Aging - The Real After 40

From aching knees to health screenings we never expected, this week’s TMI gets honest about what it means to age, especially as Black men and women navigate stress, surgery, and social pressure. Dr. Robert Singleton joins Tamika and Mysonne for an honest conversation on a range of topics, from colonoscopies to cholesterol. At the same time, the hosts unpack toxic brand loyalty, shipping scams, and global hypocrisy in real-time.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm Tamika D.

Speaker 2 (00:00):
Mallory and the ship Boy my son in general.

Speaker 1 (00:03):
We are your host of t M I.

Speaker 3 (00:05):
Tamika and my Son's Information, Truth, Motivation and inspiration.

Speaker 1 (00:10):
Name New Energy.

Speaker 4 (00:14):
What's going on? My Son Lennon and Blessed.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
Black and Holly Favored, Amika D Married. How are you
doing today?

Speaker 4 (00:21):
I am doing just fine. This is gonna be maybe
kind of like a holiday week for me. I am
in the Great State of Tennessee with the people, the Memphians,
I think is what they call them, and all I'm
going to do is eat, which is my problem in
life is food.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
I'm actually hungry right now. I haven't really ate much,
but yeah, Memphis does have good food.

Speaker 4 (00:47):
It's just too good. And that's all I want to
do is eat. So I thought that I I booked
my hotel. I came to check one a loved one
who fell ill, and I thought that I booked my
hotel right next to this restaurant that I loved. But

(01:08):
obviously this is a different hotel from the one that
I stayed at before. And so when I went to
go eat, because I was so excited. After I left
the hospital, I found out that I was twenty minutes
away from where the restaurant is located. And I was
literally devastated that I had to eat the hotel food,

(01:30):
which is basically the same menu. As we always say,
every single hotel just takes a carbon copy of the
menu of the other hotels and that's it. So I
was pretty devastated. But it won't catch me today. I
bet you that you're gonna get.

Speaker 2 (01:46):
Them twenty minutes. You won't hike going up there and
get that food, huh.

Speaker 4 (01:50):
And I gotta go there first. I have a whole plan,
a whole schedule. But anyway, I don't understand last night
while we were talking to the Public Advocate of New
York City on the telephone, and the two of you
were talking about what happened with the NIXT game. After
First of all, he called to talk to us about
some really serious stuff in New York City, in New

(02:13):
York City politics. But then somehow the conversation turned into
both of y'all needed life support and needed so he
had to put on his jersey, his his good luck chain,
something else, bring out the Bible and everything about these

(02:34):
nick games. I y'all understand why y'all put y'allselves do this.
Y'all already know what the Knicks do. Y'all already know.
So if they win, great, If they lose, it's okay
because that's what they do.

Speaker 2 (02:45):
Sometimes I think, is were you in New York? Like,
I'm not even gonna I'm never I had stopped being
a Knicks fan right because the heartache.

Speaker 3 (02:54):
Look, I stopped being a Knicks fan ever since step
ever since Mello left. I'm like, you know what y'all got,
mellows down teen, I'm not with the Knicks, but when
you were New Yorker, you're a Nick at heart. So
watching them play, watching Jalen Bronson and watching how he plays,
like he plays the game the way I was taught
to play. He has he has that fire. He's brought

(03:17):
something back to the garden. So since my team, who was,
you know, the Dallas Mavericks, Kyrie's not playing all this,
I just started watching the Knicks, and I just started
growing like, oh here we go again. I'm back into
this Knicks frenzy. So watching them play and watching it
and then seeing that it's like they gotta be down
twenty something for them to come back and play, and
it's just like.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's it's it's heartbreaking. It's really heartbreaking.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
Just watch them and you from New York and you
see the energy, like when you're watching the news and
you see you walk downtown, like during my birthday, the
whole city was full of everybody going to the Nick game.
The whole city was just everybody was outside and that energy.
If you just from New York, you love to see
that energy. So that's what it is. They grabbed me
back with the energy. I'm feeling it. I like the

(04:03):
chemistry of the team, but when they start losing or
they lose games, like they lost a game up by
fifteen with two minutes left in the game, and how the.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Fuck does that happen? Like it it doesn't make sense,
but it makes sense for the Knicks, and we just
got to deal with it as being New Yorkers. Yes
I don't.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
I'm like, what is the problem? Y'all already know what happens.
That's why I can't be invested in because I already know.
First of all, you know, I'm not really that into sports,
although I do. I used to go to the Nick
game almost every game, so I completely understand the love
that we have for the team for the New York culture,
for you know, the whole thing. Absolutely. However, I never

(04:43):
once we decided to give up the Knicks season tickets.
We didn't pick up the Brooklyn Nets because it's too
much stress, Like you physically get stressed out, people screaming
and throwing things. I'm like, what in the world y'all
love it? So hey?

Speaker 3 (05:01):
I mean, I just love the sport and I love
when you see teams play hard. You know, this year,
New York actually has a team that has the capabilities
to win. If you know, if everybody's playing the way
they're supposed to, they actually can win.

Speaker 2 (05:15):
So you know, we just got to see what happens. Man.

Speaker 4 (05:18):
Well I'm here for it. But lord bless you. I
was listening to two of you, like I can't even
jump in to say, well, yeah, I felt because y'all
was talking about life support machines. I mean, it was sky.
I'm like, Jemia is a Nick fan to the blood,
Like he is literally fanatic.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
It's like like it's not just a fan, he's a fanatic.

Speaker 4 (05:45):
But anyway, that brings me to my thought of the day.
My thought of the day is really buried in a
question I want to know why we as a people
do not listen to other people's experiences with corporations and

(06:07):
allow it to be a warning, like a telltale sign
that we should start to step away, back up, don't
go into these places. These places. Now, someone told me
that it is possible that every that you think people
know and they don't know. So just because an incident happened,

(06:32):
it doesn't mean that everyone else knows about it. But
I know people who will say, well, that didn't happen
to me in that place, that restaurant, that airline, that whatever,
and so therefore, since it didn't happen to me, I
don't see it as being, you know, so much of
a problem, and I'm still gonna go over there, or

(06:53):
I'm still going to be a part of it. I
think the part of the issue is that people don't
necessarily value the way in which our society in terms
of corporations, like how they treat some black folks, And
I think that we feel like, as long as it

(07:13):
doesn't happen to us, it's just that person, it's just
those people they did something. So the reason why I'm
bringing this up is because I've been told that a
number of waffle house employees. It started in Georgia, but
it is now spreading to different places across the country.
They are on strike and the reason why they're on

(07:38):
strike is because they say it's unsafe. The conditions are
not again safe for employees. There have been issues where
police have been called to deal with incidents and it
takes twenty minutes or more for the police officers to
show up. They say that the conditions that there were

(08:00):
working in our hazardous. They're mistreated, and therefore these people
are now striking and it's been going on for a while.
And in fact, I want to read because they're working
with a labor union, which is the Union of Southern
Service Workers. So the Union of Southern Service Workers have

(08:20):
come together with these people, these employees, which are mainly
of course black and brown folks, and they are supporting
them in their strike against waffle House. Now, we told
folks a long time ago in the I think spring
of twenty eighteen, Shakisha Clemens was abused in a waffle

(08:44):
house in Sarahland, Alabama, because a white employee attempted to
force her to pay for plastic spoon and fork right
and whatever plastic utensils this particular employee asked her to pay.
Shaqisha says, what are you talking about? You know, I

(09:07):
don't want the silverware. I want plastic, which I do
all the time. And there is no place ever, not
even in the places where I feel kind of like
they were a little rude. And never ever in the
history of ever have I been asked to pay for
plastic silverware if I did not want to, or plastic

(09:29):
utensils if I did not want to use the silverware
on the table. This employee starts telling her it's x
y Z since per piece. Da da da da da.
They get into it. The next thing you know, the
woman calls the police on Shakisha Clements and when the
police get there, they derobe, abuse, attack, humiliate, and again

(09:54):
abuse this woman. Now you all know this story because
every now and then we have to bring it up.
We have to talk about it in order for people
to be reminded of the sincerity, the severity of the
severity of what took place that day to Shakisha Clemens,
which she still has not all the way recovered from.

