June 8, 2024 • 19 mins
Morgan and Amy answer listener submitted questions! Morgan shares a shoutouts from Kathy, Liz, Sheri, and Rob to kick things off. Then they talk about co-parenting lately, and Amy’s latest with perimenopause & testosterone. Amy has advice for a kid going through their parents’ divorce, and she updates on her big move. They wrap with rapid fire questions about colors, their own line of something, and LIFE.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
The Best Bits of the week with Morgan. It's Listener
Q and daytime.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your
questions over here on the listener Q and A. Amy
is with me.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Hey, Amy, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Not that we've moved, but we are now in part three,
we start out with some shout outs. Just wanted to
say I really enjoy the best Bits as much as
I love the show. Kathy from Boston, thank you so
much for listening. Kathy, That's awesome. I love the ladies
of the BBS.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
That's from MLZ. We love you back.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Two super kind and strong ladies. Sherry from Arkansas and Harks.
He didn't give me his full thing, but his instagram
is harks Rob comcast neet.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
He said, how are you both so beautiful?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Oh? I don't, thanks Rob.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
So start out with some shout outs. It's way to
make us feel good.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
How has the co parenting been going for you lately?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Karen and Sierra both asked.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
About this good.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I yeah, I think good. We've had a few new
things to navigate now that Been is dating but or
has not just dating. He has a girlfriend because he's
been dating but having one specific long relationship, and so
(01:18):
there's new things to navigate with that that I didn't
really think about, and I think I've had to surrender
some of my expectations, which has been hard, but also
totally okay. I have more peace about it because that's there.
He's creating a new life, and it's not that I'm like, oh,
(01:39):
I need to be a part of your life. I
just I don't know. We'll see how it all unfolds.
I'm very happy for him, and he's just created new
conversations and new scenarios and situations that we've never had
to discuss before. And I'm not saying I've always handled
it the best, just because i'm, you know, trying to
(02:00):
figure out your kids are spending time with somebody new
and trusting that the other person has, you know, made
a good choice, and whoever the partner is. I'm speaking
as a whole. I'm not even just talking about Ben.
I'm talking about so many people that are going through
this right now. And even as you, like, as I
(02:22):
start to date, knowing that who I'm dating, if they're
going to be around my kids, how are they showing
up and do they care about them?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Gosh, it's so tough.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I don't know, like dating was so hard for me
just as a single person, but I cannot imagine you're
also considering your kids going through that whole process at
the same time.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, I've been so thankful that Ben in his relationship,
has been very thoughtful of that with the kids, and
he is with someone that is very thoughtful with the kids,
and so in that I'm thankful. But when you when
you don't know you're at the beginning, it's you're little like, okay, well,
(03:02):
you know, and our kids being adopted and people in
and out of their lives. You know, you just want
to make sure.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
There's consistability as much as you can.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Or like how close are we going to get with
this person? And then how serious are things? But then
that's a boundary for me to cross if I'm trying
to understand how serious something is, and maybe not for everybody,
but for Ben doesn't have to tell me that. So
that's been interesting to navigate. I guess I've just yeah
(03:32):
new things, and I know that he'll have new things
when if I bring someone into the mix. But the
cool part is somebody had to go first, and we've
gone first with him, and I think we learned a lot,
so hopefully we kind of know.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
How to navigate.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Navigate you if a man is coming into the kid's life.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, yeah, which you know what, I hope it does
at some point when you're ready and when life happens,
I hope it does for you.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah. So I'm thankful for been being in a good
relationship with someone good and then you know TVD on Me.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
TVD Chrissy wants a Harry menopause.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
In testosterone Update, how are things?
Speaker 3 (04:13):
The testosterone has definitely helped the brain fog for sure.
I put it on the back of my knee every day,
two pumps, I do the cream. And the question I
get the most when I have talked about it online
is how do I get that? Do you have to
get a prescription? Can I just go buy testosterone cream?
(04:34):
And it's a prescription. So you also need to know
what dose you need, like do you need one pump?
Do you need two pumps? Do you need three?
