July 19, 2021 • 32 mins
Every which way you look it’s constant negativity. Isn’t that crappy? I mean c’mon, don’t people have any flipping positive thing to say? They just suck. Oh wow. Now I’m spreading negativity. How on earth do I not become cynical if everything around me is making me anxious, frustrated and depressed? Tune in to today’s episode to found out how we stay positive in an increasingly negative world.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Prompt Us is a production of I Heart Radio. Let's
do it. Boss Man's all right, I'm boss man. There
you are, I'm a bus man. All right, I'll take it.
We're leaving that in, I think. Welcome back to the
prompt Us Podcast. We are excited to learn with you
and to grow with you. Today. I'm Gabriel Conti, one
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of your hosts here, joined with my other hosts, Chad
Masters behind the mic and Zach Stains. We'll play, We'll
play what's up boys, what's up? How are you doing? Chad?
How are you doing? All the way in sunny Florida?
Bab Picha keen. It was rainy Florida today, but I'm
not about it, was it? No? It's cool, all right own,
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next things, humid almost submit your own prompts over on
our website. That's prompt Us podcast dot com. It's a
really cool way to our Yeah, let us know what
you're thinking about. Let us know if you have any prompts, questions, queries,
even if they're just things like how many toeses Gabe have?
That's a good question. You can prompt that because people
don't know. But I have two extras. I guess you're
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gonna have to wait for the next podcast. I have
two extra toes from my normal eight pinkies will eventually
just become extinct because they're like so unnecessary for part
of my hands. And fate was that how you mean
to drink? Take that? Facts, bro, Wait before we getting
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to this prompt, do you guys know why they would
do that? And why that's a fancy thing? Why why
is that? Dude at that and in those old days whatever,
the aristocratic periods only knows the answer to this. I'm
just but n that's the caveat so anyways, so only
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wealthy people at that time could afford like like hot
teas or coffees at that time, because people didn't have
water heaters, they didn't have stoves, they had like dirt, right,
And so it became a thing where people would make
these little these little cups with a little hole for
your fingers and to keep them from burning their pinky,
to keep them from burning them pinky, they would hold
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their pinks off, and and it became a fancy thing
because only the aristocratic, wealthy people could afford those hot drinks.
And it became a thing where that's what it was,
just known to that everybody else just had dirt. Everyone else.
Oh my gosh, dude, I'm crying. There was no middle
class like stoves and ovens. They just had dirt. Dude,
I'm just I'm preaching from the fax machine right now.
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There wasn't a middle class. There wasn't like a oh
I do okay. Financially, it was either I'm like bawling
and I'm eating grapes from people that are hanging them
from a like a chair or whatever, or I have dirt. Anyway,
what we're trying to say is, if you want to
submit your problems head of a podcast, and I don't
mind having dirt. I'm a fan of owning the realest. Okay,
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let's go anyway. But Chad, what's the prompt? And who
prompted us today? A big dog? Well, uh, I guess
just rewinding back whenever you guys were talking about Florida.
This prompt actually comes from someone from Florida. From Orlando, Florida,
which is near Disney, right, which is near a bunch
of other stuff, and it's about forty five minutes east
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of where I live with my lovely wife. Tory found
us on Instagram. Attde I'm kidding. Can you imagine, like
shout out, there's our YouTube channel, YouTube dot com. If
you guys are watching on YouTube, you can see me
do that, um, that little lip bite thing that they
do on TikTok like that, you know. Okay for the prompt, guys.
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The reason why we're being so lighthearted at the beginning
of this episode because this is a tough prompt. It's
a real one. It's a it's kind of I don't
want to say dark, but it's a little depressing in
it to a certain extent. The prompt is this from
Cassandra and Orlando, Florida, how to not have a cynical
view a broken world? Don't yeah, I mean, do you
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want me to just like jump? Okay, I'm okay, I'll
take it. I'll take it fine, since since you guys
are forcing to um. Basically, my initial thought when I
hear of this is because I have definitely had I
feel like I'm a decently sized thinker, and I think
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a lot about like these things types of things, both
on like a personal and like I guess, world scale,
and a lot of times it's you get to a
point where you're like, what is the point of anything.
That's a whole book of of um uh what what?
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Oh my gosh, what book is it? The apocalyptic books
the Bible? No, no, in the Bible is a yeah,
he's from my Ecclesiastes. Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. I was
like I was blanking. Everything is meaning I was like Ephesians,
it's not, it's the other um Ecclesiastes. Um, Yeah, it's
it's basically what is the reference chat, I know, you
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know everything everything is yeah, everything is meaningless. Yeah. And
basically in that book he goes through basically the view
of a lot of things from not from from just
like the human perspective, I guess, and every and you know,
we all go through it if you like follow everything
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and I'm like basically asking the why questions of like
why does this matter? Why are you doing this? Why
you know? And you just keep going down the rabbit
hole of why there's like no point to anything, which
is no, no, no, it's you kind of you can
you can work yourself by questioning every step of the
way to the point of everything being meaningless. If God
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isn't real and that that's like the way, and I
know we have people who aren't also like Christians, you
listen to this, but I I that's the way I'm
able to explain it for myself, in the way that honestly,
I'm able to stay out a lot of stay out
of a lot of these like hard depressive states that
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I go to where because I'm able to bring everything
back to the point like, Okay, this is just a season.
It's not from me God. At the end of the day,
like life is going to be hard, Like life is
not supposed to be easy. God says, it's not going
to be easy. We're gonna have our valleys and struggles
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and we're gonna go through it. But at the end
of the day, like we're gonna be with God, Like
like life is such a short, little blip on the
scale of eternity, you know what I mean. Um anyway, yeah,
life is like the first letter of the entire novel. Yeah,
you know what I mean, the story, but the story, Yeah,
I mean, I mean, that's a really I think it's
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good because I think you've got to set some context,
and even if it's just context for you, but I agree,
I'm in the same position, you know, like if I
ever get you know, if depression like sneaks up on
me as people like to use as like the visual.
But if it ever sneaks up on me, a lot
of the times, it throws me into a place of doubt.
I just doubt everything. And I think, I think that's
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where you know, I talked about a lot on the podcast,
and it's like, it's my brand. It's on brand now,
it's my brand to be like the little things, right.
