June 21, 2025 • 30 mins
The movie Straw by Tyler Perry has sparked community conversations around single Black women's Motherhood. Tezlyn Figaro moves the conversation in a different direction by discussing the nine public policies and laws you should be aware of that could change Taraji P. Henson's character in real life. If you empathize with the character, Tezlyn is empowering you to turn your emotions into action. There is no need to feel hopeless when you have the power to help.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yet ask your question real. Let's just keep it real
straight shine, with no chasing, I'm gonna get a little
bit ruptured. I'm here for it. Those who really believed
in the American process, all of us street shot, no
(00:20):
chase with your girl chant figure out on the Black
Effect podcasting that everybody. I've been giving y'all episode overload
this week, episode overload. We are here again. Marcella's like,
you cold, They can't see you. What you got your
blanket on? What's going on? You got what's happening?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Hey? I keep it cold? Here are you doing? I
keep it on sixty?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Oh hell no, I know. I never want to be
visiting you. My aunt is like at best, so.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
This is.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Now here you got ain't cold, but you all bummed
it up so apparently it ain't comfortable.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
It's very comfortable. I ain't around put a little ain't
wrong with a little blanket.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I do seventy. We ain't going down in those seas hot?
Oh no, oh yeah no, I'm definitely my aunt. Her
house is so cold, like it's like I said, uncomfortable,
you know what I mean? Like that's okay, I just
stay at a hotel. Ridiculous, But she got sias, so
(01:32):
you know it wasn't she before she's blaming on the sorites.
It's always been like that, like, but now you know
if she gets too high to make her itch or
you know, her sin is. But I mean, it's just ridiculous.
It probably be in the fifties. Oh yeah, it's ridiculous.
I just I just stayed at the hotel room. Don't
worry about I'm very cold, man. I got to heat
(01:55):
it right by my bed even now, because I keep
it cool in the house, but because to like it cool.
But I just like being warm and toasted. If I
don't have a heater, then I'll have a I keep
a heating pad in my bed for my feet.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Oh yes, yeah, I remember. I remember. I told my
brother to you because it was cold, said, you get
your blanket. I know you don't think i'd turn.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
The damn You're gonna freeze them out. Yeah, let bill high.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I got budget billing.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Oh okay, okay, Oh yeah, at least you're doing doing
so that makes sense. Okay, cool?
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Well, I wanted to do an episode on I told
people I would do it last week and just got fit.
I was planning to do it at the top of
the week because as I think about it, it still I'm
still on time. And people said they were really looking
forward to it, and I was reminded to do it
yesterday with the drama that Tyler Perry's going through. And
(02:57):
we'll see how that all works out. Uh, But the
movie straw And I know you ain't no point me
asking you watched it because you have just waste of time.
Just y'all know, my sist never seen the Color Purse.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
It's not a waste of time to ask.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
It's absolutely to be surprised. What's the last movie you watched? Exactly?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Halloween?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I think, yeah, Halloween from the eighties.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
No, I'm talking about the last one that came out.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Okay, Oh, you like scary.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Movies, that's all. I ain't gonna say it's all, but
that's ninety percent of the movie. It got to be scary.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I like, huh, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I love that type of stuff? Really, yeah, I love.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
As much as you laugh. I was bigures you like comedy.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I do horror and ten percent comedy.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
What's wrong with you? Marcella? It's all makes sense. You're
crashing out of the job. I got start watching rself.
He might flip on me at any moment. You like
grory like Halloween, Like what type of Halloween like Exorcist style,
scary or just suspense.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Or no, I like like Michael Mike Michael Maya's type
of the.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Head chopped off and all that type of ship. I'm
not start paying Really, it's all lighted up stream.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I'm a bit oh man, it's just the animals. I
have Scream Halloween.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
In the Scream of spoof, though I don't know a comedy.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Oh no, you're thinking about a scary movie. Scary. I
got them too.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
He had forced me tell me that's his love lane,
what's love language watching this? And like, no, I don't
like he he likes scary movies. He likes it's called grory.
Grory like it's not suspense. I guess it's I guess
it's still in thriller thriller type movies. But how do
(05:21):
you describe? Okay, he made me watch It was actually
pretty good though split I don't know. It's about a
multipersonality kind of like suspense. Oh, its ain't necessarily horror,
but it's on the edge of your seat.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I probably I probably would like something like that too, Yeah,
but I don't. I don't like the vampires scary moves.
I don't like.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Stuff like that though, Well that's scared why.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I don't like stuff that's seemed too not realistic. I
don't like stuff like that. I didn't like Black Panther.
I hated that movie.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Scary movie.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I know what I'm saying. I don't like movies not
kind of like realistic. So there was waste of time
for me.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Oh okay, so you like okay, so you rather be
realistic about somebody coming through and chopping off heads in
the middle of the night. Freddy Kruger, is that realistic
popping up in the d.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
But that's a human actually killing somebody, that's actually really
that's realistic. But that pat and stuff that's not realistic.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
What about Freddy Krueger.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I don't like Freddy Coueger moves.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
And it's because it's not realistic.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah, that's that's way over the top for me.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Okay, okay, interesting, Well what do you I definitely learned
something tonight. Make sure you're no manifesto sitting over there.
You can't trust nobody now that will know what's going on.
Don't anybody be liking all that demonic shitty. I'm definitely
looking I'm looking at you real different. Who y'all want
(07:03):
to learn something to Let'm gonna check your basement. See
thell going on? They donna tell them what there you got?
Speaker 2 (07:12):
I like even even I don't really watch TV like that,
but when I do, it has to be Forensic Files.
That's like a must.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Oh yeah, you something else? You like Dexter?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I don't know if that is.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
It's on Showtime. It is. It's about a serial killer,
and you might like that kind of strange. It's a
good series though, but it's not horror. But it's definitely
suspense and somebody killing, somebody's killed the bad guy. You
might you might check it out.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, that's what I grew That's what that's what I
grew up on.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh, it's all making sense.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
We all used to go to what we love that
stream and Halloween.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Yeah, yeah, I'm did run it well. He told me
I did not want to watch straw because I saw
the feedback about the trauma. And you know, Tyler Perry
go again is always you know, black woman on welfare,
struggling to make it through, just nothing That wasn't why
(08:20):
I didn't want to watch it. I just seen it
before and I'm like, well, whatever, we'll see. You know.
