This Is My Moment

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm not letting nobody else call me that. I'm letting
mama what you're gonna do.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
If they do, they gonna start laughing at your ass
because they're nobody gonna be scared. You don't tap your
feet like this.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
It's gonna distract them.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
I hope you steal off on them. Why you're doing that,
because that's that is a good distructions that. Imagine somebody
doing that and you looking down at them, just still
like though I'm doing that. What are y'all gonna come
from the side, y'all, I'm not coming. I'm not gonna
starting doing that. Ain't they called you that? If anything,

(00:42):
I'm gonna tap my feet.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
So somebody called me the N word, you wouldn't get
out there with me.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
I would tap my feet while you come from off. Okay,
either white, We in this together. And then once you
got them down, once you knock them down, me and
I'll probably we gotta lot together. We got them together.
Worry God, I got your bag.

Speaker 3 (01:05):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
You got a pay what's up, y'all? It's your girl

(01:31):
les Pete, and it's your girls.

Speaker 3 (01:33):
Dread in the call.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
Now you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
We're a drunk mind speaks sober.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
But we ain't got no guests today. We ain't got
no guests today. You know, we usually do a good
job of coordinating.

Speaker 3 (01:48):
We didn't today. Not the bankhead bounce.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
We we ain't in bank here, but we close. We're
in the same city.

Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yeah, you know what's crazy. When I was younger, I
used to want to be in Atlanta so bad.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
I wanted to be in Atlanta real bad. When they
came out we Welcome to Atlanta, Oh my gosh. And
then they had then they did the remix and had
all in reference on the they have nobody from Houston,
and I was like, I hate being from Houston. From Warren,
I was like, Houston ain't got nobody representing on the.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
Trade, not representing on the trade. And I remember when
what was that.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
Group called was it Cherish? I just thought they were
just like so cool. They had Cherish?

Speaker 3 (02:31):
What was the other group? Remember VCO Soul Boston.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
So you're like me Area, Yeah that was my song.
Yeah that was a good song. But yeah, Atlanta. Yeah,
back in the day, I feel like this was probably
the best city to live in. Like when Atlanta. I'm
not in Atlanta when at L came out. Yeah, that's
what I really wanted to live out here.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
That was when you heard that tagline it.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
Rock never Well, I found you, miss Snooks.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
I was a six that was a hit. Bubba Sparks
was before his time, and I'm not gonna lie if.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
I wonder what he doing now. I wonder if he's
still in college Parks.

Speaker 3 (03:16):
I'm gonna get drug to hell for this.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
But in twenty twenty five, if I had to pick
a white rapper or listen to out of Bubba Sparks
in eminem, I'm choosing Bubba Sparks every time.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
But you don't. You're not gonna have that many songs.
It don't matter at least what Buba Sparks said, because
name another.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Song when I look extra slick at as Nautica and
just to think it was you that she bought a fuck.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
That don't blame me. I got a few Bubba Sports.
Why do you know that you Bubba Sparkles track in
my pocket? Bro? That's concerning because I only know Colli
Park was fun. I'm can't no lie. Bubba Sparks first

(04:05):
album was good. He has some hits on now. I
don't know you.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
Remember Ugly remem.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
Oh. I do remember that song because it reminded me
of something that Missy Elliott would make. It was a
good song produced. That's probably why. Yeah, so that makes
sense because it definitely sounded like Missy Elliot is. Yeah,
so you're right, Bubba Sparks did have his Now me,
I am still a little partial to Eminem. I don't

(04:32):
care what nobody's saying. Eminem had he he did have.
Especially if you was like in middle school and you
was going through that rebellion space, he had you feeling
like fuck, everybody probably gonna have to do a lot
of bleepy.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
Okay, first, I feel like this Eminem. I'm never taking
away from his artistry. So I know they're gonna clip
this and drag me because Eminem has crazy sings.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
He does, I mean, and he has crazy he but
he does.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
But what I'll say for me personally, his music didn't
age well for me.

Speaker 2 (05:03):
A Detroit legend, who is listening to that.

Speaker 1 (05:08):
Me, you're listening to just lose it in the car.
In the car when oh baby, come on, I'm.

Speaker 2 (05:14):
About to listen to toy Shoulder. Oh heard it that sense
A little judgement, girl, I just a little judgement. What
I listened to in the comfort of my own car
is my beasties.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
Now if somebody turned on Superman, I listen to Superman.
But I do know one thing though, they come there,
go do Sunday Monday.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
That line was so hard Drakehead to receave. He did.
He had to make a whole little new song anyways,
I feel you.

Speaker 1 (05:49):
But like I said, that's you.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
You bet I'm back. No no, no, no, no no no
no no, no, sir, because he wanted the Philly No no no, no,
no no no, Like, what are we doing here? Felthy
thought me, Like, yeah, he begged him. It's vague, that's all.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
Hi, my name is what nobody is listening to that
in twenty twenty five, Bro.

Speaker 2 (06:15):
That is how you introduce yourself. No, I don't. When
you meet people, no I don't, you do You'll be like, Hi,
my name is Lexi, Why lex By? No? We don't
slim shady? Oh no respect? Where did the slim shady

(06:36):
come from? Though?

Speaker 1 (06:37):
Because he was slim and shady he used to throw
teeth in shade. Remember how I used to this, Christina
Aguilera is so bad.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
But he was slim shady before that.

Speaker 1 (06:46):
No, he's always been shady.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
I'm saying, where did the name slim shady from? Does
anybody in the.

Speaker 3 (06:56):
Room now He's not.

Speaker 2 (06:57):
Says that it emerged from a moment of inspiration while
he was on the toilet, setting that it just popped
into his head and he immediately thought of rhymes for
it while he was on the toilet. I came up
with a lot of good ideas on the toilet. I
mean the toilet. The toilet is a great place to think. Well,

(07:18):
I can't see that song you love that man bad.
I think I'll get you. I think, yeah, because Chicago,
she can't go a day without breathing this man up.
You need to become his pen pal. He's gonna get

(07:46):
the little though and be like, you're too old.

Speaker 3 (07:50):
I'm not like, I'm not joining in on this party.

Speaker 2 (07:54):
No, I'm not doing it. Thirty discuss, You got a
little fool. Okay. At this point they should know we
have dark humor.

Speaker 1 (08:12):
Okay, but I will say, damn, I forgot what I
was gonna say. No, we was talking about Eminem and
I was saying no disrespect to that man.

Speaker 3 (08:23):
His music just didn't age well for me.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
You know what I'm saying. You don't got not one
song beside Superman, I promise y'all.

Speaker 1 (08:32):
This is when I had to give up on eminem.
It was like around that time where like they were
doing like the BT ciphers and stuff. This man, I
don't remember the bar before and I don't remember the
bar after. But he said, that's an awfully hot coffee pot.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
I mean, okay, you cap you are so cap bro.
Coffee pots do be hot, do they not?

Speaker 1 (08:59):
Girl?

Speaker 2 (08:59):
No, there's nothing so in the day. If you touching,
you deserve to get burned. Is not talking about Okay,
what was he talking about? I don't know, but it
was that it did not eat. He said, I can't
even get a yeah or who or a boo. Promise.

(09:19):
He said that if you can't get a boo, you
fuck girl. Y'all can get it me in a booth.

Speaker 1 (09:27):
So talking about, you know, the Atlanta days. But yes,
I used to want to be in Atlanta so bad.
But I used to want to be in Houston so bad.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
So are you?

Speaker 1 (09:36):
I was looking at y'all still tipping you.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
Wasn't looking at me? Yes, I want nowhere to be fine. Yeah,
he was in class like this tipping. He was like,
you was probably dancing just like that girl in front
of that expedition. Why are you trying to be funny?
That was my best friend cousin, Like, for real, I'm

(10:00):
not even being funny. That was really her cousin. She
was so proud. She was in Nabby. I don't know,
she was so fish. She was very thick for the
song shout out to her sickness. But she was definitely
in that video. And then she was in that video

(10:20):
with Webby and Buy and Bet she five foot seventh.
Give me that, Yeah, give me that. She wasn't gimme
that because my friend was so proud. She was like,
oh my god, my cousin, she was instilled tipping, and
now she in't give me that, and she couldn't wait
to show me the video.

Speaker 1 (10:36):
Well, in her defense though, back then being a video bay.

Speaker 2 (10:40):
No, it was because I was like, oh my god.
I was. I was like, oh my god, that is
so crazy. I don't got no famous people in my family.
I don't got no I did. I did think she
was fighting. I was like, I have no famous people
in my ma family.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
So you gotta think about it.

Speaker 2 (10:58):
Though.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
Being a video girl during those times was iconic.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
It was somebody had posted a clip of Big Boys video.
I like the way you moved, Yes, and do y'all
remember the girl that was standing with him, and she
had the bikini on, and I never I didn't. Her
name is Ka Toy. Of course y'all know I google everything,
but I just remember.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
She had these legs.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
You could tell she worked out in this bubble butt
in this small waist and it was like, oh my god,
now she.

Speaker 2 (11:25):
Was doing She was that little CVD shite. Today we
got fifty. I'm gonna make it feel the devil. You
will not win. No, But for real, out of video
girls did used to be fine. I mean they still

(11:45):
be luky.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
No don't legs, they don't. They don't be cute deleting,
all right.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
I think the problem is that everybody looks like the day.

Speaker 3 (11:56):

Speaker 2 (11:57):
Back in the day, like people were unique, looky like
when I popped out that pool, I was a unique
looking Okay, I was I was very unique. Oh my god,
you really came up. I thought, waking through the outside

(12:18):
may shout out to zero new talent when he saw it,
I mean he was on something. The funny thing is
that you really think about that type of stuff. So
like Zero could tell people I had lex Peed in
my video before she was lex Speed oscar. Yeah, like
I had my promise.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
I'm gonna shout Zero and I'll be like, yeah, Zero
gave me my first break, first big break. That was
the first time I was like on not on camera,
but like on a professional camera.

Speaker 2 (12:46):
Yeah. Thanks shout out to the people that believed in
this before we believed in ourselves.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
What I'm saying humble beginning.

Speaker 2 (12:54):
Humble beginning, not really though, because it's humble beginnings being
in the Zero video. Like humble beginning is when people
be not lost in videos, for like artists that don't
have no name.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
Yeah I almost say somebody's name, but I don't want
to offend people.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
Who was you gonna say? When I think of like
humble beginnings, I think of like if you were in
my video, Yeah, like if you had a song, you
you did have a song. Yeah, Lex had a song.

(13:29):
So like if I would have been in Le's music video,
that would have been a humble beginning. I was saying,
like humble beginnings.

Speaker 1 (13:34):
I mean, it's just like being a video video girl
is a humble beginning period.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
It doesn't matter who video you in. That's a humble beginning.
I don't know, Big pimping don't sound that bad. That's
a humble beginning. Though.

Speaker 1 (13:45):
If you imagine if you were in Big Pimping video
and you go off to be an Oscar Award winning actress,
that's a humble beginning because you used to just be
on the yacht pop and pussy. You see what I'm saying.
That's a humble beginning. I don't care who video it is.

Speaker 2 (13:58):
You're gonna be the first, I think, because I don't
think it was anybody that was. I think somebody did
videos before and they want to Oscar her.

Speaker 3 (14:07):
Yeah, I think we'll have to look into it.

Speaker 1 (14:09):
I'm pretty sure we can see Viola David somewhere doing something.

Speaker 2 (14:12):
I doubt, y, I highly doubt. Let me stop. I
love you doubt that that lady was still cheaping anywhere.
Why would you say that?

Speaker 1 (14:25):
I don't know because I love her so much, so
I hope nobody sends that to her because it would
break my heart.

Speaker 3 (14:30):
I would never want to offend her.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
I'm serious, No, because you about to offend her. I'm
not because I said that because everybody was.

