June 18, 2025 • 12 mins
What do your co-workers really do? Do you know? PLUS: We come around on Taylor and Travis, and Kim K is a lawyer.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
So I've talked about this before, but in my work transition,
I have really had a skeleton crew here and I've
gone back to being my own assistant. And what does
that mean. It means like figuring out how to print
out return labels and box things up and get sorted
with my podcast equipment and get sorted with what's going
(00:33):
on in my house and managing home projects and managing
a team, and being very communicative with my emails and
with my texts. And I'm very big on throwing like
robotexting with like okay number one, sort the garage number two?
Where is this being very clear? Now? I am intense
and a lot for people that I work with, but
(00:54):
they always know where I stand and what I want,
and I get what i want because I'm not scattered
and I'm very clear, and it will everybody else to task.
And the weekly updates that I learned years ago when
I was working at Island Pictures for a guy named
Mark Berg underneath Chris Blackwell and then Linda Bruckheimer, like
these processes that I've used for twenty years, that they work,
(01:15):
like this update that once a week comes that basically
has like pending and like imminent. Imminent would be like
dogs need to go to vet today for a tick.
Thing pending would be like the bag that I have
at the shoe repair or something at tailoring that needs
to be written on an update because it lives somewhere
and it's not just me in the middle of the
night or on a vacation being like, wait, what happens
to that bag? Like every box getting checked. And I
(01:39):
will say, once you do the job of the people
that work around you or with you, or people that
are your coworkers, once you do the job, you know
how competent or other people are. It's the same way
as like a wife. The husband has to do the
mob's job. He has to cook, he has to clan,
he has to get the laundry, get the kids to school,
get the raincoat to get the permission slips, get the
(02:01):
sports activity snacks, keep the house in order, keep the
house tidy, vacuum. There was a movie years ago with
Michael Keaton Mister Mom about that, and then by the
end he ends up respecting the mom's job. Well, you
could be doing your assistant's job, or your coworker's job,
or someone else's job and realize how hard that job
is or how incompetent they are, because people move papers
(02:23):
around the desk and they don't work efficiently and smart.
And I always say, it's not how hard you work,
it's how smart you work. You go go to the
gym and spend four hours sweating and going in circles,
but if you're not working smart and efficient, you don't
get the results. And me being on that runway and
everyone thinking like I work out at the gym every
single day and I've secretly got a trainer and all
(02:45):
this shit. I walk and I'm efficient about when I
walk because it makes my walk go longer. If I
do work calls on my walk, if I talk to
my therapist on my walk, if I talk to my
business manager and go through my finances on my walk,
like I'm efficient, I'm lean. I get it done and
the minute I know it has to be done, I
immediately get it done. Like that's who I am, and
(03:06):
that's working smarter. I'm not like flailing flapping my wings.
I wasn't the one who used to talk at work
all the time. I was the one that had my
head down, get it done, then go relax and on
a photo shoot it's always a brand saying it's gonna
take eight hours. It's always my team saying it's not.
It's gonna take her three hours and them saying no,
and her saying yes, we get there. It's three hours.
(03:26):
I don't fuck around with lunch. I don't fuck around
with a snack. We get it done. And the crew
is always so grateful because they get to get the
fuck out of there. And that is the critical difference
between me and everybody else. It's called get it done,
lean and efficient, no foreplay. So I have to say,
(03:47):
you figure out how your staff is actually working. And again,
don't cheap out. Don't hire the cheapest person. If you
have people working for you or with you, make sure
you're taking care of people. If it's someone who's a babysitter,
if it's someone who's a nanny, if it's someone who's
an intern, if it's someone who's a dog walker, if
it's someone who's a helper, whatever it is, you pay
them in baked goods, You send them a thank you note,
(04:09):
You be grateful, and you let people know that they're
helping you because you're reinforcing positivity and you're also motivating
them to do the work. But if you do the job,
you'll not get stolen from people that work with you
will know. You know where the bodies are buried, you
know how charges happen, you know what everyone's spending, you
(04:29):
know how this gets done. And then they'll also know
that they can't just overcharge you. I've had people pretend
something take hours. I'm like, yeah, I just did that
in five minutes. Like that's a scam. I just booked
the hotel five minutes, just booked the travel on this app.
