Doing The Most

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So boring sex is not a red flag to you,
it's a red flat to me. Let us know in
the comments, how you feel.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
Why do you think it's so you said, it's not
a red fla I don't know. I say because I
think I should bring out the beast in you. I
need to bring out that smoky the bear. If I
take off my clothes and you don't be like the.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Friendly, I don't give a fuck and I'm gonna bring
it out of him. You need to act like a
wild animal with rabies when I take off my clothes,
A boar, Yes, a.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
Boar with a hord cook mm hm. Why you keep
such you mean?

Speaker 1 (00:42):
I just I just love you?

Speaker 3 (00:45):
You know you keep me like love. It's because it's passion,
because you see how I.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
Am when I'm around you. This is passion and I'm
not fucking you. This is passion.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
So if a man don't do this about me when
he sees my booty, hoarse, my little big mama, your
arm shade, if you don't see this glory hole and
go bersark, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:31):
What's up? Y'all's your girl lix pe and it's your
girl's ray in.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
The call, and you are to an end to another
episode of Poor Mind.

Speaker 3 (01:39):
Where drunk Mind speaks sober.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no
guests today. You know, every week, this is what they
be waiting on.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
Jap. They love a solo episode.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
I mean I love a solo episode too, because I
feel like we could just be free spirit and let's
have a grand time. So how you doing this week?

Speaker 3 (02:02):
What's up with you?

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Oh my gosh, girl, you know so much is going on,
and I'm just so thankful, blessed, happy with life.

Speaker 3 (02:10):
I'm in like my era.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
Oh so, what I've been doing lately is I've been
watching bar Rescue the Day. Oh, they don't make reality
shows like they used to. The way he used to
tell them a new as.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
Look at that Jack, and that's not coking.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Oh he used to eat him up. Oh he used
to eat him up. We need everybody at that now.

Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yeah, the way he used to You are poor and
you like being poor.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
That's why your bartles is five thousand dollars a month.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah. Oh yeah, that's how I used to talk to him.
But he ain't wrong, though, people do be like eat him.
Let's eat these people up. Tell them the truth. Yeah,
tell them the truth. But these days you can't do that.
If they're gonna say you rude, they're gonna say you nasty. Yeah, yeah,
they hear how you make other people feel.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
I don't like him though, now the holts him because
you know, once I watched.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Something, there's this thing about me.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
Right I watch a movie, I can name the actors.
I can name about at least three or four movies
theyve been. I probably know if they're a NEPO baby,
I know who they daddy, and they't mommy. Is I
just I'm interested in stuff like that. So when I
watch TV, I like to google people and see, like, damn,
what they e been up to?

Speaker 3 (03:26):
Come? Come to find out? He is a Trump supporter,
and I mean he is hard. He is a hard maga.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
He has said a lot of things that were just like, Wow,
you really did never cared about these bars.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
You just made sure your check cleared. You don't have
a passion for the fashion. No, oh, he definitely didn't
have passion for fashions. He used to dress like a
TGI Friday's manager.

Speaker 2 (03:57):
Okay, But can I ask, though, what made made him
such an expert when it came to bars?

Speaker 3 (04:04):
And restaurants.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Did he have a successful bar or a successful restaurants.

Speaker 3 (04:08):
So what it was, Yes he did.

Speaker 1 (04:10):
And he was also like when he started his restaurant
tour career, he started as a bartender and like kind
of moved his way up. And I'm not gonna lie.
This is such a like you know how, like this
is such a stupid thing to say what I'm about
to say, cause you know how like when Niggas was
good at football or basketball in high school, I used

(04:31):
to be like, man, I was cold.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
I could have went to the league.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
But like I mean, sometimes it be true as a
as a bartender, I was really I couldn't make really
good drinks.

Speaker 3 (04:42):
I was.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
And it was like they used to want me to
do stuff because Fridays, teacher, on Fridays, they're like.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
Known for their bar competitions and all that stuff, and
they used to want me to participate.

Speaker 1 (04:53):
But I was just like not that. I wasn't interested.
During this time. I wanted to pop pussy. I wanted
to be in.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
The club bottle. Yeah I didn't.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
I didn't care about making a drink and learning and
this and that. So I say all that to say,
I see how when you have a passion for something
and you can move up and really because they know,
they know, and you can make a lot of money
like bartender. Like for for example, ty Ty has a
passion for liquor, not like my passion.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
My passion is like I'm like to drink, I'm a
drunk from Hunger Games. Yeah that's me. I'm Lexmitch. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
I think that you do have to have a passion
for things to become successful with it. I think that's
why I was never personally a great bartender. Yeah, I
never had a passion for it. I just used to
be trying to make my money and go home.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
And you never let it make you like eat. Never
never let it make me word it.

Speaker 2 (05:58):
I'm but when I started working at Sweet Lounge, Lyn
and our other friend they really used to love bartending. Yes,
so like our other friends to always make it a competition.
And at the end of the night, she would be like,
what's y'all's haves? Like how much did y'all see? How

(06:18):
much did y'all seal? And she would be so excited
about it, and Lyn would be like, oh, I sold
this much. And then I would be like, oh I
sold this much, and she would be like, see, yeah,
I sol way more than y'all. And I'll be like,
so we still making the same amount of money.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
Right, because y'all was like, but that's the difference song.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
But that's what I'm saying. It's like it's the passion thing.
Cause she really used to be excited about that. Like
she would be like, I sold a thousand, I sold
twelve hundred dollars and y'all only sold seven hundred.

Speaker 3 (06:45):
And I used to be like, okay, but I get you.

Speaker 2 (06:49):
Yeah, it's compassion thing, cause when you're passionate about something,
it can just take you to really great heights and
great lengths. So I feel like this is probably the
first thing in my life that I've ever been passionate about.

Speaker 3 (07:00):
I don't I don't think that's true. And I make
the most money for me.

Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, I'll say this, No, what do you What do
you think I was passionate about before?

Speaker 3 (07:07):
Well? Well, I thought you're passionate about us beauty and
mus beauty is fire, thank you.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
But I'm more passionate about Poor Minds, and I think
that's why Poor Minds is more successful than me. I
do think Mews one day will get to that level once,
I pour as much into it as I pour into
Poor Minds.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
But right, right, but right now, I pour a.

Speaker 2 (07:30):
Lot more of my energy into this because I know
this is the main thing, Like poor Minds is going to.

Speaker 3 (07:38):
Be what makes me a millionaire. First, I'm not saying.

Speaker 2 (07:40):
That poor I mean that news won't add aually, but
poor Minds is going to be the thing.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
So I don't know. But do you feel like I'm wrong?
What do you feel like?

Speaker 2 (07:49):
I was passionate about before poor mind and at it.

Speaker 3 (07:54):
That's easy. I don't have to be passionate about no,
But I'm.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
Saying it was just like I think when you're good
at something, that the passion is there and it just
comes naturally.

Speaker 3 (08:03):
I don't care about it, but I don't care about.

Speaker 1 (08:06):
It, right, Okay, But going I want to go back
to what you were talking about with the sales, right,
because that used to be me. We had a screen
and it would show like drink sales. So but for us,
the drink cells did equal money. I mean I used
to clear the motherfuckers out. I would make a drink.

(08:27):
They didn't even realize they was lit, and they done
spent two three hundred dollars in the TGI Fridays until
they're closing out. I mean, I was so good at
getting people drunk. That's how we became friends. Yeah, you
know what I'm saying. So I think for me, it's like,
I'm not gonna lie. I've been passionate about a lot
of things. I have been passionate about a lot of things.

(08:51):
I am just a person way I have. I'm passionate
about everything I do. But I think that's just me
being a Leo and me just being But that doesn't
mean I'm gonna be successful at it. I'm a type
of person I wanna try something and I'm gonna go
hard at it until I realize, you know what, bitch,
let it go, sweetheart, and then I'll move on to

(09:12):
the next thing. You know what I'm saying, Like, that's me.
If I'm gonna do something, I'm gonna go in. I'm
gonna go hard until I can't no more. And I'm like,
you know what, never mind I was.

Speaker 2 (09:24):
I think you'd be passionate about anything. Entertainment, no way.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
European wax Center, same thing sales off the roof wax passes,
and I know it sounds corny, but I used to
sell the fuck out them wax passes. They had to
give me a bonus so big one time. It was
kind of like I could tell the owner was annoyed
with me at one point. He's it was a point

(09:49):
in time he said, Okay, do you want to be
a manager? I said, yeah, that's cool because I need
more money. This is when around the time we started
Poor Minds. He said, but you have to sign a
contract and guarantee you gonna stay here for three years.
I said, no, I'm not, like, I'm not doing that,
like people have always put me in those predicaments. You're
either gonna give me all of you because I need that.

(10:10):
We worked at prime time. How long did our bartend
before they asked me to start doing the books and
being a manager?

Speaker 2 (10:15):
I agree, but I think that to me, that's not
passion though, Like that doesn't mean you were passionate about it.
I just feel like you the type of person like
if you know that you need to do something, you
gonna do what you gotta do, and you want to
excel atdy. I don't think that that's passion because I
don't feel like you ever cared about those positions, Like

(10:35):
you didn't want to be the best wax past seller.

Speaker 3 (10:41):
You didn't want to be the best bar manager. Like
being a bar manager.

Speaker 2 (10:46):
Wasn't even in your scope, Like it wasn't even something
you was thinking about. It was the opportunity that got
presented to you because you were a good bartender, but
it wasn't something that you wanted to do.

Speaker 3 (10:55):
Like when I think of things.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
That people are passionate about, it's something that they can't
live without or something that they see themselves doing, and
like they just have this fire inside of them when
it comes to it. Like I think you have a
passion for making people laugh. I think you have a
passion for I can agree with comedy, you have a
passion for entertaining. I don't think you had a passion

(11:20):
at European WAC Center. Well no, you was just driven, Yeah,
driven because it's like, bitch, you got bills to pay,
and I need to sell these fucking wax passes, like
and so I'm gonna do what I need to do,
and I just so happen to sell away more than
everybody else because I'm hungry because I need this money
and you're.

Speaker 1 (11:37):
A thousand percent right, But I also in the time, though,
I was like, when I get some money, I want
to open a European wax center. So I think what
it is though you're right, I'm not passionate about that.
I'm poet made money. Though I'm passionate about learning things.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
I think.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
I think I like figuring stuff out, and I'm like,
I can do this one because I'm not gonna liket
to you, sister today.

