October 5, 2025 • 17 mins
Time to get motivated on the Sunday morning run. Amy and T.J. go over their quotes of the week to inspire you to live better, plus a bonus guidepost from an ancient philosopher that will change the way you approach your life.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome everyone to your Sunday morning run. It's Sunday, October fifth,
and this is the morning where we go over our
quotes of the week, hopefully getting you a little inspired
and certainly maybe getting your headspace in the right place
as you start your work week. And so we will
begin with our quote. And I love this because it
(00:22):
is Breast Cancer Awareness month. In case any of you
haven't heard, this comes to us from a breast cancer survivor.
And I say that because her quote comes from hard
earned wisdom. This is from Regina Brett. She's an American
author and a survivor. And Thriver burn the candles, use
the nice sheets where the fancy lingerie, don't save it
(00:42):
for a special occasion. Today is special.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, spoken like someone who thought her life might not continue,
spoken like someone who has an experience, a life and
a lived experience. It takes something sometimes, this disease, surviving
an accident, where people start to look at the world
and look at life differently. And why why wait till tomorrow?
I've done this as silly as it sounds with clothes,
(01:11):
it sounds so stupid, But I'll look as that. Oh,
I'll save that for when da da da da. I'm
doing something that I just put it on. I know
it's a weird little thing to compare it to, but yeah,
I think about that sentiment often.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I always think of this when it comes to fine wine, age, whatever.
We're waiting for that special occasion to pop the champagne
or to pour that wine we've been saving for someone
or some other occasion down the road. It's just a reminder, Yeah,
wear the outfit, drink the wine, you.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Know, enjoy your life.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Call your mom, like, do the things that you're putting
off that you think I'll wait and do that later.
You just don't know what tomorrow brings. So I just
think it's such a good reminder. And yes, burning candles,
we do that too. We save the candle. I don't
want to burn it all.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
It smells so good.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I want to save it for when people are over,
when someone else can enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Now, burn the candle and then buy another one if
you can.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
You know, just we actually got into a subscribe and
save thing with our candles so that we don't feel
guilty about burning our candles. But I feel like that's
a universal feeling. People are trying to not waste and
save it for a rainy day, but today's the day.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
What's the light the sideways? Right? Is that the movie? Yes,
about the wine? Where what's his name? Paul? Is it
Paul Giomanni Geamoni? That line about the wine. He said,
everybody's waiting for a special occasion to open this bottle
of line opening. It is the special occasion. I love
that he has a line in there. Always remember that's
(02:38):
very cool.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
So Regina Brett says, this, burn the candles, use the
nice sheets, wear the fancy laingerie, don't save it for
a special occasion. Today is special, all right. Our next
quote comes to us from the author of Seven Habits
of Highly Effective People. Many of you may have read
that book. If you haven't, it's excellent. I haven't picked
it up in a long, long, long, long time, but
(02:59):
it's by Steven and I love.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
We actually used this quote in our morning run.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I think the following day with the news story that
was a clear example of this. But here's what he
had to say. You can learn great things from your
mistakes when you aren't busy denying them.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
That was the lady with the who took the headband
from the kid at the football game.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
She denied, she denied, she denied, and then she had
to put up a second post saying oopsie, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Yeah, that's step one. Everybody listening right now has somebody
they can immediately think of in their lives that just
won't change because they won't admit that they are the
problem or admit that they were wrong. Or you can't
ever move on from that. You can't move you can't. So, yeah,
you gotta get out of your own way.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
It's our ego, it's our pride, and we're so And
I get this. It's a human thing to want to
defend yourself immediately, and by defending yourself, you're denying the
harm you caused. You're denying the mistake you made. But
if you actually really can take a beat, take a
break before you launch into that, which I've really I've
personally been working on this and say, wait, deep breath,
and then learn from the mistakes you made.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
First.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
You have to admit you made the mistake before you
can learn from it. And that's the hardest part, isn't it.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
So I love this.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
You can learn great things from your mistakes when you
aren't busy denying them. All right, Our next quote of
the day is just a reminder. And this is when
I actually would love to just put on my nightstand.
