Embracing Servitude to Live a Meaningful Life - David Meltzer - Relentless Hope with Steve Gatena

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let us pray. But it shall not be so among you.
But whosoever will be great among you, let him be
your minister. Matthew twenty twenty six. Dear Father, I am
so grateful for your mercies. You are so loving and faithful.
Please help me to be as loving and forgiving as
you are. Please help me to understand that greatness is

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more than achievements or material possessions. Greatness is found by
following you and serving others. Allow my desire to serve
to be as strong as yours. Help me to see
and take part in every opportunity where I can be
of service to others. May you continue to guide me
along the path to greatness. Amen, thank you for joining

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us in prayer. Now for the Relentless Hope Podcast, where
we bring you true stories and personal testimonies that will
help you love your life, lead with purpose, and leave
a legacy of helping others.

Speaker 2 (01:08):
When we center Jesus in our lives, he teaches us
how to be good servants. He shows time and time
again that it is far better to give than to receive.
He demonstrates how to serve others by genuinely loving and
caring for them Jesus never turned anyone away. Wherever he
was called, wherever he could most help, Jesus went, and

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he did so humbly, never seeking rewards or validation. He
simply sought to help change people's lives for the better,
to ease their suffering. Jesus is truly the ultimate example
of a servant leader. Through him, he has shown us
on how we can serve God and our fellow brothers
and sisters on this journey through life. Because no matter

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where we find ourselves, no matter what position or title
rest besides our names, no matter if we are rich
or poor, no matter where we live or the mistakes
we've made in the past, God is calling us to
serve him, to use the gifts that He has given
to us, to help those less fortunate, to love our neighbors,

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and to serve Him in inspired ways that he comes
to show how each of us can serve Him in
our unique ways. This week, in Relentless Hope, Award winning
humanitarian and CEO of Sports One Marketing, David Meltzer teaches
us about becoming vessels for service. We hear about David's

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journey from becoming a millionaire in his twenties to holding
prominent CEO positions at major business and entertainment companies to
his fall into bankruptcy. David reveals how he came to
realize that he had to start living with purpose, passion,
and profitability so that he could live a life of service.

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We hear how David learned to become an appreciator and
to feel grateful for everything that he was, and how
he learned to add value and.

Speaker 3 (03:03):
Then give it away.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
David teaches us to be leaders of service, and he
says the two most important questions leaders can ask are
who can I serve? And who can help me? We
learn that leadership is a side by side relationship. As leaders,
we must inspire our people, but we also must be inspired,
and David shows us that inspiration comes from being in

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close relationship to God and Jesus. And we learn that
for David, leaving a legacy happens now. It's how we
choose to live today. As David reveals, he is trying
to live an inspired life being of service. He wants
to be a motivator, not a manipulator like he was
in the first part of his life. It doesn't matter

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if we serve in big ways or small ways. Everything
is equal in the eyes of God, and it doesn't
matter what we did or who we were yesterday. What
matters is that in this moment we choose to serve,
that we choose to listen, that we choose to be
in relationship with Jesus and God so that we can
live inspired lives, allowing them to direct where we can

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best serve for the highest and greatest good. After losing
everything he worked so hard to earn, David Meltzer had
to face one of the toughest challenges of his life.

Speaker 3 (04:27):
The hardest part for me it was two years later.

Speaker 4 (04:31):
I lost everything. I was already living my life. I
was already sealed Lee Steinberg Sports and Entertainment, the most
notable sports agency in the world. I had a job,
I was making money, but all the things that I
had done in the past, over extending myself, bought too
many things, didn't ask for help, had gotten and caught.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
Up with me and I had to clean bankruptcy.

Speaker 4 (04:53):
Hardest day of my life was waking up in the
morning and realizing Number one I had to go into.

Speaker 3 (04:58):
Work to least.

Speaker 4 (04:59):
E Iberg from the movie Jerry Maguire and Warren Moon,
The Hall of Fame quarterback and tell them that the
CEO that they had hired to be the midas that
they hired was a failure.

Speaker 3 (05:10):
He had lost everything. But even more.

Speaker 4 (05:14):
Terrifying to me was I had to first stop by
my mom's house and knock on her door and let her.

Speaker 3 (05:21):
Know that I had lost everything.

Speaker 4 (05:23):
But even more importantly, if you remember, the only reason
I ever wanted to be rich was to buy my
mom a house in a car, I actually had to
tell my mom not only had I lost everything, but
I lost her house as well.

Speaker 2 (05:39):
On episode one of this three part series, we hear
from the co founder and CEO of Sports one Marketing,
David Meltzer. Sports one is one of the leading sports
and entertainment marketing agencies that was co founded with Warren Moon,
from being the CEO of Steinberg Sports and Entertainment to
going bankrupt. This David Meltzer's life story.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
So I grew up in Akron, Ohio with a single
mom and six kids, five boys and a girl. And
the interesting thing is my mom was a teacher, so
we really didn't have anything. Although I was always happy.

Speaker 4 (06:19):
The only time I wasn't happy though, was when I
saw my mom crying because we didn't have enough. The
car broke down, dishwasher broke, she couldn't send us to
summer camp. She was worried as an educator, how she
was going to pay for college for five boys and
a girl, or graduate school. Since my mom believed the
fetus wasn't fully developed until after graduate school, she had

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great expectations, and looking back, the irony of my life is,
you know, I was always happy, even though growing up
in Akron, Ohio with nothing, two bedroom apartment and six kids,
I had every reason to maybe be frustrated. To that
point though in life was to be rich. And the

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reason I wanted to be rich was because the only
time I saw my mom unhappy was because of money,
and so in my mind, money would then buy the
only thing that I couldn't do, which was make my
mom happy otherwise, you know, because I'm extremely money motivated,
and a lot of people ask where that drive comes from,

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and it really has never been for me. It's always
been for others. And at a very young age, I
was driven to make money. The interesting thing was I
thought I'd make my money by being a professional football player.
And I know this is a recording but I'm five
foot seven and one hundred and one hundred and forty

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seven pounds. Getting out of high school, you know, the
chances were slim, but I did. I worked really hard
to be a professional football player, and I got a
scholarship to college. Interesting enough, by other five siblings, I'm
by far the athletic, but they're even far more academic
than I ever was. I was motivated by them, and

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all of them went to the IVY leagues full scholarships
to college academically. But I was sure that going to
college that I was going to be a professional football player.
And I had one skill that was different than most people,
as I could run scared faster than most people could angry.
I had a really big mouth, and I like to
talk trash to my older and younger brothers. And in

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two bedroom apartment, I learned to juke and jive really quick.
And when I got out into a football field, it
seemed like an endless amount of land for me to
run around in. And going to college, my first football
game my freshman year, I got to play and they
put me at the bullet, which is the farthest outside
person on the kickoff team, and it's usually the fastest

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person on the king.

Speaker 3 (08:51):
Team that runs down in order to tackle the ball carrying.
So I was so excited.

Speaker 4 (08:57):
Flying down the field first football game, a one hundred
and forty seven pounds of me, and sure enough I
get down there right as the ball gets to the
ball carrier and I hit him, and I thought, wow,
this is great, you know, first play. Ever, and next
thing I know, I was flying backwards up in the
air onto my back and the running back, the ball carrier,

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actually stepped on me and ran me over. As I
lied there, I realized that I better go to plan B.
And now, my mom always said, you know, it was
quite simple in life how to be happy and successful.
It was you're going to be a doctor, a lawyer,
or a failure. So the NFL wasn't included in there.
And so as I contemplated on my back, you know

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what I was going to do, I realized that I
think I better figure out academically how to be a doctor.
Funny enough, though, the guy who ran me over ended
up to be Christian A. Koye who was the AFC
Running Back of the Year the next year, and his
nickname was the Nigerian Nightmare and I still have Nigerian
nightmares to this day, although it was nice that I

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got his first signature ever the size thirteen shoe right
in my chest. So I went to be a doctor.
I was pre med at a very good college and
really started to change my perspective on things to diversify
my interest and use my mind not just my speed

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or my fear, and focusing in on, you know, the
academic side of things. I started realizing that, you know,
my siblings weren't smarter than me, they were just better students,
and you know that focus and attention that they gave
to academics. Once I moved over my focus and attention
from athletics, that I could easily compete in an academic

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realm with them. And I did learn a second lesson
though it's interesting. I have was a sophomore in college
with my oldest daughter and I realized that the only
one ever to get to be in my family. But
what I realized when they were getting straight a's is
that it takes twice as much work to get straight
a's than it does to get all a's, and to

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be if you have the skill set to do so.
That that's how much extra effort it takes to reach perfection.
And it was a really interesting thing because my daughter,
who's driven and you know, just genetically driven, I actually
have to tell her, you know, takes half as much
work to get always going to be and you can
have a better time in school then you don't always

