May 16, 2025 • 47 mins
She was forced to grow up quickly as a teen mom, but Farrah Abraham has created a positive social impact and turned it into a successful career. She opens up about her road to fame, dealing with the public's perception of her and learning hard parenting lessons.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hey everyone, I'm Barry Abraham and I am the host
of today's episode of Rogue Energy. I love that. I
love the word rogue. So for those who don't know me,
I am a multi talented, multi hyphenated, talented woman. So
reality to the icon comedian, best selling author podcast is
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just so much more. On today's episode, I'm going to
dive into becoming a teen mom and how that got
me where I am today. Right now, without further ado,
let's get into today's episode. When I first was exposed
to fame, and I know that's not this might not
be famous to others, but I am from Iowa and
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I did not know what fame really was until I
was five years old. I got in a car accident
and it was such a severe car accident that it
was all over the news. It was on everyone's TVs,
everyone's radios, and when I came back to school, it
was like I was famous for being in a really
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insane car accident. So I think that was like my
first understanding of fame, popularity and people like acting like
they knew me, which was really cool to see. Up five,
And then I didn't even know what fame was. I
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never cared to know what fame was as a kid.
I think there was a lot of other kids in
my classes that were always trying to be like the
next rapper or like the next famous person in that regard,
which was kind of cool, but it was than ever
my thing. I think I just really wanted to grow
up and have my independence and go do whatever I wanted.
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I think that's all I really wanted as a kid.
My fame evolved over the years because I had the
desire to share my story, share my life, empower others,
and support others with the art of recording it with
other people and teams. So when I became pregnant, I
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was in a program and I had a coach, and
I said, you know, I can't work my other jobs
that I wanted because it was like modeling and all
that stuff that I was into prior, So can you
help me find another opportunity because I'm pregnant and I'd
still like to share that. So, yeah, they were super supportive.
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They showed my coach showed me how to find jobs
and different things for young pregnant women. And yeah, one
of the three of the things that I applied for
was MTV's Team Mom, and that was about social impact.
And so I think I kept just like writing my
New York Times best selling book, My Teenage Droom ended
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because I knew that I was writing it already. I
wanted to get those things out. I've written many other books,
like trilogies and just like a self help book after that.
So I'm like looking at my wall of achievements over there.
So there's a lot of things that I've created and shared.
And I think even as easy as sharing like an
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article and interviewing myself like today, I think you can,
you know, learn so much about me and you know
see how that impacts your life. So whether it was
teen Mom, a podcast, me being an amazing comedian, now
it is all in how you share it. And I think,
like with comedy today, comedy today is you can say
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what I've you can basically say whatever you want, but
just with grace, and I think early on and tea
Mom days, there was no grace. If someone with narcissism
were to upset me, you'd see me yelling, crying, upset,
freaking out. And now I lacked that narcissism and I
put it in my comedy jokes. So I love that.
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So Whatsterban, Every chapter of my career is really just
next level in sharing my story how I've evolved my story.
And I think maybe the evolution here is gaining more
self autonomy and power over self, because I feel like
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initially when everyone met me, I didn't understand what world
I was living in. I didn't have my own autonomy.
It was very codependent. It was very much in a
narcissistic simulation and world that was not my own. And
I think comedy today is purely my voice, authentic, hilarious, funny,
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a free woman. And I think that's why comedy just
is like that next tier of my career in my life.
But that is the evolution of Farah, I think simply said,
is gaining more control of your own life, your boys,
your ownership of you, becoming of age and everyone goes
through it, so you got to enjoy the ride. Okay,
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So I'm going to just share a little bit about
my experience on sixteen and Pregnant and teen Mom. Well,
I think sixteen and Pregnant was so tumultuous for me.
I went into like a green lit project from a
network with limited budget and having cameras around in my
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high school setting. Having everyone in my life kind of
introduced to them was a major life change for other people.
I didn't realize a lot of people could not bath
recording themselves doing what they're doing in life, and they
have a lot of secrets and a lot of embarrassments
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and insecurities to hide. And I think sixteen and Pregnant
showed me I really am not going to be insecure.
I am going to step up in whatever I'm dealing
with and showcase that boldly and I did. So sixteen
and Pregnant was really crazy, just introduction of cameras in
my life, sharing my story. And I lost the love
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of my life during that experience, which is so tumultuous.
And this is like a full circle year right now.
So teen mom is sixteen pregnant pregnant. It's like just yeah,
teen mom and sixteen and pregnant. It's so hot right
now to talk about it. So I think that was
a super traumatic event sixteen and Pregnant was. Today the
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world does not probably record their birth. They get like
extra time off, they get leave from work. I mean
men even get paid time off from their jobs for
their for their wives or girlfriends having babies. It's like
so insane now. But yeah, after I I after I
had my daughter, I was like, I need to get
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right back to work. Like that same week being a
single parent learning I'm going to be a single parent
and the only one in sixteen and Pregnant was real.
That was a very real adult life learning moment. And
hopefully other people don't have to go through that. But yeah,
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there's there can be tragedy around a berth. It's like
it's serious. So sixteen and Pregnant it was cool, but yeah,
I think I was just stile in my own stuff
that I didn't probably even pay attention to sixteen and pregnant.
So yeah, and then team teen Mom. Wow, teen Mom,
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there's so much to teen Mom. How I'm just gonna
have to sum up teen Mom because it's just so tumultuous.
Teen Mom is something that started out amazing, and teen
Mom continues on after letting me go wrongfully and it's
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not amazing anymore. So I think that's the kind and
the nice way of putting it. Yeah, so everybody else
should create new shows and have better TV on television,
and that's all I can say. So I hope to
be a part of just creating new television series and shows,
because I don't think teen Moms got the justice and
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the social impact that they deserve from teen Mom. So yeah,
I don't know. That's my experience. I just yeah, I
wish it all the best. I don't know if I
really had fallouts with other cast members. They were never
falling into my life to begin with. I think that's
the healthiest way actually to continue to be your own
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person and figure out your identity as a young, impressionable
teen was not to get convoluted in other people's worlds
that were never a part of mine. So other people
kind of codependent on each other in this experience. Some
would say they've now known each other longer than they've
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not known each other each other in their lives right now,
which is the common duh of society. Also, amazing supporters
of teen Mom could also say that, but to be real,
there's no there's like no fallouts with me. I think
even now when I pop up and I see some
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of the cast members, the people who chose to take
part of a television series in a documentary format, when
I do see them, I am very just professional, and
I think it's just like, here's my boundaries. We're coming together,
we're co creating, and then we like go do our
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own thing again. And I think that is the healthiest
thing for everyone, because I don't believe in living in
trauma bonds. As nicely as I can say that, I
do believe the show is a traumatizing event rather than
something that I would be like, oh, yeah, we went
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on a retreat and we had the best time at
the retreat, so I'm going to be friends with all
the other women at the retreat, which I am a
part of. I have lots of groups, lots of retreat
friends all over the world, and we stay in touch
for years, and those are amazing relationships. I don't think
an amazing relationship like fallouts with other cast members. It's
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just kind of like a trauma bond with a cast member,
because as we see, there's so much traumatizing things throughout
Teen Mom, and it's just not a trauma bond I want.
But good luck to the rest of the cast that
that's what they want. I left Teen Mom the show
because I was wrongfully fired. That's it. That's all she wrote.
