August 17, 2023 • 45 mins
Episode 265 - "The Baller Alert Show" Feat: Ferrari Simmons, Su Solo & You Know BT Produced by: Octavia March
Special Guest: Falynn Pina from Real Housewives of Atlanta
Topics include: Marriage and Divorce from Simone, missing her monthly allowance & feelings towards Porsha today. Her relationship with Jaylen Banks, him spending all her money, abuse allegations & more.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
H word with me here, you know BT.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
She was so low shout o O c T call what
we see?
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Whole game?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Wait the baller blo something.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Oh, you can't stand on their own feet.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
I already know you can't bother with me because with
the squad of me, they get a little They called me.
Speaker 4 (00:18):
Hello, Baller Alert, Welcome to The Boler Show.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
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Speaker 1 (00:32):
I go by the name of Ferrari Simmits. I go
by the name you know BT. See T with that.
Are you doing, ma'am?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I'm good, I'm good.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Are you What brings us to? What brings you to?
The metaverse? The baller Alert universe?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Just another day in the meeting, b T called me and.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Your TV and said, guess what, guys, I got someone
that I want to come on the show.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I said yeah, because I said, you've been quiet.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
I'm like, when was the last interview that you've done.
I feel like, you know, you're somebody I considered the friend,
and you know, I feel like you just been a
getting attacked so much in the media, and it's like
you just been quiet.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
So I'm like, what is going on?
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Well, first, for those who don't know about who Fallon is,
can you give us a little rundown of who you are?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Well?
Speaker 6 (01:18):
I started out on the Real Housewives of Atlanta and
then it kind of just blew up from there. My
ex husband left me married Portia, who is my castmate
since then. I ended up getting in a relationship with
my then best friend and we were just recently on
(01:40):
MTV for couples retreats.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
How did you get the opportunity to be on basketball?
I mean on house wives, you know what.
Speaker 6 (01:48):
They actually approached me a few times and I said, no,
I never really wanted to do reality TV. It's not
my thing, but the opportunity just kept presenting it.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
So I said, you know why not?
Speaker 7 (02:01):
What did you do before then? He was just a
housewife in real life?
Speaker 8 (02:04):
Yeah, okay, I know a lot of people were staying
online that were you and post your friends for real,
like was that really your friend?
Speaker 2 (02:14):
We were cool.
Speaker 6 (02:15):
So we met through the show, and I mean we
would hang out after wrapping. We would hang out, you know,
on our own time, private time. She would be at
my house. So it was like bestis in bringing each
other's hair. But yeah, she was in my house.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
She was at your house around your ex husband got it?
Speaker 5 (02:33):
Okay, Well before you met him, where were you?
Speaker 7 (02:38):
What were you? What was your profession?
Speaker 6 (02:40):
I was actually a clinical manager, so I managed the
clinic in l a for like five years.
Speaker 7 (02:45):
Oh did you meet him there?
Speaker 6 (02:46):
No, it was a blind date. I thought he was
a chef when I met him. I had no idea
because we went to restaurants and people would just come
out and they're like, you want some free food?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
And I'm like, who is this guy? I had no idea. No,
this was in Miami.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
So you got flut out and then he put the
charm on you and then you guys got together.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Or we had lunch.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
We had a dinner once and then the next day
we got together to do lunch. And when we had
that first lunch, we just couldn't stop talking.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
We talked for hours.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
And so when was the time that he told you
to quit your job?
Speaker 6 (03:24):
Because when he uh told me to move back to
Atlanta because I'm originally from Atlanta.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Okay, are you sure Atlanta or is it out the
outskirts of Atlanta?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
You know what? It's north? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Outside?
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Okay, so he moved he had you moved to Atlanta
and then you just were together.
Speaker 7 (03:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I really wanted to know what was going through.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Your mind when you saw Porsia dating your ex husband.
Oh did you find out online?
Speaker 1 (04:03):
How did you find out?
Speaker 6 (04:04):
I found out at the same time all of you
guys did on TV on social media.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
When they posted the picture.
Speaker 6 (04:10):
I think it was Dennis who posted the pictures congratulating
her on her next chapter.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
That's when I found out, same as everyone else.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
How are you feeling?
Speaker 6 (04:20):
I mean, it's not necessarily about how I was feeling,
but what I was thinking was how long was this
going on for y'all to be engaged?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
You know?
Speaker 7 (04:30):
Has he ever cheated on you before?
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (04:33):
God?
Speaker 6 (04:33):
Yeah. I was with him for five years and there
was times where you know, he was sleeping with his
assistant and I forgave him, and then a couple other women.
You know, there was speculation that came forward. I forgave him,
you know, as women usually do. And so I can't
say that I didn't ever get my look back.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
I did. I wasn't the most innocent.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Cheated back before we got married.
Speaker 6 (05:02):
That actually had a lot to do with how I
met you.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Oh, yeah, time, I was in the vicinity. Actually, yeah,
that shows me like that long time.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
What was this meeting BT, you want to tell certain I.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
Mean whe we met because we were all at the
hookah lo mutual friend and I had one of my
friends with me and they kind of like just kicked
it off. Yeah, and that was your roommate. Yeah yeah,
yeah at the time, that was my roommate. That's how
long ago I forgot his name.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
So famous city in England? What is it might be
a street or something. I think it's London, London, that's right, Okay, okay,
carry on. What happened?
Speaker 7 (05:54):
So you met a guy named London?
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Yeah, and then we started dating. I wasn't trying to
hide it.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
I was. I was really young.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I was yeah, you was out, I was outside.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Was at that point I was fed up. I was like, well,
if you don't.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Care, because at that point Simon had told me to
my face because I told him, all right, it's been
a couple it's been a year. It was about a
year and a half that he had been sleeping around
with his assistant, and so it got to the point
where I was just tired and he told me to
my face that I will never have any say so
over his personnel or anything so and who he hires
(06:31):
and fires. So at that point I was like, all right,
let's do it then, because you forgot, you.
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Forgot, And this is before you guys were married.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
This is before we got married.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
So you still got married.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
Oh yeah, why because he did his dirt and I
did mine and at the end of the day, that
was our business. And we took a nine month break,
which is the around the time where we were really.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
Yeah, because some stuff and I had no idea what
was what was going on.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
Yeah, we were seriously dating at that time, but I
was single and he was seriously datingnon London yeah at
that time, but I was single. We dated for maybe
four or five months, and then after that we broke
up and Simon and I started secretly dating, okay, and
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then three months later we got married.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Now, so you guys are married, and now when does
the marriage fall apart?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
I don't really know.
Speaker 6 (07:34):
I literally one day I was the happiest girl in
the world, and the next morning he was gone, like
he just mentally was checked out. I think it was
it was around the time where I started realizing I
wasn't that little girl anymore, that I was growing up
into a woman, and I wanted more for myself. I
didn't want to be a stay at home mom. I
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didn't want to be a trophy. I wanted more. And
when he's started being vocal about no, you're not going
to have more. You know you're going to be at
home if you do try to have more, he told
me that if I went and got a job or anything,
that he was going to cut me off, like completely,
that I wouldn't be able to go on vacation with
him and the children like things like that. So I
(08:19):
was never allowed to have anything for myself. So here
I was sitting on all this money and I had nothing.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
No kids with him? Right, No, he didn't want He
didn't want any.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
No he did, he did.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
You didn't want any kids with him?
Speaker 8 (08:32):
No.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
At one point him and I were like up and
down we wanted one, and then we didn't, and then
he did and then I didn't.
Speaker 9 (08:40):
So it was like, Okay, we'll be right back with
more of The Baller Alert Show. You're listening to a
special edition of The Baller Alert Show.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
Hey y'all, it's Vallan Peanut and you are now tuned
in to the Baller Alert show.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So when did you and Jalen became friends? When did
Jalen come in the picture?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Jalen came into the picture.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Jalen was his assistant.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
No, a lot of people say that he's my assistant.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
So Jalen was your assistant.
Speaker 6 (09:08):
He was my friend first in twenty twenty, like end
of twenty nineteen, twenty twenty, No, twenty nineteen. Yeah, so
he was my friend first, and we used to just
always bump into each other, you know, being out in
Atlanta and everything like that.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
We kind of just because I'm wondering, what was he assisting?
Speaker 6 (09:30):
Well, the children, Well, I had to take care of
my three kids and Simon's two kids and then his
younger daughter whenever she was you know, in and out
of town. So I needed help with that, running the household.
We had a really big house.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
It was it was a lot to.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Keep up with.
Speaker 6 (09:45):
Yeah, so just help with that.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
So we just Jalen and I were just cool.
Speaker 6 (09:55):
And then COVID hit and he lost his job and
so then that's and I was like, well, I'm sitting Jalen.
Jalen lost his job and so I was like, well,
mom's sitting on money, Come and work for me.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
He said no, like initially, but then.
Speaker 6 (10:10):
I was like, okay, now let's go ahead and you know,
get you working and doing something.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're around me all the time.
Speaker 6 (10:15):
Anyway, after a while, I could note I noticed that
Simon started putting me off on Jalen, like he would
like say, oh, take her out, go you know, keep
her busy.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Go do this, go do that now, mind jaw.
Speaker 6 (10:31):
I was not allowed to go out by myself with
friends or anything. I was not allowed to have girls' nights.
I wasn't allowed to do any of that without Simon.
You never see me without Simon, like I was always
with her because I wasn't allowed. And so then Jalen
came into the picture, and it was just like.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Here, take her.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
Yeah, you guys want to go shopping, or you guys
want to go you know, do this or do that.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah. So then yeah, I kind of felt like I
was just pawned off.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Damn.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
Yeah, did you feel like more of Simon's possession than
a wife?
