Women Who Build: Kereen Henry on Business, Balance, and Becoming

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It gets no better than this. You are now in
June to perspective with big bang Bang, Let's get straight
to it.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Whether to perspective bank. Today I'm hill with my friend,
my sister, my homegirl, Karean Henry.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
How you doing beautiful?

Speaker 3 (00:18):
I'm doing great. I'm happy to be here.

Speaker 1 (00:20):
I'm happy to have you. How you being? I be.

Speaker 3 (00:24):
Living life.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
I always do like a willness check first to see
like where your mentally, how you feeling?

Speaker 1 (00:28):
You know what I'm saying. I'm feeling really good. One
a team, will your mount.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
Tomorrow's my birthday. I'm really excited about it. I think
I'm gonna relax and did to do a self care day,
but I'm excited about it. So I'm doing good.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
I see y'all went out the other day. Y'all had
a good time. We did just jump right into it
for people that don't know who you are, telling who
you are, what you do, what you represent, where you're from,
how you coming? You know?

Speaker 3 (00:53):
Okay? Well, my name is Kareeen Henry. I am a
social broker at Keller Williams and I am also a
co founder of Ladies Athletic Couple of Atlanta and.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
Very much and you're a very dope person. So where
are you from Originally?

Speaker 3 (01:09):
I am originally from Toronto, Ontario, Canada, So I came here.
My parents sent me here when I was in fifteen
because they felt like I would have a better life
in the United States. And they were Jamaicans, so they
were doing their own things. So both my parents are
Jamaican and I grew up in Cleveland with my grandmother.
And then after I left college, I met a guy
and moved to Atlanta with him, and then we broke up.

(01:31):
But I am still excited for still staying. I'm not
upset that he moved me here. I think it was
a great decision for me to move here.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
Nah, that's real because sometime the situation might not go right,
but it played out right right.

Speaker 1 (01:45):
Well, then, say, how would you describe your upbringing?

Speaker 3 (01:49):
Strict? Very strict, very conservative. It was really really strict,
like we didn't get to do a lot of stuff.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
What was it like the cultural values of like Jamaican parents, They.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
Mean they be yelling all the time. My mother and
my grandmother used to yell all the time. But my
dad used to be outside like he was a partier.
My grandfather is a partier, so I think that's where
I get that from. They used to party and drink
a lot, but they were really strict and I had
a lot of family around, so I always had cousins.
We were really close knits. So my family is really close.

(02:29):
We get together every year for Christmas, or the Canadian
part of the family will drive down to the United
States or we'll fly up there and get together and
it'll be like thirty of us in one house.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
So you had Jamaican parents, Jamaican family members, stayed in
Canada Toronto, moved to Ohio.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
Then till now yep.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
So how is like adapting, like doing all that process
like adapting.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
Adapting to Atlanta was different. It's a lot of black
people here. I've never been anywhere else where there's a
lot of black people. There is a lot of black
people in Atlanta. So coming from Canada, whereas you know,
mixed multicultural, we got a lot of Indians, it's black.
So it's a lot of Jamaicans. Ohio was still different,
it's mixed, more lands mixed. But Atlanta, it's a lot

(03:16):
of black people here. To the point, at first it
was a culture shock, but now going away and coming back,
I'm like, I, you know, where the black people at?
Where are we at out here?

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Yeah? So what was your first dream like as a
looker at, what do you want to be?

Speaker 3 (03:31):
When I wanted to be an attorney? Yeah, I wanted
to be an attorney.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Why do you pursue that?

Speaker 3 (03:39):
I don't know, So I like to argue, so I
want to be a Yeah, I like, I don't know.
I just think life life as I was coming up,
I didn't really pursue it as much. My grandmother was
moving around and I didn't have as since my parents
were in can of the and then I lived here

(04:01):
with my grandmother. My grandmother ended up moving to Florida
when I was in college, So I think that kind
of deterred me because then I had to figure out
life on my own at Toledo and it was just
a hard thing. So I just didn't keep going.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
Who or what was your biggest influence?

Speaker 2 (04:16):
Like just through life like that made you, you know,
keep on want to be the person that you are today.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Who's who or what was your biggest influence?

Speaker 3 (04:24):
It's a lot of a lot of people. I think
a lot of my uncle. So one of my uncle,
my uncle Mike. He literally he was an investor really young,
so he taught me how to get in the stock market.
He taught me about real estate. Uh so he's doing
really well. So he he really shaped a lot of
the way I think. Uh, my other uncle, you know,

(04:44):
you want to get a job, you want to know
how to present yourself, you want your resume written, you
can call him and figure out what you you know,
need to do to get a specific job. So those
are the two people that I kind of looked up
to and influenced me when I was kind of as
far as career is.

Speaker 2 (04:58):
Concerned, wish your relationship like when them now, are we cool?
They still over there?

Speaker 3 (05:04):
Well, one of them lives in Orlando and the other
one lives in Boston.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
Okay cool? What's what's the lesson that you couldn't see
back then? With your family's trying to tell you that
you see now.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
To stay in touch what I think as kids, we
don't really want to call our parents, okay, we don't
want to go visit them. And as they get older.
I'm dealing with my grandfather now. He's getting older and
it just kind of hurts my feelings to see that
he's this old However, I took him. I took him
out to Whiskey Mistress. The other night he came to Atlanta,

(05:40):
I took them Whiskey Mistress. He had a ball. He
had some ladies there dancing with him. They play some
Jamaican music for him. They shouted him out on the mic.

Speaker 1 (05:49):
Was he was lit?

Speaker 2 (05:52):
Hey looking back at your younger self, What would your
younger self be proud of of you? Your oldest self, Like,
if you could think like she would be proud of
this moment for me? You know what I'm saying. If
you could go back to your younger self, what would
you be proud of you?

Speaker 1 (06:08):
For?

Speaker 3 (06:10):
I think I would be proud of being persistent, like
figuring it out if I mean, not having any family here,
just kind of figuring out life and keeping my morals
and values that I was raised with because a lot
of times, you know, stuff gets hard. People go do
some other stuff to make some money, and I've never

(06:31):
really had to do that, So I think that just
kind of grinding it out and figuring it out. And
I got a great support system. My friends, they are
their family. If I ever need anything, I hit them up,
like y'all need five grand tomorrow and somebody has sent
it to me. So I think I have really great friends.

Speaker 1 (06:52):
But for really I have.

Speaker 3 (06:53):
And you know, we pay it back and then you know,
in return it might happen to them one day or
you know, we're back in the day. So I do
have a really great support system where I can call
them up, like I need this right now, and it
don't matter how many years I have it for, They're
gonna they know, they're gonna get it back.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
Facts. So you went, you went to school, where you
went to school. You went to school into yeah, Okay,
in oh in Ohio.

Speaker 3 (07:18):
Yeah, So that's why I went to college. I came
to Cleveland. I moved to Cleveland from Toronto, Okay. And
what made you go into like marketing and real estate
and stuff like that. I think I just really liked houses.
My grandmother owned a couple of houses, so she was
an entrepreneur. She had a Jamaican restaurant in Cleveland, and
then she had a bunch of buildings and houses that

(07:39):
she acquired with her partner at the time. So just
seeing the generation of wealth, like you know, to this day,
we still have those houses and they're not worth as
much as they are worth in Atlanta, but seeing that
my grandparents bought a house for like sixty thousand back
in the day and now it's worth two hundred and
we can sell it or rent it out. You know,

(08:00):
That's something that I've just always been around.

Speaker 2 (08:03):
So college, you know, college usually be like around the
time when you really be growing up, when you going
to college, like that's like the final stage of being
a kid, right, So how do you balance, Like how
did you balance like ambition, your personal growth and trying
to figure out like how did you balansh that I.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
Didn't I party, but I mean I think I was smart,
but I partied a lot. Man the ball players was
in college, I was having a good time. I mean
I wasn't. I had a boyfriend, but it was like,
you know, the fun was the eyes are all on you,
they lessen after you.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
So so would you say that tho was the best
times your life? Your college year? Is?

Speaker 3 (08:50):
College was a good time? College was? It was a
really good time. I'm glad I was in a relationship
because if I was single, I don't.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
Know, Oh, you've been outside outside for.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
Real, Like I was already outside, but I was if
I was single in college. I don't know who would
have happened.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
So before coming to real estate, eate and you was
like investor first, right, yeah, how much money did you lose?

Speaker 3 (09:13):
So initially I didn't lose a lot. So initially I
was buying house in Cleveland for like six thousand, ten thousand.
But this is back in twenty ten, twenty eleven. Some
buying houses for six thousand, ten thousand, maybe like fifteen
thousand the most. I was working at a collection agency,
so we were making It was crazy because we're making
like thirteen dollars an hour, but our bonuses was between

(09:36):
two to ten thousand dollars. So I would take my
bonus and buy a house after I bought like all
the bags, and she was like a buy But I
would take my bonus and buy a house and then
take another ten thousand and put into it to fix
it up and then rent it out.

Speaker 1 (09:50):
So let me ask you something, what do you do?
Like what do agents do?

Speaker 2 (09:54):
Like when the market crashed, like when we go through
things like what do y'all have to do?

Speaker 1 (09:57):
Then?

Speaker 3 (09:59):
I think, you know, the market doesn't really it's always
a market. So I say this. I bought my first
house in Atlanta in twenty twelve. Right, they was tolding
us not to buy, and I bought the house for
twenty nine thousand dollars and now it's worth to sixty.
But that was a time where they're like, you know,
put your money in the stocks and bonds. The house
and market is trash. Even like my mom was calling me,

(10:22):
like why are you buying that house? I was like, well, listen,
I'm moving to Atlanta. I'm here. I don't know where
I'm going to work at, but I can work at
Walmart and you know, pay the hoa fee. So I'm
just gonna buy this and figure it out. But now
it's worth you know.

Speaker 1 (10:36):
To sixty. It was a house ready to living.

Speaker 3 (10:39):
It was four clothes, so I fixed it up. But
it wasn't like non livable. You could live in it.
But I did fix it up.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
When did you know, like you've arrived in real.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
Estate, Ben, I don't know when we really arrive. I
think that I don't know if I really arrived. I
think that a lot of people started noticing me. Now
you mean you don't know, You're right, you make all
that money, you've arrived. I am making a lot of money.