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have to get straight a's. I go at the end
of the season back to be a doctor. I went
to go visit my oldest brother and he was doing
his residency at UCLA, and I went to visit him
in the hospital. And this was the most valuable lesson
of my life because I walked in and looked at
him and I said, gosh, I hate hospitals. And he

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looked at me, almost going to fall over. He goes, Dave,
you're pre met, He goes, and you hate hospitals. I
thought you wanted to be a doctor. I go, yeah,
I do want to be a doctor. I want to
be a sports doctor, you know, on football fields and
baseball fields, or maybe be a pediatrician and help kids.
He said, you know, you have to be in a
hospit it will to be any kind of doctor, don't you.
And I looked at him as an eighteen year old

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with no clue, like really, and he's like yeah, really,
and he gave me this valuable lesson. He said, David,
you need to be more interested than interesting. You need
to be more interested than interesting. And that hit me
at a core because later on in my life, I
ran the most notable sports agency in the world. I

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build my own TV show, podcast, speak books, I currently
have a globally renowned sports marketing agency, and kids come
up to me, all these eighteen year olds with the
best intentions in the world, Mister Meltzer. I want to
be just like you, and I want to be a
sports agent. I want to be a producer. I want
to speak. And I think to myself, you know about

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as much about what I do as I knew about
being a doctor. And so I give them the same
piece of advice, and I continually give myself the same
piece of advice every day, to be more interested than interesting,
to be an appreciator, to you know, go beyond what
I feel is coming to me, to understand more. And
I think that one slight different. It's a difference that.

Speaker 3 (13:08):
I take in my life of people who think, Gosh,
I got to do this.

Speaker 4 (13:12):
Or I get to do this. Those who are more interested.
They get to do everything because we're in search, we're seeking,
We're seeking something valuable, inspirational so that it can come
through us for the benefit of others.

Speaker 3 (13:25):
Well, I immediately.

Speaker 4 (13:26):
Changed my mind and once again followed my mother's guidance
of being a doctor, lawyer or failure. So I decided
I'd better be a lawyer, because I know you didn't
have to be in hospitals.

Speaker 3 (13:36):
To be a lawyer.

Speaker 4 (13:38):
And so I went to law school and I studied
in New Orleans, learned both civilian and common law, which
civil laws international laws to Napoleonic Code. Is the only
school in America that taught both of those. And I thought,
going to be rich. I'm going to buy my mom
this house in a car, and I'm going to make
a lot of money being a litigator, an oil and
gas litigator.

Speaker 3 (13:56):
I studied maritime law.

Speaker 4 (13:58):
I was still interested in sports law, but at the
time they really didn't have sports law programs. There wasn't
that specialty. Although Two Lane Law School where I went
was one of the top sports lawyer programs. Although they
didn't have a whole curriculum, they had a club and
Dean Roberts was world renowned in sports law. I graduated,

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did very well in law school, and I had two
job offers. One was to be an oil and gas
litigator and make a lot of money, and the other
was to work in the internet and selling legal research
online for a legal publisher out of Minnesota. So I
went to my trusted advisor, my mother, and I asked her, mom,
what should I do? And she's quickly, without thinking, said

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you absolutely have to be a litigator. You need to
be a real lawyer because this internet thing, this internet
thing's a fad.

Speaker 3 (14:49):
Now.

Speaker 4 (14:50):
I don't know how much prey dot com costs, but
I imagine that most of us understand that the Internet's not
a fad. Second lesson for life on that day that
I thought about was just because somebody loves you doesn't
mean they give you good advice. And so many of
us make so many bad decisions seeking counsel from people
that care and love us, whether it's family members, friends, associates.

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We take advice off of the mere fact that somebody
cares about us. But in the end, what we want
is situational knowledge, experience, and expertise. And I learned that
day that to ask a second grade teacher about the
Internet in the early nineties was a big mistake, and
that I went ahead and sought better counsel of people

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that understood technology could allow me to understand the opportunity
that was presented to me. And sure enough, in nineteen
ninety five, about three years into my career, we sold
West Law West Publishing for three point four billion dollars
to Thompson Reuters. That's when a billion dollars was a

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lot of money. Not many companies sold for a billion,
let alone three point four million. And it changed my life.
It changed my life because I bought my mama house.
I bought my mama car. I was a millionaire nine
months out of law school. By the way, I kind
of skipped that. That's when I bought my mama house
in the car and paid off my law loans. But

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the sale of the company changed my life. Now I
had everything I could ever dream of. I still needed
to work. I was only in my twenties. I branded
myself a technology guru with no technology experience, just sales skills,
and I went to work in the Silicon Valley. I
raised one hundred and sixty nine million dollars for a

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company called every path in the wireless proxy server space,
transcoding the Internet onto wat phones and Palm sevens and
other weird devices that were too big and too expensive,
and then attracted into my life being CEO of Samsung's
first phone division, the pceephone. It was a computer and phone,

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the world's first Windows See device. Throughout my career, even
in school, I managed to attract all of these extraordinary people.
I was kind of like a forest gump. It didn't
matter where I was. I was able to surround myself
with the right people and the right ideas. And as
I led Samsung into the manufacturing being the second largest

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manufacturer in the world of phones, I ended up realizing
that I had outgrown my welcome. I wasn't capable of
building a company to that there was only so far
my sales skills could go. I was a great face person,
being able to represent a company and talk to talk,
But in the end.

Speaker 3 (17:43):
I was asked to leave.

Speaker 4 (17:45):
And I always tell people, if you're asked to leave
a company, or might as well get paid a lot
to be asked to leave.

Speaker 3 (17:49):
And took me years to admit to people.

Speaker 4 (17:52):
I always told people that you know, I semi retired
and I left because things were going so well.

Speaker 3 (17:59):
When I left SUNG.

Speaker 4 (18:00):
The PC phone Company, I had every single thing I
ever wanted. If I didn't have it, I could buy
it my wife. I had three daughters at the time.
My wife I had met in the fourth grade and
I loved her.

Speaker 3 (18:14):
She hated me.

Speaker 4 (18:15):
I threw an egg at her because my friend asked
her to go steady at sixth grade camp and she
said no and embarrass me.

Speaker 3 (18:21):
So I decided an egg and the.

Speaker 4 (18:22):
Hair was the best resolution, and later on we reconnected.
After I went to law school, got married, had these
three beautiful children, my dream girl, and I was building
my dream home when Rancho Santa Fe in San Diego.
Being a VC an Angel real estate developer, anything I
wanted to do I could do. The interesting thing is

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when I finished my home. The first day, laying in bed,
I looked up at the ceiling and for the first
time in my entire life, I wasn't happy. I had
no passion, no purpose. I had every.

Speaker 3 (18:58):
Single thing that I wanted to and so what I.

Speaker 4 (19:00):
Started to do is I started to buy things, thinking, oh,
that'll make me happy, and it didn't. And then I
bought different things thinking oh, that'll make me happy, and
it didn't. And then I bought more things, thinking that
would make me happy, and it did. And I started
a terrible spiral of self sabotage, surrounding myself with the
wrong people and the wrong ideas, not living an inspired life,

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not living of service, not living with purpose, passion or
profitability anymore. And I had three real key warnings about
what was about to happen when I was thirty years old.
Was the first one. Don't talk about my father as
much because he left when I was five years old.

Speaker 3 (19:39):
I'll try to get through this without choking up.

Speaker 4 (19:41):
But my dad was my hero, right a father, super cool, successful,
he retired and raced horses.

Speaker 3 (19:50):
He had a beautiful new wife. He was my hero.

Speaker 4 (19:54):
And at ten years old, my dad forgot my birthday.
And at ten years old, that was crushing to me.
You can imagine not just your father, but your hero.
And what he did was instead of being accountable because
he had six kids and he wasn't living with us,
and he had his own life and his own issues
going on living in Houston, Texas, Godam in California, what

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he did was projected insecurity by telling me that he
didn't forget my birthday. That he loved me so much,
but he just didn't believe in birthdays. And so not
only did he punish me by forgetting my birthday, but
then he then continually punished me by never celebrating my birthday.
And my dad went from my hero to someone that

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I hate. In fact, I's been three years not talking
to him. Well, at thirty years old, I get a
birthday present for the first time in twenty years.

Speaker 3 (20:46):
A big box came to my door.

Speaker 4 (20:48):
I opened it up and it's a beautiful sport code
with a beautiful card from my dad saying, happy birthday.

Speaker 3 (20:54):
I'd love to talk to you.

Speaker 4 (20:56):
And I put the jacket on and it fit perfectly,
which actually meant more to me than anything, because the
man he took the.

Speaker 3 (21:03):
Time to call my wife or my mom or someone
to get my exact measurements to have this custom made
for me.

Speaker 4 (21:09):
And so as I'm calling him, and I have him
on the old five and one speaker of fax phones,
and I call him up and he's on the speaker
phone and I'm trying it on so excited, and I'm like, Dad,
thank you so much.

