Too Thick to Handle

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And as a Carby woman, are there times when you
actually like to be skinny or wish that you were
smaller and tone down certain body parts.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'll let you go first. Me. Yeah, I'm not a
stick as you m hmm. But girls, however, however.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
You know I don't necessarily I wouldn't say it come
with too many problems. If anything, I just feel like,
how do I know you like me for me?

Speaker 2 (00:31):
Or it's just because I'm finest.

Speaker 3 (00:38):
Like I'm so think like, oh my god, I know
it's real.

Speaker 2 (01:08):
What's up y'all? It's your girl lex P And it's
Sugarl Drey and the Cold.

Speaker 4 (01:14):
And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Where drunk mind speaks sober th. We ain't got no
guests today.

Speaker 4 (01:23):
We ain't got no guests today. When we do the intro,
they pretty much no, we don't have a guess because
that means I'm on the.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
White couch and you on it white liquor. I'm always
on that white You remember that song full of that brown? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
full of that a white Yeah, that's that Louisiana.

Speaker 4 (01:44):
If y'all in the commerce from Louisiana, y'all know what
I'm talking about.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
You know, I'm not from Louisiana, neither mine, but but
you was closed.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
I wasn't closed. I was value.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
Houston is like not far, but it's also not like close.
Like the closest I think is what like Charles is
like two.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Hours Lake Charles. I think it's like two hours. Well,
what you mean the closest city to like, it's the
closest to Houston.

Speaker 4 (02:10):
No, no Vent in Louisiana, it's the closest to Houston
because you definitely hit Vent before you hit Like Charles.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
But is the bigger city. So that's what everybody think of.

Speaker 4 (02:20):
Yeah, I'm about to sound dumb. What Shreeveport's in Louisiana.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
It is? Oh, but you know what, it depends what
side of Texas that you're on. It depends.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. All of that depends. So
for me, Lake Charles was always somewhere that I went
growing up because my granddad was from Lake Charles and
my family is from Lake Charles. That's from Appelusi's that's
where that good food that rule Shreeport. They're from a
lot of places in Louisiana. But my granddad was from

(02:51):
Lake Charles, so I used to go to Lake Charles
alife and it was like two hours to get there.
So I never thought about venting because I never went there.

Speaker 4 (03:00):
You you're gonna pass through venting to get to let Draws. Okay, okay,
Vitting a little small town. It's actually probably smaller than
the Orange business is tiny.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
It's like Lufkin. Ooh, Lufkin is probably bigger than ventting
business so tiny. You know what's funny?

Speaker 1 (03:15):
When I went to college, when I went to SFA
and Nakadocci's, Lufkin was the big town to go tom
So whenever we needed to go to the mall, whenever
we wanted to go to a fancy restaurant and eat.

Speaker 2 (03:30):
We would go to Luskin.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
We would drive and it was like thirty minutes to
get to Lufkin from Nakadoci's.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
And yeah, they had.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
Like olive garden. They had a cheddars.

Speaker 2 (03:42):
Ooh, Cheddars used to be that one like some.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Cross crossots the finish dip used to be. But I mean,
Chetta's was my jam. I used to love me some chillars. Oh,
I still ain't too good for a chill I haven't.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Had it in a while, but you know what I
eat the people.

Speaker 4 (04:00):
You know, I don't even think we got there here.
I don't think so either. But you know coisines. I
know my taste Cuisines with my croissant.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
I like a cuisine with my croissant. Okay, I'm French.

Speaker 4 (04:16):
Told you I grew up next to Louisiana. You But anyways,
my cuisines I know my taste. Budds are a little different.
I love chicken fried steak. I think chicken fried steak
is so tasty. Yeah, you ain't your own with that one.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
I love a good chicken fried steak.

Speaker 4 (04:34):
Now, but I haven't had one in so long. I
don't know where to get it from. Like House of
Pies in Houston.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
They have the best chicken fried steak, and I haven't
been there in so long. I never ate there, Oh,
House of Pies.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
When I lived in Houston, I never I mean, of course,
Houseapies was always a thing, but I never ate there.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
I was always a Whataburger. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (04:55):
I went to House of Pause one night after the club,
I think with my brother. Shout out to Mike Mobile,
that's my bro. And he took me to House of Positum.
I had the best chicken fried steak. I was that
girl that used to go out with like the niggas,
And I didn't care because I'm gonna order. Bitch, what
did you order chicken fried steak for? And the beadps
is out?

Speaker 2 (05:15):
I don't care. I'm all you like that. I don't
one thing about Lake. She really don't.

Speaker 1 (05:19):
I don't care for and I feel like I don't
necessarily care. It's just certain stuff. I just don't be like, yeah,
you don't eat like that.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
I'm a little peaky.

Speaker 4 (05:28):
Yeah you are picky, but I feel like you order
what you want, but what you happen And I'm like, yeah,
you gonna tear it up. Now, you finish your food.
Now you gonna eat you but you you know my
I just feel like I'm not gonna affect the funk.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
I want that chicken fried steak. You know what else?
I stop.

Speaker 4 (05:45):
I ain't call it chicken fried steak because it said
it's steak. It's cube steak and you beat it down
and you fried in chicken better. Oh it's so it's
chicken fried steak.

Speaker 1 (05:55):
So it's fried in the same batter as the cheek
the chicken.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
They don't change the bat. Well, it's not about you're
talking about the earl. They don't. They do change the earl,
maybe not the batter.

Speaker 1 (06:06):
Oh, but like if they fry the chicken in it,
they gonna put the steak in it. They're not gonna
switch out the batter. Well, they probably trying to figure
out what a name derived. Why can't just it's.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
Because it's the same batter, not the exact Like if
they use this batter for chicken, they're not gonna just
pick up that same batter, but it's the same ingredients
because sometimes people be allergic, so you got to separate
the batter. But this is the chicken batter and it's
same chicken batter. I'm using it for the steak, but
they separate because we don't do cross contamination.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
You feel me, right, But that's why I guess that's
what It'd be confused to me because I'd be like,
why you just can't call it fried steak.

Speaker 4 (06:43):
Because no, it's not it's chicken fried steak because it's
not chicken involved. But yes it is, because we frying
that steak, like we fry that chicken and it's a
very it's a secret recipe for certain people. Okay, everybody,
Chicken fried steak don't taste the same, and a lot
of people stop trying to get too fancy with it.
You're supposed to use that cheap cube steak. It needs

(07:04):
to be good and tender. It needs to be I mean,
if I can't bite through that steak, I don't want it.

Speaker 2 (07:09):
I wonder if they have a vegan version.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
They probably got a vegan version of it. They got
a vegan version, I don't want. They probably having vegan
ghibli gravy.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
You know I fancy with that one, A right? I
never liked that. I used to like my dressing dry.
I like it, do.

Speaker 4 (07:28):
What the fuck is a ghiblit don't It's something in
that that What is it?

Speaker 2 (07:32):
It's something in that chicken I don't like. It's just
certain stuff that like dirty rice. Yeah, I told you
I have a.

Speaker 1 (07:39):
Horror story with dirty rice. I never used to eat
it growing up as a child.

Speaker 4 (07:46):
What is it?

Speaker 2 (07:47):
You never told me? I did tell you this because
I don't like it. I didn't like it. I thought
it had dirty and eggs.

Speaker 4 (07:56):
I thought you said like a horror story, like you
took a bite and something. Now, I thought they had
dirty needs. So I just wouldn't eat it for a
really long time.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
And then finally one day when I was like eight
or nine, I finally tried it, and I was like,
this is good, and my mom almost like, I told you,
it don't got dirty me.

Speaker 2 (08:12):
I don't know. I thought it had dirty meeds.

Speaker 4 (08:14):
So there's a difference between rice dressing and dirty rice.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
No, it's nice to me, that's the same.

Speaker 4 (08:19):
Well, exactly, I learned dirty rice is when you have
the liver and the giblet or whatever they put in
there is rice dressing when it's just like the ground
beef and the pork sausage or whatever you put in yours.

Speaker 2 (08:32):
The what makes it dirty is the guts. Can we
look up? What is a gibletz? What is a what
makes giblet? Gravy, giblt, ghiblit, giblity? What is a giblet?

Speaker 4 (08:42):
What is a gibt? We're gonna find out what is Yeah,
what is a ghiblit? Let's see, Okay, cause I feel
like a giblet. It's in the it's in the chicken.
I know, I keep thinking of a goblin. It is
okay to what gabling a giblet going to a ghibli.

Speaker 1 (09:04):
A giblet is the liver, heart, gizzard, and neck of
a chicken or other fowl, usually removed before the bird
is cooked, and often used to make gravy, stuffing or soup.

Speaker 2 (09:15):
Ooh, so that's what it is. The gizzard, that's what.

Speaker 4 (09:18):
So if you put that in your rice, that's what
makes it dirty rice, because.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
That's what makes it dirty. I want to get a
little rule, but I get it's all of that. Yeah,
so the giblet is all of that, and y'all are
her giblet up? Yeah, that's all of that. I never like,
I said, I never liked ghibli. I don't mind a
little ghibli. And then they've been putting eggs. Me, what

(09:42):
kind of eggs?

Speaker 1 (09:43):
Giving a gravy has eggs? And me, bro that ship
is this? Well, let me not, Let me not disrespect
people delicacies. And that's my delicacy. And I'm a fan
it is. But you know, like a little gizl. I
used to fuck up a little GISLI back in the day.
Don't they have fried only in my rice and in
my dressing. Some people actually eat gizzle.

Speaker 2 (10:05):
I think they do fraued gizzards.

Speaker 1 (10:07):
I have a question, and it's like, you know, roof
with some feebles. Do you feel like it's certain things
that we still eat to this day that's like slave food,
Like it comes from like back during slavery time, then
we still eat it even though we know absolutely.

Speaker 4 (10:23):
And I know you're not trying to be offensive, but
I'm not. It's a good educational moment. So there's a
series on Netflix called High on the Hog and it
really shows you the history of the food that we
eat and it's so interesting. But absolutely, absolutely some of
the I mean even when we did tribal queens and

(10:43):
we learned about you know, the Geechee people and their traditions.
Absolutely a lot of the recipes that we have to
this day comes from, you know, the slavery times because,
like we said, black people, we used to get the scraps,
we used to get what was left over, and we
learn learned how to make cuisines from the leftover meat.

Speaker 2 (11:02):
That we had and it's still stuff that people are
eating to this day.

Speaker 4 (11:07):
But that's why I think as time when on we
realized this is why it's like black people can cook
so well, because y'all was trying to give us the
scraps of nothing that mattered, and we still were making
amazing meals and feeding our families off of that. And
that's why to this day, the cookout is a thing.
We know how to throw it.

