August 2, 2023 • 53 mins
iHeartRadio’s social and digital host Emily Curl gets a clairvoyant reading from Amanda with important and empowering messages about friendships, love, her career, and even receiving a message for her friend who lost her mom when she was young.
Topics:
- Worthiness and the fear of not being enough
- Embracing change for growth
- Interdependence and finding the right friendships
- Seeing red flags & compatibility in dating
- Creating meaningful moments with strangers in your daily life
- Telling universe what you’re available for
- Eyes open mediation & how to meditate if you live in a city
- Fast and slow seasons of life
During the reading, Amanda re-visits some of the struggles Emily felt in high school in trying to make friends, figure out who she was as a person & feeling like a fish out of water.
Emily began her journey to self-discovery when she went away to college and was able to find her people and feel free to finally be herself.
In her adult life, Emily has learned to love doing things alone, but sometimes feels disconnected because she doesn’t give herself the time to really think about how she’s feeling. Amanda guides Emily how to find peace, ease, flow, balance in her amazingly chaotic life and encourages her to find enthusiasm and empowerment from the inside out.
As Emily is looking for love, Amanda provides hope on the pain and distress in her love life - from meeting men that she’s unimpressed by to wanting to find a partner who can jive with her family.
In an unusual turn, Emily receives a message for one of her friends from her mom who has passed!
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hi, everyone, It's Amanda Rieger Green with Soul Sessions. Today
we have an exciting episode. I've got a guest with me,
Emily Curl from iHeartRadio. She's iHeartRadio's digital and social host.
Emily is a music and entertainment expert who interviews artist
and covers exclusive live, backstage and red carpet moments at
(00:31):
iHeart events. Welcome Emily, thank you.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
So much for having me.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I'm so excited to be here chatting with you, and
I did love that intro, so thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
You are welcome and Emily has this amazing background, but
she also has her iHeart promo material in the back there,
so shout out to iHeartRadio and iHeartMedia.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
And this is so fun because I've seen you with
so many of other iHeart you know, coworkers and colleagues
that you've got to do these and that's originally how
I found you. So excited that we got to connect
and be here together. So this is going to be
a lot.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Of fun me too. Thank you for coming on and
your vulnerability and also your openness and your energy. I
can feel your excitement and I always tell people like
excited a little bit nervous, excited, nervous. That's my favorite
point of entry because there's that curiosity and one of
the I'm going to go ahead and start because your
soul is already saying, get out of the way, Amanda,
(01:24):
and let us deliver messages. One of your greatest gifts
is making people feel comfortable, inspired, and encouraged. So not
only do they feel safe and connected to you very rapidly,
they also feel a sense of inspiration or motivation. And
you have that gift within you and where that can
be a challenge. Apart from it being draining at times
(01:44):
because you give so much, it can also be a
challenge because you don't always find the enthusiasm from within.
It's not that you don't love to inspire people or
connect or communicate or motivate, but it's like when you're
sitting home alone, when do I feel feel inspired? When
do I feel enthusiastic? When do I feel motivated? What
uplifts me? Who uplifts me? Those are big questions, especially
(02:08):
this year. This year is kind of a research and
development year. It's a year of connecting and communicating, but
really recognizing when you enjoy interactions and they feel synergistic
versus when you come out of it depleted. And another
thing that you and I have very much in common
is something I like to call emotional whiplash. We don't
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always feel in the moment you and I jump in,
we interact, we communicate, we do, we're go, go go,
and then you know, an hour later, thirty minutes later,
it can be like, oh my gosh, I'm drained, or
oh my gosh, did that person just say that to me?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yes, I have so many it's like, yeah, emotional hangover.
Later I'm like, wow, then it can process for me.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
And I think a lot of people relate to the
emotional hangover. But you operate at such a high level
of interaction that sometimes it's being able to really step
back and say, well, I don't know about that. And
I'm not talking about in work in your interviews, but
when you're engaging with people close to you or in
(03:11):
your personal life, being able to really slow yourself down
and be present. And one of the things that I've
been doing recently, and this is what they're reflecting back
to me, is and I can always be thinking about
myself and my own thoughts, but sometimes I will if
I'm picking up the phone to call someone, a friend
who I haven't talked to, a family member, somebody I'm
making intentional time for. I almost set the intention beforehand, Amanda,
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be present, Amanda, listen. Don't only listen with those two ears.
Listen with your heart. Listen to what they're saying. Be
present for them. Be intentional with your time. And that's
one of the things this year that will heal some
overwhelmed because you've got a lot of things going on, opportunities, work,
personal life, social life. There is a lot happening, and
(03:55):
it can feel back to the feelings. It can feel
overwhelming and daunting, and then you can get into fear,
oh my gosh, I'm not going to be enough, or
when I'm successful at this, because you're determined to be successful.
You're a very determined individual. I mean, you notice reading
me like a book.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
This is wild.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I can see it, and I'm smiling because we have
a lot of similarities. That and you're competitive, but you're
competitive with yourself. Me too, raising my hand. And it's
not that I don't like some good, healthy competition, but
I'm always saying, okay, well, what's next. Okay, I've achieved that,
what's next or I didn't quite achieve that, let me
do it better? And then what's next after that? And
there's that mentality of sometimes forgetting to enjoy the journey,
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which this year is about slowing down a little bit,
even though it's very fast paced, and really saying what
interactions feel truly personal to me or truly intentional, and
what do I love about this interaction? Not so much
about the person or yourself, but what is it about
the interaction that feels good, feels safe, feels whole? And
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those are really important things. Something else about you that
is a piece of you that you don't show necessarily
to the world. You have an intelligence to you that
is sometimes very quirky, unique and outside the box. You
have ideas and thoughts, and you can you love to
research to figure things out. And sometimes it's like, if
(05:21):
I share this, somebody's gonna think I'm weird. I may
as well just know it and understand it and figure
it out myself. And so you don't always expose your
quirky uniqueness to some people, and you're very particular about
who you let in.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
All of this is so spot on. I am actually
I have no words right now.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I'm really so and you have a lot of words.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Are not talking, So this is really unique.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Well, I mean even like when you were younger and
you are not a loner, but there's you're kind of
a loner. Like nobody would be like, oh yeah, Emily's
a loner. You are a loner. I mean at your core,
it's like I love my alone time, my time MySpace,
And if I'm going to really let you into that
personal part of me, you've got to be able to
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give me my space and get me and then know
when I'm onto the next thing, the next idea, and
not take those things personally. And interdependence is probably the
healthiest word that is coming through that. I also know
for that it's like you've got fierce independence, fierce codependence,
and so interdependence relationships that feel they can stand on
(06:28):
their own, but there's also the intimacy, the connection meeting
in the middle. But yet you don't want to have
to babysit anyone or take in. It's not that you're
not compassionate, because you are, but you get emotionally drained
and you're you're very energetically receptive, so you almost have
to have people that really know who they are, their
(06:50):
own uniqueness and have a thicker outer skin so you
don't feel like you're oh, I'm sorry I had to cancel,
or people who just understand and the maturity of life.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Let's call it one thousand percent.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
And it's interesting you say that, because I love meeting friends,
I love like talking to people, like I've spend so
much of my day interacting with new friends too, and.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I really enjoy that.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
But I really have a very close, tight knit group
that I let into like myself personally, that understands the
kind of world that I'm in because it is very particular,
and so I am like, really really sacred about the
people that really truly deeply know me on a level.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
And that is innately who you are. And when you
connect out in the world with people, it's real, it's authentic.
You're very authentic in those connections. But one of the
things that you love the most is I don't have
to take them home. What's me. It's not that you
wouldn't want to be friends with them or connect, but
it's like, Okay, good, I interacted. I got a lot
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of mojo from that. I gave a lot of mojo,
but I get to go home and have my space
and text backs, you know, text somebody if I want
to or not text. And that's important to you, is
having that balance, y, and that is really helpful in
work for you. And I want to go back to
childhood for a minute, because they're talking about where are
you from.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I grew up in Georgia.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
My parents actually got married in the house that we
all lived in. I really developed my really close core
group of friends in college that are still my best
friends that I really trust. But that was always a
big struggle for me is in high school. I think
for a long time, I was just unsure of who
I wanted to be, and you know, and I was
still figure out myself and I just wanted to fit
in so badly, and so I definitely had friends, but
(08:31):
they it ended up not being what I thought it was,
and so those were not the lifelong friends that I
thought I was going to have, so those came later
in life. I think that's also another layer of why
I keep my friends so sacred, because that's such an
important thing to me. Yeah, and I didn't always have that,
so I really appreciate now having such good close friends.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Well, and there's that element of kind of back in
growing up and in high school of the and I'm
going to go back to this solitary or loan or
element of you. You have always been able to be
in the world and dance to the beat of whatever
drama or environment is presented to you. But it's like
you felt like a fish out of water. And it's
(09:08):
not again, it's not that you weren't authentic, but it
was like once you were able to go away to college,
and I resonate with this, and I think a lot
of people will that you were able to say, oh, like,
who are the people that I really do get and
I can feel free to be myself. And freedom is
a huge cornerstone of your energy field, freedom in the world,
(09:28):
in your ability to move around the cabin. That's the
way you know the captain has turned the fast and
seatbelt sign off, where freedom move about the cabin. So
it's that sense of freedom and flexibility. But you're an
adventure seeker. You are always looking to boost and to grow.
And the other thing that they're showing me is, I mean,
you're very strong willed and confident and bold in your interactions.
(09:49):
You can also be very blunt, by the way, and
that's another thing with friends if they don't get that
you're kind of cut and dry and you can be
impatient as I'll get out told it like that is
not lost on me. And so sometimes you come across
as Kurt and it. And again, it's not that you're
not being kind, it's that you've already moved on. You
thought about something, you said it, and then boom you
(10:09):
got the answer and you've moved on. And if somebody
wants to talk about it, you're like, oh wait, didn't
we already talk about that?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah, like it's already addressed, that's moving but.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
We're moving on to the next thing. So there's this
resiliency about you and and and another thing for you,
and it's been since you were younger, not a sense
of urgency. But it's kind of like time is money
for you. It's you're not a time waster, and you
don't appreciate time wasters. So lolly gaggers people who aren't
jumping in doing their part, suiting up and showing up,
(10:39):
and when they do, it's like, I don't have time
for that. I'm gonna do it myself or find somebody
better who can because you're very resourceful, by the way,
and you will move on fast. I mean you will
move on. You're like, I don't I don't have time
for that. Okay, I'm gonna move on. Who else can
help me with this or I'm just gonna do it myself.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Totally.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
It is my biggest pep peeve to waste any of
my time. You're write, It's like, if I'm not doing
I don't do anything for fun.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I mean it for a moment.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
I'm like, yeah, I need to accomplish a task while
I do it. If I'm going to walk, I'm gonna
go pick up a package. If I'm doing this, I'm
gonna like run an error and I'm going to create.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
An idea or something.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
It's like it always, you know, comes off to the
next It's churning.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
And one of the things too, And this is really important.
