September 10, 2024 • 29 mins
When Chiquis’ mother – Mexican American banda star Jenni Rivera – died in a plane crash in 2012, Chiquis, then 27, became the matriarch of her family and stepped up as the eldest daughter to take care of her four siblings. It’s been over a decade since her mother’s death and Chiquis is a banda star in her own right. Chiquis has won the Latin Grammy for Best Banda Album twice and is known for infusing traditional regional Mexican music with the American genres she grew up with in the Los Angeles area. Chiquis joins the Bright Side to chat about living life on camera in her new docuseries ‘Chiquis sin filtro,’ how being a big sister became a crucial part of her life and her latest ‘Diamantes’ tour.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hello Sunshine, Hey, besties.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Today on the bright Side, we're talking to Latin Grammy winner, author,
podcast host, and TV personality Cheeky's. She's telling us all
about our new show, Cheeky Sine Filthro, how to pull
off a secret wedding, and the importance of her role
as the ultimate big sister. It's Tuesday, September tenth. I'm
Simone Boyce.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from
Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to
share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Okay, Danielle as an eldest daughter, are you into older
sister core?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Okay, I'm not, only because it's too real for me,
Like I can't you know, like I can't read through
it because it's too real.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yeah, you know what, I'm not an oldest daughter, but
I feel like I understand the plight because I was
raised by one. So if any of our besties have
scrolled through TikTok recently, you might have noticed the hashtag
oldest Daughters, which has over a billion views. So clearly,
oldest daughters are finding this new kind of family on
social media where they can commiserate over shared experiences as
(01:13):
firstborn females. Danielle, the memes are hilarious, so you're totally
missing out. I love this one. It says, are you
happy or are you the oldest child? And also a girl?
Speaker 1 (01:22):
So true. When you are the oldest daughter, you are
the backup parent. You have no authority, but you have
all of the responsibility. It's like being an unpaid therapist,
a personal assistant. Your resume is so stacked. Yeah, that
makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
And now that you're saying that, I think about how
my mom was extra hard on me. At least that's
how it felt growing up. And I think that's because
she had to grow up so quickly as a big sister.
And I know from the stories that my mom has
told me that, like you mentioned, the eldest daughter role
comes with a lot of its own unique challenges and responsibilities.
(01:59):
I mean, I've even heard that sometimes it feels like
the weight of the world is on your shoulders.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
I mean, I don't know, that's definitely intense. I don't
know if I felt like I think my parents were
very much parents, so I didn't feel like the weight
of the world, but you do feel a responsibility to
set a good example and do the right thing. And
when I think about an oldest sibling, it's being an
oldest daughter is different than being an oldest son. And
(02:23):
I think this is a story that exemplifies it. A
friend of mine, a guy friend from growing up, is
having a baby and it's a girl. And I said, oh,
my goodness, congratulations, and he said, yeah, I'm so excited,
and you know, she's going to take care of everything
and take care of her younger siblings. And I was like,
would you say that if you were having a boy.
(02:46):
I don't think so. I think you would say, like,
I'm so excited for him to become a soccer player.
And I just think there's this expectation of eldest daughters
that is unwritten and written at the same time.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I actually like, if we do have a third kid,
I expect my sons to take care of the younger child,
you know. But maybe that's because it feels rare, and
I want to see that dynamic more in families where
we praise our sons for being nurturing and having those
(03:19):
like early parenting tendencies. But I think there's a balance
to it, right, Like you obviously don't want to overwhelm
them so much so that they don't feel like they
have a childhood.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah for sure. Well we're chatting about all of this
because our guest today is the ultimate big sister. Cheeky's
is the eldest daughter of the late influential singer Jenny Rivera,
known as La Diva de la Banda. Jenny sold over
twenty million albums worldwide and her records have reached gold
and platinum. And with all of those accolades, here's where
(03:50):
the story takes a tragic turn. Jenny died in a
plane crash in twenty twelve, leaving Cheeky's to become the
matriarch of her family. She has four siblings and she
took care of all of them so In twenty fourteen,
Cheeky's launched her own music career and her debut single,
Paloma Blanca, was a tribute to her late mother, and
(04:12):
since then, she's received several nominations and awards and won
the Latin Grammy for Best Bonda Album twice. She's known
for blending and defying several different genres like mariachi, r
and b country and Bonda, a Mexican style of music
which features wind instruments mostly of brass and percussion, and
now she's currently on her North American Diamantes tour. Well.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Cheeky's also has a new docu series out called Cheeky
Sine Fieltro meaning We're seeing Cheeky Swift no Filter, and
she's giving viewers a glimpse into her life now plus
a little journey back into her past. She's also the
host of Cheeky Sin Chill, where she shares how she's
navigating the male dominated music industry, what it was like
growing up in the spotlight from such a young age,
(04:56):
and she even gives some big sister advice to her listeners,
like how to get back to the dating pool after
a divorce and how to forgive people who've hurt you
in the past. So let's bring her in Cheeky's Welcome
to the bright side.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Oh thank you guys. I'm so excited. Thank you so much.
We're really excited to have you. You have great energy.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Your new docu series, Cheeky Sinfiltrow is out now. And
one extraordinary moment that we get to see as your
wedding to photographer Amelio Sanchez, which was this summer, first
of all, I've been a fan of his for a while.
He does great work. Second of all, congratulations, Oh thank
you so much.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
I'll let him know that that's how we met actually
through photography.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Well, you guys had this secret ceremony, which is actually,
I think my dream way to get married. I'm wondering
how you pulled it off, Like what is the key
to pulling off a secret wedding?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Inviting all the right people that I think was the thing.
And I feel bad because there's people in my life
that I didn't invite that I love. But if I
thought twice about it, I'm like, oh, could they tell someone?
I just I didn't invite them, And that doesn't mean
that they're less special or that they're less important in
my life. But I just wanted it to be in
(06:09):
the beginning just family. At first, I was like, letsie lope,
and then he's like, well what about my mom? And
then I said, well what about my siblings? And then
it just kind of grew from there and it went
from fifty guests to eighty five at the end. That's
a good number, though, Yeah, right, I thought that that
was like I really wanted it smaller, to be honest,
but I feel like everyone that was there, I was
very excited to see to hug. It wasn't like, oh,
(06:30):
I got to go to that table. It was just
these are my people, and I think that made the
biggest difference, and that's why I wasn't leaked. So I'm
just I'm grateful to know that the people invited I
can trust.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Well, I know you're a music person. You are a musician,
so I'm curious what song you chose for your first dance. Well,
the crazy thing is, we didn't have a first dance
because we just had the ceremony, which was like poolside
and then you guys will see it like later in
the season of Chikisinfildro. But and then we had a
little like dinner. So I didn't have a firstance. But
(07:01):
I did walk down to a song. It was a
song that he dedicated me and that my mom in
some way from Heaven. I know it sounds weird, dedicated
me as well. It was the song by your Side
by Shadah. I'm a huge Shadda fan, love sad, so
I walked down to that one and it was just like, oh,
it was crying, it was so beautiful. I'm sure everybody
(07:21):
was crying. When you walk down the aisle too, that's breathing.
