January 2, 2026 • 39 mins
In this bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B reflects on the transition into 2026, blending personal storytelling with cultural and social commentary as she unpacks lessons from the past year. She shares insights from a Christmas trip to Curaçao, using the experience to explore the importance of family traditions, rest, and redefining what home means during life transitions. The conversation shifts to a tragic incident involving Anthony Joshua, sparking a deeper discussion about accountability, reckless behavior, and the real-world consequences of individual actions. Mandii also offers candid reflections on cultural experiences in Nigeria, balancing admiration for its richness with concerns around safety, infrastructure, and the realities of global travel. As the new year approaches, she challenges the popular “new year, new me” mindset, emphasizing accountability, consistency, and intentional growth over performative resolutions. The episode closes with a nuanced discussion on anti-vaccination rhetoric, parental choice, and societal responsibility, highlighting how personal decisions intersect with public health and collective well-being in an increasingly polarized world.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is Mandy be Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production
of the Blackpec Podcast Network and IR Radio.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey Hey, hey, class may.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It is twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Yeah, we made it.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I'm not gonna say New Year knew me. I'm gonna
let y'all decide if that's the case. This year twenty
twenty five was such, I will say, an interesting year.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I don't think it was great.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
It wasn't bad on this side, but I know it
it was indifferent for so many people. So baby, if
you have a yet, go check out the recap episode
where myself and my superproducers talk about what twenty twenty
five looked like and felt and meant for us here
(00:55):
on the Selective Ignorance Pod. But this is the first
episodeisode of the new year, and it is a Friday drop.
So I am kicking this year off with an MI
ignorant episode. If you would like to submit your MI
ignorant sentiments scenarios over to me, make sure you drop
(01:19):
that email off at Selective Ignorance Pod pod at gmail
dot com. You can also DM it to me or
hop yos up in the discord like the girlies have done.
Shout out to everyone in the discord. I really fucks
with y'all, Jojo treev Verry Connie. I love the concetant
(01:44):
communication over on the discord. And you can get access
to the discord if you join our Patreon that's patreon
dot com backslash with Mandy B. That's right, switching over
to Patreon just a little bit. Anyways, So before we
get into the MIAs, actually I have them right here,
but I'm like, before we get into that, I wanted
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to update y'all on some of my ignorant thoughts over
the last two weeks or so. And both will come, yeah,
from the last two weeks. So the first one, I
just have to get this off my chest, y'all. I
have to y'all know how we talk about recipes are
(02:29):
dying and traditions are being lost amongst USTs.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Well, let's start with one.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
That I would like for y'all to really to really
go back hard to capture again. So, as y'all know,
I went to Kirous Out for my Christmas vacation whatever
you want to call it, as a single and i'm
single because I'm not married, but I got boyfriends, but
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we just didn't choose to spend the holidays share together.
So as a single, childless adult, I thought, you know,
let me go and get a tan because maybe the
way my melanin is set up for the wintertime, it's
rough out here, and I'm already looking pretty translucent, fairly yellow,
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and so I was like.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Okay, let me go to an island.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
So, I mean, I guess one of the ignorant parts
of going to kiraus Out was that I knew it
was an ABC island.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
But bitch, why did I think the bee was Bermuda.
It's not. It's bon Air.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
So the ABC Islands, y'all are about forty to fifty
miles off of the coast of Venezuela.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
So I've talked about loving Aruba down baby.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Them hotels was a little steep. So I went to
kiras Out. Now this is my first week traveling Christmas week.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Do y'all tell me.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
If I'm just ignorant and had no clue. But I'm
gonna tell you what I got to say. So I
get to keira Sound Christmas week. Normally I travel the
first week of January. Now why do I do this?
Because if you guys were unfamiliar and if you guys
have the opportunity and privileged to do so. This week,
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this first week of January is cheap and quiet. Baby,
all the kids back to school and bitches is back
to work. So normally like this first week is fairly.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Cheap because everybody got to get back home, right.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
So I should have known there was gonna be an
issue when I hoped my ass on the BIAT and
saw that all the excursions were just regular excursions and
none said adults only. Because baby, I'm always gonna look
foe an adult only because.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I don't want to be on a boat with churing.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
I don't want to be drinking my servesa in the
morning and being judged by a little seven year old.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
I don't want to hear crying.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I don't want to have to be considerate and let
that motherfucker get his little life best before me. I like,
an adult only turns up boat. There was no adult
only boats, so I was like, okay, maybe that's sa't
a thing in the currorse out now here is where
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my issue lied. It's Christmas morning, Christmas Eve. I decided
I want to spend my morning at the pool. I
decided I want to spend my afternoon on Christmas Eve.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
At the pool. It is flooded with children.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
When I say flooding, like flooded from one years old
up to about fifteen sixteen. Children are everywhere. And so
I'm sitting sitting on my bed.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Hearing kids splash and play and yell and scream, and.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I'm like, we talk about why there's, you know, no
barbecues on Memorial Day and Labor Day anymore. We talk
about certain traditions that are lost. And all I could
think about was why the fuck them children was not
in their living rooms in they homes, opening up gifts
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under a goddamn tree, drinking hot cocoa, watching Christmas movies.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
I was real.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I was like, bitch, ain't in a recession. I'm looking
up like this is expensive. But also, why are you
taking the tradition of waking up in the morning, you know,
seeing that Santa Claus ate the cookies and opening up
crimal gifts under the tree in your living room? Be home,
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enjoy the rent you pay for, Let your kids grow
up like kids. Why are you bringing kids securious out
taking them around all these drug ass single adults.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
They might want to work from time to time, bitch.
I was baffled.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I was like, Okay, Christmas week might not be the
week I travel anymore, because damn, it's like.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Wow wow wow.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
So that was my little ignorant moment that I had
over Christmas. I immediately went to fuck them kids. They
should be opening up gifts under their tree in their
living rooms at home, not on an island.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
This is reserved for adults only. Goddamn it. I was
really upset. I was actually upset that they had the
money to do it. Damn, I ain't growing like that.
Look at me, Look at me now. I'm just being selfish.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
And the second ignorant thought that I had, and I
don't think it's actually very ignorant. I think I leaned
into recognizing that my once ignorant thought was actually very valid.