Speaker 1 (04:41):
And how did you figure that out? Is just like
through a obgy.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
I went and got blood work done at my doctor
and realized I had wherever women are supposed to be
with testosterone, even like the lowest part that's acceptable for
women to have. I was below that, so I was like, oh, okay, well,
I guess I need some. And at the time, it
was really struggling with brain fog and just thought it
(05:07):
was me or something going Obviously it was something going
on with me, but you know, I would have never
associated it with testosterone. I just thought it was something
going on in my brain.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
It's wild how.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Our body reacts to things happening going on and putting
the pieces together. It's like our body's this giant puzzle
that were constantly trying to navigate right.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
And I was just lacking in that hormone. And once
I gave it that hormone, it started responding more appropriately.
So the brain fog is better, so I recommend it.
But some people love the pellets, some people love the cream.
I know that there's this. I think there's another option.
I've had people tell me about and I can't remember
what the oh, something they were putting under their tongue
(05:49):
and it was dissolving. My doctor never said that was
an option. She only gave me the pellet and the
cream option, and I opted for the cream, and I'm
for me that's worked. But everybody's body is so different.
So yeah, if you can get the blood work done
and figure out what you need. And when you're in
your forties, just so much changes. Lots of things change,
(06:12):
and yeah, stuff with my cycle. I mean, this might
be Tami, because who's the guy that give us the confliment?
We have got some guys listening, but you're the my hmm,
some hot flashes and my hormones, Like I feel like
I have to check my for lack of a better word,
rage more often, like I have to be in check
(06:36):
with it. But I try to pay attention, and I
try to be proactive and do things like to take
care of myself so that it doesn't at least your
right don't snap and scream or something.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
That's so hard.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
That's so hard to recognize that and stop that before
it happened.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
And when you're in the comfort of your own home,
it's like, well, I have to get out here, because
clearly I can control it and behave at work or
in public settings, but sometimes at home, like a it'll
just come over me and I feel like a animal
or something like I'm like, what is happening, which I
mean happening.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Like we see all those stories of people, especially like women,
when they're having this huge moment and it's in public.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
You're like, what is going on? Maybe that's what's going on?
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Oh yeah, I have a lot of compassion for now women.
It so perimenopause can often start anywhere from thirty five to.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Oh yeah, I have five more years. Cool. Well it's
different for everybody. That's that's the thing. But like if
I'm you know, look at.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
It from an outside picture, like, cool, I got five
more years.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Yeah, and I have a period like all the time.
Not all the time, but it feels like I'm just
always it just comes and goes and then comes and
I'm like, what is happening?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
You're like, this is not cool?
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Yeah, and my opgo is like, welcome to this is
just how your body's responding. But she did give me
comfort and that a lot of times people try to
fix this. Obviously, you need to regulate hormones if you can,
and take care of yourself and do things to serve
yourself during this season. And I'm just at the beginning,
(08:14):
so I've even gotten to feel like the really difficult part,
but also have grace for yourself and no, nut, you're
not broken. Nothing's wrong with you. This is quite literally
what your body's supposed to be doing. It's doing what
it's supposed to be doing. And then the testosterone has
nothing to do with my perimenopause.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
They're separate, got it.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
So just offering that reminder of having grace for yourself
and compassion because your body's doing what it's supposed to.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Do, well, that's so wild.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
That's the next time you scream at your house, be like,
it's cool, I have grace side compassion.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
You're like, it's okay, I can go through this. It's not.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah, just yeah, definitely make sure to do it at
your house. Maybe not in public at other people.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Yeah, you no can.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
I think I've talked about this with for like going
outside and throwing ice cubes and on my back porch.
I saw on TikTok this one girl goes into her
bathroom and she has a bowl of ice and she
just throws the ice into her bathtub.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I would be scared.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
I mean, I know the bathtub's durable, but I would
want to miss and like crack something. And I know
that it's ice, but I mean I can throw it
pretty hard. So that's why I felt safe doing it outside,
but in case you have neighbors and you're not like
able to do that. I did see the bathroom hack
for getting out some you know, just feelings or whatever's
happening to you.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I like it. That's a good life hack. What'll be
you right back?
