November 8, 2024 • 29 mins
Did you grow up in a snack house, or an ingredient house? It's Feel Good Friday! Danielle and Simone are joined by showrunner Tim Palazzola for a good-vibes, laughter-filled episode. They dive into inspiring stories from the New York Marathon, the tale of a woman who found love at Home Depot with the help of some "questionable" advice, and the power of trusting your intuition. Plus, Tim shares what a showrunner actually does!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hello Sunshine, Hey fam Today on the bright Side, it's
feel good Friday, y'all. We're popping off and dishing on
the warm, fuzzy and funny stories of the week with
our very own bright Side showrunner Tim Pallizola.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We love a tim filled Friday. We're going to dig
into some truly inspiring marathon stories, unpack one woman's quest
to find love at home depot, and bring you proof
that trusting your intuition can pay off.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
It's Friday, November eighth.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
I'm Danielle Robe, I'm Simone Boyce, and this is the
bright Side from Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we
come together to share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten
your day.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Danielle, it is finally the weekend. Yes, it is.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
It's been a full week of energy around the election.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I feel so empowered and positive just being here right
now with you, because when we set out to make
this show, we felt called to carve out a space
for optimism, for joy and hope and no matter how
device if it gets out there, we want you to
know you will always have an escape from it here
on the bright Side.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
And in line with that, I was thinking about the
date as we said it, it's November eighth. That means
there are fifty four days until the new year. How
are we going to spend them with joy and hope
and gratitude. I feel like that's the goal because those
feelings are so contagious and one of the best parts
of this podcast is many of the stories that we
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share and the guests that we welcome on the show
offer inspiration and opportunities to learn and definitely reasons to laugh.
So that is exactly what we'll continue to do as
we close out this year together.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Well before we do more of that, we want to
spotlight our favorite moment of the week. Today's spotlight goes
to a friend of the show and one of our
all time favorite guests.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
It's June's Squib.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
June who recently starred as a grandma on a mission
in the movie Thelma. She turned ninety five on Wednesday,
and she celebrated with a big birthday bash over the weekend.
I hope I'm living it up just like her at
ninety five. She is the epitome of just betting on yourself.
She's been in the industry for seventy plus years and
is still pioneering a new genre. People aren't calling it
(02:15):
Jerry action, and she literally did her own stunts for Thelma.
June always has so many pearls of wisdom. I loved
what she said on our show about you can never
be too late to your own life, like you can
never be late for the life that you want and
if you really want something, you will find a way.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
To do it.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Okay, Well, it's time to welcome Tim Pallizola, our showrunner,
onto the show. You may remember that he popped off
with us a little bit ago and his appearance was
very demure. He is a six time Emmy Award winning
producer and the brains behind some of the most beloved
shows of the past decade. I'm gonna let him give
us his resume, so I'm not going to ruin it.
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But Tim, welcome back to the bright side.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Yo yo, yeah, oh YoY y'all.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
You've never said yo yo yo? Ever really need.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
An airhorn button because I'm tired of doing it with
my own manual voice.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
I need to get a sound effects panel in here.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
You are my mother's favorite guests.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
She calls me after almost every podcast, which means every
day and debriefs and gives me her opinions on the show,
and her number one most requested return guest is Tim Palizola.
But she did have a few questions for you. Can
I shoot them off?
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Yes? Please?
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Okay. So Deanna wants to know what a show runner
it is.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
She said, last time, we introduced you as our showrunner,
and she has no idea what that means.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
First of all, I remember when you said that your
mom was so complimentary, and Dianna, I want to say
thank you so much. That was so kind and filled
my heart with such joy. So thank you, thank you,
thank you. So a showrunner, I'd like to liken it
to the conductor of a train, if you think of
this show as sort of a train. My job is
to make sure we know where we're going to keep
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the train on the tracks, and that we try to
make it run as smoothly as possible. So we work
with a really talented group of producers, and it's my
job to help guide some of the creation and that
editorial the stories offer support and help bring all of
our interviews on our show to life.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
But Tim, here's the thing. How does one become a showrunner?
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Many many years in the trenches.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
What does that mean where did you start your career?
Were you ever in the mail room?
Speaker 4 (04:33):
I was never in the mailroom, but my first job ever,
I always wanted to work in the entertainment industry, and
I grew up in Virginia and I moved to Los
Angeles and my first job ever, I was a PA
on the MTV show Punked Yes with Ashton Ques way
back in the day, and so at the.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Time, Punk Drake, Who did you punk?
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Oh my goodness. I was there for a few seasons
and there were so many, so many fun guests.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Who was like, you're a more memorable prank that you
pulled off there?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
The justin Timberlake one is so memorable.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
That was like iconic. I remember I started after that one.
That one really put everything on the map. I one
that stood out to me in particular. We punked Zach
Braff And the whole prank was he had just gotten
this brand new, like super expensive, fancy car, and he
and his buddy we set it up that they were
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gonna they were on their way to the party, they
stopped at a convenience store and while they were in
the convenience store, we spray painted his car with fake
spray paint, so when he came out, he was so mad. Yeah,
I mean that one stands out to me. I remember
being like, I'm so sorry. I promise it'll wash off,
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but yees. But my job at that time was, you know,
I was there to just support all of the producers
and the writers and the executives for everything. So I
was like doing it them from like loading trucks to
buying lunch to running errands. But because I know people
can't see me, but I'm roughly the same height and
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color makeup as Ashton. Like I'm tall, i have dark
hair and sort of like olive skins. So remember back
in the day when they would have him in the
in the black box room, when he would like talk
directly to screen, be like yeah, we punk so and
so and so and so. So I would be there
to set up all of those shots and I would
actually sit in because they would light the shots to
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me because I was similar. So I got to be
around all the executives and I got to hear the
way that they all spoke, and those were like the showrunners.