It's not like something I'm like, oh I must go
see even though I love Tarj Binson. It was just like,
no big deal. I could hit or miss it. And
then was that what it really was?
Speaker 2 (08:39):
That what it really was about though black woman on Welfare?
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Well, yes she was going through it, you know, And
so I'm gonna kind of break that down. But what's
bothering me now in my activist stage of life is
these types of movies but not giving people solutions. And
I know, you know, people say that's not what movies
are for, but I feel it is a huge waste
(09:05):
to not you know, when Tyler Perry is saying I'm
doing these movies because you know, they was all on
his ass. I don't know if you saw them. So
they was always like Tyler Perry, we see of these movies,
we this, we dad. That's why people love the movie,
the series forever on Netflix. People want to feel good,
they want to see good black stories, and they getting
tired of, you know, Tyler Perry these stories. And so
you know his answer was I got to show every
part of life and people, you know, black women go
(09:26):
through this, which is really true. Yeah, but what I
find out is it is true. But then what's the
next step. So what bothers me is at least people
hopeless with nothing after to say, Okay, how do we
fix this? And it is a wasted opportunity to me
for black filmmakers. You don't have to do it in
the movie. But like I've told my friend Deon Taylor,
(09:48):
who does movies, he always has a message in it somewhere.
Why not host some talkbacks on after the movie, you know,
some zooms. I'll be happy to host them. Everybody ain't
gonna come in because everybody don want to fix the problem,
but it would It would be a beautiful thing to
talk about, like what you missed in the movie and
how you can fix it, even centers, even any any movie,
(10:09):
there's something about it that we can learn from on
how to change our community. So they do these movies
myself and they say it's a spark community conversation. It's
a spark involved in Yet it is, but there's also
a big missing piece between actually pointing out what was
in the movie and how you can literally fix it,
so that way you're not sitting around saying, damn, it's
(10:32):
just another movie that got me feeling hopeless. I feel
the same way when people say, oh, yeah, I can't
watch a police brutality because oh I can't do it.
It's so traumatic, so traumatic, but you don't. But it
never calls you. The action so traumatic that you don't
you're so devastated to the point where you just keep
your head in the sand. I'm not really buying the devastation.
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So is it because you don't know what to do
or you just want to use an excuse on not
doing anything at all, so putting it out there to me,
I would love for more of that to happen. So
I said I'm gonna do it myself on this one
particular movie, my twenty people to listen to me. Hey,
you'll get the information after that, because I tagged and
everybody like, oh man, that'd be great and tylor pair
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do that. But they're not gonna do that, be honest.
Their money is made off the trauma and keeping people
coming back for the trauma. Somebody even said that, well,
they're not gonna fix it, because if they fix it,
they're not gonna have income, Well, let me give you
breaking news, tile of pair and everybody else. You're never
gonna fix it all, So you still can make money
off the trauma. But why not give another counter, Why
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not give adds something else in the mix. Why not
for those who say, you know what, I'm sick of
your traumatic movies. But at least you do this and
I'll continue to support you. So it's nothing but a win.
And by chance we might actually fix some shit. And
it's always gonna be bullshit. You never have to worry
about that, which is why I tell people in politics, well, damn,
don't say that I never get fixed. The goal is,
it's not ever gonna get fixed. It's always gonna be
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a problem always. No relationship is ever perfect, and soul
is our relationship with America. It's always gonna be work
for you to do. You want things to get better,
you want progress, There's always gonna be something. So if
you're getting into this thinking, well, it ain't never fixed,
it ain't no point. What's the point. You're in the
wrong business, the wrong business.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
So he probably well you may have already said it,
but I think because they've been criticizing him for a long, long,
long time.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
About He's louder and louder, though.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Right here it's redundant. You know movies. I actually do
kind of like you know, his movies, but I have
been watching lately because I do feel like they are
kind of like the same. But I feel like he
he probably just keep doing it because people keep going
to go see it. So I was like, what's the purpose.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
He knows his customer and people ain't got to watch it.
You don't have to watch it. You don't have to
support it, just like you ain't got to listen to
show if you don't support it. I just because I
watched it, I was I am compelled to talk about
what I'm talking about now because I cannot watch a
movie full of problems and I tell you what the
problem was in the solution. So it's totally fine. I'm
totally fine with being over by myself on this island.
(13:04):
They ain't got to do it, and that.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Do you think it could possibly be too that he's
if you Yeah, I noticed that now that we're seeing
talking about his his issue is usually about black women.
But he's a black man, so how can he even
talk about.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Well, it's his experience. His mother's his grandmother. You know,
he grew up with women, so he's he's making voice
so you can see what we go through. I get that.
It doesn't matter like what he's saying is valid. I'm
just saying I can't sit up and watch nothing when
I can identify non policies right after Gate that I
know people don't know about. And that's what this show
is about.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Oh, because that's what I say here, black man, he goes,
how can he even talk about a solution for the
black women?
Speaker 1 (13:45):
He ain't talking that solutions at all. So that's the
point he's showing the story. The story is accurate. A
lot of people said, I mean, every black woman don't
have the same story. So just being a black woman
don't mean you know her struggle lither I should don't
know the struggle. Love what that movie was about, but
it was very realistic to me, or even when Funky
I need it was like, ain't that much bad gonna happen?
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One day? Actually it has, Actually it really has. Actually
people have really lost their job and needed to go
to the school and something happened with their kid and
then on the way got in a car wreck, like
you know, it was back to back, you know, things
that was happening back to back, and that is very real.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Like movie precious people sit there that ain't really happen
like that. But I know from that to.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
You it didn't happen. Well you know, right, yeah, it happens.
It happened. Oh that's not just a black woman like
Quentin said that don't happen. Well, you've never been a
black woman with a single mom, so you don't know.
But then there's also single moms that never had to
go through that, so everybody's lived experience is different. What
happened was real. I just can't sit up here and
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watch it and not identify the policies. And that's what
I want to go through, guys, right off the and
if the movie, if this is a spoiler, it's just
a spoiler. You know, it is what it is. I
said I was gonna do this episode, so I want
(15:08):
to do it right off the bat. You notice, and
I'm gonna give an overview. I can go deeper, you know,
later on if this is something more that you want.