Speaker 2 (09:39):
All right? This is from Kayla. How does your sister
feel about you moving from the house she had just
designed a room before.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
Yeah, she feels totally supportive and fine. She knows that
that house holds a lot of heavy memories and I
could have stayed in the home, and that's not one
hundred percent why I'm moved at all. But and the
reason why she came to decorate that room is because
it was the room that my dad was in and
she wanted to give it a new vibe because you know,
(10:09):
that's where I last really like spoke to him before
he passed away. And then there's other heaviness in that
house too, from other things, and I just I feel
okay releasing it. Of course we had the energy had
flipped and it felt good. But it also feels really
good to be moving. And so she's excited for me
to have a new start and a fresh start and
(10:30):
we're downsizing, and it's gonna be more quaint, which I've
always liked, and closer proximity to my kids and now
all these people I'm in teens I want to have
over at my house all the time. So she's excited
for that, and she's coming in town to help me
put the house together. So we'll just transfer everything Justice
(10:51):
pick it up the movers. Well, there's a little room
that's very similar, and we're just gonna redo the whole thing.
I mean it, not the Unfortunately, the walls probably won't happen.
That was one of my favorite things that she did,
her and her husband did at that house. I probably
won't repeat that here. But we'll lay the rug down,
put the chairs down, put the lamps up, that the
(11:12):
ca Bueno sign up that she had made, and it'll
feel like the same room.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah, so she's excited.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
She's literally coming to town the week that I moved
to help me.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Oh, I can't wait to see it all. It's going
to come together. So well, okay, this is coming. And
I didn't include her name just in case. My parents
just told me they're getting a divorce. I'm a young adult.
Any advice, I.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
Think that divorce really can impact adults. I experienced it
as a child. I sort of feel like I experienced
twice because my parents. My dad left when I was nine,
and my parents were not together. My dad had another relationship.
They lived together. It's basically they were husband and wife.
But then at eighteen, my parents legally got divorced, and
(11:56):
then my dad had a wedding and married his live
in girlfriend. So my best friend from high school and
I were talking about this when she was in town.
She came to Nashville for my birthday in March, and
she was like, remember your dad's wedding, Like, you did
not handle that well. I had to leave early, and
(12:17):
I think it's because I knew that my parents had
just signed their divorce papers like the week before, and
it's like they were waiting till I turned eighteen or something.
I don't know it was. I don't know why they
handled it the way that they did, but they chose to,
and my mom sort of at that moment. I think
if my dad would have said, Hay'm coming back, she
would have taken him back. So she was sort of waiting,
and I lived in this confusion, even though I'd go
(12:40):
over to my dad's and be like, well, there's my
dad in cricket, And then I'd be at my mom's
and she's single and not dating because she'd take my
dad back. And so for me, I experienced it at
nine years old, and then I experienced it at eighteen.
And I have other friends I know have experienced it
in their twenties. And you would think, well, you had
your parents together through your whole childhood and you know,
(13:04):
high school, college, like, maybe it won't impact you as much,
and it still really does. So I would say pay
attention to that. Talk to somebody if you can, do
you have friends you can talk to, Can you get
into some therapy to get ahead of things. So I
think there's just a lot of confusion that could come
up because you've looked at your parents a certain way
(13:24):
for twenty whatever years, and then now the whole dynamic
is changing, and you're grieving maybe the future you thought
you were going to have with your family, and just
having compassion and grace for your parents, knowing they're doing
the best that they can, at least, I would assume,
and that they're not trying to hurt you. At least
(13:46):
that's what I have to remind myself all the time
with Sasha and Stevenson and Ben and I getting a
divorce last year. But I'm definitely not a divorce expert.
I can I don't know what my kids are really feeling.
They seem to be a dusting well. But I did
see Tim Fletcher, really, this is his name. He's a
(14:06):
He's on Theovonne's podcast and he was talking about new research.
I don't know how new, but the divorce is affecting
children more than we have thought and more than we've
let onto. So I think as the parents divorcing, we
need to be more proactive and making sure that we
have the tools and the resources to support our kids
(14:28):
and ourselves during that time. And then as young adults,
since you are able and you are grown, you know.