Speaker 3 (21:21):
I got the jacket and as I say that, I
opened it up.

Speaker 4 (21:24):
And all the pockets were ripped out of the inside
of the jacket.

Speaker 3 (21:28):
And I literally was crushed again.

Speaker 4 (21:30):
I'm like, he's punishing me. Like what, I go, Dad,
I can't wear this jacket. And he said, well, it's
not meant for wearing. He said, well why did you
send me? And like rolled my eyes. Why did you
send me a jacket that's not meant for wearing? He said,
cause I want you to hang.

Speaker 3 (21:44):
It in your closet.

Speaker 4 (21:45):
He said, all right, why, he said, I want it
to be a reminder, a reminder that you can't take
anything with you. I don't want you to make the
same mistakes that I've made. I don't want you to
put your values in the world place.

Speaker 3 (22:01):
He said.

Speaker 4 (22:01):
I don't only be the richest man in the cemetery.
I want you to look at that jacket every day.
So that was the first warning about what was going
to happen. The second one, I was playing golf with
my friend Robbie, who's actually the one that asked my
wife to go steady at sixth grade camp, my oldest
and best friend. I hadn't seen him in almost a year,
and we were playing golf, and I asked him, why
don't you hang out with me anymore? This is after

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I had retired out of Samsung. And he looked at
me in the eye and he said, because I don't
like who you hang out with. And I looked back
at him. I said, come on, man, I don't do
what those guys do. And he said, you can lie
to me, but don't lie to yourself. That was a
big warning about why you surround yourself with the right
people and the right ideas. And then finally I came

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home no more than a week later, and I had
been up at the Grammy Awards with Little John the
Rapper and drinking and other things that I shouldn't be doing.
And I came home at five point thirty in the
morning after lying to my wife, where she confronted me
at the door and told me she wasn't happy when I.

Speaker 3 (23:04):
Came down the next morning, told me I better take
stock in who I was, what I wanted.

Speaker 4 (23:09):
To become, and how I got there, and it scared me.

Speaker 3 (23:14):
And that's where my life changed.

Speaker 4 (23:16):
I took stock in who I was for values of
what I realized I needed in my life, gratitude, empathy, forgiveness,
accountability and effective communication, the ability to inspire others, but
more important, they allowed inspiration to.

Speaker 3 (23:30):
Come through me for the benefit of others. To be
of service.

Speaker 4 (23:34):
I changed my prayer in the morning to not how
much or what I could have for me. I was
always an optimist, so nothing ever happened to me. I
wasn't a victim, and I teach people all the time,
you're not a victim. But moreover, things always happened for me.
I would be stopped at a red light. I'm like, oh,
it's happening for me. Everything I'm in God's favor, It's
all in my benefit. But I realized through the impetus

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and catalysts of my wife that things happened through me,
that I needed to be an appreciator, that I needed
to be grateful for everything I had and add value
to it. Things appreciate, they go up in value. And
through this change, I changed my prayer every morning to
God and said, maybe put ten people in front of
me that I can help. And that's when my life

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started changing. The hardest part for me it was two
years later I lost everything. I was already living my life,
I was already sealed. Lee Steinberg Sports and Entertainment, the
most notable sports agency in the world. I had a job,
I was making money, but all the things that I
had done in the past over extended myself, bought too

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many things, didn't.

Speaker 3 (24:39):
Ask for help, had gotten and caught up with me,
and I had to claim bankruptcy.

Speaker 4 (24:45):
Hardest day of my life was waking up in the
morning and realizing Number one, I had to go into
work to Lee Steinberg from the.

Speaker 3 (24:52):
Movie Jerry Maguire and Warren Moon, the Hall of.

Speaker 4 (24:54):
Fame quarterback and tell them that the CEO that they
had hired to be the mightiest that they hired was
a failure.

Speaker 3 (25:02):
He had lost everything. But even more.

Speaker 4 (25:06):
Terrifying to me was I had to first stop by
my mom's house and knock.

Speaker 3 (25:11):
On her door and let her know that I had
lost everything.

Speaker 4 (25:15):
But even more importantly, if you remember, the only reason
I ever wanted to be rich was to buy my
mom a house in a car I actually had to
tell my mom not only had I.

Speaker 3 (25:24):
Lost everything, but I lost her house as well. That's
what I learned unconditional love. Because my mom looked me
right in the face without blinking and said, that's okay.
Are you, okay, do you need any money? Not blinking.
Not for me. It was all.

Speaker 4 (25:40):
About being of service to the person, her son, who
she cared the most about. And I knew at that time,
although I lost everything that living my life of service
and being of service and inspiring others to inspiring others to.

Speaker 3 (25:56):
Be happy, everything would come back to me rapidly and accurately.

Speaker 4 (26:00):
I went to work, told Lee when I got my
first paycheck, I remember taking it home. I'd lost everything.
My house is, my cars, my boats, every single thing
you could think of. I'm now living in a rental
house with rental furniture. And I took my first paycheck home.
My wife's pregnant with our fourth child. I have three daughters,
none of them in college, none of them married. And

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I got that first paycheck and I asked my wife,
I'd like to give part of the paycheck to create
a scholarship at my high school for Warren Moon's foundation,
the Crescent Moon Foundation. I had gotten a scholarship to
go to school. My siblings have all got scholarships to
go to college. And I felt that that was important.
And I looked at her and I said, is this okay?

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And she said to me, well, you finally get it.
For years, my wife had been telling me as I
had everything, I didn't understand.

Speaker 3 (26:52):
I didn't get it. And I said, what do you
mean you don't get I got everything. I'm the one
to look around you. I was so arrogant, you know
now She says, oh, you finally get it.

Speaker 4 (27:02):
And I said I think I do. I trust the
universe and she said, then double that check.

Speaker 3 (27:07):
This is our first check.

Speaker 4 (27:08):
My wife's pregnant. So I looked at her and said,
I don't trust the universe that much.

Speaker 3 (27:14):
But we worked our way up.

Speaker 4 (27:15):
And I tell that story because people have to realize
that giving's not easy, givings, not trading. I didn't give
to get, but eventually, what happens is your vessel, and
when things happened through you, if that only happened for you,
you're going to fill up.

Speaker 3 (27:31):
There's not going to be enough room. And that's what
happened to me.

Speaker 4 (27:33):
Everything was happening for me, and pretty soon I had
too much and I had no purpose, no passion, and
I was overflowing and didn't know what to do.

Speaker 3 (27:41):
I didn't feel worthy of everything, because you don't know
what you have until.

Speaker 4 (27:45):
You've given it away, that's when it is recognized. And
so I started living my life with things coming through
me for the benefit of others. And the more that
I did it, the bigger of a vessel I was.
Because I was just an appreciator. I was grateful for
every single thing that I have, and moreover, I added
value to it by being of service and giving it away.

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And to this day I have more than I've ever had,
and I live with passion, purpose and profitability.

Speaker 3 (28:15):
In order to have clarity.

Speaker 4 (28:17):
On what we want in order to be a leader,
we need to have balance of our values and we
have to have prioritize balance, not equilibrium balance, it just
changes as the time goes by.

Speaker 3 (28:32):
That then allows us to have focus.

Speaker 4 (28:34):
Which gives us confidence, and confidence is something that allows
us to lead.

Speaker 3 (28:40):
People are attracted to confidence. It's a higher vibrating energy.

Speaker 4 (28:43):
When we are more confident by having clarity, balance and focus,
than we're able to lead to effectively communicate and take
the inspiration that we have and inspire others with that information.

Speaker 2 (29:01):
On episode two of this three part series, David Meltzer,
CEO of Sports One Marketing, tells us what the four
important parts of leadership are He teaches us how we
can be of service to others, putting our faith in
the right things and having radical humility. As David always says,
don't be afraid to ask others for help.

Speaker 4 (29:26):
Leadership is one of my favorite topics to talk about,
and that's because I think most people think of a
leader in front of everyone and pulling them along somehow
inspiring them. And for me, leadership is so much different.
Leadership is a side by side relationship, how we command

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each other, we work with and leadership not only is
it within two people or everyone, what I call effective
communication of a leader. Most people think that leader is
inspiring others I see it far beyond that. It's a
leader needs to be inspired and that's the true thing.

Speaker 3 (30:09):
So they need to.

Speaker 4 (30:09):
Have a relationship to that which inspires them. And I
don't care what you believe in God, Dudu, Jesus, Mohmed,
Joseph Smith, it doesn't matter to me. But you have
to live an inspired life. And we have to understand
that we are going to have obstacles, void shortages, challenges
in our lives. And the key is how quickly can
we come back to that center? How can we come

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back to that relationship, that which inspires us, because we
can't give what we don't have, and that inspiration has
to come through us as leaders. To be of service,
There's two simple questions a leader must ask well. The
first is how can I.

