June 16, 2025 • 30 mins
Eddie is celebrating Father’s Day with some of our favorite Bravo dads!! RHONJ’s Paulie Connell and RHOC’s Shane Simpson join Eddie for a real and honest conversation about fatherhood.
When Paulie met Dolores, who was the ‘stubborn’ one and was against blending families so soon?
Plus, a confession about the first year of parenthood from Shane.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aroyave.
Welcome back to the EDS podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
We are on location at Bottle Rock Festival and today's
special guest, Oh, I can't wait to share with this
our very first podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Guest, Shane Helloa Soudent. Welcome back, and of course.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
You know we got Polly Connell, sorry about that here
with us and we are going to talk about Father's Day.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
You guys have any experience with that? Okay? Now, Father's
Day is a special day for us.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
You know, it's the one day year that you know,
the kids get to opportunity to learn to celebrate the
us as fathers, like everything we've done for them equally
important as you know, Mother's Day.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
They get there one day. I'm not a big holiday guy.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
I think Father's Day, Mother's Day, Thanksgiving and all especially
Valentine's Day, this should be every day. You should celebrate
each other every day. It just makes a better relationship
and better life. You know, to leave it to one
day years, I don't think it's that important. So let's
just say Father's Day coming up being celebrated. We are
(01:26):
going to talk about your experience growing up. Paulli, who
was your father figure growing up and what kind of
impact did he have on you?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Yeah, that's uh, you know, well my dad's past, so
it's always a tough conversation to be honest. Well, my
dad was the guy that I never taught would be gone. Yeah.
I always would expected him to be there to the end,
no matter what.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
And ask how old you were when to pass?
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Yeah I was forty two. Yeah, so he just passed
eight years ago. And you know he was He was
a very strong demeanor man. Moral code was always on point.
Taught me right from wrong, and taught me how to
be nice to people. And we can't. We grew up
in a place in our end, not not a lot
(02:18):
of a lot of money, not a lot of things
going on, but he always made it feel right, and
I guess you know, he always taught me how to
be above even when you fell below. And that's something
that I always took away, like, no matter what you have,
you can you can you can make yourself and everybody
around you feel like this. And that's what he kind
of gave to me. It's not about you know, what
(02:40):
you bring to the tables, what you have at that moment.
So I guess for me as being a dad. Now
I reflect that and I can see that with my kids.
So as you know, I'm trying to teach what I
learned from my father to them. But obviously my kids
are you know, younger compared to things have changed. But
he was a very big, yeah, very big statement in
(03:01):
my life. He made made a lot of made a
lot of impressions that last till today.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
What's a favorite memory that you remember from your dad,
like that one, maybe that talk or that moment where
he just made a huge impact in your life My
life up yea.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
And he would tell me it was going to be okay.
After he would absolutely make sure I wouldn't understand everything
that I did was so wrong. Yeah, but he always
gave me an out and made me realize that mistakes
are okay, but they're not good to keep on making.
And you know, matured me in somewhat somewhat of a way.
And you know, back in the day, the fist was
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the ruler when you were growing up in Ireland, that's
you were always afraid of it. And it was kind
of like, you know, learning to like watch my dad
because I was the youngest child in the house, so
he's already dealt with two of my brothers, and he
had the changes of dad because times have changed. So
I was watching I didn't even know from my dad.
(03:59):
I was watching changes a dad as I was growing
up from what I seen how he reacted with my brothers.
So that was an impressible thing. And I guess that
maybe matured me, is it, dad?
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Yeah, well yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:11):
It sound like he had a pretty big impact on
the way you are today.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Respectful. He told me to respect
my elders.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, yeah, I think that's a generation thing because that's
how I grew up. Respect your elders. Doesn't matter what
kind of clips they are. You just respect your dad,
to respect them because just because they're older.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Right, Like you said to your dad's eighty years old, right,
Like it's it's great. Like at this age, he's like,
that's what.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
You certainly got a lot more experience than I did, so,
I mean, being twice my age. Yeah yeah, I mean
you got you got to count for that for something,
of course, you know, And the same with my kids.
My kids, you know, I have as young as ten
or twelve. I have ten and twelve. And when she's
always asked, looking at me like I'm dumb for telling her,
and it's like, it's because I have experience I made.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
I was twelve too, I made mistakes.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
I'm telling you so you can have a better experience
than I did. They don't always get that, but if
they respected your elders, right, I think that term comes
with respect their experience, that they're looking out for you,
that they have something that you know they can pass
down to.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
You, whether it be a neighbor or a relative.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Yeah, but I think it kind of gets I don't know,
it feels like it gets lost.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Sometimes it does.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Get lost, but you have to keep on it. Yeah,
and you have the transition it in. I think as
our generation we have to apply that. That's what's important.
I think maybe that's why our parents, our fathers have
taught us that over the years, is not to give
up on that right, you know, because there is going
to some much generation that gets skipped.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Yeah, So tell me about your father figure.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
Oh, well, it would be my father. I was fortunate
enough to have him in the house. Him and my
mother are still married and he's eighty two now. He
was he worked a lot, though he wasn't I wouldn't
say he was a workaholic, but he did work and
he'd come home and he was very He'd come home,
he'd make a screwdriver and he would grab the newspaper
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and he would read and that was the evening.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
So I didn't really we didn't play sports together, we
didn't really do things together.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
But he wasn't negative.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
In any way or like, you know, it wasn't like
he was some father from some you know, fifties sitcom
where kind of like they don't have time for the
kids or they're doing But we just didn't really connect.
When we got older, when I was in my twenties,
I started to get more connected with him. And then
I would say, in my early thirties is when I
started to listen to him, okay, And he would always
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give me my dad doesn't attend a religion or anything,
but he does read a lot, read a lot of
spirituality things, and he would always try to share things
with me. And I always thought, eh, I didn't really
care for it.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Didn't care for it.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Then when I hit early thirties, I started to listen
to him. Someone gave me advice about basically listening to
my father and so I started listening to my father
and realized, hey, he's got some pretty good advice.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
So a lot of times, I know, I share a
lot of stories.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
With you about my father, and it's always later in life,
like in my thirties and forties, that I heard those
things from him or got those lessons from him.
Speaker 4 (07:09):
It's never from when I was a kid.
Speaker 5 (07:10):
One because we didn't connect very well, but two because
I started listening to them when I.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
Was older, late twenties and early thirties, because you matured. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (07:19):
Yeah, and then I had kids, and I also had
circumstances that caused me to have more of an open mind,
so I was more willing to listen and hear what
he had to say. Anyway, I get lots of little
tidbits for my father that I still carry with me today.
