October 21, 2025 • 7 mins
Think someone's flirting — but can't put your finger on it? Nina breaks down “invisible flirting” — from the 3‑second stare to energy mirroring, slow smiles, and accidental touches — so you can spot subtle body language, decode mixed signals, and avoid awkward misreads. Perfect for anyone curious about dating tips, nonverbal cues, and how to tell if someone’s into you without them saying a word.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Something could be happening to you right now, right this
very second, and it could either be a great thing
or something that you don't want to have happened to
you at all. Oh well, and because you don't know
what it is, you might miss the opportunity of a lifetime.
What am I talking about? It's a good question, and
that's why you should hang out for three minutes, because
I'll tell you what you could literally be missing right
(00:20):
in front of your own eyes. Next, it's a jewel
showy there, imagine this. Out of all the Starbys in
the world, we end up at the same one at
the same time.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Sure, I know you work here, but don't think I
didn't catch on when you asked me what my name
was after I ordered ow. Hey, wait a second, why'd
you ask him for his name too? Oh? I get it.
It looks like all of us in this Starbies are
wild animals that need to be tanged. Oh b RB,
I'm gonna go get my cattle Proud from my minivan
(00:54):
and keep it in things like.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
This cattle product.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It's the jewel show. And sometimes it's very off when
somebody's flirting with you, and other times it isn't as obvious.
And I say that because you might not even know it,
but somebody could literally be flirting with you right this
very second. It's a new thing called invisible flirting, and
we'll tell you what it is right now, so you
can spot somebody who's invisibly flirting with you and see
(01:17):
whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Guys are weird, and I'm guessing invisible flirting is the
opposite of what happened to me this weekend.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
But I just don't understand it.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
What happened to you this weekend? Victoria.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I was dancing at a club and the club it
was two o'clock, so they made everyone go home. I
walk outside and this man puts his hand on my
neck and he's like, I bet.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
You like to get choked, don't you.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
That's the opposite of invisible flirting.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Is ault.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I was like, excuse me, and he was like with
his friend, like talking like with the after party, and
I didn't know what to do, so I just stood
there and he was like, yeah, you like to be choked,
don't you, And then he put his four arm around
my neck and I was like huh huh.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Before I know what to do, and then that's when
you swing.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
And then my friend was like, Victoria, we have the
uber and he's like, let me get your number, real quicker,
I let me get your number.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
And so he gives me his phone taped nine one
one and I run to the uber.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Okay for you for putting nine one one in. I
wish you would have called it right away and be
like I'm gonna call you right now. Just checks eve
is real. It gets on the phone with nine one one.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
I wanted to kill you. I I is that invisible flirting?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I mean that's the opposite. That is the opposite of
invisible flirting, all the way, the other side of invisible flirting.
It's like, okay, bye, but what is invisible flirting? Invisible
flirting is nonverbal, energy based communication that creates intimacy without
explicit signals. It's not playing hard to get. It's I'm
(02:38):
into you, but I'll let you know with my energy.
Like that's what they say. So here are the techniques
of somebody who might be invisibly flirting with you. They're
not grabbing you outside of a club and feeling like
I bid you like to be Joe, let me get
the number?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Yeah, you want to go back to my place.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yeah, yeah, I'm good at the sweet talk. Baby.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
The friend was like laughing, and I'm like, is this
is this your way of hitting on something?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Sorry about that my friends was a pervert.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Yeah all right.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Anyway, that's what is invisible flirting. Here's the eye contact
techniques that come with invisible flirting. The three second rule.
Making direct eye contact for about three seconds, hold the
gaze to build tension, and then look away with a
smile or glance down into the side. Three seconds is
a long time for eye contact. It is you don't
(03:27):
realize how quick like a second goes by because you
get somebody's eye real quick. A lot of times like
oh oh my god, we read each other's eyes. Yeah,
three seconds is a long time.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
But that's why I.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Feel like when anytime somebody is making eye contact with you,
you can either assume that they are like judging you
hardcore or they're they're flirting because nobody can hold eye contact.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Everybody looks at the ground. But then it gets weird
if you hold it for like too long and anything
about it your head.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
You're like, oh my god, am I holding it too long? Now?
And also now that I've held it for so long?
Is it weird? If I look away? Do I have
to wait for them to look away?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Now?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, he's gonna be the first one to look away.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Look at his nose.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I'm not looking at his eyes, but he's looking at
me in the eyes my lower.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Lip while I do it? Do I buy my lower
lip while I'm gazing it?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Or you lick your lips?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Oh? Wow, I do.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
I'm a big fan of invisible flirting. I don't like
to be outward with it. So this is right up
my alley.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Another eye technique for invisible flirting. We're going over what
experts say is invisible flirting, so you can see if
somebody's flirting with you today. The triangle method. Look from
one of the person's eyes to the other and then
down to their mouth. So a triangle between the eyes
and then the mouth and then back up to the
first eye draws attention to the mouth and creates a
sense of intimacy. So just sit there and it looks
(04:37):
like you kind of are rolling your eyes at them.