Speaker 6 (11:07):
Well, I had never been like a real wife prior
to that, so I wouldn't even know what that felt like.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
But now understanding.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
And having the wisdom that I have about it now,
Hell yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
I was definitely his little trophy.
Speaker 6 (11:23):
I was that thing that you know, he bought me
a new little toy and to keep me quiet and
do as I say, you know, not as I do.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
So how did y'all start catching feelings for each other?
Speaker 6 (11:34):
Me and Jalen Oh I was going through a divorce.
I was vulnerable as.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I was vulnerable. I mean, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it.
I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 6 (11:47):
This is after Porsche. No, I didn't even know about Porsche.
I knew that Simon was going out of the country
to see another woman. But prior to Portie, there was
another woman that came out in the media saying that
she was dating Signed yesh I bumped into the other night.
Oh my god, that was the whole story.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
What happened.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
She was like, oh my god, yeah, I slept with
your husband. She was like, can we just it's water
under the bridge, can.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
We be cool? I'm like, girl, I don't even he
denied that mine. He denied it in social media. It's everywhere.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I just remember her that.
Speaker 6 (12:31):
Just purchased that Ferrari I hadn't even sat in it
yet before that came out, So I was like, what
the hell, what's going on? So then that was the
whole thing mine, y'all, while we're going through all of this,
we're still in therapy to try to work on our marriage.
And so he was out of the country a lot
with some other woman. I didn't know who it was.
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And yeah, I had his kids and my kids back home.
And then, as it pertains to me and Jalen, at
some point in time, Simon and I had the conversation like,
we're not gonna make this work.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
This is done and so.
Speaker 5 (13:08):
But Simon was saying that Jalen was pulling up, sneaking
in the house and all this stuff while y'all was together.
But you saying that you and Simon were already going
through a divorce.
Speaker 6 (13:18):
Oh yeah, for sure, we were going through like in
and out, in and out throughout divorce. But while we
were going in and out of it, he was still
not home. He was still gone, and I was begging
him to come home, crying myself to sleep for weeks,
you know. And at some point in time, I say,
you know what, I don't have to put up with
this like I can make the money myself. I know
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that I'm better than this. I should not have to
stay here for money. I shouldn't have to stay here
for love, because this isn't love. I don't feel loved,
and so yeah, at some point in time, I just
stopped caring.
Speaker 7 (13:53):
Simon made a comment like, you come for money? Do
you come for money?
Speaker 2 (13:57):
No?
Speaker 4 (14:00):
He was like saying, like, you got your own money,
you got your own bag.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
Type of Uh, that's funny.
Speaker 6 (14:05):
No. I started a petroleum a petroleum transportation company.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
I was in logistics. When I was with.
Speaker 6 (14:13):
Him, he was selling oil. I was transporting it. That
was the only thing he allowed me to do because
he was still in control of it. So even though
it's in my name and everything, I was doing all
the work.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
He was my only customer.
Speaker 6 (14:27):
I was not allowed to deal with anything else outside
of him.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Yeah, he took it.
Speaker 7 (14:34):
Oh, so what do you leave you with?
Speaker 2 (14:38):
My prenup? I signed a prenup.
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Okay, so what does that mean? You came in what
you he left with? What you came in with?
Speaker 2 (14:44):
No, I left with a lot more. We had two
houses together.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
I received well, he sold them, so I received from
that and then my separation check. So I was still
fine and I had I had a really good allowance
that I was sitting on, So that was fine.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
So you were saving your money?
Speaker 7 (15:06):
Oh yeah, so he would give you an allowance.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, I had a monthly allowance.
Speaker 7 (15:10):
Do you mind if do you if we ask what
that consisted of?
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Or is that ten thousand?
Speaker 1 (15:16):
That's a good allowance? I would stayed.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
I mean I died.
Speaker 7 (15:26):
Came with that though. A lot came with that allowance,
Like you weren't allowed.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I wasn't about to sell my soul.
Speaker 7 (15:31):
He was like physically abusive to you or anything.
Speaker 6 (15:34):
No, it was just really he was thirty years older
than me. I mean you have to imagine what that
must have been like, you know, the control aspect of
it all. He said jump, I said, how high?
Speaker 2 (15:48):
You know?
Speaker 6 (15:49):
It wasn't even all about the money. I truly was
madly in love with Simon. I know people look at
him like he's the beast and on the beauty, but.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I mean they do, they say it all.
Speaker 6 (16:01):
The time, but no, I didn't care about any of that.
I was madly in love. There's nothing that I wouldn't
have done for him. But at some point, like I said,
I started to grow up.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Do you miss them? Sometimes?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I miss the money, I'm.
Speaker 6 (16:24):
No, I just miss not having to worry about building
my own because sometimes we have our lazy days.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
I don't always want to get up and grind. You know.
Speaker 6 (16:35):
I have my days, especially having children and being a mother.
I have my days where sometimes I want to stay
in the bed. And I used to be able to
do that. Now I can't. Now I have to depend
on myself. And I actually love it here.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
I do. But I'd be lying if I said I
didn't miss them days.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
Sometimes, should Jalen not provide for you in the way
that you want?
Speaker 6 (16:58):
Oh my god, let me set this record trip because
this has been all over the media.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
And it's crazy because I wasn't.
Speaker 6 (17:06):
Really ever going to do this, because the difference between
Simon and Jalen is that Jalen and I have a
daughter together.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
And I always.
Speaker 6 (17:17):
From day one, I always wanted to save Jalen's image.
I always wanted to build him up. I'm wanted him
to feel like a man, you know, because that's what
he yearned for the most. But I have to be
honest because he kind of he did this to himself,
you know, he opened up that bag, and I would
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have preferred to just keep it quiet, but now I
had to defend myself. Jalen has never paid for anything ever.
I paid for every single thing. I mean even on
couples to treat If you go back and watch when
he was in our therapy session and he was saying,
you know, like, I'm so frustrated I have to pay
for this and that and take care of the kids.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I was trying my heart not to laugh because I'm
sitting here like, huh.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
You do what does he take care of his daughter? Oh?
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Hell yeah, he does. Great daddy, Great daddy.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
But as far as like paying the bills, and he
brought him a truck at one.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Yeah to him a truck, two trucks. What happened to
the truck?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
I took it back. But listen, I took it back
because there was cheating.
Speaker 6 (18:24):
I mean, there was abuse, there was a lot of
there was domestic violence.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yep, really yeah, domestic violence.
Speaker 6 (18:32):
There's a lot that I put up with in just
two years of being with him. It got to a
point where I mean he was putting his hands on
I mean, we weren't even together anymore. You know, he
just got mad one day because he found out I
was dating. We were still living together because we were
trying to figure out, you know, how to separate everything.
We weren't sleeping in the same bed for months. And
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when he found out that, I finally was like moving
on and you know, taking those steps towards like seeing
other people. I'll never forget it. He came home, it
was four in the morning. He came busting in the
door and he just he choked me out, and I
had to calm him down because then after that he
couldn't forgive himself because he said he would never hit
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me again. And so it was to the point, like
I know, in his interview, he said that I just
up and left with a man, and you know, now
my kids are calling another man dad, and it's like, no,
I had to call that man because I don't have family,
you know that could be there for me. And I
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had to call that man to come protect me and
my kids and get us out of there safely.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
You know, I had to call the police.
Speaker 6 (19:45):
It was it was really dark, It got really dark,
It got really bad, and all I kept thinking was
I don't deserve this, and my daughter doesn't deserve to
grow up seeing a man put their hands on her,
because that's the exactly what she's going to grow up thinking.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
That is Okay.
Speaker 6 (20:03):
The only reason why I put up with this because
I watched my mom go through the same thing. So
I'm like, oh, well, you know, here I am making excuses.
He's young, you know, and he's just he's upset today.
You know, he's going through a lot. The media there's
so mean to him, like, let.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Me just no, I could do it. I could do it.
I could save him. I could save him.
Speaker 6 (20:20):
To the point where it got it was at my
own detriment, and I had to learn that I can't
keep saving people's image.
Speaker 9 (20:32):
You know.
Speaker 6 (20:33):
Meanwhile, everybody's out here thinking I'm controlling or manipulative or
a groomer. Come comment in his interview that he recently
did he called He said that I was a groomer,
that I groomed him to be with me. But a
groomer is someone who's much older. I'm nine years older,
(20:54):
but I get it. Cool, I'm older, but you know,
there's something to groom you for. There was nothing to
group you for. I did everything, and.
Speaker 5 (21:03):
I mean, yeah, how did it make you feel?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
After that comment? Because I saw that all over the media.
Speaker 8 (21:10):
Yeah, yeah, that's why.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
That's why I've made.
Speaker 6 (21:14):
The T shirt because I'm like, okay, well, while we're
out here lying, you know, let me just go ahead
and make some type of clod back, because I don't
think that grooming is very funny at all.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
I was actually groomed.
Speaker 6 (21:25):
I was with someone who's thirty years older than me,
you know, and would use my youth and everything like
that and manipulate me in order to stay with him,
you know. So to say that I was a groomer,
knowing damn well that I held you down. I paid
for everything. I allowed the media and everyone my own
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family to believe that you were a real man and
that you were out here taking care of business in
the household when actually, and at all actuality, you weren't
doing anything. You know, I cooked eye clean. I not
that he didn't cook ever, But most of the time
he would play his game for sixteen hours a day
because he fell into depression and would not be there
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for me and the children. I was going through postpartum
by myself, you know, so, and he was going out
found out that he was cheating on me because he
came home at eight am, you know, and went through
his phone and lo and behold he's sharing his location
with a whole woman and her sharing it back.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
You know.