(10:14):
And they said that she was resistant arrest and then
came back arrested her and charged her Okay, this is
how severe this situation was. We told people, let's just
shut waffle House down because first of all, it is
not treating and this was all the stuff that we said,

(10:35):
they are not treating their employees properly. When we went
to waffle House to get a statement from them and
to get them to say that what took place in
that restaurant was wrong, because first of all, they do
not charge We know now the policy that they do
not charge for plastic utensils, So that's number one. Number two,
they knew that what took place in that restaurant their

(10:59):
employee was the cause of how Shakisha Clements ended up
being abused by sarah Land police. They knew that they
understood the connection, but they refuse to speak against the police.
They refused to say anything that would make them even
just have some sympathy and compassion towards this young woman
for what she went through. I'm not even talking about

(11:21):
a money grab. I'm talking about just people saying you
could at least say we're sorry that this happened. They
were stone cold. No, I'm not talking about oh they
could say, oh, she just wanted some money from us,
or people out here because you know how we do.
Even though she would have been justly due, the type
of settlement from waffle House that could have that would

(11:44):
have uh would have provided for her family for a
long time. Why because her children which she now has
three children, and her daughter was in the mix of
this and saw this experience of her mother's body exposed
and she's down on the floor with full white police
officers on top of her body and smashing her head

(12:05):
down to the ground of a waffle house restaurant, a nasty, filthy,
dirty waffle house restaurant. She was humiliated and everything else
you could think of. And her oldest daughter knows it
because she lived through it, and now her other two
children would have to experience it. So y'all will say
money grab, I'm saying she was due. And I think

(12:25):
whatever the settlement ended up being, it was so small
that Ben Crump, her attorney at the time, was just like,
take your resources and go. You know, they did all
they could. They fought for years and years and years
and years. The local attorneys, the national attorneys, the organizations
that was out there, and Takisha Clements was never ever, ever,

(12:46):
ever truly made good. There was no justice for her.

Speaker 1 (12:49):
So what I just.

Speaker 4 (12:50):
Asked myself is, as a thought of the day, why
in the world would people not say, Okay, we already
know from going in waffle that this place is basically
a shithole country. Like, if you want to name something shithold,
it would be the waffle House.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
Right.

Speaker 4 (13:09):
They mistreat their employees. They you know, they don't in
any way act like they're trying to provide a safe
environment for employees and or the customers that are coming there.
The food is no good, it is unhealthy, it's greasy,
it is dirty, everything else you could think of, and
they have the audacity to abuse this young woman who

(13:32):
was doing absolutely nothing. I don't understand with us why
waffle house just becomes bammed off the list. That's a
place we're not going. It's not like the all the
employees that are working there, they're making so much money
that it's going to interrupt their lives. That's actually not
the case. And now you see the employees are striking
because they are saying, we don't feel safe, We're not

(13:55):
in an environment that is healthy for us. So I
just don't understand why we didn't end waffle house some
time ago. So that because it just felt like Shaqisha
Clements wasn't a good enough victim for us to say
this is the end of my support for waffle house.

Speaker 3 (14:15):
Well, that's pretty much what it is. People don't identify
with certain individuals, right. It's certain they see they well,
that's not my experience, like you said, and and they
do that to our own detriment, right when we when
we don't look at it's like they says, a wise
man learns from somebody else's mistakes. A smart man learns
from his own. So we don't deal with wisdom. We

(14:36):
want to go through it ourselves, or we want to
see what our experience is. And by the time is
your experience, it might be way worse. You know, you
might lose your life inside of a waffle house, you know,
because you know, we didn't look at the signs, we
didn't take the advice, We didn't look and say, damn,
that was just wrong. So in order for us to
make things right, we have to sacrifice. And a lot
of people don't want to sacrifice. I've heard people say, well,

(14:57):
not my wiffle house. My wiffle house is different. I
go to my wiffele any time in the morning. It's convenient.
It's killing you. It's all the things like we have
embraced our own detriment, our own demands. We embrace everything
we want to eat the food that's killing us. We're
gonna make sure we go to McDonald's. We're gonna make
sure we go to every fast food restaurant we can,
and we're gonna keep eating the same food. We're gonna

(15:18):
eat from the places that don't respect us. We're gonna
do the ship to violate us. It's like it's some
people that's still going to Target. Shout out to Jamaal Bryant.
I just watched the video where they were praying outside
of the Target continuing the boycott.

Speaker 2 (15:31):
You know, we're.

Speaker 3 (15:31):
Still on Target with the boycott. And that's what it's
going to take in this moment. It's gonna take us
to be on the same page, to look at situations
and say, you know, it's not nothing. It's worth the disrespect. Right,
it's nothing that I don't need to spend my money
with people who don't respect me. I do not need
to go to stores where people don't don't see the

(15:53):
the value of black people inside their stores. Right, So
and we have to get to that stage, you know,
so when you talk about what's going on in the
waffle house, yeah, we've been telling people, but all the time,
you know, people have to see on their own. And
hopefully this situation alone, coupled with what happened to Shakeisha Klemens,
it actually brings people to awareness about you know what,

(16:15):
First of all, Waiffle House ain't even good for us now,
they ain't good to us, right, So when we know
they're not good for us and good to us, then
we don't need them at all. So hopefully, you know this,
this garners the level of attention, and it gets attraction
to people start saying I don't need waffle House. And
then what it would do is not only make waffle
House step up us where they treat us, right, then

(16:35):
maybe they start serving us some food that's actually healthy. Right,
we should really, like, we should be boycotting all of
these restaurants because this shit is literally killing us.

Speaker 4 (16:44):
You know, I'm not gonna sit here and say all
of them because I know that after a night where
I may come from hanging out or whatever, a good
greasy cheese burger might be just what I need to
get me through the night, not killing you them up

(17:05):
one hundred percent, right, And so because I want to
not be hypocritical number one and two also to make
sure that I'm acknowledging the needs of the people. So
that's why when folks say boycott walmart't target Amazon, did
that and all those things, I know that that's not
realistic because folks are going to be left feeling like

(17:28):
they have no options for where they can go. So
this is why we try to zero in on a
particular thing. You know, the Montgomery bus boycott was the
bus boycott. They focused on one thing and they shut
the system down, and then those people had to come back,
the leadership of the bus system had to come back

(17:50):
and say, okay, let's renegotiate the terms. And it is
the same in this particular moment where target these people.
Now when you talk about Pastor Jamal Bryant and Pastor
Carrie Brian and they were outside of a target in Georgia,
but there were people in fifty locations around the country

(18:11):
outside of targets, praying down saying that I love that.
Carrie Bryant, her particular prayer was that we want to
cast out racism and oppression and division and all those
things that are keeping our country separated and divided, but
also things that are suppressing us and suppressing our rights.