Speaker 3 (12:00):
Do I want to open a Europea wax center.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
No, but I'm gonna open some wax centers just because
the margin is so large. Yeah, wax and waxing multiple people.
That margin is so fucking big. But that's another topic.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
But you're right, You're right. Maybe I think I'm just
a passionate.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
Person about like learning, and I just when I start something,
anything I do, I want to be the best at it.
No matter what I do, I want to be the
best at it, and you not gonna stop me. Like
even with love XP the trajectory that I've done in
this short amount of time, I shock my goddamn self.

(12:39):
But it's because I'm like, I gotta do this, like
I got to, Like I'm gonna show y'all how hard
like I nobody gonna out work me, but I like
to work, if that's if that makes sense, Like I
like to create, and but I agree with you with that.
I think I'm just a creative person. I like to entertain.

Speaker 3 (12:58):
That's what I seen.

Speaker 2 (12:58):
I like took the little about entertaining, like that's what
I think your passion is.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
I don't think it's any of like because the.

Speaker 2 (13:06):
Stuff you was talking about with working at European Wax Center,
that's like selling. Yeah, being a salesperson. I don't think
that's your passion. I think you're passionate about entertaining people,
making people laugh, like you know, giving your gifts to
the world. And in that position, I think it was
more so about like, bitch, rent, dude, bills gotta get paid,

(13:28):
and I'm gonna go hard at this she because I
know that this is gonna get me more money than
my normal amount, like because you had a set amount
of money that she was making hourly. But it's like, Okay,
this is cool, but if I sell these wax passes,
I can maybe make an extra six hundred dollars eight
hundred dollars however, money you used to.

Speaker 3 (13:45):
Hate me when I tell you people do not like bonuses.
They hate giving out that bonus.

Speaker 1 (13:50):
They'd be like, oh, this is an incentive to sell
and make us more money. But once you start making
that money for real, they be like, damn.

Speaker 3 (13:56):
I gotta pay this home. Yeah, I like where my money.

Speaker 1 (14:01):
But I will say I did I enjoyed now the
alcohol aspect, I think, like as far as bartending, Like,
I get why you have created the empire that you
have created, because liquor is interesting.

Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, yeah, that's what I was gonna back interesting. When
did you realize that it was something that you had
a passion for? Cause I've had a lot of friends
who I like my friend Land still to this day,
my best friend, she'd be like, I don't need to,
but bench I would go back and work at a bar.

Speaker 3 (14:28):
She was like, just cause I really enjoyed it.

Speaker 2 (14:30):
Like I feel like some people really enjoy bartending and
they really enjoy like interacting with their customers, they enjoy selling.

Speaker 3 (14:38):
And all of that.

Speaker 2 (14:39):
So when did you realize that you had a passion
for it? Honestly, it was really just me. I think
I had a passion for liquor before I started bartending
for real for real, Like when I first started bartending,
I was just doing like nightclub like I didn't really care.
It was Tennessee and coke or Crowning Coake, whatever, just
going in the cup. It wasn't until I started really
playing with Kraft Cocktail and I got I started at

(15:00):
the James Room, which is like a speakeasy here in Atlanta,
and that's when I really fell in love with like
the specialty cocktails, the flavor pairings, and then fully understanding
what is going in the liquid, how it's.

Speaker 3 (15:13):
Made, and just fully understanding.

Speaker 2 (15:15):
I think also because I had a whole separate career
and insurance before I started bartending, I came in with
a business mindset on like how can I capitalize on this,
what's missing?

Speaker 3 (15:27):
What niche market can I target?

Speaker 2 (15:31):
And that's kind of what helped me build it because
I didn't know I would be like y'all, like I
would just be drinking if I started in my twenties,
and I swear a lot of people, a lot of
bartenders mess up.

Speaker 3 (15:40):
They just be drunk. They be drinking.

Speaker 2 (15:42):
They don't think about the business side of it and
how you can find a niche market and build a
product and build a service and build a business around it.
But I think, really truly that craft cocktail element changed the.

Speaker 3 (15:53):
Game for me.

Speaker 2 (15:54):
And the James Room was like it taught me everything
I give them, they flowers all the time. They taught
me everything that I needed to know about craft cocktails,
the spirits industry, and just how to grow from there.

Speaker 1 (16:05):
Yeah, it's crazy that you say that because I just
went there the other night, and like I said, I
do not I don't know nothing about liquor anymore.

Speaker 3 (16:13):
Like you know, it's like you don't use it, you
lose it or whatever.

Speaker 1 (16:17):
Yeah, but I can tell when I go into a bar,
and I can tell when it's like, Okay, this is
a place that knows like some drinks. And the person
I was with is like a drinker, and it was
like the drink he ordered, like the girl they pulled
up the ladder, they had to climb up to the top, right,
you know.

Speaker 3 (16:37):
What I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (16:37):
But stuff like that is interesting to me, like when people,
especially drinkers. So I was watching what's the thing I
was telling you. I was watching the architectural you know
architectural digests, right, And I was watching Jimmy Butler.

Speaker 3 (16:54):
His house is beautiful, right.

Speaker 1 (16:56):
But The main thing I noticed is like he has
a wine whole like wine run seller, and he was
talking about how he started learning about wines, and he said,
and I think that's what it is. Even with poor
minds and podcasts and we're always chasing something, you will
never know everything about wine.

Speaker 3 (17:13):
Yeah, there's no possible way.

Speaker 1 (17:15):
There's no possible way to figure out the end of
the road with media or with sales because everything changes
so often.

Speaker 3 (17:23):
And I think that's what it is. I think I
have a passion.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
About learning more so, like I love to learn and
figure out what are people gonna like, what are people
going to attach to?

Speaker 3 (17:34):
What tastes good?

Speaker 1 (17:36):
And when I say taste good, that can mean for
food or drink, making people laugh, what you got on
whatever it is? What is the taste that people want
to taste. I think that's what interests me because humans
are so interesting and complex, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (17:52):
No, yeah, I understand.

Speaker 2 (17:53):
I feel like I'm a person who I love to
be knowledgeable on a lot of different topics and just
random things.

Speaker 3 (18:00):
That's why I think I'm.

Speaker 2 (18:00):
Just always reading books and I'm always like reading articles
and I fall I find myself falling down black holes,
like researching the most random shit because I just love
to know fun facts or like random things that I
think most people don't know. Like I just like to
be a student of life. I don't understand people. Like

(18:22):
some people will be like, oh, I haven't read a
book in like six months.

Speaker 1 (18:26):
I'd be like, how wow, not even watch a little documentary.
It was so perfect when Clayton came on that episode,
we started talking about space because I get in my
little things where I just I get consumed. I have
I am, I got consumed with space. Like it's just
be fun to learn things that you never got, things

(18:47):
that will just blow your mind, like learning it Really
it's fun.

Speaker 2 (18:49):
And people who believe in being like a student of
life and like are always constantly trying to learn. You
could tell in conversation people don't even have to tell you.

Speaker 3 (18:59):
That, oh I don't read write right.

Speaker 2 (19:03):
I don't know no baby, we can tell we can
talk about your limited vocabulary, we can tell about your
limited knowledge, like it's obvious, like, and it's interesting to
me because it says a lot about people. Because, to
be honest, I think most people, once they get in
a position in life where they no longer have to

(19:23):
study or research. They don't Like a lot of people,
I think it stops at the highest form of their education.

Speaker 3 (19:30):
Mm, that's true.

Speaker 2 (19:31):
Yeah, It's like once you graduate college, once you graduate
high school, whatever your highest level of education is. Most
people don't really care to still read and study and
find out more about life or find out more about
certain topics, or even if they see something on TV.

Speaker 3 (19:48):
Because a lot of people like to watch TV.

Speaker 2 (19:50):
I never really been an abby TV person, but a
lot of people like to watch TV. Even if you
see something on TV, how do you not want to
dig deeper into the topic and find out more about it?
If it's something that intrigues you know, me too? Something
like wait a minute, me too down a whole rabbit hole.

Speaker 1 (20:07):
I can't watch nothing without me too reading an article
about it.

Speaker 3 (20:10):
Where did this come? I literally got on are we watched? Look?

Speaker 1 (20:16):
That's why I keep talking about Hunger Games? Are we
watched Hunger Games? I was like, Okay, I'm seeing a
lot of people that are in Hunger Games that were
in Game of Thrones, right, So I'm like, okay, well,
who is the crossover? Who are these people behind the scenes?
And it was like a whole article that came up
about the cinematography behind the scenes. I'm like, oh, what
is cinematography? And what do they do on It's just

(20:37):
so much. It's always something to read about. If you
want to be I don't care what it is you're
doing TikTok dancing, it don't matter. You have to research
and read about something that somebody is doing in that
field to figure out what is it?

Speaker 3 (20:54):
Because it's always something. What is it?

Speaker 1 (20:56):
Why are people so intrigued with Hunger Games ten fifteen
years later? Why am I still watching Hunger Games right now?
Why are people still talking about Game of Thrones right now?
It's just like any in anything, Like what's her name?
Anastasia Beverly Hills. We talking about beauty. She did one
of them little interviews on TikTok the other day and
they were talking about it and she was just talking

(21:17):
about how she became popular and she was like, I
took advantage of social media and going viral. She was
like one of the first makeup brands that were doing
like to Get Ready with Me things and all the
lip matching kits and things like that, and it was like,
like you said, you find a need for what people
want to see, give it to them. Yeah, give the

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people what they need. Stop trying to do all the
extra stuff. Give the people what they came hip fa Yeah.

Speaker 3 (21:45):
I just love to ask people.

Speaker 2 (21:47):
One of my favorite things to do when our people
is to be like, what's the last like do be reading?

Speaker 3 (21:51):
Do you read books? And then the people will be like, oh, yeah,
for sure, what's the last thing you read?

Speaker 2 (21:57):
And whenever people tell me something like the Secret forty
eight Laws of Power, beat you don't read, you know
the last time I held it, because that's like typical,
like that's people's favorite shit to say.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
If you said that's the last book he read, I
already be knowing the last time you be reading? For real.

Speaker 1 (22:13):
I had that book in my haird you was on
Twitter or TikTok when it was when I was posing
in my h I had a Halloween costame on and
my ass was out, and I had The forty eighth Power,
the foty eight Loss of Power in my hair and
I was posing.

Speaker 3 (22:25):
With it you know what I do. And everybody was like,
I had at my house and everybody.

