November 9, 2025 • 18 mins
The truth about getting pinned.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia, Judice.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. Hey, it's Daisy Kent back
on Dirty Rush. You guys. My mind is blown by
all these stories about pinning. We had so many callers
call in and they're all so different. Some of them
are crazy. So we're going to dive back into this
and talk more about these pinning ceremonies, what they mean
(00:27):
from school to school, and just learn some more because
I literally had no idea this is what pinning was about.
How are you doing, Christina, I'm doing great, thank you.
We've been getting kind of people's takes on what pinning
is or how it happened at their school, So I'm curious,
what was your pinning like or what did it all entail?
Speaker 3 (00:50):
It's a mine was actually kind of a different not
the stereotypical traditional penning.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
I was a senior at CAL when I met my husband.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now, oh, I know, cute, huh thirty almost thirty.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Years but oh congrats, that's amazing.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
We uh so we started dating our senior year and
and to be honest with you, I'm not sure why.
Originally we used to do pennings on during Monday night meetings,
and it was usually a surprise members of our fraternity,
you know, we'd kind of filter into the meeting, and
it was really cute that way anyway, but ours, I
don't know if it was because maybe we hadn't we'd
(01:30):
only been dating maybe six, you know, eight months or something,
or I know that a lot of our friends were
in different sororities and fraternities, and so we had planned
this graduation party with our parents and some of our
friends that were in different houses.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Oh so fun.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
We were hosting it at at a hotel, you know,
nearby hotel, and so I did unbeknownst to me, he
decided to go ahead and pin me there. So his friends,
like some of our one, you know, one set of
his best friends from home were there that didn't even
go to cal.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Oh that's special.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Yeah, a couple of his friends for fraternity, and a
couple of friends that were in different fraternities. And then
one of you know, a couple good friends of mine
that were in my sorority, and again a couple that
were in different sororities.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
So it was really cool to kind of have a
big group there. But I think what was so strange about.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
My pinning is that my parents were there, My aunt
and uncle were there.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
So did you did you know you were going to
get pinned before it happened?
Speaker 4 (02:24):
No, we were.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
It was just really a graduation party. We had, you know,
just stereotypical party, round table's.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Dinner bar, right.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
And then one of the it wasn't even my husband one,
it was one of the other guys stood up and
you know, started giving a speech, and so.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
I was called to the you know, kind of the
front of the room, and they started bringing me.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Flowers, which is a traditional part of the penning, usually
a pinning when the guys come into our our I
guess it was usually our dining room. They would all
bring roses, so they would hand they would hand the person.
Everyone would have a single rose, and so the guys
did that. And then of course my husband now had
a big book here roses, So that was obviously really cute.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
So at your school, was it if like, because I've
heard like a different like different kinds of opinions and
what they mean at different schools, was yours? Like, if
a guy pins you, does that mean is it kind
of like like before engagement thing or like they want
to be with you forever? Or what does it like,
what does it necessarily mean at your school? Well?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
That's you know, that is so interesting, And I was
trying to think back truthfully to remember everything because it's.
Speaker 5 (03:33):
Been a few but I think, you know, I don't
think we were one hundred percent thinking engagement right at
that minute minute, but I think most people that were
willing that were that were that ended up getting pinned.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
We're clearly pretty serious, right, yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Because you kind of had to stand up and say,
you know, I want to put you know, my fraternity
pin on somebody.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
So it was kind of I.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Guess a precursor maybe, yeah, But I guess we hadn't
really discussed at that point, you know, getting married or
engagements or anything.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I just had a thought of like Twilight when like
how the wolves like imprint on someone. I'm my usiness
kind of like that. So how long after you got
pinned did you guys get engaged? Oh, let's see.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
It was probably it was maybe less than a year
that we were really young.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Oh my gosh, that's so great.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
I know that is wild.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
I know I have children, that are that age now,
and it's funny to think that we were already engaged
and married, and so it's very funny.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
That is so funny. Do you have any kids that
are like in college that have done like the pinning thing?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
No, I mean both our kids have graduated from school,
and no, they did not do the pinning things. So
I don't even know. Is that something that's that's still
going on? Is it still popular now?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
It was funny. We've talked to a few people today,
Like one college's pinning was like a roast, so like
the guy and the girl would be like, oh, like
we want to get pinned, and then everyone in there
for turn and sorority would roast each other. And then yeah,
I was like, this sounds like a horrible idea. And
then there was another We just talked to a couple
(05:11):
and they had graduated recently and they did like a pinning,
but it was like the girls went and did like
went on a party bus, did their thing. The guys
went on their party bus and then they met up,
but the girl didn't know she was getting pinned, and
then they were all kind of just like drunk partying
and she get pinned.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
So yeah, it's changed at our The one I remember
the most truthfully is some of our best friends from
school and they had a much more traditional pinning. It
was very cute though. We even snuck in for them.
