November 26, 2024 • 43 mins
It’s officially the holidays and your favorite moms are back with the annual Thanksgiving episode! On this episode Joe and Steve discuss their Thanksgiving food favorites and traditions - from turkey cookery to family holiday game essentials. Plus, whats the holiday that Steve often skips at home and why?
This week the moms answer your quandaries related to Thanksgiving! Questions this week range from to handle Thanksgiving with new in-laws, divorced parents and the prospect of telling the family about a controversial new job.
Our Two Cool Moms family are thankful for you watching, listening and sharing the show! Have a happy and safe Thanksgiving!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hey your body thanks listening we heard a brand new episode.
It's me Joe Gatto with my friend Steve Byrne, and
we're excited to get started on our Thanksgiving episode.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
I love it. I love it man.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
You always get happy Thanksgiving everything Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving time. What's the first thing you think about when
you think Thanksgiving?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
My parents are dead and I can't say happy Thanksgiving?
What do I say? No Thanksgiving? It's definitely the big meal.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
It's the food's and it's what's your favorite dish?
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Scoopsky patatoes? Of course, I love me a good mashed potato.
You know, a sweet potato mash came on later in life.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
I came hot. I can't too much. I don't like
a marshmallow, classic classic, Why why why mess with it?
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yeah, it's like putting pineapple on a people. Why you
don't give me mashed potatoes? And I'm going to order them.
I'm gonna order I must. I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
I'm more of a side than the main dish. I
love a good side. I love I love the you know,
I love a fresh cranberry. I don't like to end
the jaw right. I like a good cranberry mix up.
I like a good mashed potato.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I'm a big biscuit dude. I love a good biscuit.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Uh for three right now?
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Really don't give me the one. Come on, you do
a green bean casserole? No? But you like turkey? Yeah?
Sure turkey? What gravy? Stuffing? Soughing? For sure? Stuffing stuffing
is the best. It's my I agree.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
I like a little crisp on it.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Do you do a baked on you on the onions?
What Ilse called the fried onions? Do you do a
fright on your on top? People do that sometimes I
throw that.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
At a salad. Do you do a stovetop? Are a
classic stove top? Yeah? Classic stuff? Gut r you look
like stove top guy? You look you know you got
it that's the only it's a different stuffing. I'm like, no,
thank you for giving. I don't want any of that.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
No, yeah, I don't want it. I don't want your
grocery brand. Yeah stuffing. Give me the classic.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Spend. Spend the dollars. It's worth it. Spend. Come on,
it's stove, yeah, yeah, do it for sure.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
I don't buy stove top for anything else. Is it
just stuffing that?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I don't think they do other things on the stove.
Do you think stove sounds like amps? It's stovetop stuffing?
Speaker 1 (02:35):
So what a stove? What else do they make on
top of the stove? Do you cook the stove tup?
Speaker 4 (02:39):
In the story, I always put in the turkey.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
No, you don't.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
You put you you put this stuffing in the It's
called stuffing.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
You don't. You don't.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
You don't fill up the turkey with the stovetop. You
cook the stove top by itself on the stove. Maybe
when you're done, you stuff it up in there if
you want, no, hold, you.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Bake it up in there.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
You cook, right, I mean you put the stuffing in
the turkey, right.
Speaker 5 (02:59):
I've done it both ways. Yeah, but I think putting
it in the turkey.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Is now the turkey's got the bag in it.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
You take the bag out.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
No, it's got the lemon. You're supposed to cook it
with the bag.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
You cook it with the lemons and the spices, and
then you pull the bag out and you drop in
your stuff and when it's done.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
That's how I that's the that's how the Americans do it. Imports.
You can do it either way.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
Yeah, in North Korea in the prison camps.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
What's that? Where were you born? Freehold, New Jersey? Sounds
like it. No, I've never I've never done it. I've
never had a turkey stuff. But in my defense, I
don't need turkey anymore.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
So I will say that when you do put the
stuff inside the turkey, I feel like it gets a
little sorgy.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 5 (03:43):
You don't like that as my favorite method, I would
do it stuff with other things.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You know what came in on like fire now is
people deep frying the whole turkey. You get that.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
I love the outside dangers and their house catches fire.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Outside that the outside the fryer. My cousin Mike loves it.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Deep fries puts puts a puts on a beanie cap
out there and he's in the cold, he's in the elements.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
He's excited about it. But isn't it cooked like super quick? Yeah,
super as chrispy. Yeah. I like smelling it. I like
the moment. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
My dad makes the best gravy from the turkey based.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Yeah. He he'll whip up a gravy from that and
always loves that. He Uh. He puts like strips of
bacon on the turkey, really and I never heard it
so long with it. And then by the time the
turkey is done the he'll he'll always go and check
on it, and then the bacon will slowly just kind
of disappear.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Then I'm like, where's the bacon.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
He's like, all right, ate it.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
He puts the times every strip every time he goes in.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Yeah, it's a little tree for you. Never did a
bacon on the turkey.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Not bacon on turkey.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Now we've done the turkey's stuff with the bag, and
then we take the bag out. If we had stuffing,
we never really stuffed it in there, And now that
you're thinking about it, we never really did. We always
had the stuffing in a bowl separately. I never really
did it inside the turkey.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
My wife did the thing where you where you put
the turkey in the bag and it traps all the moisture. Yep,
that was a game changer.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Because it makes it everything. You don't get that dry turkey. Yes, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
But also then somebody told me about brining the turkey,
like you soak it in salt, salt water for I
think a good day, and then you put in the
bag and it's super moist We tried that one year.
It was fantastic.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
But who's coming to dinner? Who's coming to Thanksgiving dinner?
For you? Who does that?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Like my parents, your parents, not her side. We usually
see them Christmas.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Do you do a mixing? You don't do a mix
and match. You never have a super event, No they do.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Yeah, there have been it Just like her sisters are
all over the place, so her folks are visiting them
and with me, it's just me and my brother. Yeah,
and my folks come to see us all the time
because we have the kids. My brother doesn't have a kid.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
So Thanksgiving is her holiday in my house and Christmas
is my holiday. So I don't have my parents, but
my sisters, like we all get together every Christmas, So
I said, you know what, Thanksgiving, we give that the gaddos,
like the in laws could have that. So all of
us all with our in laws on Thanksgiving. So I've
never really had a super event. My sisters, even my
(06:10):
sister had to do it because my mom was alive.
One of my father passed away is my mom, so
my mom had to be with us, and then she
would have the in laws together. But my in law's
actually never even met, but my mother and my in
law's never met, but they had that like weird dynamic
where you had all the in laws, everybody, a lot
of different personalities at the table.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
That feels like that's a big.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
You're such a good food guy, like I would love
to see the spread you put on.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
We put a good spread out, even because we're not
meat eaters, but we do the whole thing. We do
the turkey everybody's because my in laws eat the turkey.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
The desserts are a big thing for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It's always when we It's funny because when people host
different we passed it around.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
So we had Christmas last year.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
This year is at my sister genius house, who always
puts out a whole thing too. My sister Gena called
the Great Cooks. They put out the whole thing, and
when I do it, it's like, okay, I to think about it,
and then I'll bring Vinnie in to do the steaks
because I do like n you gotta cut the flav Yeah,
I I outsauce a little bit, but uh, I love
I love a good spread.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
I love a good meal. Table all day, eating.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
All day, throw planes, trains on automobiles on, put it on.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Watching the big game? You watching the Detroit Lions. Do anything?
You're watching the Lions. I know you are.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
You are fan duel. You got to see what the
secondary is up to. No, I don't watch it, guessie.
Make sure the whole line is bringing me.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Do you watch it?
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Will you watch the game?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Absolutely?
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I watch a game.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Watch a game in the background. It's on you.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I don't say stop and watch it. We don't really
have the TV on. We'll have music on. We'll play games,
big games thing, yeah, board games, board games, and we
do these stupid things that you'll see like on tiktop.
Like last year we did the scoop the cotton balls
blindfolded into this bachelor.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
You see that one? What? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
So you get a bunch of cotton balls and you
put them on the table and you blindfold somebody and
then they have a frying pan empty, you know, and
then you have a spatter when you try to get
the most that.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
You can put chopput one hundred dollars bill on the table.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
I'm like, whoever gets the most cotton balls thirty seconds
gets it.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
It gets mayhem, so fun, so fun, and you just
sit there high up on your perch, which I love it,
look at these.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I love making. I love making a ruckus for things
for people to go after. You know, it's fun like
that way, Like I'll just I'll do crazy stuff like that.
My my nephews will know because like when it gets quiet,
they'll just like look at me and it'll be like, what's.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
It going to do right now?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Like all right, I'm taking a deck of cards.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I'll smack him down and go hire low and I'm
talking like it's twiny. I'm like hire loan no, and
they get it wrong. You know, it'll be fun with that,
like stuff like that, silly stuff like that.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
What's that dice game where you roll it the fright.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Center is awesome? The best get anybody the best.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
You get a bunch of singles, get some kids together,
watch them just turn.
Speaker 6 (08:52):
To finish that finish, and you play left right center,
right center, get a bunch of kids, get.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Some singles going dripping it.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I would say that the left right center came in
hot for a holiday game, but it's also a great
ice breaker game.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
We bring it on the road sometimes.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Yeah, left right center because it's so easy to travel
with three what a genius game.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Three dice, a couple, bingo chips, boom you ready? Yeah,
I love that.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
We played the card game thirty one. You have to
play thirty one. Thirty one is a lot of fun.
You get the closest to thirty one that you can.
Aces are eleven, all the face cards are ten, got
three cards each, and if somebody could knock, meaning this
is the last hand, you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Flip your cards over as the least puts the dollar in.
It's kind of like a left right center kind of game.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah, really fun, and that gets cutthroat because sometimes I'll
put up five dollars for everybody, so it's like a
fifteen dollars per person.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
We have a family of twenty people playing.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah, and the last two people are like, go on, right,
it's like quick knocks going, it's really fun. Yeah, yeah,
well that's for me, is that? But it's always about
like three big holidays for me, if you know. Thanksgiving
is definitely up there because a big family one. But
for me as New Year's Eve. I love New Year's
Eve too because we retreat with the fam.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
We get it. It's like a Thanksgiving almost we eat. See.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
New Year's Eve for me has always been work. You
work because it's such a great payday for comedy. So
I'm always like I could stay home but.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Also a pay day for family. Think about that for
a minute. Well, come on, kiss dad. Oh he's not here.
Not here, he's making Doreen laugh in Cleveland.
Speaker 7 (10:36):
Taking New Year's over Christmas. Christmas is the peak. No,
I didn't say that Christmas is. I mean Christmas is fun.
