Do toxic people always seem to find you? In today’s eye-opening episode of The Jubal Show, we break down a new scientific study that reveals the exact traits that make someone a magnet for toxic relationships. From apologizing to end fights to waiting for your partner to “someday change,” we walk through the list of red flags—and count how many might apply to you.
The team shares personal stories, reactions, and some hilariously relatable moments while unpacking the deeper psychology behind unhealthy patterns. If you’ve ever wondered why your relationships feel like emotional rollercoasters, this segment might just change how you see yourself—and your love life.
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Episode Transcript
Do Toxic people tend to swarm to you like moths
to a flame.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
It's the Jewbile show.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
They just want to fly around you and shield the
rest of the world from your light and suck up
all the oxygen in the room until your flame becomes
small and limp, and then you once can't heat up
things like you used to be there, yep, and then
the moths leave and you're just onto the next flame.
What that they can exploit for their own personal gain
if you said, yes, I'm sorry about your flame, and
(00:28):
there's pills for that. But also it might be because
you're a magnet for toxic relationships. And why do I
say that Because scientists just did a study on the
traits that people have that make them a magnet for
toxic relationships. And if you have a certain number of
these specific traits, it guarantees that, even if you don't
want them to, toxic people will find you or you
(00:48):
could be the toxic one as well.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Well.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
I feel like when you assume that you are, if
you're a magnet for it, yes, common denominator, it's possible.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, we'll go over the traits and keep count in
your head, because once we go through all of them.
I'll tell you the magic number of how many of
these traits will guarantee that you're a magnet for.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Toxic relations Everybody, get your hands up, let's go.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
They yelled, ignored you or cross the boundary, and you
said I'm sorry, just to end the fight.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
I feel like I would say sorry, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Oh yeah, I have this one percent, done this a
lot in my life, and I also tend to be
a little bit of a magnet. So we're going over.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Science has just released what traits you have that make
you a magnet for toxic relationships. You have a certain
number of these, then it guarantees that toxicity will find you.
You tell people that you are not quote, relationship material,
but then date them anyways. So you date someone who
you're like, I don't know, they're not relationship material, but
then you still date them.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Oh okay, yeah, yeah, they're time wasters.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
But remember to keep count of how many of these
you might have, because I'll tell you the end of
this what the magic number is, and if you have
this year definitely a magnet for toxicity. You say you
needed space and accidentally disappear for days and get mad
if they call you out on it.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Oh, do y'all think I would do that? Who needs
the space? They say they need space?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
You tell you say you need space, and then you
disappear for days and get mad if they call you
out on it. No, yeah, you tell them to wear
something else because you prefer a certain look on them.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Have suggested that you.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
A certain color.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Try to help you look for an event of it.
I did. I did.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Science released traits that can make you a magnet for
toxic relationships. If you have a certain number of these traits,
then you definitely attract toxic relationships in your life. You
cancel plans because you live too far or too lazy.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Uh yeah, protecting your peace.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Their friends don't like you, period.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yeah. I can tell you from experience that is a
big warning sign. If none of your friends like the
person that you're with. I know you want to be
loyal and devoted to them, but maybe listen to your
friends just a little bit at least assess it and
they'll just go God, my friends are such jerks.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
They just hate them. I don't understand why.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you think.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
It's like more minds, there's more minds involved. In that
side of the equation, you should find out why. Yeah,
letting me loyal to your friends, Like I don't know,
I feel like I would trust them, like if they
say no no.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
But is this about the person's friends not liking you their.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Friends don't like you period, or your friends don't like them.
It could go either way.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
These are traits that you have that if you have
a certain number of these, you're a magnet for toxic relationships.
Will tell you what the number of these is, so
keep track at the end of this. But you often
go silent or become passive aggressive after a fight instead.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Of talking about it, another one of those traits.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I'll just be like, you know what, never mind, I'm
going to correct jokes instead. Right, those jokes are going
to hurt, but it's going to be fun for me.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I'm almost so opposite of this because I just want
to talk about it, and then I become super annoying.
Maybe don't do this, yeah, but then we just talk
about it, Like I know you said you need the space,
but can I follow you around for four.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
Hours and ask you about it?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Like, I know you need space, but I want to
talk about.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Yeah, yeah, come on, all they would have to do
is tell you what's going on, and then you would
happily give them space. I get that. I just like that.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Here's another trait. They got jealous when you went out
with your friends.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh yeah, that happens.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
We're going over a list of traits that people have
that if you have a certain number of these, it
proves scientifically. They say that you are a magnet for
toxic relationship. When they told you that they got a promotion,
you had a lukewarm reaction to it.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Or the oppositieve if you.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Told someone that you got a promotion, they have a
lukewarm reaction to it.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
There's someone in my life that anything that happens to
me that's good, it gets questioned, right why yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Oh yeah, why huh? What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Tell me more? Right?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Can you just be like, oh, that's cool.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
I know.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
I've been in a lot of those situations too, where
something cool happens for you and people are mad about it.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Yeah, it's so weird. Yeah, I wanted a word in.
My boyfriend was like I gotta go.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I was like, what my ceremony?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
One time I got some items sent to me from
a company because I talk about mental health and stuff
a lot, and a company that makes clothing for people
like withal for mental health.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
It's called Stay.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
But anyway, they sent me a bunch of stuff just
randomly because I talk about my social media. I was like,
that's cool, and then I got yelled at because they
didn't send anything from my partner. They just sent it
thing to you, and I'm like, I don't know, I
didn't ask for it them. Yes, that's a big warning
sign if somebody will not clap for you. Here's another
(06:10):
trait that can prove that you're a magnet for toxic relationships.
You break up, get back together, break up, get back
together again, and your friends have just stopped asking about it.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
I've been there, seriously, Yeah, like take the hint, like
it's just not going to go anyway.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
You just keep hoping and then you're in the stick
cycle and you're the only one that can break it. Dang.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Well, here's another trait and this is the last one,
and then we'll tell you how many of these. If
you had them, then you're definitely a magnet for toxic relationships.
You've stayed in the relationship with the thought that someday
they will change.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Everybody get their fingers.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Oh yeah, Captain Sabah is retired.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Wake up and I will have said the right thing
from bed, and then they're just going to.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Be skipping a tiptoe. Now the entire childhood would have
been fixed. Yeah, by me, because I'm a savior. I
save that. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
If you have twelve of those traits, then you are
definitely a magnet for toxics.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Twelve twelve, that's okay.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
I don't have that many.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I know.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I was kind of surprising myself too. I'm like, I
don't have that you have.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
I had six.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
I landed at seven.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
Okay, so you're almost there.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
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on the twenties.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
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