If you do it too hard, I think, oh that's true.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
If you do it to you past it kind of
and then you're just looking at the person's eyes going and.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Trying with me? Are you like looking back and forth
between their eyes and their mouth like like a cartoon
character using it?
Speaker 3 (04:52):
You need to be smooth with it, and it's like, hello,
give me those lips. Has it ever worked for you?
Speaker 4 (04:57):
I mean a lot of the staring works.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
The different So the steiring is good, Okay.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Guys know they're like, oh, she's still looking. This is
a sign.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
There's also some invisible flirting examples. Energy mirroring is what
they're calling this. You start by matching their mood, their voice,
and posture. Oh, not on purpose, just naturally sinking with them.
Uh so their voice is kind of strange, right, the
mood okay, I think I guess it could see you
could do that with somebody. The posture could be weird
(05:27):
based on how their posture is. It's really sunken over
and you're just like sunken over and they have a
really deep voice in your lady and you're like, oh,
my name's Janet. Might not work for you very well.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
You're doing the widespread yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:40):
And then you're also threaded so awkward, very animalistic.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
It says you can also do the slow smile if
you want to invisible flirt, the small delayed grin after
they've already looked away.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
But are you smiling slowly or is this action of
smiling slow?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Yes? Yes, so like very slowly move your mouth and
do a smile to a smile, like if there's a
guy at the gym that I think is really cute,
I'll make eye contact you a little smile and then
I'll look away and walk away.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
Obviously that hasn't worked yet, but in the moment, I
feel so like that's right.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
How we watched this, you would know, Victoria accidental touches.
There's another piece of invisible flirting, and says, the brush
of a hand when passing or standing just close enough
where your arms might touch.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
That's hot.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Not to move.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
It's a moment that sounds like it would happen in Bridgerton.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Oh we do it.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
That's so hot.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, I think you're getting like shoulder checked and not
like it wouldn't be like a cute little victory is.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Like it would be. Yeah, they'd misjudge it and the
boom and knock you over.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Oh my god, I'm so sorry as it fell from
my presence, you're gonna get choked out again Oh, it
was very interesting.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
I never been choked before. Yeah, was like, I don't
know if I'd actually like, I don't think this at all,
not in that scenario.
Something could be happening to you right now, right this
very second, and it could either be a great thing
or something that you don't want to have happened to
you at all. Oh well, and because you don't know
what it is, you might miss the opportunity of a lifetime.
What am I talking about? It's a good question, and
that's why you should hang out for three minutes, because
I'll tell you what you could literally be missing right
(00:20):
in front of your own eyes. Next, it's a jewel
showy there, imagine this. Out of all the Starbys in
the world, we end up at the same one at
the same time.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Sure, I know you work here, but don't think I
didn't catch on when you asked me what my name
was after I ordered ow. Hey, wait a second, why'd
you ask him for his name too? Oh? I get it.
It looks like all of us in this Starbies are
wild animals that need to be tanged. Oh b RB,
I'm gonna go get my cattle Proud from my minivan
(00:54):
and keep it in things like.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
This cattle product.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It's the jewel show. And sometimes it's very off when
somebody's flirting with you, and other times it isn't as obvious.
And I say that because you might not even know it,
but somebody could literally be flirting with you right this
very second. It's a new thing called invisible flirting, and
we'll tell you what it is right now, so you
can spot somebody who's invisibly flirting with you and see
(01:17):
whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Guys are weird, and I'm guessing invisible flirting is the
opposite of what happened to me this weekend.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
But I just don't understand it.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
What happened to you this weekend? Victoria.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I was dancing at a club and the club it
was two o'clock, so they made everyone go home. I
walk outside and this man puts his hand on my
neck and he's like, I bet.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
You like to get choked, don't you.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
That's the opposite of invisible flirting.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Is ault.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I was like, excuse me, and he was like with
his friend, like talking like with the after party, and
I didn't know what to do, so I just stood
there and he was like, yeah, you like to be choked,
don't you, And then he put his four arm around
my neck and I was like huh huh.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Before I know what to do, and then that's when
you swing.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
And then my friend was like, Victoria, we have the
uber and he's like, let me get your number, real quicker,
I let me get your number.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
And so he gives me his phone taped nine one
one and I run to the uber.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Okay for you for putting nine one one in. I
wish you would have called it right away and be
like I'm gonna call you right now. Just checks eve
is real. It gets on the phone with nine one one.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
I wanted to kill you. I I is that invisible flirting?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I mean that's the opposite. That is the opposite of
invisible flirting, all the way, the other side of invisible flirting.