And one is that comes to mind right now is
I remember one time I was saying, oh, yeah, you know,
because grass is green on the other side level and
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he goes, no, no, And I said, but it's not, and
he goes, no, no, no, it is until you get there
and then it's no longer.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
So that made me that day forward.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Really, it made me step back and not be so
quick to chase the next thing, usually something materialistic, chase
and chase and chase, because I know when I get it.
I mean, it's not so much trying to teach myself
that it's not going to make me happy, but realizing, yeah,
I will probably have some fun and some joy or
whatever it is, or some satisfaction.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
But that's but it's going to go away pretty soon,
you know, once you get it.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
So that's a true statement for almost anything in life. Right,
There's there's nothing materialistic that will last any longer than
your memories. So I'd rather make a memory of something
than like, let's say a trip or with some friends.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Like what we're doing today.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
This is going to be an awesome experience at Bottle
Rock together and enjoying this awesome event that we can
talk about for the rest of our lives, versus let's
go buy a couple of ferraris and you know, six
months from now we're going to be bored with it.
Speaker 5 (08:49):
I know you're right because you asked the question of
what you know a memory you have from your your
father figure and neither of us, And I assume most
people wouldn't say, oh, it's when.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
He bought me this, or he gave me this, but
it would rather.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Be experiences what you got from your father and so on.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
So yeah, what kind of experiences have you done, Polly
with your kids that you know this is a memory
that's going to last with us forever.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I mean, I like doing road trips. I love road trips.
A couple of years ago, we flew out the Vegas,
flew to California. Sorry, spent some time in California. We
drove over to Vegas, went to a UFC fight. We
just drove and we just hung out, booked the hotels.
We didn't didn't do any planning, and it was just
(09:43):
like whatever happened happened. And I wanted them to understand
that we're here together, so it doesn't matter where we are,
We're just going to go. We're just going to keep
on happening. And I want them to experience that, like
one on one, that like it's okay to like not
know where you're going sometimes and when you get there,
you make the best, You make the best of what
it is. And it was really They still talk about
(10:04):
the trip saying like it was so cool and it
really was like the driver your two kids in the
car across the country and like you're doing all this
cool stuff that to me is probably like it was
a real big tourning point, especially at their age, where
I was like, you know, they're enjoying this as much
as I am, and I was learning from it as
much as they were.
Speaker 5 (10:21):
Yeah, well, it sounds like it was a trip with
dad as opposed to like where did you go or
what did you do? It won't be we went to
a UFC fight, we won a road trip with my
dad exactly.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
We're with my dad.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Like the stuff that we did even on the road trip,
like you know what I mean, like like stopping off
to eat on like the side of the road, and
like went to these crazy places, like it's not only
what you would do, but we just did it because
we were like, we didn't have any schedules, so we
just whatever happened happened.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Did you stop at Eddie's World and the way to base.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
There's a really place on the side. Oh yeah, and
it's got all your stuff ice cream. Yeah, It's like
it's like ten thousand square feet of candy. That's all.
It is.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Bizarre, bizarre, that's funny. You know, on the road trip thing.
I got a book from my dad written by Jack
Kurek titled On the Road, and it was that book
that gave me the guts and desire to just hit
the road one day and just go and no matter
where I ended up, I ended up.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
And to this day, I still want to do that.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
It's in my like genes, like I just want to
jump on my Harley and just go, not plan and
just when I get there, I get there and I'll
figure it out. You know, there's there's so much freedom
to that. There is, and it's not necessarily leaving behind
your problems or your challenges or your responsibilities. But that
freedom to be able to do that is unexplicable.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Yeah, right, no, it is. You're right.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
I love road trips. Those are my favorite things to do.
In fact, I've been trying to talk my wife into
going on a road trip to Moab.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
I just took a trick.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
It's joy in the journey, then the road trip would
be it, right, yeah, but not mow Ab so much.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
It's the trip as well, the road trip part.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
And and where there's no Wi Fi or internet connections
so that she can be off her phone for at least,
you know, that's funny.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
That's the funny thing on this trip I did with
my kids, which were normally like stuck to their phone,
there was just conversations going on, which was the other
thing that was I never tried to like create the conversation.
The conversation just naturally, and it was like, it seemed
like the perfect time to eat was when everybody wanted
to eat. Yeah, the perfect time to stop was when
everybody wanted to stop. It was just natural, So it
(12:37):
was it was Yeah, definitely, conversation was cool.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
So let me go back a little bit too, when
you first became a dad and how did that change
or shift your world? Like, I don't have kids of
my own that I've ever experienced, you know, the birth
of a child, and every really good friend of mine
that's shared that experience that it's the most magical experience
because you made this kid, right, tell me about the
(13:02):
first time you became a dad.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Yeah, So the first time I became a dad my
son Cameron, who is twenty four. He was born in
Saint John's and Queens and he was a high risk baby.
So I was living here by myself in this country
with my ex wife at the time, and we were
expecting our first child, very new, very like, very common,
(13:29):
like just we just didn't know what to do. And
he was We were told that there was a chance
that he would not make it, and we were like,
you know this, this is like, you know, not news
that you want to hear when you have a child.
He was born with a thing called gascroskises. It's it's
like an intestine developing on the outside rather on the inside.
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This it was a very big, heavy thing.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
First one scenes you knew when he was born that
he was going to need certain medical care correct regardless,
regardless to even if surved he was death.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
And I always remember it. We we knew that we
knew about what was coming up. Was was something that
we had no clue about. But we're in the best
place in the world, America. Right at the same time,
we were like so scared because we're in a country
that we don't have anybody. Number One, I'm going to
become a dad, She's going to become, you know, a
(14:21):
mother too. And I always remember when we sat down
with this person, they said, you can you can make
a decision right now and not go true with this,
and we can make things change and I'm like, I'm
a dad. Yeah, I can't do that. Yeah, even though
the baby was still you know them in the womb.
I was like, no, no, no, no, I'm a dad. Yeah.
(14:42):
And they were like, you understand that there's possibility that
you know, there is I said, it doesn't matter. That
was my first moment I became a dad.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
And I remember I stood on Queen's Boulevard and I
was in like New York, and I'm looking at my
ex wife going, this is it. We're in for the run.
You don't get an option in this situation now, and
you have to go with that. And that was my
first experience of becoming with that wow, instant over protection, instant.
