EP 30: Brian Harman's Ryder Cup, Kraft Mac & Cheese, and Carly F*ing Reid

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Quiet Please, with Mel Reed and Kira Dixon, is an
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Speaker 2 (00:24):
Welcome back to Quiet Please, Mel. It's our thirtieth episode
Gray Cray v. Cray Wild as you've spent because most
of our recordings go over an hour, so you've probably
spent like two days forty five hours of your life
doing that.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yeah, it doesn't feel its episodes, does it? In all feness? No,
it's flown by. It has flying by, but time flies
when you're having fun.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Absolutely do just Kira well said, thank you, so thanks
to all the people that have been around along the
journey for our thirty episodes. Hopefully stick around for the
next thirty. So in honor of thirty. Uh, what do
you think of my new podcast background in my new house?

Speaker 3 (01:08):
Do you know what? I'm very impressed with it, Kira,
we spoke about it last time. It's but we had
to use a different room. But technical complications.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
It's fine. I just put the powers into decorating this
and then I can you and record in here whatever.

Speaker 3 (01:22):
It's making mind like a little bit plain and simple. Now,
but do you know what? It's pretty much our personalities,
isn't it. You're professional and put together in mind, just
like I've stuck it together with a couple of holes
in the wall. So that's it looks lovely. Care I'm
very impressed. It's very on brand for a Miskira Dixon.
So I'm it's lovely, very well done. Did you do

(01:42):
it yourself?

Speaker 2 (01:43):
Can I just give I did well? No, I heard
a task.

Speaker 3 (01:46):
No, you didn't start the.

Speaker 2 (01:47):
World people, but I did. I did the uh you know,
the overall design. I just had somebody else to execute it.

Speaker 3 (01:58):
Okay, Okay, so no, no nut hugger. I was involved
in the making of this podcast.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
Room it was, but I wasn't. Donning said you.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
Wasn't wearing the nut hugger. Okay, well, I'm so very
proud of you. Good job.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
Can I give you a tour of it really quick
because I would love to all you scare about? Okay,
So this the big thing that is the caddy bib
my head pro Lake Mercaid Pat stephis shout out. Pat,
He caddied for me in the AT and T and
stole this bib, which they're like very stingy about letting
you the bib.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, it's weird, isn't it.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
I don't understand. So he stole it and had it
framed for me, which is very very nice. This is
from a member guest that g he and I won together.

Speaker 3 (02:43):
Oh do you have to share it?

Speaker 2 (02:46):
She has one too, She has one too. Yeah, I
guess mim as America crown.

Speaker 3 (02:51):
I did notice that. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
This on YouTube, you'll be able to see it all probably.
But this is a picture of me working at Augusta
the very first time.

Speaker 3 (03:01):
M h, thank you.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
These are some of my credentials. This is a Lake
Mersaid thing. This is from usc where I got my master's.
This is an Augusta mug. There's Andrew and Steve. This
is a shout out titleist up. There is my fake
laboo boo from Andrew aka my lafu fu.

Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
This is This is a little Eiffel tower from the
Paris Olympics. Oh, the other Miss America crown. That's in
the actual box. The other one was my backup one.
It's just still up there by accident.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
Is that worth a lot of money? Just asking out
of interest, I don't think, so, okay, that's pretty much
very cool, Kira. Secondly, I didn't know you did your
master's at USC.

Speaker 4 (03:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (03:41):
I just went to school there. Really, that's where I
was gonna go.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
Yeah, why did you decide not to go?

Speaker 3 (03:47):
My Basically I went, I went on the wrong day,
went on the wrong day, So sorry what I missed?
My sat I went on the wrong day.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
And then you just decided screw it, we're not doing
it at all.

Speaker 3 (03:59):
I was like, okay, that was a sign. So I
just yeah, I got a job instead for like a
year and then for a job wait in Marriott as
a receptionist, a receptionist for the gym. Yeah, trained as
a personal trainer.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (04:12):
Yeah, oh mate. It's one of the best. It was
one of the best year, like years of my life.
It was so much fun that is opened the gym
up at five o'clock in the morning.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (04:21):
I found a turd in the sawner once at like
five am, which, yeah.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
That's disgusting.

Speaker 3 (04:26):
It was good for fun, you know.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
Okay, all right, so big week in golf, Big Week,
the Ryder Cup teams are officially set. Yep, we were
wrong about Keegan Bradley picking himself for tv SA. So
go ahead, mel As you give your reactions first of
all to tam Usa and then well.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
I think that's a good decision from him, good decision
from him not to be not to pick himself. Honestly,
I thought the other picks pretty much. I kind of
felt like he was going to pick him. So yeah,
it's kind of the team that I predicted. It's the
team that I expected. It's a very not listen, listen,

(05:10):
it's going to be extremely difficult for Europe to win
in America, especially a Beth page Back Best page Black
obviously with the New Yorkers there and stuff. I think
that team is quite beautiful. I must say why Brian
Harmon not very long? First of all on a big
golf course.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
I don't think he's on the team.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
Is he not?

Speaker 2 (05:36):
Is this is?

Speaker 3 (05:39):
This?

Speaker 5 (05:39):
Is I've a wrong team.

Speaker 4 (05:49):
Yes, he is here.

Speaker 3 (05:50):
I literally saw at the other day.

Speaker 2 (05:52):
Who am I thinking about looking at like last year's team? Oh?

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Fuck, okay, my bad. Okay, no, it's not no, that's
not bad. That's not bad.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
One. Let me read. Let me read the team.

Speaker 3 (06:01):
Okay, I know who's in there now.

Speaker 2 (06:03):
In alphabetical order, Sam Burns, Patrick Cantley, Bryson Shamba, Marri's English,
Ben Griffin, Russell Henley, Colin wurrikaua Xander Sharpley, JJ Spahn,
Scottie Scheffler, Justin Thomas, and Cameron Young, with the captain
being Keegan Bradley.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
Okay, I'm not joking, so.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
There is no bright Okay, I'm.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
Not shut you. Me and my mate spoke about this
the other night of a bit is talking about Brian
Harmon and now was beatable. He's going to be so
gatting that from so I was, yeah, I was having
a very far Okay. Anyway, I do think it's peatable.
I think that a lot of players haven't. I don't know.
I just I think that they are going to miss

(06:47):
a bit of a vibe from a Brooks Koepka. They're
going to miss a bit of a vibe from like
a Jordan's speed. I think that that's going to be
a little bit more noticeable this year for sure. There's
a lot of players that if they're not. I feel
bad to saying this because I don't know. I just
think it's quite a beatable team. I think that, you know,
JJ Spoorn, like he's never really been in that you know,

(07:07):
he's ever played a President's Cup, Like he's not really
been in that situation for Russell, Henny has played a
President's Cup, but still Ryder Cup is very, very different,
very different. In my opinion, Ben Griffin totally deserves the pick,
no question about that. Again, it might be a little
bit intimidating moment for him. So look, look, your first
Rider Cup is huge, and I think that especially in

(07:28):
a place like New York, even if it is on
home soil, so and you're just missing a couple of
the oldies, you know what I mean. And I don't
think monkra is playing Gray and so I do think
it is beatable. I think it's gonna be still extremely
difficult task even with the Sostellar team that we have
in Europe. But it's it's just, yeah, I do think

(07:48):
it's doable. I do think it's doable.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
To beat them, to beat tsat them.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
But I have to say that I'm never going to
say that you guys a going.

Speaker 2 (07:55):
To be as yeah, obviously as well, I think I
do think that I think that, like Ben Griffin is,
I'm going to say this is a nice thing that
I'm saying, so if it comes off as not nice,
you're wrong. Ben has like the level of delusion that

(08:15):
you need to be successful in sport, right, So I
think that that Delulu will help him overcome any nerves
or first time or stuff. At the Ryder Coup and
he's been playing so well. And then if JJ spawn
puts the way he can put, I think that's going
to be a big problem. And then Sam Burns and
Harris s English, Patrick Cantley Bright, like, there's so many

(08:38):
anchor pairings that I think could make up for any
any issues, is what I would say. So we shall see,
but everything has to go right for them.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
Yeah, yeah, I'm holding just holding out on some tiny
minuscule bit of hope that we can put off because
it is it is just it's going to be just
a mammoth challenge. It's going to be even though I'm
so happy European team, it is just going to be
a huge challenge.

Speaker 2 (09:03):
I mean, yeah, Okay, so speaking of speaking of Team Europe,
I'm going to read out the names on the team
so we don't have any issues here. We've got Lu
Big Oberg, Matt Fitzpatrick, Tommy la Tyrrell Hatton, Rasmus Hoyguard
not to be confused with twin brother Nikolai Hoyguard, Victor Hovland,

(09:24):
Shane Lowry, Robert McIntyre, Rory McElroy, John Rahm, Justin Rose,
and Sepstraka, who in his photo here on the website
still has a full head of hair but now is
completely nice, just so everyone knows. And Luke Donald is
the captain. So go ahead, Mel take the floor, give

(09:45):
us your thoughts on this team.

Speaker 3 (09:46):
Yeah again again not surprised by any of the picks.
Just quanety. Did you see the interview with Matt Wallace,
by the way, like I think he had to win
this week in Crowns Mantanas Again.

Speaker 2 (09:56):
I feel so I so.

Speaker 3 (10:00):
I know, I mean I but that's what you want.

Speaker 2 (10:03):
That's for those that don't know. He gave a really
really really emotional interview in like sobbed on air and
it just showed how much he cared about doing this.

Speaker 3 (10:13):
Yeah, which is really sad. Which is what I think
that has always been, and we've said this time time
and always been. The Europe's biggest asset is the way
that they can just all of a sudden just put
their egos aside and become a team, and everybody is
so passionate about playing for the for Europe and at
Ryder Cup. Again, I think it's got a really good
mixture of I think the guys have started to play

(10:33):
really really well the last six or seven months, and
I think that the veterans and the team are fantastic.
I love the fact that John Ram's in there. I
love the fact that Till Hatten's in there, of the
fact that obviously Rory so yeah. Look again, i think
I'm just very happy with the team nobody else that
would have picked.