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And I think my famous last words on the show
was I think there's a better way of handling this
to my like my peers, my boss who had a
position of power and abused it. So I think that
stands for you know, other women and other people being
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wrongfully fired. You just got a lot of radical people
out there. And yeah, and I have to say, I'm
just so pleasantly happy I don't work with them anymore. Okay,
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how is my relationship with Sophia, my daughter, my pride
and joy? She is now sixteen, which is awesome. And
I have to say, like, we are open about our lives,
but we also I think, just know, like we have
the luxury of not sharing our lives right now, and
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it's really healthy. And I think when you have something
so good and so healthy and you really probably have
just worked so hard to get that. So we really appreciate,
like maybe some of our privacy. But we do share
our lives like on TikTok, live on our tiktoks, you know,
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social media everywhere, YouTube, and we really love to share
and use our channels, YouTube everything all the time. I'm
I would definitely say I am not strict, you know,
I just have boundaries and guidelines, you know, like you
need a guide of life, and you have to be
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disciplined in your own stuff every day. So I think
I'm just kind of like a life guide for my daughter.
And you know, if someone gets off of what works,
they can easily see why it's not working. So I
think that's just how I've always parented my child, and
I think it got easier and easier for my daughter
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to see, like what is working, what is not working,
what's best for me, what is not when we did
stop filming and when we got to have space from
toxic family members. So yeah, I'm not too strict. It's
just hey, like these are the boundaries, this is the
guide to life, and this is why it works. My
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daughter is not I would say, Sophia is not a
clone copy of me, Like is she a clone of me? No,
Sophia is not. Sophia has her own passion, her own style,
her own way about looking in life. She is a Pisces.
I am a Gemini, and we are much different people,
but I very much love I love different. Yeah, I
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would probably never want my child to be a spitting
image of me, and I also just like to have
you know, diversity around us in our lives too. From
like her babysitters in the past to so many other people.
So yeah, so to cut her own style. Do I
have any non negotiable rules with my daughter, I would
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say when school, because she's at homeschooled, so she has
like the best life ever when it comes to school.
So I do think I put my foot down when
if you get a little bit behind on your school work,
it's like, okay, you're not staying up past twelve midnight,
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so I will I will not negotiate on that role.
If school's not done, you cannot stay up past twelve midnight.
The end. I think I had a reality check when
my daughter of hold on, so she's sixteen now, I
think it was either like thirteen or fourteen, and Sophia
kind of had her first in real life boyfriend. And yeah,
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it really struck a chord with me because it reminded
me of my dysfunctional, wounded, toxic high school experience. And yeah,
my daughter's boyfriend who was in public school, my daughter's homeschooled.
He also came from a mom those like diagnosed like
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bipolar disorder, and my mom was equally similar to that.
So I think it was a godsend that they were
dating and all, and I got to, you know, help
lift some of the burdens that he had from his
family life. But I also feel like, yeah, that's one
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of the hardest moments, the hardest years is trying to
allow your allow your daughter's son to date whoever learn
through a little bit of bumps and hiccups and dysfunction
and wounded behaviors, so that they have a contrast to
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know how to date and how to pick better. I'm sorry,
it's just so much to think of because it was
a lot of stuff. And at that time, I then
had to hire like a therapist, a coach for her.
I got her tutors because her boyfriend at the time
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was so had no guide in life. His parents just
sucked And it was really just so hard on my
daughter because that person was being codependent, just had no boundaries,
and that is very hard. So, you know, a lot
of people butch and complain, right, They complain about toddlers,
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They complain about the cliche things of parenting. But the
reality is the hardest parts of life is when something
can come in and influence your child that you've invested
in so much and kind of shook the foundation and
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it tests you to see if your foundation is so
strong to withstand it. And I think that's how I
would describe dating anyways. But thirteen was a hard year.
So my daughter did her first NDA for for a
boyfriend and as inducis at thirteen for her boyfriend. So
that was just wild. That was the hardest time ever.
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And I never had to spend so much money in
investing in like outside help. I do get this question
all the time. It's like, I share so much of
my personal life. Do I have any personal life to
myself as a mom. And I would say I'm a
very I think I've used a word diverse a lot
in this, but I will say this, I am a
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very diverse mom. I am not your regular teen mom,
and I do not share all of me at any
point at any time, whether it's online, on television, on radio.
So like I love like omnimedia, I love media everywhere
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Faarah everywhere. But I think what's great about that is
is like it's not really authentically the whole pick shrip me.
So yeah, I still have my private life. I still
have my own photos, my own videos, and I think,
like what I've realized from moving on from the show
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a team mom, is that my real life is so
rich of better content, of better scenes, of better moments.
It's it's hard to believe my real life is so big.
And that's why I loved, you know, moments with my daughter,
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whether it's say Shells, Tokyo, all these places that we've
been and the majority of them I've never shared online.
And some other hard times when I recall some pivotal
moments in my life and they have never been talked about,
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they have never been caught on tape, and those things
are really yeah, so I hope to, yeah, in the future,
I hope to share those at the right time. Who knows,
maybe like a fair documentary where I really actually show
my full self and like things that you've never seen.
But yeah, there's so many layers. I think, like right
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now with social media and TV, it's just like I
seen on the cake that you go to see of someone,
it's definitely not fully who they are, especially when I
have just through the years have just had like again
narcissistic simulations rather than really like my true self being there.
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And I mean that in like a way of you
have editors, you have producers, you have the talent and
it funnels through to a network and then to the
person or on someone's page or on someone's podcast, however
they create it. So yeah, I don't really think. I
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don't know. I would honestly do it all different. I
would honestly share more and different things, and I can't
wait to do that. One day has been on Only
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And I would answer that with saying I have had
(21:27):
a negative experience with only fans, and I've had a
positive experience with only fans. I truly believe in only
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take a step back. Do I feel like only Fans
could be more inclusive of multi talented women? Yes, I
(21:51):
do feel like, Yeah, I do feel like they do
not include people like myself in there of TV originals,
And I think sometimes with adult entertainment I've had to
just kind of separate myself sometimes because I cannot stand
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I don't know, it just comes across as like jealousy
or hatred. It's honestly just super unprofessional. So I yeah,
I don't know. I think adult entertainment in a whole
acts like that, and that's why I've just kind of said, like,
this is just who I am. I am my own person.
(22:35):
I don't really like fully immerse myself in onlyfansness, but yeah,
I love just only fans being a super positive I
think I've been on many podcasts now just kind of
highlighting how I stay positive with OnlyFans and how I
believe staying positive on my pages, my free page, my
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pay page, my OFTV channel page. I think that is
just where I'm coming from. I just only will be positive.
And yes, there is tons of negativity on only Fans.
A lot of creators on OnlyFans have a ton of hardships,
and yeah, so do I think OnlyFans company culture and
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creator culture needs to be better one hundred percent. And
whether that's another new CEO or another CMO or another director, Yeah,
there's a lot of issues over there, and I hope
they work through those, but I want nothing to do
with it. In the meantime, I just really enjoy making money,
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having fun with my supporters, and doing what I do best,
which is being fair at Abraham. That's me on OnlyFans,
so on the only fans saying like did I ever
think to tell my family? Or like I hadn't. Like,
I just felt like OnlyFans was a platform. They're publicly known.
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There's marketing everywhere on Only Fans, and you know they
sponsor sports teams, sports players, like oftv is everywhere. So
I have to honestly say, like, I think OnlyFans is
just a regular thing to talk about. When we're on vacation,
we're just walking the streets, You'll hear people talk about OnlyFans.
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There's no anxiety around talking about OnlyFans to me. Okay,
so what is something that people may not understand about OnlyFans?
The app? Well, there's actually many apps of only Fans.
