August 30, 2021 • 36 mins
It's estimated that the average adult makes more than 35,000 decisions per day so why do we find it so hard to make certain decisions? The lads dive into tricky decisions they have had to make and how they navigated those seasons. Also, Jess and Tori pop in with cookies. Zac missed out... Don't forget to head to promptuspodcast.com to submit your prompts for future episodes!
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Prompt Us is a production of I Heart Radio. Oh
my gosh, we're back. Is this what the people wanted? Everyone?
Everyone on the other side, they're back. Oh anyway, thank
you guys for tuning in. My name is Gabriel Conti
and this is the prompt Us podcast. We hope to
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learn with you guys and grow with you guys. Today.
I'm here joined with my co host Zack and Chad. Honestly,
I kind of that was my first time coming back
doing that after and I think crushing I Gus felt
a little nervous because we didn't choose the prompt Oh
my gosh, I thought I was gone with the top one. Oh.
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I mean, okay, we're doing it, doing it live show.
If you guys didn't know already, we have to bulk
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can all just do it right, you know? Um, Okay,
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know what's good decision? The decision making one. I'm calling
it right now. That's how you make decisions, guys. Okay, okay,
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not sure what happened, or if our tech guy really
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I definitely that's probably more likely. I definitely messed up.
That's so weird. We're getting at fixed, guys. It's probably
already fixed by the time, you know. Yeah, But so
thanks for tuning in to today's episode. We appreciate we
appreciate you being here. Like this is like a ten
minute intro and it's fine, No we're not. We're three
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minutes and half of it's gonna be cut because Zach
is going to edit it like a freaking bomb our
tech guy. Because our tech guy right there is Zach
wears many the tech You're definitely like, you know, you
know how like every superhero has like the guy in
the van, like the like the guy who's like doing
all the computer work. Honestly, one of the best characters
in Easy because he's funny, he's quirky, he's Zachary Stains,
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but instead of him being in a van, he's on
the opposite side of the globe where they do everything backwards.
This prompt may or may not be from one of
Tory and I subscribers. I recognized her location and oh
there we go, so well, she's actually a patron so
we actually talked about This is Allison from Ontary, Canada
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and she pays you guys for premium. Thanks again for
today's episode. So sorry, I okay, we have to get
into So I I am paraphrasing her, her topic, her prompt,
and so she said this how to be better at
decision making? I suck at it. That's paraphrase. Of course
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she didn't say that exactly, but Zack, had you become
better at decision making? I love how gay and I
just made eye contact and we were like, I don't
have anything to say. Say it is that I already
I already gave my example at the beginning of the
episode when I decided on the prompt. Sorry that was
that's the only illustration you had. I don't know, man,
I feel like I've always sucked at decision making because
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I've always I feel like I've always tried to be
a people pleaser with my decision making. It's like, well,
what do you want to do? I'm pretty passive. I'm like, Hey,
what's for dinner? I don't know, what do you want
to have to dinner? Like it's it's a back and
what do you what do you want? What do you want.
It's not that simple. Do you want? What do you want?
I'm talking about the book. I've seen the notebook beautiful illustration.
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But I think the only thing worse, the only thing
worse than yeah, making a bad decision is not making
a decision. And so I think I really had to
just like deal with the fact that I had to
make uncomfortable decisions. I guess it depends. I mean what, like,
I don't know. I'm trying to think of a decision.
Example that I don't like food is a good one. Legit.
I can't make my mind up about what to eat ever, ever, ever, ever.
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But yeah, I think for me, it's just about taking
a shot at it, and if it doesn't work, you've
got to just try a different decision next time. I
don't know, being okay to fail, being okay to get
the wrong decision. I realized that, like most of the time,
probably the decisions that you make, it doesn't matter what
you choose. So just take something, you know what I mean.
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If you're like trying to decide between an office chair,
that could probably ruin your week making that decision, and
you're like you like them both, clearly you can decide
them from experience. I don't know. I just saw my
office chair there and I made I made the decision
to use that as as you didn't worry about it,
but you know what I mean, like it doesn't I
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don't know. I'm trying to think of day of day
to day decisions that I make all the time, Like
a YouTube thumbnail, you know what I mean, Like I
scroll through the footage and I just start screenshotting stuff,
and I'm like, Okay, how can I make this decision quicker?
And then I get just as opinions on it and stuff.
But like you just kind of have to like go
through the options, narrow them down to the ones that
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are the best, and then you just pick one of
those and if, like you said, if it doesn't work,
you really just for next time. But the negative, Yeah,
the negative repercussions of making that decision probably aren't going
to be that bad. I feel like we need to
pick very specific examples of like tough decisions to make. Yeah,
so you're saying we should make a decision on that, Yeah, probably.
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So I mean, how about how about we talk about
a little bit of like what to do with your
time right and how to make a decision on what
to do. And I'll just give you an example. In college,
I've read this book called Getting Things Done, and it's
basically a way for you to help prioritize your tasks.
The guy who wrote it doesn't believe in time management.
He's like, you can't manage something that you don't control
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and it doesn't stop, but you can't control your tasks.
And so well, what happened is is he had this
little piece of paper. He always had it with him,
and he would be updating it frequently as the day
went on, and he had um this to sound funny
and like I was gonna say it naturally to see
if you guys reacted to it. But I just the
way that gave is looking at me right now, I
was like, he's definitely gonna say joke about it. But yeah. So,
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so the guy has three d s in a trash can.
His lip is quivered. Starts every story it is so
three d's in the trash can walking to bar no.
So basically, the first D is do it, the second
D is delegated, the third D is defer it, and
then there's a trash can. So whenever he's going throughout
his day, and so one offers him another task, he
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gets another email, gets another phone call, or he has
an interruption, whatever it is, if he can do an
under fifteen minutes, he does it. If he if it's
not for him to do it, if it's not for
him to do it, he defers it. If it's going
to take longer for him to do it than fifteen minutes,
then he then he I'm sorry. If it's I said
that backwards, If it's not for him to delegates it,
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and if it's going to take longer than fifteen minutes,
he defers it. And if it's not for him at all,
he just throws it away. It goes in the trash.
And that was a way for him to make good decisions.
And so I think that as you're trying to be
better decision making skills, you need to have a system like, Okay,
if you're deciding on a restaurant, you know what I do? Well,
what if I eaten frequently, so I don't want to
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double down. If I just had a burger yesterday, I
don't want today, So guess what, I'm not going to
have a burger. So I started to do process of
elimination right, and I feeling like pizza or might feeling
like pasta. That's gonna get that's gonna get super heavy.
I want to kiss my wife later, I'm gonna be
super garlic e. We're not gonna feel like kissing later.
So guess what, pizza Impasta's out onions onions, garlic out.
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And so I do process of elimination. That's how I
start making decisions when it comes to things like that. Yeah,
that makes sense. And I think what you're talking about
is like on a bigger scale too, when you're going
through the three three d's in the garbage came no, no,
But it really makes you think, like what what you're
making decisions on specifically talking about the garbage can should
you even be contemplating making a decision on that thing?