Speaker 2 (10:53):
I love that it looks exactly the same as it
did in Rome because the only person to get switched
out is Nikolai Hoygard, and he's getting switched out with
his literal identical twin.

Speaker 3 (11:06):
Brother, which is that she crazy.

Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah, and it's pretty amazing that these guys were all
able to play well enough. You know, so much can happen.
Look at tam Usa, So much can happen over the
last two years and has happened. That completely changes the
dynamics of a team, and these guys can really lean
on everything that they've built over the last few years.

(11:33):
So it should be good. I think it's Did you
see did you see the clip of Kara Banks doing
Victor Hoblind? So Victor is from Norway and loved Big
is from Sweden and they get paired together quite often,
and she asked what language do you speak together?

Speaker 1 (11:49):
In?

Speaker 2 (11:49):
Norwegian or Swedish? And without skipping a beat, he just
goes Mandarin.

Speaker 3 (11:54):
He's funny, dude. I love him. He's such a nerd
that he's actually really cool. You know, you're just so
nerdy that you cool.

Speaker 2 (12:01):
It's just like such a lovable weirdo.

Speaker 3 (12:03):
Here it is, it is now, it's going to be fun.
It's going to be fun.

Speaker 2 (12:08):
It's gonna be wild. I'm mentally preparing. Oh but oh,
I don't.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
Know if I'm allowed to say Oh, to say it,
we can just fucking say it.

Speaker 2 (12:22):
I'll just say that you will be really excited about
my reporting assignment at for Golf Channel for the week
at Ryder Cup. Okay, because we're assigned to specific things.
Is it Europe potential?

Speaker 3 (12:41):
Deny?

Speaker 4 (12:41):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (12:42):
Well, funny on the fucking good Sidekia, do you know
what I mean? If that is the case?

Speaker 2 (12:46):
Okay, great, thank you. Yeah, I think it'll be fun.
I love interviewing the European guys. They're always super open
and willing to share a story.

Speaker 3 (12:58):
It's just a fun way. It's such a passion we
both sides, isn't it Like it's just I just love
get I just I just watch every minute of it at home.
I literally we have like riding cup parties here at
the house. Yeah, like I have fucking find up for it.
So well, we shall see, but it'll be a tough,
tough challenge.

Speaker 2 (13:13):
For the lads by the lads, shifting gears from the lads.
Miranda Wang won the FM Championship at TPC Boston. So yeah,
TPC Boston doing horrible weather and she beat the world
number one.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
Do you know on this we have not had a
repeat winner. Oh yeah, this is like that twenty twenty
second different winner this year or something that's stupid.

Speaker 2 (13:41):
Wang became the seventh LPGA rookie to win this year,
extending a remarkable streak of no multiple winners through the
tours first twenty three tournaments of the year. So the
twenty There have been twenty three tournaments in the LPGA
of this season so far, every single one of them
has been won by a different person, which is wild.
Seven rookies, which is nuts, which is nuts. She's really

(14:05):
good but happy, happy from Randaway.

Speaker 3 (14:09):
Yeah, she's just another one of these rookies. They are
just coming out and not giving a ship and just
playing well. It's crazy ship not giving ship, just playing
so good, like they're just not scared anymore. It's just
fucking nuts. Like it's I spoke to class her about
this many times, like she won the year, but she's
just saying how each year it is just progressively getting

(14:31):
harder and we talk about every but she's Yeah, I
watched a play. I can't remember it was. I was working,
so I might have been KPMG or something, and I
watched it hit Balls. I was like, yeah, she just
she just was a good player, a really good player.
I was like, And she'd caught my eye at a
couple of other events. I was like, this girl's really good.
So it wasn't. It's just you just can't predict when

(14:53):
on the LPGA, it's absolutely crazy, Like it's crazy. I
don't know what's going on, but it's just a weird season.
It's a great season. It's it's really cool for stories
and stuff. But it's yeah, it's wild. I'm glad I
retired because i'd be fucked.

Speaker 2 (15:10):
You're making good choices, thank you. Yeah. Well, speaking of retirement,
we have a special guest on the show today, and
that is, as Mel would say, Carly fucking.

Speaker 3 (15:24):
Read Carli fucking made My wife is what I also
call her the queen. She calls me very different baby
names than that, so has a bit more.

Speaker 4 (15:39):
Just twat and.

Speaker 2 (15:42):
No bed, no bed. She's adopted all your British things.

Speaker 3 (15:46):
Yeah, but yes, we do have my lovely wife on
one of the waf Carlie Reid, who has any opportunity
she can to rip the absolute shit out of me,
and Kira was very I decided to just feed it,
do you know what I mean, just just throwing the
bait out there and see if the fish caught it.

Speaker 2 (16:04):
She absolutely did, so it was just a starter.

Speaker 3 (16:08):
Loved it exactly, just she loved just burnt it as
soon as it's.

Speaker 2 (16:11):
So hard to get which we have a rebuttal on
the sourdough starter story.

Speaker 3 (16:15):
Yeah, but anyway, this is Carly. Obviously she's amazing and yeah,
very fortunate to have married my best friend. So I'm
very happy that she's on the podcast, even if she's
ripping the shit at me for an hour.

Speaker 2 (16:27):
But hopefully everyone enjoys it. That's what everyone signs up
for obviously. Yeah, all right, well, we love hearing from Carly.
That's a guest that I've been very excited to get
for a long time. So I hope you guys enjoy
the interview. We'll be back next week with some more
Ryder Cup preview stuff, but in the meantime, enjoy Carly

(16:49):
ripping a new one for one Melvied Bye bye. All right, everyone, So,
I think if we think back to the beginning of
our show, we could probably identify the original friend of

(17:11):
the pod is the one and only Carly Reid.

Speaker 4 (17:15):
Welcome Carly, Thank you Kira for that lovely introduction.

Speaker 6 (17:19):
I'm happy to be joining baby.

Speaker 3 (17:22):
We must be really scraping the bottle of Frescan news
to come on the podcast. Aside.

Speaker 4 (17:25):
I agree, I agree, I agreed.

Speaker 3 (17:28):
Oh, she's a bit nervous. Care we need to make
a feel. She thinks I'm going to roast he and
I'm not.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
No, I think she's gonna roast you. I'm not really
not worried about her. I'm feeding you both going to
roast me. Is actually what's going to happen in this
whole episode. I've been waiting for this day for a
long time.

Speaker 6 (17:46):
We'll have lots to talk about, that's for sure.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
Mel has been saying that You've been taking lots of
notes based on all of the things that she's been
saying for thirty episodes now, So I can't wait to
hear all of your rebuttals to all of the stories,
everything that she's been putting out into the world.

Speaker 4 (18:06):
Oh yeah, I've been keeping receipts and all the shit
she's been talking about me. So I think the first
thing I'd like to talk about is the sourdough. Remember
the sourdough episode? Who could forget?

Speaker 2 (18:16):
She claims that you killed the sour dough, that you
turned the oven on when you were making kuies, didn't.

Speaker 4 (18:22):
I just have to ran about this, like, who the
hell has time to not use their oven for three days? Like,
no one's gonna remember this sourdough is in the oven.
I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. Why can't it be on the counter.

Speaker 3 (18:35):
Because it was restricted to be in the oven with
the lion? So I was just following instructions, but you
normally bollocked me for because I don't follow instructions, and
then the one time I do follow instructions, you ruin it.
You killed my salad dough.

Speaker 4 (18:46):
Yeah, that was my bad. I knew I was gonna forget.
I was like, I'm sorry, you need like you need
to tape a sign on the oven and say, do
not turn the oven on, please remove my sour dough.
It's the only chance I was not gonna fuck that up.

Speaker 3 (18:59):
So this is how are we going to be a
couple's therapy?

Speaker 2 (19:01):
Have to say, well, this is going well, okay, great, Yeah,
I'm going to be your relationship counselor here. Okay, before
we get into all of that, Carly, you need a
proper introduction. So obviously, Carly and Mel are madly in
love and married. Carly played D one basketball at Drake.
She has worked for a long time in the golf industry,

(19:23):
and she's a big marketing and social guru, and obviously
is an incredible mother to Kai, as is Mel. And
I don't know, should we go back to the beginning
since it's Ryder Cup time, I feel like it's only
appropriate that we discussed the twenty eighteen Rider Cup. When
you guys met.

Speaker 6 (19:42):
Take it away, malice your this is your stage, your
story that you love.

Speaker 4 (19:46):
Telling because it's true.

Speaker 3 (19:47):
And by the way, Carl, you know we discussed before
this podcast. I have been known to exaggerate. So don't
let an exaggeration get in a good story. Okay, so
don't embarrass me on this podcast.

Speaker 6 (19:56):
Okay, don't take anything Mel says at face value.

Speaker 4 (20:00):
What loves it?

Speaker 3 (20:01):
Okay, but this is desperately true. So I was commentating
in the Ryder Cup back in twenty eighteen in Paris,
and I assume radio had a face for radio back then.
And one of my best friends, Molly Gallatin, who works
for PGO of America, said, listen, I've got this girl
who just started working for me. She is awesome. I
think you're really going to get on with her. I'm

(20:23):
not sure if she's gay or not, though she says
because I think if she's gay, you're probably going to
marry her. She's like that cool, and I was like, right,
and she's but she might be gay. She's like Catholic,
pretty sure she is straight, but she does work out
in basketball shorts like below the knee, so that is
a very high possibility that she might be gay, So
can you not investigate that for me? And I was like,
I got you. Then I was introduced to Carli, and

(20:44):
Carli had no idea what I was saying to her
because of my accent. After the Rider Cup, we ended
up going out on the Monday night, was it? The Monday?
We went kind of day drinking around Paris, didn't we
and had a really really good time all of us, Me,
You and Molly ended up getting hammered, and all three
of us were staying in the same room, like I
was staying in a bed of Molly. I just thought,
I try my luck and Carly basically told me to
go fuck myself that fuck off, and I thought, I'm

(21:06):
going to marry this bitch. I've never been rejected so
hard in my entire life. And that's basically the start
of the romance, wasn't it, Dylan.