But I think, you know, we can obviously get into
more practical things as we go along, and I'm sure
Chad's got like forty seven points that he's going to
crush out in one second for it now. But for me,
like I guess, being cynical is a proactive choice, and
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a lot of times we can fall back to a
cynical state where we are just like everything sucks, everything
just it's the worst to whatever. That sometimes can be
a default. Actually a lot of the times can be
default because we are in a broken world, right, that's
the default. But for me, like I just have to
a lot of the time choose to not and go, hey, look,
God's given me so many blessings that I need to go.
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You know, I can be cynical about it. Oh, my
house is too small, or this I'm cynical about life,
or or I can go, youre so awesome to have
this great house, or you know, it's it's a it's
a proactive thing. That's I guess that's what. It's also
a habit that you need to build. Well, i've started
going through depression. You you figure out ways to kind
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of like self censors in a way where you can
sense when it's something. Yeah, exactly. It's exactly like a
test out of what is it called neural length, But
it's like you can sense when things are about to shift,
or just emotionally, when some bad feelings are kind of
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rising up. And I have gotten to the point kind
of intentionally slash unintentionally to where once I start kind
of feeling those really negative emotions, I I figure out
what it is that's kind of making me cause what
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is causing that? And when I realize what it is,
I'm able to not disguise it as a blessing but
realize it as a blessing, you know what I mean.
It's like, oh my gosh, I'm so stressed out about
um this work thing. It's giving me anxiety. Say, it's
like finishing this video on time. It's giving me anxiety
or whatever, and I'm like, wait, what a blessing it
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is that I'm able to have a job that I
enjoy that you know, like that most people aren't able
to have. It is a perspective shift, and it's very
difficult to do. Um. I'm not saying that I'm not
good at it, but it's something that I'm trying to
incorporate as a habit in my life that I'm able
to like find the positive in some thing rather than
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the negative because you can kind of find both in everything.
Oh yeah, everything has a consequence, right, And it's like,
but I think, yeah, I love what you're saying, just
highlighting that that perspective shift of going Okay, actually I'm
going to respond to it. So about you respond to it, Chad,
that's how you're well. I love what you guys are saying.
Do you care if I share a story about perspective?
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It may it may take a few minutes, but I
really hope that it share your perspective your life. I
was waiting for him to putting that in here, but
we should actually just put the ID Dude, what did
you say? I was saying, I hope it adds to
your life. Oh no. Anyway, so so this story really
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impacted me. I read it whenever I was in college.
I didn't go to Harvard, nor do I want to go.
I just got the shirt because one of my friends did,
and I went to one of his soccer games. Anyways,
shout out justin love you man. Anyway, Okay, back on track.
So there's this taxicab driver, right and he's on his
last he's on his last I guess, right of the night.
And he he was scheduled to pick up this woman
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at like eleven PM, and he pulls up to this
old house and he sees that, like he sees that
there's one light on and it looks like there's no furniture.
So he's kind of injured by that, and he just
wants to go home. And he's like, you know what,
you know, he called her and she didn't answer, and
he's just like, you know, I'm probably just gonna go home.
This is I don't want to do this. I'm tired.
I just want to go home. And he feels this
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kind of like a prompting. I guess shout out prompt us,
and he goes and knocks on the door. Then he
hears some shuffling around and then this old woman opens
the door and she has like a suitcase and that's it,
and she hands it to him and she grabs his
arm and he walks her to the cab and he
and he he helps her get in the cab, and
she wanted to sit in the front seat, and so
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she's like, by the way, do you mind if we
take a detward route, And he was like, well, no
problem with me. I mean, it's your it's your money, right,
And she had him drive over here, which is where
she she like she learned how to ride a bike.
Then she drove to this part of the town where
she had her first kiss, and drive to this part
where she used to get dancing lessons, but now it's
a grocery store and all the stuff. And he's wondering
what is she doing and all this, and you know,
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and it's it's happening for a while, and it's about
four or five am. Now it's happening for hours, and
they pull up to this place um or he's gonna
drop her off, and he realizes that he realizes that
it's a hospice clinic, right, and if you guys know
what hospices, it's typically a place where people will go
that are gonna be passing away soon. And then it
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dawned on him, he said, he said internally, he said,
while this was just my last cab ride of the night,
this is her last cab ride ever. Perspective was everything.
There was two people in that car experiencing two very
different things at the same time, and it shocked him
and it changed him and it challenged them. And I
think for us, whenever we are going through things, are
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we just looking at things and how they impact us,
or are we looking at the bigger picture, which is
what Gabe is saying, which is like I don't have
to do this. I get to do this. What a blessing.
But we have to shift or focus from not standing
too close to the trees that we actually missed this
beautiful forest that we're around, right, and and so, but
I think like practically speaking, I would want to answer
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this one question, right, what is causing the cynicism? And
then once we know that, what do you do with it?
And so Cassandra, I would just answer your question, is
what's causing the cynicism? Is it the constant negativity and
fearmongering that the media portrays. Is that Am I allowed
to say that? Is that okay with everyone? You know?
Because that's what they're doing. You know, it's absolutely what
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they're doing. And so I um, is is it that?
Or is it the constant comparison that we deal with
that we deal with by looking on social media? Is
it the constant pressure that we feel from going from
test to test to test to test in college or
obligation to obligation obligation with our career? What is it
that's causing us to be cynical, especially at a young age.
I I know, I've I'm someone who's can be very cynical,
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and I have to actively work on not being cynical
because my natural, like need jerk reaction is to just
get down and you're like, oh, this sucks, everything sucks.
I'm not gonnae That's that's how I get in a
lot of ways where some people are kind of shocked
by that because I tend to be kind of positive.
But the reason I tend to be kind of positive
is because I'm actively fighting that battle of not letting
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things get me down. Yeah, And I think in addition
to the actively fighting, you have to be aware, like
when Chad, when you were naming off all the different
things like negativity in the media or all this stress
because of your tests or whatever. There's obligations, things that
that tend to cause stress, or things that tend to
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be negative in some way will spawn more negativity in life.
So if you're stressed, more stress is going to come
from stress. Like if you're constantly listening to negative media,
that negativity is going to come onto you and you're
going to carry that around. Like I had to stop.
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I mean last year the news was just like crazy.
I had to stop watching the news for a while
because I just couldn't. It was so it felt like
so much weight in information negativity, And once I stopped,
I was like I'm okay, Yeah, Like I'm okay, I
don't need this much. You can take a day at
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a time rather than being like the whole world's about
to employee and kind of like understanding how much negative
information I can I can actually take without it affecting
who I am as a person or having and having
the spiral into a depression or anything like that. Like
you have to know and like you're saying, Chad, Um,
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what was it that you said at the end of
what you were just talking about, like the surrounding yourself
with positivity and actively pursuing the positive things rather than
the negative things. Then Chad, what you're saying exactly that
Chad's Chad gave a great example that he knows he
is self aware that he's typically seen a cool so
instead he goes out of his way to be positive
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to encourage other people. Like that's one of my favorite
parts about Chad is that he's so outwardly positive and encouraging.