Speaker 6 (22:26):
It's just like I could go on and on, but
it got to the point where enough was enough. And
we had only been together for two years, you know,
like incomplete before y'all got yeah, I mean right, we
got pregnant right when we started dating.
Speaker 7 (22:43):
Like yeah, was going to ask, you know, why would
you have a child with him? Knowing that, you know,
he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Even take not this person when we were friends.
Speaker 6 (22:51):
And that's the one thing that I do miss the most,
or I did, was that I really saw him as
a different person because when we were friends, Oh my god,
we had the best experiences. We had the funniest lives.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
He was my dog.
Speaker 6 (23:10):
And no matter what I went through, all the people
who left me, all my best friends, even family members
who left me in the dust after Simon and I
got divorced, Jalen was still there.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
He was the only one there.
Speaker 6 (23:21):
Everybody left, nobody believed in my vision of me being
able to do this for myself. You know, everybody kept
calling me stupid because where I fumbled the bag or
you know I was dumb for choosing myself.
Speaker 4 (23:37):
And him and who and Jalen? Were they mad that
you chose Jalen like to be with and start a
life with.
Speaker 6 (23:44):
You know what, I think all of the city of
Atlanta is still mad that I chose Jalen.
Speaker 4 (23:49):
I did raise Yeah, I mean because you ended up
proving them right kind of when you, you know, saying
that you had to really take control over everything because
he wasn't you know, manning up to anything right, and
just you know, to give him that excuse to make
him feel a certain way, right. Do you feel like
that came from your lack of control over your life?
(24:11):
You know when you were married to Simon in your
previous life, did you feel like just being with him
and you know, just having somebody there that you can
kind of boss up on.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
No?
Speaker 6 (24:22):
I never boss up on Jalen. He wouldn't allow me to.
I mean, he was very abusive. No, it was not
like that at all with him. It felt like the
reason why I splurged on him, if you will, the
way I did, was because it felt good to feel appreciated.
I wasn't appreciated in my previous marriage, and so he
(24:47):
was literally he was giving me everything that I actually
wanted in my marriage, and then it just kind of
went from there.
Speaker 7 (24:57):
And what year did he start abusing you before your
child or after.
Speaker 6 (25:00):
He became physical? While I was still pregnant with Emma. Yeah,
and then after I dropped. I mean I stayed in
my room with Emma for a few months. By the
time she was five or six months. That's when I started,
you know, stepping outside and just saying, you know, I
don't care about what you say, I'm gonna have a
couple of girls' nights or whatever. And he was cool
(25:22):
with it until he wasn't, you know, until I was
coming home at two thirty three in the morning.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Now he's like, but.
Speaker 6 (25:31):
While I was pregnant, he called me controlling. I will
say this because in his interview he called me controlling.
He called me controlling to my face, and while we
were together as well. But his controlling was he was
coming home at six seven in the morning, spending all
of my money on bottles and sections every single night
(25:52):
while I was pregnant. And if I spoke up and
said that's inappropriate. You can't be spending all this money
one two'gnant with our baby at home. You cannot go
out every single night and just party it up at
six seven in the morning. That's not what you signed
up for. I did not put a gun to your
head to make you be with me or to lay
with me. So if that's what you wanted, that's what
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you chose. You need to be here, you need to
be present. I don't mind every here and there, but
you do it every single night. And then he would
call me controlling and say I'm trying to take his
youth from him and things like that, and it's like, well,
you're taking the fact that I actually wanted a relationship,
a real relationship with a real man, away from me.
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Speaker 6 (26:46):
Hey, y'all, it's Vallan Pianat and you are now tuned
in to The Baller Alert Show.
Speaker 5 (26:50):
When I've seen a clip on the internet where he
was like, don't fall in love with your best friend
and you know, you know whatever whatever he was saying,
how did you feel about that?
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Because that clip was like very like sentimental.
Speaker 6 (27:05):
Yeah, a lot of things I think he says is bullshit?
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Am I allowed to say that what you want? Okay?
Yeah I do.
Speaker 6 (27:16):
I do feel like it's bullshit. But at the same time,
there's times like Jalen is.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
A really good liar, like he's really good to me.
Speaker 6 (27:25):
He is, I'll give it to him like behind closed doors, y'all,
Like he still talks to me like we're friends.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
He's still cool with me.
Speaker 6 (27:34):
And then he'll text the person that I'm dating right now.
He'll text him and try to break up our relationship
by using the things that I've told him, you know,
in confidence, not about my relationship, but just he could
be something light like, oh my gosh, I went to
the grocery store today and I had a tummy ache,
and oh my gosh, I have this.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
He was like, did you know she had a tummy
ache when she was at the grocery store And was like, you.
Speaker 7 (27:57):
Have a relationship with your with your.
Speaker 6 (28:00):
I mean they met because at the end of the day,
I do have him around my children.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Anyone I date, I'm.
Speaker 6 (28:07):
I'm definitely the type of mom where I'm going to
have them around my children.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
I'm not.
Speaker 6 (28:11):
I'm not the type of mom to like date somebody
for two three years and then be like, oh, hey,
now you can meet my kids, and y'all don't even
like each other now, and now I got to start
all over.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
You know, I'm not going to do that.
Speaker 6 (28:22):
So of course, you know, the person that I'm seeing,
he is around my children. So I made sure that
Jalen met him. And when I say, they talked for
hours and Jalen texts me the next day and.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
It's like, he's such a great guy.
Speaker 7 (28:37):
I see.
Speaker 8 (28:40):
Yeah, okay, who is this guy you're dating now? I
don't want to say, is he He lives in Atlanta,
he's an actor, he got money, he's an actor.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Yeah, he's he's he does pretty well for himself.
Speaker 7 (28:56):
I mean because last time you said that.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
No, No, you're.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Right, You're right, you really like him.
Speaker 6 (29:05):
I do, okay, I like him.
Speaker 7 (29:08):
They're here, a.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Provider actor and he's a boxer.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yeah, actor in a boxer.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Is this a classic example of because when I saw
you in Jalen's Instagram and I was like, oh, you
guys look very happy. Is this a classic you know? Well,
it looks all right, don't It looks great on Instagram?
And but behind the scenes, because everything that you're saying
I'm over here, like damn yeah, because the pictures of
what I was seeing with you guys to get it
seems like everything was great.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (29:34):
I mean every relationship, they have their bad days and
good days. I mean our relationship was the same. Even
though my bad days were worse days than most, we
still had our good days. We still had our good times.
And whenever those times were happening, of course, I always,
you know, made sure I caught a picture and posted it.
(29:55):
But no, it got to a point where it started
off rocky, and then.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
It got worse, and it got worse, and it got worse, and.
Speaker 6 (30:03):
Then we did couple's retreat and I really had hope,
you know, that it was gonna get better, and then
it just it got worse and it got worse.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 6 (30:12):
And that was another thing that he said that I
wanted to address that he was taking care of my sisters.
He never took care of my sisters. I took care
of my sisters. I paid for every single thing. And
he also was the one who wanted my sisters to
move in with us. I didn't want my sisters to
move in with us. I told my mom straight up
(30:33):
to her face, no, I don't want them girls here.
It's gonna be way too much on Jalen. He's already
going through so much. I just had a baby, Like, no,
absolutely not. Jalen begged me for my sisters to move in.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
He was like, this is gonna be good. They'll they'll
help us out and everything.
Speaker 6 (30:51):
It's gonna be great. I said, no, it will not.
Their teenagers ain't gonna help with shit.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
It more you.
Speaker 6 (30:57):
Yes, it was just gonna be too much. And lo
and behold what happened. It was too much. Everything Jalen
ever asked for. I gave to him everything.
Speaker 4 (31:07):
What was the breaking point for you guys to say,
let's go on couples retreat?
Speaker 6 (31:11):
Our relationship was coming to an end, and they just
so happened to call us like around that time. I
didn't want to be with someone who kept calling me
controlling every time. I had some type of boundary about
your money, my money, and not only that, just going
out all the time. And then I had just found
out recently, prior to us doing the show, he was
(31:32):
cheating on me, and I mean only recently he just
apologized for it. I mean even now he won't even
admit to the domestic violence via text message or anything.
You know, he's very strategic, but he has apologized to me,
you know, verbally for it. The breaking point was after
(31:54):
the show. I don't know why, but he just completely
went into like a cocoon. He would not come out
of this corner that he had in the house where
he played video games. He would not come out of it.
And there's nothing I could do. I tried everything to
(32:14):
get him out of his funk, get him out of
his depression. And your healing is very important, but it
doesn't come before my pain. And he just kept hurting
me and hurting me and hurting me, and so it
just got to a point where, you know, I realized
I deserve better. My daughter deserves better, because I don't
(32:34):
want her to see, not that she'll ever have another dad,
but I don't want her to see what it was,
the type of person that her dad was being while
in a relationship. I truly, even to this day, I
don't hate him. I have forgiven him. I want him
to be happy. I want him to go to therapy
(32:54):
and to truly, you know, deep dive into what his
issues are, as we all have to. You know, it's
a journey. He's young, he has time, and I really
do pray that he gets the help he needs, and
you know, I wish him the best of luck in life.
Speaker 4 (33:11):
What about your other kids? Were they around when you
were going through this funk?
Speaker 7 (33:15):
Yep?
Speaker 2 (33:15):
They all lived with me?
Speaker 7 (33:17):
And how old are they?
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Since sixteen, fifteen, and ten, So.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
Like the sixteen and fifteen year old, they can clearly see.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
Like and see.
Speaker 6 (33:26):
And this is where you have to make the decision
as a mom because boys are always going to protect
their mama, and especially when they think that the mom
is happy.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
They're gonna protect it even more.
