October 7, 2025 • 31 mins
While the world of military and first responders is often mostly male, Ashley and the ladies of One Tribe Foundation are proud to be a part of a thriving sisterhood in their community. Today Ashley takes the recording equipment with her and leaves Jake and Nick behind for her monthly One Tribe Women’s Lunch.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to season two of the Good Stuff.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
I'm Ashley Shick, and I'm joined by my husband and
co host, Jacob Shick, a third generation combat marine and
CEO of One Tribe Foundation.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Ashley also comes from a family rich in military history,
and we've dedicated our lives to One Tribe's mission, serving veterans,
first responders, and their families.
Speaker 4 (00:18):
We're coming to you from Dallas, so welcome to.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Texas and joining us all season long from Los Angeles, California,
is our West Coast long haired friend and producer of
The Good Stuff, Nick Cassolini.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
We are in for a treat today because Ashley is
taking us to the One Tribe Women's lunch.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
You don't get to come inside, but I mean I'll
tell you about it.
Speaker 6 (00:37):
We get to look creepy from the outside of its period.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Through the windows.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
You do, I'm not going.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Just a quick heads up. This show can explore some
heavy subject matter, including talks of suicide, so listener discretion
is advised.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
We couldn't be happier You're here again.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Welcome to the Good Stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
See today we are hosting the One Tribe Women's gathering,
and obviously, Nick, you and I are not going to partake.
Speaker 5 (01:21):
I'm so sad about it too. Of course, I just
want to hang out with the girls, you know, that's
my favorite thing.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
I'm not shocked by that, however, Comma, I think it's
really important for every culture to have subcultures and yeah,
community or another way to say it is communities that
have subcommunities. I think it's a way to strengthen individuals,
which ultimately collectively strengthened the community.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
For example, it's.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Like a military model. A military will have a battalion,
and then within that battalion you have companies. Within the companies,
you have platoons. Within the platoons, you have squads. Within
the squads, you have fire teams. Right, but you're all
connected to the same ultimate team. Right, So it's the
same mindset.
Speaker 5 (02:04):
Right, but this time it'll just be like Ashley and
a bunch of wonderful women enjoying Fahidas.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
That's right. Today it's the ladies.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
So yeah, we founded one tribe women about a year
ago actually, and we've grown to two hundred strong nationwide.
But essentially, the whole idea is that a lot of
times female veterans, first responders, law enforcement officers as well
as the wives sometimes widows, sisters, mothers, daughters of those
who serve can be in a predominantly male world. Yeah,
(02:35):
for me personally, you know, I've got three boys. I've
got my husband and my two little bubba's and so
it's I've got a sweatshirt that says me and the
boys because you know, and that's good for me, because
I love sports and I love being outside with them,
and I love all the things that we do. But
the sisterhood is important. It's important for you to connect
with other women and on a regular basis and have
(02:58):
that sisterhood in that time to just get together and
be girlfriends. And so we started the One Tribe Women group,
like I stated, and it's really taken off. It's a
lot of fun. We get together once a month, whether
that be at a local restaurant for lunch or last
month we did bingo, which was I haven't played bingo
I think since my great groodmother way back in the day.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It was hilarious. It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
You know. Over Christmas we did an ornament exchange and
so we try to change it up and have a
lot of fun. But it is it's girly time together.
And it is funny though, because as a tribe, we
always do so much together. We have so many events
that we all do together. We plan together, we execute together, etc.
And so when Tiffany and MirOS and myself decided to
(03:42):
start One Tribe Women and we were about to leave
for our first One Tribe Women lunch and you know,
some of the guys at the office at the tribe
were like, where're we all going. We were like, we're
going our One Tribe Women lunch and they're like, we
aren't invited, and no, you're not invited.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
It's One Tribe Women. This is for the ladies.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
And of course they were so hilarious and gracious, but
they were like, you know, it's called One Tribe Ashley.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
You know, you know, we're all supposed to be one.
So it was it was funny.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
But then they actually, through this started their monthly Guy's
Poker Nights, which is really cool. So that's just the
guys that come together and it's the same thing, it's
the same idea, same concept. It's the camaraderie amongst you know,
the like minded this and but it's funny, yeah, for
a little bit in their.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Feels of course, and of course all each of them
want to be like me and just be the one
special dude that gets invited. They don't care if it's
everyone cubs. I just want to cub. Well.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
I mentioned where where we're headed today and it's as
spars as in Grapevine and I've never been there, but everybody,
Oh my goodness, I love a spar Then they started
listening all these specific items off the menu that they
dine off.
Speaker 6 (04:46):
It's like, bro, you're still not getting the invite.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
You know, I'll bring you leftovers.
Speaker 6 (04:50):
That's hilarious.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Another aspect that the One Tribe Woman group has is
that it's a connector for when one of the women
loses the husband, boyfriend, dad, men in their life, Like
they're able to come in and have this support network
that's built in and they know that they can go
and it's these are other women that know me, care
(05:12):
about me, love me, and are gonna be there for me.
So again, it's just strengthening the overall community through subcommunity. Yeah,
you know, there's again there's a lot of science behind it.
There's a reason that we do it, and there's a
reason we do it the way we do it.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
I can imagine too, if you're a part of this
greater community, let's say the veteran community, because maybe your
father is a veteran and that's how you're you know,
that's why you're a part of that community is through
your father. And then if your father passes, it can feel.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Like maybe that link with the community.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Is now gone absolutely.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
And between this and our watch program, we are the
Children of Heroes program. You know, we aim to make
sure the individuals that have been in this community are
still very much involved in this community. That's that's part
of the wrapping our arms around them and keeping them involved. Yeah,
but we talk about everything. I mean, we talk about
everything from music and activities and all the kids with
(06:05):
all the kiddos are doing, and all the sports and
everything to laundry detergent, you know, because a lot of
us are the laundry warriors in our household. And we
literally had an entire lunch where we talked about.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
The best smelling lodge for deturchit.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I'm grateful because I found a good one.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:21):
Right, you came together in your time of need, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Support see, And that's what I think listeners need to
understand is it doesn't have to be a well thought out,
well constructed, planned orchestra of self help. Yeah, right right,
like it doesn't have to be that. If you have
an idea about a thing, do the thing. It's going
to evolve on its own.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You're still not invited.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
I never wanted to go.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
He was not one of the ones saying, you know,
it's one tribe.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Jake was like, go, I mean, I think there's some
days that he's like, don't you everyone tribe women lunch today.
But for all of our lucky listeners today, even though
you two aren't invited, I am going to be taking
all the lunch with me today and we're going to
go to Asparsas in great time.
Speaker 5 (07:08):
We're going to take a quick commercial break, but when
we come back, we'll introduce.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
You to the ladies.
