February 18, 2025 • 47 mins
Dive into another heartwarming episode of "Two Cool Moms" where Joe and Steve bring the heat from Steve’s cozy hometown of Nashville. This episode is packed with home court tales of triumph, childhood memories, and the sweet nostalgia of first sports successes. Join us by the fireside as Joe recounts his son’s breakthrough basketball moment, transforming from tearful attempts to confident shots that would make LeBron proud. Meanwhile, Steve brings us tales from the jump park, sharing insights into his daughter’s first date and the familial support that makes these moments unforgettable. Whether you're here for the laughs, parenting tips, or just to feel like part of the family, these two cool moms have got your back!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:28):
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M All right, here we go again. I hope you're ready.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Buckle up, baby, because it's another brand new episode.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Of Two Cool Moms. I am Joe Gatto.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I'm not Joe Coy. I'm Steve Burn. You get coy
a lot. Thanks for listening to Two Cool Moms. We're
very excited to be here today.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Big day, big day, big day, massive, huge day. Here's
our super Bowl.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
This is it.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
We're here in Nashville, Yes, and we I've come to
Stevie's hometown.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh yeah, he's got hometown town advantage. We're in front
of a fireplace here, yes, one of well, and thank
you for having me in your lovely town.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Of course, why is it such a big day?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Because we build it up because I came to you
and this has happened maybe four times and the whole
whole time that we've been doing Two Cool Moms, over
ninety episodes.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Most of them are filmed in New York.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
But something we did live in Nashville.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
We did a couple of live ones in Nashville at
the Zanes Comedy Club. Then we also recorded a couple
in the Zanies place We've never done recently here, but
I'm very excited to be here in Nashville.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
So you know, tell me your.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Top five favorite spots, top five favorite spots. I had
a very interesting thing happened with my son. Okay, I
had a couple of shows canceled because of weather. I
was able to go home for a weekend. I was
able to catch them play basketball.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Very nice.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
So my son, unfortunately athleticism comes from his father.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Athlete.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Athlete, yes, yes, so he was the first half of
the game. They do like a practice and then a game.
He's seven, so it's not really a thing. So they
do a half hour practice and then a half hour game.
And the first half hour he was just in tears
at the foul line, reaching to me as if I
could save him, like he was sinking in the Titanic,
like I know, like Buddy, I was just like clapping him,
trying to get him all the love.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Then they start the game and he's not first string, surprise,
and they put him in the second string and he
goes in and he just starts crying and he's just
while he's playing, but he's playing, so he's dribbling and
crying and he's like gauding people and crying and then
he shoots the ball and by the grace of Baby Jesus,
that goes in and he turns.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Oh, he turned into lebron.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
He was like boxing half, he started dancing, he was
flipping off, he was waving to me.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I was like, Oh, that's all took.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
It was super easy, and I think that's a really
cool moment as a parent, But it came right after
the most uncomfortable and I think worse that I felt
as a parent, knowing that they'll get to that part
where he'll be into it.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
But it was like one of the first times I
was like, Oh, he's got to get there on his own,
and you're not like sleep in and help them.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
It was really, you can only do so much, right, Yeah,
you can only do so much. But it's interesting. It's
like once the kids get there, yeah, no matter what.
Like my son's the same thing. It's just like I
don't want to go. I don't want to go, and
then you get there. It's like there's always that pivot
moment where it's like, oh, this is fun. Yeah, and
then they're they're off to the race.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
It's so fun to see these little moments because my
son's at seven and you're really seeing I think this
is his six month year period where I'm going to
see a lot of the things. Were just at the ocean,
Turks and Caicos. He gets walloped by a wave and
I'm like that that's it. We gotta go out of
the water. We're gonna sit down.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
He popped up, went awesome, and ran back in and
I was like, oh the hell did you hit your
head on a rock? Like? What happened? Did you hit
a cod cell? I was like, Dad, and I'm like what.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
He's hanging ten? I couldn't believe it. Yeah, I said
the best of you. I was like, did you just
see that? She was like I can't believe And he
was like in the ocean and I was like, wow,
this is pretty he's becoming like a real boy, like
a Pinocchio, Like he's like really like doing these kinds
of things. He's really just like jumping off stuff. And
like it's really interesting to see because he was so reserved.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
You know, you can see, especially your son, he's he's
he's very there's kids you meet, You're just like, this
is a smart kid. He's very introspective. And again that
that day we're hanging out, he's doing math problems with
the professor of the university. It's like that's fascinating stuff,
and like most kids wouldn't be doing that. And I
(04:24):
was just like, Wow, this kid is going to be
to go JPL. He's gonna get t or something like sure,
you just tell brainy.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
But it was really it's just really cool to see
that part of it.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
And then I was trying to think back of like
my sports moments, which you're very few and far between.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
And that's all the time we have to I don't
know how long you want me to go. I mean,
because I could tell you what was.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Your greatest athletic sports moment, Oh, you had to have
had one. Eighth grade our star player Francisco de Francisco
fails out, files out right. So now Francisco Francis. Friend's
name is friend, Frankie D. Francisco de Francisco, a great name.
Files out, fifth foul, go sixth man, Joe get in here,
I get in there. Okay, I'm playing pounder guard. Here
I go point guard. Were down by two, Okay, I
(05:06):
know what.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Down by one? I get fouled. Okay, it's one and one,
one second on the clock, so the first one solution.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Okay, this is your Albundi moment.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Okay, I wish that's what happened.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
What happened was I threw it so hard because I
was so nervous that it hit the.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Rafters of the gym.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Wait what I overshot?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
It's so bad that I hit the ceiling of the gym.
That's how nervous I was.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
And we lost that Fast forward a couple of games
later in the season, same deal. I was a six
minute and Frankie D comes in too hard fell you know,
he fouls out three minutes left in the game.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I shoot, I score, make us lead by one. But
then the game.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Runs out and it wasn't like at the moment thing
nobody else scored, so we ended up winning the game
on my shot that happened two minutes earlier, you know,
and I got picked up on the shoulder. Didn't even
realize what happened. The kids will pick me on the shoulder.
Everybody's going nuts. It is the one game that both
of my parents didn't come to. No one of my
parents would always come, but my sisters, who both were
good athletes. My sister Gina was a badass high school player.
(06:12):
She had her championship game. My dad went to watch her.
My mom went to watch my sister cheerlead because my
sister is a cheerleader, and they're like, he's not going
to do anything.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
He never does, And of course my mom, I remember
it like it was yesterday.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
My mom walked into the gymnasium as I was on
the shoulders of the kids and everybody's going god, oh,
and she just dropped her keys and her face turned white,
and she was like, like, what did I miss?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Well?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
She saw that, she saw well, she saw that, like
she saw the aftermath of like it happened. You know,
she didn't see the moment she walked in literally as
putting me down, and I ran over and I hugged
her and I was like, I won the game, and
she just started crying because she felt so dude.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Never happened again. She died. That was it. That was it.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
That was her moment.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
She lost it.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
She lost it.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
She want to see my sister go okay, ready, okay,
all right, that is the way.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
It's not roudy, that's what she's saying. And a boy
sinking deuces O. So yeah, that was crazy.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
That was That was probably one of the most insane
moments of like, I think from a parent point of
view too.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
My mom was like, what are the chances this kid
wins the game?
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Yeaheah, but you've had many many victory laps at a
roulette table.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
A roulette table, oh yeah, craps table, a bowling alley.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
You know what was your best? What's the high street
of her bowl to eighty eight? Are you kidding me? Wait?
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Three?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
N YEA was it was a complete fluke In high school. Yeah,
in high school, I was just in the zone. I
was that's like probably turkey in it up, got gobble.
I was just hitting them up, lining them up, knocking
them down.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
It's kind of annoying too, because I had like the
open frame like in the beginning and then I like
struck out all the way to the end. So I
was like, oh, man, if I didn't mess up in
the beginning, you know, I just found my groove though.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Wow, that was it.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
That was I had never bowled over to.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
I don't think like a two ten after that or whatever,
but that was like, that was like a fluke that
I had one game.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
It was killer and then uh yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
My average and high school was one eighty one ninety
around there.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
Wow, but to get up to two eighty eight, that's good.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Remember that. Yeah, it was cool.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
My daughter just went on her first date.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Time outep, back her up, back her up.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Hit me with it. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
She went on her first date seventh grade. Nice first date,
falling date. No, here's what it would jump park?
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Oh nice.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
By the way, my wife said, they she wants to
go to bounce house. I'm like, don't say that. It's
a jump park. So so my my daughter said, can
I go to this jump park and meet this boy
I like on a date and then just them. Well
here's what she said. She goes, Mom, you could sit
(08:44):
there and hang out and then even if Kent wants
to come, Kent can come. And so she was at
dinner and Kent She's like, Kent, would you want to go?
And Kent was like, well, I should probably go there
just to look out. And I was like, wow, that
was cool. So it was nice to see like my
daughter felt secure, right. She wasn't like inhibited or nervous
(09:05):
or felt embarrassed by it. She was very forthcoming to say,
is it okay if I go on a date, you
can be there? And she invited my my son.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Which includes a boy.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That's great, that includes the that's that's and then the
sun volumes and then your boy to be there to
look out for you.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
It was like, you're doing.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Something right, Stevie, you do it. Sorry, that's that's all, Jess.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
That's all just what I meant by you.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I had to say about Jess.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Good work, Jess because he's ship, but job that got
to have you, Jess.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
And then uh, obviously you just you know. I was like,
what's his name? Of course, and then she said the
boy's name and I was like, okay, he's definitely white,
so that's good. Idiot, you idiot, what you gotta keep that?
I gotta keep it in. She wants to meet demurvious.
I'll be there now too.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
You said it it? So did you? So you did
you know the boy? Have you? Did you know who
he was? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:56):
I hang out with boys. Yeah, I'm Kevin Spacey. How
would I How would I know a thirteen year old boy?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
I don't know you know the school that you go to?
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Hi, I'm a youth pastor with a shady past.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
We're just chopping minutes out at this point. I don't
know what you're talking about.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
I don't know the boy.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I don't know who he is. Okay, So did you
want to know what he looks like? Did you like
go on Facebook?
Speaker 3 (10:15):
I just want to know what Racey was.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
That's it what you need as a father, as a dad.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
No, No, I'm totally.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
No.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
I just look, it's it's that it's at popular age.
It's like it's fine. Yeah, it's cute and it's sweet.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
So what were they Was he just going to meet
her and they were gonna jump around the park together,
just the two of them or was it a group
of friends?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
One on one?
Speaker 3 (10:35):
It was just one on one. But then my my
son was there, he brought a friend, my wife was there,
and it's like a huge like, it's not like there's
anywhere to go off.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
No, no, no, Yeah, it's like a park. Yeah, okay, So
did she have fun?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
She had fun. I guess she likes the kid.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Does she talk to you about this stuff?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Like?
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Does she or she talked to Jess?
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Or she talks to Jess. I've let her know, like
I try to lay the groundwork. I've told my kids
this their whole lives, and my daughters, I said, there's
gonna come a point in your life where you don't
want to talk to me. It's gonna come point in
your life where you don't even want to be around me.
But even when that happens, I'm letting you know I'll
always be here for you, and I want you to
(11:12):
be honest with me. And no matter how bad a
situation is, if you're honest with me, you'll never be
in trouble. So just tell me the truth from the beginning.