But I just kind of want to go right off
the bat, Right off the bat. She woke up in
the house in her apartment, loud music, you know, had
no so say and you know, turn the music down.
Any of that went to a car. Was short on
the rent. Now I'm not going to give every piece
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of it, but I just want to, you know, point out,
you know, some things right out the gate. She was
short on the rent. Well number one. I don't know
if you remember, but maybe last month I posted what's
about to happen with rental assistants next year? Right now
this positive they're working on what Trump is proposing to
severely reduce rental assistant I did a whole commentary on
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they guys, go watch it on Remote News. It doesn't
go anywhere. Put in tes some figure rental assistant. It's
on my page. Google it, try to look for it.
Look at what I broke down in rental assistance. So
if you think is bad now because she could not
afford it, these programs that can help you stay in
your home, that can whether it's through I'm not talking
about just Section eight. It could be a church, it
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could be one of the people that stay in my homes, Marcella's.
They contact every now and then in the church helps
and what they rent, they pay the difference. Some months,
they just don't have the difference. So not only is
Section eight being wiped out, also organizations and I wiped
out completely, but going to be severely reduced. Organizations that
have been able to help people like this character that
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is also being reduced because they're stopping the grants. So
while you guys are not paying attention, if you are
bothered by the fact that she wasn't able to pay rent,
and that was the first thing out the top of
the movie, you need to pay attention to what's happening
with realists. That's policy number one. Policy number two healthcare reform.
The little girl was on medication. She had problems, you know,
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she had to eat once a day, could not get
food at the school. She didn't have the forty dollars
the food. Let's talk about the policy. This has happened
guys in real time this year reducing free lunch. That
has been fairly reduced. So one of the key things
with the school was she didn't have forty dollars for
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the baby's lunch, and the baby had to eat in
order to take her medication or the people, the kids
will start making fun of her. She would have seizures.
It's a real thing. Medicare right now, Medicaid right now
is being severely reduced. They're arguing about that right now.
So if she doesn't have the forty dollars, you know,
damn well, she you're gonna have the money to pay
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for the medicine on her own. Again, these are policies
if you're bothered by that movie. These are the things
that you need to look at. Banking while black. When
she went into the bank and they didn't want to
cash the check because she didn't have her ID. Now
this is not verbatim. I'm just giving you overall things
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you need to think about. In the movie Sybil that
I was in or to turn a ben jam Crump,
one of the cases was banking while black, them not
wanting to cash her check, didn't think it was hers,
and she ended up suing the bank one of course,
but that is a real thing. Now, of course, you
need your ID. I'm not saying you don't need your
i D. I'm just wanting you guys to know there's
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a real issue with discrimination banking, you know, being black,
all those things. She ended up pulling a gun on
them when she was like, you know, me, I just
need you to cash my check for twenty fifty dollars
so I can get the forty dollars back up to
my school, my baby's school. They knew it from across
the street. But again, had it been a white woman
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that they knew, they came in every week, you know,
knew it was her, do you think the likelihood of
them cashing the check would have happened? Probably so.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
So that's what we call banking while black. Again, if
you're bothered by the movies, these are the type of
policies I want you to look into police brutality. Right
after Gate, that was obvious with the white officer that
was saying, who ran her off the road? And again
I'm not gonna go through all the details of the movie.
You need to watch the movie, but I'm mainly focused
on the policy ran her off the road. Then when
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he ran her off the rod pulled a gun on it, saying,
I'm gonna make sure I'm gonna find a reason illegally
blow your head off. While he said that, the other
cop saw, well, Marcella's there's a law by the name
Carol Horn, former police officer, called the Carroll Horn Law.
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Police Act that requires the duty to intervene. We also
saw this with the George Floyd matter, pushing policy to
say when should another officer intervene when they know something
is going wrong. That's the overall gist of it. But
you need to go look at the law and understand
what I'm saying. My point is there's laws on the
books for that. That's not in every city, in every state.
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You need to look into that. See if you have
a duty to intervene, see what that is. If you
do not have a duty to intervene, that can be
policy you can work on. This will mean when we
said police reformed policies, one of those is duty to intervene.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
The law.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
The woman in the inn in the movie did not
do that. Towards the end, she finally said what happened,
but there was no consequence for her not saying what happened.
And if you watch the movie, you'll see how Taharjie
refuse to come out of the bank because that officer
was out there and he already told her I'm gonna
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blow your head off. I'm gonna find a reason to
blow your head off, and that's why she ended up
keeping those people hostage because she knew he was gonna
kill her. Had duty to intervene been in place when
he first said that, and the officer reported him. He
would have never been outside the bank for her to
hold anybody hostage. Does that make sense? You gotta watch
the movie to see how it all comes together. But
these are the policies I want you to pay attention to.
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When she wasn't paid her check on time, when she
went to her when she was fired and he said,
get the check in the there's something called the Fair
Labor Standards Act. How he was treating her not giving
a check, give or want to playing all them games
with a check. He ended up getting his ass shot
because he was being robbed and she really needed her
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money again, people snapped, See straw was all about the
straw that broke the camel's back, having so much put
on her that she just went off. Got to watch
the movie so it'd all come together. But I want
you to know that you're having problems on the job
on how people are paying you, not paying your time.
This is why Marcella's is a big union advocate. Seriously,
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all Joe side, no laughing matter. Unions matter. Go see
this movie, you'll see all type of union call. You
know why we need unions, Why people need representation, why
their bosses bully them, why they can't so that you
can have voice. Because when you have their job that
you need and you cannot afford to lose it, people
are quiet. They take abuse, they don't have to take
for it. This why unions are important. Another issue, because
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some of this had lost. Some of this as policy
taking her baby away because they assume that she hurt
herself when really she just fell in the tub. Again,
Children and Family services issues, the misuse of that, not
going through due process, not giving people a chance to
make their case. I was a garden at Lineum in Florida.
These are real things, guys. If you were bothered by that,
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look into that, see what motivated you about that, and
get involved. Mental health obviously was a big one to
harderp Hinton in real life pushes mental health. She partners
a lot with Charlemagne on that. The strata brough of
Camel's Back was about her mental health. If you watch
the movie and wait till the end, you'll see that
really she lost her mind, her child was died, and
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the whole time she was thinking the child was alive
when she was not, because she lost her mind. My
book Kitty's Litter is about something very similar, not the
same thing, but a woman who had been subject to
so much trauma that she lost her mind. She was
speaking to invisible people on all of that Kitty's Litter.
