December 21, 2024 • 48 mins
Happy Weekend! Before leaving for Christmas, Morgan and Amy looked back on their 2024! Morgan had a dating wrapped presentation for the year and she got some dating updates and stories from Amy. They also share the full circle moments they’ve had this year, and things to come in 2025.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one,
behind a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Merry Almost Christmas, everybody, welcome to the Best Bits. It's
part one. I've got Amy joining mean me this.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Weekend words or something this weekend?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Amy? Hey, hey, hey, it's almost Christmas. You know the
words are mentioned together. The brain is mush.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
We've recorded a lot today, so.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
So I don't have the THT process happening anymore.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I got a warm up again?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
What did you used to do? The uh do? What?
No dough?
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Ray do? Ray do?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
There's another one. There's like a word like.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
To sing, Oh, unique New York? Or how now brown cow?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Ow? Now brown cow? I remember unique? Yeah, you're a
unique New York, Unique New York.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Oh now brown cow? How now brown cow? Yep? Yeah,
I don't know any others. Those the only ones I did.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
There used to be another one that I thought for
I was like always my singing lessons. They would do
these warm ups, and now I can't remember any of them. Anyways.
How's life, Amy? How are you doing going into the holidays?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I am doing great and I'm ready to go to
Colorado and see my sister. Is that what you guys
are doing yep, and I cannot wait. And she's so sweet.
She sent me a video yesterday of her fireplace and
of course it looks beautiful because she decorated it like
the garland and stockings, and I don't know how she
does it. It looks like it's out of a magazine.
And she got stockings made for me and Stashar and
(01:24):
Stevenson like they're hanging just because they're matching. She has
their red and green velvet for her whole family and
they've had them for years. And she had some maid
that say BB which is what her kids call me,
and Steven sent is to Shira and so I was
going to pack our stockings and take them, but now
I don't have to.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Oh that's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I think she liked the cohesive vibe. Yeah, so it
was sweet and she did it to be thoughtful, and
also I think she likes that it's going to look
the same. She'd also asked me if my gifts had
been wrapped yet and what I was planning on wrapping
when I got there or what, and what my paper
was looked like, because I think she likes it to all.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
She has an aesthetic.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yeah, but she's like, no, I'd be fine with anything,
but I'll go ahead and have some stuff here for you.
Because I said, oh, well, when I get to town,
I was just gonna go to Walmart and pick up stuff.
She's like okay, yeah, well she's like I already got
things from there, so we're good, like perfect. I'm like
the look at her sister. There was some real I
came across yesterday. I was talking about different siblings and
(02:24):
how they react when it's holidays, and the oldest is like, okay, yeah,
I land at four pm if Grandma could pick me up,
Da da da very organized together, and then the youngest
is like, shoot, I forgot to book my flight. Can
anybody spot me some money? Because I need about eight
hundred dollars? And I was like, that's yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
That's both of us. I'm always coming in hot from
especially because I'll always drive back to Kansas, so I'm
always coming in like so hot. I'm like, I don't
know what time I'm actually leaving. You guys will see
me at some point on this day and all my
stuff is in my car and it looks like I'm
bringing like my whole home back with me and I'm
just like pure chaos. I mean, my old there's the
has like wrapped all the presents for my parents that
(03:03):
we do together because she it all gets sent to
her and she it's all taken care of. She's like, Okay,
we're ready. And I'm like thankful for you because I
was not so welcome to youngest siblings. Yeah at Christmas time?
How is it so this year? You didn't have the
kids last year for Christmas? Right? So this is your year? Correct?
Speaker 1 (03:22):
And we're both going to be in Colorado. Ben will
be there too, so his family will be in Pagosa
and that's where my sister is.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
And is there any plans to see each other or
is it more happens dance If it.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I'm sure we will at some point because his family
they go to my sister's coffee shop, and I'm sure
we'll see each other. And then you know, we're on
a Friday to Friday rotation. So some people do Sunday
to Sunday, some people you know, do two days on,
three days off. Like the rotation schedule is different for
every co parenting situation. Ours is Friday to Friday, and
(03:57):
I love it and we're able to stay on that
because yeah, they're gonna come be with me this weekend
and then we'll fly out, and then next Friday they'll
go from my sister's house to his family's house. Stay
on Friday to Friday. Oh good, and then I'll come
back and then I'm gonna be here the rest of
the break. So so you'll be here.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
For New Year's Yes, any big plans for New Year's No? Okay? Good?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Is that?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Are you like happy about that? Or you're not?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Fine? Being more low key which some people know some
people don't. But that's my wedding anniversary. We have talked
about that, Okay, though I don't. It's not like any
weird weird feelings around it. But I definitely will be
low key. I think we're just gonna do like something
of the house and celebrate for sure at New York midnight,
(04:43):
not Nashville midnight, because it's ahead of the time. It's
an hour earlier, so you'll be in bed when the
actual ball drops. Probably got it, okay, Yeah, what about you?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well, going home for Christmas and then the day after Christmas,
I head to Europe.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I know, I'm so jealous and excited.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I will I'll give you the full lowdown because I
am going to Paris, that's one of the stops. We'll
be in Barcelona for New Year's Eve, that's the plan.
Don't know what we're doing. We're like kind of winging
it right now, but I'm sure we will be doing
something and probably staying up all night would be my
anticipation because one never been to Europe and one never
been to Europe for a New Year's Eve, so lots
(05:22):
of first happening.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah, I feel like you're gonna come back really really tired,
but it's gonna be worth it. It won I'm proud
of you for booking this and just make making it happen.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You know. I mean I I was thinking about this
like two different ways, and I haven't like really said
this out loud to anybody. Two things like one, I
look at my breakup in this season and how much
I love Christmas, like Christmas is my favorite time of year,
And if I would have stayed in that relationship, I
don't know that I would have been celebrating in the
(05:53):
same capacity because he was Jewish. She celebrates a different holiday,
which is totally awesome and fine, but because he wasn't
open to how much I love Christmas. I don't know
that it would have been the same experience for me.
And I feel more thankful that that ended than I
have at all this year. Like when it happened, I
(06:15):
was so devastated and heartbroken, but now looking at it,
I just am like, Okay, that was like the universe
being like, do you really want to spend the rest
of your life not being able to celebrate Christmas in
the way that you love it so much and decorating
your tree and being so joyful and excited around all
of these Christmas activities when that's not something that that
person would have wanted, and not in a bad way. Again,
(06:39):
it's just a different version. And I think about that
a lot right now, where I just feel thankful And
that's the.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
First time I felt like that gratitude. Yeah, you couldn't
see that back then because what was the month?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
It was in August?
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Yeah, so you weren't even anywhere near Christmas. You weren't
able to see it. Plus it was so fresh. But
that's the beauty of time mm hmm and healing and
then certain life events showing you oh like kind of
having those little aha moments.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Yeah, because when we were that are helpful because when
we were breaking up. I also did really say this
on the show, but like a big conversation was coming
up about holidays because it was coming he was about
to move in, and I was like, Okay, I go
home for the holidays, and that was always okay. But
then as we started to talk about the logistics of
holidays and may being like, well, you know, this is
(07:29):
what my family does, and we go to church and
we go see all these lights and we do all
these things. He's like, I don't think I can do that,
and I just don't think Like, in that moment, so
much of me cared for him that I didn't see
it as a bigger picture. I was just seen in
that moment of like why are you doing this? Why
is this happening? And now I think about that conversation
(07:50):
and I'm like, I would not have been doing all
of the things that I love to do this holiday
season because I would have been trying to make something
work wasn't meant to.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Yeah, you'd be going through it now. You wouldn't be
on the other side of it like you are.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Yeah, because if you waited.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
For the Thanksgiving, the Christmas then you would be in it, dimming.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Your light, my little Christmas light.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Your Christmas light out of you know, trying to be
respectful to him and merge both of y'all. And I'm
sure he would have been okay with you. Yeah, you're
doing whatever, and then he goes and does his thing.
And then I would imagine, though, you want someone that
you can do things with, and so you he saved
you a lot of time, Yeah, by breaking up when
he did. Yeah, so you'd be going through it like
(08:38):
literally right now. No, you'd probably still be with him,
and then the new year would come and you'd be like,
oh my gosh, that was probably you know, one of
my I don't want to say like worse because he
has other qualities, but it's like that just wasn't like
a great holiday.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
And not what I like pictured in my head for holiday.
And then the other side of that too was I
have kind of been holding on to Europe and just
overseas trips in general for like the day when I
meet my person, because I do so much stuff, right,
I'm a super active person and I have so many
adventures and so many memories that I think there was
a part of me that was holding on to, like
(09:13):
an overseas trip to be like, well, this is the
thing that I can share with them and have with them,
versus you know, I have all these other things and
I'm not going to have first memories with them because
I've done so many things. And I just kind of
like zat with myself, and I was like, why are
you doing this? Why are you waiting? Because like realistically,
like genuinely, like I want to be like the most
level headed here in saying like it could never happen,
(09:36):
and that's okay. I have to be okay with that.
Is that probably likely, No, I will probably meet somebody amazing,
it's going to be awesome, but there is this chance
that I don't find this perfect person. And I spend
the rest of my life waiting to take these trips
because they never came. What am I doing? Why am
I sending here waiting for that to happen or it
happens ten years from now, And I waited ten years
(09:57):
to not go overseas just because of this.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Yeah, I would look at it more like you need
to pursue things you want to do and not put
things on hold for anybody else. But I would ditch
the this is something that may not ever happen for me. Well,
but I don't it's not even necessary, Like I would
just not even say it out loud and not even
give it, you know, I don't even want to affirm that.
(10:20):
Oh okay, yeah, that could be it, but it could
be that, you know what, I don't know what is
in store. I am excited about the future and what
it holds, but I'm no longer going to put certain
things on my bucket list on hold as I wait
to figure out what the future is. Something like language
like that, and.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I know, and I'm getting to there. I think I
had to. I had to at least own that reality
instead of like allowing it to own me, you know
what I mean? Like I think I was allowing it
to hold me back, and so now allowing myself to
say it out I'd just say, like, accept just what
is to come versus.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
But it's almost like wait to worry. You don't know
that that's what's to come. You need to wait to worry.