Speaker 1 (11:27):
Do you feel like if we know better, then why
don't some people be doing?

Speaker 4 (11:33):
Because that is just no, it's not about that. It's like,
sometimes people like what they like. It's good food. Yeah,
it's good food just because I mean, I mean health reasons,
and of course things change. But I'm not gonna lie.
My grandfather, my great grandfather, they used to raise hogs.
He ate pork his entire life. That man lived a

(11:56):
man He lived to be ninety something years old. My
granddaddy lives to be eighty nine, eating pork his whole life,
smoked cigarette, spit, tobacco, grew up in venting Louisiana.

Speaker 2 (12:09):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (12:10):
Let me give y'all ai gibblet gravy recipe, gibblet from
a whole chicken, A whole so that includes the geezers,
the liver, et cetera, four cups of cold water, four
type of spoons, unsalted butter, all purpose flour, two cups
of pan drippings from or chicken broad half a cup

(12:33):
of milk, a teaspoon of fine salt, half a teaspoon
of freshly grown black pepper, two large hard boiled eggs.

Speaker 2 (12:43):
Oh you did the eggs.

Speaker 1 (12:45):
Yeah, because when my Grandaddy used to make it, used
to have the egg yolking, like from a hard boiled egg. Okay,
that's why I think I never would want it, because
I would be.

Speaker 2 (12:52):
Like, I just want the dressing. I don't want the
gravy on it. But I also don't like cranberry sauce.
You know, cranberries a hit or miss from me.

Speaker 1 (13:00):
You like me, but you really love cranberry juice. You
a cranberry juice connoisseur.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
It's in my fridge right now. But you don't like
the sauce.

Speaker 4 (13:07):
It depends. I realized. I like the homemade cranberry.

Speaker 2 (13:13):
Sauce I don't like and I think ocean spray. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, Like it's so crazy when I think about Thanksgiving
growing up, I had some of the best Thanksgivings. I
mean everything was made from scratch, everything was made.

Speaker 2 (13:26):
I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 4 (13:27):
We had a good friends Giving this past year though,
because we us spread down. We can really cook though,
we can like everybody like we really was cooking, and
that's what Thanksgiving like, Let's get down to the nitty green,
let's cook. Let's everybody bring a dish. Everybody who got
clean kitchen?

Speaker 2 (13:44):
So everybody? How do you know? Though?

Speaker 1 (13:47):
Because I've been to all your house I'm not talking
about us, I'm saying in general, like with friends, how
will people even know if they friend got a good well?

Speaker 4 (13:54):
Because the people that I celebrate friends Giving with, that's
who I've been to all your hotanksgiving. I go to
my honey Lane's house.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
That's it.

Speaker 4 (14:03):
Before that, it was in my sister's kitchen with me
and my mom, my sister and my nephews.

Speaker 2 (14:07):
I know what's going on. I don't. I don't play
that shit. I don't play that shit either.

Speaker 1 (14:12):
I just feel like it's just so interesting to me
the differences between like how we cook our food and how,
you know, other rates exactly cook their food.

Speaker 2 (14:22):
I seen this video sidebar.

Speaker 1 (14:24):
I seen this video earlier today on Instagram. Shout out
to Ali our girl. Yeah it's my girl financed Ali.
So she had posted this video earlier and it.

Speaker 2 (14:40):
Was this guy. Oh my God, what is his name?

Speaker 1 (14:42):
He be going viral all the time because he be
schooling the people on politics.

Speaker 2 (14:47):
But anyways, oh Dean, you're talking about Dean? Yes, his
name is Dean. I don't know.

Speaker 4 (14:54):
Oh, let me not Yeah, I don't want to like
miss quote. Dean is very damn and it's not on
the story.

Speaker 1 (15:03):
So anyway, So it was this lady that had called
in and she was talking about Kamala right, and she
was like yeah, because you know, she was basically talking
about the Trump administration, is y'all like Trump wanted to
get this black woman. And she was like, well, actually
she's not even black. And he was like, well, why
would you say that she's not black? And she was like,

(15:26):
because she's not.

Speaker 5 (15:28):
Yes, de.

Speaker 2 (15:31):
Good old Dean, good old Dean.

Speaker 1 (15:34):
He's an ally so so yeah, so he was like, well,
why would you say that she's not black?

Speaker 2 (15:40):
And she was just like because, like, she's not.

Speaker 1 (15:44):
And he was like, well, her dad is Afro Jamaican
and her mom is Asian, like her mom is Indian
Asian or whatever, and he was like, so she is
black and she was like, well, I don't consider her
to be African American, which because she's not African American.

Speaker 2 (16:03):
And what was funny was you you're the granddaughter.

Speaker 1 (16:06):
Trying to school her and then she was like, well whatever,
and he was like explaining this to her. He was like, well,
how do you think black people got to Jamaica?

Speaker 2 (16:15):
How do you think.

Speaker 1 (16:15):
Black people got to America? Well no, he said America first,
and she was like through slavery and he was like, okay,
how do you think they got to Jamaica And she
was like I don't know. And he was like through
the Transatlantic slave trade, same thing, and she was.

Speaker 2 (16:31):
Like, well whatever.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
It's just so crazy to me how race and ethnicity
be fucking about she said. Because then the same lady,
and this is an older Caucasian lady, she was like, well,
I don't consider people who are all people that are
Asian or not Japanese, and he was like yeah, because
Japanese isn't a race.

Speaker 2 (16:55):
It be really fucking people up.

Speaker 1 (16:58):
It'd be beating they ass real can be being a
ass fucked up, real bad, like people really don't be understanding.
And it was so crazy because it was an older
Caucasian lady. So she just ended up saying well, whatever,
it's being passed down generation by generation.

Speaker 2 (17:17):
Even I'll say this as a Black woman.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
I have had conversations with older Black people in my
family and racing ethnicity be fucking them up to they
gonna be understanding the difference either. And I just be like,
I feel like it's our duty as millennials and gen
Z to really make sure that we like educate ourselves
and educate our children and the generations coming up to

(17:44):
understand the difference between race and ethnicity, and just also
stop making race such a big thing.

Speaker 4 (17:50):
People are people, We're I think that's what I've said
that on the past episode. When you travel the world, yeah,
you realize how similar we are versus different. Like of course,
traveling you learn about other cultures and things are different.
We may eat different foods or but we all experience

(18:12):
the same thing. We are so much more alike than
we are different, you know what I'm saying. So it's
so crazy that we judge people or treat people a
certain way because you're darker than me, I'm lighter than you,
my hair is curlier than yours, or I'm thicker than you,
I'm skinnier than you. It is such a crazy concept.
And the older I get, I'm just so glad that

(18:35):
I took the time to really educate myself and also
surround myself with educated people that are also open to
educating themselves.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
I will say a lot of things I learned were
from my friends.

Speaker 4 (18:46):
Like when I met Kila, I felt like I was
so ignorant to other cultures and experiences and life, and
she really taught me so much and really got me
into like traveling for real, you know what I'm saying.
So I feel like it's so important. It's geography is
important in school. You feel like, Okay, let me learn
what this is, y'all. Geography is important. You need to

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learn where these countries are. Y'all need to learn that.
You know, Europe as a continent and it has different
countries in there. It's not like the United States, And
so it's important that y'all understand and learn that.

Speaker 2 (19:23):

Speaker 4 (19:24):
It's just a lot of things that go into education.
And that's why it doesn't stop whether you graduated high
school or college.

Speaker 2 (19:31):
It's always important. I'm still you know.

Speaker 4 (19:34):
Sometimes I will still get on maps and I just
look at the world. I'll be like, oh my gosh,
I didn't know this country was right here. I didn't
know this was in proximity to this country. It's always
important to keep learning. I mean, even when it comes
to Africa.

Speaker 1 (19:47):
I think a lot of the time, so many people
think about Africa and they think of it as like
a rural continent.

Speaker 2 (19:54):
But he still don't even think it as a continent.
They talk about it like it's a country.

Speaker 5 (19:57):
They do.

Speaker 1 (19:59):
But it's so many beaches, it's so many people that
look so different, like Egyptians look so different from Nigerians,
like except I could keep going on and on, like
it's just such a vast variety of people that live
on the continent, the Ethiopians, and then you have Kenyans

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and like the least just goes on and on, and
I think people have like this one image in their
mind when they think of Africa, and it's it's that
I'm not gonna lie, that's my pet peeple, and I'll
be like, oh, realize state Chells is in.

Speaker 2 (20:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (20:33):
I hate when I be like when somebody says something like, oh, yeah,
I'm going to Africa this year, where Okay, that's like me,
I'm going to the United States, which actually not even
the United States I'm going to North America.

Speaker 2 (20:47):
Are you going to Canada? You're going to Mexico. Well, well,
we ain't got that many places.

Speaker 1 (20:53):
It does, but you know what I'm getting at. No,
I mean no, we are Puerto Rico. Well no, that
about states.

Speaker 2 (21:01):
The countries in North America is only.

Speaker 4 (21:04):
Three, right, yes, well it's only three. But yeah, Puerto
Rico is US, Yes, US territory.

Speaker 2 (21:09):
But I say this, you know what, I can realize
the islands that are US territory too.

Speaker 4 (21:15):
When people say, like when you look at the globe,
the way they scaled Africa to be so small and
it's so incorrect, I didn't realize how large Africa was,
Like on the grand scale of things, it's so big,
but they scaled it down for map size. Make that
ship right, make it right, scale it properly, so people

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aren't understanding how big that continent truly is.

Speaker 2 (21:42):
It's Africa number two.

Speaker 1 (21:44):
I know Asia is number one of the largest continent,
the largest continent.

Speaker 2 (21:49):
I know Asia is number one. Scale it right. Yeah,
I didn't know that it was that goddamn big.

Speaker 1 (21:55):
Make it I knew that. Like, so Asia is number one,
Africa's number two. North America's number three.

Speaker 2 (22:03):
We number three. Come give me that bronze medal. I'll
take it. I love to win some but I don't
know why I didn't think that. I thought we were
all the g my frid We're gonna win something, were
gonna win us. We ain't gonna we leave it here
with something. I don't play that. But what do you think, Tay, Like,

(22:23):
how do you feel about that?

Speaker 5 (22:25):
Like?