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Although it's a fiction book, which is why I was
compelled to do this, because I believe in taking fiction
stories and showing you, you know, the real side of it.
And in that book, and you'll see that as I
unroll it and put it on the screen, Because in
my movies, you are gonna learn something from it. It's
gonna be fiction, but you're gonna absolute learn something from it.
And that's one of the things that I talk about,
the mental health and how all that happens in the book,
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how the money was misused. Go read Kitty's Litter one
and two. But as you continue to watch the book,
I'm not going to put another book out. I'm taking
it to the screen. It will make sense on mental
health and what we can do for that. And so
that was a heavy, heavy part of her mental health. Basically,
when her child died, she lost her mind. So you
watch the movie. You should be watching this app You
shouldn't be listening to this podcast after you've seen the
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movie so it can make sense. But if not, go
watch it and you'll see from the beginning to the
end on why this makes sense and why having mental
health resources are important while you're trying to work that
job that's mission treating you, while you're trying to take
care of that child, while you're trying to get those things,
because without having those resources, when something happens, you lose
it all. And it's how people become drug addicts, it's
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how people become alcohol These are the things my own
personal story, my dad lost everything, when my brother died,
lost everything. I have a cousin right now, it's never
been the same after her son was murdered. It really
does happen. So not having access to those resources makes
a difference. And then finally, community policing. You've seen some
(24:34):
folks of y'all main scene they've been doing TikTok Tiana
Taylor and how she was walking and being a police
officer and all of that. Well, guys, community policing is
huge and important's politically push for all the time to
have not just officers that look like us, but know
our story. When you watch the movie, you'll see Tiana
Taylor was saying, I know you. They did not. They said,
let's not let the FBI talk her out of it.
Let's let Tiana her character. Because she said, I know her,
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I've been that mother. I understand. She was able to talk,
able to talk to Argie's character, you know, out the building,
because she knew her. She believed her because she knew
what that story was. She knew what it was to
lose at all. She knew what it was to be
a mother. She knew what it was to not have
the money. That's why, that's what we mean when we
say community policing. Knowing me, knowing my story, being familiar,
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saying something about this ain't right, not just taking a
word for it and saying, oh, she murdered him, he
did this, Let's blow her head off. Community policing was
the biggest impact overall, was one of the biggest on
why this movie turned out the way that it did
because having an officer that could relate, but it also
took her supervisor telling the FBI stand down, Let's let
(25:41):
Tianna do it. All of that is important, so Guys,
I just wanted to break down to you the things
that I saw off top that are important that I
think you should look into. It's not a apples apples verbatim.
Don't email me saying well, technically you said this, but
really is it critical thinking skills. I'm giving you things
to look at overall, broadly on the area, on where
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to find it, and then to dig deeper. Does that
make sense marcellos? Or if I'm saying you are motivated
by you didn't like her child being taken away, I'm
telling you go look and see where you can get
active in child and family services, not telling you verbatim, shoot,
the child been taking away, not taking away. Just relax.
I'm giving you the area and a point to to say, hey,
this is what this looks like. This is what that
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looks like. Those were the nine that I just set there,
literally and off the top of my head that I
could not even it was even getting on this nerve
because I kept stopping it because I was wanting to write,
you know, the stuff down while I was watching in
real time, and he said just enjoy the movie, and
I told hm, I can't enjoy the movie without knowing
I'm going to give people solutions. That's how I operate.
I cannot watch this movie full of trauma and not
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give somebody the solution so that they don't remain hopeless.
So those are the things, guys. If you want more
of this, let me know, happy to do webinars on
more policy that you think is important. You don't want
to waste your time, don't want to bore you. But
I did owe you this. I owe it to myself.
I owe it to every single mother that's done the
heavy lifting. I don't call myself a single mom because
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to me, the racist Jada's dad. But I do say
I'm a mother that has done the primary heavy lifting,
meaning he lived out of state. I don't say single
because I'm actually a divorce mom, and there's a stigma.
There's already a stigma with single moms having babies without
a wedlock. Didn't do no planning, Daddy ain't nowhere around,
you know so, and that's not the case. So I'm
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very clear to say I'm a divorce mom with a
active father in my child's life, present, physically, financially, all
of that. But there was a time where we lived
in two different states because his job took him in
an estate. So I was doing the heavy lifting and
I know how hard that can be, and I thank
God for it because it allowed me to walk in
the shoes and not just speak from a distance. Yeah,
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it's one thing to say, all those shoes look really nice,
and then you put them on and you realize they're
cut small. They're made small. Jessica Simpson shoes, I'll use
that example. All the shoes are really nice. I can
wear seven and a half in a Steve Mann, but
I cannot in a Jessica Simpson because Jessica Simpson is
seven and a half. It's too small for me. So
that means that all shoes are not the same. Even
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if it's the same size, even it looks like it's
the same, the walk is not the same. So it's
very important that you get that, that you understand that,
and as you watch this movie, have compassion because just
because it's not rid of you don't mean it ain't
rid of somebody else. And if you are motivated by it,
try to tap into one of those nine things. This
your girl tells them, figure out if this move you,
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let me know, I'm happy to do webinars to go deeper.
But I did want to give you that to do
my part. Whether Tyler Perry ever does it or not,
whether Deon Taylor ever do it or not, I am
always gonna do what I'm supposed to do myselves because
guess what, Like I always say, at the end of
the day, when it's time to get called home, the
question is gonna be asked, did you do it? And
I'm not gonna be able to say, well, Tyler Perry
never reached out, he said he want to do it.
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I did it. I gave information. Hey lord, I checked
it off. Usually lose it, can't make you choose it.
I've done my part and that's all the matter. Like
I always said, it's not about we, it's about.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
What marcellas me.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I'm doing my part and that's it. That's all ilu.
I ain't going crazy about it. I ain't trying to
get you. Why don't do it? He don't want to
because this ain't about fame to me saying about cloud chasing,
it ain't about being seen. It's about checking off the box.
Hey lord, I did what you told me to do.