So you know, it's it's it's starting at the bottom
and working your way up and then After that, I
worked on some shows that you all may be familiar
with on MTV, These these every day after school dating
shows Next and Date My Mom.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We used to play Next and Date My Mom. I
had like twelve girlfriends growing up, and we would go
to our friend Talia's house and go.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Into her room and play next.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I can't believe you were creating that show.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Yes, yes, yes, yes. It was my job to come
up with all the most ridiculous things to do with
all of these contestants. I worked on the show for
a number of years. In the beginning, it was like
I love to play basketball, so we're going to go
play basketball today. And then over time we ran out
of those really basic things to do, so we were
coming up with like I've always wanted to travel to
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the Middle East, so today we're going to ride a
camel on the beach. You know. So it would be
my job to figure out how to do and bring
all those things to life. So those are really good times.
And then, you know, I just started working my way up,
and then after that I started working in talk shows.
I worked at a talk show called The Doctors for
a few years. It was all medical driven Information, and
then I got a job working with a division of
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Warner Brothers, and I launched a talk show with Anderson Cooper.
I helped launch a talk show with Bethany Frankel. I
worked on TMZ every day with our good friend Harvey Levon.
And then after that I started working at Paramount and
Viacom at the time, so I was doing like Rup
Paul's Drag or I say, did that for a really
long time. And then I worked on shows like Fear Factor,
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Ink Master, Bar Rescue.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
And now You're here on the bright side.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
And now I'm here on the bright side with you all,
which is a really exciting next step for me.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Next step.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I love that we're so lucky to have you with
all that experience.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
Oh my god, it's so fun. It's so fun.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Well, I'm sure over the course of your career, your
work has taken you to New York. Tim, and I
don't know about you guys, but my feed this week
has just been inundated with all these uplifting, inspiring stories
from the New York Marathon. It's one of the most touching,
moving things that you can witness when you live in
the city. And I mean the signs are always incredible.
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The stories of the runners are so powerful. It's just
the best.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
I was living in New York and I lived in Midtown,
and I used to run in Central Park every day,
and I did not know that the New York Marathon
was happening. One morning and I was just like, I'm
gonna go out for a job and I'm like, why, Wow,
this part kids really crowded. There are a lot of
people running, and I didn't realize that I had accidentally
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like gotten on the path of the New York Marathon.
So I was just like out from my morning jog
and people were like cheering and clapping, and I'm like,
why are all these people cheering and clapping? I was like,
oh no, I somehow hijacked my way into the New
York Marathon. So it ran for like three miles of
the New York Marathon.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Oh my gosh, that's so fun. Did you ever do
it for real?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
No?
Speaker 4 (09:26):
Never did it for real. I never really had the
discipline for anything like that. I don't think I could
have done that. Have you all? Have you ever ever
wanted to do that? Or have you ever done that?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
I'm dying to do the New York Marathon. It's on
my bucket list. I look at those videos in those
photos every single year with it's usually the photo of
all the people on the bridge that blows my mind,
and the energy is unbelievable. I did a breakup triathlon
a few years ago, and it was one of the
best experiences of my life. The day of I thought
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everybody was going to be super competitive, and instead there's
so much camaraderie. Like if you can't get your bike
off the rack in time, people will stop what they're
doing in their race and come and help you.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
There's like so much teamwork that.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Happens that feels so I know I'm being such a dork,
but it feels really inspiring. I can only imagine what
the marathon feels like. You see all those videos of
people like helping each other up and saying like one
more mile, like I'll do it with you. Some people
come and walk miles with people who can't get to
the finish line. Man, oh man, I don't know if
I can do twenty six miles though's so long.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
So in so, what's the longest you've run would you
have to do for the triathlon?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
The try was six I think, and it was the
worst part for me. I hated the rock. So I
don't know what makes me think I could do twenty six.
But don't you like, aren't you inspired by the videos?
You ever look at the end of the marathon and think.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Oh, I want a beer with you?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:52):
Oh yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I mean, like I said, there's so many incredible stories.
There's one that I saw about this woman named Janie
Deagan and and she's a lifelong New Yorker. Just ten
years ago she was down and out, struggling with homelessness
and a drug and alcohol addiction. She gets clean, she
opens up a bakery, and then she starts running, and
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she says that running marathons are what has helped her
stay sober. And this year she teamed up with the
organization that oversees the race to create.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
A special cookie.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
So now her work is part of the fabric of
the New York Marathon and it's inspiring other people to.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
So there's actually a lot of studies that have come
out recently in terms of the road to recovery for
people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol and running,
and there's a high correlation between people who are sober
and marathon running interesting. It is sort of interesting. I've
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always said to my friends who do marathons. I was like,
you're either running towards something or running from something.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
So it's one of the two.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
We're going to take a quick break from popping off,
but we'll be right back and we're back to popping
off with Tim Palazola.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Well, it wouldn't be Friday if I didn't bring up
a dating story. You ready for this one?
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Let's hear do it?
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Okay, there's this TikTok creator Caitlin I'm sorry, and she
went to go find a date at her local home depot.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Do you think it worked?
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I say, yes, Yeah, I'm gonna go with yes, I'm
feeling it yesterday.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Okay, here's her strategy. She was going to go to
home depot and ask cute guys for help. So there's
this video that she posted of her approaching a guy
for his advice about hanging up a picture that has
racked up more than five million views. It's also hilarious
because he gave her really bad advice.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
He pointed her towards.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Hooks for hanging a plant, not a picture frame. Okay, Ultimately,
the bad Advice did not because they did exchange numbers,
and Caitlyn confirmed two people this week that they are
still together.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
I'm impressed that she even found a man to talk
to her in home depot because whenever I walk in there,
I like spend like twenty minutes like wandering around, like
wondering where I am, hoping someone will point me in
the right direction.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
So props to her.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
Good for her, Good for her for trying someone outside
the box. I hate that she felt she had to
play like a little bit of a damsel in distress
to do so. But we we hear of all kinds
of fun stories of people meaning it interesting places. I
actually dated someone that I met at the dentist.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Really the dentist was it the dentist.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
He was like the dental hygienist person. He was the
one that took X rays of my teeth. I had
gone to a new dentist and he took extras of
my teeth and I was like, he's kind of cute.