Speaker 1 (22:26):
I just feel like so many people here in the States,
as far as Caucasian people, black people, all of us,
Like so many people are uneducated when it comes to
race in Anthony City. Yeah, I mean even I was
before I went to Howard because I'm from Chicago. I
didn't really go to school or grow up with like
African people, or I knew Africans, but I didn't know

(22:49):
like about the Caribbean. I didn't really understand like Europe
and Asian all that stuff. I understood it in like
a geography sense, but like not about cultures that way.
And it wasn't until I got to Howard where I'm
seeing krim de la crem of black people all over.
I'm learning about Granada and Saint Martine and all these
different ethnicities within being a black person. Yeah, that's where

(23:13):
I really learned about it. And then traveling more that
helped me kind of understand the culture. But a lot
of these people just listen to anything. They don't really
do research. They're not studying, so they're never gonna know.
And when you listen to propaganda on TV, like, that's
gonna taint your whole image and what you think in
your thought process as well. So it's kind of like
you have to as parents, one have to educate your

(23:34):
children so that they know what's true, what's their culture,
where they came from, where, what the slave trade was,
how people got to where they were, how that started.
And then as you as an individual, you gotta take
time to understand that and educate yourself as well, to.

Speaker 2 (23:49):
Do the research.

Speaker 4 (23:49):
When I tell y'all, when I got to college, when
I got to Houston, I had met this black girl
and she barely spoke English and she was German, and
it blew my fucking mind. I said, what, Oh, I
thought she was lying. I was like, she was like, girl,
what are you talking about? Like, But that's I mean,
growing up in a small town, you just but you know,

(24:11):
you have to take it upon yourself to really educate
yourself because it you it would be so crazy the
things that you realize that people just don't know.

Speaker 1 (24:20):
Yeah, So being from Texas and like growing up in
a family where my mom's side of my family was
from Louisiana, like, I have a lot of creole people
on my granddad's side of the family. So I got
cousins who are like very fair skinned, very loose waves
here or whatever. So of course that would be like, oh,
I'm creole. Oh I'm creole. So but I never thought

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to like look into really what that necessarily.

Speaker 2 (24:46):
Means, being creole.

Speaker 1 (24:49):
And so for me, it really wasn't until I got
older and then I found out that my biological dad
was half Dominican, and then I'm like, well, what does
that mean? And so then I started finding out about
Afro Latino people and it's like, Okay, these people are
still black though the ship just dropped them off a
little bit, exactly, took the left of mind, busted a

(25:11):
rock exactly. And then even like becoming best friends, like
even me and Lynn and becoming her best friend and
like really kind of getting immersed in like Jamaican culture
because both of her parents are from Jamaica and just
even going to Jamaica so many times and realizing it's
Indian people that are in Jamaica.

Speaker 2 (25:29):
It's Asian.

Speaker 1 (25:30):
It's Chinese people and they were and they were born there. Yeah,
and they have the act every walk on it.

Speaker 2 (25:39):
Yes, yes, it's.

Speaker 4 (25:41):
They're still Chinese, they're still Indian, but they're Jamaican.

Speaker 2 (25:45):
There's a series on Hulu called Black Cake.

Speaker 1 (25:47):
It's really good, and it's like the girl's father was
Asian and then her mother was Trinidadian and it talks
about like her story growing up there.

Speaker 2 (25:56):
It's really good. If y'all haven't watched it, it's called
Black Cake. It's really good. Yeah, I'm gonna watch it too.

Speaker 1 (26:03):
It's just very interesting, and I think it's so far
outside of what any of us can fathom. Because, if
I'm gonna be honest, I say this all the time,
I feel like here in America, I don't know sometimes
when it comes to like us as the black community here,
I be feeling like we not really as tapped in
with our culture a.

Speaker 4 (26:23):
Lot of them over I'm still, like I said, I'm
still be learning. I still be I'm very ignorant to
all this stuff because I didn't know any better, but
it's upon it to educate ourselves, because I'm not gonna
lie you saying that stuff about like the Chinese people
that are in Jamaica and they're Jamaican, but they're still Chinese.

Speaker 2 (26:40):
Now.

Speaker 4 (26:40):
I probably learned that maybe like a year and a half,
a year and a half ago, when I said, I
was like, what the fuck?

Speaker 1 (26:45):
But you know, that's what I love though about, Like
every time I go to Jamaica with Lyn, like even
though they might have been brought there or they might
be immigrants, they're still so tapped into their culture. Yes, Yeah,
And it's the same thing in the like in other
areas of the world. I feel like it's only here
in America that like us as black people, because even

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in the UK, like when we went to London, a
lot of the black people that live in London they
still be tapped into their African roots.

Speaker 2 (27:16):
Yeah, it's here.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
Only here in America where we don't really be knowing
our ancestry and stuff. We gotta do DNA tests and
we gotta go do the research ourselves, and we have
to find out where we're from because in a lot
of other countries they be born into it.

Speaker 2 (27:30):
Even though they're not in.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
Their original country, they still know their culture.

Speaker 4 (27:35):
I think it's just the way we were raised honestly,
with you know, thinking like America is the greatest country
ever and all that stuff. But I think it happen
to have because we do have culture. American culture is
a thing, especially Black American culture.

Speaker 2 (27:47):
It's very real.

Speaker 1 (27:48):
I mean, no, because they be tapping into it in
other Don't get me wrong. Why do you think people
in the UK started rappings going back? I mean, we
were the first red in America, So we definitely have culture,
Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to say that

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we don't, but I'm more so talking about like our
real route, knowing where we came from. We had to
we have American culture because we had to create that.

Speaker 2 (28:18):
We didn't have shit else.

Speaker 1 (28:19):
We ain't know nothing else about ourselves, so we had
to create some.

Speaker 4 (28:22):
Shep Unless you were Cherokee, okay, you used to tell
people chore okay, but black people, a lot of black I.

Speaker 2 (28:34):
Mean some people, we they all American. They was here.

Speaker 1 (28:37):
Now, No, you're not wrong, but I'm just saying I
feel like we had to create shit. So for sure,
we do have American culture. African Americans have culture, but
I be more so talking about like us going where
we came from. You didn't know where you came I mean,
I know you ended up doing your DNA ances Street
and then Estine you found out, but you didn't know
for like what twenty years where you were from. I

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didn't know about my ancestry for a very long time,
and then even with me being adopted, I definitely didn't
know until I really started doing the research. I'm sure
you didn't know if I have like family.

Speaker 2 (29:13):
Yeah, you probably.

Speaker 1 (29:17):
Even with Sierra coming on the show and telling us
like she found out that her family is from Benig Yeah,
I'm sure that's something she didn't probably know her whole life.

Speaker 2 (29:26):
I bet they all got good knees out there too.
Tory and Raschard actually was just out there with Lauren.

Speaker 1 (29:34):
Hugh, and I know she was on time for that.
It's time to get into topic number one. You're right,
so right, I'll be trying to have real in depth
it was man, okay, Typic Number one is being thick?

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Really all egg does being thick? A Carvey come with
too many problems? And as a Carby woman, are there
times when you actually like to be skinny or wish
that you were smaller and tone down certain body parts.

Speaker 2 (30:11):
I'll let you go first. Me. Yeah, I'm not a
stick as you.

Speaker 1 (30:18):
But girls, however, however, you know, I don't necessarily I
wouldn't say it come with too many problems. If anything,
I just feel like, how do I know you like
me for me? Or it's just because I'm fine as fuck,

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like I'm.

Speaker 2 (30:41):
Too thick, Like oh my god, I know it's real,
like what do you like? Do you like me? Or
do you like the cheese?

Speaker 4 (30:53):
You know, I don't know for me, it's honestly like,
it's not about being too thick, or I will sh
I was skinnier.

Speaker 2 (31:01):
You know what the thing is, that's not all that.

Speaker 6 (31:05):
Is.

Speaker 4 (31:06):
It is all that, but it's not because that's what
people are intimidated by.

Speaker 7 (31:16):
Fun This is.

Speaker 4 (31:21):
It's not about it's being really thick all that and
does it come with a lot. What comes with a
lot is just having confidence about yourself, because it doesn't
matter if you're so thick and you so fine, or
if you're so skinny and petite and on my little
tiny ass, or if you just a thick, bulupcious big
ass woman. It's confidence that makes.

Speaker 2 (31:44):
Big ass woman. I'm a big as woman.

Speaker 4 (31:50):
It's a lot of big ass women out there and
I am one of them. I'm so he's so big
in time whatever she said, I'm the bigg bitch.

Speaker 2 (32:01):
You tall? Yeah, I'm big and tall.

Speaker 4 (32:03):
So I say all that to say what that? The
thing that intimidates people is your confidence. So when somebody
it doesn't matter if you got a fifty two inch
ass or two inch ass, it doesn't matter.

Speaker 1 (32:16):
But we specifically friends talking about being thick. Do you
ever feel like because you so thiep No, you walk
in the room and everybody like, damn that ass that?

Speaker 2 (32:26):
Do it make you uncomfortable? It don't because I'll stay
it pired of people making comments about your body.

Speaker 4 (32:32):
Okay, so I'll say this but pre BBL, when I
didn't have a big I was, I walk in the room,
people got something to say about me anyway. Like I said,
it's just about your confidence and who you are because
people are always gonna have something to say. The skinniest
I was even now to this day, I you know
I lost this way.

Speaker 2 (32:49):
You know I'm healthier now.

Speaker 4 (32:50):
People still be in the comments, Oh my god, lecture
tendies are growing back. Oh my god, Lexure getting too small.
Oh my god, lexture getting too big. I've realized people
are always gonna comment about my body, no matter bbl
or not thick or not skinny. When I was two
hundred pounds, they was talking about me. Now I was
one seventy. Around the bt Wars, I was one seventy.
Now I'm one seventy five. It don't matter. So I

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just feel like being a woman comes with all of
that thick or not.

Speaker 2 (33:17):
That's what I'm saying. So it don't matter. It don't matter.
You don't get talked about.

Speaker 1 (33:22):
I don't know though, because I feel like some people
don't be getting talked about as much as others. I
really just think it depends. I think it depends on
if people just.

Speaker 2 (33:31):
Be paying attention.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
Some people that can lose weight gain weight, nobody cares. Yeah,
I think it just depends on if people have that
spotlight on you, and.

Speaker 2 (33:41):
You do have to have confidence in yourself.

Speaker 1 (33:43):
But regardless of having confidence, because I feel like I'm
a very confident person, but it still get annoying people
speaking on your.

Speaker 2 (33:50):
Body all the time. All the time we.

Speaker 1 (33:53):
Had did that breakfast club interview a few months ago
and somebody, it was like a few people that was like,
is Dreya pregnant?

Speaker 2 (34:02):
And I'm like, Mitch weird.

Speaker 1 (34:04):
The way it's the way saying never been there but facts.
But I mean maybe I was like a little bloated
that day.

Speaker 2 (34:09):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (34:09):
Maybe y'all the way I was sitting in my posture
wasn't like the most flattering. But either way, like even
if I was, which clearly i'm not because that was
like five three four months ago, but even if I was, like,
let me announce you, let me speak on that actually,
just and that's what it is, like.