We snuck in her. She has a twin sister, and
then he had a sister from southern California that flew
up and so they had been hiding in the sorority
(05:51):
house so that she.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Didn't know that they were there. Yeah, And so that
was super fun.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
And then of course I think there was as far
as the parting, I think he I think our friends
did buy maybe a keg or something.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
We had a party after.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know, But that's so fun.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
But it was really fun in that situation for her
to have some of the siblings around as well.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Oh definitely. Do most people get pinned like when they're
a senior.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Yeah, I definitely senior, and and it was pretty rare.
And I don't know if that's a California thing. I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
I mean I feel like maybe in my four years
as a member, I mean, I'm trying to think it's definitely.
I can count on one hand how many pinnings there were,
so it wasn't a super comptanting.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Okay, that's kind of cool. Makes it like special definitely.
And then when you were at the sorority house and
like your friends got pinned that or when you experienced
one that was at the sorority house, was everyone like
dressed this a specific way or like have to wear
like a certain color where they're like candles and stuff.
I'm like visioning, Yeah, no, I know.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
In our house was we we're fortunate, we have such
a beautiful home and it's big, and so we our
pennings usually were held on Monday night because that's when
we had to be dressed in I mean kind of
nicer clothes, not you know, nothing fancily. And again we're Berkeley,
so we're not that probably proper.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
But if rumor had got gotten out.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
That there was maybe a pinning or something, people might
look a little bit nicer. But we typically did at
least have skirts or address on and of some sort.
And so it was during dinner or right after dinner
that kind of did the guys. But the guys definitely
would have sport coats and so they looked way better
than most of us because it was mostly a surprise,
you know, for the girls.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, yeah, and.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
It was I remember it. You know, when you were
freshman sophomore.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
You know a lot of times you really didn't even
know the senior very well anyway, you know, in the house,
and so it was kind of fun that they would
all these people coming in and you're just sitting in awe,
kind of admiring the whole process.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Oh for sure, like you're probab, Like, I hope that's
me when I'm seeing You're, like, I can't even imagine
right now, that's so sweet that we honestly we haven't
heard a story yet of somebody that's like fin pinned
like like this, and then it all like transpired into
all this. So that's great. I'm so happy for you guys.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Well, the funniest thing was you said about engagement, Mike,
because we did it at this graduation party. My aunt
and uncle everyone was there, and so my aunt literally
thought we were getting engaged, and.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
We were like no, no, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
They're like it's happening, it's happening, and they're like, no,
she's getting sin no no, I know.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
So I do remember that feeling of like no, no,
we're not ready to be engaged, you know, like that's yeah,
not where we are yet.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
That is special though, that you had everyone there that
you like, really care about though, and now like I'm
sure being married you said thirty years Yeah yeah, and
like looking back on that, that's going to be so cool.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Well, you know it is cool.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Like I just to refresh my memory, I did pull
out an old scrap book just to see a few
pictures to remind myself. But yeah, I mean all the
people there were still super good friends with, and it's
it's kind of an interesting, you know, fun.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I love that said you have you have like pictures
from the day when that happened.
Speaker 6 (09:17):
Yeah, so I was kind of in scrap into scrap
booking a long time ago, and so my sister had
made taken all the pictures from it and put some
into a little scrap book for me.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
That's amazing. I love that.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
But you know what else, funny fact the one the
other pinning that I was telling you about a friend
they got married the same year and so they're about
to have their thirty year anniversary as well.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Oh wow, I know, so maybe penny works.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Maybe that's the key. Go Berkeley, who would have thought.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I love that well, thank you so much Christina for
being on here and sharing that with us. We have
(10:10):
Claire and Kara here. So I've been talking to people
all day about getting pinned and what that means, and
I feel like, yeah, every school it means something different.