Speaker 1 (22:31):
Was like, you know, you know, it's a bad bitch,
But she got that book because that's what the bad
bitches like to say.

Speaker 2 (22:36):
For no, literally, that's people's favorite thing to say. Forty
eight Laws of Power, The Secret. I'm trying to think
of another one. Oh my god, what's that book about money?

Speaker 3 (22:48):
Rich Dad, Poor Dad? Rich Dad, Poor Dad.

Speaker 2 (22:52):
It's another one about money too, my god, Oh my god,
it's called let me.

Speaker 3 (22:56):
See if I can find it real quick. How many
books do you think and grow rich? Thinking? Oh?

Speaker 1 (23:02):
They love thinking. I remember I used to date this
guy and call me.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
How many do I read a year? I mean, I
try to read a book of money.

Speaker 3 (23:10):
That's good. I try. I tried, But this year I've
been kind.

Speaker 2 (23:14):
Of slacking a little bit, so I've only read like
seven books.

Speaker 3 (23:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
It's crazy because I remember I was dating this guy.
He was like, oh, yeah, I'm reading this book called
Thinking Girl Rich. I was like, yeah, I got me
like when you were younger, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:29):
Like I was in college. You know you you know
how I get down.

Speaker 1 (23:33):
You think you got a niggahood and let me tell
you that that nigga to not think and gross shit,
that's what he was reading thinking, gross shit, that's what
the fuck he was reading.

Speaker 3 (23:42):
God damn it. But you know what I'm saying. I
think God go ahead.

Speaker 2 (23:47):
No, I was just gonna say I used to be
an avid Like I don't know, maybe it's an Earth
sign thing, but I think we're just always on a
constant quist for like growth and knowledge and just wanting
to be better. So I used to be an avid
self help book reader, like I will always be reading
self help books. And my best friend, she is Sagittarius,

(24:07):
and she would just always be like, b should you
ever read for leisure? And I was like, sometimes like
every book, yes, fi five, fiction, mystery, you know, just
any of those things. And she would just be like,
do you ever read for because she reads a lot
of books too, but like she reads a lot of
leisure books, she'd be like, witch, you need to read
for fun, like everything don't got to be to help

(24:30):
you to grow and stuff. So this year I've been
trying to get more in today and I just finished
reading this book called The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo.

Speaker 3 (24:38):
It's a really good book.

Speaker 1 (24:39):
You know what you and my sisternity to be on
text because she didn't put me on some good ass books.

Speaker 3 (24:44):
It's really good.

Speaker 2 (24:44):
And I'm about to start reading The Housemaid I don't
know if y'all heard of it, but she was telling me.
Linn was telling me The Housemaid is like a really
good series, and it's like about maybe four or five
books that you I love a series.

Speaker 1 (24:57):
That's how I got into Hunger Games. Was like, I
read the book, and I like series. I like stuff
like that. But I think that was my problem when
I first started, kind of like trying to read again,
Like I was that little kid that read the Harry
Potter books. A little weird though, then I was like,
I got to read a self If you're not reading
a self health book, then you were. So I'm like,
you know what, I don't enjoy this. I like to

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drift away.

Speaker 3 (25:21):
I romance. Romance. Yeah, Nicholas Sparks.

Speaker 1 (25:25):
I don't give a fuck with nobody said he gonna write.
He gonna write it down and tell you a good
story till this day, y'all know Nicholas Sparks from a
Walk to Remember, But he still be writing and still
be having good books. So I'm like, yeah, read a
little fantasy novel.

Speaker 3 (25:40):
You know what I'm saying. I don't see it.

Speaker 2 (25:43):
I used to thank you. I used to really like
Zame book too. That was my first thing.

Speaker 3 (25:49):
It's time to get franky sometime.

Speaker 2 (25:51):
That was my first introduction to books. Well, I actually
that was my first introduction to like just.

Speaker 3 (25:56):
Really reading books for.

Speaker 2 (25:59):
Leisure, because I feel like prior to that, I was
just reading stuff that was for school, you know that
we had to read, like books that they told us
to read.

Speaker 3 (26:07):
For like essays and projects and all of that stuff.

Speaker 2 (26:10):
Zane was really like some of the first books that
I was reading just because Beach wanted to read. And
I was like, a life gonna be like when I
get to my twenties and it was the fuck night.

Speaker 3 (26:23):
Hell hell it was it was night. Yeah, absolutely night.
But yeah.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
Like so just thinking back on that, reading for leisure
is really fun and I think a lot of a
lot more people should do.

Speaker 1 (26:38):
Eat for sure, I am with you on that, because,
like I said, i'd be the some of now I
will say some of the books I was, I like,
sometimes like people will.

Speaker 3 (26:53):
I can go to say seeing no book, No, But
for real, reading will take you.

Speaker 2 (27:04):
They used to say that when we were younger, and
it was so fucking corny, I'm telling you, but it
really will take you to a whole nother dimentsion and
take you places that you never.

Speaker 4 (27:13):
Thought you take me.

Speaker 3 (27:19):
Yeah, no, I definitely agree with you.

Speaker 1 (27:21):
I'm more of a like I said, I like fantasy books.
I like books that but that's why it's the type
of movies I like to I like to read ship
that this would never.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
Dystopian books like, don't get me started.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
Like, I'm gonna send you some books, but you ain't
gonna like, yeah, you're gonna be like hold on licks
because I like, I take it a little too far
with my dying ship, but it gets interesting what you
get in.

Speaker 3 (27:49):
I mean to be a dy so bring it on. Yeah,
I mean, I love to be honest.

Speaker 2 (27:54):
I love all types of books, like I love all
types of genres.

Speaker 3 (27:57):
If it's a good read already yeah, okay, okay, no,
we're talking.

Speaker 1 (28:02):
Yeah, okay, let's get into these topics because you know
one thing about it.

Speaker 3 (28:06):
We're gonna yeah, yes, we hie, Oh go ahead, go ahead.
Well that's all I was gonna say, ty, what were we
drinking today? Okay?

Speaker 2 (28:12):
I kind of like where we were going with the topics,
So I changed the name. This one we're gonna call
Student of Life.

Speaker 3 (28:18):
Oh I like that. So it's a little grounded. It
has some fruit in here.

Speaker 2 (28:24):
We have some pomegranate juice, any spirit of choice that
you prefer pomegranate juice. We have some blood orange syrup.
We have a little bit of lemon juice. I muddled
some fresh strawberries and some fresh sage in there. So
we're saging away all of the negative energy. As we
are in Q four, we're in in a year on
a bang and then any spirit of choice. Lex has

(28:44):
Svadka Droya has herst topped off with some prosecco, and
then we garnished it with a fresh strawberry slice and
a sage leaf.

Speaker 3 (28:53):
So this is the student of life. Yeah, girl, thank you.

Speaker 1 (28:58):
Took me to a restaurant and they had put some
of that sage in a brown butt on top for voly.

Speaker 3 (29:04):
I said, good, googlely moogally, yep, oh yep, oh, yep,
it's good. Okay.

Speaker 2 (29:15):
I still haven't been to the one on the belt
Line because when I first tried to go, it was
the weekend that they had just opened and they didn't
have no restaurant, I mean, no reservation. I was like,
so I have, but yeah, I love ye that past
apasta shifts kids every time.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
Mmm, so go ahead? What we got first? Up? For
a topic? Number one?

Speaker 2 (29:36):
I really wanted to talk about can your homegirl be
too flirty with?

Speaker 3 (29:41):
I mean, I would hope the funk nine.

Speaker 1 (29:45):
But you know what, I have never been in this situation,
but I've had friends who have told me stories about it,
and for me, I don't understand it because when half
the time when my homegirl we talking about her nigga,
I'll be like, girl, how are you even dealing with this?
Ain't nothing about your man that I want to give

(30:06):
flirty too? So, but I do think that it can happen.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
But I think it's deeper than that, right, I think
it's more so it's like, but do you have a
homegirl that kind of won't your life a little bit?

Speaker 3 (30:16):
Or is she your friend? Or she's like?

Speaker 1 (30:17):
I want to be you. I want to be in
your shoes. I want to do the things you do.
I want to live everything.

Speaker 3 (30:22):
How you living? You got this high? Razan want it?

Speaker 1 (30:24):
You gotta you gotta fucking Bentlet truck. I want that
Bentlet truck?

Speaker 3 (30:28):
You got that Chanelle? I want it? So sometimes it's
more so not even about the man. It may be
about you.

Speaker 1 (30:33):
So I think you can have a homegirl that's too
farty with your man, But I think if she's too
farty with your man, it's deeper.

Speaker 3 (30:39):
Issues going on.

Speaker 1 (30:40):
I ain't never seen my homegirl be with a man
that she's dating in love with. They they on a
date and maybe I'm third wheelling. I'm like, let me
join in, and I'm grabbing your leg a bro huh.

Speaker 3 (30:56):
And when I be like this, I'll be like, what's up?

Speaker 1 (30:57):
Bro?

Speaker 3 (30:59):
Yeah, that's the kind of energy.

Speaker 1 (31:01):
We may chat it up, chop it up, but I
give homegirl energy anyway. I'm not a flirty person naturally anyway.
So uh yeah, I think you can be too flirty
with your homegirls, man, but I think it has underlying issues.

Speaker 2 (31:19):
Yeah, I just think you have to like read the room.
I ain't never really had a situation necessarily where I
felt like somebody was like being flirty with my men.

Speaker 3 (31:30):
Now.

Speaker 2 (31:30):
I have had dudes that I dated tell me that
like they felt like my friend was flirting with them,
or they felt like somebody that I was close to
was like trying to get at them. But I've never
seen it myself. Yeah, I've never seen it. Myself because
I don't even know how I would react to that.
Cause to me, to do that in front of your friend,
you gotta be such a bald ass bitch to like

(31:54):
be being flirtationous with your friend man while she's sitting there, Like, bitch,
do you want to it's smacked the fuck is wrong?

Speaker 3 (32:03):
Like no, for real?

Speaker 2 (32:04):
Do like be true? You're trying to get smacked down?
You'll get seen this bitch, are you okay? Like I
don't understand so I've never had that happen to me,
but I do think that when it does happen, I
agree with Lis, I think it'd be more so.

Speaker 3 (32:23):
People be having monitoring spirits.

Speaker 1 (32:25):
Talk about that. That's what I want you to talk about.
I need you to talk about it, and I need
you to talk about it right now.