In you're a kid, you don't know, you don't You
only have access to what you have access to. But
as a young adult, you're asking the right questions. You've
sent us a question. I'm not an expert. I can
just share with you that you have the ability to
try to get in contact with help, and I say
(14:52):
the to try, because I don't know everybody's financial situation.
Therapy can be expensive but maybe looking at where you're
investing other things, can you shift it around, because I
think this is a critical moment for you to make
sure that you handle it well and that will serve
you down the line so that it doesn't explode on
(15:14):
you when you're in your thirties and you're you.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Know, yeah, you never probablyss your own relationships and stuff.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I hope that helps. I'm really
sorry to hear that about your parents.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
I think that was really great advice. We're gonna go
from that and take one more break. We'll be right back,
all right, rapid fire. We're coming at you with four questions.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
You ready, ready?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
If you could have your own line of something, what
would you choose?
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Cookies? Cookies? Yeah, I was gonna say food too. I
don't really know what that food would be, but it
would definitely be a food.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
If I want my own line of cookies, that's like
everything in the kitchen sak, like the cookie that's like
the salty sweet cookie with the chips and the yeah. Yeah,
like everything in and everything except for no no raisins
and no nuts. Come on, no no raisins, no nuts.
Did by everything? I mean not that.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Okay, I'm with you. I think I might be like
a cheese. I love my own line of cheese because
I really like me too.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Well, it has been the best part about life recently.
Kirsten from Canada, Well.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
And I saw the cardinal as much as the guys
made fun of me. I saw a cardinal when I
went to an open house and I wasn't planning on
even selling my house. I just decided to randomly go
one day and I saw a cardinal and it was
my mom, and she gave me a message of peace,
like I felt it in my body. A piece that
came over me when I saw this cardinal and just
an you know, a piece that was saying, sell your house.
(16:36):
Everything's going to be fine. Sell your house, Everything's gonna
be fine. And I didn't have that piece prior to
seeing the bird. I wasn't even really for sure thinking
about selling my house at all. I just saw the
open house randomly and Caitlin and I decided to go.
And so that is that's like pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
And now you've sold your house.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, I mean in the way it all happened, it's
there's no way now. I totally believe that's cuckoo as
it sounds, You're not. She gave me that piece in
that moment, and I had to listen to it, and
I had to act. And I listened and I acted
and it boom boom boom, you know, And not to
say that something like that is easy. And there's certainly
(17:13):
been some hiccups. But even with the hiccups, I feel peace.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yes, and you're not cuckoo. Okay, I think it's great.
It's a great sign.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Mine would be. There's a lot of love in my
life right now, lots of weddings, lots of things happening
for all the people very close to me, and I'm
just very excited for everybody.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
So a lot of love happening.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
What is your favorite colors from Heather, whose favorite color
is seafood green?
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Whose favorite color is that?
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Heather the listener, Heather, Oh, her favorite color is see
sea phone.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Did I say seafood green?
Speaker 2 (17:43):
It recorrected, it corrected it on my screens seafood green,
seafhone green.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Well now it's navy and denam like a blue. Yeah,
uh huh.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I think mine is magenta.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
My still one is teal, but magenta has also come
into play.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I really love Magenta. It's all my nails right now.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
And any summer trips for either of you Alyssa and
Illinois and Mazie from.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Austin don't know yet because I'm moving and that's the priority.
So I just like gotta get moved.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Yeah, it's TVD on that, Okay, mine is no because
I'm in a well. I have trips, but they're literally
all weddings, bachelrette parties, everything. My whole vacation this year
has been taken over by that. So I'm going to
Michigan for the first time. That's for a bachelorette trip,
and then I go to Kinsas City here for a
wedding and back home.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
So yes, you have some travel.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
You're good travel.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
It's just not travel for me. It's travel for everything else. Yeah,
all right.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
We tell people where they can find to hear you
all that good stuff.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
At Radio Amy Uh and podcast is four Things with
Amy Brown. So those are some easy ways.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
And you can follow me at web girld Morgan and
please follow the show, check out some content at Bobby
Bones dot com and.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
At Bobby Boone Show. We'll see y'all later. Have a
great weekend. Bye.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
That's the best bits of week with Morgan.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
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Speaker 3 (19:07):
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Speaker 2 (19:09):
Girl Morgan to submit your listener questions for next week's episode.
