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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, viewers.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:27):
Welcome to Sniffy's Cruising Confessions. I'm Gabeln Sadez and I'm
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Speaker 4 (00:31):
Each week we explore the sublime world of queer sex, cruising,
and relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
We talked to queer folks of all kinds. We'll ask
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practical advice that.
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Speaker 3 (00:50):
Hi Chris, Hi, We're back at the table. Oh, we
are back at the table. I'm really excited.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Me too.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
We have a literal legend on our show today, Beary
for this absolute icon. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I have to ask you, Chris, do you remember the
first time you discovered porn star him Shabaz.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
You know, I was thinking about this when we were
preparing for this interview, and I'm sure you're thinking for
quite some time. It's been a long time that I've
been following the work.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
No, absolutely, absolutely, I was like out of the porn
industry at that point.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I was a retiree after my many days as a cameraman.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
And I think it was really exciting because Raheem was
one of the first porn stars I saw really make
a name for himself kind of on his own terms,
doing his own stuff. And I think, you know, post
the start of OnlyFans, you know, I want to say
maybe twenty seventeen, twenty eighteen, I think we really saw
a lot of performers modeling how to do things outside
the studio system. It's a double edged short, right, you're
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doing stuff on your own, so you're responsible for more,
but you're also pressured less into doing things you don't
want to do by the studio, like the way I
love seeing porn stars be verse on their own channel.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Maybe, and I know that the studios like you're only
a top. You'll only ever be a top, You'll never
be more than that. Yeah, I'm just like let people
get fucked. Every writes me crazy.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
But no, I don't know if it was through word
of mouth or word of whole, but I heard about
Rahim and he has truly been a staple in the
industry for sure.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
And then like every girl going to Brazil, it's always like,
am I gonna run in?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Am I gonna? Am I gonna see them?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
He took come to Brazil to an entirely new level.
Truly say I'm coming on Brazil. How about that, I'm
coming on and in Brazil?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Love that.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
I feel like if he threw a concert, he could
get Lady Gaga numbers.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
You don't know one hundred percent because I'm buying my ticket.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Yeah, I don't know, Like I'm buying my christ did
buy their ticket. It's a one way ticket, so she's
never coming back to the podcast.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
Raheem Shabaz has been dominating the adult film world since
twenty nineteen with raw, unapologetic content.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
As an award winning star and director.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
He has earned awards like Performer of the Year at
the Gave Ends in twenty twenty four and twenty twenty five.
He's also currently one of the judges on out TV's
mail stripper competition series Darkroom Duel hosted by Willem, but.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
His biggest accomplishment was to start his own studio, Voyeur,
a few years ago.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
We have all watched.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
In today's episode, we're gonna be talking to the performer
turned director turned mogul about how he got here, where
he's going, and what it's like to run an adult
studio in the age of OnlyFans.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
We'll also pick up some tips and tricks for shooting
your own content. And here's some spicy cruising confessions.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
So please welcome to Snivie's Cruising Confessions. Clap those cheeks
for Raheem.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Show boys. Welcome Raheem. Thank you for joining us today.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Thank you much for the invitation, Thanks for flying in.
We haven't even started. Just wait, so Raheem.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
For the rare listener or viewer who might not be
familiar with your porn. God God bless you innocent souls,
You're about to learn a lot. Can you describe what
Voyeur does and the type of content and scenes that
you specialize in Voyeur.
Speaker 5 (04:11):
We work with a lot of content creators, so it
allows them a chance to work studio style. In terms
of what we do what we like to provide. We
we kind of like to provide that experience you have
in a dream that you wake up from and you
just you just want to have it again, like intimacy, passion.
We want to show connection between the performers as opposed
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to just pounding and screaming as a.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Place has a place, a place, it's just not this place.
I mean, we have some of that, but yeah, at least.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
You're changing up the rhythm every now and then, you
know what I mean. You've been in the industry now
about six years. You started in twenty nineteen. What was
your start? Did you start with studio porn? Did you
start making your own stuff? What was sort of that
journey and decision like to start making porn?
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Well, you know, I was like having wrus. Yeah, I
was like the sex plug.
Speaker 5 (05:07):
Like people come over and we'd have groups and we'd
have orgies, and there were times where we'd record them.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
We wouldn't post.
Speaker 5 (05:15):
Them or anything, but we would just have them just
to have them. And I started noticing something in the
faces of the people that we were having sex with.