So there's like the two things I've tried to tell
them that's important.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
But yeah, I heard a great great thing be a
gotta dad, not a don't.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
And what a gotta dad not a don't? When your
kid's in trouble, you don't want them to say, don't
call my father.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
You want to say, I gotta call my father.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Right, that stuff with me, stick with me.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Yeah, it's a good one. I gotta call my dad.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
You want to be that when they're in the biggest
trouble they need, they want to call you.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Not I can't call my father, Like if they find out,
they'll kill me. Like you don't want that.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
It's even like when when she said she's going on
a date, I'm like, well, she's the seventh grade. I
guess is when it starts my and I asked my wife.
I was like, when did you go on the first date?
She's like seventh grade. I'm like you you slung Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:05):
What was his name? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (12:07):
But she's like, how about you?
Speaker 2 (12:08):
I was like, I graduated high school and then and
went on my first Well, yeah, I was my first
double date I went on.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
I was in eighth grade. I went to the movies
and I.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Did the whole Yeah, but you were you were very
confident is that grade?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
No?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
No, super giky No, I was terrible. I did a
whole yawn thing. It was a group date. She like
called her mom to take her home. Like I was
all the other dates. Everybody was making out in the
arcade and I was like, yeah, yeah, I bowl.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
I was actually a bowl.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yond that's funny show places entertainment and it's that, but
I uh yeah, I never I wanted I think that
was what I would consider that probably my first date
in eighth grade. But it was a double It was
a double date, like just it was a bunch of
people together, right, Yeah, but the seventh grade seems about
the right time, especially nowadays.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
That's probably. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah, my my daughter is going to have her Valentine's dance,
so that's gonna be interesting. That's the But it's like
a group thing. Although these girl she's fourth she's in
fourth grade. Yea fourth grade okay, so it's the fourth
and fifth graders of the school and it's just basically
it's a two hour thing, you know. Then they asked
for parents a chaperone, and I looked at best. I said,
do I chaperon? She goes, you can't, You'll be such
(13:14):
a distraction of the school.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Yeah, she's like you can't. I said, well you have
to do that, and she's like, I'm not going to
do it. I don't want to do that. You know.
She's an introvert, totally gonna do that. I want to
be a stroll.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
So one of the moms that we know, a couple
of the moms that we know that we're close with
their kids, a couple of them signed ups are like, okay,
do was a fair just.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Let's never see anything?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Yeah. Well, you know what's interesting though? Is it seventh grade?
I remember my friend Matt Kirshner, who was like, I
was joined the hip with this guy seventh grade.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I went to his house. This is the first experience
I had with alcohol and a friend. He drank like
wild turkey. He's like, why don't you try this? And
I remember smelling like this is disgusting.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
And I tried it and then he chased me around
his house with a kitchen knife, pretending to kill me.
And I'd never been more frightened in my life. And
I was like, seventh grade alcohol, chase, you are out
a kitchen knife with a kitchen knife.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Yeah, he got hammered and I ran out of his
house and I ran down the street to my other friend,
Brian Doherty's house, and I asked to call my mom
to pick me up.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
That's in yeah, crazy.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That's wild turkey.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
I was a chicken.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Well there's a title, yeah, Wild Turkey.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
But I was thinking, boy, that was seventh grade. And
then I was like, oh my god, I should talk
to my daughter. And that was another thing I talked
to her. I pulled her side after dinner. I said,
I know you're going on the state. I also want
to tell you this is an age where kids are
going to expose you to things and I can't make
the decision for you. I can only tell you what
is the right thing and the wrong thing to do.
(14:45):
So I hope in these situations you make the right decision.
But know this, I'll always be here for you. You
can call me right. But it's not a smart thing
to indulge in these things at that age, okay, And
there's kids that are going to indulge and they're going
to exposed to you things and say it's okay and
it's kind of fun or whatever, and they're not. They're not.
So I'm trying to you know, she's gonna learn her
(15:08):
own mistake, absolutely, but.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
It's kind of crazy you have that talk. It's seventh grade. Now.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Seventh grade though, but then that's when I think I
remember my friends were going I was scared.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
You're gonna have the liquor is taking the liquor cabinets.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Yeah, going in the woods, drinking cores, light beer, skunked
didn't matter, getting popped up, you know, I just I
don't know. I was always scared of it when I
was a kid.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
And oh, you conquered that fair buddying a superhero.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Now, thank you do it?
Speaker 1 (15:37):
You tell you you're like, listen, you're gonna go drink
and call me because I want to come.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Yeah, I think that's uh, I think that's interesting. You know,
you worry about that stuff. I always said my parents
didn't really lay guilt. It was kind of really interesting
how they did it because I was always worried about
the words I'm disappointed in you would like to feel that,
and my parents barely said it to me, but they
did a great job of instilling.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
That in me, which I don't still don't know to say.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
That's one of the biggest things I wish about that
I could talk to them about as a parent, Like
if I think about like what I would learn from that.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
I wish I could garner how.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
They made me be good by fearing disappointing them without
ever making me feel like I disappointed them, Like there's
such a magic trick they pulled off, you know.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
But it is, it's you know, it's something. It's funny
you mentioned that because it's something like even with me
and my kids, Like, I think it's more impactful to
be in a situation where your child messes up and
you sit them down, you explain why, and then you
leave them with a I'm so disappointed in you and
(16:41):
you walk away. That is I believe more impactful than
get to your room, because it's so emotionv for three weeks. Yeah,
like I'd rather do what I disappointed in you than
go to your room.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
I agree, I don't think.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
I trying to like rack my brain right now and
think about there was a time where that that even happened.
And I remember one time that I punished myself because
I not I was out sick from school and I
didn't study for this exam and I ended up getting
a sixty five, which is still passing, but it.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Was like the worst grade in the world for me.
I was in seventh grade, right.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
I got a sixty five, and I went home. I
was beside myself. I was like my mother was like
my mom was like, she's like, what's the matter. I
was like, I messed up.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I'm so bad.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
I hung it on the refrigerator to remind me how
bad it was, and then I went up, says, and
I disconnected my Nintendo and I put it away and
I punished myself.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
I was like, you can't.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
You punished yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Yeah. So my father came home.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
He had the sixty five in his hand and he
looked at me, and I was in my room. I
was like, like beside myself, and he's like, he's like,
what's the matter with you. He's like, it's one test.
He crumpled it up. He said, doesn't matter. And then
I was like that and I was and I was
like wow. But like he had the opportunity to like,
it's as if right, it's as if he.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Said, you're disappointing you because grades was super poor my pets.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Especially knowing how you were reacted, and it was just like, oh, fine,
it's already fine.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Yeah, I don't need There was only one time my
kid ever said I'm disappointed in you. It ate hurt.
That's bad, that hurt. She said, I just saw your
last special and I directed it. Yeah, damn so.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Disappointed in you. Was so sorry.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
She's like, you put me in it, she said, I'd
like this off my IFBB.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
How's your date?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
You saw your special?
Speaker 3 (18:25):
All right?
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Let me uh shall we get in this, Let's get
into it, Let's have some uh, let's help the people's
right that while we're here now, thanks so much for
listening to you are our wonderful podcast.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
I having so much fun doing Two Cool Moms.
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Speaker 3 (18:46):
That's right, all right, This coming on is from Phoebe. Phoebe,
thank you for the question.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
I was surprised at my Spotify wrapped from twenty twenty four.
Do you have any surprising music or artists that made
your top listens this year?
Speaker 3 (18:58):
Huh? I'll tell you. I went down a Red Clay
Strays rabbit hole when we when we had them as guests.
I knew them before and then haven't seen them and
hanging out with but I really went down like a
deep dive on them, and I really came to appreciate them.
You know who I discovered recently that was always on
the radio when we were kids, Bruce Hornsby and Range.
(19:20):
And I was like, there was a song that came
up and then another one was recommended. I was like,
you know, let me I know two of his songs.
Let me go down a deep dive. I took a
deep dive and he just came up with an album
like two or three years ago, and I was like,
this is amazing, and just to give myself the moment
to be exposed to him, it was awesome. He did
a lot of collaborations and that was a surprising one
(19:43):
for me. And then I saw a documentary on yacht rock,
and then I know, I spotified all the Christopher Cross
and the you know, Kenny Loggins and Michael McDonald and
all those like great.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
What is the number one yacht rock song? It's gotta
be sill Away, right, come sell away that way.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
It's a rock song. You're licking, you know, takes taking
away and.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Then they have the icebreak and then that should have
been Yeah, that would have been a great song.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
I like that rock.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
I mean you're talking to a guy who had multiple cruises.
We love the out rock. Of course, yeah, I love
the out rock, out rocks fun. I I love a
good you know, yacht rock.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
You know, for me different experience becausey out rock isn't
much dancing. It's more like singing and swaying and where
my body gets music and it wants to move.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Baby. So like I, you know, I get enough of it.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
I kind of get bored, to be honest, like I
can't take a yacht rock concert.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
You dabble, your dibble, you put it in there a
little bit. I'm okazy with it.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
But once you're really getting into the yacht, I need
more rocking of this boat and don't come and knocking
and this boat rock.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
That's really the way it goes, right, it's your color fhyll,
that's your son.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Like after like a couple, it's like okay, and now
I want to start moving my body a little bit.
Yeah yeah, So for me now, but I will say
for my wrapped I don't know. I I I really
went down when I saw A JR.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Brothers live.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
When I saw A jar I literally went back to
like all their catalogs and me and my daughter were
listening to all their songs and and really discovered a
lot of there I bought a lot of their I
bought every album to put out on vinyl and I
I just really like liked a lot of their stuff.
And it was started with a couple songs. And now
I'm a fan of albums.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
Of You're a big top forty guy. Yeah, like very
mainstream pop heavy today.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Yes, I do find that I am in the popoclectic
of people. But I do dabble in like a motown.
I love like old school kind of, so when it
goes to old school, it's like American standards and like
Motown and my two biggest we're I'll go into stuff right.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
But as far as like because A Jr. Really Is
I mean, they have a couple songs that were on
the radio, but there I.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Enjoyed ready the SpongeBob song. Do you know what I'm
talking about?
Speaker 1 (21:51):
I'm ready?
Speaker 3 (21:52):
And then they had a SpongeBob SpongeBob sample.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Sample in it? Is that possibly? Okay? I don't, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (21:58):
That was the one song by them?
Speaker 1 (22:00):
Probably sure?
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah, they do well, they do bang bang bang with this.
This subway conductor in New York, please stand to the
stand clear of the closing doors.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Please. Yeah, they got him to actually say on the record, yeah,
say here we go, and that's in the song. It's
really fun.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
But I think, like, for as far as I listened
to the radio to find music, you know, I don't.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
But are there any surprises you've had, like any deep
dives that you've taken this year on somebody or an
artist that that kind of shocked you.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I would say no, No, I would say it's just
the radio. Yeah, through the radio.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
But I will say a lot of times, are our
good friend, uh Jiggy Mark Jeguardian are our producer on this?
Speaker 1 (22:39):
He will be like, oh, you got to listen.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
And the songs he'll pick are like old school, they're
still poppy, but I've never heard them.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Like he's got a catalog.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Of just He brought busted out Donnie Osman the other
day on me and I'm like, wait, Soldier of Love
really and I listen, I'm like, well.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I have a couple friends that are like and you're
one of those who have like these just that's the
way that brain works, that you music as their thing,
like you sal Mark, you know the Justin you know
Justin especially just you know works in music.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Any mood it's just like.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
Really, he's he's somebody I wish. That's a gift I had.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
I'll just say, put some music on and he will
ten at a ten times nail it.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
Whenever I was in the temperature.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
He knows. He's a he's a thermostat. That guy. He's
right up in there setting it.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
What do you need at sixty nine seventy two, let's
warm it up here in a little bit a little
too hot. We'll knock her down to a sixty you
know what, turn a fan from all that. We're gonna
go medium blow, you know, like he knows these things.