That's a scam that it took you all this time.
It could be people overcharging you for design, people overcharging
you for travel agent stuff, people overcharging you for landscaping.
(04:50):
We'll pay. I don't know what it is, but check
your people, check the people that work around you, with
you and for you, because if you do the job,
you're like you're undercover boss, and you will see what
it takes. And people like to talk a lot about
getting things done. I say, get it done. The path
of least resistance and the shortest distance is just a
(05:12):
straight line between points. This has to get done. Don't
tell me it can't get done. I know it can
get done. How are we getting it done. We're solution based. People.
Cannot tell you how many people try to whine and
spend more time talking about how something can't get done
than standing up and just going in and getting it done. Well,
that's gonna take a while. I have to call the
this guy. We'll have to look that up. Get it
done right now, Just get it done. Nike said it best,
(05:36):
Just do it. You're welcome. I now know what love
bombing is. I call it the Chia pet of dating.
Like some people think you're just gonna add water and
(05:57):
be in a relationship. And these are those people that
haven't done the work. Might be that they were in
a long marriage and they're just needy and they're used
to relationship and it's a disservice to themselves because they
just want to just add water and there's a relationship.
And I come in contact with these people where there's
a familiarity and a language and a way of texting,
(06:18):
and I don't like that. I like tradition, I like formality.
I don't like when someone immediately thinks like we're in
an instant relationship. Because we had one conversation and one
of the best things that I ever heard from one
of the dating experts on this podcast was this is
a stranger. People on both sides of dating get so
familiar so quick because you get excited. It could be because
(06:41):
you've had sex, but even before sex, you're so excited.
You want to meet someone, you think you like someone,
you think they like you. You're talking in futuristic terms on
the fairy tale, fictitious first date or first meeting, and
you think it's all real. I've had people who are
talking to me about the future and then we text
like once or twice, and we never speak again. I've
had people also right after meeting them because we liked
(07:02):
each other and we had a little flirt and maybe
I was gaslighting myself into thinking I like them, or
maybe I want an instant relationship because it makes it
so much easier, just check the box. And then like
they're messaging you like pictures of their family or kids,
or like inside baseball all day, Like I don't want
to get to a familiar point until we're at a
familiar point. I don't want to meet your kids. I
(07:23):
don't want to meet your parents. I don't want to
see you in your pajamas, I don't want to see
you in your natural habitat until we're in a relationship.
You cannot rush a process. You meet someone, you get
to know them, and so if they can't control themselves,
you have to control yourself. You can never put the
toothpaste back in the tube once it's out. So once
(07:45):
you kind of let this person take you for granted,
think they already have you. Think you're in a familiar state,
Think you're in a relationship. Think they can like just
sort of show up when they want, call you when
they want, like have a booty call. Whatever. No way,
do not get to the familiarity state before it's been
earned and proven. For both sides. One is it's creepy
(08:05):
and weird, and it means someone is emotionally missing a
chip and hasn't done the work on themselves because they
just want to do instant relationship or you too, that's
how like you immediately get into what are we doing tonight?
What are we doing tomorrow? Like you're like married, Immediately
the wheels come off. It gets to be a turn off.
That's the love stage, and it's premature. You can't have
(08:26):
love until you actually are really in love, and it
is true love. You cannot pretend you're in love with
a stranger. There really is no such thing as love
at first sight. It doesn't exist. There's lust at first sight,
there's oh my god, I can't believe how I feel
about this person at first sight. I could eventually see
myself falling in love with this person, but you have
(08:48):
no institutional knowledge to make that assessment, and as someone
who has made such shit relationship choices, do not get
to that state. We all go there in the beginning,
like oh my god, you're imagining your kids' names, you're
living together, you're fantasizing, you're seeing what the cadence is
going to be like in your life and in your dating.