And that's when I knew that you know you just
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kind of you don't you just never changed from that moment.
I can't explain it. Well, you could, but I can't
explain it.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
What about you?
Speaker 5 (15:18):
Oh gosh, Well, Paul is a very good storyteller.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
You articulate very it's not a compensation. I can't tell that.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (15:27):
The first time I became a father, I was I
don't evenmember how. Though it was twenty four, I was
pretty young. I was still in school, and I think I,
if I were to look back, it would be I
wasn't worried, and I remember not worrying and just being
excited because I thought it would be easy. And I thought, oh,
I have my parents. I've seen my sister do it
(15:49):
like you just have a kid and everyone, all the
family members come in and everyone so happy.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
So I was kind of oblivious that way.
Speaker 5 (15:57):
And uh, but and I and I've said this to
Emily two all the way to I have five kids,
so all the way to the fifth kids, she knows
this that I don't really get attached here here PAULI
is before the child is born, proclaiming he's a father
right on public me. I always say, I don't really
get attached to about a year, okay, And I don't
(16:19):
know why. I'll take care of them, I'll change the
divers I'll do everything, but I just I don't connect yet. Yeah,
And it's not a it's not something I'm proud of.
But then one night they hit about one and I
start to see their personalities.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
It just that's the end of it. Yeah, And all
the way to this day, I'm going to tell you
I love being with kids.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
I'm always with kids. It just takes a while for
me to really get connected. I might have to do
something with my childhood.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Well do you have that in general with relationships with people.
It takes you a while to get to know people
or you know.
Speaker 5 (16:53):
I don't say, I just, I just I've never grew
up with little babies. I was the youngest, I didn't
have any cousins, I didn't have any anything like that.
So I think that might be why I just don't connect. Yeah,
I mean, it's not saying I'm proud of but ysked
the question. That's the honest answer. And Emily will tell
you the same thing too. But then then after that
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it's over.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
I mean, yeah, I mean today Emily can't say enough
about what an amazing Oh well, thank you.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
But I do let me clarify thank you in the beginning.
I do feel an obligation. I make sure I do
everything I can, and it really does matter. I just
I'm not lovey dovey and I'm not hugging and kissing yet. Yeah,
it's and I know that, and it just takes a
while for me to get there.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
That's okay. So we're hugging now, right, that's my story.
We're hugging.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
But okay, Paully, speaking of kids, was it I think
I asked you this before. Was it blending families with
Dolores smooth a learning curve?
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Was it easy? Tell us a little bit more about that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Yeah, as I said earlier, was it it was easy?
Because kids are I mean, Frankie and Gabby are like
the best, right, They're just there like there's I mean,
if I if I wanted to have a girl on
the by, and that's what I would paint them as. Right,
and your kids, yeah, yeah, just by time, just by
the time, okay. But they blend and they all talk,
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and they all texted group text, and they all chat
and they all whatever hang out together. The transition was
easy because number one, my ex wife, their mam was
all for it. Okay, So the transition was easy from
this perspective of that, it's the Laurus Katania. She makes
a conspider feel welcome in her house. Right, She's just Jesus,
(18:37):
that's what she is. So that was also very helpful.
And my kids love the Loores and they she goes
above and beyond just to make everybody feel at home. Yeah,
it just the love was there and like I said,
even like give him a frank Katania. When he met
my ex wife, he was like, you're part of the family. Now,
this is what happens.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Yea, this is it.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
What goes on on the TV and the world doesn't matter.
This is what really matters. Where a family were together.
I love that, and this is where we planned. So
the transition was was very was very simple.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Oh that's awesome.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
That's rare. You know, that's rare. That's great that.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
I was against it. Yeah, I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 5 (19:14):
I was not because your family it sounds like from
your ex wife like everything.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Yeah, I was the stoborn moment going this weird movie.
You know, it's so weird, it's so weird. But when
I let it just be organic, I'm like, well, it's
meant to be because it's good.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah, it's weird because it's not normal normally people are fighting.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
We're doing something different. What about you blending your kids together?
Speaker 5 (19:40):
Well, when and when I married, uh, my daughters were
seven and two, so she came into the picture and
without children obviously, so it wasn't the same kind of
blending as as some families, but it was it was
a little bit of a transition, and you know, they
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grew to love Emily, I think pretty quickly. I think
little kids tend to unless they have some issues. They
can really you know, they have more love than adults do, right.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
They do.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
And Emily, So I had a house.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
I just had like a couch of TV and a
bunch of toys. Right, she comes in, she cleans it up,
She makes their bathroom feel like their bathroom. She says,
we need to decorate their rooms, not just have basic furniture.
And then it was yes, and then it was you know,
you know, on she wanted to do. She took us
to do things that we didn't normally do on the weekends,
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which was simple things like going to the park and
doing cartwheels and things like that, or something let's go
to a movie, or let's do this or that, something
more structured that costs a few bucks, but she would
make it more like a family experience. And so and
then she's given me lots of advice raising them, because
she was always like, I'm not going to be that
stepmother just comes in and starts dictating, and they're gonna
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hate me. Even though I think there can be some
balance of that. She always instills the stake, gives me advice.
I can bounce things off of her, she repackages it
and gives it back to me and says, this is
how you handle it, and so very very helpful. I
don't have time for it, but I know there's very
specific lessons that she's taught me that I still use
today with my kids.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
That's awesome. Sounds like the perfect partner sometimes.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Sometimes.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
All right, let's talk about the funniest dad moment you
as a father versus the hardest dad moment. Polly, you
go first, the funniest, funniest dad moment, Like fun, It's like,
what's the funny? And my daughter, me and my kids,
you and your kids.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
I mean, I used to tell my kids I was
a semi celebrity. I used to break their chops all
the time. They're like, I'll be like, yo, I'm a
semi celebrity. They were like, yo, Dad, what are you
talking about. I'm like, just trust me go with this
this for years, so said, when there were small I
used to shave lines in their hair and do Ronaldo
hair cuts and tell them they were fit. We do
all this. I remember when I was on the first
(22:04):
time I was on The Housewives. My kids see me
on TV. They're like that, you're a semi slept That
was kind.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Of yeah, you manifested. Yeah, I kind of manifest the
hardest time as a as a dad moment, the hardest time.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
I mean when my kids get sick. Yeah, honestly. Yeah,
my one of my my camera and got sick one time.
He was like fifteen. He had some stomach issues and
I could just think about what happened to when he
was born. That was a that was a tough time. Yeah.
