February 24, 2020 • 43 mins
Teddi is about to give birth any minute
Kristin Cavallari talks birth and babies with Teddi and they are really telling it like it is
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
This is Teddy Teapot. Hi guys, welcome back to this
week's Teddy Teapot. I am like next level pregnant right now.
Like I'm sitting here like having to take my sweatshirt off,
and everybody else is in like multiple jackets, like it's
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a situation here. I am hot, sweaty, and bothered. I
am so excited to have Kristen Cavalry on. Not only
have I been obsessed with her for years, She's on
Very Cavalry Thursday nights on eight Central. She is married
to Jake Cutler and has a great jewelry line called
Uncommon James three Ketto's. So we gotta dig into all
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things pregnancy. And then later on in the episode, I
am going to have on an O. B. G Way
in so we can ask all of the questions all
of us are too afraid to actually ask our doctors.
It's gonna be crazy. And you know what, I need
to get these questions in now, because like I am
days away from having the baby. I mean it could
be today, it could be tomorrow, it could be at
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the beginning of next week. I don't know. I'm ready,
so oh my gosh, I can't wait. To dive right
into it. Kristen, Hi, Hi, thanks so much for coming on.
How are you? I'm good? How are you? I mean,
to be honest, I'm kind of a hot mess express
right now. It's like working up till the last day.
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I mean, it's craziness. I think that. I mean, I
don't know if this happened to you, but did your
mind forget everything from each pregnancy before you got pregnant
with the other one? Oh? Big time? Yeah? And now
of course I've completely forgotten everything, but are pregnant and
they're asking me questions like I don't remember any of this,
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so why did they Why does that happen? I'm like, honestly,
the other day, I was like, somebody's like, are you
packed for the hospital? And I was like, no, don't
I have to do that? Oh my gosh, yeah you do.
But I feel like, but what didn't you pack? Because
I feel like the first time I packed all of
these ridiculous things that I never once used, Like I
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left with these like crazy granny panties that they gave
me and some like spray and my like baby take
home outfit didn't fit the baby anyway. So I'm like,
what what do you even need? No, I know it's true.
The first one you have everything imaginable, and then each
one I feel like you bring less and less you need,
really thanks, and maybe some spacewash and that's about it.
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Maybe a new pair of clothes after you have a baby,
and that's about it. That's what's I said. And then
one of my listeners said, bring tile and all pm
because you need to sleep, and they're not allowed to
give it to you at the hospital, but you're allowed
to take it. And I was like, how did you
figure this ound? So that's also interesting because my first
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five three I have two boys and a girl, and
my boys we never sent them to the nursery. I
think I felt bad or I didn't even know what
that was an option. And then my daughter, for the
third one, I was like, oh wait, we can send
her to the nursery. Best decision of my life. I've
actually got some sleep that night was which was incredible
because with my voice we had camped in my first
at like two in the morning. I was up all night.
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You know, I never slapped and stay with Jackson, and
we didn't. So you start off with your own sleep.
So I would say and sending my mom to the
nursery as a game changer. I think so too. But
then I don't know if this is a rumor. But
where I'm having the baby, somebody's like, oh, they don't
do that anymore, where you can send your kids to
the nursery. I'm like, I am, I'm like older now
more than ever. Do I want to like send the
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baby to the nursery. But I'm like totally in denial.
Like my husband's like, do you think you could pack
the bag or do you think you could maybe organize
like a babysitter to be with the kids when you
go into labor. I'm like, oh, yeah, this is really happening.
That's the hard part. Once you have more, It's like
you have to find childcare and you don't even know
when it's I'm gonna go down. You just have to
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be prepared for your other kids. And what's the age
gap between your kids? So I have a seven year old,
a five year old, and a four year old, so
they're all pretty closed. Okay, So I'm Mike had such
a big gap because my I have a stepdaughter that's eleven,
my daughter seven, and then my son's five and then
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this was like a total surprise. I didn't even know
that I was pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant,
and um, so my kids are like at the point
where like, mom, are we gonna have to be like
the baby center? I was like, I have some extra hands,
which will be nice. But something I'm trying to think
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of is like that beginning stages when you have older kids,
Like how much downtime did you have with your babies,
Like before you know, you were up running around doing
all the things that you do now. Well, so I
obviously you know downtime the window when you have other
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little kids, you know. I mean I had all my
really close and age, So my oldest was twenty one months,
and then my middle kid when I had my my daughter,
he was only nineteen months. I mean, I had babies,
so really when you think about it, but I didn't
go back to work um with my daughter for a
few months. I had her in November, and I really
thought that was a great time because then obviously, thanks
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to Christmas and everything, I could just chill out for
a while, which was awesome. My first after seven weeks,
he was on a plane with me to l a
I took a red eye from l A to New
York with him. I mean, I was just going going,
I have my mom with me, which was great, but
it was really tough, and I if I could go
back and do it again, I would have just taken
more time to chill out. You know, you can't get
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that time back. Um, So I don't know where did
you go. Each kid's different, and I don't know, it's
just it changes. But I think because my daughter was
my last one, and I knew she was gonna be
my last one, I really just built it for everything
was worth and I just enjoyed every second of her
baby face. I mean, that's that's what I'm telling myself. Like,
I'm like, that's what I'm gonna do. I'm really gonna
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take this time with her, and I'm going to not
rush myself. And then I see myself scheduling things that
are like four weeks out, and I'm like, what are
you doing? Like I don't know how to stop myself
now with the with the other kids, I didn't have
my business and I wasn't on the show or any
of those other things, and I didn't have a podcast,
and I was like able to have that time, and
I don't think I appreciated it I first, not because
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you don't appreciate it when you're in the midst of it.
Of everything, I know, I mean I think that more cancel.
It is nice to get back into a groove after
you know, just sitting on a couch all day and
leggings out with an ice patch, you know. I mean,
it's small nice to have a reason to get dressed
in the morning and kind of feel like yourself again.
But I think the beauty and um, you know, just
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taking it slow and not being hard on ourselves and
and just you know, resting as much as possible because
it is it's hard, and we're going on most sleep
in the beginnings. Yeah, that's definitely. Well, somebody sent me
the snow or schnoo, I might be pronouncing, have you
heard of this? Okay, So apparently it like completely simulates
the mother's womb, and like you can rent that. People
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are renting them, everybody's talking about them. This is not
an ad, by the way, but I never had them
with my other kids. We like set it up in
my room. It tracks their heartbeat, attracts the movements that
they need and everybody's like, oh, the baby will be sleeping,
Like you won't believe there's no colic. I'm like, so
I am like ready to test it out. I already
have it set up. I have like the app set up.
My husband's like, you've lost your mind. I'm like, everybody
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swears by this, but there are always those like things
that people swear by and then you get it and
you're like, oh, that actually didn't work for me, or
you know what, this is not the best thing ever.
How I mean when it comes to sleep, I would
try everything anything. And how is Jay like within the
newborn phase because Edwin is like the most nervous human
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being touching the baby, He's like acting as if it's
like a foreign object. He's like hello, and I'm like,
can you do the diaper? And he's like, can we
wait till the chord falls off? I know, guys are
so funny with newborn babies. Jay, it's with each kid
he'd be like, I'll be on, I'm on, toddler, dude,
you your baby, Dude, Like, can you kill the baby
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for five seconds to give me a play? I mean
he's this way, he really, He's like all come around
when they're like seven eight months old. That's I think
guys just they feel like they have nothing to control.
For you. I kind of understand it, you know. I
mean I understand it too. But there were some nights
where I know my husband was simply checking on me
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just to like so he could say he did. Like
he'd be like, all good, babe when the baby was crying,
and I'd be like, you are so full of it.
You're just trying to be nice, and then you like
put your headphones on to like drown out the noise
and don't like, must be nice. Jay. I'm like, I
know awake, and I know you're pretending to be asleep,
but I don't as see what you're doing. Buddy. It's
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like safe like that you get into tonight, everyone's surprised.
Everyone's hilarious and right now that have babies and they're
like in the middle of the night, I'm like, oh,
I know, but it gets better, trust me at all.
It gets better. But yeah, I'm really happy to be
out of that that you're going because it's so hard.
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It's just it's hard. You've just given me a reality
check because I've totally blocked it out. Now that you're
saying this, I'm reliving all of these moments again, and
I'm starting to be like, no, but I need this
because I swear this is why postpartum happens. Because everybody
talks about how you're going to have this baby and
then your life will be the best it's ever been,
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and there are moments that are so beyond hard, and
like they don't talk about those moments and they don't
talk about the fact like I remember with my first baby,
I thought that I was like going to have the
baby and then like feel good to like you know,
trot out of the hospital, like you know, you see
and like the magazines when you see like you know,
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one of the princesses leaving like in her like pants suit,
and I'm like, I am sitting here in these underwear
that are like bigger than my bathroom. I am a
disaster zone pregnant. No one told me that. I was like, wait,
why is what is my stomach? Yeah? Why? I actually
feel worse in closed after the baby comes that I
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do when i'm pregnant, because then it also it feels
like something that you don't even really it's like a goo.