Here's the thing about Christmas though, it's like I give
great gifts. I'm a great gift giver.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
You are.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
People are like, I don't know, well, you're the best
gift giver, right know. People people are always like, oh
he is my sister, like trying and stuff, and I
end up. It's become a thing where I just start
ripping upon everybody, and I opened to guess people are
afraid to give me a guest but also love it
at the same time because I know.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
I'm gonna be honest. Last year, my sister gave me this.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
I it's partly my fault because I saw on the
Instagram and I asked for her for Pomoni.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
It was a comfortable like sweater thing that had a pocket.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Who was like a dog.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
He's a dog.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
It was like a kangaroo thing, right, So she got
me the Excel but it was I'm not sure if
it was fitted or if it was for women.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
But and I couldn't like get out of it. I
stuffed Pomoni and it was hysterical.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
So she we were let no, no Spamoni, like had the pocket.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
I couldn't breathe because it was tight around the trunk and.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
It was really funny, like we tried it on and
I just ripped our pond and she said, you can't
rip me a pot about this.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
You asked for it, you sent the link. Yeah, you know.
I was like, you got me a woman's excel.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
You're I'll tell you. I never brought this up, but
there was one time I was online for some reason,
it came in my feed. Like all these watches would
come to my feed, maybe because we're talking or whatever,
this is one thing. It was like it was a
replica of like a watch that was popped in the twenties,
(12:01):
And I was like, that looks really cool. And then
I ordered it and I gave it to you, and
then you open and you're like, oh, yeah, this is
cool and you put on such a brave face, and
I'm like, what am I thinking? Like this watch was
probably I think it was like eighty bucks. It was
a throwback and you're wearing like a car on your
(12:21):
wrists all the time.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
It's the it's the one you got me that has
the line there, And I wore it on an episode
of Two Cool Moms and you didn't mention it.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
Oh no, are you serious?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Where to god?
Speaker 4 (12:30):
The little thing we're out the window.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
I thought it was I thought it was cool.
Speaker 4 (12:35):
I thought it like I thought it was cool looking,
and I wasn't thinking about the fact of like, well,
on the on the spectrum of things, it's it's certainly
one of the cheaper watches. For surely the cheapest watch
you have. I thought it looked and I was like,
you wear like, I mean, really expensive one.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Now, but it's not even expensive. It's gifting a watch
is tough. I barely gift watch.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
I didn't think it through.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
I liked it and enjoyed it, and I wore it
multiple times. I wore it in froan of you.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
But I now I feel bad that I didn't recognize it.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
But yeah, I think it was it was either two
cool moms or were on the road together. I brought
it with me and you didn't mention it, and I
remember you not mentioning that you saw it. I was like,
maybe maybe he got is a gift and regifted to me.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
No, no, no, no no. But then the one you
got me, the snatchra one, Oh so great. I've worn
that on like special occasions. That's one where I'm like,
when I'm dressed up.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Or saw that one, I thought of you. I bought
you too your watches. One broke his garbage right you
threw it out there?
Speaker 4 (13:26):
No no, no, no no no.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
I got it fixed.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
I got to fix four times because I thought it
was battery battery and then the guy's like, no, it's
just off. So I got it repaired. So I got
it repaired, and then I put more money into it,
I think then, and then I got fucking stolen in
a green room. I was so furious because I put
so much into that damn watch. But what happened was
(13:49):
every time I would put my knapsack on, it would
get caught on my knapsack.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Yeah, and the thing would rip. People don't wear a watches,
don't do knapsack ons. Gotta go first. I watch on
for since had a knapsack into the sacking sacks.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
It's the way gifting a watch is tough, very difficult
for someone like you.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
It's very different.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
But I think I know somebody knows watches, you can
gift one, but gifting a watch is somebody who has
watches is kind of tough.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
Well, I got you that case, which I thought was loved.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That green thing. That's awesome. It's in my office. I
actually use it. I use it to travel, actually, when
I'm going someplace for a while. I brought it with me.
Where did I go? I was we were on the
road and the bus.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I wanted to bring a bunch of watches for me
and I needed something I could hold six or seven
watches and I brought that, so that was a good gift.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
The other one was all right, yeah, I was ugg
about But I'm thankful for you. I'm thankful for you, Stevie.
I'm thankful for you. Name the top three people you're
thankful for in order to go.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
Mom, dad, Jess Nice.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
So the kids don't mean shit. I told you that.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
That's why I wouldn't have the kids without Jess Nice.
I got it. But I've never loved I love my wife,
love her, but I will never love another human being
like my children.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
I don't know what. It's hard to like quantify that, right,
but it's like I would do anything, and I you know,
my wife is amazing. But the love, it's a different
kind of love that you have for your kids, and
those two just means so much. I can't even express
it or explain it or I wish there was a
word for that.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
I think that's that's so weird that parents you only
get that when you're a parent. You know, yeah, it's true,
but there is that bullshit thing that I felt all
the time.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
I was like, you know, I love your kid from
the moment you see them. I didn't like my kids
at the first dude, are you serious. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Yeah, I've heard that from a few different I think
that's the biggest line. And then I think it gives
people guilt. So every time I meet a dad like hey,
do you have any advice for me, I'm like, yeah,
you're not gonna like the kid right away, and it's fine,
you'll come around. Like it's literally.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
One thing I said. It's weird.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
I think people need the license to just get there.
You will get there at your kid, you know. Sometimes
people I didn't look at Malana, and when she was there,
I was like, oh my god, this little angel's here.
I was like, oh my god, I have a kid now.
And then I was like, I'm going to die soon
and I need to make enough money to help this
get out. I remember like all this stuff like I
got anxiety a little bit from it. But then I
was like, oh, came around. But then when the baby.
I don't like holding babies, and the time I like
(16:10):
to pick them up is when if you dropped them,
it's not that big of a problem, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Like this like a year, like, if you dropped baby,
likely dropped me, not for me. Yet. I didn't hold
my oldest nephews.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
I didn't hold the lay like two and a half
really way to God my oldest nephews, because I was younger, younger,
and I was afraid to What is the.
Speaker 4 (16:28):
I don't know if a version is the right word,
but what is it?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
What was what?
Speaker 4 (16:32):
What caused a feeling of distance?
Speaker 2 (16:34):
I guess I think it was that I think I
was I came in, I came at fatherhood with a
big responsibility in the forefront instead of part of the
family as the forefront.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
So I took more to the provider role than the
fatherhood role. I think that. So it was like, Okay,
so now this is this kid's here. Okay, what am
I gonna do here?
Speaker 2 (17:01):
We gotta get everything together, make sure I got a
family now, legacy, all this stuff. And I didn't think
of it from like, hey, I'm I'm her dad, right right,
So I think that was part of it.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
So it's more of a practicality, calorie responsibility.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Yeah, maybe not me.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
I mean the minute, in the minute I saw my son,
I was just like I couldn't get I.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Mean, but Live is a gorgeous little baby, right she
had to be.
Speaker 4 (17:23):
I mean, so.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Molana was too. But I but live.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Yeah, but then you know your son you said that.
You famously said that. I famously said what that your
son wasn't ascud as of baby as your daughter?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
What are you talking about? You never said that? H Yeah, no,
I think I think that's I think that stuff if
you had to.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
I mean, my kids do listen at times?
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Do you think about No? No, not now.
Speaker 4 (17:56):
If you look, Oh my god, no, I I adore them.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I absolutely adore them. Some babies are on yeah, and
nobody thinks that's they is, but that's somebody's.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
A friend of mine.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Uh, I don't say that. Don't stop right now.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
I'm a child.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And it's like I was like, oh, you gotta send me,
and he sent me a pick.
Speaker 4 (18:16):
I was like, ooh, I hope he grows into who
goes into that place? It's just like whoa.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
It looked like the end of Beetle Juice when they
shrink that. Yeah. I think I think it's important to
rank who you love. Excuse me, I think it's important
to rank who you love.
Speaker 4 (18:36):
What are your top three?
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Then?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
My top three? Yeah that I love? Yeah, my wife,
my sister Carla, and Piscatti. Those are my top two.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
Wait a dog for sure, So your other sister is
gonna go Joseph.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
No, the thing I'm making a joke there.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
I think it's important and that's why I'll say to
not rank, but I think it's important to check in
because I used to do this thing at the year end,
where I would you a, who do I need to
work on my relationship to bring it to the level
where I think it should be at.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
So for a while, like I would feel like.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
I didn't spend enough time one of my sisters, or
I did't spend enough time one of my friends, or
you know, dadding, I was like, Okay, I need to
spend like that, And I think it's really important every
year I would like check in and be like, okay,
is every relationship where I think it should be right.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
I think it's important to know because when.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
You have a list and when you're forced to listen,
I don't mean them out loud, I mean or even
list in just a sentence. When everybody, somebody says who's
your favorite, like a favorite pops In doesn't mean it's
your favorite. What's your favorite movie? I say, Young Frankistin,
It's probably not my favorite movie. It's just one of
my favorites that pops in my head. If I sat
down and thought about it, I probably.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Could outrank it and think of something else, you know.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
So I think when you use the word favorite, it's
very important to see who doesn't make the list as
important as who makes the list, because then you work
on it and you yeah, and then easily like why
why isn't why isn't that one on the list?
Speaker 1 (19:55):
You know, right, so you.
Speaker 4 (19:56):
Know it's it's I think to tie it all together
with friends, ship, family, Thanksgiving and what you're thankful for Thanksgiving, Christmas.
It's nice to get the obligatory text message, but there's
a handful of.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
People the phone got to get a phone call, the
tier ones. Yeah, the tier.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Ones get the phone call. Yeah, I think, And that's important.
And I think the end of the year is interesting
because people are nostalgic. And then when you see that
phone call ring, and this is the second or third
time you talk to this person, that's weird, you know.
Speaker 4 (20:24):
Yeah, every Arbor day you always.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Call me, dude. There's nobody I think of a plane tree, Yeah, Joe.
When I think a stiff would.
Speaker 4 (20:33):
Steve, let's get it.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Thanksgiving. Everybody let's get our Thanksgiving queries.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
Happy things.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Mark, We're also thankful for you, buddy.
Speaker 4 (20:40):
Thank I'm here.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
We wouldn't be able to we.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Wouldn't be able to do this without yet, literally because
we don't know what they what the questions are.
Speaker 5 (20:47):
All right, we'll dive into our Thanksgiving questions. First one
comes from Celia. Uh, my parents are divorced and I
genuinely dislike them.
Speaker 4 (20:56):
Jesus Christ.
Speaker 5 (20:58):
They are constantly trying to separate me and my siblings
during the holidays. How can I navigate Thanksgiving and going
home with this in mind?
Speaker 4 (21:05):
Thanks moms?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Okay, well, I think the first thing about any of
that a child in divorce, there becomes a point, especially
when they're all I'm assuming Celia is older. When they're older,
I think the point of it is that you have
to start putting yourself first and start forgetting about what's
important to your parents, Like you can't be going to
spend time with somebody at a guilt. You go to
spend time with the people that have earned the time
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with love and support throughout the year. So that's the
first thing I would lens, I would look at of it.
And then also, you only you don't have to go
where you don't want to go. Yeah, you don't feel
like you don't have to go where you don't want
to go. That was a that's a big thing. I
think you go where you feel like. Because here's the thing.