Speaker 3 (30:45):
Be of service?

Speaker 4 (30:46):
The second is do you know anyone that can help me?
The first one seems obvious, You know, how can we
be of service? Everyone loves to give the energy of giving.
If I'm in a big group where I'm speaking, I'll
say who here loves to give? Everyone immediately raises their hand.
The more interesting thing is when I ask who here
loves to receive?

Speaker 3 (31:08):
Most people are.

Speaker 4 (31:08):
Either hesitant in raising their hand or don't raise their
hand at all. It's because we don't feel worthy, because
we don't have purpose and.

Speaker 3 (31:15):
Passion behind our receivership. Being a leader allows others to
be in a position of receivership. When I say being
in receivership.

Speaker 4 (31:24):
What I mean is that we have to be open
to receive in order to allow it to go through
us and appreciate it, add value so we can benefit
other people. Two words that a leader must live by,
and I used to tell everyone that most important two
words in life are thank you. You can say thank
you before you go to bed, when you wake up,

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you say thank you to anything that happens or occurs
in your life, and it will make it better. That's
because our lives, what we project, our perspective is based
on the past and the judgment that we have to
have to the past in order to project the future
that we want or the perspective that we want is gratitude,
and so thank you obviously allows us then to project
the future that we want. Where most people put faith

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in the wrong thing, they put faith in the past,
and then they get exactly what they don't want, which
is the same results in the path without having an
inspired gratitude or gratefulness or those two words thank you,
but more powerful. Most people can handle thank you. It's
just creating the habit of it, which is difficult. But
where most people have problems being a leader because in
their minds it's conflictual or anti congruent, and that's radical humility.

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Leaders need to be radically humble. Leaders need to ask,
do you know anyone that can help me? Most leaders
are of service, but they're afraid to ask for help.
Where I live, my entire life in receivership where I
know that I need help.

Speaker 3 (32:55):
I need to find the people.

Speaker 4 (32:57):
The ideas that already have the situationational knowledge, and experience
to accelerate what I'm trying to do. I don't need
to experience everything myself, and in order to be an
effective leader, I need to ask for help. And the
other inherent part of radical humility is the ego. Two
things that get in the leader's way. One is time.

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We all live in a linear timeframe, a man made
construct of twenty four hours. Everyone on Earth thinks they
have twenty four hours, and as productivity and accessibility goes,
absolutely you have twenty four hours of activity, and I
suggest you try to be as productive and accessible as
you can, meaning accessible to others to be of service
as well as accessing the information and help that you need.

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But each individual has their own multi dimensional understanding of time.
It's all different. It's based off of the purpose of time,
which is to keep us present, to stay present with
that which inspires us so that we can appreciate, be
grateful for, and add value to.

Speaker 3 (34:00):
Everything that we're receiving. It's so difficult as a.

Speaker 4 (34:03):
Leader to communicate because our egos are always in our way,
and when we are inspired in spirit of service, we
are out of our own way. The ego includes the
need to be right. One of the tragic flaws of

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most leaders is the need to be right. I can't
tell you how many leaders fail because they have a
need to be right. I can't tell you how many
marriages feel fail because we have a need to be right.
The next one is a need to be offended. The
ego carries a need to be offended and is a leader.
So many leaders feel a need to be offended by
things that are done to them or for them, not

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through them. Then you have the separation of the ego.
The ego has a need to be separate. Most leaders
feel as if they have a need to be superior,
which is generated by the need to be in fear
and the need to be separate. Is a tragic flaw
of most leaders that they don't see the commandments that

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are within ourselves as leaders to work with everyone. And
if you look at the political atmosphere today in America,
that's our biggest problem is everyone has different visions and
values and policies and all the different things that should
be discussed where they should be focused in and working
on is working with each other because this is one country,

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this is one world, and instead of putting faith in
what we don't want, putting faith into objections and ego
based issues, we should be putting faith into working together
and listening to each other. Now, there's three types of listeners,
and then this is part of getting out of our
own way as well with the ego. There are a

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lot of listeners that are interrupters. And when I say listeners,
I mean learners because the only way we can learn.

Speaker 3 (36:01):
Is to listen.

Speaker 4 (36:02):
So those are two very similar words, listener and learner. Well,
not just with each other. Remember we communicate two ways
with each other, but also with that which inspires us.
If you're an interrupter, what happens is you're not learning
or listening to what inspires you. Right the universe God.

Speaker 3 (36:23):
Keeps telling you do this, do this, and we just
ignore it. No, this is what I want. We're not
watching the signs.

Speaker 4 (36:30):
Are aware it's there every day for us, but nope,
we're an interrupt her. We're gonna tell tell you God,
We're gonna tell you universe where we want or other
people are telling us, right like the signs that I
got No, Nope, Really, look around you.

Speaker 3 (36:45):
I don't get it.

Speaker 4 (36:46):
Look around you, Look at my big house, look at
my ferrari. Right, I wasn't listening. I wasn't a learner.
Then there's another.

Speaker 3 (36:54):
Group of people that are delayed learners. I call them waiters. Now.

Speaker 4 (36:59):
They pretend like they're listening to God or the universe.
They pretend like they're listening to others, but what they're
doing is in their head. They're just thinking.

Speaker 3 (37:05):
About what do I have to say?

Speaker 4 (37:08):
Right you're talking, or all of the signs and awareness
around me, but I just can't wait to tell you
what I think.

Speaker 3 (37:15):
Once again, are you kidding me? Look around you? All
of those different things. That's a waiter or delayed learner.

Speaker 4 (37:23):
Now a true learner. A true learner is someone who
processes all the information by being accessible. Accessible is a powerful.

Speaker 3 (37:32):
Word in appreciation because you.

Speaker 4 (37:34):
Have to number one, be accessible to others to be
of service and access help. How can I be of service?
Do you know anyone that could help me? Two simple
words to guide you through and to be a leader.
The next part about leader. To be a leader is
to understand your own values. There's four values that you

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have to understand, because if you don't understand your own values,
you can't be of value based leader. You become a manager,
not a leader if you're not value based. Right, we're
teaching people how to file papers, what to do, what
to say, what to think, but we're not teaching them
what to believe, or we're not molding their energy or
genetics in an unconscious competency that has a higher vibration

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and a higher ability to inspire others, to inspire others
to be happy. So we need to know number one,
what are our personal values as a leader our integrity,
our character, our love, our family, our health. We need
to know for ourselves what those personal values are. Secondly,
we need to know our experiential values. Where do we

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value all of these different things that we're going to experience, education, business, knowledge,
online and from all these different experiences travel. The third
giving values? Where am I giving values? How am I
of service? What am I going to do for others?
What does it do for them? And then finally receivership.

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Receiving values. Now where most people get confused when they
especially a leader, when they look at the values, they
look at it idealistically, meaning that I should have a
completely balanced life. Twenty five percent of my life should
be for my personal values. Twenty five right, and we
equate out six hours a day of the twenty four
hours in a day, six hours of personal, six hours

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to experiential, six hours to giving, and six hours to receiving.
That's not how it works. In order to live an
inspired life and to be a true leader, we need
to know the appropriate times and percentages to give to
those values. Sometimes we need ninety percent of our time
on our personal values, sometimes ninety nine percent on our giving,
and sometimes ninety nine percent on our receiving.

Speaker 3 (39:42):
In order to have clarity on what we want.

Speaker 4 (39:46):
In order to be a leader, we need to have
balance of our values and we have to have prioritize balance,
not equilibrium balance. It just changes as the time goes by.
That then allowsows us to have focus, which gives us confidence.
And confidence is something that allows us to lead. People

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are attracted to confidence. It's a higher vibrating energy. When
we are more confident. By having clarity, balance and focus,
then we're able to lead, to effectively communicate and take
the inspiration that we have and inspire others with that information.

Speaker 3 (40:23):
And those values are very important.

Speaker 4 (40:25):
In order to help people formulate and prioritize their own values,
we need to empower them as well.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
And what we need to empower them.

Speaker 4 (40:34):
With are what you derive as your own core values
from personal experiential giving and receiving. So for me, there's
four things that I teach as a leader. Number one
is obvious. It's gratitude. I teach people to say thank
you before they go to bed and when they wake up.
I tell them, if they can do it for thirty
straight days, that it will change their lives and start
becoming part of their subconscious and even their unconscious competency.

