April 2, 2025 • 28 mins
In this episode, Karol interviews Dr. Logan Levkoff, a sexuality educator and host of 'The Sexy Side of Zionism.' They explore the importance of sexuality education, the misconceptions surrounding sexuality, and how Zionism intersects with personal identity and empowerment. Dr. Levkoff shares her insights on the significance of sexual intimacy in relationships, her concerns for the younger generation's ability to form intimate connections, and offers advice for navigating societal expectations. The Karol Markowicz Show is part of the Clay Travis & Buck Sexton Podcast Network - new episodes debut every Wednesday & Friday.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hi, Welcome back to the Carol Marcowitch Show on iHeartRadio.
Last week I talked about the slew of articles about
how women are staying single. The tone is very much
you go girl, with quotes on how happy they are
and what they're doing instead of getting married and having families.
They're traveling, they're building businesses or climbing in their careers.
(00:25):
They're going to bed at eight pm snuggling their cat
because that's what they want to do and no one
is there to stop them. I've said on this show before,
but all of that, even the early bedtime and the cat,
could be better and easier in a good relationship. I
was a big traveler even before I started dating my husband,
(00:46):
but having someone to travel with and combine resources, you know,
whether that means money or planning or spending the dull
parts of traveling, like they getting their part together. It's
better with someone you're into. And I've talked about how
my career took off when I got married. I was
able to take chances and opportunities that I couldn't take
(01:08):
when I was on my own, and that's a frequently
missed angle of the whole career or family non debate,
and I say non debate. I know people who listen
to the show a lot know that I think this
because I don't actually believe that anyone is choosing one.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Or the other.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
As I've said, I think people lean into their career
more when they haven't met someone to be with, and
then it becomes they've quote chosen career over a spouse,
when really the choice was kind of made for them.
One of the stats I shared last week is the
share of women age eighteen to forty foorse single that
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is neither married nor cohabitating with a partner was fifty
one point four percent in twenty twenty three, according to
an analysis of census data by the Aspen Economic Strategy Group,
and that numbers up from forty one point eight percent
in two thousand. Now, I tried find a similar stat
for men to see what are men up to? And
(02:06):
I came across this one from twenty twenty three that
I had seen before, and I always find amusing Among
those eighteen to twenty nine years of age, sixty three
percent of men versus thirty four percent of women consider
themselves single. And I remember when this stat came out
and a lot of people were confused, How could it
(02:27):
be that sixty three percent of men are single but
only thirty four percent of women are. But anyone familiar
with the dating world knows exactly how. A woman goes
on four dates with a guy and considers him her boyfriend.
A man goes on those same four dates and continues
dating other people until they specifically have the talk about
(02:49):
whether they're going to be exclusive. The man generally assumes
they will not be. It's funny because lately I've seen
videos of young people in other countries marveling kind of
mocking Americans about the whole talk thing. Apparently, when you
go on some dates in France or Italy, you're together
and that's it. Of course, those countries are also known
(03:11):
for kind of loose standards of monogamy, especially for the men.
So while I agree that needing to have that exclusivity
talk is silly, at least American couples know where they stand.
So I looked, and I looked, and it doesn't seem
that men are getting the same glowy. He just wants
to stay single and hang out with his friends, soft
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pieces that single women do. That's a tell to me
that women are being lied to. A number of years ago,
my daughter started noticing that there were always shirts for
sale that said stuff like girls Rule and girls run
the world, and it became obvious to her that boys
didn't have similar clothing because the clothing aimed at girls
(03:55):
was a lie, or if not a lie, then maybe
a fib to them up. And that's what's happening now
with these articles about amazing singlehood that are only aimed
at women. They're being lied to, maybe to make them
feel better, but it's a lie.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Nevertheless.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Recent show guest Abigail Schreyer had a really good piece
on romantic comedies and love in general in the Free
Press a few days ago. I'm going to read kind
of a longer clip because I really enjoyed it. She writes, quote,
every story involves daring, chance, and above all serendipity. Love,
we are reminded again and again, is ultimately an act
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of surrender, Which is perhaps why our Bye with one
click era struggles when it comes to romance, why it's
technological wizardry invariably comes up short. We shop for mats
online like we shop for clothing, determined to call up
precisely and exclusively what we've already decided will please us.
(04:55):
But real love can't be prime delivered like toilet paper.
The precondition for romance, and especially of marriage, is our
willingness to move beyond consumption, to shift our focus from
I need a foodie who loves rock climbing to imagining
what you might give to another and create together. Sally,
and she's talking about when Harry met Sally would never
(05:17):
have matched with Harry on hinge. Height alone would likely
have preweeded him. He of slim build and average looks
nothing like the boyfriend who couldn't commit to marrying her tall, agreeable, blonde,
newcast handsome Joe. But rom coms exist to remind us
that we don't know everything, not even about what we need,
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and that intimacy, like humor, involves surprise, which also means
we must be open to finding someone who isn't simply
a reflection of ourselves. End quote. I love that, and
that's what women and men need to be told. Love
is amazing and you should want.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
To find it.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You can still travel and girl boss and have a cat,
and all of that will be better with someone. Thanks
for listening. Coming up, my interview with Logan Lefkoff. But first,
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Speaker 4 (07:23):
Welcome back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My
guest today is Logan Lefkoff, a sexuality educator and host
of a show called The Sexy Side of Zionism on
Izzy Stream Israel TV.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Hi Logan, so nice to have you on.
Speaker 5 (07:38):
Hi Carol, It's so nice to see you sort of
in person.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yeah, that's sort of in person. We've never met in person.
But we have to rectify that, I think soon. But
I have to start off with what is a sexuality educator?
Speaker 2 (07:52):
And does everyone need one? Personally?
Speaker 5 (07:57):
I mean, yes, obviously right guarded in this field. I
was a fifteen year old peer HIV and AIDS educator.