The first year is the hardest, right, The first year
is the hardest. Like, I'm not gonna you know, I'm
not gonna split my time. I'm just gonna go to
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one or the other or whatever. And then maybe next
year I'll go to the other one or whatever. You
figure it out. The first year is the hardest to
do that, spending the time in the car, trying to
spend because they you're not spending your time in a
good way. You're not spending your time. I'm you're not
being present. You're looking at the clock. Shit, I gotta
get to fucking Southampton orherever the hell you're going, you know,
So I think you're taking away. Nobody comes out of
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winter in that situation. You know, go to somebody's house
on Black Friday, bring them a TV from Best Buy,
solving the blow, you know what I mean. Go the
next day.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I got this toaster from guys. It's crazy.
Speaker 4 (22:21):
I agree with you. When you're spreading yourself too thin,
you aren't present. But if you just invest in one,
then next year you go to the other one. But
it sounds like the parents are actively trying to divide
the siblings. Yes, which to me, it sounds like again,
these sentences are just you know, just giving the information
we have. It sounds like she wants to hang out
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with her siblings, So make that the priority. Hang out
with your siblings and the parents if they want to come,
the more they're welcome to to have, you know, extend
the invite. But it's like, if that's the priority for
you to make, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Yeah, I think all subbings have to be on the
same page with that. But that'd be great.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
My my mom ended up doing that later in life
with Christmas Day. They would they'd spend Christmas Eve. She
had three brothers and sisters. There was a four of them.
Christmas Day, she started inviting them all over the house
and if you want to see your parents, that's where
they would be a Christmas Day, right, which is interesting.
So although all of them would have like breakfast with
their kids or whatever, and then they would go spend
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the day with them, and it ended up being such
an awesome tradition that even after my mother passed for
a long time, my aunts and uncles because we would
all be with my mom still, they came wherever the
Ghattos were, which was really cool.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
We'd have all of them.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
So we had like ten to fifteen Christmases after my
mom had passed, ten Christmas, maybe of them after my
dad passed. Rather that where they would just come and
be where my mom was and we would all be
together my aunt and uncles, which was cool.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
But to put the siblings as.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
A priority is it's good because here's the other thing too,
The parents aren't going to be here Forever's.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Going to be longer. So you want to you want
to get your tradition and your timing together with them. Absolutely,
I think that helps helped. Well.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Good luck to you, Cecilia, Celia.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Clia, good luck.
Speaker 5 (24:06):
Kevin hits us up with the Thanksgiving really a question.
It's my first Thanksgiving with my in laws.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
Tough one.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Thanksgiving with my in laws.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
This comes in from Mark.
Speaker 5 (24:23):
I've also never been to their home and we'll be
staying there for three nights. What can I do to
best prepare for this situation and come out looking like
a hero.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
Well, that's a good attitude.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
The attitude's on cares. He cares.
Speaker 4 (24:38):
So it sounds like he has.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
A good relationship with ish because he wants to come
out like a Hary has a relationship with the in laws,
which is very good.
Speaker 4 (24:45):
The attitude out of the gates is exactly the mindset
you want. I think you want to go into it
and make make the effort right. Sometimes people feel inhibited,
you know, you hope they're going to be great hosts, right, yeah,
but take the time to you know, sit down with them.
You know, when they're at coffee. It's easy to sit
on the couch and pull out your phone, but to
like literally put your phone down, walk over and sit
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down and just try to have a conversation. Or if
they're hey, can I help you with the groceries? Can
I help you? You know, I think the the minuscule
little chores. Can I take out the garbage.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
For you guys?
Speaker 4 (25:17):
You know it looks just all those little things.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
I'm literally going to just say take out the garbage
because that's the least favorite thing and any home, and
it's the easiest thing that you could do. Because you
want to be careful, like, okay, help you put the
grocer's way. A lot people, there's my kitchen, I got,
you know, like that, but nobody's like, it's my garbage,
you know what I mean. You know everybody hates that, right,
It's that the two most mundane ones. People hate the
garbage and then empty and the dishwasher. If you're in
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charge of those two things, you're a hero. They'll love
you forever. I would say do that. I would just say,
also take the cues of the home. There are people
that become want to be helpful house guests and then
get annoying and get in the way of the flow
of it right right, you know, can I help you
cook now and I'm cooking, get out of the kitchen,
you know, then sit on the other side of the
island and talk to them like that, you know. Take
the cues of the house is a big thing, you know. Uh,
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make the bed, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
By the way, if you're there for three days, hey, guys,
I was thinking, you know, after the first day, you know, uh,
could I take you guys out to lunch? Could I
take you guys out to dinner? Do one of those?
Obviously you're going to have the big the big meal, right, right,
but I think one of those. Just make an effort
and go. I'd love to take you guys out for
a lunch or dinner.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Hey, why don't we Why don't we order it tonight?
Can I order orders in dinner so we can hang out,
you know kind of thing. We don't have to spend
time preparing the food. Things like that. I think that's great.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
Also, don't come empty hand it to a house. That's
the scratsiat. Never come in that's yours. Yeah, never come
in to hand it. Bring yourself a bottle, find out.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
It's easy to find out what their favorite snacks, bottle
or something or whatever to come in with. Get get
a bag of bagels for breakfast in the morning, whatever.
Speaker 4 (26:49):
Come flowers for.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
The mom, flowers for the month, then and then.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
But you don't want to get the dad jels and
think that you're trying to bang his wife. Take cards
for baseball closet. Again, you don't want to get the
mom jealous thinking you're trying to bang the dad.
Speaker 4 (27:00):
Right, That's why I would also suggest d batteries and
say I know what, I know what's in your nightstand?
Speaker 2 (27:04):
Yeah, So everybody's banging everybody, And don't try to have
quiet sex in the house.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
You never go three days without it.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
You're a bully in the bedroom. Let him know, be
proud of.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
What you're doing up in there. Yeah, one of the other.
Don't try. My god, this is your daughter, I would say. Yeah,
definitely reserve yourself to masturbating.
Speaker 4 (27:34):
In the show, I'm inside your house, inside your daughter.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
It's so weird.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
It's okay.
Speaker 5 (27:43):
I brought bagel, hope your flower. That's funny to piggyback
on that. Do you think that it's uh? Do you
think it's the right thing to do to offer to
cook for Thanksgiving? Like this guy, Kevin, he goes over
to the house. Do you think it's the thing to
do to stay out of it?
Speaker 4 (28:01):
I feel really good.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
Yeah, you gotta have confidence.
Speaker 5 (28:04):
That's gotta be some best pressure.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
I make a great stuff, mushroom. I could stand behind
it no matter what.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
The first time I went to my in laws, first
time I met my in laws was Thanksgiving. They weren't
even my inlaws that we were dating. I went over there.
I'm in California and I'm sleeping on the couch and
I say, uh, and the mom says everything she's making.
I said, oh, I said, can I always have stuff mushrooms?
I say, can I can I make stuff mushrooms and
she goes, okay, yeah, and so I may make the
stuff mushrooms. And everybody loved them and it was good.
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But I was confident in them. They're not hard, they're easy,
and I've been making them for years, and that was
part of my tradition I wanted to bring to it.
And now we all have stuff mushrooms and my in
laws now we all cook together Thanksgiving. Like She's like,
you're gonna make the mushrooms like that kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
So I do agree. If you're gonna make one dish,
also make it simple, don't I'm gonna bake.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
I'm gonna make a Julianne pie and you're fucking with
the flower to them, everybody make something.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
Simple and easy, a bean salad, a mushroom, things like that.
Super easy.
Speaker 5 (28:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Yeah, don't make a stake up this before he guys
like peaking duck.
Speaker 5 (29:07):
Or using too using too many pots and pans and
making making a mess. Making a mess is like a
good I think a big.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
Thing is the worst thing you could do hands down,
let's talk about worst things you could do. Get in
the way in the kitchen is number one for it
when they're cooking. If you're in the way in the kitchen,
that's gonna be like, I hate this guy.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Couldn't get out of the kitchen, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
The other thing was like, don't shut up while you're
like while you're talking, like if people are talking, give
everybody a chance to talk and share doing a Thanksgiving table,
don't monopolize the conversation. I think those two things become
the most annoying things you could do ye as a guest.
Speaker 5 (29:35):
And I've actually been told sometimes that I was too quiet.
That's another thing too, coming into an in law, like
not being too shy. Really, I think you have to
have no balance too, because if you're going over for
the first time, you want to make sure that like
I have to pimp.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Between being too loud obnoxious of being too quiet and shy.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
I will take the quiet and shy person absolutely so. Yeah,
but most of all, guys, be you well.
Speaker 4 (30:01):
Good luck Kevin, Kevin, Kevin, good luck Kevin.
Speaker 5 (30:05):
Uh. Sarah hits this up on the Instagram. Sarah says,
I'm a terrible cook. So I guess we're on the
other end of the spectrum. I'm a terrible cook, but
want to host my family for Thanksgiving, more importantly, impress them.
This would be my first time hosting after leaving home,
getting my first big girl job, and buying a home.
Any advice to calm my anxiety.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
I got it ready. You do the whole food like
Whole Foods or your local grocery store. They have like
everything pre made, so you just have to bake it
for like fifteen or twenty minutes, like those pre made
meals that are already situated so you don't have to
overextend yourself. Or or there's always a restaurant that serves
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Thanksgiving meals, So I would suggest one of those two routes.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
Yeah, because if you're famously known for not being a
good cook. Yeah, if you're gonna throw a hat in
the arena for the event that is known for its meal,
it's the holiday known for its meal.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Yeah, come to that, you know, with your hands cuffed.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
You gotta you gotta, you gotta admit it and own
it and be like, look, I don't cook, but I'd
love to have you guys over. I'm gonna get bring
the food in blah blah blah. But then you're gonna
get a lot of this. You're gonna get like, oh,
but that's not like Mom's turkey.
Speaker 8 (31:11):
Oh that's you're not gonna have Grandmama's potatoes. Oh what
about Uncle Philipe based mushrooms? Like you're gonna hear all
that stuff, and that's gonna be annoying. Yeah, that's gonna
be really annoying.
Speaker 4 (31:22):
But I think that there's some merit to the fact
that she just got her first job, she's young, she's
kind of extending herself and saying I think family wise,
you think I think the parents.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Will be into it more than the siblings. The parents
are like, oh, the good for Julie, She's gonna do it.
But then like the parents that, oh, we gotta go
there and have a male You.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Kind of get a list. Is there anything you'd want?
Speaker 1 (31:44):
What about? Yeah? What if people bring the food? Bring
bring something you enjoy.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
You could also invite people just to cook in your kitchen.
I'm a bigger fan of that. I'm a bigger fan
of Hey, I want to Thanksgiving. I'm not a good cook.
Speaker 4 (31:54):
Mom.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
If you want to come over I'll buy everything and
we just cook together in my kitchen. That might be fun,
or you.
Speaker 4 (31:59):
Run it's like Whole Foods has like one hundred and
fifty dollars package where I love like six baked potatoes
and all that stuff. So there's that. But I like
the idea of would you mind helping me out?