Speaker 4 (21:13):
Yeah, I mean, you couldn't have said it any better,
But yes, that is all very spot on. Like I
didn't also realize that wearing basketball shorts was like a
telltale sign for being a lesbian, but I understand now.
But yes, Mel tried to spoon me.

Speaker 2 (21:28):
She tried to spoon you.

Speaker 3 (21:29):
She's romantic.

Speaker 4 (21:30):
I was like, you need to go in your own.
I'm just this is you're coming on a little street
and I just met you. Like, let's back up a
little bit and I'm straight, Carly.

Speaker 2 (21:40):
Were you already fully of lesbian at this point?

Speaker 6 (21:43):
Oh no, Mel's like the first girl that I was like.

Speaker 2 (21:46):
You know how Mel had her her times.

Speaker 6 (21:47):
Yeah, the Mel spell we call it.

Speaker 3 (21:52):
I think you're the eighty person that calls her.

Speaker 4 (21:53):
That she put me under the Mel spell.

Speaker 3 (21:57):
For sure. I usually taying gay gills straight. So it
was actually quite nice to do it the right way
around the first time. But yeah, no, it took a
while for this nut to crack. But stuck in their
care I was very you know, resilient, and I knew
what I wanted, so I was very I was very
patient with you, Carly, admit I was. It was the
first time in my life I'd ever been patient. And

(22:18):
look at us now.

Speaker 4 (22:19):
Look at us now. I know the rest is history,
But yes, it all started at the ryder cup.

Speaker 2 (22:25):
Wait, how did you go from rejecting a cuddle to
accepting like a proposal.

Speaker 3 (22:32):
Literally three years?

Speaker 4 (22:33):
There's a lot to unpack there, Kira, No, I know,
I know, but like at.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
What point were you like, oh, like mell spell, Like
what did literally.

Speaker 3 (22:41):
That day, Kira? That day?

Speaker 4 (22:42):
It probably took me.

Speaker 2 (22:43):
Oh so it didn't take long.

Speaker 4 (22:44):
Started dating, like pretty close after that, but like it
probably took a good year to like be.

Speaker 6 (22:49):
Ready to take the step and like be open about it.

Speaker 3 (22:53):
Yeah, we were dating for sure. And before that, Carli,
so I'd moved to Jupiter like the week after and
cars doing around for dinner. I thought, oh, that's nice.
So I thought, right, I'll bring a bottle of wine,
you know, just to That's what you bring on a
first date, right, It's like red wine or wine or whatever. Anyway,
I bring it over and I walk in and I

(23:14):
I can see two bowls, and I'm thinking, oh my god,
what she made me? And then I see like a
packet of Kraft magg and cheese. And she'd made me
packet mac and cheese, and she'd poured hot sauce all
over it. And she didn't even have a bottleapman to
open the wine. So I had to go to the
gas station to go and buy bottle openan to open
the wine because she'd never opened a bottle of wine before.

Speaker 6 (23:37):
I don't remember really the mac and cheese, Like I
feel like Mel made this up.

Speaker 3 (23:41):
I did not make this up.

Speaker 2 (23:43):
I don't remember making a poor memory for Mel. It's
in my notes from Mel, which are by the way,
labeled carly fucking read notes.

Speaker 4 (23:53):
Like I definitely made you mac and cheese at one point,
but I don't think it was the first, like date,
pretty sure it was.

Speaker 6 (23:58):
But yes, I definitely did not.

Speaker 2 (24:01):
Mel helped with adulting.

Speaker 4 (24:03):
Yes, I mean yeah, I mean I was like single
for so long. Why do I need more than like
two bowls in my apartment?

Speaker 3 (24:11):
Had?

Speaker 4 (24:12):
Like, I don't need much? Pretty simple, But yeah, I don't.
I've not a wine drinker, so why would I have
a wine opener?

Speaker 2 (24:20):
Why would you have a wine opener? Yeah, Mel, Kira,
it's not that weird, is it.

Speaker 3 (24:26):
Well, listen, Sweeter, I've listened, Kiera can keep back me
up here.

Speaker 2 (24:32):
I have.

Speaker 3 (24:32):
I have had to listen. I'm I just felt at
that point in my eyes, I was a little bit
more experienced, just in quite a lot of like culturally
and just a lot of things, and so I just
a few things, and so I have had to over
the years, I've had to kind of gently teach Karli

(24:54):
how to add all.

Speaker 6 (24:56):
I do love some hot sauce, though hot sauce goes
on everything.

Speaker 3 (25:00):
I just want to talk one more hot source story.
So it was just during COVID we were playing in
Georgia and me, Carlotta and Julia usually stayed together Jamie
as well Colotters now fiance and Julia is I think
I've mentioned this before in the pod most loveliest girl
You've ever met?

Speaker 2 (25:17):
Like, what is this rich and Julia?

Speaker 3 (25:19):
Yeah, butler, Julia, Butler. Julia a great with butlers and
mass uses and stuff, but she's not the most helpful
in a house because she's had butlers. So again, not
necessarily blaming her, but you know, years old, Yeah, I understand.
You know you've grown up in that life style. I
get it. But the one meal she's fantastic, obviously being Italian,

(25:41):
it's like Ragu and she does it from scratch and
it takes it all afternoon and it is just chef's kiss, right,
So we make her do it once a week.

Speaker 4 (25:48):
No, it was it Ragu. It was the Eggy one.

Speaker 3 (25:52):
Sorry, she did a carbonar Eggy one. Carbonara.

Speaker 2 (25:55):
You do mix up your stories. I'm no Carly, I can.

Speaker 3 (25:59):
Picking out what you're okay, well, in fact, this is
worse than it is. A carbonara. So she made a
carbonarra from scratch and okay, vessel Carlie. I can see
Carlie go and get a knife, and I thought, oh dear,
this is not going to go well. And she just
starts like chopping up the pasta and I was like,

(26:20):
oh my god. So look over Judie and Julia is
just like staring at her like this, and She's like
Juda's looking in and I'm like, just leave it. She's
from Nebraska, like she doesn't now. And then Carli goes
to the fridge and I thought, if this bitch goes
it gets hot sauce with this fucking carbon even, I'm
gonna have to say something. And Carlie just like spends
the top off and just is like this, like just

(26:41):
pouring hot sauce all over Julia's little carbonara.

Speaker 6 (26:44):
And she was absolutely, that's eight feet long. I'm cultured
swine over here cutting my pasta.

Speaker 3 (26:57):
There's a little bit so much hate for that, you know,
I love a hot sauce.

Speaker 2 (27:01):
What is food if not a vessel?

Speaker 3 (27:02):
For sauce, right, Kira, you need to look an a
fridge the whole it's discussing.

Speaker 2 (27:10):
I love sauce, like pizza has to have ranch dressing,
like my eggs have to have hot sauce.

Speaker 3 (27:17):
What did you put it on the other day?

Speaker 2 (27:18):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (27:19):
If it make a stage like, she'll want some sort
of sauce with it, And I'm like, you need some like.

Speaker 4 (27:22):
A one sauce.

Speaker 3 (27:23):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:23):
I hate playing meat.

Speaker 3 (27:28):
And I knew quite full well that I was not
going to have an ally and either of you today.
So but yes, so carry on.

Speaker 2 (27:38):
Carly, When did you start traveling with Mel on tour?
Do you remember the first time you would have gone
to a golf tournament as her girlfriend?

Speaker 4 (27:45):
It would have been like twenty twenty two.

Speaker 3 (27:48):
No, babe, it was twenty nineteen. I mean, like we're KPMG.

Speaker 4 (27:52):
It's full on traveling with you?

Speaker 3 (27:53):
Oh like twenty twenty one two. Yeah, yeah, you traveled
me for a couple of years and then that was
enough for you, wasn't it.

Speaker 4 (28:01):
Yep? It was a lot.

Speaker 2 (28:05):
What's it like traveling with mel when she was still
full on playing?

Speaker 4 (28:11):
I mean, here's the thing. When you're married to a
professional athlete like you have to be all in otherwise
it just doesn't work.

Speaker 6 (28:19):
And like throw a kid into the mix and like
amplify that even more.

Speaker 2 (28:26):
So.

Speaker 4 (28:26):
It got to a point, like I left my job
at the PG Tour because it was just a grind
and wasn't conducive to kind of Mel's schedule even and
I was working weekends, I was working late nights.

Speaker 2 (28:39):
And what were you doing at the tour at the time,
I worked in.

Speaker 4 (28:41):
Social media, so like I worked a little bit on
the PG Tour and a little on the corn Ferry Tour.

Speaker 6 (28:47):
Yeah, I enjoyed traveling.

Speaker 4 (28:48):
I mean, we loved it. But once I got a
remote job and I had the flexibility to travel, it
was definitely more enjoyable. And you got to be all
in because golf is very stressful, especially at the highest level,
and I feel like Mel was just at a point
where it just wasn't enjoying it at all. So yeah,

(29:09):
oh good, so you came in the Yeah, yeah, it
was honestly, like it was hard.

Speaker 3 (29:13):
No the first year UK and traveling was fun because
I was playing all right, but I still was a
bit misaving.

Speaker 4 (29:18):
Yeah, I don't feel like you were ever that happy
playing golf. No, I don't know, like do we want
to get into that more?

Speaker 2 (29:28):
Sure?

Speaker 3 (29:28):
We don't have to seup to you Cayley.

Speaker 4 (29:30):
Yeah, I mean I feel like I was probably a
pretty big reason why Mel retired because it was twenty
twenty four, the Michigan event myyor LPGA, and.

Speaker 6 (29:44):
We had Kai at the time, so he was a
few months old.

Speaker 4 (29:47):
Probably we were ready to be all in and just
do it together as a family and be around so
Mel didn't have to like be gone so much from us.
Like I kind of mentioned like she just wasn't happy
playing golf and it just got to a point where
she was kind of giving up and just like didn't
care that much.

Speaker 6 (30:09):
So I had a breakdown, like full on breakdown.