Speaker 2 (32:33):
People be having monitoring spirits, like people be wanting what
you have. But I feel like you can always tell
that shit like if you ever be friends with somebody
in it, every time you do something or you get something,
all of a sudden, they become obsessed with doing it
or yet me or wanting get It's like as soon
as you get it now, they gotta get it as
soon as you get it, now they asking a nigga

(32:53):
for it. I feel like that be like monitoring spirits,
or they be people who want to be like you
and live your life, and it'd be obvious. So then
if they try to like talk to your man, is
that really surprising because they want everything else you got.
Why wouldn't they want a nigga, especially if it looked
like he treated you well? So I don't know, I

(33:16):
don't I think that shit be weird. I just think
people who have that type of energy are weird period,
because God put us all on this earth to be ourselves,
and the best thing that you could do is to
be you and show up as you, and you won't
get the type of person that you want, really and
truly too. It just never work out in people favor,

(33:37):
Like I have a cousin, thank you sah. I have
a cousin who like she had a friend who ended
up fucking him in and like stole him in. But
I just think even if a bitch want what you have,
it never ended up working out that way for them
because you not me, You're not me, You not mean

(33:58):
what he was doing for me and a person that
he was to me that doesn't necessarily mean just because
he was that person to me, that he would be
that person to you, because people get different versions of.

Speaker 3 (34:08):
People all the time.

Speaker 2 (34:10):
So I just feel like, yeah, it's weird, but you
could definitely be too flirty. I feel like we just
be knowing what's overstepping boundaries. They be knowing what's overstepping boundaries,
like I'm the type of person. And maybe for some
people this might even be too overboard, because I know
some women they feel like your friend, having your man

(34:31):
number whatever is off limits.

Speaker 3 (34:33):
I don't be feeling that way cause I just to me,
it's not even like a being naive thing.

Speaker 2 (34:41):
I just truly feel like I like to I don't
like to put restraints on people. Yeah, I like to
give people the freedom to do and be exactly who
the fuck you gonna be.

Speaker 3 (34:52):
And then if you do some shit to disappoint me.

Speaker 2 (34:56):
Then let me remove you from my life and let
me show like you've showed me who you are. I
don't feel like I could put you in a position
to do some whole sheep to me or to betray me,
unless that shit was already the betrayal was already in you,
And I really be feeling like, if I'm dating a nigga,
you not even gonna try me like that, And I
can't wait. But so far I have been lucky enough

(35:20):
to like deal with me and who They never even
tried to fuck with my friends.

Speaker 3 (35:27):
I or their advances.

Speaker 2 (35:29):
Shall I say that they told me like, oh, this
person tried to talk to me.

Speaker 3 (35:33):
They wouldn't fucking that they came and talked me.

Speaker 2 (35:36):
I mean that I'm laughing because this recently came up
with me and my boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (35:42):
And the girl isn't my close friend.

Speaker 2 (35:44):
We are colleagues acquaintances in the industry, if you will.
But I found out that she gave him her phone number,
and I kissed me off. Yeah, more so because you know,
I introduced him as my nigga.

Speaker 3 (35:56):
So why did you we not?

Speaker 2 (35:58):
Again, we're not close enough for you to have his
number if it was like my very close friends, and yeah,
we've traveled together and all this type of thing. That's
one thing, But why did you feel the need to
give him your number? And I didn't know about it
and I didn't initiate that, so that.

Speaker 3 (36:15):
Made me feel weak. But I trust him because he
don't tell me anyway. Every time.

Speaker 2 (36:20):
You know what I mean, and that's why, and you're
in my wrong tide because then the situation like that,
I agree, I feel like.

Speaker 3 (36:28):
That's a little weird.

Speaker 2 (36:30):
It's different if I know, but if you're doing it
in a roundabout way, then that's kind of weird. And
I'm asking, like, so when did this, Like I dug
deep into it. I'm like, I know, I was there,
Like I was in the same place, I put money
in your pocket, all of these So it's just weird
to me. But my close friends, I agree with you. Yeah,
I wouldn't have a problem, but it's to your point.

(36:52):
Some of these people that are eye and what you got,
wanting what you got and will do what they think
they need to do to get to your spot, but
you can't.

Speaker 1 (37:00):
You me, First of all, I think that's weird because girl,
it's like if you know men, if she knew, you know,
he's gonna go tell you, why would you even do that? Second,
but a lot I have won't tell if their intention
in the Yeah, if their intention is not pure, if

(37:22):
their inteen is not pure and they want to try
to see what's with that, they're not gonna tell you.
I guess I just feel like the way my friends
are like, we're not just I'm not saying like all
my friends like we're just all the but I feel
like we solid women. Yeah, so when my friends are
dealing with men for the I can't say they be
solid niggas, but it's just and none of that goes on.

(37:44):
But let me tell a story. Let me tell a
story about how this happened to me. And it happened
to me with a close friend, and it was bad.
I shared this on Poor Minds a long time ago,
but it's I'm to revisit it, bitch y'all, donet spark up,
and I'm gonna keep it short and sweet. I had
this friend and we were very, very close. We used
to work at the bar together, we made money together.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
It was everything.

Speaker 1 (38:06):
This was my girl, right And this is around the
time I was young. We started dating Bdb's for the
first time, but I started working in the club first.
So I started dating at Bdb's first, and I'm starting
to get little things and you know, she noticing an
x y Z and I. This was when I first

(38:27):
moved to Atlanta. Me and her was still cool. I
first moved to Atlanta, it was just this, and I
don't give a fuck cause I know he watched the
show a bullshit ass nigga that I was dating, and
he bought me like some red bottoms, and he used
to send me money.

Speaker 3 (38:40):
He bought my furniture from my apartment. Cool because he
had it at the time, and we cool.

Speaker 1 (38:46):
Mind you like, I'm telling her about him, I'm sending
her pictures of me and him and stuff.

Speaker 3 (38:52):
Something happened.

Speaker 1 (38:53):
I mean, y'all know he was well, not y'all know,
but he was a Nigerian d y'all know how that
gets down.

Speaker 3 (38:58):
So I got my feelings hurt, stopped talking.

Speaker 1 (39:01):
Next thing I know, baby, I'll look up and they
ain't them all the use together, not fucking La, not
New York.

Speaker 3 (39:07):
They went on a.

Speaker 1 (39:08):
Whole trip together, a whole fucking trip. And she was like, oh,
I thought y'all would I didn't know.

Speaker 3 (39:15):
I didn't. I remember that got got got go. I
remember that.

Speaker 2 (39:22):
But also they all had weird energy from day one,
she did.

Speaker 3 (39:26):
And I tell you that long way, and my other
homegirl told me that too, and I, you know, I
just one thing about it, I see, I do. I
just feel like I.

Speaker 2 (39:36):
Really have intuition about people and like her energy, but
just because too, I'm.

Speaker 3 (39:41):
Such a nice person.

Speaker 2 (39:42):
So sometimes I feel like when people don't be liking
me for no reason other than to say, oh, I
think she thinks she all that?

Speaker 3 (39:49):
No, you think all that? Yeah, like you haven't. You
haven't even gotten a chance to know me.

Speaker 2 (39:54):
And like this particular friend that she had, she just
had like this issue with me, but I he didn't
have no issue with her, and I didn't even know
her like this. So something about her energy automatically was
just off. And it would be other certain things that
Lex will tell me that I won't get into, like
you know, on camera, but it would be other stuff
that you would tell me about her. I'm just like,
something about her energy is off. So then when that

(40:17):
situation happened, I'm just like on branding a jealous bitch.
She's a weirdo.

Speaker 1 (40:23):
But also, but let me talk about him too, because
you not free either, right, because yeah, but let me
say about it.

Speaker 3 (40:30):
I feel like your homegirl is the one owe you.
But let me tell you a story about him.

Speaker 1 (40:35):
You one hundred percent right, But mind you, me and
him had stopped sucking around, and this was still before
he had took her on the trip. Mind you, I'm like,
I ain't got no money. I told you, ILL moved
at Lanta with three dollars. I really don't have nothing.
But I liked him. I put this on everything.

Speaker 3 (40:50):
I love. It was his birthday.

Speaker 2 (40:53):
I have no money, I have nothing, so I was like, oh,
let me send him just like a basket of goodies.
It was like a little basket of goodies, y'all.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
That basket was like fifty dollars and I had like
eighty dollars on my account, and I was like, let
me just because I'm being thoughtful when I tell you.
This man got on Twitter and was like, how would
y'all feel if y'all bought a babe red bottoms? Y'all
know that's how they talk. Bought a babe red bottoms
and y'all.

Speaker 3 (41:19):
He was British.

Speaker 1 (41:21):
Nigeria's talk like that if I bought a babe with
some red bottoms and else a baby but her well
you know, he's his parents are traditional, not like but anyways,
so he's like, how would y'all feel if y'all got

(41:43):
this girl all this stuff and all she sends you
is a basket and I was like, damn, that's fucked
up because that was my last and I liked you.
But it's cool only to fast forward. You lost everything
because she was a scamming ass nigga. You went to jail,
you lost everything, and it's no shit, ain't no tea.
But I will never forget you. Don't forget people how
they treated you when you was at the bottom, because

(42:05):
it's people out here that it's like I did stuff
for their birthday and it wasn't a lot, it wasn't much,
or I'm just like, hey, I show up.

Speaker 3 (42:11):
This is all I got now, Like I don't give
a fuck. Let God fuck with you.

Speaker 1 (42:15):
And you decided to get on social media because you
felt like you was that nigga at the time. And
I'm not gonna say how hard life got for him,
because it got real bad, worse than jail girl. All oh,
it got bad, it got real bad. I'm with him,
no okay now, And you want to know how bad

(42:36):
life got for hers?

Speaker 3 (42:37):
Took a bad drug and she cuckoo. She can't even
walk straight. I don't know where she at. Then.

Speaker 1 (42:42):
Oh, I'm telling you, you don't get to live your
life and do things and treat people like that. I'm
not saying that karma happened because of me, but the
way she was living her life, you did other people
wrong that had nothing to do with me.

Speaker 3 (42:54):
I was gonna say, if her energy was yeah, I
ain't I blessed. I'm blessed.

Speaker 1 (42:59):
I had this conversation with somebody asked that. I said, hey,
you know what you need to get your shit together?

Speaker 3 (43:05):
I'm blessed. I said.