Speaker 1 (14:37):
Young once, and that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
We need to stop playing with that lady like this, okay,
because that ain't plunny.

Speaker 3 (14:49):
It's not funny, but it's real.

Speaker 1 (14:52):
People had lies before you saw them be these great people.

Speaker 2 (14:56):
You know what I'm saying. But the beautiful thing about
our generation is a lot of it was not documenting.
I feel like the newer generation everything every Yeah, like
I lived a lot of lives. Y'all don't know about
it though.

Speaker 1 (15:10):
Snapchat got it? Thought of a lot of my stuff.

Speaker 2 (15:12):
Snapchat do got it?

Speaker 1 (15:13):
Sure. That's why I want to never delete my Snapchat.
It's so many good videos on there.

Speaker 2 (15:18):
Oh my gosh. So real.

Speaker 1 (15:20):
Quick side note, So Ellen Pompeo just did call her daddy.

Speaker 2 (15:23):
Oh she did got out to Meredith Gray.

Speaker 3 (15:26):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (15:27):
And it was so funny because the reason I said, like,
people have lives because she was talking about Serena and
Cordell from Love Island and she was like, oh.

Speaker 2 (15:36):
That my people.

Speaker 1 (15:36):
Because it's like, you don't think that these people be
tuned in and knowing what's going on. So That's why
I said it's very possible that Valladay was possibly did
the music video not necessarily.

Speaker 2 (15:45):
A rap video.

Speaker 1 (15:45):
It could have been jazz and blues classical. They have
music videos, they do, yes, they do.

Speaker 2 (15:55):
Bb King had video.

Speaker 3 (15:56):
Bb King definitely had videos. I saw one.

Speaker 2 (15:59):
What was he doing in the video? You don't even
play the flue? You just be lying for no reason.
And you see how you be talking about you don't
be lying no more. I was playing the flu.

Speaker 1 (16:12):
Bebe can't definitely have music videos, though, I think it
was more so like.

Speaker 2 (16:15):
A Verry White dude. Oh you just keep oh, you
just keep oh, you just.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
Keep telling me.

Speaker 2 (16:27):
I thought the record was skippy, and I was like, damn,
chopped and screw baby, and he had that good healthy
They had a parn and it was laid and curled tight.
That was the first big fine had relax. That was
the Barry White was.

Speaker 1 (16:47):
The first big nigga that was showing you, big niggas,
I can we can get bitches too. I'm telling you
he was the first big nigga that really had that
swag for real. I'm telling you.

Speaker 2 (16:56):
Better listen to what I'm talking about now. Very White,
I mean he was giving like nineteen seventies records.

Speaker 3 (17:04):

Speaker 1 (17:05):
That was before it wasn't No, this was before Biggie,
This was before heavy D. This was before all that shit.
Oh you just keep oh, but very hand.

Speaker 2 (17:17):
His wife was beautiful. Okay, we see, Yeah, you like that.
That's why she had to turn her hand. You bless me.
Imagine if you open the door your man say that,
I'm probably closing. Oh you're not turn around. No, you
not that. That's why are you saying that to me? Oh?
You just keep up. No, I'm gonna keep on walking

(17:42):
what I'm going man, excuse me. I've always said that
I would like to date somebody that could sing. No
I do. I think I would not not sing like that.

Speaker 1 (17:53):
No, No, I'm talking about I think people who can
sing like you. I think people who can really sing,
but like haven't made it to what they want to
do if they want to.

Speaker 3 (18:01):
Be singers are so annoying.

Speaker 2 (18:02):
Oh why would I date somebody who haven't made it?

Speaker 1 (18:05):
Well, No, I'm saying, like say they have, they're successful
in like whatever they do, but they're not a singer.

Speaker 3 (18:10):
But they want to know. They want everybody to know
they can sing.

Speaker 2 (18:12):
No, if I'm a date a singer, I want to
date a singer like somebody that actually really say the
people that be like, oh, it's your birthday and they
be like happy everybody like no, you're right though. People
who can sing, who like never reach their full potential
of singing this really do this all the time, just

(18:35):
like the humming. They be like.

Speaker 3 (18:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (18:42):
They be like, I get discovered because they don't know
who around. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it really do be like that.
But I'm not mad at it because I mean, you
could get discovered that way. Hey, you never know the
CEO of an A or A and R is in
a room missed opportunity. I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
I know people was losing the plot when we did
the when.

Speaker 2 (19:06):
We did what's the Karaoke show we do?

Speaker 1 (19:09):
We just having fun and it was like people poor
soul and they're not even contestant. It was like people
in the audience afterwards like walking to us like singing, hey, hey,
lex Man, listen, my baby mama, my baby mama.

Speaker 2 (19:25):
I'm gonna make you my wife.

Speaker 3 (19:28):
I said, sir, I can't help you.

Speaker 2 (19:31):
I can't what's interesting? I feel like things like that
happened to you. I don't know why walk up. That's
what you be talking about. You got that ear?

Speaker 1 (19:43):
Them in.

Speaker 2 (19:46):
Music? They want you to plug them. They said, she
got that ear. This is my moment. This is my
mom their moment to shine. Okay, this is the one time,
the one chance that they gonna get to impress Lick Speed.
And they don't know who you know? They said, Lou,
I know a call and I can't get you know

(20:06):
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Yeah, I'm drying the call and I'm lex C And
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Speaker 1 (21:54):
M M, drinking good tires, and experiencing the beauty of
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Speaker 3 (21:58):
It would be fun.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
It're taking me to incredible destinations with a special focus
on the black experience.

Speaker 2 (22:04):
Still Queens One Glow, Endlessponsibility Travel Queens Serious premiere Wednesday,
April twenty thirty eight on the topic. This has kind
of been trending on social media, so we were like, cool,
let's talk about it. Do y'all think that it's okay
for parents to have their children pay bills while they're

(22:26):
still living in their house. Like, if you get your
first job and you're finally making some income, is it
okay for your parents to give you the responsibility of
paying a bill. Do you feel like it actually teaches
the child responsibility or do you think that it's some bullshits,
So cause, yeah, I know what I think. I feel like,

(22:50):
when you get a job, I do believe.

Speaker 1 (22:52):
That your parents' responsibility to teach you the value of
a dollar and how to manage your money, because I'm
not gonna lie.

Speaker 3 (22:58):
My mom did not do that for me.

Speaker 1 (23:00):
So when I had a job, I've been working since
I was fifteen, she us just let me have whatever
and do whatever with my paycheck. She paid my phone bill,
of course, everything. I never had to pay any bills.
I didn't pay all of my bills one hundred percent
by myself until I moved to Atlanta because even when
I was in college, my mom was paying half of
my rent, she was paying.

Speaker 3 (23:18):
My cell phone bill, all of that stuff.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
So while that did help me as far as I
didn't have to stress about work so much because I
was able to still have that college experience and stuff,
it didn't teach me what I really needed to know
about managing money. Yeah, so I feel like, I don't
necessarily think you need to put that pressure on a
child to pay a bill, but I think you need
to show them how to save money. Okay, you know what,

(23:42):
let me teach you about this. Put half of your
paycheck right here, a thirty percent of your paycheck. Teach
them money management. Don't just give your Let your kids
take their paycheck and just do whatever with it. So
I don't think necessarily they should be paying bills, but
I think they.

Speaker 3 (23:55):
Need to learn about money management.

Speaker 2 (23:57):
Yeah, I agree. I definitely think that it's more so
to me. You should be teaching your children how to say,
how to in best like make them accountable for Okay,
you get a paycheck every two weeks. Every two weeks
when you get paid, you need to put five hundred
dollars into a stock account because in ten years it's

(24:17):
going to be quadruple that amount that can put in
there that you invested in there. Like teach them the
importance of things like that. But I just think asking
your child to pay a bill, it's giving you short
on the rentment. And I don't like that because I
feel like children are supposed to be brought into the
world because you want the child to be here. I

(24:41):
just think putting responsibilities like that on them sometimes In
a lot of ways, I think parents try to use
their children to help them overcome struggles and stuff that
they have going on, just like when parents be using
their kids social Security numbers to put bills in their
name and stuff like that. Oh, because I couldn't get
it in my name, now I'm gonna put it in
my child name. And then when your child turn eighteen

(25:03):
and they're trying to get their first credit card or
get their first apartment or whatever the case, maybe they
credit is shite and they can't get shit in they
name because you fucked they should. I think that that's
fucked up, and I think, unfortunately, especially in a black community,
a lot of parents do that. And they tried to
play it off as Oh, I'm trying to teach you
responsibility by getting you to pay the light billch No,

(25:25):
this is your life, this is the lights in your home.
I live here because you birth me. I didn't ask
to be here. Why should I have to pay a
light bill? You know what I mean? I do feel
like you're right as far as not fucking your money off, Yeah,
every week, because my mom definitely when I got a job,
hear and my dad they didn't make me pay no bills. Well,
I definitely just used to do what I wanted with

(25:47):
my money too, And I feel like it didn't teach
me any type of responsibility. It's other ways that you
could teach your children responsibility when it comes to their money,
outside of having them pay your household bills for you.

Speaker 1 (25:58):
So, how do y'all feel about when that child eighteen though,
and they're still in their parents' home, do you think
they should be helping then? If they're graduate, if they're
out of high school, and.

Speaker 3 (26:07):
If they're in college or not in college.

Speaker 1 (26:09):
If they're eighteen, they're out of high school and now
they're technically an adult and they're still in their parents' house,
should they be helping with the bills?

Speaker 2 (26:16):
I think it depended on the circumstance, like what are
you doing? Are you working? Are you trying to figure
out what you want to do with your life? Are
you in school? If you're in school, I'm not going
to ask you to pay for anything. But if you
think you just about to be in my house with
no plan, doing nothing, then yeah, you gonna have to
contribute some kind of way. Because you're grown now and
living here. Having to help pay a bill is better

(26:38):
than you having to go get your own apartment and
pay for everything. But if you have a plan, you
in school, you going to a trade school. Excuse me,
you're trying to figure out what you want to do
with your life. I'm not going to make you pay
for anything, cause you're trying to figure it out and
life is hard enough. What you think, sal Yeah, I
was gonna say, I agree. I feel like if they're
if I'm in college and I'm just coming home on

(26:58):
holidays maybe the summer, maybe it's my responsibility to get
a job so I can pay for gas or help
around the house. But having a bill for that child,
I think you should just be able to set them
up so that they have they're able to save their money.
Again to your point, making sure they know what to
do with it, how to save it, but not necessarily
putting things in their name and having these big grown

(27:20):
up responsibilities until it's that time.

Speaker 3 (27:23):
If you're living.

Speaker 2 (27:23):
There three sixty five all year, you're not going to school, Yeah,
you need to get a job and you need to
definitely be helping out around here.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
So I do think too, it's crazy because I always
regret not paying attention in school. I had a teacher,
it was I think my geography teacher. He took one
not semester, but like a six week period, we didn't
learn any geography.

Speaker 2 (27:45):
He took that whole six week period to teach.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
Us about stocks, and I remember none of us were
paying attention.

Speaker 3 (27:51):
We were just like, why do we need to learn this?

Speaker 1 (27:54):
And I feel as an adult as thirty five years
old now I'm thinking back to my sixteen year old
So I'm.

Speaker 3 (27:59):
Like, girl, why you did and listen?

Speaker 1 (28:01):
Because imagine if I would have listened and just took
a little fifty dollars from my paycheck and figured out
how to Oh, mom, can I do this? But again,
my mom didn't know about you know, stocks and bonds
and things like that.

Speaker 3 (28:12):
So I think a lot.

Speaker 1 (28:13):
Of the time we need to switch up the curriculum
in the schools. I think there's a lot of things
like why, And I think I've said this before. Why
am I learning about credit when I turn eighteen?

Speaker 2 (28:25):
Why am I?