There's oftv app, which is so fun because you'll see
my channel, you'll see everybody else's channels. You'll see them traveling,
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what they're up to, any tips, food hacks, all sorts
of fun, fun channel stuff on oftv app. And a
lot of people I think miss the opportunity to showcase
themselves on OFTV. Whether that's like some of my girlfriends
who had a mainstream podcast, they then shifted it over
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to oftv their podcast over there, and then they saw WHOA,
I'm actually making revenue on my podcast now versus all
these other I think like gimmicks only or gimmicks basically
of podcasting of like tons of advertising oh or like
you know, people send agreements for podcasts where it's, oh,
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we're going to send x amount on marketing, but then
like nothing to the creator. So honestly, there's a million
ways that I've seen people do podcasting and sponsorships with podcasting,
everything with podcasting, and I have to be honest, ohf
TV for podcasting straight up thirty k an episode if
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you're building your channel and you're being featured, because it's
it's amazing you're getting if you have like a pipeline
of your pages, you're getting thirty k in episode cash.
And that's what I've seen from my OFTV channel videos,
so go figure, it's amazing. I think. Yeah, a lot
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of podcasters I've been giving those tips to. Some take
them and see the money, and then others think there's
still like something going on. So yeah, I don't know.
So basically I definitely recommend people take advantage of being
a creator on only Fans. Again, you know how to
do your pages, your pipeline right podcasting or your own
(26:40):
different other kind of videos properly, there's real money to
be made and it doesn't have to deal with all
the other stuff, So go for it. Okay. So to
go back a little bit about my love life, I
want to just kind of like visit, like how how
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being on teen Mom and being an actual teen Mom
has impacted my love life. Wow. So I think there
was a layer of television will attract only certain kind
of men in your love.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Life, and some of those people in the dating sphere
that want to date you, I don't.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Even know how to say it. It just it was
like I feel like they were so used to wearing
a mask and we just really kindn't allow ourselves to
be fully trustworthy and open with one another, because you know,
it's like whoever you're dating at the time. When I
was dating with Teen Mom, I've I had some like
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three year relationships sometimes and it was so up and
down because of like if I don't want to have
them come with, or if they do come with, they
like they don't act right. But again, you know, it's
very hard being so famous, like so young, and then
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like trying to find the right person who can kind
of align and match with that. So it's you know,
I've kind of looked at dating then and now, Like
it's great to have a partner or dates. I really
love dates, but you know, to take it to the
next level for me, and like boyfriend, I'm just in
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really no rush or hurry for that because I've just
had men like sell lies on E News and all
that other stuff during teen Mom days and it was
just so messy and so toxic dating on teen Mom.
Like literally I like had a break up with someone
on an airplane, like off teen Mom filming, but like
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fourteen months, like we were like flying somewhere for teen Mom.
And I have to say, it's like when you want
to break up with someone, you just want to clean
cut and like move on. And I think some of
like the television's impact was kind of like drawing out
a breakup or like it just wasn't like clean. I
don't know, dating with teen Mom not my favorite. I
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think I just love recalling some of the moments on
teen Mom where I'm like basically saying I'm this, I'm
for my money, I'm for my business, I'm for like
elevating my life, and you basically see the guys just
be like I'm here to settle. I don't really care
about that. So it was just like oil and water
or something. A lot of my dating life for teen
mom and then being a teen mom outside of the show,
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and like moving on from that. You know a lot
of men who have mommy issues, Like as we saw,
I had mommy issues on the show, and I really
had to do a lot of deep work to heal
from like a narcissistic mother. And initially like dating a
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teen mom who had mommy issues, I was definitely attracting
every kind of man but mommy issues. Granted it was
you know, I was dating better people, more wealthier, like
awesome life and I got to travel and do all
those fun things. But when it comes down to it,
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it's like, hey, I'm kind of like over the whole
mommy issue thing. I'm kind of done repeating teen mom
life in my real teen mom life with all this
teen mom layers. And so I've kind of had this
new level of dating the past couple of years, and
I think, now, what is super attracted to me as
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a team mom. Again, I am just not a regular
teen mom by any means. So, like I'm talking, when
I'm on a dating app, I see men on the
dating apps say I matched with teen mom as if
there's only one teen mom, but they're talking about me,
and then I'm like, you got to sign an NDA,
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and like you're taking me to dinner because you mentioned me.
There's like just funny stuff with dating right now. But
I think, like from going on an amazing date the
other day, I was in where I z I Palm Beach,
I had a date and the date really was all
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into my comedy and how like comedy helped him get
through something in a hospital. And I think, like, what's
different about being a teen mom comedian? I know, it's
just so mind boggling. It's like, do I ever get
kind of like a break from like how people connect
themselves with me to fame to spotlight, to news to press,
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And I think I really try to have like a
low key relationship and that person just latched on so
tight in that low key relationship that it was unhealthy
because they didn't want to let me like kind of
fly where I want to fly in my career. And
I think you also can't stifle a teen mom like
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me because I don't just want to be your baby mama.
I don't just want to be a housewife. So yeah, guys,
are really loving dating teen mom, like the comedian, they
love it so much more than just regulir teen mom
Parah from the show. And I don't know where to
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go with that, but I definitely don't date people who
have mommy issues anymore. And I very much take my
time to you know, pick a good one and who
has done some self work kind of spiritual like me,
and has overcome every trauma conciples in their life, and like, yeah,
that's the you know, I'm trying to align with where
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I'm aligned with to find the best partner the end.
Do I make the first move in my dates? Well,
on Bumball, it is all about women making the first move,
you know, be the queen bee in your dating life.
So I have no problem ever making the first move.
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But there's like there's conditions with making the first move,
you know what I'm saying, Like I have to then
go slow when I make the first move because it's
like I got to figure out what I'm actually talking to.
A lot of people misrepresent themselves on dating apps, so
it's like got to slow down. I don't really like
to side into anyone's dms on any social media platforms.
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I like to DM for work. I don't DM for dating,
and I kind of sometimes put people on blast who
like side of my d of like this billionaire the
other day like set of my dms and he got
put on blast because he like thought he could be
the only one to make jokes and I should pay
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for dinner. And I was like, but you're a billionaire,
not so yeah, I don't know. Do you pick a
date spot? Oh, in dating? Yes, this queen does pick
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the dating spot. Why would I want to go repeat
at the same dating spots. I've been like making my
dates like do you like spa retreats? Like hook me
up with a whole swab retreat and I'll show up,
you know what I'm saying. So I make my dates count.
Like reflecting back on my dating life right now, recently,
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it's like, yeah, I've had like trips Bob retweets, amazing dinners,
Like they even had like a menu engraved with my
name in it. It was like first date fabulous. I've
had amazing first dates and I love picking the date spots.
Always top your last date, That's what I say. I
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have to say. I'm not like trying to shame anyone
or I'm just sharing my life here, but I don't
believe in sleeping with someone on a first date. The
reason being I think, like I mean, I've lived so
much of life and I just have to say, if
you like, if you're dating for intentional relationship, like my
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dating coaches tell me, is you need to become friends
first with someone. Can this person be a friend or
are they annoying? So it's just like take your time
and see if there's a friend there to actually date
versus just getting so excited and like getting intimate. There's
no rush for that, Okay, And then do I tell
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Sophia about my dates? I think there's some fun stuff
learning stuff to be shared about my dating life. I
don't have like a usual dating life. I even I
even share my dating life with some of my girlfriends
so that they can improve and better their lives. I
shared like this dating a twelve step dating program I
did for twelve weeks with a lot of my single
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girlfriends so that they could improve their dating lives that
I did. So yeah, I definitely share some funny bits.