Speaker 4 (30:13):
I was like, look like you're putting me and Kai
through a lot, Like I'm sitting in player dining with
a freaking breast pump off my tits for like five
hours of the day, Like we're traveling, we're in it,
Like it was really hard when Kyle was first born.
I was like, if you are not liking this, and
if you're not all in, then we're not either, Like

(30:35):
we can't continue life like this. So I think it
kind of opened her eyes when I kind of had
that moment and eventually led her to kind of stepping
back and trying new things.

Speaker 6 (30:46):
So I will say we are all much happier with
mel in this new career.

Speaker 4 (30:52):
So it's been a good change.

Speaker 3 (30:56):
Yeah, that my decision. I'll be easier. I get that.
And it is difficult. And spoke about this before, haven't we.
People see the full Swing episodes and think that that's
actually what it is, and it's not at all. Especially
in the LPGA. It's really fucking hard, especially when you
do have a kid and trying to navigate that. And
I was very fortunate that you could come out and
travel with me, but it also makes it really difficult

(31:16):
because the downtime just looked very different when we had
a kid, and even you on your own, you know,
with postpartum and like you navigating through that, and the
pumping thing is just a lot, Like I just remember
like when we were connecting flights and you had to
like run and go and pump like really really quick
because we had like no milk for them and stuff
like that. It's just a whole lot to navigate. And
then I just saw the deterioration as well in Carly,

(31:38):
and it just like you said, I wasn't enjoying it
that much anyway, and I felt like I was coming
towards the end. Yeah, I was not willing to put
my family through that. So Carly made that decision a
lot easier for me.

Speaker 2 (31:58):
It's probably hard for a minute for email because golf
is such an individual smort and like you're just constantly
thinking about like me, me, me, me me, how can
I be the best golfer? How can I do all
the things that are gonna lead to the best results.
So it probably takes a second and a little bit
of outside perspective, like Carli having that moment to jar

(32:20):
yourself into realizing like, oh, like I can't continue on
the way that I've been for you know, I don't
know twenty years that you've been a professional, which is hard.

Speaker 3 (32:29):
Yeah, and it's hard. And I think even like we
spoke about Simmy, Carli, like we had a nanny for
the first few months when Carlie went back to work
with Kai, we only at the nanny till three o'clock.
So even that was a bit of a struggle for
me because I'm one of them players that I was
literally the course all day, majority of the time, and

(32:49):
so for me to have to stop by like two thirty,
it was a real challenge for me, especially if there was,
like you know, a weather delay. I'm not very good,
Like if my plans get messed up, like I just
it just messes with my head. And I think that
that was another thing for me, and I found it
really hard to switch off when I came home. So
that was another kind of factor as well that we

(33:09):
kind of put together about going into retirement. But it
was a good decision, wasn't it, sweetheart? And you've even
said that you've noticed a massive difference.

Speaker 4 (33:15):
Yes, I feel like it's it's literally nine day. I
don't know how else to describe it.

Speaker 2 (33:20):
What's it like seeing her navigate career on TV and
pod and because you know, this is a hard grind,
too different grind, but still you know she's still traveling,
still away from me, trying to figure out a whole
new skill set.

Speaker 4 (33:34):
Yeah, I mean it's really fun from my perspective, Like
it's honestly, when she leaves now, it is so much
easier because we both know that she's enjoying what she's doing.
Like there's so much that goes into actually liking what
you do for a job. So we're both kind of
at peace with that and that helps, like, all right,

(33:55):
I got you at home, and you go kick ass
on the road like we're on the same page.

Speaker 6 (33:59):
So I think that's kind of the biggest thing.

Speaker 4 (34:01):
It's like, it's fun and funny sometimes to watch her
navigate like a new career, figuring out HR things and
emails and technology.

Speaker 6 (34:12):
But I feel like you've learned prefafts, but the learning
curve has been steep.

Speaker 2 (34:17):
She's doing great.

Speaker 3 (34:19):
I failed my health and safety tests six times, and
call I thought that was hilarious because I tried.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
To cheat, like the NBC one.

Speaker 3 (34:26):
Yes, I failed it six times. It was like if fire.

Speaker 4 (34:29):
It was about like fire drills.

Speaker 3 (34:32):
Fire drills and like if there was a fire in
the building. And I kept failing it because.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
I kept click through it and watched the videos.

Speaker 3 (34:37):
But I obviously didn't watch the videos just because that's
who I am. I'm a skimmer. And then I realized,
after the sick time to me three hours to pass
that test, I'm not joking to me to watch the videos.
If I just watched the video, and then I but
also the questions.

Speaker 2 (34:52):
Are like common sense.

Speaker 3 (34:53):
So even if you didn't, I know, but they're not.
They were thank you. You would think that, but they weren't.
They were worded quite intricately, and then I thought, right, well,
that one's A, that one's B, and then they switched
the answers around, so then I'll you so that I
could even tried to cheat and it's.

Speaker 6 (35:06):
Still I was trying to memorize, Okay, C B A
C C is.

Speaker 3 (35:11):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (35:14):
Yeah, Mel's maybe not one for standardized test.

Speaker 3 (35:18):
Carly.

Speaker 2 (35:18):
Have you picked up any of Mel's British slang?

Speaker 6 (35:22):
Yes, I definitely say fucking hell a lot. That's probably
the number one phrase that I.

Speaker 3 (35:28):
She said, She says it British is off canal.

Speaker 4 (35:33):
She says it proper. Darby, I was laughing episode when
you were like what was the word? You're like, yeah,
it's part of my sentences. Now, Oh, Kira had a
good onliner in one of your episodes.

Speaker 2 (35:44):
I would flag off. Yeah, Mel very much picked up
on that.

Speaker 3 (35:48):
I'm very proud.

Speaker 2 (35:50):
Carly. What have you thought of the pod?

Speaker 4 (35:51):
It's great, I am.

Speaker 6 (35:53):
I'm gonna be honest, I'm like five episodes behind right now.

Speaker 4 (35:57):
So I need to catch up.

Speaker 2 (35:59):
I know, I'm sorry, Okay. I think Andrew was listening
the first like five or six and he's dropped off.

Speaker 4 (36:05):
Since no, I have every intention of listening to them. Still,
they're funny, like you guys compliment each other. Well, I
wasn't sure what to.

Speaker 6 (36:13):
Expect with YouTube together, but it just works.

Speaker 4 (36:18):
Out her, it just works.

Speaker 2 (36:19):
Thank you, Tom, Welcome, Thanks Carl. We've had fun. We
talked about you a lot on the show. I don't
know if you've picked up.

Speaker 6 (36:26):
Yeah, I did pick up on that.

Speaker 2 (36:28):
That's what we absolutely had to have you on because
the audience, Like I got lots of messages about like
lol Carly or this thing that you guys said, or
like what does Carl you think about blah blah.

Speaker 4 (36:37):
I also like people know I hear it live as well,
Like I don't need to necessarily listen to the podcast
because I know when Mel's talking about me, I'm usually
literally sitting outside so I can hear her what she's
talking about.

Speaker 6 (36:50):
So yeah, I feel like I kid name dropped a lot, and.

Speaker 3 (36:53):
Then I sometimes will can and she just gives me
a look and she's like really, I'm like, well, fel
like I'm working.

Speaker 6 (37:01):
So just you know, I'm like pretty creative on that story.

Speaker 3 (37:09):
Gotly, do you want to talk about the time that
you caddaged for me? And a couple of.

Speaker 4 (37:13):
Times I was freshly pregnant so that was rough, And
the first one was definitely an experience, like you show
up to the first tea and she's like, oh, by
the way, you need to keep stats. I was like,
excuse me, I know nothing about stats, Like, I don't
know how to measure things. I don't know how far

(37:34):
a five foot putt looks. I don't know what club
you're using. Like I was like, oh, oh god, that's great.

Speaker 3 (37:45):
I'm on like the fifth hold. The boys have just
literally get her a crash course. I'm like, do you
don't fuck out of it? Right? And no, no, I
think I've got it now. I was like, okay, so
I'm literally about I had like an eight foot you
know what I'm gonna say, I like an eight foot
popper And I'm literally doing my practice routine, like I'm
literally look at the whole doing my practice jokes and Carlie.
I just can see carl in the corner my eye
and she just goes, hey, would you say this is

(38:06):
about five feet and I'm like what.

Speaker 2 (38:09):
I'm like, no, like, Age's like, okay, I lasered some putts.
You lasered a few putts. Oh my god, wait, why
were you are in the bag of the first place?

Speaker 3 (38:22):
Because I was playing so shit. No one else a
caddy for me, So the last result I think you
want because I just wanted to fucking mix up because
caddies were doing my head in, I think. And I
just was playing literally dog shit, and I was like, Cali,
can you just caddy for me? So to play ship
was and here she was about to just three perfect

(38:44):
I don't remember what hole it was a par three fifteen,
and was like so lost, like her swing just so lost.

Speaker 4 (38:50):
How do you describe it? Octopus?

Speaker 3 (38:53):
Okay, yes we do. I said I was swinging it
like an octopus pulling out of a tree.

Speaker 6 (38:58):
Anyways, that's weirdly accurate.

Speaker 2 (39:01):
Thank you describing it, and so I can picture it hells.

Speaker 4 (39:05):
Just mentally and technically not there. Okay, I'm just gonna
put it out there. But anyways, we're on the par
three and she hits it so bad, like I think
it went like thirty yards.

Speaker 3 (39:21):
It did not go fucking thirty yards.

Speaker 6 (39:24):
Okay, It wasn't even close to the green on a
par three.

Speaker 3 (39:29):
The part three was two hundred yards here and I
had forty seven yards, And I said it was on
an angle, so I lasered it. Fucking hell, no, you're
telling this completely wrong. I hit this shot. It wasn't
my best shot. Okay. It was slightly wide and slightly short. Okay,
you just came out of it a little bit. I
had a little bit of a hipspin. So yeah, I said,

(39:51):
I'm going to go look up and see what I've
got to navigate here? Do you mind's lasering it? And
she went, yeah, yeah, I got you. So I go
up and I'm like, fucking hell right, I just gotta
land over there, blah blah blah. I said, what did
you get? And she went, I got like fifty two
yards And I'm like, okay, yeah that's what I got.
Perfect went, is this like a part four or something?
Because she thought it was a part three? Like it

(40:11):
is a part three. She was like, wow, that was
really bad. You need to fuck off.