From twenty twenty three to twenty twenty four. This year
is fast paced. There's no way around it. And I've
had multiple clients recently who they just wish they were
in your shoes because they're in really slow paced seasons
of life. You're not. It is a year this fast,
so it is imperative that you take time to step
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back and say, what is my motive behind this? You know,
do I really want to do this? Is my heart
in it? Am I excited about it? Or am I
doing it to keep busy? Because I'm afraid if I
slow down, I'm not enough. I'm not doing enough. And
they're talking to me about worthiness. And I'm going to
tell you something really funny because before we got on
the call, this hit me and I smiled. I said
to someone, this has been years ago. We were talking
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about worthiness and being enough or feeling enough, and I
I said, yeah, I struggled with that, and she says,
you know, I didn't struggle with that as much as
I struggle with being too much. And you teeter between
the two. Am I enough or am I too much?
And your gift in this lifetime and this year is
saying where do I feel just right? It's like Goldilocks
(12:19):
or whatever you know, or the Three Bears, you know,
it's just right, Like where do I feel not less
than not too much? Because you are You're a tall
glass of water. I mean, you have a lot of energy,
a lot of life to you, and some people cannot
sustain that, and it has nothing to do with your
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heart or your talents. It's just that some people do
not operate at the level you do. But finding things,
environments work that really feel like the right fit where
you're not reaching too far or are too far into
the lack cup or in the past. So your consciousness
an abundance mindset that also feels peaceful. And this is
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huge abundance and peace simultaneously. I want to feel not
just enough, I want to feel more than enough. My
cup runneth over, but I also want a piece and
ease aflow. And that is between twenty twenty three and
twenty twenty four. It is all about finding a new
kind of foundation or balance where you feel like everything
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has its place. And this year it may be like
you put too many ornaments on your tree, you know
how we have those years where we decorate the tree
and it's just totally overloaded, and other years we're more minimalistic,
depending on your Christmas tree, but exactly right, even.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
In my apartment, it's like everything is like as overdone.
I'm maximalist, like to the full right now, but I
go to the back of the course.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah, yes, it goes back and forth. And that's what
they're showing me about you. They're kind of they're giving
me the Christmas tree analogy, which I don't think they've
ever given me before, but it makes a lot of sense.
But this is the year where it's like, just put
every everything out there, get it all. And it may
feel a little cluttered, because next year is about streamlining.
You're gonna know, oh, that's too much. That feels cluttered.
Or this friendship, this relationship is draining the heck out
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of me, or it is taking so much of my time,
and when this person text or when this person reached out,
reaches out, I'm feeling like, oh gosh, when am I
going to make time for them? And you don't want
to feel that way in your heart. You want things
to feel balanced, and you want that sense of feeling
enthusiastic in all that you do. And it doesn't mean
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we feel enthusiastic all the time. Certainly, we are human
beings and we cycle through phases. But enthusiasm from the
inside out, empowerment versus feeling like you're giving and giving
and not really feeling seen or received, and significance, feeling significant,
Have I made my mark on the world, am I
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making an impact? Is my voice making an impact? And
I'm going to share something with you that is coming
through and and this is on an evolutionary soul level.
For you, you have a humanitarian soul, meaning you want
to make the world a better place and you want
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it to make an impact and leave a legacy that
when you are gone, whatever you have done adds value.
So there are components to you that want to contribute,
but not just in your personal relationships, in your work
on a larger scale, and that is just beginning to
formulate within you. Is that resonating? It does?
Speaker 3 (15:40):
I think often like I've gone, I've really gotten into
like content creation and making things for my platform and
thinking about that, I was thinking about, you know, what's
my why? And I think coming back to like me
being like a younger kid wanting to fit in so desperately,
is like now feeling so confident in where I am
and feeling like I finally found my footing. My why
is I want to make other people just not alone,
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not feel like they don't have a place to fit in,
or like that someone is taking care of them and
watching out for them, and like I want to be
that person.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
So Oftentimes when I create content, I.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Look through a lens of like, what's going to make
someone else feel less alone, that they're a part of
the club, that I pick them first.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
For my team, all of those things, Like.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
I really take that to heart because I really wanted
that when I was younger, and so now I'm like, Okay,
how can I give that back in just a small
way in content creation. So that's the thing I've been
thinking about a lot well.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
And there's that element of the humanitarian but also inclusivity
helping you know, environments that feel inclusive, and that's really important.
And as far as work goes, your work is evolving
and your voice is evolving, and your voice is so
important right now. So I love that you just shared
that because people listen to you when you talk, and
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that is a that is a God given gift. Emily,
by the way, you cannot and I'm laughing about this,
I know exactly what they're talking about. You can go
in a convenience store and you're going to be seen,
and I don't care if you've got a hoodie on
and glasses and you're going in to get some candy
and a diet coke. Because it's a Saturday, and you're
just like, I gotta have my space and time. The
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clerk is going to notice you and engage you in dialogue.
You do not go incognito or unnoticed in life. Does
that make sense?
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I mean I love that. I'll take it.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
People notice you and engage you, and sometimes it's like
I need to just you want to have things that
are sacred in your time back to those friendships. Does
that resonate though? It does?
Speaker 3 (17:33):
And I'm very aware that every interaction is like all
part of like a greater larger purpose. So I really
try and be present, even if it's like going to
you know, I'm about to go get something tailored.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
I love my tailor.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Her name Young Young, and I have a full dialogue
every single time I'm there.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Yeah, I have my same I go.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
To a facialist every you know, once a month, and
I saw it, yes straight. It's like I like having
the little community. I like making friends. I like having
positive interactions not just for the sake of like make
you know, talking to that person or hope helping their
days better, but it makes my day better. It's like
I really enjoy the energy flow. I enjoy meeting new people,
and I like having those small, little moments.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
That's interesting that you said that, because I do.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
I am very particular about making sure that, like I do,
have those interactions on a daily basis.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
And you know it makes sense because again back to
when do you feel enthusiastic or inspired, it's when you
have very personal, private moments with people that feel very
sacred in yours and they're not on a public platforms.
I get these enriching connections and I feel alive and
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that is a huge part. I mean, all of us
want to feel alive and engaged, but a huge part
of your soul's development, apart from making an impact, is
really feeling alive and present to life. And you love
to travel, Lord, have mercy. Do you like to travel?
They just said you love having things to look forward to.
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But when you are a able to be in new environments, travel,
travel for work, I know that that is something that
you love because you get to go away, you get
to engage, and then you get to come back home.
And there's that balance between having something to look forward to,
a new environments invigorate your creativity, and also your intuition.
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Your intuition is usually very high in Yes, it can
be in work and in conversations, but when you travel
or when you're in an unfamiliar setting, when you're thrown
in to an environment that's new to you, that is
probably when you're most on point. You're most present and
your most creative in unfamiliar scenarios. And it's not that
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you're not prepared, but you do really well when you're
thrown into something and you almost improv but it's not
improv it's just you know how to almost open up,
and it's really channeling, actually, is what it is.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I always love a good challenge too, So I think
there is something exciting about going somewhere I've never been
and doing it by myself because I grew.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Up you know, I'm one of four children.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I have three fumblings, so like I feel like I
always had a buddy or always had a friend. I
was always really close to my friends in college. But
it's been nice as an adult to rediscover, oh, I
can do this by myself, or this is an exciting
time for me, or even even if I'm going on
to workship with all my colleagues, like even just the
little moments in between of just you know, in myself,
I feel like it's a good growth opportunity for me,
so I always like try and embrace that. I also
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love change too, so I think that's another big thing
you do.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
And you know, it's funny. Not everyone loves change, and
not only do you love change, you thrive on it.
And also even deeper than that, it's more about evolution
for you. It's because change equals growth for you. And
you know that not all of us get that. That.
Oh when I'm changing, when I'm I'm transforming or I'm evolving,
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you innately know that and you thrive through it. So
one of the things that your soul is saying, and
they're laughing kind of with like a you know, a
snarky laugh, because they're saying, well, you need to tell
her to stand still. Oh, sometimes sometimes she just needs
to stand still and see if she can get excited
just standing still. Have you ever had a meditation practice?
Speaker 2 (21:09):
No, because you know, of course.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
That does not surprise any listener out here now already
knowing what we know, they're like, of course she doesn't.
I guess what that makes everybody else feel good out there,
because you know, meditation is I mean, a whole new
gateway to finding inspiration from the inside out. But okay,
back to you not having a meditation practice, I don't meditate.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I have a hard time and I also have a
hard time, like you said, staying still, like I try.
I want to plan something every single day. I'm always
wanting to go out and do something. I don't like
wasted time. I don't like any of that. So oftentimes
I feel like it's just a constant, constant, you know,
booking this, doing that here and there. So sometimes I
feel like a little disconnected with myself in those times
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because I often don't even allow myself to break to
even how do I feel about this, or let me
reflect on this, because it's just a constant stimul and
especially living in New York, especially my job and the
way that I plan my life. So sometimes I have
to fully be like m take a step back, relax,
think about something, and don't you don't have to be
consuming something or watching some you just think. And that
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is often really challenging and hard for me to do,
which is like funny to say, but it's hard for
me to take that time.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Yeah, because you live in New York. Here's one of
the ways that you can meditate. And this is not
going to be your typical meditation definition or practice, but
one of the ways you can meditate is, you know,
when you are walking from home to go exercise or
home to your tailor where you know, and hop it
on the subway or wherever you're going, do not put
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your earbuds in, do not listen to a podcast, do
not nothing, take the earbuds out, put your phone in
your satchel, whatever you know, and literally just engage with
the sites and the sounds, smell the air, whatever the
air smells like. Listen to the horns honking, look around you,
look up, look down, engage, make eye contact with people.
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And you can do it for two blocks. Like you
don't have to do it the whole way, but literally intentionally,
in very small chunks, turn everything off in your ears
and then open your ears to what is around you
and use that with your eyes open. There's something called
eyes open meditation that I've practiced on and off for years,
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and it would be literal me sitting still, and you
actually might really like this. I will meditate sometimes with
my eyes open. And this is not a twenty minute deal.
I can do it for four minutes. Seven minutes whatever
I feel like, but I will almost fix my eyes
my gaze at like a forty five degree angle down.
(23:45):
And remember those seeing eye pictures where the statue of
liberty would appear or whatever. Okay, so you just kind
of stare at your rug or the carpet or whatever
is in front of you, and you can turn some
meditation music on and just allow your eyes to just
keep staring. And when you notice your eyes, I mean
you can blink, but when you notice your eyes glancing
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at other things, come back to that point and just
keep coming back and it will help you quiet your
mind and the inside, and it'll help you create this
greater sense of peace. And that's what they keep talking about.
For as abundant as you are and dynamic as you are,
your soul is saying she wants to know what peace
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feels like. And peace doesn't have to feel busy or engaged.
It can and not detached either. It can feel like
this deep peace that passes all understanding. That kind of peace,
and it doesn't mean you just live in it, just
like the high heighs or low lows, but you can
access it, and you can also do your eye open
meditation you know, out in the park, like go to
(24:48):
Central Park, sit on a bench, and you know, I
mean you might look a little silly if you look
like you're just staring at feel in New York at
this point, exactly, it's not so stare up at the trees.
Op you know, listen to the children playing. Listen, you know,
to the horn talking, the children playing, the sirens going.