And before I get to that thought, I do want
to send prayers to the two lives lost in the
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Anthony Joshua car accident that took place right before I
believe it was Christmas Eve, Christmas or New Year's Eve.
It was a tragic accident that took place celebrating the holidays.
After Anthony Joshua beat Jake Paul in the boxing match
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in Miami, and oh my god, that is just sad.
I want to say at this point, it's ignorant for
people to still be retweeting. There's a video currently up
right now that shows the deceased bodies on the ground,
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and I thought.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I thought we were past that people.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I thought we were past sharing those type of bodies,
specifically bodies of color on the internet.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Very very disheartening.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
I do hope actually that the driver is charged in this.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
That will be my opinion on this.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
If you see the diagram, knowing the speeds that he
was traveling, it was reckless driving. And in twenty twenty six,
I want you classmates to advocate for your life. When
you are in a vehicle and someone just decides that
they're God and they're not going certain speeds driving and
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trying to go in between vehicles, it's just it's dangerous.
It's dangerous, and when you have other lives in the car,
the way that you drive when you're in a vehicle
by yourself should not be the way that you drive
when you are carrying passengers. And so again, thoughts, prayers,
condolences to all of those families.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
There's so many people impacted there, and.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
I just.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
My thoughts to Anthony Joshua and what he's probably currently
living with right now in terms of survivors remorse.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Is just disheartening.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
But the ignorant thought that I had seeing all of
the news around this was the decision that I have
publicly made. And y'all may have heard me say it
on my other podcast, or I believe I may have
said it here. And I'll explain to you guys too
why I feel like it sounds ignorant.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
But baby, now it's not. So I have said.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
So, I visited Nigeria to celebrate a friend's birthday. She
was living there with her partner at the time, and
so me and my best friend went over there to
celebrate her birthday. This was in two thousand and sixteen,
maybe twenty seventeen, twenty seventeen.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
I believe we were out there for about two weeks.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
We stayed in Chevy Lucky which is in Legos, and
you know, partied on Victoria Island and you know, I
went to the markets, We went to even the nicer area,
We went to the clubs. After coming back, I have
said that a person could not pay me to go
back to Nigeria. And for me being someone who's so
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well traveled, I've also been to third world countries I'm
not I've stayed in hostels, I've taken night buses, I
you know, engulfed myself into culture when I go out.
Especially back then, I didn't have, you know, the finances
that I do have today. But Nigeria to me, was
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one of the countries that made me feel the most unsafe.
It made me feel the most like.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Not at ease.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
It made me feel the most paranoid. I was saying
with my friend's partner and her and even when we
went out, when we got picked up, we had to
travel with men with guns that were military trained. I
remember getting money out of an ATM and a car
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apparently being spotted that watched us, and we had to
like go in and out of traffic to get away
from this vehicle. The roads there are no lines, it's
very like congested. And then at the lights there's so
many people trying to sell you forks and spoons and
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socks and gadgets and spatueless and just all the strangest things,
like if you're in Atlanta, or if you're in certain
cities where maybe someone's selling water bottles at a stop
light or roses during the holidays. Imagine that, But imagine
probably at any given time, five to ten multiple people
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banging on your window, getting their head in your car
if your window is down, and trying to sell you.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Silverware. And I get it, you know, they're trying to
make money.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
But it was just a lot and in terms of
going out partying, it just also nothing about that country
made me want to go back. It's also one of
the countries that you have to be invited to, so
it lacks tourism, and so it lacks the infrastructure of
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what you would essentially do on a trip, right, Like
you know I just said, I went to Viator trip advisor,
you go and look up tours, very limited tours.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
And so.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
When I saw the lack of medical emergency for a
man worth one hundred million dollars plus, for visitors into
that country, to know that bodies lied on the ground,
to know that Anthony Joshua sat in that vehicle for
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ten minutes unconscious and passer by people pedestrians pull him
out of that car wreckage, to know that he had
to be transported to the hospital in a police vehicle.
You you can't pay me to go down Debty December
or whatever celebration takes place there. I baby, if you
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do feel the need to continue going to Nigeria to celebrate,
to be a part of the festivities.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
I also don't even know if.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Traveler insurance will help, because there is a way that
you can purchase travelers insurance to where you could be
you can receive medical attention at a load to no
costs in other countries.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
But boy, boy.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Was was that almost like a okay, you you felt right?
Speaker 2 (16:00):
It's sad.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
And what's also crazy too, is we talk about where
we're headed here in America with the wage gaps, with
the class gaps, and how there's a you know, we're
just widening the gap between lower class, middle class and
the one percenters, right. I think that was also a
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country where I was just like, oh wow, I didn't
really view a middle class at all. And again, this
was back in twenty seventeen. If you're from Nigeria and
you've been to Nigeria and you don't believe that I
saw a full cup of it. Again, I was there
for two weeks. This is my experience, and my experience
only But the reason why, you know, I lead into
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it sounding a bit ignorant is because I almost felt
guilty for speaking this of a African country one with
you know, black residents, because you know, I just felt
like I was leaning into the ignorance of putting that
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type of quote unquote stereotype on an African country. However,
I have said I absolutely loved South Africa, which I
know also sounds ignorant because bitch as white as ale
down there, but loved South Africa, went to Johannesburg and
Cape Town, and then loved Ghana. I'll actually be in
Ghana April twenty third to April twenty eighth of this year,
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so really excited to share my experience there with you guys.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
But yeah, those were.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
My two thoughts that sprinkled in my mind. I have
another one, but I'm gonna share it for next week's episode.
But yeah, it was that we need to bring the
tradition of letting kids open their gifts back under a
tree in their living room.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
In their living room is.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Important because people was trying to say, well, how you
know they open up gifts in the hotel room.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
They need to open up gifts on Crima Eve and
Crima in a living room under the tree, not at
my resort. And then yeah, I'm sorry, I'm saying it.
Y'all can't pay me to go to Nigeria and seeing
the lack of infrastructure over there, maybe they got at
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least a decade out of me.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
What they not seeing me? Ooh, real ignorant?
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Take Saudi Arabia probably gonna see me before Nigeria, see
my ass.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Okay, I ain't even gonna hold you anyway. Let's get
in two.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Some am I ignorant thoughts around New Year's resolutions? Now,
I pulled one of these from my DMS, one from
the email, and then I had an amazing am I ignorant?