Speaker 4 (40:16):
Like right now, we're still ended up, so I'm still
trying to make the poor on that whole That was ridiculous.
It was the most ridiculous. Remember a great scrambler.

Speaker 6 (40:27):
Yes, it was like a thirty foot putt from the
back of the green downhill that she made.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
Carlie was Carlie was kind of like in eyesesight sometimes
when she was getting the pin. So I just said
to her, like, look, if in doubt, just go, like,
just go further than you think, or just go behind people.
She's like, yeah, yeah, I got it. Literally was on
the next hole, literally on this fiftieth hole when it
made far I'm like, where the fuck is Carli? And

(40:55):
you're not curious? She was literally on the next tea
with the flag.

Speaker 2 (41:00):
If you want to get y'all a.

Speaker 3 (41:03):
Oh, it was a fun a couple of days. I
wasn't it. It was what It was, just a couple
of days. Care did make the weekend shockingly, but it
was fun falling.

Speaker 2 (41:13):
It's probably the best you could hope for. Wait, so, Carly,
what was your list?

Speaker 4 (41:17):
I like notes? Yeah, oh gosh, I'd have to find them.

Speaker 6 (41:23):
I mean some that I can remember on the top
of my head.

Speaker 4 (41:27):
It's really hard to pee in a port a potty
with the caddy bibon like it was giant, So that
was a struggle.

Speaker 3 (41:37):
The laser was fun, you said, I like.

Speaker 6 (41:39):
Doing the laser, but I wasn't very good at it,
Like I feel like I was.

Speaker 2 (41:42):
Like, come on, my hand always kind of shakes a
little bit when I'm hard.

Speaker 3 (41:50):
Yeah, it's not that hot.

Speaker 2 (41:53):
What about what about like water and snacks and stuff?

Speaker 4 (41:55):
Oh yeah, I.

Speaker 3 (41:56):
Mean a diet coat went down really well because energy
was going with it, wasn't it.

Speaker 4 (42:03):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (42:04):
And did you have to carry like the big staff bag?

Speaker 4 (42:07):
Yes?

Speaker 6 (42:07):
Everyone was like, mil, you made her carry.

Speaker 2 (42:09):
A staff bag? Mil. Everyone was like, Mel, why do
you want to carry that?

Speaker 4 (42:13):
Why don't you get her a little care back?

Speaker 3 (42:15):
Do you want athletic?

Speaker 4 (42:16):
Get just so it took us like get it done
this strap.

Speaker 6 (42:20):
It literally was like I just hanging like behind my
knees like it was.

Speaker 4 (42:25):
It wasn't even like.

Speaker 2 (42:26):
That's so bad for you. And she's pregnant.

Speaker 3 (42:32):
Okay, but she still used the staff back when she
was pregnant that I felt bad for. I was like,
probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't have a
I didn't have I forgot to pack the other one,
so forgot.

Speaker 4 (42:41):
You didn't want to.

Speaker 3 (42:44):
Anyway, you do you want athletic cardie?

Speaker 4 (42:48):
You have fine?

Speaker 2 (42:50):
Now she wasn't like training, Yes, no, definitely not Carly.
How's your how's your pick up basketball life? And his
mel started supporting me.

Speaker 4 (43:02):
I haven't played since then, so I don't have much
of an update there. But I did see a comment
on that clip that someone was like, that was an
incredible performance, like playground legend. I'm like, who are you?
And were you actually there? He lives he lives in Jacksonville,
and apparently he saw it. He never replied to me, though,

(43:23):
I was like, are you serious. I didn't know if
he was joking or not, but at.

Speaker 3 (43:28):
Least some fans, right, I thought No, I was occupying
a two year old eighteen months old?

Speaker 6 (43:37):
Yeah, and he literally would cry every time he saw me.

Speaker 2 (43:40):
So it's fair okay, okay, fair enough, fair enough. When
did you guys decide to have a baby or was
that always? Was that always? You know, when you're early
discussions that you guys wanted to be parents?

Speaker 3 (43:53):
Yeah, yeah, we had to any discussion.

Speaker 4 (43:55):
Yeah, we both always wanted kids.

Speaker 3 (43:58):
And then I think, Kotty, it's a whole football team,
but I'm limiting it. It's about two or three.

Speaker 4 (44:03):
You've changed your tune on that a little.

Speaker 2 (44:07):
You would have more than three kids, do.

Speaker 3 (44:09):
You know what cares? I fucking would? Actually, yeah, well
I'm well I'm not pushing it out, so that helps.
And two I don't know. I just think kids are
kind of cool, so I just think whatever, what.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
Different Anyway, No, my my sister in law has four boys,
and they just kick the ship out of each other.
Why that, Yeah, it's you're just constantly managing chaos. But
they get marched through the hills of San Francisco every
single day to Golden Gate Park. They get marched to

(44:46):
the park, they play every sport possible, baseball, soccer, basketball,
they maybe jump in the pool, and then they get
marched back home every single day. And that's like the
only way to kind of manage them. And then before
they go to bed, they all kick the crap out
of each other.

Speaker 3 (45:03):
Boys are so different, boys are built different. Were they
are at.

Speaker 4 (45:08):
The airport going to England and there's a bunch of
kids on our flight, but like there's all these families
waiting around the gate. It's like you see these two
little girls just like sitting nicely in their coloring books,
drawing just like super chill. And then you look at
Kai doing sprints up and down and like laying in

(45:28):
the middle of the walkway just like staring at.

Speaker 3 (45:31):
The ceiling and we're just like like blowing raspberries like
that between you boys and girls.

Speaker 4 (45:39):
Like it's insane, but it's fun.

Speaker 3 (45:41):
Yeah, boys are built different.

Speaker 2 (45:44):
Did you guys get clearance for being able to tell
the story of when Carly first met your family? Mail?

Speaker 3 (45:50):
My sisters like, do don't tell us story?

Speaker 4 (45:53):
No?

Speaker 3 (45:53):
Curious? Sorry?

Speaker 4 (45:54):
Bad? I'll tell you can tell you offline.

Speaker 3 (45:57):
Yeah, but even my sisters like, you actually can't tell stories.
You can tell She says, I know, but I can
tell then another story when my first picked Carli up
from the airport. So I picked her from the airport
and we were just driving from Heathrow and Carli goes, oh,
actually I have two stories to this. Carli goes, do

(46:20):
you guys have McDonald's over here by chance? And excuse me, so,
when do you have McDonald's here in England?

Speaker 2 (46:26):
That's your first time visiting?

Speaker 3 (46:28):
And by the way, we just passed twelve of them
in the space of three miles on the on the
motorway and I went yeah. She was like, oh cool,
And I was like, we're not like you know the
McDonald's is the world.

Speaker 4 (46:41):
Yes, we have McDonald's. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (46:42):
I'm like, and then Kira, you'll respect this, you know,
like the big vans. So our male is called the
royal mail, like, it's just yeah for the king or queens. Yeah. Right,
So as you get these massive like like red lorries
are big red trucks, it's a well mail on it.
Carli goes, oh my god, is that the male for

(47:05):
the royal family?

Speaker 4 (47:06):
That is so much?

Speaker 2 (47:08):
And I was like, they get a lot of.

Speaker 4 (47:10):
Real and I was like, why do they call it
the royal male?

Speaker 6 (47:13):
It seems like I thought I would go to the queen.

Speaker 3 (47:17):
And I was like, no, Carli, it's just just yet again,
don't do this.

Speaker 6 (47:21):
In front of my family, uncultured swine.

Speaker 3 (47:24):
Yeah, just get out, just get it out in front
of me. But don't, please, please don't mention this to
my family.

Speaker 2 (47:32):
But yeah, I'm sure they loved car.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
They do love Carli very much. They prefer Carly to me.

Speaker 2 (47:37):
I think, don't we all smart? Wait? What was the
second story?

Speaker 3 (47:44):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (47:44):
Is that the McDonald's the royal male?

Speaker 3 (47:46):
And then royal male? We love England, Carly, Sorry I do.

Speaker 6 (47:52):
I've grown a deep appreciation for England.

Speaker 3 (47:56):
For sure.

Speaker 6 (47:57):
There's some things that I can't quite get past, but
I do love it.

Speaker 4 (48:01):
I do love England. Like what oh, I've got a
few Like the ice situation, just that really frustrates me.
It's really hard to get ice. Nothing comes with ice.

Speaker 3 (48:17):
You just you find it quite difficult. My dad's because
we're quiet.

Speaker 4 (48:21):
Yeah, her dad lives in the middle of nowhere. It's beautiful,
but it's like hard to get anywhere. It's quite an
effort just to like pick up a jug of milk.

Speaker 3 (48:32):
You don't like me driving around the country right.

Speaker 4 (48:35):
Sits roads are so tiny and the postal spaces around
about Like, I am very overwhelmed in a car in
England and I'm not even driving.

Speaker 2 (48:47):
Yeah no, I could never be me. We drove from
from Heathrow to like a country estate thing called Heckfield
Place last winter on the holidays when we went, and
it was the most terrifying thing I've ever experienced, trying
to get there from the airport.

Speaker 4 (49:07):
It's like a one lane, windy country road and Mel
is the lying. I'm like, what would you do if
another car was coming? How would you stop in time?
She goes, I can just tell when there's another car
coming's got to look.

Speaker 6 (49:20):
At like the leaves and the trees on the side and.

Speaker 4 (49:24):
See if it's blowing in the wind. I'm like, okay,
I'll trust you it's true.

Speaker 6 (49:31):
I sorry, I grew up, though, I don't need to apologize.

Speaker 4 (49:34):
She can.

Speaker 6 (49:35):
Yeah, she sent it six British sense.

Speaker 4 (49:39):
Sniffs it out.

Speaker 2 (49:41):
Yeah, yep, yep, yep yep. Carly, I know you love
a list, do you. I know we kind of talked
about this a little bit, but do you have any
rebuttals to melt some of the stories that she's said
or anything that she's shared on the pod that you
wanted to set the record and stream?