The Best Bits of the week with Morgan. It's Listener
Q and daytime.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your
questions over here on the listener Q and A. Amy
is with me.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Hey, Amy, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Not that we've moved, but we are now in part three,
we start out with some shout outs. Just wanted to
say I really enjoy the best Bits as much as
I love the show. Kathy from Boston, thank you so
much for listening. Kathy, That's awesome. I love the ladies
of the BBS.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
That's from MLZ. We love you back.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Two super kind and strong ladies. Sherry from Arkansas and Harks.
He didn't give me his full thing, but his instagram
is harks Rob comcast neet.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
He said, how are you both so beautiful?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Oh? I don't, thanks Rob.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
So start out with some shout outs. It's way to
make us feel good.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
How has the co parenting been going for you lately?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Karen and Sierra both asked.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
About this good.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I yeah, I think good. We've had a few new
things to navigate now that Been is dating but or
has not just dating. He has a girlfriend because he's
been dating but having one specific long relationship, and so
(01:18):
there's new things to navigate with that that I didn't
really think about, and I think I've had to surrender
some of my expectations, which has been hard, but also
totally okay. I have more peace about it because that's there.
He's creating a new life, and it's not that I'm like, oh,
(01:39):
I need to be a part of your life. I
just I don't know. We'll see how it all unfolds.
I'm very happy for him, and he's just created new
conversations and new scenarios and situations that we've never had
to discuss before. And I'm not saying I've always handled
it the best, just because i'm, you know, trying to
(02:00):
figure out your kids are spending time with somebody new
and trusting that the other person has, you know, made
a good choice, and whoever the partner is. I'm speaking
as a whole. I'm not even just talking about Ben.
I'm talking about so many people that are going through
this right now. And even as you, like, as I
(02:22):
start to date, knowing that who I'm dating, if they're
going to be around my kids, how are they showing
up and do they care about them?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Gosh, it's so tough.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I don't know, like dating was so hard for me
just as a single person, but I cannot imagine you're
also considering your kids going through that whole process at
the same time.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, I've been so thankful that Ben in his relationship,
has been very thoughtful of that with the kids, and
he is with someone that is very thoughtful with the kids,
and so in that I'm thankful. But when you when
you don't know you're at the beginning, it's you're little like, okay, well,
(03:02):
you know, and our kids being adopted and people in
and out of their lives. You know, you just want
to make sure.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
There's consistability as much as you can.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Or like how close are we going to get with
this person? And then how serious are things? But then
that's a boundary for me to cross if I'm trying
to understand how serious something is, and maybe not for everybody,
but for Ben doesn't have to tell me that. So
that's been interesting to navigate. I guess I've just yeah
(03:32):
new things, and I know that he'll have new things
when if I bring someone into the mix. But the
cool part is somebody had to go first, and we've
gone first with him, and I think we learned a lot,
so hopefully we kind of know.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
How to navigate.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Navigate you if a man is coming into the kid's life.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, yeah, which you know what, I hope it does
at some point when you're ready and when life happens,
I hope it does for you.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah. So I'm thankful for been being in a good
relationship with someone good and then you know TVD on Me.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
TVD Chrissy wants a Harry menopause.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
In testosterone Update, how are things?
Speaker 3 (04:13):
The testosterone has definitely helped the brain fog for sure.
I put it on the back of my knee every day,
two pumps, I do the cream. And the question I
get the most when I have talked about it online
is how do I get that? Do you have to
get a prescription? Can I just go buy testosterone cream?
(04:34):
And it's a prescription. So you also need to know
what dose you need, like do you need one pump?
Do you need two pumps? Do you need three?