And uh, two days later he friended me on Facebook
and said, I think your teeth my teeth should be friends.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Oh my god, that's such a good line. Yeah, you
must have had really clean teeth.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
I had very clean teeth, he did say. He was like,
I thought you were cute, and then when I saw
that your teeth were in such good condition, he was like, Okay,
I know I could like go out.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
I wanted this hygienic romance last.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
We did it for about a year and it was
a lot of fun. But I think about that, this
home depot and this like dentist story, because it's something Danielle,
I've heard you say before, like the advice that like
love will find you when you least expect it.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Right, I hate when people tell me that.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
And sometimes it's just like that, when you least expect it,
when you're not looking for it.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Right, No, it's true. I just didn't want to hear it, Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
On the subject of dating and relationships, this is a
feel good story that's all about trusting your gut and
taking control and creating the life that you want. So
Today recently published an op ed with a woman named
Tia Res who talked about her decision to call off
her wedding two years ago. She says she'd pushed for
her ex to propose at the time, only to realize
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that he ended up giving her a quote shut upring,
basically like a means to an end, like I know
that you need this, I'm giving this for you, but
for the wrong reasons, or I'm giving this to you
but for the wrong reasons. And she says that they
never really addressed the reasons why he was hesitating to
take those next steps with her. But she says that
the disconnect really sank in about two months before the wedding,
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when they started looking for homes and she realized that
she wasn't actually excited about their future together and he
didn't seem to be either. So she said that after
that she made one of the hardest decisions of her life.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
She canceled the wedding.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
She pushed back against friends, family members who discounted her feelings,
told her they were just jitters. And now two years later,
on the other side of this, she says she's so
much happier and she understands that she deserves someone who
actually wants to be with her and isn't just looking
to placate her or stay in the relationship because they're
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afraid to walk away.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
I find this story really powerful.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
I think I think we don't often get to hear
the perspective of someone who's on the other side of
a decision like this and is proud of it.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Okay, here's the thing that I don't understand, and I
also you two have experienced in this realm, so please
edge mcate me. I don't understand if you're dating somebody
for two years, three years, six years, and then you
get engaged and then you break off the engagement, what
happens within that period of engagement where you're having all
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these realizations that you didn't have over the last six
years dating somebody, And how'd you.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Get to the point of engagement. That's what I need
to understand.
Speaker 4 (16:48):
I have thoughts, simoney, do you I do.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
I think it's human nature to get swept up in
love and to I mean, we've all dismissed red flags before.
We've all suppressed our doubts about relationships that we're in
because we have this vision for our future that we're
trying to adhere to, and it can become really easy
to silence those doubts in favor of you know, this,
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this family or life that you want to create with
this person. So I think she just got sucked into,
you know, the romanticism of it all. And then thank
god though she listened to those those questions and those
whispers that were taking place inside of her.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Yeah, I want to echo that. I think you. I
think it's I think it's easy to fall in love
with the idea of something, and sometimes you have a
vision for the life that you want and someone is
there and they play a piece of that instead of
falling in love with the person. Think about this story.
I was thinking so much about the conversation that the
two of you had with Sarah Kubrick, and she was
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talking about like agency and how everyone has the freedom
to make their own choices and that there's the power
in that. You started to hit on this simone. Like
we think of like breaking off an engagement as something
that's really tragic, but it really was the most empowering
thing that she could do for herself, because I think
people also feel like they settle. It's exciting to see
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someone be able to take control of their own life
and get to the point where they go, you know what, Actually,
this isn't what I want. And instead of settling, and
instead of suppressing that intuition or that voice, letting that
voice speak up.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Okay, but you guys didn't really answer my question because
I agree with you both. That's I love the agency.
I'm not disagreeing. What I'm saying is what conversations happen
once you get engaged. To me, it seems like families
get involved. Money in terms of wedding planning happens. I
think there's logistical things that start to be discussed that
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start sparking different kinds of conversations, and all of a sudden,
people realize, oh, maybe we're not on the same page.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
I think people don't have a lot of those conversations.
I think people avoid things. I think people aren't as
honest with themselves or each other along the way. And
sometimes it takes like, oh my god, I'm about to
walk down the aisle. This is real, this is real
for people to really wake up and see the situation
that they're in. You know what, here's the thing Beyonce said,
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if you like it, then you should have put a
ring on it. That's great advice. But also if you
don't like it, say no to the ring. You have
agency to say no to the ring.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Say no, just say no. That's good. It's time for
a break.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
But we'll be back, and we're back with Tim Pallizola.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Okay, I want to wrap up by asking you guys
about this new TikTok debate that's circulating right now. It's
this conversation about growing up in ingredient households. This is
a kind of home where your pantry is stocked with
things like flour and beans and rice, but whenever you're
looking for a snack or ready made meal, you are
out of luck, honey, and people are trauma bonding over this.
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Forty four million people have engaged with the ingredient household hashtag. Clearly,
this is hitting a nerve with our generation. Does this
resonate with you, guys, Tim, were you allowed to have
snacks growing up?
Speaker 3 (20:19):
Or were you an ingredient household?
Speaker 4 (20:21):
My mom will listen to this, and I do not
want to put Debbie Palosola on blast, but when I
was a kid, Debbie fruity pebbles was a healthy breakfast
in my house growing up. That is where I got
a lot of the vitamin C. The kids in the
neighborhood would come over to our house because we always
had the best snacks. So yes, we cooked, and we
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baked and stuff but there was no shortage of processed foods.
Little Debbie snack bars, cakes, cookies, we had. We were
definitely that snack house.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Okay, you were the house that everyone wanted to be
and I would have been at your house eating all
your task Danielle, how about you?
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Yeah, my friend Sasha had snackhouse and I would go
there and raid her goldfish, oreos, all the things that
were not in my house. You know, when I was
growing up, I was kind of like, why is my
pantry just sort of empty? And in hindsight, I'm so
grateful my pantry was sort of empty. My mom was
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really doing the right thing. She was like really into
whole foods, and she was no cereal, no pretzels, no
processed stuff, way before it was popular.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
So shout out to my mother today.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Oh she was ahead of it. You're you're naming all
the things that I can visually see in my pantry
at all times. Yes, before I went to school in
the morning, I would literally take peanut butter, Captain crunch
and mix it with Reese's pieces, cereal, am my mom.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
And igs sugar in every ex So incredible.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
It was a different time. You guys, like you don't
have a tail.