Speaker 6 (50:02):
The sour dough one.

Speaker 4 (50:03):
We talked about that already, that was the main one.
I'm like, who the hell has time for this? Like, no,
you will never find me making sour dough, and probably
mail never again either.

Speaker 3 (50:17):
Well, the thing is, Carlie, when you do cook, either
a bowl gets broken a glass gets broken. Okay, Kieren,
here we go. So carl is more of a baker,
all right, first of all, but whenever Carlie does do
the cooking, you are not the cleanest of cooks.

Speaker 4 (50:35):
Complete shit show.

Speaker 3 (50:36):
Yeah, and like she will. Okay, this is a good example.
This is Carli cooking. Okay, So a couple of Christmases ago,
Carlie got me like a defrosting plate. It's really cool,
Like you put your chicken on it and it defrost
it way quicker than it would do normally. So I've

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you know, we're just like things like that, just wow.
Things like that get me going. I'm just at that age, right,
That's why I asked for a Christmas right. So I'd
used it once, okay, and then I was making bolnaise
or something, and Carli goes drop me to cut the bread.
I was like sure, So anyway, I turn around for
I can hear a cutting. I'm thinking, that's weird. We

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usually we have like wooden chopping boards. That does not
sound like wood. And I've turned around and she's got
the defrosting plate and she's scratching the fuck outfit like
cutting some crusty bread. And now it won't work.

Speaker 4 (51:32):
Here's the thing, Like I just feel sad. All right,
it still works, she says it doesn't work, that a
little scratch on that will not make it not work.
But also like I don't like dirtying four hundred things.
It's garlic bread. I can just cut it and be
done with it. I don't need to get out a
whole new plate to do that.

Speaker 3 (51:51):
When Karlie makes me ho it, she gives it to
me on a paper plate.

Speaker 2 (51:57):
I don't think I even have it.

Speaker 3 (51:59):
Because as you're an adult.

Speaker 4 (52:02):
I don't understand the paper plate hate. Like I don't
what is it the paper plate hate?

Speaker 2 (52:08):
I feel like maybe when you have kids having paper plates,
all the kids.

Speaker 4 (52:14):
Having like a throwing a lunch together, I'll be like, here,
just I just put it on a paper plate, like,
put it in the trash can when you're done. No
dishes over lunch. We're going to be cleaning up at dinner, right,
I don't serve for dinner on paper plates. Come on,
you should believe me.

Speaker 6 (52:31):
But yes, I don't know why he struggles with paper
plates so much, like it's.

Speaker 3 (52:37):
But this is my thing. Okay, okay. We also got
some real nice bowls for a wedding, really nice, like
I found some nice hot you know, it's a really
nice high end bowls. And because you do it, because
you think I would never buy them, but bowls or
bottles anyway, So Conti's I'll make breakfast. I was like, okay, cool,

(53:01):
should eggs. I was like, yeah, it'd be great, and
I can hear this noise and I'm like, fuck me,
I know exactly what she's doing. She's got one of
the new fucking bowls and she's whisking it with a fork.
And I've looked over and I'm like, Carli, there are
new bowls. And she went, well, what's your fat. I'm like,
it's not necessarily for mixing eggs in. It is for

(53:23):
putting nice things in. And I looked at bottom the
bowl and I was will scratched the ship and it's
still scratch the ship.

Speaker 2 (53:28):
Well, whatever, you got to use your nice things.

Speaker 6 (53:32):
I feel like the things that work you up are
just two extra.

Speaker 4 (53:37):
No.

Speaker 3 (53:37):
I know, I know, I know it's extra. I know
it's extra, but that's this is the only time.

Speaker 2 (53:41):
I actually I need.

Speaker 4 (53:42):
I do have one rebottle. Like Mel.

Speaker 6 (53:45):
Likes to frame herself as my personal chef, and okay, she.

Speaker 2 (53:52):
Is always talking about the roast that she made you,
even though it gives you the ships.

Speaker 3 (53:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (53:57):
One.

Speaker 6 (53:58):
Mel is a great cook and she does a lot
of the cooking.

Speaker 4 (54:02):
But I think it's important to know that like I
can't spread mayonnaise on a fucking bun without her opinion,
so oh, you just kind of control. Okay, it's a lot.

Speaker 2 (54:14):
Easier, okay, now.

Speaker 4 (54:18):
Right that I can't cut a radish without her telling
me I'm doing it wrong.

Speaker 3 (54:25):
Okay, that is bollocks. That is you know, that is okay? No,
I am fit, Okay, I admit right, I'm pretty much perfect. Okay,
but I'm a virgo. I like things a certain way,
and I am very sweet about it. I am very
sweet about it. But I am I am a bit
of I am a bit of a control freak in

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that setting, not in any other setting. Babe, I am
nice about it. You make me out to be an
outsat psychotic bitch right now.

Speaker 2 (54:55):
I mean you are a little bit, but she's a
psychotic we.

Speaker 3 (55:05):
Like it's like the slag thing all over again. But no,
we are we. Yes, we are very opposite, but we
we somehow work. And whenever I'm feeling something, Carlie feels it,

(55:28):
like like you want to tell the fainting story.

Speaker 6 (55:34):
Yeah, sure you can tell it.

Speaker 3 (55:37):
Now, you tell it.

Speaker 6 (55:39):
Okay, this is a weird thing.

Speaker 4 (55:40):
But I don't know if anyone else, Maybe we can
put a you know, call to action out there if
anyone else has experienced this with their significant other. So
this is a couple of years ago, melt like. It
ended up being a dislocated rib, so she like couldn't
breathe couldn't get out of bed, like she was in agony.

(56:02):
And this was early in the morning, so like I
hadn't eaten. I was like just kind of woken up
into this like chaos, chaos, and she just kept talking
about it. She's like, I think it's a blood clot.
It could be a blood clot, and I was like,
oh no, And I instantly like start getting queasy, like

(56:26):
she's in pain. She's talking about blood clots. My blood
sugar is probably low because it's six in the morning.

Speaker 6 (56:33):
And I get up out of bed and try to
help her and I just fall on faint.

Speaker 3 (56:38):
So I had to no, mel hang on, You're missing
a pretty significant part of this story. Yeah, So, well,
the problem is I couldn't move obviously, because I'd had
this I hit this rip problem, and I was making
it quick day. I was asking my fiance at the
time some help aka Carli, and like she just said,
she gets a little bit lightheaded, and I could see

(56:59):
her like walking was the bathroom and I was like,
she's gonna fucking faint, like I can see it. So
I literally had to put my own life on the
line and dive with my broken rib and I managed
to catch her head just in time, it before it
hit the tiles in the bathroom. But that's happened a
couple of times. I also had a really bad pain.
It was this period pace. It was really really bad
this one particular time, and I felt really faint with it,

(57:22):
and then Carly proceeded to faint and I had to
actually end up looking after her.

Speaker 4 (57:27):
So what she's trying to say is it's so adorable
that when she's in pain, I feel her pain.

Speaker 2 (57:33):
H So, you guys are so cute.

Speaker 6 (57:36):
Thanks, thanks, honestly, relationship goals?

Speaker 3 (57:42):
What can I say?

Speaker 2 (57:44):
Currently? Did you know that Mel was going to propose?
When she proposed her was it a surprise?

Speaker 6 (57:50):
I figured when she did her hair that someone I happen.

Speaker 2 (57:56):
What constitutes Mel doing her hair?

Speaker 4 (57:59):
Big events? Big events?

Speaker 2 (58:02):
But yeah, she have you heard that.

Speaker 3 (58:04):
Story she's coming on about.

Speaker 2 (58:06):
Yeah, I would love to hear it. Let's go. Mela
hates this story, but fantastic basically, like it was really cute.

Speaker 4 (58:12):
She got all of our friends in West Palm because
that's where we were living at the time to get together.

Speaker 6 (58:17):
It was after your event in Rien Dampa. Yeah, so
we were in Tampa. So we were going to make
a pit stop and napless pit stop in West Palm
on the way back.

Speaker 4 (58:31):
And I didn't really think anything of it, like we
were just going to get together and it was a
rooftop bar and it was so busy. So Mel started
to share her pants when she saw how busy it was,
and she's like, you know why everyone's here, like pointing
to our friends, and I was like, I was like, no,

(58:53):
I don't why. She goes it's your engagement party, and
just like stared at me, just like literally just wasn't shocked.

Speaker 6 (59:00):
I was like, how are you going to ask.

Speaker 3 (59:06):
The most important thing?

Speaker 4 (59:08):
I've never seen?

Speaker 6 (59:09):
Meles so uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (59:11):
Well, the problem is curre the whole This is not
why I envisioned, right, it was like going it was
gonna be quite mellow and chill. Obviously it wasn't. It
was absolutely fucking rammed. And not only that, like it
kind of brought a lot of attention to us. And
you know, we're in West Palm, like it's we love
West Palm, but like, you know, two girls getting engaged.
It's not like what people normally see on a Sunday afternoon.

(59:32):
And so yeah, my hair's down. So that brought a
lot of attention. What yeah, And so when I did it,
there was a lot I just could fill lot of
eyes on us.

Speaker 2 (59:46):
Get one on, get down on one knee properly and everything.

Speaker 7 (59:48):
Yep, yeah, awkwardly eyes Eventually, eventually it was like an
aw good twenty seconds before I realized I had to
do that, and then someone shouted like.

Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
Oh my god, we're kay too, and I was like.

Speaker 4 (01:00:03):
Another one Hi.

Speaker 3 (01:00:06):
So that brought even more attention to us that people
that hadn't noticed us were now noticing us.

Speaker 2 (01:00:11):
Perfect purpose. I put my hair straight away as soon as.

Speaker 3 (01:00:14):
The ring was on. I was by the time I
got back up from one name, my hair was in
a bun.

Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
Yes, I can confirm that's true.

Speaker 3 (01:00:23):
Good.

Speaker 8 (01:00:24):
But your wedding was amazing. It was for the like
all your photos and stuff are so cute. It it
was a good party for sure.