I feel like you're already kind of worried that that
might be the case, and you're trying to convince yourself
to accept it when no idea.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
It's like a It's like just I saw something. It
was this video. I want to say it was mel Robins,
and she was just like, own every single part of
the story, even the things that you think could happen
or whatever, because if you own it all, then it
can't have power over you. So I'm like, owning this
version where this could happen, Okay, and try it so
(11:28):
because if you own it, then you can kind of
let it go.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Okay, gotcha?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Does that make sense? I don't feel like I'm explaining
that very well.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I'm I see where you're going. I think I just
don't hearing. I'm sitting across from you and I'm watching
you say I've had to accept that that may never
happen for me, and I'm like, oh, well, we don't
have to say that out loud. It doesn't mean you've
living in La la land or be in denial, but
it's you can. I'm saying, you can use different language
that might be helpful for you or maybe not. You
(11:53):
can take this or leave it. I just think that
I would love to hear you say you know, I've
had to accept that I have no idea what the
future holds.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
That's probably a much more elegant way of putting it.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
I'm I'm working on accepting whatever that is that it
looks like whatever my future looks like, I know that
I will be okay, and I've decided to start moving
forward on some of my dreams and not waiting on them.
And then, yeah, that's a.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Much nicer way to put it out in the universe.
I'm so like brass And.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
It's not even just what's putting out in the universe,
but it's what's like could end up looping in your head.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
And I don't think it has lipped in my head.
It's just more that I'm like, I just need to
It was like the way that I had to translate
in my brain to stop waiting, you know what I mean,
Like I just have to surrendering yes, instead of like
holding on to this like control of something that I
really don't have control over.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
I get it.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
So I think it was just how it was processing
in my brain. But I like the way that you
put it much better. But those are the two kinds
of things that like, in the past few weeks, I've
really like come to my brain and my body's like
understanding what's going on in my life right now. It's
been a weird, weird time, but also very exciting at
the same time, very like you know when you're about
to do something and you're like, I'm so nervous and
(13:11):
my whole body feels it, but also so excited for
what's about to happen. Yeah, that's how I.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Can see it in your face. I'm excited for you.
I think it's to be fun. I mean parts of
me are you know when I use the word jealous,
it's not in a bad way. Oh, pumped for you,
but it's inspiring and encouraging to me and probably others
listening of like, what are some things you wanted to do?
Because I've wanted to go to Paris for a long
time and I'm not waiting on anybody. I don't I
(13:38):
don't have this thought in my mind of oh I
want to share that with a special someone. But Ben
actually he took the kids to Paris to his sister
was living in London, so they went to go visit her,
and then they popped on over to Paris and like, well, shoot,
my kids have already gone and I haven't need to
I need to figure out a way to go. I
(13:59):
just always put it off for some reason and end
up going to Colorado. But I love seeing my sister.
But you know what, maybe I should see if my
sister wants to go to Paris, another place I've always
wanted to go to Spain and my niece is studying
abroad there this spring, and my sister is going to
go and she's invited me. But we don't have off
that time frame, so at any point in time while
(14:21):
she's there, no, no.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
That it always is the beginning of the year when
we really don't have dang it.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Yeah, I think she's going like in March, but really,
I mean we have off winter and summer, that's true,
and that's it for a length of time that it
would require to make that sort of trip worth it.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
It's not one of those you can do for two
days and come around in the world and get exhausted
to be there for one day. But you know, maybe
if I get a wild hair, I just think that
it's it's in You're an encouragement because I'm like, I
don't need to put this stuff off, Like why have
I not gone? It's I'm a whomebody, But it's.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
So hard to do that. Right, you're in that moment
and you you have every reason and every excuse, and
and the world is literally in that situation like fighting
against you'd be like, yeah, here's all your excuses. Take them,
they're yours. But it really was like a genuine like
surrender of just be like, Okay, I just I have
to do this. I don't care every every ounce of
me is probably like this could all go wrong and
(15:20):
everything and whatever, but you're just gonna do it. You
have to do it. This is like has to be
this first step. And you know, I I think about
this also theory, there's this saying that if a city
has been calling to you for a long time, it's
because your story has already been written there. Oh and
(15:43):
it means like there's a reason you're supposed to go
what that It could be small, it could be big,
it could be all these things. It's good and like
for you.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Oh no, this is a good thinking have taken travel. Okay,
what's that direction you talking about? The R I know,
I know I can't help where my brain went. I'm
not going to give it power. I'm just saying like, okay,
I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Don't don't go that way, cause I'm not accepting.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
The organ I'm not saying like I've had to accept
that I might get taken.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Well, I'm telling you this for Paris, Okay, Okay, so
there's a reason you need to go to Paris much
like me, Like Brussels has been calling to me since
I was studying French in college, and it's always been this.
It's such a random city to have, Like that's calling
to you for some reason too, I know. I was like,
why Brussels, Like, So the reason was because my French
professor told me that if I really wanted to test
(16:33):
my French, I needed to go to Belgium because if
they would speak back to me in French, then I
nailed the language, and if they didn't, then I had
work to do. And so it was this kind of
like seed that planting where I was like, Okay, I
need to I need to go try this. So I
don't know that it's to be able to speak to that. No, No,
it's all gone. My house French is gone because that
was in college. I was like ten plus years ago,
and I have not used my French in any way.
(16:54):
I mean, I'm sure I'll pick up on words, and
they'll be phrases and things that I understand. But it's
funny because it was it was a seed that's been
planted for so long and it's been over ten almost
eleven years since that, you know, and but it's still
there and it was still like when we were looking
at the places to go and what we could do,
and I was like, I have to go to Brussels.
(17:15):
I have to. And it's beyond that because I love
chocolate and I love beer and that's what they're known for,
and waffles like all things I love, so of course
I would love that city. So there was more than that.
But it could just be something as small as that,
right like where it's just this a closing of a
piece of your story that you needed to finish writing
the chapter or whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Maybe that's where you're going to meet somebody.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
It could be that also, it could be a big
part of the chapter. But that's what I'm saying. So
you have to go to Paris because there's a reason
it's been calling to you. Okay, whatever it may be,
there's a reason it's calling. Okay, Okay, we're gonna take
a quick break. We'll be right back, Okay, last time
we were on, we were talking about dating a little bit.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
M hmm.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Do you want to share any updates? You want to
talk about any of it?
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Still dating?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Still date? Yes, okay, maybe is that all? Is that
what we're seeing?
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Yeah for now, okay, but it's we'll probably have more
of an update soon and yeah, in the new years,
just because it's not just my story, so you know.
And then I feel like certain things too. Yeah, I
don't know. I don't know how it's going to really
roll out. I'm trying not to think about it too much.
(18:23):
I feel like when I first started dating Ben and
I was on the show, I mean we started talking
and in the next day I was on air and
I was like, oh my gosh, there's the sky air
and we called him Air Force Guy, and then we
were talking about it right away, and the jury it
followed us the entire way, so down the aisle and
then all the things and just being a little more cautious.
(18:47):
I guess this time around, especially because kids are involved, so.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
I understand that I'm pretty sure each relationship because I've
had I've had now three significant relationships since I've been
with the show. Just a wild look back on the
fact that I I've been with the show for almost
eight years and that's crazy. But each one I learned
something different about how I want to navigate, like my
relationship on air and how I talk about it into
different things. And you've seen like the evolution of it. Right,
(19:12):
Like the first one, everybody knew everything. I posted him
all the time, horrible relationship, like and it was a
horrible experience for me because that was out there. Second one,
I was like, nothing, you will know nothing. There's no nickname,
there's no anything. I'm never going to post him whatever.
And then that they're one, was like, Okay, here's a nickname.
Maybe I'll get a hand. Here's like a little half
and a half. It's like, I've had the different variations,
(19:35):
So I think it makes sense that you're being cautious.
I think you learn a lot from your experiences. And
your experience with them was that you shared so much
and it stayed with all of that for decades.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Yeah, and he well and Ben was so private, but
he was gone a lot, so he wasn't able to listen.
So I was like, ah, Plus we were dating, so
it's not like I thought we were going to get married.
And then all of a sudden things just escalated quickly
and we did get married and became a whole thing.
So I think it's just yeah, the person would be
fine with it, but there are kids for both of us.
(20:10):
So are you happy, yes.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Very and enjoying yourself in this new phase of life.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, it's easy. I like it. That's a good things.
I know that sometimes easy can be like, oh, but
it's trust me, there are It has its own challenges
and one day that may be more known. But I
think our whole, the whole thing has been with caution
(20:38):
because of certain things. Ah. So yeah, you're like, you
start saying more and more.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
No, I'm trying to make sure I'm not pushing them
different directions.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I'm asking you very base why Yeah, okay, Yeah, we'll
see what happens over the break, and then we may
have an update. I don't know, Okay, all right, maybe
one day I just get crazy and post something.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
I did see you post a little soft lunch situation
at one point, yeah, like choosing Yeah, and then I
saw all the comments just giggling. I was like, I
think this is a version of that, but I'm not
quite sure. I guess it Yeah, that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Yeah, I just liked that picture. I liked that night.
It was an impromptu, just little happy hour, like we
just popped in this one place, had one drink and
then left, so okay, oh I'm gonna take a quick
pic of this. And that was just so I guess
that was what do they call it? A carousel? Yeah,
you had a little photo dump some memories and that
was in there. And I'm scrolling through my phone right now,
(21:40):
I have so many pictures.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Anyway, there gonna be a potential section of soft lunch
over the holidays.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
I any point. I mean, I'm not like trying. I
don't know. I feel like I don't know that there
needs to be another soft because I'm not trying to
be weird about it. I guess it's just parts of
my life. Also, I want to remember, I mean, that's
my Instagram's not just it's public. Yes, but looking back,
I want to go through and be like, oh, yeah,
I remember that. They we were just driving along and
(22:06):
then we were like, wait, pull over, let's pop in
there and get a little cocktail. And then yeah, that's
all that okay, fun stuff on here, So we'll see.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
All right, I'm not pushing it anymore.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
I'm allowing you know, listeners are really like, okay, shout up.
If you're not going to tell us a.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Goodbye, No, I think they love hearing the little happiness
and joys in your voice. I think you are very happy.
I can attest to that.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
Okay, we'll tell you. So. I had I had prepped this,
but it it didn't make it, and it might you
might see a version of it, we'll see, who knows.
But I had prepped like a dating rapped. Have you
been seeing this online? No?
Speaker 1 (22:40):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (22:42):
So? Like? You know how there's like all these different
streaming platforms that are doing like sharing their wrapped for people,
their artists that they loved over the ear of the
podcast they were listening to.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
What are you saying rapped?
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Rapped like w R a pp ed Okay, wrapped like
you're wrapped for the year. It's like a summing up
your year listening to music in a tiny bow or
into podcasting.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Okay, I did not know it was called that, but
I get it out. Sorry.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
I was like, am I saying that weird? I could
have been, but also you could think I was saying
like rapped like I'm rapping a yeah, like a song. Yes, okay,
Well I put together my dating rapped and I'm just
gonna give you, like, look at my key little presentation
I made. It's adorable. It was like pink and orange
and bright and fun. We went all out, Okay, I did,
but I'm going to give it to you because we
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didn't do it on the show, at least for now
at the point of this recording. So basically the case
subject is myself. I'm thirty one years old, I live
in Nashville, and I am an independent, stubborn and massive
animal lover. Those are some qualities about me. And I
went on ten first dates in twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
Okay, okay, good for you and we.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
Four of them I met on hinge. Three were met
in person, which is wild, I RL. Two were setups
from people, and one came from Instagram. This is how
I met all these first dates. The dates. One resulted
in a relationship man in uniform, three did not live
in Nashville. Five resulted in a second date. And I
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had five first kisses.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
So you kissed half of them?