Speaker 4 (22:00):
I can't believe I still have tea.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
I think it's important to note that, like we're all
so privileged and lucky that we grew up in homes
where we had plenty of food. Yes, yes, But I
think when I look back on my childhood, like it
was a mix, like sometimes we were an ingredient household
and then like other times we weren't. And I feel
like it depended on my mom's mood, Like sometimes it
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literally would be like three month old salad dressing in
the fridge. And yeah, and like some carrots.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
In my household is known for expired foods, and I
carried on the tradition. I sometimes like I'll eat brown bananas.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
I'll eat anything.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
When I was a kid, McDonald's had this promotion where
they were doing like it was like nineteen cent Hamburgers
and twenty nine cent cheeseburgers, and my dad would go
to the local McDonald's and buy They would let you
buy ten of them at a time, So my dad
would buy ten Hamburgers and ten cheeseburgers, and he did
it like one day every day for a week, and
then put them in the freezer. So we had ziplock
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bags full of McDonald's hamburgers and cheeseburgers, and I would
come home in school and after soccer practice and I
would literally just go into the freezer and pull out
one of these frozen hamburgers, put it in the microwave,
and that was like a snack before dinner.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
That's so epic and truly delicious. Okay.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
In addition to ingredient households, people are also going off
on this idea of living room families versus bedroom families,
and people online are commenting on the idea that families
who spend time together in communal spaces of the home
are creating this environment where everyone feels safe and welcome,
and that this is a better alternative to a bedroom
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family where everyone kind of like does their own thing
and the kids are isolated and the parents are isolated.
How would you describe your experience? Was it living room
family a bedroom family?
Speaker 4 (23:51):
Growing up? We were a living room family for sure. Yeah.
We never had I had friends who had like TVs
and stuff in their bedrooms. We never had anything like that.
We were definitely a living room family. We're like a
living room kitchen family. We were always together, We were
always playing games together.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
And what do you think the benefits are of that?
Looking back on it, Like, how did it shape you? Like,
because I think I think it does actually shape us
whether we are you know friends, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Right, because I had friends who I would go over
and the parents would be watching something downstairs, and then
my friend would have a TV in his room and
play video games in his room, and his brother would
have a TV and video games in their room. So
it was a very like quiet, isolated house. I'd see
the benefit for me when what I think about it
is like I'm still very very close with my family,
and I just also remember there was just like a
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lot of music playing all the time, and we all
had like different shows I was exposed to. You know,
we learn from each other because like my brothers were
very much like you know, into sports and things that
I wasn't necessarily into the same way. But we all
get a chance to like learn from each other. I
think we we learn how to communicate, learn to appreciate
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each other's points of view, to learn to compromise, learn
to communicate effectively, learning how to share. I think some
of those inherent principles just all of us being in
the same space and having to negotiate, you know, what
do we want to watch? What do we not want
to watch? So I think those values I've really really
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instilled in me, and I think it actually when I
think about the way I live now, Like my house
is like a very much a hosting house. Like lots
of people come over to my house and it reminds
me like growing up, we were the hosting house. You know,
there's stuff going on, and it feels like a really communal,
fun gathering space.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
It's really fun. What were you simon, Well.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
When you're an only child, you grow up in a
bedroom family because you don't have any so you become
very independent and you play in your room by yourself
and you have a vivid imagination.
Speaker 4 (25:52):
Can I ask you now that you're a mom and
you have two boys, are you a living room family?
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Very much intentional about being a living room family. My
kids will not have their own TVs in their room.
I want the doors to be open as much as possible.
There will be parameters around video games once we introduce that.
I see tremendous benefits in being together in shared the basis.
Danielle as one of two growing up what was it
like for you.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
We were an everything family.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Okay, so when you grow up in cold weather, you're
indoors all the time. Yeah, So we were together in
the basement, in the living room, in the family room,
in the bedroom. As long as we could be horizontal
and either playing games or reading or watching TV, we
were doing it. We were very much together all the time.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
I was.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
My dad actually said to me that when he decided
to have kids, he was a dentist, and he said
he made a distinct choice that he was going to
maybe not kill it at work as much as he
potentially could, and he was going to spend more time
with his kids. So my dad was actually the one
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that picked us up from school a lot, made us snacks.
The roles would kind of flip flop based on their
jobs and like who was working more. But we were
definitely in everything family.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I think there's so much value in that. That's beautiful. Well,
bestie is We are so grateful to have you in
our family and to have our showrunner Tim Palizola joining
us today.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
I'm popping off. Thank you, Tim.
Speaker 4 (27:32):
Thank yo yo yo, Yeah, that one. Thanks so much.
It's always the best to spend time with you all.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Wait, Tim, next time you come, you're gonna have to
tell everybody how you won a car on the prices.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
Right, yes, next time.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
That's what we call it.
Speaker 4 (27:52):
Teas and TVs dressed as a banana.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
Okay, now you have to come back.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
That's it for today's show. On Monday, We've got selling
sunsets Mary Bonnet in the house. We're asking all the
questions we've been dying to ask about how her reality
TV show gets made. Plus she's opening up about her
fertility journey with husband Romaine.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Listen and follow the bright Side on the iHeartRadio app,
Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The bright
Side is a production of Hello Sunshine and iHeart Podcasts
and is executive produced by Reese Witherspoon.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Production by Arcana Audio. Our producers are Jessica Wank, Krista Ripple,
and Amy Padula. Our senior producer is IT'SI Quintania, and
our engineer is PJ. Shahamat Our.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Conna's executive producers are Francis Harlowe and Abby Ruzka.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Arcana's head of production is Matt.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Schultz, Natalie Tulluk and Maureen Polo are the executive producers
for Hello Sunshine.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Julia Weaver is the supervising producer, and Ali Perry is
the executive producer for iHeart Podcasts.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
Tim Paalazola is our showrunner.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
This week's episodes were recorded by Graham Gibson and Joel Morales.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Our theme song is by Anna Stump and Hamilton Lighthouser.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Special thanks to Connell Byrne and Will Pearson.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I'm Simone Boyce. You can find me at Simone Boyce
on Instagram and TikTok.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
And I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's ro
O v A Y.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
We'll see you Monday, y'all keep looking on the bright side.