It doesn't exist. It's not real, and you're gonna get
(09:10):
the ick, whether it's in the beginning or after, and
it's almost embarrassing in front of yourself. You're like, oh
my god, I can't believe last week I was thinking
all this, Like do not rush. You never have that
chance to really build again. And once you give it
all away, once you sleep with someone in the beginning,
once you're too familiar in the beginning, once you've showed
them you in pajamas in the beginning, like all of it.
(09:32):
It's like, it's not cute. Keep the formality. For a while,
people were nitpicking on social media about Kim Kardashian and
law school and like why they're like, she didn't graduate
from law school because I guess she didn't go to
law school, but she got a degree and she took
the bar and she studied, like not everyone goes to
(09:55):
drivers at either, and not everyone goes to driving school,
and not everyone goes to sit in the class of
real state school to get their real estate license either.
I don't know. I don't know much about it. But
she's a pretty big multitasker. I think she has a
show coming out, maybe on Hulu or somewhere. I think
she's proven herself. I think if she got a law degree,
she fucking earned it and deserved it, and like she
(10:15):
deserves the flowers. Okay, if she can practice law, which
I don't know if she can, I don't know the rules.
If she can practice law or is actually consay she's
a lawyer, then she went to law school. In my book,
Travis and Taylor, I in the beginning wasn't team it.
I thought it went too fast. I didn't think it
(10:37):
was totally real. I thought in the beginning, I thought
it seemed like that she a pet of relationships. I
thought it was like just I didn't see them together
in the beginning. But like, if you think about how
I imagine she grew up and how I imagine he
grew up, I think their parents are both together. I
think they seem like they have similar fundamentals, like similar
(10:57):
family fundamentals, similar family support, and so in retrospect, I
can be a Monday Morning quarterback to use a topical
reference or analogy, it seems to work. But like I
wonder if they're going to go the distance from someone
pretty knowledgeable on the inside told me that they're going
the distance, I kind of like it. I think that
(11:19):
would mean there's hope for everyone. And I think it's
also like got a little bit of like quarterback and
captain of the cheerleading squad, and I kind of like that,
like Americana apple Pie aspect, just a more modern take.
And I hear they're spending a lot of time in
Florida together, which, of course I love. Florida is having
a real glow up right now.
So I've talked about this before, but in my work transition,
I have really had a skeleton crew here and I've
gone back to being my own assistant. And what does
that mean. It means like figuring out how to print
out return labels and box things up and get sorted
with my podcast equipment and get sorted with what's going
(00:33):
on in my house and managing home projects and managing
a team, and being very communicative with my emails and
with my texts. And I'm very big on throwing like
robotexting with like okay number one, sort the garage number two?
Where is this being very clear? Now? I am intense
and a lot for people that I work with, but
(00:54):
they always know where I stand and what I want,
and I get what i want because I'm not scattered
and I'm very clear, and it will everybody else to task.
And the weekly updates that I learned years ago when
I was working at Island Pictures for a guy named
Mark Berg underneath Chris Blackwell and then Linda Bruckheimer, like
these processes that I've used for twenty years, that they work,
(01:15):
like this update that once a week comes that basically
has like pending and like imminent. Imminent would be like
dogs need to go to vet today for a tick.
Thing pending would be like the bag that I have
at the shoe repair or something at tailoring that needs
to be written on an update because it lives somewhere
and it's not just me in the middle of the
night or on a vacation being like, wait, what happens
to that bag? Like every box getting checked. And I
(01:39):
will say, once you do the job of the people
that work around you or with you, or people that
are your coworkers, once you do the job, you know
how competent or other people are. It's the same way
as like a wife. The husband has to do the
mob's job. He has to cook, he has to clan,
he has to get the laundry, get the kids to school,
get the raincoat to get the permission slips, get the
(02:01):
sports activity snacks, keep the house in order, keep the
house tidy, vacuum. There was a movie years ago with
Michael Keaton Mister Mom about that, and then by the
end he ends up respecting the mom's job. Well, you
could be doing your assistant's job, or your coworker's job,
or someone else's job and realize how hard that job
is or how incompetent they are, because people move papers
(02:23):
around the desk and they don't work efficiently and smart.