Like it really is interesting because he comes on the
road and does the green room stuff and you know,
when we're driving and whatnot.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
He's just great to have, like a DJ friend that
just gets it.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
There's a science to it.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
Yeah. But what I really like.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
About him now is that he produces music and I'm
able to like he made an original mix to end
my hour now. So I used to close whatever, and
now every night I hear the someone I closed. It's
the song that he made for me, and it's like
it's fun.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
So even like Benson Boone, right, that's somebody you discover
th iHeart I soon. But my daughter went to the
show got the sweatshirt? Where is it every three days
to school the same sweatshirt. I'm like, Libby, let me
watch it. And then to know like you're friends with
the guy, Like you're just like, hey, I'm at dinner
with Benson. Miller's like, of course you are, because you're
(24:16):
Joe Gatto. That's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
But he's somebody I saw live and I was like,
this kid has got it.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
He's an entertainer that.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Is somebody that's a rock star that's legit, a rot
like he put on a show and also could could
sing like.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
A yeoh yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
He's florish. On a second, he's not all razzal dazzle.
He's got something, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
So he's like really got it and he's like I
talked to him about some of his music. I got
to see him, which was so cool. So with the
iHeart thing, I got to be able to do all
the jingle balls, which was fun. And they do this
thing the Capitol Won Acoustic Lounge where they pick a
couple of fans to come up and one artist will
come to a couple of songs, and he played acoustic
a couple songs, and he played this song that he
had wrote and writ about his mother, and I was
like this, it was so such a real cool moving
(25:01):
right well, just to see that so stripped and raw
and you see that, and then you fast forward to
you see him with the pirate technics going off. He's
flipping off the piano, and just to see that he's
able to hold both hands steadily.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
It's like, yeah, yeah, it's interesting because some of the
music I get exposed to us through my children. Now
my daughter plays again him NonStop in the car, so
I'm exposed to it. And you know, the first few times,
there's a big grudging, like, you know, I want to
listen to my stuff, and then you listen to your
kids stuff, and I'm like, there's a theatricality to his music.
And obviously he's got a he's got a great voice,
(25:34):
but you hear it. It's it's almost kind of like
Elton John esque, where there's there's a I don't know,
there's like a production behind where there's a real resonance
story behind it as well. But but he's got it.
He's got a great voice. And then my wife. You know,
she's forty two, and she comes back from this concert
and I was like, how was she? Like amazing, amazing,
She's like that that guy's an entertainer on top of
(25:56):
obviously you're going.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
There for the music.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
So it's pretty wild to cross pass as you have
for sure.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Yeah, I would say that seeing him, like when you
get to it's a different level, right when you get
to know a person you know on top of it,
like Kobe Klay or you know, like Benson, and like
you just actually have dinner with them, yeah, and talk
with them and you're just not even talking about anything.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
You're not talking about music, you're not talking about comedy.
You're just talking. And then you're like, oh they realized,
Like I played cards with them.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
We were playing cards and like hanging out like it's
so fun, such a nice guy. And he just was
instantly like You're like, oh, this is somebody I could
be friends with, right, just you both feel and just
turn that way. I'm big on that because I know
how fickle life is, and you gotta grab somebody if
you some enjoy spend time with somebody, like I'll put
the time in. I'll reach out say hello, how you been,
you know kind of thing, send video like we send
videos back and forth, kidding around like he was at
(26:40):
the Grammy's at worsdhom luck like things like that and stuff.
You know, we were exchanging texts and things. But that's
the kind of thing just you know, let people know
you want to nurture those things.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
You are great at that.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Yeah, I try.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
By the way, the oh my god, the Chinese antique
you sent me? Can I tell you? Said things? So
it comes to me, you let me in on it.
I'm hahaha, okay, it's it's creepy. It's in my office.
(27:12):
So I brought it out and had the doll set
up at the dining room table and I was I
was just had it out there and I was like,
I was like, Jess, you'll never believe. And so I
told her the story about it. And that night we
had some neighbors come over and they have two little
girls and these girls are like the one girl sees
you go, ah, she goes what is that. I was like, Oh,
it's it's an antique dollar or whatever. She's like, that
(27:34):
is scary. It's like a scary doll. So what I
had was, I said Jess, you got to start playing
with them. So they got off the bus and just
put it at the bus stop, and so I was
sitting there at the bus stop. And then like two
days later they came home and it was in their
hall when you got so the one kicked it. The
(27:54):
youngest one, Coco like kicked it, and uh, she's still
with us.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
It worked, it came, it went on purpose. Dream.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
That's so funny because I that was one of my
favorite things that I think I've probably ever done to you,
for sure.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Oh my god, Yeah, absolutely hilarious. Okay, here we go. Well, Joe,
let's see how you feel. You're Italian. Of course, this
comes to us from Danielle. Does pineapple belong on pizza?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
No, stop with your stupid questions. You can't have a pineapple.
You don't put a fruit on top of a cheese.
Everybody knows this. Here's something else that annoys me when
people get the fruit of themar and they take the parmegian
cheese and they sprinkle it on top. You don't put
cheese on seafood. You don't do it, stupid, You don't
put cheese on seafood. One exception you get is a shrimp, parmesan,
that's it. I don't want to cheese on your seafood.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
That's weird. And you don't put pineapple on a pizza and.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
Yeah, red sauce.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Would you if I gave you a bowl of h
if I gave you a bowl.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Of spaghetti and they made the balls and I said, here,
we want to become some pineapple in that?
Speaker 1 (28:59):
No?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Absolutely not no.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And and the amount of non sauce that has no business,
no business.
Speaker 3 (29:06):
I like how the like like when a Mexican UH
journalist is like, and we're going to like I wish
I could do that with Korean stuff, but there's just
like no, it's like it's kimchi kimchi.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Yeah, you just did it. No, I think for me
it's not.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
But you've I will say this though, I will find
that it has the later the night is the more
acceptable it is, right, the late.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Like you're the more beverages you popped in pineapple, Yeah,
of course it's pineapple.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Yeah, give me a candy cotton wrapped burrito.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Did you ever have that? What do they call that?
They called it Hawaiian pizza?
Speaker 3 (29:41):
Right, white pizza?
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Yeah? Do you have you?
Speaker 3 (29:43):
Do you do that? Never never, I'm I'm greatest hits.
When it comes to pizza, give me pepperoni. When it's
fully loaded, it loses like then, I'm it doesn't taste
like anything when I take a.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
Bite, too much has fallen off it. I hate that.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Yeah, even when I get like a vegetable slice, like
I like, I like a black olive and maybe a
mushroom warm.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
But I want I still want just enough.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
I want to sprinkling. Yeah, I don't want to. I
don't want to farm. I don't want to farm. Salad
pizza no, literally just gonna shit on that.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
And you said, no, you like you hate a salad pies.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Oh my god, because you.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
You're tricking yourself.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
And they're like, I'm healthy, I get my I'm having Yes,
I'm having a salad pizza.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
A Caesar Pizza's a pizza.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Same thing. Those for me are a little much. I
mean they just kind of fall like it doesn't do anything.
All the ship falls off. Yeah, yeah for me. For me,
I'm a classic.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
I like, you know, I do love an upside down pie,
the one with the cheese is on the bottom and
the top greatest. Okay, this is coming to us from
why God, I just had three windows pop up. Okay,
this is coming us from Sue. I struggle with planning ahead.
How far ahead do you plan? If you could jump
into the future ten years, where do you see yourselves?
(30:54):
Not ten years. I don't jump ten years. I don't
plant ten years out. Do you plant ten years out?
It's crazy? Ten it's give again. I'll give you ten months.
I won't do I wan't to ten years.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
I probably take it by I should probably do better
than this, but I take it by the year.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
Okay, I probably do.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
Like at the beginning of the year.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
End of the year, I'm like, what do I want
to do this year kind of thing where I'll be
like looking around that November through January timeframe and I'll
be like, Okay, what do I want to accomplish? Or
do I think the rest of the time, I'm just
kind of trying to survive. But I yeah, you know,
of course we have long term goals. Want to make
a film, want to do you know, those kind of things.
But as far as like putting up plan and acting
up plan for that, I don't really do that.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Yeah. I think it's just I think you're more of
a planner than me though.
Speaker 3 (31:36):
I definitely plan ahead, and this is the problem. I
plan so much ahead. I never have time to think
about the past. Like but we were like, do you
remember that time where I'm like, it's all a blur
because I am always thinking about tomorrow, next week.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
What do I gotta do for this? Always planning ahead.
I have no recollection of the past. Absolutely, I'm one
of the worst people to ask. But do you remember
that time? Have no idea, so your future no clue.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
You're living in the future.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
You're like Doc Brown always yes, yeah, yes, Marty, yeah,
always about the future.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
But I think if you're struggling to plan, if you're
struggling to think about how to plan ahead, I just
write things down on a calendar, like I'm like, you know,
by X, I'd like to have this accomplished by Z.
Need to have that done. So and constantly like creating
meetings or things for myself like noon Wednesday, you're gonna
(32:25):
sit down, you will think about this, you know, or
who are you working with that you could generate ideas with,
you know.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
I think organizing is a very smart tool to look
It's definitely better for me, and I think anybody would
say it's better a plan than not flying by seat
of the pants. Sometimes you work out for you, but
you're stumbling forward. It's nice to have a plan if
you want to be somebody that has a plan. I
think that's an amazing tip. You just gave get a
blank calendar. Fill it up with just random dates, people like, hey,
(32:51):
by March eighteenth, I'm gonna be doing this or whatever.
I think that's a really cool idea. Absolutely one of
the best ideas you've ever shared with us. Here on
two Cool Moms.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
You got one, Stevie, thank you, you got one.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Buddy, great child, you did it. I did it.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
I'm cool only episode ninety seven.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
I'm cool. Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Well I think we did that. God, this keeps like okay,
this is coming us from Ryan.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
My girl and I have a two year old son,
but have not had keep it.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
That was an easy one.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Okay, Caroly and I have had a two year old son,
but I have not had any intimacy since his birth
two years She said she doesn't feel like herself. We're
not married, but care for each other deeply. Now we're
at a crossroads.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Can I propose and risk not having into Can I
propose and risk not having intimacy forever. How can I
approach a subject with her?
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Well, it's definitely a talking to.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
It might be a very heavy talk that may require
a third party in. It might be a couple's therapist session,
you know, because I do think, like I never did
couple therapy, but I do think that sometimes you're gonna
need it out. You both have spoken your piece, right,
you want some intimacy. She doesn't feel sexy, good, good
(34:15):
enough as herself. Okay, you need your intimacy. She doesn't
want to provide it and does not feel in the
space where she can. You both have valid points, So
you need somebody who's an outside party that could sit
down and help you work through the answer because you're
gonna just keep this the two. This is where we
are in life, and there's nothing wrong with either perception. Yeah,
you want this, she wants done, and you know that's
(34:36):
that's the way it is. So I think I think
it would be smart to have outside countsl to help
you work through it.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
And I don't think this is like you should start
going to therapy.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
I mean, I think honestly, in a couple sessions where
you're have an honest conversations, you could figure something out.