And I know that that's not just like built in.
I know Chad works hard to do that, you know,
because of just everything I think we all have to.
And I think that leads me to my second point
of two. No, Chad did his points in it and
order this time, so it threw me off. I was
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ready to go backwards, but we're going to start with
point seven and went backwards to point five. That's right,
and that's what they're gonna end there. But I just
it's also about if you feel like you're being cynical,
who are you surrounded by? I Mean, we talk about
about that all the time, but not only like what
content are you taking in, but who in your world?
Who do you live with? And it might be a
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brutal question because you might live with family. And I
know for me, like I've lived with family during seasons
that they've been they've struggled, and it's really made me
a cynical person because whether I feel like I need
to support them or whether it's like, oh, I need
to make up for them, so I need to be
over the top positive to get look to get kind
of what a chad say to put his dirty clothes
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up on the line, is that? Is that? What is
that you say? Like when my parents were getting divorced,
did you put the strimp on the barby? Is that
we just said, you're just like opening my heart up?
And dad just comes in hot with the strip on
the bobby. He goes to air out my dirty laundry
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and then goes when my parents are getting devote we're
getting divorced, and then shrimp on the bobby. There is
a delay. There is a delay on this, okays the
sky and saying that you do that on purpose. But anyway,
when my parents were getting divorced, shout at parents. So
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but for me, I felt like I need to Okay,
this sounds like bad. I'm not trying to trash. I
know you have a good question. My parents are super happy.
They're super and madly in love with their partners and
it's super cute. Anyway, Um, when that was all happening
a big thing for me, my personality type of whatever
it was, I felt like I needed to be We
talked about it the other week, Chad toxic positivity. I
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felt like I needed to be the one who was
holding it together for the whole squad, right, And so
it's almost I'm not to flip everything on its head.
But in the same way, being that toxic positive is
also not great either. It's okay to be a realist, right,
but it's it's the nature in which you do it.
Are you doing it in a joyous nature? I'm being
a realist in a joyous way, or I'm actually just
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cynical about all of it in a realistic way. I guess. Yeah.
You don't want to be making up lies to yourself
that things right like that that things are good. You
find the positives that are true and actually they're yeah,
and actually you know and go, hey, okay, cool, this
is my chance to hang out with my church friends
more because you know, I want to be surrounded by
positive people, which is what I did. But I guess Yeah,
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what I'm trying to say is the people you're around
really can dictate how you react to other things. Yeah, well,
I mean, show me your friend. We'd say it all day.
Show me your friends, and I'll show you a d
That's right. So anyway, I was it was a nice moment.
But thanks Chad. Thanks, I'm so sorry. Literally all I
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heard was like, what's up? He goes, Thanks Chod, Thanks Ad,
Oh wow, he's coming in hot bro. Dude's just out
here to pay off some loans, babies. I was trying
to pay off my friends. But by the way, sorry
if there's any miscommunication there. If if I'm talking, I
can't hear what you guys are saying. So that Zack, Zach,
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I hope you didn't think that I was being rude.
All I heard was like heard clothing on the line
or laundry, and I'm just like, do you say shrimp
on the bobby? And then Gabe's like and I'm like, wait,
what just happened? She's showing him as stressed and Honestly,
I'm really secure in my pass, you know what I'm saying.
So I'm not like that was like dude, I'm really okay.
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I'm actually so glad everything happened the way it did.
I cannot complain about that. So do not strengd game.
I get it. I get what that's like. We have
any episodes that I do on the other on your ends, like, yeah, um,
I guess just to bring us back. Um, I think
that it's you know, I think this is such a
simple tip. This is like it's going to sound almost stupid, right,
but good and good out bad and bad out right.
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It's just like you guys are talking about friends you
are to you know, it's like if you eat Taco
Bell eleven at eleven pm PM, you're probably gonna be
having a bad right, okay, bad end bad probably yeah. Right.
It's like, you know, and we can apply that too,
even with Gabe was saying and watching the news like
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that's like, wow, if if you know that you're becoming
paralyzed by the constant negativity that's around you and you
feel like you're inactive, then you have to stop, right,
And so we need to take an inventory over everything
that we're taking in right, because everything we take in
impacts what's inside, right, And so it's just like inviting
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someone into your house. Are they going to take their
shoes off? What if they have money shoes, they're gonna
stop all? What if they go stand up on your bed?
What if they raid your fridge? Like, they're going to
impact your house for better for worse. And everything that
you in take is going to impact your mental health
for better or for worse. And so if you hell up,
if you fill up a cup with dirty water, the
only thing you're gonna be able to pour out is
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dirty water. Yes, feel so simple, clean purified filtered water.
You're gonna have clean, purified filing water. Or shout out
to mineral water which actually provides you with the vitamins
and nutrients you need naturally instead of chlorine and floria whatever. Okay,
that's neither here nor there. But so my my technically
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is my what technically is my four note on here? Okay,
which I did number one, which is what's causing cynicism,
but number my number four is fill your mind and
what gives life not death? And I think what we
we have to take our thoughts captive. We have to
be intentional about the things that we're taken in. And
again it's almost like we're being a dead horse with
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what we're saying. But it's that important, Like there's no
secret remedy or pill or whatever you can do to
fight cynicism other than make sure you're not putting yourselves
and in a place to be overwhelmed with with things
that cause you to feel cynical. It's like, it's so
you just have go ahead, Well, I was gonna say
so on a practical level, that immediately my mind goes
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to translating it practically is what are you doing on
your phone? Like straight up, the the correlation between depression
and smartphone use, it's specifically social media use is like
astronomically accurate with one another. So what are you doing
on your phone? And what are you seeing a lot
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of times it's not even a thing that you're doing.
It is what social media is feeding you without you
trying m hm. So you have to be very aware
of like where all of this is coming from and
understand how to stop it. So like maybe it is
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getting off a social media for a while and seeing
how that affects even if it's like a test if
you're feeling really cynical or depressed or whatever it is, Like, Okay,
I'm actually I don't think it's from social media, but
let me test it out. Let me see how I
feel from deleting social media off my phone for a week. Yer.