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I tell people all the time it's one of the
most challenging things that you try to do. Most people,
when I ask them, who here thinks they can say
thank you for thirty straight days, will raise their hand immediately.
And the saddest thing is by to night, half of
them can't. By the next morning, another half won't, and
within three days almost all of us will stop. In fact,
I was teaching this stuff and writing books about it,

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and it took me nine months in order to literally
say thank you before I went to bed and when
I woke up for thirty straight days without missing. Very
difficult thing because the human mind, that ego is in
our own way. There's always a fear of loss, there's
always an ego. The need to be right, offended, separate
in fear is superior. There's a need for fear, anxiety, guilt,

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all these different needs get in our own way, and
it's amazing how we can't do something every single day
when that's the nature of values. That's how we get
from the cellular memory into the neural pathways over subconscious,
the forty thousand of the same thoughts every day, running
around inspired thoughts that are connecting us where to our unconscious,
to spirit, genetic and energetic, the highest vibration, allowing everything

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to happen. Leaders allow things to happen. They don't make
them happen. They're in no control. A radically humble leader
will allow everything to happen rapidly and accurately inspire others
to do the same for the benefit of others. It's
a really simple formula. Now, the second thing beyond gratitude
is empathy. Empathy is different than what most people think of.

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When I ask them what do you think empathy is?
They immediately say, oh, it's walking the mile in somebody's shoes. No, No,
that's sympathy, right. I can't feel bad enough to make
anyone feel good. I can't be sad enough to make
you happy. I can't be poor enough to make you rich,
and I certainly can't be sick enough to make you well.
Empathy is so much more powerful because it's forgiveness. If

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you can combine gratitude appreciation with forgiveness, understanding that we're
all on a journey trying to do these things and.

Speaker 3 (42:58):
Live out a higher cell.

Speaker 4 (43:00):
We're all in a new definition of happiness, not being
as rich as you can so you can buy your
mom a house in a car. Not attaching my happiness
to when I graduated high school. I'll be happy college.
I'll be happy when I'm a doctor. I'll be happy
pro football player. I'll be happy when a millionaire. I'll
be happy when I'm married. I'll be happy when I
have my kids. I'll be happy when they graduate and
leave the house.

Speaker 3 (43:19):
I'll be happy. That's not happiness. Happiness is the enjoyment of.

Speaker 4 (43:24):
The consistent, every day, persistent without quit, pursuit of my potential.

Speaker 3 (43:33):
What is potential?

Speaker 4 (43:33):
The truth, the inspiration, the higher self. In some religions
they call it Christ, the higher self, the higher being.
And when you're enjoying the inconsistent, persistent pursuit of your potential,
when you're enjoying the higher self of being a parent,
a community member, of a leader, that's where true purpose, passion,
and profitability all me. That's where you live an inspired life.

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That's when you can allow things to come through us.
But it doesn't happen without forgiveness, because we can't give
what we don't have, and if we're separate from others,
we cannot lead. And when we realize that we're all human,
that we make mistakes or sin every day, that we
have to move forward, we have to make a judgment

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of gratitude and forgiveness on our past so that we
can project an appreciated future, not the same faith of
what we had in the past, Because if we're dwelling
with guilt and fear of loss and all these different
things on my past, I'm just projecting the exact same
thing into my future. Because the universe, our God, it's
going to give us exactly what we want, and we

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put faith in the wrong things, it's going to give
us the wrong things.

Speaker 3 (44:39):
The problem is people think that faith and hope only
work one way. It doesn't.

Speaker 4 (44:43):
It works towards the judgment of the past, projecting into
the future, and with forgiveness and gratitude, we are only
living better lives not only for us, but through us
for others. The third thing in values of leaderships is accountability.
Accountability is really tricky, especially because I went to law school.

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You know, I came home and challenged my mother because
she had a great line with six kids, quick parenting
advice though, because I know this is about leadership, and
my mom is one of the best leaders I've ever met,
raising six kids, all who went to the ivy leagues.

Speaker 3 (45:16):
I'm the low end of the gene pool and I've
done fairly well. But she literally used to say, best.

Speaker 4 (45:21):
Parenting advice that I have for you, wake your kids
up by five am. They'll be too tired to do
anything bad by the time I get home. But anyway,
my mom used to always say, you live in below
the line.

Speaker 3 (45:34):
I'm like, what do you mean? She said, you're living
and blame, shame and justification.

Speaker 4 (45:40):
Stop blaming your siblings every time that you're do something
wrong instead of just forgiving yourself and being accountable. You
go below the line, you blame somebody else, you're justifying it,
or you're shameful of it. No be accountable. Realize there's
only two questions to ask as a leader. Number one,

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what did I do to attract this into my life?
And two? What am I supposed to learn from it?
Once again going back to judgments of the past, if
you take that perspective that you're in control of your
life only in one way by the fact that you've
allowed it to happen as a leader, and it's a
blessing because you're going to learn something from it. Every

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single thing that's happened in my past is a blessing.
I tell people all the time. The biggest miracle of
my life is losing everything. Because I wouldn't be where
I am today. I wouldn't be in the pursuit of
my potential. I probably would be dead or somewhere I
don't want to be. But for the fact that I
got to restart, that I had an awakening, that I
had a quantum shift in my life, that I started

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putting faith and being of service, not of receiving things.

Speaker 3 (46:47):
And I'm living an.

Speaker 4 (46:48):
Empowered, purposeful pursuit now of my higher self. Am I perfect? No,
that's where my forgiveness comes in. But I am accountable.
And where the law school made me confuse is I
went to my mom, I said, Mom, how is it
I could be sitting at a stop sign and somebody
texting could run into the back of me. How am
I accountable for that? And she said, this is where
people fail is they confuse liability with accountability.

Speaker 3 (47:13):
Right, we have normal.

Speaker 4 (47:14):
Laws here, California state laws, federal laws make people liable
for damages. So don't go in front of a judge
when you get hit from behind and say, oh, I'm accountable,
because they're not going to understand the distinction between liability
and accountability.

Speaker 3 (47:27):
They're not going to give.

Speaker 4 (47:28):
You what you deserve under the laws of this pragmatic world.
But know in your heart there's only one question to ask,
what did I do to attract this to myself? And
then what am I supposed to learn from it? Even
something that seems so powerless. So live your life as
a leader above the line and accountability and then finally

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effective communication, really understanding how you stay inspired. One of
the biggest questions that I get from my following is
all the time? How do you stay inspired? How do
you stay motivated? How do you have so much energy?

Speaker 3 (48:02):
Well?

Speaker 4 (48:02):
I use an analogy of a car sitting on top
of a hill in San Francisco. Right when the car
sits on top of that high hill knob Hill in
San Francisco, all it takes is one finger to hold
it up there. It sits right on top of it.
When that car starts rolling downhill, the more we let
it roll, the more energy it takes. And in fact,

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in my life I used to let the car just
roll all the way downhill all day long, and sometimes
I'd load stuff into the car while it was going
down downhill.

Speaker 3 (48:30):
I'd give it more energy.

Speaker 4 (48:32):
And then when I got home at night, I wonder
why that car ran me over every single night, invariably
putting faith into the wrong things, putting my energy, my
attention intention on the wrong things, and then being run
over with no inspiration at night, wondering how am I
going to get up tomorrow? I feel like the Nigerian
nightmare just ran me over again. Well, what happens if

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our perspective shifts we start understanding inspiration and awareness and
understanding the faith and hope and the power that we've
been given to help and to be of service. So
the car invariably will start moving downhill at one point
in our day. What if, instead of trying to jump

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in and put faith into what's happening with the car,
ignore it or go with it and add energy to
the problem. What if instead of reacting, all we do
is get the car back up to center at the verio.
So the minute the quicker we can get it, the
easier it is to push back up to center. Then
we deal in gratitude, empathy, accountability, and effective communication inspiration.

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So how do you stay inspired is don't allow yourself
to become uninspired the minute that we feel time or
ego getting in our way, go back to center. Now,
prayer and meditation are the same things to me, prayer
and menute. People get confused when you say I meditate.
What is meditation?

Speaker 3 (49:54):
It's prayer, It's prayer. Right.

Speaker 4 (49:57):
I breathed in my nose out through my mouth. I
put it into positive thoughts. What I want for the world,
for a better place. How can I be a better person?
Raise my awareness? Meditation is prayer, and I pray for
twenty minutes a day when I wake up, I call
it meditation. But I pray. I think about what I
want and how and why I want it and how

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I'm going to get it, and I do it with
radical humility as a leader that I'm not alone, that
I am going to get out of my own way
and allow everything that I want to come to me
rapidly and accurately.

Speaker 3 (50:34):
And how do I do that? Very simple?

Speaker 4 (50:36):
When I pray, I think about what I want immediately,
giving me a mathematical advantage as a leader over everybody else.
Why Because the minute I realize and clarity, balance and
focus with confidence with that I want, it's a possibility,
a mathematical advantage over most people on earth.

Speaker 3 (50:52):
I have a possibility.

Speaker 4 (50:54):
And then if I can be inspired, if I can
think about my values and I can feel inspiration in
connection right and connected to goodness, connected to God, connected
to what I believe in that inspiration, I now have
even a bigger superior advantage because my possibility when I'm
inspired becomes a probability, a probability, a mathematical advantage. I

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haven't left my my eyes haven't even opened.

