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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Ryan is on the phone today for our first day
follow up. He's getting ghosted by a woman named Shana,
So we're about to call her and see if she
tells us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
another date. First, Ryan, how long has it beens's you
herd from Shana?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
It's been about three days now, three days.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
I know that doesn't feel like a long time, but after,
like our date, it feels like forever because she was
responding so much before, you know.
Speaker 5 (00:30):
Okay, why don't you tell us about the day and
how you met her and stuff?
Speaker 6 (00:34):
Cool.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
So we met during a pub crawl. It was fun.
She wasn't out.
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Very long, but like I got her number before she left,
and we thought that, like we talked about him, we'd like,
we'll have a proper date. There's this little pocket of
the city that has a park, one of my favorite
pizza places, and like an ice cream spot next door.
So I was thinking, like that might be actually a
really fun date. We get multiple venues, a little extra
time depending on how well it goes, you know, And
(01:01):
then I found out. There was a band performing at
the pizza place one of the nights, so I asked
her out for that and she said yes, and like
it was such a great vibe.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
We had pizza, we had.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Drinks, We laughed so much, like you know when your
stomach actually hurts from laughing. Yeah, and then we ended
the night with like we both didn't want to really
go home, so we went and we did get the
ice cream and we had a really nice kiss at
the end.
Speaker 5 (01:25):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
I had like so much fun with her, and I
feel like there's a little bit of mystery to her
and I really want to get to know her more.
She's like, guys, she's like so pretty. Like I just
couldn't get enough.
Speaker 5 (01:40):
Well, what do you think happened? It sounds like it
was so sweet.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
I made a joke, and sometimes jokes don't always come
across when you're nervous.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
She had dropped something on the floor.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
And I was like, I noticed that my shoes were
on time, And I was like, won't you just tie
my shoes while you're down there?
Speaker 3 (01:56):
And like I was just not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah, he tie my shoes and make me food like that?
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Oh no, just might be it. What does she do though,
when you're like tie my shoes?
Speaker 3 (02:15):
She actually tied my shoes and I was like, no.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
She actually did it.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Huh yeah, does she laugh?
Speaker 5 (02:23):
Does she think you were serious?
Speaker 4 (02:26):
I was not serious whatsoever. And at the time I
didn't really think it was a big deal because it
kind of felt like playful, like she was like, you're done.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
You know.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
But then when I told my buddies about it, they
couldn't stop like making fun of me. And I genuinely
feel that because it's just one of those things, you know,
like when we're nervous, we're out with somebody that we like,
we sometimes.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Say stupid stuff.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
And I'm not that guy who would be like, you know,
like you were saying, like tie my shoes and make
me a sandwich. That's not me. Uh. It is genuinely
a bad joke, and that's all it was. But now
it's been three days and it feels pretty glatant because
she was always responding like right away. Like I would
text her, I would think about like what to say,
(03:13):
and I text her. I'd spend like twenty minutes and
then within like thirty seconds she'd be back with like
ten texts and now it's just been nothing.
Speaker 5 (03:21):
I mean, you know what Jubil always says. Though Jubil
always says, it's all about the delivery. So if you
thought you were being funny, but if it didn't deliver.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Yeah, I'm with you, guys. I'm with you, guys. I
wish I could go back and change you know what.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
She kissed you afterwards, a really nice long kiss too,
where I was like, Okay, she's feeling the connection too.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Did it seem like she wanted to kiss you or
did you also go and now give me a kiss?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
No, there's your reward. No, I'm playing.
Speaker 5 (03:55):
My sweet thing and your jokes are funny?
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Is my move is? I always say? Can I kiss you?
That's my move? And she smiled and she was like yeah,
and she pulled me in. Okay, And like the last
thing that I actually texted her was actually like that.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
I was thinking about her and then I couldn't wait
for the next date to gets her again and nothing.
Speaker 5 (04:20):
I was thinking about it because my shoe just came on.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Tige.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
Sorry, I couldn't help it. All right, man, we'll figure
out for you.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
We'll play a song, come back and then call her
and see if she tell us why she's ghosting you.
Speaker 5 (04:30):
Okay, sounds good, All right, place, don't come back. Get
your first day follow up next.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Right in the middle of today's first day follow up
if you're just joining us, Ryan is on the phone
and he's getting ghosted by Shana. So we're about to
call her and see if she'll tell us why she's
ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But real quick, Ryan,
why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Shana.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
We met during a pop crawl. We ended up going
to on a separate night pizza ice cream. There's a
I've banned. Had a great kiss. I made a bad
joke asking her to tie my shoes. She actually did it,
And now I think I might have lost an amazing
opportunity to get to know someone really cool.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Yeah, you liked her a lot, right, I did.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
She's so pretty. It's crazy and cool and fun and smart.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Sounds like yeah, all right, man? You ready for us
to call her?
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Yes? Please?
Speaker 5 (05:24):
Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Hello him, speak to Shana please Smith, Hey, Shana, how
are you. My name is Jewbel, and I host a
radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
Hi, Shana. The whole show is here. I'm Nina. Hi,
I'm Victoria. How are you?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Okay? This is the shoke.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
No, it's not. Have you ever heard the show before?