Speaker 1 (28:26):
Why are kids learning that their credit is shot because
this and that happened to them. They don't even know
nothing about credit? Why don't we know how to purchase properties?
That these are all life skills that we need to learn.
We should know about taxes, stocks and bond We should
learn about all this stuff like skills that we're actually
gonna need as adults. So unfortunately, in the black community,

(28:49):
I feel like they can only teach us so much
because a lot of it's a lot of financial literacy
in our community, because unfortunately, my mom didn't teach me
these things because she probably really didn't know. My mom
was fortunate enough to have an amazing job, so she
made a lot of money. And you know, when my
dad passed, he left her a lot of money, so

(29:10):
she was able. She was just not lucky, but that's
the cards that she was dealt.

Speaker 3 (29:15):
So we were always just taken care of.

Speaker 1 (29:17):
But if my mom would have liked something would have happened,
if she would have lost her job or something like that,
she probably would.

Speaker 3 (29:23):
Have known what to do, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (29:25):
And I feel like we really have to teach our
youth about managing money because a lot of times their
parents don't know and they do need to help.

Speaker 3 (29:35):
And not saying that it's right or that it's wrong.

Speaker 1 (29:37):
But that's why it's like we don't know nothing about
generation No. Well, you know, you see us having these
conversations about fifty to fifty. Why are we talking about
fifty fifty when we need to talk about how can
we pass this on to our kids and we can
build something together. Y'all talking about splitting rent? Who cares
who pays the bills? Bro, let's get the bills paid,
but let's invest in something, Let's save something. Who All

(30:01):
these conversations are so silly, and even us we have
indulging these conversations before. But like I said, as I
get older, I realized, there is a bigger picture here
that we are all missing.

Speaker 3 (30:13):
You are if your purpose is telling your.

Speaker 1 (30:15):
Child, hey, pay the light bill because you don't got it,
that's different from hey, put it on this light bill
because I'm trying to show you, or you know, whatever
the case may be. So I feel like, no matter
what you're doing with that money.

Speaker 2 (30:30):
Yeah, because then I was gonna say, or maybe you
could be telling them that, But then the whole time,
you're creating an account for them, and then when they
turn eighteen or when they turn twenty one, you're giving
the money back to them. Right, the purpose was to
teach them responsibility exactly, But I just think, yeah, using
the money to pay your bills as a parent, that's
just crazy. Wow to crazy? But do y'all think that

(30:52):
a lot of parents do that to try to teach
their children like teamwork and family responsibility.

Speaker 1 (31:00):
Now, I do think, you know, things are different, cause,
like I said, financially right now, we are in a
very very tough economy. And you know, if you do
have a household, if you have like you know, a
single mom or a single dad, and you have a
child that's sixteen seventeen and they are working, you know,
if you even if they're only taking two hundred dollars

(31:20):
from the kid, that probably would help, you know, if
that's somebody who's not making a lot of money. So
I think it could be a good lesson in that
as well, contribute, to learn how to contribute and not
just being for self. But like I said, it's a
very thin line with that. It's a very fucking thin
line because I am all for community and helping each other,
but I'm also not for a sixteen year old stressing

(31:40):
themselves out to pay bills.

Speaker 2 (31:43):
That's what I was gonna say. I just feel like,
as a teenager, why am I responsible for the family?

Speaker 3 (31:47):
Right right?

Speaker 2 (31:49):
Right? You know? And unfortunately that kind of goes back
into what I was saying earlier. I really wish it's
kind of off topic, but I feel like sometimes people
be having children to help them help with other and
help them help with like family responsibilities. So that shouldn't
be the reason why you having a child and bringing
a child into these worlds. It's to help you with
where you're lacking.

Speaker 1 (32:12):
And I think that's what a lot that we're missing
in the black community. I feel like that's why we
need family units again.

Speaker 3 (32:19):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (32:21):
We used to have neighborhoods where neighbors helping everybody, pitching it,
you know, like it takes a village. We don't have
villages no more. You know how many times I get
online and I see a woman or a man crime
because they don't have any help, Like what happened to community? Like,
I'm not gonna lie y'all. Growing up in my neighborhood,
my mom sometimes would have to leave for work, but

(32:42):
we had our neighbors were right there and they'd be like, hey,
if y'all need anything, come over, and they would come over,
knock on the door, y'all good. You know, they would
order pizza for us and make sure we straight. But
it was a neighborhood like everybody knew each other, you
know what I'm saying. It was like it was really
taking a village even now our neighbor because like, you know,

(33:02):
my mom has passed away, so my neighbors on the
other side, they have literally turned their camera to my
mom's house just to make sure nobody breaks in the
house or no, you know what I'm saying. So it's
like they're like, Okay, we making sure that nobody comes
in the house since nobody's there anymore. So I feel
like that sense of neighborhood of helping each other out
is very important. But that's why a lot of these
parents are relying on.

Speaker 2 (33:22):
Their kids, cause people don't help folks out no more.

Speaker 3 (33:26):
It's a lot of shame. It's a lot of shame of.

Speaker 1 (33:29):
Well, you didn't do good in life and you're only
making minimum wage and you and you know, it's a
lot of shame in that too.

Speaker 3 (33:36):
So I think it's a lot.

Speaker 2 (33:37):
Yeah, But I just feel like, if you don't know
how to handle your money, you need to learn how
to handle your money. You don't need to put the
responsibility off on other people. Because I feel like if
you're putting a responsibility off on other people to help
you every time you get in a buying where's the
listening being learned as an adult as I've grown up
adult as a parent. If you are always counting on
other people to help you, you're never going to who

(34:00):
learned the importance of saving, investing all of these things yourself,
or just not living above your means. I hate to
say stuff like these cause I feel like it's a
little bit harsh, but like back in the day, people
was having thirteen kids fourteen keys because the cost of
living was cheap. It's hell, Like no, literally, the cost
of living was so fucking cheap, Like you could literally

(34:22):
feed a family of ten. You can go get some
steaks for like twenty dollars and it will feed a
family of ten for like two weeks, you know what
I mean. That's just not how things are anymore. So
I feel like, also, if you can't afford to take
care of all of these kids, why are you having
all of these kids?

Speaker 3 (34:42):
And that's a sensitive topic.

Speaker 2 (34:43):
Too, it is, and I understand that it is, but
like even I'm just looking at it from a standpoint
of like my mom, like I said, my parents didn't
make me pay any bills when I got a job,
My money was just for me. They still paid my
car note, they still paid my cell phone bill. I
think I did start paying my cell phone bill like
my senior year high school. But my parents paid all
of my bills. But my mom said, the reason that

(35:03):
she wanted to be that way with me is because
her dad was not that way with them. My grandfather,
he actually owned a whole bunch of restaurants in Houston
back in the day, like in like the seventies, sixties
and seventies and eighties, and of course my mom and
all her siblings would work at the restaurants. And she
basically was telling me like, he didn't used to pay them,

(35:24):
and when he did used to pay them, like and
they used to work part time hours, twenty hours, thirty
hours a week. He didn't used to pay them because
he felt like y' all my kids, of course y'all
gonna work here. And then when he did pay them,
my mom said, they used to have to help him
pay the bills. And so as soon as all of
them turned eighteen, they hauled ass and got the heel
up out the house. They didn't want to stay there

(35:45):
no more because it's like, yeah, because it's crazy. And
I said that to say, but my mom also had
a big family, like it was like six of them
so all together in the household. Then with my grandparents,
a's eight people. Why you had six kids and you
couldn't take care of I just kind of be looking
at stuff like that too, because it's not your children responsibility,
Like you decided to start these restaurants. And I love

(36:07):
my green daddy Rip damn. Yeah. I mean he died
at an old age though, like he didn't die young.
He was like eighty five, right, okay, okay, But I
loved my grandaddy. He was super sweet before what my
mom to me before when my mom used to tell
me he was something else when they was like growing up.
And I just think that that is a crazy responsibility

(36:29):
to put off on your children. I started these businesses,
these businesses are not flourishing the way that I would
like them to, or I can't afford to hire the
appropriate help, so I'm just gonna have my kids work
here and not pay them.

Speaker 1 (36:41):
I also think too, now we also have access to
a lot of knowledge that we weren't able to know
about in when your mom was younger, and right, there's
a lot of information. You know, there used to be
the same and I don't want to fee anybody.

Speaker 3 (36:54):
But it was real.

Speaker 1 (36:55):
There was like, if this is a black community, black
people talking to other black people, They're like, if you
want a high something from black people, put it in
the book. You know what I'm saying, because they knew,
like we would just go off of whatever and just
believe whatever people told us.

Speaker 2 (37:07):
But it's crazy because at one point we used to
love to read because we could eat like it was forbidding, right, right.

Speaker 1 (37:14):
So I think now the fact that we have access
to I mean, there's so many young women, young men
on the internet that literally teach you, Hey, if you
only have X, y Z to invest or save, let
me show you how to do it.

Speaker 3 (37:27):
Let me show you how to make your money grow.

Speaker 1 (37:29):
That's how I started saving my money. Like when I
started making money, I said, I don't want to lose
this money. So what happens if you know, knock on wood,
poor minds falls apart. How can I make sure if
I have no income coming in that I can.

Speaker 2 (37:42):
Last for at least a year or two and be straight.

Speaker 1 (37:46):
I got on YouTube, you know, I did some research.
I talked to people. So the fact that we have
access to things. So I know a lot of y'all
listening like, okay, but you know, if I'm you know,
working from paycheck to paycheck, I under I do under
staying that, but coming from somebody who was working from
paycheck to paycheck, and I figured it out. And even
though I was looking, I had three dollars, I did,

(38:08):
but I was learning how to take my money and
invest a little bit of money I did have into
my business and little and taking little things here and there.
There are small things that you can do. But we
have access to so much information, y'all.

Speaker 2 (38:21):
We really really do.

Speaker 1 (38:22):
And I truly believe that we are now in the
day and age where anything has always been possible, but
today anything is possible. You have people online who are
learning how to do digital marketing who don't know nothing
about a computer, but they.

Speaker 3 (38:35):
Just sat there and figured it out.

Speaker 1 (38:36):
You got people who do day trading who didn't know
how to do it, but they figured it out and
they're literally, you know, making a thousand dollars a day
figuring all that stuff out. So I think, if you
have the time and the patience and you really are
thirsty for knowledge, you can do better for your household
to create something that's long lasting. Because one thing my
mom said to me, though she always said, I didn't
do everything right, but I'm gonna make sure you get

(38:58):
it right, you know what I'm saying. That's what I
always tell people that Lexp went through that, so you
ain't got to go through that.

Speaker 3 (39:03):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (39:03):
So I don't think you should make your kids pay bills.
I don't think so either. And I think like, if
you are going through a financial hardship, are you going
through something and you do have to ask your kids
to help you with something that's understandable because it's like
if it's between the lights getting turned off, are you
asking your kid, can you please help me Patty's bill?
That's fine, but I feel like you should definitely get
him back the money. Oh yeah, yeah, when you get

(39:25):
back on your fee, you should get him the two
hundred dollars big or they three hundred dollars big. And
I was just gonna say, I know that that is
a touchy subject when we start talking about like how
many kids people are having and stuff like that, But
I don't know. I'm just a very strong advocate for
children are not your child is not supposed to come

(39:46):
into this world and be responsible for you or live
a life of struggle.

Speaker 1 (39:51):
No, And I said that because I know it's a
sense of subject.

Speaker 2 (39:54):
But I agree with you.

Speaker 1 (39:55):
Yeah, because I remember one time your best friend Lean
had tweeted something, Oh, I'm not gonna beat.

Speaker 2 (40:01):
Yeah, but Len is crazy.

Speaker 1 (40:03):
But i mean everybody was just eating her up, and
I'm like, why are y'all doing her? She's right?

Speaker 2 (40:07):
Am? I feel like, if.

Speaker 1 (40:08):
You are not comfortable yourself and you are waking up
and you were crying and you were struggling, why would
you want to bring a child into that.