(11:17):
I think For me, it was like other people realizing
what I'm doing and other people reaching out or I
don't have to be in that hustle and drive anymore.
I think there's a lot of new agents coming out,
and I tell them, you know, you just got to
stay the course and just kind of keep marketing yourself,
keep doing what you're doing, because at some particular point,
the leads that we are looking for are going to

(11:39):
come to you once you have so much business and
people trust you. And that's my thing. I've you know,
my family owned properties. I've owned properties from a young age,
and I can see what we can get from owning properties,
Like I can sell a house tomorrow and get one
hundred thousand dollars to get me out of this situation.
So you know, and a lot of people say why

(11:59):
should I. I would rather rent because I'm paying interest
on this property. We'll pay more down. It's something that
you can really afford. I think we're in a place
where we want to buy the best house, the biggest
and best house. Just buy what you can afford right
now and figure it out because you're going to feel
some wealth.

Speaker 1 (12:15):
What's the difference between a good agent and a great.

Speaker 3 (12:19):
One, A good agent is going to show you houses.
She's going to or he A good agent is going
to show you houses and they'g goa to work you
through the deal. I think a great agent is really
going to protect you and find out what's really for you.
Like I have a client right now, she's getting older.

(12:39):
She keeps looking at houses with stairs, and we arguing
about stairs. I'm like, you're seventy years old. Why are
you trying to get a house of stairs? You know?
But I have somebody else take her out and they're like, oh,
this is a perfect house for her. I'm like, no,
she's gonna fall on these stairs. So a great agent
and somebody who is for you, Yeah, they're thinking about

(12:59):
things that you're not really thinking about. They're not just
worried about the money. So I think I'm at the
place where I'm not thinking about the check anymore. It's literally,
does this make sense?

Speaker 2 (13:08):
I agree with that. I agree with that. Did you
did you have a doubt this path?

Speaker 3 (13:18):
No? I think I had a fell into it because
I was an investor, so I was kind of fixing
flipping houses for so long, and I got into the
new construction during the pandemic. We built that house from
the ground up with my partner, and that was just
a disaster. The city shut down all the contractors that
they had COVID. I'm firing everybody because I feel disrespected

(13:39):
because I feel like they've tried to play me because
I'm a woman.

Speaker 1 (13:41):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (13:42):
And then I just I kind of started working with
buyers and sellers and I just liked it more. I
just felt like, you know, it was more rewarding after
they purchased a home and they're like, this is my property,
this is where I live.

Speaker 2 (13:53):
I think women real estate agents really have an edge
on the men, though I think it's easier for y'all. Really,
I think that's a woman's game, is too. I would
rather buy a house for a woman than a man.

Speaker 1 (14:06):
Really. Yeah, you know, if.

Speaker 2 (14:09):
It's the company of a woman like you showing me
around the house, you making me, you to me, you
can tell me how a woman would want this house,
Like what you want this house? If you was my age,
I asked you what you live here? You know what
I'm saying, Because anything men do we do for do
for our woman. So it'll be like would you live here?

Speaker 1 (14:26):
Okay? Cool?

Speaker 2 (14:27):
A woman likes this instead of a man trying to
just sell me a house. You get what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (14:32):
I don't know because there's a lot of couples out there,
so a lot of people that are buying houses are married,
and then what women do they want to tell their home?
So you know, yeah, yeah, if you're an attractive woman,
you're kind of in a situation where you know, this
husband and wife may not want to work with you.
They prefer to work with a man.

Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yeah. Yeah, I'm just thinking like if I was going about, yeah.

Speaker 3 (14:56):
You're right, I'm trying to hurt up and get married,
so I don't have to worry about that. Yeah, it
was got a ring. It doesn't matter if you got
a ring on. They look at you, they're like, Okay,
she's not a body and she can't a threat.

Speaker 1 (15:04):
She married Ladies Athletic Club of Atlanta. How did that
come about?

Speaker 3 (15:13):
That came about from us wanting to kind of well,
me and Brooke first, we used to work at We
used to work out a class pass. So I met
her through mutual friend and she was bouncing around to
all these different gems and I had hit her up
on Snapchat like how are you going to these gems
and she's like, oh, come with me, we can go
to class pass together. So class Pass is an app

(15:33):
where you kind of pick a class at a random
gym and just kind of go work out with a
friend or something like that. So that's how we first
became friends. And then fast forward kind of trying to
figure out something else to do. We kind of was
picking you know, different sports where it was like tennis, golf,
let's do this together. And then our friends started getting
involved and we're like, all right, let's start a group

(15:57):
where we can get out of the lounge and like
eating and drinking and do something fun. So we started
it because of that, just abind something else to do.

Speaker 1 (16:05):
Did you think did you think he was gonna be
able to take it?

Speaker 2 (16:07):
Like it's more cultural now, you think he was gonna
be able to Just when you first hit her up
and y'all stuff figuring.

Speaker 1 (16:14):
Out whatever y'all figured out. Did you ever know that
you have like over four hundred members.

Speaker 3 (16:18):
And no, I did not. I thought it was really
just gonna be our friends having fun golfing and playing tennis.
I did it, and it was Brooke who pushed for memberships,
and I was just like, who's gonna pay for memberships?
But we do have a sisterhood and we have a brand,
and we provide so much value. So you've got like
book Club financial Advisors. We have so much going on

(16:40):
the back end that warrants, you know, a fee to
want to get in. And it's not it's private, it's exclusive.
We're not accepting everybody.

Speaker 1 (16:48):
And y'all got a lot of bosses too. Now no slouches,
no slouches. Yeah, they got a lot of nice women,
a lot of nice women.

Speaker 2 (16:59):
Well, it has been like the most meaningful reward of
just during that period, Like you know, how somebody come
tell you something you know, you know, like a testimony
or something like.

Speaker 3 (17:08):
I think the most is when the ladies are a
lot of the ladies are transplants, so when they'll come
to an event and leave in their responses kind of
like I saw one review the other day. It was
in the group where she was just talking about how
she came and now she got so many compliments as
soon as she walked in the door by her outfit,

(17:28):
she sat down and were coming up to talk to her,
so she didn't feel alone. So that's one thing that
I do love about it. We make everybody feel included,
whether it's your first time or you've been here ten
times with us, it's pretty much everybody feels at home
and like their sisters when they come to an event
that we host.

Speaker 1 (17:46):
So is your main thing?

Speaker 2 (17:47):
Your main thing is just to show people that black
women can be amongst each other without all the hate and.

Speaker 1 (17:53):
Bickering in you know, comparison. So it's like a sisterhood.
It is.

Speaker 3 (17:58):
It's definitely and we can y'all can't. We can't. I think,
you know, there's a lot of growth in everything we do,
and it's just kind of learning conflict management. But I
got sisters, so we've I've got real sisters that I've
had to deal with growing up, so, you know, just
learning conflict management throughout life.

Speaker 1 (18:15):
So how do y'all weed out? Like the negative energy?

Speaker 3 (18:18):
We kick them out?

Speaker 1 (18:20):
I say, who do that part? You?

Speaker 3 (18:22):
Some times are brook and feisty. She'll send an email quick,
but I get on the phone with him, like, you
know what, I got a question. I need to figure
this out because for me, I want to get to
the bottom of why you did this or why you
said this and figure it out, like can we get
on the same page before Brooke be like, we don't

(18:43):
have time to talk to you.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
What what? What? Yeah? What?

Speaker 2 (18:47):
What's something like this a deal breaker that y'all come
to the table and be like, yeah, she gotta go.

Speaker 3 (18:53):
Mmm. Just being messy going back and telling this person
business to that person. It's never really happened, But I
think that's that's the one thing, going back and telling
this person, complaining to this person about this, because we're
too old for that. I feel like we're too grown
to be starting to had a mess.

Speaker 2 (19:12):
If you could, Pete and you even got to say
their name, if you can peak one person that you
see since they since they joined y'all, they're different, you
know how, because people grow amongst people that they can
grow around, right, you know what I'm saying, Like, just say, Vincent,
you might get a woman that come to the club
that don't have the mindset that you guys have and

(19:32):
they developed it.

Speaker 1 (19:33):
Have you witnessed that.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
I've seen it a lot. So there's Joscelyn, she didne
lost sixty five pounds with us. There's Champagne who came
hiking from your group. Champagne, Now, when I tell you
Champagne is at everything, and she met us through your
group hiking. That's how she found out about us. She's
at everything, she's doing everything, she's showing up, she's at
the event, she's helping, like, I love her. She's she's

(19:57):
krying of gain right now. So she's on her gain
enjoy journey. Yeah, she's on her gaining journey. So she's
trying to get a big, bigger booty or whatever. She said,
Orange theory. She having fun. Orange story. It's a gym. Yeah,
there's like half weightlifting and then the other half is

(20:18):
kind of running.

Speaker 1 (20:19):
What's the ultimate goal for the for the club?

Speaker 3 (20:24):
Oh, I don't know. We might take a cross country,
might take it back to Canada.

Speaker 1 (20:30):
She said. Just taking them ad was just like for y'all.
Y'all do vacations. We do.

Speaker 3 (20:35):
So we were going to Arizona next year. We were
trying to go this year, but we planned it too late.
So we're gonna go to Arizona next year, but maybe
starting another branch in Canada or somewhere else. I know
there's some other places that want us to come there,
so we have a large enough demand then we can
start there, all.

Speaker 2 (20:54):
Right, So let me ask you something, how do you
prioritize yourself?

Speaker 1 (20:59):
And it mixed out.

Speaker 2 (21:00):
It's being a real estate agent, running a running a club,
sisterhood and doing every take care of everybody else. How
do you take care of yourself?

Speaker 1 (21:07):
I don't know. You don't but you don't know.

Speaker 3 (21:11):
I don't know. There's no balance in it. It's hard.

Speaker 1 (21:15):
It ain't hard. You just gotta do it.

Speaker 3 (21:17):
It's hard.

Speaker 2 (21:18):
What do you mean do you feel like do you
feel like you're a natural nurturer? B yeah, So what
do you do when you when you need to be nurtured?

Speaker 1 (21:26):
What do you do?

Speaker 3 (21:28):
Have a drink? You're supposed to be honest, right, it.

Speaker 1 (21:34):
Just calms you down.

Speaker 3 (21:36):
Yeah, I don't know. I don't really have an outlet
for that. Typically working out it's great. So I'll go
to you know, run, Running is really good, kind of
eases your mind. Hiking, meditating, That.

Speaker 1 (21:50):
Sounds boring what I do the same ship but it
sounds boring. Outside.

Speaker 3 (21:58):
No, I ain't outside no more. There's nothing out there.

Speaker 1 (22:04):
Break it down.

Speaker 3 (22:05):
It's the same old people say. I literally didn't go
out for about almost a year, and when I saw
the same old people doing.

