Positively Sex! with Lila

Positively Sex! with Lila

Host Lila, Intimacy Specialist & founding member of the premier sex-positive intentional community in New York, explores intimacy of all kinds in this sex-positive talk show on timely, titillating, tender, & taboo topics. Her guests are pro-Dommes, therapists, kink masters, sex coaches, non-monogamous people, and folx on the street with opinions. Positively Sex! celebrates intimacy and our ability to design our own relationships. PS! talks about all those sex things you want to know, but might be hesitant to ask. PS! lays it all out for you. PS! is sex ed, with pleasure. Yes! Yes! Yes!


January 20, 2023 70 min

Hello darlings! This episode is all about The Big O! Climax! Orgasm! Coming! (Or Cumming!) Yes! Yes! Yes!

Many of us crave it. Fantasize about it. Jump through hoops to achieve it. But what, exactly, is it? And perhaps more importantly, how do we experience it?

For this episode, I took to a sidewalk in San Francisco, a festival in Miami, the HoliGay market in Austin, Texas, my own bedroom, and the tables outside the Standard Hotel ...

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Hello darlings! Positively Sex! is on hiatus for two weeks, & here are three ways you can keep engaging, with pleasure! Coming (and coming) back January 19th. MWAH!

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Do you know your relationship orientation? 

Relationship scientist, sex researcher, & NYU professor Dr. Zhana Vrangalova shares some controversial new research on gender identity, discusses sexual orientation, bisexuality, and the third category, & lays out the 5 relationship styles for us.

Knowing your relationship orientation will change your romantic & sexual life forever. I think you’re ready!

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December 23, 2022 44 min

The State of Sex Address is a glance around the world, around the U.S., around my community, and inside myself.Taking stock of what I witness, hear, and feel from the media, pop culture, the government, my community, my friends, & me, I address the best sex of my life, reality TV dating, sex ed on social media, abortion rights, ClubQ, & the death of Jina Mahsa Amini and the revolt of women in Iran.Just like the State of the...

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December 16, 2022 52 min

In this episode, Sexuality Coach Hannah Deindorfer shares something that might change your mind about shame (kink, anyone?), a method of investigating shame with curiosity, and, ultimately, a path to transmuting sexual shame… if that’s what we want to do!

Sex is about relationships. To ourselves, to our lovers, to our partners, and, far too often, to the voices in our heads telling us that what we desire is somehow wrong. That’s pr...

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December 9, 2022 51 min

This week, Indonesia banned sex before marriage. When the new laws go into effect, anyone caught can be jailed — up to a year for sex, 6 months for living together. Including foreigners. The new criminal code also makes it illegal to: renounce religion. Speak out against the state. Or speak ill of the President. Oh, or get an abortion.

Through interviews with four Indonesians hailing from three different islands, this episode explo...

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Colin-Alexa (Callie for short) shares the story of their first time going to a sex club solo, getting cruised by a couple, and being a unicorn for the night: the object of desire.Woven through the telling and our discussion are nuanced, and often surprising, revelations about sex & gender, desire & fetishization, how objectification can feel good (in the right context), femininity & exhibitionism, & the deep vulnera...

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November 28, 2022 62 min

Marcia B., co-founder of Cuddle Party, and Lila discuss desires & fantasies, offers & requests, no’s & negotiations, the difference between boundaries & limits, the crucial question, “Who is this for?” & what makes asking for what you really, really want so. Damn. Vulnerable.

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November 17, 2022 58 min

In this episode, I talk to three heterosexual men, about the hottest thing a man can do for a woman. When I suggest to a friend of mine that she go out with a man, and tell her that he has this, that friend goes “Oooooooo.”

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Hot Takes:

  • Straight men are confused right now.
  • Nipples are nipples. WTF Instagram?!
  • About choking tho.
  • Women can have strong libidos!

    Positively Sex! began as a live, interactive audio show on the social audio app Clubhouse. During our 12 episodes, my Mod Squad (leaders in a Clubhouse room are called Moderators) and I gathered together with our smart, curious, courageous community to break the taboo, and freely discuss...

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    November 4, 2022 52 min

    To quote the Sex Educator Marcia B.: “There are so many cherries to be popped!”

    What if we stopped calling it “losing my virginity”? What, actually, did we lose? And where, in fact, would it have gone? 

    Virginity is a thing of made-up importance instituted in an attempt to sell daughters into marriage for more land, or more cows. The only time someone actually loses their virginity is when it is taken from them against their will.


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    October 28, 2022 63 min

    My dear listener… Welcome to my heart. I am more unvarnished than I have possibly ever been in this conversation, unexpectedly, with a beautiful stranger, who is now a beautiful friend. Chris Thompson also known as @supdaily is an Influencer worthy of the name.

    Our unexpectedly deep conversation was recorded, of all places, at Podcast Movement 2022, at the iHeart Radio booth, fueled by the finest cold brew and the excitement of...

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    October 20, 2022 45 min

    So, you want to be better at sex, eh? GRAND! You have come to the right place, darling. 

    In this episode, I sit down for a one-on-one with Kenneth Play, the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker (according to GQ & Men’s Health). Author of the book “Beyond Satisfied” and creator of the single greatest sex ed resource I have ever encountered (for learning how to please a pussy), the “Pleasure Hacker Pro” course, Kenneth is a force for fema...

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    October 13, 2022 37 min

    Welcome to Positively Sex! Sex Ed, with Pleasure, a sex-positive talk show on timely, titillating, tender, and sometimes taboo themes.

    Most of us were taught — if we were taught anything about sex at all — that sex is about procreation. And so, most of us grew up believing the only real sex is the kind you can make a baby with.

    If babymaking sex is not the definition you want to go by anymore — and it’s certainly not the one I want...

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    September 29, 2022 3 min

    Come here... Let me tease(r) you.. Positively Sex! is Sex Ed, with Pleasure...

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