So yeah, he was crying. I was crying.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
I was just so focused and like honed in on him.
But now that I watched the footage of sint Fhildro,
now I'm like, I saw my family and everyone was
kind of tearing up. Our vowels were so cute too,
So everyone was crying. It was a really very very
special ceremony.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
For sure.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
The whole series is super personal. It's raw, it's unfiltered.
Of course, that's in the title. How did you decide
what to show and what to keep sacred?
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Hmmm, it's a good question.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
The only thing I said was when the cameras came
back into my home, I said, my bedroom's off limits.
I believe a lot of energy and stuff, and I
was just like, look, my bedroom is just I don't
want the cameras in there. Other than that, I just
let things just flow. I didn't even really plan anything
because it is a docu follow so they were just
following my everyday agenda, like what I'm doing, and then
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if stuff just happened and came up, they covered it,
you know. But I didn't really even remove anything. I
just let it happen, and I knew what I was
getting myself into. And it also helps that I'm an
executive producer and I've done this and I did reality
for like ten years, so I knew what to say
and not to say. But in reality, I was like,
this is seeing feet little, this is no filter. I
have to just really live up to that, and I did.
(08:39):
I was like, well, here it is. I'm gonna let
it all hang out. You know, Chiki's you have accomplished
so much.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
You're a touring musician, you're an executive producer, like you mentioned,
you've been on several TV shows. And yet the accomplishment
that I think is the most powerful or meaningful or
says the most about you is how you stepped in
for your siblings in the wake of your mother's passing.
As the oldest of your siblings, you really became the
(09:06):
matriarch of the family, Like you know, beyond the duties
of an elder sister. You raised your siblings as if
they were your own children and became almost like a
mother to them. How do you think that shaped the
woman that we're speaking with today.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Oh, my goodness, it's crazy that you bring that up
right now, because I didn't realize. But Johnny, my brother,
the youngest, who's now twenty three, he posted something yesterday
and sent me a message and said, you know today,
Mark's ten years that you got custody of Jenica and
I my other sister.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
And I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
It hit me because again I'm so focused and I'm
doing my thing that I just keep going.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
I just keep pressing forward.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
But when I sit back, and I was on the airplane,
and I don't know if you guys are the same way,
but every time I want an airplane, I don't know
if it's because I'm in the sky, but I get
very very emotional all the time. I watch a movie,
i read something, and I start crying. So of course
I was like crying. I'm like, oh my god, like
this is crazy. And I told him, I said I
would do it over and over again, even if it
meant that I had to face the adversity that I've
(10:09):
had to face, Like all of that has molded me
to become the woman that I am today, Like I
wouldn't change anything. For so long I would ask my mom,
why am I the eldest. Why do I have to
always be the example? There was so much pressure growing
up and it was just a lot, and I'm like,
oh my gosh, Like it was a lot, and now
I understand why. Now I'm like, Okay, it was God's
plan and I'm grateful, even if it meant that I
(10:32):
had a lot of painful moments. You know. So I
definitely think that being a mother or second mother to
my siblings and being my mom's right hand it really
helped prepare me for these moments that I'm now living,
and even to be a mom now to have my
own kids, Like, I know what to expect. I guess
(10:52):
I'm afraid of loving someone so much because I'm like,
if I love my siblings as much as I love them,
imagine a child that's going to come out of my body.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
You know. That's so that does scare me a little bit.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I'm like, oh my gosh, to love someone that much,
that really does something to me.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
But other than that, I'm like, I know what to do.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I got this. My siblings are everything to me.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Okay, I'm going to ask you a question about being
the oldest sister. Yes, you know, there have been studies
that have shown that eldest siblings tend to be more extroverted, agreeable, conscientious.
I actually think that the elder sister dynamic is its
own thing, It's its own identity. I think a lot
of times for older sisters it can manifest like all
(11:34):
that conscientiousness and pressure, it can manifest in anxiety or
I don't know. It comes out differently for each person obviously,
But do you identify with those traditional older sister traits?
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Absolutely I do. I've had to learn through therapy. I'm
a huge advocate for therapy because it helped me a lot.
I was very overbearing. I felt like I knew it
all too like it's you got to listen to me,
like I know, I'm your sister, like been there, done
that sort of thing, and it's not okay, it's not fair,
(12:06):
you know. And I had to learn to step back
and stop the mother role and just be a sister
and be that supporting teammate. And that was very difficult
for me. Now I'm like, all right, cool, Johnny just
moved out. You guys also see that on cheek seen
feed throw. That was devastating to me. But now I'm like, okay,
I'm living my life for me. But still I'm trying,
(12:29):
you know, but definitely I do identify with it for sure.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
We need to take a quick break, but we'll be
right back with more from Latin Grammy winning artist Cheekyese.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
And we're back with Cheeky's. So you recently accepted a
star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame for your mom,
Jenny Rivera, I can't imagine just how meaningful and emotional
that must have been.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
What was that moment like for you? It was surreal
right now when you mentioned it, I got chills. I
was just like, wow, Like, it's so cool to say
that my mom is a legend, you know, and she
did so much for the community, and more than anything,
I want people and my siblings and I feel the
(13:23):
same way. I want her fans and people to know
her as the woman. Yes, of course her artistry and
everything that she accomplished is huge, but more than anything,
the woman. And that's why we were so excited to know,
you know, a girl that was born and raised in
Long Beach and wasn't supposed to make it quote unquote,
she did. My mom was a woman that would claim
things it wasn't where.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Oh I wish.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
I wish it was I'm going to have a star
on the Hollywood Walk of Fame one day, and I
remember those conversations and then to see it, you know,
come to life and her actually getting her star, obviously
it hurt more because she wasn't here physically, but I
was so proud to say, wow, like we did this
for her because I know that was a huge, huge
dream of hers. I'm very proud of her. That's what
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I feel in my heart. I'm like, I'm just I'm
very proud of her and proud to say that that's
my mom.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
You said that you kind of felt her on your
wedding day when you were walking down the aisle. Were
you able to feel her at that moment too.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Absolutely, and my siblings and I didn't say anything to
one another right away, but before walking out to where
the star is, I felt this crazy feeling.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
There were helicopters.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
I'm like, oh my gosh, this is huge, Like this
is I guess I didn't really realize until I was there,
and because I'm so focused on everything that I'm doing,
but then I was like, Okay, this is today, this's happening.