Speaker 4 (01:00:35):
Mel was like a little bit intimidated by the number
of people we invited, but I have a huge family.

Speaker 3 (01:00:41):
So it happens.

Speaker 2 (01:00:44):
When you marry someone from.

Speaker 6 (01:00:45):
The Midwest, it's going to be a big wedding.

Speaker 2 (01:00:47):
How how is Mel around your family? Great?

Speaker 3 (01:00:51):
Great? I mean, yeah, I'm an exulting animal.

Speaker 4 (01:00:56):
That's that is accurate.

Speaker 2 (01:00:59):
Yeah, the same for both your families.

Speaker 4 (01:01:02):
We'll go, We'll go through scooters and get coffee in
New York, Nebraska population eight thousand, and mel wille order
and be like, oh my gosh, where are you from?
And like she goes and picks up the coffee and
they just want to talk to her for twenty minutes.

Speaker 3 (01:01:17):
Like one of you, and they're like, oh my god,
what are you doing here? And I'm like, oh, my
wife's family like, oh, oh my god. Your card's wife,
aren't you. And I'm like, yeah, can you remember your
sister's wedding When I got ideed and they wouldn't serve me,
and then I was trying it. I was desperate for
a bit, obviously, and like they she wouldn't serve me.
She's like, no, sorry, you don't have your idea. I'm like,

(01:01:38):
I'm literally thirty five, and I know I was sorry.
This is really shitty. I just literally can't serve you.
And then she went, why do you have a weird accent?
And she said, you're not from around here, and I said, no,
I'm not. I'm married to one of the bridesmaids. I'm
married to the actually the bride's sister. And she went,
oh my god, you're Carly's wife, aren't you. Yeah, oh
my god. Yeah, no, you're good. You can have I've

(01:01:59):
heard you, I've heard of you. You're exotic weirdo. But yeah, no,
it's quite interesting when I go to your nebraska, like
we went to her dad has one of his friends
has like this old it's really really cool here. It's
like an old electrical house, like electrical where they did
do this stuff. And he turned it into like his
own personal bar. It's sick, but it's a bit of

(01:02:19):
a man's club and it's sick and.

Speaker 2 (01:02:25):
Club. Yes, probably his favorite place. Yes, Yes, I love
that place.

Speaker 3 (01:02:29):
I love it. And I've been begging Bill, my father
in law, the same with ages and he's like, finally
took me. And so literally we were drinking and we
got there and the guy goes, right, what do you
want you want? Would you like a bud light or something,
and I went, what have you got a draft? And
he's like, well, we've We've got like proper brew beers
on draft. They're quite strong. I was like, yeah, sure,

(01:02:50):
I'll have one of them. And he was like, are
you sure they're quite strong. It's like, yeah, so all good.
I'm about to show you something really fucking cool.

Speaker 2 (01:02:58):
Lots of experience here.

Speaker 3 (01:03:00):
I was like, I am about to show you a
skill of mine. And I proceed to have like six
or seven of them and was completely fine. And he
what did he say? Connie says, I've never seen a
woman drink like that before. Yeah, he was pretty shook.
It's like, how are you not more drunk?

Speaker 2 (01:03:17):
I was like, sorry, it has never been prouder.

Speaker 3 (01:03:20):
Literally, it was amazing. So yeah, York, Nebraska is her
mom and Dad's house is like the party house. Everyone
I feel like goes to the Grenfels and if they
want to get lit, they go to Lorraine and Bill's house.
So it's a lot of fun.

Speaker 6 (01:03:32):
When we go back open door policy around there, I
want to go to York.

Speaker 4 (01:03:37):
It's a good time.

Speaker 6 (01:03:39):
No small town Nebraska, I feel like just can't replicate
it anywhere else.

Speaker 2 (01:03:44):
Yeah, yeah, okay, So before we let you guys go,
I love to hear about kind of your mom life
journey and what it's been like for both of you
to adjust individual lead to becoming moms and then watching
each other be moms as well. And I mean, this

(01:04:05):
is like a life changing thing that you're going through
and every single day is new you're both learning on
the way.

Speaker 3 (01:04:12):
Go and babe, you take it away, right, It's a
loaded question.

Speaker 2 (01:04:20):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:04:21):
Being mom is seriously the best and like you don't
realize how good it can be until you are one.
But where do I even want to take this? Like
I don't know. There's just something so unbelievably cool about
the responsibility of shaping someone into who they're meant to be.

Speaker 6 (01:04:44):
And like me and Mel talk about this all the time,
like who do we want? Like how do we want
to raise Kai?

Speaker 4 (01:04:51):
Like it's such a heavy question, but it's like a
huge responsibility that it's like, yeah, who do we want
him to be? And ultimately like he's going to be
the one that shows us who he is. But like,
if there's one thing that we could give him, I
feel like me and Mel are both on the same page,
Like we want him to be resilient and to be

(01:05:14):
able to solve his own problems, Like he's going to
be a lot of things, but like if he has
that figured out, I think we're setting him up for success.
Like even now, I mean he's twenty one months old,
and it's like he'll be playing with a toy and
you can see him like visibly getting frustrated that he
can't figure it out. So it's like, at what point

(01:05:35):
do you step in? But at what point do you
let him figure it out on his own? So it's
like even now, it's like, Okay, he's he's getting pissed off.
He can't figure this out, so you kind of guide
him and then tell him like you got it, try again,
you got it, try again, And you can see him
like you can see it even now, like I'm going
to figure this out, and if you can't, like we're

(01:05:55):
here to help you. But it's such I feel like
at the end of the day, like if he grows
up and he feels safe enough to bring his problems
to us, but brave enough to go solve them himself,
like we've done our job. So there's just just so
many cool things about being a parent and like the

(01:06:15):
responsibility that we have. But yeah, I feel like resilience
and problem solving, like it's a very underrated thing. I
don't feel like it's talked about enough in raising our kids,
especially in today's world where technologies at our fingertips and
we can get distracted by so many things. So just

(01:06:37):
me and mel have that conversation so often, like how
do we want him to turn out? Like how do
we make sure we're setting him up for success?

Speaker 3 (01:06:45):
Yeah, And I think that, like the thing is me
and Kyli are extremely opposite, but we're very much on
the same page in the core of a lot of things,
which is quite odd really, and one of them is parenting.
And I think that the thing that I've noticed in
Katie is like it is, first of all, it's really
fucking hard. Like I agree with everything you're saying, Carli,
and we spoke about this that you find like this

(01:07:07):
strength that you never thought that you had, and it
is literally mum strength. But it's also really fucking hard
at times, and it's really hard on a relationship as well,
Like people don't understand I'm just talking from a relationship
at some point, Like I don't know how these single
parents do. I have so much respect for them. But
you have to be solid as a partnership, and you
have to do on the same page, because it's already

(01:07:27):
challenging enough in itself that if you're not, it's really
fucking hard to keep everything, all the wheels turning in
the right direction. I think with Carlie, what I've seen
is I always knew that Carli was going to be
a fantastic mum. She's just kind of built for that shit. Really,
I think Carli's one of those Carli's personality is she

(01:07:47):
has a bit of perfectionist and she doesn't like to
do anything wrong, and she almost like overthinks things without
and then never ends up doing it because she's almost
not the word is not scared, but she doesn't like
I will just jump in things and figure it out.
Carli has to really kind of strategically think about what
actually is the right decision, Whereas I feel like being

(01:08:08):
a mum has allowed her to not do that, and
I think that it's made her grow in really cool ways.
I think that you have found a lot of strength
in yourself that I know I saw in you, but
I feel like you didn't necessarily see in yourself. And
so when they do say that, you know, having a
kid does make you stronger and a better person and

(01:08:30):
more this and more that that you never even knew
you were. I feel like that has is completely justified.
In Carly, I generally do think that you're a You've
become a much like I said, I've always seen it,
but I feel like you've now believed how much stronger
you are than you really think you are. So that's
what I've seen as you as a mother, and that's

(01:08:50):
why I actually now don't have a problem having like
three or four because because I know that, you know,
I've got a partner like you. But but yeah, it's
been we've navigated it together and we don't have any help,
Like I keep saying this sek here, like we literally
that's why we're talking about moving because we do need
a bit of help and it's really fucking hard to
like do it on your own, it really is. Without

(01:09:12):
you know, you can't just call the grandparents and or
family nearby just like hey, can you just pick up
kit and daycare like we're running late or whatever. We
have to negotiate that and navigate that together. So yeah,
I'm just really proud of you. I mean, it's def
that was really sweet.

Speaker 2 (01:09:26):
Thank you, you will thank you.

Speaker 4 (01:09:29):
But yeah, I mean to your point, Mel, like addressing
the hard parts, I feel like it's so important, like
especially in the beginning, like they call it the what
the fourth trimester right after you give birth, Like it's
it was a huge adjustment. I always wonder like, is
it going to be harder for me from going to

(01:09:49):
zero to one or one to two? And I'm like,
I just I don't know how it could be harder
going from one to two. Like I just found zero
to one so so difficult. And it didn't help that
like we had kind of a traumatic berth. He was
in the nick you like I didn't know that, Oh
did you know that? No?

Speaker 3 (01:10:08):
Yeah, he was really sick. Yeah, he was really sick.

Speaker 4 (01:10:10):
I basically I pushed for four hours and he came
out and he inhaled the maconium, which is like baby
poop in the womb, So his lungs were all messed
up and he couldn't breathe very good, and he literally
was on a ventilator and like I didn't get we
hardly got to see him. I held him for maybe
a minute and then he was in the nick you

(01:10:33):
so he ended up healing quick and like we were
only in there for three days.

Speaker 6 (01:10:40):
But yeah, it was it was a lot. So with that,
you throw that on top of like navigating the hormones
and your first kid, and.

Speaker 4 (01:10:49):
It's a it's a lot, but you do. It's like
you tat you somehow tap into this crazy strength and
you figure it out and it's like when you come
out of that, you honestly feel invincible in a lot
of ways.

Speaker 1 (01:11:02):
M m m.