Speaker 2 (34:30):
I just feel like people just get way too comfortable
and then it be like, oh, then it's.

Speaker 1 (34:35):
The comments about how teer your body is. And then
if you be a little bloatey, then people think you pregnant.
Like it's just like please relax, Like.

Speaker 2 (34:45):
Sometimes it gets a bit much.

Speaker 1 (34:47):
If you lose too much weight, then people be talking
about you because I mean I saw obviously I saw
the comments and stuff too when you decided to lose
weight and the stuff people were saying, and it's just like,
why do y'all care so much with somebody else decides
to do with they body, because.

Speaker 2 (35:02):
Do you know, I mean, yes, you do know.

Speaker 4 (35:04):
Obviously the commentary of that Santana episode about my body
were insane. Yeah, it got to the point to where
somebody asked me on Twitter. They were like, oh my god,
lexp are you pregnant? I said no, and can you
please stop comment on my body? She was like, bitch,
I'm just asking because you look pregnant whole and then
she screenshot it And when I was like turning to

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the side, like singing with Santana and my belly was
poking out a little bit, bitch is vodka and beans.

Speaker 2 (35:29):
Bitch, leave me the fuck alone.

Speaker 4 (35:32):
But it's like, if I'm saying no, I'm not pregnant,
and even if I was pregnant, if I'm saying no,
why are you cursing me out right?

Speaker 2 (35:40):
But the thing that's so crazy to me, it's like
if we.

Speaker 4 (35:44):
If somebody did that to you, you would a lot
of people would crash the fuck out, crash out. It's like,
you know what, why can't we just stop commenting on
people's bodies? Just leave just leave us, leave us alone
when it comes to our bodies. So when it comes
back to the question is being thick really all that?

Speaker 2 (36:04):
Yes, I love my body. It's all that for me.

Speaker 4 (36:07):
I every decision I have ever made with my body,
surgery wise, health wise, weight loss wise. Right now today,
when I look at my body, I was like, hmm,
that's a black queen right there.

Speaker 2 (36:22):
I love it.

Speaker 4 (36:23):
I love the way I look. But I do things
for me to make me happy. So yes, it is
all that for me. It don't need to be all
that for you. You know what I'm saying, because being
being for a lot of women is teeth. Being a
little thicker or a little heavier is a tea for you.
Whatever you feel confident in, that should be all that.

Speaker 1 (36:41):
When I think of being like being too much, I
be thinking of like the girls who you can see
the cook on their booty.

Speaker 2 (36:47):
You're talking about the shelf booty.

Speaker 3 (36:50):
Yeah, yes, yeah, relate to that.

Speaker 2 (36:53):
Though we can't speak on no, we can't.

Speaker 1 (36:55):
We can't, But sometimes I think people try to speak
on us in a way where it's like they be
trying to act like we the shelf as shot, but
they do and even like sometimes I think like and
this is cybar but even like with with our faces
and stuff. People be trying to act like we have
just done so much? Can I be like, excuse me,

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I can't.

Speaker 2 (37:17):
Believe a thirty six year old queen.

Speaker 1 (37:20):
I said this to Shape yesterday. How they be acting
like we love? I'm about to show it to times.
Please come on, shit, they do be acting like we
look like? How they be acting like me? Alas like this.
I said this to Shade the other day. I said,
this is how they be aching like me.

Speaker 5 (37:37):
Ali.

Speaker 4 (37:37):
I'm not gonna lie because I've definitely done a little
one two to the face, but it's.

Speaker 2 (37:40):
Very tee that looks crazy. My face still moves, nothing
is frozen.

Speaker 1 (37:46):
But either way, I just feel like, regardless, let people
do them. I see girls all the time who I
be like, you might have did a little much with
the body. But also if you have a body, no,
I don't want to know who need you know? That's
what black web y'all do, so I can say far
far away. But I just feel like, if you happy

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with that body and you think it look good, you
think them little legs look good with their books, that
you think that chicken fried leg look good with that
chicken fried ass, then.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
Do you I agree?

Speaker 4 (38:25):
I just think that people just need to let people
do what they do. But I'm like, I talked about
that on the.

Speaker 2 (38:30):
Episode that we Love right the Stumble Hella, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (38:33):
I talked about things that I've done with my face.
One thing about me is I don't deny anything. I
don't mind talking about things because I'm honest.

Speaker 2 (38:43):
But one thing you can never tell me is like
face card is good exactly.

Speaker 4 (38:48):
And the person that I go to that does my
injections tea very very professional shout to Helen as you
ret cosmetics.

Speaker 2 (38:56):
I'm always shout out to Helen.

Speaker 4 (38:57):
The thing is, you cannot look at my face and
convince like I did too much because I know and
I see, I know what to do. I got this,
I got this. I don't need no advice. I never
overdo it because you know why. Also, I'm not surrounded
by yes men. I have an injector that tells me no.
I literally sheo. I was like, last time I went

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to her, it was before the Tribal Queen's premier and
I was like, ooh do I.

Speaker 2 (39:22):
Need She was like, girl, We're going to do this.
We're gonna do this.

Speaker 4 (39:26):
We're leaving this alone and this is it and is
it and get your ass up out off my chair.
And then I have friends around me like, yeah, girl,
it's never okay, Ley, you don't need to do that. No,
you're because I'll ask y'all before. I'm like, you think
I need a little girl? No, you're good. So yeah,
I see myself in the mirror. But also I'm a

(39:46):
very expressive person. I can't do too much. I need
to wiggle these eyebros.

Speaker 2 (39:52):
Same. Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (39:54):
I think people just need to worry about them, But
I do feel like sometimes they can get a little over.
Like I do see people sometimes and I'd be like, oh,
you might went I'm not gonna lie, I be.

Speaker 4 (40:05):
Having to somebody has said something about they have said
something about your lips or something. People always be saying
this girl has not touched her lips in years, first
of all, but second of all, you cannot look at
her face and say the lips is not tea. What
are y'all looking at to even be like you know

(40:27):
what I'm saying. It be so like you are a
lot of that shit just be come from y'all. Just
be I hate to say this because I don't like that,
but like y'all really be hating, Like y'all really be like.

Speaker 2 (40:37):
Cause there's no way that somebody can be like, oh
this is too the lips is lippid. They look good.
Yeah you know me, Dre, I will tell you, I
know you would.

Speaker 1 (40:49):
And then to be fair, I think we've all seen
people who have gotten like their lips overfield. Like a
lot of the time they'll have like lumps in the
grate or they'll migrate and they kind of be here
and the lips are kind of like dukies or whatever.

Speaker 2 (41:03):
My lips don't give that. They don't duck. They don't.

Speaker 1 (41:06):
But also if you look back at old episodes, I
say this all the time. I have always had full lips,
even before I ever got lip feelers. I just think
people just love to try to find a problem. I
say this all the time too. Black women are the esthetic.

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We are the originals.

Speaker 2 (41:29):
People want to look like us.

Speaker 1 (41:31):
I hate the fact that like when people see beautiful
black women in twenty twenty five, they feel like, oh,
well you must have had X, Y and Z done.
It's no way you're just that pretty or you're just
that gorgeous, like no news slash. We be having good gens.
Surgery can't out work good genetio true, And that's another topic.

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Surgery cannot outwork good genetics. Some people just have good genes.
If I show y'all photos of my family, like my
mom is seventy five years old, my mom does not
look seventy five. She don't have a Renkal insight. And
my mom has never gotten botox. I personally get both
hooks because I just like to me.

Speaker 4 (42:12):
Snatched, but also what you you're on four K cameras
every week, you do a lot, like it's a little different,
but the genes.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
But we don't get botox because we're wrinkled. I think
it's more so for prevention, yeah, like it's preventative mission. Yeah,
but either way whatever. Like my mom is in her seventies,
her and all her siblings, they look good. They don't
look like they're in their seventies. My mom, my biological mom,
is forty six. She looks like she's in her thirties.
People tell me and Lax all the time, we don't

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look like we're in our thirties.

Speaker 2 (42:42):
Like, I think you.

Speaker 1 (42:43):
Can't out cheat good genetics and also just help taking
care of you.

Speaker 2 (42:48):
And I also feel like that you do to take
care of.

Speaker 1 (42:50):
Your skin, your body, working out, all of those things matter.

Speaker 4 (42:55):
And then a lot of times, a lot of y'all
don't even know the difference between feelers and botox. Oh gosh,
that's too much botox. Fillers and botox are too completely
different things.

Speaker 2 (43:07):
They are.

Speaker 4 (43:07):
So if somebody's like, oh, I get botox in my forehead, oh,
she didn't weigh too much. If somebody's getting botox in
their forehead and that's all they've done to their face,
you can't tell. It's just their forehead might be a
little shiny and smooth, bitch, that's literally it.

Speaker 2 (43:21):
Now, Fellers you can definitely overdo fellers. We know that.

Speaker 4 (43:24):
But if y'all can't tell the difference between both tooks
and fellers, shut up, girl, shut up.

Speaker 2 (43:31):
Because we shouldn't even be having a conversation.

Speaker 4 (43:33):
Yeah, And like I said, I just think that, you know,
things get a little different when you're in front of
four K cameras and you got to talk to people
and being people faced and looking good.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
It's like part of your job.

Speaker 1 (43:45):
I have a really good question for y'all, So how
do y'all feel both of it?

Speaker 2 (43:50):
Because have you ever done anything time? Have you ever done?
Both times? I used to want implants?

Speaker 1 (43:56):
Do you feel like you would ever even though you
haven't it?

Speaker 2 (43:59):
I don't know now I don't think so like I
feel like I'm too far gone.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
But what about injactables? Maybe not like surgery, but what
about like bowtop? I would consider botox and fillers. Okay, okay,
I'm not like in a rush to get it because
again I'm scared of needles, Like I have a b
of needles.

Speaker 4 (44:16):
So, but I don't see anything on your face that
would need it, not that I'm mean. Yeah, see I
was needing it. I had a little laugh line and
it was scary up there.

Speaker 2 (44:28):
That's I felt too like.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
I feel like when I would like make certain expressions,
I would have like what I'm gonna say, You get
it from your daddy, Oh my daddy. But that's not
my that's not my real dad.

Speaker 4 (44:39):
You know that?

Speaker 2 (44:41):
Yeah, shout out to the daddy. Yeah, my real dad.

Speaker 1 (44:45):
His skin is actually flawless, funny, he funny?

Speaker 2 (44:51):
What he do video with the baby? Oh my little sister,
Oh okay, little in oh cut?