I came of age, you know, I grew up on
Long Island at a time when HIV was being talked
about as a virus that didn't discriminate, and so for
whatever reason, my parents became super involved in HIV and
(08:18):
AIDS awareness and fundraising, even though we had no like real.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Personal connection, right.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
And I came home after school one day and there
were condoms and bananas on my dinner table, and my
parents said, Okay, next week you go to become a
peer educator and to teach others, and I okay. And
what I learned was that I was really good at
talking about things that made other people uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
And I wound skill.
Speaker 6 (08:45):
That's a real skill, Yeah, thank you. I mean, I
don't know.
Speaker 5 (08:49):
I guess I was just mauthy enough and had a
big enough ego to think like I could do anything
like that didn't seem to stop that line of thinking,
so I wound up. I really I went to college
thinking I was going to be a lawyer. I went
to the University of Pennsylvania, which you know, I'm so
proud of these, so proud. And I found myself watching
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my friends and I like smart and sophisticated women making
eight shittiest decisions about sex. And it wasn't like the
no protection question like issue.
Speaker 6 (09:24):
It was no equity.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
We didn't know how to speak up for ourselves, we
didn't understand our own bodies. And I just thought there
has to be a better way. And I called my
parents and said, I'm not I'm not going to law school.
I'm going to get my master's and then eventually a
PhD in this field that no one knew existed.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
Friend, what are you going.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
To do with it?
Speaker 6 (09:42):
I said, I don't know, I don't know, but I'm
going to do something.
Speaker 5 (09:46):
And so really, nowadays, or at least for the last
you know, three decades. I design and implement sex SED
programs and a lot of schools. I've done a lot
of consulting with organizations. I did a lot of work
in the media in this space of sexuality and healthy relationships.
And now I don't I don't know what I do,
(10:07):
but clearly difficult conversations is right wheelhouse.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
So it's interesting because normally, if you call your parents
and say, I'm really into sex and I'm going to
pursue this as as a career path, I don't know,
a lot of parents might not be happy with that.
But your parents seem like they almost, like, you know,
kind of led you in that direction.
Speaker 5 (10:26):
I think my parents were. They were definitely blindsided that
this was going to work.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Okay, I mean they didn't know the bananas and the
condoms that not.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Like, no, I just just not like this what we
are in the middle of, like a global health crisis.
Speaker 6 (10:40):
And so we're going to do our part in our
own that's really nice, Yeah, which amazing. It was.
Speaker 5 (10:45):
It was definitely amazing. And I also think that my
parents knew, no still, that the person I am today,
for all the good and sometimes not good, it's very
much a result of being raised to have a voice
and to use it and to be fearless. And so
I'm sure there are times they think what did we do?
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And then also they're very proud to.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
What do people misunderstand about sex?
Speaker 5 (11:15):
Everything they misunderstart at the beginning, tell us everything. So
I think that what most people misunderstand is that sexuality
is not like a switch that gets flipped on at
some magical time.
Speaker 6 (11:27):
And shut off at a magical time.
Speaker 5 (11:29):
That you know, we have a sexuality from birth to death.
It's made up of all of the things that make
us who we are. So you know, sure our you know,
anatomy and gender, the way we express ourselves, the roles
we play in relationships, who were attracted to what we
like to do, and we express that differently throughout our
throughout our lives. Uh, And that there is I think
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the biggest issue becomes in a world where we are
so consumed with with what it means to be normal,
to realize that there is no one way to be
normal when it comes to your sexuality. I think fear
of being normal prevents us from feeling fulfilled, whether that's
emotionally or sexually, or or intellectually.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Even so, where does Zionism come in. What's the sexy
side of Zionism?
Speaker 3 (12:16):
How do they how do they intersect?
Speaker 4 (12:18):
It's it's really I mean, I think Zionism sexy, but
I don't feel like that's necessarily the popular opinion.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Apparently not. But I too, find find it very sexy.
So I am a very, very proud Zionist. I am
the granddaughter and great daughter of great granddaughter of American
Zionist leaders. The sense of connection to Israel, to our story,
to self determination was a huge part of who I
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was throughout my life, and I would say that, you know,
anytime someone like offensively says you should stick to talking
about sex, my answer is always my Zionist and Jewish
values in form everything I do in my professional life.
I can't separate them. So, you know, as in the
last couple of years, and I'm sorry, I don't want
(13:10):
this to be long winded, but it might be, so
I have to tell us go ahead, Yeah, obviously, you know,
in the last you know, I mean decade, sure, but
in the last five years, spaces that have been historically progressive,
mainly my own field, have let's just say, turned out
to be reaching anti Semits. And so what I decided
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to do years ago was just be unapologetically Zionist. And
it wasn't like I ever hit that part of who
I was, but I didn't realize I had to lead
with it. And so I've made my platform very much
unapologetically Jewish, unapologetically Zionist, and you know, pro Israel as
(13:52):
if by the way, there, I've never heard of any
other place where you're like pro We're anties.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Right, who's pro France or like pro Italy? You know
it just it makes no sense.
Speaker 6 (14:01):
Yeah, ridiculous.
Speaker 5 (14:02):
And the sexy side of Zionism came about to be honest,
because my media life, my TV life, kind of took
a well died died in the last couple of years,
right around the time I started speaking out very publicly
about Israel.
Speaker 6 (14:20):
I don't you know, it might be a chicken red question,
It might be a very big coincidence. I don't know.
But this, this space that I love to play in,
was not really calling me anymore.
Speaker 5 (14:32):
And I had an opportunity to meet the CEO of
Izzy Stream Israel TV Nazi Dinar, and he said, do you.
Speaker 6 (14:40):
Want to do something on TV again? And I said yes, And.
Speaker 5 (14:43):
He said, you want to like talk about what you
love and Israel. I'm like yes, And so we came
up with the sexy side of Zionism. It's been amazing
because yeh, scientism is sexy, right, As some of my
guests have said, moral clarity is sexy, right. Being able
to stand up for yourself, to be empowered by your
voice and your story.
Speaker 6 (15:02):
Is knowing who you are. Yeah, resilience is sexy. So yeah,
there seems to be a very nice connection.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
So what are the episodes like?