It was almost like they were possessed, and I didn't
see that in porn. So yeah, because it's the way
I have sex.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Yeah, I've seen I'm not I'm not trying to like
hurt you.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
I'm not trying yeah. Yeah, I'm not trying to prove
a point, trying to touch your soul.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
I tell people, if there's no connection then then yeah no.
And I think that element is the thing that has
really made you so successful.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Well do you feel like it's so interesting? Because I
think so.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
I used to work as a cameraman for a porn
company and in studio porn. It does feel like you're
kind of like paired up. It's like when two main
actors are cast in a rom com, right, like you,
you hope to have chemistry from the interview, you're not sure.
And I think what's been kind of exciting about the
era of only fans and self made creators starting their
own company like yourself, is that you get to set
the vibe, you decide who to work with. You you
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can establish a relationship. But that idea of it just
being a quick exchange, right, just get on set, do
the makeup, fucking leave. You're right, there's something you feel
that it's missing.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
This is gonna sound cheesy as fuck, but I Compare
it to theater and Hollywood filmmaking. Yeah, real actors love
doing plays where they can just go right through it
and that takes skill, and they hate the Hollywood process
where they have to stop and go and stop and go.
And I feel like what I do. Compared it to
the studio I've done studio like for me, like, once
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I get going, you know, we can't make me sweat.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, take a lunch break.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
No, I don't like to ever lose that connection because
sometimes you don't even get it back when you go down.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
It's like a sport. You want to keep going, going, going.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Comparing it to live theater does kind of sense, right,
there's something a little more like active when you're watching
the Warrior stuff that feels it feels like it's in
the moment.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
We hope it comes out that way because you know,
for us, the more we have to act, the more.
Speaker 5 (07:10):
We hate it because we're not really into it, Like
we want our audience to feel what we're feeling.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
That's what we call it.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
And sometimes you do have a crowd. You got folks watching.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I was like, do you like a crowd? Do you
enjoy it?
Speaker 2 (07:24):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Yeah? I do like a crowd, especially when I get
the show off.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, and then some people join and people watching.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
But I'm not having sex. I'll be like, I don't
know why anyone's interested in me. But then while I'm
having sex.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Like.
Speaker 5 (07:44):
This is what.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
It's making sense. I want to talk about Brazil.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Okay, we're still come to Brazil.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
You are Jersey boy end up going back and forth
to Brazil for a scouting for shooting, Like how did
that happen?
Speaker 5 (08:01):
When I was twenty five, I had recently moved to
la and a friend was like, oh, you have to
come to Brazil, you know, And I'm like, I don't
want to go. I'm I'm from Jersey. I thought it
was just rainforest. So he was like, all right, get
your passport, We're going to Brazil. So me, him and
my boyfriend at the time went down to Brazil, and
I fell in love with the place because I hadn't
started working out yet. I was this insecure boy from
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Jersey and when you get down there, you're not wearing
a swim trunks. They make sure you throw on a
speedout and I'm like, I look silly in this thing.
I'm going to go back home and work out, but
at the same time, they still make you feel sexy
just the way they treat you. It's almost like you
have an immediate friend outside of anything sexual. When I
got into OnlyFans, I had friends in Brazil because I've
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been going to Brazil for over a decade, so all
the guys out there were my friends. So I was like, oh,
you know, there's this thing OnlyFans. Listen, I know how
y'all have sex. I can't if I have sex like that.
So we yeah, we all kind of got together and
worked out how we'd all work together to get our
names out there. Amazing, a lot of the guys down
there before everything jumped off, you know that a lot
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of studios would come down there and take advantage of them,
paying them like pennies compared to what they pay other
guys in the other parts of the world. And in
my opinion, they did a thing better than the other guys.
And they do it without attitude, and they do it
in a way in which they don't look at each
other as competition. They're looking at each other as helping
each other because for them, it's about survival, because they're
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supporting their families, their loved ones. So it's nice to
see them like have an out or a way to
make a significant income without being taken advantage of.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
I mean, I've seen it as well.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
There's some studios that would bring people in for interviews
and as soon as the person said yes, they'd pop
them right in front of the camera without any training
any like.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
And they would never have any right to that video. Again.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah, there was one performer who had a company make
a dildo inspired by his dick without ever asking him
or telling him. Even so, they like not only stole
his image for the box, but claimed that the doldo
was shaped like his penis. People think they can get
away with some real sneaky ship in the porn industry,
and I think part of that is because people feel
like it's still underground right there. There's not a lot
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of like openness in terms of talking about the industry.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
There aren't a lot of usis yeah exactly.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
You got to rely on someone who've been through it
and been you know, through those mistakes or been through
the trauma to be like, hey, look out for this
or do this, which it sounds like you're doing right,
Like it sounds like there needs to be more people
like you're working at porn, who have that perspective of
being an actor and know what feels right and what
seems fair.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
At the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Talk to me about making that switch from actor to director.