Speaker 2 (40:16):
Yeah, I just don't understand.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
I'm not saying that you gotta be a millionaire, right,
you at least have a community around you. I mean,
things happen, Accidents happen. I'm not saying that, and I'm
not I just think that.

Speaker 3 (40:26):
We should be careful.

Speaker 2 (40:29):
I mean because it's because this is a thing too.
Like you said, sometimes things happen. And I can understand. Okay,
you get pregnant, you like I'm pregnant. I love the
person that I'm we I'm gonna have the baby. Having five, though,
is a choice when your situation have been changed having one, Okay,
I get it, having five out and you still in
the same situation and you still struggling. I just feel

(40:51):
like that's like a choice. And then when your children
get old enough to work, you're expecting them to contribute
to the household. Like, no, this is never gonna see
right with my and I don't really care who would
have been right. And that's why I said, speaking of
because don't do your keys.

Speaker 1 (41:05):
Like getting pregnant and stuff like that in the black community.
I want y'all, before y'all be eating us up, just
stay tuned to the bed topic today because I'm gonna
tell y'all why things y'all are worried about the wrong things.

Speaker 3 (41:17):
But we're gonna get med to that later. So all
in all, I.

Speaker 1 (41:20):
Think we all agree, Yeah, teach your kids money management,
but stop making them pay.

Speaker 2 (41:24):
Your bill's strife absolutely.

Speaker 3 (41:26):
Okay, all right, Tom, what we drinking today?

Speaker 2 (41:29):
Okay? So this is our solo episode and we've had
a lot of guests. Yes, we're gonna call this one
the Girl's Girl, all right, cause we're behind here, all right.
So for this one, you can do any spirit of choice.
You can keep it a mocktail, or make it into
a cocktail. I've added some passion fruit. We have a
little bit of grapefruit, a little bit of lemon. I

(41:50):
made a bagel, honey, a little bit of ginger beer,
and then I used honey mango. So it's really good.
It was a little bit tard. I don't know, it
wasn't ripe enough good, but it was really good. I
really thought y'all would like it because it has that
tartness to it, and I think it goes really well
with the passion fruit and a grapefruit too. This mango
is juicy as hair. Yes, that's the honey mango garnish.

(42:13):
The honey mango is garnish. And then a little bit
of basil in there, just to get a little give
it a little color to it. Oh but oh, you
just I see what you mean by the tartness. So
my eyes, it's good though, So we're gonna play with
that a little bit more. But that this is the
girl's girl. Thank you. Gus. Of course, realm another little

(42:35):
CBD shops. I know you was cursing a lot.

Speaker 1 (42:40):
He was like, because, motherfucker, because fuck that, because the
fucking motherfucker.

Speaker 2 (42:44):
When the fu fucking it. Fucked, it got fucked on
the to be like bleed bleed, bleed bleed. I'm sorry,
and I didn't realize that I had some potty mouth.
You couldn't weigh an episode normally because normally I be
trying to wait until like the five minutes past. You

(43:05):
couldn't wait to be working booty by, say Booty Park College.
That's what they're laying. It is low.

Speaker 1 (43:17):
It is the booty parks. This lady that walks around midtown. Okay,
you know what I'm talking about. Maybe she got the
biggest wagon I have ever seen, and she be walking fast.

Speaker 2 (43:28):
Where does she be going? So she's usually around the.

Speaker 1 (43:31):
Target said, it's me surprised she'd be walking around like target,
the target area. And I mean that thing is so
and she'd be walking fast.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
Yeah, she walks really fast.

Speaker 3 (43:45):
She has headphones on.

Speaker 1 (43:46):
She's always in like a T shirt, some you know,
workout pants see all the time.

Speaker 2 (43:53):
And that booty is just so rotan. I love a
rotund booty.

Speaker 3 (43:57):
It's so rotun.

Speaker 1 (43:59):
But like shout out to huhout out.

Speaker 2 (44:03):
To the queen. In meantime, shout out of it. Oh,
y'all said that on this song, it's me surprise. Why
did he say that? Do you ever just be listening
to the.

Speaker 1 (44:16):
Songs sometimes with surprise. Jock's first album was a masterpiece,
and he was robbed of the Grammys he deserved.

Speaker 2 (44:24):
Now he definitely deserves some Grammys for that. It was.
It was definitely a mess. I'm trying to We gotta
stop cussing so much. We never gonna become a We
never gonna become legit say nigga and pussy too much.

(44:45):
Oh my gosh, we are to cross over, but that
be leg saying but busy.

Speaker 1 (44:52):
Bussy is a crossover word though, that in the other community,
because you know, we said, we're trying to bring in
the latinas the White, the Indians. We want everybody to
tune in. Bussy is a universal word that that is
in the LGBTQ community. They all use it.

Speaker 2 (45:09):
I say bussy occasionally, like when it's feeding for the topic.
You'll just be saying bussy just to say busy. I
think you like mine. It's like, I'm not mad at
it because I know what it represents. And no, Miguel
didn't say bussy. He said, tell me that that pussy

(45:30):
is mine.

Speaker 3 (45:31):
The p word is not universal.

Speaker 2 (45:33):
Though I like the p words, some people don't like
I don't like it. I like it pussy that pussy
real not that all out too. But yeah, I don't
know bussy is universal. I understand what it represents, and
I'm glad that they have a word to represent what

(45:53):
they needed to represent. I don't like it, though I
do bussy. It's remind me too much of buto. And
then so when I think of butdh sy, I think
of something that's stained. And I know all bussies don't stain,
don't I know all?

Speaker 3 (46:12):
Have you ever smelled the bussy?

Speaker 2 (46:13):
I smelled my bussy? You gotta everyone has a bussy
if you're using it for their purpose. I mean I
do have.

Speaker 1 (46:21):
I'm saying, have you ever smelt somebody else's bussy?

Speaker 2 (46:33):
Perhaps?

Speaker 1 (46:34):
Never mind, I don't know why that it was a girl.
I don't care if it was a girl.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
A burrol, I feel like I had to clarify. I'm
just this is not a burrel. I've never slept with
a burrel. Oh my gosh, what do we call a burrow?
On our show? Okay? Rolling rolling up? Okay, come back
on the show. I can say I've never slept with
a burrow a shim.

Speaker 3 (47:00):
I think shim is actually offensive.

Speaker 2 (47:02):
You think so, I think they.

Speaker 1 (47:03):
I think like burrel is cute and funny, but I
think that that one is like because people use that
to be offensive. Really this women and sis men assistment.

Speaker 2 (47:12):
See, I didn't think that. So I apologize if that's
an offensive word or direction. I don't know if I
just made that up as well. Okay, see you apologizing it.
You don't even know. But no, because I said that. Yeah,
I don't mind apologizing because I don't want to offend anybody.
But I said it because when I think of shim,
I just think of like she and him mixed together,

(47:32):
just like girls boy and girl mixed together.

Speaker 1 (47:35):
But I feel like, I know I'm but I'm not
trying to be funny. I feel like I've seen a
comment or something that somebody said it was offensive, but
I don't know if that person was offended or it
was offending the community, you know, gotty gotty, Well, I'm
just like a difference with like the E R and
the A.

Speaker 2 (47:50):
Mmm. You know, and that bothers me too, because people
love to think that that word is universal and it
is indeed not what A or E R both. Yeah,
you shouldn't be saying none of them if you look
like this, you know I love her? Good? Yeah, why
are you saying it?

Speaker 3 (48:09):
They want to say it bad, too.

Speaker 2 (48:12):
Real bad, And that may even go for some of
our mulatto brothers and sisters. Y'all should not say it either,
because if we can't look at you until you just
shouldn't say you should just not say.

Speaker 3 (48:26):
Brothers and sisters.

Speaker 2 (48:28):
You know, I agree, because I feel like if I
have to look at you and be like, are you
sure you can say that, just don't say ah, don't
say it.

Speaker 1 (48:42):
Yeah, it's it's but you know what, I'm getting to
that age where I like, I don't know, like I
am trying to really remove it from my vocabulary.

Speaker 2 (48:53):
Me too, That's what I was saying. I really, I
can't wait till the day that we just don't say
that word anymore on the shop, you know what. I've
already had for a time.

Speaker 1 (49:01):
I know, but you know, it's actually harder for me
not to say now it's not.

Speaker 2 (49:04):
The A, S, E R no, because you have a problem.
I do, because I've never used the hardy do I
use it a lot.

Speaker 3 (49:12):
You know that's me and Laura.

Speaker 2 (49:13):
It's too traumatizing.

Speaker 3 (49:14):
You know that's me and Lauren's nicknames for each other.

Speaker 2 (49:16):
I know, hey, little yeah, y'all be calling each other day.
Y'all are so weird. You, you and Lauren are so strange.

Speaker 1 (49:26):
That when we entered the phone and wrong, she'd be like,
I don't know. I think I just felt like I
took the power back.

Speaker 2 (49:35):
You didn't take the power back, so like, I feel
like it is so offensive to our incenses. They fought
so hard for us to not be called no.

Speaker 1 (49:43):
They fought hard for our freedom to do what we
want and to live on.

Speaker 2 (49:46):
This be called that anymore. But I took the I'm
not letting nobody else call me that. I'm letting my move.
What you're gonna do if they do, they're gonna start
laughing at your ass because they don't gonna be scared.
You don't tap your feet like that.

Speaker 1 (50:06):
It's gonna distract them.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
I hope you steal off on them. Why you're doing that,
because that's that is a good distructions that. Imagine somebody
doing that and you looking down at the steal off
like I'm doing that. What are y'all gonna come from
the side, y'all, I'm not coming. I'm not gonna started
doing that. Ain't they called you that? If anything, I'm

(50:32):
gonna tap my feet. So somebody called me the N word.
You wouldn't get out there with me. I would tap
my feet. Why you come from Okay, either white? We
in this together. And then once you got them down,
once you knock them down, me and I'll probably were together.
You gotta them together. You don't worry. God, I got

(50:55):
your man, That's what I'm saying. But then afterwards, I
would give you a last she.

Speaker 3 (51:02):
Now that's race.

Speaker 2 (51:05):
Doctor Umar say that one thousand last years. I would
give you one thousand last years after because you be
saying it. That's why they probably thought they could.

Speaker 1 (51:14):
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Speaker 2 (51:20):
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Speaker 3 (53:35):
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Speaker 1 (53:36):
Thanks having your friends back and fighting with your friends.
We want to talk about constantly being your friends therapists
while they're in a toxic relationship.

Speaker 2 (53:54):
Please pass the my tomato. Tomato.

Speaker 3 (53:57):
We don't like that.

Speaker 2 (53:58):
No, after a while. No, in the beginning years, for sure,
everybody need a soundboard, everybody needs somebody to be to.
Everybody needs somebody to talk to. But after a while, though,
if you are still in a toxic situation, or you're
complaining about this person all the time, but you don't

(54:20):
want to leave, especially if it's not like.

Speaker 1 (54:22):
A, I don't want to leave it, leave it.

Speaker 2 (54:31):
It was good? Because what made him go in the
studio that day, if they stacked to hold your down?
But what made him say, I ain't my leave it.

Speaker 1 (54:51):
I'm afraid on your neck for the rest of your life.
Ho and me, it's not good. It's never been good.