On my class assembly, which is our once a month
meeting where.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
My patrons get to join me.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
So I'm going to actually include that at the end
here so you could kind of see what a class
assembly is like.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
But here we go. I'm reading two here and love
this one out the.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Gate because when I saw her page, I was like,
I see you and your friends, and I get it.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
I don't know if you're wrong, So here we go.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
My friend said her New Year's resolution is to rest more,
say no, and stop overworking.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
She called it choosing a soft life.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Now, y'all know we even talk about the soft life
thing now, at least over all decisions we have. I
told her that sounds like an excuse to avoid responsibility
and fall behind while.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Everyone else is hustle. I meant it is tough. Love.
Life doesn't slow down just because you won't peace.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
She looked hurt and said, last year nearly burned her
out completely. I get burnout exists, but isn't pushing through
kind of a part of adulthood. Now I'm wondering if
I was honest or just ignorant about how other people
choose to survive.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Okay, now, few things here.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I like that your friend's approach to soft life wasn't
waiting for a nigga to take care of her and
pay all the bills and save her from working a job.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
That's where a lot of my friends are right now.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
And when you get to be about thirty eight thirty
nine photo photo one, photo two, and you waiting for
a man to come in, swoop you up and take
care of you, the word ain't ignorant, but it's close.
So I'm actually not mad at your friend. She's calling
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it a sipe, a soft life, but resting more, saying
no and to not overwork doesn't mean you're not gonna
work at all. Now, if you're a millennial, I feel
like a lot of us do have to unlearn this
overwork until we burn out, over extending ourselves, not saying no,
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not taking PTO, not not listening to our bodies when
our bodies tell us that we're doing the most, and
doing the most doesn't need to be like a bad thing.
If you guys have been listening since I had see.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
The thing is, I think every year.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
For those three years, I hopped online, sat in front
of this microphone and cried to you all about my burnouts.
And it wasn't good. It didn't feel good. I remember
my body shutting down. I remember resenting people that I
shouldn't have resented because it was my fault. They asked
me to do something and I just wasn't saying no, and.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
It really, it really was depressing.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
I think that those burnouts I only didn't experience this
year and last year because of therapy, because I listened
to my body, because I sat down and stopped feeling
guilty of taking a day off. We need to take
days off, We need to just binge TV. Sometimes we
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just need to fucking relax.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
And so I will say you may not know any
better in real life.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
So I'm gonna lean and say that you're selectively ignorant
here because you're aware of what burnouts do you have
to be. You're like bitch hustle all the time. And
so for me, if your friend went through a burnout
phase in twenty twenty five, if she doesn't want to
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experience that again, I think you can be supportive and
also not looking at this so black and white and
understanding that there's a gray. Her saying that she wants
to say no and not overwork herself is not saying
she don't want to work at all and be a
lazy son of a bitch, you know what I mean.
That's just not what she's saying. And so for this,
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your honesty was more black and white than ignorant.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
But I do also think that.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
You're not looking at all of the nuance here and
in twenty twenty six, I do want more of you
to say no. I want more of you to put
yourself first. I want more of you to take your
time off that you're granted for the entrepreneurs, don't feel
guilt in deciding that you're not gonna open up your
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laptop for one day. Like, as a human being, we
are not the robots that they're creating.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
We're not.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
And so in twenty twenty six, take the time off
that you need because going through a burnout, baby, it
takes a lot to get out of that slump. Sometimes
you get sick, sometimes you get into a state of depression.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Y'all know, I was just crying.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I was exhausted, And to be exhausted physically and mentally
and emotionally all at once while then still having to
show up for work, while still have having to be
a parent, while still having to be a friend, it's hard.
So I'm not gonna bring grace into twenty twenty six,
but I will say, yeah, like that's an okay resolution.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
It is, it is, it is, it is. Let's see.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Let's see what was this other one I wanted to do. Okay,
here we go, because I think the word of twenty
twenty six will be accountability. This one says, am I
ignorant for thinking that New Year knew me? Are people
avoiding accountability. Who somebody about to get read? So every
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January people say new year knew me like last year's
mistakes don't count anymore. I think growth requires owning what
you did wrong, not rebranding yourself every twelve months. When
someone I know cheated last year and then posted about
fresh starts on January first, it annoyed the hell out
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of me. I commented privately that change isn't real if
you don't address what you messed up. This sound like
bitch this year. This is one of your axes, somebody.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
They told me I was being negative, bitch, not negative? Nancy?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Am I ignorant for thinking some people use the new
year as a reset button instead of doing the real work?
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Bitch?
Speaker 1 (26:05):
No?
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Because you right as hell.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
This is where a lot of people, like you said,
decide that they could just wipe the slate clean. I
think one of the things that have annoyed me the
most about all of the New Year's resolution posts are
the disperson ain't coming into twenty twenty six with me.
I'm leaving them back in twenty twenty five. Well did
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you talk to them? Did you address what they did
that made you feel this way? Was their communication. Did
y'all sit down? Were you a fucking adult? I think
that's the thing too. A lot of people want to
put blame onto other people because they live in their
own bubbles, right, They don't they don't even know the
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full scope picture because they've already created their own narrative
about a situation, about a person, about an incident without
addressing it, without talking to the other person, and so
it's constant built up resentment.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Instead of.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Accountability, instead of adulting, instead of having conversation and using
your words to actually figure out the roots of the problem.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Now, that's actually to.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Me, the interpersonal problem with just people and how they
engage with people. But then you also have the self work, right,
so you have the gym people. Maybe y'all not seeing
me in that gym until about the second week of
January because that shit about to be packed. It's about
to be full. Every year, we don't get past that.
It is literally New year.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
Knew me. I'm going to go into the gym.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Start a gym membership, and then not see you guys
after two weeks. So for me, I love the idea
of it. But again, yeah, it's like to me, it's
a lack of discipline. And if you start every New
year off with a New Year's resolution.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
And you don't resolve.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Any of your previous issues, So you start the new
year off with a resolution, and every year you don't
stick to that New Year's resolution, maybe at that point
it's pointless. At that point, you could stop. At that point,
the vision board ain't helping. At that point, you not
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manifest the shit, or at that point, whatever good in
your life that you want to happen, you might be
stopping yourself from getting it. I don't think this thought
is ignorant at all. New Year's Knew Me don't like
it now if you're watching this on video, New year
Knew Me with the mullet, I'm rocking a mullet in
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twenty twenty six just to get dear my grow out
phase of my hair, okay, or when I can't make
it to New York to get my hair done.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
But yeah, any.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
I am going to allow you guys to hear a
really dope am I ignorant from my class assembly last month,
and I'm really excited for you guys to hear it
because it's like, oh, also, if you want to join
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the class assemblies. Make sure you head on over to Patreon.