Your stomach is like this gooey feeling, and it is
a it is a weird feeling, and until you experience it,
you can't even explain it to somebody. But that's exactly
It's like, it's bizarre. And Molle talked about that before
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I had a kid. I was like, WHOA, I wish
someone would have warned me about that stuff. Yeah, why
did nobody tell me about the goo? And like, why
did nobody like tell you that even though you're tired,
you really can't sleep. Even when you can't sleep, you're
just like staring at a child. I know. And I
felt like, especially with my first I had all this adrenaline.
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When I first got home from the hospital two weeks,
I felt like I was just running off of adrenaline
and everyone, you know, my mom, I didn't have a nanny.
It's all my oldest seven months old, and so I'm
my mom and my mother in law being like people,
lay down, lets go lay down and take some sleep.
I'm like, I can't. I literally cannot. I like jacked up.
And then it like three months was when it hit me.
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It all just came crashing down on me and I
got really tired. But luckily that's you know, right when
he was starting to sleep through tonight. So it all
worked out. But you know, no one really really talks
about that stuff. Everyone is most of what's ever happened,
and it is. It is the most amazing thing that
will ever happen to anyone who was a tack. But
it is also really hard, and so I think it's
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important to have honest conversations about that so that people
don't feel like they're alone off on a little island. Yeah,
because then and then you go through this phase where
you're like, I don't want the people in my life
to see how much I'm struggling, and then it makes
things worse. Like even recently, I have this thing. It's crazy,
but it's called lightning crotch. Doesn't that sound lovely? But
it's where I'm walking and then all of a sudden
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I will be brought down to my knee. It feels
like somebody took a lightning bolt, and like, and I
didn't even realize it was a thing. I went to
the doctor. I'm like, every couple of days this thing
happens and I don't know, it never happened with the
other kids, And he's like, oh, lightning crotch totally normal,
And I was like what, Like I thought I was
going into early like labor, Like what is this And
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he's like, oh no, it just happens to some people,
like and doctors are so casual about everything that then
you feel like a crazy person. I'm like, well, I
didn't realize, and I'm walking with my kids and all
of a sudden, I'm like lean down on my knees,
like shuddering and pain, Like I wish I would have
known that something like this was like a situation. So
does it really does it feel like your who has
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like ripping apart, like your phones are like literally ripping apart?
What it is? But it's what It's insane and it's
so bad. It happens for no reason, Like it's not
like it's right after doing something strenuous or workout. Like
the other day, I was just leaving my daughter's dance
class with like I wasn't dancing, I was just walking
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with her out of class and I was like, oh oh,
and she's like, okay, are you having the baby, and
like no, it's and then how much do you explain
to the other kids? Right? Yeah, so right, Mommy's like
it's ripping and sorry, well my son already thinks that
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the baby's coming out of my butt. Oh that's always
a lovely conversation too, isn't it. Other time my kids
saw the babies came out of our belly button. I'm
the I wonder like once we tell them, then they're
going to tell everyone in school, and like, what is
an appropriate age to tell them? I mean, I don't
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I don't know. I have a like an O B
G coming on later that I'm going to ask what
I did ask like my pediatrician and she's like, you
should just be very honest with them. So I was,
and I just said, actually, cruise, the babies come out
of your vagina. And but now he's one, he can't
say vagina. He says vagina. So now all the time
he's like, how's the vagina? Mom, I'm like, do you, like,
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can I see your vagina? Know why? And then I
look at the doctor. I'm like, I'm so glad you
had me have this conversation with him. Yeah, now I
look like the creepy mom, like just trying to like
get lunch um, but yeah, no, it's so much craziness,
But thank you so much for coming on and sharing.
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If you could leave the listeners with like one tip
of like pregnancy and becoming a new mom, what would
you say? I would say, don't compare yourself to others
and listen to people, but take it with a grain
of salt, because at the end of the day, as moms,
we only know what's best for us and our babies.
And every baby is different, every experience is different, parenting
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is different for each kid as well, and so I
would just say open, just go ahead, listen to you,
you know, and and again, just don't compare because everyone
is different. You know what. I couldn't love that advice more.
It's so good and so true. And thank you so
much Kristen for being on I and you guys have
to tune into Very Cavalry. It's Thursday nights on E
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It's so great, so funny. I love y'all's dynamic and
thank you. Thank you for coming on the show. Thanks
for having me. I will post you later. Talk okay,
bye Teddy bye? Okay. How amazing is kristin Cavalary? Like
I need her to live than Los Angeles would be
one of my besties. Can you move? Thanks? Uh now?
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I am bringing on Dr Tristan Bickman. She is the
author of whoa Baby, a guide for new moms who
feel overwhelmed and freaked out and wonder what the A
lot of asterisks just happened. Um. She is a board
certified O B g U I N with affiliations with St.
John's Health Center and U C l A. I mean,
the list goes on and on, and she's going to
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really help us everybody. Let's welcome Dr Tristan. Is that
what I should call you? Okay? Perfect? We're so excited
because essentially what this podcast is is I asked my
listeners what they want to hear about, and then they
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write in questions and then we kind of take our
cues from there. And something that everybody is obsessed about
is like the good, the bad, and the ugly of
being pregnant and childbirth and all of that and all
of the things that you're frightened to actually find out
from your O B g U I N or too
embarrassed to ask in front of your husband or whatever
it may be. Like I'm going to start off with like,
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it's a very embarrassing story that happened to me, but
I had absolutely no idea it was even something that
could happen. Um When I was having my baby, when
my first my husband kept saying when I was in delivery,
she's coming, She's coming, and I was like looking at
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the doctor and he didn't seem very positive about it,
and he's like, he's like, I see her head. I
see her head, Babe, you're getting there. And then I
look at the doctor and he would shake his head
like and I'm like, what the heck is happening. Finally,
Edwin like goes to the restroom or something and I'm like,
dr G, what is happening. Why does he keep saying
the baby's coming and he's not coming? And he's like, Teddy,
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you don't want to know? Can you just not know?
I'm like, I need to know. What does he think
is the baby's head? And she's like, well, you've you've
gotten a hemorrhoid and every time you push it fills
up with blood. And your husband thinks that that's the
baby's head. And I'm like, no, like you've got that
isn't happening. That isn't what he's seeing down there. And
I remember being like, one why did nobody tell me this?
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Happens to what do I do now? Three? How long
am I going to have this hymn? Right? And which
was a while? And to no, yes, now one way
because I had to get it removed. I had to
go get one of those things where they like put
a little like around it and then it falls off.
But like, please, like these are the things that you're
just not warned about. And I mean still to this day,
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I hope my husband doesn't listen to this podcast because
like I never told him, like that wasn't actually the
baby's head. But these are the types of things that
I don't think that people really know going into the hospital,
Like why does no one tell you tell mothers that
they leave the hospital and basically diapers and like what
is actually happening down there that we need to leave
in diapers? Well, number one, presuming it's vaginal delivery or
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even actually for a C section, there's so much bleeding
that a little, a little mini pad isn't gonna take
care of it. Um number one. Number two weeks asked
you not to use tampons, So you need something that's
very large, you need something that's very absorbent and that
doesn't leak and Also that's not tight because you want
nothing touching you down there. Sounds comfy. I'm days out
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from this. And then you get a nice east infection
because you get all the non cotton absorbent liners. Also,
when I would go to the restroom, I would have
to like squirt water on myself at the same time
because the p would hurt my my private right. It's
like salt in a wound. And like Derma blast became
my best friend. They gave me one, which you can't buy.
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By the way, you can't know. Yah, you have to
just ask for multiple Okay, good to know, because I
was like, I need to go on Amazon and like
buy a twelve pack because that was just keep stalking
and the minute you get to postpartum, okay, perfect, all right,
and can you explain and I don't actually know what
this is, but can you explain the bloody show? So
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the bloody show is referring to something pre delivery. Okay,
this is not postpartum. This is prior to going into labor.
It's usually as your cervic starts to soften, which is
part of labor, and you kind of wipe and you
see a little blood. Is it the same as the
mucus plug. No, the mucus plug is this entity which
I feel is super overrated and over talked about, so
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I won't talk about it a lot um. But it's
a piece of mucus that that serves as a little
protection in the cervix. Some people see it fall out,
some people don't see it fall out. Some people think
when it falls out it means labor is imminent, but
it really has nothing to do with the timing of labor.