Speaker 6 (33:37):
They're not gonna if they see things or hear things,
They're gonna pretend they didn't see or hear those things
because they want mommy to be happy. So yeah, they will.
I'm pretty sure they heard the domestic violence. I'm pretty
sure they heard all of the arguments. But when I
come out of that room, mommy knows how to wipe
her tears and put a smile on her face. So
(33:57):
I'm pretty sure they felt some type of pain, but
they would never voice it. Never, So what a mom
has to do is use her own discernment. And that's
exactly what I was doing.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
I had.
Speaker 6 (34:11):
I had to get to a point where I had
to use my own discernment and be like, oh, my
kids aren't stupid. It's time for me to go because
I don't want them to see me like this.
Speaker 5 (34:20):
Have you and Jalen spoke since the interview about on
the things that he talked about during that interview, Yeah, you.
Speaker 6 (34:27):
Just asked Alf for calling me a groomer. I'm like,
what did I groom? What are you talking about? And
said do you even know what that means? And I
literally sent him the definition of what it meant and
he was like, all right, well it might have been
the wrong term, but you did manipulate me. I'm like,
how stop telling that story to everyone who will listen,
because if you want to, if you want me to
(34:48):
pull out all the receipts and show all the facts,
then you're gonna You're gonna look really bad. And I'm
trying to save you right now. Why won't you let
me save you? But now you done came out here
and made me out to be this person who didn't
have your back. I held him down, so like, no,
now now it's to that point where fuck it.
Speaker 4 (35:11):
What's the difference between your god now and your previous
relationship with Jalen.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Oh, he's a man.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
I drop money.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
And how did you come to the point where you
can start dating again and looking for love again?
Speaker 2 (35:27):
Listen, y'all should know by now Fallin is a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 7 (35:31):
I love love.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
I'm not going to give up. I don't want to
die alone.
Speaker 6 (35:36):
I want to be with somebody as I grow and
as I heal.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Heal.
Speaker 6 (35:40):
Healing is an everlasting thing and it never ends. You're
always going to need healing. So I mean, as long
as I'm doing the work for myself and I'm also
with somebody who's okay with that and who's also doing
the work on themselves, and.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
I can make it do the therapy yourself for I do.
Speaker 6 (36:02):
Yeah, I am with someone that I feel like.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
I can. I'm just free.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
I'm free shut out to that man.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Yeah, he's good.
Speaker 7 (36:16):
And what are your hopes for you and Jalen in
the future?
Speaker 4 (36:19):
I know you guys, sure a child like what is
your relationship like with your with your boy's father?
Speaker 6 (36:24):
Liam's father is non existent, he always has been, But
Troy and Dylan's dads are very much so.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
In their lives.
Speaker 6 (36:33):
They're good daddy's, they have them, they're with them right now.
I did realize at some point I have no business
raising a black man on my own.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I couldn't do it.
Speaker 6 (36:44):
I was trying my hardest, but I realized black men
need their black fathers. There's just certain things a woman
cannot teach a man. And when it got to that
peak and I was like, all right, it is time
for you to go with your daddy, because oh no, Dad,
they're with their dads.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
And they helped their they help you financially with the
boys and all that too.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
There's never been I used to pay child support back when.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
You used to pay child support?
Speaker 7 (37:14):
Yeah, oh you must say have custody.
Speaker 6 (37:17):
Well, it was a whole custody battle and it went
on for years and years, and while we were going
back and forth. There always has to be a custodial parent.
There was a whole bunch of lies told while I
wasn't around. So it was just one of those things
where it was like, all right, the judge gave my
oldest son to the dad.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
But we're very we're very close.
Speaker 6 (37:39):
Now.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
That's water. It's good, yes, But you were paying Yeah,
I was paying child sport.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
I never heard pay child sport.
Speaker 6 (37:46):
Yeah, it's not, it's not, it's really not. But listen,
I'm going to take care of my kids. I don't care.
There's I don't have any pride it comes to that.
But now neither one of us pay child sport, none
of us do. We all just pitch in.
Speaker 7 (38:01):
We all help your sons.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
No, okay, those good.
Speaker 7 (38:05):
So you're gonna put Jayleen on chad support, probably.
Speaker 2 (38:08):
Because I don't see I don't see us be able
to a job. Yes, okay, yes he has a job.
Speaker 1 (38:15):
You are going to put Jayleen on child support?
Speaker 2 (38:18):
H Yeah, I probably am going to.
Speaker 6 (38:21):
I just I don't see us being able to effectively
co parent. I don't right now, not right now, because
he's hurt right now, and hurt people hurt people.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
So I'm not hurt.
Speaker 6 (38:33):
I forgive him. I've moved on. I'm happy where I'm at.
I have my good days, I have my bad days,
just like everybody else. But for the most part, I'm happy.
And it makes him sick to his stomach to see
me happy.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
So what does the what does your future look like?
For you?
Speaker 6 (38:49):
Well, I'm starting this new line. It's going to be
it's kind of it's a little it's humorous, it's meant
to be humorous, but it's a little dark. It's it's
dedicated pretty much all about your exes. How they, you know,
can be abusive, how they you know, targeted you, lied
on you. And it's not just for women, it's for
men too. It's you and a sex because men go
through a domestic violence and abuse to it's.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
Not just as women.
Speaker 6 (39:15):
And so yeah, so my line is targeted towards both
men and women, where it'll have catchy slogans on hoodies
and shirts and things.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
It's gonna be fun. It's gonna be a lot of fun.
Speaker 7 (39:29):
I was gonna ask what do you do for work?
Speaker 4 (39:31):
Like, how do you how did you have all this
money to provide for yourself, your kids and Jalen.
Speaker 6 (39:36):
Well, it's crazy because when one door closes, another one opens.
The second I left Jalen, I mean, I was getting
a whole bunch of offers for modeling, which I didn't think.
I thought I was just old, you know, in the
model world, I'm old, so or at least that's how
it used to be, you know. So I got a
lot of offers. I started working yeah, so I model
(39:59):
right now now full time. Yeah, I'm the face of
Fene right now, Savage fenty shout out the uh huh.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Yeah. So it's it's been really cool there.
Speaker 5 (40:10):
All the comments and the whole everything on the media.
Does ever bother you all the time?
Speaker 1 (40:15):
It does? Do you read them?
Speaker 6 (40:17):
I learned not to read them anymore, but sometimes you
just can't help it. I haven't opened up my social
media in the past four or five days because ever
since I post the groomer shirt, you know, I knew.
I knew people were going to get it that it
was a clap back because it was a total lie.
But I also knew that people were going to think
that I actually was, and that I was a narcissistic
(40:41):
you know, all these things. So I was kind of
prepped for that. However, I'm tired of being silent, Like.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
So, what do you want to say?
Speaker 5 (40:48):
What do you want to say to everybody that's like
all the crazy stuff that they saying about you on
the internet, What do you want to say to all
these comments?
Speaker 6 (40:55):
I'm not a groomer. I did not I did not
go after JA. He came after me, he courted me.
I had no ill will towards Jalen. I wanted to
be with him, I truly did. It just didn't work out,
and that's okay. Not out here trying to be salty
or spread any dirt on his name at all, because
(41:17):
he is the father of my daughter and regardless of
anything that has happened, I just wish him the best
of luck and love and light, and I truly do
hope that he gets the help that he needs and
I'm always going to be here for him no matter what.
Speaker 2 (41:34):
I truly, I.
Speaker 6 (41:36):
Truly just want him to understand that I never meant
to be manipulative. I just had boundaries. I mean, I
think that's pretty normal in relationships, right, or at least
it should be.
Speaker 2 (41:51):
But it's okay.
Speaker 6 (41:52):
If that's what he thinks to me, that's fine. But
I really did have the best intentions. I'm not a
cheater cheated in the past. Sure you started it, but no,
I'm not a cheater.
Speaker 7 (42:06):
And do you feel any way towards Portia at all?
Speaker 6 (42:14):
Uh Mmm?
Speaker 2 (42:19):
I think not necessarily.
Speaker 6 (42:24):
Simon wasn't my husband to begin with because she was
able to take him, So no, not really, But when
I see her face, it just puts a really bad
taste in my mouth and triggering. Yeah, I'm not completely
over that situation just yet. Yeah, I work on it
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every day.
Speaker 4 (42:46):
But but when they're all over TV, you know, they
got the show and all that, you know, it's kind
of hard not to see him.
Speaker 6 (42:53):
Yeah. I didn't really see it that much. I think
anything I saw, you know, people just tag me. Someone's laughing,
you know, but I didn't watch it or anything like that.
I just even for Simon, I've forgiven him and I
truly do want him to be happy. But I don't
have any words for Portsche.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
What would you tell some people about fame?
Speaker 6 (43:15):
Everybody always thinks that they want riches and fame until
they have it.
Speaker 5 (43:18):
And if you could take all the fame and the
TV and everything away, would you not ever done Housewives?
Speaker 2 (43:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (43:25):
I would have never done Housewives to begin with. They
they ruined my life. I'm not saying that I didn't
have any parts in it, because I could have tried
to make it work. I just wasn't going to anymore.
But yeah, I mean they came in my home and
it just it all, it all went, it all went
to hell after that?
Speaker 7 (43:45):
Would you do any more Reality TV?
Speaker 6 (43:48):
I've said this a thousand times. No, and then I
went and did coubles retreats, so I can't say if.
Speaker 7 (43:53):
You had your own show, yeah, I would.
Speaker 6 (43:55):
Do my own show absolutely. Couple's Retreat was really good
one to go on because they weren't out here trying
to make up stories and try to lie on anybody
or switch anybody's narratives around. They really told our story
the way it was and how we felt at that time,
so there was nothing. There wasn't a beat missed. So
(44:15):
as long as there's a network like that that you know,
has morals and actually tells the truth, then yeah, I
would do it.