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Yeah, yeah, and some of them transpired further than like
a second date. Some were like a couple of dates
for a whole So yeah there was someone there. Okay,
location of first dates. One was on a walk, four
were dinner, four were at a bar, and then one
(24:38):
has a question marked by it. But it was a
CMA after party. That's kind of where we were in
that it transpired into a day. It was the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Okay, I'm curious how that turns into a date.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
But uh, it was like a version. Yeah, we're putting
in that category because it was a it was a
long night. What did they do for a living? What
do you think they did for a living? What do
you think I'll be on here?
Speaker 1 (25:01):
One was in a uniform.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
We do know that about one of them.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
I have I were any of them in the industry? No, surprisingly,
not even record label type stuff. No, because you said
CMA after party. Yeah no, okay, No, I don't know vedinarian.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
No, but that'd be cool. I would love to day
a veterinarian. Two were in the military, four were in business,
so like that coming all over the board. One was
in social media, and three I forgot what they did now,
so who knows.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
So a guy in social media was he an influencer.
He worked a branding influencer. Oh really a guy influencer.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Yeah, but not an influencer that you would not like
what you're probably picturing.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Did he have a niche?
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (25:48):
What was it?
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Jokes? Okay, I'll show you off, but like not like
not your picture in probably like Kristin Cavalari's ex, the
young one, right, who he's like an influencer. Oh you
talk about yeah, not like that?
Speaker 1 (26:01):
No, is it? I mean I don't he's an influencer.
I just feel like he's a TikTok famous.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
I mean that's an influencer.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Oh okay, so not like that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Different variation reasons we stopped dating. Okay, One religion differences.
One he ghosted. We heard about that one, literally ghosting
and Halloween ironic one. Uh, he didn't want to celebrate
my birthday. We also heard about that one in a variation.
Two we didn't live in the same city. Equally, We're
just like, this probably isn't gonna work. Two there was
(26:33):
just no connection, and three he was Three of them
were emotionally unavailable.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
Oh you could tell that that quickly, Yes.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Really really strongly emotionally unavailable. I think the the older
I get, the more quicker I can pick up on things,
especially the experiences I've had. So those are those, and
then some lessons I've learned from dating. This is my
last side. You'll be okay after being blindsided by a breakup.
Men are still emotionally unavailable past the age of thirty.
(27:03):
Really really wasn't prepared for that one.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
Oh yeah, I've yeah, I don't know someone in their fifties.
It's unavailable emotionally.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
So past the age.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
It is tricky because he seemed secure, and then he's
avoidant because he doesn't want to get too vulnerable. But
oftentimes avoidance will come across as secure. Yeah, in the
very beginning tricky.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
It is tricky. You have to stop waiting for a
partner to arrive to live your life. We were just
talking about that. Meeting in real life is more romantic.
I had dated, like so many people from dating apps,
but this experiences year, I've met more people in real
life and it's just been more fun, more like, Okay,
I like dating, not I'm dating for an app kind
(27:52):
of version, So it's been more fun. If you're on
dating apps prepared to be a raccoon, what does that mean,
like you're gonna have to sift through some trash, You're
gonna have to go. Yeah, you gotta be prepared, So
be a raccoon. If you're on the dating apps. Never
ghost somebody. Never, I you know how to being that
experience Again. As I'm like thirty one, I'm like, are
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we really still this emotionally amateur? We don't know how
to communicate? Let's not. And I made sure to communicate
with all of mine. When they were ending that, I
was like, this is not even tho. It was awkward
and I hated it, and the text sending the text
was you know, it gives you a little deeper's creeper situation,
but you do it. You have to do it.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
So there was this one guy. I only met up
with them once for like a quick drink and at
like four pm and I had an out, like I
had a work thing I had to go, and he
asked me out again, and I sent a note so
they didn't want a ghost. And then he didn't reply
because it's just kindly saying this is not gonna work,
(28:52):
and he just didn't reply. And then three months later
Kat and I talked about this on the fifth thing
my podcast and I randomly got a reply from him
like three months later that was like, okay, thank you,
and I'm like, what are to die alive? I don't know.
I just assumed he was ignoring me, But I don't know.
(29:13):
It's so weird, huh. I don't even have that same
number anymore.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
But yeah, that one's not normal in any capacity. Like
I guess I get it as like a week later
because maybe he had some crazy.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
Work trip or whatever, but like, no, no, no, three
months it's weird. So also there's that if someone is
put together a thoughtful reply that's gonna maturely and things.
At least you could do is double tap it thumbs
up within three months later. I wonder if he was like,
(29:46):
oh shoot, I never replied to that, I better send
it now. But you would think you'd be like, it's
been three months.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
That is insane. I cannot believe he responded then, weird.
I'm just gonna choose to believe that he like dropped
off the map and like his phone got through into
an ocean or something.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
But then you would say, hey, sorry, I'm just now
replying my phone fell in the ocean.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
That's the only way that I can like process that
in my brain. Yeah, but see this is crazy things
that you experienced dating and wow, I really don't have
the words for that one. The last thing that I
have on here that I learned is you can't say
the wrong thing to the right person. So if you're
healing and you're growing and you're sharing your experiences, if
it's the right person that you're supposed to be with,
they're not gonna scare away easy. You're gonna be able
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to communicate with them. You're gonna be able to share
your feelings and obviously, like if you're being a straight
up jerk, yeah, that's probably gonna turn some people off.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
But mean and the flip side of that too. Sometimes
you feel like you can't do or say anything right,
Like maybe you can't that's not.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Your person, say the you can't say the right thing.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
Right to the wrong person or something. How would we
say that? Give me the original quote.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
You can't say the wrong thing to the.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Right person, Okay, and then you can't say the right
thing to the wrong person.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
There you go, Yeah, yeah, you know I was. I
remember one of these dates that I was sitting on
and it was the guy who wasn't gonna celebrate remember
it then and before that had happened, I said, you know,
I feel like I'm too much, and I remember having
that feeling, and I was like, I think this is it,
this is the moment. Yeah, I'm no. Yeah, like I'm
recognizing you're making me feel like I'm too much and
(31:24):
I'm not well.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
To be fair, he can't make you feel like you're
You're the one that feels it.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yeah, because of what he's gerating. His actions were making
me feel that way.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
So those are my lessons learned. That's my dating raft
of twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
And that's fun.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
I might do a little video of it or something.
We'll see, but yeah, he little pink presentation.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, I'm like, okay, I think going on, how many
did you think?
Speaker 2 (31:48):
That?
Speaker 1 (31:48):
As like an outline and then people fill it in
for themselves. There are three people, three first dates in
twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Okay, that's not bad. How many turned into a second date? Uh?
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Two?
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Okay? Only first kisses?
Speaker 1 (32:05):
Oh not, but not on the first state.
Speaker 2 (32:08):
It's okay, just like it's like your first kisses. Oh two, okay,
we had two? Where were the other ones? Oh? Where
did you meet them? Uh?
Speaker 1 (32:16):
One on hinge, oh, two on hinge even one that
the one that didn't reply for three months, and then
another through a friend.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Okay, oh, set a little setup. What do they do
for a livy? You don't have to share the one
that's current, you can share.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
The other two, uh business, I don't and one you forgot. No,
I had them all actually, I mean because it's only three.
That hard to keep up. But one like uh arc
landscape design okay, stuff, another like water just waters like oil.
(32:59):
Other one water sports, water recreation. Like the variety here,
I mean business is the next one like so business?
Ye that sometimes our conversations, I'm like, we live very
different lives.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Those are all.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Yeah. When you have that realization it's a work day
compared to mine, it's just almost comical, comicable, it's almost comical.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
Ere your guys's first dates.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
One was just down close to the office at the
top of the Thompson.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
What is that called?
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Yeah, are you talking about the Jackson? Yeah, l A Jackson,
l A Jackson. That was the four pm whatever one. Gosh,
where was it?
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (33:43):
Oh oh oh, the the cute greenhouse thing in Greenhill's
the greenhouse bar. That's what's called the greenhouse and uh
m Audrey.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Okay, nice, So we got lots of them. Okay, there's
our our dating wrap to me and Amy. I just
had a little bit more variation in there. But Amy, Amy,
I'm really happy for you.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Well, we'll hear more in twenty twenty five, I'm sure
of it. Okay, we're gonna take one more quick break.
We'll be right back. Okay, very serious question, not at
all related to the holidays or anything like that. So
I got a facial done lately. I got my pretty.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
Face shaved, the whole thing derma planing.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
Yes, but I have a question for you. When you
go and get like a facial done, they put you
in like you're in this cute little room and they
like give you a robe and stuff. Do you completely
undress or like what do you do in those scenarios?
Because I did, and I put the robe on because
I had to go under the blankets and it felt
weird keeping my pants on, like being under this like heated.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Oh yeah, I would say, I mean I keep mine
to wear on.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
But yeah, but like you okay, so yous.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
It just depends on how cold I am or five
on sweatpants or jeans, Like, how comfortable do I want
to be? Because if I had on sweats, i'd probab
keep them one because it's a facial. They're probably just
gonna be working with my neck and chest. Face.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Okay, yeah, you have sweats on. No, I have leggings on.
Oh but the bed was heated, and I was like,
am I gonna be like sweaty?
Speaker 1 (35:08):
And I like, you're fine.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
It just felt weird because they were just doing work
on my face. But I was like, you know, I
have this robot and I'm like naked and it feels
a little weird.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
No, I think it's okay. I've probably seen it all.
It's probably true, but still you know what I mean, Like,
I think it's somal. I want to be cozy. Yeah,
and leggings sometimes can be uncomfortable under sheets and blankets.
Sweatpants different, but leggings, and then sometimes the fuzz gets
all over on Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Okay, so you guys shouldn't be weird about it. No, okay. Well,
another thing that happened recently. I went to the Little
Big Town and sugar Land concert.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
Oh Ben, was it? That? Was? He?
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Really? I did not see him seam. No. I did
see a little big town though, and they were amazing.