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And that goes into like a whole bigger picture thing
of of you you doing tasks that are actually beneficial
to your life, and then I can go into the
whole rule if we want to go into that, But
I don't know if that's good for the decision making specifically. Anyway,
I'll talk about it if you want me to. You
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guys really seem eager, So anyway, it's across the board
in life, but of the things that you do are
only contribute to of uh the work. To give a
simple example, they say that of your profits are from
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eight percent of your consumer base, but then of your
customers are responsible for eighty percent of your profits. And
so there's yeah, yeah, or like of the money you
make comes from only of the work that you do,
and then the of the work that you do is
only contributing to your profit. And then you can do
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that across the board with like it's a weird rule
in life where it's like, of all the money in
the country or in the world is owned by of
of the population, and then the rest of the percent
of the population only has the rest of the twenty
percent of the money. But that's like across the board
with like everything, there's like this weird rules. So you
kind of like of their time on of their decisions exactly.
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So bringing it back to decision making, it's kind of like,
is this a task that what Sorry, you're smiling. I
didn't know I was not smiling to take it back,
you know, don't do it, tack guy, I don't even
know what I was saying anymore. You threw me off. Anyway,
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what was that the decision making? And then the yeah,
like is it actually in that is like a benefit
beneficial decision that you should actually be contemplating in spending
energy on the rest of the percent of decisions that
you're making are probably not even consequential, kind of like
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a meal that you're going to eat, or like I
don't know what shoes to wear today or what short
am I gonna put on? Like that's really not going
to affect your day at all, unless there's like a
blizzard outside and you forget your jacket. You know what
I mean. I love what you're saying, because there's times
that quick. There's times where obviously, you know, my wife
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and I believe in being good stewards, we believe in
being frugal, but she'll be debating between like she just
bought a you got cast from Allison? So it Allison?
What if it's not actually her? Anyways? So there's a
link description to our Patreon you can go check out.
Um so, so Tori just bought a a a foe
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olive tree, a fake allive tree for a future home
or building, right, and it was a pretty penny But
the thing is just about a real olive tree and
it died and it's dead because alive trees are paying
the side tangent. There's been a topic of conversation this
past week. So so basically Tory was debating between this
one from Target that's like decent or this one from
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um from Etsy that's like, you know, the fake olive tree.
But she spent like a week debating on it. And
I'm like, babe, if you were to taken like three
hours and worked instead of debating on that topic, you
could have afforded the fake olive tree. So for me,
I'm all about just like looking at my time right now,
how much time am I spending debating on this topic? Right?
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So specifically, if it's about spending money, you know, how
much how much time am I spending to make this decision?
Excuse me, you're fine? How much time am I spending
making decision? And could I use that time to actually
make more money to get the thing that I actually
really want? That's right, right, That's right. It's like it's
about the weight. It's and it's the weight that you
add to that decision, right, because and that's that's the
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thing I found myself having to do is like how
much weight does choosing what's for dinner actually have on
my life? Or hey, how much weight on choosing where
we need to rent next? That's a bigger decision to make,
right And so I think that's where we are really practical.
First thing to do is just give yourself a second
and analyze the weight of that decision. Is it going
to affect other people? Is it going to affect you?
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Is it going to affect people around you? Does it
affect your habits? I think that's another one. Does this
decision throw you out? For example, right now, I've been
trying to get into running, and when I decide not
to run, that's way bigger impact than that. There's a
lot of weight on that. So when I do decide
to run, it's a really positive decision to make. And
so just trying to analyze and try and put it
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into a camp. You know, is in the positive camp
negative camp? And if you don't know, you'll find out
pretty quick. Oh my gosh, that reminds me of that
thing on Netflix from Marie Condo, like she would like
organize people's homes, And so if someone was deciding to
keep a piece of clothing. She would grab it and
she said, you know, grab it. Does this bring you joy?
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If it doesn't, then you think it for what it
was to you and you toss it, or of course
you donate it, you do whatever. But if it does
bring you joy, then you keep it. It's there's obviously
a negative or positive feeling there. You just Marie condoed
you're running relationship. Yeah, and and but then in all things,
like I got an example of freaking decision making is yeah,
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flipping Zach the tech running guy just like my my,
I'm evolving my characters evolving on the podcast, the Australian
Australian tech guy. And it's gonna be c g eyed
versions of him here when we're sitting I'm going to
be the new Elon Musk robot. It will just be
like a Tesla robot just sitting here. Have you guys
(14:34):
seen that I did peek at it? Anyway? What well? Camera, okay, Zach,
you talk anyway. So we just moved into the place
we live in now. This is why the studios looking fresh.
And we had so many problems with like how just
put them on blast with our real estate agent and
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like our plumbing didn't work, we didn't have any access
to the internet. Um, we couldn't pay for our ends.
And the reason I bring all these things up is
because we had Chelsea and my wife had a lot
of decisions to make around how we approach that, How
do you approach conflicts? Do we do we try and
be the nice people and be real understanding or do
we need to be kind of hard in our word
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because it's been four weeks and we still can't pay
rent because they haven't given us details. Then that kind
of stuff when when decision making stacks up, that's when
it starts to really weigh down on you. And I
think I wish, just looking back on that, that I
spent more time just making decision deciding to call that
person call them straight away, rather than being like, oh,
we'll just wait for the email to come through. And
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I just wanted to use that as an example of
when you avoid decision making that actually, over a four
week period, the workload becomes bigger and bigger and being
greater and greater. So I don't know if you're if
you've got a decision to make right now to subscribe
to prompt us, make that decision right now otherwise that's gonna.
That's gonna. It's almost like you may have a decision
(15:56):
to listen to these ads or not well done, sir,
A good decision. I'm listening through the whole entire thing
and not skipping through those. We appreciate it, guys, so
thanks for not fast forwarding through those ads. I love
what you're saying. That you say back to what Zach
was saying. Good stuff, But chat, you have something to say,
so I'll not interrupt again. Gab is just here the party.
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I drank some water before this. If you're if you're
watching juice right now, I wish people could see how
comfortable you are right now. I'm just chilling, all right,
you were straight chilling like I have a pillow in
my lap. The boys are back and I'm yeah, I'm
just happy to be here with you guys, just listening.
You know, I feel like I'm the audience. You are,
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you know you are. I have some things to add,
but like most of the time, I'm just happy to
be a part of it. Was happy to be here.
I feel that. I'm like you know, we all feel
that way. That's why we're all looking at you like
the fifth guy in the boy band. You know, no,
that's definitely me, Like, no, that's I'm like the guy
who's still yeah yeah, yeah, I love Lily. So do
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you guys want to hear? I was just saying how
it was just facts. It's just a fact. I'm sorry,
Do you guys want to hear? Genuinely? One of the
best ways to help you make a decision. I mean,
this is this gonna be the podcast? I don't know
if there's a joke. No, I mean totally serious. So
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I would do this thing. If I'm debating between one
or two things. It could be maybe a few more
than that, but keep it to one or two things,
right if you if you pick one, So if you
take a coin and you pick one his heads and
one is tails, you flip the coin, say lands on tails.
If you immediately regret that it landed on tails, and
Fate chose tails, didn't you You want heads, That's what
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you want is heads. But you make fate quote unquote
make a decision for you. Then if you have peace
in that moment, then you know that's the right thing.