But open your ears and open your eyes and watch
the trees move and literally two minutes. But see if
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you can start incorporating that. Because you have some new
like these deep desires coming up, and you've come out
of a couple of years. The last three years have
been intense. They're telling me you've gone through a lot
of shifts. You've made a lot of bold decisions and
changes I mean that have really shaken you to your
core at times. Personally in personal relationships, you've you have
(25:35):
been through it, and you're some I mean like I
can see it. And they're talking about personal relationships and
I'm assuming and they're going really like they're saying love
like there's a yeah, you have really been through let's
call it the ringer. I mean they just said it.
They're ringing out a rag and they're saying, it's where
you've almost even had times where you've said lost your
(25:55):
hope and faith in love and even people, and you
can get disclas illusioned by people, which means humanity because
you're back to you being a humanitarian, Like, shoot, are there?
Am I really like it? Are there really people? Is
there someone who's gonna get me? They're talking about love,
and they're talking about a lot of a lot of
pain and distress in your like love life that you've
(26:17):
You're on the other side of it, but it's been challenging.
They're talking about a lot of a lot of pain
and distress in your like love life that you've You're
on the other side of it, but it's been challenging.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
And in fact, I sometimes kind of feel like I'm
still in it like I was in a you know,
a really intense long term relationship. Yeah, ended like a
little after the pandemic twenty twenty one, so you're right
within that time. Yeah, And it's just been interesting trying
to date since I've recently come to terms with the
fact like, Okay, I think I'm finally ready for a
relationship and through those feelings and like ready to like
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meet someone, because before I was like very noncommittal, before
like a couple months ago, commit.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Before I know my five literally for me.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
Yeah, but I've just recently, you know, had the idea
of Okay, I think I'm actually ready for something. But
now that I'm dating kind of with these new eyes
and this new strategy, I feel like a lot of
the men that I'm meeting are oh, this is gonna
sound so mean, but I've just been a little unimpressed
by or I.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Listen, we already know that you're snarky and quick, and
I'm like, it's a very candred spirit to me. So
I'm like, yeah, go ahead, wait, we got it. I
feel no one is judging.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Yeah, I feel unimpressed by them.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
I just feel like there's a huge lack of like
emotional compatibility intellectual compatibility.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Well, and intellectual compatibility is huge for you. You want
someone who challenges you any The emotional piece is them
being able to have real, intense, unique conversations that are
genuine and you feel like you're meeting superficial people these days,
Like it's like I can only scratch the surface and
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oh my gosh, they're so boring, They're like they're boring.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I am bored by all bored.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
And guess what they just said that this year. I'm
not sure you're going to meet your person this year,
but you are. Your person is out there, and don't
you worry about it because he is unique. And they
just said this year, it's about going out and interacting.
It is about when you get bored, knowing you don't
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have to do it again, and not feeling guilty or
sad or mad or aggravated, just being like, you know,
I went out, I engaged, and I don't have to
go back out and I don't have to be unkind
I can say thanks so much and leave it at that,
and there doesn't have to be deeper meaning behind it.
Sometimes with that it is about what did I learned
from this? You know? What is this showing me about myself?
(28:45):
For you, it's more about going being able to recognize
whether you enjoy yourself, whether you feel inspired and connected,
or if you are bored out of your mind, and
then being able to say thanks for your time and
then go about your day and do something else without
feeling down, guilty, frustrated. And that's where they want you
(29:06):
to process fast and you're very resilient. So noticing, ugh,
that was disappointing, Well, feel the disappointment. And that's where
I want you to just inhale and exhale the disappointment
and say, you know what, though it was not in vain,
it's all part of some divine plan, some bigger planned God.
I'm putting myself out there, and you know what, I'm
taking a cap off of the timeline. So almost because you,
(29:30):
like you said, as far as I feel like I'm
still in it. It's like you're leveling up in terms
of the energy you want to attract the person, and
you haven't quite reached the next level yet, and it's coming.
And when you hit that new level, you will attract
new experiences and people into your life. You're not quite
(29:53):
there yet. It's like you're mountain climbing and.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
You you feel like I'm building momentum.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Yes, And so the saying don't be discouraged by the
fallout or what doesn't work out. Be able to just
chalk it up for it didn't work out, but that's
not going to deter me. And I'm gonna go about
my day. So your person is coming. I actually think
you're gonna meet someone. Next year is a huge year
for you professionally and personally. And I think you move
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next year. I'm not necessarily saying you move out of
New York. I don't. I think you're gonna be in
New York for a little bit. But I think you
move next year. It may be closer to the fall
of next year, but you move. But you also, I
feel like meet somebody, and you may meet somebody in
the spring. It may be a little bit later than that.
But they're saying, man, so I have some time to
(30:43):
You have time. And I'm not saying that you won't
go out on two, three, eight dates with someone and
then and then see all the red flags and say
you know what, and again another opportunity for resilience of
saying the eight dates weren't in vain, you know, like,
and this is not lost? And what am I learning?
But how can I learn quicker and trust even deepers.
(31:04):
It's about trust this year. So you do have some
time before somebody comes along who clicks like, who really
gets you and sees you and challenges you. And also
somebody who has flexibility. You really want somebody who is
able to work and travel. You also want someone who
this is going back to your family and for as
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individual as you are and how much you enjoy your space,
your individuality, you're very connected to your family, and you
want someone who is able to meet your family. And really,
I'm not going to say, not judge, but be like,
just be accepting and loving and that it makes sense.
(31:50):
And in your last relationship, I don't know how to
explain it. Well, I know, I mean they're showing me.
What they're showing me is like in your last relationship,
it felt like you were always not always, but a
lot of the times maybe making excuses for or having
to sell or promote him to your family because your
family could see through it, and you knew they could
see through it. But you're like, no, no, no, it's
(32:10):
gonna be better. Oh no, no, no, he was just busy
for this, or no, we couldn't do that, you know,
I mean, like they are saying, and they're saying, uh uh,
you want somebody where they just click, it just works
and you're not having to put on the sales hat
or make excuses for or promote them. You want somebody
that your family just says, gosh, he's so much fun
(32:31):
or oh, he called because he said you were having
a tough week. So we sent you Flowers, somebody who
just takes initiative with your family that feels comfortable without
you feeling like you have to do the heavy lifting.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
This entire thing has been so fun, it's like scary,
this is really wild. I am so close to my
family and I want someone who wants to be there
where I'm not having to do feel like I'm having
to drag them or we can only stay if you know,
it's like my family is still you know in Georgia
that's been across the South that like, I want to
be able to visit them, and I want someone want
to do that because on the alterntive side, I'm so
excited to join someone else's family that wants me to Yes,
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you are there.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
You want both, you know, And that's the thing is
you want your life, your partnership, your relationship, your space
with that person, and you want to be able to
hop on a plane and go home and see family
and travel or do the same with their family. Family
values are very important to you, but also having your time,
(33:28):
your life and your individually so individuality. So that goes
back to that balance but it's funny that you the
example you gave was very clear in what they were
showing me is we can only go for a few
nights because they've got this. And it's like, I don't
want to feel trapped with my family when I want
to share my family and share that time. And family
is family. We all have dynamics and we have we
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get to learn to set boundaries and spend quality time
and then we know when then that time expires, and
that's a learning process for all of us. But it
felt like in your last relationship, it was a lot
of work around. You felt guilty. Guilt is one of
the things that kept coming up of when I go
spend time with my family, I'm always you know, taking
care of this other person or paying attention to their
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emotions or their needs and their own insecurities. And they're
very selfish and self centered too. Not that your last relationship,
not that the qualities weren't there, and you fell in
love and were attracted to that person for a reason.
You were in a growth spurt, so was he. But
what you were learning is I am not responsible for
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this other person's growth. I'm responsible for me, And then
I get to meet somebody and it just took you
a long time to learn it. Because it did.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
We're human, and I think what I'm really looking for now.
It's so interesting you say that is I feel like
I spent so many years of that relationship really taking
care of him, and I love doing that. It's like
I'm such an independent person and I always have been that.
Now in my relationship, I'm really looking forward and I
didn't realize I was, but I'm really looking forward to
being taken care of. I want someone to you know,
(35:02):
get my coffee order right, to bring me surprising the flowers,
to want to come to my family's house. It's like
I actually am end that stage where I am excited
to soften with someone else, because as you know, as
you've described, it's like I'm always on the go. I'm
always doing a million things, like a millionimes minute, so
many ideas like I can't wait to just rest and
relax with someone who's taking care of me.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
And that's why I'm encouraging you right now to air
quotes meditate meaning in creative ways. That's an easy palpable
way for you. It's very palatable for me to say
creative ways meaning just for two or three minutes from
point A to point B. Take the you know, earbuds out,
meditate in a very creative way. Or when you get
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home and you've you know, you have a moment before
you pick up your phone or start making dinner, whatever
you're doing, just sit down with your cat, because I
know your cat is there, you know, sit down with
your cat. Sit down with him and literally eyes open,
pet him. And for me, an easy way to do it,
and this is accessible for anybody out there is I'll
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pick two or three songs and they can be like
meditation tracks or just very soothing tranquil songs. And I'll
pick two or three and I know that they're about
seven minutes or nine minutes, and I will say, I'm
gonna sit here, and when stuff is flying through your mind,
you know, and it's like squirrel, squirrel, just say up, nope, squirrels.
In a minute, come back to the cat. Come back
(36:27):
to the cat, and that'll soothe you. Just back to
the cat. Back to that what's your cat's name, by the.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
Way, pretty boy?
Speaker 1 (36:35):
And he is okay, pretty boy, he's so crazy and
he knows it. Yeahs, yeah, he knows it. And you
know cats are super intuitive, but petting him and when
he wants to snuggle or love on you, and even
when you're going to bed at night, after you've made
your list and you're doing ten things and you know
you've done your face care routine. They're showing me your
(36:56):
routines you have, like you love all of your like
your face care too, is it you're laughing?
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Oh my yead skincare O skin care. Everything's laid everything
I know.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
I know I have like my led light for my
face and my you know, all the stuff I know
that you do too. They're showing that. It's like you
like your personal habits and your personal time doing all
of that. And then once you do and once you
turn that light out. Literally, I want you, and this
is kind of metaphysical, kind of quantum, but these are
little small things that are accessible. I want you to
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lie down and literally palms up, kind of just like
you're lying down on a massage table. You're in your
bed with your sheets, palms up and just scan from
the tip of your toes all the way to the
crown of your head like you're a cat scan machine.
Because you're so intellectual and analytical, think like a laser.
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A laser is literally scanning from the tips of the toes,
and be slow about it, just like a cat, like
moving into a cat, scan and just scan it. And
you don't have to be looking for anything, but just think,
I am moved this energy. I am clearing my energy field.
And then your palms are up, which is in a
state of receptivity because you give and go and do.