I definitely share some learning things with my daughter or girlfriends,
and even like family members, they're always so curious about
my dating life. And yeah, so I love that I'm
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very good at dating PhD and dating. And the next
time I'm dating is going to be on Pop the
Balloon on Netflix. So I'll be like the dater who
comes out and there's like, I don't know, eight guys
there to date possibly and either I pop my balloon,
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they pop their balloons, like we see like if someone
actually has patients to date and if they're datable. So
that's how I'm dating the next time I'm dating. So
my dating life is quite the fun one. So I
am so pumped and like excited about the comedy whole
level of my career in life. And so like my
next show, I always will try to do like some
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fun event. There's this thing called good Sessions. It's kind
of like unwarranted like couples therapy, but in a comedy
club downtown Austin, Texas. So I can't wait for that.
But I recently just had a new episode of Roast Battle,
which is a roast Battle all over the states and
(37:50):
in different countries. So yeah, you got to check that
out myself. Tony Hinchcliff, A lot of amazing Austin, Texas
Canadians came out and people all over the world in
my episode. So yeah, I love comedy. It will It's
just naturally there for me. And yeah, hopefully I'll have,
like I don't know, a Netflix comedy special like Let's
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do It. I have had so many people ask this question,
who are what inspired me to get in comedy, and
I think, you know, there was a lot of inspiration
initially from David tel who invited me to be on
his comedy special featuring myself because my life is so
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tragic and funny. Yeah, it got me to become SAG
and I started getting paychecks on top of the page
to show up, and that is something that sparked my
interest in comedy. I was so in the trenches of
reality television that I did not think of comedy and
so yeah, it was just kind of like a thing
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for so long that was on the back burner. And
then I took some time, I'm when I was in
La to kind of like visit some of my comedian
friends at like the Comedy Store, the Laugh Factory, the
Hollywood Improv, you name it. And so I was kind
of like watching for a couple of years. And then
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also I would say, like the marvelous missus Masl on
Amazon was like the icing on the cake of like, hey,
I can if that fictionalized character can do it, I
can totally do it because I've been a single mom
my entire life and she just became one. So yeah,
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marvelous missus Masel was like the push that I needed
to like get out there and do it. And then
also I think, like the pushup, I'm kind of just
tired of just working at home, doing everything at home
online for five years. I really just missed connecting with
my supporters from like my nightclub tours, my gentlemen's clubs,
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two speaking engagements. I used to just tour so much
for everything else and I just didn't want to do
it like how I had done it. So comedy is
like that next level of fun gathering times I can't
wait for more. So I have spoke a lot about
my Ketemine treatments, and I think when ketamine is done right,
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you will see that it really helps people with disabilities,
and one in four people have disabilities, whether people are
talking about that or not, I think Ketymine is really
helpful in just opening up our brains and letting us
see how we can think bigger and better. I also
do think ketamine for like really opening my eyes to
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just going out and doing comedy because I was feeling
so good. It allowed me to be like I can go,
you know, kind of like break a record in comedy
because most comedians don't get paid and don't have as
much press as myself and like a celebrity like audience.
So that was my first debut and it was amazing.
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So I do think my Keaded Team is what I
call it for an insane comedy debut that was well received.
So thanks to ketamine on that. But yeah, I think
a lot of people do ketamine in different ways. And I,
you know, like my doctor at my kedemine treatments, you know,
shout out to heading help. I always just give them
a shout out because I am grateful for the doctors
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and the treatment that I have, But I also I
am grateful for myself and knowing like what I want
to get out of kedemine treatment. A lot of people
are still kind of like they don't know what they're
going to get out of kedemyan treatment. And I've seen
my friends all over the place with their kedemine treatments
with doctors and also without doctors. So yeah, I don't. Yeah,
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I just would say this not all like, not all
reality TV is the same, not all kedemene treatments are
the same, Like they're not all equal. I would say,
like the best outcome for kedemine treatment is guided journaling.
Having like higher self abundance, you know, manifestation like frequencies,
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those kind of things on during your treatment will elevate
you your mind to be in the right place and to
go for your dreams and goals. So it's yeah, I
kind of feel like fearless with kenemine because I just know,
like I'm going for greatness. I focus on that, I
can see things very clearly, and I just yeah, get
(42:37):
it done. So I love Ketymine. And then yeah, you
might hear some of my friends joke around, other comedians
joke around about kenemine. Some people say they're on Kedymine,
but then they'll have like low frequency music on during
their kedemane treatments. And if you do low frequency when
you're high frequency and kettymine, then you go lower. And
(42:58):
so I've seen some men do ketymine in like a
low frequency way, which is not gonna help you. And
then I have some friends who you know, our men
who like got through a divorce and like are so
high frequency and had positive stuff on during his treatments
and throughout his treatment continuously, and yeah, guy's the limits.
So I hope that gives you, like how to do kettymine.
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And also I do ketymine in my cheek. There's no
blood work and it's two hours and you cannot drive
yourself to and from there. So in all honesty, it's
so nice. I get my driver for the day or Sophia,
my daughter, sometimes will take me and it's good. It's
(43:43):
a good vibe and I just kind of like easily
do my thing. So yeah, ketymine is life. I actually
regret nothing I have ever done in my entire life.
I am so grateful that I pushed the envelope, that
I experimented, that I tried things that I fully you know,
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fulfilled like my feminine energy and where I needed to
go with my life and I needed to test things
and see what works and what doesn't and what I
want to be in my twenties. And so some people
because I was wrongfully fired on uh teen mom because
(44:26):
they claimed of adult I don't know adult business or something.
That is why I was let go and everyone every interview,
every time I meet with someone, they're like the hYP hypocrisy,
the injustice because everybody on the show has and only
(44:49):
fans or like some adult thing. And so I think
anyone who would ask me if I regret anything in
all my business ventures because of what other people think
of me and how they want to edit and produce me,
it's just kind of like off topic because I honestly,
(45:12):
I live my own life. At the end of the day,
when I die, I have to live with my own decisions.
I would hate to die and live with some male
toxicity man's decisions on my life. Again, that's called a
narcissistic simulation and I don't want that on my conscience.
And I think like that's when people regret things, That's
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when people get angry and upset and stuck. So I
just yeah, I love everything that I did for myself.
I love that I continued on I had a bigger
brand than the television show. Being fair h has made
me more money than I ever made on Teen Mom,
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and I think that speaks for itself. So I love myself.
I love everything that I've done. I also love that
I get to see even in comedy or adult entertainment.
You'll actually see a lot of adult entertainment industry professionals
in comedy settings. Comedians often have them on their podcasts
(46:18):
and or converting to comedy. I don't know, there's some
like weird thing with adult entertainment and comedy oddly, so
it's like, why haven't I been doing comedy Because I'm
basically an enigma all in one, so it's amazy. So yeah,
I just don't regret anything, and I think, like, what's
more regrettable is lost teen parents agreeing with a toxic
(46:43):
producer to feed them lines to get someone off a show.
I think like years later, it was just like very
funny to see Macy be like naked and afraid, which
I've never been naked and afraid, thank god, And I
wouldn't I want to do that for television and be
like low paid and then you know, just everybody else
(47:07):
with their OnlyFans, and it's just hypocrisy. It's just ignorance.
And I would rather be on the side of life
that is not ignorant, that is like there's this whole
world out there where people figure out who they are
what they are and your twenties is for that, so
God bless me and everybody else is just kind of
living in the past. So thank you for having me today.