Sugar Land, though, Amy I had like a A I
want to know if you've had a full circle moment,
maybe it's similar like this or something happen. But I
used to, you know, back when I wanted to be
a little singer. I used to sing the baby Girl
song from sugar Land, which is like dear mom and Dad,
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I'd placed in money.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Yeah, I'm so broke' funny yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
And so I heard this song live for the first
time because obviously Shuggarline hadn't meant to, like they had
taken some time, and so this was like their first
time back on tour and I got to hear that
song live for the first time since like I was
young and singing that to my parents and I'm like
living in Nashville and I have this life here now,
and that was always the thing.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Jennifer Nettles said that that song was a self fulfilling
prophecy for.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Her, really like where she sang it and it came true.
Oh see, that was like mine. I was like singing
it to my parents. I was like, I'm gonna move
to Nashville. One day and it was specifically Nashville. Now,
different career paths, but like it was Nashville always, and
just like standing there and I'm like, I have this
whole life in this career here and I'm living here,
and I was like standing there crying. I'm like, oh
my gosh, this is so full circle in this moment.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Oh yeah, that's a Goosebunz moment for sure. I mean
I have them right now for you.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
Yeah, it was. It was a cool moment. Have you
had one of those where you're like, this is this
is it? This is this full circle moment?
Speaker 1 (36:58):
M not that I can think of off the top
of my head right now, And that one's pretty special.
I mean you just had it.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Yeah, just so it's top of mind for me too.
So and I'm like throwing you out there because I
didn't give you time to prepare this one.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
Yeah no, but even if you did. I mean, I
feel like those are sometimes like maybe I haven't had
it yet or it's on the moment. I do think
I've had times where I get it, like it all
makes sense.
Speaker 2 (37:22):
Now, Okay, what's one of those moments?
Speaker 1 (37:26):
I can't say them not, I mean only because I
would it's just not my story, but so much makes
sense now. Okay, this one I can say because we
already talked about it on the air, but when we
got tested for the dyslexia. We talked about this even
recently on the show. But that was a moment where
(37:48):
I got goosebumps and cried and had this full circle
moment where it all made sense. Now. I know. It's
a little bit different than like, I'm not sitting there
listening to someone seeing back my dream moving, but it
was sort of closure on something.
Speaker 2 (38:03):
It's also it was probably a clarity for you for
a long time because you didn't feel understood.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Yeah, it asked like, oh this all makes sense now,
and uh yeah, there's a couple of other there's very
personal and maybe one day I can if there's a
story too about we'll call it lunch with I'll just
(38:27):
say lunch with Leslie because like, nobody's ever going to know.
But I don't think I'll ever write a book, but
if I do, one day, I have the title and
it's called lunch with Leslie.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
And wait, why lunch with Leslie? Can you say?
Speaker 1 (38:41):
I don't even know Leslie? But it changed my life.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Hey, okay, this leslie story that.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Yeah, it's uh so in the similar I guess since
we were talking about the dating stuff. Sometimes you don't
know why something is happening to you. You don't understand
because we don't have the full picture. But then if
you back up or once you've got some time, like
you said with you know, your ex boyfriend in August,
(39:11):
when you broke up with you, you're devastated, and now
that it's Christmas time, you're like, oh, this all makes
sense now. So for me, I was going on a
date with somebody and then I got a call from
a friend. I was like, Hey, are you still dating
so and so I was like yeah, he's like about
to pick me up. And she's like, well, I'm with
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someone that's going to lunch with them tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
And I was like what.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
So I was just very confused. So speaking of open
and honest communication and mature communication, I said something to
him and then that led to us continuing to date
other people because you weren't exclusive. I just was shot.
I just wasn't used to adult dating. And I talked
to my therapist about it, not even about him, but
just this whole idea of adult dating and going on
(40:00):
dates and getting to know yourself and what do you want,
what do you don't want. I don't think I really
had a good handle that anyway, But I didn't want
to have to date multiple people to figure it out,
and it just didn't seem fun to me. She's like, Look,
they don't have to be long dates. They don't have
to be intense, Like you can literally go to get
a drink or have dinner with somebody, or a hike
(40:22):
for a first day. It seems a little weird, but
you said you did that.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
We did a walk. It wasn't It wasn't like a
hike where we were out and you didn't have seale service.
It was like a walk at a golf course kind
of am.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Akay, yeah yeah good, Yeah, lots of people there to
make sure you're saying me was with me.
Speaker 2 (40:37):
So yeah, that wasn't allowed.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
So anyway, I confronted it. I feel like I'm telling
this really slow because I'm like trying to be like,
am I really telling this right now? And not that
it even matters. Again, it's just like not only my story, but.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
It's also at the moment that impacted your life.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
It totally impacted my life, because in that moment, I said, okay,
I believe his response to me was sort of, well,
that doesn't mean that I don't think that there's not
a future us. I'm just trying to figure it out.
And I said, okay, yeah, I have no idea if
there's a futuress and we can continue dating, and I
am going to date because that is what I do.
(41:13):
I adult date now. And I sort of said it
like that, and he said to me something like, you're
a really good communicator, and I said, well, thank you.
I'm trying because I think I could have gone the
entire day and not brought it up and held some
resentment and then confusion or just huffed and puffed and fine,
(41:34):
I'm going to go out with other people. But I
just decided that moment, Okay, we're going to adult date.
This is what adult dating looks like. And so I
did that, and that is what led me to figuring
out through another friend that had wanted me to set
I had wanted to set me up this one guy,
and I would have never gone out with him because
(41:55):
I was very much liking this other person, and I
think I would have just settled to not the right word,
because again, we hadn't even had the exclusive talk, but
we'd been out enough to where that was happening, or
at least in my mind. I was definitely shocked to
hear that there was a lunch with Leslie. But it
made me think about all the moments in life that
(42:17):
are sort of that it's that one thing that happens
that just changes everything. And in that case, for me,
it was I'm like, hey.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
Thank you lunch with Leslie because.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
It got me out there and I I now have
you know something that I'm really happy about, and that's
weird and that I never and and the thing about
this person is now I'm saying more than I thought
I was ever gonna say.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
I'm not pushing it.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
Anyway, I just had not I had for months avoided
this person. Well I think not because they're not a
good person. I just like, this would never work. Yeah,
so it's not gonna happen. And thank you, but I'm busy.
I never spoke to him directly, by the way, it
was through our friend.
Speaker 2 (43:08):
I'm really proud of you, though, because it's hard, like
it is hard navigating dating, especially coming out of being
married for years. Yeah, and you're thrown into this new
world and you're trying to understand and people are complicated,
Like I don't think people realize on the scope of
dating that you're dating someone as another human and you
(43:29):
think about your life and your life is complicated, right,
and you're going to date this other person in their
life is complicated too, But you can't understand it because
you're just meeting each other for the first time. So
it's not like you can sit there and be like,
I have your whole story and this is why you
are the way that you are. You have to figure
it out.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
I made a lot of assumptions based on paper, Like
you know, how you can see someone's good on paper. Yeah,
I decided we were bad on paper, you know.
Speaker 2 (43:53):
But that was also it was a version of you
looking out for yourself.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
And it's also a testament to timing too, because had
I accepted the connection way before, I wouldn't have been ready.
I had to go through more things and healing and growth,
and honestly, even in going out, I wasn't trying to
(44:18):
go out with the intent of, oh, this is going
to be something. I was going out just to learn
more about myself. I'm like, okay, fine, since I know
this is a person that's no on paper for me
at least, I mean, it could be a good practice.
And I've even said that to him now, so it's
not like hurtful.
Speaker 2 (44:34):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
He totally gets it, and I'm like, look, I just
kind of was like, oh, yeah, well I have people
that want to date me too, you know, yeah, You've
got lunch tomorrow, don't worry. People are been asking me
out for a while.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
You're having you're experiencing a lot of like first for
the first time in that whole moment too, of like
the feeling of a version of rejection, but not in
a direct a right of like this is how he's
setting this up. And you're also experiencing like okay, well
I like this person, but also there's no communication here.
What is happening. Then you're experiencing like all these other
(45:11):
influxes where you're supposed to be casually dating and you're
not exclusive, Like you're experiencing in that moment so many
firsts that you had. It had so like naturally the
experiences that you were having makes makes a lot of sense,
Like when you're looking at it now from a bird's eye, view.
You know what I mean, yep, And they're just different
variations of things you have experienced in life, but it's
(45:31):
completely different setting people subject.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
Well, since I already said too much, I'm gonna go
ahead and say, since people are listening to this and
it's best bits, and if they're still listening at this point,
I think that they're loyal fans at the show, so
let's just keep it all between us here.
Speaker 2 (45:46):
Okay, thanks, We will no voicemails to the big show.
Leave it here, and it's just a fun girl chat
that we just had with microphones. You got. Is that good? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (45:54):
No, it's fine. I didn't even reveal anything. I know
it's not. I mean people, I don't want anybody be
like what, what's a big deal? Who cares?
Speaker 2 (46:00):
But it's just you that you also have to remember, like, yes,
I love your respect for other people of like, it's
not just my story, but also you do have a
story and you have a role in it, and it's
your prerogative to do what you want with your story.
Speaker 1 (46:16):
Right, So I say anything, I think down the line
there will be some room for some of that, because
I do think it could be helpful for other people.
Some of it, some of the stuff that has come
full circle that makes sense now that when I was
in the thick of it, it was so hard. But
now it's like, oh my gosh, that all makes sense now.
(46:38):
And look where we are at this moment, and it's
it's a place I never thought we could be. But
I mean, we all had to put in the work,
and sometimes you have to dig in and do the
hard thing. Because I could have easily not done some
of the hard things through several of these examples that
I'm thinking of, and it could have gone a different direction,
(46:58):
which wouldn't have been as healing and felt is full
circle and probably wouldn't have made sense. I probably would
still be living in chaos.
Speaker 2 (47:06):
I was gonna say, I don't feel like you would
be where you are with who you are and what
you're doing now. I don't just based on that, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
So I think it's just some encouragement sometimes to like
dig in and do the hard thing because yeah, you
got it, it's forge ahead.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Look at us having for full circle moments before we
head into the new year. Twenty twenty four has been a.
Speaker 1 (47:27):
Year, Yeah it has so, But I'm not I mean
it's so weird, yours are so different. I'm like, yeah,
it has. But then when I think about it, and
I'm like, it's also been one of the best years
I've had it in a long time, Like for me
twenty twenty, twenty twenty one, twenty four two, twenty twenty three,
it's worth like horrible. We're on the up and up,
(47:51):
onward and upward. That's right, I love it. Okay, we're
getting out of here. Merry Christmas, everybody. Go check out
Amy's podcast for things of Amy Brown.
Speaker 2 (47:59):
You can check out mine Take This Personally and so
Much Chop is so much stuff again with the words
I started and ended with it or to heart. On
our YouTube page, you can check out lots of segments,
including our full Christmas show if you want to watch that. Okay, Amy,
thank you for coming on. I loved our girl chat.