That's good to know, because honestly, I've been looking for one.
I haven't seen it, and I'm supposed to be having
a baby sooner. But with my daughter, I was induced,
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and with my son he came on his own. My
water broke, but I still never had any bloody show
or mucus plug or really any warning that he was
going to be coming. Like I just like got up
to use the restroom like it was any morning and
then all of a sudden. Also, it's a lot of water, right,
Like I had a lot of water. It's a lot
of water in the sack. When the sack tears, the
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water comes out. So it depends how big the tear
is in the sack. Oh, so that might be why
how it had a large tear, Like I had to
go my husband drove a sports car to take me
to the hospital and because we had to like have
his mom they're driving my daughter to preschool, you know,
whatever it was. And I remember having to wrap myself
in towels to go to the hospital because it wasn't stopping.
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Because that's not for every that's not everyone. Know, some
people have a little trickle. In fact, they don't even
know what's happening because they think it's just sweat or
a little bit of urin leaking. So I could be
my water could be breaking right now. It could be
you could be pinking on yourself. Your water could be broken. Um,
A lot of people have this question, and truthfully, I
don't have an answer for it. I just have kind
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of embraced mine. But it's stretch marks. How do moms
get rid of them? How do you like, is there
something they should be doing during pregnancy? I mean I've
been putting a little bit of like coconut butter on,
but like not religiously. Mostly it's genetic. So I think
if you got them the first time, you're probably going
to get him the second time, or get him the
third time. Um, people do use creams. They market a
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lot of creams. Personally, I use creams and I didn't
get stretch marks, but I don't really credit it to
the creams. However, I used it every time because it worked.
But there are people that use creams and they still
get stretch marks. And it's mostly genetic. See, I got
stretch marks on my upper legs, like on my like
growing area, but I didn't get any on my And
then they say, I don't know if this is true,
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but if you didn't get it with your first you're
probably not going to get them with your third, correct
because of the genetics. Genetics. Okay, so that makes sense.
All right, this is a personal thing that actually affects me.
Best advice for lightning crotch, like I will be walking
and be brought down to my knees. I was just
talking to our other guests about it, and I was like,
and she said, the same thing happened to her. Yeah.
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The hard thing bad is it's unpredictable. It stops you
in your tracks when it happens, and you don't know
when it's coming. Sometimes it's it's from the pressure of
the uterus with the growing baby pushing on different nerves.
So sometimes if it gets really severe, you can wear
like a belly binder and elevate your abdomen and your
uterus and that might kind of alleviate the pressure on
the nerves. But outside of that, and there's nothing that
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you could have done to make it not happen or correct.
All right, Well, what about tips for preventing swollen feet?
Drink lots of fluid, minimize your salt, and keep your
feet elevated. Okay, um, and outside of that, it's going
to happen. Yeah, I mean mine or to the point
now where like I grew out of my sneakers, like
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where open toe shoes? Or right now? They my husband
like are those slippers? Are you going to eyeheart and slippers?
And yes I have. They're very comfortable and pretty much pajamas. Um.
What are the pros and cons of C section and
vaginal birth? That's a that's a big question. Um, well
I can tell you differences pros and cons. So the
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big difference mostly what I tell my patients is a
vaginal delivery is very unpredictable. It could go especially on
a first when we have nothing to compare it to
you for years since you've had it two others, maybe
it's a little bit more predictable. We know you can
do it, so odds are you can do it again.
But for someone who hasn't had a delivery before, with
a vaginal delivery, it could be super easy. It could
be quick. It could be three minutes of pushing and
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no tears. Too. It could be fifty hours of labor
and six hours of pushing and still a C section
or a big terror and you're sitting on your side
for six weeks wishing you never did that. So it's
very unpredictable. With the C section, if all goes well,
and usually they do, it's very it's very predictable. You
walk in, you get your anesthesia, takes ten or fifteen
minutes to get the baby out, and about the same
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to sell everything up, and you you go to your
recovery room. So it's very predictable. So those are the
two big differences in terms of what to expect in
terms of medically well C sections of surgery. So there's
risk to surgery that aren't risk of aginl delivery, there's
risks of infection, there's risk of injuring other um structures
inside your abdomen while we're operating, and there's risk of
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other post operative complications. With a vaginal delivery, there's there's
risk to you of tearing and a lot of the
risk with a vaginal delivery. Once you've gotten to that point,
it's almost too late to turn back, so you just
kind of have to manage it at that moment. You
could have a big tear, you could have a little tear.
You could be incontinent, you cannot be incontinent, you could
have more hemorrhoids. UM. So there's complications on that end,
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and then in terms of the fetus, there's other complications
too with a vaginal delivery. With a C section, if
you walk in just for a scheduled C section, you
kind of walked in with a healthy baby in presumably
you're gonna walk out with a healthy baby. Um with
a vaginal delivery, there could be fetal distress that we
can't predict. Of course, if the fetal distress is too severe,
than we would do a C section. And then what
about like the stitch, So like I feel I stitch well,
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some people I remember this happened to one of my
friends not me, I think I I think I had
a big hair with one and not a tear on
the with the other. I blocked it out. I don't
actually know the answer, so I don't probably lie to you.
But I have a girlfriend that she got stitched, but
they like stitched her in a spot, and I remember
about two weeks later she was like, guys, I think
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there's like an extra hole or something, because they stitched
and then they left a little spot and it became
and she had to get the whole thing stitched re stitched.
So how big are these tears? How many stitches are
actually happening? Like how many? I don't even know how
many stitches I've had. I blanked all that out well.
I described the vagina to patients as kind of like
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a mouth when I explained the tears. You could tear
like down to your chin, you could tear inside to
your molars, you could tear up. So you could really
tear any which way, And depending on the severity of
the tear dictates usually the recovery. Um not necessarily the
more tears, the harder recovery, but the deeper the tear,
so the deeper the like, the deeper the cut the
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longer it's going to take to heal. Um, but you could,
you could tear any possible way. It's you're getting something
smaller out of something bigger. You know, something bigger out
of something smaller. So it's it's got to give. And
it's not the baby's head that gives that. I'm remembering something.
And we don't really quantify suturing. People always like someone
this morning, email me, can you tell me how many
stitches I had last June? And no, I don't remember her.
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I remember yesterday, but um, we don't count the stitches.
We we talk about the level of tearing. And is
it true that you cannot leave the hospital until you've
had your first ballbo? Not true? Not true? Not true?
Why am I drinking so much pre injuice when I'm there? Then?
Good question. They want they want your stool not to
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be hard when it does come out, but it doesn't
need to come out prior it doesn't. It does not.
I do remember it not being very pleasurable, though it
can be sore, and people often are terrified of it
so they kind of hold it back, which then can
lead to more constipation, which can make it harder physically.
When it does come out, What is the cure or
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what are some of the things you can do to
alleviate that from the constipation from getting bad? So, constipation
can be caused from a lot of different things postpartum,
from the anesthesia, from having not eaten, from taking pain medicine,
which is super constipating, from taking iron in your vitamins,
which is super constipating. So a lot of these things
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are constipating. So I I don't put my patients on
prenatal vitamins right away after delivery, or I asked them
to take the gummies without iron because that will decrease
the constipation. We tell them to limit their narcotics if
they need to. If they don't, I ask mine to
take a stool softener every time they take a narcotic
to kind of counteract that, and then to drink lots
of water and to eat foods high in fiber. So,
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now that you're bringing up in narcotics, how long are
after delivery are you normally on narcotics? Everybody's different. Some
people don't ask for a prescription, some people are calling
for refills. So it's it's like do you stay home
when you get a cold, or do you fight through it.
It's a lot about just the person specifically, and which
trimester have you seen has been the hardest for moms emotionally.
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For me, it's been different with every every baby. That's
a good question. Um, I think the second is the easiest. Um,
You're you're not feeling really crappy like you are in
the first. You're not nauseated, you're not tired, you're not
feeling big and tired and full like you are in
the third. So the second is usually the best. And
then it really depends on how bad that first trimester
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is for people. People have a really bad first trimester
that probably wins. Yeah, so it's like some people get
really really sick. Like I had a girlfriend that just
was throwing up the entire first trimester, And for me,
I didn't this baby. I didn't even know I was
pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant because I wasn't
having any signs and this is my first natural getting
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pregnant naturally. But I thought, like, truthfully, I thought like
maybe I escaped all the symptoms this time. Like I
was like, I am like feeling good, I am busy,
I am like I am able to do all of
these things. I'm feeling awesome, and honestly, the last three
weeks I feel like I was run over by mac track.