Speaker 4 (44:24):
Well, Vallon, we appreciate you. Just note anything else you
want to get off your chest.
Speaker 6 (44:28):
You know, well, no, just continue to spread love and
light no matter what it is that people may say,
No matter what they do, you always have the floor.
You always are able to choose how it is that
you respond, and I'm going to continue to choose to
(44:48):
respond in love and light with a little bit of kickbag.
But yeah, I'm looking forward to my next chapter.
Speaker 3 (44:59):
Val.
Speaker 7 (45:00):
I think that was the pep talk right there.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Yeah, that was definitely Yeah, snapped that up.
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Well?
Speaker 6 (01:18):
I started out on the Real Housewives of Atlanta and
then it kind of just blew up from there. My
ex husband left me married Portia, who is my castmate
since then. I ended up getting in a relationship with
my then best friend and we were just recently on
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MTV for couples retreats.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
How did you get the opportunity to be on basketball?
I mean on house wives, you know what.
Speaker 6 (01:48):
They actually approached me a few times and I said, no,
I never really wanted to do reality TV. It's not
my thing, but the opportunity just kept presenting it.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
So I said, you know why not?
Speaker 7 (02:01):
What did you do before then? He was just a
housewife in real life?
Speaker 8 (02:04):
Yeah, okay, I know a lot of people were staying
online that were you and post your friends for real,
like was that really your friend?
Speaker 2 (02:14):
We were cool.
Speaker 6 (02:15):
So we met through the show, and I mean we
would hang out after wrapping. We would hang out, you know,
on our own time, private time. She would be at
my house. So it was like bestis in bringing each
other's hair. But yeah, she was in my house.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
She was at your house around your ex husband got it?
Speaker 5 (02:33):
Okay, Well before you met him, where were you?
Speaker 7 (02:38):
What were you? What was your profession?
Speaker 6 (02:40):
I was actually a clinical manager, so I managed the
clinic in l a for like five years.
Speaker 7 (02:45):
Oh did you meet him there?
Speaker 6 (02:46):
No, it was a blind date. I thought he was
a chef when I met him. I had no idea
because we went to restaurants and people would just come
out and they're like, you want some free food?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
And I'm like, who is this guy? I had no idea. No,
this was in Miami.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
So you got flut out and then he put the
charm on you and then you guys got together.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Or we had lunch.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
We had a dinner once and then the next day
we got together to do lunch. And when we had
that first lunch, we just couldn't stop talking.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
We talked for hours.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
And so when was the time that he told you
to quit your job?
Speaker 6 (03:24):
Because when he uh told me to move back to
Atlanta because I'm originally from Atlanta.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Okay, are you sure Atlanta or is it out the
outskirts of Atlanta?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
You know what? It's north? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Outside?
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Okay, so he moved he had you moved to Atlanta
and then you just were together.
Speaker 7 (03:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I really wanted to know what was going through.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Your mind when you saw Porsia dating your ex husband.
Oh did you find out online?
Speaker 1 (04:03):
How did you find out?
Speaker 6 (04:04):
I found out at the same time all of you
guys did on TV on social media.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
When they posted the picture.
Speaker 6 (04:10):
I think it was Dennis who posted the pictures congratulating
her on her next chapter.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
That's when I found out, same as everyone else.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
How are you feeling?
Speaker 6 (04:20):
I mean, it's not necessarily about how I was feeling,
but what I was thinking was how long was this
going on for y'all to be engaged?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
You know?
Speaker 7 (04:30):
Has he ever cheated on you before?
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (04:33):
God?
Speaker 6 (04:33):
Yeah. I was with him for five years and there
was times where you know, he was sleeping with his
assistant and I forgave him, and then a couple other women.
You know, there was speculation that came forward. I forgave him,
you know, as women usually do. And so I can't
say that I didn't ever get my look back.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
I did. I wasn't the most innocent.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Cheated back before we got married.
Speaker 6 (05:02):
That actually had a lot to do with how I
met you.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Oh, yeah, time, I was in the vicinity. Actually, yeah,
that shows me like that long time.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
What was this meeting BT, you want to tell certain I.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
Mean whe we met because we were all at the
hookah lo mutual friend and I had one of my
friends with me and they kind of like just kicked
it off. Yeah, and that was your roommate. Yeah yeah,
yeah at the time, that was my roommate. That's how
long ago I forgot his name.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
So famous city in England? What is it might be
a street or something. I think it's London, London, that's right, Okay, okay,
carry on. What happened?
Speaker 7 (05:54):
So you met a guy named London?
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Yeah, and then we started dating. I wasn't trying to
hide it.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
I was. I was really young.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I was yeah, you was out, I was outside.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Was at that point I was fed up. I was like, well,
if you don't.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Care, because at that point Simon had told me to
my face because I told him, all right, it's been
a couple it's been a year. It was about a
year and a half that he had been sleeping around
with his assistant, and so it got to the point
where I was just tired and he told me to
my face that I will never have any say so
over his personnel or anything so and who he hires
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and fires. So at that point I was like, all right,
let's do it then, because you forgot, you.
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Forgot, And this is before you guys were married.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
This is before we got married.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
So you still got married.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
Oh yeah, why because he did his dirt and I
did mine and at the end of the day, that
was our business. And we took a nine month break,
which is the around the time where we were really.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
Yeah, because some stuff and I had no idea what
was what was going on.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
Yeah, we were seriously dating at that time, but I
was single and he was seriously datingnon London yeah at
that time, but I was single. We dated for maybe
four or five months, and then after that we broke
up and Simon and I started secretly dating, okay, and
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then three months later we got married.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Now, so you guys are married, and now when does
the marriage fall apart?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
I don't really know.
Speaker 6 (07:34):
I literally one day I was the happiest girl in
the world, and the next morning he was gone, like
he just mentally was checked out. I think it was
it was around the time where I started realizing I
wasn't that little girl anymore, that I was growing up
into a woman, and I wanted more for myself. I
didn't want to be a stay at home mom. I
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didn't want to be a trophy. I wanted more. And
when he's started being vocal about no, you're not going
to have more. You know you're going to be at
home if you do try to have more, he told
me that if I went and got a job or anything,
that he was going to cut me off, like completely,
that I wouldn't be able to go on vacation with
him and the children like things like that. So I
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was never allowed to have anything for myself. So here
I was sitting on all this money and I had nothing.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
No kids with him? Right, No, he didn't want He
didn't want any.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
No he did, he did.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
You didn't want any kids with him?
Speaker 8 (08:32):
No.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
At one point him and I were like up and
down we wanted one, and then we didn't, and then
he did and then I didn't.
Speaker 9 (08:40):
So it was like, Okay, we'll be right back with
more of The Baller Alert Show. You're listening to a
special edition of The Baller Alert Show.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
Hey y'all, it's Vallan Peanut and you are now tuned
in to the Baller Alert show.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So when did you and Jalen became friends? When did
Jalen come in the picture?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Jalen came into the picture.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Jalen was his assistant.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
No, a lot of people say that he's my assistant.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
So Jalen was your assistant.
Speaker 6 (09:08):
He was my friend first in twenty twenty, like end
of twenty nineteen, twenty twenty, No, twenty nineteen. Yeah, so
he was my friend first, and we used to just
always bump into each other, you know, being out in
Atlanta and everything like that.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
We kind of just because I'm wondering, what was he assisting?
Speaker 6 (09:30):
Well, the children, Well, I had to take care of
my three kids and Simon's two kids and then his
younger daughter whenever she was you know, in and out
of town. So I needed help with that, running the household.
We had a really big house.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
It was it was a lot to.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Keep up with.
Speaker 6 (09:45):
Yeah, so just help with that.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
So we just Jalen and I were just cool.
Speaker 6 (09:55):
And then COVID hit and he lost his job and
so then that's and I was like, well, I'm sitting Jalen.
Jalen lost his job and so I was like, well,
mom's sitting on money, Come and work for me.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
He said no, like initially, but then.
Speaker 6 (10:10):
I was like, okay, now let's go ahead and you know,
get you working and doing something.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're around me all the time.
Speaker 6 (10:15):
Anyway, after a while, I could note I noticed that
Simon started putting me off on Jalen, like he would
like say, oh, take her out, go you know, keep
her busy.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Go do this, go do that now, mind jaw.
Speaker 6 (10:31):
I was not allowed to go out by myself with
friends or anything. I was not allowed to have girls' nights.
I wasn't allowed to do any of that without Simon.
You never see me without Simon, like I was always
with her because I wasn't allowed. And so then Jalen
came into the picture, and it was just like.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Here, take her.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
Yeah, you guys want to go shopping, or you guys
want to go you know, do this or do that.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah. So then yeah, I kind of felt like I
was just pawned off.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Damn.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
Yeah, did you feel like more of Simon's possession than
a wife?
Speaker 6 (11:07):
Well, I had never been like a real wife prior
to that, so I wouldn't even know what that felt like.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
But now understanding.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
And having the wisdom that I have about it now,
Hell yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
I was definitely his little trophy.
Speaker 6 (11:23):
I was that thing that you know, he bought me
a new little toy and to keep me quiet and
do as I say, you know, not as I do.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
So how did y'all start catching feelings for each other?
Speaker 6 (11:34):
Me and Jalen Oh I was going through a divorce.
I was vulnerable as.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I was vulnerable. I mean, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it.
I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 6 (11:47):
This is after Porsche. No, I didn't even know about Porsche.
I knew that Simon was going out of the country
to see another woman. But prior to Portie, there was
another woman that came out in the media saying that
she was dating Signed yesh I bumped into the other night.