Speaker 5 (10:41):
I feel like the Brazilians directed me based off of
the experiences that I've had there. When you're directing someone,
you just you just teach them to be as natural, well,
in my style, natural as possible. Establish a brand for
yourself what people are going to know you for, just
like a wweast, you know, get that special move. You
gotta get those moves in that people know you buy it.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
I'm thinking about my special moves.
Speaker 5 (11:05):
Going to be my main word to people before we
start is show off because you're on a stage and
you want when people see you, you want them to
want to see more of you.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So show off. I say that to my bottoms too,
even show off. I don't bottom much.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Yeah, Chris is like a You're a very adventurous spirit,
but it takes a while.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
To yeah, get around to it.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Well.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Also, I don't have a lot of tops in my life.
That's what I was going to ask you.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
Number one, you're built the way you're built and you're
a black man, so people are always so do you
think you don't bottom much because you can't find.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
The top that you that is wanting or willing. Really,
I just like I'm a bottom magnet. They see me
and they like reach out and like the tops don't
really I know.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
So many that would have asked about you, even all right,
we're going to fix off, can we We're going to
send them my way back to Brooklyn right over?
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Hi?
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Hi? H No.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
But I mean that's also the fun. Fun part of
it is seeing someone with your energy, your character and
then like in that moment they just turned into something
totally different.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Oh yeah, when my bottom switches on, Yeah, people are
always a surprised just turns.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Into something totally different, just like me. I feel like
I have such a delightful.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
Conservative energy, but as soon as the sex turns on
and like it's I could be whispering in someone's ear.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I'm like, because I think when we talked to you,
I think the only impression I had of you was
from your porn scenes, and there's something very like not
not like authoritative, but there's something really kind of like
I got it right, You're you're kind of like the
guiding hand in the scene.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Yeah, yeah, What does it take for you to get
into that mindset when you're on set?
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Right?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Like, how do you go from the right heam, we're
talking to now to the right hem. That's like balls
d been whispering crazy shit and someone's here.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Oh yo yo, it's funny, asked.
Speaker 5 (13:04):
I listened to the same song really with two songs,
La La La La La by Ari Lennox, okay, and
I listened to open Up by Danielle Caesar, but it's
called open and then it's the kiss. On that first kiss,
it's over. It's just like it's like match and I
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look at it like a sport.
Speaker 3 (13:25):
Like this time the balls will be going back and forth.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I'm curious were there any experiences you had as a
performer before you started directing where you had like pet
peeves and you were like, I never want to do
that as a director.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
And I never liked titles being attached to me. So
they wanted me to be at the top because you don't.
I don't want to be labeled as I don't want
to be called daddy. I don't want none of that. Ye,
I just want to be myself. Yeah, That's why Only
Fans is so great, is because we can be ourselves.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, and I think there is a it's certainly changing
a bit, but there's a trend in studio where it's
like a right, you're the top of your top, your bottom,
your bottom. It's nice to hear that you found some liberation,
right to be yourself and not like an archetype. And
you did that by starting your own company.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:12):
Yeah, I don't wonder why that is, right, Like, why
are studios so beholden to these rigid.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Because they work.
Speaker 5 (14:19):
I mean it's just like yeah TV, if there's a
trend that's popping, they're going to run into the ground.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (14:25):
When we do Only Fans, we kind of get to
experiment and see what works for us. When it's the studio,
they're putting money into the project, so they're gonna want
to make sure they get the return.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
It's just like a movie.
Speaker 5 (14:34):
They're gonna they're gonna hire the stars that are gonna
get them the audience that they want.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Are you contracted with those big studio or you are? Okay?
Speaker 3 (14:42):
There used to be exclusive contracts from some common right, even.
