September 23, 2025 • 7 mins
Think a paycheck protects a relationship? Think again. In this episode the hosts break down a new survey listing careers that strain—or quietly wreck—long-term partnerships. From high-flying glamour to exhausting shift work, they unpack why certain professions create distance, drama, or heartbreak...and reveal the surprising #1 job that topped the list. Tune in for stories, hot takes, and practical questions to ask before you commit.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Do you dream of one day getting married and creating
a happy American life with your partner. It's a jewel show,
you know, an overpriced house with a loan that you'll
never be able to pay off, but you'll be able
to pass along that debt to your children one day.
Or spend your weekends bouncing around in your garden only
to be fined from the HOA for some non approved hydrangeas.
Or spending evenings on the couch watching TV with your
(00:22):
spouse while you both just watch your own TikTok feeds.
It's the American dream. Well, if that's the life for you,
then you need to be careful who you choose. Because
the survey was just released of the jobs that will
absolutely ruin your marriage. What jobs or absolute relationship killers?
Will tell you right after this what jobs will absolutely
(00:42):
kill your relationship? It's a jewel show, a professional cheater.
That one would probably be tough on your love life,
But there are others. According to a new study, there
are a few jobs out there they say will absolutely
ruin your marriage. So we'll go over them now so
you can be prepared and know who you should and
shouldn't be dating if you want to get married to them.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I feel like you realize that within the first few
weeks of dating this person anyway, depending on what their
job is. But you say, because maybe the job is sexy,
or you're just not convinced that that's going to happen,
like doctors.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
But we can talk about that. A lot of the
relationship killing jobs are sexy jobs. That's probably the problem. Yeah,
we'll tell you what the number one biggest relationship killing
job is in just a second, but let's go over
some of the top ten. Fighter pilots is on the
list of jobs that will absolutely kill your marriage.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Why.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
That's because they're basically celebrities. I mean, come on, top
gun they're so cool.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Though. I know, dude, I totally made out with one
in the bathroom at a bar. We don't know if
he was actually a fighter pilot, but all you had
to say, yeah, but in that moment, like saying exactly,
I have the checklist, fighter pilot is checked off.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
It says that they have to be incredibly driven and
focused to make it to that level, So they have
to work a lot combined with a god complex.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
Yeah, yeah, of course a fighter pilot.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
It's so cool.
Speaker 5 (02:02):
And then being deployed for months at a time.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, in the uniforms yeah, you know it, also in
uniform two.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
What are some of the other jobs that our relationship
killers will tell you what the number one is in
just a second. But musicians, they say, is also a
relationship killer.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Really the no offense double but totally I kind of
want a data musician.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
It can be fun.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
You can go visit them on tour, you can go
see different cities.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah, and they may not want you to come visit
them on tour because they also have groupies.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Well that's fine, I'm a groupie when I'm not there.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Aside from the fact that they have groupies, they have
these emotional, like roller coaster swings.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Again, Juble, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Talking about you. I'm just saying in general, in my experience,
they get really in their like fields in your experience,
oh yes, in my experience again, their feels, and they
go on this roller coaster and they shut you out
because they're so concerned about how they feel or how
they performed or whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
It says that their hours are also flaky, and they're
also always broke. Oh so they're not talking about like
rocks rockstar musicians. Yet they're talking about ones that are
still grinding and trying to make it.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
They're like doing karaoka exactly.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah, they're driving through the middle of Nevada to some
tall bar to play that for fifty bucks.
Speaker 5 (03:12):
It's not that glamorous at first.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
You know.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Remember when I made you come to that show.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Janina was dating a musician and you did have to
go to a show and it was at a bar.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I went to a few shows actually, and I brought
out my friends and stuff.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
It was great.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Yeah, it was fun, but I don't talk to him anymore.
But it was a good time.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Yeah, but you were the most hyped person there.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
I've learned my lesson. You can be supportive, but then
they don't support you back. Yeah, it's messed up.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
What is another job that is a relationship killer? They
say nurses is also a relationship killer? What it says
that they're drained and burnt out because they work such
long hours and that you get the brunt of their
anger and frustration when they're home.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
That's a bummer though, Like you feel like the nurse
should be traded like a queen or a king when
they come home.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Because God's work.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah, but they worked those like four day workship work
weeks or whatever where they work like eighteen.
Speaker 5 (04:06):
Hours a day and they get three days off.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
So you think when they're gonna get home and be like, ooh,
the nurse is coming home a little cough, maybe she'll
check it out for me. She just gets in and goes,
I'm tired. I do that all day long. I don't
want to do that. What is another job that is
an absolute relationship killer? They say, somebody in the clergy.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
What is the clergy?
Speaker 5 (04:30):
So like a minister pastor.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Someone in the church, Well that you have to also
then go to that church and stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
I've never known anybody that was a pastor or married
to a pastor. I've only seen it in movies and
TV shows, and they always seem like the happiest family,
except when the pastor cheats and like coun't.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
Get away with it. Yeah, I mean, now, I'm talking
about Lifetime movies now.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
So I'm sure there's some very happy religious families, you know,
minister pastor families. I'm sure there are. I grew up
my both my parents are ministers, and it was not
happy family, yeah at all. So they say, the spouse
and the kids are constantly under a microscope, and of
course you have to go to church and stuff all
the time if you don't want to.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Okay, what would you say you were always under a
microscope with your parents?