Or even seeing him getting defeated in like in something
(22:43):
that happens on a on a sport or a school
or friend friends, that's like, because I want to tell them,
fucking this guy's no good. You know, dad knows better,
but they're so invested as friends. Yeah, they feel bad
because they're not getting I asked to go somewhere. That
kind of that kind of cuts me up a little bit.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Yeah, but you kind of like I got to let
him learn.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
Yeah, it's like you gotta let him get boring, Like
you just see the pain, but you just can't thrown
about it.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Yeah, Shane funniest dead moment.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
The funniest Yeah, oh gosh.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
You have a funny daughter. She's she's a lot like
your wife, Annabel.
Speaker 4 (23:24):
Yeah, she's a minnie Emily Funniest dead moment.
Speaker 5 (23:27):
Uh, that puts me on the spot.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
What was the other part the hardest, hardest dead moment?
Speaker 5 (23:36):
Hardest would be, well, you know, one, I don't know hardest.
Speaker 4 (23:40):
But one of the hard.
Speaker 5 (23:41):
Things was when my oldest got married. It wasn't the
it was partially the letting go, but it and trusting
this man that's now you know, she's going to go
to him.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
Yeah, right, and she should go.
Speaker 5 (23:52):
To him, you know, for for certain things. But it
was like, how do I transition to that? And then
do I just cut off the funds immediately car insurance
like and then I didn't know how to transition that.
So I was very, very nervous, probably about six months
in trying to figure that out and that that was difficult. Well,
(24:17):
you know, when they were younger toddlers, we just wrestle
all the time. Like literally, it sounds silly, but we
all the time. And then when you know, I had
three of them at that age, and we would wrestle
and just it'd be it feels like hours, but it
was probably just an hour, all all over the place
and you know, chasing each other being monster.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
And stuff like that.
Speaker 5 (24:40):
And then it got to a point where it was
getting it was getting kind of out of control, and
Luke ran into a chair, busted his tooth, pushed it in,
pushed his tooth in, and then now I'm getting off topic.
But then I was telling Emily, I'm like, we got
to pull it out. We got to pull it out,
and I cannot stand the dentist say anything to do
(25:00):
with teeth.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
So I'm closing my eyes, going just do Its no
big deal, it's no big deal, it's no big deal.
Speaker 5 (25:04):
Anyway, she pulls the tooth out, and Emily is like,
no more monsters, no more monster because we were getting
injured all the time and stuff. So then like a
week or two went by and they begged and begged
and begged, and I thought, nope, nope, nope, and then
finally cave did it.
Speaker 4 (25:19):
Keller lost a tooth.
Speaker 3 (25:21):
So the monster came back.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
So that's just something that was a little bit more recent.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
That's funny.
Speaker 4 (25:28):
So we always have that memory.
Speaker 5 (25:29):
They always yeah, so they always reference that you know,
that's kind of an ongoing memory of theirs. That's kind
of fun to tell.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
I have a question for you guys, is it I
did a chat to roast us?
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Dads? Are you familiar with chet?
Speaker 3 (25:54):
I did one on you tonight on the airplane on
the way here.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
I did one on all three of us.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
Want to hear? Are you okay?
Speaker 1 (26:01):
I'm gonna start with mine. I think it's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Wait, what's the question you asked, Eddie Judge? Yeah, roast,
Eddie Judge, roast. It's funny, it's amazing, is hilarious. So
Eddie Judge the only man who went on a reality
show and somehow still managed to have less screen time
than Tamra's implants.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
That's a pretty good right there.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Yeah, he left law to open a gym Cut Fitness.
Bold choice for business name, considering the only thing that
got cut was the check when Brabo canceled cameras.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Wow, that's pretty sophisticated, right.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Eddie is known for his for two things, abs and
absolute silence during the Real Housewife of Orange County drama
blink twice. If you ever finished a sentence on your own, Eddie.
Speaker 4 (26:51):
I don't know if I want you to read mine now.
I thought it was gonna be like a one liner.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Oh, it's hilarious. He married Tamra and thought he could
avoid drama. That's like jumping into a volcano and being
shocked that you got burned. Gosh, if Come Fitness had
half the SMA stamina of Tamera's Instagram story, it might
still be open.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
My gosh.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
Man still credit where credit is due.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Eddie just might be the least douchiest husband to ever
grace a Housewight franchise. He minds his business, loves his wife,
and somehow manages to survive Reality TV without launching a
tequila bran or some midlife crisis.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Impressive, right, Wow, that's pretty cool.
Speaker 5 (27:34):
That was pretty entertaining, though annoying, it came from chat
GBT makes it kind.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Of cool to well, that's real.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
It's so all right, Chane, your next Okay, go ahead.
Jane Simpson, the man, the myth, the human eye roll.
He's basically a walking shrug with a law degree that
took a few tries to get. But hey, they're times
a charm right. He's not the loudest guy in the room,
(28:05):
mostly because Emily's already doing all the talking for both
of them. Honestly, the marriage works because she loves a
challenge and Shane is one. While most house husbands are
chasing cloud, Shane's out there chasing peace and quiet and
probably wondering how he ended up married to someone who
lives in full glam and full chaos.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
At the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Shane's dry humor might not be for everyone, but clearly
it's Emily's love language, and if she's happy, we are
all just politely pretending to understand why. That's pretty good,
all right, Polly Polly should be thanking his lucky stars.
He joined the Real houseves in New Jersey the same
(28:51):
time as Louis. Because Louis hoarded all the red flags
like it was a clearance sale.
Speaker 4 (28:59):
Shout out the lot.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Compared to him, Paulie's fifteen year separation and procrastination proposal
seems quaint guilty.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Let's be Let's be real.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
The man met the lures at an apple store, which
is fitting because he's been buffering ever since he's got
electrician energy, but he can't seem to generate a spark
when it comes to locking down things.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
Man, busting your chops here and can we talk about
how he looks like.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Buzz Lightyer if bus light Year traded in space mission
for protein shakes and bags, adventures.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
To infinity, and eventually commitments.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
Oh yes, Wow, I like that. That's pretty good.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Oh joking aside, what do you think the best part
of being dad is.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
Just being a dad?
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Jane?
Speaker 4 (29:55):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (29:56):
I think it's uh you get to lift through their
eyes again. Yeah, you know, holidays are more special because
you live through them and see it through them.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
I see that here is too.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Dads who taught us everything we know and half the
stuff we probably shouldn't. Thank you guys so much for
being on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
This is awesome.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
And to all the fathers out there, keep being great dads.