Speaker 1 (22:12):
The same.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
So are you you love Atlanta, But are you over
like the Atlanta dating scene?

Speaker 1 (22:20):
I am what make you over?

Speaker 3 (22:22):
I hate dating here?

Speaker 1 (22:23):
Why you just got to get a transplant? Somebody's not.
But y'all be dating guys. It's not from Atlanta too.

Speaker 3 (22:30):
We do so the transplants aren't good. The ones that
are here aren't good.

Speaker 1 (22:34):
Why not? Why the ones ain't here ain't good?

Speaker 3 (22:37):
Because they two at I feel like they want multiple women. Yeah,
and I don't want that. They got a bunch of
different kids. We don't want that. They outside all the time,
nab a lot.

Speaker 2 (23:00):
She guess what we gotta do. I'm gonna start what
is it, Men's Athletic club? Please do, and we're gonna
do it. We're gonna do a co ed Dayton Okay,
because I got listen. This ship is so crazy, bro,
and this real ship. Y'all always tell y'all that it's
like I run into good women such as yourself, and
I know some good men.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
But it's like y'all never cross paths.

Speaker 3 (23:23):
Where do they be at? You gotta tell us where
where are they at?

Speaker 2 (23:26):
Where we just said, oh they golf course, they don't
be in Wiskey mystery shout out toys.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
They don't be there.

Speaker 3 (23:31):
I'm at the golf course.

Speaker 1 (23:33):
Too, But y'all be at the golf course in y'all
own lane. Every time I see y'all. Y'all got y'all
took over the whole top for y'all. Just be in
your own lane.

Speaker 3 (23:40):
This is true.

Speaker 1 (23:42):
Y'all already wrote the men off.

Speaker 2 (23:43):
Y'all already wrote them all like Nigga ain't talking about now,
but it's so much. And then you gotta understand the
guys that's really want what women want. It's the guys
that are afraid to approach beautiful women, so.

Speaker 3 (24:00):
We're supposed to approach them.

Speaker 1 (24:02):
No, I'm just saying it takes me. I'm gonna fix it.
I'm ana bridge together, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (24:07):
No, this real shit. No, this real shit, Joe. The
niggas that's worth some. They so busy and caught up
on their selves too, like you said, on their business
and shit, it's kind of hard, like you said, it's
hard to balance that. So you got guys that, like
I always say, it ain't no good guys. I'll be
lying it is because I got something. I got homeboys
that's real good men to be like, bru, the women

(24:28):
ain't shit out here.

Speaker 1 (24:29):
So do you think these women sucking it up for
some men too? For some women too?

Speaker 3 (24:34):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (24:35):
Absolutely absolutely.

Speaker 2 (24:37):
You can't blame a dude once he done been fucked
over and think he gonna be regular after that.

Speaker 3 (24:44):
They be asking for money out of date two. They
want to go just ask for money.

Speaker 1 (24:49):
Dudes ask for money? Oh women?

Speaker 3 (24:51):
Oh yeah, yeah, the women be asking for money on
date one day two. That's all they about.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
I mean. And then when you're your own boss, is
kind of your target. Yeah, But when you you're a
woman and you your own boss, you're afraid that you
could be a target.

Speaker 1 (25:09):
You don't you don't believe nothing. That's the problem. That's
the problem. And broke the ones that ain't gotten, the
one that got some they ain't trust you.

Speaker 3 (25:20):
That's because the guys we get are the guys that
won't help from us. So they want us to help
them get to where they need to be, which I
don't have a problem doing that.

Speaker 2 (25:29):
Depending in the game for that.

Speaker 3 (25:34):
Age, you got to come to the table with something,
You got to come to ambition. But in the back,
back in the day, though, I would help, you know,
I would like you know, give you some business, you know,
invest in your business, invest in to read. I'll do
some stuff like that. But yeah, you're right, this age,
I don't want to do that anymore. But I am
getting people at this age that need help.

Speaker 2 (25:57):
But the thing about it is that's because at this
age y'all women, and we ain't gonna turn it to that.

Speaker 1 (26:04):
Y'all try to not settle, but go date outside of
your box, like I'm gonna just try this. I do that,
and knowing that this dude ain't gonna do it for you,
I do that. So once he don't do it for you,
you mad at both of y'all. Him and you.

Speaker 2 (26:21):
I know this nigga ain't even my type of nigga.
But the nigga that's not my type of the nigga
that's my type of nigga. He not good for my brand.

Speaker 3 (26:36):
That's true. That's true. I just be trying stuff right now.
I'm just trying things I can't fight no more.

Speaker 1 (26:46):
It's crazy, man. Do you think it's just Atlanta or
do you think this is the way of the world.

Speaker 3 (26:51):
I think it's Atlanta. I think there's a lot of
options people are outside. I think it's just Atlanta. I
definitely feel like if I was in Ohio would be
married right now. If I was in Cleveland, I would
have been married a long time ago, two kids, dog,
happily married.

Speaker 1 (27:07):
Yeah, happily married, just married, that's a good question.

Speaker 3 (27:09):
Happily married. I think I would be happily married, and
I probably would be consent. It would be a different lifestyle.
I think I was exposed to a different lifestyle than
I was back then, so it's easier. It was easier
to make me happy back then, Okay, as opposed to now.

Speaker 2 (27:24):
You don't got your own paypy, your boss, you know
what to buy, you know what to drink, you know
travel to you, So a niggas gonna have to match that. Yeah,
but them niggas are like that, ain't. I ain't gonna
say that they ain't even know how your date they
might be. I ain't gonna say that.

Speaker 1 (27:36):
They're Atlanta.

Speaker 3 (27:38):
They having fun in Atlanta. They got lots of options.

Speaker 1 (27:41):
It's fucked up. It's like twenty thirty to one. It is.

Speaker 3 (27:45):
So we're gonna do. I'm about to get a big house.
We're gonna get a rented mansion. All the ladies we
just gonna chill and just do it. By the way
you after that, what just chill. Just we're gonna have
girls nights, movie nights.

Speaker 1 (27:59):
And I'm saying, like, what you do have to get
drunk when it.

Speaker 3 (28:02):
Tis like after a while, you don't really think about
sex like that. If you don't have it for a while,
you're not thinking about it.

Speaker 2 (28:12):
When you So when y'all, when dudes get drunk, like shit,
go to tingling, y'all, ship don't go to tingling when.

Speaker 1 (28:16):
You sipping and all that.

Speaker 3 (28:19):
I feel like if you're having it regularly, but if
you haven't done it in much for a year, then
you really be worse. No, you're not thinking about it anymore.
I don't think about it.

Speaker 2 (28:32):
You're making You're making yourself not I get it. You're
making your selm not thinking. So what's the biggest lesson that,
like a relationship taught you.

Speaker 3 (28:43):
To date a round? I think as soon as I
meet somebody, I kind of just lock in. And especially
because I'm so busy, I just need to really kind
of exercise my options and not lock in on that
one person, because the more I lock in, I'm ignoring
a lot of other guys. And I waste all this time,
and I'm continuously wasting time, like year after year with people.

(29:06):
From the beginning, I should have known that it wasn't
gonna go.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
Well, so what's the idea? What's your ideal? Guy?

Speaker 2 (29:13):
Because you know, you know, you know, I'm gonna keep
it real of this show has made somebody husband or
wife really honey, honey, I am engaged, shouts out, honey engaged,
She said, came from this show.

Speaker 3 (29:26):
So if my husband's out there. So if my husband's
out there.

Speaker 1 (29:34):
What do we saying? What do you want?

Speaker 2 (29:36):
Because most guys don't even know what women want. So
you telling niggas you want. Somebody might be looking at
this and be like, that's me.

Speaker 3 (29:42):
I like, you know, I like a real professional guy,
like a corporate dude, somebody that can do both. Though
I want him to be like a little hood to him,
but you know, I want him to be able to
do both corporate. You know, he could be an entrepreneur
or have a great career.

Speaker 1 (29:59):
But how do he to treat you?

Speaker 3 (30:00):
You need to I need to be treated as if
I am the only one. I need to know that
I'm the only one. Because we're in Atlanta, So I
got to say that I have to be the only
one and just kind of be generous and kind. I
like a guy who just thinks outside the box for
different things.

Speaker 1 (30:18):
We don't have to let me ask you something. I get.
That's a good question. You said, Oh on, do you
have to be the only one when we.

Speaker 2 (30:22):
First start talking or because you got to be my
favorite one to be the only one first?

Speaker 1 (30:27):
Yeah, and my options are open.

Speaker 3 (30:30):
Well, no, because you ain't gonna be the only one
either when we first start talking.

Speaker 1 (30:32):
So now I get that's what I'm saying. So what's
the time limit? And win? Do that win? Do it
shift over?

Speaker 3 (30:39):
I don't think there's a talent. It just naturally. I
ain't never had nobody be like, so will you be
my girlfriend? It don't work. It don't work like that.

Speaker 2 (30:46):
They just kind of just like what we're doing, what
we're doing, what we're doing with real or what we're
doing because without understanding it's a misunderstanding this because if
me and you in the relationship together and I got holes,
you got niggas from the beginning ship, if.

Speaker 1 (31:03):
I get caught down the lot, we ain't never make no.

Speaker 2 (31:07):
Just because we were starting to every day don't mean
we we gotta talk about.

Speaker 1 (31:12):
This, like what we're doing.

Speaker 2 (31:13):
So you clean your people are gonna cut because you
canna cut all your people off and start to invest
your time in me.

Speaker 1 (31:19):
But I may not have done that because we ain't
have a conversation, right.

Speaker 3 (31:23):
I don't know. It's a feeling. I don't think it's
a time living on it.

Speaker 1 (31:26):
We gotta feel it, feeling, feeling, feeling.

Speaker 3 (31:29):
We got a feeling.

Speaker 1 (31:29):
We got to discuss it once.

Speaker 3 (31:31):
Okay, we can discuss it. We gotta feel it. I
can't just force it.

Speaker 1 (31:35):
Nah, I agree with that. But once we feel it,
we have to discuss it.

Speaker 3 (31:40):
We can just move right into it. I just moved
right into it.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
You do.

Speaker 3 (31:44):
It's kind of just a nurturing spirit, right maybe, but
it's just it's just we're just now we're in a relationship.

Speaker 1 (31:50):
So he's a corporate man. You need a corporate guy
with an edge, with the edge, yes, okay, that's most
I mean the niggas. I mean, a woman want that nigga.