So you should just go and think about, like how
do we get through this? You know, that would be
my that would be my thing. This again, unless you
haven't talked about it yet and you just said, well
she said this.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Once and she said she doesn't feel like herself.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
Well did you have an honest conversation about it? First
of all, sit down and be like, like, this is being
a deal breaker from me here. I would love to
marry you, but I can't see myself being locked in
an intimate, seed less marriage. You know, let her know
the gravity of the situation and then maybe we could
course correct a little.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
I completely agree with you. You got to communicate, right, But
I think also you can fall into the routine of
like understanding, Okay, it's all about the kid now, right,
So why not surprise it with like a date night, Like,
surprise her, take her out, make it romantic, whine and
dine her like you're on your third date and you're
(35:38):
trying to impress her again, don't stop dating, right and
spark that romance and then uh, you know, get the
chocolate covered strawberries, pop a boner pill there, you put
some condoms on the table.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Perfect and be like your move.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
Exactly, but let her know, give her some gatorades, say
I don't want you cramping up game time. This is
gonna be a session.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I think I do think that there is something to
the spontaneity you know of of it all, but there
is also a piece like of like get a calendar
and mark March eighteenth as.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Boo will.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
It is like, let's do it like so you know,
everybody could stretch out, hydrate and be ready to go.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (36:17):
Give me a thing too. It might be something where
you're like, hey, look I want to have a date night,
let's do it. I want to looking at this like
if you get and also as always, like we always
say with.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
Come with solutions, tell me like this is a problem.
What do we do? Like be like, hey, here's something
I thought about that maybe could do.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
What do you think start the conversation with solutions is
always going to come off as a better conversation.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
What woman doesn't feel like insecure after birth? They all
feel that way and she hasn't probably gotten over it
since so.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
As a baby. Wait, Milana is not.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
Make her feel sexier though, make her feel good. Compliment
her and you know, and you know, let her come
home and see a treadmill.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Get to get the tread get each other for Christopher
your anniversary. Let her get you a lawnmower, you get
her a treadmill. It's two great, great gifts that everybody appreciates.
Speaker 3 (37:03):
Get to work, no carbs, no sugar for the next month.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
They we're doing Atkins.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
We trim it down. Okay, here we go with it.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
Steve, you've got another question for us, and again, thank
you everybody who submitted. We love you, we appreciate you. Yes,
this is coming to us from Will. Will says, I
have feelings for friend.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
What can I do to see if the feeling is
mutual without jeopardizing the French to it?
Speaker 1 (37:34):
Don't do it?
Speaker 2 (37:35):
Well, Yeah, keep your mouth shut, it's not gonna pan out.
Speaker 3 (37:40):
Well, go to a laundry, get some panties, take a whiff.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
Yeah, we've already.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
I mean, that's the best, I guess, the best advice
I think that you're gonna get from us too, because
this is ain't happening. We've we've spoken to said crush
and uh, we had to break it to you. But
the question that we haven't read was what do I do?
I think Will likes me, so I don't. I don't
know what to tell you at this point. I think
you just got to chalk it up and move on
to the next one.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
It's interesting because it's like, how like it's primarily guys
in this situation, and it's just like, have.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Their it's not one hundred percent, it's heavily guys. You're right,
heavily guys. Have there been warning flares? Have there been like.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
Read the room is number one?
Speaker 3 (38:18):
Yeah, exactly the room.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
If she called you, like if she calls you your brother,
you're out forget it and she's like you're like a brother.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
You're done. You're done that, You're done now. And the
call you can't you can't get passed. Here's what you
need to know.
Speaker 3 (38:30):
This is only only a crush due to proximity. You've
got maybe three great friends. One of them is a
cute girl, and because you see her all the time,
and that's the girl you're exposed to, that your desert rose.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
You have no choice but to be attracted to her.
What you need to do is expand your palette. Get
out there, meet more people, meet more girls, and I'm
telling you, it's going to get a back burner so quick.
The mini you're out, you're having fun, you're at the
book club or whatever, just meeting whoever you can. I
think the more you give yourself the opportunity to meet
(39:05):
different people, the less this will be there, because it's
I think the times it's just it's it's due to proximity.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
The collection of it. Yeah, I will say this too.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
I do think there's a way to approach it, if
you've got to approach it, and I don't think the
way you approach it is can I talk.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
To you for a minute.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
Look, I've been having feelings about you, and I really
think that there could be something. No, it's I think
the way you approach it is be like, do you
ever think about us dating? Literally something like that, something
not heavy entry and take it step by step from there.
If she's like no, that'd be so weird, you're like, yeah, probably, yeah,
you're done. If she's like, oh, I never thought about that,
Maybe maybe I don't know. That might be a little weird,
wouldn't it If she says wouldn't it back to you,
(39:39):
it's a conversation now, So now you could go next
step and like, nah, I don't know, it'd be weird.
I'd think it pretty you know, something like that, like
if you've approach it that way. But I think those
grand gesture sit downs, I highly highly I think there's
a big failure right there.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
I don't think they ever really work out.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
It becomes an interrogation, it becomes a pressure situation that
ruins the friendship.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
If she's able to brush it off and like no,
that's that would be weird and it's done. You could
remain friends easily if you're like.
Speaker 3 (40:06):
Every rose.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
She's like, what fuck you doing?
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Well, we're going to get pizza and put some pineapple
on it.
Speaker 1 (40:14):
Like it's a totally different thing.
Speaker 3 (40:17):
So for me, I would wait. I would wait.
Speaker 1 (40:20):
Like the sky riding it was like, you know, that
whole thing. I don't think it's that's so true though.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
I think it always comes down to the first that
one of the first who said read the room.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Yeah, yeah, there'll be warning signs, you know they'll be
there'll be signs, you know, So I think.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Uh, I think I think that's uh, proceed with.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
Caution, right, Yeah, okay, this last one more we got time.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
One more comes to us from Jill. Hi, Moms, you
guys are the best. Thank you for the question, Jill,
thanks for including me in that. Usually it's Joe, You're
the best, Hi Moms. And the other guy's funny too,
and the other guy. Yeah, Hi Joe and the other guy.
I just finished a great series.
Speaker 3 (41:01):
Any recommendations on anything you guys happen to be watching
right now?
Speaker 1 (41:06):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (41:07):
I have so many I'm so backlogged right now. The
number one thing that I need to watch now, which
I haven't watched them. You're gonna be mad at me,
iin because you've seen it, and everybody out there is
gonna be mad at me because I know everybody loves it.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
Is the first season of White Lotus. I've never seen one.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
I've never seen it.
Speaker 2 (41:19):
Okay, so people gonna hate you too. People swear by
this AI. It's phenomenal. So that's one I need to
go watch. I'm backlogged. I'm not really watching anything now.
I'm not a big watcher.
Speaker 1 (41:30):
This is the thing.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Bessie falls asleep early. I normally just I'm on my phone,
then I go play video games. If I'm in a
video game, I'm not so right now, I'm in a
video games. I'm not really watching anything okay, you know,
and even on the road, I don't really do a
lot of watching. I threw on a couple of movies
that I hadn't seen, but as far as series, no,
I don't really have anything. I know a lot of
people are talking about, you know, but I haven't seen
anything of note.
Speaker 3 (41:50):
I still love the experience of going to movies. I
love buying a ticket. I love supporting something. I love
supporting somebody who's adventurous, like Steven Soderberg saw A Presence,
which is a horror film, and I saw the trailer.
I was like, Wow, that looks cool. And then I
showed the trailer to my daughter and she goes, oh,
(42:11):
so there's a film about the perspective of a ghost
and the ghost is haunting the house. And I was like, wait,
how did you pick that up? I didn't pick that up,
Like she's in seventh grade, and she knew it then
forty five seconds and I thought it was just kind
of like cool place. And I was like, I'm a dipshit,
of course it is so. But I saw the film
phenomenal and it's from the ghost perspective and it can't communicate,
(42:33):
but it's it's haunting a house. And then you realize
why it's haunting a house. And I'd never seen a
film like that.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I never see anything like that.
Speaker 3 (42:41):
I'll tell you it was wild. You don't feel bored, great,
you feel like you're a fly on the wall. It
was really really cool. I love that knows Faratu I saw,
which was amazing.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
I was saying, I look like the guy.
Speaker 3 (42:55):
You do not look like I feel.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
We like, send me pictures and put Joseph Joe's Ferato.
No no, no, no no, you do not look like those.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
Hold and then I.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Just yeah, like, well, but what I think are you?
It's safe to say you're more of a movie guy
than a TV guy. I'm definitely more of a movie
I love movies.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
I have my chance to sit down I watch a
movie because I like knowing I'm committing to ninety minutes
to one hundred and twenty minutes and that's it.
Speaker 3 (43:26):
I'm knowing ten hours.
Speaker 1 (43:28):
What am I doing over ten hours? It was like,
that's too much.
Speaker 3 (43:30):
Yeah, I agree, I'd rather do anything else.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
Agree.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
I will say the last great series that I just saw,
I just watched Penguin. I thought, oh, amazing, amazing. I
tho it was phenomenal. It felt like it felt like
a movie. The actress was, yes.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Was so good.
Speaker 3 (43:42):
I forget her name, but holy she was crazy amazing.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
Yeah, I think overall, I thought everything was great and
it even the kid was great. I think it was
a really really good, well done series. It was reminiscent
to me of the first Daredevil. I think Daredevil was.
Speaker 3 (43:54):
I never saw the first dared Devil and it's coming
back though, right.
Speaker 2 (43:57):
The first series of Daredevil is arguably one of the
best best series.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
That, in my opinion, that made TV.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
It has the best fight scene in episode one that
I think that ever is on television.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Yeah, he's it's amazing.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
He's I'm not spoiling anything, but he fights down the
hallway blind and it's one shot, really yeah, and the
camera's just going in and through rooms and just like
watching him come down. It's one of the best coolest things.
I've said, and I've seen it copied multiple times. It's
really good.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
You know what's interesting. I I, my kids and I
we you know, we tried to watch like Acolyte, They're
like they got two in they're like bait it and
or was a little too adult for them to like. Sorry,
they loved they loved Mandalorian both my kids, daughter and son.
And then because the last few Star Wars shows that
were hesitant on Scalet Skeleton Crew if you've watched.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
It and yet awesome, awesome, Should I watch my kidscause
they've been asking me.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
My kids love it. And it was one of those
things where it's like, Okay, we're gonna watch this together.
It's all on the road for two days. Oh it's
it's a it's a blast and on the road four
ahead of me, and I'm like, all right, I'll just
catch up later. And I watched I watched two more
with him last night, so we got two more left.
And my son and daughter both love it. They love
that show. It is fun. There's no ego, there's no like,
(45:12):
there's no agenda to it. It's just a great story
and it's kids having fun. And Jude Law is great
and it's kind of fun to see Jude Law play
somebody who's a little more fun, I guess fun than
what he's normal played the past. I love it.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
Okay, I'll check that out. Well, there you go. Skelton Crow,
that's what.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Skelter Crew there you go there, or there's great movies
or better man the Robbie Williams want to keep talking
about it. I can't recommend that movie more highly. It
is a blast. I think it's one of those films
because it's like the Justin Timberlake of the of England.
He left a popular boy band, he blew up. He's
big everywhere apparently, but the States and this film came
(45:48):
out and the La fires happened that weekend and that
you know, he's gonna have this big premiere and just
like bad timing again. I could not recommend this film
more highly. And I I'm telling you it's so fun,
it's so heartfelt. There's a lot of great messaging behind it,
and he's fully open and transparent about all his failures
in his life whatever. But man, it's an absolute blast.