It is patreon dot com. Backslash with Mandy b where
this year, I'm really excited to give you guys more vlogs,
more bonus episodes, and we're creating a whole new show
over there where we're going to be taking your calls live.
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So really excited to be growing out selective ignorance into
even just more content.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
I'm like, I'm really excited about this year.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Not that it's a New Year's resolution, but many of
you guys know that I relocated last year to New
York to Atlanta after living in New York for thirteen years,
and last year was a.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
Culture shock for me. It was a shift in speed
of my life.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
It was a shift in my home that I've worked
over this last year to make my sanctuary. And creatively,
Weezy and I were going through the rebrand of horrible Decisions.
We were working on promoting and the drop of our
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instant New York Times bestselling book, No Holds Barred. I
got into radio, I'm getting into writing television and film,
and just twenty twenty five, my brain, you know, it
was a cluster fuck. It was a lot emotionally, and
so I'm just excited to tap full fledge into creating
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and I'm excited for that, I really am.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
So.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
If you would like to support my solo ventures in
the creative lane this year again, head on over to
patreon dot com backslash with Mandy B.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
And again.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
This is an excerpt from the Class Assembly last month
over on Patreon. I hope you enjoy this Ami ignorant
from there and again, see you guys next week.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (31:56):
This might upset the anti vaxxers.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Oh goodness, I love before you get ignorant, you have
to throw it out there, Okay.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Sugar warning for the anti vaxers.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (32:06):
So in Tampa, I've been seeing all of these signs
and I'm not going to say the name, but I'm
still gonna make up a name. Okay, pray for Susie.
And I'm like, yo, I keep seeing all these signs,
like businesses have them up, you know, people have the
little six in their yard. So I googled it. I
was like, why are Tampa signs saying pray for Susie?
(32:28):
So I come to find out that it's a five
year old who a few weeks ago ended up hospitalized
because she has the measles, and the news articles where
they all said the family is asking for privacy as
they you know, pray and navigate this healing journey, and
I'm like, she's not vaxxed.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
She's not like that.
Speaker 4 (32:52):
All of like all of the signs have like a
Corinthians prayer on there, and I looked it up and
it was about like how prayer will heal you from
any wounds or something like that, and I'm like, oh,
she's definitely not vacked.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
She's five years old.
Speaker 4 (33:04):
There's been measles outbreaks primarily amongst the conservative community who
doesn't believe in vaccinations, am I ignorance? Were not really
feeling bad for this five year old little girl?
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Ooh okay, so we could feel bad for the five
year old. We should not have empathy for the parents
losing their child, like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Oh, tam, wait is that her worst?
Speaker 4 (33:28):
But that's how you left.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
That's how I just thought of it, like the parents
did it. The parents killed their kid. So like to me,
there's nothing like a child can't advocate for themselves right
to get vaccinations, to get medicines, to be taken to
the doctor. Unfortunately, a five year old doesn't have the autonomy.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
And so you can feel sad that a child didn't
get to fulfill their life, or did it get to
go to first grade or high school or go to prom.
Speaker 2 (34:04):
I think that it's very fine to have empathy for
the child. We could be ignorant.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
I don't feel bad for the parents, because if you
lead a life in twenty twenty five, bitch, we've lived
through a pandemic.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
You can't sit here and just think God gonna heal all.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
And sobbe was born during the pandemic.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Oh, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (34:28):
Do you want to know where the parents lie with
me in terms of empathy.
Speaker 4 (34:34):
I don't have any people but people who.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Who die from being in a cult. Oh.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
If you have the mindset to not be logical in
the things that we face as human beings. And here
I go, not me leaning into science, but there's things
that we should get because we are still fucking you know,
pieces of matter that get back to viruses, all these things,
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and if they go untreated, guess what the consequence can
be oftentimes death? And what do we know as human beings,
whether we are Christians, Muslims, Atheists, Jews, whatever, what do
we know?
Speaker 2 (35:16):
One thing's for certain. Death is inevitable.
Speaker 1 (35:20):
And so if you want to play with God and
you want to put your faith there by all means
do so.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
But the same way, we just don't hope for a.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Job to fall out of the sky and land in
our laps for us to pay our bills. I think
the idea that a healing blessing from another universe is
going to take place with something.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
You know what I mean, like the measles. Yeah, nah,
so to me, really good? Am I ignorant?
Speaker 1 (35:50):
You just gotta move your your lack of empathy to
the other person, not the child.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
Just just move it over.
Speaker 4 (35:57):
Yeah, I'm like, this little girl doesn't deserve to go
through this, But I do blame her parents for making
this decision.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
So the child did pass or the child?
Speaker 4 (36:06):
Because every everything that I'm seeing is still saying pray
for Susie, and I'm like, okay, so how is she doing?
And there the family really isn't being forthcoming with her status.
So again that leads me to believe that they're choosing
to just pray and hope she gets better.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
When that's and.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
You know what, I'm gonna pray not happen, keeping that
baby inside if the baby's still alive, because you don't
want to see like measles is contagious. You don't need
an outbreak to get to other like. It's just it's
just irresponsible. And I mean, the conversations around anti vaxxing
is tricky because I'm friends with and have dated anti vaxers.
(36:46):
But all right, I see, and then when you get
to name calling them shit, Trev.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Trev raised his hand, go.
Speaker 5 (36:55):
Ahead, and and the thing about it the worst is
that if you know, if she does pull which I
hope she does pull through, oh they're just gonna be
out here talking about how God is so great and
save their baby and this this and how they were
in the right and everything was just this how God
planned everything.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
It's that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
And Brittany just brought out that there was there's a
there there may be also an outbreak of measles in Texas.