Speaker 5 (15:12):
So the episodes are basically a conversation which.
Speaker 6 (15:16):
Always starts off with why is Zionism sexy?
Speaker 5 (15:19):
You know?
Speaker 6 (15:19):
We start with, like to use the sex term, the
money shot first that we established okay, start.
Speaker 5 (15:28):
And then people get to tell their own story, their
own journey, not just about zioni is, but how they
found their voice, how they got to where they are.
And then the part that I really really love is
every I get everyone's hot takes on Israel. So everything
from your favorite Hebrew word, do your favorite you know music,
to your favorite place in Israel to what's the best
thing about israelis were the one thing that everyone should
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know about Israel, and for the people who have never been,
or the people who haven't been in a long time,
it's a way to bring them in and to remind
people that there is a world beyond this absurd like
sided lens that we we see every day.
Speaker 6 (16:06):
So it's been a.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Very sexy place.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
Everybody looks really good, and it's just it's you know,
warm weather and the beach and it's it's it's really
a wonderful, wonderful place.
Speaker 6 (16:18):
So, Carol, I have to I would say of the.
Speaker 5 (16:24):
Twelve interviews that are that are basically in the Canton,
ninety percent of maybe one hundred percent. Everyone says, I
don't know if I can see this, it's reelis are
just really hot. Yeah, I said, don't be ashamed. Everyone
says that.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
And it's not untrue.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
It's one interesting We're going to take a quick break
and be right back on the Carol Marcowitch Show. So
I've written about sex in my life.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
I mean, you know my columns at the Post, I've
written about all kinds of you know, social things, friendship
and marriage.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
And when I've.
Speaker 4 (16:59):
Written about sex, I remember I had one article and
this was a big one for me.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
But it was because I got a lot of it
was passed around a lot. Obviously, anything sexu realated is
always going to be kind of popular.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
But my argument was that sex is the most important
part of a relationship, and I've done monologues on this
show about that also, and people hate that because they're like, no,
what about honesty, what about connection? What about I'm not
saying it's the only important part of a.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Relationship, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Why would I say that. I'm saying it's.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
The most important part of a relationship because it's what
separates friendship from relationship.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Is that generally your take as well? Or are you
going to argue with me?
Speaker 6 (17:39):
No, I'm not going to no argument.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Let's go yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
Have you seen me online? I love to argue. It's
my favorite job. I would say this that I think
the first thing we everyone needs to establish was what
kind of relationship that they want throughout their lives, Like
what is important? However, physical intimacy and connection to a
partner beyond just friendship is important. Then yes, of course,
sexual intimacy and pleasure and good communication so that everyone
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gets out of sex what they want is critically important.
That being said, great sex cannot sustain a crappy relationship,
and the law not just about sex, but sex. If
it's not good, if there's not a connection, then it
becomes an overwhelmingly big part of your relationship.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
So the reverse of that for me is, could crappy
sex be okay? Can you live with that in a
great relationship? And I think no, I don't know. I
think that then you have a really great friendship and
you know, not the relationship part.
Speaker 6 (18:42):
But I don't think you are wrong. I think that
that pleasure.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Are you going become a sex therapist because I'll do it?
Speaker 6 (18:51):
I mean, please, please, We.
Speaker 5 (18:52):
Need honestly, we need, we need smart, some more ethical
people in our field these days.
Speaker 6 (18:59):
So the more the merrier.
Speaker 5 (19:02):
I do think that it is really hard to be
in a relationship where there is bad sexual and physical
and maybe not in the beginning like of someone's relationship
trajectory where maybe they're deciding on kids and there's a
lot of other stressors, but at some point when everyone
unloads the baggage of like what it means to live
(19:22):
a fairy tale life whatever bs that means, the sexport
kicks in and people remember, oh wait, I enjoy that.
Speaker 6 (19:31):
Yeah, it's good.
Speaker 5 (19:32):
And this is important to need this, and so if
I'm not getting it, then we need to figure out
how to kind of make all parties fulfilled.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
Yeah, what was the plan? B if you didn't go
into this.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Field law school? I guess I have a particular like brand.
Speaker 6 (19:48):
No, I think that might be a lie.
Speaker 5 (19:50):
I didn't and maybe this is maybe this is my
m O, which might be a problem.
Speaker 6 (19:55):
I don't really ever have a plan B. I just
assume the plan it's no work, and and I run
with it.
Speaker 5 (20:04):
It may not be the most strategic strategy, but I
never really thought about what what if it didn't work?
And my parents asked me, what are you going to
do with this career? And I thought, don't know, but
I'll just figure it out. And I was at this
moment when in the I guess late nineties, early eighties,
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there weren't a lot of us in this in the space.
Speaker 6 (20:27):
It was the early days of the internet.
Speaker 5 (20:29):
Like once you got on a TV show, your voice
was out there and other people called in the field
wasn't crowded. So I like to think I was am
really good at what I do, But also I recognized
it was this moment in time too, that that gave
me an opportunity to find a to find a public voice.
Because there was no career preath. I had no idea
(20:52):
what this career was going to look like. All I
know is that I was a grad school student on
the Howard Stern Show, and the cat, the taxi driver
I was in recognize my voice from the show, and
I thought it was the weirdest thing.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
Ever, that's awesome is this saying I'll either find a
way or make one. It just sounds like you made
one for yourself.
Speaker 6 (21:16):
I think so.
Speaker 5 (21:16):
I think I'm I think I'm continuing to do that
as I'm in this weird space now professionally.
Speaker 6 (21:22):
Where I'm so.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
Angry so many times that the people who I thought
were my peers, my professional peers and friends, and now
I have this other chapter of my life which I
think and I know I find so meaningful that I
was kind of made for this moment. So maybe the
plan A was always You're going to have lots of
difficult conversation. Maybe the conversation the subject matter is just
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going to change over time.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
What do you worry about?
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I really worry for for my kids and all of
our kids I should say, not not just my own.