Oh my god, that was the whole story.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
What happened.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
She was like, oh my god, yeah, I slept with
your husband. She was like, can we just it's water
under the bridge, can.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
We be cool? I'm like, girl, I don't even he
denied that mine. He denied it in social media. It's everywhere.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I just remember her that.
Speaker 6 (12:31):
Just purchased that Ferrari I hadn't even sat in it
yet before that came out, So I was like, what
the hell, what's going on? So then that was the
whole thing mine, y'all, while we're going through all of this,
we're still in therapy to try to work on our marriage.
And so he was out of the country a lot
with some other woman. I didn't know who it was.
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And yeah, I had his kids and my kids back home.
And then, as it pertains to me and Jalen, at
some point in time, Simon and I had the conversation like,
we're not gonna make this work.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
This is done and so.
Speaker 5 (13:08):
But Simon was saying that Jalen was pulling up, sneaking
in the house and all this stuff while y'all was together.
But you saying that you and Simon were already going
through a divorce.
Speaker 6 (13:18):
Oh yeah, for sure, we were going through like in
and out, in and out throughout divorce. But while we
were going in and out of it, he was still
not home. He was still gone, and I was begging
him to come home, crying myself to sleep for weeks,
you know. And at some point in time, I say,
you know what, I don't have to put up with
this like I can make the money myself. I know
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that I'm better than this. I should not have to
stay here for money. I shouldn't have to stay here
for love, because this isn't love. I don't feel loved,
and so yeah, at some point in time, I just
stopped caring.
Speaker 7 (13:53):
Simon made a comment like, you come for money? Do
you come for money?
Speaker 2 (13:57):
No?
Speaker 4 (14:00):
He was like saying, like, you got your own money,
you got your own bag.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
Type of Uh, that's funny.
Speaker 6 (14:05):
No. I started a petroleum a petroleum transportation company.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
I was in logistics. When I was with.
Speaker 6 (14:13):
Him, he was selling oil. I was transporting it. That
was the only thing he allowed me to do because
he was still in control of it. So even though
it's in my name and everything, I was doing all
the work.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
He was my only customer.
Speaker 6 (14:27):
I was not allowed to deal with anything else outside
of him.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Yeah, he took it.
Speaker 7 (14:34):
Oh, so what do you leave you with?
Speaker 2 (14:38):
My prenup? I signed a prenup.
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Okay, so what does that mean? You came in what
you he left with? What you came in with?
Speaker 2 (14:44):
No, I left with a lot more. We had two
houses together.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
I received well, he sold them, so I received from
that and then my separation check. So I was still
fine and I had I had a really good allowance
that I was sitting on, So that was fine.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
So you were saving your money?
Speaker 7 (15:06):
Oh yeah, so he would give you an allowance.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, I had a monthly allowance.
Speaker 7 (15:10):
Do you mind if do you if we ask what
that consisted of?
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Or is that ten thousand?
Speaker 1 (15:16):
That's a good allowance? I would stayed.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
I mean I died.
Speaker 7 (15:26):
Came with that though. A lot came with that allowance,
Like you weren't allowed.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I wasn't about to sell my soul.
Speaker 7 (15:31):
He was like physically abusive to you or anything.
Speaker 6 (15:34):
No, it was just really he was thirty years older
than me. I mean you have to imagine what that
must have been like, you know, the control aspect of
it all. He said jump, I said, how high?
Speaker 2 (15:48):
You know?
Speaker 6 (15:49):
It wasn't even all about the money. I truly was
madly in love with Simon. I know people look at
him like he's the beast and on the beauty, but.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I mean they do, they say it all.
Speaker 6 (16:01):
The time, but no, I didn't care about any of that.
I was madly in love. There's nothing that I wouldn't
have done for him. But at some point, like I said,
I started to grow up.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Do you miss them? Sometimes?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I miss the money, I'm.
Speaker 6 (16:24):
No, I just miss not having to worry about building
my own because sometimes we have our lazy days.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
I don't always want to get up and grind. You know.
Speaker 6 (16:35):
I have my days, especially having children and being a mother.
I have my days where sometimes I want to stay
in the bed. And I used to be able to
do that. Now I can't. Now I have to depend
on myself. And I actually love it here.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
I do. But I'd be lying if I said I
didn't miss them days.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
Sometimes, should Jalen not provide for you in the way
that you want?
Speaker 6 (16:58):
Oh my god, let me set this record trip because
this has been all over the media.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
And it's crazy because I wasn't.
Speaker 6 (17:06):
Really ever going to do this, because the difference between
Simon and Jalen is that Jalen and I have a
daughter together.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
And I always.
Speaker 6 (17:17):
From day one, I always wanted to save Jalen's image.
I always wanted to build him up. I'm wanted him
to feel like a man, you know, because that's what
he yearned for the most. But I have to be
honest because he kind of he did this to himself,
you know, he opened up that bag, and I would
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have preferred to just keep it quiet, but now I
had to defend myself. Jalen has never paid for anything ever.
I paid for every single thing. I mean even on
couples to treat If you go back and watch when
he was in our therapy session and he was saying,
you know, like, I'm so frustrated I have to pay
for this and that and take care of the kids.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I was trying my heart not to laugh because I'm
sitting here like, huh.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
You do what does he take care of his daughter? Oh?
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Hell yeah, he does. Great daddy, Great daddy.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
But as far as like paying the bills, and he
brought him a truck at one.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Yeah to him a truck, two trucks. What happened to
the truck?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
I took it back. But listen, I took it back
because there was cheating.
Speaker 6 (18:24):
I mean, there was abuse, there was a lot of
there was domestic violence.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yep, really yeah, domestic violence.
Speaker 6 (18:32):
There's a lot that I put up with in just
two years of being with him. It got to a
point where I mean he was putting his hands on
I mean, we weren't even together anymore. You know, he
just got mad one day because he found out I
was dating. We were still living together because we were
trying to figure out, you know, how to separate everything.
We weren't sleeping in the same bed for months. And
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when he found out that, I finally was like moving
on and you know, taking those steps towards like seeing
other people. I'll never forget it. He came home, it
was four in the morning. He came busting in the
door and he just he choked me out, and I
had to calm him down because then after that he
couldn't forgive himself because he said he would never hit
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me again. And so it was to the point, like
I know, in his interview, he said that I just
up and left with a man, and you know, now
my kids are calling another man dad, and it's like, no,
I had to call that man because I don't have family,
you know that could be there for me. And I
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had to call that man to come protect me and
my kids and get us out of there safely.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
You know, I had to call the police.
Speaker 6 (19:45):
It was it was really dark, It got really dark,
It got really bad, and all I kept thinking was
I don't deserve this, and my daughter doesn't deserve to
grow up seeing a man put their hands on her,
because that's the exactly what she's going to grow up thinking.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
That is Okay.
Speaker 6 (20:03):
The only reason why I put up with this because
I watched my mom go through the same thing. So
I'm like, oh, well, you know, here I am making excuses.
He's young, you know, and he's just he's upset today.
You know, he's going through a lot. The media there's
so mean to him, like, let.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Me just no, I could do it. I could do it.
I could save him. I could save him.
Speaker 6 (20:20):
To the point where it got it was at my
own detriment, and I had to learn that I can't
keep saving people's image.
Speaker 9 (20:32):
You know.
Speaker 6 (20:33):
Meanwhile, everybody's out here thinking I'm controlling or manipulative or
a groomer. Come comment in his interview that he recently
did he called He said that I was a groomer,
that I groomed him to be with me. But a
groomer is someone who's much older. I'm nine years older,
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but I get it. Cool, I'm older, but you know,
there's something to groom you for. There was nothing to
group you for. I did everything, and.
Speaker 5 (21:03):
I mean, yeah, how did it make you feel?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
After that comment? Because I saw that all over the media.
Speaker 8 (21:10):
Yeah, yeah, that's why.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
That's why I've made.
Speaker 6 (21:14):
The T shirt because I'm like, okay, well, while we're
out here lying, you know, let me just go ahead
and make some type of clod back, because I don't
think that grooming is very funny at all.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
I was actually groomed.
Speaker 6 (21:25):
I was with someone who's thirty years older than me,
you know, and would use my youth and everything like
that and manipulate me in order to stay with him,
you know. So to say that I was a groomer,
knowing damn well that I held you down. I paid
for everything. I allowed the media and everyone my own
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family to believe that you were a real man and
that you were out here taking care of business in
the household when actually, and at all actuality, you weren't
doing anything. You know, I cooked eye clean. I not
that he didn't cook ever, But most of the time
he would play his game for sixteen hours a day
because he fell into depression and would not be there
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for me and the children. I was going through postpartum
by myself, you know, so, and he was going out
found out that he was cheating on me because he
came home at eight am, you know, and went through
his phone and lo and behold he's sharing his location
with a whole woman and her sharing it back.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
You know.
Speaker 6 (22:26):
It's just like I could go on and on, but
it got to the point where enough was enough. And
we had only been together for two years, you know,
like incomplete before y'all got yeah, I mean right, we
got pregnant right when we started dating.
Speaker 7 (22:43):
Like yeah, was going to ask, you know, why would
you have a child with him? Knowing that, you know,
he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Even take not this person when we were friends.
Speaker 6 (22:51):
And that's the one thing that I do miss the most,
or I did, was that I really saw him as
a different person because when we were friends, Oh my god,
we had the best experiences. We had the funniest lives.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
He was my dog.
Speaker 6 (23:10):
And no matter what I went through, all the people
who left me, all my best friends, even family members
who left me in the dust after Simon and I
got divorced, Jalen was still there.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
He was the only one there.