Speaker 3 (51:19):
I've just been praying. Every morning.

Speaker 4 (51:22):
I take by being of service and being inspired every
possibility of what I can think about what I want
and I make it a probability. What is the possibility?
The why?

Speaker 3 (51:31):
The inspiration is my probability. And then all I.

Speaker 4 (51:34):
Gotta do is get out of my own way, be
aware of the ego, the car rolling down the hill,
the time, anxiety, guilt, separation, inferiority, superiority, all these things
and use strategy number one. Strategy very simple. How can
I be of service? And can you think of anyone
that can help me? Discipline, do stuff every day. I

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prioritize and I do stuff religiously every day in the
pursuit of my potential.

Speaker 3 (52:01):
And finally, awareness.

Speaker 4 (52:02):
Awareness is the greatest gift that you can give, only
given by possibilities and probabilities of how awareness is elevating
yourself a higher vibration, a higher self, so that you
can be aware of making the right choices according to
the foundational values that you want for you and those
you lead in commandment with you, working with you.

Speaker 3 (52:23):
That is awareness. Awareness is the greatest gift that you
can have. Why.

Speaker 4 (52:26):
It'll tell you whether to go to left or right
once again, saving your marriage. It'll tell you when to
buy or sell. It'll tell you when to buy yourself.
I can make all of us in this room a
billionaire in two seconds if you know when to buy
and sell. What most importantly, awareness makes you an appreciator,
makes you grateful for.

Speaker 3 (52:46):
Every single thing you have and allows you to add
value for it to others.

Speaker 4 (52:52):
And if you can take your possibilities every morning, turn
them into probabilities and allow things to happen with strategy, discipline, awareness,
not only will you be happy, but you will empower
other people to empower others to be happy.

Speaker 3 (53:07):
And that's what I wish for everyone. I learned this.

Speaker 4 (53:11):
I was in my twentieth anniversary in d Broadneck and
I went to cross the bridge pouring down rain, and
I didn't have an umbrella, and I'm walking really swiftly
and in complete humility.

Speaker 3 (53:26):
There was a beggar.

Speaker 4 (53:27):
About at the first third of the bridge, and the
bridge is about a half a mile and he was
just on his knees, folded ebos to the ground and
wasn't looking up, just hands out and because it was raining.
One of the things I've learned in my legacy is
I don't pass by those who need right because then
you're not living in a world and more than enough.

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Trust me, you live in a world of just enough
or not enough. You're gonna attract just enough and not enough.
I live in a world and more than enough. Therefore,
if somebody has their hands out, I'm gonna give something.
I'm gonna give what I can. Well, it was raining
and it was cold, and I'm with my wife on
my anniversary, dressed up, and I walk by and I
see those hands and I don't stop. And every step

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that I take with her faster and faster, it's drawing
me back.

Speaker 3 (54:16):
Mine now is so much.

Speaker 4 (54:18):
Different because mine now is being of service. And how
can I expect others to help me if I'm not
willing to help myself. And I get almost two thirds
across with the pouring down rain, and it did not stop.
And I looked at her and I get I gotta go.
She's like, You're gonna run there without me to the
other side. I'm like, no, I gotta go back. You
forgot your cell phone. No, I gotta help him.

Speaker 2 (54:44):
On episode three of this three part series, David Meltzer,
Award winning humanitarian, international speaker and best selling author and
chairman of the Unstoppable Foundation teaches us that legacy is
all about what we do. Now we learn it is
important to be a motivator and not a manipulator. We

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must always be the leader that helps people in need.

Speaker 4 (55:11):
The last question that I ask every week on my
podcast is what legacy do you want to leave? And
it's amazing because I have Ray Lewis and Daily and
danik Ka Patrick and you know, the president of Starbucks,
and I never, I never can guess what the legacy

(55:32):
is going to be. Sometimes the legacies that we talk
about involve our children. What I think is most important
about legacies to understand the theory of relativity and oneness.
Because what I find the answer is that vary from
all the people I ask about their legacy, is they
get caught into some sort of realm of relativity. When

(55:55):
we understand that we're all connected, that we're all relative
to one some people are more relative to us than others.
You know, I have an intimate relationship with my wife,
which makes her one of the most relative people in
my life. And the legacy that I want to live
and provide in that one relative relationship, there is a

(56:17):
legacy that I want to provide and I have to
bifurcate all the different legacies that I want to leave. Now,
how's the legacy created?

Speaker 3 (56:26):
Though?

Speaker 4 (56:27):
That's where John Day gave me the most interesting answer,
because he says, you know, legacies, bs, it's what.

Speaker 3 (56:34):
I do now? What's the purpose of time? Now? Now?
Is the purpose of time.

Speaker 4 (56:42):
Through the multi dimensional reality that we live in our
own time, in our mind compared to the pragmatic man
made constructive time. What we do now is our legacy?
And how is it relative to all the different people
all the way out to you know, some of the
people that I see on TV or the Internet that

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aren't living in.

Speaker 3 (57:04):
The pursuit of their potential, that made have.

Speaker 4 (57:06):
Mental illness or some sort of ego based issues that
are uncontrollable. I used to watch things that I would
see on the internet and say, how am I one
with that?

Speaker 3 (57:16):
How am I one with evil?

Speaker 4 (57:18):
As I read about certain you know, tragedies and horrific
things that happened, you know, even here today in California,
as we had a tragedy the other week at a
bar and then we.

Speaker 3 (57:29):
Have the fires, and how am I one? How is
that part of me? Because that's not my pursuit. It
is my legacy.

Speaker 4 (57:39):
It's my legacy of how I make it relative to me?
How is some innate evil relative to me? Am I
going to be? There's a story that I grew up
with in my culture about you know, the Holocaust, and
you know, I grew up Jewish culture in my life

(58:01):
and my brother who is a famous rabbi, but they
tell the story about first they came for the Italians.

Speaker 3 (58:09):
I wasn't Italian, so I didn't care. So how's it
relative to me? What's my legacy? You know?

Speaker 4 (58:15):
Then they came, you know, for the Asians. I wasn't
Asian and so I didn't care. Then they came for
the tall people. I wasn't tall, so I didn't care.
Then they came for the Christians and I wasn't Christians.

Speaker 3 (58:28):
I didn't care.

Speaker 4 (58:28):
And then they came for the Mormons. I wasn't Mormons,
so I didn't care. Now they come for me, and
there's no one left.

Speaker 3 (58:37):
That's the legacy.

Speaker 4 (58:38):
That's the understanding of relativity that you need to be
a leave a legacy to everyone, to a one is.
I will leave a certain legacy to my wife, I
will leave a certain legacy to my children.

Speaker 3 (58:52):
I want to leave a certain legacy to my community.

Speaker 4 (58:55):
I want to leave a certain legacy of content for everyone,
those that I don't know.

Speaker 3 (59:01):
I want to leave a legacy with my relationship.

Speaker 4 (59:03):
To God, which is solely an individually mind that I
don't have to put any judgments on anyone. I want
people to be inspired by that which inspires them. I
want to leave a legacy of empowerment, of life and leadership.
Legacy is so important because if we are pursuing our

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potential and we're focused in on the now, the legacy
will take care of itself.

Speaker 3 (59:31):
Once then once again.

Speaker 4 (59:33):
Which has to go back to all the core values
of what we're pursuing, our personal values, and how is
that going to create a legacy for us, our experiential values.
I leave a legacy of my business. I leave a
legacy of anyone and everyone I touch. I tell a
story talk about legacy. We don't understand the blessings and

(59:54):
the value that we have as appreciators. Sometimes asks you
what you want to live your legacy as a depreciation
of all that's relative to me. I want to be
an appreciative of all this relative to me, which means
I want to be grateful for everything that's happened and
everything that's come through me, but add value to it.
Now I'm in the pursuit of that. I joke around

(01:00:14):
and say a legacy. I put it down in my signature.
Two things that are interesting about my email signature that
I've changed as I've been given accolades and awards and
what I call, you know, the non inspirational types of
things that we deal with.

Speaker 3 (01:00:29):
I used to list them out.

Speaker 4 (01:00:31):
I had a top author and podcasts and TV show
and you know, I'm looking at it as an email
and going who cares? Instead, I changed it to one
simple line rests ipsiloquitor. That would speaks for itself. That
would speaks for itself. That's my legacy. Now, is it

(01:00:52):
all going to be positive?

Speaker 3 (01:00:54):
No? Because I'm a human. I have made mistakes. I've
made mistakes.

Speaker 4 (01:00:58):
I lived the first part of my life as a manipulator.
A legacy of a manipulator. And there's people that no
matter what I do, I will always have.

Speaker 3 (01:01:07):
The legacy of being a manipulator.

Speaker 4 (01:01:09):
I oversold, I back end sold, I manipulated even sometimes
lied to people.