And I heard you guys have kind of a unique
story about getting pinned because you got pinned together.
Speaker 7 (10:28):
Yes, right, Yeah, we had a double pinning, which was
super fun. Our friends went all out and surprised us.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
So so what like, what did your pinning look like? It?
What all happened during that ceremony or party? I learned
it could be many things. Yeah, Kara, do you want
to start? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Sure, I guess I can kind of give a review
of the night from our perspective. Yes, So it started
out it was something that's that our sorority does is
that it's always a surprise for the girls getting pinned.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
So the boy does about it, all their friends know about.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
It, the rest of the sorority does.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
And the way they surprised the girl is at dinner
that night, they'll have we turn off all the lights
and sing a silly song sort of and passed around
a candle. So that happened to us at dinner at
our sorority one night, and they blow out the candle
right next to you to the girls getting pinned.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
So that's how we found out that it was our turn.
Speaker 7 (11:34):
We both looked at each other in the middle and
we're like, please going on.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
We had no idea because also it's usually pinnings are
between Our boyfriends are both long distance, so it's usually
only couples that are both at the school, so this
was kind of a non traditional one, so we really
weren't expecting it. Yeah, so our boyfriends flew in and
drove in for it, which was really awesome.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
Yeah, we had no clue that it was happening, so
our friends did a great job of hiding it and
getting us to dinner because a lot of the time
it's hard to get We were seniors, so we didn't
go to dinner at the house all the time. So
they got us to go to dinner, which was hard
to get us to do. And then we got there and.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
So then what happens like when your boyfriend's like came in.
Speaker 7 (12:28):
Well, no, so the boys are not at the dinner,
so the dinner is just girls in the sorority and
they pass around the candle and blow the candle out,
and then one of your friends reads a letter from
the boy.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Okay, and then.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
They kind of dismiss everyone after dinner, and then you
go back to your apartment or wherever and get ready
and the girls wear a red dress. The girls getting
pinned wear a red dress. Of the girls where black
dresses in this sorority. So our friends had picked us
out red dresses and every they had it all set up.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
It's literally like a mini bachelorette party. It is, yeah,
exactly exactly.
Speaker 7 (13:13):
And we played like games with all of our friends
came over, just girls, and then we went on a
party bus to a bar or restaurant, like they choose
different bars and restaurants per people. But yeah, we went
to a bar with our all of our friends on
a party bus, just the girls. And then we go
(13:37):
back to the sorority and that's where we do kind
of like a bigger ceremony and kind of the night
has already kicked off, but it kind of turns mind
to a party.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
That's so fun. So why did your are your boyfriends
like friends or did they know each other when this
was happening?
Speaker 7 (13:57):
So they've known each other just through us throughout this
past year, and so our friends had been texting them
for a couple months and we're like, we really want to.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Make this happen.
Speaker 7 (14:08):
This would be so fun. They go to different schools,
so my boyfriend just was coming kind of they he
told him the date that he was going to be
in town, and then Kara's boyfriend was able to come
that same weekend, so they had planned a kind of.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
That's so sweet, and are you all still together? Yes,
yeah we are. Yeah, so the pinning is going strong.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
I guess way yay, love that yeah, and neither of
us are a long distance now, so kind of no way, Yes,
that's amazing.
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Yeah, I guess we could talk a little bit about
the house part too, because that's kind of fun.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
Yeah, tell me what happened there.
Speaker 7 (14:46):
So when you walk in, everyone in the sorority is there,
and then everyone who's with the pinning party, like on
the bus, comes in and they're like seeing a song
and they lift the girls.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Up that are getting pinned.
Speaker 7 (15:00):
Usually it's only one girl, but for us, it was
two of us, and they lift us up and we
all sing the song, and then the boys come and
we do like a one hundred second kiss outside with
everyone around, and then we like sign our names in
our sleeping porch, which is kind of a fun tradition
(15:22):
that our so already had.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Oh that's so fun.
Speaker 7 (15:26):
Yeah, and then if people get married, they come back
and circle their names. That's the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
But oh, no, way, it's a really fun tradition because
there's names going back in that room to like the
sixties or I think the oldest one we found was
from the sixties or maybe the fifties, and there's tons
of names with circles around them, so it's really cool.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
So cool. Well, hopefully you guys can go back and
put circles on it. Yeah, we see. That's so fun.