We all kind of just felt this beautiful breeze and
the day was so like amazing, the weather was great.
So I think I definitely felt her. And then later
on my siblings and I were like, oh my gosh,
(14:54):
I felt it too. I felt like a special presence,
and I'm like, well, that has to be mom. You know.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
It was really cool. So in the very first episode
of Cheeky Sinfieldtrow you said, when you're going through something,
the best thing you can do is be happy and
say thank you for the chance to learn and to grow.
And that is coming from a very evolved person who
has been through a whole heck of a lot. How
did you reach that point, because I can't imagine that
(15:19):
was the first instinct you had all those years ago. No,
it definitely wasn't.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
I think it was just a choice and the only
way I was going to get through is to know that.
It's part of my testimony. It's part of the story
that I'm going to tell my children or my fans
of Like, Okay, I'm the type of person that I
and it sounds very I don't know, I guess, cliche,
(15:44):
but it's like, oh, very positive. I try to find
the positive in everything. I feel like everything happens for
a reason. I really really feel that, and I think
that that's what helped me. I just said, well, I mean,
this is a learning lesson, and I have a choice.
This happened to me. I can either victimize myself or
I can grow from it. Any situation, we can always
find something positive to pull out of it, and it
(16:07):
is up to us to say, Okay, I either sink
or I swim. And I just chose to swim. Kind
of like Dori, I always say that I might keep
on swimming, keep on swimming. I was like, I figured out,
you know, and that's what's helped me. I had no
other choice. I was like, well again, because I am
the eldest, I always had to be that example. So
my siblings were always in the back of my mind work.
(16:28):
I have to show them that this is possible. I
have to keep going, you know. I have to be
an extension of my mom and what she taught us.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
That's really powerful. I think of like the lineage of
women's strength that has come before me too. When I
need to grab onto something for sure, Simone and I
have this thing. We're very similar in this. We say
we give ourselves twenty four hours. If we're sad, to
wallow in it and then it's time to get up
and get going. I'm curious what your process is when
(17:00):
like the be happy mantra doesn't come as easily. You
know what these past I want to say month, I've
it's been I haven't felt like this in a long time,
where I'll have two good days and then I have
a bad day and it's like I haven't felt this,
and I'm like, Okay, is it the retrograde? Is it
like the blue moon that just happened? Like I want
(17:21):
to blame everything else, you know, but it's just life,
you know. And I've had a very difficult time with
again me too, I'm like, Okay, I feel sad. I'm
going to feel these feelings. I'm going to validate them,
and then I'm not gonna let this day become two days,
three days the way I used to. So I'm like,
I have to again, I have to get back up.
But what really really helps me is a good book.
(17:44):
And that's what's been helping me this past month. I'll
have a book in my purse, and now that I'm
flying so much, I'll read some pages a chapter. I'm
not like I don't read as much as I used to,
But I really am intentional with reading or meditating, like
just closing my eyes and just breathing and reminding myself
that this too shall pass.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
It's okay, it's just a moment. It's not a bad life.
It's just a bad day, and it helps me. But
I've been struggling for the past month. To be honest,
I think it's just because I'm tired, you know what
I mean. Like, I've I have a lot going on,
and I don't want to be ungrateful, but my body,
I'm a little exhausted, you know. So I think that's all.
And I'm like, okay, it's okay, it's okay. I asked
(18:25):
for this. I have to remind myself you asked for this.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
You probably have a lot of time to read whenever
you're on the road, traveling between destinations because you are
a Grammy Award winning musician.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
You just came off of a huge tour.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
For people who haven't been to a cheeky show yet,
what can they expect?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I was just talking to a Milio about this about
my show, and he was just telling me how fun
they are. You know, and I'm like yeah, I was like,
I haven't been on stage for like two months, and
I miss it so much. My shows are an experience.
I want people to go on this emotional roller coaster
with me. I'm gonna make you happy. I might make
you cry, but you're going to leave there super happy
and inspired. And I feel that if I'm going to
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be on stage and I have this huge responsibility of
having a mic in my hand, then i need to
use my voice for good. And even if I'm drinking
and I'm being crazy and I'm torking because I dance,
I do it all on stage. I want people to
leave with something in their heart, imprinted in their heart
and in their mind. So for me, that's super important.
(19:26):
Every show is very different. I don't rehearse it. I
don't rehearse what I'm going to say. I just go
with the flow what the audience makes me feel. And
every tour has I'm very old school in that sense
of like I like finished albums. So with that album
and that concept comes the tour and what I'm going
to talk about. And right now it's the amanthis tour,
so we're talking about how a Diamond was made and
(19:48):
under pressure and in dirt basically, and how long it's
taken that to what I feel that I'm doing right now.
And I listen to everything. I love R and B,
I love rap, and that's what I do in my shows,
like I'm kind of yes, I'm sinking band and I
have a hanna on, you know, very traditional, but I'm rapping.
Especially with this last album, you're going to hear a
lot of that, the fusions of country and R and
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B and all those things that I listen to that
have inspired me to sing. And I'm also like, I'm
not afraid, and I think that that's why I've been
able to kind of do my own thing and not
necessarily stay in my mom's shadow because I was for
so long, Because I'm like, I'm not afraid of stepping
out of my comfort zone and shaking things up a
little bit, because that's the only way I feel that
(20:30):
you're going to make history.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
I think you're doing it in a really cool way
because your mom was and is such a legend, and
so you get that respect from the Latin community in particular,
and then you're putting your own cheeky's twist on it.
No thank you so much. I want to pay so collab.
Is there anybody that you want to collab with? Yes,
I would love to do something with Carol ge. I
(20:52):
love what she's doing. I think she's a wonderful human
being and as a woman and everything that she's you know,
she's broken so many barriers and for me, it's someone
that I absolutely admire. So that's someone that's like high
on my list. Galiu Cheese as well, I think is
super awesome. I love that.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
I'd love to do something with BESL. We actually have
the same manager, so this has to happen, I know, right, Yeah,
I know. And the thing is, I think we're waiting
for the right song. I think he's the same. We
can't force it. It just has to kind of happen organically,
and I'd prefer it that way anyways. So yeah, I
mean maybe maybe maybe we'll do it. You know, we'll see.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I'm holding that vision for your Cheeky's thank you put
it on your vision word please. I love that we
need to take another short break, but when we come back,
Cheeky's answers your questions about beauty, friendship, and entrepreneurship stick
with us. We're back with Cheeky's So.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
For music to podcast. You have a podcast called Cheeky
and Chill. And one thing I love about the way
you do your podcast is that you seamlessly flow between
English and Spanish. It's like you're creating something for both
a very specific audience and a broader audience at the
same time. Yeah, what reaction have you gotten from the
(22:18):
LATINX community about the show?