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (32:11):
You know, And because everybody's going to be game for
that plan, I think yeah, I think everybody's gonna be like, yeah,
it's the same thing, you know, going there, unless the
mom might be like, oh, you only have one of them.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
We don't have a double oven. Am I supposed to
take these potatoes? And I've been smoking for eats?
Speaker 4 (32:26):
Get me my bull burrows?
Speaker 2 (32:28):
You know.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
I think there's a lot of solutions there. It's either
get also talk about it openly with everybody. Don't be
like be like, you know, here's the thing. But at
the end of the day, it's your house, you know,
so you're like, Hey, this is what I want to do,
this is what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Everybody cool with it? Okay? If not, and then hey,
can I what about the potato? Bring them? Bring them,
make them at home and bring them.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
I'm invested in this one. Can you please follow up,
follow up, take some pictures and let us know how
it went, because I am here.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
And I hope it goes well for it.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
I hope it goes well for it.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
Maybe the first oneing you hosted, you and Jess hosted together.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
There's a handful. I remember, yeah, in Chicago. We had
just moved into our our like I don't know, new place,
and we had her parents and my parents, and we
had a Thanksgiving together for the first time, and and
Jess knocked out of them.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
That's great.
Speaker 4 (33:21):
She did. She was so nervous, but she cared so
much and she's a warrior and she she she nailed it.
So it was great. That was one of my favorite
Thanksgivings because, uh, we we had all we're all just
kind of getting to know each other, you know.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
That's great.
Speaker 4 (33:35):
And we had just gotten engaged, I think, prior to that.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
So there's a lot of good feelings good, Yeah, a
lot of good movie wedding wedding.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
Stuff in the air I did. I hosted.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Me and Bessie were dating and we were in on
Wall Street in our studio apartment, and my sister Gina's
in laws were in. I think Texas or something with
the with the other parts of the family whatever, and
she was available for Thanksgiving, so I was like, come over.
So her and my nephews and my knee came over
and we had thanks kids in the in our apartment
and it was so cool. It was so fun. That
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food was terrible, but it didn't matter, like we made
fun of it.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Yeah, yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
It was like I was like, I don't really know
what I'm doing here, you know, I didn't. I think
I cooked in that apartment seven times.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
That was one of the time I lived a year.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
You know, you always order food in the city of
your grand food, you know, so that was a Bessie
doesn't cook. So I was just like, you know, threw
something together, but do you have.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
A dish you make me personally for Thanksgiving or just
in general? No, for Thanksgiving, No, not really, I've never
I've always kind of stayed out of it. But what
what we did last year was we we'd always cooked turkey,
and then the kids hated it. There was like I
don't like turkey, and I was like, all right, what
do you guys want to do? So we made pizzas.
So we got a pizza uh strike slab. Yeah, and
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we got five dos and we just had a pizza night.
And then for Christmas, same thing. It was like the
kids didn't want ham. I was like, well, what do
you guys want to do? So my mom made cream
barbecue and we just had we had. My mom's crean
barbecue is phenomenal, and she makes a lemon chicken that's
like off off the charts, so we we had her
just pull out all the stops with the she catered,
(35:07):
she catera and she rocked it. So is there a
dish you do?
Speaker 2 (35:11):
I do my dad's bean salad, my dad's bean salad,
my mom's stuff version of my dad's bean salad.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
I do.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
It's kind of monotonous to make it. My sisters don't
like making it, but they love eating it. So the
I was like, gonna make the bean salad and bring
it's I always bring it with me, But yeah, I
love that. My dad had a bean salad at a
restaurant and he loved the way it tasted.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
And he just he took some home and and dissected it.
Speaker 4 (35:30):
And re created it everywhere, and.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
He couldn't figure out He couldn't figure out the one
thing that was messing. So he went to the chef.
That was the place he went to in his Italian place.
It was just like it was like a little side
thing he loved and he said, what is was that?
And it was it was red wine vinegar. They put
a splash of red wine vinegar. That's it, and that
was that and he put it in goes, that's it.
He was so excited, so excited that, Yeah, so that's
my thing.
Speaker 1 (35:50):
I make that and my kids make it with me
now and now my kids know to make it. It's
so cute. Yeah, my daughter's like to make dad's bean
salad and Bessie I was like, all right, because she
doesn't really eat it all right. I mean it takes
a while and everything, but it's fun. Yeah, the bean
south your.
Speaker 4 (36:04):
Dad's being sold my dad's gravy.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
There you go, man, Bean salads and gravies.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
That could be a new podcast that we do, cooking
podcast Bean Soalds and Gravies.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
We'll get time for more one more and more.
Speaker 4 (36:23):
Uh.
Speaker 5 (36:23):
This one comes from bread. My parents love my current job.
I recently left the job though, and have a new
one that I'm excited about. I'm nervous they won't agree
with my new direction. Should I bring it up in
person when I'm home for Thanksgiving or wait until after
the holidays?
Speaker 4 (36:37):
Thank you mommy?
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Oh sure I ruined the holidays. Get in there and
just ruin the holiday with a controversial topic. Come in
hot and be like you're future.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
That's like, that doesn't work, and it's like, and I'm gay.
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Job thing I'm bunking now, doesn't Grandpa? I know what
you're gonna I think I know what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
I always bring it up right there. We're gonna sit
on that. You know, talk about it in person's always.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
Great, But but to you the minute, he says, I'm
just thinking your own happiness is gonna matter more than anything.
And I think if you're, if you're truly genuinely happy
in your new job, your parents are gonna be over
the moved.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Yeah for sure, Yeah for sure. I parents know best
is kind of tough.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
I see that a lot, and it's like they don't
really all the time. And that's always something I think
about too as my kids get older, Like you want
them to make their own move, their own mistakes, you know,
think about where we ended up, Like this is, you know,
my dad. I always think about that too. If my
dad was alive, he probably would have disagreed with so
many risks and moves I took when it came to
my career. Yeah, and my family, you know, and you know,
not getting married while I was thirty four, and you
(37:43):
know all that stuff, Like I think he would have
been like a lot of it. It would have been like,
that's not what I would have done. But I ended
up in a place I know he's proud of. So
it's kind of it's weird, like your parents know best
to a point, and then when it comes to especially
like your future, that you're gonna be in charge of
your job too, is so much of your life, so
you like it. You know, they're not going to the
cubicle and sitting there and colating papers.
Speaker 1 (38:06):
What would you say, correlate in the papers? Is that
a word colated?
Speaker 5 (38:10):
C colid is definitely word.
Speaker 4 (38:13):
I honestly don't know.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
What it means. It means putting papers in order, collating. Okay,
you never heard the word colate. You're you're well read.
Speaker 4 (38:20):
No, I tell jokes for a living. I've never collated papers.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Well, you better collate your sense of humor and something.
Speaker 4 (38:28):
Yeah, but I mean I agree with you as a
It's one thing to hear it from his perspective, right,
and you want to your point, he's not He's the
one in the cubicle all day, right, advancing and if
you're inspired again, you're happy. But also from a parent's perspective,
like you want the best for your care So like
my daughter when she's out there in the world, I'm
(38:49):
going to say, you know, you want you to find
a great companion. I want you to be with whomever
you choose to be. I don't care if this is
an individual that doesn't make money, as long as that
individual is doing something that makes him happy. And if
you derive happiness, then that makes for a great partnership.
And I want you to be happy ultimately with whoever
you choose, as long as it's the same race.
Speaker 1 (39:10):
For sure, And that's all Daddy wants. Give me my Scotch.
I think that I think that there's a big setup.
Speaker 2 (39:21):
I think I was like I was sitting here and
so nice, and then I waited a little too long.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
I was like, gonna do something here.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
I think that it's interesting because I say that and
as you were saying that, I was thinking, like, you know,
parents don't always know no best, And I wonder when
the point in my life is when I'm going to
realize that. Because my daughter is like, hey, Dad, I'm
going to go cross country on the motorcycle and find
myself like.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
That kind of thing. And I'm like, don't you want
to go? You know like that, that's that's gonna be
a tough moment as a parent.
Speaker 4 (39:48):
Yeah, you know, I mean, look, yeah, what's what's the
kid's eighteen?
Speaker 2 (39:52):
It's like, well, I don't even think it's a number,
Like you know, some eighteen year olds they don't know
what the fuck they're doing of course, right, So.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
Like you can't, I can't just put a number on.
I mean I might.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
I trust my daughter's instincts at sixteen, you know what
I mean, But like I think it's.
Speaker 4 (40:03):
I think I trust your son's instincts now that kid
is so much.
Speaker 1 (40:06):
Sure for sure?
Speaker 4 (40:07):
Yeah, the kids, you could just tell that kid's gonna
be You're like, oh, he's gonna be fine.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
It's interesting because but if I look at my two kids, right,
they both have two different sides of my personality, Like
one's the risk taker and one is the slow and
steady ones and raise guy right, you know, Like, so,
I just wonder what you're gonna when you're gonna be
this That moment comes to every parent when you just
gotta be like, oh, all right, well go ahead, go
for a good luck to you and like you just
it's either send it in to college or them saying
they're not going to go to college or you know
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where it is, and you don't have to be like,
you know, that's gonna be a interesting point for both
of us. You guys are gonna come first, so let.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Me know how it goes. You've only got by a
couple of years, but finish crusted.
Speaker 4 (40:45):
Yeah yeah, but I think I think you just hope
to God you late enough of a good foundation. And
I always tell my kids it's like, I'm not going
to be there to make decisions for you when you're
with your when you're with your friend.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
The long day, I can only give you dead long time.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
They'll be looking up to the eavans and be like, Dad,
what do you think we wished you so much?
Speaker 3 (41:12):
Why didn't you stay home for New Yearsy? It's New
Year's Eve every day now, But Dorian's laughing. It's Cincinnati.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
I love it so stupid. Okay, well I think we
did it. We did it. Happy Thanksgiving, Seevie. Stevie, I
don't know how I would live my life without you.
I love you.
Speaker 2 (41:34):
You're one of my best friends, and I thank you
so much for being in my life and always doing
what you do.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Steve, not just.
Speaker 4 (41:39):
For me but for the people's Well, thank you and
reciprocal right back at you.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
I love you.
Speaker 4 (41:44):
My life is better for having become friends with you
over the last few years. I know we've always just
kind of bounced around, but getting to do this podcast
and getting to spend time with you, and it's been
it's been a lot of fun. Mark. I was looking
at you, but I loved get and obviously spend so
much time with you. Guys. Really am thankful for this experience.
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Speaker 1 (42:05):
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Speaker 4 (42:09):
Our our fellow co workers here that have been with
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Speaker 1 (42:14):
Thankful let people have messed up lives and need help because.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
We got to figure it out.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Yeah, we got home figured out. So Happy Thanksgiving, everybody,
enjoy your time with your family, eat well, and uh
we'll see you next time. On to gool Moms and
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
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Speaker 1 (00:28):
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Speaker 4 (00:32):
Just I saw a watch.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hey your body thanks listening we heard a brand new episode.