There was an outbreak in measles maybe two or three
years ago in New York. Also love Britney's comment. Brittany said,
crazy how they want control over women's bodies but don't
want anybody to tell them to bask their kids. Make
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it makes sense, Make it make sense. It is tricky
out here. I mean, I think at the end of
the day, we know that we are living in a
world of hypocrisy, and the best you could do.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Is do the best of what you got because at
the end of the day, the day go end. And
that's just kind of how we got to live our lives. Y'all.
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Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey Hey, hey, class may.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It is twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Yeah, we made it.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I'm not gonna say New Year knew me. I'm gonna
let y'all decide if that's the case. This year twenty
twenty five was such, I will say, an interesting year.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I don't think it was great.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
It wasn't bad on this side, but I know it
it was indifferent for so many people. So baby, if
you have a yet, go check out the recap episode
where myself and my superproducers talk about what twenty twenty
five looked like and felt and meant for us here
(00:55):
on the Selective Ignorance Pod. But this is the first
episodeisode of the new year, and it is a Friday drop.
So I am kicking this year off with an MI
ignorant episode. If you would like to submit your MI
ignorant sentiments scenarios over to me, make sure you drop
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that email off at Selective Ignorance Pod pod at gmail
dot com. You can also DM it to me or
hop yos up in the discord like the girlies have done.
Shout out to everyone in the discord. I really fucks
with y'all, Jojo treev Verry Connie. I love the concetant
(01:44):
communication over on the discord. And you can get access
to the discord if you join our Patreon that's patreon
dot com backslash with Mandy B. That's right, switching over
to Patreon just a little bit. Anyways, So before we
get into the MIAs, actually I have them right here,
but I'm like, before we get into that, I wanted
(02:05):
to update y'all on some of my ignorant thoughts over
the last two weeks or so. And both will come, yeah,
from the last two weeks. So the first one, I
just have to get this off my chest, y'all. I
have to y'all know how we talk about recipes are
(02:29):
dying and traditions are being lost amongst USTs.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Well, let's start with one.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
That I would like for y'all to really to really
go back hard to capture again. So, as y'all know,
I went to Kirous Out for my Christmas vacation whatever
you want to call it, as a single and i'm
single because I'm not married, but I got boyfriends, but
(02:58):
we just didn't choose to spend the holidays share together.
So as a single, childless adult, I thought, you know,
let me go and get a tan because maybe the
way my melanin is set up for the wintertime, it's
rough out here, and I'm already looking pretty translucent, fairly yellow,
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and so I was like.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Okay, let me go to an island.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
So, I mean, I guess one of the ignorant parts
of going to kiraus Out was that I knew it
was an ABC island.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
But bitch, why did I think the bee was Bermuda.
It's not. It's bon Air.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
So the ABC Islands, y'all are about forty to fifty
miles off of the coast of Venezuela.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
So I've talked about loving Aruba down baby.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Them hotels was a little steep. So I went to
kiras Out. Now this is my first week traveling Christmas week.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Do y'all tell me.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
If I'm just ignorant and had no clue. But I'm
gonna tell you what I got to say. So I
get to keira Sound Christmas week. Normally I travel the
first week of January. Now why do I do this?
Because if you guys were unfamiliar and if you guys
have the opportunity and privileged to do so. This week,
(04:23):
this first week of January is cheap and quiet. Baby,
all the kids back to school and bitches is back
to work. So normally like this first week is fairly.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Cheap because everybody got to get back home, right.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
So I should have known there was gonna be an
issue when I hoped my ass on the BIAT and
saw that all the excursions were just regular excursions and
none said adults only. Because baby, I'm always gonna look
foe an adult only because.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I don't want to be on a boat with churing.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
I don't want to be drinking my servesa in the
morning and being judged by a little seven year old.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
I don't want to hear crying.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I don't want to have to be considerate and let
that motherfucker get his little life best before me. I like,
an adult only turns up boat. There was no adult
only boats, so I was like, okay, maybe that's sa't
a thing in the currorse out now here is where
(05:35):
my issue lied. It's Christmas morning, Christmas Eve. I decided
I want to spend my morning at the pool. I
decided I want to spend my afternoon on Christmas Eve.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
At the pool. It is flooded with children.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
When I say flooding, like flooded from one years old
up to about fifteen sixteen. Children are everywhere. And so
I'm sitting sitting on my bed.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Hearing kids splash and play and yell and scream, and.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I'm like, we talk about why there's, you know, no
barbecues on Memorial Day and Labor Day anymore. We talk
about certain traditions that are lost. And all I could
think about was why the fuck them children was not
in their living rooms in they homes, opening up gifts
(06:39):
under a goddamn tree, drinking hot cocoa, watching Christmas movies.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
I was real.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I was like, bitch, ain't in a recession. I'm looking
up like this is expensive. But also, why are you
taking the tradition of waking up in the morning, you know,
seeing that Santa Claus ate the cookies and opening up
crimal gifts under the tree in your living room? Be home,
(07:11):
enjoy the rent you pay for, Let your kids grow
up like kids. Why are you bringing kids securious out
taking them around all these drug ass single adults.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
They might want to work from time to time, bitch.
I was baffled.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I was like, Okay, Christmas week might not be the
week I travel anymore, because damn, it's like.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Wow wow wow.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
So that was my little ignorant moment that I had
over Christmas. I immediately went to fuck them kids. They
should be opening up gifts under their tree in their
living rooms at home, not on an island.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
This is reserved for adults only. Goddamn it. I was
really upset. I was actually upset that they had the
money to do it. Damn, I ain't growing like that.
Look at me, Look at me now. I'm just being selfish.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
And the second ignorant thought that I had, and I
don't think it's actually very ignorant. I think I leaned
into recognizing that my once ignorant thought was actually very valid.
And before I get to that thought, I do want
to send prayers to the two lives lost in the
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Anthony Joshua car accident that took place right before I
believe it was Christmas Eve, Christmas or New Year's Eve.
It was a tragic accident that took place celebrating the holidays.
After Anthony Joshua beat Jake Paul in the boxing match
(09:00):
in Miami, and oh my god, that is just sad.