(46:11):
And if you if you want to know, just want
just go rock DJ scene from They put up the
whole scene on YouTube. I think there's gonna be one
of those films that comes down in streaming and people.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
Discovered go and find it again.
Speaker 3 (46:23):
Shit, it is awesome.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
Head of the Curve here on two cool moms. That's
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This is it.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
We're here in Nashville, Yes, and we I've come to
Stevie's hometown.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh yeah, he's got hometown town advantage. We're in front
of a fireplace here, yes, one of well, and thank
you for having me in your lovely town.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Of course, why is it such a big day?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Because we build it up because I came to you
and this has happened maybe four times and the whole
whole time that we've been doing Two Cool Moms, over
ninety episodes.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Most of them are filmed in New York.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
But something we did live in Nashville.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
We did a couple of live ones in Nashville at
the Zanes Comedy Club. Then we also recorded a couple
in the Zanies place We've never done recently here, but
I'm very excited to be here in Nashville.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
So you know, tell me your.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Top five favorite spots, top five favorite spots. I had
a very interesting thing happened with my son. Okay, I
had a couple of shows canceled because of weather. I
was able to go home for a weekend. I was
able to catch them play basketball.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Very nice.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
So my son, unfortunately athleticism comes from his father.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Athlete.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Athlete, yes, yes, so he was the first half of
the game. They do like a practice and then a game.
He's seven, so it's not really a thing. So they
do a half hour practice and then a half hour game.
And the first half hour he was just in tears
at the foul line, reaching to me as if I
could save him, like he was sinking in the Titanic,
like I know, like Buddy, I was just like clapping him,
trying to get him all the love.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Then they start the game and he's not first string, surprise,
and they put him in the second string and he
goes in and he just starts crying and he's just
while he's playing, but he's playing, so he's dribbling and
crying and he's like gauding people and crying and then
he shoots the ball and by the grace of Baby Jesus,
that goes in and he turns.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Oh, he turned into lebron.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
He was like boxing half, he started dancing, he was
flipping off, he was waving to me.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I was like, Oh, that's all took.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
It was super easy, and I think that's a really
cool moment as a parent, But it came right after
the most uncomfortable and I think worse that I felt
as a parent, knowing that they'll get to that part
where he'll be into it.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
But it was like one of the first times I
was like, Oh, he's got to get there on his own,
and you're not like sleep in and help them.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
It was really, you can only do so much, right, Yeah,
you can only do so much. But it's interesting. It's
like once the kids get there, yeah, no matter what.
Like my son's the same thing. It's just like I
don't want to go. I don't want to go, and
then you get there. It's like there's always that pivot
moment where it's like, oh, this is fun. Yeah, and
then they're they're off to the race.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
It's so fun to see these little moments because my
son's at seven and you're really seeing I think this
is his six month year period where I'm going to
see a lot of the things. Were just at the ocean,
Turks and Caicos. He gets walloped by a wave and
I'm like that that's it. We gotta go out of
the water. We're gonna sit down.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
He popped up, went awesome, and ran back in and
I was like, oh the hell did you hit your
head on a rock? Like? What happened? Did you hit
a cod cell? I was like, Dad, and I'm like what.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
He's hanging ten? I couldn't believe it. Yeah, I said
the best of you. I was like, did you just
see that? She was like I can't believe And he
was like in the ocean and I was like, wow,
this is pretty he's becoming like a real boy, like
a Pinocchio, Like he's like really like doing these kinds
of things. He's really just like jumping off stuff. And
like it's really interesting to see because he was so reserved.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
You know, you can see, especially your son, he's he's
he's very there's kids you meet, You're just like, this
is a smart kid. He's very introspective. And again that
that day we're hanging out, he's doing math problems with
the professor of the university. It's like that's fascinating stuff,
and like most kids wouldn't be doing that. And I
(04:24):
was just like, Wow, this kid is going to be
to go JPL. He's gonna get t or something like sure,
you just tell brainy.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
But it was really it's just really cool to see
that part of it.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
And then I was trying to think back of like
my sports moments, which you're very few and far between.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
And that's all the time we have to I don't
know how long you want me to go. I mean,
because I could tell you what was.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Your greatest athletic sports moment, Oh, you had to have
had one. Eighth grade our star player Francisco de Francisco
fails out, files out right. So now Francisco Francis. Friend's
name is friend, Frankie D. Francisco de Francisco, a great name.
Files out, fifth foul, go sixth man, Joe get in here,
I get in there. Okay, I'm playing pounder guard. Here
I go point guard. Were down by two, Okay, I
(05:06):
know what.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Down by one? I get fouled. Okay, it's one and one,
one second on the clock, so the first one solution.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Okay, this is your Albundi moment.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Okay, I wish that's what happened.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
What happened was I threw it so hard because I
was so nervous that it hit the.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Rafters of the gym.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Wait what I overshot?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
It's so bad that I hit the ceiling of the gym.
That's how nervous I was.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
And we lost that Fast forward a couple of games
later in the season, same deal. I was a six
minute and Frankie D comes in too hard fell you know,
he fouls out three minutes left in the game.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I shoot, I score, make us lead by one. But
then the game.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Runs out and it wasn't like at the moment thing
nobody else scored, so we ended up winning the game
on my shot that happened two minutes earlier, you know,
and I got picked up on the shoulder. Didn't even
realize what happened. The kids will pick me on the shoulder.
Everybody's going nuts. It is the one game that both
of my parents didn't come to. No one of my
parents would always come, but my sisters, who both were
good athletes. My sister Gina was a badass high school player.
(06:12):
She had her championship game. My dad went to watch her.
My mom went to watch my sister cheerlead because my
sister is a cheerleader, and they're like, he's not going
to do anything.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
He never does, And of course my mom, I remember
it like it was yesterday.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
My mom walked into the gymnasium as I was on
the shoulders of the kids and everybody's going god, oh,
and she just dropped her keys and her face turned white,
and she was like, like, what did I miss?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Well?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
She saw that, she saw well, she saw that, like
she saw the aftermath of like it happened. You know,
she didn't see the moment she walked in literally as
putting me down, and I ran over and I hugged
her and I was like, I won the game, and
she just started crying because she felt so dude.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Never happened again. She died. That was it. That was it.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
That was her moment.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
She lost it.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
She lost it.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
She want to see my sister go okay, ready, okay,
all right, that is the way.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
It's not roudy, that's what she's saying. And a boy
sinking deuces O. So yeah, that was crazy.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
That was That was probably one of the most insane
moments of like, I think from a parent point of
view too.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
My mom was like, what are the chances this kid
wins the game?
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Yeaheah, but you've had many many victory laps at a
roulette table.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
A roulette table, oh yeah, craps table, a bowling alley.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
You know what was your best? What's the high street
of her bowl to eighty eight? Are you kidding me? Wait?
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Three?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
N YEA was it was a complete fluke In high school. Yeah,
in high school, I was just in the zone. I
was that's like probably turkey in it up, got gobble.
I was just hitting them up, lining them up, knocking
them down.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
It's kind of annoying too, because I had like the
open frame like in the beginning and then I like
struck out all the way to the end. So I
was like, oh, man, if I didn't mess up in
the beginning, you know, I just found my groove though.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Wow, that was it.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
That was I had never bowled over to.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
I don't think like a two ten after that or whatever,
but that was like, that was like a fluke that
I had one game.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
It was killer and then uh yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
My average and high school was one eighty one ninety
around there.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
Wow, but to get up to two eighty eight, that's good.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Remember that. Yeah, it was cool.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
My daughter just went on her first date.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Time outep, back her up, back her up.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Hit me with it. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
She went on her first date seventh grade. Nice first date,
falling date. No, here's what it would jump park?
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Oh nice.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
By the way, my wife said, they she wants to
go to bounce house. I'm like, don't say that. It's
a jump park. So so my my daughter said, can
I go to this jump park and meet this boy
I like on a date and then just them. Well
here's what she said. She goes, Mom, you could sit
(08:44):
there and hang out and then even if Kent wants
to come, Kent can come. And so she was at
dinner and Kent She's like, Kent, would you want to go?
And Kent was like, well, I should probably go there
just to look out. And I was like, wow, that
was cool. So it was nice to see like my
daughter felt secure, right. She wasn't like inhibited or nervous
(09:05):
or felt embarrassed by it. She was very forthcoming to say,
is it okay if I go on a date, you
can be there? And she invited my my son.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Which includes a boy.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That's great, that includes the that's that's and then the
sun volumes and then your boy to be there to
look out for you.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
It was like, you're doing.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Something right, Stevie, you do it. Sorry, that's that's all, Jess.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
That's all just what I meant by you.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I had to say about Jess.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Good work, Jess because he's ship, but job that got
to have you, Jess.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
And then uh, obviously you just you know. I was like,
what's his name? Of course, and then she said the
boy's name and I was like, okay, he's definitely white,
so that's good. Idiot, you idiot, what you gotta keep that?
I gotta keep it in. She wants to meet demurvious.
I'll be there now too.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
You said it it? So did you? So you did
you know the boy? Have you? Did you know who
he was? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:56):
I hang out with boys. Yeah, I'm Kevin Spacey. How
would I How would I know a thirteen year old boy?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
I don't know you know the school that you go to?
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Hi, I'm a youth pastor with a shady past.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
We're just chopping minutes out at this point. I don't
know what you're talking about.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
I don't know the boy.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I don't know who he is. Okay, So did you
want to know what he looks like? Did you like
go on Facebook?
Speaker 3 (10:15):
I just want to know what Racey was.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
That's it what you need as a father, as a dad.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
No, No, I'm totally.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
No.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
I just look, it's it's that it's at popular age.
It's like it's fine. Yeah, it's cute and it's sweet.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
So what were they Was he just going to meet
her and they were gonna jump around the park together,
just the two of them or was it a group
of friends?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
One on one?
Speaker 3 (10:35):
It was just one on one. But then my my
son was there, he brought a friend, my wife was there,
and it's like a huge like, it's not like there's
anywhere to go off.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
No, no, no, Yeah, it's like a park. Yeah, okay, So
did she have fun?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
She had fun. I guess she likes the kid.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Does she talk to you about this stuff?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Like?
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Does she or she talked to Jess?
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Or she talks to Jess. I've let her know, like
I try to lay the groundwork. I've told my kids
this their whole lives, and my daughters, I said, there's
gonna come a point in your life where you don't
want to talk to me. It's gonna come point in
your life where you don't even want to be around me.
But even when that happens, I'm letting you know I'll
always be here for you, and I want you to
(11:12):
be honest with me. And no matter how bad a
situation is, if you're honest with me, you'll never be
in trouble. So just tell me the truth from the beginning.
So there's like the two things I've tried to tell
them that's important.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
But yeah, I heard a great great thing be a
gotta dad, not a don't.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
And what a gotta dad not a don't? When your
kid's in trouble, you don't want them to say, don't
call my father.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
You want to say, I gotta call my father.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Right, that stuff with me, stick with me.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Yeah, it's a good one. I gotta call my dad.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
You want to be that when they're in the biggest
trouble they need, they want to call you.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Not I can't call my father, Like if they find out,
they'll kill me. Like you don't want that.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
It's even like when when she said she's going on
a date, I'm like, well, she's the seventh grade. I
guess is when it starts my and I asked my wife.
I was like, when did you go on the first date?