It's me Joe Gatto with my friend Steve Byrne, and
we're excited to get started on our Thanksgiving episode.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
I love it. I love it man.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
You always get happy Thanksgiving everything Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving time. What's the first thing you think about when
you think Thanksgiving?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
My parents are dead and I can't say happy Thanksgiving?
What do I say? No Thanksgiving? It's definitely the big meal.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
It's the food's and it's what's your favorite dish?
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Scoopsky patatoes? Of course, I love me a good mashed potato.
You know, a sweet potato mash came on later in life.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
I came hot. I can't too much. I don't like
a marshmallow, classic classic, Why why why mess with it?
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yeah, it's like putting pineapple on a people. Why you
don't give me mashed potatoes? And I'm going to order them.
I'm gonna order I must. I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
I'm more of a side than the main dish. I
love a good side. I love I love the you know,
I love a fresh cranberry. I don't like to end
the jaw right. I like a good cranberry mix up.
I like a good mashed potato.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I'm a big biscuit dude. I love a good biscuit.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Uh for three right now?
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Really don't give me the one. Come on, you do
a green bean casserole? No? But you like turkey? Yeah?
Sure turkey? What gravy? Stuffing? Soughing? For sure? Stuffing stuffing
is the best. It's my I agree.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
I like a little crisp on it.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Do you do a baked on you on the onions?
What Ilse called the fried onions? Do you do a
fright on your on top? People do that sometimes I
throw that.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
At a salad. Do you do a stovetop? Are a
classic stove top? Yeah? Classic stuff? Gut r you look
like stove top guy? You look you know you got
it that's the only it's a different stuffing. I'm like, no,
thank you for giving. I don't want any of that.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
No, yeah, I don't want it. I don't want your
grocery brand. Yeah stuffing. Give me the classic.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Spend. Spend the dollars. It's worth it. Spend. Come on,
it's stove, yeah, yeah, do it for sure.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
I don't buy stove top for anything else. Is it
just stuffing that?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I don't think they do other things on the stove.
Do you think stove sounds like amps? It's stovetop stuffing?
Speaker 1 (02:35):
So what a stove? What else do they make on
top of the stove? Do you cook the stove tup?
Speaker 4 (02:39):
In the story, I always put in the turkey.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
No, you don't.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
You put you you put this stuffing in the It's
called stuffing.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
You don't. You don't.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
You don't fill up the turkey with the stovetop. You
cook the stove top by itself on the stove. Maybe
when you're done, you stuff it up in there if
you want, no, hold, you.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Bake it up in there.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
You cook, right, I mean you put the stuffing in
the turkey, right.
Speaker 5 (02:59):
I've done it both ways. Yeah, but I think putting
it in the turkey.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Is now the turkey's got the bag in it.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
You take the bag out.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
No, it's got the lemon. You're supposed to cook it
with the bag.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
You cook it with the lemons and the spices, and
then you pull the bag out and you drop in
your stuff and when it's done.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
That's how I that's the that's how the Americans do it. Imports.
You can do it either way.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
Yeah, in North Korea in the prison camps.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
What's that? Where were you born? Freehold, New Jersey? Sounds
like it. No, I've never I've never done it. I've
never had a turkey stuff. But in my defense, I
don't need turkey anymore.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
So I will say that when you do put the
stuff inside the turkey, I feel like it gets a
little sorgy.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 5 (03:43):
You don't like that as my favorite method, I would
do it stuff with other things.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You know what came in on like fire now is
people deep frying the whole turkey. You get that.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
I love the outside dangers and their house catches fire.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Outside that the outside the fryer. My cousin Mike loves it.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Deep fries puts puts a puts on a beanie cap
out there and he's in the cold, he's in the elements.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
He's excited about it. But isn't it cooked like super quick? Yeah,
super as chrispy. Yeah. I like smelling it. I like
the moment. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
My dad makes the best gravy from the turkey based.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Yeah. He he'll whip up a gravy from that and
always loves that. He Uh. He puts like strips of
bacon on the turkey, really and I never heard it
so long with it. And then by the time the
turkey is done the he'll he'll always go and check
on it, and then the bacon will slowly just kind
of disappear.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Then I'm like, where's the bacon.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
He's like, all right, ate it.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
He puts the times every strip every time he goes in.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Yeah, it's a little tree for you. Never did a
bacon on the turkey.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Not bacon on turkey.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Now we've done the turkey's stuff with the bag, and
then we take the bag out. If we had stuffing,
we never really stuffed it in there, And now that
you're thinking about it, we never really did. We always
had the stuffing in a bowl separately. I never really
did it inside the turkey.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
My wife did the thing where you where you put
the turkey in the bag and it traps all the moisture. Yep,
that was a game changer.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Because it makes it everything. You don't get that dry turkey. Yes, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
But also then somebody told me about brining the turkey,
like you soak it in salt, salt water for I
think a good day, and then you put in the
bag and it's super moist We tried that one year.
It was fantastic.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
But who's coming to dinner? Who's coming to Thanksgiving dinner?
For you? Who does that?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Like my parents, your parents, not her side. We usually
see them Christmas.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Do you do a mixing? You don't do a mix
and match. You never have a super event, No they do.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Yeah, there have been it Just like her sisters are
all over the place, so her folks are visiting them
and with me, it's just me and my brother. Yeah,
and my folks come to see us all the time
because we have the kids. My brother doesn't have a kid.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
So Thanksgiving is her holiday in my house and Christmas
is my holiday. So I don't have my parents, but
my sisters, like we all get together every Christmas, So
I said, you know what, Thanksgiving, we give that the gaddos,
like the in laws could have that. So all of
us all with our in laws on Thanksgiving. So I've
never really had a super event. My sisters, even my
(06:10):
sister had to do it because my mom was alive.
One of my father passed away is my mom, so
my mom had to be with us, and then she
would have the in laws together. But my in law's
actually never even met, but my mother and my in
law's never met, but they had that like weird dynamic
where you had all the in laws, everybody, a lot
of different personalities at the table.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
That feels like that's a big.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
You're such a good food guy, like I would love
to see the spread you put on.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
We put a good spread out, even because we're not
meat eaters, but we do the whole thing. We do
the turkey everybody's because my in laws eat the turkey.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
The desserts are a big thing for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It's always when we It's funny because when people host
different we passed it around.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
So we had Christmas last year.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
This year is at my sister genius house, who always
puts out a whole thing too. My sister Gena called
the Great Cooks. They put out the whole thing, and
when I do it, it's like, okay, I to think about it,
and then I'll bring Vinnie in to do the steaks
because I do like n you gotta cut the flav Yeah,
I I outsauce a little bit, but uh, I love
I love a good spread.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
I love a good meal. Table all day, eating.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
All day, throw planes, trains on automobiles on, put it on.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Watching the big game? You watching the Detroit Lions. Do anything?
You're watching the Lions. I know you are.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
You are fan duel. You got to see what the
secondary is up to. No, I don't watch it, guessie.
Make sure the whole line is bringing me.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Do you watch it?
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Will you watch the game?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Absolutely?
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I watch a game.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Watch a game in the background. It's on you.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I don't say stop and watch it. We don't really
have the TV on. We'll have music on. We'll play games,
big games thing, yeah, board games, board games, and we
do these stupid things that you'll see like on tiktop.
Like last year we did the scoop the cotton balls
blindfolded into this bachelor.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
You see that one? What? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
So you get a bunch of cotton balls and you
put them on the table and you blindfold somebody and
then they have a frying pan empty, you know, and
then you have a spatter when you try to get
the most that.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
You can put chopput one hundred dollars bill on the table.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
I'm like, whoever gets the most cotton balls thirty seconds
gets it.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
It gets mayhem, so fun, so fun, and you just
sit there high up on your perch, which I love it,
look at these.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I love making. I love making a ruckus for things
for people to go after. You know, it's fun like
that way, Like I'll just I'll do crazy stuff like that.
My my nephews will know because like when it gets quiet,
they'll just like look at me and it'll be like, what's.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
It going to do right now?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Like all right, I'm taking a deck of cards.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I'll smack him down and go hire low and I'm
talking like it's twiny. I'm like hire loan no, and
they get it wrong. You know, it'll be fun with that,
like stuff like that, silly stuff like that.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
What's that dice game where you roll it the fright.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Center is awesome? The best get anybody the best.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
You get a bunch of singles, get some kids together,
watch them just turn.
Speaker 6 (08:52):
To finish that finish, and you play left right center,
right center, get a bunch of kids, get.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Some singles going dripping it.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I would say that the left right center came in
hot for a holiday game, but it's also a great
ice breaker game.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
We bring it on the road sometimes.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Yeah, left right center because it's so easy to travel
with three what a genius game.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Three dice, a couple, bingo chips, boom you ready? Yeah,
I love that.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
We played the card game thirty one. You have to
play thirty one. Thirty one is a lot of fun.
You get the closest to thirty one that you can.
Aces are eleven, all the face cards are ten, got
three cards each, and if somebody could knock, meaning this
is the last hand, you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Flip your cards over as the least puts the dollar in.
It's kind of like a left right center kind of game.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah, really fun, and that gets cutthroat because sometimes I'll
put up five dollars for everybody, so it's like a
fifteen dollars per person.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
We have a family of twenty people playing.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah, and the last two people are like, go on, right,
it's like quick knocks going, it's really fun. Yeah, yeah,
well that's for me, is that? But it's always about
like three big holidays for me, if you know. Thanksgiving
is definitely up there because a big family one. But
for me as New Year's Eve. I love New Year's
Eve too because we retreat with the fam.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
We get it. It's like a Thanksgiving almost we eat. See.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
New Year's Eve for me has always been work. You
work because it's such a great payday for comedy. So
I'm always like I could stay home but.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Also a pay day for family. Think about that for
a minute. Well, come on, kiss dad. Oh he's not here.
Not here, he's making Doreen laugh in Cleveland.
Speaker 7 (10:36):
Taking New Year's over Christmas. Christmas is the peak. No,
I didn't say that Christmas is. I mean Christmas is fun.
Here's the thing about Christmas though, it's like I give
great gifts. I'm a great gift giver.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
You are.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
People are like, I don't know, well, you're the best
gift giver, right know. People people are always like, oh
he is my sister, like trying and stuff, and I
end up. It's become a thing where I just start
ripping upon everybody, and I opened to guess people are
afraid to give me a guest but also love it
at the same time because I know.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
I'm gonna be honest. Last year, my sister gave me this.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
I it's partly my fault because I saw on the
Instagram and I asked for her for Pomoni.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
It was a comfortable like sweater thing that had a pocket.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Who was like a dog.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
He's a dog.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
It was like a kangaroo thing, right, So she got
me the Excel but it was I'm not sure if
it was fitted or if it was for women.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
But and I couldn't like get out of it. I
stuffed Pomoni and it was hysterical.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
So she we were let no, no Spamoni, like had the pocket.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
I couldn't breathe because it was tight around the trunk and.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
It was really funny, like we tried it on and
I just ripped our pond and she said, you can't
rip me a pot about this.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
You asked for it, you sent the link. Yeah, you know.