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Oh? Thank you.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
I have Cheekys and Chill on Mondays and then on Wednesday,
I have Dear Cheeky. So people ask me questions and
I do my best to give them my best advice.
For sure, like a big sister, I think it works
out because I'm a big sister. You know, it's doing
very well in the comments that I receive. It's such
a beautiful compliment for me because I feel like the
people that are listening to my podcast are people just
(22:42):
like me. You know that we're here nor there, and
it's kind of like the two hundred percent where you're
one hundred percent you know, Latin one hundred percent American,
and I'm like, those are the people that I'm talking to,
and I'm receiving that feedback because as one thing I
told them, if I'm going to do a podcast, I
need to just be myself and I express myself a
lot better to be honest in English, but I always
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will put a word here there in Spanish all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
It's just who I am.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
And I do receive a lot of great feedback, and
that's amazing because I love to podcast.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
It's like therapy for me. It's really I love it.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I'm like, I'm just talking to a microphone unless I
have like an invite, but I'm like, I love it.
I'm just letting it all out too.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Is there a question that's stumped you or one that
still kind of haunts you today? A question that a
user has sent in listening.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
Yes, and it came from an anonymous listener. Because I
never listened to the questions prior, I let my producers
put them on right then and there, and you get
my reactions, like my natural reaction, because I just like,
what comes from the heart reaches a heart, you know.
So one time a girl asked me, I don't know
if I can say this is that like? But I mean,
(23:50):
I'll be honest. She was saying that she had been
dating this guy for a few months and they had
finally had sex and he had a very small penis,
but she really liked him, and she didn't know how
to tell him how they can just try different positions
or something like that because he had a small piness.
I was just like, I was very caught off guard.
I was like, oh my goodness, I don't even know
how to deal with this right now. But I don't
(24:11):
even remember what I said, but that did shock me.
I was like, Okay, well, if you like him, that's good.
I mean, you guys will figure it out.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
Cheeky's I feel like somebody wrote this question and to
troll you. You think, I know. Honestly, I swear I've
thought that.
Speaker 3 (24:26):
I'm like, yeah, are these my I've even thought I'm like,
are these my producers?
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Like trying to get me? It's one of your best
friends who's trolling you for real? Oh my gosh. Yeah,
I was so ungoted. I was like, oh my gosh,
am I gonna help this grow it out? Yeah? Well,
with that in mind, we have a few questions we're
going to read to you from our bright side besties.
There's a range. Okay, some are light, some are heavy.
(24:50):
But with all of that said, are you ready to
give us some big sister advice. I am ready. Oh
that Cheeky's my best friend is in a relationship with
a guy that I'm not a fan of. Early on
in their relationship, I told her I was worried about
her because there was a lot of drama and she
was crying every time I spoke with her. They quickly
moved in together, and since I mentioned I was worried
about her, she's never mentioned him to me again, like,
(25:12):
barely even mentioned they moved in together. She's my best
friend and I want her to know that I'm here
for her, but it's totally awkward that she doesn't mention
one of the biggest things in her life. Any advice
on how to address it or should I just let
it be and follow her lead?
Speaker 3 (25:25):
Ooh, that's a good question. I think your friend probably
knows that she's not in a good relationship and doesn't
want to hear the truth because she just kind of
wants to live this And I think you, as a
good friend, should probably just let it be and say hey,
I am here, and if it doesn't work out, don't
say I told you so. I would go and say, hey,
(25:45):
I've noticed that you haven't been telling me about your boyfriend.
I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, if I made
you feel uncomfortable, I'll reserve my opinion. But I want
to be here for you and I want to hear
about what's going on in your life, so please feel free.
I don't want to feel like you're excluding me. I'm
here for you. I think even if she decides after
(26:06):
that not to share anything with you, then I would
just leave it at that. But I think you should
be the first to say, hey, I'm here, I love
you and I respect your decision, so that that way
she feels comfortable with sharing, and just be there for her.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
It's tough. Been there. Yeah, that's not an easy one,
but you gave great advice. Okay.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Question number two for people who are aspiring entrepreneurs, what
would be your words of advice for them?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Hmm, definitely do it. Try it.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
I just know because when I started my first business,
I felt it was Just know that it's all part
of the process. Do not be afraid of failure. It's
going to help you appreciate success and teach you a
lot along the way.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Try it.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
Don't live with you. What if I tried it. What
if don't let fear stop you.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Do it.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Try it, save your money, don't leave your job completely.
Like still do that, and you know, have your ducks
in a row and save some money and do it
whatever it may be. I mean, the great thing about
social media is that it's helping a lot of entrepreneurs
and small businesses. So I think it's a lot easier
than five ten years ago even so definitely try it.
(27:20):
Don't let fear stop you.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Okay, question number three, I know for years you've struggled
with being self conscious about your arms. What's your secret?
Speaker 3 (27:30):
I did forever? Okay, Well, first of all, I put
it on my vision board. I put some really nice arms,
and I put my little face on the girl. And
also I've been working out as part of my lifestyle.
But I also went to a doctor.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Guys.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
I went to a doctor called Celebrity Arms or something
like that on Instagram, and he's in Tampa, and he
did this amazing light bow on my arms, you guys,
And I'm so happy I did it before I lost weight,
which I wish I would have waited a little bit,
but I am very happy with my arms. He toned
like he made them like look very like if I
worked out for I don't know, ten years NonStop. So
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I'm really happy with them now and I'm still keeping
it up, you know, I'm working out. So yeah, that's
that's my secret. That's what happened. That's awesome. Good for you.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Thank you for sharing that with us. Of course, Cheeky's
this has been so much fun. You are totally the
internet's favorite big sister. Thanks for coming on the right side.
Thank you, ladies. I appreciate it. I love it.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
I thank you for your time and hopefully were I
would help a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Cheekys is a musician, author, and TV personality with the
new show Cheeky Sinfiltro now streaming on the platform vix.
You can hear more of her and her big sister
advice on our podcast, Cheekys and Chill.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
That's it for today's show. Tomorrow, it's Wellness Wednesday. Happiness
and well being advocate Karen Guggenheim joins us to share
how we can all bring more happiness into our lives.