I have an almost twenty year old and an almost
sixteen years old.
Speaker 6 (22:01):
I worry that I worry.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Old enough to have a twenty and a sixteen year old.
Speaker 6 (22:05):
Oh, thank you, good dear metology.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Right, I'll get that number from you after, Okay.
Speaker 6 (22:11):
Any anytime I worry.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
There are a few aspects to what I worry about,
and not them as individuals, but generationally speaking, I worry
that they, because of these weird years in a pandemic,
without intimacy, without taking emotional and physical risks, that they
that this generation does not have the skills to have
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emotionally intimates, actually intimate relationships and be able to communicate
about them, especially because they're so connected via social media
and phones and filters and you know, other ways of
being inauthentic. I worry about that. I worry about the
fact that this is a generation of trigger warnings, where
we're like warning people like you're about to be uncomfortable,
(22:55):
so avoid discomfort. I don't, right, that's a space I don't.
I mean, look, as Jews, we've we've never really been
afforded a trigger warning.
Speaker 6 (23:04):
So I feel like it's just unfair.
Speaker 5 (23:07):
Yeah, we just walk right into it over and over
and over again. So there's there's that piece of it.
And then of course, realistically from the anti Semitism space,
I really feel I feel for our kids who and
I speak from personal experience, whom my kids have never
had a day where they haven't had to deal with something,
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And I feel so badly that they wear armor every
single day and don't know what it's like to take
that off, to always have to be ready for something,
for a fight, for to not know if your peers
or your friends are really your friends or not. I
just that's that's what I worry about that we are.
It is such a sad position for our young people
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to be in.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
That's so tough.
Speaker 4 (23:52):
I mean, I guess I knew that that was the
case for a lot of people, but it's just hearing that.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
It's really a hard place to be.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
And I hope you're I hope they're doing okay with it,
and I hope you are also.
Speaker 6 (24:06):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 5 (24:07):
I mean, we we've I will say our obviously, our
family story at our my son's school was very very public.
Speaker 6 (24:14):
It was an opposed two years.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
I'm sorry, I don't know it. Tell me, tell me. Yeah, no, oh.
Speaker 5 (24:20):
My son graduated from Fieldston in May of twenty three,
and so we dealt with an anti semitic incident basically
every year of high school that we were very much
like all in and my son is this incredible voice
and knows how to be a leader and knows how
to fight even when the stakes are high. And we
just had incident after incidents, So to be honest, he
was very very prepared for college like this right ever's
(24:42):
happening now?
Speaker 7 (24:44):
Yeah, and they should be teaching workshops actually, I mean
it's it's I can laugh about it now just because
of course I don't think we have another alternative.
Speaker 5 (24:55):
But we've we've been we've been down this road before,
so so you know, they they get it, and I
think they I've always given them a healthy dose of
identity and who they are and to keep your head
on a swivel.
Speaker 6 (25:08):
But that's how I was raised. I don't understand everyone still.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Like fair that they have to deal with it, but
I get it.
Speaker 4 (25:16):
You're giving them the foundation at home and the basis
for everything that they're going to encounter in their lives.
Speaker 5 (25:24):
Yes, And I feel badly like that in this day
and age college kids. I mean, depending on where you
are more or less, but there's I don't think there's
any place that's totally immune.
Speaker 6 (25:34):
To this stuff that.
Speaker 5 (25:36):
They don't ever really get a day of being like
a dumb nineteen year old, right, yeah, yeah for fair, Yeah,
they really they don't find it fair at all.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
What advice would you give your sixteen year old self.
Speaker 5 (25:50):
I would tell my sixteen year old self that this
is not the best time of your life, not because
it was terrible, just because every chapter should be a
meaningful chapter, and when the chapter ends, it's time for
a new one, and that's a good thing. I think
a lot of us spend time in the past thinking
that this was the best moment, and it shouldn't be.
(26:11):
It shouldn't be the best moment. Every chapter should be
meaningful and be a part of your story and add
to the to the next story that we tell.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
Sixteen is pretty good, though, that was a good chapter.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
You're not even worried about that many things.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
You're like, you know, living with your parents, that your
life is mostly taken care of for you.
Speaker 6 (26:29):
It's you know, I get it.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
It's only gotten better since then. But I like sixteen, it.
Speaker 5 (26:34):
Was no I mean, i'd like sixteen too, although I
don't think I would want to.
Speaker 6 (26:38):
Well, I know for sure I would not want to
be sixteen today.
Speaker 5 (26:41):
I think so much had the worst thing ever, I
would hate, hate it. I tell my students all the time.
I tell my own kids, I made plenty of mistakes,
plenty of things.
Speaker 6 (26:51):
Like yeah, and you'll never hear about them.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
Because there are no pictures.
Speaker 6 (26:55):
No, there are no pictures.
Speaker 5 (26:57):
And also if someone knew about it, it was because
they were there and they weren't saying any right.
Speaker 4 (27:04):
Yes, absolutely, well, I love this. Yeah, I've loved this conversation.
I think you're just awesome. You do such great work,
and you're such an interesting point of view. I think
that everything that you say is very unique. End us
here with your best tip for my listeners on how
they can improve their lives.
Speaker 5 (27:24):
I would tell your listeners to get rid of the
fairy tale. I am very much a realist. I'm not
a romantic. That doesn't mean I don't like romance, but
I feel like these stories we were told throughout our
lives set us up for failures, so that when the
challenge is in our midst, we don't know what to do.
With it, and if we veer off a certain path,
(27:45):
we think there's something wrong with us, as opposed to
maybe thinking that there was something wrong with the story.
And so don't let this idea of what's normal or
typical paralyze you emotion the sexually. We should be able
to chart our own our own path forward. And who
cares if it doesn't look like your neighbor. Who cares
(28:06):
if it doesn't look like the book you read?