It's like, okay, bye, but what is invisible flirting? Invisible
flirting is nonverbal, energy based communication that creates intimacy without
explicit signals. It's not playing hard to get. It's I'm
(02:38):
into you, but I'll let you know with my energy.
Like that's what they say. So here are the techniques
of somebody who might be invisibly flirting with you. They're
not grabbing you outside of a club and feeling like
I bid you like to be Joe, let me get
the number?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Yeah, you want to go back to my place.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yeah, yeah, I'm good at the sweet talk. Baby.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
The friend was like laughing, and I'm like, is this
is this your way of hitting on something?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Sorry about that my friends was a pervert.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Yeah all right.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Anyway, that's what is invisible flirting. Here's the eye contact
techniques that come with invisible flirting. The three second rule.
Making direct eye contact for about three seconds, hold the
gaze to build tension, and then look away with a
smile or glance down into the side. Three seconds is
a long time for eye contact. It is you don't
(03:27):
realize how quick like a second goes by because you
get somebody's eye real quick. A lot of times like
oh oh my god, we read each other's eyes. Yeah,
three seconds is a long time.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
But that's why I.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Feel like when anytime somebody is making eye contact with you,
you can either assume that they are like judging you
hardcore or they're they're flirting because nobody can hold eye contact.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Everybody looks at the ground. But then it gets weird
if you hold it for like too long and anything
about it your head.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
You're like, oh my god, am I holding it too long? Now?
And also now that I've held it for so long?
Is it weird? If I look away? Do I have
to wait for them to look away?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Now?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, he's gonna be the first one to look away.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Look at his nose.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I'm not looking at his eyes, but he's looking at
me in the eyes my lower.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Lip while I do it? Do I buy my lower
lip while I'm gazing it?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Or you lick your lips?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Oh? Wow, I do.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
I'm a big fan of invisible flirting. I don't like
to be outward with it. So this is right up
my alley.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Another eye technique for invisible flirting. We're going over what
experts say is invisible flirting, so you can see if
somebody's flirting with you today. The triangle method. Look from
one of the person's eyes to the other and then
down to their mouth. So a triangle between the eyes
and then the mouth and then back up to the
first eye draws attention to the mouth and creates a
sense of intimacy. So just sit there and it looks
(04:37):
like you kind of are rolling your eyes at them.
If you do it too hard, I think, oh that's true.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
If you do it to you past it kind of
and then you're just looking at the person's eyes going and.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Trying with me? Are you like looking back and forth
between their eyes and their mouth like like a cartoon
character using it?
Speaker 3 (04:52):
You need to be smooth with it, and it's like, hello,
give me those lips. Has it ever worked for you?
Speaker 4 (04:57):
I mean a lot of the staring works.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
The different So the steiring is good, Okay.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Guys know they're like, oh, she's still looking. This is
a sign.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
There's also some invisible flirting examples. Energy mirroring is what
they're calling this. You start by matching their mood, their voice,
and posture. Oh, not on purpose, just naturally sinking with them.
Uh so their voice is kind of strange, right, the
mood okay, I think I guess it could see you
could do that with somebody. The posture could be weird
(05:27):
based on how their posture is. It's really sunken over
and you're just like sunken over and they have a
really deep voice in your lady and you're like, oh,
my name's Janet. Might not work for you very well.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
You're doing the widespread yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:40):
And then you're also threaded so awkward, very animalistic.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
It says you can also do the slow smile if
you want to invisible flirt, the small delayed grin after
they've already looked away.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
But are you smiling slowly or is this action of
smiling slow?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Yes? Yes, so like very slowly move your mouth and
do a smile to a smile, like if there's a
guy at the gym that I think is really cute,
I'll make eye contact you a little smile and then
I'll look away and walk away.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
Obviously that hasn't worked yet, but in the moment, I
feel so like that's right.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
How we watched this, you would know, Victoria accidental touches.
There's another piece of invisible flirting, and says, the brush
of a hand when passing or standing just close enough
where your arms might touch.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
That's hot.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Not to move.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
It's a moment that sounds like it would happen in Bridgerton.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Oh we do it.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
That's so hot.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, I think you're getting like shoulder checked and not
like it wouldn't be like a cute little victory is.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Like it would be. Yeah, they'd misjudge it and the
boom and knock you over.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Oh my god, I'm so sorry as it fell from
my presence, you're gonna get choked out again Oh, it
was very interesting.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
I never been choked before. Yeah, was like, I don't
know if I'd actually like, I don't think this at all,
not in that scenario.
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