She's like seventh grade. I'm like you you slung Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:05):
What was his name? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (12:07):
But she's like, how about you?
Speaker 2 (12:08):
I was like, I graduated high school and then and
went on my first Well, yeah, I was my first
double date I went on.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
I was in eighth grade. I went to the movies
and I.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Did the whole Yeah, but you were you were very
confident is that grade?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
No?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
No, super giky No, I was terrible. I did a
whole yawn thing. It was a group date. She like
called her mom to take her home. Like I was
all the other dates. Everybody was making out in the
arcade and I was like, yeah, yeah, I bowl.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
I was actually a bowl.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yond that's funny show places entertainment and it's that, but
I uh yeah, I never I wanted I think that
was what I would consider that probably my first date
in eighth grade. But it was a double It was
a double date, like just it was a bunch of
people together, right, Yeah, but the seventh grade seems about
the right time, especially nowadays.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
That's probably. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah, my my daughter is going to have her Valentine's dance,
so that's gonna be interesting. That's the But it's like
a group thing. Although these girl she's fourth she's in
fourth grade. Yea fourth grade okay, so it's the fourth
and fifth graders of the school and it's just basically
it's a two hour thing, you know. Then they asked
for parents a chaperone, and I looked at best. I said,
do I chaperon? She goes, you can't, You'll be such
(13:14):
a distraction of the school.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Yeah, she's like you can't. I said, well you have
to do that, and she's like, I'm not going to
do it. I don't want to do that. You know.
She's an introvert, totally gonna do that. I want to
be a stroll.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
So one of the moms that we know, a couple
of the moms that we know that we're close with
their kids, a couple of them signed ups are like, okay,
do was a fair just.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Let's never see anything?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Yeah. Well, you know what's interesting though? Is it seventh grade?
I remember my friend Matt Kirshner, who was like, I
was joined the hip with this guy seventh grade.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I went to his house. This is the first experience
I had with alcohol and a friend. He drank like
wild turkey. He's like, why don't you try this? And
I remember smelling like this is disgusting.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
And I tried it and then he chased me around
his house with a kitchen knife, pretending to kill me.
And I'd never been more frightened in my life. And
I was like, seventh grade alcohol, chase, you are out
a kitchen knife with a kitchen knife.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Yeah, he got hammered and I ran out of his
house and I ran down the street to my other friend,
Brian Doherty's house, and I asked to call my mom
to pick me up.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
That's in yeah, crazy.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That's wild turkey.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
I was a chicken.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Well there's a title, yeah, Wild Turkey.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
But I was thinking, boy, that was seventh grade. And
then I was like, oh my god, I should talk
to my daughter. And that was another thing I talked
to her. I pulled her side after dinner. I said,
I know you're going on the state. I also want
to tell you this is an age where kids are
going to expose you to things and I can't make
the decision for you. I can only tell you what
is the right thing and the wrong thing to do.
(14:45):
So I hope in these situations you make the right decision.
But know this, I'll always be here for you. You
can call me right. But it's not a smart thing
to indulge in these things at that age, okay, And
there's kids that are going to indulge and they're going
to exposed to you things and say it's okay and
it's kind of fun or whatever, and they're not. They're not.
So I'm trying to you know, she's gonna learn her
(15:08):
own mistake, absolutely, but.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
It's kind of crazy you have that talk. It's seventh grade. Now.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Seventh grade though, but then that's when I think I
remember my friends were going I was scared.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
You're gonna have the liquor is taking the liquor cabinets.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Yeah, going in the woods, drinking cores, light beer, skunked
didn't matter, getting popped up, you know, I just I
don't know. I was always scared of it when I
was a kid.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
And oh, you conquered that fair buddying a superhero.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Now, thank you do it?
Speaker 1 (15:37):
You tell you you're like, listen, you're gonna go drink
and call me because I want to come.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Yeah, I think that's uh, I think that's interesting. You know,
you worry about that stuff. I always said my parents
didn't really lay guilt. It was kind of really interesting
how they did it because I was always worried about
the words I'm disappointed in you would like to feel that,
and my parents barely said it to me, but they
did a great job of instilling.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
That in me, which I don't still don't know to say.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
That's one of the biggest things I wish about that
I could talk to them about as a parent, Like
if I think about like what I would learn from that.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
I wish I could garner how.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
They made me be good by fearing disappointing them without
ever making me feel like I disappointed them, Like there's
such a magic trick they pulled off, you know.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
But it is, it's you know, it's something. It's funny
you mentioned that because it's something like even with me
and my kids, Like, I think it's more impactful to
be in a situation where your child messes up and
you sit them down, you explain why, and then you
leave them with a I'm so disappointed in you and
(16:41):
you walk away. That is I believe more impactful than
get to your room, because it's so emotionv for three weeks. Yeah,
like I'd rather do what I disappointed in you than
go to your room.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
I agree, I don't think.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
I trying to like rack my brain right now and
think about there was a time where that that even happened.
And I remember one time that I punished myself because
I not I was out sick from school and I
didn't study for this exam and I ended up getting
a sixty five, which is still passing, but it.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Was like the worst grade in the world for me.
I was in seventh grade, right.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
I got a sixty five, and I went home. I
was beside myself. I was like my mother was like
my mom was like, she's like, what's the matter. I
was like, I messed up.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I'm so bad.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
I hung it on the refrigerator to remind me how
bad it was, and then I went up, says, and
I disconnected my Nintendo and I put it away and
I punished myself.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
I was like, you can't.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
You punished yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Yeah. So my father came home.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
He had the sixty five in his hand and he
looked at me, and I was in my room. I
was like, like beside myself, and he's like, he's like,
what's the matter with you. He's like, it's one test.
He crumpled it up. He said, doesn't matter. And then
I was like that and I was and I was
like wow. But like he had the opportunity to like,
it's as if right, it's as if he.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Said, you're disappointing you because grades was super poor my pets.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Especially knowing how you were reacted, and it was just like, oh, fine,
it's already fine.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Yeah, I don't need There was only one time my
kid ever said I'm disappointed in you. It ate hurt.
That's bad, that hurt. She said, I just saw your
last special and I directed it. Yeah, damn so.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Disappointed in you. Was so sorry.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
She's like, you put me in it, she said, I'd
like this off my IFBB.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
How's your date?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
You saw your special?
Speaker 3 (18:25):
All right?
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Let me uh shall we get in this, Let's get
into it, Let's have some uh, let's help the people's
right that while we're here now, thanks so much for
listening to you are our wonderful podcast.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
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Speaker 3 (18:46):
That's right, all right, This coming on is from Phoebe. Phoebe,
thank you for the question.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
I was surprised at my Spotify wrapped from twenty twenty four.
Do you have any surprising music or artists that made
your top listens this year?
Speaker 3 (18:58):
Huh? I'll tell you. I went down a Red Clay
Strays rabbit hole when we when we had them as guests.
I knew them before and then haven't seen them and
hanging out with but I really went down like a
deep dive on them, and I really came to appreciate them.
You know who I discovered recently that was always on
the radio when we were kids, Bruce Hornsby and Range.
(19:20):
And I was like, there was a song that came
up and then another one was recommended. I was like,
you know, let me I know two of his songs.
Let me go down a deep dive. I took a
deep dive and he just came up with an album
like two or three years ago, and I was like,
this is amazing, and just to give myself the moment
to be exposed to him, it was awesome. He did
a lot of collaborations and that was a surprising one
(19:43):
for me. And then I saw a documentary on yacht rock,
and then I know, I spotified all the Christopher Cross
and the you know, Kenny Loggins and Michael McDonald and
all those like great.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
What is the number one yacht rock song? It's gotta
be sill Away, right, come sell away that way.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
It's a rock song. You're licking, you know, takes taking
away and.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Then they have the icebreak and then that should have
been Yeah, that would have been a great song.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
I like that rock.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
I mean you're talking to a guy who had multiple cruises.
We love the out rock. Of course, yeah, I love
the out rock, out rocks fun. I I love a
good you know, yacht rock.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
You know, for me different experience becausey out rock isn't
much dancing. It's more like singing and swaying and where
my body gets music and it wants to move.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Baby. So like I, you know, I get enough of it.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
I kind of get bored, to be honest, like I
can't take a yacht rock concert.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
You dabble, your dibble, you put it in there a
little bit. I'm okazy with it.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
But once you're really getting into the yacht, I need
more rocking of this boat and don't come and knocking
and this boat rock.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
That's really the way it goes, right, it's your color fhyll,
that's your son.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Like after like a couple, it's like okay, and now
I want to start moving my body a little bit.
Yeah yeah, So for me now, but I will say
for my wrapped I don't know. I I I really
went down when I saw A JR.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Brothers live.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
When I saw A jar I literally went back to
like all their catalogs and me and my daughter were
listening to all their songs and and really discovered a
lot of there I bought a lot of their I
bought every album to put out on vinyl and I
I just really like liked a lot of their stuff.
And it was started with a couple songs. And now
I'm a fan of albums.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
Of You're a big top forty guy. Yeah, like very
mainstream pop heavy today.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Yes, I do find that I am in the popoclectic
of people. But I do dabble in like a motown.
I love like old school kind of, so when it
goes to old school, it's like American standards and like
Motown and my two biggest we're I'll go into stuff right.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
But as far as like because A Jr. Really Is
I mean, they have a couple songs that were on
the radio, but there I.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Enjoyed ready the SpongeBob song. Do you know what I'm
talking about?
Speaker 1 (21:51):
I'm ready?
Speaker 3 (21:52):
And then they had a SpongeBob SpongeBob sample.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Sample in it? Is that possibly? Okay? I don't, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (21:58):
That was the one song by them?
Speaker 1 (22:00):
Probably sure?
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah, they do well, they do bang bang bang with this.
This subway conductor in New York, please stand to the
stand clear of the closing doors.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Please. Yeah, they got him to actually say on the record, yeah,
say here we go, and that's in the song. It's
really fun.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
But I think, like, for as far as I listened
to the radio to find music, you know, I don't.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
But are there any surprises you've had, like any deep
dives that you've taken this year on somebody or an
artist that that kind of shocked you.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I would say no, No, I would say it's just
the radio. Yeah, through the radio.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
But I will say a lot of times, are our
good friend, uh Jiggy Mark Jeguardian are our producer on this?
Speaker 1 (22:39):
He will be like, oh, you got to listen.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
And the songs he'll pick are like old school, they're
still poppy, but I've never heard them.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Like he's got a catalog.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Of just He brought busted out Donnie Osman the other
day on me and I'm like, wait, Soldier of Love
really and I listen, I'm like, well.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I have a couple friends that are like and you're
one of those who have like these just that's the
way that brain works, that you music as their thing,
like you sal Mark, you know the Justin you know
Justin especially just you know works in music.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Any mood it's just like.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
Really, he's he's somebody I wish. That's a gift I had.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
I'll just say, put some music on and he will
ten at a ten times nail it.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
Whenever I was in the temperature.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
He knows. He's a he's a thermostat. That guy. He's
right up in there setting it.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
What do you need at sixty nine seventy two, let's
warm it up here in a little bit a little
too hot. We'll knock her down to a sixty you
know what, turn a fan from all that. We're gonna
go medium blow, you know, like he knows these things.