Speaker 2 (01:11:04):
I know. I was talking to one of my girlfriends
the other day about how like the hormones can be brutal,
but they also can make you feel amazing in a
way that it's like I've got this. I'm I'm gonna
absolutely be the best person for my kid. So I
don't know, it's a crazy thing that the body does.

Speaker 3 (01:11:24):
Well, they actually forget that you just give them birth.
You know. Oh, I could definitely do that again. I'm
like college did not see the state you were in
like an hour and a half.

Speaker 2 (01:11:30):
Ya was not bad. I could do that.

Speaker 4 (01:11:34):
Kidding me, Like, your hormones literally make you forget, like
you just they do like you're just like, Okay, I'm
ready when we have in the next one, like you
are like you're once you get through, you're just like
I don't know, it's it's so hard to describe, but
it's true. You forget like you do, forget the hard

(01:11:57):
parts because the good parts are so good.

Speaker 2 (01:12:00):
M hm. Well, you guys are amazing, and I mean
I'm just like constantly blown away and how how you're
both balancing it all and you know, obviously it's not
your balance is like a weird word because I feel
like that doesn't really exist. But you're doing your your
absolute best and crushing it. So I'm really proud of

(01:12:21):
both of you. And it's really cool to see you
both as moms.

Speaker 3 (01:12:25):
So wow, I appreciate it. And I would say, like
the one thing that we do have going for it
is like we all lit you busies and like, no
matter what, like even if Kylie tries to give me ship,
I just make her laugh and she's.

Speaker 2 (01:12:37):
No matter if you're yelling at her about the mayonnaise.

Speaker 3 (01:12:39):
Bun yes and the radishes, she cuts really fucking weird,
by the way, it's not the way I know. I'm
trying to let it go here, I'm trying.

Speaker 6 (01:12:48):
To self conscious of my cooking. Someone standards.

Speaker 2 (01:12:56):
Hell, people need to know what you're like in the
put you through, yeah, like you.

Speaker 4 (01:13:01):
Are my cook.

Speaker 6 (01:13:02):
But it's also you know, it makes our lives are
way easier when you can run the show in the kitchen.

Speaker 2 (01:13:09):
Yeah, in the kitchen all least in the kitchen. Yeah,
oh yeah, the mill in the kitchen. Outside of that,
Like if it comes to answering emails or a Google doc,
Carly's got a real job.

Speaker 3 (01:13:20):
I'll be like, hey, so I know it's like Wednesday.
She's like no. I'm like okay, No, She's just like, no,
not tonight. I'm like, well, I'll literally be like an
hour with like just I was just going to see
them front of hour and said.

Speaker 2 (01:13:37):
No, no, because she knows that it's not gonna just no.

Speaker 3 (01:13:41):
I know, I know, and she's not wrong.

Speaker 6 (01:13:44):
Come on, I'm not that crazy. I was going to
say one thing, oh.

Speaker 4 (01:13:51):
Oh yeah, Mel, Like Mel asked the most random questions,
like we're talking about like we're in the cart the
other day and she's like, when can I when you're
gonna let me buy a Range.

Speaker 2 (01:14:01):
Rover And she's obsessed with range Rovers and I know
when you're ready to admit you look like a twat
driving one twat. Now that is some British slang. I
love that.

Speaker 3 (01:14:13):
No, I do ask random questions.

Speaker 6 (01:14:15):
Mel asked my permission for things, but I always shut
it down.

Speaker 2 (01:14:19):
Well known answers. No, no, yeah, you rain drovers.

Speaker 3 (01:14:24):
No, it's a British thing. I just I don't know.
I know. Apparently they're not very very good cause I
don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:14:29):
They're really difficult to take care of it here.

Speaker 3 (01:14:32):
Well, I just make the used to Yeah, they're not
made up. They used to care and they break down
a lot now. Same with defenders. I'd love a defender.
But apparently card you.

Speaker 2 (01:14:40):
Guys drive or explorer. Yeah, that that is a solid call.

Speaker 6 (01:14:49):
Yeah word, I'm ready for a mini man, I'm ready.

Speaker 4 (01:14:53):
Way.

Speaker 3 (01:14:53):
No, Carlie actually tricks me into that food explorer. I
was hungover and she was like, we're talk about getting
a new CA anyway.

Speaker 2 (01:15:01):
I was hanging problem and I.

Speaker 3 (01:15:02):
Was hanging I get that car today.

Speaker 2 (01:15:04):
I was like absolutely, and in that voice, it's going
get that car today. Yeah, because that's what Carly sounds like.

Speaker 4 (01:15:12):
Yeah, I sound just like that game.

Speaker 3 (01:15:16):
Card. You make me not bad.

Speaker 2 (01:15:18):
Thanks, babes, be nice to me. I'll let you guys
work the rest of us out offline. I think I've
done a decent job of being your your couple's counselor today.

Speaker 3 (01:15:31):
Thank you for the role you played.

Speaker 2 (01:15:34):
Done anytime here to facilitate a discussion, always.

Speaker 3 (01:15:40):
Handedly.

Speaker 6 (01:15:42):
Maybe you should moonlight as a therapist, Kira.

Speaker 2 (01:15:44):
You know, I've always thought that that would have been
a good career for me because I was so nosy.
I love to hear about people's ship, which is probably
why I did the next best thing and became a reporter.
But I love the guys, like, tell me everything.

Speaker 3 (01:16:02):
Perfect, so good, you'd have been so good. Do you
watch a couple of therapy? I feel like that's your vibe. Oh,
you would like it. It's a great show couples. Yeah, here,
it's right up you're allie, watched it.

Speaker 2 (01:16:14):
A reality show.

Speaker 6 (01:16:15):
It's it's real and the therapist is unreal.

Speaker 3 (01:16:18):
She's amazing. Okay, she's like famous now yeah, she's been
on like Caller Daddy and stuff. But yeah, you have
to watch it. She's she's awesome. It's really good. It's
right up your alley, okay, perfect.

Speaker 2 (01:16:28):
Yeah, in my mind, a lot of my friends asked
me for advice, and like, obviously I give the best advice.
Obviously obviously my second act career. Once I'm done with TV,
I can perfect All right, guys, this was so much fun, Carly.

(01:16:49):
I'm so glad we finally had you on to set
the record straight and to make sure that people know
about mel from from your side, So that really important.

Speaker 3 (01:16:58):
Fun. The fun thing is I can when I hear this,
I'm going to edit out all the ship you've just
been talking about.

Speaker 2 (01:17:04):
Well, now doesn't know how to edit anything, so don't
that's not something she possesses the capabilities.

Speaker 4 (01:17:11):
We have a word with Zoe.

Speaker 3 (01:17:13):
Oh we need shush of the week?

Speaker 2 (01:17:15):
Oh yeahs of the week? God, why have I been
forgetting the shush of the week?

Speaker 4 (01:17:20):
Shush of the week.

Speaker 6 (01:17:21):
Okay, this isn't of the week, this is just shush
of life.

Speaker 2 (01:17:24):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (01:17:25):
Great, And it has to do with being a mom,
and my shush would be moms need to stop constantly
justifying their decisions and like, I feel like we always
feel the need to explain ourselves. Like, for example, I

(01:17:45):
was on a flight a few months ago and the lady,
you know, her little kid was probably like five was
just on his iPad playing games on a flight. She's like, oh, yeah,
we're just doing some screen time since we're going on vacation,
and you know, it's Friday.

Speaker 6 (01:17:59):
And I'm like, do you girl, Yeah, I don't need
to explain.

Speaker 4 (01:18:02):
I am not judging.

Speaker 2 (01:18:04):
So that's a huge to her.

Speaker 4 (01:18:06):
Yes, like you're fine, like your kid is fine, you
know what's best for your kid, Like there's and we're
like that because I feel like moms judge each other.
So enough of that.

Speaker 2 (01:18:20):
Well, do need to justify? Yeah, do what you gotta
do exactly. And if somebody's judging, that's their problem, then
they can get out of here.

Speaker 3 (01:18:29):
Damn right. Mm hmm.

Speaker 2 (01:18:32):
She was Kiara, No, it's Yoursonal.

Speaker 3 (01:18:37):
My wife's talking shit about my own podcast, my own podcast,
my own podcast, my fucking place where I convent to
my friend every week and talk about ship. My wife
has just done that about me.

Speaker 2 (01:18:51):
So I'm shushing that it's a mistake. No, this is great,
this is fantastic. My shush is technology. So the listeners
won't hear this because Zoe and Aaron Will have edited

(01:19:12):
the episode beautifully to the power of editing, but it
was quite a journey to get here today, I cried.

Speaker 3 (01:19:21):
We've literally been talking for three hours because between all
three of us have literally has failed us today.

Speaker 2 (01:19:28):
Oh yeah. Just if anyone was wondering if podcast is easy,
it's easy. It can be a bit of a shit show.
So just know we have gone through hell and back
to make this episode happen today. So we appreciate our
producers for sticking through it with us, and I'm going
to figure out what's going on with that.

Speaker 3 (01:19:47):
So all right, well, thank you, sweetheart. We appreciate you
being on and taking the time of your very busy
day too. My pleasure speak to your favorite person in
the world and one of your other favorite people in
the world, which is me, So thank you so much.

Speaker 6 (01:20:03):
Enjoyed talking shit.

Speaker 2 (01:20:05):
You come back to talk shit anytime, Carly.

Speaker 3 (01:20:07):
We love you. No, absolutely not. That is it one
and done.

Speaker 2 (01:20:10):
No, I disagree anytime, Carly.

Speaker 3 (01:20:14):
You all right?

Speaker 2 (01:20:16):
I will Kira, okay, good, all right.

Speaker 1 (01:20:19):
Bye, guys, Bye, thanks for listening to Quiet Please we'll
be back next week with more golf aps and we
want to hear from you.

Speaker 2 (01:20:27):
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Speaker 1 (01:20:34):
Quiet Please, is hosted by Mel Reed and Kira Dixon.
Our executive producer is Jesse Katz. Our supervising producer is
Grace Hughes. Our producer is Jonathan Kerma.

Speaker 3 (01:20:44):
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