Speaker 3 (31:59):
I know, all right, because I moved to Alabama or
we're at come take me to where you at your hometown?

Speaker 1 (32:11):
All right? So what would he be getting when he
gets you.

Speaker 3 (32:15):
Uh, he became an amazing person, a caring person. I
can cook, so I cook a lot. I can cook
ix stell. I'm Jamaican, so I can cook ix. Still.
I can cook stew chicken. I love cooking. I clean up.
I'm nurturing. I'm a go getter. I have a lot
of life experiences. I can help a man get money.

(32:36):
I don't want to give you money, but I can
help you elevate and wherever you are in life. So
I think that that's something. I have a lot of
different connections where I can all.

Speaker 2 (32:47):
Right, now, you know we all got flaws. So what
would I have to deal with? Like, what would that
man have to deal with when it comes to you?

Speaker 3 (32:55):
Probably my friends. I got a lot of girlfriends. I'll
be on the phone a lot, but.

Speaker 1 (33:00):
You talk to me. That's not bad, though I think
that is bad.

Speaker 3 (33:05):
You have my friends calling all the time with all
of their problems.

Speaker 2 (33:08):
But the think about it though, the right nigga make
you tell them hey girl, yeah you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (33:15):
I ain't even moone else. Y'all know that, y'all know
the right nigga to make you make your friends know.

Speaker 3 (33:21):
I will say I can get feisty too. You keep
playing with me, I will get feisty. I'm gonna say
something to piss you off if you keep playing with me.
It takes a lot, though, I don't know, and I
need a dominant mad because if he's not, if he's softer,
then I'm gonna continue like it's natural, because I think
in our professions it's women, when we become successful, would

(33:44):
kind of become a little bit more dominant. So we
just kind of take charge. And the more you take
charge in the relationship and then you turn around and
you be like, damn, this guy just let me walk
all over him. I don't want to be here anymore.

Speaker 2 (33:55):
Sole me ask you something you say and that's I'm
glad you said that, cause most women be like he
too controlling, Right, if a dude is dumbing and then
she get a dude that lets her control him. It's
just some by him, you know.

Speaker 1 (34:09):
Like so which one like which?

Speaker 3 (34:11):
Which I don't want to do that's gonna let me
control him. In the middle, I know I want him
to have you know, I don't want a man man
like a manly man. It can't be like I don't know,
if it could be in the middle and he could
be still a man's man, but.

Speaker 2 (34:31):
Protective provider. You know what comes with that? All type
of bullshit come with the dude. It doesn't have to,
but it do though.

Speaker 1 (34:38):
Because that's that comes with pressure. He's he's under pressure.

Speaker 3 (34:42):
I'm a man, Okay, So what kind of bes so
you're saying.

Speaker 2 (34:45):
I'm saying like, like, just if I'm a if I'm
the natural soul provider for for for me, for my family,
my stresses I can't bring to you, you see.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
What I'm saying. Not because I feel like I don't
want to stress you. My job is to keep you happen,
not to stress. Well, I should be able to help you.

Speaker 2 (35:03):
A man's man come with pressure because the world beat
Like my girl said, man, she's on here, she nail.

Speaker 1 (35:10):
The world beats us up. But I can't allow you
to see me beat up. That makes sense. But why not, David?
My energy is gonna allow you. But I can't tell
you because I don't want you to worry.

Speaker 3 (35:22):
But we're supposed to help you in that moment. We're
supposed to learn you and take care of Okay. Yeah,
I don't have to know the details Okay, I have
detail anyway. That's true, y'all, don't talk anyway.

Speaker 2 (35:31):
Yeah, the detail could stretch you in the detail, and
I could be so vulnerable that makes you think I'm
sorry me giving you the details. Because most of the
time as we come up, they be like, brush yourself off,
keep going, Bro, you're a man. That's what we think
a man is being.

Speaker 1 (35:48):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (35:49):
That makes sense, saying yeah, yeah, it makes sense we think.

Speaker 1 (35:51):
A man is being like Bro, ain't used to wind
it to your girl. I fixed it, nigga.

Speaker 3 (35:56):
But I can deal with that though. Man, that's a
little bit stressed, and I just got to make sure
I take care of him and make sure he's happy
when he comes home.

Speaker 2 (36:01):
But you know, most women take that, doesn't attack whenever
dude's going through things, they go to thinking like you're
never happy, it's me. They go to take it as
it's them, like a man can explain to you all today,
like baby, I just I don't feel like being bothered
and have nothing to do with you. But it's like
I guess they feel like when you come in house,
you forby to turn off all your struggles and.

Speaker 1 (36:23):
Just be a husband. Or be a boyfriend or whatever.

Speaker 3 (36:26):
But that's today's day and age where we kind of
re looking for a reason to run. There's so many
people that are looking for a reason to run. Back
in the day, like my grandparents, they literally they staying
together no matter what facts.

Speaker 1 (36:37):
You know.

Speaker 3 (36:38):
So, yeah, you had a bad two days, you had
a bad two weeks. You know, it's fine. You know
we're gonna get past it. This is two weeks of
our fifty years of life. So I think that that's
just this day and age where they kind of looking
for a reason to run.

Speaker 1 (36:55):
Noah, for sure.

Speaker 2 (36:56):
Yeah, it's just and it's hard to believe in love
into twenty five. It is because I don't know, it's
heart spent in Atlanta. Once again, it's hard to believe
because it's like most women. If you try to say
something to a woman right now, first thing, you're gonna
think what he wants?

Speaker 1 (37:15):
What do he want with me? Not? Or he'd be
like why me? Why not you?

Speaker 2 (37:22):
So we're coming into it with a negative you splanky
your friend. I met this guy, he's cool, but I
just I wonder what's his ankle?

Speaker 1 (37:29):
Right?

Speaker 3 (37:30):
But it depends on how he come to us.

Speaker 1 (37:32):
It don't matter how he come. If he come too perfect,
you're definitely.

Speaker 3 (37:36):
He's definitely angle. Why are you doing all this stuff?
Why you love bombing me?

Speaker 1 (37:42):
But it.

Speaker 2 (37:44):
And then once I find out you feel like that,
that's kind of scaring me, Like, damn, she got something
she ain't unpacked yet, she's traumatized. She don't know she
you know what I'm saying, Now, fixed that? How you
fix that? It's just off energy. How you feel about
this person. If you feel like it ain't right, it
ain't right. But if you feel like it's right, just
go with it until you actually see that it's not right.

Speaker 3 (38:06):
I don't know, because I see I'll be going with
it and I'll be ended up. And I went with
the last time, I ended up in a horrible situation.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
But you went with it knowing that you wasn't going
with it though, my friend, I know, we know, went
with it knowing that this is something you're not gonna
go with.

Speaker 3 (38:25):
Yeah, you're right, you know, you're right.

Speaker 1 (38:29):
You we just have this therapist us. You know what
I'm saying. Yeah, it's like, come on, man, like you
know what's for you and what's not for you.

Speaker 2 (38:36):
That's even even even even even like we were talking
about earlier with the club, you know what woman is
for your club and what's not, Like she's message she's
not for the club. Yeah, or you know what house?
You ain't ben seeing nobody's house. You know, I ain't
even like we know, but when it comes down to relationship,
we try to not know.

Speaker 3 (38:53):
Yeah, like I had, maybe I had went to a
matchmaker and the matchmaker said she was just like Kareem,
you vet all your clients, but you do not vet
your men like you vet your clients. It's like you
don't ask them all the pertinent questions. You don't go
through the whole vetting system like you do. But then
you end up in the same place later on. And

(39:14):
then I was like, okay, this was like years ago,
and each situation like I still ain't been vetting them.

Speaker 2 (39:19):
Yeah, but like you said earlier, you say, once you start,
once you start fucking the person, you fuck with him
instead of just seeing who they is first, let me
see who you are all the way, because you never
know mother fuckers till you stay with them or been
around alone with them.

Speaker 3 (39:32):
You gotta stay with them.

Speaker 2 (39:33):
Yeah, once you've been around the motherfucker A long, and
though you'd be like, hold look, but the thing about
it is, we go so far, like I love you
before I know you. So now I'm stuck in and
I'm finish. Just ride it out because I love you.
I'm miserable, but I already love you all. We already
been fucking rawing all this shit you mine. So it's like, well,
I finna do now this is mine? She is Now

(39:55):
I'm finna lock in with this bullshit. No, I don't
even like this nigga.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
You know what I'm saying? What we we just moved
too fast?

Speaker 3 (40:03):
We do.

Speaker 2 (40:05):
Yeah, because I don't give a damn with nobody say
you know how to be like it takes a minute
to know. Bro, you follow the mother fuck over week
over weekend, I can hang out with you over the weekend.
We can go to a beach and do all this ship.
You know what, I love her.

Speaker 3 (40:18):
I ain't never fell in love over her weekend.

Speaker 1 (40:19):
I'm just saying week all the way in love. But
you knowing, I really like this person.

Speaker 3 (40:24):
I don't know. I mean, I'll be taking my it's
at least a couple of months.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
Well you knowing if it's you're capable of loving that
sh sh crazy, bro.

Speaker 3 (40:43):
I'm not doing it. I got questions.

Speaker 1 (40:47):
I don't even know that, nigga, don't know, but the one.

Speaker 3 (40:50):
I gotta ask. I gotta ask a bunch of questions.
But they be lying.

Speaker 1 (40:54):
Yeah, they do be lying. They be lying like a motherfucker.

Speaker 2 (40:58):
But in general, I think people falling lust before they fall.

Speaker 1 (41:03):
In love, real love, you know what I'm saying, Like.

Speaker 2 (41:06):
You donna feel in love because a person can make
you feel the way you want to feel, or you know,
can treat you and show you like they check out
certain boxes. Here's a fly, nigga, he do he did?
God damn, just make sure y'all good? We did go
to eat? Should I like that type of shit? But
is this who is? Or is this what he's doing
to get you? Like you said, love bomb? So by

(41:29):
the end you don't feeling lust? You know what I'm saying. Damn, nigga,
this shit right too?

Speaker 1 (41:34):
He the one.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Now you're trying to overlook all the shit that you
with your deal breakers, you negotiating your non negotiables and
for you know, you resent this nigga, and you how
could I be so stupid with this?

Speaker 1 (41:47):
Put sad nigga.

Speaker 3 (41:49):
You see what I'm saying that because he loved bombed
to you like he love bombs us. They be love bombing.
They do everything right in the beginning and then but.