Speaker 7 (15:54):
And it's usually only seniors, like the boy girl has
to be a senior.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Where there are a lot of girls in your sorority
that got pinned.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
I think a lot. I would say, I feel like
we had an above an average man.
Speaker 7 (16:07):
Yeah, they happened like every quarter. We have a couple
per quarter usually.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
So okay. Cool. Were there ever girls who like wanted
to be pinned and were like pissed if they didn't?
Speaker 4 (16:17):
I think, yeah, I heard stories. I feel like.
Speaker 7 (16:21):
Maybe it's people that weren't dating that long so they
didn't know. Yeah, like they tried to choose I guess
more serious relationships.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Was there ever, like a guy that like pinned a
girl and then they broke up and then he would
like pin another girl or are you only allowed to pin?
Like what that would happen? Okay? I was just like, oh,
this could be tea.
Speaker 7 (16:44):
There were people that were older that like were written
in porch twice, Like we didn't know who they were.
It was way back. I don't know anyone from like
our year, yeah, or like while we were in college
that that happened too, But we saw people names in
porch twice.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Okay, so you can you can double pin, yeah if
it goes wrong the first time. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (17:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
And specifically one of our friend's dads, his name is
written up there twice, which means he pinned two different
girls in the same sorority and neither of them or neither.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Of them are his wife. So no way. So if
someone breaks up, do they give like your pin back?
Speaker 7 (17:24):
We don't actually get a pin. It's kind of funny, okay,
don't even do like an actual pin.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Okay, yeah, it's just written in sharp. I love that. Yeah,
that's great. Okay, Well, thank you girls so much for
coming on. I love this story. It's been fun because
every story has been different depending on like where people
go to school and like what age they are, so
it's been fun to hear all the stories. Okay, guys,
(17:52):
thanks for listening into this episode. I hope you all
learned a lot because I learned so much. But if
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(18:14):
the next episode. Can't wait to see you guys again. Bye.
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia, Judice.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. Hey, it's Daisy Kent back
on Dirty Rush. You guys. My mind is blown by
all these stories about pinning. We had so many callers
call in and they're all so different. Some of them
are crazy. So we're going to dive back into this
and talk more about these pinning ceremonies, what they mean
(00:27):
from school to school, and just learn some more because
I literally had no idea this is what pinning was about.
How are you doing, Christina, I'm doing great, thank you.
We've been getting kind of people's takes on what pinning
is or how it happened at their school, So I'm curious,
what was your pinning like or what did it all entail?
Speaker 3 (00:50):
It's a mine was actually kind of a different not
the stereotypical traditional penning.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
I was a senior at CAL when I met my husband.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now, oh, I know, cute, huh thirty almost thirty.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Years but oh congrats, that's amazing.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
We uh so we started dating our senior year and
and to be honest with you, I'm not sure why.
Originally we used to do pennings on during Monday night meetings,
and it was usually a surprise members of our fraternity,
you know, we'd kind of filter into the meeting, and
it was really cute that way anyway, but ours, I
don't know if it was because maybe we hadn't we'd
(01:30):
only been dating maybe six, you know, eight months or something,
or I know that a lot of our friends were
in different sororities and fraternities, and so we had planned
this graduation party with our parents and some of our
friends that were in different houses.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Oh so fun.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
We were hosting it at at a hotel, you know,
nearby hotel, and so I did unbeknownst to me, he
decided to go ahead and pin me there. So his friends,
like some of our one, you know, one set of
his best friends from home were there that didn't even
go to cal.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Oh that's special.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Yeah, a couple of his friends for fraternity, and a
couple of friends that were in different fraternities. And then
one of you know, a couple good friends of mine
that were in my sorority, and again a couple that
were in different sororities.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
So it was really cool to kind of have a
big group there. But I think what was so strange about.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
My pinning is that my parents were there, My aunt
and uncle were there.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
So did you did you know you were going to
get pinned before it happened?