Speaker 5 (07:17):
Welcome back to the good stuff. All right, Ashley, are
you ready to take us to lunch?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Let's go.
Speaker 8 (07:25):
What they're doing because they're doing something with all the
people another.
Speaker 9 (07:34):
Grand opening, Yeah, with fireworks starting at seven pm?
Speaker 5 (07:37):
Or who you are recording?
Speaker 10 (07:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Did you did that?
Speaker 1 (07:54):
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Speaker 9 (07:59):
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Speaker 1 (08:09):
You go buy mirrors. Yeah, I saw your pin again
last night.
Speaker 8 (08:13):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Oh it's okay.
Speaker 9 (08:14):
I put my name so I make sure it comes
back to me glad, but you can use it.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I forget.
Speaker 9 (08:19):
And this is how I know if people take him
start seeing them writing with it, like you're like, that's
mine if you know how to read it says, and
you don't saw it wherever.
Speaker 7 (08:29):
I'm so young that the doctors don't believe that cancer excusing,
so they don't really say attention to that because they
can tell me, oh you.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Oh, it's just some five roses.
Speaker 9 (08:44):
So we went to At that time, I was living
in California, so I went to Mexico.
Speaker 10 (08:48):
And see doctors over there, and they chose five roses medication.
Speaker 9 (08:54):
But by the time we lived on my second ultra sound,
there was already a really big luck.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
So they I talked to him.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
If you had to describe it to someone that's never
heard of it, like, how would you describe the group.
Speaker 9 (09:08):
It's like a time with friends, like going out to
lynch with friends we haven't even met, but as soon
as we meet there, we just oh, hi too, oh okay,
and we're all just friends right away. It's important to
me because I have a hard time making friends, and
going here, I am with other people that I assume
(09:29):
want to make friends too, and it's interesting to hear
from different people since I don't know a lot of
people here in Texas, and they tell me the good
places student.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
My husband does that all the time.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Bill.
Speaker 7 (09:42):
I'm like, all right, you picked the movie tonight, and
he'll pick it. It's like some sign by or something
that I have no interesting, no desire watching, and he's
on his phone. I'm like, are you watching this movie?
Because if you're on your phone on Facebook, then I'm
going to change the movie because I have no desire
to watch it. But you want me to see next
to you, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
When I'm out with people, my phone has always put away.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Yeah, But when I'm home, I feel like it's always
in my hands. But I don't want to watch what
Steve's watching, but he wants me to sit next to him.
Speaker 7 (10:12):
I'm like, i feel like I'm held hostage.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Say in spell your name for me. The hardest question
I'm gonna ask.
Speaker 10 (10:21):
Susan Allen, what is your title?
Speaker 1 (10:26):
What do you do?
Speaker 10 (10:27):
Well?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
There's lots of things.
Speaker 10 (10:28):
So I do work for Mister Restore, which is a
disaster restoration company, but I also help out and serve
in funerates for a different local first responder and veteran organizations.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Which is how we've gotten to know you so well
over the years. Tell me about your relationship with One Tribe.
Speaker 10 (10:46):
I followed One Tribe Foundation back when it was originally
twenty two Kill and Matt movement had started, and had
watched Jake from Afar. But I actually got went down
and met and got my original twenty two kild ring
which I still wear from Michael Carneal.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Oh wow, oh wow.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We all know and love Michael Carnell and keep his
memory alive every day. Yea, he was actually on Season
one of the Good Stuff and when he was still
in in his cancer battle that you know, we still
think about him daily and yep, and still feel him
with us and around us every day.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Tell me about why you came here today, What are
we doing?
Speaker 10 (11:24):
Well?
Speaker 1 (11:24):
What are we doing while we're eating?
Speaker 10 (11:26):
And but I think I mean for us, for those
of us who you know, which I know a lot
of the ladies are actually veterans.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I am not.
Speaker 10 (11:35):
I come from a veteran family. But I think it's
good for girls to get together. We deal with things
completely different than the guys, and it's nice to have
that different kind of support system and just kind of
figure out what's going on in our world and how
we can help each other.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
Oh, that looks good.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, that does look good.
Speaker 7 (11:54):
Kind of a five years and I'm Debbie Abelson.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
And if you are a woman marine, I am in
your words being a veteran, being in a family of marines.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Why is the work that One Tribe Foundation does? Why
is it important to you?
Speaker 7 (12:11):
Veterans don't get the same. Veterans have problems when they
get out of the military. There's a lot of things
that they have to adjust to, the camaraderie being in
my case being a marine, it's so different than being
a civilian. And there are not those things out there
(12:34):
for people. They may be out there, but people don't
know where to look for them. And so with One
Tribe they do a lot of that. We have in
my son's unit, he was in a reserve unit in
Fort Worth and out of thirty two he has lost
four or five to suicide. And learning what Jake has
(12:57):
been through and everything that twenty two kill provides the
services that they provide. I think that is such a
good fit. And the people I do that I've met
that are civilians. They don't understand and so when I
come to one tribe, everybody is the same. Met one
gal today. She was in the army, so we were
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able to talk about that, and it's nice to see
other people, other women in the same scenarios. I'm also
a wife of a marine, so there are wives there
also that we can talk. I'm a mom of two marines,
so there's things that I might be able to help
somebody else that they've been.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Going through with their son or daughters.
Speaker 6 (13:42):
So love, I love being.
Speaker 8 (13:43):
From Okay, all right, so let'spill your name for me.
Tiffany Fox t I F F A n Y Fox
say here.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
I got the first question.
Speaker 7 (14:00):
Right, but I have I'm going to Nationals.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Have my way lived to con.
Speaker 8 (14:10):
It's just fun to sit back and just listen to
the different conversations that go on because there's a group conversations, obviously,
but there's just little little conversations that go on around
the table. And I think that's one of my favorite
things is I sit back and I listened a lot
of times, and just some of those stuff that comes
out of people's mouths, it just it just puts a
big smile on your face and belly laughs.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Belly laughs for sure. Yes, it's just it's just a
good time.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Agreed with us being in this man's world, if you will,
Because we predominantly are always around men.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Why is it important.
Speaker 8 (14:42):
It's important to be vulnerable with other women? You know,
it's it's hard to do. I think there's a lot
of expectations when it comes to being a woman, and
women have fought for a really long time to get
to where we are today and to be respected and
heard and to have a voice, and even still unfortunately
you still battle that right when you're working around a
(15:04):
bunch of men sometimes, so just being able to have
that vulnerability and build each other up. And there's a
lot of mean girl syndrome out in the world, you know,
especially with social media and stuff. I at the bullying
stuff that goes on, and so just having that time
to just build each other up and just be there
for each other, it's just there's nothing like it. It's
(15:25):
just it's golden.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It's a gym, agreed, It's it's like a. It's soul
food that we get every month.
