August 1, 2025 • 7 mins
Think red flags are only for toxic exes and walking disasters? Think again. In this viral segment from The Jubal Show, the team dives into a trending relationship expert's list of everyday phrases that could secretly label you—or someone you know—as a walking red flag. From the “brutally honest” types to those who claim “drama just finds me”, this episode hilariously and insightfully breaks down the subtle language that might reveal more than you think.
If you’ve ever said “I’m a nice guy,” or “Let me play devil’s advocate,” you might want to tune in and find out what that says about you…
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you a giant walking red flaggle show? You might
be and not even know it. I say that because
a relationship expert is going viral for sharing the subtle
warning signs that might mean you're a red flag, and
it's all based on the things that you say. So
give us three minutes and we'll tell you if the
things that come out of your naughty little mouth on
(00:21):
a daily basis are proof that you're a big old
red flag.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Next, so double show.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Nobody just walks into a room and shouts, Hey, everybody,
my name's Ben and I'm a huge red flag. Nice
to meet you. That's why life can be tough. We
have all kinds of relationships that we have to navigate
every day with other people, and you have to be
aware of the things that are warning signs that the
person you're dealing with might not have the best intentions.
(00:47):
What if the red flag is you whoa no and
you don't even realize it, Well, now you can, because
a relationship expert is going viral for sharing the subtle
warning signs that you might be a red flag, and
it's all all based on the things that you say.
So we'll go over it right now and you can
tell if you're a red flag, or you can pay
attention to it with other people, and as soon as
they say one of these things, don't give a second chance,
(01:08):
just walk away right there.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Self awareness is key, though.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Here are some of the top things that can be
a warning sign that somebody is a red flag. If
you say I don't like to read with pride, they
say that that is a warning sign that you could
be a red flag. But what if it's a fact? Yeah,
I mean I yeah, yeah, what if what if you're
(01:32):
not saying with pride you're just like fine with it though,
you know, like it's not like you're like, yeah, screw books,
they're stupid. I don't like to read it. I don't
ever read. Literacy is overrated.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah. Yeah, that's a little weird, I guess.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, so I guess if you're judging people that are
reading and you're very, very proud that you don't read,
that could be a weird warning sign.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, if you just a matter of fact like, yeah,
I don't read. So if you're like a book hater, yeah, yeah,
that's what it would mean.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
It also says is that people who on ironically say
let me play the devil's advocate. It could be a
warning sign that you're a red flag.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
Well because that I they just wanted to disagree with you,
just to disagree with you.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Hold on.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I think sometimes you need to see both sides. Sometimes
you need somebody to help you understand that your vision
isn't the only way.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
You know what I mean, that's.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
Fine, but sometimes I also just need you to be
on my side, whether I'm right or wrong.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I know, but I think it's just assumed that people
are always on your side.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Sometimes you need somebody that loves you just as much
to give you the other side.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
And I think that people say that phrase. Let me
play Devil's advocate to throw a softball on it, you know, like,
I really want to tell you that you're wrong, and
I think you're wrong, but I don't want to just
say that because I can tell your head's probably gonna
explode up it do so let me play Devil's ADVOCATEE yes, yeah,
but it's a.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Soft way to present the others. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Can you tell that I say this that's the nice
way of saying you're wrong?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
How do I tell you?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
There's another subtle warning sign that somebody could be a
red flag. Anybody who calls himself a nice guy unprompted, Yeah, unprompted,
anybody who calls himself a nice anything, unprompted, Like, why
did you have to share that right there?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Why are you trying to convince me? I just would
like to know the context. Hi, my name is Bill.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I'm a nice guy, by the way, super nice guy
right here, super nice, Go in and sign the deal, prove.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Give me all your money.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Also says that people who say drama just finds me
well are red flags.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
There's a reason.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
You know.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
What's funny is I used to believe that.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
What I don't believe that anymore because drama no longer
finds me because I am not the same person. However,
once upon a time it did find me, and I
think I kind of thrived in it.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
But do you think definitely it actually found you or
do you think you were like going out and finding it.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I learned that a lot of drama comes from how
you react to things, and so I just don't react
the same way that I used to, Like, I'm not
going to break into your house this time, you know,
because I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
It is really why went away?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah, if you break into somebody's house, I think you
may have found the drama.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
There you went looking for it.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Incially, the reason I did that game is because I
knew there was somebody in the bed that wasn't supposed
to be there. Therefore, I didn't start the drama.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
This was a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
It also says that adults that refer to themselves as
an impath within five minutes of meeting you could be
a walking red flag.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
You guys. This sucks because, according to this article. According
to this article, I am a red flag.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
I think one of the first things Nina did tell
me when I first met her was I'm impath. Like
I'm very but you are. You do feel other people's
feelings really well.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I do, And the reason why I need to say
that is because get your stuff together.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I can feel it.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Sometimes It's not a bad thing, though, I will say.