Speaker 4 (02:24):
No, we were.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
It was just really a graduation party. We had, you know,
just stereotypical party, round table's.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Dinner bar, right.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
And then one of the it wasn't even my husband one,
it was one of the other guys stood up and
you know, started giving a speech, and so.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
I was called to the you know, kind of the
front of the room, and they started bringing me.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Flowers, which is a traditional part of the penning, usually
a pinning when the guys come into our our I
guess it was usually our dining room. They would all
bring roses, so they would hand they would hand the person.
Everyone would have a single rose, and so the guys
did that. And then of course my husband now had
a big book here roses, So that was obviously really cute.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
So at your school, was it if like, because I've
heard like a different like different kinds of opinions and
what they mean at different schools, was yours? Like, if
a guy pins you, does that mean is it kind
of like like before engagement thing or like they want
to be with you forever? Or what does it like,
what does it necessarily mean at your school? Well?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
That's you know, that is so interesting, And I was
trying to think back truthfully to remember everything because it's.
Speaker 5 (03:33):
Been a few but I think, you know, I don't
think we were one hundred percent thinking engagement right at
that minute minute, but I think most people that were
willing that were that were that ended up getting pinned.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
We're clearly pretty serious, right, yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Because you kind of had to stand up and say,
you know, I want to put you know, my fraternity
pin on somebody.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
So it was kind of I.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Guess a precursor maybe, yeah, But I guess we hadn't
really discussed at that point, you know, getting married or
engagements or anything.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I just had a thought of like Twilight when like
how the wolves like imprint on someone. I'm my usiness
kind of like that. So how long after you got
pinned did you guys get engaged? Oh, let's see.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
It was probably it was maybe less than a year
that we were really young.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Oh my gosh, that's so great.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
I know that is wild.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
I know I have children, that are that age now,
and it's funny to think that we were already engaged
and married, and so it's very funny.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
That is so funny. Do you have any kids that
are like in college that have done like the pinning thing?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
No, I mean both our kids have graduated from school,
and no, they did not do the pinning things. So
I don't even know. Is that something that's that's still
going on? Is it still popular now?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
It was funny. We've talked to a few people today,
Like one college's pinning was like a roast, so like
the guy and the girl would be like, oh, like
we want to get pinned, and then everyone in there
for turn and sorority would roast each other. And then yeah,
I was like, this sounds like a horrible idea. And
then there was another We just talked to a couple
(05:11):
and they had graduated recently and they did like a pinning,
but it was like the girls went and did like
went on a party bus, did their thing. The guys
went on their party bus and then they met up,
but the girl didn't know she was getting pinned, and
then they were all kind of just like drunk partying
and she get pinned.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
So yeah, it's changed at our The one I remember
the most truthfully is some of our best friends from
school and they had a much more traditional pinning. It
was very cute though. We even snuck in for them.
We snuck in her. She has a twin sister, and
then he had a sister from southern California that flew
up and so they had been hiding in the sorority
(05:51):
house so that she.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Didn't know that they were there. Yeah, And so that
was super fun.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
And then of course I think there was as far
as the parting, I think he I think our friends
did buy maybe a keg or something.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
We had a party after.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know, But that's so fun.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
But it was really fun in that situation for her
to have some of the siblings around as well.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Oh definitely. Do most people get pinned like when they're
a senior.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Yeah, I definitely senior, and and it was pretty rare.
And I don't know if that's a California thing. I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
I mean I feel like maybe in my four years
as a member, I mean, I'm trying to think it's definitely.
I can count on one hand how many pinnings there were,
so it wasn't a super comptanting.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Okay, that's kind of cool. Makes it like special definitely.
And then when you were at the sorority house and
like your friends got pinned that or when you experienced
one that was at the sorority house, was everyone like
dressed this a specific way or like have to wear
like a certain color where they're like candles and stuff.
I'm like visioning, Yeah, no, I know.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
In our house was we we're fortunate, we have such
a beautiful home and it's big, and so we our
pennings usually were held on Monday night because that's when
we had to be dressed in I mean kind of
nicer clothes, not you know, nothing fancily. And again we're Berkeley,
so we're not that probably proper.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
But if rumor had got gotten out.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
That there was maybe a pinning or something, people might
look a little bit nicer. But we typically did at
least have skirts or address on and of some sort.