Like it really is interesting because he comes on the
road and does the green room stuff and you know,
when we're driving and whatnot.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
He's just great to have, like a DJ friend that
just gets it.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
There's a science to it.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
Yeah. But what I really like.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
About him now is that he produces music and I'm
able to like he made an original mix to end
my hour now. So I used to close whatever, and
now every night I hear the someone I closed. It's
the song that he made for me, and it's like
it's fun.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
So even like Benson Boone, right, that's somebody you discover
th iHeart I soon. But my daughter went to the
show got the sweatshirt? Where is it every three days
to school the same sweatshirt. I'm like, Libby, let me
watch it. And then to know like you're friends with
the guy, Like you're just like, hey, I'm at dinner
with Benson. Miller's like, of course you are, because you're
(24:16):
Joe Gatto. That's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
But he's somebody I saw live and I was like,
this kid has got it.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
He's an entertainer that.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Is somebody that's a rock star that's legit, a rot
like he put on a show and also could could
sing like.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
A yeoh yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
He's florish. On a second, he's not all razzal dazzle.
He's got something, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
So he's like really got it and he's like I
talked to him about some of his music. I got
to see him, which was so cool. So with the
iHeart thing, I got to be able to do all
the jingle balls, which was fun. And they do this
thing the Capitol Won Acoustic Lounge where they pick a
couple of fans to come up and one artist will
come to a couple of songs, and he played acoustic
a couple songs, and he played this song that he
had wrote and writ about his mother, and I was
like this, it was so such a real cool moving
(25:01):
right well, just to see that so stripped and raw
and you see that, and then you fast forward to
you see him with the pirate technics going off. He's
flipping off the piano, and just to see that he's
able to hold both hands steadily.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
It's like, yeah, yeah, it's interesting because some of the
music I get exposed to us through my children. Now
my daughter plays again him NonStop in the car, so
I'm exposed to it. And you know, the first few times,
there's a big grudging, like, you know, I want to
listen to my stuff, and then you listen to your
kids stuff, and I'm like, there's a theatricality to his music.
And obviously he's got a he's got a great voice,
(25:34):
but you hear it. It's it's almost kind of like
Elton John esque, where there's there's a I don't know,
there's like a production behind where there's a real resonance
story behind it as well. But but he's got it.
He's got a great voice. And then my wife. You know,
she's forty two, and she comes back from this concert
and I was like, how was she? Like amazing, amazing,
She's like that that guy's an entertainer on top of
(25:56):
obviously you're going.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
There for the music.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
So it's pretty wild to cross pass as you have
for sure.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Yeah, I would say that seeing him, like when you
get to it's a different level, right when you get
to know a person you know on top of it,
like Kobe Klay or you know, like Benson, and like
you just actually have dinner with them, yeah, and talk
with them and you're just not even talking about anything.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
You're not talking about music, you're not talking about comedy.
You're just talking. And then you're like, oh they realized,
Like I played cards with them.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
We were playing cards and like hanging out like it's
so fun, such a nice guy. And he just was
instantly like You're like, oh, this is somebody I could
be friends with, right, just you both feel and just
turn that way. I'm big on that because I know
how fickle life is, and you gotta grab somebody if
you some enjoy spend time with somebody, like I'll put
the time in. I'll reach out say hello, how you been,
you know kind of thing, send video like we send
videos back and forth, kidding around like he was at
(26:40):
the Grammy's at worsdhom luck like things like that and stuff.
You know, we were exchanging texts and things. But that's
the kind of thing just you know, let people know
you want to nurture those things.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
You are great at that.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Yeah, I try.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
By the way, the oh my god, the Chinese antique
you sent me? Can I tell you? Said things? So
it comes to me, you let me in on it.
I'm hahaha, okay, it's it's creepy. It's in my office.
(27:12):
So I brought it out and had the doll set
up at the dining room table and I was I
was just had it out there and I was like,
I was like, Jess, you'll never believe. And so I
told her the story about it. And that night we
had some neighbors come over and they have two little
girls and these girls are like the one girl sees
you go, ah, she goes what is that. I was like, Oh,
it's it's an antique dollar or whatever. She's like, that
(27:34):
is scary. It's like a scary doll. So what I
had was, I said Jess, you got to start playing
with them. So they got off the bus and just
put it at the bus stop, and so I was
sitting there at the bus stop. And then like two
days later they came home and it was in their
hall when you got so the one kicked it. The
(27:54):
youngest one, Coco like kicked it, and uh, she's still
with us.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
It worked, it came, it went on purpose. Dream.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
That's so funny because I that was one of my
favorite things that I think I've probably ever done to you,
for sure.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Oh my god, Yeah, absolutely hilarious. Okay, here we go. Well, Joe,
let's see how you feel. You're Italian. Of course, this
comes to us from Danielle. Does pineapple belong on pizza?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
No, stop with your stupid questions. You can't have a pineapple.
You don't put a fruit on top of a cheese.
Everybody knows this. Here's something else that annoys me when
people get the fruit of themar and they take the parmegian
cheese and they sprinkle it on top. You don't put
cheese on seafood. You don't do it, stupid, You don't
put cheese on seafood. One exception you get is a shrimp, parmesan,
that's it. I don't want to cheese on your seafood.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
That's weird. And you don't put pineapple on a pizza and.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
Yeah, red sauce.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Would you if I gave you a bowl of h
if I gave you a bowl.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Of spaghetti and they made the balls and I said, here,
we want to become some pineapple in that?
Speaker 1 (28:59):
No?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Absolutely not no.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And and the amount of non sauce that has no business,
no business.
Speaker 3 (29:06):
I like how the like like when a Mexican UH
journalist is like, and we're going to like I wish
I could do that with Korean stuff, but there's just
like no, it's like it's kimchi kimchi.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Yeah, you just did it. No, I think for me
it's not.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
But you've I will say this though, I will find
that it has the later the night is the more
acceptable it is, right, the late.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Like you're the more beverages you popped in pineapple, Yeah,
of course it's pineapple.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Yeah, give me a candy cotton wrapped burrito.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Did you ever have that? What do they call that?
They called it Hawaiian pizza?
Speaker 3 (29:41):
Right, white pizza?
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Yeah? Do you have you?
Speaker 3 (29:43):
Do you do that? Never never, I'm I'm greatest hits.
When it comes to pizza, give me pepperoni. When it's
fully loaded, it loses like then, I'm it doesn't taste
like anything when I take a.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
Bite, too much has fallen off it. I hate that.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Yeah, even when I get like a vegetable slice, like
I like, I like a black olive and maybe a
mushroom warm.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
But I want I still want just enough.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
I want to sprinkling. Yeah, I don't want to. I
don't want to farm. I don't want to farm. Salad
pizza no, literally just gonna shit on that.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
And you said, no, you like you hate a salad pies.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Oh my god, because you.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
You're tricking yourself.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
And they're like, I'm healthy, I get my I'm having Yes,
I'm having a salad pizza.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
A Caesar Pizza's a pizza.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Same thing. Those for me are a little much. I
mean they just kind of fall like it doesn't do anything.
All the ship falls off. Yeah, yeah for me. For me,
I'm a classic.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
I like, you know, I do love an upside down pie,
the one with the cheese is on the bottom and
the top greatest. Okay, this is coming to us from
why God, I just had three windows pop up. Okay,
this is coming us from Sue. I struggle with planning ahead.
How far ahead do you plan? If you could jump
into the future ten years, where do you see yourselves?
(30:54):
Not ten years. I don't jump ten years. I don't
plant ten years out. Do you plant ten years out?
It's crazy? Ten it's give again. I'll give you ten months.
I won't do I wan't to ten years.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
I probably take it by I should probably do better
than this, but I take it by the year.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
Okay, I probably do.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
Like at the beginning of the year.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
End of the year, I'm like, what do I want
to do this year kind of thing where I'll be
like looking around that November through January timeframe and I'll
be like, Okay, what do I want to accomplish? Or
do I think the rest of the time, I'm just
kind of trying to survive. But I yeah, you know,
of course we have long term goals. Want to make
a film, want to do you know, those kind of things.
But as far as like putting up plan and acting
up plan for that, I don't really do that.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Yeah. I think it's just I think you're more of
a planner than me though.
Speaker 3 (31:36):
I definitely plan ahead, and this is the problem. I
plan so much ahead. I never have time to think
about the past. Like but we were like, do you
remember that time where I'm like, it's all a blur
because I am always thinking about tomorrow, next week.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
What do I gotta do for this? Always planning ahead.
I have no recollection of the past. Absolutely, I'm one
of the worst people to ask. But do you remember
that time? Have no idea, so your future no clue.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
You're living in the future.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
You're like Doc Brown always yes, yeah, yes, Marty, yeah,
always about the future.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
But I think if you're struggling to plan, if you're
struggling to think about how to plan ahead, I just
write things down on a calendar, like I'm like, you know,
by X, I'd like to have this accomplished by Z.
Need to have that done. So and constantly like creating
meetings or things for myself like noon Wednesday, you're gonna
(32:25):
sit down, you will think about this, you know, or
who are you working with that you could generate ideas with,
you know.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
I think organizing is a very smart tool to look
It's definitely better for me, and I think anybody would
say it's better a plan than not flying by seat
of the pants. Sometimes you work out for you, but
you're stumbling forward. It's nice to have a plan if
you want to be somebody that has a plan. I
think that's an amazing tip. You just gave get a
blank calendar. Fill it up with just random dates, people like, hey,
(32:51):
by March eighteenth, I'm gonna be doing this or whatever.
I think that's a really cool idea. Absolutely one of
the best ideas you've ever shared with us. Here on
two Cool Moms.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
You got one, Stevie, thank you, you got one.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Buddy, great child, you did it. I did it.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
I'm cool only episode ninety seven.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
I'm cool. Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Well I think we did that. God, this keeps like okay,
this is coming us from Ryan.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
My girl and I have a two year old son,
but have not had keep it.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
That was an easy one.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Okay, Caroly and I have had a two year old son,
but I have not had any intimacy since his birth
two years She said she doesn't feel like herself. We're
not married, but care for each other deeply. Now we're
at a crossroads.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Can I propose and risk not having into Can I
propose and risk not having intimacy forever. How can I
approach a subject with her?
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Well, it's definitely a talking to.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
It might be a very heavy talk that may require
a third party in. It might be a couple's therapist session,
you know, because I do think, like I never did
couple therapy, but I do think that sometimes you're gonna
need it out. You both have spoken your piece, right,
you want some intimacy. She doesn't feel sexy, good, good
(34:15):
enough as herself. Okay, you need your intimacy. She doesn't
want to provide it and does not feel in the
space where she can. You both have valid points, So
you need somebody who's an outside party that could sit
down and help you work through the answer because you're
gonna just keep this the two. This is where we
are in life, and there's nothing wrong with either perception. Yeah,
you want this, she wants done, and you know that's
(34:36):
that's the way it is. So I think I think
it would be smart to have outside countsl to help
you work through it.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
And I don't think this is like you should start
going to therapy.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
I mean, I think honestly, in a couple sessions where
you're have an honest conversations, you could figure something out.