It was fun dating Rapped with Amy and Morgan w
r AP rap Rapped and goodbye everybody. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays,
(48:23):
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The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one,
behind a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Merry Almost Christmas, everybody, welcome to the Best Bits. It's
part one. I've got Amy joining mean me this.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Weekend words or something this weekend?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Amy? Hey, hey, hey, it's almost Christmas. You know the
words are mentioned together. The brain is mush.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
We've recorded a lot today, so.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
So I don't have the THT process happening anymore.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I got a warm up again?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
What did you used to do? The uh do? What?
No dough?
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Ray do? Ray do?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
There's another one. There's like a word like.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
To sing, Oh, unique New York? Or how now brown cow?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Ow? Now brown cow? I remember unique? Yeah, you're a
unique New York, Unique New York.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Oh now brown cow? How now brown cow? Yep? Yeah,
I don't know any others. Those the only ones I did.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
There used to be another one that I thought for
I was like always my singing lessons. They would do
these warm ups, and now I can't remember any of them. Anyways.
How's life, Amy? How are you doing going into the holidays?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I am doing great and I'm ready to go to
Colorado and see my sister. Is that what you guys
are doing yep, and I cannot wait. And she's so sweet.
She sent me a video yesterday of her fireplace and
of course it looks beautiful because she decorated it like
the garland and stockings, and I don't know how she
does it. It looks like it's out of a magazine.
And she got stockings made for me and Stashar and
(01:24):
Stevenson like they're hanging just because they're matching. She has
their red and green velvet for her whole family and
they've had them for years. And she had some maid
that say BB which is what her kids call me,
and Steven sent is to Shira and so I was
going to pack our stockings and take them, but now
I don't have to.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Oh that's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I think she liked the cohesive vibe. Yeah, so it
was sweet and she did it to be thoughtful, and
also I think she likes that it's going to look
the same. She'd also asked me if my gifts had
been wrapped yet and what I was planning on wrapping
when I got there or what, and what my paper
was looked like, because I think she likes it to all.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
She has an aesthetic.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yeah, but she's like, no, I'd be fine with anything,
but I'll go ahead and have some stuff here for you.
Because I said, oh, well, when I get to town,
I was just gonna go to Walmart and pick up stuff.
She's like okay, yeah, well she's like I already got
things from there, so we're good, like perfect. I'm like
the look at her sister. There was some real I
came across yesterday. I was talking about different siblings and
(02:24):
how they react when it's holidays, and the oldest is like, okay, yeah,
I land at four pm if Grandma could pick me up,
Da da da very organized together, and then the youngest
is like, shoot, I forgot to book my flight. Can
anybody spot me some money? Because I need about eight
hundred dollars? And I was like, that's yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
That's both of us. I'm always coming in hot from
especially because I'll always drive back to Kansas, so I'm
always coming in like so hot. I'm like, I don't
know what time I'm actually leaving. You guys will see
me at some point on this day and all my
stuff is in my car and it looks like I'm
bringing like my whole home back with me and I'm
just like pure chaos. I mean, my old there's the
has like wrapped all the presents for my parents that
(03:03):
we do together because she it all gets sent to
her and she it's all taken care of. She's like, Okay,
we're ready. And I'm like thankful for you because I
was not so welcome to youngest siblings. Yeah at Christmas time?
How is it so this year? You didn't have the
kids last year for Christmas? Right? So this is your year? Correct?
Speaker 1 (03:22):
And we're both going to be in Colorado. Ben will
be there too, so his family will be in Pagosa
and that's where my sister is.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
And is there any plans to see each other or
is it more happens dance If it.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I'm sure we will at some point because his family
they go to my sister's coffee shop, and I'm sure
we'll see each other. And then you know, we're on
a Friday to Friday rotation. So some people do Sunday
to Sunday, some people you know, do two days on,
three days off. Like the rotation schedule is different for
every co parenting situation. Ours is Friday to Friday, and
(03:57):
I love it and we're able to stay on that
because yeah, they're gonna come be with me this weekend
and then we'll fly out, and then next Friday they'll
go from my sister's house to his family's house. Stay
on Friday to Friday. Oh good, and then I'll come
back and then I'm gonna be here the rest of
the break. So so you'll be here.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
For New Year's Yes, any big plans for New Year's No? Okay? Good?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Is that?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Are you like happy about that? Or you're not?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Fine? Being more low key which some people know some
people don't. But that's my wedding anniversary. We have talked
about that, Okay, though I don't. It's not like any
weird weird feelings around it. But I definitely will be
low key. I think we're just gonna do like something
of the house and celebrate for sure at New York midnight,
(04:43):
not Nashville midnight, because it's ahead of the time. It's
an hour earlier, so you'll be in bed when the
actual ball drops. Probably got it, okay, Yeah, what about you?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well, going home for Christmas and then the day after Christmas,
I head to Europe.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I know, I'm so jealous and excited.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I will I'll give you the full lowdown because I
am going to Paris, that's one of the stops. We'll
be in Barcelona for New Year's Eve, that's the plan.
Don't know what we're doing. We're like kind of winging
it right now, but I'm sure we will be doing
something and probably staying up all night would be my
anticipation because one never been to Europe and one never
been to Europe for a New Year's Eve, so lots
(05:22):
of first happening.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah, I feel like you're gonna come back really really tired,
but it's gonna be worth it. It won I'm proud
of you for booking this and just make making it happen.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You know. I mean I I was thinking about this
like two different ways, and I haven't like really said
this out loud to anybody. Two things like one, I
look at my breakup in this season and how much
I love Christmas, like Christmas is my favorite time of year,
And if I would have stayed in that relationship, I
don't know that I would have been celebrating in the
(05:53):
same capacity because he was Jewish. She celebrates a different holiday,
which is totally awesome and fine, but because he wasn't
open to how much I love Christmas. I don't know
that it would have been the same experience for me.
And I feel more thankful that that ended than I
have at all this year. Like when it happened, I
(06:15):
was so devastated and heartbroken, but now looking at it,
I just am like, Okay, that was like the universe
being like, do you really want to spend the rest
of your life not being able to celebrate Christmas in
the way that you love it so much and decorating
your tree and being so joyful and excited around all
of these Christmas activities when that's not something that that
person would have wanted, and not in a bad way. Again,
(06:39):
it's just a different version. And I think about that
a lot right now, where I just feel thankful And
that's the.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
First time I felt like that gratitude. Yeah, you couldn't
see that back then because what was the month?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
It was in August?
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Yeah, so you weren't even anywhere near Christmas. You weren't
able to see it. Plus it was so fresh. But
that's the beauty of time mm hmm and healing and
then certain life events showing you oh like kind of
having those little aha moments.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Yeah, because when we were that are helpful because when
we were breaking up. I also did really say this
on the show, but like a big conversation was coming
up about holidays because it was coming he was about
to move in, and I was like, Okay, I go
home for the holidays, and that was always okay. But
then as we started to talk about the logistics of
holidays and may being like, well, you know, this is
(07:29):
what my family does, and we go to church and
we go see all these lights and we do all
these things. He's like, I don't think I can do that,
and I just don't think Like, in that moment, so
much of me cared for him that I didn't see
it as a bigger picture. I was just seen in
that moment of like why are you doing this? Why
is this happening? And now I think about that conversation
(07:50):
and I'm like, I would not have been doing all
of the things that I love to do this holiday
season because I would have been trying to make something
work wasn't meant to.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Yeah, you'd be going through it now. You wouldn't be
on the other side of it like you are.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Yeah, because if you waited.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
For the Thanksgiving, the Christmas then you would be in it, dimming.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Your light, my little Christmas light.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Your Christmas light out of you know, trying to be
respectful to him and merge both of y'all. And I'm
sure he would have been okay with you. Yeah, you're
doing whatever, and then he goes and does his thing.
And then I would imagine, though, you want someone that
you can do things with, and so you he saved
you a lot of time, Yeah, by breaking up when
he did. Yeah, so you'd be going through it like
(08:38):
literally right now. No, you'd probably still be with him,
and then the new year would come and you'd be like,
oh my gosh, that was probably you know, one of
my I don't want to say like worse because he
has other qualities, but it's like that just wasn't like
a great holiday.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
And not what I like pictured in my head for holiday.
And then the other side of that too was I
have kind of been holding on to Europe and just
overseas trips in general for like the day when I
meet my person, because I do so much stuff, right,
I'm a super active person and I have so many
adventures and so many memories that I think there was
a part of me that was holding on to, like
(09:13):
an overseas trip to be like, well, this is the
thing that I can share with them and have with them,
versus you know, I have all these other things and
I'm not going to have first memories with them because
I've done so many things. And I just kind of
like zat with myself, and I was like, why are
you doing this? Why are you waiting? Because like realistically,
like genuinely, like I want to be like the most
level headed here in saying like it could never happen,
(09:36):
and that's okay. I have to be okay with that.
Is that probably likely, No, I will probably meet somebody amazing,
it's going to be awesome, but there is this chance
that I don't find this perfect person. And I spend
the rest of my life waiting to take these trips
because they never came. What am I doing? Why am
I sending here waiting for that to happen or it
happens ten years from now, And I waited ten years
(09:57):
to not go overseas just because of this.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Yeah, I would look at it more like you need
to pursue things you want to do and not put
things on hold for anybody else. But I would ditch
the this is something that may not ever happen for me. Well,
but I don't it's not even necessary, Like I would
just not even say it out loud and not even
give it, you know, I don't even want to affirm that.
(10:20):
Oh okay, yeah, that could be it, but it could
be that, you know what, I don't know what is
in store. I am excited about the future and what
it holds, but I'm no longer going to put certain
things on my bucket list on hold as I wait
to figure out what the future is. Something like language
like that, and.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I know, and I'm getting to there. I think I
had to. I had to at least own that reality
instead of like allowing it to own me, you know
what I mean? Like I think I was allowing it
to hold me back, and so now allowing myself to
say it out I'd just say, like, accept just what
is to come versus.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
But it's almost like wait to worry. You don't know
that that's what's to come. You need to wait to worry.
I feel like you're already kind of worried that that
might be the case, and you're trying to convince yourself
to accept it when no idea.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
It's like a It's like just I saw something. It
was this video. I want to say it was mel Robins,
and she was just like, own every single part of
the story, even the things that you think could happen
or whatever, because if you own it all, then it
can't have power over you. So I'm like, owning this
version where this could happen, Okay, and try it so
(11:28):
because if you own it, then you can kind of
let it go.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Okay, gotcha?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Does that make sense? I don't feel like I'm explaining
that very well.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I'm I see where you're going. I think I just
don't hearing. I'm sitting across from you and I'm watching
you say I've had to accept that that may never
happen for me, and I'm like, oh, well, we don't
have to say that out loud. It doesn't mean you've
living in La la land or be in denial, but
it's you can. I'm saying, you can use different language
that might be helpful for you or maybe not. You
(11:53):
can take this or leave it. I just think that
I would love to hear you say you know, I've
had to accept that I have no idea what the
future holds.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
That's probably a much more elegant way of putting it.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
I'm I'm working on accepting whatever that is that it
looks like whatever my future looks like, I know that
I will be okay, and I've decided to start moving
forward on some of my dreams and not waiting on them.
