August 27, 2025 • 33 mins
This week, Curly and Maya sit down with the radiant Gavin Turek—singer, songwriter, and self-proclaimed disco diva—to talk all things sparkle, sequins, and soul. From the power of channeling disco energy in 2025 to the vulnerability of putting your whole heart on stage. Of course, things take a turn (as they always do) when the convo slides into that messy gray area: Should you ever text your ex?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Social media clips, accountability, Yes.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Texting your ex.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
We say.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I burned.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
That advice to.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Be validated was my top priority.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Like what, yeah, give me more. Let's dive in.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
The Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast Season four is here
and we're locked in.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
That means more juicy cheese man, terrible love, advice.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Evils, fails to cast on your ex.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
We're not doing that this season.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Oh well, this season we're leveling up.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Each episode will feature a special best siet and you're
not going to want to miss it.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So what are you waiting for?
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Get in here?
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Get in here? Well here we are here.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
We are again in a very special place called the
Super Secret Besty Club.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
It's got an upgrade.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
That's it. That's today.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
We have a very special guest with us, our new
super secret best thee not so super not so super secret,
because she is the Diva of the people, the people's.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Diva of the people, the Diva of the people. Who
do we have in the clubhouse?
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Nervous She's one of my musical inspirations.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
And this is not a joke, by the way, this
is real. Nervousness out.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Has been calling it out.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Period some spoty.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
We have Gavin Turk here.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Lights. We dressed up for you.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
This is literally we were sitting together yesterday and we
were like, what do we wear for Gavin?
Speaker 1 (01:47):
And then we're just going just goes.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Naturally and we're not stressed about men.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
Oh because our skin is looking good. Yeah, our skin
is looking really good.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
That's right. Truly listen to her album you will understand that.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah, you will understand.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Okay, let me read your little bio, which.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
Is, Okay, I'm to be here. First of all, I
love you both.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
We love you so much and we are so honored
that you're here with us because you're literally an icon
and you're iconic and literally you are truly just we
are both creaming our pennies.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
See you right now.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Cream Okay, Oh my gosh Okay. Gavin is a singer, songwriter,
and dancer known for bringing modern disco back with the soulful,
sparkly twist Okay. Hailing from Los Angeles, she's collaborated with
artists like Toky Monsta and Mayor Hawthorne, and her albums
(02:48):
Madam Gold and Diva of the People blend and blend
retro grooves with raw emotion, whether she's on stage in
a custom Fringe outfit or crafting cooks in the studio.
Gavin Rady, it's joy, movement and magic.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Okay, so much? Okay that GBT or.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
A combination of both.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
It is a combination. We changed a few words words.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Thank you so much, Thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah, I almost wore fringe today too, because I was like,
fringe is very much your.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Was it?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Did you did you try to list? Are now? Are
you looking at the that ship? Now?
Speaker 5 (03:28):
I'm more just okay, So fringe I was obsessed with
because the movement of the material obviously, and for dancing,
it's just you don't have to do much to make
it look very captivating, which I love, you know, like
less work for me. But yeah, it's been a natural
evolution more into pieces that sparkle.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I love that anything truly.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
But I remember, like you know, we were talking about
when's the first time that we got our Gavin Cherry
pop and I remember, like, for me, it was when
I saw you perform at BuzzFeed years ago. I was yeah,
I was still working in the kitchen at the time.
I hadn't I was not a creator at all. Gosh,
I realized, yeah, I was like serving lunches there. I
was like sweeping up after all the personalities there.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
But me though, oh my god, well I was. I
just loved you. Well. I treated that kitchen like my kingdom, so.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
You really did.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I had like the people.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
At all.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
I was like, also, so I had been hired to
be the receptionist, but when I got there, they didn't
have any phones, so they were like hang out in
the kitchen. I guess I was like, oh okay, and
then I would just stalk the so it doesn't stop
the snack.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
But you owned it.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
I loved it.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I had a manager that made it so that it
was toxic for me to be there, so that's why
I wanted out of it. But I think I would
have stayed there. But anyways, you came in, somebody brought
you to perform.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Some one did, and I honestly can't remember who it was.
It was for the employee party.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Right, yes, yeah, it was for the pride party maybe,
I think. So, okay, you came out dance on a
sliver of pavement, the literal sliver of pavement. You took
your shoes off, you had your little friend's dress on,
and I fell in love with you. I was like,
this human is human, is a deity, This human is
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not even human. They are dancing and singing, but like
you do this really incredible thing where you you kind
of draw the crowd in, like you know, like this
got Our brother got He was a stand up comedy.
So when he's on stage, he doesn't tell you jokes.
You're in on the jokes with him.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
And I feel like.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
With you, like when you perform, we're not watching you perform.
We're in the celebration with you.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Yeah, And so you're like, oh my god, like I
want to fucking shake and throw. My friend John and
I went up to you after the show and I
was like, can you come back here all the time?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Like yeah, no, yeah, West forward.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
But we connected, right, we did connect yees pass forward though.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
When I did become a creator, I did have you
asked you to come back and do a video with
the Yeah yeah, which we'll get into.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
I sent you through YouTube, but you didn't a music video.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
You didn't.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I thought that you introduced me.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I came in like already being like you know Gavin, Like.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh I did not know that what the hell.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You know, Gavin, I've been there, like.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
The distance Supremacy submacy, Like yes, absolutely, And I think
it was just like the music video was just you
dancing and singing and glittering outfits anything, and I loved
glitter glitter, and I love the way it was shot.
It was like soft focused so that it really like
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made the glitter stand out.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
And I was just like, who is this? Yeah, that's
the funny.
Speaker 5 (06:49):
I'm laughing because humble beginnings, right, well, I mean what
am I talking about? Still humble beginnings, But that video
was shot for nothing.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Wow, Like maybe.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
We spent a thousand dollars maybe on that wow, So
I had nothing. I mean I was just trying to
make anything.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Well that's what you got to do.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
But that's also too as creative artists, like we're the best,
best stuff comes out.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Yeah, and I think that's the constraints.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Yeah, it just needed you though, Like it was like
it didn't need like a lot of like it was
just you dancing and your hair and the song like
it was just so good and we just we are
so impressed by Also one time you actually it was
my friend Joshua, Yes, yes, yeah, and Curly conspired behind
(07:39):
my back and bought tickets to one of your shows
and I went, and I like watching you watching her
perform live, is.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
You have to It's a yeah, really good to do.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Experience.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
But like I think you also one of the things
about you two is that you learned were you dancing
first or singing first? Because you went to like a
school for that performing.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I was so okay.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
I was always singing just because I come from such
a musical family. But my sisters, my parents, I would say,
just innately have a stronger gift in singing than I do.