So you should just go and think about, like how
do we get through this? You know, that would be
my that would be my thing. This again, unless you
haven't talked about it yet and you just said, well
she said this.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Once and she said she doesn't feel like herself.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
Well did you have an honest conversation about it? First
of all, sit down and be like, like, this is being
a deal breaker from me here. I would love to
marry you, but I can't see myself being locked in
an intimate, seed less marriage. You know, let her know
the gravity of the situation and then maybe we could
course correct a little.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
I completely agree with you. You got to communicate, right, But
I think also you can fall into the routine of
like understanding, Okay, it's all about the kid now, right,
So why not surprise it with like a date night, Like,
surprise her, take her out, make it romantic, whine and
dine her like you're on your third date and you're
(35:38):
trying to impress her again, don't stop dating, right and
spark that romance and then uh, you know, get the
chocolate covered strawberries, pop a boner pill there, you put
some condoms on the table.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Perfect and be like your move.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
Exactly, but let her know, give her some gatorades, say
I don't want you cramping up game time. This is
gonna be a session.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I think I do think that there is something to
the spontaneity you know of of it all, but there
is also a piece like of like get a calendar
and mark March eighteenth as.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Boo will.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
It is like, let's do it like so you know,
everybody could stretch out, hydrate and be ready to go.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (36:17):
Give me a thing too. It might be something where
you're like, hey, look I want to have a date night,
let's do it. I want to looking at this like
if you get and also as always, like we always
say with.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
Come with solutions, tell me like this is a problem.
What do we do? Like be like, hey, here's something
I thought about that maybe could do.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
What do you think start the conversation with solutions is
always going to come off as a better conversation.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
What woman doesn't feel like insecure after birth? They all
feel that way and she hasn't probably gotten over it
since so.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
As a baby. Wait, Milana is not.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
Make her feel sexier though, make her feel good. Compliment
her and you know, and you know, let her come
home and see a treadmill.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Get to get the tread get each other for Christopher
your anniversary. Let her get you a lawnmower, you get
her a treadmill. It's two great, great gifts that everybody appreciates.
Speaker 3 (37:03):
Get to work, no carbs, no sugar for the next month.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
They we're doing Atkins.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
We trim it down. Okay, here we go with it.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
Steve, you've got another question for us, and again, thank
you everybody who submitted. We love you, we appreciate you. Yes,
this is coming to us from Will. Will says, I
have feelings for friend.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
What can I do to see if the feeling is
mutual without jeopardizing the French to it?
Speaker 1 (37:34):
Don't do it?
Speaker 2 (37:35):
Well, Yeah, keep your mouth shut, it's not gonna pan out.
Speaker 3 (37:40):
Well, go to a laundry, get some panties, take a whiff.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
Yeah, we've already.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
I mean, that's the best, I guess, the best advice
I think that you're gonna get from us too, because
this is ain't happening. We've we've spoken to said crush
and uh, we had to break it to you. But
the question that we haven't read was what do I do?
I think Will likes me, so I don't. I don't
know what to tell you at this point. I think
you just got to chalk it up and move on
to the next one.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
It's interesting because it's like, how like it's primarily guys
in this situation, and it's just like, have.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Their it's not one hundred percent, it's heavily guys. You're right,
heavily guys. Have there been warning flares? Have there been like.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
Read the room is number one?
Speaker 3 (38:18):
Yeah, exactly the room.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
If she called you, like if she calls you your brother,
you're out forget it and she's like you're like a brother.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
You're done. You're done that, You're done now. And the
call you can't you can't get passed. Here's what you
need to know.
Speaker 3 (38:30):
This is only only a crush due to proximity. You've
got maybe three great friends. One of them is a
cute girl, and because you see her all the time,
and that's the girl you're exposed to, that your desert rose.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
You have no choice but to be attracted to her.
What you need to do is expand your palette. Get
out there, meet more people, meet more girls, and I'm
telling you, it's going to get a back burner so quick.
The mini you're out, you're having fun, you're at the
book club or whatever, just meeting whoever you can. I
think the more you give yourself the opportunity to meet
(39:05):
different people, the less this will be there, because it's
I think the times it's just it's it's due to proximity.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
The collection of it. Yeah, I will say this too.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
I do think there's a way to approach it, if
you've got to approach it, and I don't think the
way you approach it is can I talk.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
To you for a minute.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
Look, I've been having feelings about you, and I really
think that there could be something. No, it's I think
the way you approach it is be like, do you
ever think about us dating? Literally something like that, something
not heavy entry and take it step by step from there.
If she's like no, that'd be so weird, you're like, yeah, probably, yeah,
you're done. If she's like, oh, I never thought about that,
Maybe maybe I don't know. That might be a little weird,
wouldn't it If she says wouldn't it back to you,
(39:39):
it's a conversation now, So now you could go next
step and like, nah, I don't know, it'd be weird.
I'd think it pretty you know, something like that, like
if you've approach it that way. But I think those
grand gesture sit downs, I highly highly I think there's
a big failure right there.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
I don't think they ever really work out.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
It becomes an interrogation, it becomes a pressure situation that
ruins the friendship.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
If she's able to brush it off and like no,
that's that would be weird and it's done. You could
remain friends easily if you're like.
Speaker 3 (40:06):
Every rose.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
She's like, what fuck you doing?
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Well, we're going to get pizza and put some pineapple
on it.
Speaker 1 (40:14):
Like it's a totally different thing.
Speaker 3 (40:17):
So for me, I would wait. I would wait.
Speaker 1 (40:20):
Like the sky riding it was like, you know, that
whole thing. I don't think it's that's so true though.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
I think it always comes down to the first that
one of the first who said read the room.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Yeah, yeah, there'll be warning signs, you know they'll be
there'll be signs, you know, So I think.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Uh, I think I think that's uh, proceed with.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
Caution, right, Yeah, okay, this last one more we got time.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
One more comes to us from Jill. Hi, Moms, you
guys are the best. Thank you for the question, Jill,
thanks for including me in that. Usually it's Joe, You're
the best, Hi Moms. And the other guy's funny too,
and the other guy. Yeah, Hi Joe and the other guy.
I just finished a great series.
Speaker 3 (41:01):
Any recommendations on anything you guys happen to be watching
right now?
Speaker 1 (41:06):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (41:07):
I have so many I'm so backlogged right now. The
number one thing that I need to watch now, which
I haven't watched them. You're gonna be mad at me,
iin because you've seen it, and everybody out there is
gonna be mad at me because I know everybody loves it.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
Is the first season of White Lotus. I've never seen one.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
I've never seen it.
Speaker 2 (41:19):
Okay, so people gonna hate you too. People swear by
this AI. It's phenomenal. So that's one I need to
go watch. I'm backlogged. I'm not really watching anything now.
I'm not a big watcher.
Speaker 1 (41:30):
This is the thing.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Bessie falls asleep early. I normally just I'm on my phone,
then I go play video games. If I'm in a
video game, I'm not so right now, I'm in a
video games. I'm not really watching anything okay, you know,
and even on the road, I don't really do a
lot of watching. I threw on a couple of movies
that I hadn't seen, but as far as series, no,
I don't really have anything. I know a lot of
people are talking about, you know, but I haven't seen
anything of note.
Speaker 3 (41:50):
I still love the experience of going to movies. I
love buying a ticket. I love supporting something. I love
supporting somebody who's adventurous, like Steven Soderberg saw A Presence,
which is a horror film, and I saw the trailer.
I was like, Wow, that looks cool. And then I
showed the trailer to my daughter and she goes, oh,
(42:11):
so there's a film about the perspective of a ghost
and the ghost is haunting the house. And I was like, wait,
how did you pick that up? I didn't pick that up,
Like she's in seventh grade, and she knew it then
forty five seconds and I thought it was just kind
of like cool place. And I was like, I'm a dipshit,
of course it is so. But I saw the film
phenomenal and it's from the ghost perspective and it can't communicate,
(42:33):
but it's it's haunting a house. And then you realize
why it's haunting a house. And I'd never seen a
film like that.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I never see anything like that.
Speaker 3 (42:41):
I'll tell you it was wild. You don't feel bored, great,
you feel like you're a fly on the wall. It
was really really cool. I love that knows Faratu I saw,
which was amazing.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
I was saying, I look like the guy.
Speaker 3 (42:55):
You do not look like I feel.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
We like, send me pictures and put Joseph Joe's Ferato.
No no, no, no no, you do not look like those.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
Hold and then I.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Just yeah, like, well, but what I think are you?
It's safe to say you're more of a movie guy
than a TV guy. I'm definitely more of a movie
I love movies.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
I have my chance to sit down I watch a
movie because I like knowing I'm committing to ninety minutes
to one hundred and twenty minutes and that's it.
Speaker 3 (43:26):
I'm knowing ten hours.
Speaker 1 (43:28):
What am I doing over ten hours? It was like,
that's too much.
Speaker 3 (43:30):
Yeah, I agree, I'd rather do anything else.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
Agree.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
I will say the last great series that I just saw,
I just watched Penguin. I thought, oh, amazing, amazing. I
tho it was phenomenal. It felt like it felt like
a movie. The actress was, yes.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Was so good.
Speaker 3 (43:42):
I forget her name, but holy she was crazy amazing.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
Yeah, I think overall, I thought everything was great and
it even the kid was great. I think it was
a really really good, well done series. It was reminiscent
to me of the first Daredevil. I think Daredevil was.
Speaker 3 (43:54):
I never saw the first dared Devil and it's coming
back though, right.
Speaker 2 (43:57):
The first series of Daredevil is arguably one of the
best best series.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
That, in my opinion, that made TV.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
It has the best fight scene in episode one that
I think that ever is on television.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Yeah, he's it's amazing.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
He's I'm not spoiling anything, but he fights down the
hallway blind and it's one shot, really yeah, and the
camera's just going in and through rooms and just like
watching him come down. It's one of the best coolest things.
I've said, and I've seen it copied multiple times. It's
really good.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
You know what's interesting. I I, my kids and I
we you know, we tried to watch like Acolyte, They're
like they got two in they're like bait it and
or was a little too adult for them to like. Sorry,
they loved they loved Mandalorian both my kids, daughter and son.
And then because the last few Star Wars shows that
were hesitant on Scalet Skeleton Crew if you've watched.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
It and yet awesome, awesome, Should I watch my kidscause
they've been asking me.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
My kids love it. And it was one of those
things where it's like, Okay, we're gonna watch this together.
It's all on the road for two days. Oh it's
it's a it's a blast and on the road four
ahead of me, and I'm like, all right, I'll just
catch up later. And I watched I watched two more
with him last night, so we got two more left.
And my son and daughter both love it. They love
that show. It is fun. There's no ego, there's no like,
(45:12):
there's no agenda to it. It's just a great story
and it's kids having fun. And Jude Law is great
and it's kind of fun to see Jude Law play
somebody who's a little more fun, I guess fun than
what he's normal played the past. I love it.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
Okay, I'll check that out. Well, there you go. Skelton Crow,
that's what.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Skelter Crew there you go there, or there's great movies
or better man the Robbie Williams want to keep talking
about it. I can't recommend that movie more highly. It
is a blast. I think it's one of those films
because it's like the Justin Timberlake of the of England.
He left a popular boy band, he blew up. He's
big everywhere apparently, but the States and this film came
(45:48):
out and the La fires happened that weekend and that
you know, he's gonna have this big premiere and just
like bad timing again. I could not recommend this film
more highly. And I I'm telling you it's so fun,
it's so heartfelt. There's a lot of great messaging behind it,
and he's fully open and transparent about all his failures
in his life whatever. But man, it's an absolute blast.
(46:11):
And if you if you want to know, just want
just go rock DJ scene from They put up the
whole scene on YouTube. I think there's gonna be one
of those films that comes down in streaming and people.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
Discovered go and find it again.
Speaker 3 (46:23):
Shit, it is awesome.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
Head of the Curve here on two cool moms. That's
what we do. Love it, baby, that's.
Speaker 3 (46:28):
Why we're here.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
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Speaker 2 (46:35):
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Speaker 1 (46:41):
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