But yeah, like, or if it's not that, if it's TV,
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like it's the news, a lot of it, just I'm
gonna unplug, Like Chelsea and I don't have our TV
plugged into the antenna. I've never had my TV plugged
into the antenna because I don't even have a choice
if I want to watch news or not. And I've
got gosh, dude, YouTube keeps recommending it, but I've blocked
every news channel on YouTube because when I go on YouTube,
I want to watch a guy who bought an old
town to mind and I don't want to flip and
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I don't want to watch like news that's just going
to be it's there to be clicked and it's there
to mess you up, like it is. Yeah, and so yeah,
I love that, bro, I love the whole a b
testing on what it is, but that's exactly what it is,
and that's about being proactive right, If you're a B testing,
that means you're proactively wanting to change something. I mean,
I've talked about that before and we didn't say it
was a B testing, but when I talked about like
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doing like creating your ideal weak and how you can
like create a schedule that best shoots the way you
work and what you need to do. In the same way,
you can test things in your life to see how
you react, and sometimes you don't know how you're going
to react. And then once you create do that a
B testing, you can figure out more and learn more
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about yourself, you know what I mean. And that's about
believing that God has given you something really incredible to
work with here, like to even be proactive on a
B testing. I love that we're just looking, but that's
you go to there is a part of you that's
going to be and that's where obviously our Christian faith
comes in for me, it does, right. I believe that,
you know, Jesus died for me. That's pretty hectic, and
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so when I think about that, I'm like, yeah, well,
I'm pretty sure Jesus would want me to live a fulfilled,
joyful life, not cynical, negative life. You know that's I
love that, bro, that's so good. Yeah. I mean that's
the reason why I un followed everyone on Instagram because
I still need Instagram from my job. I need a
post and turned it into a tool rather than a
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communication space. Yeah yeah, yeah, So like there are people
who DM me, but they're like my friends. It's like
if someone's texting me. So it's so different. It's not UM's,
it's it's I'm I can't see what people are posting.
I can't compare myself to other influencers. I can't. And
originally I had muted everyone that I was following. I
just went through a muted every single person I was following,
but I can still see their stories. But I knew
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that I was on the right tracks on like this,
let me just next step and you don't follow everyone,
So I just did it, and I haven't it's been
probably I don't even know how long. It's been over
a year. For sure. I haven't followed anyone besides like
Jess and like basically our family business, you know. Yeah,
I mean, like I remember when you when you did that.
And that's the crazy thing about the world that people
that we're growing up in now is that I thought
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it was crazy that you did that, my bro, but
like like I just couldn't get it through my head.
And I look back on duh, like that makes the
most sense to do. But it's just like it's bizarre
the world we're conditioned in which you have to watch
the news every morning, and it's like, no, you don't
have to do that. You don't have to buy the newspaper.
When your dad's read the newspaper and he's just telling
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you all this negative stuff, you don't have to listen
to it. You know, it might be hard, maybe find
an excuse to chat about something else. I just think
that's where really putting in those boundaries, baby boundaries on
the boundaries. I actually told Jess that the other day,
Like she was telling me some stuff. I don't know.
I think there's some stuff like that was going on
in social media year or whatever, and she had told
it to me one day and I think it was
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the next day I let her know. I was like, hey,
by the way, if any of that stuff like comes
up again, could you just like not tell me about
it because it affected me pretty bad yesterday, so I
don't want to hear it so I just like ask her, like, hey,
just don't share that information with me. That was probably
last week when I asked her that. And it's just
like just knowing the way you react to stuff and
being able to kind of positively adapt the information that
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you're in taking. And obviously you can't control everything, but
like me asking my wife to be like hey, like yeah, yeah,
and she knows that, like I deal with mental health issues,
so it was beneficial for her to not I mean
I did that with Chelsea would update me every day
because we're getting married about COVID numbers and I just
had to baby, it's okay if you want to look,
that's your choice, but I can't take this on every day.
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She can handle better technically, like tell us can deal
with it. That I'm like, just freaks me out. Everything.
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. I really like the idea of
just growing in our sational equity. Sorry, Zach, I have
to bring it back around emotionally equity. That is good
emotional equity by if we need you go to my
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figure out. We need to figure out what it means first.
But it sounds really sounds clean, dude. Our Our podcast
is just us telling stories that we don't understand in words,
we don't, we don't full comprehend. It's just us just
thrown out like my Pondrea. Wait, okay, how about we
play a game. Who knows the biggest word out of
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the three of us? It's chat for sure, for sure,
chat for sure? Like, yeah, play the game? What's up?
Well I did no? No game is homeschooled. I was homeschooled.
There's no Oh my gosh. I um okay, well I'm
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not even gonna go down that rabbit hole then, because
it was just it's just like dang, at least play
the game with me. Boys, What the heck? Okay, well
you go first? What word do you smart word? I
only know one really big word that freaked me out,
which is this word is pancreatic O do ide nectomy,
which means to remove keeps formally, I formally withdraw myself
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from the competition again, Okay, back on track. I love
what you guys are saying about, like, you know, knowing yourself,
because even in scripture it tells us to do that,
right in Romans twelve, verse three, I'm gonna read the
entire thing, so buckle up, everybody, It says this um
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for by the grace given me, I say to every
one of you, do not think of yourself more highly
than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment,
in accordance with the faith of God has tratuated to
each of you. And it's just like most people read that,
and you can upset, like, oh, I'm not just a
thing highly of myself, for I'm supposed to think less
of myself. And remember, humility is not thinking um less
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of yourself, saying of your of yourself less right. And
so this is not you bashing yourself mentally, but it's
given a sober assessment. Where Gabe expressed, hey, listen, this
this brings me to a dark place, bring it to
a bad place, and I just can't hear that. It's
hard for me to exactly the same thing where that
makes me anxious. And so we each have the opportunity
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to say to ourselves, hey, I understand that this is important,
but I also know that I don't feel like myself
whenever I take the stuff in. I feel stressed out,
I feel anxious, I feel depressed, I feel cynical, I
feel I feel like not the person I want to
be right and no one has the right to make
you feel like the person you don't want to be right,
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and you're responsible for yourself gives us all the time.
You're not responsible for anyone else's reactions. You're responsible for yourself.