Speaker 6 (23:21):
Everybody left, nobody believed in my vision of me being
able to do this for myself. You know, everybody kept
calling me stupid because where I fumbled the bag or
you know I was dumb for choosing myself.
Speaker 4 (23:37):
And him and who and Jalen? Were they mad that
you chose Jalen like to be with and start a
life with.
Speaker 6 (23:44):
You know what, I think all of the city of
Atlanta is still mad that I chose Jalen.
Speaker 4 (23:49):
I did raise Yeah, I mean because you ended up
proving them right kind of when you, you know, saying
that you had to really take control over everything because
he wasn't you know, manning up to anything right, and
just you know, to give him that excuse to make
him feel a certain way, right. Do you feel like
that came from your lack of control over your life?
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You know when you were married to Simon in your
previous life, did you feel like just being with him
and you know, just having somebody there that you can
kind of boss up on.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
No?
Speaker 6 (24:22):
I never boss up on Jalen. He wouldn't allow me to.
I mean, he was very abusive. No, it was not
like that at all with him. It felt like the
reason why I splurged on him, if you will, the
way I did, was because it felt good to feel appreciated.
I wasn't appreciated in my previous marriage, and so he
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was literally he was giving me everything that I actually
wanted in my marriage, and then it just kind of
went from there.
Speaker 7 (24:57):
And what year did he start abusing you before your
child or after.
Speaker 6 (25:00):
He became physical? While I was still pregnant with Emma. Yeah,
and then after I dropped. I mean I stayed in
my room with Emma for a few months. By the
time she was five or six months. That's when I started,
you know, stepping outside and just saying, you know, I
don't care about what you say, I'm gonna have a
couple of girls' nights or whatever. And he was cool
(25:22):
with it until he wasn't, you know, until I was
coming home at two thirty three in the morning.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Now he's like, but.
Speaker 6 (25:31):
While I was pregnant, he called me controlling. I will
say this because in his interview he called me controlling.
He called me controlling to my face, and while we
were together as well. But his controlling was he was
coming home at six seven in the morning, spending all
of my money on bottles and sections every single night
(25:52):
while I was pregnant. And if I spoke up and
said that's inappropriate. You can't be spending all this money
one two'gnant with our baby at home. You cannot go
out every single night and just party it up at
six seven in the morning. That's not what you signed
up for. I did not put a gun to your
head to make you be with me or to lay
with me. So if that's what you wanted, that's what
(26:14):
you chose. You need to be here, you need to
be present. I don't mind every here and there, but
you do it every single night. And then he would
call me controlling and say I'm trying to take his
youth from him and things like that, and it's like, well,
you're taking the fact that I actually wanted a relationship,
a real relationship with a real man, away from me.
Speaker 9 (26:32):
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Speaker 6 (26:46):
Hey, y'all, it's Vallan Pianat and you are now tuned
in to The Baller Alert Show.
Speaker 5 (26:50):
When I've seen a clip on the internet where he
was like, don't fall in love with your best friend
and you know, you know whatever whatever he was saying,
how did you feel about that?
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Because that clip was like very like sentimental.
Speaker 6 (27:05):
Yeah, a lot of things I think he says is bullshit?
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Am I allowed to say that what you want? Okay?
Yeah I do.
Speaker 6 (27:16):
I do feel like it's bullshit. But at the same time,
there's times like Jalen is.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
A really good liar, like he's really good to me.
Speaker 6 (27:25):
He is, I'll give it to him like behind closed doors, y'all,
Like he still talks to me like we're friends.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
He's still cool with me.
Speaker 6 (27:34):
And then he'll text the person that I'm dating right now.
He'll text him and try to break up our relationship
by using the things that I've told him, you know,
in confidence, not about my relationship, but just he could
be something light like, oh my gosh, I went to
the grocery store today and I had a tummy ache,
and oh my gosh, I have this.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
He was like, did you know she had a tummy
ache when she was at the grocery store And was like, you.
Speaker 7 (27:57):
Have a relationship with your with your.
Speaker 6 (28:00):
I mean they met because at the end of the day,
I do have him around my children.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Anyone I date, I'm.
Speaker 6 (28:07):
I'm definitely the type of mom where I'm going to
have them around my children.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
I'm not.
Speaker 6 (28:11):
I'm not the type of mom to like date somebody
for two three years and then be like, oh, hey,
now you can meet my kids, and y'all don't even
like each other now, and now I got to start
all over.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
You know, I'm not going to do that.
Speaker 6 (28:22):
So of course, you know, the person that I'm seeing,
he is around my children. So I made sure that
Jalen met him. And when I say, they talked for
hours and Jalen texts me the next day and.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
It's like, he's such a great guy.
Speaker 7 (28:37):
I see.
Speaker 8 (28:40):
Yeah, okay, who is this guy you're dating now? I
don't want to say, is he He lives in Atlanta,
he's an actor, he got money, he's an actor.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Yeah, he's he's he does pretty well for himself.
Speaker 7 (28:56):
I mean because last time you said that.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
No, No, you're.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Right, You're right, you really like him.
Speaker 6 (29:05):
I do, okay, I like him.
Speaker 7 (29:08):
They're here, a.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Provider actor and he's a boxer.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yeah, actor in a boxer.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Is this a classic example of because when I saw
you in Jalen's Instagram and I was like, oh, you
guys look very happy. Is this a classic you know? Well,
it looks all right, don't It looks great on Instagram?
And but behind the scenes, because everything that you're saying
I'm over here, like damn yeah, because the pictures of
what I was seeing with you guys to get it
seems like everything was great.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (29:34):
I mean every relationship, they have their bad days and
good days. I mean our relationship was the same. Even
though my bad days were worse days than most, we
still had our good days. We still had our good times.
And whenever those times were happening, of course, I always,
you know, made sure I caught a picture and posted it.
(29:55):
But no, it got to a point where it started
off rocky, and then.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
It got worse, and it got worse, and it got worse, and.
Speaker 6 (30:03):
Then we did couple's retreat and I really had hope,
you know, that it was gonna get better, and then
it just it got worse and it got worse.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 6 (30:12):
And that was another thing that he said that I
wanted to address that he was taking care of my sisters.
He never took care of my sisters. I took care
of my sisters. I paid for every single thing. And
he also was the one who wanted my sisters to
move in with us. I didn't want my sisters to
move in with us. I told my mom straight up
(30:33):
to her face, no, I don't want them girls here.
It's gonna be way too much on Jalen. He's already
going through so much. I just had a baby, Like, no,
absolutely not. Jalen begged me for my sisters to move in.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
He was like, this is gonna be good. They'll they'll
help us out and everything.
Speaker 6 (30:51):
It's gonna be great. I said, no, it will not.
Their teenagers ain't gonna help with shit.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
It more you.
Speaker 6 (30:57):
Yes, it was just gonna be too much. And lo
and behold what happened. It was too much. Everything Jalen
ever asked for. I gave to him everything.
Speaker 4 (31:07):
What was the breaking point for you guys to say,
let's go on couples retreat?
Speaker 6 (31:11):
Our relationship was coming to an end, and they just
so happened to call us like around that time. I
didn't want to be with someone who kept calling me
controlling every time. I had some type of boundary about
your money, my money, and not only that, just going
out all the time. And then I had just found
out recently, prior to us doing the show, he was
(31:32):
cheating on me, and I mean only recently he just
apologized for it. I mean even now he won't even
admit to the domestic violence via text message or anything.
You know, he's very strategic, but he has apologized to me,
you know, verbally for it. The breaking point was after
(31:54):
the show. I don't know why, but he just completely
went into like a cocoon. He would not come out
of this corner that he had in the house where
he played video games. He would not come out of it.
And there's nothing I could do. I tried everything to
(32:14):
get him out of his funk, get him out of
his depression. And your healing is very important, but it
doesn't come before my pain. And he just kept hurting
me and hurting me and hurting me, and so it
just got to a point where, you know, I realized
I deserve better. My daughter deserves better, because I don't
(32:34):
want her to see, not that she'll ever have another dad,
but I don't want her to see what it was,
the type of person that her dad was being while
in a relationship. I truly, even to this day, I
don't hate him. I have forgiven him. I want him
to be happy. I want him to go to therapy
(32:54):
and to truly, you know, deep dive into what his
issues are, as we all have to. You know, it's
a journey. He's young, he has time, and I really
do pray that he gets the help he needs, and
you know, I wish him the best of luck in life.
Speaker 4 (33:11):
What about your other kids? Were they around when you
were going through this funk?
Speaker 7 (33:15):
Yep?
Speaker 2 (33:15):
They all lived with me?
Speaker 7 (33:17):
And how old are they?
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Since sixteen, fifteen, and ten, So.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
Like the sixteen and fifteen year old, they can clearly see.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
Like and see.
Speaker 6 (33:26):
And this is where you have to make the decision
as a mom because boys are always going to protect
their mama, and especially when they think that the mom
is happy.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
They're gonna protect it even more.
Speaker 6 (33:37):
They're not gonna if they see things or hear things,
They're gonna pretend they didn't see or hear those things
because they want mommy to be happy. So yeah, they will.
I'm pretty sure they heard the domestic violence. I'm pretty
sure they heard all of the arguments. But when I
come out of that room, mommy knows how to wipe
her tears and put a smile on her face. So
(33:57):
I'm pretty sure they felt some type of pain, but
they would never voice it. Never, So what a mom
has to do is use her own discernment. And that's
exactly what I was doing.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
I had.
Speaker 6 (34:11):
I had to get to a point where I had
to use my own discernment and be like, oh, my
kids aren't stupid. It's time for me to go because
I don't want them to see me like this.
Speaker 5 (34:20):
Have you and Jalen spoke since the interview about on
the things that he talked about during that interview, Yeah, you.