(18:32):
And I'm just saying that Shakeisha Clemens, for me, became
our little sister because we saw ourselves in her immediately
when I saw her down in that ground. And I know,
I know how much for me, not just being a germaphobe,
but just the lack of respect in general, the way

(18:55):
these men seem like they were just getting off on
having this black woman slammed down to the ground over
some plastic utensils and some words that went back and forth.
The police were not able to come into. That's because
they don't have respect for people that are inside the
waffle house. They don't give a damn. They already don't

(19:15):
care nothing about us when we on the street. We
could be in a rich Carlton and if they want to,
they'll come in with some of that behavior. But there
is a company standard where the rich Carlton might have
the type of posture that if something happens with an employee,
with an employee and a resident, you know, a hotel guest,

(19:36):
you know, when you approach, let's try to de escalate
because they don't want the environment to turn chaotic, for
people to feel unsafe and to feel like when you're
if a police officer has to come in here, this
is the way. How far it escalates versus being de escalated.
That's a company policy that the company policy of waffle

(19:56):
House is all all bets are off, just come in,
throw people down, do whatever you want. Because some white
woman called from behind the desk to say I don't
even know what she said, which was probably a lie
because we've watched all the video tapes, that is outrageous
to me. The company was responsible, but we as black people,
should have said you won't catch meat and another waffle house.

(20:17):
And the sad part about it is that celebrities who
knew about the situation continue to go into waffle House
and was posting about it as if it was cool.
We have a problem saying we're going to stand together
on something where we see that there's clearly clearly been
an abusive power mistreatment of our people and we're going

(20:40):
to actually do something about this. That is something that
we have to work on because we cannot call on
or demand respect from anybody if we do not ensure
that we respect ourselves enough to see someone like Shakisha
Clements as being our own, our own dear sistant. So
I just pray that people now, maybe now, Shakisha Clemens

(21:03):
was not the ideal victim for some of y'all. She
was for us, but for some of y'all, y'all didn't
see her as being an ideal abused individual within the
waffle House space. Well, maybe now that the employees around
the country and particularly in Georgia are saying that they
are also unsafe, and now they are uniting with a union,

(21:27):
the Union for Southern Service Workers, perhaps at this point
you will see these workers as being important enough for
you to say, I'm staying away from waffle House and
I will not cross the picket line and go into
a business that I know, for too many years has
not respected our people and they also don't respect our health.

Speaker 3 (21:49):
Well, that's the hope we have. Hopefully, you know, this
is this is the proper you know time, and like
I said, couple what happened to Shakisha Clemens. If you
look at both these things, hopefully people will wake up
and realize that, you know, waffle House, ain't it all right?

Speaker 4 (22:05):
So let's go on to the TMI. So Little Mo
released the video where she's talking about how she's paying
for expedited shipping and finding out that, you know a
lot of companies are not even sending the they don't
even please They just take the expedite shipping and probably
still send it regular shipping or they expedited when they

(22:28):
get around to it. So you ask for exodited shipping today,
thinking that maybe within a day or two your product
is at least going to go out to you and
you'll receive it in a reasonable time. But most of
a lot of times, a lot of times these companies
will say, well, you know, it'll take them five, six,
seven days to get to the point that they expedite shipping.

(22:51):
And she was saying that it's a problem because you know,
she's noticing that this is happening with many different companies,
and I was just thinking, for the team my some
people might say, well, hey, you know they're getting to
it when they can get to it, give them a break,
right like that, We the people who expect good customer service,

(23:13):
we're doing too much. But there are other people who
will understand where I'm coming from in this, and to
say that whether it be, and I definitely have this
issue with many small businesses and black businesses, but in general,
a lot of businesses just don't do business.

Speaker 1 (23:33):
They do.

Speaker 4 (23:35):
My business is my side hobby. My business is not
the main thing that I know. I need to be
on top of getting my products and services out responding
to emails, questions, inquiries. I have at least four companies
that I promise I'm going to put them online in

(23:57):
the next couple of days because I've had to email
these companies back and forth, back and forth, and no
answer or no resolution to what I'm asking for. All
the things are out of the stores. You go to
the stores, you can hardly find anything. So now we've
been forced to do online shopping and with our money.
People just treat you any kind of way. But I'm

(24:19):
telling you that there are people out there who'll listen
a little more. Who is now saying, I can't take
it anymore. I'm spending money and not getting the service.
People like me who complain about the customer service, and
they will say we are the ones that are doing
too much. So we open up the floor for anybody
else to let us know, do you think we're doing
too much, or should we have a standard even for

(24:41):
small businesses that says, if you take our money, we
expect the product to be right, the quality to be right,
the picture and the quality to be the same. Okay,
hello that if we need to return it, or we
have an issue and we email you, we want you
to get back to us. Is are we being too
much or or should there be a standard for any

(25:02):
kind of business that is operated or should we all
just sit back and say, oh, well it's a small business,
or you know, we should just kind of allow things
to be loose with our money because hey, we're all
just trying to figure it out.

Speaker 3 (25:15):
I think I think people should expect their products to
be properly delivered in the time, in the fashion that
is supposed to be delivered. If you paid for overnight,
your product should get to you overnight. If you pay
for a product, it should look like the product that
you paid for. It shouldn't be like the t Move
version of every that's like to go and look Joe

(25:36):
T Move you see some shouldn't te Mo and you
be watching, Oh this is fire, It's only twenty dollars.
Put my little twenty dollars and you get a shirt
and the shirt beat like somebody odd it on.

Speaker 2 (25:47):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (25:48):
I ordered a I forgot what it was.

Speaker 2 (25:52):
It was.

Speaker 3 (25:52):
Oh, it was a thing that looked like it was
a big cassette tape.

Speaker 2 (25:58):
And it was like a thing that was to stand
in the living room. And I ordered it.

Speaker 3 (26:02):
They sent me a little it was like a pillowcase
with some pham shit. It didn't look nothing like what
I ordered. I was like, Oh, I thought, I'm gonna
have me a little dope thing for my living room.
Sit was trash, so like, nobody should be spending any minutes.

Speaker 4 (26:16):
You're crazy. You ordered stuff from pay places you already No, I.

Speaker 3 (26:23):
Didn't know TIMO was that bad.

Speaker 4 (26:27):
If it's twenty dollars and it looks good, it looks
too good to be true. It's too good to be true.

Speaker 3 (26:33):
I ordered two more things from off a team, none
of TEAMUL but I think Amazon some shit.

Speaker 2 (26:38):
I ordered two things that never even came, and I'm like,
where are that it was? One of them was a.

Speaker 3 (26:43):
Drive that's supposed to hold a bunch of information. Because
I got overloaded on my phone and on my computer.
Something I want to put my shit in my drive
I ordered this shit two months ago. I ain't never
seen it yet. I ordered a new thing for my phone.
They had to sit there, look crazy that it turns
around the phone could sit inside it on its out
your car and and like grips on the thing. Oh
this shit is dope because I need that to adjust,

(27:05):
like when I'm doing my videos in my car.

Speaker 5 (27:06):
It still ain't come.

Speaker 3 (27:07):
It's like I just spend fifty twenty thirty all types
of douff. They done got over with me. I know
it's about like good three four hundred dollars worth of
my money that's in these companies that never sent me
the product, and i'd be so I'll be forgetting I'm
telling it, and I'll be forgetting that I did.

Speaker 2 (27:22):
I'm like, I know I ordered this, Why the fuck
the shit ain't come? Where is it at?

Speaker 3 (27:25):
And then I've been trying to look back for it
and I can't find it. But in my mind, I
know I paid for stuff. So yes, this it is
a big problem. These people are running scams. They're either
selling you some shit that they don't have that they
give you a version of it, and then it's the
Plato version that the kids made and they send it
to you, or they telling you you're paying for extra shipping,

(27:46):
and the shit is coming the same day that it
would come if it was regular shipping. So yes, man,
we gotta do better. We better, We have to. We
have to do better as consumers in demand. Let every
time shit like that happens, we have to call it out.
We got to call out the place that happens too,
because if we just taking the air and we quiet
about it, other people don't know. And by the time

(28:07):
they don't jerk, they don't made a million dollars just
jerking all of us.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
Because that's how they that's how they do it.