Speaker 1 (43:06):
My friends love me. I get to go to work
and do this and talk to my bitch and yeah,
you know, we get paid for a walk through and
all we do is this, but that's because we live.

Speaker 3 (43:21):
We're good people, were good to people.

Speaker 1 (43:24):
I don't ever look at somebody and be like, how
can I get that?

Speaker 3 (43:29):
What's they called it? Destiny swapping? Is that it work?
That's yes, that's the term. Yes, I didn't. It's called
destiny swapping. And they will really try to do that. Now.

Speaker 1 (43:38):
I'm not gonna talk about who the people that they
really said did it, and some people they said succeeded.

Speaker 3 (43:44):
I think people can succeed.

Speaker 5 (43:48):
It.

Speaker 2 (43:48):
He's deep for me with stuff like that, because I
feel like people can succeed with that.

Speaker 3 (43:54):
Only with people who.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
Are not strong in their faith and spirituality. Like, if
you're trying to it's to swap with somebody who don't
already have like a good relationship with God and they
not rooted in their own faith, in their own beliefs,
then yeah, you could probably succeed.

Speaker 3 (44:11):
But I feel like somebody who is really on they
walk really on their.

Speaker 2 (44:15):
Path, whose life is really annointed, and they locks he
in with Jesus who they are, they know who they are,
they know where they're going, I don't think that can succeed.
That's the same way I feel about voodoo and stuff.

Speaker 3 (44:29):
Yeah, no, I'm listening. I was making that face.

Speaker 2 (44:33):
Yeah, I just I feel like it's I know all
of those things are like a real thing, and I
don't doubt it. I don't doubt black magic or any
of that stuff. But I just feel like it work
on people who not locked in, who have some type
of doubt in them when it comes to God.

Speaker 3 (44:49):
Because the God I serve, if he's.

Speaker 2 (44:50):
Just not gonna let even come in my path or
happen to me, it don't matter.

Speaker 3 (44:55):
Who praying against me. He's stronger than all of that
one without Now you know that you know I'm agreeing, but.

Speaker 2 (45:02):
I do think it works. I do think it work.
Did I tell the.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
The Yeah yeah.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
If y'all don't know a quick story, my sister used
to get those be real bad. My family, all my
family from Louisiana. One of my great aunts rected peace
to my aunt. Name is she up there with my
kids right now. One of her friends used to do hoodoo,
not voodoo hoodoo, and my sister, whodoo is.

Speaker 3 (45:33):
You know what? Let me not say it wrong.

Speaker 1 (45:36):
Hodoo is the more like the American slaves, right, I
don't want to I don't if that's the more.

Speaker 3 (45:44):
Uh, if that's.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
The proper term, I don't want to say like American because.

Speaker 3 (45:48):
And voodoo voodoo, I'm gonna say both of them.

Speaker 2 (45:52):
Is an organized religion with established beliefs, rituals, and deities
originating from West African boden additions.

Speaker 3 (46:00):
Okay, and.

Speaker 2 (46:05):
Syncritized syncretized syncretized with Catholicism. Hodoo is a separate folk
magic system focused on practical outcomes using herbs, roots, and
other natural objects for purposes like healing, protection, and luck.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
Okay, Okay, so that's what it was. Then I got
her completely wrong. So she it was.

Speaker 1 (46:24):
It was a hoodoo thing because that's what it was,
cause she had nosebleeds.

Speaker 3 (46:28):
But my mama didn't like that shit. They're like, none
of that shit.

Speaker 1 (46:31):
But my sister, I mean, she couldn't even walk outside
her nosebleeds and child. My mama came. We were staying
at my aunty house. Her friend came over. That lady
was burying something, plucked something out. My sister head did
all this stuff, burying it under the tree. My mama
walked in and caught her doing something.

Speaker 3 (46:49):
Her. My mom got on a whole fist fight. But
guess what she ain never had to this day because
she put it on it. I don't know what she
did to my sisters she had her nose ain't never.
But do y'all.

Speaker 2 (47:01):
Feel like that with astrology and stuff, Like do you
feel like you could be like super rooted in your
faith in like believing astrology and stuff.

Speaker 3 (47:08):
Because I don't know. When I think about faith in God,
I look.

Speaker 2 (47:16):
At ancestors and like astrology separate.

Speaker 3 (47:21):
It's separate things, okay, But I feel like I have.

Speaker 2 (47:24):
Really strong ancestors who fight for me, But I don't
necessarily think that they have anything to do with like
gud mmm.

Speaker 3 (47:32):
I think it does make fast.

Speaker 1 (47:35):
But I think somehow all of this stuff ties together,
but we're not gonna find out until we go to
the afterlife. Astrology is connected, all that stuff is connected,
but we don't know how, and we will never know
until we get to the other side. Because I'm telling you,
my mom was not a religious woman at all. But
you cannot sit here and tell me that she has

(47:57):
not had something in her of my life of how
what it is right now, there's no way, There is
no way, like you will never convince me of the
dreams that I have are so vivid you cannot tell me.

Speaker 3 (48:10):
So I know it's all connected.

Speaker 1 (48:12):
I just don't know how. I don't try to understand it,
and I don't try to explain it. All I do
is praise God and my my business because that's all
I got for y'all. I don't like to get too deep, yep,
because if I get too deep them kids, because they
got something to say till.

Speaker 2 (48:26):
They gonna be up there waiting, just waiting on a moment.
But no real quick before we move on to the
next topic.

Speaker 3 (48:34):
OK, Do y'all feel like.

Speaker 2 (48:37):
It's a difference between intuition and insecurity, Like you can
kind of have an intuition that oh, like I feel
like my friend being weird, she's trying to fuck with
my negro.

Speaker 3 (48:47):
I feel like, I don't know, I don't trust him
around her.

Speaker 2 (48:49):
He trying to do some sneaky sheet or some shit
that's making me feel some type of way. Or is
it just you being insecure? Like where do we draw
the line and how do you.

Speaker 3 (48:59):
Know what's the difference between the two.

Speaker 2 (49:02):
I think the actions make you insecure. Yeah, Like you
can have the intuition, but if you see your friend
touching your nigga like you said they were, now you're
making me feel insecure about this situation, you know what
I mean. But you can have a spirit of discernment
and be like, like you said, your spirit your energy
is off.

Speaker 3 (49:20):
I don't need you in my orbit.

Speaker 2 (49:22):
I'm not liking what's coming out of you, what you're
putting around me. Like, you can have that feeling, but
I think it's the action that they're putting out there
that makes it become an insecurity.

Speaker 1 (49:32):
And I think also it goes into who you are
as a woman and also who you're dating. I think
sometimes it do be girls that be doing a lot,
like girl, calm down, relax, But also you know the
person you're dating. So I think it is a fine
line between like this is just hard cutting up versus

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is he gonna go?

Speaker 3 (49:55):
So I think it's a.

Speaker 1 (49:57):
Sometimes it's your intuition, but sometimes it is security.

Speaker 3 (50:00):
It just depends. Yeah, I think you.

Speaker 2 (50:02):
I don't even want to be with a nigga that
I'm wondering if he gonna go.

Speaker 3 (50:06):
I like, nigga, I know, I know you're not going.

Speaker 1 (50:09):
I know you're not going nowhere, But I also don't
want to be friends with somebody.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
It's the both. I don't want either around me. I
don't that's fair. I definitely don't want either around me.

Speaker 2 (50:18):
But I don't know, like I'm just a little I
don't care about a nigga looking I don't care about
a nigga's looking cool.

Speaker 1 (50:25):
But not but my friends. I think that's a little
like I don't want a nigga around me. Who I Okay,
you can look whatever, cool whatever, it's cool with you.
But I also don't want a friend that's doing the
most either. Like I said, I think it's just a
respect thing. I don't want a friend that's doing the most,
And I don't want a nigga who makes me feel
like he gonna go. I just think, can we be
normal and go out, like can we just drink and talk?

Speaker 3 (50:47):
Like is everybody okay?

Speaker 2 (50:50):
I be feeling like it's the difference stuff between somebody
who do the most in general and somebody who do
the most to get attention from your nigga yeah, or
a nigga yeah, Cause some people naturally just fucking do
the most no matter what, like, no matter what type
of setting they in, no matter who they around, Like, oh,
you just know, she's just gonna do the most whatever.

(51:11):
It's not personally you not doing this cause you around
my nigga saying, versus somebody who is like you're doing
it to garner the attention of this particular person.

Speaker 3 (51:24):
You're cooking, you're cooking.

Speaker 2 (51:25):
It's a difference, And I feel like that's what you
have to pay attention to. Cause if my friend naturally
do the most, if she always twerking, if she always loud,
if she always being extra, and is she doing it
around my nigga and he looking, I don't give a
FuG cause you always do the most. And of course
he's a man, he's gonna look right. But if you

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only start doing it when the niggas is around suspicions,
or more particularly when my nigga is around, then now
it's kind.

Speaker 3 (51:56):
Of like, what is you doing? Hope? No, I agree
with you.

Speaker 1 (52:00):
Let us know what y'all think. Now, look we didn't, y'all.
We done got a little chair to y'all.

Speaker 3 (52:04):
So now it's time to get into the big bawl
A bow about bow about bow bow.

Speaker 1 (52:13):
So y'all know, per usual, this segment is brought to
you by her Fantasy Box. Y'all know, I got that
earl on my legs. I lost spending like nothing but pineapples.
It smells so different for me. It's been a long day.
I definitely had to go to the bathroom and refresh.

Speaker 3 (52:29):
So I have to use it everywhere. White oh, because
sometimes you know, you don't stink, You just gotta wipe
it up a little bit. But you ain't trying to
be rank. Give it to him, I know.

Speaker 1 (52:42):
Yeah, So y'all know it's refreshing, p if you want
to balance that pH it's a soothing wash.

Speaker 3 (52:49):
For the vultela bus. I love the vulvus I love
to love the vulvu.

Speaker 1 (52:53):
Too, because you can't just put anything on there, y'all
just be putting anything on there, you know what I'm saying.
And mind you, y'all know the girls on TikTok and Amazon,
they be knowing it's number on on TikTok and Amazon
for a reason.

Speaker 3 (53:04):
Absolutely.

Speaker 2 (53:05):
And I love also that they have so many supplements
as well, Like you can literally take the chlorophyll pills.
Then you also can use the boric acid suppositories in
your a JJ once you get off your period. It's
also good to use them after sex, just to refresh you.