No matter how good or bad you have it, wake
up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else
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is desperately fighting for theirs. Who was this again, this
didn't have anyone attached to it. This is something sometimes
I find quotes that are just circulating on social media.
People put them up and there's no attribution. I think
a lot of folks have said different versions of this,
But the way this one was phrased, I really appreciated.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Yeah, I like that one. I mean, we talked about
this time last week when it was in the morning.
Run this idea of comparative suffering, all right, this idea
that somebody has it worse than you or whatever it
may be. I don't subscribe to that. But this quote,
and at least the way they put it, is just
more about gratitude than comparison.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I think it's more.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
About gratitude and about perspective.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Sometimes, yes, we don't want to not acknowledge how we're
feeling and not acknowledge some of the sadness or disappointments
that we've had in our lives. So that's important, I
think to process and to cycle through. But to dismiss
how you're feeling and just say, well, someone has it worse.
That's usually not effective and not helpful.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
In any way.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
But this is when you first wake up.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
When you first wake up, you.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Can set the tone for your entire day if you
keep this perspective in mind, no matter how good or
bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for
your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Love that all right.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
This one also isn't attributed to anyone specifically, but.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
We actually talked about this as.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
We We've been doing a lot of travel lately, and
we're lucky and I'm grateful to be able to do so,
to see family, friends and football. But it can get
messy and complicated and stressful. So I loved this quote.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
It can.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
It does almost always stressed well. I think, yes, when
you're trying to make sure you've got everything you need
and you get to the airport on time, the lines,
like you know, we just get we get bogged down
in the messiness of life and wanting things to be easier.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I thought you're talking about the family stress.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh no, that's the fun part.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Arriving.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Just getting there is the hard part sometimes, but just
in general, throughout your day there are all sorts of
little annoying hiccups, and we have this feeling that somehow
it's not fair.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Right, So I love this quote.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
The minute you stop expecting life to be simple, fair
and easy, it becomes simple, fair and easy.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
I can't lie be simple.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
You stop expecting it to be, then you have an acceptance,
and then it does become that.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Oh sweart that that terrain left a long time ago.
Any hope I had of having a simple life, Oh no, no, no, no, no,
I wish that could be the case. But no, man,
think back, to think back to all the parts of
your life you're most proud of. It probably wasn't a
simple time.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
No cool, No, it's that's so true.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
And look your mom my mom told me growing up
life isn't fair, like get used to it. That was
something that I heard repeatedly as a child. And so
once you kind of get to that place of acceptance
where things are complex, things are unjust, and they're difficult.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
My parents didn't have to have that talk with me.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I understood comparative suffering.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
I understood. I'll compare on this one. I'll play the race,
gud it's fair.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
No, But I get that.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
And it is one of those lessons that there is
an expectation some for some people more than others, that
it should be different, that it should be this way,
and that's that's not the point of life. The point
of life is to learn and to love. And you
don't learn and you don't really understand love until you've
gone through the tough times. I just, I truly believe that.
So the minute you stop expecting life to be simple,
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fair and easy, it becomes simple, fair and easy, all right.
I on Friday loved this one for you, TJ, because
this sounds like something you would say, and then when
you found out who said it, it made a lot
of sense. US Army General Gordon R. Sullivan said this,
Hope is not a strategy.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
I get that.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I hope it works out, really, Ah, I just hope.
I don't know. Hope should be kind of the side dish.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
I'll take this with a side of hope. But it's
got to be some hard work. It's got to be
some focus, it's got to be something a plan even
instead of just hope. It sounds like something in general would.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Say, right, because look, I love the idea of hope.