But if you immediately regret that, then you know you
wanted to opposite. And I actually do that? You do?
You hate you all? Like metaphorically do it? Like if
I have a credit card or something, I'll flip whatever
I have around me if I'm really love Dave Ramsey
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just like turned off our podcast when to come my
AMEX platinum cord with me? I just flipped that, you know,
and then when the metal hands can I roast Amex
for a quick second? Or sure, oh my gosh, here
are you making a decision about credit cards? Amex? Just
they tried me the other day. I have this card
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and I pay a lot of money a year to
have it. You know what card? It is? Right, but
whenever literally the one that he just said on the podcast.
You know what it is that I'm saying. This card
costs a lot to happy a year, but there's a
lot of benefits to it. You get a lot of
money back on Uber, you get a lot of points
for buying flights, and you get access to airplane lounges. Okay,
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I so what happened, Chad, dude, I'm telling you, man,
this woman tried me. I go to podcast, I just
fell off my chat is everything? Okay, okay, okay, Sorry Chad?
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I was so blown away by Chad's story that I
just fell fell backwards. I love that so off. I
think that was a sign that we need to get
back on topic. But I'll say this just super quickly.
I went to enter the lounge and and I got
off work early in Seattle, and I even know they
had a lounge there, so I was excited to go
chill in there before my flight because I had, like,
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I had like three hours. I had three hours of
seven minutes, and there's a rule where you can't enter
longer than three hours before. So there was people in there, people,
not that many people. So I go to I go
to check in and and all that, and she's like, oh no,
I can't let you in right now. I'm like, wo
how come She's like, well, there's a you can't come
in three hours before. Like, well, I'm coming in as
a guest with the other model that I'm here with,
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because you can bring two guests, and and she's like, well,
if you're not flying with him, I'm not going let
you in. I'm just like, will you let the other
guy in? Who just breezed by without looking at his
his boarding past and his flight was the same time
as mine, And she was like, I'm sorry, sorry, I'm
just not gonna let you in. She's like, you can
go wait outside for seven minutes. And there was seven
minutes before I could enter, and she made me wait outside,
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and I'm like, I was just like, are you serious
right now? So I'm probably gonna end up canceling a
X because I don't fly that much anymore. Anyways, you know,
what's the point to have that card if you're not
going to use it for the perks and if I
can't enter the lounge. So here we are in that
moment chat. What was the decision you made? How did
you respond? I walked outside and just waited. I called
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my wife because I was upset. It's probably a good
that was really good thing to do. You probably could
have sat there and just dwelled in it. But yeah,
I feel like you're like such a loyalist on like
certain things like your card or whatever it is. You're like,
I'm gonna find another card and be loyal to that card.
I feel like I would have been like, oh, okay,
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that's the rules, okay, all right, and I would have
just gone outside for something. Yeah, well, if if if
she would have been kind about it, if she would
have been like she was she acting like, oh she
she was a hundred percent like power. And I think
it's because she didn't like what I was wearing. I'm
being totally serious. I didn't look like I necessarily belonged
in there. You know, um like people on airplanes, they
don't really like joggers and stuff. Any dude, That's happened
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to us before, where we we had like the priority
or the it was like the I forgot what it
was like t s a pre check because we have
that or like the priority lane or something like that.
And we were walking up and the lady at the
security check was like, oh no, the normal main cabin
main cabins out way, and we're like, oh no, we
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have and she she was like, no, but the main
cabins over there, and like kept trying to get us
over there. And we're like, dude, chill, like I know
it's having me a few times. Yeah, it's weird. It's
weird anyway, to make better decisions, I know, right man?
All right, So here, how about this one. Boys, At
least those people were decisive with their decision making. They
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were Their decisions were wrong, but they were decisive. So
so what about when it comes to deciding to date somebody,
how do you make that decision? That one's not a
quick one. He looked at the clock and was just like,
I don't got time. I'm not that guy. Man, I'm
not that guy. Ah Tory always says if it's a maybe,
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it's a no. Mm hmmm. I like that, dude. I
feel like the whole podcast is me just going You
guys are saying we had a counter but but it's
so true though you could say that about everything. But
I think with people that the hard thing about people
is that it's a long game and when a decision
is a long process. Because we're talking about making quick
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decisions like Okay, I'm gonna choose not to respond badly
into this situation. I'm gonna do it like I'm gonna
choose food quickly. But I feel like something like relationships
is a decision that gets made over time. How do
you you don't Well, some people would, but but like
you don't decide that day like that's the person that
I'm going to invest into. Um. So that's yeah, that's
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a hard one because I feel like it's lots of
micro decisions decisions and being intentional. Oh, that's good being
intentional about your decision. If you're gonna make it, go in,
don't just like I think I need to hear that.
I need to hear that right now. I think the
amount of times that I make a decision reluctantly, I
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think that's so much worse than making a bad decision.
If you make a bad decision, own up to it
and fix it. But if you go in reluctantly, you're
gonna half or almost said the A word said half
as I never say that. That's so funny. Um, but
she's just going out there. You're not going to crazy. Yeah.
I love what I felt like two different things where
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you were saying that, And the first one was is
that you know in scripture when it calls you to
like to tie or be generous, there's this verse. I
love it Second Corinthians nine seven, and it says every
person must give what they have decided in their heart,
not under compulsion or out of reluctancy, for God loves
a cheerful giver. What I love about that is like wow,
like own it, like like walk in your decision. And
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it reminds me the second thing that made me think
of as you're talking, Zach was, there's this quote I
love that sounds so vague, and I'm sorry. It's like
something you'd see on one of those little things that
people share, like a motivational post. But when you come
to a fork in the road, take it. And the
whole idea of it is is that if whether you
choose right or left, make it the right decision, like,
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don't instantly look back and regret. And so as you're
walking inside of that decision, make it the right one
because you either win or you learn. It's not win
or lose. And I think that can be a great option,
is where okay, when you're making a decision, cut off
the idea of like, oh this is a bad decision,
like this is a good one. This is about him
now of course, like there's certain things that are bad decisions. Yeah,
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But and I also think from you like you what
was it? You win? Or you learn? You? When are
you learn? When are you learn? It goes into and
then you know, rewind back to what you're saying about
like giving and God love a cheerful giver. Dave Ramsey
actually talks about I think it was Dave Ramsey that
I heard this from that. It was Papa Papa Ramsey
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just out here, just the godfather of the podcast. Oh
my gosh, all right, what was I talking about? So
it was like God wants us to tithe giving ten
because it trains us because we practice giving and it
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becomes less painful for us the more we do it.
Why are you laughing? Chat? I literally finally have something
decent to say on this podcast and he's out here roasty.
I'm trying not to laugh at what. Dude? We keep
making eye team. You do a little smirk and it
makes me what smirk rewind the cameras act rewind smirk.
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So all I'm saying is is this that what you're saying?
I was the one talking, dude, I looked away. I
looked away, okay, and then I was trying not slaugh.
And then when he's trying not laughing, it makes you
laugh harder. Yeah, that's what happened. Like when my dad
would give Claudio and I spankings together and he'd be
giving us a speech and one of us would like last,
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and we both started it was the worst, and then
we are spanking would be worse, you know. So so
for me, I was trying to hold it in, which
made me want to laugh even more so I apologize.