Speaker 8 (15:30):
And I think, if anything, we learn stuff from each other, right,
you know, just different things women worry about, right, like
hair and makeup and wait, and you know, jobs and
just motherhood, just all the things that women worry about.
And you know, you get all these little nuggets of
information from different people and it just adds to your
own library of stuff you can do for yourself or
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learn from or go research about, or you know, just
different things. So it's just good, good time.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
All their.
Speaker 9 (15:59):
Dis No, you didn't making fun of it, like making jokes.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
Was got through it?
Speaker 9 (16:08):
That really got me making my own jokes. Yes, you
had to, otherwise I would look for things if I
had to do with funny lot canceled jokes and stuff
and had post them, and my family and friends some
of them were like, like, you know, they didn't really
like it.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
They thought it was too dark, and I'm like, no dark.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Why is it important to have the female camaraderie.
Speaker 9 (16:33):
Because although you know, you spend time with your husband
or significant other, it's just women. We get to see
a different perspective of things. And once we get to
talk to each other, we realized, oh so I'm not
alone on this. Oh I'm not alone on that either.
It just makes you realize you have people that are
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the same as you are now making friends.
Speaker 10 (16:57):
But you know the conversation did we have all about
things and was somewhere and another group.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Let's take a quick break and when we come back,
we'll check back in with Nick and Jake.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Welcome back here, I am with the boys.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
How was the women's luncheon today, bab.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
We had a great group. It was a very lively group.
You never I mean sometimes we have introverts come. Sometimes
we with like one or two personalities. Today it was
all personalities, just straight up.
Speaker 5 (17:48):
I did walk into the restaurant towards the end and
I was like, is there a group of tables that
I heard a bunch of laughing.
Speaker 6 (17:52):
I was like, those are the late that's them.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
They're right there. Put us right by the door. We
were the welcoming committee. It's so much fun.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
It's just it's a highlight of my month because you
get this great group of women together. And sometimes it's
the same people. Sometimes it's brand new faces. Like today
I'm at two new ladies who were super, super sweet
and a lot of fun and energetic and very involved
in the veteran community in North Texas. They both actually
are with Irreverent Warriors, and one in Fort Worth and
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one in Arlington, So it was really great to talk
to them about all the cool things that they have
going on. And then there was a lady who's been
a volunteer for us who is just phenomenal. She's actually
an Army veteran. She served in the Army back in
the seventies and then got out and hated life, so
she re enlisted and actually retired out of the Army.
And then one of our favorite women Marines, Debbie, was
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there and along with our girl Susan and Kelly, who
are both huge veteran advocates. Kelly actually is We call
her Don Graves Keeper. Don Graves is a World War
Two veteran who was actually a flamethrower on Iwajima. She
brought out these pictures of Don Greaves unit, like these
black and white pictures, went to her car and got
(19:03):
him and brought him to us. It was amazing to
just see like that was the flamethrower that Don Graves
carried when he was on e Regima. Unbelievable. He's actually
turning one hundred next month, so she invited us to
his one hundredth birthday party.
Speaker 6 (19:16):
Damn good for him, God Bless And.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
This man is he is a riot. He has a
great voice. He loves to sing patriotic songs. And he
actually sang at mine and Jake's engagement party years ago,
got the whole crowd singing God Bless America. Is very
beautiful moment and very moving, and he sings the anthem
at different events and stuff. But anyway, so Kelly was there,
and then Susan Allen of course, who's just a phenomenal
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lady who does so much for our veterans and first
responders in this community. And so it was a lot
of really big, great personalities. Conversation completely flowed, and I
mean we talked about all the things we missed, you awesome,
We had Asparza's.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Hey, so was it all that in a bag of
wavy lace? Like everybody was, because everybody was raving about.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
Oh my gosh, you get to go to the as Sparsa's.
Speaker 6 (20:10):
Everyone was like, oh, I come here every Friday.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Yeah, we walk in and Tiffany and Mudros and I
had never been there, and then everyone else at the
table was like, yeah, we come here every week, and
I was like, oh, okay, well we're not posh like you.
I looked at Tiffany, I said, how did you even
find this place? And she was like, I googled it
and it had really good reviews. But yeah, apparently it's famous.
There was a very henri little toddler at the table
right next to us named Rosie, who was hilarious and
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jumping all over everything. She had her name embroidered on
the back of her denim jacket. Is how we knew
cute little Texas girl. But anyway, so we all continued
to comment on and pay attention to Rosie and then
of course I did my baby whisper thing to her
and she calmed down and just then we played Peekaboo
for like thirty minutes. But we talked about all kinds
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of things like we always do. You never know where
the conversation is going to go, and depending on who's
in attendance, you know, we're missing a couple of the
big personalities, but trust you me, they were. There were
plenty more to take their place.
Speaker 4 (21:08):
But I have no doubt about that.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Yes, yes, we talked about I mean everything from debian
Michelle's service back in the nineteen seventies and how different
it was for female service members back in that era
that they actually had makeup classes and hair classes and
nail classes the Marine Corps.
Speaker 4 (21:28):
Did you imagine today it would never.
Speaker 6 (21:31):
Be they do they think they were good classes?
Speaker 4 (21:34):
No?
Speaker 3 (21:34):
No, I mean I don't even know it, because Debbie
talk to me about this obviously, because Marine Marines. I'm
just like, it's just it's kind of stunning to me
that that's government overreach.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
They they said they almost felt like back in that
day because there was you know, Michelle was an Army
veteran back in the seventies. They said that they almost
felt like they were kind of in this flight attendant role,
like you you're meant to look beauty full. You're kind
of like our poster children for this new genre of
military member. And they didn't do workouts, they didn't do
obstacle courses, they didn't do push ups, they didn't do anything.
(22:11):
The only thing Debbie had to do two PFTs a year,
and they were running a mile and she remembers when
they bumped it from a mile to a mile and
a half and they all thought they were gonna die,
and then Michelle like chimes in and talks about her
experience where she had to do push ups when she
went back in the military, and she was like crying.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
She was like, this is so hard.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
It was like that they'd gotten through boot camp prior
to that, right, and so it was really interesting to
hear their perspectives of their time in the military and
then kind of compare it. Of course, that rolled into
a conversation about today's military and because some of them
have children or grandchildren that are serving now. And from
there the conversation snowballed over to dark humor, and we
(22:52):
talked about how being around this world and in this world,
a lot of times we share that dark humor. And
then who'sn't told funny but not funny? I don't think
it was supposed to be funny story, but about when
she thought she was in a place where she could
exercise dark humor, so she laughed at something that she
thought was a joke, but it wasn't a joke, and
(23:13):
then people had to apologize. Yeah, So, I mean, it's
like you never know what you're going to get at
one of these luncheons. But we have so much fun
and everybody feels comfortable and safe, and you know, I mean,
we talked about serious issues like breast cancer because Meros
is a survivor and so she was able to share
some of you know, her experiences in that. And then
we talked about different books that we're reading in different
(23:35):
movies that we've seen recently. And I found out that
the DD apparently allows you to have I always learned
something at these luncheons too, but I found out the
DD actually has some sort of almost public library book
rental program.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
I haven't looked it up yet, but.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
This is in my notes of things to do post
my One Tribe Woman luncheon this month. But you can
actually like rent books or check out books through the DoD,
which I thought was really fascinating because of course we
talked about the Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. Half
the table had read it and loved it, so we
kind of unpacked that a little bit.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Wait, civilians can do this or no military people?