I think we need hope in our lives. I think
losing hope is probably one of the bleakest experiences you
can have in life, when you lose all hope. To me,
that is as dark as it gets. However, you put
in the work, you put in the discipline, you put
in the effort, and yeah, at a side, it's the flavor,
(09:24):
it's the sauce of hope. But knowing that you did
all you could to get where you want to go,
to become what you want to be, that's the most
important part of it. And yes, I love the idea
of keeping hope alive. I love the idea of always
hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. I mean,
that's what they say, right, So this kind of speaks
to that in a way.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Im't You're about to do a Jesse Jackson impression in
there keep hope alive?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Well, I mean there is something to that. However, hope
is not a strategy. All right, when we come back,
we're going to go over a bonus quote that I
found here and it's really it's less of a quote
and it's more of an instruction from someone who lived
at one hundred and six BC. I love these when
(10:11):
you get the old school philosophers who knew more about
how we're living today than we even probably know as
we're living it.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
But this is what.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Marcus Tullius Cicero says are the six mistakes of man.
When we come back and welcome back to your Sunday
morning run and we have your bonus quote, it's more
(10:41):
of a little it's a little bit more than a quote.
It's it's the six mistakes of man, as written by
Marcus Tullius Cicero. He has he was born in one
hundred and six BC died at forty three BC, so
this is an ancient words of wisdom basically. But man,
I love everything Marcus had to say about the six
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mistakes of man. The first mistake the illusion that personal
gain is made up of crushing others.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
There are six. Yes, we're gonna do it one at
a time.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Well, I was just gonna get to if you had
an initial reaction, great, if you don't, I'll move on.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
I did. Is that an understanding is that we feel
like that the only way we can get to the
top is that somebody else has to suffer for us
to get there. That's a mindset. It's almost people take
pride in crushing others. They take pride in beating others.
We look down the hallway. Wait, there's another woman who's
blonde hair, blue eyed. She must be destroyed. It's true,
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all right. I've been in plenty of hallways. Look down
the hall very few black folks, so white it's just
me and him. Only one of us is going to
be allowed to stay on this floor. Like that mindset.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Take a gladiator mindset. Basically, we all can't win. It
has to be one or the others.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
It's a big mistake. I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
One big mistake. The illusion and the personal gain is
made up of crushing others. Number two, the tendency to
worry about things that cannot be changed or corrected.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Do that all day, all the time we spend This
is what most people do all day long.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I think it's one of the biggest mistakes we make
in life.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Right now, folks, tell me what are you worried about?
And when you add today, go holy hell. I can't
do anything about that.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
I can't change it, I can't correct it. So yes,
that's the second.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Biggest mistake of man, the tendency to worry about things
that cannot be changed or corrected. Third mistake insisting that
a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it. Huh
So it's you're defeating yourself. You're not giving yourself the
opportunity to overcome something. We insist that something is impossible
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because we can't accomplish it. How many people throughout the
history of the world have proven that wrong.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
We limit ourselves.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Man, what a cop out.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
I definitely fall prey to this.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
This just can't be done.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
What do you mean, Well, I just feel like someone
was like, that's impossible. There's no way I'm going to
be able to do that. I actually I had that
mindset about marathons for the longest time. For me, that's
a personal about face, because I watched my dad do it,
and I truly believed that it would be impossible for
me to finish a marathon. And it took me going
through breast cancer to recognize that I could push myself
beyond where I thought I could. I was stronger than
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I thought. We always hear that but really, how many
times have you limited yourself because you actually thought something
was impossible because you couldn't accomplish it. Push yourself and
see what happens. So don't insist that something's impossible because
you can't accomplish it.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
I love that, all right.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Next mistake of man refusing to set aside trivial preferences
is mean. So if you want something a certain way,
you insist that they are that way because you prefer it.
You are causing suffering to yourself, causing suffering to others
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because you insist it has to be your way, your
personal preference.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Like you could be something as trivial as I.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Want the dishes cleaned this way, or I want my
food prepared that way, or you know, just but you
start to try to control everything, and so you actually
suffer because you of your personal preferences and they're trivial.
It doesn't really matter you. People can do things a
million different ways and they all can be okay and good.
So we kind of have to let go of these
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preferences that we push on other people and even on ourselves.
I think that's a really cool way to find peace.
The next one neglecting development and refinement of the mind
and not acquiring the habit of reading and study.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Man, you got you should learn something every single day?
How agree with that?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
We neglect our minds sometimes, and we neglect the fact
that we always still have more to learn, That we
need to actually create a habit of reading and study.