Speaker 2 (55:03):
When we really think about it, and we're not. Maybe
we'll get into this for the bop signy, but Trey
songs you just said a few questionable things. Get into
that anyway if you don't want to. But if you yeah,
if you don't want to leave the situation, especially if
it's not like ZV. I don't want to hear about

(55:26):
these because I can understand when women be in domestic
abuse and violent situations where they be afraid for their life.
Believe that's completely different. That's not what we're talking about.
I'm talking about you just being a stupid bed and
you just want to talk to me about it all
the time. After a year or two that you've been
with these persons, I have ran out of my capacity

(55:48):
to listen. I truly have. And I feel like for
some people that's probably gonna sound a little harsh, but
I think that these days that's what we have therapies for.
You should us talk to your therapies because as a friend,
and I feel like lex kin ofticities, you can come
and talk to me about stuff, and I'm gonna try
to not be judge me, so I'm gonna listen to
what you have to say. I'm not gonna tell you

(56:09):
what I'm not sure. I'm gonna try because I am
because sometime when it comes to niggas, damn again, when
it comes to these when it comes to these men,
I'm not gonna lie when it comes to situations with
my friends with me, and this is what I will say.
I do feel like you can come and talk to
me about whatever, and I'm not gonna say nyhing. I'm
gonna just listen to you. I'm gonna hear you out

(56:31):
and unless you ask me for my opinion, that's the
only time I'm gonna just give you my opinion or
tell you what I think you should do. But after
a certain period of time, I just don't want to
hear the sheet no more because I am that type
of friend who I'm just gonna let you be into me.
I'm gonna let you talk to me. I'm not gonna
give you my unbiased opinion for no reason. So after
a while, especially if you ask me and I tell you, friend,

(56:54):
I don't really think this is the best situation for you.
I don't really feel like the love and the energies
being reciprocated by him. What you're giving into the relationship,
it's not what you're getting back out of it. And
if I tell you that stuff any you still choose
to stay, and you steady keep coming back to me
talking to you out the same stuff. I just don't
got the energy no more talk to your therapy.

Speaker 1 (57:13):
So I one hundred percent understand where you're coming from,
because it does get aggravated. But I'm a little bit
on the opposite end. I think you know that about me.
I don't give a damn how many times you taking
the man back. Sometimes people have to keep going back
till they're tired. And you're gonna keep going back until
you get tired. So I'm the friend that's like, I'm

(57:35):
gonna listen, I'm gonna be here. But I will say
I'm not the friend that's I'm just gonna be a
listening ear. I'm finna tell you how bad he sucks.
I don't like him. I'm gonna give you my opinion,
whether you ask for it or now. See, I try
not to tell I'm finna eat him up every time. Now,
there are two situations that I don't play with. There's
two things that that's. This is when I get mad

(57:59):
because you have to cut him off and it's no hands,
it's or butts about it. If he put his hands
on you, and if he have a baby on you.
Those are two things that I'm not tolerating that for
any of my friends. Now, if it's like a cheating situation,
or you know, he's not being as attentive, you know
the other relationship problems which are are as bad too,
Like I can handle you talking to me about that

(58:21):
over and over again, and I'm be like, hey, look
what we're doing today, how we feeling today? Are we
crying today? Are we sad today? Are we happy today?
Let me be here in any capacity that I can.
But I will say now, I am a vocal person.
Hey friend, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm going
through something today. I'm having a day. I can't take
that today. I don't have the capacity to listen to
this today. But my friends know that about me, so

(58:43):
they're like, okay, friend, I understand.

Speaker 2 (58:44):
I'll call you tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (58:45):
You know what I'm saying. My friends know my boundary.
So hey, les, you good? Can you talk? I got
this going on? Oh yeah, what's up? What's going on?
You know what I'm saying. So, but like I said, now,
if this man that had a baby on you, are
he gonna put his hands on you?

Speaker 2 (58:59):
Oh yeah? You getting them? You getting them lashings. You
gonna get them fucking lashes If you talking to me
about a cheating man too, I don't want to hear
you talking to me about a man they keep I
don't care to he not putting his hands on you.
I don't care if he didn't go have a baby
on you. He keep cheating on you, and you think
you about to keep calling me talking to me about it?
Absolutely not, are you so.

Speaker 1 (59:19):
I will say my friend's gonna get tired or talking
to me about them. I'm not finna be like, girl,
I hear you, but I'm gonna be like, you're dumb.

Speaker 2 (59:25):
But that's the thing too, I feel like that's fair
to say. Eventually people will get tired. Sometimes people just
don't get tired. That's when you have to just draw
the line of I'm not least right, I just don't.
I don't want to. I'm here for you, like you
know what I mean. If you need me or if
you decide to work up with him, you need somebody

(59:46):
to be there for you. Cool, but I just don't
want to hear you calling me telling me about the
same thing as men keep doing to you over and
over and over, and you won't leave when you have
free will.

Speaker 3 (59:58):
Cause I'm not gonna lie I'm a safe space. But
I'm not.

Speaker 2 (01:00:01):
I'm not either, not like that because I'm not gonna talk.
We not about it.

Speaker 1 (01:00:05):
I'm gonna let you know this ain't it. We're not
about to talk. We're not about to keep talking about it.
I'll say this, I'm a safe space. I'm not gonna
tell your business. But I'm not a safe space if
you think you're fnna vent to me, and I'm not
gonna have an opinion like you do a good job
of like not having an opinion and just listening. I'm
not gonna do that. I'm gonna tell you you're better than this,

(01:00:25):
and I can't believe that you're actually dealing with this.

Speaker 2 (01:00:28):
Ain't shit man, until though, don't forget to until until
what I do a good job of doing it, until
I don't want to hear the shot no more. Like
after a while, I definitely get to a point where
I just be having to tell my friends, like give
them my unsolicity opinion. If you have been talking to
you about these men for seven months, a year and
evening the same stuff, I'm gonna be like, okay, because

(01:00:50):
I can even give people grace. I feel like you
can give a man. You can give your friend grace.
We'll talking to you about a situation for like a
good six months, maybe even the first year. But then
if after a year, now, yere's.

Speaker 3 (01:01:02):
A long time. I didn't know we were talking about.

Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
This territory what you mean like territory, but a year,
I'm thinking, what are you talking about though, are you
talking about like like say, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:01:12):
For example, say it's a man who's cheating. Oh, you
ain't about to talk to me about that?

Speaker 2 (01:01:16):
Four month?

Speaker 3 (01:01:16):
Oh a month, so you have a month you.

Speaker 2 (01:01:19):
Can talk to I'm playing maybe not a month. But
I just don't staying with somebody that's cheating on you
as a choice, right right of course, especially like I said,
if you're not in an abusive relationship, you're choosing to
stay there, you could go find you a man that's faithful.
I just don't really have a capacity to hear you
complain about these men when you are not leaving or

(01:01:39):
you are not setting any boundaries, and it's not no
changes being made on his behalf. I just want I'll
just be wanting better for my friends, and I think
sometimes that can come off judgmental, and that's okay. I'm
cool with looking judge if that's the reason why I
look judgy to you, because I want you to do better.

Speaker 1 (01:01:56):
I think the thing is it takes some people longer
to walk away than it does others.

Speaker 3 (01:02:00):
But I will say this.

Speaker 2 (01:02:01):
For me, I'll really be trying to take these Like
you said.

Speaker 1 (01:02:07):
I keep had one thing that I worked on in
these past three years. We have to learn to find
this happiness within the problem. This is the problem. I'm
gonna rouffle some feathers with this one. When you have
low self esteem and not a lot of confidence about yourself,
you stay in situations that are bad for your mental health. Now,

(01:02:31):
if you're in a situation a man is cheating, or
maybe he's not taking you on dates, whatever the issue is,
if you don't feel like it's taking a toll on you,
and you're like, okay, I'm trying to figure it out,
then cool. But if you start you're crying every night.
Your confidence is shot. You're losing your sparkle, you're losing
your glow. You need to look within because your confidence
is tied into this person.

Speaker 3 (01:02:53):
If you had confidence about.

Speaker 1 (01:02:56):
Yourself, you would be okay with walking away. You are
this amazing woman that you know that you are, that
you truly believe that you are, you would be okay
with walking away.

Speaker 3 (01:03:05):
And I'm not talking shit.

Speaker 1 (01:03:07):
That's something that I had to learn, not in this
last relationship I was in, but the one before that, right,
I stayed in that because I let this person break.

Speaker 3 (01:03:14):
Me down, so where I felt like Oh.

Speaker 1 (01:03:17):
I have to because nobody else is gonna want me,
and I let that person do that to me.

Speaker 2 (01:03:21):
You know what I'm saying, billions of people in the world,
it's already it's always somebody else who's gonna want you.

Speaker 1 (01:03:27):
Especially if you I'm really hurt period. Unfortunately for these men,
I'm really her. So walking away from a situation is
really not that hard for me anymore. So I know
all the ladies and all my friends are not there.
So that's why I say I do have a little
patience because I was that girl before, so I think
I have a little bit more patience for it. But

(01:03:47):
I will say, you're not finna get up. Oh I understand,
Oh yes, well this is no You're finna get it, bitch,
You're finna get it. But you now, you and your
friends are all like that. I feel, I can honestly say.

Speaker 2 (01:03:58):
Because when you tell because it's been times where you
have told me stuff that they have said to you
about people that you dated and stuff, and it made
me med. Remember, because I just be like, they don't
need to tell you that all the time. Because I
do feel like that. I feel like, if you know
somebody is going through a messed up situation. You don't
need to keep throwing it in their face that they're

(01:04:21):
stupid or that they need to leave. I needed that though,
I did you, Yes.

Speaker 1 (01:04:28):
But I feel I'm not a tough love person, but
my heart is so big, and you know me, I
will give anybody the shirt off my fucking back. And
sometimes it's like, hey, Lex, this person is using you,
this is not good for you.

Speaker 2 (01:04:41):
Wake the fuck up. But it's different when I think
people don't know, like you really have women out here
that are just naive and stupid. You not naiven stupid. Yeah,
you knew and I always knew you knew that that
particular person wasn't she, and like you could do better
than you knew that because it would be many times
where you would be meaning to me about him and

(01:05:02):
I wouldn't even have to say nothing and you would
say yeah, So I feel like you knew. You don't
need me pounding on you like les, yeah, he ain't
shitting you stupid for staying with him, right. I would
rather just tell you, don't talk to me about it,
go talk too.

Speaker 1 (01:05:15):
You know what's crazy. I'm so aware of myself now
now as you say that. Therapy is getting harder for
me because my therapists really can't tell me.

Speaker 3 (01:05:23):
She's like you already know.

Speaker 2 (01:05:25):
And also too cybor and it's it's not to try
to be shady, but it was always also giving pot
meets kittle. What when you would tell me, oh, oh yeah,
the stuff that some people would tell you it like
And that's because that's the thing for me too. I
can I can say this is a problem I have.
Can't nobody come tell me what the fuck I need
to do When I'm looking at what you do and

(01:05:46):
what you're doing is not any better than what I'm doing.
Why should I take your advice?

Speaker 1 (01:05:50):
Because look at who you are dealing with, right, I think,
But it's easier on the outside looking in.

Speaker 3 (01:05:55):
That's why I say I don't care what. I don't
care what you got going on.

Speaker 2 (01:05:58):
Sometimes I know.

Speaker 3 (01:05:59):
I need to hear something.

Speaker 1 (01:06:00):
I need to hear that for me, that's what I
need to hear. Like you have done everything you could do, girl,
walk away. This person is not good for you because honestly,
in that situation, because it was around the time my
mom passed, if I didn't have them beating it into
my head like that, it could have went somewhere where
it didn't need to go, you know what I'm saying,

(01:06:22):
because the mental state I was in, That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:06:25):
So I think for me though, I'm just such a
different person now what you was about to say about therapy, but.

Speaker 1 (01:06:31):
In therapy, therapy is getting harder for me because I'm
so emotionally aware of who i am. So half the
time when I'm talking to my therapists, I'm like, because this,
and I know and I needed to because but if
I did this, She's like, I can't tell you anything
because you already know.

Speaker 2 (01:06:46):
What to do. That's how my therapist be with me,
so she it really just be me talking yeah all
the time, because she'd be like, well.

Speaker 1 (01:06:52):
She's like because she's telling me, She's like, look at
the progress you've made. Because it used to be like,
oh and I don't know what to do. She's like,
you have the answers, do it. You know what I'm saying.
So it's like now my therapy.