Speaker 5 (14:47):
With the guys that I worked with Voyeur you know
a lot of people say, oh, you should sign them
to exclusive contracts, and I'm like, no, they're they're their
own businessmen, and I want them to act that way.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Yeah, we just working together. Yeah, I want them to
come back if they want exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
I would imagine that's the kind of thing you've learned
being a being am.
Speaker 5 (15:06):
Because in all honesty, if I if I followed the
rules of an exclusive, I wouldn't have grown.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Talking about studio porn, I feel like the nineties into
the two thousand's was sort of that last era where
we started seeing big budget porn right, like, so that's costumes, storylines.
I feel like that's kind of fallen out of the mainstream.
But if you had all the money in the world
and you could shoot like an old school porn scene,
what would that porn sceine look like?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
I would love like something out of the Matrix.
Speaker 5 (15:37):
Oh, I love that, like the full because people don't realize, like,
when I'm filming povs, I'm basically playing neo because I'm like.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Wit one hand holding my phone. Okay, so Matrix were
we casting.
Speaker 5 (15:54):
I would love to cast Sean Zehyrin, who kind of
got me started Hazel Hoffman phrase melanin and then just like.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
A lot of the new performers. Are you liking the
new performers, that's the next generation of stars. I do okay,
I do? You know? And you know what, let me
say this. I had to train myself early on.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
Don't ever become one of these performers who say, oh dang,
as good as we used to do it.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
You have to realize, you know, things evolved. It's also
the ages that they.
Speaker 5 (16:24):
Feel comfortable during that stuff, because I don't feel like
I became even comfortable showing my face on an.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
App until I was in my thirties. You know how
we used to always just show the body. Oh my god,
I always put my face out there.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
I mean, you've got a really beautiful one. The face
card never declined.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Come on, now, you appreciate it.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
You knew that, and stop.
Speaker 5 (16:43):
It's so nice to hear. Are you guys together? Oh no,
we just sound like we are, Mike a good couple.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
I can see it through the room.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Surprise, surprise, top we can we start the scene and
everybody thinks they no, because you're gonna be the We're.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Like I love that.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Oh my god, No, you're you're you're my sister.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
No for sure, Yeah, yeah truly, but like my really
hots Okay, that's actually a little in senstuous.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Maybe not my sister. You're a mesty all right, we're
not gonna do that. We're not gonna do that. We're
not family in that way that.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
It really does. When I learn what what is selling,
it's like, yeah, well it's like.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
The straight people love stepmoms hooking up with the sun,
and then the gays love twins getting fucked together.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Like it's really wild.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Am I allowed to ask you guys questions? What kind
of porn do you watch? I don't watch porn? You don't.
Since getting sober, I have stopped watching a lot of porn.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
And now I have a lot of friends who are creators,
and every time I would open an app, it would
be them, and I was like, I know that this
is going to be very sexy, but I do not
want to see you having sex.
Speaker 5 (18:02):
My best friend said that, he was like every time, like, well,
the fucking porn hub, it's you and I got cheap strolling.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Yeah, and then it's you again.
Speaker 5 (18:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Yeah, it's funny you say that though, because I felt
very much the same way. I loved watching porn in
college because I just come out and I was like, Oh,
here are all the things I never knew about or
I never saw. And then I started editing porn and
I couldn't watch it for like the whole time I
worked there in a year after, because you see it
and it's like you start seeing the scenes, right, you
see where the edits are.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Yeah, you can notice everything, every single thing.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
So I would find myself watching porn and being like, oh,
I don't believe that cut, or like, oh his hand
is on the different side of his dick. They clearly
like cut and then reset. So's it started ruining the
fantasy for me. But it felt like being a filmmaker
and watching a movie.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I find it so disappointing when people just set up
a tripod and it's very far away and that's all
you get.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
I don't like a still camera.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
I feel like I'm watching the paranormal activity, you know
what I mean. It's like it feels like a home
security camera.
Speaker 5 (18:58):
That's why my camera guy he's always flying around us.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
That feels so dynamic, right when you when you go
from that wide shot and then you go in on
someone's face.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
It feels like you're being drawn in. Is that a
decision you made intentionally too early on? When you were
thinking about the vibe of voyeur, you were like, we
have to have a dynamic visual approach.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (19:14):
The way my camera moves it lets you know that
this isn't being chopped and pieced together.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
This is going all the way through. This is the
full experience. I mean, you can fast forward or rewind
it all you want, but yeah, this is this is
the real thing.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
Yeah. A lot of the shoots that you do with
Woyor are very like white tile, white sheets.