Hello Sunshine, Hey fam Today on the bright Side, it's
feel good Friday, y'all. We're popping off and dishing on
the warm, fuzzy and funny stories of the week with
our very own bright Side showrunner Tim Pallizola.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We love a tim filled Friday. We're going to dig
into some truly inspiring marathon stories, unpack one woman's quest
to find love at home depot, and bring you proof
that trusting your intuition can pay off.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
It's Friday, November eighth.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
I'm Danielle Robe, I'm Simone Boyce, and this is the
bright Side from Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we
come together to share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten
your day.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Danielle, it is finally the weekend. Yes, it is.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
It's been a full week of energy around the election.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I feel so empowered and positive just being here right
now with you, because when we set out to make
this show, we felt called to carve out a space
for optimism, for joy and hope and no matter how
device if it gets out there, we want you to
know you will always have an escape from it here
on the bright Side.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
And in line with that, I was thinking about the
date as we said it, it's November eighth. That means
there are fifty four days until the new year. How
are we going to spend them with joy and hope
and gratitude. I feel like that's the goal because those
feelings are so contagious and one of the best parts
of this podcast is many of the stories that we
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share and the guests that we welcome on the show
offer inspiration and opportunities to learn and definitely reasons to laugh.
So that is exactly what we'll continue to do as
we close out this year together.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Well before we do more of that, we want to
spotlight our favorite moment of the week. Today's spotlight goes
to a friend of the show and one of our
all time favorite guests.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
It's June's Squib.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
June who recently starred as a grandma on a mission
in the movie Thelma. She turned ninety five on Wednesday,
and she celebrated with a big birthday bash over the weekend.
I hope I'm living it up just like her at
ninety five. She is the epitome of just betting on yourself.
She's been in the industry for seventy plus years and
is still pioneering a new genre. People aren't calling it
(02:15):
Jerry action, and she literally did her own stunts for Thelma.
June always has so many pearls of wisdom. I loved
what she said on our show about you can never
be too late to your own life, like you can
never be late for the life that you want and
if you really want something, you will find a way.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
To do it.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Okay, Well, it's time to welcome Tim Pallizola, our showrunner,
onto the show. You may remember that he popped off
with us a little bit ago and his appearance was
very demure. He is a six time Emmy Award winning
producer and the brains behind some of the most beloved
shows of the past decade. I'm gonna let him give
us his resume, so I'm not going to ruin it.
(02:56):
But Tim, welcome back to the bright side.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Yo yo, yeah, oh YoY y'all.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
You've never said yo yo yo? Ever really need.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
An airhorn button because I'm tired of doing it with
my own manual voice.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
I need to get a sound effects panel in here.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
You are my mother's favorite guests.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
She calls me after almost every podcast, which means every
day and debriefs and gives me her opinions on the show,
and her number one most requested return guest is Tim Palizola.
But she did have a few questions for you. Can
I shoot them off?
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Yes? Please?
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Okay. So Deanna wants to know what a show runner
it is.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
She said, last time, we introduced you as our showrunner,
and she has no idea what that means.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
First of all, I remember when you said that your
mom was so complimentary, and Dianna, I want to say
thank you so much. That was so kind and filled
my heart with such joy. So thank you, thank you,
thank you. So a showrunner, I'd like to liken it
to the conductor of a train, if you think of
this show as sort of a train. My job is
to make sure we know where we're going to keep
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the train on the tracks, and that we try to
make it run as smoothly as possible. So we work
with a really talented group of producers, and it's my
job to help guide some of the creation and that
editorial the stories offer support and help bring all of
our interviews on our show to life.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
But Tim, here's the thing. How does one become a showrunner?
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Many many years in the trenches.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
What does that mean where did you start your career?
Were you ever in the mail room?
Speaker 4 (04:33):
I was never in the mailroom, but my first job ever,
I always wanted to work in the entertainment industry, and
I grew up in Virginia and I moved to Los
Angeles and my first job ever, I was a PA
on the MTV show Punked Yes with Ashton Ques way
back in the day, and so at the.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Time, Punk Drake, Who did you punk?
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Oh my goodness. I was there for a few seasons
and there were so many, so many fun guests.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Who was like, you're a more memorable prank that you
pulled off there?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
The justin Timberlake one is so memorable.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
That was like iconic. I remember I started after that one.
That one really put everything on the map. I one
that stood out to me in particular. We punked Zach
Braff And the whole prank was he had just gotten
this brand new, like super expensive, fancy car, and he
and his buddy we set it up that they were
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gonna they were on their way to the party, they
stopped at a convenience store and while they were in
the convenience store, we spray painted his car with fake
spray paint, so when he came out, he was so mad. Yeah,
I mean that one stands out to me. I remember
being like, I'm so sorry. I promise it'll wash off,
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but yees. But my job at that time was, you know,
I was there to just support all of the producers
and the writers and the executives for everything. So I
was like doing it them from like loading trucks to
buying lunch to running errands. But because I know people
can't see me, but I'm roughly the same height and
(06:08):
color makeup as Ashton. Like I'm tall, i have dark
hair and sort of like olive skins. So remember back
in the day when they would have him in the
in the black box room, when he would like talk
directly to screen, be like yeah, we punk so and
so and so and so. So I would be there
to set up all of those shots and I would
actually sit in because they would light the shots to
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me because I was similar. So I got to be
around all the executives and I got to hear the
way that they all spoke, and those were like the showrunners.
So you know, it's it's it's starting at the bottom
and working your way up and then After that, I
worked on some shows that you all may be familiar
with on MTV, These these every day after school dating
shows Next and Date My Mom.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We used to play Next and Date My Mom. I
had like twelve girlfriends growing up, and we would go
to our friend Talia's house and go.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Into her room and play next.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I can't believe you were creating that show.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Yes, yes, yes, yes. It was my job to come
up with all the most ridiculous things to do with
all of these contestants. I worked on the show for
a number of years. In the beginning, it was like
I love to play basketball, so we're going to go
play basketball today. And then over time we ran out
of those really basic things to do, so we were
coming up with like I've always wanted to travel to
(07:23):
the Middle East, so today we're going to ride a
camel on the beach. You know. So it would be
my job to figure out how to do and bring
all those things to life. So those are really good times.