Can I finish? Yes? Oh my gosh, refused instantly. When
I get a flipping wife who makes you, Zack, I
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wish we could. He needs some milk. I don't think
there's any I think I had the rest of my
live on The podcast is one of those super cozy
look at you guys here, do you want to come?
Come pop a squat real quick and Jess, we'll go
over there and we'll do Hey, we were just talking
about getting better. Thumbnails stay tuned because he's now Zach.
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Just just hold your arm out. Go get Chelsea, Go
get Chelsea. I was about to say she probably left,
get scouted, get scaled, Scott sleeping the interrupt, but well,
thanks for showing up. Oh my gosh. Literally, I finally
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had one good thing to say on this podcast, but
Chad started laughing at me. Didn't mean to. I just
try not to laugh. Wait, that's awesome. There's the most
out of control of podcasts we've ever done. I'm here
for most people like out of control podcast is because
they're like drinking on it. We're literally eating chocolate chip
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cookies high in life. The last thing I'm gonna say,
I need to remember I have no idea. Yeah, it was.
It was practicing your giving. And it's kind of like
in the same way, you want to practice your decision making,
so you get better at making one of the right
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decisions more often, making quicker decisions more often, and just
And when I say making the right decision more often,
I mean, what the frick? Bro? Oh my gosh, Oh
my god. I'm trying not to laugh because you're my
co host. Dude, you're the only one in person. Did
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you see me looking around to grab something. No, I
was concentrated on what I was saying. Oh my gosh,
Oh my gosh. Guys, you get what I'm saying. All right,
practice decision making more often, and you'll get better at
making decisions. I'm done, Zack. Do you want to go?
That's he doesn't laugh at year. Bro. I was let me.
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It's too much delay for me a lot. No, No,
I'm going to keep cutting you off. I'm so mad. Yeah, yeah,
sweet sweet. There's a there's a great quote we talked
about this book before Essentialism. There's a great quote. Is that, um,
remember that if you don't prioritize your life, someone else will,
and I think that's where decision making. Why are you
loving to meet Chad? I'm just trying to add to
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the podcast. You're kidding me. I'm trying so hard how
to laugh. I'm so sorry. Alright, you're literally five years old.
What do you mean? Keep going for a second. That
was all I had to say, and you just ruined it.
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My point is, if you're not going to make decisions
life will, someone else will, and so owning that decision,
I think it's just so important. Hey, I agree what
you said. It was great, but I had chat over
here like freaking doing squat in the corner or trying
I generally, I genuinely was not trying to interrupt you both.
I'm I got the giggles. You guys ever get the giggles?
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I mean, I mean dead serious. I love it when
you guys talk to Sometimes. I feel like I talked
to you much. But then I was thinking about laughing
and I was trying to I was trying to think
about not laughing, and then I lost it. I feelt hair.
I genuinely feel bad. You said something so impactful, Zach.
That was like, um, you either make a decision or
decision gets made for you, and that like impacted me.
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I was like, oh my gosh, how much have life have?
I just let life happen to me because something that
Torre and I've been talking a lot about is not
being a reaction. Like I'm I'm more than that. If
we believe in God, then we believe in intelligent design,
which means that we believe that we were put here
on purpose for a purpose. Right, I'm not just this
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this whatever creation, a floating set of molecules that response
to whatever is happy around me. I'm more than that.
I have control over my feelings. I have control over
my emotions. I have control over myself and I want
to live inside of that. And so whenever I am
going to make decisions, I want to like put my
feelings here, put the wisdom I have here, and make
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an educated, emotional, emotionally intelligence zact. What was the thing
you'd always say, emotional? I Q? What was it? What
was it? Emotional equity? And I want to make an
emotional equitable decision that's going to bring health to my life.
But I'm not gonna let this decision control me, because
if you let a decision become an idol. Then you're
like living your hope is on the on your decision
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making skills, which is not. Your hope is on the Lord,
your God. And so we need to make sure that
we don't put decision making and the difficulty around it
on this pedestal to where we think that decision is
is always life, is always life or death. Now, of
course i'm generalizing here. I know that people do have
tough decisions to make. I mean they absolutely do. Some
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people was like, okay, well which school or how am
I gonna Am I gonna go off and like leave
my family to go work here? Or am I gonna
stay here and take care of my family? Like some
decisions are really really difficult. Well, here's one for example
that just and I recently, like we're looking at, you know,
at rental properties and what we're going to be investing in.
And that's a big money decision, you know what I mean, Like,
that's not something that we have to do flippantly. But
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it got to a point where we would look at
so many of these properties that would come on the market,
and it took us. I'm dude, I'm like looking away,
I promise you, I promise you. Oh my gosh, literally
I can't say a word. Talk to me, talk all right.
It's me and the tech guy. Dude, I can't. As
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soon as he said tech guy, I just had to
keep saying it. It's too good. Anyway, You've been making
these big decisions about investment, well trying, you know, trying to.
And we go see a house and we have to
sit there, and the thing is, the market is what
it is right now that we sit there and we're like,
oh my gosh, we need to look at the like,
go see the property and then make the decision that
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day on if we want to put an offer on
it or not. And it has to be a quick thing.
But it's like taking our it's if we're if we
don't make the decision, it's going to happen for us.
So if we go and we like the property, but
we don't end up making the decision on if we
want to make an offer or not, it's gone the
next day, you know what I mean. So it's that
same mentality of like when you find the one, even
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though it's a big decision, if if it all lines up,
has the right amount of rooms, what we're looking for
an investment property. It's within the budget, we can afford whatever,
and it checks all the boxes. We just need to
make the decision on if we want to or if
we don't, you know what I mean. And if we do,
we need to decide that day and it needs to
be quick. But it's a decision of a bunch of
micro decisions that build up to that big decision that
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you may need to make in a in a you know,
we're not in an instant, but within a few hour period.
You know. It's like you have the system built to
help you make a good decision, all those little micro
decisions in there, so then you can make the emotional
decision because you're weighing all the pros and cons you
know which I mean also a pros and cons list
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is a great is a great way to make decisions.
You know, it's very simple. It feels very like approachable.
You know, is this going to add to my life
or is this going to take away from my life?
By the way, whenever you edit that, I really don't
want my laugh, like you know what I mean, it's
trying so hard. It's just you know what I mean,
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You're fine, So um, another thing that Tory and I
do that we practice is we don't make decisions out
of desperation, like because that's one thing that most people
make the worst decisions at a desperation, right, And so
for us, I've mentioned this is probably a thousand times.
I'm sorry if this is a broken record, but say,
if there's a brand deal that comes our way and
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it's like it's not really a fair number to what
we're looking for, we ask scarself, if we had an
extra one hundred thousand in the bank right now, would
we accept this deal? The answers always know, And so
we make sure that we're not making decisions out of
desperation because we're walking in confidence. Because scripture says, what
is it, It's like first Timothy one seven or second
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Timothy once, It's one of those. I don't know, but
it says, for God is not giving you the spirit
of fear, but of power and of love and of
sound mind. And so I don't want to make decisions
out of fear. I want to make decisions out of
power and out of love and out of sound mind.