I did what you compel me to do. What you
put on my heart to do. And that's it and
that's all. Hope you enjoyed this episode. Guys, We'll see
you next time. Peace peace. If you like what you
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Yet ask your question real. Let's just keep it real
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(00:20):
chase with your girl chant figure out on the Black
Effect podcasting that everybody. I've been giving y'all episode overload
this week, episode overload. We are here again. Marcella's like,
you cold, They can't see you. What you got your
blanket on? What's going on? You got what's happening?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Hey? I keep it cold? Here are you doing? I
keep it on sixty?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Oh hell no, I know. I never want to be
visiting you. My aunt is like at best, so.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
This is.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Now here you got ain't cold, but you all bummed
it up so apparently it ain't comfortable.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
It's very comfortable. I ain't around put a little ain't
wrong with a little blanket.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I do seventy. We ain't going down in those seas hot?
Oh no, oh yeah no, I'm definitely my aunt. Her
house is so cold, like it's like I said, uncomfortable,
you know what I mean? Like that's okay, I just
stay at a hotel. Ridiculous, But she got sias, so
(01:32):
you know it wasn't she before she's blaming on the sorites.
It's always been like that, like, but now you know
if she gets too high to make her itch or
you know, her sin is. But I mean, it's just ridiculous.
It probably be in the fifties. Oh yeah, it's ridiculous.
I just I just stayed at the hotel room. Don't
worry about I'm very cold, man. I got to heat
(01:55):
it right by my bed even now, because I keep
it cool in the house, but because to like it cool.
But I just like being warm and toasted. If I
don't have a heater, then I'll have a I keep
a heating pad in my bed for my feet.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Oh yes, yeah, I remember. I remember. I told my
brother to you because it was cold, said, you get
your blanket. I know you don't think i'd turn.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
The damn You're gonna freeze them out. Yeah, let bill high.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I got budget billing.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Oh okay, okay, Oh yeah, at least you're doing doing
so that makes sense. Okay, cool?
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Well, I wanted to do an episode on I told
people I would do it last week and just got fit.
I was planning to do it at the top of
the week because as I think about it, it still I'm
still on time. And people said they were really looking
forward to it, and I was reminded to do it
yesterday with the drama that Tyler Perry's going through. And
(02:57):
we'll see how that all works out. Uh, But the
movie straw And I know you ain't no point me
asking you watched it because you have just waste of time.
Just y'all know, my sist never seen the Color Purse.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
It's not a waste of time to ask.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
It's absolutely to be surprised. What's the last movie you watched? Exactly?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Halloween?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I think, yeah, Halloween from the eighties.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
No, I'm talking about the last one that came out.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Okay, Oh, you like scary.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Movies, that's all. I ain't gonna say it's all, but
that's ninety percent of the movie. It got to be scary.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I like, huh, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I love that type of stuff? Really, yeah, I love.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
As much as you laugh. I was bigures you like comedy.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I do horror and ten percent comedy.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
What's wrong with you? Marcella? It's all makes sense. You're
crashing out of the job. I got start watching rself.
He might flip on me at any moment. You like
grory like Halloween, Like what type of Halloween like Exorcist style,
scary or just suspense.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Or no, I like like Michael Mike Michael Maya's type
of the.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Head chopped off and all that type of ship. I'm
not start paying Really, it's all lighted up stream.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I'm a bit oh man, it's just the animals. I
have Scream Halloween.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
In the Scream of spoof, though I don't know a comedy.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Oh no, you're thinking about a scary movie. Scary. I
got them too.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
He had forced me tell me that's his love lane,
what's love language watching this? And like, no, I don't
like he he likes scary movies. He likes it's called grory.
Grory like it's not suspense. I guess it's I guess
it's still in thriller thriller type movies. But how do
(05:21):
you describe? Okay, he made me watch It was actually
pretty good though split I don't know. It's about a
multipersonality kind of like suspense. Oh, its ain't necessarily horror,
but it's on the edge of your seat.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I probably I probably would like something like that too, Yeah,
but I don't. I don't like the vampires scary moves.
I don't like.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Stuff like that though, Well that's scared why.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I don't like stuff that's seemed too not realistic. I
don't like stuff like that. I didn't like Black Panther.
I hated that movie.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Scary movie.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I know what I'm saying. I don't like movies not
kind of like realistic. So there was waste of time
for me.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Oh okay, so you like okay, so you rather be
realistic about somebody coming through and chopping off heads in
the middle of the night. Freddy Kruger, is that realistic
popping up in the d.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
But that's a human actually killing somebody, that's actually really
that's realistic. But that pat and stuff that's not realistic.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
What about Freddy Krueger.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I don't like Freddy Coueger moves.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
And it's because it's not realistic.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah, that's that's way over the top for me.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Okay, okay, interesting, Well what do you I definitely learned
something tonight. Make sure you're no manifesto sitting over there.
You can't trust nobody now that will know what's going on.
Don't anybody be liking all that demonic shitty. I'm definitely
looking I'm looking at you real different. Who y'all want
(07:03):
to learn something to Let'm gonna check your basement. See
thell going on? They donna tell them what there you got?
Speaker 2 (07:12):
I like even even I don't really watch TV like that,
but when I do, it has to be Forensic Files.
That's like a must.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Oh yeah, you something else? You like Dexter?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I don't know if that is.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
It's on Showtime. It is. It's about a serial killer,
and you might like that kind of strange. It's a
good series though, but it's not horror. But it's definitely
suspense and somebody killing, somebody's killed the bad guy. You
might you might check it out.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, that's what I grew That's what that's what I
grew up on.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh, it's all making sense.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
We all used to go to what we love that
stream and Halloween.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Yeah, yeah, I'm did run it well. He told me
I did not want to watch straw because I saw
the feedback about the trauma. And you know, Tyler Perry
go again is always you know, black woman on welfare,
struggling to make it through, just nothing That wasn't why
(08:20):
I didn't want to watch it. I just seen it
before and I'm like, well, whatever, we'll see. You know.
It's not like something I'm like, oh I must go
see even though I love Tarj Binson. It was just like,
no big deal. I could hit or miss it. And
then was that what it really was?
Speaker 2 (08:39):
That what it really was about though black woman on Welfare?