Speaker 5 (19:33):
Well, I like the I like the setting to be
as blank as possible so that the focus is on
there to perform. Absolutely, I think it makes the skins pop.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
I was in Miami recently, and you know, I had
a scene that day, so of course I ran the
Marshalls and got my white bed linen and I got
back in the hotel and I was in the elevator
with a group of people and this one guy was like, oh, oh,
I love your movies.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Oh I know what's happening. We saw the white linen
in the bag, and yeah, a.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Lot of friends I have that are porn performers often
get recognized in public, and they deal with it in
different ways.
Speaker 3 (20:08):
So when you get the look when you're on public
and someone's like, how do you respond.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
I say, my secret weapon is probably never to go
out in public. I mean I have the same places
that I generally go to every day, the park, hike, supermarket, okay,
and I'll just chill by my friend's so I don't
usually get to have to deal with it.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Maybe on a hike, yeah you know, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
I was gonna save all the locations you listed. I
feel like gays in La loved going for hiding.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
That's where it happens.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
It's always cute when it's like a group of them
coming down the hill and then one of them is
like the one that's bold enough to step aside and
feel like I love you. But you just smile, yeah,
say thank you and keep a push. And I have dogs,
I have to keep a push.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
You've always got to exit strategy with the dogs.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
In the bedroom. Oh my god, I gotta take my
dogs for a walk.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
All right, Well, we are going to take a quick break,
but when we come back, we will be pumping rightheem
for some helpful.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
Tips for shooting your own homemade content and more.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
All right, stay tuned, welcome back.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
We are here with the porn icon and dog Daddy himself,
Rhim Shabaz. I mean that literally does not a pup
play thing. He does have dogs and they're really cute.
So in this act, we are hoping Rahiem can share
just a few tips and tricks for how to maybe
follow in his footsteps. So I'm curious you mentioned you
started off.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
Doing a bit of studio porn.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
That's how you met some of the folks who kind
of helped you get your own footing and start on
your own. Now that you are running not just your
own only fans, but your own company, what are some
of the challenges to running your own studio and what
are some of the benefits?
Speaker 5 (21:46):
You know, I know what it feels like as a
performer to feel used by your studio, so I never
want anyone working with us to feel as though they're
just being used and tossed aside, So I try as
much to treat them with as much respect as possible.
For me, it's about all of us winning. The scary
thing is once someone attains that kind of success, or income,
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like to lose it, you go through something very dangerous,
like you either have to move on past it or
you become desperate and you start doing more extremes too. Yes,
I think that's something that the world hasn't grappled with.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Is that a lot of these.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
Influencers, it's fleeting, and then you have to deal with
the people after they crash out.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
Yeah, So I'm curious how the rise of fans heights
and all this access to free porn has impacted you
and your business.
Speaker 5 (22:32):
You are constantly full of anxiety trying to think of
what can take you to the next level, what can
make this evolve into something more lucrative or grander. You
want to bring something new to the game. Yeah, because
people are starting to become numb to porn. Yeah, people
are becoming numb to sex.
Speaker 4 (22:49):
And that was my thing, is I was starting to
become numb to porn and numb to sex, and I
was like, I actually don't want that. I want to
be able to like put them having sex, to be
able to connect. And yeah, I feel like I've done this.
I've seen this a thousand times, you know. I mean
there are times when I do pop in. Sure, you
gotta see what the girls are up to, right, You
got to be up to date on your It's like.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Okay, it's been a couple of weeks. I should probably take.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
Care of this.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Yeah, damn, it be like that in New York City.
I work five jobs. Listen, do you want to work?
Speaker 5 (23:17):
You want to have a smile on your face, not
that if you get it good enough. You want to
make the time. You want to knock the hands off
that clock so fast?
Speaker 3 (23:31):
I do you want to ask?
Speaker 2 (23:32):
You started doing porn after PREP had sort of come
out and was available to folks. But like, as somebody
who has been both of youer and a participant, how
do you think PREP has changed the porn industry or
how porn performers sort of operate within the industry.
Speaker 5 (23:49):
I think it's why you see kind of the eraser
of condoms in the industry. I think HIV a's has
always been the greatest fear amongst a lot of young
gay men, especially in the black community.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Even if you didn't do anything, or you did.