Speaker 2 (01:07:07):
Sessions is really just be me talking, like I'm really.

Speaker 3 (01:07:10):
Just like I have to say things out loud.

Speaker 1 (01:07:12):
But I've become so emotionally intelligent, and I think that's
what it takes too confidence emotional intelligence.

Speaker 2 (01:07:18):
But I'm not gonna lie. I am that friend. We here.

Speaker 1 (01:07:23):
I'ma be here until you're ready to walk away. Whenever
you're ready to move, let's move. If he's hitting you
and if he had a baby on you, we moving
right now. But if it's other situations, I am I
am that friend. I'll be a listener here.

Speaker 2 (01:07:34):
Yeah, I'm gonna be here. You could talk to me
about I gid you. No relationship is perfect, Like everybody's
gonna go through stuff in their relationship. I am being
through stuff in my relationships. I understand that people need
to talk to somebody, but it's just certain things, like
you're not about to keep talking to me about no
cheating as men. I'm sorry, Like if y'all haven't misunderstandings

(01:07:58):
or disagreements about things that y'all both want for y'all future,
or even if y'all living together and y'all having miscommunication,
or you hate that he don't never be washing his
clothes or throwing his clothes on the side of the
dirty dirty clothes him instead of putting them in there,
and now y'all into it, and y'all haven't talked for
a week. Like, I understand people are gonna go through stuff,

(01:08:20):
but it's just certain things I want better from my
friends because one thing about people is men can sniff
out women who have low self esteem and who don't
value theyselves. And a man is never going to walk
away from you if you're allowing him to have his way,
if you just putting up with what he dishing out

(01:08:42):
and you just happy to be there and have a man,
he's never gonna walk away. So it's up to you
to want better for yourself because you steady coming to
me complaining to me about these men, and he like, well,
I feel like he loved me because he hadn't left me.
He haven't left you. Not because he loved you, haven't
left you. Because they never believe they begsdune me. They
never They never gonna leave the woman who let them. No,

(01:09:07):
you're right, but they never gonna leave the woman that
is gonna let them have their way. It doesn't have
anything to do with love, yes, And I feel like
as a woman, you have to know that you have
to have that sense of self worth. And I feel
like we're getting too old for this live too. I
know that we shouldn't try to use age because age
is just the number. But at the same time, careful

(01:09:32):
you keep that man. But seriously though, like I know,
because in life it doesn't matter what age you are.
We're always constantly learning, evolving, growing, and you never too
old to learn a new list. However, though, I have
wayless tolerance at thirty three for certain things that my
friends come talk to me about than I had when

(01:09:53):
we was twenty three. Yeah, no, I'm because at this
point it's just kind of like figure it out. I
know you this with the last five dudes that you dated,
how many times we got to talk about the same situation.
When you're gonna realize what the fuck going on and
get together?

Speaker 1 (01:10:10):
I do believe to you picking the wrong men, it
ain't their fault no more, it's yours. I also think
that goes into a lot of like women don't know
how to be the one that got away.

Speaker 3 (01:10:18):
It's so much power in them, and I love being.

Speaker 2 (01:10:21):
I'm the one that got away, So that's my fuck.
You do what I say.

Speaker 3 (01:10:33):
But yes, I think there's so much.

Speaker 1 (01:10:36):
When I tell y'all, and you can't take away.

Speaker 3 (01:10:43):
You can't take that away from me.

Speaker 1 (01:10:44):
How much I love myself, how much I know my worth,
my value, and how much I know people love me.
I'm so loved and I'm not talking about me, and
I'm talking about my friends, my family.

Speaker 3 (01:10:55):
I am so loved.

Speaker 1 (01:10:57):
So if you think you're finna come into my life
and not love me right, you can go because I'm
not gonna notice that you're gone, because I'm so loved,
because I'm a good person and I know my worst
and I know what I deserve, and when it comes
down to it, I may be crying right now, but
later on down on the road, you will never forget
about me.

Speaker 2 (01:11:16):
You're gonna be.

Speaker 1 (01:11:17):
Laying in bed with that bitch, think about what lex
P doing you could you gonna never ever, you could
never get over this, Leo Queen. You're gonna be walking
down the owl to your wife wishing it was me.
I'm not wishing that you would have did it right.

Speaker 3 (01:11:31):
I agree, So I'm and I'm okay with that because
I do right by people.

Speaker 2 (01:11:35):
And I wouldn't even care because once I'm doing with you,
I don't care who you be thinking about. You could
think about me, you could be thinking about the next beach.
I don't give it in because I walked away, right,
I live in the great part about walking away. Yes,
And it's like you just gotta know when you need
to walk away, and the girls notna be knowing. I
hate when people be like, oh my god, I don't
understand why he would treat me like these. I don't

(01:11:56):
understand why he would do me like these? Or why
is he wasting my time? You are wasting your time.
You are wasting your time because you could leave. He
can't waste your time if you ain't there, and he
can't do you like that if you're not letting him.
Do you like that? You know what I mean? Like,
it's a choice. It's a choice to get mistreated. And
I'm sorry. I'm not standing for no mistreatment when he

(01:12:17):
comes to any man. I'm not letting a man mistreat me.
And I don't want my friends to be letting me
in out here be this treat mistreating them. And y'all
shouldn't let people mistreat y'all period. Man, woman, borrow, I
don't care who stand on business by yrself? Okay, what
you think? Time I've cut off friends though, for like
the one really have that choose the same man over

(01:12:39):
and over and over again because it's not gonna end
well for you. And now if I have if there's
a DV situation that I have to feel like I'm involved,
I have to come rescue you. Like some of those
things I don't have a capacity for. And maybe when
I was younger I could, I had more capacity. We
were learning and growing. But now nearing forty, no, hon, yeah,

(01:13:01):
we can't do that.

Speaker 3 (01:13:02):
No, I can't do that.

Speaker 2 (01:13:03):
You gotta love yourself.

Speaker 3 (01:13:04):
You have to love yourself, and that's the common denominator.

Speaker 2 (01:13:07):
But I realized in me.

Speaker 3 (01:13:10):
When I was in like I.

Speaker 1 (01:13:11):
Said, this is not my last relationship. I'm talking about
the one before I didn't love myself. I completely had
left myself go. But I was also going through something
very fucking devastating as well, you know, And I truly
feel like I'll say that to today I die.

Speaker 3 (01:13:22):
I felt like this.

Speaker 1 (01:13:23):
Person took advantage of the mental state I was in.
But I say that because I lost all hope and everything.
And like you said, men can sniff out that confidence.
Because I would say this, Andre, you can attest for this.
Of all the years of dealing with that man, he
had never had me down bad like that. Every time
we would kind of fall out. I was in a
country with the next dude or I was doing I was.

Speaker 2 (01:13:41):
Like, oh yeah, yeah, you would always I would go, always,
go and do.

Speaker 1 (01:13:46):
He never had me down bad, but it was like
he caught me at the most vulnerable time in my life.

Speaker 3 (01:13:52):
And that's when I knew this is what women are going.

Speaker 1 (01:13:54):
Through when they can't get out of these situations because
you're not loving yourself, you know. I felt like in
that moment, I had lost everything, So I was just
trying to attach myself onto anything anybody that was around. So, yeah,
bitch ass nigga, you call me slippingever again?

Speaker 3 (01:14:08):
Yees he was.

Speaker 2 (01:14:11):
I was like, excuse me, girl. But when I tore
it up to the function and I seen him, I said, oh,
but let me tell you how God works, because now
we can talk about it because by the time this
episode drugs, let me tell how God works. When I
got out this relationship, and I'm telling you all this
because this is why it's important to pour into yourself.

Speaker 1 (01:14:30):
When I got off that relationship, poor minds, it was
already going up. Poor minds went up. Okay, I made
the next year. I have made the most money I
ever made. After I have really dropped that relationship, and
then in twenty twenty four that was made even more money,
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(01:14:51):
BT with a travel show.

Speaker 2 (01:14:52):
Amen. Because it's a testament that God will reward you
for being obedient. Hello, And I was obedient to the Lord. No, Yeah,
because I I feel like God had been shown you
signs that you needed to walk away from this situation.
And God will tell you he will not only direction
that he wants you to go, And if you keep
me in d sobedient, your life is going to be
your reflection of that. But as soon as you decide

(01:15:13):
to listen to him and take heed to what he's
trying to show you and get on the path that
he wants you to be on, your blessings is going over.
And I feel like that's what happened.

Speaker 3 (01:15:22):
My faith is always stronger than my doubt.

Speaker 1 (01:15:24):
And then I said what Beyonce said, the best revenge
is your paper treated somebody like complete shit. And now
you got to turn on the TV and see my face.
You can never escape me, baby, because my blessings are
rolling in. And I'm not saying that was my motivation
I'm not thinking about him. I'm just saying how much
my life elevated when I walked away. There is power

(01:15:46):
in walking away. There is so much power in walking
away because I know he looking like.

Speaker 2 (01:15:51):
Damn and some people in your life to be distractions, yes, man,
you know, but you have to have that spirit of
discernment to be able to walk away cut it off,
no matter how painful or stressful you feel like it
might be or hard to walk away from that as soon.
I've experienced it so many times. As soon as you
dropped that dead weight, the blessings like, like you said,

(01:16:12):
you're rewarded for paying attention, for getting yourself for what
do we say with the Lord dang on a space
out what not? Obedience? It's another word that we use
for like like you're actually listening to what the Lord
is saying, like you're doing his will. Sorry I messed
it up, but no, it's.

Speaker 3 (01:16:29):
Okay because I get what you're saying.

Speaker 1 (01:16:31):
Because this is the thing though, I think a lot
of times we pray to God to guide us, Yeah,
but we don't pay attention to the signs that he
gives us.

Speaker 2 (01:16:38):
I literally, God is the type of God that if
you ask him for a specific sign. He will literally
seen the specific sign, and people still ignore the specific
sign that you asked for. Hold on, that's not what
I asked for it.

Speaker 1 (01:16:56):
But now I've learned to pay attention. Hey, God, is
this what I'm supposed to do? A what am I
supposed to do? Please just guide me?

Speaker 2 (01:17:02):
Man?

Speaker 1 (01:17:02):
Oh, it just be so crazy. I seriously, I'm so
specific with my praise. You have to be And every
morning I'll be waking up and it's like what I
asked for. It's just like the simplest things I be
asking for. He's like, and it just be man. And
that's why I say. The fact that we have a

(01:17:24):
travel show right.

Speaker 2 (01:17:25):
Now, like what now? And I probably don't remember when.

Speaker 1 (01:17:32):
I had my show with my old roommate Jazz and
Lex Where to Next? So it's like doing this is
like exactly we manifested this for ourselves. We y'all so
worried about looking on other people play and you worried
about this, man, you worried about this. Focus on God
and focus on your blessings. I'm telling you I focused
on myself. I got back into church, and I'm telling

(01:17:55):
you it just started for everything.

Speaker 2 (01:17:57):
Because I just spoke a word when she said some
people are meant to be distraction or it's a test,
like sometimes God is just testing you, you know, And
y'all be feeling.

Speaker 3 (01:18:07):
The tests I passed with flying tell us.

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Speaker 3 (01:21:13):
It's on episode one.

Speaker 2 (01:21:15):
I know, but I'm like, how did it even come about?

Speaker 3 (01:21:17):
I don't know, I swear.

Speaker 1 (01:21:20):
So I wanted to talk about a little sexual health
for a minute and how it impacts your mental health.
But I also wanted to tie that into the conversation
we were having having earlier.

Speaker 3 (01:21:28):
Like I said, So I went to this thing. It
was called It's a risky It's called Risky Dinner.