I want to say at this point, it's ignorant for
people to still be retweeting. There's a video currently up
right now that shows the deceased bodies on the ground,
(09:21):
and I thought.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I thought we were past that people.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I thought we were past sharing those type of bodies,
specifically bodies of color on the internet.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Very very disheartening.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
I do hope actually that the driver is charged in this.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
That will be my opinion on this.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
If you see the diagram, knowing the speeds that he
was traveling, it was reckless driving. And in twenty twenty six,
I want you classmates to advocate for your life. When
you are in a vehicle and someone just decides that
they're God and they're not going certain speeds driving and
(10:14):
trying to go in between vehicles, it's just it's dangerous.
It's dangerous, and when you have other lives in the car,
the way that you drive when you're in a vehicle
by yourself should not be the way that you drive
when you are carrying passengers. And so again, thoughts, prayers,
condolences to all of those families.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
There's so many people impacted there, and.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
I just.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
My thoughts to Anthony Joshua and what he's probably currently
living with right now in terms of survivors remorse.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Is just disheartening.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
But the ignorant thought that I had seeing all of
the news around this was the decision that I have
publicly made. And y'all may have heard me say it
on my other podcast, or I believe I may have
said it here. And I'll explain to you guys too
why I feel like it sounds ignorant.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
But baby, now it's not. So I have said.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
So, I visited Nigeria to celebrate a friend's birthday. She
was living there with her partner at the time, and
so me and my best friend went over there to
celebrate her birthday. This was in two thousand and sixteen,
maybe twenty seventeen, twenty seventeen.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
I believe we were out there for about two weeks.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
We stayed in Chevy Lucky which is in Legos, and
you know, partied on Victoria Island and you know, I
went to the markets, We went to even the nicer area,
We went to the clubs. After coming back, I have
said that a person could not pay me to go
back to Nigeria. And for me being someone who's so
(12:03):
well traveled, I've also been to third world countries I'm
not I've stayed in hostels, I've taken night buses, I
you know, engulfed myself into culture when I go out.
Especially back then, I didn't have, you know, the finances
that I do have today. But Nigeria to me, was
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one of the countries that made me feel the most unsafe.
It made me feel the most like.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Not at ease.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
It made me feel the most paranoid. I was saying
with my friend's partner and her and even when we
went out, when we got picked up, we had to
travel with men with guns that were military trained. I
remember getting money out of an ATM and a car
(12:59):
apparently being spotted that watched us, and we had to
like go in and out of traffic to get away
from this vehicle. The roads there are no lines, it's
very like congested. And then at the lights there's so
many people trying to sell you forks and spoons and
(13:23):
socks and gadgets and spatueless and just all the strangest things,
like if you're in Atlanta, or if you're in certain
cities where maybe someone's selling water bottles at a stop
light or roses during the holidays. Imagine that, But imagine
probably at any given time, five to ten multiple people
(13:47):
banging on your window, getting their head in your car
if your window is down, and trying to sell you.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Silverware. And I get it, you know, they're trying to
make money.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
But it was just a lot and in terms of
going out partying, it just also nothing about that country
made me want to go back. It's also one of
the countries that you have to be invited to, so
it lacks tourism, and so it lacks the infrastructure of
(14:22):
what you would essentially do on a trip, right, Like
you know I just said, I went to Viator trip advisor,
you go and look up tours, very limited tours.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
And so.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
When I saw the lack of medical emergency for a
man worth one hundred million dollars plus, for visitors into
that country, to know that bodies lied on the ground,
to know that Anthony Joshua sat in that vehicle for
(14:56):
ten minutes unconscious and passer by people pedestrians pull him
out of that car wreckage, to know that he had
to be transported to the hospital in a police vehicle.
You you can't pay me to go down Debty December
or whatever celebration takes place there. I baby, if you
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do feel the need to continue going to Nigeria to celebrate,
to be a part of the festivities.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
I also don't even know if.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Traveler insurance will help, because there is a way that
you can purchase travelers insurance to where you could be
you can receive medical attention at a load to no
costs in other countries.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
But boy, boy.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Was was that almost like a okay, you you felt right?
Speaker 2 (16:00):
It's sad.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
And what's also crazy too, is we talk about where
we're headed here in America with the wage gaps, with
the class gaps, and how there's a you know, we're
just widening the gap between lower class, middle class and
the one percenters, right. I think that was also a
(16:25):
country where I was just like, oh wow, I didn't
really view a middle class at all. And again, this
was back in twenty seventeen. If you're from Nigeria and
you've been to Nigeria and you don't believe that I
saw a full cup of it. Again, I was there
for two weeks. This is my experience, and my experience
only But the reason why, you know, I lead into
(16:49):
it sounding a bit ignorant is because I almost felt
guilty for speaking this of a African country one with
you know, black residents, because you know, I just felt
like I was leaning into the ignorance of putting that
(17:10):
type of quote unquote stereotype on an African country. However,
I have said I absolutely loved South Africa, which I
know also sounds ignorant because bitch as white as ale
down there, but loved South Africa, went to Johannesburg and
Cape Town, and then loved Ghana. I'll actually be in
Ghana April twenty third to April twenty eighth of this year,
(17:32):
so really excited to share my experience there with you guys.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
But yeah, those were.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
My two thoughts that sprinkled in my mind. I have
another one, but I'm gonna share it for next week's episode.
But yeah, it was that we need to bring the
tradition of letting kids open their gifts back under a
tree in their living room.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
In their living room is.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Important because people was trying to say, well, how you
know they open up gifts in the hotel room.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
They need to open up gifts on Crima Eve and
Crima in a living room under the tree, not at
my resort. And then yeah, I'm sorry, I'm saying it.
Y'all can't pay me to go to Nigeria and seeing
the lack of infrastructure over there, maybe they got at
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least a decade out of me.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
What they not seeing me? Ooh, real ignorant?
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Take Saudi Arabia probably gonna see me before Nigeria, see
my ass.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Okay, I ain't even gonna hold you anyway. Let's get
in two.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Some am I ignorant thoughts around New Year's resolutions? Now,
I pulled one of these from my DMS, one from
the email, and then I had an amazing am I ignorant?
On my class assembly, which is our once a month
meeting where.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
My patrons get to join me.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
So I'm going to actually include that at the end
here so you could kind of see what a class
assembly is like.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
But here we go. I'm reading two here and love
this one out the.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Gate because when I saw her page, I was like,
I see you and your friends, and I get it.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
I don't know if you're wrong, So here we go.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
My friend said her New Year's resolution is to rest more,
say no, and stop overworking.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
She called it choosing a soft life.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Now, y'all know we even talk about the soft life
thing now, at least over all decisions we have. I
told her that sounds like an excuse to avoid responsibility
and fall behind while.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Everyone else is hustle. I meant it is tough. Love.