And so it was during dinner or right after dinner
that kind of did the guys. But the guys definitely
would have sport coats and so they looked way better
than most of us because it was mostly a surprise,
you know, for the girls.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, yeah, and.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
It was I remember it. You know, when you were
freshman sophomore.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
You know a lot of times you really didn't even
know the senior very well anyway, you know, in the house,
and so it was kind of fun that they would
all these people coming in and you're just sitting in awe,
kind of admiring the whole process.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Oh for sure, like you're probab, Like, I hope that's
me when I'm seeing You're, like, I can't even imagine
right now, that's so sweet that we honestly we haven't
heard a story yet of somebody that's like fin pinned
like like this, and then it all like transpired into
all this. So that's great. I'm so happy for you guys.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Well, the funniest thing was you said about engagement, Mike,
because we did it at this graduation party. My aunt
and uncle everyone was there, and so my aunt literally
thought we were getting engaged, and.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
We were like no, no, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
They're like it's happening, it's happening, and they're like, no,
she's getting sin no no, I know.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
So I do remember that feeling of like no, no,
we're not ready to be engaged, you know, like that's yeah,
not where we are yet.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
That is special though, that you had everyone there that
you like, really care about though, and now like I'm
sure being married you said thirty years Yeah yeah, and
like looking back on that, that's going to be so cool.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Well, you know it is cool.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Like I just to refresh my memory, I did pull
out an old scrap book just to see a few
pictures to remind myself. But yeah, I mean all the
people there were still super good friends with, and it's
it's kind of an interesting, you know, fun.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I love that said you have you have like pictures
from the day when that happened.
Speaker 6 (09:17):
Yeah, so I was kind of in scrap into scrap
booking a long time ago, and so my sister had
made taken all the pictures from it and put some
into a little scrap book for me.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
That's amazing. I love that.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
But you know what else, funny fact the one the
other pinning that I was telling you about a friend
they got married the same year and so they're about
to have their thirty year anniversary as well.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Oh wow, I know, so maybe penny works.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Maybe that's the key. Go Berkeley, who would have thought.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I love that well, thank you so much Christina for
being on here and sharing that with us. We have
(10:10):
Claire and Kara here. So I've been talking to people
all day about getting pinned and what that means, and
I feel like, yeah, every school it means something different.
And I heard you guys have kind of a unique
story about getting pinned because you got pinned together.
Speaker 7 (10:28):
Yes, right, Yeah, we had a double pinning, which was
super fun. Our friends went all out and surprised us.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
So so what like, what did your pinning look like? It?
What all happened during that ceremony or party? I learned
it could be many things. Yeah, Kara, do you want
to start? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Sure, I guess I can kind of give a review
of the night from our perspective. Yes, So it started
out it was something that's that our sorority does is
that it's always a surprise for the girls getting pinned.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
So the boy does about it, all their friends know about.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
It, the rest of the sorority does.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
And the way they surprised the girl is at dinner
that night, they'll have we turn off all the lights
and sing a silly song sort of and passed around
a candle. So that happened to us at dinner at
our sorority one night, and they blow out the candle
right next to you to the girls getting pinned.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
So that's how we found out that it was our turn.
Speaker 7 (11:34):
We both looked at each other in the middle and
we're like, please going on.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
We had no idea because also it's usually pinnings are
between Our boyfriends are both long distance, so it's usually
only couples that are both at the school, so this
was kind of a non traditional one, so we really
weren't expecting it. Yeah, so our boyfriends flew in and
drove in for it, which was really awesome.
Speaker 7 (12:01):
Yeah, we had no clue that it was happening, so
our friends did a great job of hiding it and
getting us to dinner because a lot of the time
it's hard to get We were seniors, so we didn't
go to dinner at the house all the time. So
they got us to go to dinner, which was hard
to get us to do. And then we got there and.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
So then what happens like when your boyfriend's like came in.
Speaker 7 (12:28):
Well, no, so the boys are not at the dinner,
so the dinner is just girls in the sorority and
they pass around the candle and blow the candle out,
and then one of your friends reads a letter from
the boy.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Okay, and then.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
They kind of dismiss everyone after dinner, and then you
go back to your apartment or wherever and get ready
and the girls wear a red dress. The girls getting
pinned wear a red dress. Of the girls where black
dresses in this sorority. So our friends had picked us
out red dresses and every they had it all set up.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
It's literally like a mini bachelorette party. It is, yeah,
exactly exactly.