Speaker 6 (28:08):
Those are stories you imagined for yourself. Yeah, yeah, very much,
so love it.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
She is Logan Lefkoff.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
Check her out The Sexy Side of Zionism on Izzy,
follow her on X.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Thank you so much for coming on, Logan, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Thanks so much for joining us on the Carol Marco
Witch Show. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.
Hi, Welcome back to the Carol Marcowitch Show on iHeartRadio.
Last week I talked about the slew of articles about
how women are staying single. The tone is very much
you go girl, with quotes on how happy they are
and what they're doing instead of getting married and having families.
They're traveling, they're building businesses or climbing in their careers.
(00:25):
They're going to bed at eight pm snuggling their cat
because that's what they want to do and no one
is there to stop them. I've said on this show before,
but all of that, even the early bedtime and the cat,
could be better and easier in a good relationship. I
was a big traveler even before I started dating my husband,
(00:46):
but having someone to travel with and combine resources, you know,
whether that means money or planning or spending the dull
parts of traveling, like they getting their part together. It's
better with someone you're into. And I've talked about how
my career took off when I got married. I was
able to take chances and opportunities that I couldn't take
(01:08):
when I was on my own, and that's a frequently
missed angle of the whole career or family non debate,
and I say non debate. I know people who listen
to the show a lot know that I think this
because I don't actually believe that anyone is choosing one.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Or the other.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
As I've said, I think people lean into their career
more when they haven't met someone to be with, and
then it becomes they've quote chosen career over a spouse,
when really the choice was kind of made for them.
One of the stats I shared last week is the
share of women age eighteen to forty foorse single that
(01:44):
is neither married nor cohabitating with a partner was fifty
one point four percent in twenty twenty three, according to
an analysis of census data by the Aspen Economic Strategy Group,
and that numbers up from forty one point eight percent
in two thousand. Now, I tried find a similar stat
for men to see what are men up to? And
(02:06):
I came across this one from twenty twenty three that
I had seen before, and I always find amusing Among
those eighteen to twenty nine years of age, sixty three
percent of men versus thirty four percent of women consider
themselves single. And I remember when this stat came out
and a lot of people were confused, How could it
(02:27):
be that sixty three percent of men are single but
only thirty four percent of women are. But anyone familiar
with the dating world knows exactly how. A woman goes
on four dates with a guy and considers him her boyfriend.
A man goes on those same four dates and continues
dating other people until they specifically have the talk about
(02:49):
whether they're going to be exclusive. The man generally assumes
they will not be. It's funny because lately I've seen
videos of young people in other countries marveling kind of
mocking Americans about the whole talk thing. Apparently, when you
go on some dates in France or Italy, you're together
and that's it. Of course, those countries are also known
(03:11):
for kind of loose standards of monogamy, especially for the men.
So while I agree that needing to have that exclusivity
talk is silly, at least American couples know where they stand.
So I looked, and I looked, and it doesn't seem
that men are getting the same glowy. He just wants
to stay single and hang out with his friends, soft
(03:34):
pieces that single women do. That's a tell to me
that women are being lied to. A number of years ago,
my daughter started noticing that there were always shirts for
sale that said stuff like girls Rule and girls run
the world, and it became obvious to her that boys
didn't have similar clothing because the clothing aimed at girls
(03:55):
was a lie, or if not a lie, then maybe
a fib to them up. And that's what's happening now
with these articles about amazing singlehood that are only aimed
at women. They're being lied to, maybe to make them
feel better, but it's a lie.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Nevertheless.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Recent show guest Abigail Schreyer had a really good piece
on romantic comedies and love in general in the Free
Press a few days ago. I'm going to read kind
of a longer clip because I really enjoyed it. She writes, quote,
every story involves daring, chance, and above all serendipity. Love,
we are reminded again and again, is ultimately an act
(04:34):
of surrender, Which is perhaps why our Bye with one
click era struggles when it comes to romance, why it's
technological wizardry invariably comes up short. We shop for mats
online like we shop for clothing, determined to call up
precisely and exclusively what we've already decided will please us.
(04:55):
But real love can't be prime delivered like toilet paper.
The precondition for romance, and especially of marriage, is our
willingness to move beyond consumption, to shift our focus from
I need a foodie who loves rock climbing to imagining
what you might give to another and create together. Sally,
and she's talking about when Harry met Sally would never
(05:17):
have matched with Harry on hinge. Height alone would likely
have preweeded him. He of slim build and average looks
nothing like the boyfriend who couldn't commit to marrying her tall, agreeable, blonde,
newcast handsome Joe. But rom coms exist to remind us
that we don't know everything, not even about what we need,
(05:39):
and that intimacy, like humor, involves surprise, which also means
we must be open to finding someone who isn't simply
a reflection of ourselves. End quote. I love that, and
that's what women and men need to be told. Love
is amazing and you should want.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
To find it.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You can still travel and girl boss and have a cat,
and all of that will be better with someone. Thanks
for listening. Coming up, my interview with Logan Lefkoff. But first,
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Speaker 4 (07:23):
Welcome back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My
guest today is Logan Lefkoff, a sexuality educator and host
of a show called The Sexy Side of Zionism on
Izzy Stream Israel TV.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Hi Logan, so nice to have you on.
Speaker 5 (07:38):
Hi Carol, It's so nice to see you sort of
in person.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yeah, that's sort of in person. We've never met in person.
But we have to rectify that, I think soon. But
I have to start off with what is a sexuality educator?
Speaker 2 (07:52):
And does everyone need one? Personally?
Speaker 5 (07:57):
I mean, yes, obviously right guarded in this field. I
was a fifteen year old peer HIV and AIDS educator.
I came of age, you know, I grew up on
Long Island at a time when HIV was being talked
about as a virus that didn't discriminate, and so for
whatever reason, my parents became super involved in HIV and
(08:18):
AIDS awareness and fundraising, even though we had no like real.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Personal connection, right.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
And I came home after school one day and there
were condoms and bananas on my dinner table, and my
parents said, Okay, next week you go to become a
peer educator and to teach others, and I okay. And
what I learned was that I was really good at
talking about things that made other people uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
And I wound skill.