Speaker 1 (01:21:33):
On my phone died. I can't look it up to
shout the hostyle. I think her name is Koya. I'm
so sorry if I got her name wrong. But it's
called Risky Dinner. Weezy hosts it with her. Shout out
to Weezy, I had an amazing time. So basically, it's
a dinner and they go around just letting black women
know like the statistics in their state of like HIV,

(01:21:54):
you know, STDs and things like that, because although you know,
black women are we our population is really low, not
compared to other ones. Our percentage of having HIV and
a's is really high. Yeah, they talk with Coya talks
with Koya, Yes, and she hosts something called Risky Dinner.
So it's basically, you know, an open table, open mic

(01:22:16):
where black women just get to sit and talk. They
talk about prep how to protect yourself, opening up conversations
with your partner about getting tested and things like that.
So I wanted to talk about this because I wanted
to read this fact for you. Black women account for
the largest share of new HIV diagnosis among women twenty two,

(01:22:37):
as well as the largest share of all women living
with HIV. The rate of new diagnosis among Black women
is ten times the rate among white women and three
times the rate among Latinas that that number is scary,
and the numbers in Atlanta, she would obviously she was
talking about specifically in Georgia because the dinner, because they

(01:22:58):
travel around, the numbers and Georgia are even scarier, you guys.
So I wanted to talk about that because it's so
crazy how growing up my mom was always like, don't
get pregnant, don't get pregnant. I think that's what they
do in the black community, even as we're like, don't
y'all keep having these kids and you ain't got enough
money'll keep up. But more importantly, we are not protecting

(01:23:19):
ourselves from these diseases.

Speaker 2 (01:23:20):
Let me tell you some. My mama was definitely showing
me the photos of comedy people with comedia got the rea,
and I was like, oh, yes, but I agree with you.
I think that people are definitely people raise their children
and talk about the fears or the scares of getting
pregnant rather often than actually talking about the diseases that
are out here, and more specifically the ones that you

(01:23:42):
can't get rid of because HIV herpes there's no cure hepatiites, right,
there's no cure for these things. And these days with
things like prep available, which we didn't have twenty years ago,
thirty years ago, I just feel like it's no excuse
to be out here living risky. Okay, I like how
you did that, but yeah, it's no excuse to be

(01:24:05):
out here creating risky behavior and doing risky stuff, putting
yourself in scary situations when you can literally prevent it
from happening. Yeah, you can prevent it.

Speaker 1 (01:24:17):
And I think what's scariest too, is like a lot
of times people don't like getting excuse me, they don't
like getting tested.

Speaker 2 (01:24:22):
They're at that.

Speaker 1 (01:24:23):
Now you can literally do it with your partner. You
can get tested at home for HIV.

Speaker 2 (01:24:30):
I mean it is, especially when you be that be
the long it's fifteen minutes of your life. You'd be like,
but I'll say this, and it don't seem like every
time every time you go get tested or you waited
for some six results, all you see is HIV.

Speaker 1 (01:24:44):
Oh my gosh, yay. That little billboard scary, but you
have to do it. That billboard's about a cookout, you
know what I'm talking about.

Speaker 2 (01:24:53):
I hate that damn billboard. I'll be like, yes, I'm
telling you, but it's it's necessary though, like we're we're
trying to make it a little light, but for real.

Speaker 1 (01:25:00):
Though, y'all need to go get TIS. But also because
it's better to know than not, because y'all have to realize.
We are so advanced with the medicines and stuff that
are available, so.

Speaker 2 (01:25:10):
When people are going undetectable, yeah, so it's like you
can live with it, but it's like you have to.

Speaker 1 (01:25:14):
Know before it's too late, because once it's too late,
it's too late.

Speaker 3 (01:25:18):
There's no going back.

Speaker 1 (01:25:20):
So I just think that the numbers when I went
to this dinner of the statistics of black women who
are being exposed to this who don't know, and it's
really sad.

Speaker 3 (01:25:30):
It really breaks my heart because.

Speaker 1 (01:25:31):
As black men, when we just go through so much bruh,
it's like the dating is hard for us, then we
have to deal with stuff like this. Then we gotta
deal with, you know, being single mothers, being the most unweeded.
It's just like it's so much on us. And I
think that's why it ties into all of this. It
goes back to loving yourself, protecting yourself. Nobody is gonna

(01:25:52):
protect us like us, So it's important that we all
gather and we have these uncomfortable conversations because if we
don't have it among us, nobody else is gonna protect us.

Speaker 2 (01:26:00):
And carry your own condom, you know. They be trying
to say that you, as a woman, you're not supposed
to carry your own country me and be saying that
they they gonna judge you, like if they come to
your house and you got y'all don't care, they gonnaud.

Speaker 1 (01:26:12):
Honestly in the way I am right now, Like I'm
not in a relationship, Like I'm cool, Like I'm not like,
oh my gosh, I need to have sex, Like I'm
not gonna be out here, like I'm not looking at
what we call grow, Yes, cause I used to be horny.

Speaker 2 (01:26:26):
You need that deep, you need that more than the
air you breath. I thought I did, but you know,
I don't know. I'm just so so that is real growth.

Speaker 3 (01:26:35):
I don't know what got into me.

Speaker 2 (01:26:37):
The Holy ghost, it's the Holy girl.

Speaker 3 (01:26:39):
I'm telling you.

Speaker 2 (01:26:40):
Lord, I'm I don't know, very proud of you.

Speaker 3 (01:26:42):
Yes, but I'm not even like worried about that.

Speaker 1 (01:26:44):
Like I found so much peace and just being alone,
like I'm getting everything I ever wanted. Like I know
I keep saying that, but bro, I'm gonna be on
t B like this is what I've been fighting for
my whole life.

Speaker 2 (01:26:58):
Like I get to go home and go to.

Speaker 1 (01:27:00):
Sleep, and I don't ain't nobody's son stressing me out. Yeah,
I ain't gotta cook for nobody. I ain't got nothing now,
don't get it twisted. Do I want partnership one day? Yeah,
but when God is ready to send me my man,
He's gonna send it to me. So it's just like
and not a day late. So I'm not worried about it.

Speaker 2 (01:27:18):
I know the woman I am.

Speaker 3 (01:27:20):
But like I said, going.

Speaker 1 (01:27:21):
Back to this, I know that I have to protect myself.
Nobody's gonna protect me. Nobody's gonna look out for me
but us. Y'all, you have to go get tested. Me
and black men out there. Stop thinking because she got
tested and she don't got nothing that you don't got nothing.

Speaker 2 (01:27:36):
It does not work like that, cause that be their
favorite line. You ain't gonna yeah, but are you?

Speaker 3 (01:27:45):
Y'all have to pay attention. If your man is throwing
your bav off, stop fucking him immediately.

Speaker 2 (01:27:50):
Probably.

Speaker 1 (01:27:51):
If you wake up and you feel like a fish
fry on a Friday night, stop having sex.

Speaker 2 (01:27:57):
With that man. Hey, we're keeping it real. I know
we are. That's why I say you're gonna be a
freaky frog.

Speaker 1 (01:28:04):
That's carry your own condoms fish from. If you wake
up and you fish fries be lingering like.

Speaker 2 (01:28:11):
After you fire, after you fry some fish in your house,
your clothes be smelling like your couch, it be lingering.
The fish fry is not what you want to smell like.
So yeah, I just specially not no cat.

Speaker 3 (01:28:27):
But it was just so eye opening. I went home.
They gave us a little at home kids, Babe.

Speaker 2 (01:28:32):
I went home.

Speaker 3 (01:28:33):
I took that test so quick? Is that what these
mix like?

Speaker 2 (01:28:37):
It looks like a kid, like a box and unboxing.
I was looking at their yegram. They have some of
them where you can get you got to send in
the results. And then some of them they have where
you know you can wait and they you know, the fifeste.

Speaker 1 (01:28:50):
So but yeah, y'all just please just go get tested,
especially my black women. It's so many, like literally ninety
nine of our listeners are black women, y'all. Please, these
numbers are crazy. Do some more researcher stuff. Y'all please
go get tested. Yes, y'all, please protect yourself. Please stop
listening to people. And y'all know this is what we
learned at risky Dinner too. Do y'all know they have

(01:29:10):
people creating fake my charts for people nowadays.

Speaker 2 (01:29:15):
Hobby because what they are what hobby? It is grave
random ship they're creating. No, I said, but my tie
had exit of my charteys, like you know, basically when
you go online and he shows you your Yeah, they're
copying that like their their their photo.

Speaker 1 (01:29:38):
That they have negative test results. So again, ladies, go
get tested. Protect yourself, even in a relationship, protect yourself.
Unless y'all are constantly going get tested together. There was
a lady there who was actually married, and she said, yes,
me and my husband, we still go get tested. We
go get tested, like because you know how many women
get STDs that are from their husband and their husbands

(01:30:02):
are you know, even vice versa. I don't, oh, you
the one doing to be doing the bandage job.

Speaker 2 (01:30:06):
That's no, that's what she said in the movie, because
she got HIV from her husband.

Speaker 3 (01:30:10):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (01:30:10):
And then that's another misconception to a lot of people
think oh, it's just high and this and that because
of the DM men. That is another thing that's like
out the window. At the end of the day, it's us.
We have the highest rate of it. You know what
I'm saying. It's not like we are only sleeping with
DM men. We're sleeping with men of all races, all everything.
So we have to protect yourself and.

Speaker 2 (01:30:29):
If you engage in in risky behaviors, to make sure
that you're Like, if you did something crazy last week,
definitely go test yourself. But then just always be mindful
that you have to test yourself again in ninety that
because your results might not be accurate. If you just
did something last week, I just thought I would throw it.

Speaker 3 (01:30:50):
I'm just gaking my thing a lot lot for a while.

Speaker 2 (01:30:54):
Give it to the Lord. Yea, let the Lord handily?

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Speaker 2 (01:33:25):
You know what I found? This good song.

Speaker 1 (01:33:28):
I love TikTok. TikTok always puts me on the good jam.
So it's a song called Ordinary. It's about this guy.
His name is Alex Warren. It's a good pop ballad.
I feel like the pop boys are coming back. They're
making a comeback and it's just a love song. And
what it is is the reason this song is so
intriguing to me is because his actual wife is in
the video.

Speaker 3 (01:33:48):
And like, there's a trend on TikTok right now.

Speaker 1 (01:33:51):
Everybody's showing themselves in relationships or they're showing like, hey,
I'm made of love. And this is why I'm so
patient because I know that one day I'm going to
find a man that can write a song like this
about me. It's such a beautiful song. Oh my gosh,
I haven't heard a good love ballad like this in.

Speaker 2 (01:34:08):
A long time. Really.

Speaker 1 (01:34:10):
It kind of gives me, like, you know how like
white people's church music sounds.

Speaker 2 (01:34:15):
Okay, you know what. I I don't know if that's
making me want to go listen, But no, white people
be getting down in the church. They do. They be
having a little white boy on a piano and it's like, Oh,
God is good. You know.

Speaker 1 (01:34:31):
I thought she was more so something about Oh, no, no,
I'm talking about That's what I thought she was talking about. No, no, no,
I'm not you talking about the you're getting into the
Catholic I'm talking about the white Baptist church. They get
down a little bit now, Okay, Okay, it is giving.
I'm telling y'all, it is such a good song. If
y'all listen to Alex Warren ordinary it sounds like a

(01:34:53):
church song, like a white church song. But he is
singing down you know what.

Speaker 2 (01:34:56):
That's fear do I'm want to be listening to. I
think he's ninety nine point three in Houston. My mom
would listen to their station all the time, y'all, and
it's a gospel station. But all they play is like
a white contemporary crest, and it sounds good.

Speaker 1 (01:35:10):
Any duet on there. I will not lie, That's what
I'm saying. I wasn't being funny.

Speaker 3 (01:35:14):
It sounds like like white.

Speaker 1 (01:35:15):
I wouldn't say it's black, because you know, black church
music is soulful. It's not a soulful song. Let me
make sure I say the right ring.