How many weeks are you, I'm thirty eight point five.
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So for you, the third trime muster is the worst
because you had an easy first try muster. So if
you were your friends, she probably would have said her
first was worse. So it just really depends where you are.
And I think the biggest thing is like I finally learned,
you know, it took me three times but to kind
of say how I'm feeling and started dressing it. Whereas
like the first, you know, I didn't want to say
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how I was feeling to my family, you know, I
was like, oh, I just want to I want to
white knuckle through it. But this time I can be like, hey, guys,
I'm a little bit tired, Like Sunday, I'm gonna go
watch the football game with you guys. But then like,
can you maybe do like a daddy and kiddo date
like at the park and I can maybe rest a
little bit, like whereas before I wouldn't have said it,
But like, I know myself and if I don't say
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those things, and I don't set those bound trees. I'm moody. Yeah, yeah,
it's always good to ask for help. What is the
best piece of advice you would give to an expecting
mother going through her first pregnancy to go into it
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with an open mind. It's very unpredictable, and I always
tell my patients not to overthink it, just to keep
it really simple, like you you're getting pregnant and you're
gonna walk out with a healthy baby, and that's just
it's it's a long process and it could go a
million different ways, and especially for first we have nothing
to compare it to. The patient has nothing to compare
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it to. I have nothing to compare it to for
the patient. Um, And it's just very unpredictable, and just
go in with an open mind. Don't beat yourself up
about things. Stop stop googling, and call me or email
me if you have any questions. I feel like I'm
a doctor of Google, though I love to take myself
down rabbit holes of things that don't exist. Um. Now,
they were getting two questions that people are asking me
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that I might need you to weigh in on because
I don't I can say how affected me, but I
don't know the actual answer. Um, what is my absolute
hospital must have? Um? For me, I think it was
comfy like Pj's. Like I really don't like the test
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texture of the hospital gown that they give you. It's
like kind of crunchy and like I'm a texture kind
of gal so like for me, I really needed that.
But what do you think like a common thing that's
that's great? I also tell patients to bring chapstick because
their lips get super chapped in labor and we're not
letting them really drink a lot, and they don't really
feel like drinking a lot, so chap six. Chap six
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is helpful. Um. Of course, you know that your own toothbrush, slippers,
to walk around in a robe so you can keep
covered if you do wear the hospital gown, it shows
your back, so to wear a robe. But the hospital
otherwise really really provides a lot. And you know what
the best thing that hospitals have crushed ice, you know what,
Like I wanted to buy a crushed ice maker afterwards
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because it was so delicious the way they would like
deliver the water or the prune apple juice combo. Like
I thought it was like a delicious cocktail. What is
one thing I have learned from my previous deliveries that
I would do differently with this one. Um my first delivery,
I was I had this whole birth plan and all
of this, you know, I really thought I was going
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to follow everything to a tea And what that ended
up doing to me was gave me like a little
bit of like postpart I created more anxiety and myself
by like wanting the birth plan to go exactly this
certain way, by wanting her to sleep, schedule to go exactly,
I was so structured that I was unable to be
in the moment. Yeah, I agree. I tell my patients,
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you know, of course, our birth plan is to have
a healthy baby, but you set yourself up for disappointment
if you have all these expectations and if they don't
go right, then you're kind of beating yourself up for
something that was so unnecessary. So I really, like I
said before, I tell my patients to try and keep
it simple, not to overthink it. And if you say
you want this and you end up not wanting it,
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let it go and just move. Things are going to
change and they're going to shift, and they're not going
to go exactly according to plan, and sometimes they're not
going to go exactly according to the way your doctor
answered it, you know, Like I remember being like, but
but so the pediatrician said this, this means this, and
then I would like email her and she'd be like, yeah,
that's fine, you know, like I just gave you the answer,
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um U. I had a couple of miscarriages um before
getting pregnant with my son, So somebody's asking me, what
are things that you can do to feel secure during
your pregnancy when you've had miscarriages. I don't necessarily know
the answer to this. When I was in the midst
of having miscarriages, there's nothing anybody could have said to
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me to change the way I was feeling. I was
very emotional, I was very sad um and I put
a lot of pressure on myself. Yes, I would love
to say, you know, just try to take it moment
by moment and know that it's meant to be, it's
going to happen, but I was not that way. I
just have to be honest. I was kind of the
most upset I had ever been um with this baby.
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I haven't had those feelings because I wasn't having the
miscarriages right beforehand. So I've really just tried to embrace
this pregnancy as this pregnancy, and I haven't had those concerns.
But I don't know if that's because I didn't have
miscarriages leading up to this baby. That makes sense, you know,
I have some of course, I have patients who have
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had miscarriages, and I tell them, you know, whatever it
takes to kind of get you through that period. If
it's coming in for ultrasounds every day every week, doing
blood tests more frequently, just to reassure that everything is
moving along, then we can do that. These are all
non invasive ways that are completely safe to help reassurance.
So if you're feeling that way, reach out to your
doctor and there's ways that they can work with you.
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I mean that's huge, definitely. Um, how long do you
bleed after giving birth? I can't remember. I tell my
patients up to eight weeks, usually getting better, not worse.
Of course, the sign of its getting worse would be
something a reason to call your doctor, but six weeks
is pretty typical. The next one, did I poop on
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the table? Is that real? Okay? I don't know if
I did it was I know I had a bloody hemorrhoid,
So I mean, I feel like that's just as bad. Um.
I don't know if I pooped on the table. No
one told me if I did. I never saw any
wiping of poop. I do have a girlfriend. This is
she took castor oil before she wanted to have the baby,
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and that because she wanted to like induced labor. She
was like forty one weeks pregnant. She read online. I
guess it's you're supposed to take like a little teaspoon.
She took whatever the bigger spoon, like whatever was. She
messed it up and she had like explosive during childhood
because of the cast Royal. And then the icing on
the cake of this story is that then her mom
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is trying to like fix the situation because the husband's
in there. They have a videographer, and she thinks she's
getting baby wipes out of her purse to wipe her down,
but she actually got chlorox wipes and like like bleaching
her skin, like burning her. So I don't know about
the poop. I do know, like I'm not ever going
to take cast royal because of that story. But how
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common is it that somebody poops on the table super common,
so I probably did. That's what you're saying. This is
your third at least one out three it did. I
If not, it's your lucky day. Um Oh, how do
I shave my vagina when you can't see it? Well? UM,
I think that you know, there's different options for everybody.
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A lot of people have done laser hair removal prior
to having a baby. Um. For me, I just like
kind of wing it and it works out for the best.
I don't know that there's like the best way. I mean,
I've I've had the vagina in the same place for
a long time, so like I just to reach down
there and hope for the best. But I don't. I mean,
I don't think it's like the prettiest it's ever looked.
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But I don't know. Yeah, definitely people miss spots, so
being spoken from a doctor herself is not looking it's
including myself. By the way, some people I know have
like their husbands do it. No way I would trust
my husband was a razor near my vagina. Sorry, not
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gonna happen. I'd rather be spotty. Um. Any tips for
relieving the pressure down there after having the baby. Ice
ice can help with the swelling. The cold helps contract
vessels and tissues so that I can help with the swelling.
It also numbs it a little bit. The ice is
most helpful in the first twenty four hours, so like
beyond that, it's just time. Yeah for me. Yeah, okay,
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well I record the labor all right. So I don't
actually know the answer to this question because I've been
burned because my husband been recorded me, me having the
hemorrhoid baby, the bloody hemorrroid baby. He recorded and then
he sent it out to people, and I was like,
he wasn't like also recording like a production cam, like
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in the right flattering areas. He was like recording the
full thing and like send it to like our parents
that weren't there in the room, and like our friends.
And it wasn't until his assistant texted me, was like, hey,
you should tell Edwin. He's texting out like I don't
know that you want to see it, and I'm like,
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and why are you sending people? And he was like
just this, you can't really see anything. I'm like, you
can see everything. Like I'm still embarrassed with that video,
and it's like on one of our iPad maybe this
is your time to retain side. I don't know, so
that's still up in the air. Um. And will I breastfeed? Um?
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My plan is yes. Um. With my daughter, I breastfed
for seven months and then I still pumped. And with
my son, he immediately was in the nick the nick
you and he would never latch. So I always pumped
with him and it was really, I have to be honest,
it was really hard to consistently pump when he would
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never latch. Um. And so I really don't know. And
to be perfectly honest, I have to ask you about this.
I had my boobs done after my son, and I
don't know if that is going to change anything when
it comes to I was didn't think I was going
to get pregnant again, so I never thought to even
ask those questions like will that change things when it
comes to breastfeeding. It shouldn't you should? Yeah? Should not
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affect it? Okay, So, but but to answer to say
one thing, you know, it's not so much. I mean,
the breastfeeding is good for bonding, but most importantly that
you're giving the baby your milk. So if you need
to pump, you need to pump. Yeah, that's more important.