Speaker 6 (08:45):
That's a real skill, Yeah, thank you. I mean, I
don't know.
Speaker 5 (08:49):
I guess I was just mauthy enough and had a
big enough ego to think like I could do anything
like that didn't seem to stop that line of thinking,
so I wound up. I really I went to college
thinking I was going to be a lawyer. I went
to the University of Pennsylvania, which you know, I'm so
proud of these, so proud. And I found myself watching
(09:14):
my friends and I like smart and sophisticated women making
eight shittiest decisions about sex. And it wasn't like the
no protection question like issue.
Speaker 6 (09:24):
It was no equity.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
We didn't know how to speak up for ourselves, we
didn't understand our own bodies. And I just thought there
has to be a better way. And I called my
parents and said, I'm not I'm not going to law school.
I'm going to get my master's and then eventually a
PhD in this field that no one knew existed.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
Friend, what are you going.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
To do with it?
Speaker 6 (09:42):
I said, I don't know, I don't know, but I'm
going to do something.
Speaker 5 (09:46):
And so really, nowadays, or at least for the last
you know, three decades. I design and implement sex SED
programs and a lot of schools. I've done a lot
of consulting with organizations. I did a lot of work
in the media in this space of sexuality and healthy relationships.
And now I don't I don't know what I do,
(10:07):
but clearly difficult conversations is right wheelhouse.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
So it's interesting because normally, if you call your parents
and say, I'm really into sex and I'm going to
pursue this as as a career path, I don't know,
a lot of parents might not be happy with that.
But your parents seem like they almost, like, you know,
kind of led you in that direction.
Speaker 5 (10:26):
I think my parents were. They were definitely blindsided that
this was going to work.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Okay, I mean they didn't know the bananas and the
condoms that not.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Like, no, I just just not like this what we
are in the middle of, like a global health crisis.
Speaker 6 (10:40):
And so we're going to do our part in our
own that's really nice, Yeah, which amazing. It was.
Speaker 5 (10:45):
It was definitely amazing. And I also think that my
parents knew, no still, that the person I am today,
for all the good and sometimes not good, it's very
much a result of being raised to have a voice
and to use it and to be fearless. And so
I'm sure there are times they think what did we do?
(11:08):
And then also they're very proud to.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
What do people misunderstand about sex?
Speaker 5 (11:15):
Everything they misunderstart at the beginning, tell us everything. So
I think that what most people misunderstand is that sexuality
is not like a switch that gets flipped on at
some magical time.
Speaker 6 (11:27):
And shut off at a magical time.
Speaker 5 (11:29):
That you know, we have a sexuality from birth to death.
It's made up of all of the things that make
us who we are. So you know, sure our you know,
anatomy and gender, the way we express ourselves, the roles
we play in relationships, who were attracted to what we
like to do, and we express that differently throughout our
throughout our lives. Uh, And that there is I think
(11:51):
the biggest issue becomes in a world where we are
so consumed with with what it means to be normal,
to realize that there is no one way to be
normal when it comes to your sexuality. I think fear
of being normal prevents us from feeling fulfilled, whether that's
emotionally or sexually, or or intellectually.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Even so, where does Zionism come in. What's the sexy
side of Zionism?
Speaker 3 (12:16):
How do they how do they intersect?
Speaker 4 (12:18):
It's it's really I mean, I think Zionism sexy, but
I don't feel like that's necessarily the popular opinion.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Apparently not. But I too, find find it very sexy.
So I am a very, very proud Zionist. I am
the granddaughter and great daughter of great granddaughter of American
Zionist leaders. The sense of connection to Israel, to our story,
to self determination was a huge part of who I
(12:48):
was throughout my life, and I would say that, you know,
anytime someone like offensively says you should stick to talking
about sex, my answer is always my Zionist and Jewish
values in form everything I do in my professional life.
I can't separate them. So, you know, as in the
last couple of years, and I'm sorry, I don't want
(13:10):
this to be long winded, but it might be, so
I have to tell us go ahead, Yeah, obviously, you know,
in the last you know, I mean decade, sure, but
in the last five years, spaces that have been historically progressive,
mainly my own field, have let's just say, turned out
to be reaching anti Semits. And so what I decided
(13:32):
to do years ago was just be unapologetically Zionist. And
it wasn't like I ever hit that part of who
I was, but I didn't realize I had to lead
with it. And so I've made my platform very much
unapologetically Jewish, unapologetically Zionist, and you know, pro Israel as
(13:52):
if by the way, there, I've never heard of any
other place where you're like pro We're anties.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Right, who's pro France or like pro Italy? You know
it just it makes no sense.
Speaker 6 (14:01):
Yeah, ridiculous.
Speaker 5 (14:02):
And the sexy side of Zionism came about to be honest,
because my media life, my TV life, kind of took
a well died died in the last couple of years,
right around the time I started speaking out very publicly
about Israel.
Speaker 6 (14:20):
I don't you know, it might be a chicken red question,
It might be a very big coincidence. I don't know.
But this, this space that I love to play in,
was not really calling me anymore.
Speaker 5 (14:32):
And I had an opportunity to meet the CEO of
Izzy Stream Israel TV Nazi Dinar, and he said, do you.
Speaker 6 (14:40):
Want to do something on TV again? And I said yes, And.
Speaker 5 (14:43):
He said, you want to like talk about what you
love and Israel. I'm like yes, And so we came
up with the sexy side of Zionism. It's been amazing
because yeh, scientism is sexy, right, As some of my
guests have said, moral clarity is sexy, right. Being able
to stand up for yourself, to be empowered by your
voice and your story.
Speaker 6 (15:02):
Is knowing who you are. Yeah, resilience is sexy. So yeah,
there seems to be a very nice connection.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
So what are the episodes like?
Speaker 5 (15:12):
So the episodes are basically a conversation which.
Speaker 6 (15:16):
Always starts off with why is Zionism sexy?
Speaker 5 (15:19):
You know?