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Well, yes she was going through it, you know, And
so I'm gonna kind of break that down. But what's
bothering me now in my activist stage of life is
these types of movies but not giving people solutions. And
I know, you know, people say that's not what movies
are for, but I feel it is a huge waste
(09:05):
to not you know, when Tyler Perry is saying I'm
doing these movies because you know, they was all on
his ass. I don't know if you saw them. So
they was always like Tyler Perry, we see of these movies,
we this, we dad. That's why people love the movie,
the series forever on Netflix. People want to feel good,
they want to see good black stories, and they getting
tired of, you know, Tyler Perry these stories. And so
you know his answer was I got to show every
part of life and people, you know, black women go
(09:26):
through this, which is really true. Yeah, but what I
find out is it is true. But then what's the
next step. So what bothers me is at least people
hopeless with nothing after to say, Okay, how do we
fix this? And it is a wasted opportunity to me
for black filmmakers. You don't have to do it in
the movie. But like I've told my friend Deon Taylor,
(09:48):
who does movies, he always has a message in it somewhere.
Why not host some talkbacks on after the movie, you know,
some zooms. I'll be happy to host them. Everybody ain't
gonna come in because everybody don want to fix the problem,
but it would It would be a beautiful thing to
talk about, like what you missed in the movie and
how you can fix it, even centers, even any any movie,
(10:09):
there's something about it that we can learn from on
how to change our community. So they do these movies
myself and they say it's a spark community conversation. It's
a spark involved in Yet it is, but there's also
a big missing piece between actually pointing out what was
in the movie and how you can literally fix it,
so that way you're not sitting around saying, damn, it's
(10:32):
just another movie that got me feeling hopeless. I feel
the same way when people say, oh, yeah, I can't
watch a police brutality because oh I can't do it.
It's so traumatic, so traumatic, but you don't. But it
never calls you. The action so traumatic that you don't
you're so devastated to the point where you just keep
your head in the sand. I'm not really buying the devastation.
(10:53):
So is it because you don't know what to do
or you just want to use an excuse on not
doing anything at all, so putting it out there to me,
I would love for more of that to happen. So
I said I'm gonna do it myself on this one
particular movie, my twenty people to listen to me. Hey,
you'll get the information after that, because I tagged and
everybody like, oh man, that'd be great and tylor pair
(11:14):
do that. But they're not gonna do that, be honest.
Their money is made off the trauma and keeping people
coming back for the trauma. Somebody even said that, well,
they're not gonna fix it, because if they fix it,
they're not gonna have income, Well, let me give you
breaking news, tile of pair and everybody else. You're never
gonna fix it all, So you still can make money
off the trauma. But why not give another counter, Why
(11:34):
not give adds something else in the mix. Why not
for those who say, you know what, I'm sick of
your traumatic movies. But at least you do this and
I'll continue to support you. So it's nothing but a win.
And by chance we might actually fix some shit. And
it's always gonna be bullshit. You never have to worry
about that, which is why I tell people in politics, well, damn,
don't say that I never get fixed. The goal is,
it's not ever gonna get fixed. It's always gonna be
(11:56):
a problem always. No relationship is ever perfect, and soul
is our relationship with America. It's always gonna be work
for you to do. You want things to get better,
you want progress, There's always gonna be something. So if
you're getting into this thinking, well, it ain't never fixed,
it ain't no point. What's the point. You're in the
wrong business, the wrong business.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
So he probably well you may have already said it,
but I think because they've been criticizing him for a long, long,
long time.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
About He's louder and louder, though.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Right here it's redundant. You know movies. I actually do
kind of like you know, his movies, but I have
been watching lately because I do feel like they are
kind of like the same. But I feel like he
he probably just keep doing it because people keep going
to go see it. So I was like, what's the purpose.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
He knows his customer and people ain't got to watch it.
You don't have to watch it. You don't have to
support it, just like you ain't got to listen to
show if you don't support it. I just because I
watched it, I was I am compelled to talk about
what I'm talking about now because I cannot watch a
movie full of problems and I tell you what the
problem was in the solution. So it's totally fine. I'm
totally fine with being over by myself on this island.
(13:04):
They ain't got to do it, and that.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Do you think it could possibly be too that he's
if you Yeah, I noticed that now that we're seeing
talking about his his issue is usually about black women.
But he's a black man, so how can he even
talk about.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Well, it's his experience. His mother's his grandmother. You know,
he grew up with women, so he's he's making voice
so you can see what we go through. I get that.
It doesn't matter like what he's saying is valid. I'm
just saying I can't sit up and watch nothing when
I can identify non policies right after Gate that I
know people don't know about. And that's what this show
is about.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Oh, because that's what I say here, black man, he goes,
how can he even talk about a solution for the
black women?
Speaker 1 (13:45):
He ain't talking that solutions at all. So that's the
point he's showing the story. The story is accurate. A
lot of people said, I mean, every black woman don't
have the same story. So just being a black woman
don't mean you know her struggle lither I should don't
know the struggle. Love what that movie was about, but
it was very realistic to me, or even when Funky
I need it was like, ain't that much bad gonna happen?
(14:05):
One day? Actually it has, Actually it really has. Actually
people have really lost their job and needed to go
to the school and something happened with their kid and
then on the way got in a car wreck, like
you know, it was back to back, you know, things
that was happening back to back, and that is very real.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Like movie precious people sit there that ain't really happen
like that. But I know from that to.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
You it didn't happen. Well you know, right, yeah, it happens.
It happened. Oh that's not just a black woman like
Quentin said that don't happen. Well, you've never been a
black woman with a single mom, so you don't know.
But then there's also single moms that never had to
go through that, so everybody's lived experience is different. What
happened was real. I just can't sit up here and
(14:47):
watch it and not identify the policies. And that's what
I want to go through, guys, right off the and
if the movie, if this is a spoiler, it's just
a spoiler. You know, it is what it is. I
said I was gonna do this episode, so I want
(15:08):
to do it right off the bat. You notice, and
I'm gonna give an overview. I can go deeper, you know,
later on if this is something more that you want.
But I just kind of want to go right off
the bat, Right off the bat. She woke up in
the house in her apartment, loud music, you know, had
no so say and you know, turn the music down.