Speaker 3 (28:13):
They do it penny by penny right because you like,
it's only twenty dollars, I ain't gonna say nothing. But
if you get one thousand niggas to send you twenty
dollars and they all get jerked out of it, this
is how they get over because you think it's a
little bit of money. They say, oh, it's only a
little bit of money, and the average person is not
gonna go to consumer fairs and say you're my twenty
dollars did get here, So we all got every time
we taking those losses we got to complain.

Speaker 4 (28:36):
Because we don't accountable. Yeah, I ordered stuff and it
doesn't come. And then but see me, I'm starting to write,
I got a little log. I write the name down.
That's what I'm talking about. The school companies. It's on
my list. In fact, one of them did email me
back this morning and it's And by the way, the
stuff is not cheap. Okay, I'm just to be clear.

(28:58):
I know not to buy things for twenty because I
already know what's going to happen, but these things are
not cheap. I have a four hundred dollars order of
something of some stuff that I am expecting to come
from a particular place, and these people have not responded
to me about why. It's now over a month and
I haven't received it. Like this is ridiculous. And then

(29:18):
it makes you say, well, I'm not going to buy
these things online. But then the reality is that when
you go to the stores you can't even find certain things.
So I'm just like, no, we're going to have to
have a process for exposing brands, companies and whatever else
that are you know, are are scamming our people, because no,

(29:40):
it's just too much, like don't get the money for
me and then go try to make the product. No, sir,
that's that wasn't the deal that we made when I
clicked purchase. So I'll know what y'all think, all right,
So we've got a friend. That's back to the TMI show.
I think the first time doctor Singleton was on with us,

(30:01):
we were street politicians, but we have rebranded for those
of you who are out there listening. Street Politicians was
our baby that we started a long time ago. But
we continue and we're not just here for longevity, but
we're actually better.

Speaker 1 (30:18):
So you think we better, mister.

Speaker 2 (30:19):
Lennon, I think we always been better.

Speaker 1 (30:22):
We were better, we're better better.

Speaker 4 (30:24):
But the best of us is doctor Robert Singleton, the second.
He is a board certified anesthesiologist practicing just outside of Chicago, Illinois.
A proud Howard University College of Medicine graduate, doctor, Singleton
brings nearly a decade of experience in general anesthesia across

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multiple specialties including surgery, obstetrics, gynecology, and eurology.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
And there's a whole bunch of other.

Speaker 4 (30:54):
Things that this black man, this black doctor is an
expert at. And I think one of the reasons why
we wanted you to come on today, doctor Singleton, is
to talk about agent because as we're getting older, we
see different things. And you are our the TMI show
doctor in residence.

Speaker 2 (31:13):
Yes, because we old as we old.

Speaker 1 (31:17):
We're happy to have you back with us. Thank you for.

Speaker 5 (31:19):
Joining, thank you for having me back. I appreciate it.

Speaker 4 (31:22):
So we the last several weeks we noticed, but it's
been going on for longer than that for me that
you know, when we come on the show or when
we're just talking to folks, especially people over forty. My
son just celebrated a birthday, which he doesn't seem to
be telling many people how old he is, but he's
definitely over forty and he's definitely older than me.

Speaker 1 (31:44):
And I'm about to turn forty.

Speaker 4 (31:46):
Five, so you know, so that oh now, but we
noticed that we find ourselves saying, oh my god, this hurts,
this is different, this feels different.

Speaker 1 (31:58):
What is that thought? What is this muscle?

Speaker 4 (32:01):
Why can't I sleep properly? All these things are happening,
and it occurred to us that aging is.

Speaker 1 (32:09):
A real thing that no one prepares you for.

Speaker 4 (32:13):
You know, we barely have the right conversations about aging
and what can help you not so much slow down
the process, because certainly life is moving quickly and we
age quickly, but you can at least try to maintain
yourself and have certain practices and certain regimens that help
to keep you here longer and stronger. And so that's

(32:36):
what we wanted to talk about today, is just your
experience as you look at your clients or your patients
with aging, and especially for black men, what are some
of the things that we need to be looking out
for in order for them to stay around a little
bit longer than the life expectancy.

Speaker 6 (32:58):
Most definitely, I think that, Well, I'm glad that you
guys are talking about aging. I just joined the forty
club as well. I turned forty in April, and it's
good that we are talking about aging amongst each other,
amongst our friends. But I feel like the most important
thing is who we're talking to, and that is our

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primary care doctors. It's important to establish a primary care
physician that we can go to to get the appropriate
screenings based on our age, based on our family history,
so that we can not only enjoy a long lifespan,
but have a good quality of life as well. So

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establishing primary care is so important for so many reasons.

Speaker 3 (33:46):
Yet it really is I just got my physical this year.
You know, I had a clean bill of health. What
screenings after about forty five should especially black men be
intentional about focusing on because you know, we noticed after
that a lot of us can to be all these
things that we don't we don't pay attention to because

(34:08):
we really don't like to go to the doctor. I
hate going to the doctor. I hate the anxiety of
again anxiety. I was on a train, I was going
to an event and I'm one of my friends. He
was going to his corner fees what is his girl?
And he was just nervous. He was like, I'm on
my way through my corner speed and I had that feeling.
I know that feeling a lot of black men go
through it. So what should we be focusing on? What

(34:29):
are the tests we should be focusing on? How often
should we be doing it?

Speaker 2 (34:33):
Like?

Speaker 6 (34:35):
Yeah, so, I mean the test that we need, the
screening tests that we need depend on a lot of
different factors. I just posted yesterday or the Biden Biden's
President Biden's team just shared yesterday that he's been diagnosed
with prostate cancer.

Speaker 5 (34:52):
And I had a lot of people asking.

Speaker 6 (34:53):
Me, at what age should I be getting my prostay checked?
At what age should I be having my PSA levels checked?
And it really bears for the average person. For the
average man, you should start the screening process at age fifty,
but for us, as black men, it's earlier than that.
Black men need to have their prostate screening starting at

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age forty five. If you have a first degree relative,
meaning a father or a brother, who was diagnosed with
prostate cancer before the age of sixty five, then you
need to have a screening done sooner than that. So
there's so many different variables, and also the screening guidelines
changed with time. There was a time where colonoscopies were

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not recommended until you turn fifty.

Speaker 5 (35:39):
That changed a few years ago to forty five.

Speaker 6 (35:42):
And for some people they may need a colonoscopy at
an even younger age. And so really it's important to
have a primary care doctor who can guide you and
who can help you with knowing what screenings to take,
what immunizations to take, and so having that primary care
doctor is important for that reason.

Speaker 3 (36:04):
Besides that would other things are black men more susceptible
to than everyone else?

Speaker 6 (36:12):
You know, we Black people, we are more susceptible to
things like diabetes, high blood pressure, and even you know,
like prosted cancer, many types of cancers black men and
black women, a lot of times black women. When you
look at breast cancer, black women are being diagnosed at

(36:33):
later stages, whereas had they been UH screened and diagnosed
at earlier stages, the treatments and the outcomes are better.
So there are a lot of discrepancies between how the
average American bears with different health issues compared to Blacks.

(36:54):
And that's something that you know, we have to educate
our communities about the importance of taking control of our
health because we really do have.

Speaker 5 (37:04):
A lot more control over our health than we realize.

Speaker 4 (37:08):
Control meaning what we eat, the amount of rest we're
getting or not, and things. What else would you say
are some of the controlling factors.