Speaker 3 (01:01:16):
I did it. I did it, and I.

Speaker 4 (01:01:18):
Would venture to say almost everyone that I've met, if
they can illuminate and be accountable and honest, have done
the same things at times in their lives. I have
forgiven myself for that, and I have asked for forgiveness
for others through the forgiveness that I have for myself.
But that's part of my legacy. Losing everything is part
of my legacy. Legacy doesn't have it's what people do

(01:01:41):
with their legacy that now of that legacy. And not
to be ashamed. I don't want. I don't carry negative
energy towards any of the things that I did in
the past because I can't do anything about it, and
it's reps. I's a low quarder that which speaks for itself.
But I will tell you over now, over a decade,

(01:02:03):
my pursuit of being a motivator, a leader, to live
in service, to be of service, to be an appreciate
every single thing I do, I try so hard to
be grateful for and to add value to it and
allow it to come through me for the benefit of others,
without the fear of loss, without the ego, the need
to be right, offended, separate and ferior, superior, guilty, shameful, unworthy,

(01:02:26):
all the different things of the ego.

Speaker 3 (01:02:28):
That exists every day. You know, your legacy is just
like working out.

Speaker 4 (01:02:33):
Someone asked me today and one of my coaching calls,
you know how you know, how long does it take
if you do something every day to get it into
your unconscious competency?

Speaker 3 (01:02:42):
Say?

Speaker 4 (01:02:42):
I don't know, but I know the system works from
the cellular memory to the neuropathways into your.

Speaker 3 (01:02:48):
Energy and genetics.

Speaker 4 (01:02:49):
You can actually deactivate and activate the DNA that you want.
But I will tell you this, it's just like working out.
You know, you can be in the best shape of
the world in the world, but if you stop using
those muscles, sooner or.

Speaker 3 (01:03:02):
Later, it's going to revert to where you were. Now.

Speaker 4 (01:03:06):
You build up a resistance, you have a better longevity,
You have a better legacy of your own physicality, of
your own conscious, subconscious and unconscious, your own legacy.

Speaker 3 (01:03:15):
But you need to be consistent.

Speaker 4 (01:03:18):
The two key phrases of the definition of happiness of
the enjoyment of the consistent persistent pursuit of your potential
to me is the pursuit and the consistency. Because to me,
if you're consistent and in pursuit, everything else follows, you're
gonna enjoy it, You're gonna be persistent, and you're going
to reach your potential every day. So the two keywords

(01:03:40):
are can you consistently pursue something? Can I consistently be grateful?
Can I pursue that every day? But we have in
order to do that, we have to understand our legacy
of what we're leaving behind or what we're doing when
we say leaving behind. There's another element just came to me.
I always say that the past projects our future. Well,

(01:04:03):
our legacy is how the past perceives us. Our past
perceives us.

Speaker 3 (01:04:11):
So most people think of legacy in terms of my legacy.

Speaker 4 (01:04:14):
When I die. Everyone in the past, how they perceived
me is that by the Dave Meltzer Sports Law Excellence
Fund at Tulane University. I joke around and say, you know,
with the different things that I see in schools, I
walk around in every building out of college is named
after somebody, and I think to myself, how many people
do I know whose names on the building At the

(01:04:34):
two universities that I went to, all the millions and millions.

Speaker 3 (01:04:38):
Of dollars that were raised through ego, I don't remember
any of them.

Speaker 4 (01:04:42):
I don't know what any of the name buildings are.
I don't know who those people are, and they must
have significant but they left the legacy.

Speaker 3 (01:04:50):
They left the legacy. It's not their name on the wall.

Speaker 4 (01:04:53):
Their legacy is providing an opportunity for others to learn
and all.

Speaker 3 (01:04:58):
I don't know the person that.

Speaker 4 (01:04:59):
Gave them a need of my scholarship to college, but
there's a big legacy because of what I've been able
to do with that. I never would have been able
to go to college but for the fact that somebody
put up money to my university for me to go there.
And now I've been able to do the same thing
for hundreds of people to go to school, and Warren Moon,

(01:05:19):
my business partner, hundreds of people. You know, the legacy
of now is whatever you've done up until now, and
who is relative to.

Speaker 3 (01:05:29):
You in that matter, because you never know.

Speaker 4 (01:05:32):
I'm a chairman of the Unstoppable Foundation, and one of
my favorite stories is this gentleman who was sponsored in
Africa by a woman. He didn't know who she was,
but she gave a couple dollars a day and she
paid and continued to pay for him until he graduated.
From Harvard, became a very successful human rights lawyer, changed

(01:05:55):
millions and millions of lives, and at the time he
wanted to find this lady and he always thoughts, she
must have been this rich woman, you know, who was
his benefactor who changed his life.

Speaker 3 (01:06:06):
But it wasn't. It was a teacher like my mom,
living in a one bedroom apartment who gave enough money
every single day for him to affect a million what's
her legacy? What is her legacy? What's her now?

Speaker 4 (01:06:22):
And your legacy is every single day of your life.
You carry your legacy with you. And I work on
my legacy only to be of service and to ask
for help because I don't know, and I can't.

Speaker 3 (01:06:36):
I can't, you don't.

Speaker 4 (01:06:38):
I always say, you know, if you look far enough
into somebody, you're gonna find the same thing as everybody else.

Speaker 3 (01:06:45):
Everyone makes these mistakes, and that's part of my legacy.

Speaker 4 (01:06:49):
I say, illuminate the negative party of your legacy so
others can do like you and learn from it and
find the miracle or blessing in it. I look for
blessings and purpose into everything. I tell a story walking
in the UK and there was a homeless woman talking
about legacy homeless woman on the street. All she had

(01:07:09):
was a pen and a paper and I walked by
her and I was drawn to her, and I said,
excuse me, ma'am, how can I be of service?

Speaker 3 (01:07:17):
What can I do for you?

Speaker 4 (01:07:19):
And she looked at me with her pad of paper
and pen, and she said, I'll sell you this for
a million dollars.

Speaker 3 (01:07:25):
I chuckled, like everyone else, not.

Speaker 4 (01:07:28):
Understanding blessings purpose or value, true blessings, purpose or values.
And I said, well, I really can't do that, but
can I buy you something to eat? Or here's twenty euros?
You know, with that help? She said no, I said okay,
and I kind of looked at my wife and walked away.
Now I made up that story to prove a point,

(01:07:50):
because what if that lady was JK. Rowlings and what
she offered me for a million dollars was a multi
billion dollar property from the richest woman in the UK
as she sat there homeless. Everyone else with a different
legacy and perspective, not a perspective, not a legacy of
finding the blessing and value and appreciation in everyone. We're

(01:08:13):
so stuck in a pragmatic world of twenty four hours
in a monetary gain that we don't understand that the values,
the appreciation is far beyond our awareness or belief and
legacy and understanding legacy is not just our own because
everyone else is relative to us. So what's going to
be your legacy to me? And how can I illuminate

(01:08:35):
the things and forgive the things that you may do
that may not be the things you want in your legacy?
But I guarantee you this as my signature above. Dave
Meltzer rests ipsoloquid or what it says is unconditionally, unconditional judgment,
no condition, no judgments of my past or of yours,

(01:08:58):
full faith that we're all doing our best. Now, are
there some people out there that are mentally ill and
do things that don't make sense? Yeah, it's an issue,
But I have full faith that everything has its purpose
and its reason. I have full faith and gratitude in
every single thing that happens, and I will illuminate not

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only what I do, but what others do for the
benefit of others, not just the unconditionally, as is my
mom when she was told that I lost her house
and unconditionally just said, how can I be of service?
Do you need anything instead of worrying about herself. That
moment to my life changed my signature forever. Now the

(01:09:40):
real signature should read hypocritically because I think it would
make people feel more comfortable that we're all hypocritically living life,
because we all make mistakes every day. One of my
favorite things when I started new training or have a
bunch of people, I love to start out by saying,
who here has made a mistake, and everybody raises their hand,

(01:10:02):
right when I have new employees and everyone just raise
their comfort level to understanding their legacy. Our legacies are
made not just by our achievement and our successes, but
by how we have reacted to the legacy of mistakes,
the legacy of imperfection, the legacy of hypocrisy. Now, to me,

(01:10:24):
it's amazing how some people can devoid themselves of time.
I look at Nelson Mandela and I think of a legacy.

Speaker 3 (01:10:34):
What was his legacy?

Speaker 4 (01:10:35):
His first year in jail, What was his legacy? Is
fifth year in jail, what was his legacy? The tenth
year in jail? What was the legacy? The twentieth year
in jail, his twenty fifth year in jail, his twenty
seventh year in jail. It changed, his legacy changed, and
today his legacy is tremendous. The legacy of Einstein of Disney.