Listen and follow the bright Side on the iHeartRadio app,
Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Simone voice.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
You can find me at Simone Boice on Instagram and TikTok.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's r v A.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Y see you tomorrow, Folks. Keep looking on the bright side.
Hello Sunshine, Hey, besties.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Today on the bright Side, we're talking to Latin Grammy winner, author,
podcast host, and TV personality Cheeky's. She's telling us all
about our new show, Cheeky Sine Filthro, how to pull
off a secret wedding, and the importance of her role
as the ultimate big sister. It's Tuesday, September tenth. I'm
Simone Boyce.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from
Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to
share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Okay, Danielle as an eldest daughter, are you into older
sister core?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Okay, I'm not, only because it's too real for me,
Like I can't you know, like I can't read through
it because it's too real.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yeah, you know what, I'm not an oldest daughter, but
I feel like I understand the plight because I was
raised by one. So if any of our besties have
scrolled through TikTok recently, you might have noticed the hashtag
oldest Daughters, which has over a billion views. So clearly,
oldest daughters are finding this new kind of family on
social media where they can commiserate over shared experiences as
(01:13):
firstborn females. Danielle, the memes are hilarious, so you're totally
missing out. I love this one. It says, are you
happy or are you the oldest child? And also a girl?
Speaker 1 (01:22):
So true. When you are the oldest daughter, you are
the backup parent. You have no authority, but you have
all of the responsibility. It's like being an unpaid therapist,
a personal assistant. Your resume is so stacked. Yeah, that
makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
And now that you're saying that, I think about how
my mom was extra hard on me. At least that's
how it felt growing up. And I think that's because
she had to grow up so quickly as a big sister.
And I know from the stories that my mom has
told me that, like you mentioned, the eldest daughter role
comes with a lot of its own unique challenges and responsibilities.
(01:59):
I mean, I've even heard that sometimes it feels like
the weight of the world is on your shoulders.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
I mean, I don't know, that's definitely intense. I don't
know if I felt like I think my parents were
very much parents, so I didn't feel like the weight
of the world, but you do feel a responsibility to
set a good example and do the right thing. And
when I think about an oldest sibling, it's being an
oldest daughter is different than being an oldest son. And
(02:23):
I think this is a story that exemplifies it. A
friend of mine, a guy friend from growing up, is
having a baby and it's a girl. And I said, oh,
my goodness, congratulations, and he said, yeah, I'm so excited,
and you know, she's going to take care of everything
and take care of her younger siblings. And I was like,
would you say that if you were having a boy.
(02:46):
I don't think so. I think you would say, like,
I'm so excited for him to become a soccer player.
And I just think there's this expectation of eldest daughters
that is unwritten and written at the same time.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I actually like, if we do have a third kid,
I expect my sons to take care of the younger child,
you know. But maybe that's because it feels rare, and
I want to see that dynamic more in families where
we praise our sons for being nurturing and having those
(03:19):
like early parenting tendencies. But I think there's a balance
to it, right, Like you obviously don't want to overwhelm
them so much so that they don't feel like they
have a childhood.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah for sure. Well we're chatting about all of this
because our guest today is the ultimate big sister. Cheeky's
is the eldest daughter of the late influential singer Jenny Rivera,
known as La Diva de la Banda. Jenny sold over
twenty million albums worldwide and her records have reached gold
and platinum. And with all of those accolades, here's where
(03:50):
the story takes a tragic turn. Jenny died in a
plane crash in twenty twelve, leaving Cheeky's to become the
matriarch of her family. She has four siblings and she
took care of all of them so In twenty fourteen,
Cheeky's launched her own music career and her debut single,
Paloma Blanca, was a tribute to her late mother, and
(04:12):
since then, she's received several nominations and awards and won
the Latin Grammy for Best Bonda Album twice. She's known
for blending and defying several different genres like mariachi, r
and b country and Bonda, a Mexican style of music
which features wind instruments mostly of brass and percussion, and
now she's currently on her North American Diamantes tour. Well.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Cheeky's also has a new docu series out called Cheeky
Sine Fieltro meaning We're seeing Cheeky Swift no Filter, and
she's giving viewers a glimpse into her life now plus
a little journey back into her past. She's also the
host of Cheeky Sin Chill, where she shares how she's
navigating the male dominated music industry, what it was like
growing up in the spotlight from such a young age,
(04:56):
and she even gives some big sister advice to her listeners,
like how to get back to the dating pool after
a divorce and how to forgive people who've hurt you
in the past. So let's bring her in Cheeky's Welcome
to the bright side.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Oh thank you guys. I'm so excited. Thank you so much.
We're really excited to have you. You have great energy.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Your new docu series, Cheeky Sinfiltrow is out now. And
one extraordinary moment that we get to see as your
wedding to photographer Amelio Sanchez, which was this summer, first
of all, I've been a fan of his for a while.
He does great work. Second of all, congratulations, Oh thank
you so much.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
I'll let him know that that's how we met actually
through photography.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Well, you guys had this secret ceremony, which is actually,
I think my dream way to get married. I'm wondering
how you pulled it off, Like what is the key
to pulling off a secret wedding?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Inviting all the right people that I think was the thing.
And I feel bad because there's people in my life
that I didn't invite that I love. But if I
thought twice about it, I'm like, oh, could they tell someone?
I just I didn't invite them, And that doesn't mean
that they're less special or that they're less important in
my life. But I just wanted it to be in
(06:09):
the beginning just family. At first, I was like, letsie lope,
and then he's like, well what about my mom? And
then I said, well what about my siblings? And then
it just kind of grew from there and it went
from fifty guests to eighty five at the end. That's
a good number, though, Yeah, right, I thought that that
was like I really wanted it smaller, to be honest,
but I feel like everyone that was there, I was
very excited to see to hug. It wasn't like, oh,
(06:30):
I got to go to that table. It was just
these are my people, and I think that made the
biggest difference, and that's why I wasn't leaked. So I'm
just I'm grateful to know that the people invited I
can trust.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Well, I know you're a music person. You are a musician,
so I'm curious what song you chose for your first dance. Well,
the crazy thing is, we didn't have a first dance
because we just had the ceremony, which was like poolside
and then you guys will see it like later in
the season of Chikisinfildro. But and then we had a
little like dinner. So I didn't have a firstance. But
(07:01):
I did walk down to a song. It was a
song that he dedicated me and that my mom in
some way from Heaven. I know it sounds weird, dedicated
me as well. It was the song by your Side
by Shadah. I'm a huge Shadda fan, love sad, so
I walked down to that one and it was just like, oh,
it was crying, it was so beautiful. I'm sure everybody
(07:21):
was crying. When you walk down the aisle too, that's breathing.