Speaker 6 (37:19):
Yeah, so the big ones like you mentioned, or diet, exercise.

Speaker 5 (37:25):
It's so important to not smoke.

Speaker 6 (37:27):
As an anesthesia doctor, I see so many patients, probably
tend to twenty patients every day. And what's remarkable is
that people age differently. Forty does not look the same
on everybody, sixty does not look the same on everybody,
and a lot of the difference that you see is

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people's lifestyle habits.

Speaker 5 (37:50):
Alcohol, smoking, your diet.

Speaker 6 (37:54):
Those all play a factor into not only how you
look physically, but what diseases you develop.

Speaker 1 (38:00):
Hmmm, wow, alcohols and smoking.

Speaker 4 (38:04):
I'm like, people still smoke cigarettes, which is very interesting
to me because it's just felt like cigarettes fell off
the mat. But I still see a lot of people
who smoked cigarettes and they're not giving it up, and
that's just it doesn't matter what you say to them,
They're just not going to give up the cigarettes.

Speaker 5 (38:22):
It's very, very addictive.

Speaker 6 (38:24):
And now you see younger people, they kind of have
transition from looking from smoking cigarettes to now vaping, and
vaping still has a lot of similar health problems as
far as uh and issues that we haven't even researched
because it hasn't been around as long as cigarette smoking has.

Speaker 5 (38:44):
So we're kind of trading one bad habit for another.

Speaker 6 (38:49):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
So does it have nicotine?

Speaker 5 (38:51):
No, So I am vaping. You can vape different ways.

Speaker 6 (38:57):
I think that some forms of a thing do some don't,
but I believe that some of it. Sometimes vaping can
involve nicotine. It can be addictive.

Speaker 4 (39:09):
Oh, I didn't know vapin was addictive. I thought it
was kind of like, you know, just I don't know.

Speaker 1 (39:16):
I don't vape.

Speaker 3 (39:17):
My brother was smoking hookah all day every day, so
it had to be some level of addiction to like
I would just walking like, Bro, you're smoking hookah again,
like all day?

Speaker 2 (39:27):
Wow, all day?

Speaker 1 (39:28):
That's interesting And.

Speaker 2 (39:29):
A lot of times and he actually had like a siege.

Speaker 3 (39:32):
He was getting sieges right a couple of times based
on him smoking hookah. And he made a conscious decision
to stop doing it on his own. So probably for
like the last six months he hasn't done it, but
I've seen that happened.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
To him a lot.

Speaker 4 (39:46):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (39:46):
Is smoking weed? Is it healthy and not healthy? Is
it wearing? Tearing on your body?

Speaker 2 (39:54):
Like? Because a lot of weeding is good for me,
So I just want to know.

Speaker 5 (39:58):
Yeah, So I council.

Speaker 6 (40:00):
I handle marijuana a little bit differently because unlike cigarette smoking,
marijuana does have a lot of medicinal uses. There are
people with different health issues who do benefit from smoking marijuana.
So I'm not as hard on people for smoking marijuana.
But as with everything, it's all about risk and benefits.

(40:22):
There are some people who benefit, but there are some
studies that are coming out that are showing that marijuana
is not harmless, that there are some long term consequences
of marijuana smoke, changes in the brain, changes and the
lungs that happen over time. And so whenever you decide

(40:42):
whether or not to smoke in marijuana, it really has
to be one that's well thought out.

Speaker 4 (40:49):
Yeah, now that they put the graba and they put
things in it, which I think takes away from the purity,
not to mention where it's being grown, the purity of
that and the spray and all of that other stuff.
So now people are like, well, I'm just gonna use edibles,
and so it's kind of like we keep on moving

(41:10):
the needle, but then every time you turn around something
is wrong with everything. Go ahead, you can respond to
that and then go ahead.

Speaker 5 (41:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (41:19):
I mean, you know, even using edibles, there's different issues
that can develop in your gastro intestinal track, your stomach,
and a lot of these things were just starting to
learn about because fifty years ago were people using edibles.
Where they're using where they're vaping, So we're still learning
a lot about the long term effects of doing these things.

Speaker 4 (41:42):
Row I every day I turned my telephone on you
open up Instagram on Facebook and they say some new
thing listerine now is on the list of caught cancer
causing products.

Speaker 1 (41:58):
How do you live?

Speaker 4 (41:59):
Right, you're the doctors, So like, how are you surviving
in the world?

Speaker 1 (42:03):
If everything causes cancer?

Speaker 4 (42:06):
The PAN, if the PAN is great, then it is
releasing some kind of toxins. The popcorn they told me,
I can't pop popcorn in my home no more anymore,
because that's how does the doctor live?

Speaker 6 (42:23):
You know, I think that a lot of these studies
you have to look at the credibility of them, and
I think a lot of times people post these things
just for clicks, just for attention, But whenever you look
at the actual science, the research, the data behind these studies,
a lot of that is lacking. Some of the most

(42:46):
basic things are really what's important to us staying healthy,
things like diet, exercise, not smoking, and as far as
you know, what kind of popcorn and what kind of
you know, are you drinking out.

Speaker 5 (42:59):
Of plastic water bottles versus metal?

Speaker 6 (43:01):
Right?

Speaker 5 (43:01):
You know, those things are kind of minutia, you think,
so I.

Speaker 6 (43:06):
Believe so people have been you know, eating the same
popcorn and drinking out of the same water bottles. Do
is there something there? I think that there is. I
think that, you know, microplastics should be a concern. I
think that a lot of these are concerns. But you
really can drive yourself crazy if you think about your

(43:27):
toothpaste and your mouth washed, and you know, think about
all the possible things that are causing cancer or that
are have an effect in your body. But if you
focus on the most important things, you know, uh, that
is what is going to make sure that you have
not only a longer life, but that you have a
good quality of life. So it really is important to

(43:47):
just focus on the basics.

Speaker 1 (43:49):
Are you vegan?

Speaker 6 (43:53):
I was vegan in medical school for about like sixteen months,
but no, I proudly meat.

Speaker 4 (44:01):
See people make it something like eating meat. Well, we
have a friend who cut you know, she was on
her health journey and she cut beef and of course pork.
I think she's still off pork, but she cut beef
out of her diet and then she started having health

(44:21):
challenges and the doctor told her that she's not one
of those people who should stop eating beef because of
the iron or the something that's in it. Is do
you believe that you agree with that that for some
people that's the case.

Speaker 2 (44:36):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (44:36):
I mean, whenever you adopt a vegan lifestyle, you have
to be very careful because there are a lot of
essential vitamins, essential nutrients that are and meat products and
you know, beef especially, it has a lot of iron
in it, and so sometimes cutting it out of your
diet if you're already prone to anemia, if you already

(44:57):
have you know, for women, very heavy periods, you might
be missing that iron out of your diet if you're
not careful to replace it or to substitute other things
in your diet to make sure you have enough iron.
Vegans have sometimes issues with getting enough protein, and so
if you're not smart about how you are approaching the

(45:20):
vegan lifestyle, you can miss out on a lot of nutrients.

Speaker 3 (45:24):
Yeah, that sounds well right as far as when it
comes to meat, doesn't it clog a lot of your uteries?

Speaker 6 (45:33):
So what's important is the amount of cholesterol in mates.
And right now on my diet, I do eat beef,
but I try to limit the amount of beef that
I have and I focus more on lean chicken, breast,
lean turkey to try to keep my cholesterol low and

(45:55):
What also helps with cholesterol is increasing your fiber intake.
So it's important to have plenty of green leafy vegetables
in your diet to also lower cholesterol.