Life doesn't slow down just because you won't peace.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
She looked hurt and said, last year nearly burned her
out completely. I get burnout exists, but isn't pushing through
kind of a part of adulthood. Now I'm wondering if
I was honest or just ignorant about how other people
choose to survive.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Okay, now, few things here.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I like that your friend's approach to soft life wasn't
waiting for a nigga to take care of her and
pay all the bills and save her from working a job.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
That's where a lot of my friends are right now.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
And when you get to be about thirty eight thirty
nine photo photo one, photo two, and you waiting for
a man to come in, swoop you up and take
care of you, the word ain't ignorant, but it's close.
So I'm actually not mad at your friend. She's calling
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it a sipe, a soft life, but resting more, saying
no and to not overwork doesn't mean you're not gonna
work at all. Now, if you're a millennial, I feel
like a lot of us do have to unlearn this
overwork until we burn out, over extending ourselves, not saying no,
(21:29):
not taking PTO, not not listening to our bodies when
our bodies tell us that we're doing the most, and
doing the most doesn't need to be like a bad thing.
If you guys have been listening since I had see.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
The thing is, I think every year.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
For those three years, I hopped online, sat in front
of this microphone and cried to you all about my burnouts.
And it wasn't good. It didn't feel good. I remember
my body shutting down. I remember resenting people that I
shouldn't have resented because it was my fault. They asked
me to do something and I just wasn't saying no, and.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
It really, it really was depressing.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
I think that those burnouts I only didn't experience this
year and last year because of therapy, because I listened
to my body, because I sat down and stopped feeling
guilty of taking a day off. We need to take
days off, We need to just binge TV. Sometimes we
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just need to fucking relax.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
And so I will say you may not know any
better in real life.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
So I'm gonna lean and say that you're selectively ignorant
here because you're aware of what burnouts do you have
to be. You're like bitch hustle all the time. And
so for me, if your friend went through a burnout
phase in twenty twenty five, if she doesn't want to
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experience that again, I think you can be supportive and
also not looking at this so black and white and
understanding that there's a gray. Her saying that she wants
to say no and not overwork herself is not saying
she don't want to work at all and be a
lazy son of a bitch, you know what I mean.
That's just not what she's saying. And so for this,
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your honesty was more black and white than ignorant.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
But I do also think that.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
You're not looking at all of the nuance here and
in twenty twenty six, I do want more of you
to say no. I want more of you to put
yourself first. I want more of you to take your
time off that you're granted for the entrepreneurs, don't feel
guilt in deciding that you're not gonna open up your
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laptop for one day. Like, as a human being, we
are not the robots that they're creating.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
We're not.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
And so in twenty twenty six, take the time off
that you need because going through a burnout, baby, it
takes a lot to get out of that slump. Sometimes
you get sick, sometimes you get into a state of depression.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Y'all know, I was just crying.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I was exhausted, And to be exhausted physically and mentally
and emotionally all at once while then still having to
show up for work, while still have having to be
a parent, while still having to be a friend, it's hard.
So I'm not gonna bring grace into twenty twenty six,
but I will say, yeah, like that's an okay resolution.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
It is, it is, it is, it is. Let's see.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Let's see what was this other one I wanted to do. Okay,
here we go, because I think the word of twenty
twenty six will be accountability. This one says, am I
ignorant for thinking that New Year knew me? Are people
avoiding accountability. Who somebody about to get read? So every
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January people say new year knew me like last year's
mistakes don't count anymore. I think growth requires owning what
you did wrong, not rebranding yourself every twelve months. When
someone I know cheated last year and then posted about
fresh starts on January first, it annoyed the hell out
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of me. I commented privately that change isn't real if
you don't address what you messed up. This sound like
bitch this year. This is one of your axes, somebody.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
They told me I was being negative, bitch, not negative? Nancy?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Am I ignorant for thinking some people use the new
year as a reset button instead of doing the real work?
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Bitch?
Speaker 1 (26:05):
No?
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Because you right as hell.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
This is where a lot of people, like you said,
decide that they could just wipe the slate clean. I
think one of the things that have annoyed me the
most about all of the New Year's resolution posts are
the disperson ain't coming into twenty twenty six with me.
I'm leaving them back in twenty twenty five. Well did
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you talk to them? Did you address what they did
that made you feel this way? Was their communication. Did
y'all sit down? Were you a fucking adult? I think
that's the thing too. A lot of people want to
put blame onto other people because they live in their
own bubbles, right, They don't they don't even know the
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full scope picture because they've already created their own narrative
about a situation, about a person, about an incident without
addressing it, without talking to the other person, and so
it's constant built up resentment.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Instead of.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Accountability, instead of adulting, instead of having conversation and using
your words to actually figure out the roots of the problem.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Now, that's actually to.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Me, the interpersonal problem with just people and how they
engage with people. But then you also have the self work, right,
so you have the gym people. Maybe y'all not seeing
me in that gym until about the second week of
January because that shit about to be packed. It's about
to be full. Every year, we don't get past that.
It is literally New year.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
Knew me. I'm going to go into the gym.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Start a gym membership, and then not see you guys
after two weeks. So for me, I love the idea
of it. But again, yeah, it's like to me, it's
a lack of discipline. And if you start every New
year off with a New Year's resolution.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
And you don't resolve.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Any of your previous issues, So you start the new
year off with a resolution, and every year you don't
stick to that New Year's resolution, maybe at that point
it's pointless. At that point, you could stop. At that point,
the vision board ain't helping. At that point, you not
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manifest the shit, or at that point, whatever good in
your life that you want to happen, you might be
stopping yourself from getting it. I don't think this thought
is ignorant at all. New Year's Knew Me don't like
it now if you're watching this on video, New year
Knew Me with the mullet, I'm rocking a mullet in
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twenty twenty six just to get dear my grow out
phase of my hair, okay, or when I can't make
it to New York to get my hair done.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
But yeah, any.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
I am going to allow you guys to hear a
really dope am I ignorant from my class assembly last month,
and I'm really excited for you guys to hear it
because it's like, oh, also, if you want to join
(29:37):
the class assemblies. Make sure you head on over to Patreon.