Maybe not now obviously because I nurtured it, but just naturally,
Like I wasn't the best singer of the family, but
everyone's saying and we would harmonize in the car and stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
The dad like really wanted me and my sister to
be a go group.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
But yeah, with that said, always saying that was very organic,
that was very natural. Wasn't the best at it, but
just did it. Always wrote songs just that was second
nature to me. But dance was the was the art
form that I really nurtured early on in my life
in terms of the training and the discipline and learning
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the importance of that that all came from ballet, from modern,
from jazz, and my dance background.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
Wasn't like something that I remember that you went to.
I feel like that you went to like but didn't
you go to like Africa and you like learned for
a second.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, so I I went to Elehana High
School with the Arts in East La, which was incredible.
It was oh my gosh, yes, l A Foreverla, like yeah,
special place in my heart.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Yeah, basically we had to. It was so intense because
I grew up in Acuadose.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I don't know where.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
I said it totally wrong. It's sweet water in Spanish. Okay,
did I say where is that?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Though?
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah, it's past I just got sweaty. It's past Karita. Yeah,
like off the fourteen.
Speaker 5 (09:44):
But further if you if you're getting you know, Santa Creta, yes, yeah, yeah,
so if you're heading toward Santa Crete, you just keep
on going on fourteen, okay, and then it's an exit
off the fourteen before you get to like Palmdale.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
I also lived in a hot second. So now, yeah,
I went to in Hollywood. Sorry, no, thank you for that.
I'd still we love you I never learned how to
ride a bike or flag height because I just lived
so far and then went to school in Hollywood and
I just group in the car.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Basically, Oh really, I grew up in car.
Speaker 5 (10:18):
I never went to school within thirty minutes of where
I lived either.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Ever, I did not know.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
I mean, but I mean I used to have to
ship in like trash cans because I couldn't make it.
Because you know, you couldn't make it that stretch of
like it's a rocker's lucky.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
It's a long stretch without a gas station.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
It's like it's very if you looks like mom, I
can see like.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
My sister we like we lived in a band. Basically,
my sister sat down windowed me in the back. I
should be like this fool, it's like taking it.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
That's the title of the episode.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Cars. So you gotta do okay. So then you're on
this journey to to learn how to dance.
Speaker 5 (11:15):
Yes, and we're on the same page though, because I
literally grew up in the car. I would wake up
at four thirty every morning to go.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
To high school.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Oh my god, because.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
I had to you know, nothing has changed. I had
to get ready. I had to do my face. I
had to do my hair.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Yep, I had to curl these.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
I don't curly, this is natural, but you know, say curly.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Sorry, what did you do to protect your curls on
the way because I would fall asleep in the car
back to school?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
What did you do it? Oh?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
I definitely fell asleep. I don't, I didn't.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
I would do like I would go back and forth
between heavy heavy gel curl hair, so like the curls
but like heavyweight down with jail, and in between like
a helmet head so like upside park like slick to
the gods, like helmet shiny.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, it was giving sheen like so I mean it
was a helmet yeah, my head, but was to keep
it intact.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
I would sleep on my face. Stop, yeah it was
my face.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Still do that you probably do?
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Yeah? I just looked like that.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Yeah, that's apparently the way to sleep, I mean, like
a little baby allegedly. Okay, so you're on your journey,
literally getting up at four thirty every morning, getting to
the train by five thirty, catch the train, I'm sorry,
leave for the train by five thirty, to catch the
train at six.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
To go to Union station, catch a bus to go
to high school. Wow, it was wild.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
But not all of my friends had that insane commute. Yeah,
a lot of us had some kind of comute, and
we all had that hunger and the passion and can
you imagine how much discipline that developed in me? And
just a desire to be tried, Yeah, to be on time,
and just like a respect for Wow, I'm really having
to do something that is very unique, just to make.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
It happen, like to travel this far.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Oh yeah, so you go and you go to how
to dance?
Speaker 5 (13:20):
Yes, And I really focus on just yeah, just training,
just trying to I kind of consider anything that I'm
training for or any art form that I'm learning, Like,
the goal is to become a master at that, right,
And I don't know if I've achieved that in any
form I know, but honestly, like we could talk about
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we can get into examples later, but yeah, the goal
was just to take it very seriously, to respect my opportunity,
which I knew was an amazing opportunity and it was
really difficult, but yeah, it developed this respect for the arts,
the respect for hard work, knowing that you know, if
I want to be at a certain level, it's going
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to take a certain amount of sacrifice and commitment. Yeah,
four years of that was really really impactful at.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Such a young age.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
Yeah, and then having so many friends that were just
as weird as I was, and that I just wanted
to dance or just wanted to sing, or just wanted
to you know, do visual arts.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
So it was really special experience.
Speaker 4 (14:23):
I mean, that's a quote another famous areas areas today
by the way, But you know my Angela.
Speaker 5 (14:29):
Right Africa, Yea, my Angelo the World's Oh yeah, I
didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
She was like, you can only be great at that
which you were willing to sacrifice for. So like I
really am not ready.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
Yeah, no, I really, I really believe in that. I've
really held onto that when you start in a more
humble setting.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Just you respect every aspect.
Speaker 5 (14:49):
Of what what you need to get stuff.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Do you know.
Speaker 4 (14:54):
That's the other thing too, that I think that people
don't realize about entertainment and just art.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
This business. It's like there's a lot of that.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
It's like there's a lot of like I'm going to
take my own equipment do this.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Like even like Selena, like you know, the late Selena, her.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Husband would talk about how they would have to take
their instruments on and off the bus, like the whole thing. Like,
and you know when you go and do different things
in different cities, like the different dressing rooms that you
are put into and the different snacks that they.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Offer you and all that stuff, like it's.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Not all Oh, it's not all glamorous.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Yeah, it's usually not glamorous. Yeah, yeah, like one sliver
maybe one percent of you know, the whole time, and maybe.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Clamorous with Like my dad is a musician. He plays
in the Latin reggae bands. Okay, it's like music in Spanish. Yeah,
and my brother and I would have to like help
him with the equipment all the time. We would be
at the merch booth and it's a hustle, but it's
a respect oh yeah yeah sure.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Where you're like you see.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
How much work from the conception of making the songs
to then doing it live and then like I remember
as a little kid, I'm like, they better clap after
this song, doesn't clap on taking them out to me
like like six years old.
Speaker 5 (16:17):
Yes, no, it's really it's cool to see it as
like from a child's perspective as well, because you saw
the work ethic being modeled for you and your father.
Same with my mom, Like my mom would work her
butt off whatever creative. She's very creative, So whatever creative
endeavor she was deciding to do at the moment, she's
an actor. That's like her mastery realm is as an
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acting teacher and actress. That's where she is truly a master.