And because of that responsibility, we need to take ownership
of it. And people are not gonna a boundaries that
that we don't put in place, obviously, and so we
need to look at our environment, whether it's like like
you guys said, social media or friends or family or
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work or anything else we have going on in our life,
and we have to make a sober assessment. Is this
good for me or is this bad for me? Does
this bring life or does this bring death? You are
a product of your environment. Yes, you're absolutely product your environment,
and you can change your environment in ways that turn
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you into a better product, a more positive product, and
I think that is something that we should all strive
to do. Thank you guys so much for tuning into
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We're leaving that in, I think. Welcome back to the
prompt Us Podcast. We are excited to learn with you
and to grow with you. Today. I'm Gabriel Conti, one
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of your hosts here, joined with my other hosts, Chad
Masters behind the mic and Zach Stains. We'll play, We'll
play what's up boys, what's up? How are you doing? Chad?
How are you doing? All the way in sunny Florida?
Bab Picha keen. It was rainy Florida today, but I'm
not about it, was it? No? It's cool, all right own,
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next things, humid almost submit your own prompts over on
our website. That's prompt Us podcast dot com. It's a
really cool way to our Yeah, let us know what
you're thinking about. Let us know if you have any prompts, questions, queries,
even if they're just things like how many toeses Gabe have?
That's a good question. You can prompt that because people
don't know. But I have two extras. I guess you're
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gonna have to wait for the next podcast. I have
two extra toes from my normal eight pinkies will eventually
just become extinct because they're like so unnecessary for part
of my hands. And fate was that how you mean
to drink? Take that? Facts, bro, Wait before we getting
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to this prompt, do you guys know why they would
do that? And why that's a fancy thing? Why why
is that? Dude at that and in those old days whatever,
the aristocratic periods only knows the answer to this. I'm
just but n that's the caveat so anyways, so only
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wealthy people at that time could afford like like hot
teas or coffees at that time, because people didn't have
water heaters, they didn't have stoves, they had like dirt, right,
And so it became a thing where people would make
these little these little cups with a little hole for
your fingers and to keep them from burning their pinky,
to keep them from burning them pinky, they would hold
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their pinks off, and and it became a fancy thing
because only the aristocratic, wealthy people could afford those hot drinks.
And it became a thing where that's what it was,
just known to that everybody else just had dirt. Everyone else.
Oh my gosh, dude, I'm crying. There was no middle
class like stoves and ovens. They just had dirt. Dude,
I'm just I'm preaching from the fax machine right now.
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There wasn't a middle class. There wasn't like a oh
I do okay. Financially, it was either I'm like bawling
and I'm eating grapes from people that are hanging them
from a like a chair or whatever, or I have dirt. Anyway,
what we're trying to say is, if you want to
submit your problems head of a podcast, and I don't
mind having dirt. I'm a fan of owning the realest. Okay,
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let's go anyway. But Chad, what's the prompt? And who
prompted us today? A big dog? Well, uh, I guess
just rewinding back whenever you guys were talking about Florida.
This prompt actually comes from someone from Florida. From Orlando, Florida,
which is near Disney, right, which is near a bunch
of other stuff, and it's about forty five minutes east
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of where I live with my lovely wife. Tory found
us on Instagram. Attde I'm kidding. Can you imagine, like
shout out, there's our YouTube channel, YouTube dot com. If
you guys are watching on YouTube, you can see me
do that, um, that little lip bite thing that they
do on TikTok like that, you know. Okay for the prompt, guys.
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The reason why we're being so lighthearted at the beginning
of this episode because this is a tough prompt. It's
a real one. It's a it's kind of I don't
want to say dark, but it's a little depressing in
it to a certain extent. The prompt is this from
Cassandra and Orlando, Florida, how to not have a cynical
view a broken world? Don't yeah, I mean, do you
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want me to just like jump? Okay, I'm okay, I'll
take it. I'll take it fine, since since you guys
are forcing to um. Basically, my initial thought when I
hear of this is because I have definitely had I
feel like I'm a decently sized thinker, and I think
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a lot about like these things types of things, both
on like a personal and like I guess, world scale,
and a lot of times it's you get to a
point where you're like, what is the point of anything.
That's a whole book of of um uh what what?
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Oh my gosh, what book is it? The apocalyptic books
the Bible? No, no, in the Bible is a yeah,
he's from my Ecclesiastes. Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. I was
like I was blanking. Everything is meaning I was like Ephesians,
it's not, it's the other um Ecclesiastes. Um, Yeah, it's
it's basically what is the reference chat, I know, you
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know everything everything is yeah, everything is meaningless. Yeah. And
basically in that book he goes through basically the view
of a lot of things from not from from just
like the human perspective, I guess, and every and you know,
we all go through it if you like follow everything
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and I'm like basically asking the why questions of like
why does this matter? Why are you doing this? Why
you know? And you just keep going down the rabbit
hole of why there's like no point to anything, which
is no, no, no, it's you kind of you can
you can work yourself by questioning every step of the
way to the point of everything being meaningless. If God
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isn't real and that that's like the way, and I
know we have people who aren't also like Christians, you
listen to this, but I I that's the way I'm
able to explain it for myself, in the way that honestly,
I'm able to stay out a lot of stay out
of a lot of these like hard depressive states that
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I go to where because I'm able to bring everything
back to the point like, Okay, this is just a season.
It's not from me God. At the end of the day,
like life is going to be hard, Like life is
not supposed to be easy. God says, it's not going
to be easy. We're gonna have our valleys and struggles
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and we're gonna go through it. But at the end
of the day, like we're gonna be with God, Like
like life is such a short, little blip on the
scale of eternity, you know what I mean. Um anyway, yeah,
life is like the first letter of the entire novel. Yeah,
you know what I mean, the story, but the story, Yeah,
I mean, I mean, that's a really I think it's
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good because I think you've got to set some context,
and even if it's just context for you, but I agree,
I'm in the same position, you know, like if I
ever get you know, if depression like sneaks up on
me as people like to use as like the visual.
But if it ever sneaks up on me, a lot
of the times, it throws me into a place of doubt.
I just doubt everything. And I think, I think that's
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where you know, I talked about a lot on the podcast,
and it's like, it's my brand. It's on brand now,
it's my brand to be like the little things, right.
But I think, you know, we can obviously get into
more practical things as we go along, and I'm sure
Chad's got like forty seven points that he's going to
crush out in one second for it now. But for me,
like I guess, being cynical is a proactive choice, and
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a lot of times we can fall back to a
cynical state where we are just like everything sucks, everything
just it's the worst to whatever. That sometimes can be
a default. Actually a lot of the times can be
default because we are in a broken world, right, that's
the default. But for me, like I just have to
a lot of the time choose to not and go, hey, look,
God's given me so many blessings that I need to go.