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Hey everyone, I'm Barry Abraham and I am the host
of today's episode of Rogue Energy. I love that. I
love the word rogue. So for those who don't know me,
I am a multi talented, multi hyphenated, talented woman. So
reality to the icon comedian, best selling author podcast is
(00:32):
just so much more. On today's episode, I'm going to
dive into becoming a teen mom and how that got
me where I am today. Right now, without further ado,
let's get into today's episode. When I first was exposed
to fame, and I know that's not this might not
be famous to others, but I am from Iowa and
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I did not know what fame really was until I
was five years old. I got in a car accident
and it was such a severe car accident that it
was all over the news. It was on everyone's TVs,
everyone's radios, and when I came back to school, it
was like I was famous for being in a really
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insane car accident. So I think that was like my
first understanding of fame, popularity and people like acting like
they knew me, which was really cool to see. Up five,
And then I didn't even know what fame was. I
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never cared to know what fame was as a kid.
I think there was a lot of other kids in
my classes that were always trying to be like the
next rapper or like the next famous person in that regard,
which was kind of cool, but it was than ever
my thing. I think I just really wanted to grow
up and have my independence and go do whatever I wanted.
(01:59):
I think that's all I really wanted as a kid.
My fame evolved over the years because I had the
desire to share my story, share my life, empower others,
and support others with the art of recording it with
other people and teams. So when I became pregnant, I
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was in a program and I had a coach, and
I said, you know, I can't work my other jobs
that I wanted because it was like modeling and all
that stuff that I was into prior, So can you
help me find another opportunity because I'm pregnant and I'd
still like to share that. So, yeah, they were super supportive.
(02:45):
They showed my coach showed me how to find jobs
and different things for young pregnant women. And yeah, one
of the three of the things that I applied for
was MTV's Team Mom, and that was about social impact.
And so I think I kept just like writing my
New York Times best selling book, My Teenage Droom ended
(03:07):
because I knew that I was writing it already. I
wanted to get those things out. I've written many other books,
like trilogies and just like a self help book after that.
So I'm like looking at my wall of achievements over there.
So there's a lot of things that I've created and shared.
And I think even as easy as sharing like an
(03:29):
article and interviewing myself like today, I think you can,
you know, learn so much about me and you know
see how that impacts your life. So whether it was
teen Mom, a podcast, me being an amazing comedian, now
it is all in how you share it. And I think,
like with comedy today, comedy today is you can say
(03:53):
what I've you can basically say whatever you want, but
just with grace, and I think early on and tea
Mom days, there was no grace. If someone with narcissism
were to upset me, you'd see me yelling, crying, upset,
freaking out. And now I lacked that narcissism and I
put it in my comedy jokes. So I love that.
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So Whatsterban, Every chapter of my career is really just
next level in sharing my story how I've evolved my story.
And I think maybe the evolution here is gaining more
self autonomy and power over self, because I feel like
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initially when everyone met me, I didn't understand what world
I was living in. I didn't have my own autonomy.
It was very codependent. It was very much in a
narcissistic simulation and world that was not my own. And
I think comedy today is purely my voice, authentic, hilarious, funny,
(05:00):
a free woman. And I think that's why comedy just
is like that next tier of my career in my life.
But that is the evolution of Farah, I think simply said,
is gaining more control of your own life, your boys,
your ownership of you, becoming of age and everyone goes
through it, so you got to enjoy the ride. Okay,
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So I'm going to just share a little bit about
my experience on sixteen and Pregnant and teen Mom. Well,
I think sixteen and Pregnant was so tumultuous for me.
I went into like a green lit project from a
network with limited budget and having cameras around in my
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high school setting. Having everyone in my life kind of
introduced to them was a major life change for other people.
I didn't realize a lot of people could not bath
recording themselves doing what they're doing in life, and they
have a lot of secrets and a lot of embarrassments
(06:07):
and insecurities to hide. And I think sixteen and Pregnant
showed me I really am not going to be insecure.
I am going to step up in whatever I'm dealing
with and showcase that boldly and I did. So sixteen
and Pregnant was really crazy, just introduction of cameras in
my life, sharing my story. And I lost the love
(06:30):
of my life during that experience, which is so tumultuous.
And this is like a full circle year right now.
So teen mom is sixteen pregnant pregnant. It's like just yeah,
teen mom and sixteen and pregnant. It's so hot right
now to talk about it. So I think that was
a super traumatic event sixteen and Pregnant was. Today the
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world does not probably record their birth. They get like
extra time off, they get leave from work. I mean
men even get paid time off from their jobs for
their for their wives or girlfriends having babies. It's like
so insane now. But yeah, after I I after I
had my daughter, I was like, I need to get
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right back to work. Like that same week being a
single parent learning I'm going to be a single parent
and the only one in sixteen and Pregnant was real.
That was a very real adult life learning moment. And
hopefully other people don't have to go through that. But yeah,
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there's there can be tragedy around a berth. It's like
it's serious. So sixteen and Pregnant it was cool, but yeah,
I think I was just stile in my own stuff
that I didn't probably even pay attention to sixteen and pregnant.
So yeah, and then team teen Mom. Wow, teen Mom,
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there's so much to teen Mom. How I'm just gonna
have to sum up teen Mom because it's just so tumultuous.
Teen Mom is something that started out amazing, and teen
Mom continues on after letting me go wrongfully and it's
(08:25):
not amazing anymore. So I think that's the kind and
the nice way of putting it. Yeah, so everybody else
should create new shows and have better TV on television,
and that's all I can say. So I hope to
be a part of just creating new television series and shows,
because I don't think teen Moms got the justice and
(08:50):
the social impact that they deserve from teen Mom. So yeah,
I don't know. That's my experience. I just yeah, I
wish it all the best. I don't know if I
really had fallouts with other cast members. They were never
falling into my life to begin with. I think that's
the healthiest way actually to continue to be your own
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person and figure out your identity as a young, impressionable
teen was not to get convoluted in other people's worlds
that were never a part of mine. So other people
kind of codependent on each other in this experience. Some
would say they've now known each other longer than they've
(09:34):
not known each other each other in their lives right now,
which is the common duh of society. Also, amazing supporters
of teen Mom could also say that, but to be real,
there's no there's like no fallouts with me. I think
even now when I pop up and I see some
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of the cast members, the people who chose to take
part of a television series in a documentary format, when
I do see them, I am very just professional, and
I think it's just like, here's my boundaries. We're coming together,
we're co creating, and then we like go do our
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own thing again. And I think that is the healthiest
thing for everyone, because I don't believe in living in
trauma bonds. As nicely as I can say that, I
do believe the show is a traumatizing event rather than
something that I would be like, oh, yeah, we went
(10:38):
on a retreat and we had the best time at
the retreat, so I'm going to be friends with all
the other women at the retreat, which I am a
part of. I have lots of groups, lots of retreat
friends all over the world, and we stay in touch
for years, and those are amazing relationships. I don't think
an amazing relationship like fallouts with other cast members. It's
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just kind of like a trauma bond with a cast member,
because as we see, there's so much traumatizing things throughout
Teen Mom, and it's just not a trauma bond I want.
But good luck to the rest of the cast that
that's what they want. I left Teen Mom the show
because I was wrongfully fired. That's it. That's all she wrote.