And then, you know, I just started working my way up,
and then after that I started working in talk shows.
I worked at a talk show called The Doctors for
a few years. It was all medical driven Information, and
then I got a job working with a division of
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Warner Brothers, and I launched a talk show with Anderson Cooper.
I helped launch a talk show with Bethany Frankel. I
worked on TMZ every day with our good friend Harvey Levon.
And then after that I started working at Paramount and
Viacom at the time, so I was doing like Rup
Paul's Drag or I say, did that for a really
long time. And then I worked on shows like Fear Factor,
(08:06):
Ink Master, Bar Rescue.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
And now You're here on the bright side.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
And now I'm here on the bright side with you all,
which is a really exciting next step for me.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Next step.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I love that we're so lucky to have you with
all that experience.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
Oh my god, it's so fun. It's so fun.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Well, I'm sure over the course of your career, your
work has taken you to New York. Tim, and I
don't know about you guys, but my feed this week
has just been inundated with all these uplifting, inspiring stories
from the New York Marathon. It's one of the most touching,
moving things that you can witness when you live in
the city. And I mean the signs are always incredible.
(08:40):
The stories of the runners are so powerful. It's just
the best.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
I was living in New York and I lived in Midtown,
and I used to run in Central Park every day,
and I did not know that the New York Marathon
was happening. One morning and I was just like, I'm
gonna go out for a job and I'm like, why, Wow,
this part kids really crowded. There are a lot of
people running, and I didn't realize that I had accidentally
(09:06):
like gotten on the path of the New York Marathon.
So I was just like out from my morning jog
and people were like cheering and clapping, and I'm like,
why are all these people cheering and clapping? I was like,
oh no, I somehow hijacked my way into the New
York Marathon. So it ran for like three miles of
the New York Marathon.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Oh my gosh, that's so fun. Did you ever do
it for real?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
No?
Speaker 4 (09:26):
Never did it for real. I never really had the
discipline for anything like that. I don't think I could
have done that. Have you all? Have you ever ever
wanted to do that? Or have you ever done that?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
I'm dying to do the New York Marathon. It's on
my bucket list. I look at those videos in those
photos every single year with it's usually the photo of
all the people on the bridge that blows my mind,
and the energy is unbelievable. I did a breakup triathlon
a few years ago, and it was one of the
best experiences of my life. The day of I thought
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everybody was going to be super competitive, and instead there's
so much camaraderie. Like if you can't get your bike
off the rack in time, people will stop what they're
doing in their race and come and help you.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
There's like so much teamwork that.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Happens that feels so I know I'm being such a dork,
but it feels really inspiring. I can only imagine what
the marathon feels like. You see all those videos of
people like helping each other up and saying like one
more mile, like I'll do it with you. Some people
come and walk miles with people who can't get to
the finish line. Man, oh man, I don't know if
I can do twenty six miles though's so long.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
So in so, what's the longest you've run would you
have to do for the triathlon?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
The try was six I think, and it was the
worst part for me. I hated the rock. So I
don't know what makes me think I could do twenty six.
But don't you like, aren't you inspired by the videos?
You ever look at the end of the marathon and think.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Oh, I want a beer with you?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:52):
Oh yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I mean, like I said, there's so many incredible stories.
There's one that I saw about this woman named Janie
Deagan and and she's a lifelong New Yorker. Just ten
years ago she was down and out, struggling with homelessness
and a drug and alcohol addiction. She gets clean, she
opens up a bakery, and then she starts running, and
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she says that running marathons are what has helped her
stay sober. And this year she teamed up with the
organization that oversees the race to create.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
A special cookie.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
So now her work is part of the fabric of
the New York Marathon and it's inspiring other people to.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
So there's actually a lot of studies that have come
out recently in terms of the road to recovery for
people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol and running,
and there's a high correlation between people who are sober
and marathon running interesting. It is sort of interesting. I've
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always said to my friends who do marathons. I was like,
you're either running towards something or running from something.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
So it's one of the two.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
We're going to take a quick break from popping off,
but we'll be right back and we're back to popping
off with Tim Palazola.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Well, it wouldn't be Friday if I didn't bring up
a dating story. You ready for this one?
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Let's hear do it?
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Okay, there's this TikTok creator Caitlin I'm sorry, and she
went to go find a date at her local home depot.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Do you think it worked?
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I say, yes, Yeah, I'm gonna go with yes, I'm
feeling it yesterday.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Okay, here's her strategy. She was going to go to
home depot and ask cute guys for help. So there's
this video that she posted of her approaching a guy
for his advice about hanging up a picture that has
racked up more than five million views. It's also hilarious
because he gave her really bad advice.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
He pointed her towards.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Hooks for hanging a plant, not a picture frame. Okay, Ultimately,
the bad Advice did not because they did exchange numbers,
and Caitlyn confirmed two people this week that they are
still together.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
I'm impressed that she even found a man to talk
to her in home depot because whenever I walk in there,
I like spend like twenty minutes like wandering around, like
wondering where I am, hoping someone will point me in
the right direction.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
So props to her.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
Good for her, Good for her for trying someone outside
the box. I hate that she felt she had to
play like a little bit of a damsel in distress
to do so. But we we hear of all kinds
of fun stories of people meaning it interesting places. I
actually dated someone that I met at the dentist.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Really the dentist was it the dentist.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
He was like the dental hygienist person. He was the
one that took X rays of my teeth. I had
gone to a new dentist and he took extras of
my teeth and I was like, he's kind of cute.