And you and I actually, through our podcasting have I
we I've been talking about this the other day, how
much more informed I feel about the world now that
I've taken We've taken a focus onto news all day long. Like,
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I just feel so much more informed. I feel so
much more capable of understanding things when they happen because
we have made a point to read and study, not
just from one outlet, not just from a source that
reinforces what I think I believe, but actually exposing ourselves
to lots of different thoughts and opinions. And it's been
incredibly rewarding and valuable. All right, And here is the
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final mistake of man, according to Marcus Tullius Cicero, attempting
to compel others to believe and live as we do.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Man, we should add that quote at the bottom of
every morning run. Ain't that the problem with us? Ain't
that the truth? Man? Say that one more time for
the people in the back.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
This is one of the biggest mistakes man can make,
attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.
He had that figured out before Christ was born, and
we still can't figure it out today in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Man, that's the root of so many of our issues.
And there's so much of our lack of peace and
lack of love in the country because it's okay we disagree,
even on like really big moral questions. We disagree. But man,
what a mistake to look at that person expect them
to do what you do, live how you live, and
think how you think.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
But just check yourself, because it's not just other people
who do it. We all do it in small ways
where we kind of think our way is the right way,
our beliefs are the correct beliefs, and we don't leave
any space for any other way of doing or thinking.
And we all do it. Each one of us is
guilty of that. So when we start to go into
that mindset, you start to recognize that you're thinking that way,
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and in a way, that's probably when you go into
defense mode. Check yourself, acknowledge it, recognize that you're doing it,
and say I'm going to stop right now because my
way isn't the only way. My beliefs aren't the only
right beliefs. There can be a room for so many
other ways of thinking, and how beautiful if we can
actually start living that way and thinking differently and doing differently.
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So I loved those mistakes that we can all learn from,
and the first step is acknowledging that we do all
of them in some way, form or fashion, and we
can all do better. So with that, everyone, thank you
for listening to our Sunday morning run. I'm in the
Roeboch alongside TJ. Holmes.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
We'll talk to you soon.
Welcome everyone to your Sunday morning run. It's Sunday, October fifth,
and this is the morning where we go over our
quotes of the week, hopefully getting you a little inspired
and certainly maybe getting your headspace in the right place
as you start your work week. And so we will
begin with our quote. And I love this because it
(00:22):
is Breast Cancer Awareness month. In case any of you
haven't heard, this comes to us from a breast cancer survivor.
And I say that because her quote comes from hard
earned wisdom. This is from Regina Brett. She's an American
author and a survivor. And Thriver burn the candles, use
the nice sheets where the fancy lingerie, don't save it
(00:42):
for a special occasion. Today is special.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, spoken like someone who thought her life might not continue,
spoken like someone who has an experience, a life and
a lived experience. It takes something sometimes, this disease, surviving
an accident, where people start to look at the world
and look at life differently. And why why wait till tomorrow?
I've done this as silly as it sounds with clothes,
(01:11):
it sounds so stupid, But I'll look as that. Oh,
I'll save that for when da da da da. I'm
doing something that I just put it on. I know
it's a weird little thing to compare it to, but yeah,
I think about that sentiment often.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I always think of this when it comes to fine wine, age, whatever.
We're waiting for that special occasion to pop the champagne
or to pour that wine we've been saving for someone
or some other occasion down the road. It's just a reminder, Yeah,
wear the outfit, drink the wine, you.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Know, enjoy your life.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Call your mom, like, do the things that you're putting
off that you think I'll wait and do that later.