And I always say, it's not how hard you work,
it's how smart you work. You go go to the
gym and spend four hours sweating and going in circles,
but if you're not working smart and efficient, you don't
get the results. And me being on that runway and
everyone thinking like I work out at the gym every
single day and I've secretly got a trainer and all
(02:45):
this shit. I walk and I'm efficient about when I
walk because it makes my walk go longer. If I
do work calls on my walk, if I talk to
my therapist on my walk, if I talk to my
business manager and go through my finances on my walk,
like I'm efficient, I'm lean. I get it done and
the minute I know it has to be done, I
immediately get it done. Like that's who I am, and
(03:06):
that's working smarter. I'm not like flailing flapping my wings.
I wasn't the one who used to talk at work
all the time. I was the one that had my
head down, get it done, then go relax and on
a photo shoot it's always a brand saying it's gonna
take eight hours. It's always my team saying it's not.
It's gonna take her three hours and them saying no,
and her saying yes, we get there. It's three hours.
(03:26):
I don't fuck around with lunch. I don't fuck around
with a snack. We get it done. And the crew
is always so grateful because they get to get the
fuck out of there. And that is the critical difference
between me and everybody else. It's called get it done,
lean and efficient, no foreplay. So I have to say,
(03:47):
you figure out how your staff is actually working. And again,
don't cheap out. Don't hire the cheapest person. If you
have people working for you or with you, make sure
you're taking care of people. If it's someone who's a babysitter,
if it's someone who's a nanny, if it's someone who's
an intern, if it's someone who's a dog walker, if
it's someone who's a helper, whatever it is, you pay
them in baked goods, You send them a thank you note,
(04:09):
You be grateful, and you let people know that they're
helping you because you're reinforcing positivity and you're also motivating
them to do the work. But if you do the job,
you'll not get stolen from people that work with you
will know. You know where the bodies are buried, you
know how charges happen, you know what everyone's spending, you
(04:29):
know how this gets done. And then they'll also know
that they can't just overcharge you. I've had people pretend
something take hours. I'm like, yeah, I just did that
in five minutes. Like that's a scam. I just booked
the hotel five minutes, just booked the travel on this app.
That's a scam that it took you all this time.
It could be people overcharging you for design, people overcharging
you for travel agent stuff, people overcharging you for landscaping.
(04:50):
We'll pay. I don't know what it is, but check
your people, check the people that work around you, with
you and for you, because if you do the job,
you're like you're undercover boss, and you will see what
it takes. And people like to talk a lot about
getting things done. I say, get it done. The path
of least resistance and the shortest distance is just a
(05:12):
straight line between points. This has to get done. Don't
tell me it can't get done. I know it can
get done. How are we getting it done. We're solution based. People.
Cannot tell you how many people try to whine and
spend more time talking about how something can't get done
than standing up and just going in and getting it done. Well,
that's gonna take a while. I have to call the
this guy. We'll have to look that up. Get it
done right now, Just get it done. Nike said it best,
(05:36):
Just do it. You're welcome. I now know what love
bombing is. I call it the Chia pet of dating.
Like some people think you're just gonna add water and
(05:57):
be in a relationship. And these are those people that
haven't done the work. Might be that they were in
a long marriage and they're just needy and they're used
to relationship and it's a disservice to themselves because they
just want to just add water and there's a relationship.
And I come in contact with these people where there's
a familiarity and a language and a way of texting,
(06:18):
and I don't like that. I like tradition, I like formality.
I don't like when someone immediately thinks like we're in
an instant relationship. Because we had one conversation and one
of the best things that I ever heard from one
of the dating experts on this podcast was this is
a stranger. People on both sides of dating get so
familiar so quick because you get excited. It could be because
(06:41):
you've had sex, but even before sex, you're so excited.