And so if I'm ever in a in a crunch
where I need to make a decision, if an agent
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asked me to do something I don't feel comfortable doing,
but there's a lot of money on the table, Well,
I'm making a decision out of fear, and that's not
what God has called me to do, because He does
not work in the spirit of fear, but in the
spirit of power, love and sound mind. Thank you guys
so much for tuning into this episode of prompt Us,
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not sure what happened, or if our tech guy really
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I definitely that's probably more likely. I definitely messed up.
That's so weird. We're getting at fixed, guys. It's probably
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thanks for tuning in to today's episode. We appreciate we
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minutes and half of it's gonna be cut because Zach
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tech guy. Because our tech guy right there is Zach
wears many the tech You're definitely like, you know, you
know how like every superhero has like the guy in
the van, like the like the guy who's like doing
all the computer work. Honestly, one of the best characters
in Easy because he's funny, he's quirky, he's Zachary Stains,
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but instead of him being in a van, he's on
the opposite side of the globe where they do everything backwards.
This prompt may or may not be from one of
Tory and I subscribers. I recognized her location and oh
there we go, so well, she's actually a patron so
we actually talked about This is Allison from Ontary, Canada
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and she pays you guys for premium. Thanks again for
today's episode. So sorry, I okay, we have to get
into So I I am paraphrasing her, her topic, her prompt,
and so she said this how to be better at
decision making? I suck at it. That's paraphrase. Of course
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she didn't say that exactly, but Zack, had you become
better at decision making? I love how gay and I
just made eye contact and we were like, I don't
have anything to say. Say it is that I already
I already gave my example at the beginning of the
episode when I decided on the prompt. Sorry that was
that's the only illustration you had. I don't know, man,
I feel like I've always sucked at decision making because
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I've always I feel like I've always tried to be
a people pleaser with my decision making. It's like, well,
what do you want to do? I'm pretty passive. I'm like, Hey,
what's for dinner? I don't know, what do you want
to have to dinner? Like it's it's a back and
what do you what do you want? What do you want.
It's not that simple. Do you want? What do you want?
I'm talking about the book. I've seen the notebook beautiful illustration.
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But I think the only thing worse, the only thing
worse than yeah, making a bad decision is not making
a decision. And so I think I really had to
just like deal with the fact that I had to
make uncomfortable decisions. I guess it depends. I mean what, like,
I don't know. I'm trying to think of a decision.
Example that I don't like food is a good one. Legit.
I can't make my mind up about what to eat ever, ever, ever, ever.
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But yeah, I think for me, it's just about taking
a shot at it, and if it doesn't work, you've
got to just try a different decision next time. I
don't know, being okay to fail, being okay to get
the wrong decision. I realized that, like most of the time,
probably the decisions that you make, it doesn't matter what
you choose. So just take something, you know what I mean.
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If you're like trying to decide between an office chair,
that could probably ruin your week making that decision, and
you're like you like them both, clearly you can decide
them from experience. I don't know. I just saw my
office chair there and I made I made the decision
to use that as as you didn't worry about it,
but you know what I mean, like it doesn't I
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don't know. I'm trying to think of day of day
to day decisions that I make all the time, Like
a YouTube thumbnail, you know what I mean, Like I
scroll through the footage and I just start screenshotting stuff,
and I'm like, Okay, how can I make this decision quicker?
And then I get just as opinions on it and stuff.
But like you just kind of have to like go
through the options, narrow them down to the ones that
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are the best, and then you just pick one of
those and if, like you said, if it doesn't work,
you really just for next time. But the negative, Yeah,
the negative repercussions of making that decision probably aren't going
to be that bad. I feel like we need to
pick very specific examples of like tough decisions to make. Yeah,
so you're saying we should make a decision on that, Yeah, probably.
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So I mean, how about how about we talk about
a little bit of like what to do with your
time right and how to make a decision on what
to do. And I'll just give you an example. In college,
I've read this book called Getting Things Done, and it's
basically a way for you to help prioritize your tasks.
The guy who wrote it doesn't believe in time management.
He's like, you can't manage something that you don't control
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and it doesn't stop, but you can't control your tasks.
And so well, what happened is is he had this
little piece of paper. He always had it with him,
and he would be updating it frequently as the day
went on, and he had um this to sound funny
and like I was gonna say it naturally to see
if you guys reacted to it. But I just the
way that gave is looking at me right now, I
was like, he's definitely gonna say joke about it. But yeah. So,
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so the guy has three d s in a trash can.
His lip is quivered. Starts every story it is so
three d's in the trash can walking to bar no.
So basically, the first D is do it, the second
D is delegated, the third D is defer it, and
then there's a trash can. So whenever he's going throughout
his day, and so one offers him another task, he
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gets another email, gets another phone call, or he has
an interruption, whatever it is, if he can do an
under fifteen minutes, he does it. If he if it's
not for him to do it, if it's not for
him to do it, he defers it. If it's going
to take longer for him to do it than fifteen minutes,
then he then he I'm sorry. If it's I said
that backwards, If it's not for him to delegates it,
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and if it's going to take longer than fifteen minutes,
he defers it. And if it's not for him at all,
he just throws it away. It goes in the trash.
And that was a way for him to make good decisions.
And so I think that as you're trying to be
better decision making skills, you need to have a system like, Okay,
if you're deciding on a restaurant, you know what I do? Well,
what if I eaten frequently, so I don't want to
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double down. If I just had a burger yesterday, I
don't want today, So guess what, I'm not going to
have a burger. So I started to do process of
elimination right, and I feeling like pizza or might feeling
like pasta. That's gonna get that's gonna get super heavy.
I want to kiss my wife later, I'm gonna be
super garlic e. We're not gonna feel like kissing later.
So guess what, pizza Impasta's out onions onions, garlic out.
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And so I do process of elimination. That's how I
start making decisions when it comes to things like that. Yeah,
that makes sense. And I think what you're talking about
is like on a bigger scale too, when you're going
through the three three d's in the garbage came no, no,
But it really makes you think, like what what you're
making decisions on specifically talking about the garbage can should
you even be contemplating making a decision on that thing?
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And that goes into like a whole bigger picture thing
of of you you doing tasks that are actually beneficial
to your life, and then I can go into the
whole rule if we want to go into that, But
I don't know if that's good for the decision making specifically. Anyway,
I'll talk about it if you want me to. You
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guys really seem eager, So anyway, it's across the board
in life, but of the things that you do are
only contribute to of uh the work. To give a
simple example, they say that of your profits are from
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eight percent of your consumer base, but then of your
customers are responsible for eighty percent of your profits. And
so there's yeah, yeah, or like of the money you
make comes from only of the work that you do,
and then the of the work that you do is
only contributing to your profit. And then you can do
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that across the board with like it's a weird rule
in life where it's like, of all the money in
the country or in the world is owned by of
of the population, and then the rest of the percent
of the population only has the rest of the twenty
percent of the money. But that's like across the board
with like everything, there's like this weird rules. So you
kind of like of their time on of their decisions exactly.