You just don't know what tomorrow brings. So I just
think it's such a good reminder. And yes, burning candles,
we do that too. We save the candle. I don't
want to burn it all.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
It smells so good.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I want to save it for when people are over,
when someone else can enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Now, burn the candle and then buy another one if
you can.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
You know, just we actually got into a subscribe and
save thing with our candles so that we don't feel
guilty about burning our candles. But I feel like that's
a universal feeling. People are trying to not waste and
save it for a rainy day, but today's the day.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
What's the light the sideways? Right? Is that the movie? Yes,
about the wine? Where what's his name? Paul? Is it
Paul Giomanni Geamoni? That line about the wine. He said,
everybody's waiting for a special occasion to open this bottle
of line opening. It is the special occasion. I love
that he has a line in there. Always remember that's
(02:38):
very cool.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
So Regina Brett says, this, burn the candles, use the
nice sheets, wear the fancy laingerie, don't save it for
a special occasion. Today is special, all right. Our next
quote comes to us from the author of Seven Habits
of Highly Effective People. Many of you may have read
that book. If you haven't, it's excellent. I haven't picked
it up in a long, long, long, long time, but
(02:59):
it's by Steven and I love.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
We actually used this quote in our morning run.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I think the following day with the news story that
was a clear example of this. But here's what he
had to say. You can learn great things from your
mistakes when you aren't busy denying them.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
That was the lady with the who took the headband
from the kid at the football game.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
She denied, she denied, she denied, and then she had
to put up a second post saying oopsie, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Yeah, that's step one. Everybody listening right now has somebody
they can immediately think of in their lives that just
won't change because they won't admit that they are the
problem or admit that they were wrong. Or you can't
ever move on from that. You can't move you can't. So, yeah,
you gotta get out of your own way.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
It's our ego, it's our pride, and we're so And
I get this. It's a human thing to want to
defend yourself immediately, and by defending yourself, you're denying the
harm you caused. You're denying the mistake you made. But
if you actually really can take a beat, take a
break before you launch into that, which I've really I've
personally been working on this and say, wait, deep breath,
and then learn from the mistakes you made.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
First.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
You have to admit you made the mistake before you
can learn from it. And that's the hardest part, isn't it.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
So I love this.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
You can learn great things from your mistakes when you
aren't busy denying them. All right, Our next quote of
the day is just a reminder. And this is when
I actually would love to just put on my nightstand.
No matter how good or bad you have it, wake
up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else
(04:39):
is desperately fighting for theirs. Who was this again, this
didn't have anyone attached to it. This is something sometimes
I find quotes that are just circulating on social media.
People put them up and there's no attribution. I think
a lot of folks have said different versions of this,
But the way this one was phrased, I really appreciated.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Yeah, I like that one. I mean, we talked about
this time last week when it was in the morning.
Run this idea of comparative suffering, all right, this idea
that somebody has it worse than you or whatever it
may be. I don't subscribe to that. But this quote,
and at least the way they put it, is just
more about gratitude than comparison.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I think it's more.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
About gratitude and about perspective.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Sometimes, yes, we don't want to not acknowledge how we're
feeling and not acknowledge some of the sadness or disappointments
that we've had in our lives. So that's important, I
think to process and to cycle through. But to dismiss
how you're feeling and just say, well, someone has it worse.
That's usually not effective and not helpful.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
In any way.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
But this is when you first wake up.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
When you first wake up, you.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Can set the tone for your entire day if you
keep this perspective in mind, no matter how good or
bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for
your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Love that all right.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
This one also isn't attributed to anyone specifically, but.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
We actually talked about this as.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
We We've been doing a lot of travel lately, and
we're lucky and I'm grateful to be able to do so,
to see family, friends and football. But it can get
messy and complicated and stressful. So I loved this quote.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
It can.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
It does almost always stressed well. I think, yes, when
you're trying to make sure you've got everything you need
and you get to the airport on time, the lines,
like you know, we just get we get bogged down
in the messiness of life and wanting things to be easier.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I thought you're talking about the family stress.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh no, that's the fun part.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Arriving.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Just getting there is the hard part sometimes, but just
in general, throughout your day there are all sorts of
little annoying hiccups, and we have this feeling that somehow
it's not fair.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Right, So I love this quote.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
The minute you stop expecting life to be simple, fair
and easy, it becomes simple, fair and easy.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
I can't lie be simple.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
You stop expecting it to be, then you have an acceptance,
and then it does become that.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Oh sweart that that terrain left a long time ago.