Speaker 1 (45:00):
But would y'all how do y'all feel when people be
on the Internet, and they be like, oh, the girls
these days, what happened to natural beauty the women back
in the day. And then they be showing the pictures
of like the older women like me along and so
not late thing, etcetera, etcetera, and they'd be like, remember

(45:22):
when women halle beary.

Speaker 2 (45:23):
They'd be like, remember when women was nineties fine and
they didn't do X, Y and Z. Women were so
beautiful back then.

Speaker 4 (45:29):
Aesthetics have changed, right, The way we do our hair
is different, the makeup is different. Everything is different now
because guess what, thirty years from now, they're gonna be like, oh,
y'all two thousands fine, No more, y'all, ain't you know
every cause I'm telling you, when those women came out,
it was men complaining about.

Speaker 2 (45:48):
Them, y'all, not nineteen seven is fine? No more, y'all
ain't wearing the.

Speaker 4 (45:53):
Moo moods, like, but I don't think it will know
you was not even bored. But what I'm saying is
it was no social media, so it wasn't like a
collective community for people to like come to and be like, oh,
we all gonna get into this group and we all
gonna say this about women and we're all wanting to
agree it.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
Wasn't that back in the day.

Speaker 1 (46:14):
A nigga from Idaho and a nigga from Texas was
not conversing with each other in no goddamn group chat
on the internet.

Speaker 4 (46:22):
But it doesn't matter though, because it was still happening
in the barbershops. All the Internet is is the barbershop
spread worldwide.

Speaker 2 (46:29):
Child, they was still talking.

Speaker 4 (46:31):
Trust me, all the internet is we took the salon talk,
the barbershop talk.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
And then we'd have made it public.

Speaker 4 (46:39):
But now so they can reach other people, we are
the same conversations are being repeated. We ain't invented the wheel.
Even with poor minds, this ain't nothing new. You think
that our grandmothers want to sit here and talk about
they so pikky they talk about our grandmothers. I guarantee
you had a conversation because Melvinder said she do on
fray at chick and like his grandmother used to, she

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don't be dressing up for church like this is a
repeated conversation.

Speaker 2 (47:05):
Baby.

Speaker 1 (47:06):
I'm not saying it's not a repeated conversation, but I'm
just saying I feel like it's more so targeted to
the massies. Now like barbershop talk is cool because it
was like five niggas in the barbershop talking.

Speaker 2 (47:19):
Yeah cool.

Speaker 1 (47:21):
Now it's five hundred in a check. Bitches be wearing
moo moves. They don't wear lingerado modes? Do you want
to join? And then niggas be joining and that's what's
going on. Literally, did y'all see the other day? Okay,
so y'all know how they had the app where the

(47:43):
women could go find out about the dude, the tea app,
the tea app. They had the tea app and the
women were going find out about the niggas that they did.
The niggas done created an app for them and now
they can get on the app and find out at
the women. I was talking to somebody the other day

(48:03):
and they was like, first of all, I don't want
to be on no app where only niggas could join
because they're gonna start doing something and exactly exactly why
would you eat?

Speaker 2 (48:13):
But it's like, are we as.

Speaker 1 (48:14):
A community and as a generation, are we really that
hurt and that fucked up? Where like niggas want to
get on the app to find out about the women
that they dating before they start dating them women want
to get on the app to find out about the
men that they dating before they start dating, it, before
you actually really get to.

Speaker 2 (48:30):
Know the person.

Speaker 1 (48:31):
This person may have had a scorned experience. Do you
really want to get on here and find out what
somebody is saying about this person. I just feel like
we were just so fucked up, and I get what
you're saying, but it was not like that twenty thirty
years ago.

Speaker 2 (48:45):
It wasn't. I feel like everything is just a repeat.
You got to get that nigga, try, try them out,
try them out. Try yeah, baby girl, you got to
try that nigga out.

Speaker 4 (48:57):
I do agree with that, but I, like I said,
I do think that things are just more magnified and
more out in the open. But I think that history
always just repeats itself. Now it's a little different because
of social media, yes, but I do think that these
are just repeated conversations and repeated experiences.

Speaker 2 (49:13):

Speaker 4 (49:14):
But I don't know how we got on this or
what's going on, but.

Speaker 2 (49:21):
I will see.

Speaker 1 (49:22):
It was just a good It was something that was
on my spirit. I don't even know how we got
on this topic either. We were talking about surgery, and
we were talking about surgery and stuff. But then I
also just think our generation is fucked up. I'll be
thinking about it all the time and I'll just be like,
shit is fucked up when it comes to dating and stuff.
I see why the girls in our age group is

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dating sixties and seventy year old men.

Speaker 2 (49:47):
He on his way out the dough anyways.

Speaker 4 (49:49):
And I also see why the women in our older
generations have chosen to be single too and not having
children anymore. You know, the birthrate is getting lower and
lower the year. All right, one of them, Hey, same,
you don't you want key? I had a mod on Earth.
I don't want a birth for you, don't. I had
a moment yesterday. And I'm not gonna lie to y'all.

(50:10):
This past month and a half has been craziness for me.
Every day I'm waking up pretty much at like six
am doing stuff for poor minds. We have literally about
three or four meetings all the time.

Speaker 2 (50:23):
I'm doing stuff.

Speaker 4 (50:24):
I'm still filming Love LEXP Now I'm creating content.

Speaker 2 (50:28):
I have a series.

Speaker 4 (50:29):
Going on on redoing my house that I've started, just
you know, to pull in more income. And you know,
like I said, outside of me doing this content for
my house, I really bought a house in real life, so.

Speaker 2 (50:41):
I'm really doing stuff.

Speaker 4 (50:43):
So I just had a moment yesterday and I was
just like, oh, my fucking god, what if I had
a kid? Like I had to go get my feet
and my nails done, not because it's a luxury, because
I'm on camera. I have to have my and I'm
just like, I don't feel like it. I want to
go home and I want to go to sleep, but
I gotta take this meet and then I gotta come.
I gotta put this together. I gotta make sure this

(51:03):
is good. I gotta make sure this is good. Oh,
this person's come and do some measurements. Oh, this person's
coming to fit. And I'm just like, oh my god,
what if I had a fucking kid right now? And
imagine you got a baby daddy that don't help, or
a baby daddy that's bitter a baby or whatever's going on.
That's why I said, you know what, I kind of
get my career driven women just wait a little bit.

Speaker 2 (51:21):
Yeah, I get it. There is no way I could
have had a baby on my hip yesterday.

Speaker 5 (51:26):
No way.

Speaker 4 (51:28):
Like That's why I seriously give a shout out to
the single moms out there, even if their kid is older.

Speaker 2 (51:33):
God for bid.

Speaker 4 (51:35):
It was a little lex p running around because God
damn it, I used to give my mama hell. Oh
I used to give my mama hell. And I'm just like,
oh my god, I was awful as a child. I
was awful. I didn't do nothing to help nothing. So
I truly understand why the older women are often just
to travel and live. I mean, of course I do
want marriage and maybe one day of family, but it's

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gonna be when I can.

Speaker 2 (51:57):
Afford an anny. I can afford an in house miss
and help. I need a village around me. Baby children
are like.

Speaker 4 (52:07):
So I understand why people be opposing to not have them. Honestly,
I mean.

Speaker 1 (52:12):
It's nothing wrong with happened. I mean I get both sides.
I get both sides. I get where people be like,
you know, my child motivated me. They put a different
fire up under me and made me really want to
go hustle and go giddy. I get that too. But
I also understand why people be like fucking kids.

Speaker 2 (52:30):
And I get.

Speaker 4 (52:33):
I don't want how to be my motivation. I want
to already have it.

Speaker 2 (52:36):
I was same same.

Speaker 1 (52:38):
I want to already have it, Like I want my
children to be born into a life of and I
don't care like all that bullshit people be talking about.
I don't want my kids to be spoiled. I don't
want them to be spoil fed. Is it not the
point for me? That's the point. Like, I definitely want
my kids to be spoiled. I don't want them to
be no jerks or no bitchies. Like I don't want

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them to be out here just treating people bad in
any kind of way, or I thinking that they superior because
they got money or because they live a certain lifestyle.

Speaker 2 (53:07):
But I don't want them to know struggle at all.

Speaker 4 (53:11):
You don't need to be like boosy and you don't
know my struggle, so you can't.

Speaker 2 (53:16):
Feel they never gonna have to say they got it
out the mud? What mud?

Speaker 4 (53:21):
Remember how Drake said, started from the bottom of it.
Everybody was mad at here. It's never been mundy, been
marble floor. Yeah, I have marble floors growing up, That's
what I'm saying. So like, what are we talking about?
Like you don't know how to get it out the mud?
You don't even know that.

Speaker 2 (53:34):
Oh my god, I.

Speaker 4 (53:34):
Had an inside joke with my homegirl shout out to
gin that was like my best friend in high school,
I'll take another one too, And we used to say
something like joking like, yeah.

Speaker 2 (53:44):
We gonna get out the hood. We finna get out
the hood.

Speaker 4 (53:46):
My mom used to get so mad, but it was
a joke, Like I think people knew I was joking,
but she was like, you're not from the hood. You
never had to She was like, stop saying that. It
used to make her so mad, But now, like I said,
now as an adult, like I get it. If you're
or your dad or your parents together were busting, they
ask to make sure you have a good life, and
you on Facebook talking Mom, I'm finna.

Speaker 2 (54:05):
Get it out the hood. Shut up, girl. That's what
my mom used to be like, girls, shut the fuck up. Yeah,
I mean, but I feel like that's why.

Speaker 1 (54:14):
I've never like I really and truly can say like
I don't feel like I've ever just super struggled for
real financially in life period, Like it was points where
I wasn't like financially stable or I wasn't rich, but
I always had my parents regardless of anything. Like I

(54:36):
think that I was talking to one of my friends
about this the other day. I was like, finances is
one of the number one reasons why friendships fall apart,
and for me, I've never had that issue. I've never
fell out with a friend of a financis. I've never
asked any of my friends for money because I always
could either ask my parents or the nigga that I
was talking to, because my daddy raised me like that too.

Speaker 2 (54:58):
If you dealing with this.

Speaker 1 (54:59):
Dude, then you shouldn't have to ask me for nothing.
You should be able to ask him. I just feel
like I don't know the different levels and stuff in life,
but marble floors for my children here, because I feel
like that's how not to say I grew up, because
I wouldn't say I had marble floors. But I could

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always ask my parents for whatever. I never had to,
like go to my friends and ask them for anything,
which I'm very grateful for it because I feel like
when you don't have to have those type of relationships
with your friends, you get to have real relationships and
really get to like see people true colors because it's
not based off of like what people can do for
you or what you could do for them.