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So bringing it back to decision making, it's kind of like,
is this a task that what Sorry, you're smiling. I
didn't know I was not smiling to take it back,
you know, don't do it, tack guy, I don't even
know what I was saying anymore. You threw me off. Anyway,
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what was that the decision making? And then the yeah,
like is it actually in that is like a benefit
beneficial decision that you should actually be contemplating in spending
energy on the rest of the percent of decisions that
you're making are probably not even consequential, kind of like
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a meal that you're going to eat, or like I
don't know what shoes to wear today or what short
am I gonna put on? Like that's really not going
to affect your day at all, unless there's like a
blizzard outside and you forget your jacket. You know what
I mean. I love what you're saying, because there's times
that quick. There's times where obviously, you know, my wife
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and I believe in being good stewards, we believe in
being frugal, but she'll be debating between like she just
bought a you got cast from Allison? So it Allison?
What if it's not actually her? Anyways? So there's a
link description to our Patreon you can go check out.
Um so, so Tori just bought a a a foe
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olive tree, a fake allive tree for a future home
or building, right, and it was a pretty penny But
the thing is just about a real olive tree and
it died and it's dead because alive trees are paying
the side tangent. There's been a topic of conversation this
past week. So so basically Tory was debating between this
one from Target that's like decent or this one from
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um from Etsy that's like, you know, the fake olive tree.
But she spent like a week debating on it. And
I'm like, babe, if you were to taken like three
hours and worked instead of debating on that topic, you
could have afforded the fake olive tree. So for me,
I'm all about just like looking at my time right now,
how much time am I spending debating on this topic? Right?
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So specifically, if it's about spending money, you know, how
much how much time am I spending to make this decision?
Excuse me, you're fine? How much time am I spending
making decision? And could I use that time to actually
make more money to get the thing that I actually
really want? That's right, right, That's right. It's like it's
about the weight. It's and it's the weight that you
add to that decision, right, because and that's that's the
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thing I found myself having to do is like how
much weight does choosing what's for dinner actually have on
my life? Or hey, how much weight on choosing where
we need to rent next? That's a bigger decision to make,
right And so I think that's where we are really practical.
First thing to do is just give yourself a second
and analyze the weight of that decision. Is it going
to affect other people? Is it going to affect you?
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Is it going to affect people around you? Does it
affect your habits? I think that's another one. Does this
decision throw you out? For example, right now, I've been
trying to get into running, and when I decide not
to run, that's way bigger impact than that. There's a
lot of weight on that. So when I do decide
to run, it's a really positive decision to make. And
so just trying to analyze and try and put it
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into a camp. You know, is in the positive camp
negative camp? And if you don't know, you'll find out
pretty quick. Oh my gosh, that reminds me of that
thing on Netflix from Marie Condo, like she would like
organize people's homes, And so if someone was deciding to
keep a piece of clothing. She would grab it and
she said, you know, grab it. Does this bring you joy?
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If it doesn't, then you think it for what it
was to you and you toss it, or of course
you donate it, you do whatever. But if it does
bring you joy, then you keep it. It's there's obviously
a negative or positive feeling there. You just Marie condoed
you're running relationship. Yeah, and and but then in all things,
like I got an example of freaking decision making is yeah,
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flipping Zach the tech running guy just like my my,
I'm evolving my characters evolving on the podcast, the Australian
Australian tech guy. And it's gonna be c g eyed
versions of him here when we're sitting I'm going to
be the new Elon Musk robot. It will just be
like a Tesla robot just sitting here. Have you guys
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seen that I did peek at it? Anyway? What well? Camera, okay, Zach,
you talk anyway. So we just moved into the place
we live in now. This is why the studios looking fresh.
And we had so many problems with like how just
put them on blast with our real estate agent and
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like our plumbing didn't work, we didn't have any access
to the internet. Um, we couldn't pay for our ends.
And the reason I bring all these things up is
because we had Chelsea and my wife had a lot
of decisions to make around how we approach that, How
do you approach conflicts? Do we do we try and
be the nice people and be real understanding or do
we need to be kind of hard in our word
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because it's been four weeks and we still can't pay
rent because they haven't given us details. Then that kind
of stuff when when decision making stacks up, that's when
it starts to really weigh down on you. And I
think I wish, just looking back on that, that I
spent more time just making decision deciding to call that
person call them straight away, rather than being like, oh,
we'll just wait for the email to come through. And
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I just wanted to use that as an example of
when you avoid decision making that actually, over a four
week period, the workload becomes bigger and bigger and being
greater and greater. So I don't know if you're if
you've got a decision to make right now to subscribe
to prompt us, make that decision right now otherwise that's gonna.
That's gonna. It's almost like you may have a decision
(15:56):
to listen to these ads or not well done, sir,
A good decision. I'm listening through the whole entire thing
and not skipping through those. We appreciate it, guys, so
thanks for not fast forwarding through those ads. I love
what you're saying. That you say back to what Zach
was saying. Good stuff, But chat, you have something to say,
so I'll not interrupt again. Gab is just here the party.
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I drank some water before this. If you're if you're
watching juice right now, I wish people could see how
comfortable you are right now. I'm just chilling, all right,
you were straight chilling like I have a pillow in
my lap. The boys are back and I'm yeah, I'm
just happy to be here with you guys, just listening.
You know, I feel like I'm the audience. You are,
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you know you are. I have some things to add,
but like most of the time, I'm just happy to
be a part of it. Was happy to be here.
I feel that. I'm like you know, we all feel
that way. That's why we're all looking at you like
the fifth guy in the boy band. You know, no,
that's definitely me, Like, no, that's I'm like the guy
who's still yeah yeah, yeah, I love Lily. So do
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you guys want to hear? I was just saying how
it was just facts. It's just a fact. I'm sorry,
Do you guys want to hear? Genuinely? One of the
best ways to help you make a decision. I mean,
this is this gonna be the podcast? I don't know
if there's a joke. No, I mean totally serious. So
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I would do this thing. If I'm debating between one
or two things. It could be maybe a few more
than that, but keep it to one or two things,
right if you if you pick one, So if you
take a coin and you pick one his heads and
one is tails, you flip the coin, say lands on tails.
If you immediately regret that it landed on tails, and
Fate chose tails, didn't you You want heads, That's what
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you want is heads. But you make fate quote unquote
make a decision for you. Then if you have peace
in that moment, then you know that's the right thing.
But if you immediately regret that, then you know you
wanted to opposite. And I actually do that? You do?
You hate you all? Like metaphorically do it? Like if
I have a credit card or something, I'll flip whatever
I have around me if I'm really love Dave Ramsey
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just like turned off our podcast when to come my
AMEX platinum cord with me? I just flipped that, you know,
and then when the metal hands can I roast Amex
for a quick second? Or sure, oh my gosh, here
are you making a decision about credit cards? Amex? Just
they tried me the other day. I have this card
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and I pay a lot of money a year to
have it. You know what card? It is? Right, but
whenever literally the one that he just said on the podcast.
You know what it is that I'm saying. This card
costs a lot to happy a year, but there's a
lot of benefits to it. You get a lot of
money back on Uber, you get a lot of points
for buying flights, and you get access to airplane lounges. Okay,
(18:51):
I so what happened, Chad, dude, I'm telling you, man,
this woman tried me. I go to podcast, I just
fell off my chat is everything? Okay, okay, okay, Sorry Chad?