So yeah, he was crying. I was crying.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
I was just so focused and like honed in on him.
But now that I watched the footage of sint Fhildro,
now I'm like, I saw my family and everyone was
kind of tearing up. Our vowels were so cute too,
So everyone was crying. It was a really very very
special ceremony.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
For sure.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
The whole series is super personal. It's raw, it's unfiltered.
Of course, that's in the title. How did you decide
what to show and what to keep sacred?
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Hmmm, it's a good question.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
The only thing I said was when the cameras came
back into my home, I said, my bedroom's off limits.
I believe a lot of energy and stuff, and I
was just like, look, my bedroom is just I don't
want the cameras in there. Other than that, I just
let things just flow. I didn't even really plan anything
because it is a docu follow so they were just
following my everyday agenda, like what I'm doing, and then
(08:16):
if stuff just happened and came up, they covered it,
you know. But I didn't really even remove anything. I
just let it happen, and I knew what I was
getting myself into. And it also helps that I'm an
executive producer and I've done this and I did reality
for like ten years, so I knew what to say
and not to say. But in reality, I was like,
this is seeing feet little, this is no filter. I
have to just really live up to that, and I did.
(08:39):
I was like, well, here it is. I'm gonna let
it all hang out. You know, Chiki's you have accomplished
so much.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
You're a touring musician, you're an executive producer, like you mentioned,
you've been on several TV shows. And yet the accomplishment
that I think is the most powerful or meaningful or
says the most about you is how you stepped in
for your siblings in the wake of your mother's passing.
As the oldest of your siblings, you really became the
(09:06):
matriarch of the family, Like you know, beyond the duties
of an elder sister. You raised your siblings as if
they were your own children and became almost like a
mother to them. How do you think that shaped the
woman that we're speaking with today.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Oh, my goodness, it's crazy that you bring that up
right now, because I didn't realize. But Johnny, my brother,
the youngest, who's now twenty three, he posted something yesterday
and sent me a message and said, you know today,
Mark's ten years that you got custody of Jenica and
I my other sister.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
And I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
It hit me because again I'm so focused and I'm
doing my thing that I just keep going.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
I just keep pressing forward.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
But when I sit back, and I was on the airplane,
and I don't know if you guys are the same way,
but every time I want an airplane, I don't know
if it's because I'm in the sky, but I get
very very emotional all the time. I watch a movie,
i read something, and I start crying. So of course
I was like crying. I'm like, oh my god, like
this is crazy. And I told him, I said I
would do it over and over again, even if it
meant that I had to face the adversity that I've
(10:09):
had to face, Like all of that has molded me
to become the woman that I am today, Like I
wouldn't change anything. For so long I would ask my mom,
why am I the eldest. Why do I have to
always be the example? There was so much pressure growing
up and it was just a lot, and I'm like,
oh my gosh, Like it was a lot, and now
I understand why. Now I'm like, Okay, it was God's
plan and I'm grateful, even if it meant that I
(10:32):
had a lot of painful moments. You know. So I
definitely think that being a mother or second mother to
my siblings and being my mom's right hand it really
helped prepare me for these moments that I'm now living,
and even to be a mom now to have my
own kids, Like, I know what to expect. I guess
(10:52):
I'm afraid of loving someone so much because I'm like,
if I love my siblings as much as I love them,
imagine a child that's going to come out of my body.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
You know. That's so that does scare me a little bit.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I'm like, oh my gosh, to love someone that much,
that really does something to me.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
But other than that, I'm like, I know what to do.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I got this. My siblings are everything to me.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Okay, I'm going to ask you a question about being
the oldest sister. Yes, you know, there have been studies
that have shown that eldest siblings tend to be more extroverted, agreeable, conscientious.
I actually think that the elder sister dynamic is its
own thing, It's its own identity. I think a lot
of times for older sisters it can manifest like all
(11:34):
that conscientiousness and pressure, it can manifest in anxiety or
I don't know. It comes out differently for each person obviously,
But do you identify with those traditional older sister traits?
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Absolutely I do. I've had to learn through therapy. I'm
a huge advocate for therapy because it helped me a lot.
I was very overbearing. I felt like I knew it
all too like it's you got to listen to me,
like I know, I'm your sister, like been there, done
that sort of thing, and it's not okay, it's not fair,
(12:06):
you know. And I had to learn to step back
and stop the mother role and just be a sister
and be that supporting teammate. And that was very difficult
for me. Now I'm like, all right, cool, Johnny just
moved out. You guys also see that on cheek seen
feed throw. That was devastating to me. But now I'm like, okay,
I'm living my life for me. But still I'm trying,
(12:29):
you know, but definitely I do identify with it for sure.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
We need to take a quick break, but we'll be
right back with more from Latin Grammy winning artist Cheekyese.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
And we're back with Cheeky's. So you recently accepted a
star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame for your mom,
Jenny Rivera, I can't imagine just how meaningful and emotional
that must have been.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
What was that moment like for you? It was surreal
right now when you mentioned it, I got chills. I
was just like, wow, Like, it's so cool to say
that my mom is a legend, you know, and she
did so much for the community, and more than anything,
I want people and my siblings and I feel the
(13:23):
same way. I want her fans and people to know
her as the woman. Yes, of course her artistry and
everything that she accomplished is huge, but more than anything,
the woman. And that's why we were so excited to know,
you know, a girl that was born and raised in
Long Beach and wasn't supposed to make it quote unquote,
she did. My mom was a woman that would claim
things it wasn't where.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Oh I wish.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
I wish it was I'm going to have a star
on the Hollywood Walk of Fame one day, and I
remember those conversations and then to see it, you know,
come to life and her actually getting her star, obviously
it hurt more because she wasn't here physically, but I
was so proud to say, wow, like we did this
for her because I know that was a huge, huge
dream of hers. I'm very proud of her. That's what
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I feel in my heart. I'm like, I'm just I'm
very proud of her and proud to say that that's
my mom.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
You said that you kind of felt her on your
wedding day when you were walking down the aisle. Were
you able to feel her at that moment too.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Absolutely, and my siblings and I didn't say anything to
one another right away, but before walking out to where
the star is, I felt this crazy feeling.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
There were helicopters.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
I'm like, oh my gosh, this is huge, Like this
is I guess I didn't really realize until I was there,
and because I'm so focused on everything that I'm doing,
but then I was like, Okay, this is today, this's happening.