Speaker 1 (53:20):
And make sure everything is balanced. And it's plant based ingredients.
That's what we care about, y'all. Don't want to put
all this look, that's how the ingredients look.

Speaker 3 (53:31):
You can't read it, Yeah, but not with it. Not
with this. It's plant based. It's simple ingredients.

Speaker 1 (53:35):
No artificial fragrance is not all right, It's a wroma
therapy in a bottle child, all right. So moving on,
shout out to her fantasy box for the bad. Why
boring sex might be a red flag? Okay, what counts
as boring sex?

Speaker 3 (53:55):
To me? Boring sex is like it's no effort. It's
no passion.

Speaker 1 (53:58):
You just try to get your nut off off and
you just fucking me because you feel like I got
to we're dating. I've been fucking you for six months.
I've been fucking you for seven months. It's just motion,
same position. It's nothing chining, it's predictable.

Speaker 2 (54:13):
Mmm.

Speaker 1 (54:15):
I'm gonna let you go first, So to you, it's
boring sex a red flag? And should it be a
red flag for women?

Speaker 3 (54:22):
No?

Speaker 2 (54:22):
Mm, because I think some people deep just wago and
some people Kuchi whag too, and y'all get together and
y'all haves s.

Speaker 3 (54:34):
I almost hit you, ain't gonna hit you. It's you've
done it all episode like that.

Speaker 2 (54:41):
Ah, But now for real, like, I don't think that's
a red flag. I just think some people aren't adventury.
It's now what's the red flags? If y'all haven't like
buck wild six and Nanny get boring, then I feel like,
keep you don't want to fuck you no more? And

(55:01):
he probably getting it from somewhere else, or he's just
not interested, he doesn't feel out of love, like it's
something like that going on. If it was real intense
and interesting and extra and y'all was leaving out child fantasies.

Speaker 3 (55:14):
And you was trapped in the closet and things. Okay,
here we go every episode.

Speaker 1 (55:20):
I don't know how that slipped out.

Speaker 3 (55:24):
I don't either, because it didn't have nothing, have nothing
to do. I was thinking about when he was go
ahead shut Have anybody ever found? Has anybody found the address?
The box?

Speaker 2 (55:43):
Because I feel like you should definitely be on his
lease of people like he would love to hear from you.

Speaker 3 (55:47):
I don't have nothing to say to him. You have
a life. No, I don't say you know all of
his greatest here we were alone with you. Okay, we
can see we can see him up. We can see
him a compilation.

Speaker 2 (56:01):
We can see him a compilation video of like all
of your Grady's moments on Poor Minds where you mention
him because he'said at least twenty.

Speaker 3 (56:10):
That is funny. We should definitely do that. No, definitely
not right now.

Speaker 5 (56:16):
It.

Speaker 3 (56:16):
Can I be honest? Can I be honest?

Speaker 1 (56:19):
I don't listen to his music anymore so I think
sometimes when it comes out, it's just like maybe I'm
singing it in my head. It's not funny at all,
because he's where like I don't take his crimes as
a joke.

Speaker 3 (56:30):
I really don't, but I think sometimes I just, you know,
I wish that you could be there. No, let's move on,
let's move on. Coming up. I believe he's a Capricorn,
so we could definitely do that for his birthday. That
would be so sweet of us. No, it wouldn't. He
doesn't deserve anything. He doesn't deserve that time where he

(56:53):
said and how there dwells. Okay, go ahead.

Speaker 2 (57:03):
I may love to r Kelly this week a song
called the Zoo and he's like, I do that in
his ear. I can't wait. So I would love to

(57:24):
be putting that tonight.

Speaker 3 (57:26):
Bother a buttered roll.

Speaker 2 (57:28):
Oh that was okay. I'm not gonna lie, won't lie.
We must, we must all be stopped. However, though that
may or may not have came on my play least,
I don't two weeks ago.

Speaker 3 (57:42):
Just I don't. And when he said you were in
the kitchen cooking meal, cutting up tomatoes, you do, shut up, girl.

Speaker 1 (58:04):
That's such a good song, like breathday too making.

Speaker 3 (58:11):
Oh hush girls, shut up. Hey, hey, everybody calm down.

Speaker 2 (58:16):
We got I'm just saying like, yeah it is and
it was such a good song, and it's just not fair.

Speaker 3 (58:23):
You're more a weirdo.

Speaker 2 (58:25):
It's not fair that he's a weirdo. But it don't
go to his He don't make no money from the streams,
no word. That's how the money go to him, even
though you.

Speaker 3 (58:34):
I did my research, I read where does the money go?
That's a good I didn't know that the victims. The
victim just made that up. That's what I thought. She
think it's funny.

Speaker 4 (58:49):
You just made that up to make you feel better
because you just listen to the ship. She said this
Victims I was in and.

Speaker 3 (59:02):
I was like, I was definitely cooking to that the
other day. I'm so sorry, y'all. Please don't mean no seriously,
all jokes aside, but I would.

Speaker 2 (59:13):
Like for lakes and meet that she be listening to
Trapped in a Closet at home, and then we can
all just move on in peace, because I know you do.

Speaker 3 (59:20):
I know you've been listening to Trapped in close package.
No I don't, I haven't. I'm not kidding, y'all. I'm serious.
I don't listen to him. It really bothers me. It's
so good that beat. Who did that? So nasty. But
let's move on.

Speaker 1 (59:39):
Let's move on. I don't support R Kelly. There's nothing
to have to mean them. I think he is a
peasant and him and the Diddler are right where they
deserve to be. We gets our jokes off.

Speaker 3 (59:51):
Now up like a snake. I mean, this is for
real what I sent you on Instagram? No, oh yes
I did. Do you have your past? Paul? Did you

(01:00:17):
get your shot? They've be like these bitch is not
five minutes talking about Yeah, you're right, it's not all right.
We might cut it, cut this out. We will maybe
not okay, But honestly, this is how I feel about
boring sex. I think I agree with you. If you
have boring sex from the jump. You just don't got

(01:00:39):
good dick. Now you don't got good pussy. I'm not
gonna lie to you.

Speaker 1 (01:00:41):
I ain't had boring sex, damn sin, I was a
teeny tart.

Speaker 3 (01:00:49):
Concerns me though, teeny and how tidy? Oh no, don't
do that's right? Too dark, too dark, to dark? That
was like two thousand okay, but okay.

Speaker 1 (01:01:06):
I was just trying to keep the theme of the joke,
and sometimes I take it too far. But what I'm
saying is I cannot remember if I was.

Speaker 3 (01:01:14):
Like damn, I wouldn't even boring. I think that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:17):
I think that to me, boring sex is a red flag.
I'm not gonna lie because I feel like, do you
see these supple breasts? It should bring out an adventure
in you. It shouldn't make you feel like you want
to do something Cause.

Speaker 3 (01:01:34):
Night bear, I won't.

Speaker 1 (01:01:37):
This ass is you ain't seen something this hot since
you looked at Mount Everest.

Speaker 3 (01:01:43):
Bitch, you better climb this mountain and get to work.
I don't like supple breath. My breasts are supple. My
breasts are supple. That I always say it just sounds
too grown.

Speaker 1 (01:01:56):
I'm grown, though I'm suff I'm supple. You know what
I'm noticing as I get older, like this, he gotta
cup it. I mean he gotta cup it because.

Speaker 3 (01:02:06):
It hang a little bit, It hangs, it hangs, So.

Speaker 1 (01:02:10):
He got a couple and it's supple, and he gotta
he gotta scoop it up and.

Speaker 3 (01:02:19):
Just like that, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:02:21):
He gotta grab me and and my asses wro ton,
Then he gotta squeeze it.

Speaker 3 (01:02:29):
Then he gotta dig them heels in the drug in
the area. Rug.

Speaker 1 (01:02:37):
Yeah, because it's slippery. Excuse me, Yes, we got all everything,
wind snow, sleep, yeah, all the all the elements is
going on right now.

Speaker 3 (01:02:53):
I'm grown and it's finna get.

Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
Hell my.

Speaker 3 (01:02:58):
But I queathed. I bequeathed him. That's the words you.

Speaker 1 (01:03:04):
Mean.

Speaker 3 (01:03:04):
I bequeathed him. I don't care what nobody said. I
know you be gassy. You know what's crazy. I'm not
gonna lie. I think I just it's normal.

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
But I think you know, when you eat something all
the time, My stomach don't feel nothing. I have regular
battle movements like normal person.

Speaker 2 (01:03:23):
So you probably be partening. You don't even know it
if you don't feel it. I do because it'd be
like this, Oh my goodness, there's no structure.

Speaker 3 (01:03:34):
But oh I know that's I know you'd be doing
that because I'm smelty mmm mm hmm. But anyway, let's go.
Let's move on. Let's move on.

Speaker 1 (01:03:47):
Queen, So boring sex is not a red flag to you,
it's a red flax to me. Let us know in
the comments, how you feel. Why do you think it's so?
You said it's not a red fla I don't know,
I say because I think I should bring out the
beast in you. I need to bring out that smoky
the bear. If I take off my clothes and you

(01:04:10):
don't be like the bear friendly, I don't give a fuck,
and I'm gonna bring it out of him. You need
to act like a wild animal with rabies when I
take off my clothes.

Speaker 3 (01:04:21):
A boar, Yes, a boar with a cook mm hmm.
Such mean? I just I just love you, you know,
like love. It's because it's passion, because you see how
I am when I'm around you. This is passion and
I'm not fucking you. This is passion. So if a

(01:04:43):
man don't do this about me when he sees my
booty house, big mama, your arm shade. If you don't
see this glory hole and go berserk. Yeah, I feel
like it's about the emotional connection. I do too.

Speaker 2 (01:05:03):
Yeah, you gotta have an emotional connection. If you and
this person are locked in, then it's not gonna be boring.

Speaker 3 (01:05:09):
Six.

Speaker 2 (01:05:09):
I just I don't think it's possible as long as
the spark is there. That only happens when you lose
the spark.

Speaker 1 (01:05:15):
And what I told you, you know how that spark
comes when you hear this in the background. You know,
when you hear this, there's no electricity. You just hear
it your head.

Speaker 3 (01:05:30):
That's how you know you love a nigga. Sometimes I
don't fuck the nigga. It ain't no me, it ain't
no nothing around. I hear maxwell. I just hear it
in the air.

