November 7, 2024 • 36 mins
Many of us have been facing increasing levels of political anxiety in the past days and weeks. It seems that the world has never been more divisive and polarised and there is a lot that we are uncertain and fearful of. In today’s episode we talk about how we can acknowledge that the future feels scary, but still find an internal sense of safety and peace, including:
- The value of stoic principles and focusing on what you can control
- The psychology of a strong belief system
- The power of staying present and grounding ourselves
- Overcoming doomscrolling and being informed but not overwhelmed
- How to talk about politics in a healthy way
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everybody, well, welcome back to the show. Welcome back
to the podcast, new listeners, old listeners, Wherever you are
in the world, it is so great to have you
here back for another episode, as we, of course break
down the very important psychology of our twenties. I'm going
to cut straight to the chase. Today. We're going to
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be talking about political anxiety and political uncertainty, something that
I think we could all do with some more information
about at the moment, and maybe some comfort as well,
given the recent election. I just want to say straight
off the bat from the top, this is not a
space for any hate or negativity, and if you are
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listening to this episode with that intention, or you're looking
to start an argument, you're looking to make a point,
I would kindly ask that you move on to one
of out many other episodes, just with respect for those
of us who are feeling differently to you. You know,
I'm recording this the day after the election, and I
know that tensions are high. So if you were happy
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with the results of the election, then you probably don't
need this episode, but there are people who do, and
I hope that you can respect that For this moment.
I just want to put that out there, because my
focus with this podcast has always been on making people
feel like they have a space to just feel their feelings,
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whatever they may be, as ugly, as horrible, as negative,
as dark as they are. I just simply want you
to know that you are not alone, and just to
find ways for you to find peace within the turmoil
of our twenties and beyond. And I think a lot
of us need that right now. There is something very
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specific on a lot of our minds that is increasing
that turmoil. You know, there is a lot of angst,
There is a lot of stress anxiety to do with
what the future holds after the outcome of this election,
but also just in general when it comes to increasing
polarization and division almost everywhere we look. I know a
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lot of us are concerned about our freedoms, our safety,
our rights, what the future holds for us in many domains,
you know, the environment, foreign policy, the economy, and just
genuine empathy and kindness. In the world. We are seeing
so much suffering and injustice and it is not a
pleasant feeling to be sitting in, especially since that feeling
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in particular jeopardizes some of our very core needs as humans.
We need to feel secure. We need to feel a
sense of stability uncertainty. Our human brains don't like uncertainty
because it triggers our survival instincts, which have very much
evolved to help us avoid danger. You may think that
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these very ancient systems don't really apply when it comes
to political outcomes or elections or anything of the sort,
but it very much does. I don't know what is
going to happen, and everything in your mind and your
body is telling you that the outcome won't be good
and it's going to be harmful to those that you love.
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This is something that you are going to be hyper
vigilant towards. This is something that will trigger stress and
the outcome of an election current. I don't know. Political circumstances,
social circumstances, those are all very valid triggers. Our fight
or flight response is triggered by major societal, political environmental change,
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especially when the stakes are high, and I think with
recent events, often our fears can feel very unreal and abstract.
And this isn't some abstract fear, This isn't some abstract
scary thought. The fear for many of us it did
come true. This could have consequences for us, and this
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definitely creates an even deeper emotional investment and acknowledgment of
what's happened in the past and also fear around what
could potentially and might actually happen in the future. There
is a significant increase in fear that comes from that.
And whilst we could typically call that catastrophizing, you know,
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maybe there is a tendency to think, you know, no,
like this is just catastrophic, thinking it's not going to
be that bad. I think some of our fears don't
feel unrealistic, and that is a really scary thought that
there is something that might be likely to occur as
a result of this election, as a result of the
political climate that we really don't want to face. And
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all of that is based in very human, very animal,
very evolutionary anxiety that is meant to keep you safe
in these moments, and that is meant to spur you
on to do something. It's just that right now it
doesn't feel like you can. So I just want to
tell you what you are feeling is com deletely understandable.
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Distress is a very valid emotional response when it feels
like the world is collapsing and it feels like that
right now. I've received messages from so many of you
saying that you feel so alone. It feels like society
is going backwards, that this is not the kind of
world that you want to live in. How can you
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plan for a future? What can you expect from your future?
And I very much understand right now how very very
hard it is to put into words all the scenarios
that our brains are cooking up. There's also a real
sense of political fatigue, you know, for all the progress
that we've made, for how much hope we had, for
how deeply we believe in what is right. Surely there
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is some way to fix this, but which is too
exhausted to even think of it right now. There is
just too many emotions running amok. There is just too
much stress, almost paralyzing us. But we can't live in
that distress and this anxiety forever. As much as it might.
I feel like we're doing something about the problem. We're not,
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and that is the space that I want to move
us into, the space where we can think more clearly
about what we can do next. We can think more
clearly about how we can look after ourselves, how we
can approach this with a stoic mindset, with any mindset
that helps us actually live. I guess essentially there may
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not be a way to fix what has happened, but
there is a better way to cope, and there is
a way to return to at least a sense of
internal safety, even as wild things are happening outside, even
as things in the future seem to threaten us. So
from here on out, we are not going to talk
about any specifics to do with the election, no specifics
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to do with politics. Our focus is just on how
to take care of yourself and those that you love,
and how to take care of your mind. That is
our one job here from here on out. And I
really just want to give you the space to have
maybe a mental break from reading the news, from absorbing
that kind of content and that kind of information, and
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instead give you some of the best psychology based tips
for managing the elevated political anxiety and stress that many
of us have at the moment. So, without further ado,
let's get into this. Hopefully this is helpful. Hopefully you
better understand the political anxiety you might be experiencing right now.
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The hardest thing to kind of come to terms with
at this point is that you cannot change the outcome
of what has happened, as much as you might want to.