Speaker 6 (15:19):
We start with, like to use the sex term, the
money shot first that we established okay, start.
Speaker 5 (15:28):
And then people get to tell their own story, their
own journey, not just about zioni is, but how they
found their voice, how they got to where they are.
And then the part that I really really love is
every I get everyone's hot takes on Israel. So everything
from your favorite Hebrew word, do your favorite you know music,
to your favorite place in Israel to what's the best
thing about israelis were the one thing that everyone should
(15:50):
know about Israel, and for the people who have never been,
or the people who haven't been in a long time,
it's a way to bring them in and to remind
people that there is a world beyond this absurd like
sided lens that we we see every day.
Speaker 6 (16:06):
So it's been a.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Very sexy place.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
Everybody looks really good, and it's just it's you know,
warm weather and the beach and it's it's it's really
a wonderful, wonderful place.
Speaker 6 (16:18):
So, Carol, I have to I would say of the.
Speaker 5 (16:24):
Twelve interviews that are that are basically in the Canton,
ninety percent of maybe one hundred percent. Everyone says, I
don't know if I can see this, it's reelis are
just really hot. Yeah, I said, don't be ashamed. Everyone
says that.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
And it's not untrue.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
It's one interesting We're going to take a quick break
and be right back on the Carol Marcowitch Show. So
I've written about sex in my life.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
I mean, you know my columns at the Post, I've
written about all kinds of you know, social things, friendship
and marriage.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
And when I've.
Speaker 4 (16:59):
Written about sex, I remember I had one article and
this was a big one for me.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
But it was because I got a lot of it
was passed around a lot. Obviously, anything sexu realated is
always going to be kind of popular.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
But my argument was that sex is the most important
part of a relationship, and I've done monologues on this
show about that also, and people hate that because they're like, no,
what about honesty, what about connection? What about I'm not
saying it's the only important part of a.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Relationship, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Why would I say that. I'm saying it's.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
The most important part of a relationship because it's what
separates friendship from relationship.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Is that generally your take as well? Or are you
going to argue with me?
Speaker 6 (17:39):
No, I'm not going to no argument.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Let's go yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
Have you seen me online? I love to argue. It's
my favorite job. I would say this that I think
the first thing we everyone needs to establish was what
kind of relationship that they want throughout their lives, Like
what is important? However, physical intimacy and connection to a
partner beyond just friendship is important. Then yes, of course,
sexual intimacy and pleasure and good communication so that everyone
(18:09):
gets out of sex what they want is critically important.
That being said, great sex cannot sustain a crappy relationship,
and the law not just about sex, but sex. If
it's not good, if there's not a connection, then it
becomes an overwhelmingly big part of your relationship.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
So the reverse of that for me is, could crappy
sex be okay? Can you live with that in a
great relationship? And I think no, I don't know. I
think that then you have a really great friendship and
you know, not the relationship part.
Speaker 6 (18:42):
But I don't think you are wrong. I think that
that pleasure.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Are you going become a sex therapist because I'll do it?
Speaker 6 (18:51):
I mean, please, please, We.
Speaker 5 (18:52):
Need honestly, we need, we need smart, some more ethical
people in our field these days.
Speaker 6 (18:59):
So the more the merrier.
Speaker 5 (19:02):
I do think that it is really hard to be
in a relationship where there is bad sexual and physical
and maybe not in the beginning like of someone's relationship
trajectory where maybe they're deciding on kids and there's a
lot of other stressors, but at some point when everyone
unloads the baggage of like what it means to live
(19:22):
a fairy tale life whatever bs that means, the sexport
kicks in and people remember, oh wait, I enjoy that.
Speaker 6 (19:31):
Yeah, it's good.
Speaker 5 (19:32):
And this is important to need this, and so if
I'm not getting it, then we need to figure out
how to kind of make all parties fulfilled.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
Yeah, what was the plan? B if you didn't go
into this.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Field law school? I guess I have a particular like brand.
Speaker 6 (19:48):
No, I think that might be a lie.
Speaker 5 (19:50):
I didn't and maybe this is maybe this is my
m O, which might be a problem.
Speaker 6 (19:55):
I don't really ever have a plan B. I just
assume the plan it's no work, and and I run
with it.
Speaker 5 (20:04):
It may not be the most strategic strategy, but I
never really thought about what what if it didn't work?
And my parents asked me, what are you going to
do with this career? And I thought, don't know, but
I'll just figure it out. And I was at this
moment when in the I guess late nineties, early eighties,
(20:24):
there weren't a lot of us in this in the space.
Speaker 6 (20:27):
It was the early days of the internet.
Speaker 5 (20:29):
Like once you got on a TV show, your voice
was out there and other people called in the field
wasn't crowded. So I like to think I was am
really good at what I do, But also I recognized
it was this moment in time too, that that gave
me an opportunity to find a to find a public voice.
Because there was no career preath. I had no idea
(20:52):
what this career was going to look like. All I
know is that I was a grad school student on
the Howard Stern Show, and the cat, the taxi driver
I was in recognize my voice from the show, and
I thought it was the weirdest thing.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
Ever, that's awesome is this saying I'll either find a
way or make one. It just sounds like you made
one for yourself.
Speaker 6 (21:16):
I think so.
Speaker 5 (21:16):
I think I'm I think I'm continuing to do that
as I'm in this weird space now professionally.
Speaker 6 (21:22):
Where I'm so.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
Angry so many times that the people who I thought
were my peers, my professional peers and friends, and now
I have this other chapter of my life which I
think and I know I find so meaningful that I
was kind of made for this moment. So maybe the
plan A was always You're going to have lots of
difficult conversation. Maybe the conversation the subject matter is just
(21:47):
going to change over time.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
What do you worry about?
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I really worry for for my kids and all of
our kids I should say, not not just my own.
I have an almost twenty year old and an almost
sixteen years old.
Speaker 6 (22:01):
I worry that I worry.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Old enough to have a twenty and a sixteen year old.