Any hope I had of having a simple life, Oh no, no, no, no, no,
I wish that could be the case. But no, man,
think back, to think back to all the parts of
your life you're most proud of. It probably wasn't a
simple time.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
No cool, No, it's that's so true.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
And look your mom my mom told me growing up
life isn't fair, like get used to it. That was
something that I heard repeatedly as a child. And so
once you kind of get to that place of acceptance
where things are complex, things are unjust, and they're difficult.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
My parents didn't have to have that talk with me.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I understood comparative suffering.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
I understood. I'll compare on this one. I'll play the race,
gud it's fair.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
No, But I get that.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
And it is one of those lessons that there is
an expectation some for some people more than others, that
it should be different, that it should be this way,
and that's that's not the point of life. The point
of life is to learn and to love. And you
don't learn and you don't really understand love until you've
gone through the tough times. I just, I truly believe that.
So the minute you stop expecting life to be simple,
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fair and easy, it becomes simple, fair and easy, all right.
I on Friday loved this one for you, TJ, because
this sounds like something you would say, and then when
you found out who said it, it made a lot
of sense. US Army General Gordon R. Sullivan said this,
Hope is not a strategy.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
I get that.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I hope it works out, really, Ah, I just hope.
I don't know. Hope should be kind of the side dish.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
I'll take this with a side of hope. But it's
got to be some hard work. It's got to be
some focus, it's got to be something a plan even
instead of just hope. It sounds like something in general would.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Say, right, because look, I love the idea of hope.
I think we need hope in our lives. I think
losing hope is probably one of the bleakest experiences you
can have in life, when you lose all hope. To me,
that is as dark as it gets. However, you put
in the work, you put in the discipline, you put
in the effort, and yeah, at a side, it's the flavor,
(09:24):
it's the sauce of hope. But knowing that you did
all you could to get where you want to go,
to become what you want to be, that's the most
important part of it. And yes, I love the idea
of keeping hope alive. I love the idea of always
hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. I mean,
that's what they say, right, So this kind of speaks
to that in a way.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Im't You're about to do a Jesse Jackson impression in
there keep hope alive?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Well, I mean there is something to that. However, hope
is not a strategy. All right, when we come back,
we're going to go over a bonus quote that I
found here and it's really it's less of a quote
and it's more of an instruction from someone who lived
at one hundred and six BC. I love these when
(10:11):
you get the old school philosophers who knew more about
how we're living today than we even probably know as
we're living it.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
But this is what.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Marcus Tullius Cicero says are the six mistakes of man.
When we come back and welcome back to your Sunday
morning run and we have your bonus quote, it's more
(10:41):
of a little it's a little bit more than a quote.
It's it's the six mistakes of man, as written by
Marcus Tullius Cicero. He has he was born in one
hundred and six BC died at forty three BC, so
this is an ancient words of wisdom basically. But man,
I love everything Marcus had to say about the six
(11:03):
mistakes of man. The first mistake the illusion that personal
gain is made up of crushing others.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
There are six. Yes, we're gonna do it one at
a time.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Well, I was just gonna get to if you had
an initial reaction, great, if you don't, I'll move on.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
I did. Is that an understanding is that we feel
like that the only way we can get to the
top is that somebody else has to suffer for us
to get there. That's a mindset. It's almost people take
pride in crushing others. They take pride in beating others.
We look down the hallway. Wait, there's another woman who's
blonde hair, blue eyed. She must be destroyed. It's true,
(11:42):
all right. I've been in plenty of hallways. Look down
the hall very few black folks, so white it's just
me and him. Only one of us is going to
be allowed to stay on this floor. Like that mindset.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Take a gladiator mindset. Basically, we all can't win. It
has to be one or the others.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
It's a big mistake. I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
One big mistake. The illusion and the personal gain is
made up of crushing others. Number two, the tendency to
worry about things that cannot be changed or corrected.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Do that all day, all the time we spend This
is what most people do all day long.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I think it's one of the biggest mistakes we make
in life.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Right now, folks, tell me what are you worried about?