Sometimes I'll be in a bad mood and only Nina.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Someimes we'll clock it. Mind you, I don't want to
talk about it, but she will like it's nicest for
someone else to.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Yeah, I can tell when you're about but I just
don't care.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Not my problem. She's in a bad move for some reason.
I thank you for having my back, right, Victoria, I
thank you for saying I'm not a red flag.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Here's another thing that people who are walking red flags say.
According to this relationship expert, people who say their ex
was crazy but have zero follow up details.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, nobody has time to give you all the details
what I said.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Wait pause, No, if someone is saying that all of
their exes are crazy, though, there's.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
A common denominator. True, Yes, that.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Is the one thing I'll say because I've seen like
a friend of mine who her ex had said all
of his exes were crazy, and I'm like, okay, let's
just look at the common denominator real quick.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
It is definitely definitely a warning sign of someone who
puts everything else on somebody else, and they.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Like, they can't all be crazy. Yeah, that's legit crazy.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
But also if they are so first some from someone
who has had a lot of experience.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
I was about to ask you, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I actually I have never said that somebody was crazy,
but I have found myself in situations where I've been
insecuring conversations. I'm like, they're gonna think I'm a nut, right,
because like I've been in all these really ridiculous and
extreme relationship situations, right, And so I was like, there's
no way this person's gonna believe me, Like I've had
(06:23):
this relationship history. They're gonna think it's got to be me.
I get concerned about that because I would if I
went on a date with me, I'd be like, what
is this dude's deal?
Speaker 4 (06:30):
Because you are a common denominator, because I.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Am the common denominator, but doesn't mean you're the same
person today. A lot of the time you learn from
those experiences. Yeah, but his exes are crazy, Yeah, but
you were the common denominator because you just let it
happen exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I was an enabler, but I would never say that
they were crazy. And I think that's where you pay
attention to language, because I would always say that they're
just very broken, you know, before I learned like, really
what my enabling part of me does in relationship hips,
side just will be like they're they're very they're very
just very very broken and people. Yeah, but that's how
(07:05):
you can tell someone has probably better intentions than just
being like, yeah, they're all stupid and crazy, none's my fault.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Ever, you know, you're more emotionally intelligent.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yes, And they say the number one thing that can
tell you if somebody is a red flag. People who
say I'm just brutally honest, it's because they want to
be rude and blame it on the truth.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
They say, I'm just saying because this is absolutely crazy.
It's crazy this article. Are you brutally honest
Are you a giant walking red flaggle show? You might
be and not even know it. I say that because
a relationship expert is going viral for sharing the subtle
warning signs that might mean you're a red flag, and
it's all based on the things that you say. So
give us three minutes and we'll tell you if the
things that come out of your naughty little mouth on
(00:21):
a daily basis are proof that you're a big old
red flag.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Next, so double show.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Nobody just walks into a room and shouts, Hey, everybody,
my name's Ben and I'm a huge red flag. Nice
to meet you. That's why life can be tough. We
have all kinds of relationships that we have to navigate
every day with other people, and you have to be
aware of the things that are warning signs that the
person you're dealing with might not have the best intentions.
(00:47):
What if the red flag is you whoa no and
you don't even realize it, Well, now you can, because
a relationship expert is going viral for sharing the subtle
warning signs that you might be a red flag, and
it's all all based on the things that you say.