Speaker 1 (01:05:39):
That's how you know you got good. Did you slide
it in? Yeah, it just plays automatically.

Speaker 3 (01:05:48):
I've been there.

Speaker 2 (01:05:49):
Yeah, it's like a violin and you just be like
this and you be holding ya your suple breasts.

Speaker 3 (01:06:01):
Yes, they simple. This is when the breast God, you
can That's what I'm telling you. Man, you feel it.
I did. I feel your breast were supple. Just didn't
write My breast is always supple. But you just said
you didn't like. I don't like that word. But they
always supple, you know. Yeah. I just don't like the word.

Speaker 2 (01:06:25):
It's too grown. It's supple is the word breast. I've
said this before. The word breast itself is just it's
too grown of a word for me. I don't think
I have breast yet. I think breasts you have fifty.

Speaker 3 (01:06:40):
Plus, No, but you have nice breasts. I have boobs. No,
you have nice breasts.

Speaker 2 (01:06:45):
You know, I keep a bad bitch on me side
your boot have boobs, love nick, I have boobs.

Speaker 3 (01:06:53):
I have titties. I have tits. Can we move on?
Can we move on? Titties? You got titties? Like Dolly Parton.
They're just never gonna pay me, Yeah, like you're gonna be.

Speaker 2 (01:07:05):
No.

Speaker 3 (01:07:05):
But I'm saying they're just always gonna set up mine. Yeah.
I'm probably gonna get them Redowe when I'm like sixty five.

Speaker 1 (01:07:12):
So now it's time to get into the bop the
bob the boo boo bow bow bow. So my bop
of the week is something a little off, a little odd,
a little different.

Speaker 3 (01:07:26):
And I love this group.

Speaker 1 (01:07:29):
Y'all probably heard of them a long time ago, the
group Hayme. They had that song it Fu Could Change
a mind, you know that song I could hit the
ground running.

Speaker 2 (01:07:40):
Anyways, They're actually a really super like huge group, and
y'all know I usually do like underground artists, but this
is different.

Speaker 1 (01:07:48):
Bond iiver love them, come on pretty love no Okay. Anyways,
So they have a song together called tie You Down,
and it's just let's bring indie music back, like that
indie music like let's be depressed and be in love
and just cry in front of a fucking fireplace. It's time,
Like I'm done popping pussy bro it's about to start snowing.

(01:08:11):
Let's get the marshmallows, the s'mores, let's get the hot coco.
Let's cry. Your tears need to be falling on my
vagina while you eat it, and we need to cry together.
Let's bring back the sad music. It's it's time. It's
fall winter. Let's bring into sad music. So this is
a good love song, hame tie you Down, feature in

(01:08:34):
bond ivor a bop a hit.

Speaker 3 (01:08:36):
Let's get into it. My bop is the Angelo Lady.
This's a good song.

Speaker 2 (01:08:51):
Like Zinchila had so many something good songs. So he
had Cruisy and he had brown Sugar or a piece
of b Angelo that made me so said the other day, like, yeah,
I think one of the sad Like one of the
craziest things about getting older.

Speaker 3 (01:09:05):
Is like we're not old per se yet, but like
all of the people that we grew up listening to,
like Niggas is dying. Yeah yeah, yeah, it's like a
harsh reality.

Speaker 2 (01:09:18):
But it's like life is so fragile, and you really
have to like cherish the moment and cherish while you're here.
And it's just a reminder that it doesn't matter how
successful you are, how much money you have.

Speaker 3 (01:09:30):
Like we all got an.

Speaker 1 (01:09:31):
Expiration day and you know a lot of people tag
me the other day because that's my favorite.

Speaker 3 (01:09:37):
Brown Sugar is my favorite. Shit. He taught me what
was some of young brown? Sure? Hm, I think.

Speaker 1 (01:10:03):
No, that's crazy. I grew up on that. Yeah, he
taught me how to go to that low register, that
to the hog one. Oh woa something y'all, bro sug.
I ain't know how to jump like that. I ain't
know how to jump from that load of that high
I didn't know how to do it till he taught me.

Speaker 3 (01:10:24):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:10:25):
So yeah, So like I just wanted to, you know,
give a little old pay homage shitty Angelo.

Speaker 3 (01:10:34):
He has some HIGs. Nothing even matters with him and
Laura Hill.

Speaker 2 (01:10:37):
It's like literally one of my favorite songs ever created.

Speaker 1 (01:10:43):
Every but in all seriousness, all jokes aside, because I
think about his son and how he lost both his
parents in a short period of time, both of them. Well,
you know, I don't want to say speak on you know,
him being sick or whatever.

Speaker 3 (01:10:55):
I do know that, and has other kids too, Like
I said, like people keep talking about him and energies.

Speaker 1 (01:11:01):
Talking about that because she just passed and then he
passed not shortly after. So I think that's why they
keep talking because yes, he did have other kids and
she has another kid too, right, So I mean, prayers
to all their kids. But to lose both parents in
such a short period of time, especially with Enjie, it
was like, what a wreck? What are we talking about here?

(01:11:23):
I'm sorry to lose somebody unexpectedly. I'm not saying death
has been easy anyway. I don't care if you expecting
or not. It's still not okay, But so like, oh
a wreck? What you know what I'm saying. Still, it's
just tragic. So you know, all ju justicide. Prayers out
to all their children, you know, but especially their children,
their their child together, because.

Speaker 3 (01:11:45):
Like, that's a lot.

Speaker 1 (01:11:47):
That's a lot to parents in a year's time, Jesus Christ,
isn't it.

Speaker 3 (01:11:53):
When did she pass? It was earlier this year? It
was like six months ago. It was in March. Yeah, yeah,
And cancer is just such a crazy thing. It just
fucked me up. Every time somebody died from cancer, cause
it's just I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:12:08):
It's just one of those things where it's like I
think we're still as long as it's been around, we
still be like, how the fuck does it happen?

Speaker 3 (01:12:16):
Where does it come from? You just literally watching somebody
with or away?

Speaker 2 (01:12:19):
Yeah, like, where does it come from? How can we
coven me? How can we stop it from happening. It's
like we still don't have the answer to any of
those things, and you just.

Speaker 3 (01:12:29):
It's crazy. Yeah, so yo, D'Angelo, that's my job.

Speaker 1 (01:12:33):
And since we're speaking of those who have passed, Diane
Keaton passed away.

Speaker 3 (01:12:37):
Oh yeah. Honestly, y'all have never heard of this movie.

Speaker 1 (01:12:40):
Everybody, I don't care what you're doing right now, go
find If you're a person who likes uh romance dramas, go.

Speaker 3 (01:12:48):
Watch The Other Sister.

Speaker 1 (01:12:50):
I watched that movie when I was way too young,
but it is one of the best movies, Like still
to this day, it's one of my favorite movies. It's
called The Other Sister. Diane Keaton plays the mom and
it's such a good movie. And I was like, damn, damn.

Speaker 3 (01:13:03):
I used to love First Wife's Club, oh my god.
Classic moving on.

Speaker 2 (01:13:15):
But yeah, so now it's time to christ. Now it's
time to get into our favorite segment of the show.
Y'all know if y'all have any questionings sending the poor Minds,
ask poor Minds at gmail dot coms as kp O
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number one Hadriannicole and lex P. Please keep this anonymous.
First off, congratulations on everything. I've been binge watching since
the very first episode, and I love seeing y'all's growth.

Speaker 3 (01:13:47):
So I'm dating this guy. I really like.

Speaker 2 (01:13:49):
He's attractive, gives me space to be independent, but also
treats me like a princess, exactly what I've been looking for.

Speaker 3 (01:13:55):
I'm a tourist, he's a virgo.

Speaker 2 (01:13:58):
This past week we were out with friends, having fun
and doing a little recreational stuff. But the way he
acted had me kitchen the egg and once I see
an eg, I can't unsee it. Now I'm wondering if
I'm overreacting or if it's a deal breaker. Do y'all
think an ick means it's over or can you move
past it?

Speaker 3 (01:14:18):
For me?

Speaker 2 (01:14:19):
Examples are moaning while eating, losing self control while drunk,
like we both can't be sloppy.

Speaker 3 (01:14:26):
What are some icks for y'all? Those are good, those
are good ecks.

Speaker 1 (01:14:32):
I don't like a man that gets too sloppy, especially
if I'm sloppy.

Speaker 3 (01:14:35):
Who gonna protect it? Who gonna be the boys?

Speaker 1 (01:14:37):
Yeah, So that's a good ick to have, cause I
don doubt cause y'all know, like I said, I love
I have a drink.

Speaker 3 (01:14:44):
I love to have a little drink, and I.

Speaker 1 (01:14:46):
Usually date men who love to have a little drink too,
but they never ever get to the point to where
they can't be alert if something goes down.

Speaker 3 (01:14:54):
So I agree that's a very good ick to have.
Moaning while you eating. It depends what kind of moaning,
Like you're like, m good. Yeah, Like that's I'm a like,
especially if I cooked it. If that's all I was
gonna say, it's in my food, I like if I
cooked it. Yeah, but I don't. But I also I
don't be mad like I enjoyed my food. I'm on

(01:15:18):
a little bit when I eat it food.

Speaker 2 (01:15:21):
I look I like food, So I might even do
a little dance like sometimes I'll catch myself being like
so I.

Speaker 3 (01:15:31):
But I do think everybody has different eggs. I told
you I talked about this egg. I have an eck.

Speaker 1 (01:15:36):
Well it's not an inch for me, though my egg
talked about this. I don't like when you can't find
a parking spot. I think that's the weirdest fuck as
a man. Why you can't find a parking spot? I
get icked out, Like, if you're not a good driver
as a man, why you can't drive as a man.
If we're in an escape room, why you didn't get
me out? If we're going to day to escape room,
why are we stuck in here?

Speaker 3 (01:15:57):
Yeah? Figure it out.

Speaker 2 (01:15:58):
I definitely think it's at things that like are ex
with a man. But moaning while eating ain't necessarily a
bad thing.

Speaker 3 (01:16:07):
He do he moan while you eat a Gucci eating
what exactly you need to specify?

Speaker 1 (01:16:15):
Ah, But I think it's okay to have X, but
X it depends like X to me are like little things.
You gotta think of your deal your serious deal breakers.
And I think that if a person can check off
eight to ten of your lists.

Speaker 2 (01:16:32):
Keeping me and be NARCISSI stick, they be socio, they
be having childhood trauma, and you give a fuck about
a nigga moaning while he.