You know, the worry and the stress within you, it
is calling you to act. It is naturally calling you
to do something, to run, to fix the problem, whilst
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you kind of know that the thing that is causing
your stress you can't fix that. You know you can't
fix an election, you can't fix whatever the political state
is that you're experiencing right now. The way that you
could fix a conflict with a friend, or you could
fix a screw up at work, these kinds of situations,
these political global situations, they're very unique, and they're very
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rare in the impact that they have on us psychologically,
because we don't typically have the skills in our toolkit
to deal with something so big and scary that we
can't actually do anything about. We're so used to everyday
problems that might confront us, but which we naturally have
a way through. So what we need in this situation
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is to essentially change our mindset. If we can't change
our circumstances, we can change how we think about it,
and we need to adopt a very counterintuitive perspective, which
is that of a stoic. We need to almost and
it feels unnatural, but relax into all that's terrible. I
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know that sounds confusing. I know that sounds like, yeah,
just like be okay with it. But let me explain
what that means. So stoicism is an ancient Greek philosophy
that basically means weathering the storm that you cannot fight
and just letting the waves roll over you. It's about
basically enduring hardship even when it is completely utterly uncomfortable,
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because the alternative of fighting and struggling against what you
can't control, that alternative is suffering. It's basically saying that
when circumstances cannot be changed, the thing that you can
control is the level to which you choose to suffer.
Some level of suffering is not optional. But it's almost
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like when you are being beat down by waves, like
in the ocean, and you're just like struggling to swim
and you're struggling to get your head underwater, and they say,
sometimes you just need to float. Right, That's what we're
going to talk about now. This component is very important.
You want to think about what you can't control because
psoicism it does not mean putting your head in the sand.
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It does not mean to abandon all activism, to stop
whatever you're doing. What it really teaches us is that
we should only be thinking about what we can control,
so our own thoughts, our own actions, our own responses.
Everything else like others' opinions, external events like an election
that is ultimately beyond our control. You know, we cast
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our vote, we educate our family and friends, maybe we campaign,
but when the day is done, we can't control how
anyone else sees the world. And that is so frustrating.
Like I know, the feeling of talking to someone and
just wanting to grab them and say like, can't you
see what is happening in front of you? Can't you
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see this? Like this is not good? Use your brain,
like can't you see this the way that I can
see this? And that's not something that we have the
power over all the time. So stoicism also encourages excepting
when things are just shit. Things are just shit right now,
but you choose despite it all to close your eyes,
breathe in deep and find you're inner garden, find that
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place within you that no one can touch, that nothing
can reach and sit within that space as everything kind
of rages on outside. You have all of us have
an inner sanctuary that we can kind of water that
helps us endure and be resilient even in the hardest
of times. I like to picture, you know, my inner
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stoic is this giant version of myself who is being
yelled at by someone. Some person is yelling and screaming
at me, and they are full of hate. But what
they don't know is that there is this like shield
around me that makes everything really muffled and slow. And
as I'm watching them like sweat and scream and spit
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and get angry, I am untouched by it. I am
just observing, even as that, you know, makes them more
and more frustrated. This stoic version of me, this image
is what I try and bring to these really uncomfortable, unfortunate,
terrible situations like I'm a statue protected by a force field.
And as I tune out what I can't control, this
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like very angry situation, this angry person, I am allowed
to tune in and I am able to tune into
what I can. So what are the things you can control?
You can control your impact on people's lives. You can
control the love that you show people. You can control
what you give back to your community. You can control
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your activism, what you create, your vote, your current environment,
what you choose to consume, what you choose to believe.
And the biggest one for me is I can choose
the kindness that I choose to bring to every city situation.
And this is a really really important part of my
life philosophy. One of the things that has brought me
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through political uncertainty in Australia. And you know, we had
a recent I guess like referendum that was just absolutely
terrible and what comforted me then when the world just
seemed very very ugly and hideous, was that I continue
to choose to make people believe in humanity and make
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them believe in kindness. Every person that I come across,
I'm going to make sure they leave and that they
know love, and I will make sure that they exit
that interaction and they know that I respect them and
I care about them like I will be kindness. I
will put back into the world what I want to
see more of. When we have this really deep personal
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philosophy in the face of political uncertainty and political anxiety,
you know, that can lead to less stress, better mental
well being, and a greater sense of agency or capability,
almost like you have this very deep well that only
you control and that you can pull from in every
single circumstance. And there was an amazing meta analysis which
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is basically a study of studies about this very thing,
about what it means to have a sense of purpose,
and it was done in twenty twenty three by the
American Psychiatric Association. And what they basically said, and what
they found was that when you have a deep belief
system and something that you trust and that you care
about and that you can look at and say, that
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is why I'm here, this is what I'm going to
bring to situations, it builds greater resilience, especially when you
were exposed to negative or on certain situations like those
that were seeing in these times, people who had this
deep belief system that they could rest upon, they were
so much more resilient and able to push through whatever
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was going on. And I really really encourage you to
find your version of this. You can. You can steal
mine if you want, go for it. Please go for it.
Steal mine. But what is so important is that you
have something, and you have something that feels like your
own and that you can bring to your own universe.
And your own universe is you know the radius around you,
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which goes on to touch everyone in your life, that
goes on to enter rooms, that goes on to make
an impact. Another part of embracing Stoic principles is really
focusing on being present now. I did do a whole
episode on this, I think a little while back, and
I cannot remember the number from the top of my
head worth listening to, especially right now. But part of
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knowing what you can control definitely means focusing on what
is actually going on in front of you right now,
and that really involves reconnecting with your senses. Just pause
for a second. What can you see? I want you
to look for like five things right now that are
the color green? What is the furthest sound from you
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that you can hear? Really pause, what is that far
away sound? What parts of your body are touching, your
chair are touching, your steering wheel, touching the ground? Really
like zone in on where like your skin is connecting
to a surface and in your immediate surroundings right now?
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Is there any danger present in this moment, you know,
in your room, in your car, at the gym, wherever
you are, are you actually in physical danger? Is there
something that is going to hurt you right now? And
the answer is probably not. But the political anxiety we
do feel does make us feel like at any point
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there is a threat that could come out and do
you some serious harm, and we have to try and
minimize that feeling. Yes, in the future, you may experience
really hard challenges. There will be things that you cannot
control that may hurt you, but right now you cannot
be in that state of anticipating those things constantly. The
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pressure that you put on your body and your mind,
and like the level of cortisol that you will have
flooding through your systems, the way that your immune system
is just going to be completely compromised by this constant hypervigilance.