I was like, you got me a woman's excel.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
You're I'll tell you. I never brought this up, but
there was one time I was online for some reason,
it came in my feed. Like all these watches would
come to my feed, maybe because we're talking or whatever,
this is one thing. It was like it was a
replica of like a watch that was popped in the twenties,
(12:01):
And I was like, that looks really cool. And then
I ordered it and I gave it to you, and
then you open and you're like, oh, yeah, this is
cool and you put on such a brave face, and
I'm like, what am I thinking? Like this watch was
probably I think it was like eighty bucks. It was
a throwback and you're wearing like a car on your
(12:21):
wrists all the time.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
It's the it's the one you got me that has
the line there, And I wore it on an episode
of Two Cool Moms and you didn't mention it.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
Oh no, are you serious?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Where to god?
Speaker 4 (12:30):
The little thing we're out the window.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
I thought it was I thought it was cool.
Speaker 4 (12:35):
I thought it like I thought it was cool looking,
and I wasn't thinking about the fact of like, well,
on the on the spectrum of things, it's it's certainly
one of the cheaper watches. For surely the cheapest watch
you have. I thought it looked and I was like,
you wear like, I mean, really expensive one.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Now, but it's not even expensive. It's gifting a watch
is tough. I barely gift watch.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
I didn't think it through.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
I liked it and enjoyed it, and I wore it
multiple times. I wore it in froan of you.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
But I now I feel bad that I didn't recognize it.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
But yeah, I think it was it was either two
cool moms or were on the road together. I brought
it with me and you didn't mention it, and I
remember you not mentioning that you saw it. I was like,
maybe maybe he got is a gift and regifted to me.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
No, no, no, no no. But then the one you
got me, the snatchra one, Oh so great. I've worn
that on like special occasions. That's one where I'm like,
when I'm dressed up.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Or saw that one, I thought of you. I bought
you too your watches. One broke his garbage right you
threw it out there?
Speaker 4 (13:26):
No no, no, no no no.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
I got it fixed.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
I got to fix four times because I thought it
was battery battery and then the guy's like, no, it's
just off. So I got it repaired. So I got
it repaired, and then I put more money into it,
I think then, and then I got fucking stolen in
a green room. I was so furious because I put
so much into that damn watch. But what happened was
(13:49):
every time I would put my knapsack on, it would
get caught on my knapsack.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Yeah, and the thing would rip. People don't wear a watches,
don't do knapsack ons. Gotta go first. I watch on
for since had a knapsack into the sacking sacks.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
It's the way gifting a watch is tough, very difficult
for someone like you.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
It's very different.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
But I think I know somebody knows watches, you can
gift one, but gifting a watch is somebody who has
watches is kind of tough.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
Well, I got you that case, which I thought was loved.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That green thing. That's awesome. It's in my office. I
actually use it. I use it to travel, actually, when
I'm going someplace for a while. I brought it with me.
Where did I go? I was we were on the
road and the bus.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I wanted to bring a bunch of watches for me
and I needed something I could hold six or seven
watches and I brought that, so that was a good gift.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
The other one was all right, yeah, I was ugg
about But I'm thankful for you. I'm thankful for you, Stevie.
I'm thankful for you. Name the top three people you're
thankful for in order to go.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
Mom, dad, Jess Nice.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
So the kids don't mean shit. I told you that.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
That's why I wouldn't have the kids without Jess Nice.
I got it. But I've never loved I love my wife,
love her, but I will never love another human being
like my children.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
I don't know what. It's hard to like quantify that, right,
but it's like I would do anything, and I you know,
my wife is amazing. But the love, it's a different
kind of love that you have for your kids, and
those two just means so much. I can't even express
it or explain it or I wish there was a
word for that.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
I think that's that's so weird that parents you only
get that when you're a parent. You know, yeah, it's true,
but there is that bullshit thing that I felt all
the time.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
I was like, you know, I love your kid from
the moment you see them. I didn't like my kids
at the first dude, are you serious. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Yeah, I've heard that from a few different I think
that's the biggest line. And then I think it gives
people guilt. So every time I meet a dad like hey,
do you have any advice for me, I'm like, yeah,
you're not gonna like the kid right away, and it's fine,
you'll come around. Like it's literally.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
One thing I said. It's weird.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
I think people need the license to just get there.
You will get there at your kid, you know. Sometimes
people I didn't look at Malana, and when she was there,
I was like, oh my god, this little angel's here.
I was like, oh my god, I have a kid now.
And then I was like, I'm going to die soon
and I need to make enough money to help this
get out. I remember like all this stuff like I
got anxiety a little bit from it. But then I
was like, oh, came around. But then when the baby.
I don't like holding babies, and the time I like
(16:10):
to pick them up is when if you dropped them,
it's not that big of a problem, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Like this like a year, like, if you dropped baby,
likely dropped me, not for me. Yet. I didn't hold
my oldest nephews.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
I didn't hold the lay like two and a half
really way to God my oldest nephews, because I was younger, younger,
and I was afraid to What is the.
Speaker 4 (16:28):
I don't know if a version is the right word,
but what is it?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
What was what?
Speaker 4 (16:32):
What caused a feeling of distance?
Speaker 2 (16:34):
I guess I think it was that I think I
was I came in, I came at fatherhood with a
big responsibility in the forefront instead of part of the
family as the forefront.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
So I took more to the provider role than the
fatherhood role. I think that. So it was like, Okay,
so now this is this kid's here. Okay, what am
I gonna do here?
Speaker 2 (17:01):
We gotta get everything together, make sure I got a
family now, legacy, all this stuff. And I didn't think
of it from like, hey, I'm I'm her dad, right right,
So I think that was part of it.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
So it's more of a practicality, calorie responsibility.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Yeah, maybe not me.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
I mean the minute, in the minute I saw my son,
I was just like I couldn't get I.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Mean, but Live is a gorgeous little baby, right she
had to be.
Speaker 4 (17:23):
I mean, so.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Molana was too. But I but live.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Yeah, but then you know your son you said that.
You famously said that. I famously said what that your
son wasn't ascud as of baby as your daughter?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
What are you talking about? You never said that? H Yeah, no,
I think I think that's I think that stuff if
you had to.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
I mean, my kids do listen at times?
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Do you think about No? No, not now.
Speaker 4 (17:56):
If you look, Oh my god, no, I I adore them.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I absolutely adore them. Some babies are on yeah, and
nobody thinks that's they is, but that's somebody's.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
A friend of mine.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Uh, I don't say that. Don't stop right now.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
I'm a child.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And it's like I was like, oh, you gotta send me,
and he sent me a pick.
Speaker 4 (18:16):
I was like, ooh, I hope he grows into who
goes into that place? It's just like whoa.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
It looked like the end of Beetle Juice when they
shrink that. Yeah. I think I think it's important to
rank who you love. Excuse me, I think it's important
to rank who you love.
Speaker 4 (18:36):
What are your top three?
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Then?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
My top three? Yeah that I love? Yeah, my wife,
my sister Carla, and Piscatti. Those are my top two.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
Wait a dog for sure, So your other sister is
gonna go Joseph.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
No, the thing I'm making a joke there.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
I think it's important and that's why I'll say to
not rank, but I think it's important to check in
because I used to do this thing at the year end,
where I would you a, who do I need to
work on my relationship to bring it to the level
where I think it should be at.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
So for a while, like I would feel like.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
I didn't spend enough time one of my sisters, or
I did't spend enough time one of my friends, or
you know, dadding, I was like, Okay, I need to
spend like that, And I think it's really important every
year I would like check in and be like, okay,
is every relationship where I think it should be right.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
I think it's important to know because when.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
You have a list and when you're forced to listen,
I don't mean them out loud, I mean or even
list in just a sentence. When everybody, somebody says who's
your favorite, like a favorite pops In doesn't mean it's
your favorite. What's your favorite movie? I say, Young Frankistin,
It's probably not my favorite movie. It's just one of
my favorites that pops in my head. If I sat
down and thought about it, I probably.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
Could outrank it and think of something else, you know.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
So I think when you use the word favorite, it's
very important to see who doesn't make the list as
important as who makes the list, because then you work
on it and you yeah, and then easily like why
why isn't why isn't that one on the list?
Speaker 1 (19:55):
You know, right, so you.
Speaker 4 (19:56):
Know it's it's I think to tie it all together
with friends, ship, family, Thanksgiving and what you're thankful for Thanksgiving, Christmas.
It's nice to get the obligatory text message, but there's
a handful of.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
People the phone got to get a phone call, the
tier ones. Yeah, the tier.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Ones get the phone call. Yeah, I think, And that's important.
And I think the end of the year is interesting
because people are nostalgic. And then when you see that
phone call ring, and this is the second or third
time you talk to this person, that's weird, you know.
Speaker 4 (20:24):
Yeah, every Arbor day you always.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Call me, dude. There's nobody I think of a plane tree, Yeah, Joe.
When I think a stiff would.
Speaker 4 (20:33):
Steve, let's get it.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Thanksgiving. Everybody let's get our Thanksgiving queries.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
Happy things.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Mark, We're also thankful for you, buddy.
Speaker 4 (20:40):
Thank I'm here.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
We wouldn't be able to we.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Wouldn't be able to do this without yet, literally because
we don't know what they what the questions are.
Speaker 5 (20:47):
All right, we'll dive into our Thanksgiving questions. First one
comes from Celia. Uh, my parents are divorced and I
genuinely dislike them.
Speaker 4 (20:56):
Jesus Christ.
Speaker 5 (20:58):
They are constantly trying to separate me and my siblings
during the holidays. How can I navigate Thanksgiving and going
home with this in mind?
Speaker 4 (21:05):
Thanks moms?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Okay, well, I think the first thing about any of
that a child in divorce, there becomes a point, especially
when they're all I'm assuming Celia is older. When they're older,
I think the point of it is that you have
to start putting yourself first and start forgetting about what's
important to your parents, Like you can't be going to
spend time with somebody at a guilt. You go to
spend time with the people that have earned the time
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with love and support throughout the year. So that's the
first thing I would lens, I would look at of it.
And then also, you only you don't have to go
where you don't want to go. Yeah, you don't feel
like you don't have to go where you don't want
to go. That was a that's a big thing. I
think you go where you feel like. Because here's the thing.
The first year is the hardest, right, The first year
is the hardest. Like, I'm not gonna you know, I'm
not gonna split my time. I'm just gonna go to
(21:48):
one or the other or whatever. And then maybe next
year I'll go to the other one or whatever. You
figure it out. The first year is the hardest to
do that, spending the time in the car, trying to
spend because they you're not spending your time in a
good way. You're not spending your time. I'm you're not
being present. You're looking at the clock. Shit, I gotta
get to fucking Southampton orherever the hell you're going, you know,
So I think you're taking away. Nobody comes out of
(22:09):
winter in that situation. You know, go to somebody's house
on Black Friday, bring them a TV from Best Buy,
solving the blow, you know what I mean. Go the
next day.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I got this toaster from guys. It's crazy.