And uh, two days later he friended me on Facebook
and said, I think your teeth my teeth should be friends.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Oh my god, that's such a good line. Yeah, you
must have had really clean teeth.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
I had very clean teeth, he did say. He was like,
I thought you were cute, and then when I saw
that your teeth were in such good condition, he was like, Okay,
I know I could like go out.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
I wanted this hygienic romance last.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
We did it for about a year and it was
a lot of fun. But I think about that, this
home depot and this like dentist story, because it's something Danielle,
I've heard you say before, like the advice that like
love will find you when you least expect it.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Right, I hate when people tell me that.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
And sometimes it's just like that, when you least expect it,
when you're not looking for it.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Right, No, it's true. I just didn't want to hear it, Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
On the subject of dating and relationships, this is a
feel good story that's all about trusting your gut and
taking control and creating the life that you want. So
Today recently published an op ed with a woman named
Tia Res who talked about her decision to call off
her wedding two years ago. She says she'd pushed for
her ex to propose at the time, only to realize
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that he ended up giving her a quote shut upring,
basically like a means to an end, like I know
that you need this, I'm giving this for you, but
for the wrong reasons, or I'm giving this to you
but for the wrong reasons. And she says that they
never really addressed the reasons why he was hesitating to
take those next steps with her. But she says that
the disconnect really sank in about two months before the wedding,
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when they started looking for homes and she realized that
she wasn't actually excited about their future together and he
didn't seem to be either. So she said that after
that she made one of the hardest decisions of her life.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
She canceled the wedding.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
She pushed back against friends, family members who discounted her feelings,
told her they were just jitters. And now two years later,
on the other side of this, she says she's so
much happier and she understands that she deserves someone who
actually wants to be with her and isn't just looking
to placate her or stay in the relationship because they're
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afraid to walk away.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
I find this story really powerful.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
I think I think we don't often get to hear
the perspective of someone who's on the other side of
a decision like this and is proud of it.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Okay, here's the thing that I don't understand, and I
also you two have experienced in this realm, so please
edge mcate me. I don't understand if you're dating somebody
for two years, three years, six years, and then you
get engaged and then you break off the engagement, what
happens within that period of engagement where you're having all
(16:38):
these realizations that you didn't have over the last six
years dating somebody, And how'd you.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Get to the point of engagement. That's what I need
to understand.
Speaker 4 (16:48):
I have thoughts, simoney, do you I do.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
I think it's human nature to get swept up in
love and to I mean, we've all dismissed red flags before.
We've all suppressed our doubts about relationships that we're in
because we have this vision for our future that we're
trying to adhere to, and it can become really easy
to silence those doubts in favor of you know, this,
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this family or life that you want to create with
this person. So I think she just got sucked into,
you know, the romanticism of it all. And then thank
god though she listened to those those questions and those
whispers that were taking place inside of her.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Yeah, I want to echo that. I think you. I
think it's I think it's easy to fall in love
with the idea of something, and sometimes you have a
vision for the life that you want and someone is
there and they play a piece of that instead of
falling in love with the person. Think about this story.
I was thinking so much about the conversation that the
two of you had with Sarah Kubrick, and she was
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talking about like agency and how everyone has the freedom
to make their own choices and that there's the power
in that. You started to hit on this simone. Like
we think of like breaking off an engagement as something
that's really tragic, but it really was the most empowering
thing that she could do for herself, because I think
people also feel like they settle. It's exciting to see
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someone be able to take control of their own life
and get to the point where they go, you know what, Actually,
this isn't what I want. And instead of settling, and
instead of suppressing that intuition or that voice, letting that
voice speak up.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Okay, but you guys didn't really answer my question because
I agree with you both. That's I love the agency.
I'm not disagreeing. What I'm saying is what conversations happen
once you get engaged. To me, it seems like families
get involved. Money in terms of wedding planning happens. I
think there's logistical things that start to be discussed that
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start sparking different kinds of conversations, and all of a sudden,
people realize, oh, maybe we're not on the same page.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
I think people don't have a lot of those conversations.
I think people avoid things. I think people aren't as
honest with themselves or each other along the way. And
sometimes it takes like, oh my god, I'm about to
walk down the aisle. This is real, this is real
for people to really wake up and see the situation
that they're in. You know what, here's the thing Beyonce said,
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if you like it, then you should have put a
ring on it. That's great advice. But also if you
don't like it, say no to the ring. You have
agency to say no to the ring.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Say no, just say no. That's good. It's time for
a break.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
But we'll be back, and we're back with Tim Pallizola.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Okay, I want to wrap up by asking you guys
about this new TikTok debate that's circulating right now. It's
this conversation about growing up in ingredient households. This is
a kind of home where your pantry is stocked with
things like flour and beans and rice, but whenever you're
looking for a snack or ready made meal, you are
out of luck, honey, and people are trauma bonding over this.
(20:06):
Forty four million people have engaged with the ingredient household hashtag. Clearly,
this is hitting a nerve with our generation. Does this
resonate with you, guys, Tim, were you allowed to have
snacks growing up?
Speaker 3 (20:19):
Or were you an ingredient household?
Speaker 4 (20:21):
My mom will listen to this, and I do not
want to put Debbie Palosola on blast, but when I
was a kid, Debbie fruity pebbles was a healthy breakfast
in my house growing up. That is where I got
a lot of the vitamin C. The kids in the
neighborhood would come over to our house because we always
had the best snacks. So yes, we cooked, and we
(20:41):
baked and stuff but there was no shortage of processed foods.
Little Debbie snack bars, cakes, cookies, we had. We were
definitely that snack house.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Okay, you were the house that everyone wanted to be
and I would have been at your house eating all
your task Danielle, how about you?
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Yeah, my friend Sasha had snackhouse and I would go
there and raid her goldfish, oreos, all the things that
were not in my house. You know, when I was
growing up, I was kind of like, why is my
pantry just sort of empty? And in hindsight, I'm so
grateful my pantry was sort of empty. My mom was
(21:19):
really doing the right thing. She was like really into
whole foods, and she was no cereal, no pretzels, no
processed stuff, way before it was popular.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
So shout out to my mother today.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Oh she was ahead of it. You're you're naming all
the things that I can visually see in my pantry
at all times. Yes, before I went to school in
the morning, I would literally take peanut butter, Captain crunch
and mix it with Reese's pieces, cereal, am my mom.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
And igs sugar in every ex So incredible.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
It was a different time. You guys, like you don't
have a tail.