Speaker 2 (55:42):
So shout out to the spoiled cheering out there. We
ain't mad.

Speaker 4 (55:49):
I ain't mad.

Speaker 2 (55:49):
I feel like that's the point.

Speaker 4 (55:51):
Okay, so we gonna, we're gonna, we're gonna say that one.
Now it's time to get into.

Speaker 2 (55:56):
The b boub about the bow? All right, my turn?
So the bed topic today is to shave or not
to shave? That is the question.

Speaker 4 (56:17):
Okay, So when we talk about shaving, I think we
should talk about it on both sides. Okay, there's always
a lot of emphasis on women's waxing, shaving, plucking, et cetera.
But what about men?

Speaker 2 (56:30):
What about that meat?

Speaker 4 (56:32):
Do you like men to have a lot of hair
down there? Would you prefer no hair? Or a manicured area?
Has too much hair? Ever stopped you from giving head?

Speaker 2 (56:40):
How do you feel about it? I don't have no comment.
I would like to know your thought. Why don't you
have no comments?

Speaker 1 (56:49):
I don't because what I'm gonna say, I'm just I
would rather than I say this is poor minds.

Speaker 2 (56:54):
You were drunk mind speak so, but thought you better
say it.

Speaker 4 (56:57):
No.

Speaker 1 (56:57):
Okay, I dated a dude with when I was younger,
and he had shaved all of his pews off and
back then I thought it was a little weird because like,
why would you be bald right there?

Speaker 2 (57:10):
Like this is a spaghetti dude with no sauce.

Speaker 1 (57:12):
Yeah, it was strange. But as I get older, I
can appreciate it. But I would prefer hair. Yeah, I
feel like hairs would make you manly.

Speaker 2 (57:23):
So my thing is, I do like hair, but I
don't think there's nothing wrong with a little trimmage, you know, like.

Speaker 4 (57:32):
They got the little the man escape the man escape
a little bit and cleaned it up. But a bald
they nothing now, know nothing, them balls just hanging and
you know when they get hot, they say, I don't
want to see that. Cover them up a little bit,
put a little coat on that.

Speaker 2 (57:53):
Motherfucker. I need a little hair down there. I'm not
gonna lie.

Speaker 1 (57:57):
I don't mind it being bald, but like also why
why what? I don't mind it, but why, but like,
why are you also shaving it all these Well?

Speaker 4 (58:08):
I think sometimes you know it does you know, it
holds a little older.

Speaker 2 (58:12):
So sometimes men don't like this. Sometimes men don't like hair.
I feel like if you hold a little older, you
just musty.

Speaker 1 (58:19):
People be doing me musty people do be musky yeah, yeah,
but if you shave it, that ain't a shaving problem.
You still gonna be musty because must come from bowls.
Their fold be musty.

Speaker 6 (58:32):
You know.

Speaker 2 (58:32):
I feel like the pores be musty. It be.

Speaker 1 (58:37):
As somebody who drink chlorophyll water all the time. It
be what's coming at your pores that make you musty.
Because I be working out and I be swiaze nothing,
I'm not gonna say that.

Speaker 2 (58:50):
I'm not gonna.

Speaker 1 (58:50):
I don't smell as fresh as I did when I
initially went into the gym. Yeah, but I'm not musty.
Like I can still go to the grocery store. I
can still okay after I leave the gym, And it
ain't like them.

Speaker 2 (59:03):
But when I watched I just mean like not fresh.
I don't mean funk. I mean like when their phone
keep their fan. As a person who I ain't gonna like,
my coochie is Harry. You don't know, crag, She don't
know what I mean? What you ain't know? What do
you say? It don't matter as a person. My coochie

(59:26):
is Harry as fuck. Right now.

Speaker 4 (59:28):
I told y'all I've been going through it as far
as like moving, I just ain't had time to go
get a wax now.

Speaker 2 (59:34):
But I do prefer no hair down there. It just
feels better. That feel right. It's very uncomfortable. It's I mean,
it's hairy.

Speaker 4 (59:49):
And the motherfucker I said, I thought my wig misplaced
was in my pants. But it's so bad down there, y'all,
I said, good, good moving lit bitch.

Speaker 2 (59:58):
You don't want to tame it. You know what I'm
going tomorrow. I'm gonna get a wax tomorrow. It's so bad,
Old Lord Jesus, have mercy. They thought it was the
Houston pitting Zoo. Bitch. They came up to me and said,
is that that goddamn gorilla that went mission? It's bad monkeys.
I don't like. I'm not mad.

Speaker 4 (01:00:20):
Like if a man wants to shave, I'm not mad
at it because I know how I feel with a
lot of hair down there, So I'm not mad at it.

Speaker 2 (01:00:27):
So if you do want to shave, cool it. Don't
bother me. But I do like a little little hair
down there. I love balls. I don't know what it
is about balls. I do love balls.

Speaker 4 (01:00:42):
They're fun to play with, they're fun to juggle. They
So if you got the right nigga.

Speaker 2 (01:00:47):
They smell so sweet. I do love balls. You know,
people got their kinks that they like. I love a
little ball, baby. I love to play. I played volleyball.
I love ball. Hey, okay, so how do you feel
about I don't know. I just balls is cool? I ball?

Speaker 1 (01:01:08):
I guess ball till I fall a lot of d
for my dog, all till I fall a lot of
for y'all.

Speaker 2 (01:01:16):
Don't you know what I was?

Speaker 8 (01:01:27):
Why?

Speaker 2 (01:01:27):
Yes, but no, for real?

Speaker 5 (01:01:31):
Like balls be cool?

Speaker 2 (01:01:32):
I like a little ball to I do like balls. Okay,
but let me but I.

Speaker 1 (01:01:39):
Don't shave this sheep bald. Don't because I'm gonna ask
why did you have crabs?

Speaker 2 (01:01:49):
And we ain't talking about the juicy cut? They probably
be juicy too, But why did you shave it? Ball?
I don't like that. I have question. Okay, that's fair.
I have Well, why do you shave your coolie cat?
I shave my coolchie because that's how my man liked you.

(01:02:10):
But maybe that's how his woman. He's like you to
be fresh like a baby, you know.

Speaker 4 (01:02:20):
But what if the woman he was dealing with before
that liked it shaved and he just got in the
habit of shaving it or blaxing or whatever.

Speaker 5 (01:02:27):
What do you like?

Speaker 2 (01:02:29):
Do you like your ball or does she like it ball?
Because I don't give a fuck when she liked.

Speaker 1 (01:02:33):
But I'm saying, what if he got used to it,
he started to like, I just get something about that
that does not rub me the right way?

Speaker 4 (01:02:40):
You like that friction you wanted to rub you the
right way? You want that free want a little I'm
not gonna lie. If I had sex with a man
right now that had hairy balls, It's gonna sit on fire.

Speaker 1 (01:02:51):
But I don't want we fed us starting for as
fib so if anything, I'm more cool with you shaving
a ball, Okay, But you want something up here?

Speaker 6 (01:03:01):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:03:02):
Like why is it bald right there?

Speaker 1 (01:03:04):
It looks like a kool chiee, like between his legs, Kuchi.

Speaker 4 (01:03:10):
Niggas do be having that foopa. I don't care how
in shape you are. Niggas got that fat right there
above that dick.

Speaker 2 (01:03:17):
That fatty upper deck. Yes, nigga having food as bitch,
I don't care how in shape you are. It's a
little thick right there.

Speaker 1 (01:03:28):
Yeah, niggas do be having that food to and like
I feel like a little hair needs to be.

Speaker 2 (01:03:34):
Covered up that area and that dick. Okay, I feel
y'all got mad at that. Keep it clean. A little
trim is a little trim is fine, but don't make
it bald. Though you're grown. We grown. Let that phone
get in the little bit. Why ship before we have sex.

Speaker 1 (01:03:53):
I don't want that phone on me, but let that
phone get in there when you're going to watch your day.

Speaker 2 (01:04:00):
I'm talking about ina, yeah, but I mean, I mean
I'm by any yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:04:07):
Because that's why I said, when you think about two
meatballs and that spaghetti, you.

Speaker 2 (01:04:11):
Want a little sauce on there. If you see two spaghetti,
if you see two.

Speaker 4 (01:04:14):
Meatballs in the spaghetti with no sauce, it looks funny.
I'm not scared of a little phone me either. I'm
to bring it here sweating.

Speaker 1 (01:04:21):
Because I love it with I don't love it when
it's funky, but I'm not afraid of it.

Speaker 2 (01:04:27):
I want run from it either, right, I ain't no, really,
but I'm not gonna lie like a man. Really, don't
care if it's here, get face, because I'm the exact opposite.

Speaker 1 (01:04:42):
You like it ball, yeah, I don't want anything down there,
nothing because one the hair is getting your mouth and
your teeth and stuff, especially if you sucking balls done,
I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:04:55):
Like right, and then like you said, it holds older
and then it just looks I'm kempt.

Speaker 4 (01:05:01):
I just like a nice little and she the one
that they did. I would be the girl before the total.
I told you some women really prefer that.

Speaker 2 (01:05:10):
They say some niggas like the shavy because make it
look bigger. I was, that's gonna be my last thing
to say. I have never heard that.

Speaker 1 (01:05:17):
Yeah, that's what they're saying. That's why some dudes like
I should have probably said that first. I just thought
about it because it looked bigger. But they don't feel big.
It's still that same little meat you had before. I
don't know.

Speaker 8 (01:05:29):
Part like the extra ah trying to that bush op
the way, Yeah, that little man.

Speaker 4 (01:05:42):
Master p have a song called no I got that fire?
Who said that that was juvenile? If you want that, well,
let us know how y'all feel about it.

Speaker 2 (01:05:54):
The little wienie. Oh I need some wee excuse me.
It's been a long time. It's been a long time.
I haven't hassas in a long time either, but I
am I know you vacation busting that thing oh sure
it was. Yeah, I ain't gonna litto. My little sabbatical

(01:06:19):
maybe coming to an end. So there's that. What are
we drinking today? Okay, yeah, you know that's my favorite part.

Speaker 1 (01:06:30):
So this one we're gonna call the thirty somethings because
it's my birthday. It's virgo season, so that means that
standards are high, and so are the cocktails. This one
has some campari that's a little bit of bitterness that's
gonna give us some edge. We have some peach snaps
and pineberry syrup for some sweetness. We have a little
bit of lemon for the zest, and then we have
a sparkling rose for the celebration hunt so all together.

(01:06:54):
And then we have some garnish of sliced strawberries and
fresh peaches inside, and yeah, it kind of gives us.
It's giving grown woman, all right, And this is the
thirty sentence.