She got her master's degree, went to college for it,
like did the whole thing. But I saw her not
only working on her craft consistently in that realm, but
she was also a singer and she would practice singing
every single day. She would practice, Wow, every I'm not exaggerating.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Every day.
Speaker 5 (17:03):
She would be in our guests I'm sounding like we
have a really amazing house. She'd be in our guest room.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
It was a nice but.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
It was yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 5 (17:14):
But we had like a little setup for her and
she had a little mic and she would just put
in her cassette tapes and sing it down, like sing
it down. So I grew up watching her from such
young from like three years old.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
I mean, I have this theory that wherever there's an areas,
there's a Pisces, and there's always.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
A Leo linked somehow funny. So I don't know what
it is.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
What I always joked that I don't know what comic
ties y'all have with each other. But it's like this
weird thing that you guys hold each other's hands in
life and don't always say. I'm like, wherever there's an areas,
there's a pissy somewhere.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
It's so funny. Yeah, and then there's just that Leo
just thrown in for hot, hot heat.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Yeah, let's get into love. I have a lot of
question Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
We need advice, so okay, we do.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I love giving advice, Yeah please, I love telling other
people to do with their lives. But don't don't let
me tell my well, I'm gonna quote you.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Yeah, but I'm gonna quote you right now. Oh God,
in your album Deep other People, Okay. One of my
favorite songs is What's a Girl to Do? Say like
a yes, But that's probably what we need after after
this conversation, bitch, I love this song so much. It's
just so like I.
Speaker 5 (18:26):
Feel like it's a sleeper and thank you for acknowledging
it is one of my favorite songs.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
It's just like I love when you say, are you
gonna run away even if you want to stay heart
wrapped up in cellophane? Do you believe that I could
love you like you want? When are you gonna open
up scared of losing yourself?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Well?
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I am too.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
So it was just very honest moments. Wow, And I've
been through it.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
I feel like I'm going through it a little bit
right now. That's why I'm like, what what were you
feeling in that moment so much?
Speaker 5 (18:56):
I mean, I wrote it about someone like very specific person,
specific situation, and just a lovely person. But I could
see just that, I could see how their guardedness and
trauma was impacting relating to me, and yeah, just it
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didn't At first I was a little naturally like.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Offended by it.
Speaker 5 (19:25):
And then when I just kind of sat back and
looked at it objectively, I was like, oh, I feel bad.
I feel bad for him. Wow, a lovely person.
Speaker 4 (19:35):
But I think, like writing from that perspective too, and
just coming out of a relationship that didn't work out
from that perspective as well. It requires a lot of
healing and it requires a lot of like confidence in
a lot of ways, because I think that a lot
of times when we get into relationships or spaces where
we are looking for the person to validate us and
loving us back right the space to get into the
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space where you kind of go like, actually.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
I feel kind of bad for you a little bit
that you don't.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
Get to have this or see this, And I feel
kind of like, and it's not a meet thing and
you're not saying that necessarily, but that's also the vibe too,
that's what you are saying where it's actually not a
meet thing at this point. It's kind of you running
away and maybe you're doing us both the favor. I'm
going to go this way and find somebody else. Yeah,
like there's something like empowering I feel about.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
That, Like, yeah, I know, like it is empowering, but
it is. It's a fun life because I don't want
to delusion.
Speaker 5 (20:33):
Delusion moment, but no, I think yes, I think both
both truths can be operating at the same time.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
And these are your wife, by the way, It's just
like what I'm wanting, you know.
Speaker 5 (20:44):
Yeah, no, I love it, Like, yes, it's acknowledging someone
maybe still needing to work on some elements of themselves
and that's preventing it. But also like when it's when
it's supposed to work out, it does work work out,
and at the same time, atually three truths at the
same time, And I know there's a lot I need
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to still work on.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
So I'm not I'm not negating.
Speaker 5 (21:07):
The fact that I am taking responsibility for my crazy
because I'm still you know, there's a lot of still.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
There's a lot of pop out there who don't know.
I think a lot of us have a different definition
of what accountability is.
Speaker 5 (21:23):
Unfortunately, I think I honestly think that social media is fault.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
I know, like I'm like, I mean, of course I.
Speaker 5 (21:29):
Can explain that more, but just in the fact that
I when I when I started dating after being in
a really, really long relationship and I was kind of
back out there for the first time and navigating it
and felt like a complete novice, I was going to
social media a lot to kind of get the cliff
notes version of how to do this correctly right dangerous
(21:51):
because all the clip clips are for clicks and clickbaits,
and a lot of advice comes without the context that
you need and comes without the accountability aspect, like, no,
you can't just take what this person is saying for
face value. All the time when it comes to the
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type of man you want to find, and you know,
it's just there's a lot of without the context. I
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just I really think the you part of it and
what you need to keep working on and the accountability part.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
And it's kind of avoid let me see what other
people are saying, Like, you know.
Speaker 5 (22:46):
I thank you for speaking to that also because I
think it dilutes our discernment a little bit too, because
we're like, so, I mean, I was so entertained by
the dating advice that I was getting through that through
whether it's podcasts, no shape podcast, but whether podcasts or
YouTube videos that were advising, you know, how to navigate
(23:07):
dating or yeah, social media clips. Just that sounds so
millennial is right now by saying social who says social
media clips?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, millennial here.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
Whatever, just own it. I'm just calling myself out. I
love you guys are so cute.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
I know.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Anyways, I'm now losing my chain of thought.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Yeah, social media clips, accountability.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
Yes, the discernment. You can't dilute your discernment.
Speaker 5 (23:47):
You know, you know when something is working out, you
know when someone is not.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You usually do if you sit with yourself.
Speaker 5 (23:54):
In silence and allow your your discernment, your intuition to
to talk. Yeah, and not the wanting, the desire, the
validation aspect of you, the desperate because when I started dating,
to be validated was my top priority.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Like what, yeah, baby, that is not healthy. You're going
to get into trouble.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
That's why when we talk about ghosting a lot, I'm
like kind of like a little bit of a pro
ghoster because this.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Is a hot this is like, by the.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
Way, it's a hot Oh yeah, we can take oh yeah,
we can get into the hot take. I'll show you
a little something before though, and you can fight me
on this as well. I think people need to get
over it. Ghosting is ghosting. You should read the room.
If they're not giving you the signals, that's on me, boo, Like,
I actually, I don't need I'll give myself closure.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
I don't need your closure. Like I'm out.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
You know, we have a hot takes jar. We have
a bunch of hot takes in here. So if you
want to pull give us so whatever it says, give
us your hot take about that.
Speaker 5 (24:54):
Texting your ex, I would say absolutely not. Oh wait wait, okay.