We all kind of just felt this beautiful breeze and
the day was so like amazing, the weather was great.
So I think I definitely felt her. And then later
on my siblings and I were like, oh my gosh,
(14:54):
I felt it too. I felt like a special presence,
and I'm like, well, that has to be mom. You know.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
It was really cool. So in the very first episode
of Cheeky Sinfieldtrow you said, when you're going through something,
the best thing you can do is be happy and
say thank you for the chance to learn and to grow.
And that is coming from a very evolved person who
has been through a whole heck of a lot. How
did you reach that point, because I can't imagine that
(15:19):
was the first instinct you had all those years ago. No,
it definitely wasn't.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
I think it was just a choice and the only
way I was going to get through is to know that.
It's part of my testimony. It's part of the story
that I'm going to tell my children or my fans
of Like, Okay, I'm the type of person that I
and it sounds very I don't know, I guess, cliche,
(15:44):
but it's like, oh, very positive. I try to find
the positive in everything. I feel like everything happens for
a reason. I really really feel that, and I think
that that's what helped me. I just said, well, I mean,
this is a learning lesson, and I have a choice.
This happened to me. I can either victimize myself or
I can grow from it. Any situation, we can always
find something positive to pull out of it, and it
(16:07):
is up to us to say, Okay, I either sink
or I swim. And I just chose to swim. Kind
of like Dori, I always say that I might keep
on swimming, keep on swimming. I was like, I figured out,
you know, and that's what's helped me. I had no
other choice. I was like, well again, because I am
the eldest, I always had to be that example. So
my siblings were always in the back of my mind work.
(16:28):
I have to show them that this is possible. I
have to keep going, you know. I have to be
an extension of my mom and what she taught us.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
That's really powerful. I think of like the lineage of
women's strength that has come before me too. When I
need to grab onto something for sure, Simone and I
have this thing. We're very similar in this. We say
we give ourselves twenty four hours. If we're sad, to
wallow in it and then it's time to get up
and get going. I'm curious what your process is when
(17:00):
like the be happy mantra doesn't come as easily. You
know what these past I want to say month, I've
it's been I haven't felt like this in a long time,
where I'll have two good days and then I have
a bad day and it's like I haven't felt this,
and I'm like, Okay, is it the retrograde? Is it
like the blue moon that just happened? Like I want
(17:21):
to blame everything else, you know, but it's just life,
you know. And I've had a very difficult time with
again me too, I'm like, Okay, I feel sad. I'm
going to feel these feelings. I'm going to validate them,
and then I'm not gonna let this day become two days,
three days the way I used to. So I'm like,
I have to again, I have to get back up.
But what really really helps me is a good book.
(17:44):
And that's what's been helping me this past month. I'll
have a book in my purse, and now that I'm
flying so much, I'll read some pages a chapter. I'm
not like I don't read as much as I used to,
But I really am intentional with reading or meditating, like
just closing my eyes and just breathing and reminding myself
that this too shall pass.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
It's okay, it's just a moment. It's not a bad life.
It's just a bad day, and it helps me. But
I've been struggling for the past month. To be honest,
I think it's just because I'm tired, you know what
I mean. Like, I've I have a lot going on,
and I don't want to be ungrateful, but my body,
I'm a little exhausted, you know. So I think that's all.
And I'm like, okay, it's okay, it's okay. I asked
(18:25):
for this. I have to remind myself you asked for this.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
You probably have a lot of time to read whenever
you're on the road, traveling between destinations because you are
a Grammy Award winning musician.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
You just came off of a huge tour.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
For people who haven't been to a cheeky show yet,
what can they expect?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I was just talking to a Milio about this about
my show, and he was just telling me how fun
they are. You know, and I'm like yeah, I was like,
I haven't been on stage for like two months, and
I miss it so much. My shows are an experience.
I want people to go on this emotional roller coaster
with me. I'm gonna make you happy. I might make
you cry, but you're going to leave there super happy
and inspired. And I feel that if I'm going to
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be on stage and I have this huge responsibility of
having a mic in my hand, then i need to
use my voice for good. And even if I'm drinking
and I'm being crazy and I'm torking because I dance,
I do it all on stage. I want people to
leave with something in their heart, imprinted in their heart
and in their mind. So for me, that's super important.
(19:26):
Every show is very different. I don't rehearse it. I
don't rehearse what I'm going to say. I just go
with the flow what the audience makes me feel. And
every tour has I'm very old school in that sense
of like I like finished albums. So with that album
and that concept comes the tour and what I'm going
to talk about. And right now it's the amanthis tour,
so we're talking about how a Diamond was made and
(19:48):
under pressure and in dirt basically, and how long it's
taken that to what I feel that I'm doing right now.
And I listen to everything. I love R and B,
I love rap, and that's what I do in my shows,
like I'm kind of yes, I'm sinking band and I
have a hanna on, you know, very traditional, but I'm rapping.
Especially with this last album, you're going to hear a
lot of that, the fusions of country and R and
(20:09):
B and all those things that I listen to that
have inspired me to sing. And I'm also like, I'm
not afraid, and I think that that's why I've been
able to kind of do my own thing and not
necessarily stay in my mom's shadow because I was for
so long, Because I'm like, I'm not afraid of stepping
out of my comfort zone and shaking things up a
little bit, because that's the only way I feel that
(20:30):
you're going to make history.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
I think you're doing it in a really cool way
because your mom was and is such a legend, and
so you get that respect from the Latin community in particular,
and then you're putting your own cheeky's twist on it.
No thank you so much. I want to pay so collab.
Is there anybody that you want to collab with? Yes,
I would love to do something with Carol ge. I
(20:52):
love what she's doing. I think she's a wonderful human
being and as a woman and everything that she's you know,
she's broken so many barriers and for me, it's someone
that I absolutely admire. So that's someone that's like high
on my list. Galiu Cheese as well, I think is
super awesome. I love that.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
I'd love to do something with BESL. We actually have
the same manager, so this has to happen, I know, right, Yeah,
I know. And the thing is, I think we're waiting
for the right song. I think he's the same. We
can't force it. It just has to kind of happen organically,
and I'd prefer it that way anyways. So yeah, I
mean maybe maybe maybe we'll do it. You know, we'll see.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I'm holding that vision for your Cheeky's thank you put
it on your vision word please. I love that we
need to take another short break, but when we come back,
Cheeky's answers your questions about beauty, friendship, and entrepreneurship stick
with us. We're back with Cheeky's So.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
For music to podcast. You have a podcast called Cheeky
and Chill. And one thing I love about the way
you do your podcast is that you seamlessly flow between
English and Spanish. It's like you're creating something for both
a very specific audience and a broader audience at the
same time. Yeah, what reaction have you gotten from the
(22:18):
LATINX community about the show?