It is patreon dot com. Backslash with Mandy b where
this year, I'm really excited to give you guys more vlogs,
more bonus episodes, and we're creating a whole new show
over there where we're going to be taking your calls live.
(29:58):
So really excited to be growing out selective ignorance into
even just more content.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
I'm like, I'm really excited about this year.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Not that it's a New Year's resolution, but many of
you guys know that I relocated last year to New
York to Atlanta after living in New York for thirteen years,
and last year was a.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
Culture shock for me. It was a shift in speed
of my life.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
It was a shift in my home that I've worked
over this last year to make my sanctuary. And creatively,
Weezy and I were going through the rebrand of horrible Decisions.
We were working on promoting and the drop of our
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instant New York Times bestselling book, No Holds Barred. I
got into radio, I'm getting into writing television and film,
and just twenty twenty five, my brain, you know, it
was a cluster fuck. It was a lot emotionally, and
so I'm just excited to tap full fledge into creating
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and I'm excited for that, I really am.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
So.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
If you would like to support my solo ventures in
the creative lane this year again, head on over to
patreon dot com backslash with Mandy B.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
And again.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
This is an excerpt from the Class Assembly last month
over on Patreon. I hope you enjoy this Ami ignorant
from there and again, see you guys next week.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (31:56):
This might upset the anti vaxxers.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Oh goodness, I love before you get ignorant, you have
to throw it out there, Okay.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Sugar warning for the anti vaxers.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (32:06):
So in Tampa, I've been seeing all of these signs
and I'm not going to say the name, but I'm
still gonna make up a name. Okay, pray for Susie.
And I'm like, yo, I keep seeing all these signs,
like businesses have them up, you know, people have the
little six in their yard. So I googled it. I
was like, why are Tampa signs saying pray for Susie?
(32:28):
So I come to find out that it's a five
year old who a few weeks ago ended up hospitalized
because she has the measles, and the news articles where
they all said the family is asking for privacy as
they you know, pray and navigate this healing journey, and
I'm like, she's not vaxxed.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
She's not like that.
Speaker 4 (32:52):
All of like all of the signs have like a
Corinthians prayer on there, and I looked it up and
it was about like how prayer will heal you from
any wounds or something like that, and I'm like, oh,
she's definitely not vacked.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
She's five years old.
Speaker 4 (33:04):
There's been measles outbreaks primarily amongst the conservative community who
doesn't believe in vaccinations, am I ignorance? Were not really
feeling bad for this five year old little girl?
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Ooh okay, so we could feel bad for the five
year old. We should not have empathy for the parents
losing their child, like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Oh, tam, wait is that her worst?
Speaker 4 (33:28):
But that's how you left.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
That's how I just thought of it, like the parents
did it. The parents killed their kid. So like to me,
there's nothing like a child can't advocate for themselves right
to get vaccinations, to get medicines, to be taken to
the doctor. Unfortunately, a five year old doesn't have the autonomy.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
And so you can feel sad that a child didn't
get to fulfill their life, or did it get to
go to first grade or high school or go to prom.
Speaker 2 (34:04):
I think that it's very fine to have empathy for
the child. We could be ignorant.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
I don't feel bad for the parents, because if you
lead a life in twenty twenty five, bitch, we've lived
through a pandemic.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
You can't sit here and just think God gonna heal all.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
And sobbe was born during the pandemic.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Oh, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (34:28):
Do you want to know where the parents lie with
me in terms of empathy.
Speaker 4 (34:34):
I don't have any people but people who.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Who die from being in a cult. Oh.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
If you have the mindset to not be logical in
the things that we face as human beings. And here
I go, not me leaning into science, but there's things
that we should get because we are still fucking you know,
pieces of matter that get back to viruses, all these things,
(35:02):
and if they go untreated, guess what the consequence can
be oftentimes death? And what do we know as human beings,
whether we are Christians, Muslims, Atheists, Jews, whatever, what do
we know?
Speaker 2 (35:16):
One thing's for certain. Death is inevitable.
Speaker 1 (35:20):
And so if you want to play with God and
you want to put your faith there by all means
do so.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
But the same way, we just don't hope for a.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Job to fall out of the sky and land in
our laps for us to pay our bills. I think
the idea that a healing blessing from another universe is
going to take place with something.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
You know what I mean, like the measles. Yeah, nah,
so to me, really good? Am I ignorant?
Speaker 1 (35:50):
You just gotta move your your lack of empathy to
the other person, not the child.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
Just just move it over.
Speaker 4 (35:57):
Yeah, I'm like, this little girl doesn't deserve to go
through this, But I do blame her parents for making
this decision.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
So the child did pass or the child?
Speaker 4 (36:06):
Because every everything that I'm seeing is still saying pray
for Susie, and I'm like, okay, so how is she doing?
And there the family really isn't being forthcoming with her status.
So again that leads me to believe that they're choosing
to just pray and hope she gets better.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
When that's and.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
You know what, I'm gonna pray not happen, keeping that
baby inside if the baby's still alive, because you don't
want to see like measles is contagious. You don't need
an outbreak to get to other like. It's just it's
just irresponsible. And I mean, the conversations around anti vaxxing
is tricky because I'm friends with and have dated anti vaxers.
(36:46):
But all right, I see, and then when you get
to name calling them shit, Trev.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Trev raised his hand, go.
Speaker 5 (36:55):
Ahead, and and the thing about it the worst is
that if you know, if she does pull which I
hope she does pull through, oh they're just gonna be
out here talking about how God is so great and
save their baby and this this and how they were
in the right and everything was just this how God
planned everything.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
It's that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
And Brittany just brought out that there was there's a
there there may be also an outbreak of measles in Texas.
There was an outbreak in measles maybe two or three
years ago in New York. Also love Britney's comment. Brittany said,
crazy how they want control over women's bodies but don't
want anybody to tell them to bask their kids. Make
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it makes sense, Make it make sense. It is tricky
out here. I mean, I think at the end of
the day, we know that we are living in a
world of hypocrisy, and the best you could do.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Is do the best of what you got because at
the end of the day, the day go end. And
that's just kind of how we got to live our lives. Y'all.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
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