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And I think my famous last words on the show
was I think there's a better way of handling this
to my like my peers, my boss who had a
position of power and abused it. So I think that
stands for you know, other women and other people being
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wrongfully fired. You just got a lot of radical people
out there. And yeah, and I have to say, I'm
just so pleasantly happy I don't work with them anymore. Okay,
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how is my relationship with Sophia, my daughter, my pride
and joy? She is now sixteen, which is awesome. And
I have to say, like, we are open about our lives,
but we also I think, just know, like we have
the luxury of not sharing our lives right now, and
(12:33):
it's really healthy. And I think when you have something
so good and so healthy and you really probably have
just worked so hard to get that. So we really appreciate,
like maybe some of our privacy. But we do share
our lives like on TikTok, live on our tiktoks, you know,
(12:53):
social media everywhere, YouTube, and we really love to share
and use our channels, YouTube everything all the time. I'm
I would definitely say I am not strict, you know,
I just have boundaries and guidelines, you know, like you
need a guide of life, and you have to be
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disciplined in your own stuff every day. So I think
I'm just kind of like a life guide for my daughter.
And you know, if someone gets off of what works,
they can easily see why it's not working. So I
think that's just how I've always parented my child, and
I think it got easier and easier for my daughter
(13:39):
to see, like what is working, what is not working,
what's best for me, what is not when we did
stop filming and when we got to have space from
toxic family members. So yeah, I'm not too strict. It's
just hey, like these are the boundaries, this is the
guide to life, and this is why it works. My
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daughter is not I would say, Sophia is not a
clone copy of me, Like is she a clone of me? No,
Sophia is not. Sophia has her own passion, her own style,
her own way about looking in life. She is a Pisces.
I am a Gemini, and we are much different people,
but I very much love I love different. Yeah, I
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would probably never want my child to be a spitting
image of me, and I also just like to have
you know, diversity around us in our lives too. From
like her babysitters in the past to so many other people.
So yeah, so to cut her own style. Do I
have any non negotiable rules with my daughter, I would
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say when school, because she's at homeschooled, so she has
like the best life ever when it comes to school.
So I do think I put my foot down when
if you get a little bit behind on your school work,
it's like, okay, you're not staying up past twelve midnight,
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so I will I will not negotiate on that role.
If school's not done, you cannot stay up past twelve midnight.
The end. I think I had a reality check when
my daughter of hold on, so she's sixteen now, I
think it was either like thirteen or fourteen, and Sophia
kind of had her first in real life boyfriend. And yeah,
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it really struck a chord with me because it reminded
me of my dysfunctional, wounded, toxic high school experience. And yeah,
my daughter's boyfriend who was in public school, my daughter's homeschooled.
He also came from a mom those like diagnosed like
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bipolar disorder, and my mom was equally similar to that.
So I think it was a godsend that they were
dating and all, and I got to, you know, help
lift some of the burdens that he had from his
family life. But I also feel like, yeah, that's one
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of the hardest moments, the hardest years is trying to
allow your allow your daughter's son to date whoever learn
through a little bit of bumps and hiccups and dysfunction
and wounded behaviors, so that they have a contrast to
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know how to date and how to pick better. I'm sorry,
it's just so much to think of because it was
a lot of stuff. And at that time, I then
had to hire like a therapist, a coach for her.
I got her tutors because her boyfriend at the time
(17:03):
was so had no guide in life. His parents just
sucked And it was really just so hard on my
daughter because that person was being codependent, just had no boundaries,
and that is very hard. So, you know, a lot
of people butch and complain, right, They complain about toddlers,
(17:26):
They complain about the cliche things of parenting. But the
reality is the hardest parts of life is when something
can come in and influence your child that you've invested
in so much and kind of shook the foundation and
(17:46):
it tests you to see if your foundation is so
strong to withstand it. And I think that's how I
would describe dating anyways. But thirteen was a hard year.
So my daughter did her first NDA for for a
boyfriend and as inducis at thirteen for her boyfriend. So
that was just wild. That was the hardest time ever.
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And I never had to spend so much money in
investing in like outside help. I do get this question
all the time. It's like, I share so much of
my personal life. Do I have any personal life to
myself as a mom. And I would say I'm a
very I think I've used a word diverse a lot
in this, but I will say this, I am a
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very diverse mom. I am not your regular teen mom,
and I do not share all of me at any
point at any time, whether it's online, on television, on radio.
So like I love like omnimedia, I love media everywhere
(18:50):
Faarah everywhere. But I think what's great about that is
is like it's not really authentically the whole pick shrip me.
So yeah, I still have my private life. I still
have my own photos, my own videos, and I think,
like what I've realized from moving on from the show
(19:14):
a team mom, is that my real life is so
rich of better content, of better scenes, of better moments.
It's it's hard to believe my real life is so big.
And that's why I loved, you know, moments with my daughter,
(19:37):
whether it's say Shells, Tokyo, all these places that we've
been and the majority of them I've never shared online.
And some other hard times when I recall some pivotal
moments in my life and they have never been talked about,
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they have never been caught on tape, and those things
are really yeah, so I hope to, yeah, in the future,
I hope to share those at the right time. Who knows,
maybe like a fair documentary where I really actually show
my full self and like things that you've never seen.
But yeah, there's so many layers. I think, like right
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now with social media and TV, it's just like I
seen on the cake that you go to see of someone,
it's definitely not fully who they are, especially when I
have just through the years have just had like again
narcissistic simulations rather than really like my true self being there.
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And I mean that in like a way of you
have editors, you have producers, you have the talent and
it funnels through to a network and then to the
person or on someone's page or on someone's podcast, however
they create it. So yeah, I don't really think. I
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don't know. I would honestly do it all different. I
would honestly share more and different things, and I can't
wait to do that. One day has been on Only
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And I would answer that with saying I have had
(21:27):
a negative experience with only fans, and I've had a
positive experience with only fans. I truly believe in only
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take a step back. Do I feel like only Fans
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do feel like, Yeah, I do feel like they do
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And I think sometimes with adult entertainment I've had to
just kind of separate myself sometimes because I cannot stand
(22:13):
I don't know, it just comes across as like jealousy
or hatred. It's honestly just super unprofessional. So I yeah,
I don't know. I think adult entertainment in a whole
acts like that, and that's why I've just kind of said, like,
this is just who I am. I am my own person.
(22:35):
I don't really like fully immerse myself in onlyfansness, but yeah,
I love just only fans being a super positive I
think I've been on many podcasts now just kind of
highlighting how I stay positive with OnlyFans and how I
believe staying positive on my pages, my free page, my
(22:57):
pay page, my OFTV channel page. I think that is
just where I'm coming from. I just only will be positive.
And yes, there is tons of negativity on only Fans.
A lot of creators on OnlyFans have a ton of hardships,
and yeah, so do I think OnlyFans company culture and
(23:18):
creator culture needs to be better one hundred percent. And
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there's a lot of issues over there, and I hope
they work through those, but I want nothing to do
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(23:40):
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so on the only fans saying like did I ever
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I just felt like OnlyFans was a platform. They're publicly known.
(24:02):
There's marketing everywhere on Only Fans, and you know they
sponsor sports teams, sports players, like oftv is everywhere. So
I have to honestly say, like, I think OnlyFans is
just a regular thing to talk about. When we're on vacation,
we're just walking the streets, You'll hear people talk about OnlyFans.
(24:24):
There's no anxiety around talking about OnlyFans to me. Okay,
so what is something that people may not understand about OnlyFans?
The app? Well, there's actually many apps of only Fans.
There's oftv app, which is so fun because you'll see
my channel, you'll see everybody else's channels. You'll see them traveling,
(24:45):
what they're up to, any tips, food hacks, all sorts
of fun, fun channel stuff on oftv app. And a
lot of people I think miss the opportunity to showcase
themselves on OFTV. Whether that's like some of my girlfriends
who had a mainstream podcast, they then shifted it over
(25:07):
to oftv their podcast over there, and then they saw WHOA,
I'm actually making revenue on my podcast now versus all
these other I think like gimmicks only or gimmicks basically
of podcasting of like tons of advertising oh or like
you know, people send agreements for podcasts where it's, oh,
(25:29):
we're going to send x amount on marketing, but then
like nothing to the creator. So honestly, there's a million
ways that I've seen people do podcasting and sponsorships with podcasting,
everything with podcasting, and I have to be honest, ohf
TV for podcasting straight up thirty k an episode if
(25:56):
you're building your channel and you're being featured, because it's
it's amazing you're getting if you have like a pipeline
of your pages, you're getting thirty k in episode cash.