If you're in a new relationship. Absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
Oh no, if you're there's rules for everything.
Speaker 5 (25:08):
Right, Yeah, so texting your ex is a is a
no no if you're in a new if you're in
a single, if you're single.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
It depends on how it ended and why.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
For me, I'm like, text your X. Do it.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
It's always like pro texting your ex relationship.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
If you're in a new relationship and you're texting your ex,
you shouldn't be in this new relationship, like, I don't
know what, Yeah, I agree, but I think in general,
like if you're just like in the freeway and you
have the desire and you're in traffic and your desire
to text your X, I'm just like, text your X,
like if you For my theory is that if you
need to figure out that the stove is hot, I
can't tell you that the stove is hot. No look hot,
like go touch it, go and figure it out for yourself.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Okay, welcome to the astrology portion of Yes, I know you.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Said you're not really like, but that makes it even better.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
It does because you're in April area. Yes, you're speak
because I know that Taurus starts on I think the
twenty twentieth twentieth, so as in April aries, like do
you see the difference between like a March aries and
an April aries? Are you like you.
Speaker 4 (26:15):
Can also say no, not familiar, like those are also
fresh takes and hot takes and people don't know.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
I mean, I would like to think April is just great.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
They are great.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I feel like April.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
That's what I feel really, But do you.
Speaker 3 (26:33):
Think Yeah, I think it's because you're later. I'm also
like Pisces aries cusp. Oh yeah, so I'm a little
bit more pissy okay, okay, yeah, and so you're a
little bit more Taurus aries, which is like I feel
like Taurus they have their own chaotic mixed like I
feel like it's like a very quiet charge type of
(26:56):
like energy versus like April aries. It's like Mary Potent
is going to be like, yeah, see.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
I've never been I've never been that person.
Speaker 5 (27:08):
The fire more emerges or like the energy of burn
ship down comes to me wanting to make stuff happen,
like with my.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Life or in my career or I don't I mean,
how are you to date? Wait?
Speaker 1 (27:25):
What how are you to date?
Speaker 5 (27:28):
I mean I think I don't know.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I've even been on the other side. But I think
this version is nice to date. This this version is.
Speaker 4 (27:40):
I'm not because I'm a hot mess to date. That's
why I'm like, how are you to date?
Speaker 5 (27:46):
Anyway, we all okay, dating, let's just say before we
say how are you today?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
How are you day?
Speaker 5 (27:52):
Dating is really challenging, no matter where you are in
your healing journey. It is very challenging.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
It's very vulnerable, and it does bring out the crazy in.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
All of us. But you know that IKY like.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
Fun and light and flirty. But then I can I
think I'm very like avoidant upfront, not avoidant like bad,
but more so like I have boundaries up like until
because people think that I'm like, oh, hi, how are
you because of like my Internet stuff, But I'm really not, like.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
How do you navigate that? Then with dating like your
internet kind of persona versus.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
I think it's like allowing them to get to know
me and hopefully they have that also discernment that like
I'm a human yeah not just like a persona, and
that they don't have that. Then I'm just like, Okay.
Speaker 5 (28:43):
I think I don't know if you're with someone right
now right now, but like I think the right man
will or I think man both both okay, right, man
or a woman will really be able to see like
that other side of you and you'll know that's so fast,
Like you can kind of tell whether someone is because
(29:05):
of how you show up, Like for me, because we all.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Have Internet persona, we all do.
Speaker 5 (29:11):
Yeah, like when I'm when I'm not here, I'm the
makeups off, the hair, the sweats are on, like I'm
either on.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Or off in that way.
Speaker 5 (29:19):
Yeah, Like if you can show up like that, that's
kind of when you know that this person is allowing
you to be all sides of you, you know, but
like to me, like a huge sign of whether or
not you can kind of show that is how I'm
actually acting with them, Like am I still showing up
(29:40):
as the diva?
Speaker 2 (29:41):
Or am I am I being vulnerable and showing.
Speaker 5 (29:43):
Up in early on, just like without the makeup, without
my hair done, without you know, the whole bit. Like
that's how I know because I've been in situations where
I'm showing up.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
In the bit for the whole time.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
Entertaining them, and you're like, well, entertaining amazing. Of course,
that's very aries beautiful, that's very beautiful.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Are you a crier.
Speaker 2 (30:12):
Oh yes, of course are you?
Speaker 3 (30:14):
Are you?
Speaker 4 (30:16):
I love as are very They're like people don't think
of them as being super emotional, but they are very
sensy babies, which I love.
Speaker 5 (30:24):
Yes, yes, because because we have that I mean I
don't know that much, but yeah, like I think we
have that strength too.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
So which sign do you have a bone to pick
with with?
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I won't say a little.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Tiny you won't say I will not.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
Okay, tourists right now, me too a little bit.
Speaker 4 (30:51):
I feel like okay, as a virgo, as the reporter
of the zodiac signs, the critic, I think that tauruses
right now have to work on a lot of healing,
like they need to. There's something happening with a lot
of tauruses where I feel like they they're having trouble
(31:11):
with accountability, and they're having trouble with recognizing that it's
okay to be wrong and that people who love you
will point things out not because you're wrong, but because
they just want more from you. They just want to
love you harder. And when they say, hey, loosen up
that booty hall just a little bit, it's a little
(31:32):
bit take a breath, you mean, you know, it just
makes for easier insertion that.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Guys want more of your love and it doesn't have
to be yes, yeah, of course. And that concludes the
astrology portion of the podcast. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
For go my God.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
You're so much now an official member of the Super
Secret bestI Class.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
How do you please? What's your last statement that you'd
like to go out with?
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Divap thepeople? Dot com?
Speaker 1 (32:05):
That's right? Where can people follow you? Where can people
find your project?
Speaker 2 (32:09):
Yes? Okay, right?
Speaker 5 (32:11):
Gavin Turk is all my handles literally just Gavin Trek
and you spell it g A b I N t
U r e k and yeah dot com on TikTok,
on Instagram, all those things.
Speaker 4 (32:26):
YouTube, yep on YouTube amazing And where can people find you?
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Maya?
Speaker 3 (32:31):
You can find me at my in the Moment m
A y A in the Moment anywhere you scroll? What
about you? Curly?
Speaker 4 (32:37):
You can find me at the Curly v Show on Instagram, TikTok,
red note Twitter.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
It was like the thing that we were all. It's
on there.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Okay it's Chinese?
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Yeah, yeah, husband, so I can.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
And happy season four, Season four.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 3 (32:57):
And watching to another episode of The Supers. Your bestI
Club Podcast, We Will See You.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
Also, I Owe You is still my favorite on the
album Oh my.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Gosh, thank You.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
Please feel like we didn't.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
Even talk about There's so much there.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
To talk about.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
I'm gonna have to come back.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Yes, please, You're ready here First.