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This is a year of how can I receive and
feel gain right sized, exactly enough and not too much,
just balanced and just scan and say I'm just balancing
out for the night before I relax into my body
to recharge and rejuvenate my energy field. And again, these
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are things you don't have to do every day, or
you don't have to practice this every night, but create
little pockets of time just to be very quiet, not
pick up the phone, not listen to an eye you know,
a podcast, or watch something on you know, Netflix, whatever
it is. Just take a few moments two minutes and
(38:51):
be very still or silent intentionally and see if that
starts to bring new clarity for you. And in that
I want to talk about work for a minute. Ooh,
one of the big things your soul is reflecting back,
is keep going. But I want you to pay attention
in like, let's say the next two months and the
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next two months are intense, Like the energy is intense
for all of us right now. It's a big time
of revision and reflection. So this is for anybody out there,
but I want you specifically to pay attention to your
interviews and interactions and the ones you walk away from
feeling like, oh my gosh, I just learned so much. Wow,
(39:34):
that was brilliant, Wow, that dialogue was so freaking enriching,
or man, that person is multifaceted. And then on the
flip side of that, on the converse side, I want
you to notice when somebody is being inauthentic, when they're
just giving you what they think you want, when it's
surface level, they're onto the next and not really interested
(39:56):
in talking to you, feeling like it's obligatory, And don't
take a fence by any of this. Just notice, you
know what, that wasn't engaging in the kind of way
that's meaningful to me. And it's not that you don't
do it or do it well, and it's not that
it's not part of your job, but notice that so
when you have an interaction that is enriching and synergistic,
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which is what came through in the beginning, like inhale
and exhale it, feel it, know it, honor it, say wow,
thank you. This is what I'm here for. And when
you have the dialogues that really are just like the
interactions on going out on dates when it feels surface level,
it's boring. When you have a conversation and you in
view somebody or you're creating content and it's boring. And
(40:39):
I don't mean you say this publicly, but in your heart,
be like that was boring, and it's not anything about
that person. It's just I've outgrown this. This is not
what I'm available for. And just notice, because this is
not what I'm available for, I am no longer available
for this. And it doesn't mean that you won't have
boring interactions. I mean, you know, warguing, But this is
(41:02):
all to get you up onto that next platform energetically.
The more you notice the synergy and you compliment it
and you're appreciative of it and you let it run
through your body, you reflect and that's you pausing, not
going straight on to social media to do something or
checking your phone, like step back and just assess for
thirty seconds the quality of the interaction and again take
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the person out of it and say, whoa, this is
how this felt. This goes back to not having the
emotional whiplash, taking your emotional intelligence and harnessing it so
you're saying, ah, Universe, I'm available for that. That's what
I want to do professionally, personally, this is my humanitarian aim.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
And then in the streamlining too of like a new
way to just see what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Yes this year and next year. Again, this year there's
a lot going on for you. Next year it's more streamlining.
But I want you to start practicing streamlining energetically and
emotionally now. And hence also two minutes to meditate, you know,
or when you go to bed at night after your
skincare your routines, just scan your body like you're a
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cat scan you know. I mean literally, just this intelligent
scan of the body and breathe and feel and then
relax into your bed. Think, just be very intentional in
short bouts of time right after the fact, and then
move on to the next thing. And that way it'll
pull your energy back, it'll focus you and you're going
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to have the rest of this year. It's right place,
right time. Energy. You have a little bit of positive,
wonderful karma in your energy field that says, when I trust,
when I know I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be,
if it's challenging or beautiful, when I really trust and
I say, what can I learn for this or how
can I express gratitude? Boom, you get a windfall somewhere else,
(42:59):
a new door open, someone calls you, so really slowing
down so you can pay attention and build this deeper
trust in the divine orchestration of the universe that is
hard to even conceptualize, but I know that you believe
in because you're more of a seeker and searcher. You're
just dipping your toe in the water. And I think
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you would love learning about your natal astrology, your numerology,
those kinds of things would freaking light your Oh fine, gosh.
Speaker 3 (43:27):
You know what's funny is I just started seeing angel numbers,
Like I've just been like dipping into that where I've
never been a numbers person, but I really wanted and
so I've kind of been looking out for that too,
which has been nice, Like the numerology element.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
Yes, well, and numerology is my jam. It's when I
started really recognizing that I understood energies and frequencies. It
was through numbers, and I just immediately I would see
numbers as codes. And I'm not a mathematician. It wasn't
about math. It was about seeing repetition of numbers or
codes or sequences and then understand the frequencies. So when
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you see angel numbers, you know, when you see repeating
numbers out there, master numbers, eleven, eleven, two, twenty two,
whatever shows up. Literally, just step back and say, okay,
how do I feel in this moment? And I want
you to go to your feelings, because your thoughts are
what's so active. I want you to pause and say, well,
how do I feel? And you may literally say I
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don't know how I feel. And that's kind of jarring too,
to say I'm either numb, I don't know how I
feel right now, or I'm really a hacked off right now,
you know, or I'm I'm just okay right now, whatever
it is, be really rigorously honest with how you feel
in the moment and process it. So if it is utter,
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like if you feel silly and lighthearted inhale and exhale
that if you feel heavy and exhausted inhale and exhale,
that I mean honor whatever emotion comes up, because it's
just going to clarify your inner life, which will create
this outer enrichment. You do have a loved one coming through,
by the way, and she showed up a little bit ago,
(45:05):
and I thought it was your grandmother, but I actually
think it's I don't know if you had a great
aunt or a neighbor or like a friend's mother. I
don't know who it is, but it's a female, and
I don't necessarily think she was particularly close to you,
but she is coming through. Do you have any friends
(45:25):
mothers who died when you were in junior high or
high school?
Speaker 2 (45:30):
You know what, No, I don't think, so okay, but.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
There's a woman coming through who does not feel related
to you, who is deceased on the other side, and
she's not particularly old, and it feels like somebody you
know's mother, and she's aggravating with me that I can't
get a little bit better in the details of it.
So I'm like, okay, hold on, like, give me more,
damn like and I'm like, does somebody have like breast
(45:55):
cancer or ovarian cancer?
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Who died?
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Because she just said it's a female cancer.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
She died from one of my close friends from college.
Her mom passor when she was really young, so I
never met her.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
Do you know how she died? Did did she have cancer?
Speaker 2 (46:08):
It was, yeah, it was I think it was breast cancer.
Speaker 1 (46:11):
Okay, that's who it is. Because I'm like, whoever it is,
She's like, I just need her to deliver a message.
So okay, so this is one of your actual like
you're good friends from college with some of the like
women you're referring to.
Speaker 3 (46:23):
But I've never met I've never met her mom, of course.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
Okay, yeah, Okay, she is coming through how and what
she is just this is all this is is a
message for your friend. Like I mean, she's just like,
I'm taking this opportunity to come through. And because I
was like, I don't think she's related to you, it's
like removed. Okay. She is saying she wants you to
know to tell your friend. She says that to not
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be discouraged, that she is right where she's supposed to
be in life, and that she's been feeling really discouraged
lately in some areas of her life that things are
not coming together, things are not solidifying, and she sometimes
feels like she's alone. She has friends, it's not that
(47:12):
she is alone, but sometimes she feels like she carries
the weight of the world on her shoulders. I mean,
is this your friend that she's talking like it's her mother?
Speaker 3 (47:19):
I think so, which says, Wow, this is actually blowing
my mind. My friend is actually on vacation right now,
but I'm hard this weekend. We're going on a trip
together this weekend.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
Okay, just tell her her mother wants to know. First
of all, she loves her very much, and she's she's
she's not she's not alone. She's so grateful that she
has you as a friend. She says. Yeah. She says,
you all will be friends for life, through the highs
(47:49):
and the lows. And she says, and I have goosebumps
right now, because she says, I want like I want
to be with her. She has milestones in her life
and times where I have been with her, but I
am sorry I can't physically be there. And she says
she needs to know how much she is loved and
supported by me, and even though it's not in literal
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traditional me there to support her ways. She says, I
rarely leave her side, and she's laughing. She just made
a joke, so her mom must have been funny, she says,
not in the creepy way, Amanda, And I was like, no,
I know. It's like you know, sometimes like are they
are they in the shower with us, but they just
mean their essence is there even when we think the
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weight of the world is on her shoulders. And sometimes
she feels like your friend feels like she just carries
a lot, a lot for the other people, and she's
that life is just is a series of challenges, and
not that she is not innovative or capable, but it's
like she just she gets very tired, and she doesn't
share that with a lot of people. And her mom
(48:53):
is saying you are not alone and to and for
you as her friend to love her and not judge
her no matter what I mean, we all go through
phases and you love her like that, And she said,
she's so glad she has you. So her mother is
also thanking you for being such a devoted fearce friend
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because you are and you see the best in her
even when she doesn't see the best in herself. That's
the kind of friendship the two of you have, and
she says, and that street goes both ways for you too.
Speaker 2 (49:24):
My gosh, that's so beautiful.
Speaker 1 (49:27):
Every now and then, like it's rare, but every now
and then a spirit will come through that is a
message for somebody totally like just someone else. But usually
when they do, because it is it's unusual, but usually
when they do, it's because you need to hear the
message as much as she does. And also because they
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respect and trust you, the person that's receiving the message
enough to intentionally share it and to be able to
communicate the message in the way your friend's going to
need to here. They they're very trusted, and that means
they like that. She respects you. Her mom respects you
very much as a woman, as a friend and as
a person. So it's a compliment for her to come through,
(50:12):
like and she felt safe to come through and share
a message.
Speaker 2 (50:15):
Oh that's so powerful. Wow.
Speaker 1 (50:18):
And so we did just derail from you.
Speaker 3 (50:20):
But I think it goes back to what I was
saying that it's like friends are so important to me.
I don't take that lightly, especially because I've only ever
been like I mentioned that one relationship that I've almost
treated my friends is like I give them my energy,
my love. Like that's like, so so you mean to
have those.
Speaker 1 (50:34):
Do you have any questions or anything before we wrap up?
Speaker 3 (50:37):
I know we've covered a lot of territory. Oh my god,
thank you for your time, time so much. I feel
like I've I have so much to think about.
Speaker 1 (50:44):
I know, it's like a download of information.
Speaker 3 (50:46):
I want to reflect on all of this because I
do think it's wild how well you were able to
pinpoint my personality in the little quirks and and I
mean interesting moments. I think that's really you have such
a gift and such a talent. That's really so if.
Speaker 2 (50:59):
This was our first time meeting, so the fact that yes.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
It was, and I know, well and it's that's just
the way it rolls. I mean, most of the time
I read for people who I've never met, I don't
know anything but their name and their day to birth.
And the reason I ask for your birth for anybody's
birthday is numbers help me connect with energy. I mean,
I know you're a Gemini, but it's not to do
with that. I just look at your birthday, and it's
like a code for me, and all of a sudden
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I start to read into the energy of the code
and then the rest just opens up like a portal
of information flowing so well.
Speaker 3 (51:28):
I am truly amazed and thank you so much for
having me and you're reality because this was this was
really really so helpful and insightful for me, and I
just I can't wait to meet back here one year
from now, and I'm like.
Speaker 1 (51:40):
Live it up. I know, I can't wait. I'm excited
for you that because it is it is a beautiful
phase and you're out of some emotional personal muckiness. You're
coming out of that into this evolved version of you
that is more aligned with with yourself and your soul
than you've probably ever been in this lifetime. Yes thus far.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
Yeah, Yes, I'm excited. I'm like, wow, this is how
I feel now.
Speaker 3 (52:06):
I can't wait to continue on the journey, yes, and
see where it takes me.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
Yeah. Absolutely well, Emily, thank you for being so open
and also vulnerable and coming on and sharing who you are.