Teach your kids respect
This is the EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aroyave.
Welcome back to the EDS podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
We are on location at Bottle Rock Festival and today's
special guest, Oh, I can't wait to share with this
our very first podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Guest, Shane Helloa Soudent. Welcome back, and of course.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
You know we got Polly Connell, sorry about that here
with us and we are going to talk about Father's Day.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
You guys have any experience with that? Okay? Now, Father's
Day is a special day for us.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
You know, it's the one day year that you know,
the kids get to opportunity to learn to celebrate the
us as fathers, like everything we've done for them equally
important as you know, Mother's Day.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
They get there one day. I'm not a big holiday guy.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
I think Father's Day, Mother's Day, Thanksgiving and all especially
Valentine's Day, this should be every day. You should celebrate
each other every day. It just makes a better relationship
and better life. You know, to leave it to one
day years, I don't think it's that important. So let's
just say Father's Day coming up being celebrated. We are
(01:26):
going to talk about your experience growing up. Paulli, who
was your father figure growing up and what kind of
impact did he have on you?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Yeah, that's uh, you know, well my dad's past, so
it's always a tough conversation to be honest. Well, my
dad was the guy that I never taught would be gone. Yeah.
I always would expected him to be there to the end,
no matter what.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
And ask how old you were when to pass?
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Yeah I was forty two. Yeah, so he just passed
eight years ago. And you know he was He was
a very strong demeanor man. Moral code was always on point.
Taught me right from wrong, and taught me how to
be nice to people. And we can't. We grew up
in a place in our end, not not a lot
(02:18):
of a lot of money, not a lot of things
going on, but he always made it feel right, and
I guess you know, he always taught me how to
be above even when you fell below. And that's something
that I always took away, like, no matter what you have,
you can you can you can make yourself and everybody
around you feel like this. And that's what he kind
of gave to me. It's not about you know, what
(02:40):
you bring to the tables, what you have at that moment.
So I guess for me as being a dad. Now
I reflect that and I can see that with my kids.
So as you know, I'm trying to teach what I
learned from my father to them. But obviously my kids
are you know, younger compared to things have changed. But
he was a very big, yeah, very big statement in
(03:01):
my life. He made made a lot of made a
lot of impressions that last till today.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
What's a favorite memory that you remember from your dad,
like that one, maybe that talk or that moment where
he just made a huge impact in your life My
life up yea.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
And he would tell me it was going to be okay.
After he would absolutely make sure I wouldn't understand everything
that I did was so wrong. Yeah, but he always
gave me an out and made me realize that mistakes
are okay, but they're not good to keep on making.
And you know, matured me in somewhat somewhat of a way.
And you know, back in the day, the fist was
(03:39):
the ruler when you were growing up in Ireland, that's
you were always afraid of it. And it was kind
of like, you know, learning to like watch my dad
because I was the youngest child in the house, so
he's already dealt with two of my brothers, and he
had the changes of dad because times have changed. So
I was watching I didn't even know from my dad.
(03:59):
I was watching changes a dad as I was growing
up from what I seen how he reacted with my brothers.
So that was an impressible thing. And I guess that
maybe matured me, is it, dad?
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Yeah, well yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:11):
It sound like he had a pretty big impact on
the way you are today.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Respectful. He told me to respect
my elders.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, yeah, I think that's a generation thing because that's
how I grew up. Respect your elders. Doesn't matter what
kind of clips they are. You just respect your dad,
to respect them because just because they're older.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Right, Like you said to your dad's eighty years old, right,
Like it's it's great. Like at this age, he's like,
that's what.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
You certainly got a lot more experience than I did, so,
I mean, being twice my age. Yeah yeah, I mean
you got you got to count for that for something,
of course, you know, And the same with my kids.
My kids, you know, I have as young as ten
or twelve. I have ten and twelve. And when she's
always asked, looking at me like I'm dumb for telling her,
and it's like, it's because I have experience I made.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
I was twelve too, I made mistakes.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
I'm telling you so you can have a better experience
than I did. They don't always get that, but if
they respected your elders, right, I think that term comes
with respect their experience, that they're looking out for you,
that they have something that you know they can pass
down to.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
You, whether it be a neighbor or a relative.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Yeah, but I think it kind of gets I don't know,
it feels like it gets lost.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Sometimes it does.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Get lost, but you have to keep on it. Yeah,
and you have the transition it in. I think as
our generation we have to apply that. That's what's important.
I think maybe that's why our parents, our fathers have
taught us that over the years, is not to give
up on that right, you know, because there is going
to some much generation that gets skipped.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Yeah, So tell me about your father figure.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
Oh, well, it would be my father. I was fortunate
enough to have him in the house. Him and my
mother are still married and he's eighty two now. He
was he worked a lot, though he wasn't I wouldn't
say he was a workaholic, but he did work and
he'd come home and he was very He'd come home,
he'd make a screwdriver and he would grab the newspaper
(06:07):
and he would read and that was the evening.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
So I didn't really we didn't play sports together, we
didn't really do things together.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
But he wasn't negative.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
In any way or like, you know, it wasn't like
he was some father from some you know, fifties sitcom
where kind of like they don't have time for the
kids or they're doing But we just didn't really connect.
When we got older, when I was in my twenties,
I started to get more connected with him. And then
I would say, in my early thirties is when I
started to listen to him, okay, And he would always
(06:38):
give me my dad doesn't attend a religion or anything,
but he does read a lot, read a lot of
spirituality things, and he would always try to share things
with me. And I always thought, eh, I didn't really
care for it.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Didn't care for it.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Then when I hit early thirties, I started to listen
to him. Someone gave me advice about basically listening to
my father and so I started listening to my father
and realized, hey, he's got some pretty good advice.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
So a lot of times, I know, I share a
lot of stories.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
With you about my father, and it's always later in life,
like in my thirties and forties, that I heard those
things from him or got those lessons from him.
Speaker 4 (07:09):
It's never from when I was a kid.
Speaker 5 (07:10):
One because we didn't connect very well, but two because
I started listening to them when I.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
Was older, late twenties and early thirties, because you matured. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (07:19):
Yeah, and then I had kids, and I also had
circumstances that caused me to have more of an open mind,
so I was more willing to listen and hear what
he had to say. Anyway, I get lots of little
tidbits for my father that I still carry with me today.