I mean, that's my plan is to breastfeed. But I
I have learned that beating myself up right after I
have a baby isn't the best thing, and that I
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just have to see what works for us and trust
that whatever my body is letting me do and whatever
the baby wants to do is what's best for us.
And I see, you know, I remember when I was
in the nick you there was a mom next to
me and her son was solely in the nick you
because she was upset that her breastmolk wasn't coming in,
and I'm not. I just remember thinking, wow, you know,
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like there's there's a huge problem, like that, this is
not the world's biggest problem. And we take things and
we really make things, you know, hard on ourselves, and
it's like, I know that moment where you're just like
beyond you want things to go a certain way and
you can and this you cannot control it, all right,
And the most important, of course is the baby gets nutrition,
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whatever means. And I tell patients, patients come to me
trying to breastfeed and they asked for antidepressence for breastfeeding,
and I'm like, let it go, you know, just feed
the baby, don't. You've got to enjoy the baby. Otherwise
you're getting so obsessed about this that you're losing sight
of this newborn you have and it's just taking for everything.
So not everybody can do it, and that's okay, And
I think that's the that's that's the thing with with
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parenting and with becoming a mom, Like we're all going
to make mistakes and we're all going to do the
best that we can, and you know, listen to your
gut instinct most of the time, like your motherly instinct
is right, I mean, am I right? Correct? Um? What
would you leave our listeners with one thing? Like, if
they are about to have a baby or they're in
the midst of like a hard pregnancy, what would your
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tippy that it's all worth it, that that you know,
whatever however it goes, it's worth it if it if
it ends up in a C section, it's worth it.
If you end up not breastfeeding, it's okay. If you're
sitting home on your side and someone else has to
take care of the baby for a while because you can't,
it's okay. And at the end of the day, you'll
probably do it again and again because it is worth it.
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At the end of the day, you'll have a seven
five year all that don't appreciate you, park at you,
and actually are the best things that ever happened to you.
So it's amazing. Thank you so much. Thanks for helping
my pleasure. Best of luck to you and guys. I'm
like gone for a bit because I'm like on a
maternity leave ish, I don't know I'm gonna. I say,
I'm gonna be back real quick, but we'll see how
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This is Teddy Teapot. Hi guys, welcome back to this
week's Teddy Teapot. I am like next level pregnant right now.
Like I'm sitting here like having to take my sweatshirt off,
and everybody else is in like multiple jackets, like it's
(00:23):
a situation here. I am hot, sweaty, and bothered. I
am so excited to have Kristen Cavalry on. Not only
have I been obsessed with her for years, She's on
Very Cavalry Thursday nights on eight Central. She is married
to Jake Cutler and has a great jewelry line called
Uncommon James three Ketto's. So we gotta dig into all
(00:46):
things pregnancy. And then later on in the episode, I
am going to have on an O. B. G Way
in so we can ask all of the questions all
of us are too afraid to actually ask our doctors.
It's gonna be crazy. And you know what, I need
to get these questions in now, because like I am
days away from having the baby. I mean it could
be today, it could be tomorrow, it could be at
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the beginning of next week. I don't know. I'm ready,
so oh my gosh, I can't wait. To dive right
into it. Kristen, Hi, Hi, thanks so much for coming on.
How are you? I'm good? How are you? I mean,
to be honest, I'm kind of a hot mess express
right now. It's like working up till the last day.
(01:28):
I mean, it's craziness. I think that. I mean, I
don't know if this happened to you, but did your
mind forget everything from each pregnancy before you got pregnant
with the other one? Oh? Big time? Yeah? And now
of course I've completely forgotten everything, but are pregnant and
they're asking me questions like I don't remember any of this,
(01:48):
so why did they Why does that happen? I'm like, honestly,
the other day, I was like, somebody's like, are you
packed for the hospital? And I was like, no, don't
I have to do that? Oh my gosh, yeah you do.
But I feel like, but what didn't you pack? Because
I feel like the first time I packed all of
these ridiculous things that I never once used, Like I
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left with these like crazy granny panties that they gave
me and some like spray and my like baby take
home outfit didn't fit the baby anyway. So I'm like,
what what do you even need? No, I know it's true.
The first one you have everything imaginable, and then each
one I feel like you bring less and less you need,
really thanks, and maybe some spacewash and that's about it.
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Maybe a new pair of clothes after you have a baby,
and that's about it. That's what's I said. And then
one of my listeners said, bring tile and all pm
because you need to sleep, and they're not allowed to
give it to you at the hospital, but you're allowed
to take it. And I was like, how did you
figure this ound? So that's also interesting because my first
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five three I have two boys and a girl, and
my boys we never sent them to the nursery. I
think I felt bad or I didn't even know what
that was an option. And then my daughter, for the
third one, I was like, oh wait, we can send
her to the nursery. Best decision of my life. I've
actually got some sleep that night was which was incredible
because with my voice we had camped in my first
at like two in the morning. I was up all night.
(03:18):
You know, I never slapped and stay with Jackson, and
we didn't. So you start off with your own sleep.
So I would say and sending my mom to the
nursery as a game changer. I think so too. But
then I don't know if this is a rumor. But
where I'm having the baby, somebody's like, oh, they don't
do that anymore, where you can send your kids to
the nursery. I'm like, I am, I'm like older now
more than ever. Do I want to like send the
(03:40):
baby to the nursery. But I'm like totally in denial.
Like my husband's like, do you think you could pack
the bag or do you think you could maybe organize
like a babysitter to be with the kids when you
go into labor. I'm like, oh, yeah, this is really happening.
That's the hard part. Once you have more, It's like
you have to find childcare and you don't even know
when it's I'm gonna go down. You just have to
(04:01):
be prepared for your other kids. And what's the age
gap between your kids? So I have a seven year old,
a five year old, and a four year old, so
they're all pretty closed. Okay, So I'm Mike had such
a big gap because my I have a stepdaughter that's eleven,
my daughter seven, and then my son's five and then
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this was like a total surprise. I didn't even know
that I was pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant,
and um, so my kids are like at the point
where like, mom, are we gonna have to be like
the baby center? I was like, I have some extra hands,
which will be nice. But something I'm trying to think
(04:43):
of is like that beginning stages when you have older kids,
Like how much downtime did you have with your babies,
Like before you know, you were up running around doing
all the things that you do now. Well, so I
obviously you know downtime the window when you have other
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little kids, you know. I mean I had all my
really close and age, So my oldest was twenty one months,
and then my middle kid when I had my my daughter,
he was only nineteen months. I mean, I had babies,
so really when you think about it, but I didn't
go back to work um with my daughter for a
few months. I had her in November, and I really
thought that was a great time because then obviously, thanks
(05:25):
to Christmas and everything, I could just chill out for
a while, which was awesome. My first after seven weeks,
he was on a plane with me to l a
I took a red eye from l A to New
York with him. I mean, I was just going going,
I have my mom with me, which was great, but
it was really tough, and I if I could go
back and do it again, I would have just taken
more time to chill out. You know, you can't get
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that time back. Um, So I don't know where did
you go. Each kid's different, and I don't know, it's
just it changes. But I think because my daughter was
my last one, and I knew she was gonna be
my last one, I really just built it for everything
was worth and I just enjoyed every second of her
baby face. I mean, that's that's what I'm telling myself. Like,
I'm like, that's what I'm gonna do. I'm really gonna
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take this time with her, and I'm going to not
rush myself. And then I see myself scheduling things that
are like four weeks out, and I'm like, what are
you doing? Like I don't know how to stop myself
now with the with the other kids, I didn't have
my business and I wasn't on the show or any
of those other things, and I didn't have a podcast,
and I was like able to have that time, and
I don't think I appreciated it I first, not because
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you don't appreciate it when you're in the midst of it.
Of everything, I know, I mean I think that more cancel.
It is nice to get back into a groove after
you know, just sitting on a couch all day and
leggings out with an ice patch, you know. I mean,
it's small nice to have a reason to get dressed
in the morning and kind of feel like yourself again.
But I think the beauty and um, you know, just
(06:54):
taking it slow and not being hard on ourselves and
and just you know, resting as much as possible because
it is it's hard, and we're going on most sleep
in the beginnings. Yeah, that's definitely. Well, somebody sent me
the snow or schnoo, I might be pronouncing, have you
heard of this? Okay, So apparently it like completely simulates
the mother's womb, and like you can rent that. People
(07:16):
are renting them, everybody's talking about them. This is not
an ad, by the way, but I never had them
with my other kids. We like set it up in
my room. It tracks their heartbeat, attracts the movements that
they need and everybody's like, oh, the baby will be sleeping,
Like you won't believe there's no colic. I'm like, so
I am like ready to test it out. I already
have it set up. I have like the app set up.