And then, yeah, that's a.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Much nicer way to put it out in the universe.
I'm so like brass And.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
It's not even just what's putting out in the universe,
but it's what's like could end up looping in your head.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
And I don't think it has lipped in my head.
It's just more that I'm like, I just need to
It was like the way that I had to translate
in my brain to stop waiting, you know what I mean,
Like I just have to surrendering yes, instead of like
holding on to this like control of something that I
really don't have control over.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
I get it.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
So I think it was just how it was processing
in my brain. But I like the way that you
put it much better. But those are the two kinds
of things that like, in the past few weeks, I've
really like come to my brain and my body's like
understanding what's going on in my life right now. It's
been a weird, weird time, but also very exciting at
the same time, very like you know when you're about
to do something and you're like, I'm so nervous and
(13:11):
my whole body feels it, but also so excited for
what's about to happen. Yeah, that's how I.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Can see it in your face. I'm excited for you.
I think it's to be fun. I mean parts of
me are you know when I use the word jealous,
it's not in a bad way. Oh, pumped for you,
but it's inspiring and encouraging to me and probably others
listening of like, what are some things you wanted to do?
Because I've wanted to go to Paris for a long
time and I'm not waiting on anybody. I don't I
(13:38):
don't have this thought in my mind of oh I
want to share that with a special someone. But Ben
actually he took the kids to Paris to his sister
was living in London, so they went to go visit her,
and then they popped on over to Paris and like, well, shoot,
my kids have already gone and I haven't need to
I need to figure out a way to go. I
(13:59):
just always put it off for some reason and end
up going to Colorado. But I love seeing my sister.
But you know what, maybe I should see if my
sister wants to go to Paris, another place I've always
wanted to go to Spain and my niece is studying
abroad there this spring, and my sister is going to
go and she's invited me. But we don't have off
that time frame, so at any point in time while
(14:21):
she's there, no, no.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
That it always is the beginning of the year when
we really don't have dang it.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Yeah, I think she's going like in March, but really,
I mean we have off winter and summer, that's true,
and that's it for a length of time that it
would require to make that sort of trip worth it.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
It's not one of those you can do for two
days and come around in the world and get exhausted
to be there for one day. But you know, maybe
if I get a wild hair, I just think that
it's it's in You're an encouragement because I'm like, I
don't need to put this stuff off, Like why have
I not gone? It's I'm a whomebody, But it's.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
So hard to do that. Right, you're in that moment
and you you have every reason and every excuse, and
and the world is literally in that situation like fighting
against you'd be like, yeah, here's all your excuses. Take them,
they're yours. But it really was like a genuine like
surrender of just be like, Okay, I just I have
to do this. I don't care every every ounce of
me is probably like this could all go wrong and
(15:20):
everything and whatever, but you're just gonna do it. You
have to do it. This is like has to be
this first step. And you know, I I think about
this also theory, there's this saying that if a city
has been calling to you for a long time, it's
because your story has already been written there. Oh and
(15:43):
it means like there's a reason you're supposed to go
what that It could be small, it could be big,
it could be all these things. It's good and like
for you.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Oh no, this is a good thinking have taken travel. Okay,
what's that direction you talking about? The R I know,
I know I can't help where my brain went. I'm
not going to give it power. I'm just saying like, okay,
I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Don't don't go that way, cause I'm not accepting.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
The organ I'm not saying like I've had to accept
that I might get taken.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Well, I'm telling you this for Paris, Okay, Okay, so
there's a reason you need to go to Paris much
like me, Like Brussels has been calling to me since
I was studying French in college, and it's always been this.
It's such a random city to have, Like that's calling
to you for some reason too, I know. I was like,
why Brussels, Like, So the reason was because my French
professor told me that if I really wanted to test
(16:33):
my French, I needed to go to Belgium because if
they would speak back to me in French, then I
nailed the language, and if they didn't, then I had
work to do. And so it was this kind of
like seed that planting where I was like, Okay, I
need to I need to go try this. So I
don't know that it's to be able to speak to that. No, No,
it's all gone. My house French is gone because that
was in college. I was like ten plus years ago,
and I have not used my French in any way.
(16:54):
I mean, I'm sure I'll pick up on words, and
they'll be phrases and things that I understand. But it's
funny because it was it was a seed that's been
planted for so long and it's been over ten almost
eleven years since that, you know, and but it's still
there and it was still like when we were looking
at the places to go and what we could do,
and I was like, I have to go to Brussels.
(17:15):
I have to. And it's beyond that because I love
chocolate and I love beer and that's what they're known for,
and waffles like all things I love, so of course
I would love that city. So there was more than that.
But it could just be something as small as that,
right like where it's just this a closing of a
piece of your story that you needed to finish writing
the chapter or whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Maybe that's where you're going to meet somebody.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
It could be that also, it could be a big
part of the chapter. But that's what I'm saying. So
you have to go to Paris because there's a reason
it's been calling to you. Okay, whatever it may be,
there's a reason it's calling. Okay, Okay, we're gonna take
a quick break. We'll be right back, Okay, last time
we were on, we were talking about dating a little bit.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
M hmm.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Do you want to share any updates? You want to
talk about any of it?
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Still dating?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Still date? Yes, okay, maybe is that all? Is that
what we're seeing?
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Yeah for now, okay, but it's we'll probably have more
of an update soon and yeah, in the new years,
just because it's not just my story, so you know.
And then I feel like certain things too. Yeah, I
don't know. I don't know how it's going to really
roll out. I'm trying not to think about it too much.
(18:23):
I feel like when I first started dating Ben and
I was on the show, I mean we started talking
and in the next day I was on air and
I was like, oh my gosh, there's the sky air
and we called him Air Force Guy, and then we
were talking about it right away, and the jury it
followed us the entire way, so down the aisle and
then all the things and just being a little more cautious.
(18:47):
I guess this time around, especially because kids are involved, so.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
I understand that I'm pretty sure each relationship because I've
had I've had now three significant relationships since I've been
with the show. Just a wild look back on the
fact that I I've been with the show for almost
eight years and that's crazy. But each one I learned
something different about how I want to navigate, like my
relationship on air and how I talk about it into
different things. And you've seen like the evolution of it. Right,
(19:12):
Like the first one, everybody knew everything. I posted him
all the time, horrible relationship, like and it was a
horrible experience for me because that was out there. Second one,
I was like, nothing, you will know nothing. There's no nickname,
there's no anything. I'm never going to post him whatever.
And then that they're one, was like, Okay, here's a nickname.
Maybe I'll get a hand. Here's like a little half
and a half. It's like, I've had the different variations,
(19:35):
So I think it makes sense that you're being cautious.
I think you learn a lot from your experiences. And
your experience with them was that you shared so much
and it stayed with all of that for decades.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Yeah, and he well and Ben was so private, but
he was gone a lot, so he wasn't able to listen.
So I was like, ah, Plus we were dating, so
it's not like I thought we were going to get married.
And then all of a sudden things just escalated quickly
and we did get married and became a whole thing.
So I think it's just yeah, the person would be
fine with it, but there are kids for both of us.
(20:10):
So are you happy, yes.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Very and enjoying yourself in this new phase of life.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, it's easy. I like it. That's a good things.
I know that sometimes easy can be like, oh, but
it's trust me, there are It has its own challenges
and one day that may be more known. But I
think our whole, the whole thing has been with caution
(20:38):
because of certain things. Ah. So yeah, you're like, you
start saying more and more.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
No, I'm trying to make sure I'm not pushing them
different directions.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I'm asking you very base why Yeah, okay, Yeah, we'll
see what happens over the break, and then we may
have an update. I don't know, Okay, all right, maybe
one day I just get crazy and post something.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
I did see you post a little soft lunch situation
at one point, yeah, like choosing Yeah, and then I
saw all the comments just giggling. I was like, I
think this is a version of that, but I'm not
quite sure. I guess it Yeah, that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Yeah, I just liked that picture. I liked that night.
It was an impromptu, just little happy hour, like we
just popped in this one place, had one drink and
then left, so okay, oh I'm gonna take a quick
pic of this. And that was just so I guess
that was what do they call it? A carousel? Yeah,
you had a little photo dump some memories and that
was in there. And I'm scrolling through my phone right now,
(21:40):
I have so many pictures.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Anyway, there gonna be a potential section of soft lunch
over the holidays.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
I any point. I mean, I'm not like trying. I
don't know. I feel like I don't know that there
needs to be another soft because I'm not trying to
be weird about it. I guess it's just parts of
my life. Also, I want to remember, I mean, that's
my Instagram's not just it's public. Yes, but looking back,
I want to go through and be like, oh, yeah,
I remember that. They we were just driving along and
(22:06):
then we were like, wait, pull over, let's pop in
there and get a little cocktail. And then yeah, that's
all that okay, fun stuff on here, So we'll see.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
All right, I'm not pushing it anymore.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
I'm allowing you know, listeners are really like, okay, shout up.
If you're not going to tell us a.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Goodbye, No, I think they love hearing the little happiness
and joys in your voice. I think you are very happy.
I can attest to that.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
Okay, we'll tell you. So. I had I had prepped this,
but it it didn't make it, and it might you
might see a version of it, we'll see, who knows.
But I had prepped like a dating rapped. Have you
been seeing this online? No?
Speaker 1 (22:40):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (22:42):
So? Like? You know how there's like all these different
streaming platforms that are doing like sharing their wrapped for people,
their artists that they loved over the ear of the
podcast they were listening to.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
What are you saying rapped?
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Rapped like w R a pp ed Okay, wrapped like
you're wrapped for the year. It's like a summing up
your year listening to music in a tiny bow or
into podcasting.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Okay, I did not know it was called that, but
I get it out. Sorry.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
I was like, am I saying that weird? I could
have been, but also you could think I was saying
like rapped like I'm rapping a yeah, like a song. Yes, okay,
Well I put together my dating rapped and I'm just
gonna give you, like, look at my key little presentation
I made. It's adorable. It was like pink and orange
and bright and fun. We went all out, Okay, I did,
but I'm going to give it to you because we
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didn't do it on the show, at least for now
at the point of this recording. So basically the case
subject is myself. I'm thirty one years old, I live
in Nashville, and I am an independent, stubborn and massive
animal lover. Those are some qualities about me. And I
went on ten first dates in twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
Okay, okay, good for you and we.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
Four of them I met on hinge. Three were met
in person, which is wild, I RL. Two were setups
from people, and one came from Instagram. This is how
I met all these first dates. The dates. One resulted
in a relationship man in uniform, three did not live
in Nashville. Five resulted in a second date. And I
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had five first kisses.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
So you kissed half of them?