Speaker 4 (46:06):
But when you cook the vegetables, we've been told that
it sort of extracts the benefits of it when you
cook it. So they're saying raw, I'm not getting ready
to eat rawstring beans. Then some people say salad has
no nutritional value. So I try to find, like my salad.
Let me tell you what my salad is. I eat

(46:26):
the same salad every week. I have spinach and mixed greens,
which includes kale. No excuse me, I have kale and
then mixed greens which include spinach and some other things.
I have kidney beans, red onions, egg whites, feta, cheese, corn.

Speaker 1 (46:51):
Don't kill me on the corn.

Speaker 4 (46:52):
I just gotta have some taste and tarry and plum tomatoes.
So that's my and grilled chicken. That's salad.

Speaker 1 (47:01):
So am I doing good?

Speaker 5 (47:03):
You're doing good? That's very healthy. I mean spinach, that's
your green leafy vegetables.

Speaker 6 (47:08):
You have the chicken in there for protein, and the
protein that you add kind of helps to keep you full.
Throughout the day. It's a colorful salad. You have eggs,
different color vegetables. That is a healthy lunch.

Speaker 1 (47:23):
What would you add to it?

Speaker 5 (47:25):
What would I add to it?

Speaker 2 (47:28):
No?

Speaker 5 (47:28):
Do you have dressing on your salad?

Speaker 1 (47:31):
Yeah? I'm a creamy Italian person?

Speaker 6 (47:36):
Okay, okay, yeah, some some dressings have a lot of calories.
And when you look at the serving sizes of the dressing,
it'll be like one hundred calories and just one tablespoon.
And you know how many tablespoons are we putting on
our salad. Sometimes the added toppings like bacon, eggs, the meats, those.

Speaker 5 (47:57):
Can really add up.

Speaker 6 (48:00):
And sometimes salads can have more calories and more fat
than had you had a cheeseburger. So it's important to
look at not only the salads, but the toppings that
are on top of it as well.

Speaker 1 (48:12):
You go, and then I got my last question, but
go ahead, you know what this is my thing?

Speaker 4 (48:15):
Here?

Speaker 2 (48:15):
Is ozimpic healthy for these people?

Speaker 1 (48:17):
Just tap I don't zimpi.

Speaker 6 (48:23):
That's such a controversial issue. I've talked about that a
lot on my social media. So here's the thing. Whenever
you are obese, you are at risk of having a
lot of different medical conditions obesity, there's what we call
comorbid conditions, meaning if you have obesity, you're more likely
to have things like diabetes, congestive heart failure, sleep at MEA.

(48:47):
And so if you can lose weight, then you can
reduce your chances of getting those other medical conditions. And
so for a lot of people, being on ozimpic improves
their quality of life in their lifespan because it helps
you to prevent having those conditions, Whereas there are some
people who are able to lose weight through diet and

(49:11):
exercise but just don't have the stick toitiveness, who.

Speaker 5 (49:17):
Don't have the discipline.

Speaker 6 (49:19):
And you know, it's a balance, and it's a conversation
that is a tough one, but it's a balance that
I think that every person should have with their doctor
as far as is it right for me to take
ozembic or not. I was looking at some statistics from

(49:39):
the CDC. If you your lifespan is reduced by depending
on how obese you are. Let me see, I think
by being obese it lowers your lifespan by about six
to seven years. Morbidly obese you can reduce your lifespan

(50:00):
by about ten years. And so ozimpic may be making
people live a little bit longer.

Speaker 1 (50:05):
Wow, so you okay with you?

Speaker 2 (50:07):
With Zimbi.

Speaker 6 (50:11):
My first choice is diet an exercise, healthy lifestyle. But
for some people who just can't lose weight, or who
might need just an extra boost, who might need to
lose some pregnancy weight, I think that it can be
good for those people.

Speaker 4 (50:25):
Okay, so now this is my question. Well, thank you
for saying that. But I'm kind of on the same track,
which is the you as an anesthesiologist.

Speaker 1 (50:37):
All the people who are having the surgeries, the.

Speaker 4 (50:41):
Everything I mean with brass, the Tommy Tucks, the BBLS,
which we know at least we are learning that you
can have a successful BBLS. But there's some challenges, some
serious stuff that's happened. I mean, there's this video out
there that is being it's there's so much controversy over
this young woman saying that her BBL her sit down

(51:03):
had a smell.

Speaker 1 (51:03):
Have you seen that?

Speaker 5 (51:05):
No, I haven't said that.

Speaker 4 (51:06):
Everybody's arguing that she's lying because there's nothing wrong with
my BBL.

Speaker 1 (51:11):
It doesn't smell. And she's like, how y'all gonna tell
me what happened to me?

Speaker 4 (51:17):
There? Was a wound that obviously didn't heal properly and
it smelled.

Speaker 1 (51:22):
So that's kind of crazy. Not what I was going
to ask you.

Speaker 4 (51:25):
But some people have multiple surgeries, right, you go back,
you get this, you get that different things. I know,
folks who started with breast went to tummy tuck then
may have you know, wanted to do a fat replacement
in the arms and whatever.

Speaker 1 (51:42):
How many anesthesia.

Speaker 4 (51:46):
Appointments or how many times it's too many times to
keep getting anesthesia?

Speaker 6 (51:52):
You know, I wouldn't say there's a limit as far
as how many times, but what I would say is
that every time that you undergo sarchy, every time you
undergo anesthesia, that is a risk. And so the more
surgeries you have, the more times you're putting.

Speaker 5 (52:07):
Yourself at risk.

Speaker 6 (52:08):
And so you know, I do, and I have done
different cosmetic procedures, mommy makeovers, gastric bypass, tummy tucks, you
do that. I worked with a plastic surgeon in Peoria, Illinois,
and people would fly in from around the country because

(52:30):
he was such an amazing plastic surgeon. And it's kind
of fun to do those cases because you know that
these people, you know, it's purely elective and you're trying
to make sure that you keep them happy. But it's
not about a limit as far as how many anesthetics
you can have. But every time you do go under
the knife, you are at risk. And we've seen people

(52:53):
like Joan Rivers, Kanye Wells, Kanye Westmom who unfortunately have
had really bad So the decision to have surgery should
not be taken lightly at all. And I want to
say this too, whenever you're looking for a plastic surgeon,
you want to look at their credentials, not just word
of mouth, not just social media what they're posting on Instagram,

(53:16):
but you want to make sure your plastic surgeon is
Board certified, and you want to look at their record
to make sure you're getting a good plastic surgeon who
has a reputation of delivering good outcomes safely.

Speaker 1 (53:30):
How do you find out if they killed a bunch
of people?

Speaker 4 (53:33):
No, I'm just choking, but I mean I do want
to know, like because it because saying that the doctor
killed the person is not really accurate because it depends
on the person's medical history and this and that and
the third. But nonetheless, there is something to be said
about doctors plastic surgeons who've had a number of fatalities,

(53:53):
you know, on the tables.

Speaker 1 (53:55):
So how do you find that out? Where do you go?

Speaker 5 (53:58):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (53:58):
So my advice is, once you have the doctor's name,
to go to the medical board.

Speaker 5 (54:03):
You can go to the.

Speaker 6 (54:04):
Plastic surgeries, the Plastic Surgeons Medical Board, and you can
look up their license and see what the record is.
I'll have to send you, guys the website for that.
There's one specifically for plastic surgeons.

Speaker 4 (54:18):
Okay, well, thank you, because you know I need to
I'm forty five. Some things need to be fixed up
because stuff is just not let me tell you after
a certain age. And my son is going to argue,
like the other day, I was trying to tell him
like I am fat and I'm trying to work on it.
He's like, you worked out three times in two months

(54:40):
and you got the nerve, you know, and then trying
to cut back on the food.