That is something that we really do need to minimize
because then when something terrible does happen, If it happens,
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when something some big change does occur, what that's going
to mean is that you don't actually have the resources
to deal with it because you spend a lot of
time worrying about it. So right now, I just want
you to remember that in the space around you, you
are not in danger. And in those moments when you
do just feel like all of your emotions they're rising
to the surface, they're like exploding. Really rely on the
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very ancestral old ways, the tried and tested ways that
our body can calm itself by reconnecting with nature. Nature
is just it's just so remarkable. In moments like this,
I want you to go outside, like right now or
after you finish this episode, take your shoes off, take
your socks off, plant them like firmly in the dirt,
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in the grass in the creek, and you know, the
saying like go and touch some grass, Like yeah, go
and touch some grass. Turns out, you know, that's actually
probably something we should be doing more of. There's actually
some truth and some serious good to that. There was
an article from twenty nineteen from Harvard Health and it
showed that just doing twenty to thirty minutes in nature
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a day, making that part of your routine, or even
just spending it in natural spaces like eating your lunch outside,
it really helped lower hormonal stress levels because you know, nature,
the outdoors, when you think about it like that is
the environment in which we belong. That is where our
body has naturally learnt to calm itself down. That is
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where it feels most real and most connected. So in
those moments where like everything just feels so loud and
angry and just so stressful, I need you to go
and access this very important you know, deep part of
you that can feel connected to nature and know that
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it is safe in that moment. This is also very
very good for climate anxiety, if that is something that
you're struggling with specifically right now, it can be very easy.
And to someone who is very anxious about the climate
and has many friends who are very anxious about the climate,
it's very easy to disaster scenario, especially when you're like
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inside all day and when you're locked up in the office,
it's like, ah, does nature still exists anymore? Because I
don't see it, and all I'm reading in these terrible,
terrible news articles like it just makes everything feel so
much worse. So when you do give yourself the opportunity
to go outside and see that there is a lot
about oh nowrual world that is still alive. There are
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beautiful spaces that are still thriving, just brings you back
for a second, I also have a friend who does
like nature journaling, So she has a journal like notebook
and a bunch of like colorful pens, and she will
go out into nature and find a flower, a leaf,
a river bed, a rock, anything beautiful, and she will
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basically journal about that situation that she's in, or s'll
draw a picture of this leaf and it's actually really
really beautiful, and she highly recommends it. So finding your
stoic persona, finding your personal philosophy, and being as present
as possible. Those are my first three tips. We are
going to take a short break, but when we return,
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we're going to discuss my final three ways that we
can deal with our political anxiety at this time, So
we will be right back in just a second. Following
really big political events or at like significant turning points,
when something major happens, our tendency is just to get
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as much information as possible, to find any news site
or any story that may tell us something that we
don't know. Such a human instinct to know more is
to be more aware, and is to be more capable
and more able to survive. That is really where our
hunger for knowledge, especially in these situations comes from, and
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we feel very like bitterly and strangely soothed by knowing more,
even when the thing we know more about actually makes
us want to like scream and throw up. That is
how I felt the entire day. The other day was
just like, Wow, I can't get away from my phone
even though it's making me physically sick. That is the
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paradox of doom scrolling, spending so much time online and
looking for more information and more sides to like an
unfolding story that we actually end up hurting our mental
health more than helping it. It is so easy to
fall into this trap, and it's one that I certainly
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have over the years, glued to my phone even when
I know that I'm just gonna feel worse. And the
trick is to be informed but not overwhelmed. That is
your equation, informed but not overwhelmed, And we do that
by limiting how much you are allowed to keep investigating.
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I want you to have environments or points in your
day when you are kind of allowed to be dead
to what is happening in the world, whether that means
unfollowing like news accounts on social media, so that you
can only read the news on your laptop at work,
so that you know outside of business hours, like you
can't read the news. You know, you're still informed, you
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still know what's going on, but do you really need
to know right now? In this instance, as soon as
you wake up? You know, I found that to be
so terrible for me. I would wake up, pick up
my phone, and it's like, here, this is a disaster.
Here is like a bombing. Here is like you know,
children dead, here is whatever, like here is Trump winning.
I know I said I wouldn't talk specifics. I'm very sorry,
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but you know, when you wake up and that is
the first thing that you see, what you consume is
how you feel. It's very much like your media diet.
If your media diet is very high in tragic, awful,
cruel things, your tiny brain, your human brain, it cannot
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hold all of that at the same time. You are
not meant to hold all of that information at the
same time. Truly, like think back to how we have
evolved to seek information and from who it was tribal,
It was limited, There was not enough. You know, you
were never going to have enough information at that given
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point to feel like you knew everything that was going
on in the world, because you you know as much
as like it's a good thing that we do know
so much more about our fellow humans and what they're
going through. You have to just remember that your brain
has not evolved to have as much access to information,
So it is natural if you just feel completely confronted
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by that, and especially when our news seeking gets very excessive,
you will become burnt out, you will become fatigued. So
for the sake of yourself and for the sake of
having energy and effort to put towards really important things,
to put towards those you love, to put towards your community,
to put towards yourself, you do need to find a
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healthy relationship with not just what news you access, but
when you access it. So again, informed but not overwhelmed. Also,
just sprinkle some good news in there, you know. There
was a landmark study from just a few years ago
from a university in Alabama, and it found that people
who share and access positive news stories mixed in with
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their normal news. After two weeks, they reported being happier
and more emotionally stable. They felt more optimistic about the
future than those who didn't, and it didn't mean that
they didn't care. I think sometimes we're like, oh, if
I feel optimistic, well, then I'm not going to be
motivated to change anything. I'm not going to be motivated
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to having conversations. I'm just not going to care anymore. Actually, no,
we need optimism. We need to believe that things can
get better. We need to believe that the world can
be brighter. We need optimism more than we need pessimism
in times like this. So just remember, if you're feeling
like shit, your media diet might be a factor because
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you are what you consume. So if you need a
rest day from chaos and tragedy, no one's going to
blame you. No one's going to say that you're being
naive or ignorant. You're having a rest day. It's okay.
And you know, on a similar point, just as we
are what we consume, we are also who we surround
ourself with the power of community in times when we
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are experiencing political anxiety. Cannot be overstated. Community is the
most psychologically important thing in times like this. And I
know that is a big statement to make, but I
just think that it heals so much. It is so
protective when it comes to our mental health during periods
of political uncertainty in crisis, and it's so hard going
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through anything alone, let alone, what feels like the world ending,
let alone, what feels like a complete shift from what
you expected. So this is really the time to engage
and connect even when you want to withdraw. And I
will say that is a problem that I have when
I am emotionally confronted by something, when I'm quite stressed,
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I just feel like I have absolutely nothing in the
tank to give to my relationships. So I self isolate.
I will pull away, I'll hide away in my house.