Speaker 3 (01:35:20):
But it's a beautiful ballad, and I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:35:23):
Ready to get a beautiful bad It's a beautiful ballad.

Speaker 3 (01:35:26):
Let's get back to the love songs.

Speaker 2 (01:35:28):
I'm tired of.

Speaker 1 (01:35:29):
Like I said in the past, I don't want to
wet the back up. I don't want to beat that
pussy up no more. Okay, tired.

Speaker 3 (01:35:37):
Somebody said, all right, Drea, what's your bob?

Speaker 2 (01:35:40):
I don't wait. Let me make sure I see it.
This same the right station.

Speaker 3 (01:35:45):
You think they're gonna give you an interview?

Speaker 2 (01:35:47):
No, but I just want to if people live in
Houston and they are looking for it's eighty nine point three,
I said, ninety nine point it's eighty No, what do
you mean eighty nine point three FM. The Good State
should be like ninety because they're ninety five and up.
Because you know how every station got the theme, they'd
be like eighty nine point three Spache. Let's how I go.

(01:36:10):
So anyway, listening to the station. So if y'all are
looking for a good Christian channel that plays contemporary Christian
music and y'all live in Houston, check.

Speaker 3 (01:36:23):
Out three Period eighty nine point three.

Speaker 2 (01:36:26):
Amen. So my Bob because now we're about to get
into some heathing music. But my Bob is an old song.
I was listening to My Savages earlier today, my future
and that is just what was I mean, he's still

(01:36:47):
on his little No, I'm talking about his about that yeah,
like twenty eleven to like twenty seventeen, Real Sisters dropped
my life. Real, this was about my Savages, was about
Pea Coats about I mean, I could really keep going
because I was really in my future bag making them days.

(01:37:10):
But anyways, I was listening to My Savages earlier today
and I was just like, wow, now this is hood gospel. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:37:18):
A preacher is what he was.

Speaker 2 (01:37:20):
Yeah, apparature is a deacon, a deacon to our community,
and he really said some profound words in that song.
I said, wow much my spirit because I felt that,
because that's how I feel about you know what on TikTok.

Speaker 3 (01:37:41):
That lady and he was arguing with on Twitter.

Speaker 1 (01:37:44):
I mean yeah, on TikTok Okay, he was on the
phone screaming okay because he was getting that word up.

Speaker 2 (01:37:51):
But now and I just feel like, like I was saying,
I just feel like, as I'm as, we're continuing to
grow and poor Minds is getting bigger and bigger. That
is really how I feel about my friends and stuff.
Because you can't let the money get between us. You
can't let the fame give between You can't let these
beaches and these niggas get between us. That's what he
said on the song. He said, this is a little

(01:38:13):
for my dogs. How we let this money get between us,
How we let these bitches get between us? How we
let these niggas get between us? A word I got
love for all my savages with fingers fingers another head
Oh yeah, okay out because that was the head I

(01:38:37):
must say big good times. When it came out, we
was young and rich and reckless. Life was it was
now we're still old and older. Oh we're not old,
we're older.

Speaker 1 (01:38:51):
We live a little little bit of So now we're
getting into our favorite segment of the week. If you
want your question to answer on the show, and make
sure you email us at ask poor Minds at gmail.
If you're a Patreon member, please put that in the
subject line and you will get to skip the line.

Speaker 3 (01:39:05):
Okay, you want to go first, you want me go first,
I'll go first. Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:39:10):
I've been with my girlfriend for a few years now
and we have a baby together. Everything was good until
about six months ago when I logg on the social
media and saw a picture of my child on her
ex's page, with him claiming the baby as his. I
confronted her, and she swore he was just being spiteful,
trying to ruin our relationship. She even offered a DNA test,
but I'm scared to take you because I don't believe

(01:39:31):
things like these happen by coincidents. So, as two women,
what do y'all think? Am I overthinking? Or is there
something I need to do? I think you need to confirm.

Speaker 1 (01:39:40):
Was it a picture that he took off of her
social media or was it a picture he him holding
the baby?

Speaker 2 (01:39:44):
Right?

Speaker 1 (01:39:45):
Because if she brought the baby around him and it's
a picture that he took, you need to get that
DNA test.

Speaker 2 (01:39:50):
Well, I feel like I would get the DNA test
either way if she offering, If she like, oh we
can get a DNA test, I will take her up
on the offer.

Speaker 1 (01:39:59):
Why I feel so comfortable doing that? Are they still
having conversations? Are they still talking? Because I could imagine
just somebody out the blue just posting a random baby
from a random ax and being like, oh, this is
my baby, and.

Speaker 2 (01:40:12):
I just I don't know. I think in situations like that,
if I was presented with that type of information, if
I was a man and I was presenting with that
type of information for my own peace of mind, now
I just need to know. Yeah, I need to know
so I could sleep will at night, because it's always
gonna be I feel like, if you don't get the
DNA test, it's still gonna always be something that's lingering

(01:40:32):
in the back of your mind. As this child is
growing up, you gonna always feel like, ah, it's a
possibility that this might not be my baby. Just do
it for your own peace of mind, and hopefully we're
gonna pray did he show baby. But if even if
it's not, at least now you know, you know what
I mean. At least now you know, and you could

(01:40:52):
say good.

Speaker 1 (01:40:53):
Readings to that, because, like I said, she's offering a
DNA test. I think you need that DNA test for
peace of mind. I know you're afraid, but there's nothing
better than peace of mind.

Speaker 2 (01:41:01):
I agree.

Speaker 1 (01:41:02):
All right, Hey, ladies, I'm twenty seven and I need
advice from my big homies because maybe I'm tripping. I
was dating this guy for three months. The first two
he was checking all my boxes, but in month three
I started noticing red flags his views on women, lack
of accountability, etc.

Speaker 2 (01:41:17):
I was already debating cutting him off.

Speaker 1 (01:41:19):
Then one day on FaceTime, I responded with a little
sass and he said it sounded like you want to
get head budded. Instantly, I felt uneasy since I've been
in an abusive relationships before, which he knew. I asked
him to repeat it. He refused and tried to play
it off. Laughed and called me crazy and said I
was making him the villain. Then he admitted I heard right,
but claimed it was a joke and I was overreacting.

(01:41:42):
I hung up texting him how I felt and he
never responded. Did I doubt dodge a bullet? Or am
I projecting because of my past?

Speaker 2 (01:41:50):
Love? Y'all? Deep? What have you said?

Speaker 3 (01:41:56):
As fuck?

Speaker 2 (01:41:57):
Yeah? Because I just feel like you don't joke like
to me. That's not like if you say something like that,
I am under the impression that you will actually do
it one day. Why you don't You shouldn't even play
like that. Do you want to get head?

Speaker 1 (01:42:10):
But especially with somebody who has been in an abusive relationship,
but even period, even if she wasn't in an abusive relationship,
you just shouldn't even play with no woman like this
saying something like well, the reason I say especially because
she's been an abusive relationship before because she's told you
and that's.

Speaker 2 (01:42:26):
A trigger for her.

Speaker 1 (01:42:27):
So instead of you being, hey, understanding, I'm so sorry,
I won't joke like that. I didn't mean like that.
I wasn't thinking you're saying that she's over, you're gaslighting her.
I hate when people tell somebody how something made them
feel and you're like, well, you're being stupid.

Speaker 2 (01:42:42):
You can't tell people how to feel.

Speaker 1 (01:42:43):
About something that you said to them and how it
makes them feel that's crazy to me.

Speaker 2 (01:42:49):
So you're not wrong.

Speaker 1 (01:42:51):
You dodged a bullet because, like I said, I think
that's somebody will joking's laugh and like that, he said.

Speaker 3 (01:42:57):
His first reaction went through his mind.

Speaker 2 (01:42:58):
I't nothing funny about being joking about. I've never like
like I'll just use my like my last relationship.

Speaker 3 (01:43:09):
He ain't never said nothing like, yeah, I choke your ass?
What No, No, that's crazy.

Speaker 2 (01:43:16):
List he's during six. It's a little all right, that's
a little different. No, I like a little choke. Okay,
that's the only one's a different. Uh cbd, that's the
only that's the only appropriate time to say that. All right, y'all.

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(01:44:17):
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Speaker 3 (01:44:21):
Stop hereiod.

Speaker 1 (01:44:22):
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share the content like subscribe, follow all that good stuff.
And let me say this before we close off, y'all.
There is one Twitter account that is connected to poor Minds.

Speaker 3 (01:44:36):
It's p O.

Speaker 1 (01:44:37):
You are underscore in my nds. Y'all are tagging the
wrong poor Minds page. If you see at poor minds
with no underscore, that is at fake page. Do not
follow that page. Okay, they block me Andrea and the
poor Minds page on both so we only have one Instagram,
one Twitter, one TikTok.

Speaker 2 (01:44:58):
It is PO you are underscore in my nds, all right,
and we gotta hell a fake Facebook page on the
Facebook pages it's our face. The crazy thing is our
Facebook page actually have the least amount of file.

Speaker 1 (01:45:11):
So if you're on Facebook, one that's ours got the
least amount.

Speaker 2 (01:45:15):
Of FI, but one that's not us got like two
hundred and fifty.

Speaker 1 (01:45:19):
Make if you actually look at the content, because the
caption is like whoever it is, don't speak English, because
their captures.

Speaker 2 (01:45:24):
Are like bumba claude? Should men? Should men pay bill?
Should men pay bill?

Speaker 3 (01:45:30):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (01:45:30):
No? Check answer below block block Like that's literally what
the captions. I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba claude,
bumba claude.

Speaker 3 (01:45:42):
Savages.

Speaker 2 (01:45:46):
My savage is my savage is my savage? Stressing pressure
in a manure. I grew up in a ruthless environment.
I'm on the phone with y'all. I asked them how
to trial in thirty five Rex is how my day
would spend. I gotta cocky back, That's how my day
would get Gonna be thinking all these bitches at official

(01:46:09):
the way you acting, you must don't respect the real
niggas her on a post some syrup. They try to
infiltray us and then betray us. I told you way
before what happened. They was hating on us. Hey, you
know we was jogging for it. They was mad at us. Hey,
it's a little for my dogs. How we let this
money get between us? How we let these bitches get

(01:46:31):
between us? How we let these niggas get between us? Yeah?
I got love for all my savages with ishi fingers.
I got love, buddy. It ain't like the love I
got for India. She be that one I was broke.
I got us to Infinity cast some murdered girl gonna.
I know you feeling me r ip. My granddad Quickie

(01:46:53):
should have seen this shit. Twenty was of soft support.
I seen this shit roding wrong with all them choppers
don't seen this sheep. These rappers mad at me. But
these niggas ain't doing sh sh and I found a cushlo.
I can smoke this ship and when it's fit to
half a ticket at the dealer ship ship the famous
doing a lot of dammite my free ship. If it's

(01:47:15):
me jump ship and it's a love from my fans.
Got me still here. Monster say I'm a lumin natty.
They trying to fake me catch your body. I don't
know what I'm a flip nigga. Give me some codin
and Nigga Big Masail wiping Nigga knows Big Masai Wiping

(01:47:39):
Nigga knows my girl shirts locking the dogs or by
this ship pulling up a fall. Ain't falling in love
with no hole.

Speaker 1 (01:47:49):
I had.

Speaker 2 (01:47:50):
I hate to fuck with any of you niggas. That's
my only regret. Drada Mink on the floor on my
whole home. Would have thought we was Paul. Paul would
think we was oh money, laying on the floor on
some holes with me. She al pro so. She never
met another nigga, not another another nigga like me. Even

(01:48:10):
if he got a million dollars, he can't make her
come like me. We're calling men. She like me. I
don't know, I have lesson fi I was. That was
good clig. That was really a right man. See y'all

(01:48:31):
next week, bring all my niggas in carcarratio.

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