Speaker 4 (22:21):
I agree with you. When you're spreading yourself too thin,
you aren't present. But if you just invest in one,
then next year you go to the other one. But
it sounds like the parents are actively trying to divide
the siblings. Yes, which to me, it sounds like again,
these sentences are just you know, just giving the information
we have. It sounds like she wants to hang out
(22:43):
with her siblings, So make that the priority. Hang out
with your siblings and the parents if they want to come,
the more they're welcome to to have, you know, extend
the invite. But it's like, if that's the priority for
you to make, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Yeah, I think all subbings have to be on the
same page with that. But that'd be great.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
My my mom ended up doing that later in life
with Christmas Day. They would they'd spend Christmas Eve. She
had three brothers and sisters. There was a four of them.
Christmas Day, she started inviting them all over the house
and if you want to see your parents, that's where
they would be a Christmas Day, right, which is interesting.
So although all of them would have like breakfast with
their kids or whatever, and then they would go spend
(23:20):
the day with them, and it ended up being such
an awesome tradition that even after my mother passed for
a long time, my aunts and uncles because we would
all be with my mom still, they came wherever the
Ghattos were, which was really cool.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
We'd have all of them.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
So we had like ten to fifteen Christmases after my
mom had passed, ten Christmas, maybe of them after my
dad passed. Rather that where they would just come and
be where my mom was and we would all be
together my aunt and uncles, which was cool.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
But to put the siblings as.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
A priority is it's good because here's the other thing too,
The parents aren't going to be here Forever's.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Going to be longer. So you want to you want
to get your tradition and your timing together with them. Absolutely,
I think that helps helped. Well.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Good luck to you, Cecilia, Celia.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Clia, good luck.
Speaker 5 (24:06):
Kevin hits us up with the Thanksgiving really a question.
It's my first Thanksgiving with my in laws.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
Tough one.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Thanksgiving with my in laws.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
This comes in from Mark.
Speaker 5 (24:23):
I've also never been to their home and we'll be
staying there for three nights. What can I do to
best prepare for this situation and come out looking like
a hero.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
Well, that's a good attitude.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
The attitude's on cares. He cares.
Speaker 4 (24:38):
So it sounds like he has.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
A good relationship with ish because he wants to come
out like a Hary has a relationship with the in laws,
which is very good.
Speaker 4 (24:45):
The attitude out of the gates is exactly the mindset
you want. I think you want to go into it
and make make the effort right. Sometimes people feel inhibited,
you know, you hope they're going to be great hosts, right, yeah,
but take the time to you know, sit down with them.
You know, when they're at coffee. It's easy to sit
on the couch and pull out your phone, but to
like literally put your phone down, walk over and sit
(25:07):
down and just try to have a conversation. Or if
they're hey, can I help you with the groceries? Can
I help you? You know, I think the the minuscule
little chores. Can I take out the garbage.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
For you guys?
Speaker 4 (25:17):
You know it looks just all those little things.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
I'm literally going to just say take out the garbage
because that's the least favorite thing and any home, and
it's the easiest thing that you could do. Because you
want to be careful, like, okay, help you put the
grocer's way. A lot people, there's my kitchen, I got,
you know, like that, but nobody's like, it's my garbage,
you know what I mean. You know everybody hates that, right,
It's that the two most mundane ones. People hate the
garbage and then empty and the dishwasher. If you're in
(25:41):
charge of those two things, you're a hero. They'll love
you forever. I would say do that. I would just say,
also take the cues of the home. There are people
that become want to be helpful house guests and then
get annoying and get in the way of the flow
of it right right, you know, can I help you
cook now and I'm cooking, get out of the kitchen,
you know, then sit on the other side of the
island and talk to them like that, you know. Take
the cues of the house is a big thing, you know. Uh,
(26:04):
make the bed, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
By the way, if you're there for three days, hey, guys,
I was thinking, you know, after the first day, you know, uh,
could I take you guys out to lunch? Could I
take you guys out to dinner? Do one of those?
Obviously you're going to have the big the big meal, right, right,
but I think one of those. Just make an effort
and go. I'd love to take you guys out for
a lunch or dinner.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Hey, why don't we Why don't we order it tonight?
Can I order orders in dinner so we can hang out,
you know kind of thing. We don't have to spend
time preparing the food. Things like that. I think that's great.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
Also, don't come empty hand it to a house. That's
the scratsiat. Never come in that's yours. Yeah, never come
in to hand it. Bring yourself a bottle, find out.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
It's easy to find out what their favorite snacks, bottle
or something or whatever to come in with. Get get
a bag of bagels for breakfast in the morning, whatever.
Speaker 4 (26:49):
Come flowers for.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
The mom, flowers for the month, then and then.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
But you don't want to get the dad jels and
think that you're trying to bang his wife. Take cards
for baseball closet. Again, you don't want to get the
mom jealous thinking you're trying to bang the dad.
Speaker 4 (27:00):
Right, That's why I would also suggest d batteries and
say I know what, I know what's in your nightstand?
Speaker 2 (27:04):
Yeah, So everybody's banging everybody, And don't try to have
quiet sex in the house.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
You never go three days without it.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
You're a bully in the bedroom. Let him know, be
proud of.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
What you're doing up in there. Yeah, one of the other.
Don't try. My god, this is your daughter, I would say. Yeah,
definitely reserve yourself to masturbating.
Speaker 4 (27:34):
In the show, I'm inside your house, inside your daughter.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
It's so weird.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
It's okay.
Speaker 5 (27:43):
I brought bagel, hope your flower. That's funny to piggyback
on that. Do you think that it's uh? Do you
think it's the right thing to do to offer to
cook for Thanksgiving? Like this guy, Kevin, he goes over
to the house. Do you think it's the thing to
do to stay out of it?
Speaker 4 (28:01):
I feel really good.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
Yeah, you gotta have confidence.
Speaker 5 (28:04):
That's gotta be some best pressure.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
I make a great stuff, mushroom. I could stand behind
it no matter what.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
The first time I went to my in laws, first
time I met my in laws was Thanksgiving. They weren't
even my inlaws that we were dating. I went over there.
I'm in California and I'm sleeping on the couch and
I say, uh, and the mom says everything she's making.
I said, oh, I said, can I always have stuff mushrooms?
I say, can I can I make stuff mushrooms and
she goes, okay, yeah, and so I may make the
stuff mushrooms. And everybody loved them and it was good.
(28:29):
But I was confident in them. They're not hard, they're easy,
and I've been making them for years, and that was
part of my tradition I wanted to bring to it.
And now we all have stuff mushrooms and my in
laws now we all cook together Thanksgiving. Like She's like,
you're gonna make the mushrooms like that kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
So I do agree. If you're gonna make one dish,
also make it simple, don't I'm gonna bake.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
I'm gonna make a Julianne pie and you're fucking with
the flower to them, everybody make something.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
Simple and easy, a bean salad, a mushroom, things like that.
Super easy.
Speaker 5 (28:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Yeah, don't make a stake up this before he guys
like peaking duck.
Speaker 5 (29:07):
Or using too using too many pots and pans and
making making a mess. Making a mess is like a
good I think a big.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
Thing is the worst thing you could do hands down,
let's talk about worst things you could do. Get in
the way in the kitchen is number one for it
when they're cooking. If you're in the way in the kitchen,
that's gonna be like, I hate this guy.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Couldn't get out of the kitchen, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
The other thing was like, don't shut up while you're
like while you're talking, like if people are talking, give
everybody a chance to talk and share doing a Thanksgiving table,
don't monopolize the conversation. I think those two things become
the most annoying things you could do ye as a guest.
Speaker 5 (29:35):
And I've actually been told sometimes that I was too quiet.
That's another thing too, coming into an in law, like
not being too shy. Really, I think you have to
have no balance too, because if you're going over for
the first time, you want to make sure that like
I have to pimp.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Between being too loud obnoxious of being too quiet and shy.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
I will take the quiet and shy person absolutely so. Yeah,
but most of all, guys, be you well.
Speaker 4 (30:01):
Good luck Kevin, Kevin, Kevin, good luck Kevin.
Speaker 5 (30:05):
Uh. Sarah hits this up on the Instagram. Sarah says,
I'm a terrible cook. So I guess we're on the
other end of the spectrum. I'm a terrible cook, but
want to host my family for Thanksgiving, more importantly, impress them.
This would be my first time hosting after leaving home,
getting my first big girl job, and buying a home.
Any advice to calm my anxiety.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
I got it ready. You do the whole food like
Whole Foods or your local grocery store. They have like
everything pre made, so you just have to bake it
for like fifteen or twenty minutes, like those pre made
meals that are already situated so you don't have to
overextend yourself. Or or there's always a restaurant that serves
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Thanksgiving meals, So I would suggest one of those two routes.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
Yeah, because if you're famously known for not being a
good cook. Yeah, if you're gonna throw a hat in
the arena for the event that is known for its meal,
it's the holiday known for its meal.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Yeah, come to that, you know, with your hands cuffed.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
You gotta you gotta, you gotta admit it and own
it and be like, look, I don't cook, but I'd
love to have you guys over. I'm gonna get bring
the food in blah blah blah. But then you're gonna
get a lot of this. You're gonna get like, oh,
but that's not like Mom's turkey.
Speaker 8 (31:11):
Oh that's you're not gonna have Grandmama's potatoes. Oh what
about Uncle Philipe based mushrooms? Like you're gonna hear all
that stuff, and that's gonna be annoying. Yeah, that's gonna
be really annoying.
Speaker 4 (31:22):
But I think that there's some merit to the fact
that she just got her first job, she's young, she's
kind of extending herself and saying I think family wise,
you think I think the parents.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Will be into it more than the siblings. The parents
are like, oh, the good for Julie, She's gonna do it.
But then like the parents that, oh, we gotta go
there and have a male You.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Kind of get a list. Is there anything you'd want?
Speaker 1 (31:44):
What about? Yeah? What if people bring the food? Bring
bring something you enjoy.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
You could also invite people just to cook in your kitchen.
I'm a bigger fan of that. I'm a bigger fan
of Hey, I want to Thanksgiving. I'm not a good cook.
Speaker 4 (31:54):
Mom.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
If you want to come over I'll buy everything and
we just cook together in my kitchen. That might be fun,
or you.
Speaker 4 (31:59):
Run it's like Whole Foods has like one hundred and
fifty dollars package where I love like six baked potatoes
and all that stuff. So there's that. But I like
the idea of would you mind helping me out?
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (32:11):
You know, And because everybody's going to be game for
that plan, I think yeah, I think everybody's gonna be like, yeah,
it's the same thing, you know, going there, unless the
mom might be like, oh, you only have one of them.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
We don't have a double oven. Am I supposed to
take these potatoes? And I've been smoking for eats?
Speaker 4 (32:26):
Get me my bull burrows?