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
Texting your ex.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
We say.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I burned.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
That advice to.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Be validated was my top priority.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Like what, yeah, give me more. Let's dive in.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
My name is Curly and I'm Maya.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
The Super Secret Bestie Club Podcast Season four is here
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Speaker 2 (00:28):
That means more juicy cheese man, terrible love, advice.
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We're not doing that this season.
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Oh well, this season we're leveling up.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
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Get in here?
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Get in here? Well here we are here.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
We are again in a very special place called the
Super Secret Besty Club.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
It's got an upgrade.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
That's it. That's today.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
We have a very special guest with us, our new
super secret best thee not so super not so super secret,
because she is the Diva of the people, the people's.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Diva of the people, the Diva of the people. Who
do we have in the clubhouse?
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Nervous She's one of my musical inspirations.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
And this is not a joke, by the way, this
is real. Nervousness out.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Has been calling it out.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Period some spoty.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
We have Gavin Turk here.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Lights. We dressed up for you.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
This is literally we were sitting together yesterday and we
were like, what do we wear for Gavin?
Speaker 1 (01:47):
And then we're just going just goes.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Naturally and we're not stressed about men.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
Oh because our skin is looking good. Yeah, our skin
is looking really good.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
That's right. Truly listen to her album you will understand that.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah, you will understand.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Okay, let me read your little bio, which.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
Is, Okay, I'm to be here. First of all, I
love you both.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
We love you so much and we are so honored
that you're here with us because you're literally an icon
and you're iconic and literally you are truly just we
are both creaming our pennies.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
See you right now.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Cream Okay, Oh my gosh Okay. Gavin is a singer, songwriter,
and dancer known for bringing modern disco back with the soulful,
sparkly twist Okay. Hailing from Los Angeles, she's collaborated with
artists like Toky Monsta and Mayor Hawthorne, and her albums
(02:48):
Madam Gold and Diva of the People blend and blend
retro grooves with raw emotion, whether she's on stage in
a custom Fringe outfit or crafting cooks in the studio.
Gavin Rady, it's joy, movement and magic.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Okay, so much? Okay that GBT or.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
A combination of both.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
It is a combination. We changed a few words words.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Thank you so much, Thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah, I almost wore fringe today too, because I was like,
fringe is very much your.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Was it?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Did you did you try to list? Are now? Are
you looking at the that ship? Now?
Speaker 5 (03:28):
I'm more just okay, So fringe I was obsessed with
because the movement of the material obviously, and for dancing,
it's just you don't have to do much to make
it look very captivating, which I love, you know, like
less work for me. But yeah, it's been a natural
evolution more into pieces that sparkle.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I love that anything truly.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
But I remember, like you know, we were talking about
when's the first time that we got our Gavin Cherry
pop and I remember, like, for me, it was when
I saw you perform at BuzzFeed years ago. I was yeah,
I was still working in the kitchen at the time.
I hadn't I was not a creator at all. Gosh,
I realized, yeah, I was like serving lunches there. I
was like sweeping up after all the personalities there.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
But me though, oh my god, well I was. I
just loved you. Well. I treated that kitchen like my kingdom, so.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
You really did.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I had like the people.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
At all.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
I was like, also, so I had been hired to
be the receptionist, but when I got there, they didn't
have any phones, so they were like hang out in
the kitchen. I guess I was like, oh okay, and
then I would just stalk the so it doesn't stop
the snack.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
But you owned it.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
I loved it.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I had a manager that made it so that it
was toxic for me to be there, so that's why
I wanted out of it. But I think I would
have stayed there. But anyways, you came in, somebody brought
you to perform.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Some one did, and I honestly can't remember who it was.
It was for the employee party.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Right, yes, yeah, it was for the pride party maybe,
I think. So, okay, you came out dance on a
sliver of pavement, the literal sliver of pavement. You took
your shoes off, you had your little friend's dress on,
and I fell in love with you. I was like,
this human is human, is a deity, This human is
(05:15):
not even human. They are dancing and singing, but like
you do this really incredible thing where you you kind
of draw the crowd in, like you know, like this
got Our brother got He was a stand up comedy.
So when he's on stage, he doesn't tell you jokes.
You're in on the jokes with him.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
And I feel like.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
With you, like when you perform, we're not watching you perform.
We're in the celebration with you.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Yeah, And so you're like, oh my god, like I
want to fucking shake and throw. My friend John and
I went up to you after the show and I
was like, can you come back here all the time?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Like yeah, no, yeah, West forward.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
But we connected, right, we did connect yees pass forward though.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
When I did become a creator, I did have you
asked you to come back and do a video with
the Yeah yeah, which we'll get into.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
I sent you through YouTube, but you didn't a music video.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
You didn't.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I thought that you introduced me.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I came in like already being like you know Gavin, Like.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh I did not know that what the hell.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You know, Gavin, I've been there, like.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
The distance Supremacy submacy, Like yes, absolutely, And I think
it was just like the music video was just you
dancing and singing and glittering outfits anything, and I loved
glitter glitter, and I love the way it was shot.
It was like soft focused so that it really like
(06:41):
made the glitter stand out.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
And I was just like, who is this? Yeah, that's
the funny.
Speaker 5 (06:49):
I'm laughing because humble beginnings, right, well, I mean what
am I talking about? Still humble beginnings, But that video
was shot for nothing.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Wow, Like maybe.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
We spent a thousand dollars maybe on that wow, So
I had nothing. I mean I was just trying to
make anything.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Well that's what you got to do.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
But that's also too as creative artists, like we're the best,
best stuff comes out.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Yeah, and I think that's the constraints.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Yeah, it just needed you though, Like it was like
it didn't need like a lot of like it was
just you dancing and your hair and the song like
it was just so good and we just we are
so impressed by Also one time you actually it was
my friend Joshua, Yes, yes, yeah, and Curly conspired behind
(07:39):
my back and bought tickets to one of your shows
and I went, and I like watching you watching her
perform live, is.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
You have to It's a yeah, really good to do.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Experience.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
But like I think you also one of the things
about you two is that you learned were you dancing
first or singing first? Because you went to like a
school for that performing.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I was so okay.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
I was always singing just because I come from such
a musical family. But my sisters, my parents, I would say,
just innately have a stronger gift in singing than I do.