My husband's like, you've lost your mind. I'm like, everybody
(07:38):
swears by this, but there are always those like things
that people swear by and then you get it and
you're like, oh, that actually didn't work for me, or
you know what, this is not the best thing ever.
How I mean when it comes to sleep, I would
try everything anything. And how is Jay like within the
newborn phase because Edwin is like the most nervous human
(08:01):
being touching the baby, He's like acting as if it's
like a foreign object. He's like hello, and I'm like,
can you do the diaper? And he's like, can we
wait till the chord falls off? I know, guys are
so funny with newborn babies. Jay, it's with each kid
he'd be like, I'll be on, I'm on, toddler, dude,
you your baby, Dude, Like, can you kill the baby
(08:22):
for five seconds to give me a play? I mean
he's this way, he really, He's like all come around
when they're like seven eight months old. That's I think
guys just they feel like they have nothing to control.
For you. I kind of understand it, you know. I
mean I understand it too. But there were some nights
where I know my husband was simply checking on me
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just to like so he could say he did. Like
he'd be like, all good, babe when the baby was crying,
and I'd be like, you are so full of it.
You're just trying to be nice, and then you like
put your headphones on to like drown out the noise
and don't like, must be nice. Jay. I'm like, I
know awake, and I know you're pretending to be asleep,
but I don't as see what you're doing. Buddy. It's
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like safe like that you get into tonight, everyone's surprised.
Everyone's hilarious and right now that have babies and they're
like in the middle of the night, I'm like, oh,
I know, but it gets better, trust me at all.
It gets better. But yeah, I'm really happy to be
out of that that you're going because it's so hard.
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It's just it's hard. You've just given me a reality
check because I've totally blocked it out. Now that you're
saying this, I'm reliving all of these moments again, and
I'm starting to be like, no, but I need this
because I swear this is why postpartum happens. Because everybody
talks about how you're going to have this baby and
then your life will be the best it's ever been,
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and there are moments that are so beyond hard, and
like they don't talk about those moments and they don't
talk about the fact like I remember with my first baby,
I thought that I was like going to have the
baby and then like feel good to like you know,
trot out of the hospital, like you know, you see
and like the magazines when you see like you know,
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one of the princesses leaving like in her like pants suit,
and I'm like, I am sitting here in these underwear
that are like bigger than my bathroom. I am a
disaster zone pregnant. No one told me that. I was like, wait,
why is what is my stomach? Yeah? Why? I actually
feel worse in closed after the baby comes that I
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do when i'm pregnant, because then it also it feels
like something that you don't even really it's like a goo.
Your stomach is like this gooey feeling, and it is
a it is a weird feeling, and until you experience it,
you can't even explain it to somebody. But that's exactly
It's like, it's bizarre. And Molle talked about that before
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I had a kid. I was like, WHOA, I wish
someone would have warned me about that stuff. Yeah, why
did nobody tell me about the goo? And like, why
did nobody like tell you that even though you're tired,
you really can't sleep. Even when you can't sleep, you're
just like staring at a child. I know. And I
felt like, especially with my first I had all this adrenaline.
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When I first got home from the hospital two weeks,
I felt like I was just running off of adrenaline
and everyone, you know, my mom, I didn't have a nanny.
It's all my oldest seven months old, and so I'm
my mom and my mother in law being like people,
lay down, lets go lay down and take some sleep.
I'm like, I can't. I literally cannot. I like jacked up.
And then it like three months was when it hit me.
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It all just came crashing down on me and I
got really tired. But luckily that's you know, right when
he was starting to sleep through tonight. So it all
worked out. But you know, no one really really talks
about that stuff. Everyone is most of what's ever happened,
and it is. It is the most amazing thing that
will ever happen to anyone who was a tack. But
it is also really hard, and so I think it's
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important to have honest conversations about that so that people
don't feel like they're alone off on a little island. Yeah,
because then and then you go through this phase where
you're like, I don't want the people in my life
to see how much I'm struggling, and then it makes
things worse. Like even recently, I have this thing. It's crazy,
but it's called lightning crotch. Doesn't that sound lovely? But
it's where I'm walking and then all of a sudden
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I will be brought down to my knee. It feels
like somebody took a lightning bolt, and like, and I
didn't even realize it was a thing. I went to
the doctor. I'm like, every couple of days this thing
happens and I don't know, it never happened with the
other kids, And he's like, oh, lightning crotch totally normal,
And I was like what, Like I thought I was
going into early like labor, Like what is this And
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he's like, oh no, it just happens to some people,
like and doctors are so casual about everything that then
you feel like a crazy person. I'm like, well, I
didn't realize, and I'm walking with my kids and all
of a sudden, I'm like lean down on my knees,
like shuddering and pain, Like I wish I would have
known that something like this was like a situation. So
does it really does it feel like your who has
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like ripping apart, like your phones are like literally ripping apart?
What it is? But it's what It's insane and it's
so bad. It happens for no reason, Like it's not
like it's right after doing something strenuous or workout. Like
the other day, I was just leaving my daughter's dance
class with like I wasn't dancing, I was just walking
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with her out of class and I was like, oh oh,
and she's like, okay, are you having the baby, and
like no, it's and then how much do you explain
to the other kids? Right? Yeah, so right, Mommy's like
it's ripping and sorry, well my son already thinks that
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the baby's coming out of my butt. Oh that's always
a lovely conversation too, isn't it. Other time my kids
saw the babies came out of our belly button. I'm
the I wonder like once we tell them, then they're
going to tell everyone in school, and like, what is
an appropriate age to tell them? I mean, I don't
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I don't know. I have a like an O B
G coming on later that I'm going to ask what
I did ask like my pediatrician and she's like, you
should just be very honest with them. So I was,
and I just said, actually, cruise, the babies come out
of your vagina. And but now he's one, he can't
say vagina. He says vagina. So now all the time
he's like, how's the vagina? Mom, I'm like, do you, like,
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can I see your vagina? Know why? And then I
look at the doctor. I'm like, I'm so glad you
had me have this conversation with him. Yeah, now I
look like the creepy mom, like just trying to like
get lunch um, but yeah, no, it's so much craziness,
But thank you so much for coming on and sharing.
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If you could leave the listeners with like one tip
of like pregnancy and becoming a new mom, what would
you say? I would say, don't compare yourself to others
and listen to people, but take it with a grain
of salt, because at the end of the day, as moms,
we only know what's best for us and our babies.
And every baby is different, every experience is different, parenting
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is different for each kid as well, and so I
would just say open, just go ahead, listen to you,
you know, and and again, just don't compare because everyone
is different. You know what. I couldn't love that advice more.
It's so good and so true. And thank you so
much Kristen for being on I and you guys have
to tune into Very Cavalry. It's Thursday nights on E
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It's so great, so funny. I love y'all's dynamic and
thank you. Thank you for coming on the show. Thanks
for having me. I will post you later. Talk okay,
bye Teddy bye? Okay. How amazing is kristin Cavalary? Like
I need her to live than Los Angeles would be
one of my besties. Can you move? Thanks? Uh now?
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I am bringing on Dr Tristan Bickman. She is the
author of whoa Baby, a guide for new moms who
feel overwhelmed and freaked out and wonder what the A
lot of asterisks just happened. Um. She is a board
certified O B g U I N with affiliations with St.
John's Health Center and U C l A. I mean,
the list goes on and on, and she's going to
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really help us everybody. Let's welcome Dr Tristan. Is that
what I should call you? Okay? Perfect? We're so excited
because essentially what this podcast is is I asked my
listeners what they want to hear about, and then they
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write in questions and then we kind of take our
cues from there. And something that everybody is obsessed about
is like the good, the bad, and the ugly of
being pregnant and childbirth and all of that and all
of the things that you're frightened to actually find out
from your O B g U I N or too
embarrassed to ask in front of your husband or whatever
it may be. Like I'm going to start off with like,
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it's a very embarrassing story that happened to me, but
I had absolutely no idea it was even something that
could happen. Um When I was having my baby, when
my first my husband kept saying when I was in delivery,
she's coming, She's coming, and I was like looking at
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the doctor and he didn't seem very positive about it,
and he's like, he's like, I see her head. I
see her head, Babe, you're getting there. And then I
look at the doctor and he would shake his head
like and I'm like, what the heck is happening. Finally,
Edwin like goes to the restroom or something and I'm like,
dr G, what is happening. Why does he keep saying
the baby's coming and he's not coming? And he's like, Teddy,
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you don't want to know? Can you just not know?