Speaker 2 (32:28):
You know.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
I think there's a lot of solutions there. It's either
get also talk about it openly with everybody. Don't be
like be like, you know, here's the thing. But at
the end of the day, it's your house, you know,
so you're like, Hey, this is what I want to do,
this is what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Everybody cool with it? Okay? If not, and then hey,
can I what about the potato? Bring them? Bring them,
make them at home and bring them.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
I'm invested in this one. Can you please follow up,
follow up, take some pictures and let us know how
it went, because I am here.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
And I hope it goes well for it.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
I hope it goes well for it.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
Maybe the first oneing you hosted, you and Jess hosted together.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
There's a handful. I remember, yeah, in Chicago. We had
just moved into our our like I don't know, new place,
and we had her parents and my parents, and we
had a Thanksgiving together for the first time, and and
Jess knocked out of them.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
That's great.
Speaker 4 (33:21):
She did. She was so nervous, but she cared so
much and she's a warrior and she she she nailed it.
So it was great. That was one of my favorite
Thanksgivings because, uh, we we had all we're all just
kind of getting to know each other, you know.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
That's great.
Speaker 4 (33:35):
And we had just gotten engaged, I think, prior to that.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
So there's a lot of good feelings good, Yeah, a
lot of good movie wedding wedding.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
Stuff in the air I did. I hosted.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Me and Bessie were dating and we were in on
Wall Street in our studio apartment, and my sister Gina's
in laws were in. I think Texas or something with
the with the other parts of the family whatever, and
she was available for Thanksgiving, so I was like, come over.
So her and my nephews and my knee came over
and we had thanks kids in the in our apartment
and it was so cool. It was so fun. That
(34:06):
food was terrible, but it didn't matter, like we made
fun of it.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Yeah, yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
It was like I was like, I don't really know
what I'm doing here, you know, I didn't. I think
I cooked in that apartment seven times.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
That was one of the time I lived a year.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
You know, you always order food in the city of
your grand food, you know, so that was a Bessie
doesn't cook. So I was just like, you know, threw
something together, but do you have.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
A dish you make me personally for Thanksgiving or just
in general? No, for Thanksgiving, No, not really, I've never
I've always kind of stayed out of it. But what
what we did last year was we we'd always cooked turkey,
and then the kids hated it. There was like I
don't like turkey, and I was like, all right, what
do you guys want to do? So we made pizzas.
So we got a pizza uh strike slab. Yeah, and
(34:45):
we got five dos and we just had a pizza night.
And then for Christmas, same thing. It was like the
kids didn't want ham. I was like, well, what do
you guys want to do? So my mom made cream
barbecue and we just had we had. My mom's crean
barbecue is phenomenal, and she makes a lemon chicken that's
like off off the charts, so we we had her
just pull out all the stops with the she catered,
(35:07):
she catera and she rocked it. So is there a
dish you do?
Speaker 2 (35:11):
I do my dad's bean salad, my dad's bean salad,
my mom's stuff version of my dad's bean salad.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
I do.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
It's kind of monotonous to make it. My sisters don't
like making it, but they love eating it. So the
I was like, gonna make the bean salad and bring
it's I always bring it with me, But yeah, I
love that. My dad had a bean salad at a
restaurant and he loved the way it tasted.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
And he just he took some home and and dissected it.
Speaker 4 (35:30):
And re created it everywhere, and.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
He couldn't figure out He couldn't figure out the one
thing that was messing. So he went to the chef.
That was the place he went to in his Italian place.
It was just like it was like a little side
thing he loved and he said, what is was that?
And it was it was red wine vinegar. They put
a splash of red wine vinegar. That's it, and that
was that and he put it in goes, that's it.
He was so excited, so excited that, Yeah, so that's
my thing.
Speaker 1 (35:50):
I make that and my kids make it with me
now and now my kids know to make it. It's
so cute. Yeah, my daughter's like to make dad's bean
salad and Bessie I was like, all right, because she
doesn't really eat it all right. I mean it takes
a while and everything, but it's fun. Yeah, the bean
south your.
Speaker 4 (36:04):
Dad's being sold my dad's gravy.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
There you go, man, Bean salads and gravies.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
That could be a new podcast that we do, cooking
podcast Bean Soalds and Gravies.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
We'll get time for more one more and more.
Speaker 4 (36:23):
Uh.
Speaker 5 (36:23):
This one comes from bread. My parents love my current job.
I recently left the job though, and have a new
one that I'm excited about. I'm nervous they won't agree
with my new direction. Should I bring it up in
person when I'm home for Thanksgiving or wait until after
the holidays?
Speaker 4 (36:37):
Thank you mommy?
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Oh sure I ruined the holidays. Get in there and
just ruin the holiday with a controversial topic. Come in
hot and be like you're future.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
That's like, that doesn't work, and it's like, and I'm gay.
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Job thing I'm bunking now, doesn't Grandpa? I know what
you're gonna I think I know what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
I always bring it up right there. We're gonna sit
on that. You know, talk about it in person's always.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
Great, But but to you the minute, he says, I'm
just thinking your own happiness is gonna matter more than anything.
And I think if you're, if you're truly genuinely happy
in your new job, your parents are gonna be over
the moved.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Yeah for sure, Yeah for sure. I parents know best
is kind of tough.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
I see that a lot, and it's like they don't
really all the time. And that's always something I think
about too as my kids get older, Like you want
them to make their own move, their own mistakes, you know,
think about where we ended up, Like this is, you know,
my dad. I always think about that too. If my
dad was alive, he probably would have disagreed with so
many risks and moves I took when it came to
my career. Yeah, and my family, you know, and you know,
not getting married while I was thirty four, and you
(37:43):
know all that stuff, Like I think he would have
been like a lot of it. It would have been like,
that's not what I would have done. But I ended
up in a place I know he's proud of. So
it's kind of it's weird, like your parents know best
to a point, and then when it comes to especially
like your future, that you're gonna be in charge of
your job too, is so much of your life, so
you like it. You know, they're not going to the
cubicle and sitting there and colating papers.
Speaker 1 (38:06):
What would you say, correlate in the papers? Is that
a word colated?
Speaker 5 (38:10):
C colid is definitely word.
Speaker 4 (38:13):
I honestly don't know.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
What it means. It means putting papers in order, collating. Okay,
you never heard the word colate. You're you're well read.
Speaker 4 (38:20):
No, I tell jokes for a living. I've never collated papers.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Well, you better collate your sense of humor and something.
Speaker 4 (38:28):
Yeah, but I mean I agree with you as a
It's one thing to hear it from his perspective, right,
and you want to your point, he's not He's the
one in the cubicle all day, right, advancing and if
you're inspired again, you're happy. But also from a parent's perspective,
like you want the best for your care So like
my daughter when she's out there in the world, I'm
(38:49):
going to say, you know, you want you to find
a great companion. I want you to be with whomever
you choose to be. I don't care if this is
an individual that doesn't make money, as long as that
individual is doing something that makes him happy. And if
you derive happiness, then that makes for a great partnership.
And I want you to be happy ultimately with whoever
you choose, as long as it's the same race.
Speaker 1 (39:10):
For sure, And that's all Daddy wants. Give me my Scotch.
I think that I think that there's a big setup.
Speaker 2 (39:21):
I think I was like I was sitting here and
so nice, and then I waited a little too long.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
I was like, gonna do something here.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
I think that it's interesting because I say that and
as you were saying that, I was thinking, like, you know,
parents don't always know no best, And I wonder when
the point in my life is when I'm going to
realize that. Because my daughter is like, hey, Dad, I'm
going to go cross country on the motorcycle and find
myself like.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
That kind of thing. And I'm like, don't you want
to go? You know like that, that's that's gonna be
a tough moment as a parent.
Speaker 4 (39:48):
Yeah, you know, I mean, look, yeah, what's what's the
kid's eighteen?
Speaker 2 (39:52):
It's like, well, I don't even think it's a number,
Like you know, some eighteen year olds they don't know
what the fuck they're doing of course, right, So.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
Like you can't, I can't just put a number on.
I mean I might.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
I trust my daughter's instincts at sixteen, you know what
I mean, But like I think it's.
Speaker 4 (40:03):
I think I trust your son's instincts now that kid
is so much.
Speaker 1 (40:06):
Sure for sure?
Speaker 4 (40:07):
Yeah, the kids, you could just tell that kid's gonna
be You're like, oh, he's gonna be fine.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
It's interesting because but if I look at my two kids, right,
they both have two different sides of my personality, Like
one's the risk taker and one is the slow and
steady ones and raise guy right, you know, Like, so,
I just wonder what you're gonna when you're gonna be
this That moment comes to every parent when you just
gotta be like, oh, all right, well go ahead, go
for a good luck to you and like you just
it's either send it in to college or them saying
they're not going to go to college or you know
(40:35):
where it is, and you don't have to be like,
you know, that's gonna be a interesting point for both
of us. You guys are gonna come first, so let.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Me know how it goes. You've only got by a
couple of years, but finish crusted.
Speaker 4 (40:45):
Yeah yeah, but I think I think you just hope
to God you late enough of a good foundation. And
I always tell my kids it's like, I'm not going
to be there to make decisions for you when you're
with your when you're with your friend.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
The long day, I can only give you dead long time.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
They'll be looking up to the eavans and be like, Dad,
what do you think we wished you so much?
Speaker 3 (41:12):
Why didn't you stay home for New Yearsy? It's New
Year's Eve every day now, But Dorian's laughing. It's Cincinnati.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
I love it so stupid. Okay, well I think we
did it. We did it. Happy Thanksgiving, Seevie. Stevie, I
don't know how I would live my life without you.
I love you.
Speaker 2 (41:34):
You're one of my best friends, and I thank you
so much for being in my life and always doing
what you do.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Steve, not just.
Speaker 4 (41:39):
For me but for the people's Well, thank you and
reciprocal right back at you.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
I love you.
Speaker 4 (41:44):
My life is better for having become friends with you
over the last few years. I know we've always just
kind of bounced around, but getting to do this podcast
and getting to spend time with you, and it's been
it's been a lot of fun. Mark. I was looking
at you, but I loved get and obviously spend so
much time with you. Guys. Really am thankful for this experience.
(42:04):
Thankful for iHeart.
Speaker 1 (42:05):
Yeah, thank you. Thank you for the fans that to.
Speaker 4 (42:09):
Our our fellow co workers here that have been with
us from the jump, So thank you guys as well.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Thankful let people have messed up lives and need help because.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
We got to figure it out.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Yeah, we got home figured out. So Happy Thanksgiving, everybody,
enjoy your time with your family, eat well, and uh
we'll see you next time. On to gool Moms and
tour dates. At did we put on the beginning? So
we did. Okay, we're gonna put on the beginning, but
we can tell them now.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
Hey, you know the holidays coming up, we gonna need gifts, right,
why not come out and see us live. You're gonna
get tickets from me at Joe gattoofficial dot com or
Steve burn.
Speaker 3 (42:47):
Right, it's punch Up dot live slash Steven b y
r an E.
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Sier. Reason to find it.
Speaker 4 (42:55):
By the way, I want to see the pictures from
the girls, is it Sarah?
Speaker 1 (42:59):
Sarah?
Speaker 4 (42:59):
I want to see Sarah? Is I want to see
how well?
Speaker 1 (43:01):
Thanks Sarah, make sure you said.
Speaker 4 (43:02):
It, please Sarah, And good luck to everybody.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
Good luck everybody,
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