(19:12):
I was so blown away by Chad's story that I
just fell fell backwards. I love that so off. I
think that was a sign that we need to get
back on topic. But I'll say this just super quickly.
I went to enter the lounge and and I got
off work early in Seattle, and I even know they
had a lounge there, so I was excited to go
chill in there before my flight because I had, like,
(19:32):
I had like three hours. I had three hours of
seven minutes, and there's a rule where you can't enter
longer than three hours before. So there was people in there, people,
not that many people. So I go to I go
to check in and and all that, and she's like, oh no,
I can't let you in right now. I'm like, wo
how come She's like, well, there's a you can't come
in three hours before. Like, well, I'm coming in as
a guest with the other model that I'm here with,
(19:54):
because you can bring two guests, and and she's like, well,
if you're not flying with him, I'm not going let
you in. I'm just like, will you let the other
guy in? Who just breezed by without looking at his
his boarding past and his flight was the same time
as mine, And she was like, I'm sorry, sorry, I'm
just not gonna let you in. She's like, you can
go wait outside for seven minutes. And there was seven
minutes before I could enter, and she made me wait outside,
(20:16):
and I'm like, I was just like, are you serious
right now? So I'm probably gonna end up canceling a
X because I don't fly that much anymore. Anyways, you know,
what's the point to have that card if you're not
going to use it for the perks and if I
can't enter the lounge. So here we are in that
moment chat. What was the decision you made? How did
you respond? I walked outside and just waited. I called
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my wife because I was upset. It's probably a good
that was really good thing to do. You probably could
have sat there and just dwelled in it. But yeah,
I feel like you're like such a loyalist on like
certain things like your card or whatever it is. You're like,
I'm gonna find another card and be loyal to that card.
I feel like I would have been like, oh, okay,
(20:58):
that's the rules, okay, all right, and I would have
just gone outside for something. Yeah, well, if if if
she would have been kind about it, if she would
have been like she was she acting like, oh she
she was a hundred percent like power. And I think
it's because she didn't like what I was wearing. I'm
being totally serious. I didn't look like I necessarily belonged
in there. You know, um like people on airplanes, they
don't really like joggers and stuff. Any dude, That's happened
(21:20):
to us before, where we we had like the priority
or the it was like the I forgot what it
was like t s a pre check because we have
that or like the priority lane or something like that.
And we were walking up and the lady at the
security check was like, oh no, the normal main cabin
main cabins out way, and we're like, oh no, we
(21:41):
have and she she was like, no, but the main
cabins over there, and like kept trying to get us
over there. And we're like, dude, chill, like I know
it's having me a few times. Yeah, it's weird. It's
weird anyway, to make better decisions, I know, right man?
All right, So here, how about this one. Boys, At
least those people were decisive with their decision making. They
(22:02):
were Their decisions were wrong, but they were decisive. So
so what about when it comes to deciding to date somebody,
how do you make that decision? That one's not a
quick one. He looked at the clock and was just like,
I don't got time. I'm not that guy. Man, I'm
not that guy. Ah Tory always says if it's a maybe,
(22:24):
it's a no. Mm hmmm. I like that, dude. I
feel like the whole podcast is me just going You
guys are saying we had a counter but but it's
so true though you could say that about everything. But
I think with people that the hard thing about people
is that it's a long game and when a decision
is a long process. Because we're talking about making quick
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decisions like Okay, I'm gonna choose not to respond badly
into this situation. I'm gonna do it like I'm gonna
choose food quickly. But I feel like something like relationships
is a decision that gets made over time. How do
you you don't Well, some people would, but but like
you don't decide that day like that's the person that
I'm going to invest into. Um. So that's yeah, that's
(23:06):
a hard one because I feel like it's lots of
micro decisions decisions and being intentional. Oh, that's good being
intentional about your decision. If you're gonna make it, go in,
don't just like I think I need to hear that.
I need to hear that right now. I think the
amount of times that I make a decision reluctantly, I
(23:27):
think that's so much worse than making a bad decision.
If you make a bad decision, own up to it
and fix it. But if you go in reluctantly, you're
gonna half or almost said the A word said half
as I never say that. That's so funny. Um, but
she's just going out there. You're not going to crazy. Yeah.
I love what I felt like two different things where
(23:51):
you were saying that, And the first one was is
that you know in scripture when it calls you to
like to tie or be generous, there's this verse. I
love it Second Corinthians nine seven, and it says every
person must give what they have decided in their heart,
not under compulsion or out of reluctancy, for God loves
a cheerful giver. What I love about that is like wow,
like own it, like like walk in your decision. And
(24:15):
it reminds me the second thing that made me think
of as you're talking, Zach was, there's this quote I
love that sounds so vague, and I'm sorry. It's like
something you'd see on one of those little things that
people share, like a motivational post. But when you come
to a fork in the road, take it. And the
whole idea of it is is that if whether you
choose right or left, make it the right decision, like,
(24:37):
don't instantly look back and regret. And so as you're
walking inside of that decision, make it the right one
because you either win or you learn. It's not win
or lose. And I think that can be a great option,
is where okay, when you're making a decision, cut off
the idea of like, oh this is a bad decision,
like this is a good one. This is about him
now of course, like there's certain things that are bad decisions. Yeah,
(24:58):
But and I also think from you like you what
was it? You win? Or you learn? You? When are
you learn? When are you learn? It goes into and
then you know, rewind back to what you're saying about
like giving and God love a cheerful giver. Dave Ramsey
actually talks about I think it was Dave Ramsey that
I heard this from that. It was Papa Papa Ramsey
(25:19):
just out here, just the godfather of the podcast. Oh
my gosh, all right, what was I talking about? So
it was like God wants us to tithe giving ten
because it trains us because we practice giving and it
(25:40):
becomes less painful for us the more we do it.
Why are you laughing? Chat? I literally finally have something
decent to say on this podcast and he's out here roasty.
I'm trying not to laugh at what. Dude? We keep
making eye team. You do a little smirk and it
makes me what smirk rewind the cameras act rewind smirk.
(26:07):
So all I'm saying is is this that what you're saying?
I was the one talking, dude, I looked away. I
looked away, okay, and then I was trying not slaugh.
And then when he's trying not laughing, it makes you
laugh harder. Yeah, that's what happened. Like when my dad
would give Claudio and I spankings together and he'd be
giving us a speech and one of us would like last,
(26:29):
and we both started it was the worst, and then
we are spanking would be worse, you know. So so
for me, I was trying to hold it in, which
made me want to laugh even more so I apologize.
Can I finish? Yes? Oh my gosh, refused instantly. When
I get a flipping wife who makes you, Zack, I
(26:50):
wish we could. He needs some milk. I don't think
there's any I think I had the rest of my
live on The podcast is one of those super cozy
look at you guys here, do you want to come?
Come pop a squat real quick and Jess, we'll go
over there and we'll do Hey, we were just talking
about getting better. Thumbnails stay tuned because he's now Zach.