Speaker 1 (04:41):
And how did you figure that out? Is just like
through a obgy.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
I went and got blood work done at my doctor
and realized I had wherever women are supposed to be
with testosterone, even like the lowest part that's acceptable for
women to have. I was below that, so I was like, oh, okay, well,
I guess I need some. And at the time, it
was really struggling with brain fog and just thought it
(05:07):
was me or something going Obviously it was something going
on with me, but you know, I would have never
associated it with testosterone. I just thought it was something
going on in my brain.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
It's wild how.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Our body reacts to things happening going on and putting
the pieces together. It's like our body's this giant puzzle
that were constantly trying to navigate right.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
And I was just lacking in that hormone. And once
I gave it that hormone, it started responding more appropriately.
So the brain fog is better, so I recommend it.
But some people love the pellets, some people love the cream.
I know that there's this. I think there's another option.
I've had people tell me about and I can't remember
what the oh, something they were putting under their tongue
(05:49):
and it was dissolving. My doctor never said that was
an option. She only gave me the pellet and the
cream option, and I opted for the cream, and I'm
for me that's worked. But everybody's body is so different.
So yeah, if you can get the blood work done
and figure out what you need. And when you're in
your forties, just so much changes. Lots of things change,
(06:12):
and yeah, stuff with my cycle. I mean, this might
be Tami, because who's the guy that give us the confliment?
We have got some guys listening, but you're the my hmm,
some hot flashes and my hormones, Like I feel like
I have to check my for lack of a better word,
rage more often, like I have to be in check
(06:36):
with it. But I try to pay attention, and I
try to be proactive and do things like to take
care of myself so that it doesn't at least your
right don't snap and scream or something.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
That's so hard.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
That's so hard to recognize that and stop that before
it happened.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
And when you're in the comfort of your own home,
it's like, well, I have to get out here, because
clearly I can control it and behave at work or
in public settings, but sometimes at home, like a it'll
just come over me and I feel like a animal
or something like I'm like, what is happening, which I
mean happening.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Like we see all those stories of people, especially like women,
when they're having this huge moment and it's in public.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
You're like, what is going on? Maybe that's what's going on?
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Oh yeah, I have a lot of compassion for now women.
It so perimenopause can often start anywhere from thirty five to.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Oh yeah, I have five more years. Cool. Well it's
different for everybody. That's that's the thing. But like if
I'm you know, look at.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
It from an outside picture, like, cool, I got five
more years.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Yeah, and I have a period like all the time.
Not all the time, but it feels like I'm just
always it just comes and goes and then comes and
I'm like, what is happening?
Speaker 1 (07:50):
You're like, this is not cool?
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Yeah, and my opgo is like, welcome to this is
just how your body's responding. But she did give me
comfort and that a lot of times people try to
fix this. Obviously, you need to regulate hormones if you can,
and take care of yourself and do things to serve
yourself during this season. And I'm just at the beginning,
(08:14):
so I've even gotten to feel like the really difficult part,
but also have grace for yourself and no, nut, you're
not broken. Nothing's wrong with you. This is quite literally
what your body's supposed to be doing. It's doing what
it's supposed to be doing. And then the testosterone has
nothing to do with my perimenopause.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
They're separate, got it.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
So just offering that reminder of having grace for yourself
and compassion because your body's doing what it's supposed to.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Do, well, that's so wild.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
That's the next time you scream at your house, be like,
it's cool, I have grace side compassion.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
You're like, it's okay, I can go through this. It's not.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah, just yeah, definitely make sure to do it at
your house. Maybe not in public at other people.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Yeah, you no can.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
I think I've talked about this with for like going
outside and throwing ice cubes and on my back porch.
I saw on TikTok this one girl goes into her
bathroom and she has a bowl of ice and she
just throws the ice into her bathtub.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I would be scared.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
I mean, I know the bathtub's durable, but I would
want to miss and like crack something. And I know
that it's ice, but I mean I can throw it
pretty hard. So that's why I felt safe doing it outside,
but in case you have neighbors and you're not like
able to do that. I did see the bathroom hack
for getting out some you know, just feelings or whatever's
happening to you.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I like it. That's a good life hack. What'll be
you right back?