I know so many people will relate, especially in learning
how to slow down to meditate as busy thinkers. That's
so relatable for a lot of people, but also in
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being able to be okay, feeling a little bit overwhelmed
or a little bit scattered and not exactly needing to
know the path, but starting to trust the inner path.
That's wisdom for all of us. But it's also very
very personal to your story right now. So yeah, I'm
excited for the direction you're going. Thank you so much
for joining me everyone Soul Sessions. I hope you're enjoying
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the podcast and the guests that we've had on. We
have some exciting content and exciting people coming up. New tools.
We are going to dive into astrology, which I think
will be a great tool, so it'll be good for
novices to astrology and people who already have some familiarity
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in that area. So we've got some good tangible areas
that we will explore in the next month or so.
Take care and keep searching. I
Hi, everyone, It's Amanda Rieger Green with Soul Sessions. Today
we have an exciting episode. I've got a guest with me,
Emily Curl from iHeartRadio. She's iHeartRadio's digital and social host.
Emily is a music and entertainment expert who interviews artist
and covers exclusive live, backstage and red carpet moments at
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iHeart events. Welcome Emily, thank you.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
So much for having me.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I'm so excited to be here chatting with you, and
I did love that intro, so thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
You are welcome and Emily has this amazing background, but
she also has her iHeart promo material in the back there,
so shout out to iHeartRadio and iHeartMedia.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
And this is so fun because I've seen you with
so many of other iHeart you know, coworkers and colleagues
that you've got to do these and that's originally how
I found you. So excited that we got to connect
and be here together. So this is going to be
a lot.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Of fun me too. Thank you for coming on and
your vulnerability and also your openness and your energy. I
can feel your excitement and I always tell people like
excited a little bit nervous, excited, nervous. That's my favorite
point of entry because there's that curiosity and one of
the I'm going to go ahead and start because your
soul is already saying, get out of the way, Amanda,
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and let us deliver messages. One of your greatest gifts
is making people feel comfortable, inspired, and encouraged. So not
only do they feel safe and connected to you very rapidly,
they also feel a sense of inspiration or motivation. And
you have that gift within you and where that can
be a challenge. Apart from it being draining at times
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because you give so much, it can also be a
challenge because you don't always find the enthusiasm from within.
It's not that you don't love to inspire people or
connect or communicate or motivate, but it's like when you're
sitting home alone, when do I feel feel inspired? When
do I feel enthusiastic? When do I feel motivated? What
uplifts me? Who uplifts me? Those are big questions, especially
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this year. This year is kind of a research and
development year. It's a year of connecting and communicating, but
really recognizing when you enjoy interactions and they feel synergistic
versus when you come out of it depleted. And another
thing that you and I have very much in common
is something I like to call emotional whiplash. We don't
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always feel in the moment you and I jump in,
we interact, we communicate, we do, we're go, go go,
and then you know, an hour later, thirty minutes later,
it can be like, oh my gosh, I'm drained, or
oh my gosh, did that person just say that to me?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yes, I have so many it's like, yeah, emotional hangover.
Later I'm like, wow, then it can process for me.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
And I think a lot of people relate to the
emotional hangover. But you operate at such a high level
of interaction that sometimes it's being able to really step
back and say, well, I don't know about that. And
I'm not talking about in work in your interviews, but
when you're engaging with people close to you or in
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your personal life, being able to really slow yourself down
and be present. And one of the things that I've
been doing recently, and this is what they're reflecting back
to me, is and I can always be thinking about
myself and my own thoughts, but sometimes I will if
I'm picking up the phone to call someone, a friend
who I haven't talked to, a family member, somebody I'm
making intentional time for. I almost set the intention beforehand, Amanda,
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be present, Amanda, listen. Don't only listen with those two ears.
Listen with your heart. Listen to what they're saying. Be
present for them. Be intentional with your time. And that's
one of the things this year that will heal some
overwhelmed because you've got a lot of things going on, opportunities, work,
personal life, social life. There is a lot happening, and
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it can feel back to the feelings. It can feel
overwhelming and daunting, and then you can get into fear,
oh my gosh, I'm not going to be enough, or
when I'm successful at this, because you're determined to be successful.
You're a very determined individual. I mean, you notice reading
me like a book.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
This is wild.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I can see it, and I'm smiling because we have
a lot of similarities. That and you're competitive, but you're
competitive with yourself. Me too, raising my hand. And it's
not that I don't like some good, healthy competition, but
I'm always saying, okay, well, what's next. Okay, I've achieved that,
what's next or I didn't quite achieve that, let me
do it better? And then what's next after that? And
there's that mentality of sometimes forgetting to enjoy the journey,
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which this year is about slowing down a little bit,
even though it's very fast paced, and really saying what
interactions feel truly personal to me or truly intentional, and
what do I love about this interaction? Not so much
about the person or yourself, but what is it about
the interaction that feels good, feels safe, feels whole? And
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those are really important things. Something else about you that
is a piece of you that you don't show necessarily
to the world. You have an intelligence to you that
is sometimes very quirky, unique and outside the box. You
have ideas and thoughts, and you can you love to
research to figure things out. And sometimes it's like, if
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I share this, somebody's gonna think I'm weird. I may
as well just know it and understand it and figure
it out myself. And so you don't always expose your
quirky uniqueness to some people, and you're very particular about
who you let in.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
All of this is so spot on. I am actually
I have no words right now.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I'm really so and you have a lot of words.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Are not talking, So this is really unique.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Well, I mean even like when you were younger and
you are not a loner, but there's you're kind of
a loner. Like nobody would be like, oh yeah, Emily's
a loner. You are a loner. I mean at your core,
it's like I love my alone time, my time MySpace,
And if I'm going to really let you into that
personal part of me, you've got to be able to
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give me my space and get me and then know
when I'm onto the next thing, the next idea, and
not take those things personally. And interdependence is probably the
healthiest word that is coming through that. I also know
for that it's like you've got fierce independence, fierce codependence,
and so interdependence relationships that feel they can stand on
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their own, but there's also the intimacy, the connection meeting
in the middle. But yet you don't want to have
to babysit anyone or take in. It's not that you're
not compassionate, because you are, but you get emotionally drained
and you're you're very energetically receptive, so you almost have
to have people that really know who they are, their
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own uniqueness and have a thicker outer skin so you
don't feel like you're oh, I'm sorry I had to cancel,
or people who just understand and the maturity of life.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Let's call it one thousand percent.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
And it's interesting you say that, because I love meeting friends,
I love like talking to people, like I've spend so
much of my day interacting with new friends too, and.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I really enjoy that.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
But I really have a very close, tight knit group
that I let into like myself personally, that understands the
kind of world that I'm in because it is very particular,
and so I am like, really really sacred about the
people that really truly deeply know me on a level.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
And that is innately who you are. And when you
connect out in the world with people, it's real, it's authentic.
You're very authentic in those connections. But one of the
things that you love the most is I don't have
to take them home. What's me. It's not that you
wouldn't want to be friends with them or connect, but
it's like, Okay, good, I interacted. I got a lot
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of mojo from that. I gave a lot of mojo,
but I get to go home and have my space
and text backs, you know, text somebody if I want
to or not text. And that's important to you, is
having that balance, y, and that is really helpful in
work for you. And I want to go back to
childhood for a minute, because they're talking about where are
you from.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I grew up in Georgia.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
My parents actually got married in the house that we
all lived in. I really developed my really close core
group of friends in college that are still my best
friends that I really trust. But that was always a
big struggle for me is in high school. I think
for a long time, I was just unsure of who
I wanted to be, and you know, and I was
still figure out myself and I just wanted to fit
in so badly, and so I definitely had friends, but
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they it ended up not being what I thought it was,
and so those were not the lifelong friends that I
thought I was going to have, so those came later
in life. I think that's also another layer of why
I keep my friends so sacred, because that's such an
important thing to me. Yeah, and I didn't always have that,
so I really appreciate now having such good close friends.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Well, and there's that element of kind of back in
growing up and in high school of the and I'm
going to go back to this solitary or loan or
element of you. You have always been able to be
in the world and dance to the beat of whatever
drama or environment is presented to you. But it's like
you felt like a fish out of water. And it's
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not again, it's not that you weren't authentic, but it
was like once you were able to go away to college,
and I resonate with this, and I think a lot
of people will that you were able to say, oh, like,
who are the people that I really do get and
I can feel free to be myself. And freedom is
a huge cornerstone of your energy field, freedom in the world,
(09:28):
in your ability to move around the cabin. That's the
way you know the captain has turned the fast and
seatbelt sign off, where freedom move about the cabin. So
it's that sense of freedom and flexibility. But you're an
adventure seeker. You are always looking to boost and to grow.
And the other thing that they're showing me is, I mean,
you're very strong willed and confident and bold in your interactions.
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You can also be very blunt, by the way, and
that's another thing with friends if they don't get that
you're kind of cut and dry and you can be
impatient as I'll get out told it like that is
not lost on me. And so sometimes you come across
as Kurt and it. And again, it's not that you're
not being kind, it's that you've already moved on. You
thought about something, you said it, and then boom you
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got the answer and you've moved on. And if somebody
wants to talk about it, you're like, oh wait, didn't
we already talk about that?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah, like it's already addressed, that's moving but.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
We're moving on to the next thing. So there's this
resiliency about you and and and another thing for you,
and it's been since you were younger, not a sense
of urgency. But it's kind of like time is money
for you. It's you're not a time waster, and you
don't appreciate time wasters. So lolly gaggers people who aren't
jumping in doing their part, suiting up and showing up,
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and when they do, it's like, I don't have time
for that. I'm gonna do it myself or find somebody
better who can because you're very resourceful, by the way,
and you will move on fast. I mean you will
move on. You're like, I don't I don't have time
for that. Okay, I'm gonna move on. Who else can
help me with this or I'm just gonna do it myself.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Totally.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
It is my biggest pep peeve to waste any of
my time. You're write, It's like, if I'm not doing
I don't do anything for fun.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I mean it for a moment.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
I'm like, yeah, I need to accomplish a task while
I do it. If I'm going to walk, I'm gonna
go pick up a package. If I'm doing this, I'm
gonna like run an error and I'm going to create.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
An idea or something.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
It's like it always, you know, comes off to the
next It's churning.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
And one of the things too, And this is really important.
From twenty twenty three to twenty twenty four. This year
is fast paced. There's no way around it. And I've
had multiple clients recently who they just wish they were
in your shoes because they're in really slow paced seasons
of life. You're not. It is a year this fast,
so it is imperative that you take time to step
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back and say, what is my motive behind this? You know,
do I really want to do this? Is my heart
in it? Am I excited about it? Or am I
doing it to keep busy? Because I'm afraid if I
slow down, I'm not enough. I'm not doing enough. And
they're talking to me about worthiness. And I'm going to
tell you something really funny because before we got on
the call, this hit me and I smiled. I said
to someone, this has been years ago. We were talking
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about worthiness and being enough or feeling enough, and I
I said, yeah, I struggled with that, and she says,
you know, I didn't struggle with that as much as
I struggle with being too much. And you teeter between
the two. Am I enough or am I too much?