Maybe not now obviously because I nurtured it, but just naturally,
Like I wasn't the best singer of the family, but
everyone's saying and we would harmonize in the car and stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
The dad like really wanted me and my sister to
be a go group.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
But yeah, with that said, always saying that was very organic,
that was very natural. Wasn't the best at it, but
just did it. Always wrote songs just that was second
nature to me. But dance was the was the art
form that I really nurtured early on in my life
in terms of the training and the discipline and learning
(08:53):
the importance of that that all came from ballet, from modern,
from jazz, and my dance background.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
Wasn't like something that I remember that you went to.
I feel like that you went to like but didn't
you go to like Africa and you like learned for
a second.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, so I I went to Elehana High
School with the Arts in East La, which was incredible.
It was oh my gosh, yes, l A Foreverla, like yeah,
special place in my heart.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Yeah, basically we had to. It was so intense because
I grew up in Acuadose.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I don't know where.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
I said it totally wrong. It's sweet water in Spanish. Okay,
did I say where is that?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Though?
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah, it's past I just got sweaty. It's past Karita. Yeah,
like off the fourteen.
Speaker 5 (09:44):
But further if you if you're getting you know, Santa Creta, yes, yeah, yeah,
so if you're heading toward Santa Crete, you just keep
on going on fourteen, okay, and then it's an exit
off the fourteen before you get to like Palmdale.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
I also lived in a hot second. So now, yeah,
I went to in Hollywood. Sorry, no, thank you for that.
I'd still we love you I never learned how to
ride a bike or flag height because I just lived
so far and then went to school in Hollywood and
I just group in the car.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Basically, Oh really, I grew up in car.
Speaker 5 (10:18):
I never went to school within thirty minutes of where
I lived either.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Ever, I did not know.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
I mean, but I mean I used to have to
ship in like trash cans because I couldn't make it.
Because you know, you couldn't make it that stretch of
like it's a rocker's lucky.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
It's a long stretch without a gas station.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
It's like it's very if you looks like mom, I
can see like.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
My sister we like we lived in a band. Basically,
my sister sat down windowed me in the back. I
should be like this fool, it's like taking it.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
That's the title of the episode.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Cars. So you gotta do okay. So then you're on
this journey to to learn how to dance.
Speaker 5 (11:15):
Yes, and we're on the same page though, because I
literally grew up in the car. I would wake up
at four thirty every morning to go.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
To high school.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Oh my god, because.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
I had to you know, nothing has changed. I had
to get ready. I had to do my face. I
had to do my hair.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Yep, I had to curl these.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
I don't curly, this is natural, but you know, say curly.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Sorry, what did you do to protect your curls on
the way because I would fall asleep in the car
back to school?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
What did you do it? Oh?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
I definitely fell asleep. I don't, I didn't.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
I would do like I would go back and forth
between heavy heavy gel curl hair, so like the curls
but like heavyweight down with jail, and in between like
a helmet head so like upside park like slick to
the gods, like helmet shiny.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, it was giving sheen like so I mean it
was a helmet yeah, my head, but was to keep
it intact.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
I would sleep on my face. Stop, yeah it was
my face.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Still do that you probably do?
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Yeah? I just looked like that.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Yeah, that's apparently the way to sleep, I mean, like
a little baby allegedly. Okay, so you're on your journey,
literally getting up at four thirty every morning, getting to
the train by five thirty, catch the train, I'm sorry,
leave for the train by five thirty, to catch the
train at six.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
To go to Union station, catch a bus to go
to high school. Wow, it was wild.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
But not all of my friends had that insane commute. Yeah,
a lot of us had some kind of comute, and
we all had that hunger and the passion and can
you imagine how much discipline that developed in me? And
just a desire to be tried, Yeah, to be on time,
and just like a respect for Wow, I'm really having
to do something that is very unique, just to make.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
It happen, like to travel this far.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Oh yeah, so you go and you go to how
to dance?
Speaker 5 (13:20):
Yes, And I really focus on just yeah, just training,
just trying to I kind of consider anything that I'm
training for or any art form that I'm learning, Like,
the goal is to become a master at that, right,
And I don't know if I've achieved that in any
form I know, but honestly, like we could talk about
(13:41):
we can get into examples later, but yeah, the goal
was just to take it very seriously, to respect my opportunity,
which I knew was an amazing opportunity and it was
really difficult, but yeah, it developed this respect for the arts,
the respect for hard work, knowing that you know, if
I want to be at a certain level, it's going
(14:03):
to take a certain amount of sacrifice and commitment. Yeah,
four years of that was really really impactful at.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Such a young age.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
Yeah, and then having so many friends that were just
as weird as I was, and that I just wanted
to dance or just wanted to sing, or just wanted
to you know, do visual arts.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
So it was really special experience.
Speaker 4 (14:23):
I mean, that's a quote another famous areas areas today
by the way, But you know my Angela.
Speaker 5 (14:29):
Right Africa, Yea, my Angelo the World's Oh yeah, I
didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
She was like, you can only be great at that
which you were willing to sacrifice for. So like I
really am not ready.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
Yeah, no, I really, I really believe in that. I've
really held onto that when you start in a more
humble setting.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Just you respect every aspect.
Speaker 5 (14:49):
Of what what you need to get stuff.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Do you know.
Speaker 4 (14:54):
That's the other thing too, that I think that people
don't realize about entertainment and just art.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
This business. It's like there's a lot of that.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
It's like there's a lot of like I'm going to
take my own equipment do this.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Like even like Selena, like you know, the late Selena, her.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Husband would talk about how they would have to take
their instruments on and off the bus, like the whole thing. Like,
and you know when you go and do different things
in different cities, like the different dressing rooms that you
are put into and the different snacks that they.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Offer you and all that stuff, like it's.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Not all Oh, it's not all glamorous.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Yeah, it's usually not glamorous. Yeah, yeah, like one sliver
maybe one percent of you know, the whole time, and maybe.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Clamorous with Like my dad is a musician. He plays
in the Latin reggae bands. Okay, it's like music in Spanish. Yeah,
and my brother and I would have to like help
him with the equipment all the time. We would be
at the merch booth and it's a hustle, but it's
a respect oh yeah yeah sure.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Where you're like you see.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
How much work from the conception of making the songs
to then doing it live and then like I remember
as a little kid, I'm like, they better clap after
this song, doesn't clap on taking them out to me
like like six years old.
Speaker 5 (16:17):
Yes, no, it's really it's cool to see it as
like from a child's perspective as well, because you saw
the work ethic being modeled for you and your father.
Same with my mom, Like my mom would work her
butt off whatever creative. She's very creative, So whatever creative
endeavor she was deciding to do at the moment, she's
an actor. That's like her mastery realm is as an
(16:39):
acting teacher and actress. That's where she is truly a master.
She got her master's degree, went to college for it,
like did the whole thing. But I saw her not
only working on her craft consistently in that realm, but
she was also a singer and she would practice singing
every single day. She would practice, Wow, every I'm not exaggerating.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Every day.