I'm like, I need to know. What does he think
is the baby's head? And she's like, well, you've you've
gotten a hemorrhoid and every time you push it fills
up with blood. And your husband thinks that that's the
baby's head. And I'm like, no, like you've got that
isn't happening. That isn't what he's seeing down there. And
I remember being like, one why did nobody tell me this?
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Happens to what do I do now? Three? How long
am I going to have this hymn? Right? And which
was a while? And to no, yes, now one way
because I had to get it removed. I had to
go get one of those things where they like put
a little like around it and then it falls off.
But like, please, like these are the things that you're
just not warned about. And I mean still to this day,
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I hope my husband doesn't listen to this podcast because
like I never told him, like that wasn't actually the
baby's head. But these are the types of things that
I don't think that people really know going into the hospital,
Like why does no one tell you tell mothers that
they leave the hospital and basically diapers and like what
is actually happening down there that we need to leave
in diapers? Well, number one, presuming it's vaginal delivery or
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even actually for a C section, there's so much bleeding
that a little, a little mini pad isn't gonna take
care of it. Um number one. Number two weeks asked
you not to use tampons, So you need something that's
very large, you need something that's very absorbent and that
doesn't leak and Also that's not tight because you want
nothing touching you down there. Sounds comfy. I'm days out
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from this. And then you get a nice east infection
because you get all the non cotton absorbent liners. Also,
when I would go to the restroom, I would have
to like squirt water on myself at the same time
because the p would hurt my my private right. It's
like salt in a wound. And like Derma blast became
my best friend. They gave me one, which you can't buy.
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By the way, you can't know. Yah, you have to
just ask for multiple Okay, good to know, because I
was like, I need to go on Amazon and like
buy a twelve pack because that was just keep stalking
and the minute you get to postpartum, okay, perfect, all right,
and can you explain and I don't actually know what
this is, but can you explain the bloody show? So
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the bloody show is referring to something pre delivery. Okay,
this is not postpartum. This is prior to going into labor.
It's usually as your cervic starts to soften, which is
part of labor, and you kind of wipe and you
see a little blood. Is it the same as the
mucus plug. No, the mucus plug is this entity which
I feel is super overrated and over talked about, so
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I won't talk about it a lot um. But it's
a piece of mucus that that serves as a little
protection in the cervix. Some people see it fall out,
some people don't see it fall out. Some people think
when it falls out it means labor is imminent, but
it really has nothing to do with the timing of labor.
That's good to know, because honestly, I've been looking for one.
I haven't seen it, and I'm supposed to be having
a baby sooner. But with my daughter, I was induced,
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and with my son he came on his own. My
water broke, but I still never had any bloody show
or mucus plug or really any warning that he was
going to be coming. Like I just like got up
to use the restroom like it was any morning and
then all of a sudden. Also, it's a lot of water, right,
Like I had a lot of water. It's a lot
of water in the sack. When the sack tears, the
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water comes out. So it depends how big the tear
is in the sack. Oh, so that might be why
how it had a large tear, Like I had to
go my husband drove a sports car to take me
to the hospital and because we had to like have
his mom they're driving my daughter to preschool, you know,
whatever it was. And I remember having to wrap myself
in towels to go to the hospital because it wasn't stopping.
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Because that's not for every that's not everyone. Know, some
people have a little trickle. In fact, they don't even
know what's happening because they think it's just sweat or
a little bit of urin leaking. So I could be
my water could be breaking right now. It could be
you could be pinking on yourself. Your water could be broken. Um,
A lot of people have this question, and truthfully, I
don't have an answer for it. I just have kind
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of embraced mine. But it's stretch marks. How do moms
get rid of them? How do you like, is there
something they should be doing during pregnancy? I mean I've
been putting a little bit of like coconut butter on,
but like not religiously. Mostly it's genetic. So I think
if you got them the first time, you're probably going
to get him the second time, or get him the
third time. Um, people do use creams. They market a
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lot of creams. Personally, I use creams and I didn't
get stretch marks, but I don't really credit it to
the creams. However, I used it every time because it worked.
But there are people that use creams and they still
get stretch marks. And it's mostly genetic. See, I got
stretch marks on my upper legs, like on my like
growing area, but I didn't get any on my And
then they say, I don't know if this is true,
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but if you didn't get it with your first you're
probably not going to get them with your third, correct
because of the genetics. Genetics. Okay, so that makes sense.
All right, this is a personal thing that actually affects me.
Best advice for lightning crotch, like I will be walking
and be brought down to my knees. I was just
talking to our other guests about it, and I was like,
and she said, the same thing happened to her. Yeah.
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The hard thing bad is it's unpredictable. It stops you
in your tracks when it happens, and you don't know
when it's coming. Sometimes it's it's from the pressure of
the uterus with the growing baby pushing on different nerves.
So sometimes if it gets really severe, you can wear
like a belly binder and elevate your abdomen and your
uterus and that might kind of alleviate the pressure on
the nerves. But outside of that, and there's nothing that
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you could have done to make it not happen or correct.
All right, Well, what about tips for preventing swollen feet?
Drink lots of fluid, minimize your salt, and keep your
feet elevated. Okay, um, and outside of that, it's going
to happen. Yeah, I mean mine or to the point
now where like I grew out of my sneakers, like
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where open toe shoes? Or right now? They my husband
like are those slippers? Are you going to eyeheart and slippers?
And yes I have. They're very comfortable and pretty much pajamas. Um.
What are the pros and cons of C section and
vaginal birth? That's a that's a big question. Um, well
I can tell you differences pros and cons. So the
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big difference mostly what I tell my patients is a
vaginal delivery is very unpredictable. It could go especially on
a first when we have nothing to compare it to
you for years since you've had it two others, maybe
it's a little bit more predictable. We know you can
do it, so odds are you can do it again.
But for someone who hasn't had a delivery before, with
a vaginal delivery, it could be super easy. It could
be quick. It could be three minutes of pushing and
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no tears. Too. It could be fifty hours of labor
and six hours of pushing and still a C section
or a big terror and you're sitting on your side
for six weeks wishing you never did that. So it's
very unpredictable. With the C section, if all goes well,
and usually they do, it's very it's very predictable. You
walk in, you get your anesthesia, takes ten or fifteen
minutes to get the baby out, and about the same
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to sell everything up, and you you go to your
recovery room. So it's very predictable. So those are the
two big differences in terms of what to expect in
terms of medically well C sections of surgery. So there's
risk to surgery that aren't risk of aginl delivery, there's
risks of infection, there's risk of injuring other um structures
inside your abdomen while we're operating, and there's risk of
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other post operative complications. With a vaginal delivery, there's there's
risk to you of tearing and a lot of the
risk with a vaginal delivery. Once you've gotten to that point,
it's almost too late to turn back, so you just
kind of have to manage it at that moment. You
could have a big tear, you could have a little tear.
You could be incontinent, you cannot be incontinent, you could
have more hemorrhoids. UM. So there's complications on that end,
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and then in terms of the fetus, there's other complications
too with a vaginal delivery. With a C section, if
you walk in just for a scheduled C section, you
kind of walked in with a healthy baby in presumably
you're gonna walk out with a healthy baby. Um with
a vaginal delivery, there could be fetal distress that we
can't predict. Of course, if the fetal distress is too severe,
than we would do a C section. And then what
about like the stitch, So like I feel I stitch well,
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some people I remember this happened to one of my
friends not me, I think I I think I had
a big hair with one and not a tear on
the with the other. I blocked it out. I don't
actually know the answer, so I don't probably lie to you.
But I have a girlfriend that she got stitched, but
they like stitched her in a spot, and I remember
about two weeks later she was like, guys, I think
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there's like an extra hole or something, because they stitched
and then they left a little spot and it became
and she had to get the whole thing stitched re stitched.
So how big are these tears? How many stitches are
actually happening? Like how many? I don't even know how
many stitches I've had. I blanked all that out well.
I described the vagina to patients as kind of like
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a mouth when I explained the tears. You could tear
like down to your chin, you could tear inside to
your molars, you could tear up. So you could really
tear any which way, And depending on the severity of
the tear dictates usually the recovery. Um not necessarily the
more tears, the harder recovery, but the deeper the tear,
so the deeper the like, the deeper the cut the
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longer it's going to take to heal. Um, but you could,
you could tear any possible way. It's you're getting something
smaller out of something bigger. You know, something bigger out
of something smaller. So it's it's got to give. And
it's not the baby's head that gives that. I'm remembering something.
And we don't really quantify suturing. People always like someone
this morning, email me, can you tell me how many
stitches I had last June? And no, I don't remember her.