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Yeah, yeah, I would, I would, definitely yeah. But but
it's also it's just the environment that growing up in
that creates you're under your own microscope because you feel
like you're being judged all the time.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Marriage.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
No, I grew up in an abusive household. My dad
was a you know, not a very narcissistic, abusive person.
So yeah, their marriage was horrible, but not everyone is
like that.
Speaker 4 (05:40):
You can't laugh at this.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
As a matter of fact, most aren't, So.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
You can't laugh. I'm sorry sorry.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Investment bakers is also a relationship killing job. The job
is incredibly demanding, long hours, high stress, and a spillover
effect into your everyday life.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
But are we sure, I mean, but that's a problem.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Well, I think it is. That's what this person is
saying on the survey that they did. But also, if
they're working long hours, high stress and they're gone all
the time, you can enjoy the money of the investment banker.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Ey we're forgetting that balance is nice, Like I think
we need alone time as well to make a relationship healthy.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
But he want so much of the time to where
like they're never home. They're constantly working. Even when they're home,
they are working the middle of the night. Like I
had a friend who like dated an investment banker and
she's still dating them. Love the guy, but he works
even through like all hours of the night.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
So she spends the money.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Well, no, she has her own job, okay, but he
makes more and she probably spends his money.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Yet for sure she's ready to live in.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
What is the number one relationship killing job a restaurant,
bar manager or owner?
Speaker 4 (06:52):
What you get free? Dream billy, I could see that.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
What do you mean?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
They work every day off in twelve to fifteen hours,
every holiday, every week and they're constantly just on the clock.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Well, they're kind of like celebrities too, so like when
you go into the restaurant, you've got your regulars, they're like, oh,
it's frick, what's the I'll get the free drinks and
the thanks for the discount.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
You know, I mean you get your free drinks.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
And there's a certain mentality too, well not maybe not
with all restaurant owners, but definitely restaurant managers.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I work in restaurants most of my life before this job,
and I can tell you that most restaurant managers like
they have this weird complex where they just want to.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
Be the boss.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
So they're all kind of a holes because they they
make usually less than the servers make. If you're working
at a restaurant. Yeah, it's like because they have good
a salary, but most of them are worth servers at
one point, like a head server, so they're getting tips
and a bigger salary, but they take a salary cut
so that they can be a manager. Why for power, Yeah,
they're very they're all very power hungry.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Well, so power hungry people are the ones that are
going to kill your relationship Texan four one.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
O six one. Was that true for you
Do you dream of one day getting married and creating
a happy American life with your partner. It's a jewel show,
you know, an overpriced house with a loan that you'll
never be able to pay off, but you'll be able
to pass along that debt to your children one day.
Or spend your weekends bouncing around in your garden only
to be fined from the HOA for some non approved hydrangeas.
Or spending evenings on the couch watching TV with your
(00:22):
spouse while you both just watch your own TikTok feeds.
It's the American dream. Well, if that's the life for you,
then you need to be careful who you choose. Because
the survey was just released of the jobs that will
absolutely ruin your marriage. What jobs or absolute relationship killers?
Will tell you right after this what jobs will absolutely
(00:42):
kill your relationship? It's a jewel show, a professional cheater.
That one would probably be tough on your love life,
But there are others. According to a new study, there
are a few jobs out there they say will absolutely
ruin your marriage. So we'll go over them now so
you can be prepared and know who you should and
shouldn't be dating if you want to get married to them.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I feel like you realize that within the first few
weeks of dating this person anyway, depending on what their
job is. But you say, because maybe the job is sexy,
or you're just not convinced that that's going to happen,
like doctors.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
But we can talk about that. A lot of the
relationship killing jobs are sexy jobs. That's probably the problem. Yeah,
we'll tell you what the number one biggest relationship killing
job is in just a second, but let's go over
some of the top ten. Fighter pilots is on the
list of jobs that will absolutely kill your marriage.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Why.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
That's because they're basically celebrities. I mean, come on, top
gun they're so cool.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Though. I know, dude, I totally made out with one
in the bathroom at a bar. We don't know if
he was actually a fighter pilot, but all you had
to say, yeah, but in that moment, like saying exactly,
I have the checklist, fighter pilot is checked off.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
It says that they have to be incredibly driven and
focused to make it to that level, So they have
to work a lot combined with a god complex.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
Yeah, yeah, of course a fighter pilot.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
It's so cool.