Speaker 2 (09:39):
All right? This is from Kayla. How does your sister
feel about you moving from the house she had just
designed a room before.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
Yeah, she feels totally supportive and fine. She knows that
that house holds a lot of heavy memories and I
could have stayed in the home, and that's not one
hundred percent why I'm moved at all. But and the
reason why she came to decorate that room is because
it was the room that my dad was in and
she wanted to give it a new vibe because you know,
(10:09):
that's where I last really like spoke to him before
he passed away. And then there's other heaviness in that
house too, from other things, and I just I feel
okay releasing it. Of course we had the energy had
flipped and it felt good. But it also feels really
good to be moving. And so she's excited for me
to have a new start and a fresh start and
(10:30):
we're downsizing, and it's gonna be more quaint, which I've
always liked, and closer proximity to my kids and now
all these people I'm in teens I want to have
over at my house all the time. So she's excited
for that, and she's coming in town to help me
put the house together. So we'll just transfer everything Justice
(10:51):
pick it up the movers. Well, there's a little room
that's very similar, and we're just gonna redo the whole thing.
I mean it, not the Unfortunately, the walls probably won't happen.
That was one of my favorite things that she did,
her and her husband did at that house. I probably
won't repeat that here. But we'll lay the rug down,
put the chairs down, put the lamps up, that the
(11:12):
ca Bueno sign up that she had made, and it'll
feel like the same room.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah, so she's excited.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
She's literally coming to town the week that I moved
to help me.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Oh, I can't wait to see it all. It's going
to come together. So well, okay, this is coming. And
I didn't include her name just in case. My parents
just told me they're getting a divorce. I'm a young adult.
Any advice, I.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
Think that divorce really can impact adults. I experienced it
as a child. I sort of feel like I experienced
twice because my parents. My dad left when I was nine,
and my parents were not together. My dad had another relationship.
They lived together. It's basically they were husband and wife.
But then at eighteen, my parents legally got divorced, and
(11:56):
then my dad had a wedding and married his live
in girlfriend. So my best friend from high school and
I were talking about this when she was in town.
She came to Nashville for my birthday in March, and
she was like, remember your dad's wedding, Like, you did
not handle that well. I had to leave early, and
(12:17):
I think it's because I knew that my parents had
just signed their divorce papers like the week before, and
it's like they were waiting till I turned eighteen or something.
I don't know it was. I don't know why they
handled it the way that they did, but they chose to,
and my mom sort of at that moment. I think
if my dad would have said, Hay'm coming back, she
would have taken him back. So she was sort of waiting,
and I lived in this confusion, even though I'd go
(12:40):
over to my dad's and be like, well, there's my
dad in cricket, And then I'd be at my mom's
and she's single and not dating because she'd take my
dad back. And so for me, I experienced it at
nine years old, and then I experienced it at eighteen.
And I have other friends I know have experienced it
in their twenties. And you would think, well, you had
your parents together through your whole childhood and you know,
(13:04):
high school, college, like, maybe it won't impact you as much,
and it still really does. So I would say pay
attention to that. Talk to somebody if you can, do
you have friends you can talk to, Can you get
into some therapy to get ahead of things. So I
think there's just a lot of confusion that could come
up because you've looked at your parents a certain way
(13:24):
for twenty whatever years, and then now the whole dynamic
is changing, and you're grieving maybe the future you thought
you were going to have with your family, and just
having compassion and grace for your parents, knowing they're doing
the best that they can, at least, I would assume,
and that they're not trying to hurt you. At least
(13:46):
that's what I have to remind myself all the time
with Sasha and Stevenson and Ben and I getting a
divorce last year. But I'm definitely not a divorce expert.
I can I don't know what my kids are really feeling.
They seem to be a dusting well. But I did
see Tim Fletcher, really, this is his name. He's a
(14:06):
He's on Theovonne's podcast and he was talking about new research.
I don't know how new, but the divorce is affecting
children more than we have thought and more than we've
let onto. So I think as the parents divorcing, we
need to be more proactive and making sure that we
have the tools and the resources to support our kids
(14:28):
and ourselves during that time. And then as young adults,
since you are able and you are grown, you know.
In you're a kid, you don't know, you don't You
only have access to what you have access to. But
as a young adult, you're asking the right questions. You've
sent us a question. I'm not an expert. I can
just share with you that you have the ability to
try to get in contact with help, and I say
(14:52):
the to try, because I don't know everybody's financial situation.