I don't want to see any I don't want to
talk to anyone. I don't want to make plans. I'm
not replying to messages. It's a terrible habit of mine,
one that I'm trying to break. And the way that
I'm trying to break it is just consciously being like remembering,
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consciously remembering that when I am around people, I do
feel better. Remembering that cause an effect that always typically
typically happens. I don't feel better when I self isolate.
I do feel better when I'm around other people, especially
people that I trust, that I love, that care for
me and I care for them. That is community, That
is belonging. I will say at the moment, there is
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a tendency and I found this in my friendships to
just like catch up and everyone just has like it's
just like what the fuck is happening, and just like
wants to talk about so much stuff and just wants
to you know, just wants to just get it off
their chest. That's healthy. There is a healthy level of
complaining and seeking comfort, especially just feeling shitty together. That's
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sometimes just one of the most healing things in the
world is just to be like, great, can we both
agree that we're not in a good mood? Can we
both agree that we're not feeling great? Beautiful? Now I
just feel a little bit less alone. But I do
just want you to be conscious of when it gets
to a level where you just feel entirely hopeless. That
kind of like collective anxiety that we tend to feel
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when we are in a big group or talking to
our friends and everyone's just getting more and more angry
and frustrated and scared. That is a symptom of when
group psychology kind of lets us down. You know, it's
not groupthink, It's basically just that when we are around
people that we are close to we do tend to
absorb their emotions and that tends to heighten our own
reactions to things. So please be conscious of it. Be
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aware of it. I think that having a rent, having
a debrief, just getting it off your chest, it's like
a plateau, like it gets healthy to a point. No,
it's almost like a wow, I can't remember my math,
but it's almost like an upside down you and someone's
gonna tell me what that is. I just can't remember
it right now. But it gets it feels healthy to
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a point, and then we flip over and we go
down the other side. There is a limit, so be
aware of when it's doing more harm than good. I
really learned this from my mom, and I learned this
with my mum. Sometimes she is so passionate about these things.
She is such a huge, you know, political and social activist,
and she cares so deeply about every single human on
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this earth that sometimes and I know this is going
to sound insane, but it's too much. It's like, Okay,
I cannot talk about this at dinner for the fifth
night in a row. I cannot yet, because I'm going
to get angry. I'm gonna get really frustrated, I'm going
to just feel like so sad and so like it's
you know, it just can't do that, you know, there
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has to be a break for me. So I often
just say to her, like, we're going to do five
minutes where you can talk to me about we can
talk to each other about you know, what kind of
terrible news story is going on, and we can talk
about politics or you just talk about whatever we want
to do with this thing, and then we have to
have a break because I don't want my relationship with
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you to be defined by feeling a heightened level of
stress every time that I walk away, because I feel
like all the world's problems are resting on our shoulders.
So step away from conversations when you're at your limit
and truly ask yourself. I know it feels like a
selfish question, but do ask yourself like is this going
to change anything? Is this going to change anything? Listening
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to this for like the fifth time today getting upset
about it again, is it just going to make me
feel worse? And is it just going to mean that
when it does come to doing something, I'm not going
to have the energy for that. This is really what
I want to finish on You need to do something
with your anxiety, and the best way to do that
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is to start giving back. This is a perfect time
to really reflect on what you can be doing for
those that need it. Our anxiety and distress, it does
feel worse when we sit in it, and when we
let it get bigger and bigger and bigger. By thinking
that we can outthink all of the world's problems, that
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we can outthink how shit the situation is. When we
can find a way out, We're going to return to
those principles of stoicism. Concern yourself with what you can
do and what you can control, and we can control
what we give back. Really start to think about a
cause that you could get involved in that makes you
feel like you can make a difference in your local community.
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Think we really don't acknowledge how much actually gets done
on the backs of people who volunteer their time and
who care deeply and give their energy and give their
passion and give their money to a cause that they
care about. And oh, my goodness, do they not make
the biggest difference in some people's lives. I want you
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to find that thing, that thing that really really drives
you and often here's a little tip about how you
can figure that out. The thing that is most upset
you about the situation, the thing that you feel most
upset to see threatened, That is what you care about
the most, What makes you the angriest, what makes you
the most anxious, what really like lights of fire in
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terms of your sense of justice, that is where you
should be devoting your time. Want to take all those
feelings and transfer them into a way of giving back.
That is just one of the biggest antidotes I have
found to any form of anxiety, really, but political anxiety
in particular is really and I just want to hammer
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this home. You cannot control. There is so much you
cannot control, but your little slice of your world, your
little universe, you can control that, and you can give
back and you can make that space happy. And you
can change people through small daily actions of kindness, and
you can, like you can seriously change their lives. You
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can change people's lives by volunteering, by giving back to
your community. Feel like it always, you knows, being global citizens,
having so much access to the news, it feels like
we have to do something big constantly, and we have
to be like, you know, there's so much that's bad
about the world, Like, how do I fix it all?
You can't. I'm sorry you can't, but you can. You
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can focus on something that the people around you need
and be that solution in your local area and in
your friendship groups and with your family. I also just
want to say a final reminder. It does feel really
scary right now. I know that there are a lot
of unknowns, and I think a lot of us are thinking,
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how am I going to be able to cope with this?
What's the way forward? Remember that you are capable. You
will find a way through. You will survive. You will
be okay even when it feels like you won't be.
There are people who love you, there are support systems,
There are people who are on the same page as
you who are not going to abandon you. So just
focus on the good as much as you can right now.
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Political anxiety and political uncertainty is an incredibly natural reaction
to changing circumstances that feel threatening and dangerous, and it's
okay to be feeling that way right now, but you
cannot exist in that space forever. There are a lot
of things that I hate to say, like it's not
that you have to get used to them. But it's
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kind of like, Okay, cool, can't change that. What can
I change? What can I do? Let's focus on that.
Let's really really lean into my friendships, my community, my kindness,
my purpose, my beliefs. This is something that's going to
be very nourishing for me for this time. So I
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am just sending a whole lot of love and a
whole lot of comfort. I hope that this episode has
just given you a bit of peace today, made you
feel a little bit better about the world, made you
feel like there is a space or you can come
to throughout whatever happens. You know, for comfort and for
peace and for safety. You're always welcome here. Your mental
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health is respected and cared for here and will always
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very soon.