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Military people, That's what I thought.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Yeah, because I I only ever went to the DoD
library as the.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
Point, well, I was like, wait, we have been.
Speaker 4 (24:22):
I didn't know that was a thing. I don't think
one Marina ever served with ever knew that was a thing.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Well, one of the ladies actually looked it up on
her little DoD library app while we were at lunch
and said that, oh, yeah, I can check that book out.
They let them I can check it out, but not
for three months because they're all checked out. And I
was like, yeah, that doesn't surprise me because it's a
great book. But I mean, we talked about everything from
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makeup tips to working out, to intermittent fasting, to boobs
to you know, different types of lunches and recipes that
I mean, it's just shoot for the fences.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
I walked in and the lady looked up to me,
she goes, we talked about the military and boobs.
Speaker 6 (25:05):
It's cool, two very good subjects. Yeah, that's the best subject.
Matters pretty good.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
In regards to the boob conversation, did that have more
to do with because of MirOS and fighting breast cancer
or did you just talk about boobs in general.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
So we were talking about losing weight and one of
the ladies had an aunt that got a tummy tuck
and they took some of the fat from her tummy
tuck and put it in one of her breast augmentation
post breast cancer.
Speaker 4 (25:39):
I only snickered because I had it reminded me of
a marine. Buddy said.
Speaker 3 (25:49):
He was dating the chick who was going to get
a boob reduction, and he said he looked at me
and said, I mean, it's like slapping God.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
There's that dark hair, dark humor.
Speaker 4 (26:02):
But God bless that lady that had to go through that.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
I mean, that's yeah, it's crazy what medically can be done.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
I mean, we're talking about.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
In this in this case as a result of breast
cancer obviously a very big killer of women, not only
in our country, all over the world. And you know,
I think about things like guys, I've known not only myself,
but I've had crazy operations to be able to improve
the quality of life. Yeah, removing toes from a foot
(26:33):
to put on a hand, right, you know, it's like
all kinds of crazy stuff. That's you would never think
that's a thing. Yeah, it's just insane that the advances
in medicine, hopefully we get to a point to where
cancer doesn't have the success rate it does.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Oh my goodness, preach. I mean, we talked about being
fully present with our families, with ourselves, you know, because
sometimes the conversation does get deep. Sometimes it's very lighthearted
and very shallow on purpose by design. But we talked
about being fully present with ourselves and with our partners.
And if our husband says, I want to watch this
sci fi movie, don't sit down on the couch and
(27:11):
start scrolling. But then if he starts scrolling and you
don't want to watch that sci fi movie, all bets
are off.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
And so just a lot of great conversations like that.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
You know, the camaraderie is great, the laughter is great,
and it's just it's yeah, it's nice to just go
and have that sisterhood and that that girl time, and
every single one of them, you know, at the end
of the lunch and like always we thank them, you know,
thank you for coming. They were like, thank you for
putting this on. It really means a lot to them
to be able to take a step away from their
(27:40):
busy lives, their busy families. And for some actually they've
voiced to me after the fact, you know, hey, I
my job is I work remotely from home, and so
I'm isolated and I don't ever get that human interaction
and I miss that.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
So thank you for this.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
So after the lunch, I actually also got to download
with Debbie Ablson and Susan Allen. They want to to
come see the new Tesla, and so I took them
to the new Tesla and they were like, I don't
know how you driving this thing. I would be so distracted.
And then they was just pushing buttons and show them
and they were like, no, this is too much technology
with me.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
But I got to download it now too distracted?
Speaker 4 (28:15):
Is the buttons or what?
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Just Susan was like, do you watch Netflix while you're driving?
Speaker 1 (28:20):
I'm like, no, Susan, I don't watch Netflix.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
But she she was seeing something but she's like, well,
I mean the car drives itself. So I was like,
I mean true, but no I don't. I don't pop
on a movie and then sit in five o'clock traffic.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
But no, they were haven't.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
And then they were like does this come back? Then
I was like, no, that's the roof, that's the ceiling
of the car.
Speaker 10 (28:43):
No.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
It was really good to like catch up with them
because I missed the last one that Susan was at,
and so to get her take on you know, the
One Tribe women group and the luncheons because we always
want to improve it and do better, and so we've
got we don't just do lunches at different restaurants, you know,
we try to come up with fun activities and stuff
like that. And Debbie's been part of the group since
day one, and so it was good to kind of
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touch base with her.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
And this is proof positive we got to do more stuff,
you know, in particular because of what the one woman said.
You know, I work from home and I'm very isolated.
It's like, okay, well let's just think of other stuff.
We have the space, let's do it. And it didn't
even have to be at the office.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Well, like last month, we did bingo at the office
on a random Saturday morning and we had a blast.
Completely different group of women that could make it on
a Saturday morning versus a Thursday launch, and we had
an absolute blast.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
I haven't been going forever, but.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
Last time I played being I was single digits old.
Yeah with me me at a nursing home.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Yeah, it was so much fun.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
And I mean we totally hmmed it up like we
can bang it out, like we were having so much fun.
It's just it's soul food. It always feels good to
go and do that and share that time.
Speaker 5 (29:55):
And they capped it off with getting some very cute
photos taken by yours truly very cute.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
I knew who's a great picture.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
He didn't cut the feet off.
Speaker 4 (30:14):
Thank you so much for listening to the Good Stuff.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
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Speaker 3 (30:23):
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Speaker 5 (30:30):
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Speaker 6 (30:34):
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Speaker 5 (30:36):
Next week, but in the meantime, if you're looking for
a companion piece to this episode, please check out some
of our episodes from season one that featured inspiring women
like Natalie Wood, Stanier, Maya Scott Kapie Thompson, and Jennifer
Sidner Johnson.
Speaker 3 (30:49):
Put on your bad ass capes and go be great
today and remember you can't do epic things without epic people.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Again, thank you for listening to the good Stuff.