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Yeah, yeah, and some of them transpired further than like
a second date. Some were like a couple of dates
for a whole So yeah there was someone there. Okay,
location of first dates. One was on a walk, four
were dinner, four were at a bar, and then one
(24:38):
has a question marked by it. But it was a
CMA after party. That's kind of where we were in
that it transpired into a day. It was the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Okay, I'm curious how that turns into a date.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
But uh, it was like a version. Yeah, we're putting
in that category because it was a it was a
long night. What did they do for a living? What
do you think they did for a living? What do
you think I'll be on here?
Speaker 1 (25:01):
One was in a uniform.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
We do know that about one of them.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
I have I were any of them in the industry? No, surprisingly,
not even record label type stuff. No, because you said
CMA after party. Yeah no, okay, No, I don't know vedinarian.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
No, but that'd be cool. I would love to day
a veterinarian. Two were in the military, four were in business,
so like that coming all over the board. One was
in social media, and three I forgot what they did now,
so who knows.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
So a guy in social media was he an influencer.
He worked a branding influencer. Oh really a guy influencer.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Yeah, but not an influencer that you would not like
what you're probably picturing.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Did he have a niche?
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (25:48):
What was it?
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Jokes? Okay, I'll show you off, but like not like
not your picture in probably like Kristin Cavalari's ex, the
young one, right, who he's like an influencer. Oh you
talk about yeah, not like that?
Speaker 1 (26:01):
No, is it? I mean I don't he's an influencer.
I just feel like he's a TikTok famous.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
I mean that's an influencer.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Oh okay, so not like that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Different variation reasons we stopped dating. Okay, One religion differences.
One he ghosted. We heard about that one, literally ghosting
and Halloween ironic one. Uh, he didn't want to celebrate
my birthday. We also heard about that one in a variation.
Two we didn't live in the same city. Equally, We're
just like, this probably isn't gonna work. Two there was
(26:33):
just no connection, and three he was Three of them
were emotionally unavailable.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
Oh you could tell that that quickly, Yes.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Really really strongly emotionally unavailable. I think the the older
I get, the more quicker I can pick up on things,
especially the experiences I've had. So those are those, and
then some lessons I've learned from dating. This is my
last side. You'll be okay after being blindsided by a breakup.
Men are still emotionally unavailable past the age of thirty.
(27:03):
Really really wasn't prepared for that one.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
Oh yeah, I've yeah, I don't know someone in their fifties.
It's unavailable emotionally.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
So past the age.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
It is tricky because he seemed secure, and then he's
avoidant because he doesn't want to get too vulnerable. But
oftentimes avoidance will come across as secure. Yeah, in the
very beginning tricky.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
It is tricky. You have to stop waiting for a
partner to arrive to live your life. We were just
talking about that. Meeting in real life is more romantic.
I had dated, like so many people from dating apps,
but this experiences year, I've met more people in real
life and it's just been more fun, more like, Okay,
I like dating, not I'm dating for an app kind
(27:52):
of version, So it's been more fun. If you're on
dating apps prepared to be a raccoon, what does that mean,
like you're gonna have to sift through some trash, You're
gonna have to go. Yeah, you gotta be prepared, So
be a raccoon. If you're on the dating apps. Never
ghost somebody. Never, I you know how to being that
experience Again. As I'm like thirty one, I'm like, are
(28:13):
we really still this emotionally amateur? We don't know how
to communicate? Let's not. And I made sure to communicate
with all of mine. When they were ending that, I
was like, this is not even tho. It was awkward
and I hated it, and the text sending the text
was you know, it gives you a little deeper's creeper situation,
but you do it. You have to do it.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
So there was this one guy. I only met up
with them once for like a quick drink and at
like four pm and I had an out, like I
had a work thing I had to go, and he
asked me out again, and I sent a note so
they didn't want a ghost. And then he didn't reply
because it's just kindly saying this is not gonna work,
(28:52):
and he just didn't reply. And then three months later
Kat and I talked about this on the fifth thing
my podcast and I randomly got a reply from him
like three months later that was like, okay, thank you,
and I'm like, what are to die alive? I don't know.
I just assumed he was ignoring me, But I don't know.
(29:13):
It's so weird, huh. I don't even have that same
number anymore.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
But yeah, that one's not normal in any capacity. Like
I guess I get it as like a week later
because maybe he had some crazy.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
Work trip or whatever, but like, no, no, no, three
months it's weird. So also there's that if someone is
put together a thoughtful reply that's gonna maturely and things.
At least you could do is double tap it thumbs
up within three months later. I wonder if he was like,
(29:46):
oh shoot, I never replied to that, I better send
it now. But you would think you'd be like, it's
been three months.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
That is insane. I cannot believe he responded then, weird.
I'm just gonna choose to believe that he like dropped
off the map and like his phone got through into
an ocean or something.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
But then you would say, hey, sorry, I'm just now
replying my phone fell in the ocean.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
That's the only way that I can like process that
in my brain. Yeah, but see this is crazy things
that you experienced dating and wow, I really don't have
the words for that one. The last thing that I
have on here that I learned is you can't say
the wrong thing to the right person. So if you're
healing and you're growing and you're sharing your experiences, if
it's the right person that you're supposed to be with,
they're not gonna scare away easy. You're gonna be able
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to communicate with them. You're gonna be able to share
your feelings and obviously, like if you're being a straight
up jerk, yeah, that's probably gonna turn some people off.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
But mean and the flip side of that too. Sometimes
you feel like you can't do or say anything right,
Like maybe you can't that's not.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Your person, say the you can't say the right thing.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
Right to the wrong person or something. How would we
say that? Give me the original quote.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
You can't say the wrong thing to the.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Right person, Okay, and then you can't say the right
thing to the wrong person.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
There you go, Yeah, yeah, you know I was. I
remember one of these dates that I was sitting on
and it was the guy who wasn't gonna celebrate remember
it then and before that had happened, I said, you know,
I feel like I'm too much, and I remember having
that feeling, and I was like, I think this is it,
this is the moment. Yeah, I'm no. Yeah, like I'm
recognizing you're making me feel like I'm too much and
(31:24):
I'm not well.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
To be fair, he can't make you feel like you're
You're the one that feels it.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yeah, because of what he's gerating. His actions were making
me feel that way.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
So those are my lessons learned. That's my dating raft
of twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
And that's fun.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
I might do a little video of it or something.
We'll see, but yeah, he little pink presentation.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, I'm like, okay, I think going on, how many
did you think?
Speaker 2 (31:48):
That?
Speaker 1 (31:48):
As like an outline and then people fill it in
for themselves. There are three people, three first dates in
twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Okay, that's not bad. How many turned into a second date? Uh?
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Two?
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Okay? Only first kisses?
Speaker 1 (32:05):
Oh not, but not on the first state.
Speaker 2 (32:08):
It's okay, just like it's like your first kisses. Oh two, okay,
we had two? Where were the other ones? Oh? Where
did you meet them? Uh?
Speaker 1 (32:16):
One on hinge, oh, two on hinge even one that
the one that didn't reply for three months, and then
another through a friend.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Okay, oh, set a little setup. What do they do
for a livy? You don't have to share the one
that's current, you can share.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
The other two, uh business, I don't and one you forgot. No,
I had them all actually, I mean because it's only three.
That hard to keep up. But one like uh arc
landscape design okay, stuff, another like water just waters like oil.
(32:59):
Other one water sports, water recreation. Like the variety here,
I mean business is the next one like so business?
Ye that sometimes our conversations, I'm like, we live very
different lives.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Those are all.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Yeah. When you have that realization it's a work day
compared to mine, it's just almost comical, comicable, it's almost comical.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
Ere your guys's first dates.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
One was just down close to the office at the
top of the Thompson.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
What is that called?
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Yeah, are you talking about the Jackson? Yeah, l A Jackson,
l A Jackson. That was the four pm whatever one. Gosh,
where was it?
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (33:43):
Oh oh oh, the the cute greenhouse thing in Greenhill's
the greenhouse bar. That's what's called the greenhouse and uh
m Audrey.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Okay, nice, So we got lots of them. Okay, there's
our our dating wrap to me and Amy. I just
had a little bit more variation in there. But Amy, Amy,
I'm really happy for you.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Well, we'll hear more in twenty twenty five, I'm sure
of it. Okay, we're gonna take one more quick break.
We'll be right back. Okay, very serious question, not at
all related to the holidays or anything like that. So
I got a facial done lately. I got my pretty.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
Face shaved, the whole thing derma planing.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
Yes, but I have a question for you. When you
go and get like a facial done, they put you
in like you're in this cute little room and they
like give you a robe and stuff. Do you completely
undress or like what do you do in those scenarios?
Because I did, and I put the robe on because
I had to go under the blankets and it felt
weird keeping my pants on, like being under this like heated.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Oh yeah, I would say, I mean I keep mine
to wear on.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
But yeah, but like you okay, so yous.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
It just depends on how cold I am or five
on sweatpants or jeans, Like, how comfortable do I want
to be? Because if I had on sweats, i'd probab
keep them one because it's a facial. They're probably just
gonna be working with my neck and chest. Face.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Okay, yeah, you have sweats on. No, I have leggings on.
Oh but the bed was heated, and I was like,
am I gonna be like sweaty?
Speaker 1 (35:08):
And I like, you're fine.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
It just felt weird because they were just doing work
on my face. But I was like, you know, I
have this robot and I'm like naked and it feels
a little weird.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
No, I think it's okay. I've probably seen it all.
It's probably true, but still you know what I mean, Like,
I think it's somal. I want to be cozy. Yeah,
and leggings sometimes can be uncomfortable under sheets and blankets.
Sweatpants different, but leggings, and then sometimes the fuzz gets
all over on Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Okay, so you guys shouldn't be weird about it. No, okay. Well,
another thing that happened recently. I went to the Little
Big Town and sugar Land concert.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
Oh Ben, was it? That? Was? He?
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Really? I did not see him seam. No. I did
see a little big town though, and they were amazing.
Sugar Land, though, Amy I had like a A I
want to know if you've had a full circle moment,
maybe it's similar like this or something happen. But I
used to, you know, back when I wanted to be
a little singer. I used to sing the baby Girl
song from sugar Land, which is like dear mom and Dad,
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I'd placed in money.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Yeah, I'm so broke' funny yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
And so I heard this song live for the first
time because obviously Shuggarline hadn't meant to, like they had
taken some time, and so this was like their first
time back on tour and I got to hear that
song live for the first time since like I was
young and singing that to my parents and I'm like
living in Nashville and I have this life here now,
and that was always the thing.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Jennifer Nettles said that that song was a self fulfilling
prophecy for.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Her, really like where she sang it and it came true.