Speaker 5 (24:04):
The simplest thing, you were work because you were kind
of felt like being a gay man, you're bound to
be cursed with So I think it took away the
stigma of being intimate with someone who has the virus.
I think it takes away the fear and I think
that's great. And it also gives us options to be safe.
And at ninety nine percent, that's that's feeling pretty safe. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
I was shocked when I read those numbers, because you know,
you were around when it first came out, Like everybody
was like, oh, we don't know.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
That was me. Yeah, and then I said, oh wait,
no a rich people taking this, let me go. But
then I said the price, Okay, let me see what
study I think. So, yeah, you find it right.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Yeah, you really do.
Speaker 4 (24:48):
So for our listeners, what advice would you give to
them if they wanted to get started and important?
Speaker 5 (24:54):
I mean, there are a bunch of things i'd say.
I mean the number one thing I'd say is are
you sure? I mean the money, The exposure may look nice,
but once it goes out there, you can't take it back.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
So yeah, are you sure this is what you want
to do? Okay?
Speaker 5 (25:09):
Then establish a brand, no matter how hot you are,
no matter how big your dick is, no matter how
big your ass is. If you don't have something that
people know you by like longevity is not going to
be within reach for you. Okay, maintain your mental health.
Social media alone is a lot to deal with. Then,
when you are putting yourself out there in a way
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that's so intimate and exposed, you're going to have to
deal with some shit. Make sure you have a space
where you can deal with it properly.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
How do you deal with that? Because people have opinions,
you know you. I think also it.
Speaker 5 (25:41):
Helps for me that I got into this when I
was older, because I know how to separate from it.
It surprises me when I go out and someone recognizes
me because I'm doing what I do and I'm going
back to my life with my dogs and.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
The friends that I do have. You have to have
a separation. Do you have a team that handles your socials? No,
I handle my social Listen, you be getting some good
messages in your socials. Time you got to see yourself.
You ain't see that as bad enough. He has access
to my emails.
Speaker 4 (26:17):
So I'd love to hear about. What are some tips
or tricks that you can use for like creating your
own content at home?
Speaker 5 (26:24):
Lots of lube, have a camera man, just to make
sure you get good angles, and not just for yourself
but for the person watching, like they want to see
this stuff. Make sure you present yourself and your sex
and the best light it can be presented.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
So go to Marshalls. Go to Marshall's. Marshalls.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
You heard of the best sex sheets are at Marshalls. Now, raheem.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
You have great connection with your partners on on one
and in smaller groups, but sometimes you have a lot
of people in one room, like a lot of people,
and I am curious logistically, how do you choreograph that?
Speaker 3 (27:02):
Like how do you start hurting cats when they're all horny?
Speaker 5 (27:05):
First and foremost, you have to know who it is
you're inviting, because you have to know that they're gonna
vibe with everyone else in the room and see it's
like it's an egg whites. You can't get a yoke
in there and mess everything up.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Then you you lead.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
I mean, it may start off with just walking around
the room and kissing a person just to make everyone
like realize, all right, it's time I can do this.
Because everyone has their eyes it's almost like ready for
the race to go. They got their eyes on somebody.
And once you hit that start, then everyone starts dancing,
and it's literally not a performance. Everyone is like literally
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just like genuinely enjoying each other. Yeah, and we just
have a camera guy that that follows it all.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
Your seems to do a really good job of feeling
balanced when there are a lot of people in the room,
and typically they're like all on the couch or they're
all in the bed, but sometimes like an orgy.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
I'm watching it as a critical eye, you know what
I mean? Be leading reviews absolutely?
Speaker 1 (28:02):
How can I ask you, guys a question? Would you
have sex with the porn star I have? I also have?
How comfortable are you talking about your sexual experiences? How
is it with? Then? It was great? I talk about
my sex life a lot.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Yeah, we both do on this podcast.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Yeah. If I had sex with you, would you come
back and talk about it on the podcast?
Speaker 4 (28:22):
It depends if we said it was okay to talk
about I tell you it's okay, okay, great, I would
absolutely talk about it.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Tune in for later.
Speaker 4 (28:33):
Because like I obviously would be bracking. Girl, you won't believe,
But I need this week never mind forgod, I asked,
oh Lord, what all? Oh we should make that out
one we will, Okay, please have you seen this?
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Man?
Speaker 4 (28:54):
Oh God, Now I'm saying, now that I know that
you run your socials, I'll send you something.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Now.