Hello everybody, well, welcome back to the show. Welcome back
to the podcast, new listeners, old listeners, Wherever you are
in the world, it is so great to have you
here back for another episode, as we, of course break
down the very important psychology of our twenties. I'm going
to cut straight to the chase. Today. We're going to
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be talking about political anxiety and political uncertainty, something that
I think we could all do with some more information
about at the moment, and maybe some comfort as well,
given the recent election. I just want to say straight
off the bat from the top, this is not a
space for any hate or negativity, and if you are
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listening to this episode with that intention, or you're looking
to start an argument, you're looking to make a point,
I would kindly ask that you move on to one
of out many other episodes, just with respect for those
of us who are feeling differently to you. You know,
I'm recording this the day after the election, and I
know that tensions are high. So if you were happy
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with the results of the election, then you probably don't
need this episode, but there are people who do, and
I hope that you can respect that For this moment.
I just want to put that out there, because my
focus with this podcast has always been on making people
feel like they have a space to just feel their feelings,
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whatever they may be, as ugly, as horrible, as negative,
as dark as they are. I just simply want you
to know that you are not alone, and just to
find ways for you to find peace within the turmoil
of our twenties and beyond. And I think a lot
of us need that right now. There is something very
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specific on a lot of our minds that is increasing
that turmoil. You know, there is a lot of angst,
There is a lot of stress anxiety to do with
what the future holds after the outcome of this election,
but also just in general when it comes to increasing
polarization and division almost everywhere we look. I know a
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lot of us are concerned about our freedoms, our safety,
our rights, what the future holds for us in many domains,
you know, the environment, foreign policy, the economy, and just
genuine empathy and kindness. In the world. We are seeing
so much suffering and injustice and it is not a
pleasant feeling to be sitting in, especially since that feeling
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in particular jeopardizes some of our very core needs as humans.
We need to feel secure. We need to feel a
sense of stability uncertainty. Our human brains don't like uncertainty
because it triggers our survival instincts, which have very much
evolved to help us avoid danger. You may think that
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these very ancient systems don't really apply when it comes
to political outcomes or elections or anything of the sort,
but it very much does. I don't know what is
going to happen, and everything in your mind and your
body is telling you that the outcome won't be good
and it's going to be harmful to those that you love.
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This is something that you are going to be hyper
vigilant towards. This is something that will trigger stress and
the outcome of an election current. I don't know. Political circumstances,
social circumstances, those are all very valid triggers. Our fight
or flight response is triggered by major societal, political environmental change,
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especially when the stakes are high, and I think with
recent events, often our fears can feel very unreal and abstract.
And this isn't some abstract fear, This isn't some abstract
scary thought. The fear for many of us it did
come true. This could have consequences for us, and this
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definitely creates an even deeper emotional investment and acknowledgment of
what's happened in the past and also fear around what
could potentially and might actually happen in the future. There
is a significant increase in fear that comes from that.
And whilst we could typically call that catastrophizing, you know,
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maybe there is a tendency to think, you know, no,
like this is just catastrophic, thinking it's not going to
be that bad. I think some of our fears don't
feel unrealistic, and that is a really scary thought that
there is something that might be likely to occur as
a result of this election, as a result of the
political climate that we really don't want to face. And
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all of that is based in very human, very animal,
very evolutionary anxiety that is meant to keep you safe
in these moments, and that is meant to spur you
on to do something. It's just that right now it
doesn't feel like you can. So I just want to
tell you what you are feeling is com deletely understandable.
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Distress is a very valid emotional response when it feels
like the world is collapsing and it feels like that
right now. I've received messages from so many of you
saying that you feel so alone. It feels like society
is going backwards, that this is not the kind of
world that you want to live in. How can you
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plan for a future? What can you expect from your future?
And I very much understand right now how very very
hard it is to put into words all the scenarios
that our brains are cooking up. There's also a real
sense of political fatigue, you know, for all the progress
that we've made, for how much hope we had, for
how deeply we believe in what is right. Surely there
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is some way to fix this, but which is too
exhausted to even think of it right now. There is
just too many emotions running amok. There is just too
much stress, almost paralyzing us. But we can't live in
that distress and this anxiety forever. As much as it might.
I feel like we're doing something about the problem. We're not,
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and that is the space that I want to move
us into, the space where we can think more clearly
about what we can do next. We can think more
clearly about how we can look after ourselves, how we
can approach this with a stoic mindset, with any mindset
that helps us actually live. I guess essentially there may
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not be a way to fix what has happened, but
there is a better way to cope, and there is
a way to return to at least a sense of
internal safety, even as wild things are happening outside, even
as things in the future seem to threaten us. So
from here on out, we are not going to talk
about any specifics to do with the election, no specifics
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to do with politics. Our focus is just on how
to take care of yourself and those that you love,
and how to take care of your mind. That is
our one job here from here on out. And I
really just want to give you the space to have
maybe a mental break from reading the news, from absorbing
that kind of content and that kind of information, and
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instead give you some of the best psychology based tips
for managing the elevated political anxiety and stress that many
of us have at the moment. So, without further ado,
let's get into this. Hopefully this is helpful. Hopefully you
better understand the political anxiety you might be experiencing right now.
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The hardest thing to kind of come to terms with
at this point is that you cannot change the outcome
of what has happened, as much as you might want to.
You know, the worry and the stress within you, it
is calling you to act. It is naturally calling you
to do something, to run, to fix the problem, whilst
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you kind of know that the thing that is causing
your stress you can't fix that. You know you can't
fix an election, you can't fix whatever the political state
is that you're experiencing right now. The way that you
could fix a conflict with a friend, or you could
fix a screw up at work, these kinds of situations,
these political global situations, they're very unique, and they're very
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rare in the impact that they have on us psychologically,
because we don't typically have the skills in our toolkit
to deal with something so big and scary that we
can't actually do anything about. We're so used to everyday
problems that might confront us, but which we naturally have
a way through. So what we need in this situation
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is to essentially change our mindset. If we can't change
our circumstances, we can change how we think about it,
and we need to adopt a very counterintuitive perspective, which
is that of a stoic. We need to almost and
it feels unnatural, but relax into all that's terrible. I
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know that sounds confusing. I know that sounds like, yeah,
just like be okay with it. But let me explain
what that means. So stoicism is an ancient Greek philosophy
that basically means weathering the storm that you cannot fight
and just letting the waves roll over you. It's about
basically enduring hardship even when it is completely utterly uncomfortable,
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because the alternative of fighting and struggling against what you
can't control, that alternative is suffering. It's basically saying that
when circumstances cannot be changed, the thing that you can
control is the level to which you choose to suffer.