And one is that comes to mind right now is
I remember one time I was saying, oh, yeah, you know,
because grass is green on the other side level and
(07:41):
he goes, no, no, And I said, but it's not, and
he goes, no, no, no, it is until you get there
and then it's no longer.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
So that made me that day forward.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Really, it made me step back and not be so
quick to chase the next thing, usually something materialistic, chase
and chase and chase, because I know when I get it.
I mean, it's not so much trying to teach myself
that it's not going to make me happy, but realizing, yeah,
I will probably have some fun and some joy or
whatever it is, or some satisfaction.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
But that's but it's going to go away pretty soon,
you know, once you get it.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
So that's a true statement for almost anything in life. Right,
There's there's nothing materialistic that will last any longer than
your memories. So I'd rather make a memory of something
than like, let's say a trip or with some friends.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Like what we're doing today.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
This is going to be an awesome experience at Bottle
Rock together and enjoying this awesome event that we can
talk about for the rest of our lives, versus let's
go buy a couple of ferraris and you know, six
months from now we're going to be bored with it.
Speaker 5 (08:49):
I know you're right because you asked the question of
what you know a memory you have from your your
father figure and neither of us, And I assume most
people wouldn't say, oh, it's when.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
He bought me this, or he gave me this, but
it would rather.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Be experiences what you got from your father and so on.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
So yeah, what kind of experiences have you done, Polly
with your kids that you know this is a memory
that's going to last with us forever.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I mean, I like doing road trips. I love road trips.
A couple of years ago, we flew out the Vegas,
flew to California. Sorry, spent some time in California. We
drove over to Vegas, went to a UFC fight. We
just drove and we just hung out, booked the hotels.
We didn't didn't do any planning, and it was just
(09:43):
like whatever happened happened. And I wanted them to understand
that we're here together, so it doesn't matter where we are,
We're just going to go. We're just going to keep
on happening. And I want them to experience that, like
one on one, that like it's okay to like not
know where you're going sometimes and when you get there,
you make the best, You make the best of what
it is. And it was really They still talk about
(10:04):
the trip saying like it was so cool and it
really was like the driver your two kids in the
car across the country and like you're doing all this
cool stuff that to me is probably like it was
a real big tourning point, especially at their age, where
I was like, you know, they're enjoying this as much
as I am, and I was learning from it as
much as they were.
Speaker 5 (10:21):
Yeah, well, it sounds like it was a trip with
dad as opposed to like where did you go or
what did you do? It won't be we went to
a UFC fight, we won a road trip with my
dad exactly.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
We're with my dad.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Like the stuff that we did even on the road trip,
like you know what I mean, like like stopping off
to eat on like the side of the road, and
like went to these crazy places, like it's not only
what you would do, but we just did it because
we were like, we didn't have any schedules, so we
just whatever happened happened.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Did you stop at Eddie's World and the way to base.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
There's a really place on the side. Oh yeah, and
it's got all your stuff ice cream. Yeah, It's like
it's like ten thousand square feet of candy. That's all.
It is.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Bizarre, bizarre, that's funny. You know, on the road trip thing.
I got a book from my dad written by Jack
Kurek titled On the Road, and it was that book
that gave me the guts and desire to just hit
the road one day and just go and no matter
where I ended up, I ended up.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
And to this day, I still want to do that.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
It's in my like genes, like I just want to
jump on my Harley and just go, not plan and
just when I get there, I get there and I'll
figure it out. You know, there's there's so much freedom
to that. There is, and it's not necessarily leaving behind
your problems or your challenges or your responsibilities. But that
freedom to be able to do that is unexplicable.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Yeah, right, no, it is. You're right.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
I love road trips. Those are my favorite things to do.
In fact, I've been trying to talk my wife into
going on a road trip to Moab.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
I just took a trick.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
It's joy in the journey, then the road trip would
be it, right, yeah, but not mow Ab so much.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
It's the trip as well, the road trip part.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
And and where there's no Wi Fi or internet connections
so that she can be off her phone for at least,
you know, that's funny.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
That's the funny thing on this trip I did with
my kids, which were normally like stuck to their phone,
there was just conversations going on, which was the other
thing that was I never tried to like create the conversation.
The conversation just naturally, and it was like, it seemed
like the perfect time to eat was when everybody wanted
to eat. Yeah, the perfect time to stop was when
everybody wanted to stop. It was just natural, So it
(12:37):
was it was Yeah, definitely, conversation was cool.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
So let me go back a little bit too, when
you first became a dad and how did that change
or shift your world? Like, I don't have kids of
my own that I've ever experienced, you know, the birth
of a child, and every really good friend of mine
that's shared that experience that it's the most magical experience
because you made this kid, right, tell me about the
(13:02):
first time you became a dad.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Yeah, So the first time I became a dad my
son Cameron, who is twenty four. He was born in
Saint John's and Queens and he was a high risk baby.
So I was living here by myself in this country
with my ex wife at the time, and we were
expecting our first child, very new, very like, very common,
(13:29):
like just we just didn't know what to do. And
he was We were told that there was a chance
that he would not make it, and we were like,
you know this, this is like, you know, not news
that you want to hear when you have a child.
He was born with a thing called gascroskises. It's it's
like an intestine developing on the outside rather on the inside.
(13:49):
This it was a very big, heavy thing.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
First one scenes you knew when he was born that
he was going to need certain medical care correct regardless,
regardless to even if surved he was death.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
And I always remember it. We we knew that we
knew about what was coming up. Was was something that
we had no clue about. But we're in the best
place in the world, America. Right at the same time,
we were like so scared because we're in a country
that we don't have anybody. Number One, I'm going to
become a dad, She's going to become, you know, a
(14:21):
mother too. And I always remember when we sat down
with this person, they said, you can you can make
a decision right now and not go true with this,
and we can make things change and I'm like, I'm
a dad. Yeah, I can't do that. Yeah, even though
the baby was still you know them in the womb.
I was like, no, no, no, no, I'm a dad. Yeah.
(14:42):
And they were like, you understand that there's possibility that
you know, there is I said, it doesn't matter. That
was my first moment I became a dad.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
And I remember I stood on Queen's Boulevard and I
was in like New York, and I'm looking at my
ex wife going, this is it. We're in for the run.
You don't get an option in this situation now, and
you have to go with that. And that was my
first experience of becoming with that wow, instant over protection, instant.
And that's when I knew that you know you just
(15:12):
kind of you don't you just never changed from that moment.
I can't explain it. Well, you could, but I can't
explain it.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
What about you?