Speaker 5 (17:03):
She would be in our guests I'm sounding like we
have a really amazing house. She'd be in our guest room.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
It was a nice but.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
It was yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 5 (17:14):
But we had like a little setup for her and
she had a little mic and she would just put
in her cassette tapes and sing it down, like sing
it down. So I grew up watching her from such
young from like three years old.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
I mean, I have this theory that wherever there's an areas,
there's a Pisces, and there's always.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
A Leo linked somehow funny. So I don't know what
it is.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
What I always joked that I don't know what comic
ties y'all have with each other. But it's like this
weird thing that you guys hold each other's hands in
life and don't always say. I'm like, wherever there's an areas,
there's a pissy somewhere.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
It's so funny. Yeah, and then there's just that Leo
just thrown in for hot, hot heat.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Yeah, let's get into love. I have a lot of
question Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
We need advice, so okay, we do.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I love giving advice, Yeah please, I love telling other
people to do with their lives. But don't don't let
me tell my well, I'm gonna quote you.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Yeah, but I'm gonna quote you right now. Oh God,
in your album Deep other People, Okay. One of my
favorite songs is What's a Girl to Do? Say like
a yes, But that's probably what we need after after
this conversation, bitch, I love this song so much. It's
just so like I.
Speaker 5 (18:26):
Feel like it's a sleeper and thank you for acknowledging
it is one of my favorite songs.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
It's just like I love when you say, are you
gonna run away even if you want to stay heart
wrapped up in cellophane? Do you believe that I could
love you like you want? When are you gonna open
up scared of losing yourself?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Well?
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I am too.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
So it was just very honest moments. Wow, And I've
been through it.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
I feel like I'm going through it a little bit
right now. That's why I'm like, what what were you
feeling in that moment so much?
Speaker 5 (18:56):
I mean, I wrote it about someone like very specific person,
specific situation, and just a lovely person. But I could
see just that, I could see how their guardedness and
trauma was impacting relating to me, and yeah, just it
(19:17):
didn't At first I was a little naturally like.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Offended by it.
Speaker 5 (19:25):
And then when I just kind of sat back and
looked at it objectively, I was like, oh, I feel bad.
I feel bad for him. Wow, a lovely person.
Speaker 4 (19:35):
But I think, like writing from that perspective too, and
just coming out of a relationship that didn't work out
from that perspective as well. It requires a lot of
healing and it requires a lot of like confidence in
a lot of ways, because I think that a lot
of times when we get into relationships or spaces where
we are looking for the person to validate us and
loving us back right the space to get into the
(19:58):
space where you kind of go like, actually.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
I feel kind of bad for you a little bit
that you don't.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
Get to have this or see this, And I feel
kind of like, and it's not a meet thing and
you're not saying that necessarily, but that's also the vibe too,
that's what you are saying where it's actually not a
meet thing at this point. It's kind of you running
away and maybe you're doing us both the favor. I'm
going to go this way and find somebody else. Yeah,
like there's something like empowering I feel about.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
That, Like, yeah, I know, like it is empowering, but
it is. It's a fun life because I don't want
to delusion.
Speaker 5 (20:33):
Delusion moment, but no, I think yes, I think both
both truths can be operating at the same time.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
And these are your wife, by the way, It's just
like what I'm wanting, you know.
Speaker 5 (20:44):
Yeah, no, I love it, Like, yes, it's acknowledging someone
maybe still needing to work on some elements of themselves
and that's preventing it. But also like when it's when
it's supposed to work out, it does work work out,
and at the same time, atually three truths at the
same time, And I know there's a lot I need
(21:04):
to still work on.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
So I'm not I'm not negating.
Speaker 5 (21:07):
The fact that I am taking responsibility for my crazy
because I'm still you know, there's a lot of still.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
There's a lot of pop out there who don't know.
I think a lot of us have a different definition
of what accountability is.
Speaker 5 (21:23):
Unfortunately, I think I honestly think that social media is fault.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
I know, like I'm like, I mean, of course I.
Speaker 5 (21:29):
Can explain that more, but just in the fact that
I when I when I started dating after being in
a really, really long relationship and I was kind of
back out there for the first time and navigating it
and felt like a complete novice, I was going to
social media a lot to kind of get the cliff
notes version of how to do this correctly right dangerous
(21:51):
because all the clip clips are for clicks and clickbaits,
and a lot of advice comes without the context that
you need and comes without the accountability aspect, like, no,
you can't just take what this person is saying for
face value. All the time when it comes to the
(22:12):
type of man you want to find, and you know,
it's just there's a lot of without the context. I
(22:33):
just I really think the you part of it and
what you need to keep working on and the accountability part.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
And it's kind of avoid let me see what other
people are saying, Like, you know.
Speaker 5 (22:46):
I thank you for speaking to that also because I
think it dilutes our discernment a little bit too, because
we're like, so, I mean, I was so entertained by
the dating advice that I was getting through that through
whether it's podcasts, no shape podcast, but whether podcasts or
YouTube videos that were advising, you know, how to navigate
(23:07):
dating or yeah, social media clips. Just that sounds so
millennial is right now by saying social who says social
media clips?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, millennial here.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
Whatever, just own it. I'm just calling myself out. I
love you guys are so cute.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
I know.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Anyways, I'm now losing my chain of thought.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Yeah, social media clips, accountability.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
Yes, the discernment. You can't dilute your discernment.
Speaker 5 (23:47):
You know, you know when something is working out, you
know when someone is not.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You usually do if you sit with yourself.
Speaker 5 (23:54):
In silence and allow your your discernment, your intuition to
to talk. Yeah, and not the wanting, the desire, the
validation aspect of you, the desperate because when I started dating,
to be validated was my top priority.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Like what, yeah, baby, that is not healthy. You're going
to get into trouble.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
That's why when we talk about ghosting a lot, I'm
like kind of like a little bit of a pro
ghoster because this.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Is a hot this is like, by the.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
Way, it's a hot Oh yeah, we can take oh yeah,
we can get into the hot take. I'll show you
a little something before though, and you can fight me
on this as well. I think people need to get
over it. Ghosting is ghosting. You should read the room.
If they're not giving you the signals, that's on me, boo, Like,
I actually, I don't need I'll give myself closure.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
I don't need your closure. Like I'm out.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
You know, we have a hot takes jar. We have
a bunch of hot takes in here. So if you
want to pull give us so whatever it says, give
us your hot take about that.
Speaker 5 (24:54):
Texting your ex, I would say absolutely not. Oh wait wait, okay.
If you're in a new relationship. Absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
Oh no, if you're there's rules for everything.