Some level of suffering is not optional. But it's almost
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like when you are being beat down by waves, like
in the ocean, and you're just like struggling to swim
and you're struggling to get your head underwater, and they say,
sometimes you just need to float. Right, That's what we're
going to talk about now. This component is very important.
You want to think about what you can't control because
psoicism it does not mean putting your head in the sand.
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It does not mean to abandon all activism, to stop
whatever you're doing. What it really teaches us is that
we should only be thinking about what we can control,
so our own thoughts, our own actions, our own responses.
Everything else like others' opinions, external events like an election
that is ultimately beyond our control. You know, we cast
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our vote, we educate our family and friends, maybe we campaign,
but when the day is done, we can't control how
anyone else sees the world. And that is so frustrating.
Like I know, the feeling of talking to someone and
just wanting to grab them and say like, can't you
see what is happening in front of you? Can't you
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see this? Like this is not good? Use your brain,
like can't you see this the way that I can
see this? And that's not something that we have the
power over all the time. So stoicism also encourages excepting
when things are just shit. Things are just shit right now,
but you choose despite it all to close your eyes,
breathe in deep and find you're inner garden, find that
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place within you that no one can touch, that nothing
can reach and sit within that space as everything kind
of rages on outside. You have all of us have
an inner sanctuary that we can kind of water that
helps us endure and be resilient even in the hardest
of times. I like to picture, you know, my inner
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stoic is this giant version of myself who is being
yelled at by someone. Some person is yelling and screaming
at me, and they are full of hate. But what
they don't know is that there is this like shield
around me that makes everything really muffled and slow. And
as I'm watching them like sweat and scream and spit
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and get angry, I am untouched by it. I am
just observing, even as that, you know, makes them more
and more frustrated. This stoic version of me, this image
is what I try and bring to these really uncomfortable, unfortunate,
terrible situations like I'm a statue protected by a force field.
And as I tune out what I can't control, this
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like very angry situation, this angry person, I am allowed
to tune in and I am able to tune into
what I can. So what are the things you can control?
You can control your impact on people's lives. You can
control the love that you show people. You can control
what you give back to your community. You can control
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your activism, what you create, your vote, your current environment,
what you choose to consume, what you choose to believe.
And the biggest one for me is I can choose
the kindness that I choose to bring to every city situation.
And this is a really really important part of my
life philosophy. One of the things that has brought me
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through political uncertainty in Australia. And you know, we had
a recent I guess like referendum that was just absolutely
terrible and what comforted me then when the world just
seemed very very ugly and hideous, was that I continue
to choose to make people believe in humanity and make
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them believe in kindness. Every person that I come across,
I'm going to make sure they leave and that they
know love, and I will make sure that they exit
that interaction and they know that I respect them and
I care about them like I will be kindness. I
will put back into the world what I want to
see more of. When we have this really deep personal
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philosophy in the face of political uncertainty and political anxiety,
you know, that can lead to less stress, better mental
well being, and a greater sense of agency or capability,
almost like you have this very deep well that only
you control and that you can pull from in every
single circumstance. And there was an amazing meta analysis which
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is basically a study of studies about this very thing,
about what it means to have a sense of purpose,
and it was done in twenty twenty three by the
American Psychiatric Association. And what they basically said, and what
they found was that when you have a deep belief
system and something that you trust and that you care
about and that you can look at and say, that
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is why I'm here, this is what I'm going to
bring to situations, it builds greater resilience, especially when you
were exposed to negative or on certain situations like those
that were seeing in these times, people who had this
deep belief system that they could rest upon, they were
so much more resilient and able to push through whatever
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was going on. And I really really encourage you to
find your version of this. You can. You can steal
mine if you want, go for it. Please go for it.
Steal mine. But what is so important is that you
have something, and you have something that feels like your
own and that you can bring to your own universe.
And your own universe is you know the radius around you,
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which goes on to touch everyone in your life, that
goes on to enter rooms, that goes on to make
an impact. Another part of embracing Stoic principles is really
focusing on being present now. I did do a whole
episode on this, I think a little while back, and
I cannot remember the number from the top of my
head worth listening to, especially right now. But part of
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knowing what you can control definitely means focusing on what
is actually going on in front of you right now,
and that really involves reconnecting with your senses. Just pause
for a second. What can you see? I want you
to look for like five things right now that are
the color green? What is the furthest sound from you
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that you can hear? Really pause, what is that far
away sound? What parts of your body are touching, your
chair are touching, your steering wheel, touching the ground? Really
like zone in on where like your skin is connecting
to a surface and in your immediate surroundings right now?
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Is there any danger present in this moment, you know,
in your room, in your car, at the gym, wherever
you are, are you actually in physical danger? Is there
something that is going to hurt you right now? And
the answer is probably not. But the political anxiety we
do feel does make us feel like at any point
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there is a threat that could come out and do
you some serious harm, and we have to try and
minimize that feeling. Yes, in the future, you may experience
really hard challenges. There will be things that you cannot
control that may hurt you, but right now you cannot
be in that state of anticipating those things constantly. The
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pressure that you put on your body and your mind,
and like the level of cortisol that you will have
flooding through your systems, the way that your immune system
is just going to be completely compromised by this constant hypervigilance.
That is something that we really do need to minimize
because then when something terrible does happen, If it happens,
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when something some big change does occur, what that's going
to mean is that you don't actually have the resources
to deal with it because you spend a lot of
time worrying about it. So right now, I just want
you to remember that in the space around you, you
are not in danger. And in those moments when you
do just feel like all of your emotions they're rising
to the surface, they're like exploding. Really rely on the
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very ancestral old ways, the tried and tested ways that
our body can calm itself by reconnecting with nature. Nature
is just it's just so remarkable. In moments like this,
I want you to go outside, like right now or
after you finish this episode, take your shoes off, take
your socks off, plant them like firmly in the dirt,
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in the grass in the creek, and you know, the
saying like go and touch some grass, Like yeah, go
and touch some grass. Turns out, you know, that's actually
probably something we should be doing more of. There's actually
some truth and some serious good to that. There was
an article from twenty nineteen from Harvard Health and it
showed that just doing twenty to thirty minutes in nature
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a day, making that part of your routine, or even
just spending it in natural spaces like eating your lunch outside,
it really helped lower hormonal stress levels because you know, nature,
the outdoors, when you think about it like that is
the environment in which we belong. That is where our
body has naturally learnt to calm itself down. That is
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where it feels most real and most connected. So in
those moments where like everything just feels so loud and
angry and just so stressful, I need you to go
and access this very important you know, deep part of
you that can feel connected to nature and know that
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it is safe in that moment. This is also very
very good for climate anxiety, if that is something that
you're struggling with specifically right now, it can be very easy.