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You know, I can be cynical about it. Oh, my
house is too small, or this I'm cynical about life,
or or I can go, youre so awesome to have
this great house, or you know, it's it's a it's
a proactive thing. That's I guess that's what. It's also
a habit that you need to build. Well, i've started
going through depression. You you figure out ways to kind
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of like self censors in a way where you can
sense when it's something. Yeah, exactly. It's exactly like a
test out of what is it called neural length, But
it's like you can sense when things are about to shift,
or just emotionally, when some bad feelings are kind of
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rising up. And I have gotten to the point kind
of intentionally slash unintentionally to where once I start kind
of feeling those really negative emotions, I I figure out
what it is that's kind of making me cause what
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is causing that? And when I realize what it is,
I'm able to not disguise it as a blessing but
realize it as a blessing, you know what I mean.
It's like, oh my gosh, I'm so stressed out about
um this work thing. It's giving me anxiety. Say, it's
like finishing this video on time. It's giving me anxiety
or whatever, and I'm like, wait, what a blessing it
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is that I'm able to have a job that I
enjoy that you know, like that most people aren't able
to have. It is a perspective shift, and it's very
difficult to do. Um. I'm not saying that I'm not
good at it, but it's something that I'm trying to
incorporate as a habit in my life that I'm able
to like find the positive in some thing rather than
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the negative because you can kind of find both in everything.
Oh yeah, everything has a consequence, right, And it's like,
but I think, yeah, I love what you're saying, just
highlighting that that perspective shift of going Okay, actually I'm
going to respond to it. So about you respond to it, Chad,
that's how you're well. I love what you guys are saying.
Do you care if I share a story about perspective?
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It may it may take a few minutes, but I
really hope that it share your perspective your life. I
was waiting for him to putting that in here, but
we should actually just put the ID Dude, what did
you say? I was saying, I hope it adds to
your life. Oh no. Anyway, so so this story really
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impacted me. I read it whenever I was in college.
I didn't go to Harvard, nor do I want to go.
I just got the shirt because one of my friends did,
and I went to one of his soccer games. Anyways,
shout out justin love you man. Anyway, Okay, back on track.
So there's this taxicab driver, right and he's on his
last he's on his last I guess, right of the night.
And he he was scheduled to pick up this woman
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at like eleven PM, and he pulls up to this
old house and he sees that, like he sees that
there's one light on and it looks like there's no furniture.
So he's kind of injured by that, and he just
wants to go home. And he's like, you know what,
you know, he called her and she didn't answer, and
he's just like, you know, I'm probably just gonna go home.
This is I don't want to do this. I'm tired.
I just want to go home. And he feels this
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kind of like a prompting. I guess shout out prompt us,
and he goes and knocks on the door. Then he
hears some shuffling around and then this old woman opens
the door and she has like a suitcase and that's it,
and she hands it to him and she grabs his
arm and he walks her to the cab and he
and he he helps her get in the cab, and
she wanted to sit in the front seat, and so
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she's like, by the way, do you mind if we
take a detward route, And he was like, well, no
problem with me. I mean, it's your it's your money, right,
And she had him drive over here, which is where
she she like she learned how to ride a bike.
Then she drove to this part of the town where
she had her first kiss, and drive to this part
where she used to get dancing lessons, but now it's
a grocery store and all the stuff. And he's wondering
what is she doing and all this, and you know,
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and it's it's happening for a while, and it's about
four or five am. Now it's happening for hours, and
they pull up to this place um or he's gonna
drop her off, and he realizes that he realizes that
it's a hospice clinic, right, and if you guys know
what hospices, it's typically a place where people will go
that are gonna be passing away soon. And then it
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dawned on him, he said, he said internally, he said,
while this was just my last cab ride of the night,
this is her last cab ride ever. Perspective was everything.
There was two people in that car experiencing two very
different things at the same time, and it shocked him
and it changed him and it challenged them. And I
think for us, whenever we are going through things, are
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we just looking at things and how they impact us,
or are we looking at the bigger picture, which is
what Gabe is saying, which is like I don't have
to do this. I get to do this. What a blessing.
But we have to shift or focus from not standing
too close to the trees that we actually missed this
beautiful forest that we're around, right, and and so, but
I think like practically speaking, I would want to answer
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this one question, right, what is causing the cynicism? And
then once we know that, what do you do with it?
And so Cassandra, I would just answer your question, is
what's causing the cynicism? Is it the constant negativity and
fearmongering that the media portrays. Is that Am I allowed
to say that? Is that okay with everyone? You know?
Because that's what they're doing. You know, it's absolutely what
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they're doing. And so I um, is is it that?
Or is it the constant comparison that we deal with
that we deal with by looking on social media? Is
it the constant pressure that we feel from going from
test to test to test to test in college or
obligation to obligation obligation with our career? What is it
that's causing us to be cynical, especially at a young age.
I I know, I've I'm someone who's can be very cynical,
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and I have to actively work on not being cynical
because my natural, like need jerk reaction is to just
get down and you're like, oh, this sucks, everything sucks.
I'm not gonnae That's that's how I get in a
lot of ways where some people are kind of shocked
by that because I tend to be kind of positive.
But the reason I tend to be kind of positive
is because I'm actively fighting that battle of not letting
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things get me down. Yeah, And I think in addition
to the actively fighting, you have to be aware, like
when Chad, when you were naming off all the different
things like negativity in the media or all this stress
because of your tests or whatever. There's obligations, things that
that tend to cause stress, or things that tend to
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be negative in some way will spawn more negativity in life.
So if you're stressed, more stress is going to come
from stress. Like if you're constantly listening to negative media,
that negativity is going to come onto you and you're
going to carry that around. Like I had to stop.
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I mean last year the news was just like crazy.
I had to stop watching the news for a while
because I just couldn't. It was so it felt like
so much weight in information negativity, And once I stopped,
I was like I'm okay, Yeah, Like I'm okay, I
don't need this much. You can take a day at
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a time rather than being like the whole world's about
to employee and kind of like understanding how much negative
information I can I can actually take without it affecting
who I am as a person or having and having
the spiral into a depression or anything like that. Like
you have to know and like you're saying, Chad, Um,
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what was it that you said at the end of
what you were just talking about, like the surrounding yourself
with positivity and actively pursuing the positive things rather than
the negative things. Then Chad, what you're saying exactly that
Chad's Chad gave a great example that he knows he
is self aware that he's typically seen a cool so
instead he goes out of his way to be positive
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to encourage other people. Like that's one of my favorite
parts about Chad is that he's so outwardly positive and encouraging.
