, so you're making her feel like
she's the queen of the world.

Speaker 3 (01:11:50):
I don't want my nigga to ever make a bitch
feel like.

Speaker 1 (01:11:52):
Like what you said.

Speaker 4 (01:11:53):
And I be hearing that a lot, but let me
show you some when you're a hell of a nigga. Man,
it don't take much to make a bitch feel like
she the queen of the room.

Speaker 1 (01:12:02):
She never been. She been with number peasants. You just
tell you, just say hello beautiful to a bitch and
she feels like, oh my god, because she's never hurt that.
She said, he what's up? She's never been around a
man's man.

Speaker 4 (01:12:18):
Yeah, she's never done that. So just a lossome of
make a bitch de Lulu. You ain't got to do that,
but be yourself a cool nigga.

Speaker 1 (01:12:29):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:12:29):
Maybe I'm just crazy because I'm territorial as fuck, Like
I don't want no bitch to feel like my nigga
made her feel like nothing.

Speaker 3 (01:12:37):
Smack that bitch on her face. I ain't trying here,
know you're talking about.

Speaker 1 (01:12:41):
But she's a part of us now, baby, she helps us.
Why would I do Why would I do something to
this lady? And unless she does something to us h
I'm just being real. I'm just speaking. I'm not speaking personally.
I'm just that's a man. You never know, like people

(01:13:04):
don't know. Like some bitches save relationships.

Speaker 5 (01:13:10):
Right and I don't want to see I was a
I was a female who was saving relationships and I
ended up sucking the whole relationship up.

Speaker 1 (01:13:19):
That's what I'm saying. And you supposed to have broken
collar bone, all type of.

Speaker 3 (01:13:23):
Ship you talk about, but I'm just saying, likedycare, damage
is already done though at that point, damage already done,
so regardless of ankle brace, neck brace, damage is done.

Speaker 4 (01:13:40):
But at the end of the day, mane, I'm just
talking a lot of ship, just you know, for for
because we you know, we're entertainers.

Speaker 1 (01:13:47):
I'm entertaining at the same time.

Speaker 4 (01:13:49):
But all bush of a side though, Bro, you're gonna
know when a person is a problem, you know what
I'm saying, because you're gonna.

Speaker 1 (01:14:00):
Know how they react to your regular life. You know
what I'm saying with that.

Speaker 4 (01:14:06):
First bitch, don't call me no more. You know what
I'm saying, don't so so so, don't so. I don't
want to soul nothing, no nothing, because you a problem.
You let me know that you have feelings that I.

Speaker 1 (01:14:19):
Cannot tend to. You have to have.

Speaker 4 (01:14:27):
Someone that has the same amount. I'm not trying to
write the book on she. But you gotta have something
to lose too, the girl.

Speaker 5 (01:14:37):
Who who you're fucking with? Yes, all right, exactly. I
would rather deal with a motherfucker who got something to lose.

Speaker 1 (01:14:45):
She has to have something to lose too.

Speaker 4 (01:14:47):
It been just sitting at home thinking about you on
criminal and thinking about you on Oh, y'all gotta batch you.

Speaker 1 (01:14:54):
But y'all, oh, y'all, y you gonna eventually be crazy.
She gotta be here, somebody, Yeah, doing something right on
my tripping y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:15:07):
Nah, that's true.

Speaker 1 (01:15:08):
That's too much time to think about me.

Speaker 4 (01:15:10):
Yeah, and she's thinking about, man, how you could be
possibly fucking your wife's that's you sucking out.

Speaker 1 (01:15:17):
I know he'll bitch. They gonna get a drink.

Speaker 3 (01:15:26):
Girl. No, it's straight up it is.

Speaker 1 (01:15:32):
Hey. Come on, Joe, Joe, answer the question. Answer the
word with a word. I'm a staying a word and
you say the first word come in your mind.

Speaker 3 (01:15:38):
Okay, all right? Lies, cheating, commitment, marriage.

Speaker 1 (01:15:46):
Situationship one, toxicity, me, fut.

Speaker 3 (01:15:55):
Standards, oh, standards. Mmmm, that's a good one.

Speaker 1 (01:16:03):
Men boundaries.

Speaker 3 (01:16:09):
Mm hmmm mm hmm. Needed, chemistry, important, seduction, folks weed
it you said one word of.

Speaker 1 (01:16:29):
Threesomes. Yeah, frequency.

Speaker 3 (01:16:37):
Mm hmmm, a lot.

Speaker 4 (01:16:41):
Snoopy, crazy, revenge, wow, social media, hard, bread, winning, I
need you.

Speaker 1 (01:17:05):
Fifty fifty cool, generosity needed, messy breakups always hm baby daddy, love, obsession,

(01:17:32):
need perspective mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (01:17:41):
Mm hmmm, perspective. I'll say, look.

Speaker 1 (01:17:48):
Which word stuck out the most? Uh, seduction career said
bread when you said got this, Why why seduction stuck
out the most?