Speaker 1 (54:44):
I understand.

Speaker 4 (54:46):
In fact, I took Manzeiro for three weeks and the
first thing that happened to me, and it really works.

Speaker 1 (54:53):
It stopped me.

Speaker 4 (54:53):
From having the sugar cravings because sugar is sugar is
my achilles heel, like that is the thing that if
I'm gonna die for something, it's gonna be sugar.

Speaker 1 (55:04):
And I don't eat cakes. I like cereal, I like.

Speaker 4 (55:08):
Ginger ale, And now they want to tell you gingerl
is not good for you. I have to have ginger
el twice a day. That's the thing for me. So
but anyway, I took mon Gyro. It was going well
and then I lost my whole butt. And as soon
as my booty went down to a flat pancake, I said,
y'all can take this Maneiro back. I don't want it,
no thank you, but I can see the benefit. So

(55:30):
I get people with all of these things. But as
I'm getting older, one of the things I realize is
that working out, eating well, doing all of that, it
does not remove the fat from certain places on a
woman's body. You can work out, you can do all
of it, but there are still pockets and places that
it feels like no matter what you do that it

(55:52):
just doesn't get there. The monzero didn't because, by the way,
the reason why I took it for three weeks because
I'm not obviously pretty small person. The reason why I
took it was because my stomach is like a tire
track so around the back and the sides of my
stomach that and it didn't care. De mon Gerald did

(56:13):
nothing for that. I'm a pilates freak. I love pilates.
Nothing for that. It just none of this stuff works
for that area.

Speaker 5 (56:22):
M Yeah, spot spot training and spot fat loss. It's
very it's very difficult.

Speaker 6 (56:28):
Like you said, people gain weight and lose weight in
different areas. And there are a lot of reports with
Munjaro and the other weight loss drugs that it's kind
of the areas where people lose weight sometimes it's not
very desirable. People lose a lot of face fat that
makes them look a little bit older. I had never

(56:49):
heard of losing fat on your bottom, but it makes sense.

Speaker 1 (56:54):
It happened to me.

Speaker 4 (56:55):
But thank you, thank you so much, doctor Singleton. We
appreciate you for coming and talking with us. We need
a monthly check in check out.

Speaker 3 (57:03):
Because I just want to just I need the regimen
just to stay young, Okay, okay, to complete stay young.

Speaker 2 (57:09):
I don't want to get old, my eyesight get bad.

Speaker 1 (57:12):
I'll be like, no way, you're pretty healthy.

Speaker 2 (57:16):
I mean I'm pretty healthy.

Speaker 4 (57:17):
You know.

Speaker 3 (57:17):
I work out, Like how many times a week should
we be working out when you in your upper forties.

Speaker 1 (57:23):
Upper forties. This man is hilarious.

Speaker 5 (57:26):
Upper for that's a good question.

Speaker 6 (57:27):
You know, everybody has to work out and not just
doing cardio, not just getting steps, but actually doing resistance training.
My mom just turned sixty four recently and she still
lifts weights. It's important that as we age. You know,
every year after forty, you're losing muscle mass, and so

(57:50):
if you're not lifting weights, if you're not doing things
like gardening or sit ups or push ups, you're losing
muscle mass. You're losing bone masks. Your bones are becoming weaker,
and so it's important to stay active. The CDC has
put forth the guidelines as far as how much we
should be working out. I forget the exact amounts, but

(58:14):
it's important to do both strength training and cardio to
stay healthy.

Speaker 4 (58:19):
Before you go, let me ask you this last last question.
When do the men start becoming impotent? Because that starts.
I hear a lot of women. They don't talk about
it publicly, but they're in marriages or relationships and they
start saying things are not working like it used to.
And it seems like women increase in our libido and

(58:42):
then men start going in the opposite direction.

Speaker 5 (58:45):
Yeah, I mean that's different for every guy.

Speaker 6 (58:49):
You know, as we get older, our arteries get stiffer
and the circulation is not the way that it used
to be as whenever we were younger, and so as men,
sometimes obesity can also affect your ability your.

Speaker 5 (59:06):
Performance in the bedroom. So things like obesity.

Speaker 4 (59:10):
Hearts so professional, like we say, stay up around.

Speaker 2 (59:17):
Things.

Speaker 3 (59:18):
Should men be taken as healthy to keep your arteries
and on things like that?

Speaker 2 (59:23):
Clear?

Speaker 1 (59:23):
Good question.

Speaker 6 (59:24):
Yeah, So, like you said, eating plenty of vegetables, green
leafy vegetables to lower your cholesterol, getting plenty of protein
you're in the gym, exercise and that boost your testosterone
which helps with performance as well.

Speaker 5 (59:40):
Those are the most important things.

Speaker 6 (59:42):
Healthy diet, healthy exercise, and also a healthy body weight, uh,
to improve your testosterone levels as well.

Speaker 5 (59:49):
And if you are.

Speaker 6 (59:49):
Having issues with impotence, you know that might be a
good opportunity to bring your husband and bring your boyfriend
to the doctor because he can help not all lean
with treatment for the impotence, but also can potentially help
with lifestyle modification to make just the overall health picture better.

Speaker 2 (01:00:12):
M M.

Speaker 4 (01:00:12):
Well, there's the there's the promo for this show what happened,
that's gonna be the promo for this men when the
men become impotent. That's that's what I want you to
put up as the promo. Thank you so much, doctor Sington.

Speaker 1 (01:00:28):
We appreciate you.

Speaker 5 (01:00:30):
Thank you for having.

Speaker 2 (01:00:31):
Me appreciate you. King Listen, man, man, give you the performance.

Speaker 1 (01:00:40):
It's not just about performance. Is like, yeah, but I.

Speaker 2 (01:00:45):
Would imagine you.

Speaker 4 (01:00:49):
Okay, But what I'm saying is that impotence it has
to be like something else in your life that's impacted,
not just sexual, right, Like don't you need that thing
to work a certain way to put in the right
direction about performing?

Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
Because you man, I'm mad. The doctor is gone.

Speaker 2 (01:01:10):
It's about your prostate.

Speaker 3 (01:01:11):
All those things that you know they paying a role
of your prostate is clogged up or you're not.

Speaker 2 (01:01:17):
It's not healthy like that.

Speaker 3 (01:01:18):
Those things have to do with when you pee, is
if you're dripping in all those.

Speaker 2 (01:01:23):
Things you're in large press.

Speaker 3 (01:01:24):
So a lot of those things about how you're eating,
like he said, green stuff, you making sure that your
colon is clean, making sure your arteries are flowing, blood
is flowing through your arteries. Exercising increases your to stuss
Own people got you know, see mass all these things
that they say contributes to your performance.

Speaker 1 (01:01:47):
I'm gonna just be done with this conversation.

Speaker 4 (01:01:53):
Well, I'm just telling you I know a lot of
women who have who are married or with men who
are you know, a special approaching fifty or fifty years old,
and they they're like, it ain't the same.

Speaker 2 (01:02:05):
Sometimes it's the woman.

Speaker 3 (01:02:07):
What do you mean Sometimes that the women are not
doing the things necessary for the man to perform.

Speaker 1 (01:02:15):
Yeah, I don't think in this situation.

Speaker 3 (01:02:20):
In that situation, because you don't know what's going on
in that man's head. The woman is coming to you saying, yo,
he ain't doing this. It's just like you ever seen
Poetic Justice and he was talking. She's like, yo, you
you can't get her. He says, it's you man, You
you always got negative. I could be with somebody that's
all beautiful in this and then when it's with you,
it don't work because sometimes the woman create a level

(01:02:43):
of stress. A mind thing is not it's not an
environment for that. So a lot of sometimes it's maybe yeah,
he hasn't he's having a physical issue that's medical.