Speaker 5 (15:18):
Oh gosh, Well, Paul is a very good storyteller.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
You articulate very it's not a compensation. I can't tell that.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (15:27):
The first time I became a father, I was I
don't evenmember how. Though it was twenty four, I was
pretty young. I was still in school, and I think I,
if I were to look back, it would be I
wasn't worried, and I remember not worrying and just being
excited because I thought it would be easy. And I thought, oh,
I have my parents. I've seen my sister do it
(15:49):
like you just have a kid and everyone, all the
family members come in and everyone so happy.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
So I was kind of oblivious that way.
Speaker 5 (15:57):
And uh, but and I and I've said this to
Emily two all the way to I have five kids,
so all the way to the fifth kids, she knows
this that I don't really get attached here here PAULI
is before the child is born, proclaiming he's a father
right on public me. I always say, I don't really
get attached to about a year, okay, And I don't
(16:19):
know why. I'll take care of them, I'll change the
divers I'll do everything, but I just I don't connect yet. Yeah,
And it's not a it's not something I'm proud of.
But then one night they hit about one and I
start to see their personalities.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
It just that's the end of it. Yeah, And all
the way to this day, I'm going to tell you
I love being with kids.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
I'm always with kids. It just takes a while for
me to really get connected. I might have to do
something with my childhood.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Well do you have that in general with relationships with people.
It takes you a while to get to know people
or you know.
Speaker 5 (16:53):
I don't say, I just, I just I've never grew
up with little babies. I was the youngest, I didn't
have any cousins, I didn't have any anything like that.
So I think that might be why I just don't connect. Yeah,
I mean, it's not saying I'm proud of but ysked
the question. That's the honest answer. And Emily will tell
you the same thing too. But then then after that
(17:15):
it's over.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
I mean, yeah, I mean today Emily can't say enough
about what an amazing Oh well, thank you.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
But I do let me clarify thank you in the beginning.
I do feel an obligation. I make sure I do
everything I can, and it really does matter. I just
I'm not lovey dovey and I'm not hugging and kissing yet. Yeah,
it's and I know that, and it just takes a
while for me to get there.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
That's okay. So we're hugging now, right, that's my story.
We're hugging.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
But okay, Paully, speaking of kids, was it I think
I asked you this before. Was it blending families with
Dolores smooth a learning curve?
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Was it easy? Tell us a little bit more about that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Yeah, as I said earlier, was it it was easy?
Because kids are I mean, Frankie and Gabby are like
the best, right, They're just there like there's I mean,
if I if I wanted to have a girl on
the by, and that's what I would paint them as. Right,
and your kids, yeah, yeah, just by time, just by
the time, okay. But they blend and they all talk,
(18:16):
and they all texted group text, and they all chat
and they all whatever hang out together. The transition was
easy because number one, my ex wife, their mam was
all for it. Okay, So the transition was easy from
this perspective of that, it's the Laurus Katania. She makes
a conspider feel welcome in her house. Right, She's just Jesus,
(18:37):
that's what she is. So that was also very helpful.
And my kids love the Loores and they she goes
above and beyond just to make everybody feel at home. Yeah,
it just the love was there and like I said,
even like give him a frank Katania. When he met
my ex wife, he was like, you're part of the family. Now,
this is what happens.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Yea, this is it.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
What goes on on the TV and the world doesn't matter.
This is what really matters. Where a family were together.
I love that, and this is where we planned. So
the transition was was very was very simple.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Oh that's awesome.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
That's rare. You know, that's rare. That's great that.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
I was against it. Yeah, I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 5 (19:14):
I was not because your family it sounds like from
your ex wife like everything.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Yeah, I was the stoborn moment going this weird movie.
You know, it's so weird, it's so weird. But when
I let it just be organic, I'm like, well, it's
meant to be because it's good.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah, it's weird because it's not normal normally people are fighting.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
We're doing something different. What about you blending your kids together?
Speaker 5 (19:40):
Well, when and when I married, uh, my daughters were
seven and two, so she came into the picture and
without children obviously, so it wasn't the same kind of
blending as as some families, but it was it was
a little bit of a transition, and you know, they
(20:00):
grew to love Emily, I think pretty quickly. I think
little kids tend to unless they have some issues. They
can really you know, they have more love than adults do, right.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
They do.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
And Emily, So I had a house.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
I just had like a couch of TV and a
bunch of toys. Right, she comes in, she cleans it up,
She makes their bathroom feel like their bathroom. She says,
we need to decorate their rooms, not just have basic furniture.
And then it was yes, and then it was you know,
you know, on she wanted to do. She took us
to do things that we didn't normally do on the weekends,
(20:35):
which was simple things like going to the park and
doing cartwheels and things like that, or something let's go
to a movie, or let's do this or that, something
more structured that costs a few bucks, but she would
make it more like a family experience. And so and
then she's given me lots of advice raising them, because
she was always like, I'm not going to be that
stepmother just comes in and starts dictating, and they're gonna
(20:56):
hate me. Even though I think there can be some
balance of that. She always instills the stake, gives me advice.
I can bounce things off of her, she repackages it
and gives it back to me and says, this is
how you handle it, and so very very helpful. I
don't have time for it, but I know there's very
specific lessons that she's taught me that I still use
today with my kids.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
That's awesome. Sounds like the perfect partner sometimes.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Sometimes.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
All right, let's talk about the funniest dad moment you
as a father versus the hardest dad moment. Polly, you
go first, the funniest, funniest dad moment, Like fun, It's like,
what's the funny? And my daughter, me and my kids,
you and your kids.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
I mean, I used to tell my kids I was
a semi celebrity. I used to break their chops all
the time. They're like, I'll be like, yo, I'm a
semi celebrity. They were like, yo, Dad, what are you
talking about. I'm like, just trust me go with this
this for years, so said, when there were small I
used to shave lines in their hair and do Ronaldo
hair cuts and tell them they were fit. We do
all this. I remember when I was on the first
(22:04):
time I was on The Housewives. My kids see me
on TV. They're like that, you're a semi slept That
was kind.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Of yeah, you manifested. Yeah, I kind of manifest the
hardest time as a as a dad moment, the hardest time.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
I mean when my kids get sick. Yeah, honestly. Yeah,
my one of my my camera and got sick one time.
He was like fifteen. He had some stomach issues and
I could just think about what happened to when he
was born. That was a that was a tough time. Yeah.