Speaker 6 (22:05):
Oh, thank you, good dear metology.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Right, I'll get that number from you after, Okay.
Speaker 6 (22:11):
Any anytime I worry.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
There are a few aspects to what I worry about,
and not them as individuals, but generationally speaking, I worry
that they, because of these weird years in a pandemic,
without intimacy, without taking emotional and physical risks, that they
that this generation does not have the skills to have
(22:35):
emotionally intimates, actually intimate relationships and be able to communicate
about them, especially because they're so connected via social media
and phones and filters and you know, other ways of
being inauthentic. I worry about that. I worry about the
fact that this is a generation of trigger warnings, where
we're like warning people like you're about to be uncomfortable,
(22:55):
so avoid discomfort. I don't, right, that's a space I don't.
I mean, look, as Jews, we've we've never really been
afforded a trigger warning.
Speaker 6 (23:04):
So I feel like it's just unfair.
Speaker 5 (23:07):
Yeah, we just walk right into it over and over
and over again. So there's there's that piece of it.
And then of course, realistically from the anti Semitism space,
I really feel I feel for our kids who and
I speak from personal experience, whom my kids have never
had a day where they haven't had to deal with something,
(23:29):
And I feel so badly that they wear armor every
single day and don't know what it's like to take
that off, to always have to be ready for something,
for a fight, for to not know if your peers
or your friends are really your friends or not. I
just that's that's what I worry about that we are.
It is such a sad position for our young people
(23:51):
to be in.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
That's so tough.
Speaker 4 (23:52):
I mean, I guess I knew that that was the
case for a lot of people, but it's just hearing that.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
It's really a hard place to be.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
And I hope you're I hope they're doing okay with it,
and I hope you are also.
Speaker 6 (24:06):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 5 (24:07):
I mean, we we've I will say our obviously, our
family story at our my son's school was very very public.
Speaker 6 (24:14):
It was an opposed two years.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
I'm sorry, I don't know it. Tell me, tell me. Yeah, no, oh.
Speaker 5 (24:20):
My son graduated from Fieldston in May of twenty three,
and so we dealt with an anti semitic incident basically
every year of high school that we were very much
like all in and my son is this incredible voice
and knows how to be a leader and knows how
to fight even when the stakes are high. And we
just had incident after incidents, So to be honest, he
was very very prepared for college like this right ever's
(24:42):
happening now?
Speaker 7 (24:44):
Yeah, and they should be teaching workshops actually, I mean
it's it's I can laugh about it now just because
of course I don't think we have another alternative.
Speaker 5 (24:55):
But we've we've been we've been down this road before,
so so you know, they they get it, and I
think they I've always given them a healthy dose of
identity and who they are and to keep your head
on a swivel.
Speaker 6 (25:08):
But that's how I was raised. I don't understand everyone still.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Like fair that they have to deal with it, but
I get it.
Speaker 4 (25:16):
You're giving them the foundation at home and the basis
for everything that they're going to encounter in their lives.
Speaker 5 (25:24):
Yes, And I feel badly like that in this day
and age college kids. I mean, depending on where you
are more or less, but there's I don't think there's
any place that's totally immune.
Speaker 6 (25:34):
To this stuff that.
Speaker 5 (25:36):
They don't ever really get a day of being like
a dumb nineteen year old, right, yeah, yeah for fair, Yeah,
they really they don't find it fair at all.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
What advice would you give your sixteen year old self.
Speaker 5 (25:50):
I would tell my sixteen year old self that this
is not the best time of your life, not because
it was terrible, just because every chapter should be a
meaningful chapter, and when the chapter ends, it's time for
a new one, and that's a good thing. I think
a lot of us spend time in the past thinking
that this was the best moment, and it shouldn't be.
(26:11):
It shouldn't be the best moment. Every chapter should be
meaningful and be a part of your story and add
to the to the next story that we tell.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
Sixteen is pretty good, though, that was a good chapter.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
You're not even worried about that many things.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
You're like, you know, living with your parents, that your
life is mostly taken care of for you.
Speaker 6 (26:29):
It's you know, I get it.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
It's only gotten better since then. But I like sixteen, it.
Speaker 5 (26:34):
Was no I mean, i'd like sixteen too, although I
don't think I would want to.
Speaker 6 (26:38):
Well, I know for sure I would not want to
be sixteen today.
Speaker 5 (26:41):
I think so much had the worst thing ever, I
would hate, hate it. I tell my students all the time.
I tell my own kids, I made plenty of mistakes,
plenty of things.
Speaker 6 (26:51):
Like yeah, and you'll never hear about them.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
Because there are no pictures.
Speaker 6 (26:55):
No, there are no pictures.
Speaker 5 (26:57):
And also if someone knew about it, it was because
they were there and they weren't saying any right.
Speaker 4 (27:04):
Yes, absolutely, well, I love this. Yeah, I've loved this conversation.
I think you're just awesome. You do such great work,
and you're such an interesting point of view. I think
that everything that you say is very unique. End us
here with your best tip for my listeners on how
they can improve their lives.
Speaker 5 (27:24):
I would tell your listeners to get rid of the
fairy tale. I am very much a realist. I'm not
a romantic. That doesn't mean I don't like romance, but
I feel like these stories we were told throughout our
lives set us up for failures, so that when the
challenge is in our midst, we don't know what to do.
With it, and if we veer off a certain path,
(27:45):
we think there's something wrong with us, as opposed to
maybe thinking that there was something wrong with the story.
And so don't let this idea of what's normal or
typical paralyze you emotion the sexually. We should be able
to chart our own our own path forward. And who
cares if it doesn't look like your neighbor. Who cares
(28:06):
if it doesn't look like the book you read?
Speaker 6 (28:08):
Those are stories you imagined for yourself. Yeah, yeah, very much,
so love it.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
She is Logan Lefkoff.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
Check her out The Sexy Side of Zionism on Izzy,
follow her on X.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Thank you so much for coming on, Logan, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Thanks so much for joining us on the Carol Marco
Witch Show. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.
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