Any of that went to a car. Was short on
the rent. Now I'm not going to give every piece
(15:30):
of it, but I just want to, you know, point out,
you know, some things right out the gate. She was
short on the rent. Well number one. I don't know
if you remember, but maybe last month I posted what's
about to happen with rental assistants next year? Right now
this positive they're working on what Trump is proposing to
severely reduce rental assistant I did a whole commentary on
(15:52):
they guys, go watch it on Remote News. It doesn't
go anywhere. Put in tes some figure rental assistant. It's
on my page. Google it, try to look for it.
Look at what I broke down in rental assistance. So
if you think is bad now because she could not
afford it, these programs that can help you stay in
your home, that can whether it's through I'm not talking
about just Section eight. It could be a church, it
(16:12):
could be one of the people that stay in my homes, Marcella's.
They contact every now and then in the church helps
and what they rent, they pay the difference. Some months,
they just don't have the difference. So not only is
Section eight being wiped out, also organizations and I wiped
out completely, but going to be severely reduced. Organizations that
have been able to help people like this character that
(16:33):
is also being reduced because they're stopping the grants. So
while you guys are not paying attention, if you are
bothered by the fact that she wasn't able to pay rent,
and that was the first thing out the top of
the movie, you need to pay attention to what's happening
with realists. That's policy number one. Policy number two healthcare reform.
The little girl was on medication. She had problems, you know,
(16:55):
she had to eat once a day, could not get
food at the school. She didn't have the forty dollars
the food. Let's talk about the policy. This has happened
guys in real time this year reducing free lunch. That
has been fairly reduced. So one of the key things
with the school was she didn't have forty dollars for
(17:15):
the baby's lunch, and the baby had to eat in
order to take her medication or the people, the kids
will start making fun of her. She would have seizures.
It's a real thing. Medicare right now, Medicaid right now
is being severely reduced. They're arguing about that right now.
So if she doesn't have the forty dollars, you know,
damn well, she you're gonna have the money to pay
(17:36):
for the medicine on her own. Again, these are policies
if you're bothered by that movie. These are the things
that you need to look at. Banking while black. When
she went into the bank and they didn't want to
cash the check because she didn't have her ID. Now
this is not verbatim. I'm just giving you overall things
(17:57):
you need to think about. In the movie Sybil that
I was in or to turn a ben jam Crump,
one of the cases was banking while black, them not
wanting to cash her check, didn't think it was hers,
and she ended up suing the bank one of course,
but that is a real thing. Now, of course, you
need your ID. I'm not saying you don't need your
i D. I'm just wanting you guys to know there's
(18:17):
a real issue with discrimination banking, you know, being black,
all those things. She ended up pulling a gun on
them when she was like, you know, me, I just
need you to cash my check for twenty fifty dollars
so I can get the forty dollars back up to
my school, my baby's school. They knew it from across
the street. But again, had it been a white woman
(18:38):
that they knew, they came in every week, you know,
knew it was her, do you think the likelihood of
them cashing the check would have happened? Probably so.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
So that's what we call banking while black. Again, if
you're bothered by the movies, these are the type of
policies I want you to look into police brutality. Right
after Gate, that was obvious with the white officer that
was saying, who ran her off the road? And again
I'm not gonna go through all the details of the movie.
You need to watch the movie, but I'm mainly focused
on the policy ran her off the road. Then when
(19:09):
he ran her off the rod pulled a gun on it, saying,
I'm gonna make sure I'm gonna find a reason illegally
blow your head off. While he said that, the other
cop saw, well, Marcella's there's a law by the name
Carol Horn, former police officer, called the Carroll Horn Law.
(19:31):
Police Act that requires the duty to intervene. We also
saw this with the George Floyd matter, pushing policy to
say when should another officer intervene when they know something
is going wrong. That's the overall gist of it. But
you need to go look at the law and understand
what I'm saying. My point is there's laws on the
books for that. That's not in every city, in every state.
(19:53):
You need to look into that. See if you have
a duty to intervene, see what that is. If you
do not have a duty to intervene, that can be
policy you can work on. This will mean when we
said police reformed policies, one of those is duty to intervene.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
The law.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
The woman in the inn in the movie did not
do that. Towards the end, she finally said what happened,
but there was no consequence for her not saying what happened.
And if you watch the movie, you'll see how Taharjie
refuse to come out of the bank because that officer
was out there and he already told her I'm gonna
(20:30):
blow your head off. I'm gonna find a reason to
blow your head off, and that's why she ended up
keeping those people hostage because she knew he was gonna
kill her. Had duty to intervene been in place when
he first said that, and the officer reported him. He
would have never been outside the bank for her to
hold anybody hostage. Does that make sense? You gotta watch
the movie to see how it all comes together. But
these are the policies I want you to pay attention to.
(20:54):
When she wasn't paid her check on time, when she
went to her when she was fired and he said,
get the check in the there's something called the Fair
Labor Standards Act. How he was treating her not giving
a check, give or want to playing all them games
with a check. He ended up getting his ass shot
because he was being robbed and she really needed her
(21:15):
money again, people snapped, See straw was all about the
straw that broke the camel's back, having so much put
on her that she just went off. Got to watch
the movie so it'd all come together. But I want
you to know that you're having problems on the job
on how people are paying you, not paying your time.
This is why Marcella's is a big union advocate. Seriously,
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all Joe side, no laughing matter. Unions matter. Go see
this movie, you'll see all type of union call. You
know why we need unions, Why people need representation, why
their bosses bully them, why they can't so that you
can have voice. Because when you have their job that
you need and you cannot afford to lose it, people
are quiet. They take abuse, they don't have to take
for it. This why unions are important. Another issue, because
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some of this had lost. Some of this as policy
taking her baby away because they assume that she hurt
herself when really she just fell in the tub. Again,
Children and Family services issues, the misuse of that, not
going through due process, not giving people a chance to
make their case. I was a garden at Lineum in Florida.
These are real things, guys. If you were bothered by that,
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look into that, see what motivated you about that, and
get involved. Mental health obviously was a big one to
harderp Hinton in real life pushes mental health. She partners
a lot with Charlemagne on that. The strata brough of
Camel's Back was about her mental health. If you watch
the movie and wait till the end, you'll see that
really she lost her mind, her child was died, and
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the whole time she was thinking the child was alive
when she was not, because she lost her mind. My
book Kitty's Litter is about something very similar, not the
same thing, but a woman who had been subject to
so much trauma that she lost her mind. She was
speaking to invisible people on all of that Kitty's Litter.