Speaker 7 (13:13):
And we played like games with all of our friends
came over, just girls, and then we went on a
party bus to a bar or restaurant, like they choose
different bars and restaurants per people. But yeah, we went
to a bar with our all of our friends on
a party bus, just the girls. And then we go
(13:37):
back to the sorority and that's where we do kind
of like a bigger ceremony and kind of the night
has already kicked off, but it kind of turns mind
to a party.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
That's so fun. So why did your are your boyfriends
like friends or did they know each other when this
was happening?
Speaker 7 (13:57):
So they've known each other just through us throughout this
past year, and so our friends had been texting them
for a couple months and we're like, we really want to.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Make this happen.
Speaker 7 (14:08):
This would be so fun. They go to different schools,
so my boyfriend just was coming kind of they he
told him the date that he was going to be
in town, and then Kara's boyfriend was able to come
that same weekend, so they had planned a kind of.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
That's so sweet, and are you all still together? Yes,
yeah we are. Yeah, so the pinning is going strong.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
I guess way yay, love that yeah, and neither of
us are a long distance now, so kind of no way, Yes,
that's amazing.
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Yeah, I guess we could talk a little bit about
the house part too, because that's kind of fun.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
Yeah, tell me what happened there.
Speaker 7 (14:46):
So when you walk in, everyone in the sorority is there,
and then everyone who's with the pinning party, like on
the bus, comes in and they're like seeing a song
and they lift the girls.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Up that are getting pinned.
Speaker 7 (15:00):
Usually it's only one girl, but for us, it was
two of us, and they lift us up and we
all sing the song, and then the boys come and
we do like a one hundred second kiss outside with
everyone around, and then we like sign our names in
our sleeping porch, which is kind of a fun tradition
(15:22):
that our so already had.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Oh that's so fun.
Speaker 7 (15:26):
Yeah, and then if people get married, they come back
and circle their names. That's the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
But oh, no, way, it's a really fun tradition because
there's names going back in that room to like the
sixties or I think the oldest one we found was
from the sixties or maybe the fifties, and there's tons
of names with circles around them, so it's really cool.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
So cool. Well, hopefully you guys can go back and
put circles on it. Yeah, we see. That's so fun.
Speaker 7 (15:54):
And it's usually only seniors, like the boy girl has
to be a senior.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Where there are a lot of girls in your sorority
that got pinned.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
I think a lot. I would say, I feel like
we had an above an average man.
Speaker 7 (16:07):
Yeah, they happened like every quarter. We have a couple
per quarter usually.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
So okay. Cool. Were there ever girls who like wanted
to be pinned and were like pissed if they didn't?
Speaker 4 (16:17):
I think, yeah, I heard stories. I feel like.
Speaker 7 (16:21):
Maybe it's people that weren't dating that long so they
didn't know. Yeah, like they tried to choose I guess
more serious relationships.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Was there ever, like a guy that like pinned a
girl and then they broke up and then he would
like pin another girl or are you only allowed to pin?
Like what that would happen? Okay? I was just like, oh,
this could be tea.
Speaker 7 (16:44):
There were people that were older that like were written
in porch twice, Like we didn't know who they were.
It was way back. I don't know anyone from like
our year, yeah, or like while we were in college
that that happened too, But we saw people names in
porch twice.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Okay, so you can you can double pin, yeah if
it goes wrong the first time. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (17:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
And specifically one of our friend's dads, his name is
written up there twice, which means he pinned two different
girls in the same sorority and neither of them or neither.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Of them are his wife. So no way. So if
someone breaks up, do they give like your pin back?
Speaker 7 (17:24):
We don't actually get a pin. It's kind of funny, okay,
don't even do like an actual pin.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Okay, yeah, it's just written in sharp. I love that. Yeah,
that's great. Okay, Well, thank you girls so much for
coming on. I love this story. It's been fun because
every story has been different depending on like where people
go to school and like what age they are, so
it's been fun to hear all the stories. Okay, guys,
(17:52):
thanks for listening into this episode. I hope you all
learned a lot because I learned so much. But if
you have any crazy so or anything you want to
talk to us about, call in at eight four four
two seven eight Rush. That's eight four four two seven
eight Rush, or you can email us at Dirty Rush
at iHeartRadio dot com. Make sure you tune in to
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the next episode. Can't wait to see you guys again. Bye.
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