And your gift in this lifetime and this year is
saying where do I feel just right? It's like Goldilocks
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or whatever you know, or the Three Bears, you know,
it's just right, Like where do I feel not less
than not too much? Because you are You're a tall
glass of water. I mean, you have a lot of energy,
a lot of life to you, and some people cannot
sustain that, and it has nothing to do with your
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heart or your talents. It's just that some people do
not operate at the level you do. But finding things,
environments work that really feel like the right fit where
you're not reaching too far or are too far into
the lack cup or in the past. So your consciousness
an abundance mindset that also feels peaceful. And this is
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huge abundance and peace simultaneously. I want to feel not
just enough, I want to feel more than enough. My
cup runneth over, but I also want a piece and
ease aflow. And that is between twenty twenty three and
twenty twenty four. It is all about finding a new
kind of foundation or balance where you feel like everything
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has its place. And this year it may be like
you put too many ornaments on your tree, you know
how we have those years where we decorate the tree
and it's just totally overloaded, and other years we're more minimalistic,
depending on your Christmas tree, but exactly right, even.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
In my apartment, it's like everything is like as overdone.
I'm maximalist, like to the full right now, but I
go to the back of the course.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah, yes, it goes back and forth. And that's what
they're showing me about you. They're kind of they're giving
me the Christmas tree analogy, which I don't think they've
ever given me before, but it makes a lot of sense.
But this is the year where it's like, just put
every everything out there, get it all. And it may
feel a little cluttered, because next year is about streamlining.
You're gonna know, oh, that's too much. That feels cluttered.
Or this friendship, this relationship is draining the heck out
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of me, or it is taking so much of my time,
and when this person text or when this person reached out,
reaches out, I'm feeling like, oh gosh, when am I
going to make time for them? And you don't want
to feel that way in your heart. You want things
to feel balanced, and you want that sense of feeling
enthusiastic in all that you do. And it doesn't mean
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we feel enthusiastic all the time. Certainly, we are human
beings and we cycle through phases. But enthusiasm from the
inside out, empowerment versus feeling like you're giving and giving
and not really feeling seen or received, and significance, feeling significant,
Have I made my mark on the world, am I
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making an impact? Is my voice making an impact? And
I'm going to share something with you that is coming
through and and this is on an evolutionary soul level.
For you, you have a humanitarian soul, meaning you want
to make the world a better place and you want
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it to make an impact and leave a legacy that
when you are gone, whatever you have done adds value.
So there are components to you that want to contribute,
but not just in your personal relationships, in your work
on a larger scale, and that is just beginning to
formulate within you. Is that resonating? It does?
Speaker 3 (15:40):
I think often like I've gone, I've really gotten into
like content creation and making things for my platform and
thinking about that, I was thinking about, you know, what's
my why? And I think coming back to like me
being like a younger kid wanting to fit in so desperately,
is like now feeling so confident in where I am
and feeling like I finally found my footing. My why
is I want to make other people just not alone,
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not feel like they don't have a place to fit in,
or like that someone is taking care of them and
watching out for them, and like I want to be
that person.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
So Oftentimes when I create content, I.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Look through a lens of like, what's going to make
someone else feel less alone, that they're a part of
the club, that I pick them first.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
For my team, all of those things, Like.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
I really take that to heart because I really wanted
that when I was younger, and so now I'm like, Okay,
how can I give that back in just a small
way in content creation. So that's the thing I've been
thinking about a lot well.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
And there's that element of the humanitarian but also inclusivity
helping you know, environments that feel inclusive, and that's really important.
And as far as work goes, your work is evolving
and your voice is evolving, and your voice is so
important right now. So I love that you just shared
that because people listen to you when you talk, and
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that is a that is a God given gift. Emily,
by the way, you cannot and I'm laughing about this,
I know exactly what they're talking about. You can go
in a convenience store and you're going to be seen,
and I don't care if you've got a hoodie on
and glasses and you're going in to get some candy
and a diet coke. Because it's a Saturday, and you're
just like, I gotta have my space and time. The
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clerk is going to notice you and engage you in dialogue.
You do not go incognito or unnoticed in life. Does
that make sense?
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I mean I love that. I'll take it.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
People notice you and engage you, and sometimes it's like
I need to just you want to have things that
are sacred in your time back to those friendships. Does
that resonate though? It does?
Speaker 3 (17:33):
And I'm very aware that every interaction is like all
part of like a greater larger purpose. So I really
try and be present, even if it's like going to
you know, I'm about to go get something tailored.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
I love my tailor.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Her name Young Young, and I have a full dialogue
every single time I'm there.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Yeah, I have my same I go.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
To a facialist every you know, once a month, and
I saw it, yes straight. It's like I like having
the little community. I like making friends. I like having
positive interactions not just for the sake of like make
you know, talking to that person or hope helping their
days better, but it makes my day better. It's like
I really enjoy the energy flow. I enjoy meeting new people,
and I like having those small, little moments.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
That's interesting that you said that, because I do.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
I am very particular about making sure that, like I do,
have those interactions on a daily basis.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
And you know it makes sense because again back to
when do you feel enthusiastic or inspired, it's when you
have very personal, private moments with people that feel very
sacred in yours and they're not on a public platforms.
I get these enriching connections and I feel alive and
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that is a huge part. I mean, all of us
want to feel alive and engaged, but a huge part
of your soul's development, apart from making an impact, is
really feeling alive and present to life. And you love
to travel, Lord, have mercy. Do you like to travel?
They just said you love having things to look forward to.
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But when you are a able to be in new environments, travel,
travel for work, I know that that is something that
you love because you get to go away, you get
to engage, and then you get to come back home.
And there's that balance between having something to look forward to,
a new environments invigorate your creativity, and also your intuition.
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Your intuition is usually very high in Yes, it can
be in work and in conversations, but when you travel
or when you're in an unfamiliar setting, when you're thrown
in to an environment that's new to you, that is
probably when you're most on point. You're most present and
your most creative in unfamiliar scenarios. And it's not that
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you're not prepared, but you do really well when you're
thrown into something and you almost improv but it's not
improv it's just you know how to almost open up,
and it's really channeling, actually, is what it is.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I always love a good challenge too, So I think
there is something exciting about going somewhere I've never been
and doing it by myself because I grew.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Up you know, I'm one of four children.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I have three fumblings, so like I feel like I
always had a buddy or always had a friend. I
was always really close to my friends in college. But
it's been nice as an adult to rediscover, oh, I
can do this by myself, or this is an exciting
time for me, or even even if I'm going on
to workship with all my colleagues, like even just the
little moments in between of just you know, in myself,
I feel like it's a good growth opportunity for me,
so I always like try and embrace that. I also
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love change too, so I think that's another big thing
you do.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
And you know, it's funny. Not everyone loves change, and
not only do you love change, you thrive on it.
And also even deeper than that, it's more about evolution
for you. It's because change equals growth for you. And
you know that not all of us get that. That.
Oh when I'm changing, when I'm I'm transforming or I'm evolving,
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you innately know that and you thrive through it. So
one of the things that your soul is saying, and
they're laughing kind of with like a you know, a
snarky laugh, because they're saying, well, you need to tell
her to stand still. Oh, sometimes sometimes she just needs
to stand still and see if she can get excited
just standing still. Have you ever had a meditation practice?
Speaker 2 (21:09):
No, because you know, of course.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
That does not surprise any listener out here now already
knowing what we know, they're like, of course she doesn't.
I guess what that makes everybody else feel good out there,
because you know, meditation is I mean, a whole new
gateway to finding inspiration from the inside out. But okay,
back to you not having a meditation practice, I don't meditate.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I have a hard time and I also have a
hard time, like you said, staying still, like I try.
I want to plan something every single day. I'm always
wanting to go out and do something. I don't like
wasted time. I don't like any of that. So oftentimes
I feel like it's just a constant, constant, you know,
booking this, doing that here and there. So sometimes I
feel like a little disconnected with myself in those times
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because I often don't even allow myself to break to
even how do I feel about this, or let me
reflect on this, because it's just a constant stimul and
especially living in New York, especially my job and the
way that I plan my life. So sometimes I have
to fully be like m take a step back, relax,
think about something, and don't you don't have to be
consuming something or watching some you just think. And that
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is often really challenging and hard for me to do,
which is like funny to say, but it's hard for
me to take that time.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Yeah, because you live in New York. Here's one of
the ways that you can meditate. And this is not
going to be your typical meditation definition or practice, but
one of the ways you can meditate is, you know,
when you are walking from home to go exercise or
home to your tailor where you know, and hop it
on the subway or wherever you're going, do not put
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your earbuds in, do not listen to a podcast, do
not nothing, take the earbuds out, put your phone in
your satchel, whatever you know, and literally just engage with
the sites and the sounds, smell the air, whatever the
air smells like. Listen to the horns honking, look around you,
look up, look down, engage, make eye contact with people.
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And you can do it for two blocks. Like you
don't have to do it the whole way, but literally intentionally,
in very small chunks, turn everything off in your ears
and then open your ears to what is around you
and use that with your eyes open. There's something called
eyes open meditation that I've practiced on and off for years,
(23:25):
and it would be literal me sitting still, and you
actually might really like this. I will meditate sometimes with
my eyes open. And this is not a twenty minute deal.
I can do it for four minutes. Seven minutes whatever
I feel like, but I will almost fix my eyes
my gaze at like a forty five degree angle down.
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And remember those seeing eye pictures where the statue of
liberty would appear or whatever. Okay, so you just kind
of stare at your rug or the carpet or whatever
is in front of you, and you can turn some
meditation music on and just allow your eyes to just
keep staring. And when you notice your eyes, I mean
you can blink, but when you notice your eyes glancing
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at other things, come back to that point and just
keep coming back and it will help you quiet your
mind and the inside, and it'll help you create this
greater sense of peace. And that's what they keep talking about.
For as abundant as you are and dynamic as you are,
your soul is saying she wants to know what peace
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feels like. And peace doesn't have to feel busy or engaged.
It can and not detached either. It can feel like
this deep peace that passes all understanding. That kind of peace,
and it doesn't mean you just live in it, just
like the high heighs or low lows, but you can
access it, and you can also do your eye open
meditation you know, out in the park, like go to
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Central Park, sit on a bench, and you know, I
mean you might look a little silly if you look
like you're just staring at feel in New York at
this point, exactly, it's not so stare up at the trees.
Op you know, listen to the children playing. Listen, you know,
to the horn talking, the children playing, the sirens going.
But open your ears and open your eyes and watch
the trees move and literally two minutes. But see if
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you can start incorporating that. Because you have some new
like these deep desires coming up, and you've come out
of a couple of years. The last three years have
been intense. They're telling me you've gone through a lot
of shifts. You've made a lot of bold decisions and
changes I mean that have really shaken you to your
core at times. Personally in personal relationships, you've you have
(25:35):
been through it, and you're some I mean like I
can see it. And they're talking about personal relationships and
I'm assuming and they're going really like they're saying love
like there's a yeah, you have really been through let's
call it the ringer. I mean they just said it.
They're ringing out a rag and they're saying, it's where
you've almost even had times where you've said lost your
(25:55):
hope and faith in love and even people, and you
can get disclas illusioned by people, which means humanity because
you're back to you being a humanitarian, Like, shoot, are there?
Am I really like it? Are there really people? Is
there someone who's gonna get me? They're talking about love,
and they're talking about a lot of a lot of
pain and distress in your like love life that you've
(26:17):
You're on the other side of it, but it's been challenging.