Speaker 5 (02:02):
And then being deployed for months at a time.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, in the uniforms yeah, you know it, also in
uniform two.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
What are some of the other jobs that our relationship
killers will tell you what the number one is in
just a second. But musicians, they say, is also a
relationship killer.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Really the no offense double but totally I kind of
want a data musician.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
It can be fun.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
You can go visit them on tour, you can go
see different cities.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah, and they may not want you to come visit
them on tour because they also have groupies.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Well that's fine, I'm a groupie when I'm not there.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Aside from the fact that they have groupies, they have
these emotional, like roller coaster swings.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Again, Juble, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Talking about you. I'm just saying in general, in my experience,
they get really in their like fields in your experience,
oh yes, in my experience again, their feels, and they
go on this roller coaster and they shut you out
because they're so concerned about how they feel or how
they performed or whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
It says that their hours are also flaky, and they're
also always broke. Oh so they're not talking about like
rocks rockstar musicians. Yet they're talking about ones that are
still grinding and trying to make it.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
They're like doing karaoka exactly.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah, they're driving through the middle of Nevada to some
tall bar to play that for fifty bucks.
Speaker 5 (03:12):
It's not that glamorous at first.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
You know.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Remember when I made you come to that show.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Janina was dating a musician and you did have to
go to a show and it was at a bar.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I went to a few shows actually, and I brought
out my friends and stuff.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
It was great.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Yeah, it was fun, but I don't talk to him anymore.
But it was a good time.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Yeah, but you were the most hyped person there.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
I've learned my lesson. You can be supportive, but then
they don't support you back. Yeah, it's messed up.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
What is another job that is a relationship killer? They
say nurses is also a relationship killer? What it says
that they're drained and burnt out because they work such
long hours and that you get the brunt of their
anger and frustration when they're home.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
That's a bummer though, Like you feel like the nurse
should be traded like a queen or a king when
they come home.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Because God's work.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah, but they worked those like four day workship work
weeks or whatever where they work like eighteen.
Speaker 5 (04:06):
Hours a day and they get three days off.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
So you think when they're gonna get home and be like, ooh,
the nurse is coming home a little cough, maybe she'll
check it out for me. She just gets in and goes,
I'm tired. I do that all day long. I don't
want to do that. What is another job that is
an absolute relationship killer? They say, somebody in the clergy.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
What is the clergy?
Speaker 5 (04:30):
So like a minister pastor.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Someone in the church, Well that you have to also
then go to that church and stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
I've never known anybody that was a pastor or married
to a pastor. I've only seen it in movies and
TV shows, and they always seem like the happiest family,
except when the pastor cheats and like coun't.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
Get away with it. Yeah, I mean, now, I'm talking
about Lifetime movies now.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
So I'm sure there's some very happy religious families, you know,
minister pastor families. I'm sure there are. I grew up
my both my parents are ministers, and it was not
happy family, yeah at all. So they say, the spouse
and the kids are constantly under a microscope, and of
course you have to go to church and stuff all
the time if you don't want to.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Okay, what would you say you were always under a
microscope with your parents?
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Yeah, yeah, I would, I would, definitely yeah. But but
it's also it's just the environment that growing up in
that creates you're under your own microscope because you feel
like you're being judged all the time.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Marriage.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
No, I grew up in an abusive household. My dad
was a you know, not a very narcissistic, abusive person.
So yeah, their marriage was horrible, but not everyone is
like that.
Speaker 4 (05:40):
You can't laugh at this.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
As a matter of fact, most aren't, So.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
You can't laugh. I'm sorry sorry.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Investment bakers is also a relationship killing job. The job
is incredibly demanding, long hours, high stress, and a spillover
effect into your everyday life.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
But are we sure, I mean, but that's a problem.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Well, I think it is. That's what this person is
saying on the survey that they did. But also, if
they're working long hours, high stress and they're gone all
the time, you can enjoy the money of the investment banker.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Ey we're forgetting that balance is nice, Like I think
we need alone time as well to make a relationship healthy.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
But he want so much of the time to where
like they're never home. They're constantly working. Even when they're home,
they are working the middle of the night. Like I
had a friend who like dated an investment banker and
she's still dating them. Love the guy, but he works
even through like all hours of the night.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
So she spends the money.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Well, no, she has her own job, okay, but he
makes more and she probably spends his money.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Yet for sure she's ready to live in.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
What is the number one relationship killing job a restaurant,
bar manager or owner?
Speaker 4 (06:52):
What you get free? Dream billy, I could see that.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
What do you mean?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
They work every day off in twelve to fifteen hours,
every holiday, every week and they're constantly just on the clock.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Well, they're kind of like celebrities too, so like when
you go into the restaurant, you've got your regulars, they're like, oh,
it's frick, what's the I'll get the free drinks and
the thanks for the discount.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
You know, I mean you get your free drinks.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
And there's a certain mentality too, well not maybe not
with all restaurant owners, but definitely restaurant managers.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I work in restaurants most of my life before this job,
and I can tell you that most restaurant managers like
they have this weird complex where they just want to.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
Be the boss.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
So they're all kind of a holes because they they
make usually less than the servers make. If you're working
at a restaurant. Yeah, it's like because they have good
a salary, but most of them are worth servers at
one point, like a head server, so they're getting tips
and a bigger salary, but they take a salary cut
so that they can be a manager. Why for power, Yeah,
they're very they're all very power hungry.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Well, so power hungry people are the ones that are
going to kill your relationship Texan four one.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
O six one. Was that true for you
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