Speaker 5 (31:06):
The Good Stuff is executive produced by Ashley Shick, Jacob
Shick and Leah Pictures, Hosted by Ashley Shick, Jacob Schick,
and Nick Casslini. Produced by Nick Casselini, engineering, editing and
post production supervision by Nick Casselini. Music by Will Tech
Welcome to season two of the Good Stuff.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
I'm Ashley Shick, and I'm joined by my husband and
co host, Jacob Shick, a third generation combat marine and
CEO of One Tribe Foundation.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Ashley also comes from a family rich in military history,
and we've dedicated our lives to One Tribe's mission, serving veterans,
first responders, and their families.
Speaker 4 (00:18):
We're coming to you from Dallas, so welcome to.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Texas and joining us all season long from Los Angeles, California,
is our West Coast long haired friend and producer of
The Good Stuff, Nick Cassolini.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
We are in for a treat today because Ashley is
taking us to the One Tribe Women's lunch.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
You don't get to come inside, but I mean I'll
tell you about it.
Speaker 6 (00:37):
We get to look creepy from the outside of its period.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Through the windows.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
You do, I'm not going.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Just a quick heads up. This show can explore some
heavy subject matter, including talks of suicide, so listener discretion
is advised.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
We couldn't be happier You're here again.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Welcome to the Good Stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
See today we are hosting the One Tribe Women's gathering,
and obviously, Nick, you and I are not going to partake.
Speaker 5 (01:21):
I'm so sad about it too. Of course, I just
want to hang out with the girls, you know, that's
my favorite thing.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
I'm not shocked by that, however, Comma, I think it's
really important for every culture to have subcultures and yeah,
community or another way to say it is communities that
have subcommunities. I think it's a way to strengthen individuals,
which ultimately collectively strengthened the community.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
For example, it's.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Like a military model. A military will have a battalion,
and then within that battalion you have companies. Within the companies,
you have platoons. Within the platoons, you have squads. Within
the squads, you have fire teams. Right, but you're all
connected to the same ultimate team. Right, So it's the
same mindset.
Speaker 5 (02:04):
Right, but this time it'll just be like Ashley and
a bunch of wonderful women enjoying Fahidas.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
That's right. Today it's the ladies.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
So yeah, we founded one tribe women about a year
ago actually, and we've grown to two hundred strong nationwide.
But essentially, the whole idea is that a lot of
times female veterans, first responders, law enforcement officers as well
as the wives sometimes widows, sisters, mothers, daughters of those
who serve can be in a predominantly male world. Yeah,
(02:35):
for me personally, you know, I've got three boys. I've
got my husband and my two little bubba's and so
it's I've got a sweatshirt that says me and the
boys because you know, and that's good for me, because
I love sports and I love being outside with them,
and I love all the things that we do. But
the sisterhood is important. It's important for you to connect
with other women and on a regular basis and have
(02:58):
that sisterhood in that time to just get together and
be girlfriends. And so we started the One Tribe Women group,
like I stated, and it's really taken off. It's a
lot of fun. We get together once a month, whether
that be at a local restaurant for lunch or last
month we did bingo, which was I haven't played bingo
I think since my great groodmother way back in the day.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It was hilarious. It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
You know. Over Christmas we did an ornament exchange and
so we try to change it up and have a
lot of fun. But it is it's girly time together.
And it is funny though, because as a tribe, we
always do so much together. We have so many events
that we all do together. We plan together, we execute together, etc.
And so when Tiffany and MirOS and myself decided to
(03:42):
start One Tribe Women and we were about to leave
for our first One Tribe Women lunch and you know,
some of the guys at the office at the tribe
were like, where're we all going. We were like, we're
going our One Tribe Women lunch and they're like, we
aren't invited, and no, you're not invited.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
It's One Tribe Women. This is for the ladies.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
And of course they were so hilarious and gracious, but
they were like, you know, it's called One Tribe Ashley.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
You know, you know, we're all supposed to be one.
So it was it was funny.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
But then they actually, through this started their monthly Guy's
Poker Nights, which is really cool. So that's just the
guys that come together and it's the same thing, it's
the same idea, same concept. It's the camaraderie amongst you know,
the like minded this and but it's funny, yeah, for
a little bit in their.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Feels of course, and of course all each of them
want to be like me and just be the one
special dude that gets invited. They don't care if it's
everyone cubs. I just want to cub. Well.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
I mentioned where where we're headed today and it's as
spars as in Grapevine and I've never been there, but everybody,
Oh my goodness, I love a spar Then they started
listening all these specific items off the menu that they
dine off.
Speaker 6 (04:46):
It's like, bro, you're still not getting the invite.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
You know, I'll bring you leftovers.
Speaker 6 (04:50):
That's hilarious.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Another aspect that the One Tribe Woman group has is
that it's a connector for when one of the women
loses the husband, boyfriend, dad, men in their life, Like
they're able to come in and have this support network
that's built in and they know that they can go
and it's these are other women that know me, care
(05:12):
about me, love me, and are gonna be there for me.
So again, it's just strengthening the overall community through subcommunity. Yeah,
you know, there's again there's a lot of science behind it.
There's a reason that we do it, and there's a
reason we do it the way we do it.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
I can imagine too, if you're a part of this
greater community, let's say the veteran community, because maybe your
father is a veteran and that's how you're you know,
that's why you're a part of that community is through
your father. And then if your father passes, it can feel.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Like maybe that link with the community.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Is now gone absolutely.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
And between this and our watch program, we are the
Children of Heroes program. You know, we aim to make
sure the individuals that have been in this community are
still very much involved in this community. That's that's part
of the wrapping our arms around them and keeping them involved. Yeah,
but we talk about everything. I mean, we talk about
everything from music and activities and all the kids with
(06:05):
all the kiddos are doing, and all the sports and
everything to laundry detergent, you know, because a lot of
us are the laundry warriors in our household. And we
literally had an entire lunch where we talked about.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
The best smelling lodge for deturchit.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I'm grateful because I found a good one.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:21):
Right, you came together in your time of need, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Support see, And that's what I think listeners need to
understand is it doesn't have to be a well thought out,
well constructed, planned orchestra of self help. Yeah, right right,
like it doesn't have to be that. If you have
an idea about a thing, do the thing. It's going
to evolve on its own.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You're still not invited.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
I never wanted to go.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
He was not one of the ones saying, you know,
it's one tribe.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Jake was like, go, I mean, I think there's some
days that he's like, don't you everyone tribe women lunch today.
But for all of our lucky listeners today, even though
you two aren't invited, I am going to be taking
all the lunch with me today and we're going to
go to Asparsas in great time.
Speaker 5 (07:08):
We're going to take a quick commercial break, but when
we come back, we'll introduce.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
You to the ladies.