(01:10:59):
What was the legacy of Disney when he went bankrupt
for the sixth time and he had to go home
to his wife and say, Hey, sorry, I've lost everything
and really failed again. But don't worry, because I'm gonna
create a kingdom about a mouse. Everything's gonna be okay.
Our greatest icons of legacy have all had one thing
in common, tremendous failure as their legacy. Tremendous manipulation, tremendous ignorance.

(01:11:27):
They had to learn Abraham and the Bible read it right.
He was eighty years old. There's a long line of
mistakes that were made Einstein. Einstein is You ask anyone
in the world, not just the United States, in the world,
who's the ein kind? What's the einkin the icon for genius?

Speaker 3 (01:11:46):
Everyone?

Speaker 4 (01:11:47):
Invariably Einstein, really, because part of his legacy, part of
his legacy was when he was creating equals mc squared,
was to be ostracized because nobody else believed it or
understood it.

Speaker 3 (01:12:00):
His relativity to his.

Speaker 4 (01:12:01):
Community was an extraordinary poor one, and he made a
ton of mistakes, He got divorced and caused all kinds
of human stress. When you ask people who and what
is genius, they say Einstein. When you say entertainment, six
bankruptcies in all types of manipulation and mistakes.

Speaker 3 (01:12:20):
Right, we all say Disney. We all say Disney.

Speaker 4 (01:12:24):
Isn't it incredible? When we look in the Bible, who
do you say Abraham? Go ahead and read about what
happened to Abraham? Is he got until he was eighty
years old?

Speaker 3 (01:12:32):
Then? Amount of mistakes?

Speaker 4 (01:12:33):
But what's Abraham's legacy? What's Moses's legacy? What is your legacy?
I'll tell you what your legacy is. Your legacy is
your now And the purpose of time is now. And
if you can live unconditionally and be an appreciator and
living in the core values of gratitude, empathy, accountability, and

(01:12:56):
effective communication, if you can live your life and pray,
make God put ten people in front of me that
I can help. Can I be of service? And more importantly,
can I find somebody that can help me? Every time
we ask for help. What we're doing is making a
statement that we are not whole without others.

Speaker 3 (01:13:15):
That's why we make mistakes.

Speaker 4 (01:13:17):
Because if the more people that we all put together,
the less mistakes we're gonna make. Because everybody has their
own core competencies, conscious, subconscious, unconscious. As we join everybody
together as one, as we command and work with each
other for the benefit of all, that's when the whole,
the oneness happens. That's when the motivator comes the legacy

(01:13:39):
that we're looking for.

Speaker 3 (01:13:40):
What legacy does? Really?

Speaker 4 (01:13:41):
Everybody want to be happy, right If I could guarantee
you happiness from the time you open your eyes till
the time you close.

Speaker 3 (01:13:49):
It would be enough.

Speaker 4 (01:13:50):
I ask questions that question around the world, and invariably
everybody says, yeah, of course, if I could just be happy.
The funny thing is I never talk about economics, I
never talk talk about health, I never talked about relationships.
Happiness is enough. Happiness is what creates our legacy. And

(01:14:10):
it's not just enough for us to be happy because
our vessels aren't big enough. We need to empower others,
to empower others to be happy. And I don't care
if you can change one life as a legacy, one
hundred lives, a million lives, or a billion lives, which
some people are able to do.

Speaker 3 (01:14:28):
It doesn't matter because your legacy is happening every day.
I learned this.

Speaker 4 (01:14:33):
I was in my twentieth anniversary in Dubrovnik and I
went across the bridge pouring down rain, and I didn't
have an umbrella, and I'm walking really swiftly and in
complete humility. There was a beggar about at the first
third of the bridge, and the bridge is about a
half a mile and he was just on his knees,

(01:14:56):
folded ebos to the ground and wasn't looking up, just
hand out And because it was raining.

Speaker 3 (01:15:03):
One of the things I've learned in my legacy is
I don't pass by those who need right because.

Speaker 4 (01:15:08):
You then you're not living in a world and more
than enough. Trust me, you live in a world of
just enough or not enough. You're gonna attract just enough
and not enough. I live in a world and more
than enough. Therefore, if somebody has their hands out, I'm
gonna give something. I'm gonna give what I can. Well,
it was raining and it was cold, and I'm with
my wife on my anniversary, dressed up, and I walk

(01:15:28):
by and I see those hands and I don't stop,
and every step that I take with her faster and faster.
It's drawing me back right Mine now is is so
much different because mine now is being of service. And
how can I expect others to help me if I'm
not willing to help myself. And I get almost two
thirds across with the pouring down rain and it did

(01:15:50):
not stop. And I looked at her and I get
I gotta go. She's like, You're gonna run there without
me to the other side. I'm like, no, I gotta
go back. You forgot your cell phone.

Speaker 3 (01:15:59):
No, I got to help him. I get choked up
because I ran back. I got there. I took all
the money in my pocket still to this day, I
don't know how many years it was, and I've put
it into his hands.

Speaker 4 (01:16:13):
I saw him look up. He looked at the money
and look up besides the rain. I could see tears,
tears of happiness. That didn't mean anything to me, but
it changed my life. Still today, I get choked up
thinking about it. That's my legacy for that day?

Speaker 3 (01:16:33):
Now? Is that my legacy for my life?

Speaker 4 (01:16:35):
No only to that guy, that one person who I
don't know his name, that's relative to me in the story.

Speaker 3 (01:16:42):
Itself, but that's not my legacy.

Speaker 4 (01:16:44):
I can tell you ten stories about shitty things excuse
my language, bad things that I've done, and I learned
from them so that that day came where I could
help that person. When you want to really worry about legacy,
you want to think about legacy, all you have to
think think about is now and being rest ipseloquitter, being unconditional,

(01:17:05):
enjoying the consistent, every day, persistent without quit, pursuit of
your potential to.

Speaker 3 (01:17:11):
Create the greatest legacy for all because we don't know
how far it reaches, and understanding that more some people
are more relative than others.

Speaker 4 (01:17:20):
But just because we leave a legacy to one, we
don't know how many it'll affect. And I want that
legacy for others to be that legacy of gratitude, empathy,
which is forgiveness, accountability and effective communication, a legacy of
living inspired life, be a motivator, not a manipulator. That's

(01:17:42):
what I wish my legacy to be every day as
well as everyone else.

Speaker 2 (01:17:49):
Sometimes we can get caught up in how much we're serving.
Are we doing enough? Are we helping enough?

Speaker 3 (01:17:55):
People?

Speaker 2 (01:17:56):
Is our service big enough? Are we serving in the
right way?

Speaker 3 (01:18:00):
Ways?

Speaker 2 (01:18:00):
And while these questions show that we care about being
of service, none of this really matters. God simply wants
us to serve, to be a servant, and to live
our lives for the benefit of others. How we serve
will look different from person to person. It may even
change in our lives from day to day. One day,
God may call us to serve him by simply smiling

(01:18:23):
at a stranger in the grocery store. Another day, God
may call us to serve him by buying a meal
for a homeless man. Another day, God might call us
to start a scholarship program at our school. There are
so many ways to serve God. In fact, every moment
is an opportunity to serve for the glory of God.
We simply have to be open and aware of how, where,

(01:18:46):
and to whom God calls us to serve. The most
important questions we can ask are how can we help?
Who can we help? Where can we help? And also
who can help us? Because we can't do everything alone.
And just as we're called to help some people, some
people will be called to help us. And that's okay.

(01:19:06):
This week in Relentless Hope, Award winning humanitarian and CEO
of sports one Marketing. David Meltzer taught us about becoming
vessels for service. After building a successful career in business
and entertainment, David went bankrupt and faced the painful realization
that he wasn't living an inspired life. He wasn't living

(01:19:27):
for service or with purpose, passion, or profitability. We learned
how David transformed his life so that he could live
a life of service, of giving and allowing all that
God is granted to flow through David for the benefit
of others. David also taught us about how leadership is
being of service, and he showed us that leaders need

(01:19:48):
to help others and be open to receiving help, guidance,
and inspiration too. We learned that leaders inspire others, but
also must be inspired themselves, and inspiration comes through having
a really relationship and connection with God and Jesus. David
encouraged us to make time every day to spend in
prayer and meditation, which can help us stay inspired and

(01:20:10):
motivated to be of service. And when it comes to
leaving a legacy, David encouraged us to focus on the
now on how we're creating legacies today. He invited us
to create legacies by finding the blessings around us, becoming
appreciators of everything that comes into our lives, by giving unconditionally,
and by living in service of others. Every moment God

(01:20:33):
gives to us, we have the amazing opportunity to take
what He's been given and add even more value and
then give it.

Speaker 3 (01:20:40):
To someone in need.

Speaker 2 (01:20:41):
This is how we show the glory of God.

Speaker 3 (01:20:44):
This is how we

Speaker 2 (01:20:45):
Serve God by receiving from him and giving, giving and
giving gladly and with love and peace in our hearts.

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