(27:16):
Just just hold your arm out. Go get Chelsea, Go
get Chelsea. I was about to say she probably left,
get scouted, get scaled, Scott sleeping the interrupt, but well,
thanks for showing up. Oh my gosh. Literally, I finally
(27:38):
had one good thing to say on this podcast, but
Chad started laughing at me. Didn't mean to. I just
try not to laugh. Wait, that's awesome. There's the most
out of control of podcasts we've ever done. I'm here
for most people like out of control podcast is because
they're like drinking on it. We're literally eating chocolate chip
(27:58):
cookies high in life. The last thing I'm gonna say,
I need to remember I have no idea. Yeah, it was.
It was practicing your giving. And it's kind of like
in the same way, you want to practice your decision making,
so you get better at making one of the right
(28:20):
decisions more often, making quicker decisions more often, and just
And when I say making the right decision more often,
I mean, what the frick? Bro? Oh my gosh, Oh
my god. I'm trying not to laugh because you're my
co host. Dude, you're the only one in person. Did
(28:44):
you see me looking around to grab something. No, I
was concentrated on what I was saying. Oh my gosh,
Oh my gosh. Guys, you get what I'm saying. All right,
practice decision making more often, and you'll get better at
making decisions. I'm done, Zack. Do you want to go?
That's he doesn't laugh at year. Bro. I was let me.
(29:05):
It's too much delay for me a lot. No, No,
I'm going to keep cutting you off. I'm so mad. Yeah, yeah,
sweet sweet. There's a there's a great quote we talked
about this book before Essentialism. There's a great quote. Is that, um,
remember that if you don't prioritize your life, someone else will,
and I think that's where decision making. Why are you
loving to meet Chad? I'm just trying to add to
(29:27):
the podcast. You're kidding me. I'm trying so hard how
to laugh. I'm so sorry. Alright, you're literally five years old.
What do you mean? Keep going for a second. That
was all I had to say, and you just ruined it.
(29:47):
My point is, if you're not going to make decisions
life will, someone else will, and so owning that decision,
I think it's just so important. Hey, I agree what
you said. It was great, but I had chat over
here like freaking doing squat in the corner or trying
I generally, I genuinely was not trying to interrupt you both.
I'm I got the giggles. You guys ever get the giggles?
(30:11):
I mean, I mean dead serious. I love it when
you guys talk to Sometimes. I feel like I talked
to you much. But then I was thinking about laughing
and I was trying to I was trying to think
about not laughing, and then I lost it. I feelt hair.
I genuinely feel bad. You said something so impactful, Zach.
That was like, um, you either make a decision or
decision gets made for you, and that like impacted me.
(30:32):
I was like, oh my gosh, how much have life have?
I just let life happen to me because something that
Torre and I've been talking a lot about is not
being a reaction. Like I'm I'm more than that. If
we believe in God, then we believe in intelligent design,
which means that we believe that we were put here
on purpose for a purpose. Right, I'm not just this
(30:54):
this whatever creation, a floating set of molecules that response
to whatever is happy around me. I'm more than that.
I have control over my feelings. I have control over
my emotions. I have control over myself and I want
to live inside of that. And so whenever I am
going to make decisions, I want to like put my
feelings here, put the wisdom I have here, and make
(31:16):
an educated, emotional, emotionally intelligence zact. What was the thing
you'd always say, emotional? I Q? What was it? What
was it? Emotional equity? And I want to make an
emotional equitable decision that's going to bring health to my life.
But I'm not gonna let this decision control me, because
if you let a decision become an idol. Then you're
like living your hope is on the on your decision
(31:39):
making skills, which is not. Your hope is on the Lord,
your God. And so we need to make sure that
we don't put decision making and the difficulty around it
on this pedestal to where we think that decision is
is always life, is always life or death. Now, of
course i'm generalizing here. I know that people do have
tough decisions to make. I mean they absolutely do. Some
(32:00):
people was like, okay, well which school or how am
I gonna Am I gonna go off and like leave
my family to go work here? Or am I gonna
stay here and take care of my family? Like some
decisions are really really difficult. Well, here's one for example
that just and I recently, like we're looking at, you know,
at rental properties and what we're going to be investing in.
And that's a big money decision, you know what I mean, Like,
that's not something that we have to do flippantly. But
(32:23):
it got to a point where we would look at
so many of these properties that would come on the market,
and it took us. I'm dude, I'm like looking away,
I promise you, I promise you. Oh my gosh, literally
I can't say a word. Talk to me, talk all right.
It's me and the tech guy. Dude, I can't. As
(32:46):
soon as he said tech guy, I just had to
keep saying it. It's too good. Anyway, You've been making
these big decisions about investment, well trying, you know, trying to.
And we go see a house and we have to
sit there, and the thing is, the market is what
it is right now that we sit there and we're like,
oh my gosh, we need to look at the like,
go see the property and then make the decision that
(33:07):
day on if we want to put an offer on
it or not. And it has to be a quick thing.
But it's like taking our it's if we're if we
don't make the decision, it's going to happen for us.
So if we go and we like the property, but
we don't end up making the decision on if we
want to make an offer or not, it's gone the
next day, you know what I mean. So it's that
same mentality of like when you find the one, even
(33:30):
though it's a big decision, if if it all lines up,
has the right amount of rooms, what we're looking for
an investment property. It's within the budget, we can afford whatever,
and it checks all the boxes. We just need to
make the decision on if we want to or if
we don't, you know what I mean. And if we do,
we need to decide that day and it needs to
be quick. But it's a decision of a bunch of
micro decisions that build up to that big decision that
(33:52):
you may need to make in a in a you know,
we're not in an instant, but within a few hour period.
You know. It's like you have the system built to
help you make a good decision, all those little micro
decisions in there, so then you can make the emotional
decision because you're weighing all the pros and cons you
know which I mean also a pros and cons list
(34:13):
is a great is a great way to make decisions.
You know, it's very simple. It feels very like approachable.
You know, is this going to add to my life
or is this going to take away from my life?
By the way, whenever you edit that, I really don't
want my laugh, like you know what I mean, it's
trying so hard. It's just you know what I mean,
(34:35):
You're fine, So um, another thing that Tory and I
do that we practice is we don't make decisions out
of desperation, like because that's one thing that most people
make the worst decisions at a desperation, right, And so
for us, I've mentioned this is probably a thousand times.
I'm sorry if this is a broken record, but say,
if there's a brand deal that comes our way and
(34:55):
it's like it's not really a fair number to what
we're looking for, we ask scarself, if we had an
extra one hundred thousand in the bank right now, would
we accept this deal? The answers always know, And so
we make sure that we're not making decisions out of
desperation because we're walking in confidence. Because scripture says, what
is it, It's like first Timothy one seven or second
(35:17):
Timothy once, It's one of those. I don't know, but
it says, for God is not giving you the spirit
of fear, but of power and of love and of
sound mind. And so I don't want to make decisions
out of fear. I want to make decisions out of
power and out of love and out of sound mind.
And so if I'm ever in a in a crunch
where I need to make a decision, if an agent
(35:39):
asked me to do something I don't feel comfortable doing,
but there's a lot of money on the table, Well,
I'm making a decision out of fear, and that's not
what God has called me to do, because He does
not work in the spirit of fear, but in the
spirit of power, love and sound mind. Thank you guys
so much for tuning into this episode of prompt Us,
and remember you can follow us at prompt us pot
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