Speaker 4 (22:00):
I can't believe I still have tea.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
I think it's important to note that, like we're all
so privileged and lucky that we grew up in homes
where we had plenty of food. Yes, yes, But I
think when I look back on my childhood, like it
was a mix, like sometimes we were an ingredient household
and then like other times we weren't. And I feel
like it depended on my mom's mood, Like sometimes it
(22:23):
literally would be like three month old salad dressing in
the fridge. And yeah, and like some carrots.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
In my household is known for expired foods, and I
carried on the tradition. I sometimes like I'll eat brown bananas.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
I'll eat anything.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
When I was a kid, McDonald's had this promotion where
they were doing like it was like nineteen cent Hamburgers
and twenty nine cent cheeseburgers, and my dad would go
to the local McDonald's and buy They would let you
buy ten of them at a time, So my dad
would buy ten Hamburgers and ten cheeseburgers, and he did
it like one day every day for a week, and
then put them in the freezer. So we had ziplock
(23:00):
bags full of McDonald's hamburgers and cheeseburgers, and I would
come home in school and after soccer practice and I
would literally just go into the freezer and pull out
one of these frozen hamburgers, put it in the microwave,
and that was like a snack before dinner.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
That's so epic and truly delicious. Okay.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
In addition to ingredient households, people are also going off
on this idea of living room families versus bedroom families,
and people online are commenting on the idea that families
who spend time together in communal spaces of the home
are creating this environment where everyone feels safe and welcome,
and that this is a better alternative to a bedroom
(23:41):
family where everyone kind of like does their own thing
and the kids are isolated and the parents are isolated.
How would you describe your experience? Was it living room
family a bedroom family?
Speaker 4 (23:51):
Growing up? We were a living room family for sure. Yeah.
We never had I had friends who had like TVs
and stuff in their bedrooms. We never had anything like that.
We were definitely a living room family. We're like a
living room kitchen family. We were always together, We were
always playing games together.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
And what do you think the benefits are of that?
Looking back on it, Like, how did it shape you? Like,
because I think I think it does actually shape us
whether we are you know friends, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Right, because I had friends who I would go over
and the parents would be watching something downstairs, and then
my friend would have a TV in his room and
play video games in his room, and his brother would
have a TV and video games in their room. So
it was a very like quiet, isolated house. I'd see
the benefit for me when what I think about it
is like I'm still very very close with my family,
and I just also remember there was just like a
(24:41):
lot of music playing all the time, and we all
had like different shows I was exposed to. You know,
we learn from each other because like my brothers were
very much like you know, into sports and things that
I wasn't necessarily into the same way. But we all
get a chance to like learn from each other. I
think we we learn how to communicate, learn to appreciate
(25:01):
each other's points of view, to learn to compromise, learn
to communicate effectively, learning how to share. I think some
of those inherent principles just all of us being in
the same space and having to negotiate, you know, what
do we want to watch? What do we not want
to watch? So I think those values I've really really
(25:21):
instilled in me, and I think it actually when I
think about the way I live now, Like my house
is like a very much a hosting house. Like lots
of people come over to my house and it reminds
me like growing up, we were the hosting house. You know,
there's stuff going on, and it feels like a really communal,
fun gathering space.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
It's really fun. What were you simon, Well.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
When you're an only child, you grow up in a
bedroom family because you don't have any so you become
very independent and you play in your room by yourself
and you have a vivid imagination.
Speaker 4 (25:52):
Can I ask you now that you're a mom and
you have two boys, are you a living room family?
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Very much intentional about being a living room family. My
kids will not have their own TVs in their room.
I want the doors to be open as much as possible.
There will be parameters around video games once we introduce that.
I see tremendous benefits in being together in shared the basis.
Danielle as one of two growing up what was it
like for you.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
We were an everything family.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Okay, so when you grow up in cold weather, you're
indoors all the time. Yeah, So we were together in
the basement, in the living room, in the family room,
in the bedroom. As long as we could be horizontal
and either playing games or reading or watching TV, we
were doing it. We were very much together all the time.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
I was.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
My dad actually said to me that when he decided
to have kids, he was a dentist, and he said
he made a distinct choice that he was going to
maybe not kill it at work as much as he
potentially could, and he was going to spend more time
with his kids. So my dad was actually the one
(27:06):
that picked us up from school a lot, made us snacks.
The roles would kind of flip flop based on their
jobs and like who was working more. But we were
definitely in everything family.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I think there's so much value in that. That's beautiful. Well,
bestie is We are so grateful to have you in
our family and to have our showrunner Tim Palizola joining
us today.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
I'm popping off. Thank you, Tim.
Speaker 4 (27:32):
Thank yo yo yo, Yeah, that one. Thanks so much.
It's always the best to spend time with you all.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Wait, Tim, next time you come, you're gonna have to
tell everybody how you won a car on the prices.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
Right, yes, next time.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
That's what we call it.
Speaker 4 (27:52):
Teas and TVs dressed as a banana.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
Okay, now you have to come back.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
That's it for today's show. On Monday, We've got selling
sunsets Mary Bonnet in the house. We're asking all the
questions we've been dying to ask about how her reality
TV show gets made. Plus she's opening up about her
fertility journey with husband Romaine.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Listen and follow the bright Side on the iHeartRadio app,
Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The bright
Side is a production of Hello Sunshine and iHeart Podcasts
and is executive produced by Reese Witherspoon.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Production by Arcana Audio. Our producers are Jessica Wank, Krista Ripple,
and Amy Padula. Our senior producer is IT'SI Quintania, and
our engineer is PJ. Shahamat Our.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Conna's executive producers are Francis Harlowe and Abby Ruzka.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Arcana's head of production is Matt.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Schultz, Natalie Tulluk and Maureen Polo are the executive producers
for Hello Sunshine.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Julia Weaver is the supervising producer, and Ali Perry is
the executive producer for iHeart Podcasts.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
Tim Paalazola is our showrunner.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
This week's episodes were recorded by Graham Gibson and Joel Morales.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Our theme song is by Anna Stump and Hamilton Lighthouser.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Special thanks to Connell Byrne and Will Pearson.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I'm Simone Boyce. You can find me at Simone Boyce
on Instagram and TikTok.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
And I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's ro
O v A Y.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
We'll see you Monday, y'all keep looking on the bright side.
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