They're talking about a lot of a lot of pain
and distress in your like love life that you've You're
on the other side of it, but it's been challenging.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
And in fact, I sometimes kind of feel like I'm
still in it like I was in a you know,
a really intense long term relationship. Yeah, ended like a
little after the pandemic twenty twenty one, so you're right
within that time. Yeah, And it's just been interesting trying
to date since I've recently come to terms with the
fact like, Okay, I think I'm finally ready for a
relationship and through those feelings and like ready to like
(26:55):
meet someone, because before I was like very noncommittal, before
like a couple months ago, commit.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Before I know my five literally for me.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
Yeah, but I've just recently, you know, had the idea
of Okay, I think I'm actually ready for something. But
now that I'm dating kind of with these new eyes
and this new strategy, I feel like a lot of
the men that I'm meeting are oh, this is gonna
sound so mean, but I've just been a little unimpressed
by or I.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Listen, we already know that you're snarky and quick, and
I'm like, it's a very candred spirit to me. So
I'm like, yeah, go ahead, wait, we got it. I
feel no one is judging.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Yeah, I feel unimpressed by them.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
I just feel like there's a huge lack of like
emotional compatibility intellectual compatibility.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Well, and intellectual compatibility is huge for you. You want
someone who challenges you any The emotional piece is them
being able to have real, intense, unique conversations that are
genuine and you feel like you're meeting superficial people these days,
Like it's like I can only scratch the surface and
(27:55):
oh my gosh, they're so boring, They're like they're boring.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I am bored by all bored.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
And guess what they just said that this year. I'm
not sure you're going to meet your person this year,
but you are. Your person is out there, and don't
you worry about it because he is unique. And they
just said this year, it's about going out and interacting.
It is about when you get bored, knowing you don't
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have to do it again, and not feeling guilty or
sad or mad or aggravated, just being like, you know,
I went out, I engaged, and I don't have to
go back out and I don't have to be unkind
I can say thanks so much and leave it at that,
and there doesn't have to be deeper meaning behind it.
Sometimes with that it is about what did I learned
from this? You know? What is this showing me about myself?
(28:45):
For you, it's more about going being able to recognize
whether you enjoy yourself, whether you feel inspired and connected,
or if you are bored out of your mind, and
then being able to say thanks for your time and
then go about your day and do something else without
feeling down, guilty, frustrated. And that's where they want you
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to process fast and you're very resilient. So noticing, ugh,
that was disappointing, Well, feel the disappointment. And that's where
I want you to just inhale and exhale the disappointment
and say, you know what, though it was not in vain,
it's all part of some divine plan, some bigger planned God.
I'm putting myself out there, and you know what, I'm
taking a cap off of the timeline. So almost because you,
(29:30):
like you said, as far as I feel like I'm
still in it. It's like you're leveling up in terms
of the energy you want to attract the person, and
you haven't quite reached the next level yet, and it's coming.
And when you hit that new level, you will attract
new experiences and people into your life. You're not quite
(29:53):
there yet. It's like you're mountain climbing and.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
You you feel like I'm building momentum.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Yes, And so the saying don't be discouraged by the
fallout or what doesn't work out. Be able to just
chalk it up for it didn't work out, but that's
not going to deter me. And I'm gonna go about
my day. So your person is coming. I actually think
you're gonna meet someone. Next year is a huge year
for you professionally and personally. And I think you move
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next year. I'm not necessarily saying you move out of
New York. I don't. I think you're gonna be in
New York for a little bit. But I think you
move next year. It may be closer to the fall
of next year, but you move. But you also, I
feel like meet somebody, and you may meet somebody in
the spring. It may be a little bit later than that.
But they're saying, man, so I have some time to
(30:43):
You have time. And I'm not saying that you won't
go out on two, three, eight dates with someone and
then and then see all the red flags and say
you know what, and again another opportunity for resilience of
saying the eight dates weren't in vain, you know, like,
and this is not lost? And what am I learning?
But how can I learn quicker and trust even deepers.
(31:04):
It's about trust this year. So you do have some
time before somebody comes along who clicks like, who really
gets you and sees you and challenges you. And also
somebody who has flexibility. You really want somebody who is
able to work and travel. You also want someone who
this is going back to your family and for as
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individual as you are and how much you enjoy your space,
your individuality, you're very connected to your family, and you
want someone who is able to meet your family. And really,
I'm not going to say, not judge, but be like,
just be accepting and loving and that it makes sense.
(31:50):
And in your last relationship, I don't know how to
explain it. Well, I know, I mean they're showing me.
What they're showing me is like in your last relationship,
it felt like you were always not always, but a
lot of the times maybe making excuses for or having
to sell or promote him to your family because your
family could see through it, and you knew they could
see through it. But you're like, no, no, no, it's
(32:10):
gonna be better. Oh no, no, no, he was just busy
for this, or no, we couldn't do that, you know,
I mean, like they are saying, and they're saying, uh uh,
you want somebody where they just click, it just works
and you're not having to put on the sales hat
or make excuses for or promote them. You want somebody
that your family just says, gosh, he's so much fun
(32:31):
or oh, he called because he said you were having
a tough week. So we sent you Flowers, somebody who
just takes initiative with your family that feels comfortable without
you feeling like you have to do the heavy lifting.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
This entire thing has been so fun, it's like scary,
this is really wild. I am so close to my
family and I want someone who wants to be there
where I'm not having to do feel like I'm having
to drag them or we can only stay if you know,
it's like my family is still you know in Georgia
that's been across the South that like, I want to
be able to visit them, and I want someone want
to do that because on the alterntive side, I'm so
excited to join someone else's family that wants me to Yes,
(33:05):
you are there.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
You want both, you know, And that's the thing is
you want your life, your partnership, your relationship, your space
with that person, and you want to be able to
hop on a plane and go home and see family
and travel or do the same with their family. Family
values are very important to you, but also having your time,
(33:28):
your life and your individually so individuality. So that goes
back to that balance but it's funny that you the
example you gave was very clear in what they were
showing me is we can only go for a few
nights because they've got this. And it's like, I don't
want to feel trapped with my family when I want
to share my family and share that time. And family
is family. We all have dynamics and we have we
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get to learn to set boundaries and spend quality time
and then we know when then that time expires, and
that's a learning process for all of us. But it
felt like in your last relationship, it was a lot
of work around. You felt guilty. Guilt is one of
the things that kept coming up of when I go
spend time with my family, I'm always you know, taking
care of this other person or paying attention to their
(34:13):
emotions or their needs and their own insecurities. And they're
very selfish and self centered too. Not that your last relationship,
not that the qualities weren't there, and you fell in
love and were attracted to that person for a reason.
You were in a growth spurt, so was he. But
what you were learning is I am not responsible for
(34:34):
this other person's growth. I'm responsible for me, And then
I get to meet somebody and it just took you
a long time to learn it. Because it did.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
We're human, and I think what I'm really looking for now.
It's so interesting you say that is I feel like
I spent so many years of that relationship really taking
care of him, and I love doing that. It's like
I'm such an independent person and I always have been that.
Now in my relationship, I'm really looking forward and I
didn't realize I was, but I'm really looking forward to
being taken care of. I want someone to you know,
(35:02):
get my coffee order right, to bring me surprising the flowers,
to want to come to my family's house. It's like
I actually am end that stage where I am excited
to soften with someone else, because as you know, as
you've described, it's like I'm always on the go. I'm
always doing a million things, like a millionimes minute, so
many ideas like I can't wait to just rest and
relax with someone who's taking care of me.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
And that's why I'm encouraging you right now to air
quotes meditate meaning in creative ways. That's an easy palpable
way for you. It's very palatable for me to say
creative ways meaning just for two or three minutes from
point A to point B. Take the you know, earbuds out,
meditate in a very creative way. Or when you get
(35:44):
home and you've you know, you have a moment before
you pick up your phone or start making dinner, whatever
you're doing, just sit down with your cat, because I
know your cat is there, you know, sit down with
your cat. Sit down with him and literally eyes open,
pet him. And for me, an easy way to do it,
and this is accessible for anybody out there is I'll
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pick two or three songs and they can be like
meditation tracks or just very soothing tranquil songs. And I'll
pick two or three and I know that they're about
seven minutes or nine minutes, and I will say, I'm
gonna sit here, and when stuff is flying through your mind,
you know, and it's like squirrel, squirrel, just say up, nope, squirrels.
In a minute, come back to the cat. Come back
(36:27):
to the cat, and that'll soothe you. Just back to
the cat. Back to that what's your cat's name, by the.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
Way, pretty boy?
Speaker 1 (36:35):
And he is okay, pretty boy, he's so crazy and
he knows it. Yeahs, yeah, he knows it. And you
know cats are super intuitive, but petting him and when
he wants to snuggle or love on you, and even
when you're going to bed at night, after you've made
your list and you're doing ten things and you know
you've done your face care routine. They're showing me your
(36:56):
routines you have, like you love all of your like
your face care too, is it you're laughing?
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Oh my yead skincare O skin care. Everything's laid everything
I know.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
I know I have like my led light for my
face and my you know, all the stuff I know
that you do too. They're showing that. It's like you
like your personal habits and your personal time doing all
of that. And then once you do and once you
turn that light out. Literally, I want you, and this
is kind of metaphysical, kind of quantum, but these are
little small things that are accessible. I want you to
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lie down and literally palms up, kind of just like
you're lying down on a massage table. You're in your
bed with your sheets, palms up and just scan from
the tip of your toes all the way to the
crown of your head like you're a cat scan machine.
Because you're so intellectual and analytical, think like a laser.
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A laser is literally scanning from the tips of the toes,
and be slow about it, just like a cat, like
moving into a cat, scan and just scan it. And
you don't have to be looking for anything, but just think,
I am moved this energy. I am clearing my energy field.
And then your palms are up, which is in a
state of receptivity because you give and go and do.
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This is a year of how can I receive and
feel gain right sized, exactly enough and not too much,
just balanced and just scan and say I'm just balancing
out for the night before I relax into my body
to recharge and rejuvenate my energy field. And again, these
(38:30):
are things you don't have to do every day, or
you don't have to practice this every night, but create
little pockets of time just to be very quiet, not
pick up the phone, not listen to an eye you know,
a podcast, or watch something on you know, Netflix, whatever
it is. Just take a few moments two minutes and
(38:51):
be very still or silent intentionally and see if that
starts to bring new clarity for you. And in that
I want to talk about work for a minute. Ooh,
one of the big things your soul is reflecting back,
is keep going. But I want you to pay attention
in like, let's say the next two months and the
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next two months are intense, Like the energy is intense
for all of us right now. It's a big time
of revision and reflection. So this is for anybody out there,
but I want you specifically to pay attention to your
interviews and interactions and the ones you walk away from
feeling like, oh my gosh, I just learned so much. Wow,
(39:34):
that was brilliant, Wow, that dialogue was so freaking enriching,
or man, that person is multifaceted. And then on the
flip side of that, on the converse side, I want
you to notice when somebody is being inauthentic, when they're
just giving you what they think you want, when it's
surface level, they're onto the next and not really interested
(39:56):
in talking to you, feeling like it's obligatory, And don't
take a fence by any of this. Just notice, you
know what, that wasn't engaging in the kind of way
that's meaningful to me. And it's not that you don't
do it or do it well, and it's not that
it's not part of your job, but notice that so
when you have an interaction that is enriching and synergistic,
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which is what came through in the beginning, like inhale
and exhale it, feel it, know it, honor it, say wow,
thank you. This is what I'm here for. And when
you have the dialogues that really are just like the
interactions on going out on dates when it feels surface level,
it's boring. When you have a conversation and you in
view somebody or you're creating content and it's boring. And
(40:39):
I don't mean you say this publicly, but in your heart,
be like that was boring, and it's not anything about
that person. It's just I've outgrown this. This is not
what I'm available for. And just notice, because this is
not what I'm available for, I am no longer available
for this. And it doesn't mean that you won't have
boring interactions. I mean, you know, warguing, But this is
(41:02):
all to get you up onto that next platform energetically.