Speaker 3 (01:18:05):
Seduction? I don't know, cause it's like it is a
thing that like women have and men need and women
can do a lot. Like I'm like I can, I can.

Speaker 5 (01:18:18):
I know how to do that, like a thousand percent,
Like I know how to seduce some motherfuckers, like for shure,
Like for sure, I'll be trying to like learn how
to really get up out of that.

Speaker 1 (01:18:30):
It's a thing career.

Speaker 3 (01:18:32):
It's fun for me. It's like a game what type
of books should be reading?

Speaker 1 (01:18:37):
We let the book of the week. I'ma let you
pick the book.

Speaker 3 (01:18:39):
So I don't have any books.

Speaker 5 (01:18:41):
I've had a couple of people tell me about a
few books, and honestly, I'm just being real, Like I
don't read, but I want to, Like, I want to
read something that's uh something about like like motivation and money.

Speaker 1 (01:18:55):
I got one for you, more than Enough. That's the book.
Pull it up, listen to it.

Speaker 4 (01:19:01):
It's a book about for women that's balancing their career, motherhood,
personal growth.

Speaker 1 (01:19:07):
You know what I'm saying, breaking barriers.

Speaker 3 (01:19:10):
I can go for.

Speaker 1 (01:19:10):
That's more than anotherbody, Lane Weatherworth, pull it up. You
pull it up for a coco.

Speaker 3 (01:19:18):
Yeah, I need that.

Speaker 1 (01:19:19):
I need to listen to it in the car wait work.

Speaker 3 (01:19:22):
Yeah, because that's what I would do. I want to
do both, Like I want to read and listen.

Speaker 1 (01:19:26):
I listened because I can rewind and keep hearing it back.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:19:29):
But like I feel different when I got it in
my hand, like, yeah, you read a book.

Speaker 1 (01:19:33):
I can't really see that good. So in my head
trying to.

Speaker 3 (01:19:39):
Big Jojo, Yeah, the Biggest some bullshit to show.

Speaker 1 (01:19:47):
Correct.

Speaker 4 (01:19:52):
We gotta rune it back, Joj. I appreciate you coming
and what you got going on. What's next with Jojo?

Speaker 5 (01:19:57):
Man, I'm I'm just trying to feel more like I
have a team behind me now, Coco, shout out to Coco,
She's here now my publicist just build a team.

Speaker 1 (01:20:07):
To wait, who are you? Oh yeah, doesn't turn.

Speaker 6 (01:20:16):
She did, like yeah, rock stuff, don't don't influence the
bullshit man, please get her them books, help her. Jojo
has got there like those you're still a bully talk
about you stopped bullying that.

Speaker 3 (01:20:31):
I'm billy niggas now, Just kidding.

Speaker 5 (01:20:34):
But yeah, like more or next for me, like television,
Like I'm taking my acting classes, like I'm ready to
be on like the big screen stuff like that.

Speaker 3 (01:20:45):
Like I'm just trying to do more, building my own
personal brand, doing more for mothers, doing more for women.
That's what I'm really looking forward to. That's what's next
for me. Maybe's reality TV too, what show what you doing?
Put a ring on it or something like that.

Speaker 1 (01:21:06):
This ain't nobody they gonna be like.

Speaker 3 (01:21:10):
Next Nah, I'll be fun though, like you know, motherfuckers
know me, Like yeah, like I'm saying what I'm saying,
but I'm a cool last ship like like I'm live. Yeah,
like you know what I'm saying, Like I really would
turn your network up about for sure. So yeah, like
that's what that's really what I want to do.

Speaker 1 (01:21:26):
So and I say be shouts out to you and
congratulations and much more success to you.

Speaker 3 (01:21:31):
Thank you and congratulations you too. And you're doing everything
that you're doing. You're doing big things as well. Senda,
you know, Blaker's like, yeah, nah, let me go ahead
and do this corporate shit. You need to get that
paper rate you're talking about to follow you and ship
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Speaker 5 (01:21:50):
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through Friday, seven p and the midnight download that free
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Speaker 1 (01:21:57):
I need some shots out put the Ship Show it's
on twenty third.

Speaker 3 (01:22:00):
Yeah, okay, okay, when is it April show? Oh yeah,
for sure, I seen it.

Speaker 5 (01:22:08):
I'm like, damn, it's babe. We lit like because yeah,
we need it. We've been missing it for sure. I
know you said special guests.

Speaker 3 (01:22:16):
It's cool. I ask you who that is? We got
Settle okay, oh yeah yeah, t K that's yeah, we've
we've done. She showed together, I think well twice lick
Yeah that she was fun it was fun and t
K didn't one did it?

Speaker 1 (01:22:30):
I think the one we did the first one we
using the audience. Yeah, we did like three of them though,
was it like we did?

Speaker 3 (01:22:37):
It's like two or three.

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