You want to meet someone, you think you like someone,
you think they like you. You're talking in futuristic terms on
the fairy tale, fictitious first date or first meeting, and
you think it's all real. I've had people who are
talking to me about the future and then we text
like once or twice, and we never speak again. I've
had people also right after meeting them because we liked
(07:02):
each other and we had a little flirt and maybe
I was gaslighting myself into thinking I like them, or
maybe I want an instant relationship because it makes it
so much easier, just check the box. And then like
they're messaging you like pictures of their family or kids,
or like inside baseball all day, Like I don't want
to get to a familiar point until we're at a
familiar point. I don't want to meet your kids. I
(07:23):
don't want to meet your parents. I don't want to
see you in your pajamas, I don't want to see
you in your natural habitat until we're in a relationship.
You cannot rush a process. You meet someone, you get
to know them, and so if they can't control themselves,
you have to control yourself. You can never put the
toothpaste back in the tube once it's out. So once
(07:45):
you kind of let this person take you for granted,
think they already have you. Think you're in a familiar state,
Think you're in a relationship. Think they can like just
sort of show up when they want, call you when
they want, like have a booty call. Whatever. No way,
do not get to the familiarity state before it's been
earned and proven. For both sides. One is it's creepy
(08:05):
and weird, and it means someone is emotionally missing a
chip and hasn't done the work on themselves because they
just want to do instant relationship or you too, that's
how like you immediately get into what are we doing tonight?
What are we doing tomorrow? Like you're like married, Immediately
the wheels come off. It gets to be a turn off.
That's the love stage, and it's premature. You can't have
(08:26):
love until you actually are really in love, and it
is true love. You cannot pretend you're in love with
a stranger. There really is no such thing as love
at first sight. It doesn't exist. There's lust at first sight,
there's oh my god, I can't believe how I feel
about this person at first sight. I could eventually see
myself falling in love with this person, but you have
(08:48):
no institutional knowledge to make that assessment, and as someone
who has made such shit relationship choices, do not get
to that state. We all go there in the beginning,
like oh my god, you're imagining your kids' names, you're
living together, you're fantasizing, you're seeing what the cadence is
going to be like in your life and in your dating.
It doesn't exist. It's not real, and you're gonna get
(09:10):
the ick, whether it's in the beginning or after, and
it's almost embarrassing in front of yourself. You're like, oh
my god, I can't believe last week I was thinking
all this, Like do not rush. You never have that
chance to really build again. And once you give it
all away, once you sleep with someone in the beginning,
once you're too familiar in the beginning, once you've showed
them you in pajamas in the beginning, like all of it.
(09:32):
It's like, it's not cute. Keep the formality. For a while,
people were nitpicking on social media about Kim Kardashian and
law school and like why they're like, she didn't graduate
from law school because I guess she didn't go to
law school, but she got a degree and she took
the bar and she studied, like not everyone goes to
(09:55):
drivers at either, and not everyone goes to driving school,
and not everyone goes to sit in the class of
real state school to get their real estate license either.
I don't know. I don't know much about it. But
she's a pretty big multitasker. I think she has a
show coming out, maybe on Hulu or somewhere. I think
she's proven herself. I think if she got a law degree,
she fucking earned it and deserved it, and like she
(10:15):
deserves the flowers. Okay, if she can practice law, which
I don't know if she can, I don't know the rules.
If she can practice law or is actually consay she's
a lawyer, then she went to law school. In my book,
Travis and Taylor, I in the beginning wasn't team it.
I thought it went too fast. I didn't think it
(10:37):
was totally real. I thought in the beginning, I thought
it seemed like that she a pet of relationships. I
thought it was like just I didn't see them together
in the beginning. But like, if you think about how
I imagine she grew up and how I imagine he
grew up, I think their parents are both together. I
think they seem like they have similar fundamentals, like similar
(10:57):
family fundamentals, similar family support, and so in retrospect, I
can be a Monday Morning quarterback to use a topical
reference or analogy, it seems to work. But like I
wonder if they're going to go the distance from someone
pretty knowledgeable on the inside told me that they're going
the distance, I kind of like it. I think that
(11:19):
would mean there's hope for everyone. And I think it's
also like got a little bit of like quarterback and
captain of the cheerleading squad, and I kind of like that,
like Americana apple Pie aspect, just a more modern take.
And I hear they're spending a lot of time in
Florida together, which, of course I love. Florida is having
a real glow up right now.
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