And that's what I've seen from my OFTV channel videos,
so go figure, it's amazing. I think. Yeah, a lot
(26:18):
of podcasters I've been giving those tips to. Some take
them and see the money, and then others think there's
still like something going on. So yeah, I don't know.
So basically I definitely recommend people take advantage of being
a creator on only Fans. Again, you know how to
do your pages, your pipeline right podcasting or your own
(26:40):
different other kind of videos properly, there's real money to
be made and it doesn't have to deal with all
the other stuff, So go for it. Okay. So to
go back a little bit about my love life, I
want to just kind of like visit, like how how
(27:00):
being on teen Mom and being an actual teen Mom
has impacted my love life. Wow. So I think there
was a layer of television will attract only certain kind
of men in your love.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Life, and some of those people in the dating sphere
that want to date you, I don't.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Even know how to say it. It just it was
like I feel like they were so used to wearing
a mask and we just really kindn't allow ourselves to
be fully trustworthy and open with one another, because you know,
it's like whoever you're dating at the time. When I
was dating with Teen Mom, I've I had some like
(27:54):
three year relationships sometimes and it was so up and
down because of like if I don't want to have
them come with, or if they do come with, they
like they don't act right. But again, you know, it's
very hard being so famous, like so young, and then
(28:15):
like trying to find the right person who can kind
of align and match with that. So it's you know,
I've kind of looked at dating then and now, Like
it's great to have a partner or dates. I really
love dates, but you know, to take it to the
next level for me, and like boyfriend, I'm just in
(28:37):
really no rush or hurry for that because I've just
had men like sell lies on E News and all
that other stuff during teen Mom days and it was
just so messy and so toxic dating on teen Mom.
Like literally I like had a break up with someone
on an airplane, like off teen Mom filming, but like
(28:59):
fourteen months, like we were like flying somewhere for teen Mom.
And I have to say, it's like when you want
to break up with someone, you just want to clean
cut and like move on. And I think some of
like the television's impact was kind of like drawing out
a breakup or like it just wasn't like clean. I
don't know, dating with teen Mom not my favorite. I
(29:22):
think I just love recalling some of the moments on
teen Mom where I'm like basically saying I'm this, I'm
for my money, I'm for my business, I'm for like
elevating my life, and you basically see the guys just
be like I'm here to settle. I don't really care
about that. So it was just like oil and water
or something. A lot of my dating life for teen
mom and then being a teen mom outside of the show,
(29:47):
and like moving on from that. You know a lot
of men who have mommy issues, Like as we saw,
I had mommy issues on the show, and I really
had to do a lot of deep work to heal
from like a narcissistic mother. And initially like dating a
(30:07):
teen mom who had mommy issues, I was definitely attracting
every kind of man but mommy issues. Granted it was
you know, I was dating better people, more wealthier, like
awesome life and I got to travel and do all
those fun things. But when it comes down to it,
(30:28):
it's like, hey, I'm kind of like over the whole
mommy issue thing. I'm kind of done repeating teen mom
life in my real teen mom life with all this
teen mom layers. And so I've kind of had this
new level of dating the past couple of years, and
I think, now, what is super attracted to me as
(30:51):
a team mom. Again, I am just not a regular
teen mom by any means. So, like I'm talking, when
I'm on a dating app, I see men on the
dating apps say I matched with teen mom as if
there's only one teen mom, but they're talking about me,
and then I'm like, you got to sign an NDA,
(31:11):
and like you're taking me to dinner because you mentioned me.
There's like just funny stuff with dating right now. But
I think, like from going on an amazing date the
other day, I was in where I z I Palm Beach,
I had a date and the date really was all
(31:33):
into my comedy and how like comedy helped him get
through something in a hospital. And I think, like, what's
different about being a teen mom comedian? I know, it's
just so mind boggling. It's like, do I ever get
kind of like a break from like how people connect
themselves with me to fame to spotlight, to news to press,
(31:57):
And I think I really try to have like a
low key relationship and that person just latched on so
tight in that low key relationship that it was unhealthy
because they didn't want to let me like kind of
fly where I want to fly in my career. And
I think you also can't stifle a teen mom like
(32:20):
me because I don't just want to be your baby mama.
I don't just want to be a housewife. So yeah, guys,
are really loving dating teen mom, like the comedian, they
love it so much more than just regulir teen mom
Parah from the show. And I don't know where to
(32:43):
go with that, but I definitely don't date people who
have mommy issues anymore. And I very much take my
time to you know, pick a good one and who
has done some self work kind of spiritual like me,
and has overcome every trauma conciples in their life, and like, yeah,
that's the you know, I'm trying to align with where
(33:06):
I'm aligned with to find the best partner the end.
Do I make the first move in my dates? Well,
on Bumball, it is all about women making the first move,
you know, be the queen bee in your dating life.
So I have no problem ever making the first move.
(33:28):
But there's like there's conditions with making the first move,
you know what I'm saying, Like I have to then
go slow when I make the first move because it's
like I got to figure out what I'm actually talking to.
A lot of people misrepresent themselves on dating apps, so
it's like got to slow down. I don't really like
to side into anyone's dms on any social media platforms.
(33:50):
I like to DM for work. I don't DM for dating,
and I kind of sometimes put people on blast who
like side of my d of like this billionaire the
other day like set of my dms and he got
put on blast because he like thought he could be
the only one to make jokes and I should pay
(34:13):
for dinner. And I was like, but you're a billionaire,
not so yeah, I don't know. Do you pick a
date spot? Oh, in dating? Yes, this queen does pick
(34:34):
the dating spot. Why would I want to go repeat
at the same dating spots. I've been like making my
dates like do you like spa retreats? Like hook me
up with a whole swab retreat and I'll show up,
you know what I'm saying. So I make my dates count.
Like reflecting back on my dating life right now, recently,
(34:56):
it's like, yeah, I've had like trips Bob retweets, amazing dinners,
Like they even had like a menu engraved with my
name in it. It was like first date fabulous. I've
had amazing first dates and I love picking the date spots.
Always top your last date, That's what I say. I
(35:18):
have to say. I'm not like trying to shame anyone
or I'm just sharing my life here, but I don't
believe in sleeping with someone on a first date. The
reason being I think, like I mean, I've lived so
much of life and I just have to say, if
you like, if you're dating for intentional relationship, like my
(35:41):
dating coaches tell me, is you need to become friends
first with someone. Can this person be a friend or
are they annoying? So it's just like take your time
and see if there's a friend there to actually date
versus just getting so excited and like getting intimate. There's
no rush for that, Okay, And then do I tell
(36:03):
Sophia about my dates? I think there's some fun stuff
learning stuff to be shared about my dating life. I
don't have like a usual dating life. I even I
even share my dating life with some of my girlfriends
so that they can improve and better their lives. I
shared like this dating a twelve step dating program I
did for twelve weeks with a lot of my single
(36:26):
girlfriends so that they could improve their dating lives that
I did. So yeah, I definitely share some funny bits.