So we'll go over it right now and you can
tell if you're a red flag, or you can pay
attention to it with other people, and as soon as
they say one of these things, don't give a second chance,
(01:08):
just walk away right there.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Self awareness is key, though.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Here are some of the top things that can be
a warning sign that somebody is a red flag. If
you say I don't like to read with pride, they
say that that is a warning sign that you could
be a red flag. But what if it's a fact? Yeah,
I mean I yeah, yeah, what if what if you're
(01:32):
not saying with pride you're just like fine with it though,
you know, like it's not like you're like, yeah, screw books,
they're stupid. I don't like to read it. I don't
ever read. Literacy is overrated.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah. Yeah, that's a little weird, I guess.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, so I guess if you're judging people that are
reading and you're very, very proud that you don't read,
that could be a weird warning sign.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, if you just a matter of fact like, yeah,
I don't read. So if you're like a book hater, yeah, yeah,
that's what it would mean.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
It also says is that people who on ironically say
let me play the devil's advocate. It could be a
warning sign that you're a red flag.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
Well because that I they just wanted to disagree with you,
just to disagree with you.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Hold on.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I think sometimes you need to see both sides. Sometimes
you need somebody to help you understand that your vision
isn't the only way.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
You know what I mean, that's.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
Fine, but sometimes I also just need you to be
on my side, whether I'm right or wrong.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I know, but I think it's just assumed that people
are always on your side.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Sometimes you need somebody that loves you just as much
to give you the other side.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
And I think that people say that phrase. Let me
play Devil's advocate to throw a softball on it, you know, like,
I really want to tell you that you're wrong, and
I think you're wrong, but I don't want to just
say that because I can tell your head's probably gonna
explode up it do so let me play Devil's ADVOCATEE yes, yeah,
but it's a.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Soft way to present the others. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Can you tell that I say this that's the nice
way of saying you're wrong?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
How do I tell you?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
There's another subtle warning sign that somebody could be a
red flag. Anybody who calls himself a nice guy unprompted, Yeah, unprompted,
anybody who calls himself a nice anything, unprompted, Like, why
did you have to share that right there?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Why are you trying to convince me? I just would
like to know the context. Hi, my name is Bill.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I'm a nice guy, by the way, super nice guy
right here, super nice, Go in and sign the deal, prove.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Give me all your money.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Also says that people who say drama just finds me
well are red flags.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
There's a reason.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
You know.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
What's funny is I used to believe that.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
What I don't believe that anymore because drama no longer
finds me because I am not the same person. However,
once upon a time it did find me, and I
think I kind of thrived in it.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
But do you think definitely it actually found you or
do you think you were like going out and finding it.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I learned that a lot of drama comes from how
you react to things, and so I just don't react
the same way that I used to, Like, I'm not
going to break into your house this time, you know,
because I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
It is really why went away?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah, if you break into somebody's house, I think you
may have found the drama.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
There you went looking for it.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Incially, the reason I did that game is because I
knew there was somebody in the bed that wasn't supposed
to be there. Therefore, I didn't start the drama.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
This was a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
It also says that adults that refer to themselves as
an impath within five minutes of meeting you could be
a walking red flag.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
You guys. This sucks because, according to this article. According
to this article, I am a red flag.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
I think one of the first things Nina did tell
me when I first met her was I'm impath. Like
I'm very but you are. You do feel other people's
feelings really well.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I do, And the reason why I need to say
that is because get your stuff together.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I can feel it.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Sometimes It's not a bad thing, though, I will say.
Sometimes I'll be in a bad mood and only Nina.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Someimes we'll clock it. Mind you, I don't want to
talk about it, but she will like it's nicest for
someone else to.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Yeah, I can tell when you're about but I just
don't care.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Not my problem. She's in a bad move for some reason.
I thank you for having my back, right, Victoria, I
thank you for saying I'm not a red flag.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Here's another thing that people who are walking red flags say.
According to this relationship expert, people who say their ex
was crazy but have zero follow up details.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, nobody has time to give you all the details
what I said.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Wait pause, No, if someone is saying that all of
their exes are crazy, though, there's.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
A common denominator. True, Yes, that.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Is the one thing I'll say because I've seen like
a friend of mine who her ex had said all
of his exes were crazy, and I'm like, okay, let's
just look at the common denominator real quick.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
It is definitely definitely a warning sign of someone who
puts everything else on somebody else, and they.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Like, they can't all be crazy. Yeah, that's legit crazy.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
But also if they are so first some from someone
who has had a lot of experience.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
I was about to ask you, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I actually I have never said that somebody was crazy,
but I have found myself in situations where I've been
insecuring conversations. I'm like, they're gonna think I'm a nut, right,
because like I've been in all these really ridiculous and
extreme relationship situations, right, And so I was like, there's
no way this person's gonna believe me, Like I've had
(06:23):
this relationship history. They're gonna think it's got to be me.
I get concerned about that because I would if I
went on a date with me, I'd be like, what
is this dude's deal?
Speaker 4 (06:30):
Because you are a common denominator, because I.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Am the common denominator, but doesn't mean you're the same
person today. A lot of the time you learn from
those experiences. Yeah, but his exes are crazy, Yeah, but
you were the common denominator because you just let it
happen exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I was an enabler, but I would never say that
they were crazy. And I think that's where you pay
attention to language, because I would always say that they're
just very broken, you know, before I learned like, really
what my enabling part of me does in relationship hips,
side just will be like they're they're very they're very
just very very broken and people. Yeah, but that's how
(07:05):
you can tell someone has probably better intentions than just
being like, yeah, they're all stupid and crazy, none's my fault.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Ever, you know, you're more emotionally intelligent.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yes, And they say the number one thing that can
tell you if somebody is a red flag. People who
say I'm just brutally honest, it's because they want to
be rude and blame it on the truth.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
They say, I'm just saying because this is absolutely crazy.
It's crazy this article. Are you brutally honest
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