Speaker 2 (41:59):
Women too, though, let me too, when you first, when
I first meet you, you're gonna make sure you're everything
is flawless every time. For the first few days after
that ship, well, you'd be like, come on, what is me?
What do you want me to do? Man, I'm finish
to do all that. They can take all the time
to do my hairshit, But regular.

Speaker 3 (42:15):
I've been seeing up the Instagram posted the girl with
her hair on looking messed up.

Speaker 1 (42:22):
She's beautiful at home, baby, do that that. Can't keep
that up.

Speaker 2 (42:26):
You can't keep that up because eventually you're gonna be
you right right and a man. Okay, in the beginning, yes, butterflies, baby,
I'm finish do all the fly up and do all this.

Speaker 3 (42:35):
But that's different though. That's different though, like taking us
out on dates and doing stuff like that is different
than being at home and being comfortable at home. You
could be like, okay, well let me you know, be
a little bit more cute or at home, But that's
different from.

Speaker 2 (42:48):
I'm comfortable with the dates doing. I got comfortable with
to date. No, baby, we could date in the house.

Speaker 3 (42:52):
You mind, now I'll be dating in the house. You
took me dating outside previously, while we got a date
in the house now.

Speaker 1 (43:01):
Because I love your cookie, I love him. Watch still.

Speaker 3 (43:05):
I still want to go outside. I still want to
go outside. I had to do do that too. We
was out on dates all the time, and then after
a while he was just like, well, I like my home.
I made my home really nice, so I can stay
in here. So like, you know, he'll get food and
be there. He said, you drink the same drink anyway,
So why can't we just have the drinks at the house.

Speaker 1 (43:24):
And what did you feel about that? You just like,
I just want to be on the outside atmosphere.

Speaker 3 (43:28):
I broke up with him because I don't want to
do that.

Speaker 1 (43:30):
That's cold.

Speaker 3 (43:31):
What I don't want to do it.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
I'm saying, y'all couldn't figure out a common ground.

Speaker 3 (43:36):
No, I tried. He said he wanted to be in
the house. He likes being in the house.

Speaker 1 (43:39):
I never want to go out. Damn. Well, that's kind
of me too. I'd rather be in the house. But
I will go out, but I'd rather chill them.

Speaker 3 (43:47):
I think it's a time and play, Like I don't
have to be outside all the time, but maybe a
few times a month go out on a date and
not just be in the house.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
Women think when a nigga say that, like you hiding me?
You know what I'm saying. You don't want to be
saying with me? You want you don't want to who's
out there?

Speaker 1 (44:04):
There? Was the most women think when you do that, like.

Speaker 3 (44:09):
That be me.

Speaker 1 (44:10):
I'm listen, like, nigga, what's out there? You don't want
to see us? Let's go. Yes, most women be like that,
but I can see that though.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
Yeah, No, I know a lot of people take me
on the outskirts. Well, I'm getting to know you. Take
me out, take me out to Alpharetta. Let's go on
a date out there. I don't know nobody.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
Oh, you don't want niggas be like aen like, how
do you know? How you know?

Speaker 3 (44:33):
How you know?

Speaker 1 (44:33):
These are my friends? But niggas be insecured though about
this ship.

Speaker 3 (44:36):
So take me, take me outside somewhere else.

Speaker 1 (44:39):
Oh that's crazy? How do you? How do you? How
do you? What do we do? Man? We gotta figure
this shit out, court jo what we do? I had
these same conversations with them the thing two weeks then nigga,
fuck nigga. What is it?

Speaker 2 (45:03):
What's the disconnect between and I ain't asked that question
a long time. What's the disconnect between men and women?
What do you think it is?

Speaker 3 (45:10):
I think we are all shooting outside of what we
want because I feel like there's a lot of people
who they online arguing about the different things that I
want a woman that can cook, I can clean, But
then you want this BBL chip that is an Instagram model.
She not cooking and clean, and go find you somebody
that can cook and clean. She may not look like that,

(45:33):
but find you that particular person that likes to cook
and clean. But you can't make this BBL girl with
you know, Instagram model, a chef and a cleaner like
you know, and you know all the women that's online
talk about them. I don't want a man that you know,
I don't I want a man that pays majority of
the bills. He might not look the way you want
him to look, or he might.

Speaker 1 (45:55):
You know, chose battles, right.

Speaker 3 (45:57):
So while we arguing over that, find there's a lot
of guys that will do it. There's a lot of
guys that won't do it. There's a lot of women
that would prefer to be fifty to fifty. Sometimes I
think of like listen, I do fifty fifty. Sometimes I
think about it because then I don't gotta cook when
I don't want to. I gotta clean and I don't
want to. I don't gotta have sex when I don't
want to. We're fifty fifty.

Speaker 1 (46:15):
Why wouldn't you want to have sex with your dude though?

Speaker 3 (46:17):
I mean, if I don't want to, I don't want.
You might be tired, too.

Speaker 2 (46:23):
Tired to have sex. Yeah, that he ain't doing it
for you, then that's it. He ain't doing it for you.

Speaker 1 (46:28):
Then I might be tired of what that shit give
you energy.

Speaker 3 (46:33):
I'm working all day.

Speaker 1 (46:36):
That gives you the energy.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
Women gives you the sex you supposed to give you,
Wake you up, no, give you wings?

Speaker 1 (46:44):
Real bull, you sit on the red pull. Nah, But
I get it. I get what you're saying, though, But
so could a dude be mad at that? Though? As
far as what you mean, you like some niggas, that's
a yeup? Break you tired?

Speaker 3 (47:02):
I mean, if I gotta work all day. It's hard outside.
I'm stressed out too. I'm tired.

Speaker 1 (47:08):
But that means you're tired of me.

Speaker 3 (47:10):
You does not mean that. See, No, that's taking that personal.

Speaker 1 (47:13):
I'm taking that person.

Speaker 2 (47:13):
You're tired of me, too tired for me to love
on you.

Speaker 3 (47:18):
I'm tired, We're tired.

Speaker 2 (47:20):
Ain't nothing now you Now you fuck with my ego.
I'm just yes, I'm just telling you as a man,
you fuck with my ego. You're never supposed to be
too tired for me. This is for me that good
that if I want it, you are already leak it. Okay,
I'm just keeping it one hundred with you now. I'm

(47:40):
just breaking that down for you because you are my friends.
If there's no way I don't give fucking we mad,
we can just be go. I could just put you
out on spread where you could just put me on
a spread where you came and got me.

Speaker 1 (47:51):
We can pull over the fuck mad. That's just what
it is like. That shouldn't never be too me and
I could be wrong. People probably gonna get into comments
and say I.

Speaker 3 (48:04):
Ain't never had that type of sex. What that'll make
me want to do? Like we arguing and I still
want to do it right now.

Speaker 1 (48:11):
See that's why. That's why. That's when you're gonna get it.
When you get that, you're gonna get it. And when
you get that, you're gonna know you don want That's
the difference.

Speaker 3 (48:22):
That's we beeping or I'm tired and I just really
want to bro it.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
Don't matter. We could have had a knockdown, drag out
turn that shit over. Man.

Speaker 3 (48:32):
Yeah no, I ain't never had that one.

Speaker 1 (48:33):
That's what I'm saying. You've been dating on Ohio. Hey,
what keeps you motivated? Though?

Speaker 3 (48:44):
I want to be broke.

Speaker 1 (48:45):
Fact, that's a great motivation. That's a great motivation.

Speaker 3 (48:49):
Nothing broke. I think I lost. I lost one hundred
thousand and twenty twenty two on investments, investing with the
wrong people. I got scammed out of so much money,
scammers in Atlanta, went broke, got money back. I never
want to be broken again.

Speaker 1 (49:02):
I agree with that. What's one book that you read?

Speaker 2 (49:06):
Because I got your uh what's the name on my phone?

Speaker 3 (49:13):
A million?

Speaker 1 (49:13):
But what book that stands out to most of you?

Speaker 3 (49:16):
Right now? I'm reading The Banker's Code because my wealth
planner has me reading that.

Speaker 1 (49:22):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (49:22):
Because I am heavily invested in real estate, and what
they're teaching me is like, you know, there's a lot
of different ways to make money, residual money, and you
can make money. You could be a landlord and make money,
and it's great because you know, you get your income
from being a landlord, and then as the home appreciates,
you can sell it and make more money. But kind

(49:43):
of becoming the bank is another way to make money
investing in oil and gas. So just kind of opening
up my mind to some other ways to make money
outside of what I already know.

Speaker 1 (49:53):
Like, how do you measure success?

Speaker 3 (49:57):
For me, It's it's it's free time. I have to
visit my family. I think the more time I have
to visit my grandparents before they get too old because
they are already getting older, visit my cousins. That's that's what
makes me feel successful, Like I can kind of take
off a week or two and go visit family and

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not have to worry about money.

Speaker 1 (50:22):
Do you think you're a hustle forever? Yeah, then you're
gonna be too tired to have six.

Speaker 2 (50:29):
Like you can't say that on the but you gotta
be like, no, I'm ready to settle down and not
be tired.

Speaker 3 (50:37):
I am. I mean, but I think I really would
love to find a husband that can help me like that.
I could settle down and be that wife and cook
and clean and take care of the home. But I
think I would still sell homes and still maybe on
a smaller level, I wouldn't just do nothing like what
am I supposed to do.

Speaker 1 (50:55):
But you can't shrink your ambition. Th what's in you
is in Yeah, but I need a husband.

Speaker 3 (51:01):
I think that is one thing. I think. You get
so successful in life and there's like certain parts that
you feel like you're missing that you just can't you
can't figure out, like I'm successful here, I'm doing this great,
here I'm doing Why can't I figure this part out?
Sorry to figure that part out?

Speaker 1 (51:20):
Which part?

Speaker 3 (51:21):
The marriage part? The husband part? I need to figure
that part out. I'm figuring out so many other areas
the husband part.

Speaker 1 (51:27):
You got to.

Speaker 2 (51:28):
Figure it out. You just you just not allowing yourself
to do it. Do you think, No, you don't think that.
I'm telling you telling you you got it figured out
because you already you already is wife material. So you

(51:48):
got that part figured out. You just got to allow
yourself to be somebody's wife. Yeah, you know how fortunate
a guy would be to have a woman in twenty
twenty five that got their shit together.

Speaker 1 (52:01):
You women ain't got the ship together.

Speaker 3 (52:06):
They don't though they don't want that. The successful guys
don't want the women they ship together. I saw a
podcast the other day where it was talking about that
men want women that they can control, and the less
amount that they have is the more they can control them.