Speaker 3 (01:16:40):
Eats hmm, I'm just moan right there. You know you
need I said, that's my moan. That's a moan moaning
you m all right?

Speaker 1 (01:16:54):
Good luck, Hey ladies, I'm a thirty one year old virgin.
See and Keith Lock said that we didn't have no
versions that listened to the shaw. I'm a thirty one
year old version at that.

Speaker 3 (01:17:15):
Yes, we are out here.

Speaker 1 (01:17:16):
I was always focused on school and then helping take
care of my mom and grandma. I've been on dates
and a wild amount of talking stages with both men
and women, but as soon as I bring up being
a virgin, I get ghosted. Now, I understand being this
old and not having any experience, but damn should I
just start lying and pretend I know what I'm doing.
By the way, I love watching y'all keep up the

(01:17:36):
amazing work.

Speaker 3 (01:17:38):
Y'ah. I would just stop telling niggas.

Speaker 1 (01:17:42):
Because you're gonna come across a weirdo that's just gonna
want to fuck you just to say he took it.
And then you're gonna come across people that's like they
don't want to break up a thirty one year old virginity.

Speaker 3 (01:17:50):
But I think at thirty one. You've waited this long.

Speaker 1 (01:17:53):
Your connection, your connection should have nothing to do with sex,
like nothing. You don't even know what to expect. You
don't even know what you like. It's a I have
been fucking for so long. By the time I was
thirty one, I been to what I liked, So you
got a long adventure once you start fucking.

Speaker 3 (01:18:12):
But you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:18:13):
But if she doesn't tell people that she's a virgin,
then won't they be cause you know how some people
can just be freaky immediately, they're gonna be a little
bit more pushy.

Speaker 3 (01:18:22):
They won't understand it. So like, what was she like?
What should she do with that?

Speaker 2 (01:18:25):
Then if she doesn't tell them and like she let's
say she meets somebody and they just talking whatever. You know,
niggas just take it to this level quick? How does
she feel them off? Then without telling them? I think
as the person.

Speaker 1 (01:18:37):
Who's been fucking Sincatini Todd, how I date now is
I don't like to talk about sex though I don't
And if you bring up sex too early, you're getting
cut off. And this is coming from a reformed hell.
Don't bring up sex too early.

Speaker 3 (01:18:52):
It's weird. Whether you're a virgin or not. I agree.

Speaker 1 (01:18:55):
So I just think just date like a normal person,
because for me, sex is not even something I want
to even talk about when I'm getting to know you,
and then once i'm there, then we can have the conversation.
But by the time I'm talking about sex with you
and we're taking it there, we already really.

Speaker 3 (01:19:11):
Like each other.

Speaker 2 (01:19:12):
Yeah, I agree, like kind of going back to like
the previous question now that I'm thinking about it, that's
an itch for me. I hate when men start talking
about sex too early, Like we shouldn't even be in
a situation where you're having to find out that whether
I'm a murgin or how experienced I am early on
in the dating stage. This shouldn't even be something that
we discussing because we getting to know each other. And

(01:19:34):
if you start bringing it up too early, it's definitely like, hey,
you're weird, you're too horny.

Speaker 3 (01:19:40):
Yeah, mister Kelly, I.

Speaker 2 (01:19:44):
Definitely just stop texting you start taking it there. I'll
try to like divert their conversation, but if you keep
bringing it back, I'm just gonna stop texting you because
I'm gonna just stop talking to you, because why do
you keep bringing this up to me when I have
not one thing about women. They will give you the
green light when they ready to fuck, yeah, when they
ready to give it up. Are they feeling you like that?

(01:20:05):
You don't know, and you're gonna feel it. You don't
have to do the most. So would a man be
too thirsty an egg? And I feel like, well, her
being a virgin, we know you not bringing it up,
so it's the man. So I feel like that's that's
a red flag. A man who is really trying to
get to know you, he's not gonna bring it up
all the time because he knows it's gonna come eventually
if you feel him.

Speaker 1 (01:20:26):
And I also think it's a difference between a man
talking about like, damn, you're really beautiful, you're attractive, I'm
attracted to you, versus talking about how fine you are.

Speaker 3 (01:20:34):
Damn you think it's damn ass fit damn.

Speaker 1 (01:20:37):
Like over sexualized, yeah, over sexualizing me, versus complimenting me
and calling me beautiful and saying, oh, man, you really
look nice like that they're dressed look good on you,
versus being like, god, damn.

Speaker 3 (01:20:47):
You think it's fuck.

Speaker 1 (01:20:49):
It's a big difference, Like I get turned off by that,
Like you keep talking about how thick I am?

Speaker 3 (01:20:55):
You know, yeah, all that stuff.

Speaker 2 (01:20:57):
What if he say, you got the body of a
gottis gods put a pink in brown?

Speaker 1 (01:21:01):
I see you girl, that a body of a goddess.
That's a beautiful compliment.

Speaker 3 (01:21:07):
What he's still talking about, how you all?

Speaker 1 (01:21:09):
That's the difference, man, You got the body of a goddess, wow,
versus somebody.

Speaker 3 (01:21:15):
As fuck body of a goddess.

Speaker 1 (01:21:18):
Body of a goddess is like yes, if a man
told me I had the body of a goddess, oh
my god, she was fu And.

Speaker 3 (01:21:27):
See he got you that. But that's how easy it is.

Speaker 1 (01:21:31):
Niggas is so stupid at this age you would be
surprised niggas are still talking that way out of pussy.
They can be the richest niggas find this. Niggas all
this and that.

Speaker 3 (01:21:42):
You be like I get while you're single. Yeah yeah,
and that going to be shady to shorty.

Speaker 2 (01:21:51):
Maybe you should look at like I don't want to
say Christian and just single that out. But like more
religious events because those people usually are focused on the
word and like finding their partner that they want to
build with, and not so over sexualized aspect, and they'll
have the same kind of like even if they're not versions,
even though a lot of them times they're like reformed

(01:22:11):
and they.

Speaker 3 (01:22:12):
Don't want to wait till they're married and things like that.

Speaker 1 (01:22:14):
I'm not saying that you want to do that, but
I think you'll find you'll be more successful in finding
somebody in the same mind.

Speaker 2 (01:22:20):
Framemingo dot com is the still a thing.

Speaker 3 (01:22:24):
I wouldn't know. I don't like no dating apps me either.
I mean, I feel like we're at a point where
we can't really be on dating.

Speaker 1 (01:22:31):
We're not talking about that again, but yes we can
know the one. Everybody on that one?

Speaker 3 (01:22:36):
Do y'all brown? What app? That's an app? That's an app?
I feel like that's the one lates will be on. No,
what was the one we talked about? Hinge? Not Hinge?
The one right league? You could be on Raya? No, yes,
we can't. Ben Affleck and them niggas be on Raya.

Speaker 2 (01:22:54):
Seriously they Ben Affleck was married to j Low for
a mini but he would when he was single.

Speaker 3 (01:23:00):
But I exactly and now everybody know he on there
because guess what you done? Told it? I didn't tell it.
It was a TikTok that went viral.

Speaker 2 (01:23:06):
Baby, I didn't tell it, and I'll spread the word
even more, and I spread it again.

Speaker 1 (01:23:11):
They should have added me on that bitch, and I
would have kept my mouth shut.

Speaker 2 (01:23:15):
So the point that I'm making is I just think
when you get to a certain point, you can't be
you can't successfully be on dy naps.

Speaker 3 (01:23:21):
I really do believe that, because.

Speaker 2 (01:23:24):
How do you know the sincerity of the person that
you're trying today, And how do you know that they
really are interested in you or do they want to
talk to you because they already know that you this
person from this platform that has all of this shit
going on, Because I personally wouldn't be interested in the
day now.

Speaker 3 (01:23:39):
Well, I think on RAYA a lot of it.

Speaker 1 (01:23:41):
There are like, and I say regularly, like normal people
with nine to files on there. But there are a
lot of people who match, like influencers match with other influencers, so.

Speaker 3 (01:23:49):
It's like they can find each other. I don't know,
I don't know. Yeah, listen, I think we should leave
them alone.

Speaker 1 (01:23:55):
Yeah, you're right, all right, Uh, make sure y'all go
to poor minds dot com all the good updates.

Speaker 3 (01:24:01):
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Speaker 6 (01:24:21):
Period by y'all, y'all, and we're gonna give it to
him like this. Yeah, you like that, brown Sugar, you
like that?

Speaker 3 (01:24:34):
Tell me you like it? Sway with him, drell. Let
me tell you about this girl.

Speaker 2 (01:24:39):
Maybe I shouldn't. I met her in Philly and her
name was brown Sugar. See, we been making love constantly.
It's why my eyes are a shade of blood.

Speaker 3 (01:24:48):
Blood burgundy. That's all we kissing. It's like any other
way that I'll be kissing with. And I'm kissing winning.
I'm mean saying, what's you listen, brown Sugar, babe. I
get tired, y'all, cael love. I don't know how to
hage true.

Speaker 5 (01:25:05):
I want some of your broug. I want some of
your brown sugar. I want some of your broug.

Speaker 3 (01:25:24):
Oh sugar. When you're close to me, up you right
down down to my knees, and when you let me.

Speaker 2 (01:25:31):
Hit it heat it sweet like honey. When it comes
when it comes to me, you know, with the cocoa eyes.
Even gotta be exens about the name of chocolate. Time
brown sugar, bab, I get tired off your love.

Speaker 3 (01:25:45):
I don't know how to be hash.

Speaker 5 (01:25:51):
I want some of your brochus. I want some of
your bro sug. I want some of your brown sugar.

Speaker 3 (01:26:08):
I want some of that brown sugar. And you won't
give it to me. Baby. This is how we do
the spoken poetry.

Speaker 1 (01:26:15):
I'm gonna show y'all how to talk about that brown
sugar because sometimes when I wake up in the morning,
I just want a little pancake. And you know why,
I want on top of that pancake a little brownche a. Sure,
I want some of your brown because that's supple.

Speaker 3 (01:26:35):
You don't know she got mayor angel piece of the
And I'm gonna say that one more time. This is
gonna be the last time I hit it. Why because
I can't. You gotta know live on time. I guess
I got sure how old summer yo bra shop clow

(01:27:06):
a whole some yobra sho how old some of your
brown shoes? R pe raised in peace, sail jail It

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