And I know that that's not just like built in.
I know Chad works hard to do that, you know,
because of just everything I think we all have to.
And I think that leads me to my second point
of two. No, Chad did his points in it and
order this time, so it threw me off. I was
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ready to go backwards, but we're going to start with
point seven and went backwards to point five. That's right,
and that's what they're gonna end there. But I just
it's also about if you feel like you're being cynical,
who are you surrounded by? I Mean, we talk about
about that all the time, but not only like what
content are you taking in, but who in your world?
Who do you live with? And it might be a
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brutal question because you might live with family. And I
know for me, like I've lived with family during seasons
that they've been they've struggled, and it's really made me
a cynical person because whether I feel like I need
to support them or whether it's like, oh, I need
to make up for them, so I need to be
over the top positive to get look to get kind
of what a chad say to put his dirty clothes
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up on the line, is that? Is that? What is
that you say? Like when my parents were getting divorced,
did you put the strimp on the barby? Is that
we just said, you're just like opening my heart up?
And dad just comes in hot with the strip on
the bobby. He goes to air out my dirty laundry
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and then goes when my parents are getting devote we're
getting divorced, and then shrimp on the bobby. There is
a delay. There is a delay on this, okays the
sky and saying that you do that on purpose. But anyway,
when my parents were getting divorced, shout at parents. So
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but for me, I felt like I need to Okay,
this sounds like bad. I'm not trying to trash. I
know you have a good question. My parents are super happy.
They're super and madly in love with their partners and
it's super cute. Anyway, Um, when that was all happening
a big thing for me, my personality type of whatever
it was, I felt like I needed to be We
talked about it the other week, Chad toxic positivity. I
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felt like I needed to be the one who was
holding it together for the whole squad, right, And so
it's almost I'm not to flip everything on its head.
But in the same way, being that toxic positive is
also not great either. It's okay to be a realist, right,
but it's it's the nature in which you do it.
Are you doing it in a joyous nature? I'm being
a realist in a joyous way, or I'm actually just
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cynical about all of it in a realistic way. I guess. Yeah.
You don't want to be making up lies to yourself
that things right like that that things are good. You
find the positives that are true and actually they're yeah,
and actually you know and go, hey, okay, cool, this
is my chance to hang out with my church friends
more because you know, I want to be surrounded by
positive people, which is what I did. But I guess Yeah,
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what I'm trying to say is the people you're around
really can dictate how you react to other things. Yeah, well,
I mean, show me your friend. We'd say it all day.
Show me your friends, and I'll show you a d
That's right. So anyway, I was it was a nice moment.
But thanks Chad. Thanks, I'm so sorry. Literally all I
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heard was like, what's up? He goes, Thanks Chod, Thanks Ad,
Oh wow, he's coming in hot bro. Dude's just out
here to pay off some loans, babies. I was trying
to pay off my friends. But by the way, sorry
if there's any miscommunication there. If if I'm talking, I
can't hear what you guys are saying. So that Zack, Zach,
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I hope you didn't think that I was being rude.
All I heard was like heard clothing on the line
or laundry, and I'm just like, do you say shrimp
on the bobby? And then Gabe's like and I'm like, wait,
what just happened? She's showing him as stressed and Honestly,
I'm really secure in my pass, you know what I'm saying.
So I'm not like that was like dude, I'm really okay.
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I'm actually so glad everything happened the way it did.
I cannot complain about that. So do not strengd game.
I get it. I get what that's like. We have
any episodes that I do on the other on your ends, like, yeah, um,
I guess just to bring us back. Um, I think
that it's you know, I think this is such a
simple tip. This is like it's going to sound almost stupid, right,
but good and good out bad and bad out right.
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It's just like you guys are talking about friends you
are to you know, it's like if you eat Taco
Bell eleven at eleven pm PM, you're probably gonna be
having a bad right, okay, bad end bad probably yeah. Right.
It's like, you know, and we can apply that too,
even with Gabe was saying and watching the news like
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that's like, wow, if if you know that you're becoming
paralyzed by the constant negativity that's around you and you
feel like you're inactive, then you have to stop, right,
And so we need to take an inventory over everything
that we're taking in right, because everything we take in
impacts what's inside, right, And so it's just like inviting
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someone into your house. Are they going to take their
shoes off? What if they have money shoes, they're gonna
stop all? What if they go stand up on your bed?
What if they raid your fridge? Like, they're going to
impact your house for better for worse. And everything that
you in take is going to impact your mental health
for better or for worse. And so if you hell up,
if you fill up a cup with dirty water, the
only thing you're gonna be able to pour out is
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dirty water. Yes, feel so simple, clean purified filtered water.
You're gonna have clean, purified filing water. Or shout out
to mineral water which actually provides you with the vitamins
and nutrients you need naturally instead of chlorine and floria whatever. Okay,
that's neither here nor there. But so my my technically
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is my what technically is my four note on here? Okay,
which I did number one, which is what's causing cynicism,
but number my number four is fill your mind and
what gives life not death? And I think what we
we have to take our thoughts captive. We have to
be intentional about the things that we're taken in. And
again it's almost like we're being a dead horse with
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what we're saying. But it's that important, Like there's no
secret remedy or pill or whatever you can do to
fight cynicism other than make sure you're not putting yourselves
and in a place to be overwhelmed with with things
that cause you to feel cynical. It's like, it's so
you just have go ahead, Well, I was gonna say
so on a practical level, that immediately my mind goes
(22:44):
to translating it practically is what are you doing on
your phone? Like straight up, the the correlation between depression
and smartphone use, it's specifically social media use is like
astronomically accurate with one another. So what are you doing
on your phone? And what are you seeing a lot
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of times it's not even a thing that you're doing.
It is what social media is feeding you without you
trying m hm. So you have to be very aware
of like where all of this is coming from and
understand how to stop it. So like maybe it is
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getting off a social media for a while and seeing
how that affects even if it's like a test if
you're feeling really cynical or depressed or whatever it is, Like, Okay,
I'm actually I don't think it's from social media, but
let me test it out. Let me see how I
feel from deleting social media off my phone for a week. Yer.