Therapy can be expensive but maybe looking at where you're
investing other things, can you shift it around, because I
think this is a critical moment for you to make
sure that you handle it well and that will serve
you down the line so that it doesn't explode on
(15:14):
you when you're in your thirties and you're you.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Know, yeah, you never probablyss your own relationships and stuff.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I hope that helps. I'm really
sorry to hear that about your parents.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
I think that was really great advice. We're gonna go
from that and take one more break. We'll be right back,
all right, rapid fire. We're coming at you with four questions.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
You ready, ready?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
If you could have your own line of something, what
would you choose?
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Cookies? Cookies? Yeah, I was gonna say food too. I
don't really know what that food would be, but it
would definitely be a food.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
If I want my own line of cookies, that's like
everything in the kitchen sak, like the cookie that's like
the salty sweet cookie with the chips and the yeah. Yeah,
like everything in and everything except for no no raisins
and no nuts. Come on, no no raisins, no nuts.
Did by everything? I mean not that.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Okay, I'm with you. I think I might be like
a cheese. I love my own line of cheese because
I really like me too.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Well, it has been the best part about life recently.
Kirsten from Canada, Well.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
And I saw the cardinal as much as the guys
made fun of me. I saw a cardinal when I
went to an open house and I wasn't planning on
even selling my house. I just decided to randomly go
one day and I saw a cardinal and it was
my mom, and she gave me a message of peace,
like I felt it in my body. A piece that
came over me when I saw this cardinal and just
an you know, a piece that was saying, sell your house.
(16:36):
Everything's going to be fine. Sell your house, Everything's gonna
be fine. And I didn't have that piece prior to
seeing the bird. I wasn't even really for sure thinking
about selling my house at all. I just saw the
open house randomly and Caitlin and I decided to go.
And so that is that's like pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
And now you've sold your house.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, I mean in the way it all happened, it's
there's no way now. I totally believe that's cuckoo as
it sounds, You're not. She gave me that piece in
that moment, and I had to listen to it, and
I had to act. And I listened and I acted
and it boom boom boom, you know, And not to
say that something like that is easy. And there's certainly
(17:13):
been some hiccups. But even with the hiccups, I feel peace.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yes, and you're not cuckoo. Okay, I think it's great.
It's a great sign.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Mine would be. There's a lot of love in my
life right now, lots of weddings, lots of things happening
for all the people very close to me, and I'm
just very excited for everybody.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
So a lot of love happening.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
What is your favorite colors from Heather, whose favorite color
is seafood green?
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Whose favorite color is that?
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Heather the listener, Heather, Oh, her favorite color is see
sea phone.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Did I say seafood green?
Speaker 2 (17:43):
It recorrected, it corrected it on my screens seafood green,
seafhone green.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Well now it's navy and denam like a blue. Yeah,
uh huh.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I think mine is magenta.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
My still one is teal, but magenta has also come
into play.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I really love Magenta. It's all my nails right now.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
And any summer trips for either of you Alyssa and
Illinois and Mazie from.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Austin don't know yet because I'm moving and that's the priority.
So I just like gotta get moved.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Yeah, it's TVD on that, Okay, mine is no because
I'm in a well. I have trips, but they're literally
all weddings, bachelrette parties, everything. My whole vacation this year
has been taken over by that. So I'm going to
Michigan for the first time. That's for a bachelorette trip,
and then I go to Kinsas City here for a
wedding and back home.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
So yes, you have some travel.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
You're good travel.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
It's just not travel for me. It's travel for everything else. Yeah,
all right.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
We tell people where they can find to hear you
all that good stuff.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
At Radio Amy Uh and podcast is four Things with
Amy Brown. So those are some easy ways.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
And you can follow me at web girld Morgan and
please follow the show, check out some content at Bobby
Bones dot com and.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
At Bobby Boone Show. We'll see y'all later. Have a
great weekend. Bye.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
That's the best bits of week with Morgan.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Go follow the show on all social platforms Bobby.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
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Speaker 2 (19:09):
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