I definitely share some learning things with my daughter or girlfriends,
and even like family members, they're always so curious about
my dating life. And yeah, so I love that I'm
(36:47):
very good at dating PhD and dating. And the next
time I'm dating is going to be on Pop the
Balloon on Netflix. So I'll be like the dater who
comes out and there's like, I don't know, eight guys
there to date possibly and either I pop my balloon,
(37:07):
they pop their balloons, like we see like if someone
actually has patients to date and if they're datable. So
that's how I'm dating the next time I'm dating. So
my dating life is quite the fun one. So I
am so pumped and like excited about the comedy whole
level of my career in life. And so like my
next show, I always will try to do like some
(37:29):
fun event. There's this thing called good Sessions. It's kind
of like unwarranted like couples therapy, but in a comedy
club downtown Austin, Texas. So I can't wait for that.
But I recently just had a new episode of Roast Battle,
which is a roast Battle all over the states and
(37:50):
in different countries. So yeah, you got to check that
out myself. Tony Hinchcliff, A lot of amazing Austin, Texas
Canadians came out and people all over the world in
my episode. So yeah, I love comedy. It will It's
just naturally there for me. And yeah, hopefully I'll have,
like I don't know, a Netflix comedy special like Let's
(38:12):
do It. I have had so many people ask this question,
who are what inspired me to get in comedy, and
I think, you know, there was a lot of inspiration
initially from David tel who invited me to be on
his comedy special featuring myself because my life is so
(38:32):
tragic and funny. Yeah, it got me to become SAG
and I started getting paychecks on top of the page
to show up, and that is something that sparked my
interest in comedy. I was so in the trenches of
reality television that I did not think of comedy and
so yeah, it was just kind of like a thing
(38:55):
for so long that was on the back burner. And
then I took some time, I'm when I was in
La to kind of like visit some of my comedian
friends at like the Comedy Store, the Laugh Factory, the
Hollywood Improv, you name it. And so I was kind
of like watching for a couple of years. And then
(39:15):
also I would say, like the marvelous missus Masl on
Amazon was like the icing on the cake of like, hey,
I can if that fictionalized character can do it, I
can totally do it because I've been a single mom
my entire life and she just became one. So yeah,
(39:35):
marvelous missus Masel was like the push that I needed
to like get out there and do it. And then
also I think, like the pushup, I'm kind of just
tired of just working at home, doing everything at home
online for five years. I really just missed connecting with
my supporters from like my nightclub tours, my gentlemen's clubs,
(39:59):
two speaking engagements. I used to just tour so much
for everything else and I just didn't want to do
it like how I had done it. So comedy is
like that next level of fun gathering times I can't
wait for more. So I have spoke a lot about
my Ketemine treatments, and I think when ketamine is done right,
(40:24):
you will see that it really helps people with disabilities,
and one in four people have disabilities, whether people are
talking about that or not, I think Ketymine is really
helpful in just opening up our brains and letting us
see how we can think bigger and better. I also
do think ketamine for like really opening my eyes to
(40:47):
just going out and doing comedy because I was feeling
so good. It allowed me to be like I can go,
you know, kind of like break a record in comedy
because most comedians don't get paid and don't have as
much press as myself and like a celebrity like audience.
So that was my first debut and it was amazing.
(41:09):
So I do think my Keaded Team is what I
call it for an insane comedy debut that was well received.
So thanks to ketamine on that. But yeah, I think
a lot of people do ketamine in different ways. And I,
you know, like my doctor at my kedemine treatments, you know,
shout out to heading help. I always just give them
a shout out because I am grateful for the doctors
(41:33):
and the treatment that I have, But I also I
am grateful for myself and knowing like what I want
to get out of kedemine treatment. A lot of people
are still kind of like they don't know what they're
going to get out of kedemyan treatment. And I've seen
my friends all over the place with their kedemine treatments
with doctors and also without doctors. So yeah, I don't. Yeah,
(41:54):
I just would say this not all like, not all
reality TV is the same, not all kedemene treatments are
the same, Like they're not all equal. I would say,
like the best outcome for kedemine treatment is guided journaling.
Having like higher self abundance, you know, manifestation like frequencies,
(42:16):
those kind of things on during your treatment will elevate
you your mind to be in the right place and to
go for your dreams and goals. So it's yeah, I
kind of feel like fearless with kenemine because I just know,
like I'm going for greatness. I focus on that, I
can see things very clearly, and I just yeah, get
(42:37):
it done. So I love Ketymine. And then yeah, you
might hear some of my friends joke around, other comedians
joke around about kenemine. Some people say they're on Kedymine,
but then they'll have like low frequency music on during
their kedemane treatments. And if you do low frequency when
you're high frequency and kettymine, then you go lower. And
(42:58):
so I've seen some men do ketymine in like a
low frequency way, which is not gonna help you. And
then I have some friends who you know, our men
who like got through a divorce and like are so
high frequency and had positive stuff on during his treatments
and throughout his treatment continuously, and yeah, guy's the limits.
So I hope that gives you, like how to do kettymine.
(43:22):
And also I do ketymine in my cheek. There's no
blood work and it's two hours and you cannot drive
yourself to and from there. So in all honesty, it's
so nice. I get my driver for the day or Sophia,
my daughter, sometimes will take me and it's good. It's
(43:43):
a good vibe and I just kind of like easily
do my thing. So yeah, ketymine is life. I actually
regret nothing I have ever done in my entire life.
I am so grateful that I pushed the envelope, that
I experimented, that I tried things that I fully you know,
(44:05):
fulfilled like my feminine energy and where I needed to
go with my life and I needed to test things
and see what works and what doesn't and what I
want to be in my twenties. And so some people
because I was wrongfully fired on uh teen mom because
(44:26):
they claimed of adult I don't know adult business or something.
That is why I was let go and everyone every interview,
every time I meet with someone, they're like the hYP hypocrisy,
the injustice because everybody on the show has and only
(44:49):
fans or like some adult thing. And so I think
anyone who would ask me if I regret anything in
all my business ventures because of what other people think
of me and how they want to edit and produce me,
it's just kind of like off topic because I honestly,
(45:12):
I live my own life. At the end of the day,
when I die, I have to live with my own decisions.
I would hate to die and live with some male
toxicity man's decisions on my life. Again, that's called a
narcissistic simulation and I don't want that on my conscience.
And I think like that's when people regret things, That's
(45:34):
when people get angry and upset and stuck. So I
just yeah, I love everything that I did for myself.
I love that I continued on I had a bigger
brand than the television show. Being fair h has made
me more money than I ever made on Teen Mom,
(45:56):
and I think that speaks for itself. So I love myself.
I love everything that I've done. I also love that
I get to see even in comedy or adult entertainment.
You'll actually see a lot of adult entertainment industry professionals
in comedy settings. Comedians often have them on their podcasts
(46:18):
and or converting to comedy. I don't know, there's some
like weird thing with adult entertainment and comedy oddly, so
it's like, why haven't I been doing comedy Because I'm
basically an enigma all in one, so it's amazy. So yeah,
I just don't regret anything, and I think, like, what's
more regrettable is lost teen parents agreeing with a toxic
(46:43):
producer to feed them lines to get someone off a show.
I think like years later, it was just like very
funny to see Macy be like naked and afraid, which
I've never been naked and afraid, thank god, And I
wouldn't I want to do that for television and be
like low paid and then you know, just everybody else
(47:07):
with their OnlyFans, and it's just hypocrisy. It's just ignorance.
And I would rather be on the side of life
that is not ignorant, that is like there's this whole
world out there where people figure out who they are
what they are and your twenties is for that, so
God bless me and everybody else is just kind of
living in the past. So thank you for having me today.
(47:29):
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