Speaker 4 (01:02:53):
But sometimes it's meant to like I had said, Okay,
I'm I just want to be done with this because
I'm trying to be serious that you being funny. What
I am saying is that it is not just the woman. Okay,
they want to and they struggle for various reasons. And

(01:03:14):
by the way, a lot of the same women, once
they get to be about fifty years old, their libido
is increased, like they're more sexual, they have more stamina,
and you know, they want to have sex more often
than they did when they were younger. And then it's
like an imbalance, like it's not it seems. And I'm

(01:03:35):
not saying this for all people, because of course I
have friends that are married they're having the best sex
of their lives, because I think there is an age
where it's kind of like it crosses together.

Speaker 1 (01:03:45):
But those people are pretty.

Speaker 4 (01:03:46):
Healthy when I think about it, and as I'm thinking
of the friends that I have that are fifty years
old that are married, they definitely are much healthier, and
they're always on vacation, they always working out, and they
love it and they love to tell you flat out yep,
and were having sex. They love to say that. So
I guess how.

Speaker 1 (01:04:06):
Fast something to do?

Speaker 3 (01:04:09):
Mine say mental health, physical health. All those things contribute
to you know, your performance.

Speaker 1 (01:04:14):
Your performance, good night, thank you, my son.

Speaker 3 (01:04:19):
So for my I don't get it. I know everybody's
seen what's been going on in West Africa in Burkini Fasso,
where Ibraham Trari, the captain and the interim president, is
basically stating that he wants his sovereignty of his country.
He doesn't want outside influence, he doesn't want the white

(01:04:40):
settlers that have come there. He doesn't he don't think
they need to be there. And it's so hypocritical to
me that America in France don't respect that because you
hear this president quote unquote America first, and we want
our own stuff, but you don't want to respect the
sovereignty of another country, right And and to me, it
plays into race because even when we look at this

(01:05:00):
situation with the white people that they bring in from
over there in Africa saying that there's a genocide going on,
when there's been going on inside of the Congo for years,
a real genocide. People know that there's a genocide. And
it's just so hypocritical to me that America in France
has this point of view as this man is such
a threat to anything because he wants sovereignty of his

(01:05:23):
own country. He wants to take back his own land.
He wants his people to be independent of any outside
influence because that's what he wants. So why does America
in France see that as a threat, you know? And
I just don't get it. I get it, but I
don't get it, you know, because the common sense of it,
it doesn't make common sense.

Speaker 2 (01:05:41):
But what I get is.

Speaker 3 (01:05:43):
Whenever black people want to do something for their own people,
whenever he's trying to rise and we're building our own
and we come back to you know, Pan Africanism, when
we do about doing black first, that is a threat
to the settler's mindset because they can no longer impose
their will inside of these countries and colonize, you know.
So it really, it really has been bothering me. And

(01:06:04):
I shout out to Ibrahim Troi. I love him. I
love his energy, you know, because in order to have
a revolution, in order to grow, in order for black
people to actually get where we're supposed to go, it's
going to be people. It's going to require people who
are willing to sacrifice their lives.

Speaker 2 (01:06:21):
You know.

Speaker 3 (01:06:21):
He's been threatened. They have been you know, attempts on
his life already, and he stands firm, and he said,
he embraces the reality. He said, you know, they say,
what about this person? He tried to do what you
would do and he was killed? What about this person
he tried to do what you would do, he was
locked up, he was this and that, and he said,
that's what comes with it. I embrace the reality that

(01:06:43):
they're gonna make attempts on my life and they might
actually do it one day. But we can't live in fear.
There's nothing that we've ever gained in this world that
was won because we.

Speaker 2 (01:06:53):
Lived in fear.

Speaker 3 (01:06:54):
It's nothing wrong with being fear, being fearful, but you're
supposed to use that fear as the power to continue
to move on. So I appreciate him, and I just
don't understand why American friends just don't mind their business.

Speaker 4 (01:07:08):
Well, I don't have anything to say to that, because,
like you said, you get it, but then we don't
get it. So it is what it is. I mean,
I've been you know, reading and watching and learning a
little bit about that situation. If people do not know
what my son is talking about, you should absolutely go
and do your research, because this is one of those
moments in history where we will be able, if you

(01:07:29):
know anything about history, will have an opportunity to learn
and watch history play out in real time. Because what
they are attempting to do to this man and to
his nation is to suppress it as they have any
other place around the world where people of African descent
le people with dark skin are located, and that is

(01:07:51):
to ensure that those nations represent their interests.

Speaker 1 (01:07:56):
And bow to the.

Speaker 4 (01:08:01):
What is it called the monarchies and the olibarchies of
our world. And you know, I think, like you said,
they're doing a good job there of putting it on
mainstream and putting it in the face of the people
on so many I've watched all these podcasts and shows
and news clips here and there where people are talking

(01:08:21):
about what's happening, which is helpful to that nation because
once you when you put it on front street, it's
harder for them to do the things that they want
to do. Right. But what I do notice is that
the media is now trying to drag him. This is
what they do every single time. That's what I'm saying.
If you don't know history, go back and study, because

(01:08:43):
what you will see, what you will notice. And it
was done in Nelson Mandela, and it has been done
over and over and over again to any black or
any African, or anybody of dark skin who decided to
say that we now we no longer want the rule

(01:09:03):
of particularly Europe. Excuse me, hello, we don't want the
queen and again the monarchy to run our nation. Anytime
that happens, the first thing they do is start to
demonize and strip the leader of such revolution of their

(01:09:24):
self respect and of their dignity before the press. They
want to demonize you. They want to make people say
they want to stay away from you. And as they
do that, it makes it much easier for other folks
to sort of come, you know, well, it makes it
easier for them to go in and impose their will
because at that point most of us are running away.

(01:09:45):
They're doing the same exact thing in Gaza, the same thing.
They want to demonize the people. They want you to
think that you're going to be called, that you're going
to be called a lover of a terrorist group that
you are. You know, you are full of hate and
you support hate, and you support the murder of Jews,

(01:10:07):
or you are anti Semitic. That is the language that
will be used about you if you choose to speak
up about what's happening in Gaza or it's Palestinians in general.
I was just told that Microsoft has now made it
it is banned where they're internal emails. You can't even say.

(01:10:29):
You can't use word genocide. I think you can't say Gaza.
It was a few different words that have recently been banned,
which are all words that relate to what has taken
place in that part of the world. And so you know,
our dear brother Charlamagne did a long piece the other
day about these two young people who were killed the

(01:10:50):
Israel at the Israeli embassy in DC just a few
days ago, and he talked about how what goes on
in the world impacts us right here in America. If
we think that we're just going to say, well, that's
over there, that has nothing to do with me, you
are mistaken that what takes place over there impacts the

(01:11:12):
political the political environment here, and that political environment could
turn into a violent environment when people get to the
point where they feel like their voices are not being
heard in other ways, and we definitely do not want
to see a lashing out of a killing of any people.

(01:11:35):
We don't want to see innocent bystanders and people you know,
being gunned down on our streets in America or anywhere
else in the world. And at the same time, we
don't want to see little girls, babies, children, fathers, mothers,
anybody dying in fires and bombings, being starved to death,
being really exiled, and a genocide taking place where people

(01:12:01):
are losing their lives and losing any sense of their
culture and the place where that belongs to them. We
don't want to see that happen anything.

Speaker 2 (01:12:11):
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