The more you notice the synergy and you compliment it
and you're appreciative of it and you let it run
through your body, you reflect and that's you pausing, not
going straight on to social media to do something or
checking your phone, like step back and just assess for
thirty seconds the quality of the interaction and again take
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the person out of it and say, whoa, this is
how this felt. This goes back to not having the
emotional whiplash, taking your emotional intelligence and harnessing it so
you're saying, ah, Universe, I'm available for that. That's what
I want to do professionally, personally, this is my humanitarian aim.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
And then in the streamlining too of like a new
way to just see what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Yes this year and next year. Again, this year there's
a lot going on for you. Next year it's more streamlining.
But I want you to start practicing streamlining energetically and
emotionally now. And hence also two minutes to meditate, you know,
or when you go to bed at night after your
skincare your routines, just scan your body like you're a
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cat scan you know. I mean literally, just this intelligent
scan of the body and breathe and feel and then
relax into your bed. Think, just be very intentional in
short bouts of time right after the fact, and then
move on to the next thing. And that way it'll
pull your energy back, it'll focus you and you're going
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to have the rest of this year. It's right place,
right time. Energy. You have a little bit of positive,
wonderful karma in your energy field that says, when I trust,
when I know I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be,
if it's challenging or beautiful, when I really trust and
I say, what can I learn for this or how
can I express gratitude? Boom, you get a windfall somewhere else,
(42:59):
a new door open, someone calls you, so really slowing
down so you can pay attention and build this deeper
trust in the divine orchestration of the universe that is
hard to even conceptualize, but I know that you believe
in because you're more of a seeker and searcher. You're
just dipping your toe in the water. And I think
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you would love learning about your natal astrology, your numerology,
those kinds of things would freaking light your Oh fine, gosh.
Speaker 3 (43:27):
You know what's funny is I just started seeing angel numbers,
Like I've just been like dipping into that where I've
never been a numbers person, but I really wanted and
so I've kind of been looking out for that too,
which has been nice, Like the numerology element.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
Yes, well, and numerology is my jam. It's when I
started really recognizing that I understood energies and frequencies. It
was through numbers, and I just immediately I would see
numbers as codes. And I'm not a mathematician. It wasn't
about math. It was about seeing repetition of numbers or
codes or sequences and then understand the frequencies. So when
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you see angel numbers, you know, when you see repeating
numbers out there, master numbers, eleven, eleven, two, twenty two,
whatever shows up. Literally, just step back and say, okay,
how do I feel in this moment? And I want
you to go to your feelings, because your thoughts are
what's so active. I want you to pause and say, well,
how do I feel? And you may literally say I
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don't know how I feel. And that's kind of jarring too,
to say I'm either numb, I don't know how I
feel right now, or I'm really a hacked off right now,
you know, or I'm I'm just okay right now, whatever
it is, be really rigorously honest with how you feel
in the moment and process it. So if it is utter,
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like if you feel silly and lighthearted inhale and exhale
that if you feel heavy and exhausted inhale and exhale,
that I mean honor whatever emotion comes up, because it's
just going to clarify your inner life, which will create
this outer enrichment. You do have a loved one coming through,
by the way, and she showed up a little bit ago,
(45:05):
and I thought it was your grandmother, but I actually
think it's I don't know if you had a great
aunt or a neighbor or like a friend's mother. I
don't know who it is, but it's a female, and
I don't necessarily think she was particularly close to you,
but she is coming through. Do you have any friends
(45:25):
mothers who died when you were in junior high or
high school?
Speaker 2 (45:30):
You know what, No, I don't think, so okay, but.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
There's a woman coming through who does not feel related
to you, who is deceased on the other side, and
she's not particularly old, and it feels like somebody you
know's mother, and she's aggravating with me that I can't
get a little bit better in the details of it.
So I'm like, okay, hold on, like, give me more,
damn like and I'm like, does somebody have like breast
(45:55):
cancer or ovarian cancer?
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Who died?
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Because she just said it's a female cancer.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
She died from one of my close friends from college.
Her mom passor when she was really young, so I
never met her.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
Do you know how she died? Did did she have cancer?
Speaker 2 (46:08):
It was, yeah, it was I think it was breast cancer.
Speaker 1 (46:11):
Okay, that's who it is. Because I'm like, whoever it is,
She's like, I just need her to deliver a message.
So okay, so this is one of your actual like
you're good friends from college with some of the like
women you're referring to.
Speaker 3 (46:23):
But I've never met I've never met her mom, of course.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
Okay, yeah, Okay, she is coming through how and what
she is just this is all this is is a
message for your friend. Like I mean, she's just like,
I'm taking this opportunity to come through. And because I
was like, I don't think she's related to you, it's
like removed. Okay. She is saying she wants you to
know to tell your friend. She says that to not
(46:51):
be discouraged, that she is right where she's supposed to
be in life, and that she's been feeling really discouraged
lately in some areas of her life that things are
not coming together, things are not solidifying, and she sometimes
feels like she's alone. She has friends, it's not that
(47:12):
she is alone, but sometimes she feels like she carries
the weight of the world on her shoulders. I mean,
is this your friend that she's talking like it's her mother?
Speaker 3 (47:19):
I think so, which says, Wow, this is actually blowing
my mind. My friend is actually on vacation right now,
but I'm hard this weekend. We're going on a trip
together this weekend.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
Okay, just tell her her mother wants to know. First
of all, she loves her very much, and she's she's
she's not she's not alone. She's so grateful that she
has you as a friend. She says. Yeah. She says,
you all will be friends for life, through the highs
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and the lows. And she says, and I have goosebumps
right now, because she says, I want like I want
to be with her. She has milestones in her life
and times where I have been with her, but I
am sorry I can't physically be there. And she says
she needs to know how much she is loved and
supported by me, and even though it's not in literal
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traditional me there to support her ways. She says, I
rarely leave her side, and she's laughing. She just made
a joke, so her mom must have been funny, she says,
not in the creepy way, Amanda, And I was like, no,
I know. It's like you know, sometimes like are they
are they in the shower with us, but they just
mean their essence is there even when we think the
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weight of the world is on her shoulders. And sometimes
she feels like your friend feels like she just carries
a lot, a lot for the other people, and she's
that life is just is a series of challenges, and
not that she is not innovative or capable, but it's
like she just she gets very tired, and she doesn't
share that with a lot of people. And her mom
(48:53):
is saying you are not alone and to and for
you as her friend to love her and not judge
her no matter what I mean, we all go through
phases and you love her like that, And she said,
she's so glad she has you. So her mother is
also thanking you for being such a devoted fearce friend
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because you are and you see the best in her
even when she doesn't see the best in herself. That's
the kind of friendship the two of you have, and
she says, and that street goes both ways for you too.
Speaker 2 (49:24):
My gosh, that's so beautiful.
Speaker 1 (49:27):
Every now and then, like it's rare, but every now
and then a spirit will come through that is a
message for somebody totally like just someone else. But usually
when they do, because it is it's unusual, but usually
when they do, it's because you need to hear the
message as much as she does. And also because they
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respect and trust you, the person that's receiving the message
enough to intentionally share it and to be able to
communicate the message in the way your friend's going to
need to here. They they're very trusted, and that means
they like that. She respects you. Her mom respects you
very much as a woman, as a friend and as
a person. So it's a compliment for her to come through,
(50:12):
like and she felt safe to come through and share
a message.
Speaker 2 (50:15):
Oh that's so powerful. Wow.
Speaker 1 (50:18):
And so we did just derail from you.
Speaker 3 (50:20):
But I think it goes back to what I was
saying that it's like friends are so important to me.
I don't take that lightly, especially because I've only ever
been like I mentioned that one relationship that I've almost
treated my friends is like I give them my energy,
my love. Like that's like, so so you mean to
have those.
Speaker 1 (50:34):
Do you have any questions or anything before we wrap up?
Speaker 3 (50:37):
I know we've covered a lot of territory. Oh my god,
thank you for your time, time so much. I feel
like I've I have so much to think about.
Speaker 1 (50:44):
I know, it's like a download of information.
Speaker 3 (50:46):
I want to reflect on all of this because I
do think it's wild how well you were able to
pinpoint my personality in the little quirks and and I
mean interesting moments. I think that's really you have such
a gift and such a talent. That's really so if.
Speaker 2 (50:59):
This was our first time meeting, so the fact that yes.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
It was, and I know, well and it's that's just
the way it rolls. I mean, most of the time
I read for people who I've never met, I don't
know anything but their name and their day to birth.
And the reason I ask for your birth for anybody's
birthday is numbers help me connect with energy. I mean,
I know you're a Gemini, but it's not to do
with that. I just look at your birthday, and it's
like a code for me, and all of a sudden
(51:21):
I start to read into the energy of the code
and then the rest just opens up like a portal
of information flowing so well.
Speaker 3 (51:28):
I am truly amazed and thank you so much for
having me and you're reality because this was this was
really really so helpful and insightful for me, and I
just I can't wait to meet back here one year
from now, and I'm like.
Speaker 1 (51:40):
Live it up. I know, I can't wait. I'm excited
for you that because it is it is a beautiful
phase and you're out of some emotional personal muckiness. You're
coming out of that into this evolved version of you
that is more aligned with with yourself and your soul
than you've probably ever been in this lifetime. Yes thus far.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
Yeah, Yes, I'm excited. I'm like, wow, this is how
I feel now.
Speaker 3 (52:06):
I can't wait to continue on the journey, yes, and
see where it takes me.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
Yeah. Absolutely well, Emily, thank you for being so open
and also vulnerable and coming on and sharing who you are.
I know so many people will relate, especially in learning
how to slow down to meditate as busy thinkers. That's
so relatable for a lot of people, but also in
(52:33):
being able to be okay, feeling a little bit overwhelmed
or a little bit scattered and not exactly needing to
know the path, but starting to trust the inner path.
That's wisdom for all of us. But it's also very
very personal to your story right now. So yeah, I'm
excited for the direction you're going. Thank you so much
for joining me everyone Soul Sessions. I hope you're enjoying
(52:57):
the podcast and the guests that we've had on. We
have some exciting content and exciting people coming up. New tools.
We are going to dive into astrology, which I think
will be a great tool, so it'll be good for
novices to astrology and people who already have some familiarity
(53:17):
in that area. So we've got some good tangible areas
that we will explore in the next month or so.
Take care and keep searching. I
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