Or even seeing him getting defeated in like in something
(22:43):
that happens on a on a sport or a school
or friend friends, that's like, because I want to tell them,
fucking this guy's no good. You know, dad knows better,
but they're so invested as friends. Yeah, they feel bad
because they're not getting I asked to go somewhere. That
kind of that kind of cuts me up a little bit.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Yeah, but you kind of like I got to let
him learn.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
Yeah, it's like you gotta let him get boring, Like
you just see the pain, but you just can't thrown
about it.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Yeah, Shane funniest dead moment.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
The funniest Yeah, oh gosh.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
You have a funny daughter. She's she's a lot like
your wife, Annabel.
Speaker 4 (23:24):
Yeah, she's a minnie Emily Funniest dead moment.
Speaker 5 (23:27):
Uh, that puts me on the spot.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
What was the other part the hardest, hardest dead moment?
Speaker 5 (23:36):
Hardest would be, well, you know, one, I don't know hardest.
Speaker 4 (23:40):
But one of the hard.
Speaker 5 (23:41):
Things was when my oldest got married. It wasn't the
it was partially the letting go, but it and trusting
this man that's now you know, she's going to go
to him.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
Yeah, right, and she should go.
Speaker 5 (23:52):
To him, you know, for for certain things. But it
was like, how do I transition to that? And then
do I just cut off the funds immediately car insurance
like and then I didn't know how to transition that.
So I was very, very nervous, probably about six months
in trying to figure that out and that that was difficult. Well,
(24:17):
you know, when they were younger toddlers, we just wrestle
all the time. Like literally, it sounds silly, but we
all the time. And then when you know, I had
three of them at that age, and we would wrestle
and just it'd be it feels like hours, but it
was probably just an hour, all all over the place
and you know, chasing each other being monster.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
And stuff like that.
Speaker 5 (24:40):
And then it got to a point where it was
getting it was getting kind of out of control, and
Luke ran into a chair, busted his tooth, pushed it in,
pushed his tooth in, and then now I'm getting off topic.
But then I was telling Emily, I'm like, we got
to pull it out. We got to pull it out,
and I cannot stand the dentist say anything to do
(25:00):
with teeth.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
So I'm closing my eyes, going just do Its no
big deal, it's no big deal, it's no big deal.
Speaker 5 (25:04):
Anyway, she pulls the tooth out, and Emily is like,
no more monsters, no more monster because we were getting
injured all the time and stuff. So then like a
week or two went by and they begged and begged
and begged, and I thought, nope, nope, nope, and then
finally cave did it.
Speaker 4 (25:19):
Keller lost a tooth.
Speaker 3 (25:21):
So the monster came back.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
So that's just something that was a little bit more recent.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
That's funny.
Speaker 4 (25:28):
So we always have that memory.
Speaker 5 (25:29):
They always yeah, so they always reference that you know,
that's kind of an ongoing memory of theirs. That's kind
of fun to tell.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
I have a question for you guys, is it I
did a chat to roast us?
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Dads? Are you familiar with chet?
Speaker 3 (25:54):
I did one on you tonight on the airplane on
the way here.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
I did one on all three of us.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
Want to hear? Are you okay?
Speaker 1 (26:01):
I'm gonna start with mine. I think it's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Wait, what's the question you asked, Eddie Judge? Yeah, roast,
Eddie Judge, roast. It's funny, it's amazing, is hilarious. So
Eddie Judge the only man who went on a reality
show and somehow still managed to have less screen time
than Tamra's implants.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
That's a pretty good right there.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Yeah, he left law to open a gym Cut Fitness.
Bold choice for business name, considering the only thing that
got cut was the check when Brabo canceled cameras.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Wow, that's pretty sophisticated, right.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Eddie is known for his for two things, abs and
absolute silence during the Real Housewife of Orange County drama
blink twice. If you ever finished a sentence on your own, Eddie.
Speaker 4 (26:51):
I don't know if I want you to read mine now.
I thought it was gonna be like a one liner.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Oh, it's hilarious. He married Tamra and thought he could
avoid drama. That's like jumping into a volcano and being
shocked that you got burned. Gosh, if Come Fitness had
half the SMA stamina of Tamera's Instagram story, it might
still be open.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
My gosh.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
Man still credit where credit is due.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Eddie just might be the least douchiest husband to ever
grace a Housewight franchise. He minds his business, loves his wife,
and somehow manages to survive Reality TV without launching a
tequila bran or some midlife crisis.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Impressive, right, Wow, that's pretty cool.
Speaker 5 (27:34):
That was pretty entertaining, though annoying, it came from chat
GBT makes it kind.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Of cool to well, that's real.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
It's so all right, Chane, your next Okay, go ahead.
Jane Simpson, the man, the myth, the human eye roll.
He's basically a walking shrug with a law degree that
took a few tries to get. But hey, they're times
a charm right. He's not the loudest guy in the room,
(28:05):
mostly because Emily's already doing all the talking for both
of them. Honestly, the marriage works because she loves a
challenge and Shane is one. While most house husbands are
chasing cloud, Shane's out there chasing peace and quiet and
probably wondering how he ended up married to someone who
lives in full glam and full chaos.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
At the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Shane's dry humor might not be for everyone, but clearly
it's Emily's love language, and if she's happy, we are
all just politely pretending to understand why. That's pretty good,
all right, Polly Polly should be thanking his lucky stars.
He joined the Real houseves in New Jersey the same
(28:51):
time as Louis. Because Louis hoarded all the red flags
like it was a clearance sale.
Speaker 4 (28:59):
Shout out the lot.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Compared to him, Paulie's fifteen year separation and procrastination proposal
seems quaint guilty.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Let's be Let's be real.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
The man met the lures at an apple store, which
is fitting because he's been buffering ever since he's got
electrician energy, but he can't seem to generate a spark
when it comes to locking down things.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
Man, busting your chops here and can we talk about
how he looks like.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Buzz Lightyer if bus light Year traded in space mission
for protein shakes and bags, adventures.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
To infinity, and eventually commitments.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
Oh yes, Wow, I like that. That's pretty good.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Oh joking aside, what do you think the best part
of being dad is.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
Just being a dad?
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Jane?
Speaker 4 (29:55):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (29:56):
I think it's uh you get to lift through their
eyes again. Yeah, you know, holidays are more special because
you live through them and see it through them.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
I see that here is too.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Dads who taught us everything we know and half the
stuff we probably shouldn't. Thank you guys so much for
being on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
This is awesome.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
And to all the fathers out there, keep being great dads.
Teach your kids respect
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Edwin Arroyave
Eddie Judge
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