Speaker 2 (01:07:06):
So cheers, y'all. Cheers. I couldn't get my peach out.
That was the delicious thank you time you tied. I
was chasing, So now it's time to get into That's
how I can have another ship. The Bob the boye

(01:07:26):
ay the boy out about start Flicks really cutting up today.
I'm just.

Speaker 1 (01:07:37):
To get into the bow the bow, the bow, bow bow,
bow bow.

Speaker 2 (01:07:45):
All right, So what is your bob flicks?

Speaker 4 (01:07:48):
My bob is actually an old school dam today, because honestly,
I turned it on in the car on the way
here and I was like, wow, honestly it's gone viral
right now because Travis Scott redid it. But I was like,
let me listen to the original Bad Boys by Shine
featuring Barryton.

Speaker 5 (01:08:08):
He ate that up, Babby Shine, whoa man?

Speaker 2 (01:08:30):
Shine? No?

Speaker 5 (01:08:32):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (01:08:33):
So when I was in Jamaica a few months ago,
I was listening to Bonnie and Shine and that's my
fucking song too.

Speaker 2 (01:08:41):
On the telephone. Be HEARDing my voice told me to
pick it up in my rose voice.

Speaker 4 (01:08:48):
Okay, I'm telling you they need to make another I
know Seane don't do that no more because he's a
change man.

Speaker 2 (01:08:53):
He's a politician. He's a politician now. But that man
being fine, he being fine. He looks like Obama. Show
him something that shine. That's all right, that's all right.

Speaker 1 (01:09:08):
That's what Deyla Ree said on Harlem Night. She said,
I got a girlfriend so good you throw it up.

Speaker 2 (01:09:18):
It's like.

Speaker 4 (01:09:20):
Ahuse me, I wasn't even born again. I love people
whose voice is so unique. Shine has such a unique voice,
classic record.

Speaker 2 (01:09:31):
I mean that bass were getting closer. My play of Daisies,
Oh boo that's.

Speaker 4 (01:09:39):
In that hole was bumping so hard, bitch, I started
swinging that motherfucker.

Speaker 2 (01:09:45):
Who it's too hard? Oh yeah, that's my bop of
the week Shine, Yeah, boy, that he did his big one.
What burna Boy?

Speaker 4 (01:10:05):
Love shout out to burn up So burna Boy got
this new song called Love And you know, I get
my afrobeats bag sometimes and.

Speaker 5 (01:10:16):
I really like this song.

Speaker 1 (01:10:17):
I feel like it's like a really feel good summer
song if you're going on a vacation with your boo.
It's perfect for a little vibe, a little dinner vibe,
a little getting ready vibe.

Speaker 2 (01:10:29):
I love it.

Speaker 1 (01:10:29):
I think it's a great song. I don't know Lex,
how you feel. What you about to do now that
you single again? Are you about to tap making a
Nigeriam pool?

Speaker 4 (01:10:39):
You know, I'm not gonna lie like I don't know
what I want to do, because honestly, I've really been
taking this time to really just chill and heal, and
I'm not gonna list y'all. My damns have been flooded
and the auditions aren't bad. I'm not you know, I
don't know what I want to do, but I know

(01:11:00):
what I want. I want to get married. So if
you're not on that type of time and you're not
giving me that all, y'all can stay away from me.
But I'm really enjoying my peace right now. So yeah,
I'm not doing anything. I'm not looking for anything for
the first time in a lone time, because usually I
be out in the park and like I be looking
for it. I think I'm just in such a peaceful

(01:11:21):
place right now and it feels good, like I laid
my head down every night, like, oh my god, I'm
in my house and I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:11:27):
Just so consumed by that.

Speaker 4 (01:11:28):
I'm so consumed with the way poor Minds is going
and you know, things with love lexp. I'm just so
consumed with work and enjoying my circle and my people
around me.

Speaker 5 (01:11:39):
I don't I hope a.

Speaker 4 (01:11:41):
Man can come along that can find his way in
my life and fit in, get in where you fit
in or not.

Speaker 2 (01:11:47):
But I'm happy. So I don't know. I don't know.
I'm not I might dip back into it. I still
can hit that huh huh breakfast. I can still shy you, nigga, Yeah,
what about you.

Speaker 1 (01:12:04):
I feel like my husband is on the way, so
I just be being patient because I really do feel
like he on the way. Because like, and this is
why I say that, I've been passing all of these
tests with flying colors. Every Body, any anybody that I
used to talk to that you could think of, has

(01:12:26):
popped vicar in my life in the past three four months.

Speaker 2 (01:12:29):
And I'll be carving all them niggas because I'm not interested.
And it's like.

Speaker 1 (01:12:37):
It's I mean, but younger me would have been like, oh,
we can probably go on a trip, or oh, I'm
sure he'll probably buy me some stuff or will go
on a few dates and it'll be fun, like something
I occupy my time. I've really been cool when not
occupying my time and just spending time with myself and

(01:12:58):
waiting because I rather their delayed gratification for like long
time sustainability.

Speaker 2 (01:13:06):
Yeah, like that's what I want. I want a husband.

Speaker 1 (01:13:09):
So I've been passing my test with flying cooks like
it been so meany like if I y'all don't even know,
Like it's just been so many guys that I used
to talk to. They have just been popping back up
in my life over the past few months, and I've
just been like, yeah, anyways, pull on it.

Speaker 2 (01:13:27):
And that's what said said.

Speaker 4 (01:13:29):
She said, you know, you got to really be ready
for the next step and you really got to let
things go.

Speaker 1 (01:13:34):
Yeah, I'm not I'm not worried about it. I just
feel like it's on the way, and I feel like
I've been having a lot of people in my DMS
to like my dms be kind of flooded too, But
I just don't be interested in any of those people,
Like are you trying to get married.

Speaker 2 (01:13:49):
Type of time?

Speaker 4 (01:13:50):
My mom, Like I said, the people if not leaving,
it's been some like good potential, Like Okay, I'm not
mad at this, but I'm like, but do you.

Speaker 2 (01:13:58):
Want to get married? Because if you're not looking for
a wife and looking at seriously date, we can just
skip all this.

Speaker 1 (01:14:05):
Letsten, I don't want to go on a few dates
and then you end up telling me, well, I was
just no Trauncy was super.

Speaker 4 (01:14:11):
Sho know, I was gonna fall in love. Your goal
should have been fall in love. Yeah, over s cargo
and a little sangree.

Speaker 1 (01:14:18):
Then when is a nigga look at me, he should
know he's gonna fall in love. If you don't know that,
then you're not my kind. I be wanting to fall
deeply in love on the first dates and then subtracted
as we go.

Speaker 2 (01:14:29):
Truly, I don't want to I love. I want to add.

Speaker 1 (01:14:32):
But I'm just saying, like I as I get the
older than I get, I realize I've always been delusional.

Speaker 2 (01:14:39):
I'm really a true love a girl. I'm glad you
finally came home to the dark side.

Speaker 1 (01:14:45):
But if you really think about it, I have always
been I'm delusional. I feel like delusion is the first
step of being a real love.

Speaker 4 (01:14:55):
But you're Delusionale so like it was like but I
think that's what I like to hear because I know
you're a good woman and I knew you had it
in you a good woman, I know. But know what
I'm saying is is you were just so it would
take you so much, And I'm just like, you know what,

(01:15:16):
fall in love with it? But you know why it
would take me so much because everybody that I dated
was not the one.

Speaker 2 (01:15:24):
But what I'm saying and being a lover girl you're
gonna fall in love, I don't get me. I feel like,
but you still have to have like you still have
to have guards up. Though you still have to have
guards up.

Speaker 1 (01:15:37):
You could be a lovely girl, but you can still
have guards up because that's gonna stop you from falling
for the wrong niggas all the time. Like I feel
like sometimes people just be falling and falling, and it
be like you just keep falling and who gonna catch you?

Speaker 2 (01:15:52):
As nobody. That's what being a love girl is.

Speaker 4 (01:15:54):
Though. You taking that risk and you're gonna fall and
you're gonna hurt yourself, you're gonna break a leg, you're
gonna scap me, and you're gonna break it on, but
you get batter up and you keep trying. That's what
being a little stretfully, I would never be that stupid.
Well I'm not saying, but it's stupid some people just
everybody is. No people love differently. No, I think that's dumb.

Speaker 1 (01:16:11):
No, because falling for people and they're not giving you
signs that they want the same thing that you want,
or they're not giving you reassurance or making you feel like.

Speaker 2 (01:16:20):
Exactly not what we're talking about.

Speaker 1 (01:16:22):
But it is because I feel like the way you should.
You could meet somebody and be like, oh, I'm head
over heels. That's why I said, I subtract as I go,
because I will meet you and be head over heels
for you.

Speaker 2 (01:16:34):
Then as you start to show me who.

Speaker 1 (01:16:36):
You are, We're going to subtracts and subtracts, and then
it's like, you know what, Actually, I think that quote
unquote lover girls they be falling and then a nigga
will show them who they are and they still stay
in love and be like, you know what, I'm gonna
give it another shot. I'm going to give it another shot.
I'm going to give it another shot. And it's like, no,

(01:16:56):
he already been showing you and you should have been
subt No, I agree.

Speaker 4 (01:17:00):
With that, But what I will say is like, sometimes
you know, we know that men will put on that
job interview and their best person. But what I say is,
even if they do find out the first time and
they leave the first time, that shit will hurt you,
but you don't let it hurt you to the points where.

Speaker 2 (01:17:15):
You're not gonna try again. That's what I mean. Again,
some women don't. But what I'm but we talk about us. No,
But that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:17:23):
Whether you leave on the first time or whether you
leave on the sixth time, it don't matter.

Speaker 2 (01:17:28):
But you still keep trying. A lot of people out
here giving up on love, right, And that's what I'm saying.
I don't feel like I've ever been that person.

Speaker 1 (01:17:35):
I just be cautious, like I be like, when somebody
show me who they are, I'm going to take notes
and I'm going to move accordingly.

Speaker 2 (01:17:44):
I think you stupid.

Speaker 1 (01:17:45):
It's fuck respectfully to love a girl, whatever you want
to call it, if you don't move accordingly when people
show you who they are and just.

Speaker 2 (01:17:53):
Keep being like, well, I'm a lover.

Speaker 1 (01:17:54):
I just be falling in love and I just love
to love, and I love people. You stoopy because they
keep showing you and you keep falling for it. It's
okay to like somebody. I feel like I fall head
over heels for people on the first link Alike, I
don't cause I know, and you laughing because you know,
like I be meeting people and I just look like

(01:18:17):
you cannot tell me. When I meet a nigga, I
love him down if I like him. But as soon
as something ain't right, It ain't right. And that's how
I feel like I avoid further heartbreak. I think people
be avoiding the signs early on, and then later down
the line they get their heartbroke and it'd be like, well,
I was just a lover girl.