Speaker 5 (25:08):
Right, Yeah, so texting your ex is a is a
no no if you're in a new if you're in
a single, if you're single.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
It depends on how it ended and why.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
For me, I'm like, text your X. Do it.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
It's always like pro texting your ex relationship.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
If you're in a new relationship and you're texting your ex,
you shouldn't be in this new relationship, like, I don't
know what, Yeah, I agree, but I think in general,
like if you're just like in the freeway and you
have the desire and you're in traffic and your desire
to text your X, I'm just like, text your X,
like if you For my theory is that if you
need to figure out that the stove is hot, I
can't tell you that the stove is hot. No look hot,
like go touch it, go and figure it out for yourself.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Okay, welcome to the astrology portion of Yes, I know you.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Said you're not really like, but that makes it even better.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
It does because you're in April area. Yes, you're speak
because I know that Taurus starts on I think the
twenty twentieth twentieth, so as in April aries, like do
you see the difference between like a March aries and
an April aries? Are you like you.
Speaker 4 (26:15):
Can also say no, not familiar, like those are also
fresh takes and hot takes and people don't know.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
I mean, I would like to think April is just great.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
They are great.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I feel like April.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
That's what I feel really, But do you.
Speaker 3 (26:33):
Think Yeah, I think it's because you're later. I'm also
like Pisces aries cusp. Oh yeah, so I'm a little
bit more pissy okay, okay, yeah, and so you're a
little bit more Taurus aries, which is like I feel
like Taurus they have their own chaotic mixed like I
feel like it's like a very quiet charge type of
(26:56):
like energy versus like April aries. It's like Mary Potent
is going to be like, yeah, see.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
I've never been I've never been that person.
Speaker 5 (27:08):
The fire more emerges or like the energy of burn
ship down comes to me wanting to make stuff happen,
like with my.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Life or in my career or I don't I mean,
how are you to date? Wait?
Speaker 1 (27:25):
What how are you to date?
Speaker 5 (27:28):
I mean I think I don't know.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I've even been on the other side. But I think
this version is nice to date. This this version is.
Speaker 4 (27:40):
I'm not because I'm a hot mess to date. That's
why I'm like, how are you to date?
Speaker 5 (27:46):
Anyway, we all okay, dating, let's just say before we
say how are you today?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
How are you day?
Speaker 5 (27:52):
Dating is really challenging, no matter where you are in
your healing journey. It is very challenging.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
It's very vulnerable, and it does bring out the crazy in.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
All of us. But you know that IKY like.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
Fun and light and flirty. But then I can I
think I'm very like avoidant upfront, not avoidant like bad,
but more so like I have boundaries up like until
because people think that I'm like, oh, hi, how are
you because of like my Internet stuff, But I'm really not, like.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
How do you navigate that? Then with dating like your
internet kind of persona versus.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
I think it's like allowing them to get to know
me and hopefully they have that also discernment that like
I'm a human yeah not just like a persona, and
that they don't have that. Then I'm just like, Okay.
Speaker 5 (28:43):
I think I don't know if you're with someone right
now right now, but like I think the right man
will or I think man both both okay, right, man
or a woman will really be able to see like
that other side of you and you'll know that's so fast,
Like you can kind of tell whether someone is because
(29:05):
of how you show up, Like for me, because we all.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Have Internet persona, we all do.
Speaker 5 (29:11):
Yeah, like when I'm when I'm not here, I'm the
makeups off, the hair, the sweats are on, like I'm
either on.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Or off in that way.
Speaker 5 (29:19):
Yeah, Like if you can show up like that, that's
kind of when you know that this person is allowing
you to be all sides of you, you know, but
like to me, like a huge sign of whether or
not you can kind of show that is how I'm
actually acting with them, Like am I still showing up
(29:40):
as the diva?
Speaker 2 (29:41):
Or am I am I being vulnerable and showing.
Speaker 5 (29:43):
Up in early on, just like without the makeup, without
my hair done, without you know, the whole bit. Like
that's how I know because I've been in situations where
I'm showing up.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
In the bit for the whole time.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
Entertaining them, and you're like, well, entertaining amazing. Of course,
that's very aries beautiful, that's very beautiful.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Are you a crier.
Speaker 2 (30:12):
Oh yes, of course are you?
Speaker 3 (30:14):
Are you?
Speaker 4 (30:16):
I love as are very They're like people don't think
of them as being super emotional, but they are very
sensy babies, which I love.
Speaker 5 (30:24):
Yes, yes, because because we have that I mean I
don't know that much, but yeah, like I think we
have that strength too.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
So which sign do you have a bone to pick
with with?
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I won't say a little.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Tiny you won't say I will not.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
Okay, tourists right now, me too a little bit.
Speaker 4 (30:51):
I feel like okay, as a virgo, as the reporter
of the zodiac signs, the critic, I think that tauruses
right now have to work on a lot of healing,
like they need to. There's something happening with a lot
of tauruses where I feel like they they're having trouble
(31:11):
with accountability, and they're having trouble with recognizing that it's
okay to be wrong and that people who love you
will point things out not because you're wrong, but because
they just want more from you. They just want to
love you harder. And when they say, hey, loosen up
that booty hall just a little bit, it's a little
(31:32):
bit take a breath, you mean, you know, it just
makes for easier insertion that.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Guys want more of your love and it doesn't have
to be yes, yeah, of course. And that concludes the
astrology portion of the podcast. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
For go my God.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
You're so much now an official member of the Super
Secret bestI Class.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
How do you please? What's your last statement that you'd
like to go out with?
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Divap thepeople? Dot com?
Speaker 1 (32:05):
That's right? Where can people follow you? Where can people
find your project?
Speaker 2 (32:09):
Yes? Okay, right?
Speaker 5 (32:11):
Gavin Turk is all my handles literally just Gavin Trek
and you spell it g A b I N t
U r e k and yeah dot com on TikTok,
on Instagram, all those things.
Speaker 4 (32:26):
YouTube, yep on YouTube amazing And where can people find you?
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Maya?
Speaker 3 (32:31):
You can find me at my in the Moment m
A y A in the Moment anywhere you scroll? What
about you? Curly?
Speaker 4 (32:37):
You can find me at the Curly v Show on Instagram, TikTok,
red note Twitter.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
It was like the thing that we were all. It's
on there.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Okay it's Chinese?
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Yeah, yeah, husband, so I can.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
And happy season four, Season four.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 3 (32:57):
And watching to another episode of The Supers. Your bestI
Club Podcast, We Will See You.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
Also, I Owe You is still my favorite on the
album Oh my.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Gosh, thank You.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
Please feel like we didn't.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
Even talk about There's so much there.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
To talk about.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
I'm gonna have to come back.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
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