And to someone who is very anxious about the climate
and has many friends who are very anxious about the climate,
it's very easy to disaster scenario, especially when you're like
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inside all day and when you're locked up in the office,
it's like, ah, does nature still exists anymore? Because I
don't see it, and all I'm reading in these terrible,
terrible news articles like it just makes everything feel so
much worse. So when you do give yourself the opportunity
to go outside and see that there is a lot
about oh nowrual world that is still alive. There are
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beautiful spaces that are still thriving, just brings you back
for a second, I also have a friend who does
like nature journaling, So she has a journal like notebook
and a bunch of like colorful pens, and she will
go out into nature and find a flower, a leaf,
a river bed, a rock, anything beautiful, and she will
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basically journal about that situation that she's in, or s'll
draw a picture of this leaf and it's actually really
really beautiful, and she highly recommends it. So finding your
stoic persona, finding your personal philosophy, and being as present
as possible. Those are my first three tips. We are
going to take a short break, but when we return,
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we're going to discuss my final three ways that we
can deal with our political anxiety at this time, So
we will be right back in just a second. Following
really big political events or at like significant turning points,
when something major happens, our tendency is just to get
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as much information as possible, to find any news site
or any story that may tell us something that we
don't know. Such a human instinct to know more is
to be more aware, and is to be more capable
and more able to survive. That is really where our
hunger for knowledge, especially in these situations comes from, and
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we feel very like bitterly and strangely soothed by knowing more,
even when the thing we know more about actually makes
us want to like scream and throw up. That is
how I felt the entire day. The other day was
just like, Wow, I can't get away from my phone
even though it's making me physically sick. That is the
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paradox of doom scrolling, spending so much time online and
looking for more information and more sides to like an
unfolding story that we actually end up hurting our mental
health more than helping it. It is so easy to
fall into this trap, and it's one that I certainly
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have over the years, glued to my phone even when
I know that I'm just gonna feel worse. And the
trick is to be informed but not overwhelmed. That is
your equation, informed but not overwhelmed, And we do that
by limiting how much you are allowed to keep investigating.
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I want you to have environments or points in your
day when you are kind of allowed to be dead
to what is happening in the world, whether that means
unfollowing like news accounts on social media, so that you
can only read the news on your laptop at work,
so that you know outside of business hours, like you
can't read the news. You know, you're still informed, you
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still know what's going on, but do you really need
to know right now? In this instance, as soon as
you wake up? You know, I found that to be
so terrible for me. I would wake up, pick up
my phone, and it's like, here, this is a disaster.
Here is like a bombing. Here is like you know,
children dead, here is whatever, like here is Trump winning.
I know I said I wouldn't talk specifics. I'm very sorry,
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but you know, when you wake up and that is
the first thing that you see, what you consume is
how you feel. It's very much like your media diet.
If your media diet is very high in tragic, awful,
cruel things, your tiny brain, your human brain, it cannot
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hold all of that at the same time. You are
not meant to hold all of that information at the
same time. Truly, like think back to how we have
evolved to seek information and from who it was tribal,
It was limited, There was not enough. You know, you
were never going to have enough information at that given
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point to feel like you knew everything that was going
on in the world, because you you know as much
as like it's a good thing that we do know
so much more about our fellow humans and what they're
going through. You have to just remember that your brain
has not evolved to have as much access to information,
So it is natural if you just feel completely confronted
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by that, and especially when our news seeking gets very excessive,
you will become burnt out, you will become fatigued. So
for the sake of yourself and for the sake of
having energy and effort to put towards really important things,
to put towards those you love, to put towards your community,
to put towards yourself, you do need to find a
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healthy relationship with not just what news you access, but
when you access it. So again, informed but not overwhelmed. Also,
just sprinkle some good news in there, you know. There
was a landmark study from just a few years ago
from a university in Alabama, and it found that people
who share and access positive news stories mixed in with
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their normal news. After two weeks, they reported being happier
and more emotionally stable. They felt more optimistic about the
future than those who didn't, and it didn't mean that
they didn't care. I think sometimes we're like, oh, if
I feel optimistic, well, then I'm not going to be
motivated to change anything. I'm not going to be motivated
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to having conversations. I'm just not going to care anymore. Actually, no,
we need optimism. We need to believe that things can
get better. We need to believe that the world can
be brighter. We need optimism more than we need pessimism
in times like this. So just remember, if you're feeling
like shit, your media diet might be a factor because
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you are what you consume. So if you need a
rest day from chaos and tragedy, no one's going to
blame you. No one's going to say that you're being
naive or ignorant. You're having a rest day. It's okay.
And you know, on a similar point, just as we
are what we consume, we are also who we surround
ourself with the power of community in times when we
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are experiencing political anxiety. Cannot be overstated. Community is the
most psychologically important thing in times like this. And I
know that is a big statement to make, but I
just think that it heals so much. It is so
protective when it comes to our mental health during periods
of political uncertainty in crisis, and it's so hard going
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through anything alone, let alone, what feels like the world ending,
let alone, what feels like a complete shift from what
you expected. So this is really the time to engage
and connect even when you want to withdraw. And I
will say that is a problem that I have when
I am emotionally confronted by something, when I'm quite stressed,
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I just feel like I have absolutely nothing in the
tank to give to my relationships. So I self isolate.
I will pull away, I'll hide away in my house.
I don't want to see any I don't want to
talk to anyone. I don't want to make plans. I'm
not replying to messages. It's a terrible habit of mine,
one that I'm trying to break. And the way that
I'm trying to break it is just consciously being like remembering,
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consciously remembering that when I am around people, I do
feel better. Remembering that cause an effect that always typically
typically happens. I don't feel better when I self isolate.