Speaker 2 (52:23):
I don't know what kind of nigga the me is,
because if I'm the me personally, if I'm dealing with
a woman, I don't give.

Speaker 1 (52:27):
A folks open it's that my money. Though this week,
I'm the ship.

Speaker 2 (52:31):
What we're doingtting this ship together?

Speaker 1 (52:35):
Right?

Speaker 2 (52:36):
I'm a man, so I ain't trying to be I
ain't man. I don't know how to explain that, but
I don't know. It's just different type of niggas. And
I feel like where they at, y'all don't be.

Speaker 3 (52:47):
So so where we're gonna be at?

Speaker 1 (52:48):
I got you.

Speaker 3 (52:49):
We gotta tell the ladies where they gotta be at.

Speaker 1 (52:51):
They gotta be at the boring ship, at the booring ship.

Speaker 2 (52:57):
Not the popping ship at golf, at golf, sigar lounges
and shit like that.

Speaker 1 (53:01):
Niggas is at what else y'all you.

Speaker 2 (53:05):
Know, but you know, y'all just don't like them kind
of niggas.

Speaker 1 (53:11):
They two day too. What do you call it? Those
type of niggas same shit? What you saying?

Speaker 2 (53:17):
A nigga that got a ship together know what he wants.
A woman that got shit together know what she wants.
So that comes with too many boundaries. Most women don't
like boundaries. I'm not saying you, but most women don't
like boundaries. Most women don't like a man that knows
what he wants.

Speaker 3 (53:32):
I like a man who knows what he wants.

Speaker 1 (53:34):
Said once from his wife or his girl.

Speaker 2 (53:36):
I would prefer it, but that don't mean you gonna
agree with it.

Speaker 3 (53:41):
Depending on what it is. I would prefer tell me
what you want. Tell me, hey, I want you to
wear this dress today when we go out for dinner.
I love that.

Speaker 1 (53:48):
I think.

Speaker 3 (53:48):
The best day I had this guy pulled up on me.
I was out at a lounge and he was he came.
He was just like he bought me a drink. Me
and my girl's a drink and he was just like
you're free on Tuesday. You I'm free on Tuesday. He
was like, all right, I'm gonna come pick you up.
I want you to wear dressing some heels.

Speaker 1 (54:05):
So if I if I, if I put you on
a date, you know, I wouldn't do nothing wrong on
the date for your birthday with you go, I would
and birth I got your birthday cake. Oh my god,
my friend, what kind is it? Co vanilla? Like a
your counters to make a wish, it's gonna come true.

Speaker 3 (54:32):
Oh my gosh, this so amazing.

Speaker 1 (54:34):
No, thank you, thank you, Oh my gosh, this is
so cute.

Speaker 2 (54:40):
When I when I please be open minded about this date,
I'm gonna sing, it's a good guy.

Speaker 1 (54:46):
Okay, I got him in mind, and I want you
to hang.

Speaker 2 (54:49):
Out with no real ship. I want you to hang
out with him, right, you know, No, they don't know.
I tried to send court on the date she dumped
the dude I sent out with the he's a good
dude too. They want hood niggas. They want some hoodnigg

(55:10):
bringing Michael. She want a straight hood nigga. This guy
was a guy that you was just said corporate. Yeah
he was a good guy, but.

Speaker 1 (55:20):
He is his funds. He was broke. He wasn't broke
like that. He was just boring. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (55:30):
He can't be broken now.

Speaker 1 (55:32):
He wasn't broke. He just want a baller. He had
his ship together. He wasn't broke. Okay, these women want
a nigga that don't exist.

Speaker 3 (55:42):
They do exist.

Speaker 1 (55:44):
But what I'm saying, when they do exist, y'all don't
want them.

Speaker 3 (55:49):
We do. It's just that they want everybody like. They
need to have discipline, they need to be able to
have one person.

Speaker 1 (55:56):
That's impossible. It's true, right, that's impossible.

Speaker 2 (55:59):
I'm gonna just be one with it. Like the God
that you're speaking of. It's two many for him to.

Speaker 1 (56:04):
Turn down all of them.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
You got one slip through every now, yes, that's just
how it goes. Now it's two men and it's too
many good women.

Speaker 1 (56:12):
And that's really being selfish off the world. Here we go.
But I ain't gonna start that. I gotta say that,
no real shit.

Speaker 2 (56:20):
That's selfish, man. And I said this shit on another podcast.
Wouldn't it be selfish and wrong? If God sent Jesus
just to bless one person? I did, but she didn't
care wouldn't that be selfish? Though, certain type of dudes
are special dudes.

Speaker 1 (56:42):
I get it. I'm just saying certain dudes are special dudes,
and they are ment like even not even not even
in sexual relationships. I'm not just speaking of that.

Speaker 2 (56:52):
Like I feel like me personally, I feel like some
people are put here to spread a message, you know
what I'm saying. Some people are here to bring great
energy to other peoples. Right, yeah, so once you like say,
if I met you and I was single and we
get into a relationship, I'm a special dude to me,

(57:14):
and I bring energy to all my friends.

Speaker 1 (57:16):
But you don't want me to have those type of
female friends anymore?

Speaker 3 (57:19):
Right, No, you can still have your female friends.

Speaker 2 (57:22):
I got male friends, No, because I I would be
possessed of minds. Like, so you can have female friends,
but I can't have male friend saying I can't.

Speaker 1 (57:32):
But I'm a philathropist, philanthropist, I'm a I'm here for you.
Other people you're not. You got Women's Athletic Club, not me?
And why ain't your ass?

Speaker 3 (57:46):
And now.

Speaker 1 (57:49):
No, I'm just talking shit about that.

Speaker 2 (57:50):
They're saying, But I know the difference between a man
and a woman a male friend. Is I mean a
female friend with a man. She not gonna come on
to me. Me and you friends, right, You're never gonna
come on with me, and I'm gonna respect you. Never
come on to you. But you have a male friends.
They would come on to you. Yeah, if you came

(58:11):
on him, he ain't nowhere. There all your males.

Speaker 3 (58:14):
All of them, but are some of them not all
of them? Have some that have not ever, they.

Speaker 2 (58:19):
Ain't got to come on to you. But most of
your male friends. You take your clothes off, he's sticking
it in. But damn what you said.

Speaker 3 (58:26):
Listening to this, like they know where the body is buried.
They know everything about me.

Speaker 1 (58:32):
That don't matter, That don't matter.

Speaker 2 (58:35):
What I'm saying is, but if you said you want
just have casual sex to one of your friends, what
they do it?

Speaker 3 (58:43):
I hope not.

Speaker 2 (58:44):
You just never thought about that, but they would. But
that would me, That's what I'm saying. That's why I'm
a man. So I wouldn't want my girl to have
a male friend, because I know a man of goddamn
played possible till he fucked.

Speaker 3 (58:57):
I'm a friend, you out that pussy, But how long though,
like how long, ten twenty years, and you still gonna
be friends just in case that one day comes.

Speaker 1 (59:06):
Yes, that's how men are. THEYGA friend you, friend you forever,
but soon you.

Speaker 2 (59:15):
Call on on, not right now, but call on be
like you know, I was just thinking, like you, we've
been friends for so long, and you get me.

Speaker 1 (59:21):
You know what I'm saying. I think we should date.
Be like what you've been waiting.

Speaker 3 (59:24):
On, girl, I'd be I would be so upset with
your with yourself, with just being in denial, not with them,
because they played like they were my friends. It's not.

Speaker 1 (59:37):
We are friends. They are your friend. That's not playing.
But if you want to go next level, they will.
They will never try to take you next level, but
if you decide that you want to go next level,
they will.

Speaker 2 (59:48):
These are men because they've already sat back and watched
you wash your morals. She's morally correct, she's politically correct,
she's she keeps herself up, so they already they really
are dating you. Now those are the dates.

Speaker 1 (01:00:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:00:09):
Yeah, nobody can know you besides the people that knows
you the best. The best, the best relationship comes from friendships.
That's true, because it's like you can't pull it over me.
I already know you come on, I know when you're lying.
I already know you've been told me when you're lying there,
I know. I know everything about you. I know what
you like, I know what.

Speaker 1 (01:00:26):
You don't like.

Speaker 2 (01:00:26):
Right, So we enter a relationship, it's already we already
did the vetting, that's true.

Speaker 1 (01:00:34):
So what man want another woman?

Speaker 2 (01:00:37):
Want another man getting close enough to this woman because
you're gonna tell him shit that you can't even tell me,
because men, you have a emotional relationship. So you just
blatting after this nigga, but you basically let him get
to know you for real in ways that I never will.

Speaker 3 (01:00:52):
That's true.

Speaker 1 (01:00:54):
So hell no want you, no bestly, no niggas, No,
hell no, buddy, keep beating.

Speaker 3 (01:00:59):
So what's the difference with a woman though, because if
you're it's the same thing you're talking to her, not
what you're not talking to me about.

Speaker 2 (01:01:06):
No, the difference between I don't want to sound like
what the word a narcissist or or whatever.

Speaker 1 (01:01:12):
The difference between to me is.

Speaker 2 (01:01:16):
The difference between the men and a man just only
move a pleasure, you get one. So I'm like, if
you and this dude's best friends, y'all fuck around and
falling love fast?

Speaker 1 (01:01:26):
Fuck you gone a man?

Speaker 2 (01:01:29):
If I suck around the fuck when my friends, hey, bitch,
you know, man, what you thought they was gonna be
a nigga?

Speaker 3 (01:01:37):
Do that?

Speaker 2 (01:01:37):
A woman would create emotional connection with a dude that's unbreakable.

Speaker 3 (01:01:42):
Okay, I agree with that, all right, I agree with that.
That's true. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:01:46):
If me, if I if one of my friends come
at me like you want to fuck, it's gonna be
casual sex for real. But if you come at one
of your friends like you want, that's a relationship because
y'all already don't build a relationship. You already like a
like a what they call it a work husband and
all that shit. You're around this person more than me.
You can file in this person more than me, so

(01:02:06):
you basically know. So once we do, once y'all do,
if this last sex, the chemistry already was there, You
already built the relationship. The sex is on the seal
of the deal.

Speaker 1 (01:02:17):
Yeah. Yeah, I don't know if I'm right or wrong,
but that's just how I feel.

Speaker 3 (01:02:24):
I mean, you're right in that part. I just would
be really sad if my friends came to me.

Speaker 2 (01:02:30):
Nah, I don't think they would do that because they
respect you know what I'm saying. If you came to them,
I promise you they're not gonna turn it down because
men as are men.