Speaker 2 (01:18:37):
But it's like, no, you was avoiding the signs, you know.
I don't know. I just be feeling like you do
be mean. I hear you, but I also feel like
you do be being stupid. Yeah, yeah, yeah, what'll we
on now? Did we go to the bop yet? We
already did a bob? We sure did no else? Segment

(01:19:00):
of the week. If you want your email answered on
the call on the call on the show, make sure you.

Speaker 4 (01:19:05):
Email us at Askpourminds at gmail dot com. If you're
a patren, I remember, make sure you put that in
the headline and we gonna double check it so you
can skip the line and get your question answered on
the show. All right, let's see what we got today.
It says, Hey, Lex Andrea, I have been watching you
guys for a while. Thank you for all the laughs

(01:19:26):
and life advice. I am currently engaged and set to
get married next year. One of my bridesmaids is my
best friend. She was in a relationship, and she gained
a lot of weight over the years. She has always
complained about how she looks pregnant in her pictures.

Speaker 2 (01:19:40):
I want all of my bridemaids. I want all of
my bridesmaids to look good and comfortable, especially since they
will be wearing satin dresses. And we know you got
to have the teeth for the satin dress. Ship.

Speaker 4 (01:19:53):
Oh, I lost my place. You gotta have the satin
dress and girdles do not mix. Oh, you can't wear
girdles with How can I advise her to lose weight
from my wedding without coming across as mean or insensitive?

Speaker 2 (01:20:06):
If she doesn't lose weight, should I exclude her from
my wedding party?

Speaker 4 (01:20:09):
Not to be vain or anything, but if the rest
of the party are all of similar size, I don't
want my pictures to look off and I don't want
to hear her complaining about her weight during the wedding events.

Speaker 2 (01:20:18):
Why I don't.

Speaker 1 (01:20:19):
It's very weird to me that people are always concerned
about seeming mean, because just be honest. And I think
if you get to a point to where you're confident
in the things that you say, and your decision making process.
You're not gonna feel like people are gonna take it

(01:20:41):
is mean because you could.

Speaker 4 (01:20:42):
Be truthful and not be mean. One hundred Tell people
how you feel, because it's not about what you say,
it's how you say it.

Speaker 2 (01:20:49):
I do think it's about how you say it.

Speaker 1 (01:20:51):
But I also just feel like people be so afraid
to like hurt people's feelings. Like sometimes the things that
you're gonna say, it doesn't matter how you say.

Speaker 2 (01:21:00):
To be honest, sometimes it don't really even matter how
you say it.

Speaker 1 (01:21:04):
If somebody is hearing something that they don't want to hear,
it's going to hurt their feelings. You have to be
okay with being the honest person that you are. If
somebody asks you some sheit and you like, okay, this
is how I feel about it. You ask me my opinion,
this is how I feel. I'm telling you how I feel,
even if I try to say it in the lightiest, sincerious, calmest,

(01:21:26):
sweetest way that I can say. If you don't like
the message that I'm giving you, it's still going to.

Speaker 2 (01:21:31):
Hurt your feelings because you not ready to receive it.
That's that's a word I'm not mad at that.

Speaker 1 (01:21:37):
That's how I feel in general about myself and a
lot of people in general. Like I feel like you
could tell people stuff and people will take it the
wrong way, or they'll feel their feelings will be hurt
because they not ready to receive it. They take it
as an attack, or they feel like they have to
defend theyself. Nobody even talking about you are trying to
make it an attack on you, especially if you ask

(01:21:59):
me a question telling you how I feel about it.

Speaker 2 (01:22:01):
I feel like you have to just be real. You
have to be real.

Speaker 1 (01:22:07):
You have to tell people y'all honest opinions and either
they're gonna receive it or they not. You can't be
afraid to do that. And if you are, just don't
tell them. Be like, actually, I don't have no opinion.

Speaker 4 (01:22:19):
And also I think with a situation, talk to her say, look, friend,
I know you be complained about your weight. This is
how the dress is gonna look. Pictures are getting posted.
It don't matter what angle what. So I'm letting you
know right now, just say that straight up. It ain't
no edit me out, it ain't no. Don't post this.
I don't look good, so make sure you look how

(01:22:40):
you want to look on my wedding, Dade, because at
the end of the day, this is about me and
not about you. So I just think I agree with
what Drea said. You have to tell her how you feel.
I think that you can't force nobody to lose weight
because I don't even think it's about the weight thing.
I think it maybe has to do with her confidence,
because let me tell you something, if you don't have confidence,
you're not gonna feel good at two hundred pounds or
you're not gonna feel.

Speaker 2 (01:22:58):
Good at one fifty. You have to love yourself.

Speaker 4 (01:23:01):
So I think you need to have a conversation with
her because at the end of the day, you need
to let her know the pictures is getting posted. Hun Now,
if she's like, you know what, I'm fine with this size,
I feel good. I think it's more so because the
way it was giving it was worded a little bit,
it sounds like you kind of have a problem with
her weight too, because she's like, if she doesn't lose weight,

(01:23:22):
should I exclude her, exclude her from my wedding party. Okay,
what if she doesn't lose weight but she feels fine,
and you posting the pictures I think you have more
of a problem with it than you're admitting to a
little bit, just from the way things were worded, just
a little bit. So I think you need to ask
yourself a question as well.

Speaker 2 (01:23:40):
You know what I'm saying, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:23:43):
Like I said, just be honest about your feelings and
how you feel, and you can try to say it
in as delicate of a way as you can, but
I would just be honest. Yeah, and if she don't
receive ya.

Speaker 2 (01:23:59):
It's tricky, it is, but I feel like.

Speaker 1 (01:24:05):
If she don't receive it, will then after that then
you'll know how to move forward. I will say it
in a nice way, but yeah, it's also your wedding.
So at the end of the day, if she have
an attitude or be weird, like, just don't put it
in a wedding. I just be feeling like I don't
be the best person to ask for advice because I
really be feeling like everybody could go.

Speaker 2 (01:24:28):
Goodbye. All right, high ladies, k here. I love the podcast.

Speaker 1 (01:24:35):
Now y'all are really like my aunties for real, for real,
with all the good gems y'all drop every show. So
I have a dilemma. I'm a fun to missize twenty
eight year old woman dealing with a much older man.
And I used to pull all the tricks out of
my bag when it came to positions. But y'all my
check mee what But y'all, my chick mee light been

(01:24:57):
popping on lately when it comes to riding him. Although
he hasn't been complaining, he does suggest I stay on
top longer.

Speaker 2 (01:25:06):
Although it's tiring. Now.

Speaker 1 (01:25:08):
We both got billies. So what tips do y'all suggest
to keep things fun unless tiring?

Speaker 2 (01:25:15):
Well, I'm not fun sized. I feel like you're a
fun size and shape girly. Mm hmm, I.

Speaker 4 (01:25:23):
Ain't gotten no fu I ain't fun sized. I can walk,
I can walk some miles now, but I ain't doing
all that now. My knees don't work. My check knee
engine like.

Speaker 1 (01:25:34):
Well, I feel like I don't know, Like if your
knees is not really working, then I feel like you
have to like learn how to rise it and like morse,
I'll use your knee, like use your knees than your feet,
so like instead of like copping with your feet, you
gotta like be on your knees and kind of like.

Speaker 2 (01:25:50):
Straddle cause I don't.

Speaker 1 (01:25:54):
It's not gonna put pressure on your knees. Okay, but
you know I'm not gonna lie because you're gonna be
already in the bed.

Speaker 2 (01:26:00):
The bed is patty.

Speaker 1 (01:26:01):
Your knees are gonna be on the bed, and you're
just more so gonna be like riding and straddling versus
being like on your feet. You're hopping, and it's like
putting pressure on your legs, which I feel like more
most men prefer that. Yeah, when you using the knees
and you're on your feet, yeah, hopping, but I feel like, yeah,

(01:26:26):
like learn how to use your knees. And then it's
also other positions you could do, like you could do
reverse cowgirl.

Speaker 2 (01:26:31):
Where with that you don't even gotta use your feed.
You can really just kind of rock back and forth.

Speaker 4 (01:26:40):
Yeah, and that's somebody with a bad knee though, because
I do this knee so motherfucking bad bitch.

Speaker 2 (01:26:46):
What you can do if you still want.

Speaker 4 (01:26:48):
To get off on the tippy toes is you gotta
have a sturdy headboard though. So what I do is
I get on my tippy toes so when I go
all the way down, I'm not going super low because
I'm on my tippy toes, so I'm not like if
you're flat foot and you're obviously gonna go lower, but
you gotta stay up on your tippy toes and you
grab the headboard and use it for a little support.

Speaker 3 (01:27:09):
That.

Speaker 4 (01:27:09):
Now, if you still want to get up on your
tippy toes, that works. And my need don't ever hurt
in the morning after that one.

Speaker 2 (01:27:15):
So that's just a little sit that.

Speaker 5 (01:27:16):
But you got to you.

Speaker 2 (01:27:17):
He got to have a strong headboard though.

Speaker 4 (01:27:19):
Not that I kia, shit, bitch, he need that good
Ashley Furniture z Gallery Restoration hardware backboards.

Speaker 2 (01:27:28):

Speaker 4 (01:27:30):
So uh and honestly tell him to put in some
work too, because you're talking about both of y'all bellies big.

Speaker 2 (01:27:37):
It sounds like he need to get to work too. Queens.
All right, that's all all right, Drea. What else we got?
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lot of stuff I feel like you have a whole beat.
Not quite because we don't have like foundation, consider blush.

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It's coming though.

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Speaker 2 (01:28:27):
I love that.

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Shout out to me as beauty P pariads and yeah,
y'all make sure y'all just go follow me on Facebook.
It's LEXP Snapchat, LEXP zero five love LEXP every.

Speaker 2 (01:28:37):
Monday, ten am.

Speaker 4 (01:28:39):
And uh yeah, shout out to the taylor Port family
and we'll see y'all next week.

Speaker 2 (01:28:44):
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I can't help, but girl, what did you do.

Speaker 4 (01:29:03):
To me?

Speaker 2 (01:29:05):
What did you slip up in my cup? Girl? Because
I want you?

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(01:29:55):
me help you work it out. Girl. You look so good.
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(01:30:27):
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Speaker 2 (01:31:13):
What did you slip up in my cup? Girls?

Speaker 10 (01:31:17):
Because I don't had a little bit too much, girl,
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Speaker 6 (01:31:27):
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drink drinking.

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her her. All I want to do. All I want
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(01:32:14):
take the mic from you.

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