I do feel better when I'm around other people, especially
people that I trust, that I love, that care for
me and I care for them. That is community, That
is belonging. I will say at the moment, there is
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a tendency and I found this in my friendships to
just like catch up and everyone just has like it's
just like what the fuck is happening, and just like
wants to talk about so much stuff and just wants
to you know, just wants to just get it off
their chest. That's healthy. There is a healthy level of
complaining and seeking comfort, especially just feeling shitty together. That's
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sometimes just one of the most healing things in the
world is just to be like, great, can we both
agree that we're not in a good mood? Can we
both agree that we're not feeling great? Beautiful? Now I
just feel a little bit less alone. But I do
just want you to be conscious of when it gets
to a level where you just feel entirely hopeless. That
kind of like collective anxiety that we tend to feel
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when we are in a big group or talking to
our friends and everyone's just getting more and more angry
and frustrated and scared. That is a symptom of when
group psychology kind of lets us down. You know, it's
not groupthink, It's basically just that when we are around
people that we are close to we do tend to
absorb their emotions and that tends to heighten our own
reactions to things. So please be conscious of it. Be
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aware of it. I think that having a rent, having
a debrief, just getting it off your chest, it's like
a plateau, like it gets healthy to a point. No,
it's almost like a wow, I can't remember my math,
but it's almost like an upside down you and someone's
gonna tell me what that is. I just can't remember
it right now. But it gets it feels healthy to
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a point, and then we flip over and we go
down the other side. There is a limit, so be
aware of when it's doing more harm than good. I
really learned this from my mom, and I learned this
with my mum. Sometimes she is so passionate about these things.
She is such a huge, you know, political and social activist,
and she cares so deeply about every single human on
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this earth that sometimes and I know this is going
to sound insane, but it's too much. It's like, Okay,
I cannot talk about this at dinner for the fifth
night in a row. I cannot yet, because I'm going
to get angry. I'm gonna get really frustrated, I'm going
to just feel like so sad and so like it's
you know, it just can't do that, you know, there
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has to be a break for me. So I often
just say to her, like, we're going to do five
minutes where you can talk to me about we can
talk to each other about you know, what kind of
terrible news story is going on, and we can talk
about politics or you just talk about whatever we want
to do with this thing, and then we have to
have a break because I don't want my relationship with
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you to be defined by feeling a heightened level of
stress every time that I walk away, because I feel
like all the world's problems are resting on our shoulders.
So step away from conversations when you're at your limit
and truly ask yourself. I know it feels like a
selfish question, but do ask yourself like is this going
to change anything? Is this going to change anything? Listening
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to this for like the fifth time today getting upset
about it again, is it just going to make me
feel worse? And is it just going to mean that
when it does come to doing something, I'm not going
to have the energy for that. This is really what
I want to finish on You need to do something
with your anxiety, and the best way to do that
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is to start giving back. This is a perfect time
to really reflect on what you can be doing for
those that need it. Our anxiety and distress, it does
feel worse when we sit in it, and when we
let it get bigger and bigger and bigger. By thinking
that we can outthink all of the world's problems, that
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we can outthink how shit the situation is. When we
can find a way out, We're going to return to
those principles of stoicism. Concern yourself with what you can
do and what you can control, and we can control
what we give back. Really start to think about a
cause that you could get involved in that makes you
feel like you can make a difference in your local community.
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Think we really don't acknowledge how much actually gets done
on the backs of people who volunteer their time and
who care deeply and give their energy and give their
passion and give their money to a cause that they
care about. And oh, my goodness, do they not make
the biggest difference in some people's lives. I want you
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to find that thing, that thing that really really drives
you and often here's a little tip about how you
can figure that out. The thing that is most upset
you about the situation, the thing that you feel most
upset to see threatened, That is what you care about
the most, What makes you the angriest, what makes you
the most anxious, what really like lights of fire in
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terms of your sense of justice, that is where you
should be devoting your time. Want to take all those
feelings and transfer them into a way of giving back.
That is just one of the biggest antidotes I have
found to any form of anxiety, really, but political anxiety
in particular is really and I just want to hammer
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this home. You cannot control. There is so much you
cannot control, but your little slice of your world, your
little universe, you can control that, and you can give
back and you can make that space happy. And you
can change people through small daily actions of kindness, and
you can, like you can seriously change their lives. You
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can change people's lives by volunteering, by giving back to
your community. Feel like it always, you knows, being global citizens,
having so much access to the news, it feels like
we have to do something big constantly, and we have
to be like, you know, there's so much that's bad
about the world, Like, how do I fix it all?
You can't. I'm sorry you can't, but you can. You
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can focus on something that the people around you need
and be that solution in your local area and in
your friendship groups and with your family. I also just
want to say a final reminder. It does feel really
scary right now. I know that there are a lot
of unknowns, and I think a lot of us are thinking,
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how am I going to be able to cope with this?
What's the way forward? Remember that you are capable. You
will find a way through. You will survive. You will
be okay even when it feels like you won't be.
There are people who love you, there are support systems,
There are people who are on the same page as
you who are not going to abandon you. So just
focus on the good as much as you can right now.
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Political anxiety and political uncertainty is an incredibly natural reaction
to changing circumstances that feel threatening and dangerous, and it's
okay to be feeling that way right now, but you
cannot exist in that space forever. There are a lot
of things that I hate to say, like it's not
that you have to get used to them. But it's
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kind of like, Okay, cool, can't change that. What can
I change? What can I do? Let's focus on that.
Let's really really lean into my friendships, my community, my kindness,
my purpose, my beliefs. This is something that's going to
be very nourishing for me for this time. So I
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am just sending a whole lot of love and a
whole lot of comfort. I hope that this episode has
just given you a bit of peace today, made you
feel a little bit better about the world, made you
feel like there is a space or you can come
to throughout whatever happens. You know, for comfort and for
peace and for safety. You're always welcome here. Your mental
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health is respected and cared for here and will always
be cared for. And I just love that we have
such a beautiful little slice of the internet. So thank
you so much for listening. I hope you got something
from this episode. I hope you enjoyed it as always.
If you did, please feel free to leave a five
star review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever you're listening right now,
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make sure that you are following along for new episodes.
I'm going to do an episode specifically on doom scrolling
in a couple of weeks, because I feel like that's
something that you know, I just couldn't get into and
want in like in this episode, there's so much information
about it psychologically, emotionally, like scientifically, sociologically as well, So
stay tuned for that episode, And if you have anything
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more you want to say and any suggestions for episodes,
you can DM me at that Psychology podcast. We would
love to hear from you over there. Until next week,
Stay safe, stay kind, and the most important of all
this week, be gentle with yourself. We will talk very
very soon.
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