Speaker 1 (01:02:40):
It's just I respect, I respect your boundary because I
respect you. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:02:45):
I know she ain't like that. She ain't no do away,
she ain't like that. She cool, But that don't mean
I don't know that. I'm a man and I'm antrack
that to women, and I know that you're a good woman.
You get on saying like that don't mean that that
I'm not blind. Niggas not blind.

Speaker 1 (01:03:01):
But due to the fact this is my sister, I
love her. I'm gonna keep her in in that zone
unless she changed that right right, you feel me? I
feel you me.

Speaker 2 (01:03:13):
That's not like saying like nobody laying on nobody or no,
that's not that me a gonna be men. I ain't
never seen a nigga say nah baby, well ain't gonna lie.
I did that before, but niggas, that's rare.

Speaker 1 (01:03:30):
That's rare in my line. Joe, if you gotta if
you got a male.

Speaker 2 (01:03:35):
Friend right now, right this is your male friend. Not
nobody work with. This is your male friend you talk
to about all your business. Are y'all somewhere in a relationship.
You know what I'm saying, y'all ain't got to have
six in that. But you're talking about you trusting with information.

Speaker 1 (01:03:49):
You don't trust your dude with.

Speaker 3 (01:03:53):
I feel like we don't, but I do feel it's
uncomfortable for others feel around. Yeah, there's to be a
physical as sexual relationship, but it's a friendship. That's the relationship.
It's a friendship.

Speaker 2 (01:04:07):
But men don't want their woman relationship with another man.
Then he got with him, and if he gave, it's different, right.
You know what I'm saying. All the way gay not
playing the fence. Gay gay gay gay boy you gotta
dress on hey yeah yeah, it be your best friend
a dude, you know what I'm saying. But this is
a regular nigga with cologne on, smoking weed and drinking

(01:04:31):
regular nigga.

Speaker 3 (01:04:32):
No, buddy, I'm cracking up right now as.

Speaker 1 (01:04:37):
About for red.

Speaker 2 (01:04:39):
But it's not in security. It's just and if your
dude is not that possessed over you, he can't say
he fought with you like that. If you're in a
relationship with a nigga, and he feels as if though
you can ride off with another nigga, y'all or whatever,
like y'all got a personal relationship with another dude.

Speaker 1 (01:05:01):
He lost. He don't really fuck with you.

Speaker 3 (01:05:03):
Like all the things I talked to. Though they okay
with me having male friends, they have never I think
when I was younger.

Speaker 1 (01:05:09):
It didn't last. It's not it's not that's what I'm saying.
So he wasn't okay with it.

Speaker 3 (01:05:15):
But because of the guy friend.

Speaker 1 (01:05:17):
He didn't know how to say that.

Speaker 3 (01:05:21):
But it ended because it's something else, not the guy friends.

Speaker 2 (01:05:24):
No, that's what we ended on them because of that.
But it was I let I let the something else
in that because I already felt away about this sast
if you if you come to me right now, me
and he was in a relationship, right, I already feel
the way about these guy friend But I don't want
to seem like I'm controlling a pists and all this
ship because they were saying before me or a relationship.
But then as soon as you say, you know what,
this is not working. Because I feel like this all right,

(01:05:46):
I ain't gonna stretch because I already fucks because you
gotta these niggas. I ain't gonna fight for it. You
know what, You're right, because I don't even know how
to say and not look till to dick by saying,
you know what I'm saying. I don't know how. Most
men don't know how to express exactly what it is
because they think. I don't want to think I'm tripping
on these niggas. You're saying, I don't want to think

(01:06:08):
I'm insecure. They don't not just say me I do.
Hell no, ain't no more friendship. It's only like the
additional uncles and clubs.

Speaker 3 (01:06:16):
But what if the friends? So what if the guy
friends don't come around or they don't call when you're
in a relationship, like so, once you get in a
relationship that they're less likely to call as much or
less likely to come.

Speaker 1 (01:06:26):
Around, that's that's respect. Yeah, that's respect.

Speaker 3 (01:06:30):
Yeah, yeah, that's respect. So I have guy friends, but
when you know, when I'm dating, they don't really they
don't call, they don't come around, they don't do nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:06:36):
Oh yeah, no that's different.

Speaker 2 (01:06:37):
No, I know, you know people like yeah, but hey baby,
he go a boundary now, like he can't be calling
you two three o'clock in the morning. You hold up, baby,
let me see what he wants. Oh hell no, that's
but those are friends.

Speaker 3 (01:06:48):
Yeah, yeah, back in the day, I did used to
have friends that did that though. He used to call
it like two o'clock in the morning.

Speaker 1 (01:06:55):
But you never felt like those guys liked you.

Speaker 3 (01:06:59):
They probably did, but we were so young. They'd be outside
the club, like I want to talk to somebody while
I'm in the line, and they'll call stuff like that.

Speaker 1 (01:07:08):
That's building. That's building.

Speaker 2 (01:07:11):
That's building a relationship, Like there's nothing like a friend
that turns to a relationship because we already know each other.
We didn't get a chance to hide anything, you get
what I'm saying. We didn't get a chance to hide
anything because we came in and shit so innocent. And
I think that's what that's what's missing in relationships is
because people get into a relationship.

Speaker 3 (01:07:28):
Before they get into a friendship, they have all these
expectations for relationship. Right now, everybody has a lot of
expectations like this is what I need you to do,
and they just coming in the door with all this
all these requirements.

Speaker 2 (01:07:41):
But that's from a person you don't know. If I
already know you, I can't have no expectations because I
already chose you for the person that I know.

Speaker 1 (01:07:47):
Right, You see what I'm saying. If I've got to.

Speaker 2 (01:07:49):
Know you five, ten years, whatever however long you said friends,
it's like I know you, you know me, you know
what I did. You know the type of games I
don't play with women. So if I'm telling you I'm ready.

Speaker 1 (01:07:59):
It's like, damn, he gotta be ready because he know
I know him, and she gotta be ready because you
know I know her. That makes sense.

Speaker 3 (01:08:06):
Yeah, So what we're gonna do. We're gonna start a
friend group so they can be friends.

Speaker 1 (01:08:13):
Yes, Like like y'all gotta do look co ed stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:08:17):
When we do co ed stuff, the men don't show
up because you got let me, I got you. And listen,
we have about ten dudes and one hundred ladies. That's
how we don't do them.

Speaker 2 (01:08:25):
Okay, but this at this tournament that you that you
guys are hosting the other yes for on October bringing
the ladies out. I'm gonna have him out there and
they are excited. I'm gonna have him out there. I'm
gonna let y'all know. Just just tell the women to
look at me. I'm gonna letyall know, cap, I'm gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:08:40):
Let y'all know, let us know.

Speaker 1 (01:08:41):
I got y'all, I'm gonna be the referee for that.

Speaker 3 (01:08:43):
I'm coming about Ben, of course I'm coming. But I
need to know too, That's what I'm say.

Speaker 2 (01:08:48):
I'm gonna let you all a niggas. I'm gonna let
y'all know, he ain't nothing. Hen he married, he didn't.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:08:53):
Let you know. And you gotta let us know about
the married ones. Yeah, for sure, because there's a lot
of them out there.

Speaker 2 (01:08:58):
It's a lot of It's a lot of niggas that
and got out of their marriage that would never go
back in it because they feel like, Bro, I ain't
I ain't doing that.

Speaker 3 (01:09:07):
No, I don't want them either, though, So we had
to we we gotta know about those people too.

Speaker 1 (01:09:11):
For sure. For sure. Now they don't say it, that's
Cap you acting like, but I'll let you know. A
good guy never you're gonna just chill and be fun,
be cool, fun. But this this is hustling.

Speaker 2 (01:09:20):
I got know so many dudes man them there giving
up on like they just them not like the women.
They're giving up on love because they're like, man, these
business ain't now. But I'm telling them the same ship.
But y'all needs in the wrong spots.

Speaker 3 (01:09:34):
So where are they trying to get women?

Speaker 1 (01:09:35):
Huh?

Speaker 3 (01:09:36):
Where are they?

Speaker 2 (01:09:36):
Whiskey mistress, I'm saying, typical ship, typical ship?

Speaker 1 (01:09:43):
They mitchpot what's what's? What's? Miss m c k? They
everywhere they.

Speaker 3 (01:09:48):
Outside, but may be having a lot of guys.

Speaker 2 (01:09:52):
But I'm gonna tell you where they are. Let me
tell you where they where. Y'all gonna look over at
the at banks hikes. Those are good guys, that's true.
They looking past those guys because everybody. The reason why
I love to height so much, because everybody in reforming,
everybody's gonna be theirself. You come, you're coming with your
hat on, whatever you're coming in reforms on meeting you
before I get to meet the glam you. I'm meeting you.

(01:10:14):
So that's it. People don't understand when red be like,
make sure you socialize with people. Make sure you because
you're meeting people like you can look at a person
exterior and be like but then you go this instrument
like oh, nah this nigga lick lick. You know what
I'm saying, Looking at the ground, you're looking at it
in person. It didn't catch your attention. So we're looking

(01:10:35):
for the wrong shit instead of me actually meeting people.

Speaker 3 (01:10:39):
But we be hiking, we be tired. It's hard.

Speaker 2 (01:10:44):
I'm just saying, like even moving, even moving about before
or after whatever, like like people are just gone about
their way. Black people have made it to well and
it's a good thing with just mind our business we do,
you know what I'm saying. But the thing about it is,
you know how many times your husband don't walk past you,
and you walk past your husband because they don't look

(01:11:07):
like the idea of how it's supposed to look or
the setting when you're supposed to meet him. You know
what I'm saying, Like like niggas be trying to go
place to meet paper, but these same people could be
right here on You could be on the elevator with
you could be the people, the person at the front
that you never know.

Speaker 1 (01:11:22):
We just don't give the people a chance because it.

Speaker 2 (01:11:24):
Don't come in the package or in the form where
we thought it should come. I might meet him out
here at Whiskey mistress and we just get married.

Speaker 1 (01:11:34):
Or I might meet him online, you know, coming like that.

Speaker 2 (01:11:37):
But it could be the guy it just came with
his own plumbing company to fix a house for you.
It could have been that guy, but now he got
he got painting shit on him. So he's not looking like.

Speaker 1 (01:11:46):
That guy I would data plumber. No, I understand that,
but he's just not looking like that guy in the moment.

Speaker 3 (01:11:51):
But he's not also gonna try to talk to me
in that moment either. So when do I see him again.