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Oh? Thank you.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
I have Cheekys and Chill on Mondays and then on Wednesday,
I have Dear Cheeky. So people ask me questions and
I do my best to give them my best advice.
For sure, like a big sister, I think it works
out because I'm a big sister. You know, it's doing
very well in the comments that I receive. It's such
a beautiful compliment for me because I feel like the
people that are listening to my podcast are people just
(22:42):
like me. You know that we're here nor there, and
it's kind of like the two hundred percent where you're
one hundred percent you know, Latin one hundred percent American,
and I'm like, those are the people that I'm talking to,
and I'm receiving that feedback because as one thing I
told them, if I'm going to do a podcast, I
need to just be myself and I express myself a
lot better to be honest in English, but I always
(23:03):
will put a word here there in Spanish all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
It's just who I am.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
And I do receive a lot of great feedback, and
that's amazing because I love to podcast.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
It's like therapy for me. It's really I love it.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I'm like, I'm just talking to a microphone unless I
have like an invite, but I'm like, I love it.
I'm just letting it all out too.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Is there a question that's stumped you or one that
still kind of haunts you today? A question that a
user has sent in listening.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
Yes, and it came from an anonymous listener. Because I
never listened to the questions prior, I let my producers
put them on right then and there, and you get
my reactions, like my natural reaction, because I just like,
what comes from the heart reaches a heart, you know.
So one time a girl asked me, I don't know
if I can say this is that like? But I mean,
(23:50):
I'll be honest. She was saying that she had been
dating this guy for a few months and they had
finally had sex and he had a very small penis,
but she really liked him, and she didn't know how
to tell him how they can just try different positions
or something like that because he had a small piness.
I was just like, I was very caught off guard.
I was like, oh my goodness, I don't even know
how to deal with this right now. But I don't
(24:11):
even remember what I said, but that did shock me.
I was like, Okay, well, if you like him, that's good.
I mean, you guys will figure it out.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
Cheeky's I feel like somebody wrote this question and to
troll you. You think, I know. Honestly, I swear I've
thought that.
Speaker 3 (24:26):
I'm like, yeah, are these my I've even thought I'm like,
are these my producers?
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Like trying to get me? It's one of your best
friends who's trolling you for real? Oh my gosh. Yeah,
I was so ungoted. I was like, oh my gosh,
am I gonna help this grow it out? Yeah? Well,
with that in mind, we have a few questions we're
going to read to you from our bright side besties.
There's a range. Okay, some are light, some are heavy.
(24:50):
But with all of that said, are you ready to
give us some big sister advice. I am ready. Oh
that Cheeky's my best friend is in a relationship with
a guy that I'm not a fan of. Early on
in their relationship, I told her I was worried about
her because there was a lot of drama and she
was crying every time I spoke with her. They quickly
moved in together, and since I mentioned I was worried
about her, she's never mentioned him to me again, like,
(25:12):
barely even mentioned they moved in together. She's my best
friend and I want her to know that I'm here
for her, but it's totally awkward that she doesn't mention
one of the biggest things in her life. Any advice
on how to address it or should I just let
it be and follow her lead?
Speaker 3 (25:25):
Ooh, that's a good question. I think your friend probably
knows that she's not in a good relationship and doesn't
want to hear the truth because she just kind of
wants to live this And I think you, as a
good friend, should probably just let it be and say hey,
I am here, and if it doesn't work out, don't
say I told you so. I would go and say, hey,
(25:45):
I've noticed that you haven't been telling me about your boyfriend.
I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, if I made
you feel uncomfortable, I'll reserve my opinion. But I want
to be here for you and I want to hear
about what's going on in your life, so please feel free.
I don't want to feel like you're excluding me. I'm
here for you. I think even if she decides after
(26:06):
that not to share anything with you, then I would
just leave it at that. But I think you should
be the first to say, hey, I'm here, I love
you and I respect your decision, so that that way
she feels comfortable with sharing, and just be there for her.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
It's tough. Been there. Yeah, that's not an easy one,
but you gave great advice. Okay.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Question number two for people who are aspiring entrepreneurs, what
would be your words of advice for them?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Hmm, definitely do it. Try it.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
I just know because when I started my first business,
I felt it was Just know that it's all part
of the process. Do not be afraid of failure. It's
going to help you appreciate success and teach you a
lot along the way.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Try it.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
Don't live with you. What if I tried it. What
if don't let fear stop you.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Do it.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Try it, save your money, don't leave your job completely.
Like still do that, and you know, have your ducks
in a row and save some money and do it
whatever it may be. I mean, the great thing about
social media is that it's helping a lot of entrepreneurs
and small businesses. So I think it's a lot easier
than five ten years ago even so definitely try it.
(27:20):
Don't let fear stop you.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Okay, question number three, I know for years you've struggled
with being self conscious about your arms. What's your secret?
Speaker 3 (27:30):
I did forever? Okay, Well, first of all, I put
it on my vision board. I put some really nice arms,
and I put my little face on the girl. And
also I've been working out as part of my lifestyle.
But I also went to a doctor.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Guys.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
I went to a doctor called Celebrity Arms or something
like that on Instagram, and he's in Tampa, and he
did this amazing light bow on my arms, you guys,
And I'm so happy I did it before I lost weight,
which I wish I would have waited a little bit,
but I am very happy with my arms. He toned
like he made them like look very like if I
worked out for I don't know, ten years NonStop. So
(28:07):
I'm really happy with them now and I'm still keeping
it up, you know, I'm working out. So yeah, that's
that's my secret. That's what happened. That's awesome. Good for you.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Thank you for sharing that with us. Of course, Cheeky's
this has been so much fun. You are totally the
internet's favorite big sister. Thanks for coming on the right side.
Thank you, ladies. I appreciate it. I love it.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
I thank you for your time and hopefully were I
would help a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Cheekys is a musician, author, and TV personality with the
new show Cheeky Sinfiltro now streaming on the platform vix.
You can hear more of her and her big sister
advice on our podcast, Cheekys and Chill.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
That's it for today's show. Tomorrow, it's Wellness Wednesday. Happiness
and well being advocate Karen Guggenheim joins us to share
how we can all bring more happiness into our lives.
Listen and follow the bright Side on the iHeartRadio app,
Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Simone voice.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
You can find me at Simone Boice on Instagram and TikTok.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's r v A.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Y see you tomorrow, Folks. Keep looking on the bright side.
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