And when you add today, go holy hell. I can't
do anything about that.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
I can't change it, I can't correct it. So yes,
that's the second.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Biggest mistake of man, the tendency to worry about things
that cannot be changed or corrected. Third mistake insisting that
a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it. Huh
So it's you're defeating yourself. You're not giving yourself the
opportunity to overcome something. We insist that something is impossible
(12:42):
because we can't accomplish it. How many people throughout the
history of the world have proven that wrong.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
We limit ourselves.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Man, what a cop out.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
I definitely fall prey to this.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
This just can't be done.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
What do you mean, Well, I just feel like someone
was like, that's impossible. There's no way I'm going to
be able to do that. I actually I had that
mindset about marathons for the longest time. For me, that's
a personal about face, because I watched my dad do it,
and I truly believed that it would be impossible for
me to finish a marathon. And it took me going
through breast cancer to recognize that I could push myself
beyond where I thought I could. I was stronger than
(13:16):
I thought. We always hear that but really, how many
times have you limited yourself because you actually thought something
was impossible because you couldn't accomplish it. Push yourself and
see what happens. So don't insist that something's impossible because
you can't accomplish it.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
I love that, all right.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Next mistake of man refusing to set aside trivial preferences
is mean. So if you want something a certain way,
you insist that they are that way because you prefer it.
You are causing suffering to yourself, causing suffering to others
(13:54):
because you insist it has to be your way, your
personal preference.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Like you could be something as trivial as I.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Want the dishes cleaned this way, or I want my
food prepared that way, or you know, just but you
start to try to control everything, and so you actually
suffer because you of your personal preferences and they're trivial.
It doesn't really matter you. People can do things a
million different ways and they all can be okay and good.
So we kind of have to let go of these
(14:23):
preferences that we push on other people and even on ourselves.
I think that's a really cool way to find peace.
The next one neglecting development and refinement of the mind
and not acquiring the habit of reading and study.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Man, you got you should learn something every single day?
How agree with that?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
We neglect our minds sometimes, and we neglect the fact
that we always still have more to learn, That we
need to actually create a habit of reading and study.
And you and I actually, through our podcasting have I
we I've been talking about this the other day, how
much more informed I feel about the world now that
I've taken We've taken a focus onto news all day long. Like,
(15:12):
I just feel so much more informed. I feel so
much more capable of understanding things when they happen because
we have made a point to read and study, not
just from one outlet, not just from a source that
reinforces what I think I believe, but actually exposing ourselves
to lots of different thoughts and opinions. And it's been
incredibly rewarding and valuable. All right, And here is the
(15:36):
final mistake of man, according to Marcus Tullius Cicero, attempting
to compel others to believe and live as we do.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Man, we should add that quote at the bottom of
every morning run. Ain't that the problem with us? Ain't
that the truth? Man? Say that one more time for
the people in the back.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
This is one of the biggest mistakes man can make,
attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.
He had that figured out before Christ was born, and
we still can't figure it out today in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Man, that's the root of so many of our issues.
And there's so much of our lack of peace and
lack of love in the country because it's okay we disagree,
even on like really big moral questions. We disagree. But man,
what a mistake to look at that person expect them
to do what you do, live how you live, and
think how you think.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
But just check yourself, because it's not just other people
who do it. We all do it in small ways
where we kind of think our way is the right way,
our beliefs are the correct beliefs, and we don't leave
any space for any other way of doing or thinking.
And we all do it. Each one of us is
guilty of that. So when we start to go into
that mindset, you start to recognize that you're thinking that way,
(17:00):
and in a way, that's probably when you go into
defense mode. Check yourself, acknowledge it, recognize that you're doing it,
and say I'm going to stop right now because my
way isn't the only way. My beliefs aren't the only
right beliefs. There can be a room for so many
other ways of thinking, and how beautiful if we can
actually start living that way and thinking differently and doing differently.
(17:21):
So I loved those mistakes that we can all learn from,
and the first step is acknowledging that we do all
of them in some way, form or fashion, and we
can all do better. So with that, everyone, thank you
for listening to our Sunday morning run. I'm in the
Roeboch alongside TJ. Holmes.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
We'll talk to you soon.
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