Speaker 5 (07:17):
Welcome back to the good stuff. All right, Ashley, are
you ready to take us to lunch?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Let's go.
Speaker 8 (07:25):
What they're doing because they're doing something with all the
people another.
Speaker 9 (07:34):
Grand opening, Yeah, with fireworks starting at seven pm?
Speaker 5 (07:37):
Or who you are recording?
Speaker 10 (07:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Did you did that?
Speaker 1 (07:54):
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Speaker 9 (07:59):
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Speaker 1 (08:09):
You go buy mirrors. Yeah, I saw your pin again
last night.
Speaker 8 (08:13):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Oh it's okay.
Speaker 9 (08:14):
I put my name so I make sure it comes
back to me glad, but you can use it.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I forget.
Speaker 9 (08:19):
And this is how I know if people take him
start seeing them writing with it, like you're like, that's
mine if you know how to read it says, and
you don't saw it wherever.
Speaker 7 (08:29):
I'm so young that the doctors don't believe that cancer excusing,
so they don't really say attention to that because they
can tell me, oh you.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Oh, it's just some five roses.
Speaker 9 (08:44):
So we went to At that time, I was living
in California, so I went to Mexico.
Speaker 10 (08:48):
And see doctors over there, and they chose five roses medication.
Speaker 9 (08:54):
But by the time we lived on my second ultra sound,
there was already a really big luck.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
So they I talked to him.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
If you had to describe it to someone that's never
heard of it, like, how would you describe the group.
Speaker 9 (09:08):
It's like a time with friends, like going out to
lynch with friends we haven't even met, but as soon
as we meet there, we just oh, hi too, oh okay,
and we're all just friends right away. It's important to
me because I have a hard time making friends, and
going here, I am with other people that I assume
(09:29):
want to make friends too, and it's interesting to hear
from different people since I don't know a lot of
people here in Texas, and they tell me the good
places student.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
My husband does that all the time.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Bill.
Speaker 7 (09:42):
I'm like, all right, you picked the movie tonight, and
he'll pick it. It's like some sign by or something
that I have no interesting, no desire watching, and he's
on his phone. I'm like, are you watching this movie?
Because if you're on your phone on Facebook, then I'm
going to change the movie because I have no desire
to watch it. But you want me to see next
to you, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
When I'm out with people, my phone has always put away.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Yeah, But when I'm home, I feel like it's always
in my hands. But I don't want to watch what
Steve's watching, but he wants me to sit next to him.
Speaker 7 (10:12):
I'm like, i feel like I'm held hostage.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Say in spell your name for me. The hardest question
I'm gonna ask.
Speaker 10 (10:21):
Susan Allen, what is your title?
Speaker 1 (10:26):
What do you do?
Speaker 10 (10:27):
Well?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
There's lots of things.
Speaker 10 (10:28):
So I do work for Mister Restore, which is a
disaster restoration company, but I also help out and serve
in funerates for a different local first responder and veteran organizations.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Which is how we've gotten to know you so well
over the years. Tell me about your relationship with One Tribe.
Speaker 10 (10:46):
I followed One Tribe Foundation back when it was originally
twenty two Kill and Matt movement had started, and had
watched Jake from Afar. But I actually got went down
and met and got my original twenty two kild ring
which I still wear from Michael Carneal.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Oh wow, oh wow.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We all know and love Michael Carnell and keep his
memory alive every day. Yea, he was actually on Season
one of the Good Stuff and when he was still
in in his cancer battle that you know, we still
think about him daily and yep, and still feel him
with us and around us every day.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Tell me about why you came here today, What are
we doing?
Speaker 10 (11:24):
Well?
Speaker 1 (11:24):
What are we doing while we're eating?
Speaker 10 (11:26):
And but I think I mean for us, for those
of us who you know, which I know a lot
of the ladies are actually veterans.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I am not.
Speaker 10 (11:35):
I come from a veteran family. But I think it's
good for girls to get together. We deal with things
completely different than the guys, and it's nice to have
that different kind of support system and just kind of
figure out what's going on in our world and how
we can help each other.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
Oh, that looks good.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, that does look good.
Speaker 7 (11:54):
Kind of a five years and I'm Debbie Abelson.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
And if you are a woman marine, I am in
your words being a veteran, being in a family of marines.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Why is the work that One Tribe Foundation does? Why
is it important to you?
Speaker 7 (12:11):
Veterans don't get the same. Veterans have problems when they
get out of the military. There's a lot of things
that they have to adjust to, the camaraderie being in
my case being a marine, it's so different than being
a civilian. And there are not those things out there
(12:34):
for people. They may be out there, but people don't
know where to look for them. And so with One
Tribe they do a lot of that. We have in
my son's unit, he was in a reserve unit in
Fort Worth and out of thirty two he has lost
four or five to suicide. And learning what Jake has
(12:57):
been through and everything that twenty two kill provides the
services that they provide. I think that is such a
good fit. And the people I do that I've met
that are civilians. They don't understand and so when I
come to one tribe, everybody is the same. Met one
gal today. She was in the army, so we were
(13:18):
able to talk about that, and it's nice to see
other people, other women in the same scenarios. I'm also
a wife of a marine, so there are wives there
also that we can talk. I'm a mom of two marines,
so there's things that I might be able to help
somebody else that they've been.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Going through with their son or daughters.
Speaker 6 (13:42):
So love, I love being.
Speaker 8 (13:43):
From Okay, all right, so let'spill your name for me.
Tiffany Fox t I F F A n Y Fox
say here.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
I got the first question.
Speaker 7 (14:00):
Right, but I have I'm going to Nationals.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Have my way lived to con.
Speaker 8 (14:10):
It's just fun to sit back and just listen to
the different conversations that go on because there's a group conversations, obviously,
but there's just little little conversations that go on around
the table. And I think that's one of my favorite
things is I sit back and I listened a lot
of times, and just some of those stuff that comes
out of people's mouths, it just it just puts a
big smile on your face and belly laughs.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Belly laughs for sure. Yes, it's just it's just a
good time.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Agreed with us being in this man's world, if you will,
Because we predominantly are always around men.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Why is it important.
Speaker 8 (14:42):
It's important to be vulnerable with other women? You know,
it's it's hard to do. I think there's a lot
of expectations when it comes to being a woman, and
women have fought for a really long time to get
to where we are today and to be respected and
heard and to have a voice, and even still unfortunately
you still battle that right when you're working around a
(15:04):
bunch of men sometimes, so just being able to have
that vulnerability and build each other up. And there's a
lot of mean girl syndrome out in the world, you know,
especially with social media and stuff. I at the bullying
stuff that goes on, and so just having that time
to just build each other up and just be there
for each other, it's just there's nothing like it. It's
(15:25):
just it's golden.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It's a gym, agreed, It's it's like a. It's soul
food that we get every month.