Oh see, that was like mine. I was like singing
it to my parents. I was like, I'm gonna move
to Nashville. One day and it was specifically Nashville. Now,
different career paths, but like it was Nashville always, and
just like standing there and I'm like, I have this
whole life in this career here and I'm living here,
and I was like standing there crying. I'm like, oh
my gosh, this is so full circle in this moment.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Oh yeah, that's a Goosebunz moment for sure. I mean
I have them right now for you.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
Yeah, it was. It was a cool moment. Have you
had one of those where you're like, this is this
is it? This is this full circle moment?
Speaker 1 (36:58):
M not that I can think of off the top
of my head right now, And that one's pretty special.
I mean you just had it.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Yeah, just so it's top of mind for me too.
So and I'm like throwing you out there because I
didn't give you time to prepare this one.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
Yeah no, but even if you did. I mean, I
feel like those are sometimes like maybe I haven't had
it yet or it's on the moment. I do think
I've had times where I get it, like it all
makes sense.
Speaker 2 (37:22):
Now, Okay, what's one of those moments?
Speaker 1 (37:26):
I can't say them not, I mean only because I
would it's just not my story, but so much makes
sense now. Okay, this one I can say because we
already talked about it on the air, but when we
got tested for the dyslexia. We talked about this even
recently on the show. But that was a moment where
(37:48):
I got goosebumps and cried and had this full circle
moment where it all made sense. Now. I know. It's
a little bit different than like, I'm not sitting there
listening to someone seeing back my dream moving, but it
was sort of closure on something.
Speaker 2 (38:03):
It's also it was probably a clarity for you for
a long time because you didn't feel understood.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Yeah, it asked like, oh this all makes sense now,
and uh yeah, there's a couple of other there's very
personal and maybe one day I can if there's a
story too about we'll call it lunch with I'll just
(38:27):
say lunch with Leslie because like, nobody's ever going to know.
But I don't think I'll ever write a book, but
if I do, one day, I have the title and
it's called lunch with Leslie.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
And wait, why lunch with Leslie? Can you say?
Speaker 1 (38:41):
I don't even know Leslie? But it changed my life.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Hey, okay, this leslie story that.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Yeah, it's uh so in the similar I guess since
we were talking about the dating stuff. Sometimes you don't
know why something is happening to you. You don't understand
because we don't have the full picture. But then if
you back up or once you've got some time, like
you said with you know, your ex boyfriend in August,
(39:11):
when you broke up with you, you're devastated, and now
that it's Christmas time, you're like, oh, this all makes
sense now. So for me, I was going on a
date with somebody and then I got a call from
a friend. I was like, Hey, are you still dating
so and so I was like yeah, he's like about
to pick me up. And she's like, well, I'm with
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someone that's going to lunch with them tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
And I was like what.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
So I was just very confused. So speaking of open
and honest communication and mature communication, I said something to
him and then that led to us continuing to date
other people because you weren't exclusive. I just was shot.
I just wasn't used to adult dating. And I talked
to my therapist about it, not even about him, but
just this whole idea of adult dating and going on
(40:00):
dates and getting to know yourself and what do you want,
what do you don't want. I don't think I really
had a good handle that anyway, But I didn't want
to have to date multiple people to figure it out,
and it just didn't seem fun to me. She's like, Look,
they don't have to be long dates. They don't have
to be intense, Like you can literally go to get
a drink or have dinner with somebody, or a hike
(40:22):
for a first day. It seems a little weird, but
you said you did that.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
We did a walk. It wasn't It wasn't like a
hike where we were out and you didn't have seale service.
It was like a walk at a golf course kind
of am.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Akay, yeah yeah good, Yeah, lots of people there to
make sure you're saying me was with me.
Speaker 2 (40:37):
So yeah, that wasn't allowed.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
So anyway, I confronted it. I feel like I'm telling
this really slow because I'm like trying to be like,
am I really telling this right now? And not that
it even matters. Again, it's just like not only my story, but.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
It's also at the moment that impacted your life.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
It totally impacted my life, because in that moment, I said, okay,
I believe his response to me was sort of, well,
that doesn't mean that I don't think that there's not
a future us. I'm just trying to figure it out.
And I said, okay, yeah, I have no idea if
there's a futuress and we can continue dating, and I
am going to date because that is what I do.
(41:13):
I adult date now. And I sort of said it
like that, and he said to me something like, you're
a really good communicator, and I said, well, thank you.
I'm trying because I think I could have gone the
entire day and not brought it up and held some
resentment and then confusion or just huffed and puffed and fine,
(41:34):
I'm going to go out with other people. But I
just decided that moment, Okay, we're going to adult date.
This is what adult dating looks like. And so I
did that, and that is what led me to figuring
out through another friend that had wanted me to set
I had wanted to set me up this one guy,
and I would have never gone out with him because
(41:55):
I was very much liking this other person, and I
think I would have just settled to not the right word,
because again, we hadn't even had the exclusive talk, but
we'd been out enough to where that was happening, or
at least in my mind. I was definitely shocked to
hear that there was a lunch with Leslie. But it
made me think about all the moments in life that
(42:17):
are sort of that it's that one thing that happens
that just changes everything. And in that case, for me,
it was I'm like, hey.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
Thank you lunch with Leslie because.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
It got me out there and I I now have
you know something that I'm really happy about, and that's
weird and that I never and and the thing about
this person is now I'm saying more than I thought
I was ever gonna say.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
I'm not pushing it.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
Anyway, I just had not I had for months avoided
this person. Well I think not because they're not a
good person. I just like, this would never work. Yeah,
so it's not gonna happen. And thank you, but I'm busy.
I never spoke to him directly, by the way, it
was through our friend.
Speaker 2 (43:08):
I'm really proud of you, though, because it's hard, like
it is hard navigating dating, especially coming out of being
married for years. Yeah, and you're thrown into this new
world and you're trying to understand and people are complicated,
Like I don't think people realize on the scope of
dating that you're dating someone as another human and you
(43:29):
think about your life and your life is complicated, right,
and you're going to date this other person in their
life is complicated too, But you can't understand it because
you're just meeting each other for the first time. So
it's not like you can sit there and be like,
I have your whole story and this is why you
are the way that you are. You have to figure
it out.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
I made a lot of assumptions based on paper, Like
you know, how you can see someone's good on paper. Yeah,
I decided we were bad on paper, you know.
Speaker 2 (43:53):
But that was also it was a version of you
looking out for yourself.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
And it's also a testament to timing too, because had
I accepted the connection way before, I wouldn't have been ready.
I had to go through more things and healing and growth,
and honestly, even in going out, I wasn't trying to
(44:18):
go out with the intent of, oh, this is going
to be something. I was going out just to learn
more about myself. I'm like, okay, fine, since I know
this is a person that's no on paper for me
at least, I mean, it could be a good practice.
And I've even said that to him now, so it's
not like hurtful.
Speaker 2 (44:34):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
He totally gets it, and I'm like, look, I just
kind of was like, oh, yeah, well I have people
that want to date me too, you know, yeah, You've
got lunch tomorrow, don't worry. People are been asking me
out for a while.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
You're having you're experiencing a lot of like first for
the first time in that whole moment too, of like
the feeling of a version of rejection, but not in
a direct a right of like this is how he's
setting this up. And you're also experiencing like okay, well
I like this person, but also there's no communication here.
What is happening. Then you're experiencing like all these other
(45:11):
influxes where you're supposed to be casually dating and you're
not exclusive, Like you're experiencing in that moment so many
firsts that you had. It had so like naturally the
experiences that you were having makes makes a lot of sense,
Like when you're looking at it now from a bird's eye, view.
You know what I mean, yep, And they're just different
variations of things you have experienced in life, but it's
(45:31):
completely different setting people subject.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
Well, since I already said too much, I'm gonna go
ahead and say, since people are listening to this and
it's best bits, and if they're still listening at this point,
I think that they're loyal fans at the show, so
let's just keep it all between us here.
Speaker 2 (45:46):
Okay, thanks, We will no voicemails to the big show.
Leave it here, and it's just a fun girl chat
that we just had with microphones. You got. Is that good? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (45:54):
No, it's fine. I didn't even reveal anything. I know
it's not. I mean people, I don't want anybody be
like what, what's a big deal? Who cares?
Speaker 2 (46:00):
But it's just you that you also have to remember, like, yes,
I love your respect for other people of like, it's
not just my story, but also you do have a
story and you have a role in it, and it's
your prerogative to do what you want with your story.
Speaker 1 (46:16):
Right, So I say anything, I think down the line
there will be some room for some of that, because
I do think it could be helpful for other people.
Some of it, some of the stuff that has come
full circle that makes sense now that when I was
in the thick of it, it was so hard. But
now it's like, oh my gosh, that all makes sense now.
(46:38):
And look where we are at this moment, and it's
it's a place I never thought we could be. But
I mean, we all had to put in the work,
and sometimes you have to dig in and do the
hard thing. Because I could have easily not done some
of the hard things through several of these examples that
I'm thinking of, and it could have gone a different direction,
(46:58):
which wouldn't have been as healing and felt is full
circle and probably wouldn't have made sense. I probably would
still be living in chaos.
Speaker 2 (47:06):
I was gonna say, I don't feel like you would
be where you are with who you are and what
you're doing now. I don't just based on that, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
So I think it's just some encouragement sometimes to like
dig in and do the hard thing because yeah, you
got it, it's forge ahead.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Look at us having for full circle moments before we
head into the new year. Twenty twenty four has been a.
Speaker 1 (47:27):
Year, Yeah it has so, But I'm not I mean
it's so weird, yours are so different. I'm like, yeah,
it has. But then when I think about it, and
I'm like, it's also been one of the best years
I've had it in a long time, Like for me
twenty twenty, twenty twenty one, twenty four two, twenty twenty three,
it's worth like horrible. We're on the up and up,
(47:51):
onward and upward. That's right, I love it. Okay, we're
getting out of here. Merry Christmas, everybody. Go check out
Amy's podcast for things of Amy Brown.
Speaker 2 (47:59):
You can check out mine Take This Personally and so
Much Chop is so much stuff again with the words
I started and ended with it or to heart. On
our YouTube page, you can check out lots of segments,
including our full Christmas show if you want to watch that. Okay, Amy,
thank you for coming on. I loved our girl chat.
It was fun dating Rapped with Amy and Morgan w
r AP rap Rapped and goodbye everybody. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays,
(48:23):
Stay safe. Bye. That's the best bits of the week
with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be sure to check out
the other two parts this weekend. Go follow the show
on all social platforms.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
Show and follow ed
Speaker 2 (48:35):
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