But yeah, like, or if it's not that, if it's TV,
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like it's the news, a lot of it, just I'm
gonna unplug, Like Chelsea and I don't have our TV
plugged into the antenna. I've never had my TV plugged
into the antenna because I don't even have a choice
if I want to watch news or not. And I've
got gosh, dude, YouTube keeps recommending it, but I've blocked
every news channel on YouTube because when I go on YouTube,
I want to watch a guy who bought an old
town to mind and I don't want to flip and
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I don't want to watch like news that's just going
to be it's there to be clicked and it's there
to mess you up, like it is. Yeah, and so yeah,
I love that, bro, I love the whole a b
testing on what it is, but that's exactly what it is,
and that's about being proactive right, If you're a B testing,
that means you're proactively wanting to change something. I mean,
I've talked about that before and we didn't say it
was a B testing, but when I talked about like
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doing like creating your ideal weak and how you can
like create a schedule that best shoots the way you
work and what you need to do. In the same way,
you can test things in your life to see how
you react, and sometimes you don't know how you're going
to react. And then once you create do that a
B testing, you can figure out more and learn more
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about yourself, you know what I mean. And that's about
believing that God has given you something really incredible to
work with here, like to even be proactive on a
B testing. I love that we're just looking, but that's
you go to there is a part of you that's
going to be and that's where obviously our Christian faith
comes in for me, it does, right. I believe that,
you know, Jesus died for me. That's pretty hectic, and
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so when I think about that, I'm like, yeah, well,
I'm pretty sure Jesus would want me to live a fulfilled,
joyful life, not cynical, negative life. You know that's I
love that, bro, that's so good. Yeah. I mean that's
the reason why I un followed everyone on Instagram because
I still need Instagram from my job. I need a
post and turned it into a tool rather than a
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communication space. Yeah yeah, yeah, So like there are people
who DM me, but they're like my friends. It's like
if someone's texting me. So it's so different. It's not UM's,
it's it's I'm I can't see what people are posting.
I can't compare myself to other influencers. I can't. And
originally I had muted everyone that I was following. I
just went through a muted every single person I was following,
but I can still see their stories. But I knew
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that I was on the right tracks on like this,
let me just next step and you don't follow everyone,
So I just did it, and I haven't it's been
probably I don't even know how long. It's been over
a year. For sure. I haven't followed anyone besides like
Jess and like basically our family business, you know. Yeah,
I mean, like I remember when you when you did that.
And that's the crazy thing about the world that people
that we're growing up in now is that I thought
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it was crazy that you did that, my bro, but
like like I just couldn't get it through my head.
And I look back on duh, like that makes the
most sense to do. But it's just like it's bizarre
the world we're conditioned in which you have to watch
the news every morning, and it's like, no, you don't
have to do that. You don't have to buy the newspaper.
When your dad's read the newspaper and he's just telling
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you all this negative stuff, you don't have to listen
to it. You know, it might be hard, maybe find
an excuse to chat about something else. I just think
that's where really putting in those boundaries, baby boundaries on
the boundaries. I actually told Jess that the other day,
Like she was telling me some stuff. I don't know.
I think there's some stuff like that was going on
in social media year or whatever, and she had told
it to me one day and I think it was
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the next day I let her know. I was like, hey,
by the way, if any of that stuff like comes
up again, could you just like not tell me about
it because it affected me pretty bad yesterday, so I
don't want to hear it so I just like ask her, like, hey,
just don't share that information with me. That was probably
last week when I asked her that. And it's just
like just knowing the way you react to stuff and
being able to kind of positively adapt the information that
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you're in taking. And obviously you can't control everything, but
like me asking my wife to be like hey, like yeah, yeah,
and she knows that, like I deal with mental health issues,
so it was beneficial for her to not I mean
I did that with Chelsea would update me every day
because we're getting married about COVID numbers and I just
had to baby, it's okay if you want to look,
that's your choice, but I can't take this on every day.
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She can handle better technically, like tell us can deal
with it. That I'm like, just freaks me out. Everything.
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. I really like the idea of
just growing in our sational equity. Sorry, Zach, I have
to bring it back around emotionally equity. That is good
emotional equity by if we need you go to my
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figure out. We need to figure out what it means first.
But it sounds really sounds clean, dude. Our Our podcast
is just us telling stories that we don't understand in words,
we don't, we don't full comprehend. It's just us just
thrown out like my Pondrea. Wait, okay, how about we
play a game. Who knows the biggest word out of
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the three of us? It's chat for sure, for sure,
chat for sure? Like, yeah, play the game? What's up?
Well I did no? No game is homeschooled. I was homeschooled.
There's no Oh my gosh. I um okay, well I'm
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not even gonna go down that rabbit hole then, because
it was just it's just like dang, at least play
the game with me. Boys, What the heck? Okay, well
you go first? What word do you smart word? I
only know one really big word that freaked me out,
which is this word is pancreatic O do ide nectomy,
which means to remove keeps formally, I formally withdraw myself
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from the competition again, Okay, back on track. I love
what you guys are saying about, like, you know, knowing yourself,
because even in scripture it tells us to do that,
right in Romans twelve, verse three, I'm gonna read the
entire thing, so buckle up, everybody, It says this um
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for by the grace given me, I say to every
one of you, do not think of yourself more highly
than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment,
in accordance with the faith of God has tratuated to
each of you. And it's just like most people read that,
and you can upset, like, oh, I'm not just a
thing highly of myself, for I'm supposed to think less
of myself. And remember, humility is not thinking um less
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of yourself, saying of your of yourself less right. And
so this is not you bashing yourself mentally, but it's
given a sober assessment. Where Gabe expressed, hey, listen, this
this brings me to a dark place, bring it to
a bad place, and I just can't hear that. It's
hard for me to exactly the same thing where that
makes me anxious. And so we each have the opportunity
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to say to ourselves, hey, I understand that this is important,
but I also know that I don't feel like myself
whenever I take the stuff in. I feel stressed out,
I feel anxious, I feel depressed, I feel cynical, I
feel I feel like not the person I want to
be right and no one has the right to make
you feel like the person you don't want to be right,
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and you're responsible for yourself gives us all the time.
You're not responsible for anyone else's reactions. You're responsible for yourself.
And because of that responsibility, we need to take ownership
of it. And people are not gonna a boundaries that
that we don't put in place, obviously, and so we
need to look at our environment, whether it's like like
you guys said, social media or friends or family or
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work or anything else we have going on in our life,
and we have to make a sober assessment. Is this
good for me or is this bad for me? Does
this bring life or does this bring death? You are
a product of your environment. Yes, you're absolutely product your environment,
and you can change your environment in ways that turn
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you into a better product, a more positive product, and
I think that is something that we should all strive
to do. Thank you guys so much for tuning into
this episode of prompt Us, and remember you can follow
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at promptu this podcast, and that is where you can
submit prompts that will be topics that we discussed in
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