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Although it's a fiction book, which is why I was
compelled to do this, because I believe in taking fiction
stories and showing you, you know, the real side of it.
And in that book, and you'll see that as I
unroll it and put it on the screen, Because in
my movies, you are gonna learn something from it. It's
gonna be fiction, but you're gonna absolute learn something from it.
And that's one of the things that I talk about,
the mental health and how all that happens in the book,
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how the money was misused. Go read Kitty's Litter one
and two. But as you continue to watch the book,
I'm not going to put another book out. I'm taking
it to the screen. It will make sense on mental
health and what we can do for that. And so
that was a heavy, heavy part of her mental health. Basically,
when her child died, she lost her mind. So you
watch the movie. You should be watching this app You
shouldn't be listening to this podcast after you've seen the
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movie so it can make sense. But if not, go
watch it and you'll see from the beginning to the
end on why this makes sense and why having mental
health resources are important while you're trying to work that
job that's mission treating you, while you're trying to take
care of that child, while you're trying to get those things,
because without having those resources, when something happens, you lose
it all. And it's how people become drug addicts, it's
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how people become alcohol These are the things my own
personal story, my dad lost everything, when my brother died,
lost everything. I have a cousin right now, it's never
been the same after her son was murdered. It really
does happen. So not having access to those resources makes
a difference. And then finally, community policing. You've seen some
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folks of y'all main scene they've been doing TikTok Tiana
Taylor and how she was walking and being a police
officer and all of that. Well, guys, community policing is
huge and important's politically push for all the time to
have not just officers that look like us, but know
our story. When you watch the movie, you'll see Tiana
Taylor was saying, I know you. They did not. They said,
let's not let the FBI talk her out of it.
Let's let Tiana her character. Because she said, I know her,
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I've been that mother. I understand. She was able to talk,
able to talk to Argie's character, you know, out the building,
because she knew her. She believed her because she knew
what that story was. She knew what it was to
lose at all. She knew what it was to be
a mother. She knew what it was to not have
the money. That's why, that's what we mean when we
say community policing. Knowing me, knowing my story, being familiar,
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saying something about this ain't right, not just taking a
word for it and saying, oh, she murdered him, he
did this, Let's blow her head off. Community policing was
the biggest impact overall, was one of the biggest on
why this movie turned out the way that it did
because having an officer that could relate, but it also
took her supervisor telling the FBI stand down, Let's let
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Tianna do it. All of that is important, so Guys,
I just wanted to break down to you the things
that I saw off top that are important that I
think you should look into. It's not a apples apples verbatim.
Don't email me saying well, technically you said this, but
really is it critical thinking skills. I'm giving you things
to look at overall, broadly on the area, on where
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to find it, and then to dig deeper. Does that
make sense marcellos? Or if I'm saying you are motivated
by you didn't like her child being taken away, I'm
telling you go look and see where you can get
active in child and family services, not telling you verbatim, shoot,
the child been taking away, not taking away. Just relax.
I'm giving you the area and a point to to say, hey,
this is what this looks like. This is what that
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looks like. Those were the nine that I just set there,
literally and off the top of my head that I
could not even it was even getting on this nerve
because I kept stopping it because I was wanting to write,
you know, the stuff down while I was watching in
real time, and he said just enjoy the movie, and
I told hm, I can't enjoy the movie without knowing
I'm going to give people solutions. That's how I operate.
I cannot watch this movie full of trauma and not
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give somebody the solution so that they don't remain hopeless.
So those are the things, guys. If you want more
of this, let me know, happy to do webinars on
more policy that you think is important. You don't want
to waste your time, don't want to bore you. But
I did owe you this. I owe it to myself.
I owe it to every single mother that's done the
heavy lifting. I don't call myself a single mom because
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to me, the racist Jada's dad. But I do say
I'm a mother that has done the primary heavy lifting,
meaning he lived out of state. I don't say single
because I'm actually a divorce mom, and there's a stigma.
There's already a stigma with single moms having babies without
a wedlock. Didn't do no planning, Daddy ain't nowhere around,
you know so, and that's not the case. So I'm
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very clear to say I'm a divorce mom with a
active father in my child's life, present, physically, financially, all
of that. But there was a time where we lived
in two different states because his job took him in
an estate. So I was doing the heavy lifting and
I know how hard that can be, and I thank
God for it because it allowed me to walk in
the shoes and not just speak from a distance. Yeah,
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it's one thing to say, all those shoes look really nice,
and then you put them on and you realize they're
cut small. They're made small. Jessica Simpson shoes, I'll use
that example. All the shoes are really nice. I can
wear seven and a half in a Steve Mann, but
I cannot in a Jessica Simpson because Jessica Simpson is
seven and a half. It's too small for me. So
that means that all shoes are not the same. Even
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if it's the same size, even it looks like it's
the same, the walk is not the same. So it's
very important that you get that, that you understand that,
and as you watch this movie, have compassion because just
because it's not rid of you don't mean it ain't
rid of somebody else. And if you are motivated by it,
try to tap into one of those nine things. This
your girl tells them, figure out if this move you,
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let me know, I'm happy to do webinars to go deeper.
But I did want to give you that to do
my part. Whether Tyler Perry ever does it or not,
whether Deon Taylor ever do it or not, I am
always gonna do what I'm supposed to do myselves because
guess what, Like I always say, at the end of
the day, when it's time to get called home, the
question is gonna be asked, did you do it? And
I'm not gonna be able to say, well, Tyler Perry
never reached out, he said he want to do it.
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I did it. I gave information. Hey lord, I checked
it off. Usually lose it, can't make you choose it.
I've done my part and that's all the matter. Like
I always said, it's not about we, it's about.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
What marcellas me.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I'm doing my part and that's it. That's all ilu.
I ain't going crazy about it. I ain't trying to
get you. Why don't do it? He don't want to
because this ain't about fame to me saying about cloud chasing,
it ain't about being seen. It's about checking off the box.
Hey lord, I did what you told me to do.
I did what you compel me to do. What you
put on my heart to do. And that's it and
that's all. Hope you enjoyed this episode. Guys, We'll see
you next time. Peace peace. If you like what you
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No Chaser is a production of the Black Effect podcast
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