Speaker 4 (29:03):
Your skills as a top are iconic. I'm curious what
do you look for in bottoms someone who's confident?
Speaker 5 (29:10):
Yeah, I like confidence, but I guess it doesn't really
matter because sometimes you can just draw it out of them.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
They just turn to a different piece. Sure what I
was going to say.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
You're pretty verse in some of your scenes as well,
So like when you're bottoming, what are some things that
you do to prepare feel comfortable.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
It's interesting because in my private life I'm basically a top.
But the game of who's a top who's a bottom
in the gay community is such a stupid thing.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
It's the first we like each other.
Speaker 5 (29:40):
Why does one have to be more masculated than the other.
And I also think it's kind of the responsibility of
the top to understand how that feels doing it, because
you have to have some kind of empathy when doing
that to a.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
Person, especially if you have a certain size. Get a tip.
Speaker 5 (29:58):
I would say, get massages because if you learn to
take a massage, it's similar. The more you relax, the
more you can just enjoy it. The more you can enjoy,
the just relax. Most people are so tense and they're
worried about the pain that's coming.
Speaker 4 (30:12):
For me, it's less about the pain and more about
the performance anxiety, Like I want to get my top
an enjoyable experience.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
It's weird that you.
Speaker 5 (30:20):
Say that, because for me, it's the opposite, Like I
feel like I'm supposed to give this person an experience.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Yeah, like I'm.
Speaker 5 (30:27):
Supposed to pull them into my world. Okay, you know,
all you have to do is later and when you
feel it, when you feel.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
The spirit, just lie there is crazy, you would pointing, Yeah,
come on it kicks.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
How do we get on this topic, Well, welcome to.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
So we have a few rapid fire questions for you,
if we may ask, so, could you describe your Sniffy's
profile picture for us if you have one.
Speaker 5 (30:58):
It's a picture that I took in Barcelona. I'm just
standing and my dick is straight out. I literally look
like an action hero. So I would say your profile
picture should be the perfect representation of you.
Speaker 4 (31:09):
All right, what was the last message you received on
Sniffy's and can you read it out loud?
Speaker 1 (31:13):
What you want me to go get my phone and
you read it. You know. My messages are usually like
is this really you? Rahem lives in La Can I
travel right? All right? When you're hooking up? Is it
your place, their place or a third place? My place?
Because I know how I like everything to be.
Speaker 5 (31:34):
And there have been times where I would go to
another person's place, but then I'd be like, this is
why I do it in my place.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
I get that.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
What is the corniest opening line that's ever worked on you?
Speaker 1 (31:45):
On me?
Speaker 5 (31:47):
I think in today's world, no one really feels the
need to be corny. People are pretty bold now. They
come up and they'd be like, I want that dick.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
How do I get that dick? Yeah, people, I'm absolutely
giving you the corny line to me, how do I
get that?
Speaker 5 (32:02):
It's not even just that, but there will be like
I want you to slut me out, okay, And I'm like,
I do not just like.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
Gather guys for like, I do not take orders. I'm
not all right, where's the last place you hooked up
with someone? My bedroom? Just before my flight? Amazing? Yeah,
I felt that I missed my flight, but I'm here.
Speaker 4 (32:32):
Now.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
When you were like, oops, I missed my flight to China.
You got found out. You got found out.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
There is one thing you should know, which is that
good sex is always an excuse to be good.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
And I'm here. You've got a good story.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
Was good, No, it wasn't good.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
It was amazing. It was amazing. It was amazing.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
Yeah, the way you said that shook shook me to
my core a couple of times. Just whispered into my whole.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
It wasn't a whisper.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
Maybe we're almost to.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
The end of the episode.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Just hold on, hold on, all right, you got it.
You're gonna be good. My god, I could feel your
hands clenching and your whole loosening. But we will make
it to the end, I promise you.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Nobody, nobody, all right, what an amazing show, Raheem. It
has been such a pleasure having you in studio talking
about your amazing work and getting some really helpful advice
from you.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
We just really appreciate it. You've been such a Thank
you so much.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
This is really cool. We did a cool thing today.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Absolutely. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
I hope you guys are happy.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
I'm pretty sure folks know where to find you. But
where can folks learn more about boy or see your
work or find you online.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
Oh God, in person, just type in the name r
H Y H E I M and something will you'll find. Sniffy's.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
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Speaker 4 (34:07):
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Speaker 1 (34:11):
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