Speaker 8 (15:30):
And I think, if anything, we learn stuff from each other, right,
you know, just different things women worry about, right, like
hair and makeup and wait, and you know, jobs and
just motherhood, just all the things that women worry about.
And you know, you get all these little nuggets of
information from different people and it just adds to your
own library of stuff you can do for yourself or
(15:51):
learn from or go research about, or you know, just
different things. So it's just good, good time.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
All their.
Speaker 9 (15:59):
Dis No, you didn't making fun of it, like making jokes.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
Was got through it?
Speaker 9 (16:08):
That really got me making my own jokes. Yes, you
had to, otherwise I would look for things if I
had to do with funny lot canceled jokes and stuff
and had post them, and my family and friends some
of them were like, like, you know, they didn't really
like it.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
They thought it was too dark, and I'm like, no dark.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Why is it important to have the female camaraderie.
Speaker 9 (16:33):
Because although you know, you spend time with your husband
or significant other, it's just women. We get to see
a different perspective of things. And once we get to
talk to each other, we realized, oh so I'm not
alone on this. Oh I'm not alone on that either.
It just makes you realize you have people that are
(16:55):
the same as you are now making friends.
Speaker 10 (16:57):
But you know the conversation did we have all about
things and was somewhere and another group.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Let's take a quick break and when we come back,
we'll check back in with Nick and Jake.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Welcome back here, I am with the boys.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
How was the women's luncheon today, bab.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
We had a great group. It was a very lively group.
You never I mean sometimes we have introverts come. Sometimes
we with like one or two personalities. Today it was
all personalities, just straight up.
Speaker 5 (17:48):
I did walk into the restaurant towards the end and
I was like, is there a group of tables that
I heard a bunch of laughing.
Speaker 6 (17:52):
I was like, those are the late that's them.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
They're right there. Put us right by the door. We
were the welcoming committee. It's so much fun.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
It's just it's a highlight of my month because you
get this great group of women together. And sometimes it's
the same people. Sometimes it's brand new faces. Like today
I'm at two new ladies who were super, super sweet
and a lot of fun and energetic and very involved
in the veteran community in North Texas. They both actually
are with Irreverent Warriors, and one in Fort Worth and
(18:20):
one in Arlington, So it was really great to talk
to them about all the cool things that they have
going on. And then there was a lady who's been
a volunteer for us who is just phenomenal. She's actually
an Army veteran. She served in the Army back in
the seventies and then got out and hated life, so
she re enlisted and actually retired out of the Army.
And then one of our favorite women Marines, Debbie, was
(18:43):
there and along with our girl Susan and Kelly, who
are both huge veteran advocates. Kelly actually is We call
her Don Graves Keeper. Don Graves is a World War
Two veteran who was actually a flamethrower on Iwajima. She
brought out these pictures of Don Greaves unit, like these
black and white pictures, went to her car and got
(19:03):
him and brought him to us. It was amazing to
just see like that was the flamethrower that Don Graves
carried when he was on e Regima. Unbelievable. He's actually
turning one hundred next month, so she invited us to
his one hundredth birthday party.
Speaker 6 (19:16):
Damn good for him, God Bless And.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
This man is he is a riot. He has a
great voice. He loves to sing patriotic songs. And he
actually sang at mine and Jake's engagement party years ago,
got the whole crowd singing God Bless America. Is very
beautiful moment and very moving, and he sings the anthem
at different events and stuff. But anyway, so Kelly was there,
and then Susan Allen of course, who's just a phenomenal
(19:39):
lady who does so much for our veterans and first
responders in this community. And so it was a lot
of really big, great personalities. Conversation completely flowed, and I
mean we talked about all the things we missed, you awesome,
We had Asparza's.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Hey, so was it all that in a bag of
wavy lace? Like everybody was, because everybody was raving about.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
Oh my gosh, you get to go to the as Sparsa's.
Speaker 6 (20:10):
Everyone was like, oh, I come here every Friday.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Yeah, we walk in and Tiffany and Mudros and I
had never been there, and then everyone else at the
table was like, yeah, we come here every week, and
I was like, oh, okay, well we're not posh like you.
I looked at Tiffany, I said, how did you even
find this place? And she was like, I googled it
and it had really good reviews. But yeah, apparently it's famous.
There was a very henri little toddler at the table
right next to us named Rosie, who was hilarious and
(20:35):
jumping all over everything. She had her name embroidered on
the back of her denim jacket. Is how we knew
cute little Texas girl. But anyway, so we all continued
to comment on and pay attention to Rosie and then
of course I did my baby whisper thing to her
and she calmed down and just then we played Peekaboo
for like thirty minutes. But we talked about all kinds
(20:56):
of things like we always do. You never know where
the conversation is going to go, and depending on who's
in attendance, you know, we're missing a couple of the
big personalities, but trust you me, they were. There were
plenty more to take their place.
Speaker 4 (21:08):
But I have no doubt about that.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Yes, yes, we talked about I mean everything from debian
Michelle's service back in the nineteen seventies and how different
it was for female service members back in that era
that they actually had makeup classes and hair classes and
nail classes the Marine Corps.
Speaker 4 (21:28):
Did you imagine today it would never.
Speaker 6 (21:31):
Be they do they think they were good classes?
Speaker 4 (21:34):
No?
Speaker 3 (21:34):
No, I mean I don't even know it, because Debbie
talk to me about this obviously, because Marine Marines. I'm
just like, it's just it's kind of stunning to me
that that's government overreach.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
They they said they almost felt like back in that
day because there was you know, Michelle was an Army
veteran back in the seventies. They said that they almost
felt like they were kind of in this flight attendant role,
like you you're meant to look beauty full. You're kind
of like our poster children for this new genre of
military member. And they didn't do workouts, they didn't do
obstacle courses, they didn't do push ups, they didn't do anything.