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Yeah, I'm on the radio.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
Yes you are.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
We're actually calling you because we do a segment called
the First Day follow Up. So if you go out
on date with somebody and you end up ghosting them,
they can email us to get you on the phone
and ask why. And you're currently ghosting somebody. They like
you a lot and they don't know why they're getting ghosted. Okay,
any idea who that would be?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I'm thinking maybe Ryan? Is that right?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
It is Ryan?
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Oh gosh, okay.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
Telling us why you're ghosting him.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
I mean, I know this might sound ironically that I'm
being get picky about him, because basically I'm ghosting him
because he kept picking on me about how I eat
my ice cream.
Speaker 5 (06:39):
Picky about how you eat your ice cream.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Yeah, and I mean, I know it's weird that I
like caramel on strawberry ice cream, but he started calling
me a psychopath and he just you know, he wasn't
letting go of it, and I was like, I know,
it's weird. But then he started commenting how I hope
the cone, and then he started making jokes about, like
I don't know, just other things.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Like being picky with me.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
Was he joking?
Speaker 3 (07:05):
I don't think so, but like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
It was like I said, you know, like I say
paramel and he says it's caramel, and it's just all
started to be a little bit too much, and it
just didn't.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Feel like the kind of guy I want to spend
so much time with.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Ok on you m yeah, like the whole night he's
pouring my pigtails, you know, and I just I just
want to have peace with somebody on the date.
Speaker 5 (07:30):
You know, you kissed him after though he told us
that I.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Did because he's really cute and he's really nice and
I know he's really trying, but you know, I just
I don't know if I want to sign up exactly
for another night of that, like being picked on the
whole time.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Does that makes sense?
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Like I just I know that, And I don't mean
to be a ghoster because it's no fun, you know,
But I'm just like, oh god, I just don't want
to be criticized.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
And I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
I moved around a lot as a kid, and I
was really shy and a little insecure, and I'm trying
to get over that, but it's just it just takes.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
It's just kind of ruins the night. A little bit.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Constant picking can be a little triggering. I get that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, well, thank you for being honest with us, and
now I have to be honest with you. Ryan is
actually on the phone.
Speaker 5 (08:15):
Listen.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Yeah, okay, okay, Hi Ryan, Hi, Okay.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
So, first, sorry, I didn't realize that I was doing that.
But also I'm hugely relieved that it wasn't the shoe
tying thing, because I was so afraid that you thought
I was this one guy who's just like time of shoes,
Get me a sandwich, go do this where I was
just nervous because I was just joking about that. By
the way, the shoe thing.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
I got the joke. I got the joke.
Speaker 6 (08:50):
I didn't love it, but I I wouldn't ghost you
over it.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Okay, thanks, but I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
I am so used to hanging out with my buddies
and all we do is roast each other, and I
guess that's been affecting me so much that I didn't
realize that I was doing it too much. I honestly
think it's so cute the way that you were holding
your cone and the way that you pronounce words. I
am just you know, sorry, that's not the experience. I
wanted you to have a bad one. But I will
(09:18):
say this, with dating, sometimes you write people off so
quickly and communication. You're such a great communicator, Like thank
you for telling me through the radio about what I
did wrong. Like I would be willing to work on that,
you know, like I will lock it up, no roasting
if you were to go out with me again. And
if I do work and then I make sure something, they'll.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
Just call it out.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
Yeah, yeah, okay, exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
And I know, I know I have like weird little
habits and it's caramel and.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
I know I hold my cone funny and all that true.
It's what makes you you. I think it's lovely. You know.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
I was just nervous trying to make jokes and trying
to make sure you have an extra good time and
then doing so, I kind of messed up.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
And I'm sorry. I thought that No, no, I would
think it.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Uh, you know, I might have gone too far, But honestly,
like you haven't even seen a real psychopath until.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
You see me eat hot dogs, you.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Can always you know, that's what everybody says.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
You know what everybody says. I just love some meat,
All right.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
With Ryan again?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
And maybe eat a hot dog and watch how much
he loves me. Eat another day.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
I mean, I just want you to, like I do,
get jokes, and I know I'm a little sensitive, and
I just I don't think I'll handle the constant clowmbing
around very well, you know, but.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
I mean, no more clowns, no more plowmning.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
I'm not show up in my suit and.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
High but I still like you to be.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I don't want someone to not be themselves around me too,
you know. But I mean, you're so nice and you're
so lovely, and to go try to contact me through
a radio station.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I mean, nobody's ever done that for me before. So
I mean, and I know.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
You put so much effort into finding all those really
fun places and.
Speaker 6 (11:12):
On all that.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
So I mean, yeah, let's go on another date. Let's
give it a shot.
Speaker 5 (11:17):
Sweet congratulations, Ryan, you got another date.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
Thank you, Thank you guys for making it possible, and
thank you Shane. And you won't regret it. And if
you do, you can roast me right back.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Yeah, I will make fun of you and the way
you eat hot dogs.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
Okay, yeah, it's it's really weird. You gotta see it.
You will have.
Speaker 5 (11:42):
It's like
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Double's first Date follow up