Speaker 1 (01:11:56):
Thank you people up, Hold up, but people are walking
pay like I'm saying that same guy yea as his wife.

Speaker 2 (01:12:03):
Yeah, because a conversation you can struggle like, oh you
saying your single too, Hey, we probably should go out.
If he felt comforble enough to say, well, he probably
already want to say, like when a dude see you
walk in to show a house, right, he could be me.

Speaker 1 (01:12:15):
I could be buying a house. I'm in a professional.

Speaker 2 (01:12:18):
Setting, so I'm not gonna take it to what I
probably look at like Damn, I like her, I ain't
gonna take it. I'm gonna remain professional, right, you get
what I'm saying. But I just missed out. Yeah, and
then because you might take that away like, Bro, I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:12:34):
Here to sit in your house.

Speaker 3 (01:12:35):
Bro, we can't be dating clients. Though a client could
be your husband, though that's a little messy.

Speaker 1 (01:12:42):
How you know what, Bro, I like you. I'm in
your house, though.

Speaker 3 (01:12:49):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:12:49):
I've never dated a client. I know because you come
off as professional. You are very professional.

Speaker 1 (01:12:55):
That's what you are.

Speaker 3 (01:12:56):
You are.

Speaker 1 (01:12:56):
You're a very professional.

Speaker 2 (01:12:57):
So a guy that wanted to date you, he's not
gonna come off like I want to date you.

Speaker 1 (01:13:02):
Who's gonna buy the house? Keep going with them?

Speaker 2 (01:13:03):
You're like, damn this nice lady man so many time
I really like her, but she don't think she feeling me.

Speaker 3 (01:13:10):
That's true. I mean, even speaking facts.

Speaker 1 (01:13:14):
It's they like we'd be like they be right there.

Speaker 3 (01:13:17):
That's true because there's a lot of guys that have
later on been like, oh, I didn't think you liked me.
I was like, well, you know, I went out with you.
I said Hi, I was nice. I don't know, man,
I was I was nice. I said hi.

Speaker 2 (01:13:33):
So what can a guy say to catch your attention?
Like approach you? Like, what can you say?

Speaker 3 (01:13:39):
Really? Just say hi and ask to take me out.
Just have a small conversation, you know, asking what I do,
where I'm going just depends on where we are.

Speaker 1 (01:13:47):
Okay, let's role play. Okay, Hey, how you doing?

Speaker 3 (01:13:50):
Hey, how are you?

Speaker 1 (01:13:51):
I'm blessed. I just want to tell you beautiful. That's all.

Speaker 3 (01:13:53):
Oh, thank you. You look really great yourself.

Speaker 1 (01:13:56):
Okay, have a good day.

Speaker 3 (01:13:58):
That's it.

Speaker 1 (01:13:58):
That's what I'm saying. Say niggas don't know what to say.
You got nervous right in there.

Speaker 3 (01:14:03):
Like shit, no, but that's when you're supposed to add Okay,
you know I gave you a compliment to you're supposed
to ask for the number or something. I get it,
but I smile.

Speaker 1 (01:14:14):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's all on the language of it.

Speaker 3 (01:14:18):
So now you know I wasn't dry.

Speaker 1 (01:14:21):
Most dudes, I don't know, man, It's like niggas don't
finish it. They waiting. I'm gonna see it again. Me
get nervous.

Speaker 3 (01:14:27):
No, you gotta do it. You gotta shoot a shot
right then.

Speaker 1 (01:14:31):
But how many niggas have you turned down shooting that shot? Though?

Speaker 2 (01:14:34):
Like, because most niggas feel like she was just probably
being nice and saying responding to me, But do she
really like me.

Speaker 1 (01:14:42):
Yeah, it's a dilemma. Man, she just fucked up. But
it's true. It's like she was just being nice as
all being nice.

Speaker 3 (01:14:49):
But see, men are used to being denied, so they
could be Okay, they can get denied all day. They're fine,
they're they're fighters.

Speaker 1 (01:14:57):
Nah, you're right.

Speaker 3 (01:15:01):
But you got to continue to shoot your shot until
you find the person that you really vibe with.

Speaker 1 (01:15:05):
Okay, but what if my shot is being shot in
the middle of a house that you're showing me. I
didn't know this perfume in your ware today, baby is
mesmerizing me. So I don't know that this is the one.
You know what I'm saying, So what how do I
shoot that shot?

Speaker 3 (01:15:21):
You still ask for the number. You gotta go in
and ask for the number.

Speaker 1 (01:15:26):
So that's gonna But I'm your husband, God sent me.
But you don't date.

Speaker 3 (01:15:34):
Clients because that's it could get messy. I just can't
think of all the things that can go wrong with
dating a client, like what, I don't know. I don't know.
I just never thought about it. I just don't think
clients that his That's been my rule.

Speaker 2 (01:15:51):
But you're in your your idea. Guy is a professional
guy with a little edge on right, right, Okay, so
you can buy a house.

Speaker 1 (01:15:58):
Buying a house, I'm i gotta be some type of
profession in my.

Speaker 2 (01:16:01):
Profession right right right, And you see that I got
a little swag about my little edge.

Speaker 1 (01:16:07):
So why do here you turning your husband down because
your rule. You made a rule that you don't date.

Speaker 3 (01:16:17):
That is true if we stay friends after he buys
the house, and then later on down the line he tries.

Speaker 1 (01:16:26):
To shoot his shot, then I'll be on it and
I can't shoot a shot when my shot already been
blocked from the rip the energy you gave me when
I was buying the house, Like you're not interested.

Speaker 2 (01:16:34):
You're interested to selling the house, not interested in me, right,
So I'm never gonna shoot my shot. It's just cool
how you see you when I see I Basically the
nigga feel like she's rejecting me because I've been nice.
I've been so nice to her. She was just professionally
nice to me.

Speaker 3 (01:16:51):
Yeah, but I got to hold some kind of standard
when it comes in business.

Speaker 2 (01:16:54):
You know you're correct, and I'm not telling you change,
please do, but I'm just saying, like when you when
people be like what it they be right in our face.

Speaker 3 (01:17:01):
They do, they do. We're gonna figure it out. I'm
gonna have friends Athletic clubs so we don't get together.
We're gonna have a co ed group called Friends Athletic Club.
We're gonna work out together.

Speaker 2 (01:17:12):
And we're gonna do a Valentine Day. Okay, we'll do
something at Valentine. They maybe what we're trying to do,
like five Iron or something a social moment that people
come out and we're gonna vet them.

Speaker 1 (01:17:23):
I'm gonna vet my friends.

Speaker 3 (01:17:24):
Are You're gonna bring the guys out? Every time we
do it, it's always girls.

Speaker 1 (01:17:29):
I'm gona bet my friends and ring them. They're gonna
be at this What's name? Anyway, I got them coming.

Speaker 3 (01:17:34):
We're about to buy up the whole, the ladies buying
up everything, so I don't know, you be you better
tell them to buy fast. What you mean, were about
to buy all the foursomes all the money.

Speaker 2 (01:17:42):
Can't do that, then you're gonna make it the ladies
ship tell them, tell them to play to them.

Speaker 3 (01:17:47):
We like to do stuff in advance, so we like
to buy our tickets in advance. It's not our fault
that you guys are gonna take so long. They got
commitment issues. Got commitment issues.

Speaker 2 (01:17:57):
Because niggas don't be knowing that they're gonna change their
mind or nothing right, so that most of the time
people signed up the week of right.

Speaker 3 (01:18:03):
So y'all need to avoid these commitment issues and commit
to the thirtieth.

Speaker 2 (01:18:08):
No, I'm gonna tell you J G Tot put like
twenty thirty slots on hole.

Speaker 1 (01:18:14):
So what's next to you, beautiful?

Speaker 3 (01:18:16):
What's next? We have some fundraisers going on, so we're
doing that. Fundraisers for the end of the year are
Ladies Athletic Club gala that will be co ed, So
we would love for you guys to come out with that.

Speaker 1 (01:18:29):
What is it? What is it?

Speaker 3 (01:18:30):
It's gonna be yep dress up where it's going to
be black tie. It's gonna be at the Buckhead Club
on December twelfth, Okay, and we got to play our next.

Speaker 1 (01:18:38):
Hike for sure.

Speaker 2 (01:18:39):
We live, man, We live mountain again. I think that
shit broke a couple of backs.

Speaker 3 (01:18:45):
What are we doing yon the mountain?

Speaker 1 (01:18:46):
Yeah? Yoning them broke a couple backs?

Speaker 3 (01:18:51):
You did?

Speaker 1 (01:18:51):
I was tired they yoning them broke a couple of dudes.
Bat We went out there three times.

Speaker 3 (01:18:55):
We did Amma Colola and our business.

Speaker 2 (01:18:58):
Oh yep, we did Alma Colola. Nah, but I put
you on this date. Okay, I'm gonna tell him you're
a little crazy. Not to talk.

Speaker 3 (01:19:09):
They gonna be on line like, so tell us how
that date went.

Speaker 1 (01:19:13):
No, it's gonna be that guy. I know. If I know,
I know what to do.

Speaker 2 (01:19:17):
Bro, Because dude, the dude that you want is afraid
to approach you, and you're not gonna approach him.

Speaker 3 (01:19:21):
No, I'm not approssure, no guy.

Speaker 2 (01:19:23):
That's what I'm saying. That's the that's what's going on
these days. The dude that women won't them. Nigga feel
like I'm not a person.

Speaker 3 (01:19:31):
To guy, but I feel like the guy. The women
that approach guys that get the softer guy. Like if
you a guy, if a woman approaches, if you're not
a more dominant guy, then because you're not going after
what you want.

Speaker 2 (01:19:43):
Now, not ain't apro you ain't gotta probe me, but
you can you can let me know you want it.

Speaker 3 (01:19:49):
I smiled and did the little wink.

Speaker 1 (01:19:51):
That's it, that's all it take. But what but when
you're doing that though, where you doing that at Whiskey mission.

Speaker 3 (01:20:02):
They're gonna kill me about the after that, which.

Speaker 1 (01:20:06):
It's fine one to them.

Speaker 3 (01:20:09):
But women in that, mother, there'll be a lot of
men in there. Well yeah, let me on the night
you go. I went one time, there'll be a lot
of men in there.

Speaker 1 (01:20:17):
Loaded female.

Speaker 3 (01:20:19):
No, there's been a lot of men in there.

Speaker 1 (01:20:21):
Nah. I appreciate you pulling up man, Happy birthday.

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