(22:11):
The only thing Debbie had to do two PFTs a year,
and they were running a mile and she remembers when
they bumped it from a mile to a mile and
a half and they all thought they were gonna die,
and then Michelle like chimes in and talks about her
experience where she had to do push ups when she
went back in the military, and she was like crying.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
She was like, this is so hard.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
It was like that they'd gotten through boot camp prior
to that, right, and so it was really interesting to
hear their perspectives of their time in the military and
then kind of compare it. Of course, that rolled into
a conversation about today's military and because some of them
have children or grandchildren that are serving now. And from
there the conversation snowballed over to dark humor, and we
(22:52):
talked about how being around this world and in this world,
a lot of times we share that dark humor. And
then who'sn't told funny but not funny? I don't think
it was supposed to be funny story, but about when
she thought she was in a place where she could
exercise dark humor, so she laughed at something that she
thought was a joke, but it wasn't a joke, and
(23:13):
then people had to apologize. Yeah, So, I mean, it's
like you never know what you're going to get at
one of these luncheons. But we have so much fun
and everybody feels comfortable and safe, and you know, I mean,
we talked about serious issues like breast cancer because Meros
is a survivor and so she was able to share
some of you know, her experiences in that. And then
we talked about different books that we're reading in different
(23:35):
movies that we've seen recently. And I found out that
the DD apparently allows you to have I always learned
something at these luncheons too, but I found out the
DD actually has some sort of almost public library book
rental program.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
I haven't looked it up yet, but.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
This is in my notes of things to do post
my One Tribe Woman luncheon this month. But you can
actually like rent books or check out books through the DoD,
which I thought was really fascinating because of course we
talked about the Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. Half
the table had read it and loved it, so we
kind of unpacked that a little bit.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Wait, civilians can do this or no military people?
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Military people, That's what I thought.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Yeah, because I I only ever went to the DoD
library as the.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
Point, well, I was like, wait, we have been.
Speaker 4 (24:22):
I didn't know that was a thing. I don't think
one Marina ever served with ever knew that was a thing.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Well, one of the ladies actually looked it up on
her little DoD library app while we were at lunch
and said that, oh, yeah, I can check that book out.
They let them I can check it out, but not
for three months because they're all checked out. And I
was like, yeah, that doesn't surprise me because it's a
great book. But I mean, we talked about everything from
(24:48):
makeup tips to working out, to intermittent fasting, to boobs
to you know, different types of lunches and recipes that
I mean, it's just shoot for the fences.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
I walked in and the lady looked up to me,
she goes, we talked about the military and boobs.
Speaker 6 (25:05):
It's cool, two very good subjects. Yeah, that's the best subject.
Matters pretty good.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
In regards to the boob conversation, did that have more
to do with because of MirOS and fighting breast cancer
or did you just talk about boobs in general.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
So we were talking about losing weight and one of
the ladies had an aunt that got a tummy tuck
and they took some of the fat from her tummy
tuck and put it in one of her breast augmentation
post breast cancer.
Speaker 4 (25:39):
I only snickered because I had it reminded me of
a marine. Buddy said.
Speaker 3 (25:49):
He was dating the chick who was going to get
a boob reduction, and he said he looked at me
and said, I mean, it's like slapping God.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
There's that dark hair, dark humor.
Speaker 4 (26:02):
But God bless that lady that had to go through that.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
I mean, that's yeah, it's crazy what medically can be done.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
I mean, we're talking about.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
In this in this case as a result of breast
cancer obviously a very big killer of women, not only
in our country, all over the world. And you know,
I think about things like guys, I've known not only myself,
but I've had crazy operations to be able to improve
the quality of life. Yeah, removing toes from a foot
(26:33):
to put on a hand, right, you know, it's like
all kinds of crazy stuff. That's you would never think
that's a thing. Yeah, it's just insane that the advances
in medicine, hopefully we get to a point to where
cancer doesn't have the success rate it does.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Oh my goodness, preach. I mean, we talked about being
fully present with our families, with ourselves, you know, because
sometimes the conversation does get deep. Sometimes it's very lighthearted
and very shallow on purpose by design. But we talked
about being fully present with ourselves and with our partners.
And if our husband says, I want to watch this
sci fi movie, don't sit down on the couch and
(27:11):
start scrolling. But then if he starts scrolling and you
don't want to watch that sci fi movie, all bets
are off.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
And so just a lot of great conversations like that.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
You know, the camaraderie is great, the laughter is great,
and it's just it's yeah, it's nice to just go
and have that sisterhood and that that girl time, and
every single one of them, you know, at the end
of the lunch and like always we thank them, you know,
thank you for coming. They were like, thank you for
putting this on. It really means a lot to them
to be able to take a step away from their
(27:40):
busy lives, their busy families. And for some actually they've
voiced to me after the fact, you know, hey, I
my job is I work remotely from home, and so
I'm isolated and I don't ever get that human interaction
and I miss that.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
So thank you for this.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
So after the lunch, I actually also got to download
with Debbie Ablson and Susan Allen. They want to to
come see the new Tesla, and so I took them
to the new Tesla and they were like, I don't
know how you driving this thing. I would be so distracted.
And then they was just pushing buttons and show them
and they were like, no, this is too much technology
with me.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
But I got to download it now too distracted?
Speaker 4 (28:15):
Is the buttons or what?
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Just Susan was like, do you watch Netflix while you're driving?
Speaker 1 (28:20):
I'm like, no, Susan, I don't watch Netflix.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
But she she was seeing something but she's like, well,
I mean the car drives itself. So I was like,
I mean true, but no I don't. I don't pop
on a movie and then sit in five o'clock traffic.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
But no, they were haven't.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
And then they were like does this come back? Then
I was like, no, that's the roof, that's the ceiling
of the car.
Speaker 10 (28:43):
No.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
It was really good to like catch up with them
because I missed the last one that Susan was at,
and so to get her take on you know, the
One Tribe women group and the luncheons because we always
want to improve it and do better, and so we've
got we don't just do lunches at different restaurants, you know,
we try to come up with fun activities and stuff
like that. And Debbie's been part of the group since
day one, and so it was good to kind of
(29:03):
touch base with her.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
And this is proof positive we got to do more stuff,
you know, in particular because of what the one woman said.
You know, I work from home and I'm very isolated.
It's like, okay, well let's just think of other stuff.
We have the space, let's do it. And it didn't
even have to be at the office.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Well, like last month, we did bingo at the office
on a random Saturday morning and we had a blast.
Completely different group of women that could make it on
a Saturday morning versus a Thursday launch, and we had
an absolute blast.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
I haven't been going forever, but.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
Last time I played being I was single digits old.
Yeah with me me at a nursing home.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Yeah, it was so much fun.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
And I mean we totally hmmed it up like we
can bang it out, like we were having so much fun.
It's just it's soul food. It always feels good to
go and do that and share that time.
Speaker 5 (29:55):
And they capped it off with getting some very cute
photos taken by yours truly very cute.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
I knew who's a great picture.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
He didn't cut the feet off.
Speaker 4 (30:14):
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Speaker 2 (30:16):
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Speaker 3 (30:23):
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Speaker 5 (30:30):
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Speaker 6 (30:34):
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Speaker 5 (30:36):
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of our episodes from season one that featured inspiring women
like Natalie Wood, Stanier, Maya Scott Kapie Thompson, and Jennifer
Sidner Johnson.
Speaker 3 (30:49):
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Speaker 1 (30:55):
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