Speaker 6 (34:27):
Just asked Alf for calling me a groomer. I'm like,
what did I groom? What are you talking about? And
said do you even know what that means? And I
literally sent him the definition of what it meant and
he was like, all right, well it might have been
the wrong term, but you did manipulate me. I'm like,
how stop telling that story to everyone who will listen,
because if you want to, if you want me to
(34:48):
pull out all the receipts and show all the facts,
then you're gonna You're gonna look really bad. And I'm
trying to save you right now. Why won't you let
me save you? But now you done came out here
and made me out to be this person who didn't
have your back. I held him down, so like, no,
now now it's to that point where fuck it.
Speaker 4 (35:11):
What's the difference between your god now and your previous
relationship with Jalen.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Oh, he's a man.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
I drop money.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
And how did you come to the point where you
can start dating again and looking for love again?
Speaker 2 (35:27):
Listen, y'all should know by now Fallin is a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 7 (35:31):
I love love.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
I'm not going to give up. I don't want to
die alone.
Speaker 6 (35:36):
I want to be with somebody as I grow and
as I heal.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Heal.
Speaker 6 (35:40):
Healing is an everlasting thing and it never ends. You're
always going to need healing. So I mean, as long
as I'm doing the work for myself and I'm also
with somebody who's okay with that and who's also doing
the work on themselves, and.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
I can make it do the therapy yourself for I do.
Speaker 6 (36:02):
Yeah, I am with someone that I feel like.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
I can. I'm just free.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
I'm free shut out to that man.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Yeah, he's good.
Speaker 7 (36:16):
And what are your hopes for you and Jalen in
the future?
Speaker 4 (36:19):
I know you guys, sure a child like what is
your relationship like with your with your boy's father?
Speaker 6 (36:24):
Liam's father is non existent, he always has been, But
Troy and Dylan's dads are very much so.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
In their lives.
Speaker 6 (36:33):
They're good daddy's, they have them, they're with them right now.
I did realize at some point I have no business
raising a black man on my own.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I couldn't do it.
Speaker 6 (36:44):
I was trying my hardest, but I realized black men
need their black fathers. There's just certain things a woman
cannot teach a man. And when it got to that
peak and I was like, all right, it is time
for you to go with your daddy, because oh no, Dad,
they're with their dads.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
And they helped their they help you financially with the
boys and all that too.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
There's never been I used to pay child support back when.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
You used to pay child support?
Speaker 7 (37:14):
Yeah, oh you must say have custody.
Speaker 6 (37:17):
Well, it was a whole custody battle and it went
on for years and years, and while we were going
back and forth. There always has to be a custodial parent.
There was a whole bunch of lies told while I
wasn't around. So it was just one of those things
where it was like, all right, the judge gave my
oldest son to the dad.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
But we're very we're very close.
Speaker 6 (37:39):
Now.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
That's water. It's good, yes, But you were paying Yeah,
I was paying child sport.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
I never heard pay child sport.
Speaker 6 (37:46):
Yeah, it's not, it's not, it's really not. But listen,
I'm going to take care of my kids. I don't care.
There's I don't have any pride it comes to that.
But now neither one of us pay child sport, none
of us do. We all just pitch in.
Speaker 7 (38:01):
We all help your sons.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
No, okay, those good.
Speaker 7 (38:05):
So you're gonna put Jayleen on chad support, probably.
Speaker 2 (38:08):
Because I don't see I don't see us be able
to a job. Yes, okay, yes he has a job.
Speaker 1 (38:15):
You are going to put Jayleen on child support?
Speaker 2 (38:18):
H Yeah, I probably am going to.
Speaker 6 (38:21):
I just I don't see us being able to effectively
co parent. I don't right now, not right now, because
he's hurt right now, and hurt people hurt people.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
So I'm not hurt.
Speaker 6 (38:33):
I forgive him. I've moved on. I'm happy where I'm at.
I have my good days, I have my bad days,
just like everybody else. But for the most part, I'm happy.
And it makes him sick to his stomach to see
me happy.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
So what does the what does your future look like?
For you?
Speaker 6 (38:49):
Well, I'm starting this new line. It's going to be
it's kind of it's a little it's humorous, it's meant
to be humorous, but it's a little dark. It's it's
dedicated pretty much all about your exes. How they, you know,
can be abusive, how they you know, targeted you, lied
on you. And it's not just for women, it's for
men too. It's you and a sex because men go
through a domestic violence and abuse to it's.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
Not just as women.
Speaker 6 (39:15):
And so yeah, so my line is targeted towards both
men and women, where it'll have catchy slogans on hoodies
and shirts and things.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
It's gonna be fun. It's gonna be a lot of fun.
Speaker 7 (39:29):
I was gonna ask what do you do for work?
Speaker 4 (39:31):
Like, how do you how did you have all this
money to provide for yourself, your kids and Jalen.
Speaker 6 (39:36):
Well, it's crazy because when one door closes, another one opens.
The second I left Jalen, I mean, I was getting
a whole bunch of offers for modeling, which I didn't think.
I thought I was just old, you know, in the
model world, I'm old, so or at least that's how
it used to be, you know. So I got a
lot of offers. I started working yeah, so I model
(39:59):
right now now full time. Yeah, I'm the face of
Fene right now, Savage fenty shout out the uh huh.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Yeah. So it's it's been really cool there.
Speaker 5 (40:10):
All the comments and the whole everything on the media.
Does ever bother you all the time?
Speaker 1 (40:15):
It does? Do you read them?
Speaker 6 (40:17):
I learned not to read them anymore, but sometimes you
just can't help it. I haven't opened up my social
media in the past four or five days because ever
since I post the groomer shirt, you know, I knew.
I knew people were going to get it that it
was a clap back because it was a total lie.
But I also knew that people were going to think
that I actually was, and that I was a narcissistic
(40:41):
you know, all these things. So I was kind of
prepped for that. However, I'm tired of being silent, Like.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
So, what do you want to say?
Speaker 5 (40:48):
What do you want to say to everybody that's like
all the crazy stuff that they saying about you on
the internet, What do you want to say to all
these comments?
Speaker 6 (40:55):
I'm not a groomer. I did not I did not
go after JA. He came after me, he courted me.
I had no ill will towards Jalen. I wanted to
be with him, I truly did. It just didn't work out,
and that's okay. Not out here trying to be salty
or spread any dirt on his name at all, because
(41:17):
he is the father of my daughter and regardless of
anything that has happened, I just wish him the best
of luck and love and light, and I truly do
hope that he gets the help that he needs and
I'm always going to be here for him no matter what.
Speaker 2 (41:34):
I truly, I.
Speaker 6 (41:36):
Truly just want him to understand that I never meant
to be manipulative. I just had boundaries. I mean, I
think that's pretty normal in relationships, right, or at least
it should be.
Speaker 2 (41:51):
But it's okay.
Speaker 6 (41:52):
If that's what he thinks to me, that's fine. But
I really did have the best intentions. I'm not a
cheater cheated in the past. Sure you started it, but no,
I'm not a cheater.
Speaker 7 (42:06):
And do you feel any way towards Portia at all?
Speaker 6 (42:14):
Uh Mmm?
Speaker 2 (42:19):
I think not necessarily.
Speaker 6 (42:24):
Simon wasn't my husband to begin with because she was
able to take him, So no, not really, But when
I see her face, it just puts a really bad
taste in my mouth and triggering. Yeah, I'm not completely
over that situation just yet. Yeah, I work on it
(42:45):
every day.
Speaker 4 (42:46):
But but when they're all over TV, you know, they
got the show and all that, you know, it's kind
of hard not to see him.
Speaker 6 (42:53):
Yeah. I didn't really see it that much. I think
anything I saw, you know, people just tag me. Someone's laughing,
you know, but I didn't watch it or anything like that.
I just even for Simon, I've forgiven him and I
truly do want him to be happy. But I don't
have any words for Portsche.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
What would you tell some people about fame?
Speaker 6 (43:15):
Everybody always thinks that they want riches and fame until
they have it.
Speaker 5 (43:18):
And if you could take all the fame and the
TV and everything away, would you not ever done Housewives?
Speaker 2 (43:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (43:25):
I would have never done Housewives to begin with. They
they ruined my life. I'm not saying that I didn't
have any parts in it, because I could have tried
to make it work. I just wasn't going to anymore.
But yeah, I mean they came in my home and
it just it all, it all went, it all went
to hell after that?
Speaker 7 (43:45):
Would you do any more Reality TV?
Speaker 6 (43:48):
I've said this a thousand times. No, and then I
went and did coubles retreats, so I can't say if.
Speaker 7 (43:53):
You had your own show, yeah, I would.
Speaker 6 (43:55):
Do my own show absolutely. Couple's Retreat was really good
one to go on because they weren't out here trying
to make up stories and try to lie on anybody
or switch anybody's narratives around. They really told our story
the way it was and how we felt at that time,
so there was nothing. There wasn't a beat missed. So
(44:15):
as long as there's a network like that that you know,
has morals and actually tells the truth, then yeah, I
would do it.
Speaker 4 (44:24):
Well, Vallon, we appreciate you. Just note anything else you
want to get off your chest.
Speaker 6 (44:28):
You know, well, no, just continue to spread love and
light no matter what it is that people may say,
No matter what they do, you always have the floor.
You always are able to choose how it is that
you respond, and I'm going to continue to choose to
(44:48):
respond in love and light with a little bit of kickbag.
But yeah, I'm looking forward to my next chapter.
Speaker 3 (44:59):
Val.
Speaker 7 (45:00):
I think that was the pep talk right there.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Yeah, that was definitely Yeah, snapped that up.
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