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I remember yesterday, but um, we don't count the stitches.
We we talk about the level of tearing. And is
it true that you cannot leave the hospital until you've
had your first ballbo? Not true? Not true? Not true?
Why am I drinking so much pre injuice when I'm there? Then?
Good question. They want they want your stool not to
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be hard when it does come out, but it doesn't
need to come out prior it doesn't. It does not.
I do remember it not being very pleasurable, though it
can be sore, and people often are terrified of it
so they kind of hold it back, which then can
lead to more constipation, which can make it harder physically.
When it does come out, What is the cure or
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what are some of the things you can do to
alleviate that from the constipation from getting bad? So, constipation
can be caused from a lot of different things postpartum,
from the anesthesia, from having not eaten, from taking pain medicine,
which is super constipating, from taking iron in your vitamins,
which is super constipating. So a lot of these things
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are constipating. So I I don't put my patients on
prenatal vitamins right away after delivery, or I asked them
to take the gummies without iron because that will decrease
the constipation. We tell them to limit their narcotics if
they need to. If they don't, I ask mine to
take a stool softener every time they take a narcotic
to kind of counteract that, and then to drink lots
of water and to eat foods high in fiber. So,
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now that you're bringing up in narcotics, how long are
after delivery are you normally on narcotics? Everybody's different. Some
people don't ask for a prescription, some people are calling
for refills. So it's it's like do you stay home
when you get a cold, or do you fight through it.
It's a lot about just the person specifically, and which
trimester have you seen has been the hardest for moms emotionally.
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For me, it's been different with every every baby. That's
a good question. Um, I think the second is the easiest. Um,
You're you're not feeling really crappy like you are in
the first. You're not nauseated, you're not tired, you're not
feeling big and tired and full like you are in
the third. So the second is usually the best. And
then it really depends on how bad that first trimester
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is for people. People have a really bad first trimester
that probably wins. Yeah, so it's like some people get
really really sick. Like I had a girlfriend that just
was throwing up the entire first trimester, And for me,
I didn't this baby. I didn't even know I was
pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant because I wasn't
having any signs and this is my first natural getting
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pregnant naturally. But I thought, like, truthfully, I thought like
maybe I escaped all the symptoms this time. Like I
was like, I am like feeling good, I am busy,
I am like I am able to do all of
these things. I'm feeling awesome, and honestly, the last three
weeks I feel like I was run over by mac track.
How many weeks are you, I'm thirty eight point five.
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So for you, the third trime muster is the worst
because you had an easy first try muster. So if
you were your friends, she probably would have said her
first was worse. So it just really depends where you are.
And I think the biggest thing is like I finally learned,
you know, it took me three times but to kind
of say how I'm feeling and started dressing it. Whereas
like the first, you know, I didn't want to say
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how I was feeling to my family, you know, I
was like, oh, I just want to I want to
white knuckle through it. But this time I can be like, hey, guys,
I'm a little bit tired, Like Sunday, I'm gonna go
watch the football game with you guys. But then like,
can you maybe do like a daddy and kiddo date
like at the park and I can maybe rest a
little bit, like whereas before I wouldn't have said it,
But like, I know myself and if I don't say
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those things, and I don't set those bound trees. I'm moody. Yeah, yeah,
it's always good to ask for help. What is the
best piece of advice you would give to an expecting
mother going through her first pregnancy to go into it
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with an open mind. It's very unpredictable, and I always
tell my patients not to overthink it, just to keep
it really simple, like you you're getting pregnant and you're
gonna walk out with a healthy baby, and that's just
it's it's a long process and it could go a
million different ways, and especially for first we have nothing
to compare it to. The patient has nothing to compare
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it to. I have nothing to compare it to for
the patient. Um, And it's just very unpredictable, and just
go in with an open mind. Don't beat yourself up
about things. Stop stop googling, and call me or email
me if you have any questions. I feel like I'm
a doctor of Google, though I love to take myself
down rabbit holes of things that don't exist. Um. Now,
they were getting two questions that people are asking me
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that I might need you to weigh in on because
I don't I can say how affected me, but I
don't know the actual answer. Um, what is my absolute
hospital must have? Um? For me, I think it was
comfy like Pj's. Like I really don't like the test
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texture of the hospital gown that they give you. It's
like kind of crunchy and like I'm a texture kind
of gal so like for me, I really needed that.
But what do you think like a common thing that's
that's great? I also tell patients to bring chapstick because
their lips get super chapped in labor and we're not
letting them really drink a lot, and they don't really
feel like drinking a lot, so chap six. Chap six
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is helpful. Um. Of course, you know that your own toothbrush, slippers,
to walk around in a robe so you can keep
covered if you do wear the hospital gown, it shows
your back, so to wear a robe. But the hospital
otherwise really really provides a lot. And you know what
the best thing that hospitals have crushed ice, you know what,
Like I wanted to buy a crushed ice maker afterwards
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because it was so delicious the way they would like
deliver the water or the prune apple juice combo. Like
I thought it was like a delicious cocktail. What is
one thing I have learned from my previous deliveries that
I would do differently with this one. Um my first delivery,
I was I had this whole birth plan and all
of this, you know, I really thought I was going
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to follow everything to a tea And what that ended
up doing to me was gave me like a little
bit of like postpart I created more anxiety and myself
by like wanting the birth plan to go exactly this
certain way, by wanting her to sleep, schedule to go exactly,
I was so structured that I was unable to be
in the moment. Yeah, I agree. I tell my patients,
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you know, of course, our birth plan is to have
a healthy baby, but you set yourself up for disappointment
if you have all these expectations and if they don't
go right, then you're kind of beating yourself up for
something that was so unnecessary. So I really, like I
said before, I tell my patients to try and keep
it simple, not to overthink it. And if you say
you want this and you end up not wanting it,
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let it go and just move. Things are going to
change and they're going to shift, and they're not going
to go exactly according to plan, and sometimes they're not
going to go exactly according to the way your doctor
answered it, you know, Like I remember being like, but
but so the pediatrician said this, this means this, and
then I would like email her and she'd be like, yeah,
that's fine, you know, like I just gave you the answer,
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um U. I had a couple of miscarriages um before
getting pregnant with my son, So somebody's asking me, what
are things that you can do to feel secure during
your pregnancy when you've had miscarriages. I don't necessarily know
the answer to this. When I was in the midst
of having miscarriages, there's nothing anybody could have said to
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me to change the way I was feeling. I was
very emotional, I was very sad um and I put
a lot of pressure on myself. Yes, I would love
to say, you know, just try to take it moment
by moment and know that it's meant to be, it's
going to happen, but I was not that way. I
just have to be honest. I was kind of the
most upset I had ever been um with this baby.
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I haven't had those feelings because I wasn't having the
miscarriages right beforehand. So I've really just tried to embrace
this pregnancy as this pregnancy, and I haven't had those concerns.
But I don't know if that's because I didn't have
miscarriages leading up to this baby. That makes sense, you know,
I have some of course, I have patients who have
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had miscarriages, and I tell them, you know, whatever it
takes to kind of get you through that period. If
it's coming in for ultrasounds every day every week, doing
blood tests more frequently, just to reassure that everything is
moving along, then we can do that. These are all
non invasive ways that are completely safe to help reassurance.
So if you're feeling that way, reach out to your
doctor and there's ways that they can work with you.
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I mean that's huge, definitely. Um, how long do you
bleed after giving birth? I can't remember. I tell my
patients up to eight weeks, usually getting better, not worse.
Of course, the sign of its getting worse would be
something a reason to call your doctor, but six weeks
is pretty typical. The next one, did I poop on
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the table? Is that real? Okay? I don't know if
I did it was I know I had a bloody hemorrhoid,
So I mean, I feel like that's just as bad. Um.
I don't know if I pooped on the table. No
one told me if I did. I never saw any
wiping of poop. I do have a girlfriend. This is
she took castor oil before she wanted to have the baby,
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and that because she wanted to like induced labor. She
was like forty one weeks pregnant. She read online. I
guess it's you're supposed to take like a little teaspoon.
She took whatever the bigger spoon, like whatever was. She
messed it up and she had like explosive during childhood
because of the cast Royal. And then the icing on
the cake of this story is that then her mom
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is trying to like fix the situation because the husband's
in there. They have a videographer, and she thinks she's
getting baby wipes out of her purse to wipe her down,
but she actually got chlorox wipes and like like bleaching
her skin, like burning her. So I don't know about
the poop. I do know, like I'm not ever going
to take cast royal because of that story. But how
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common is it that somebody poops on the table super common,
so I probably did. That's what you're saying. This is
your third at least one out three it did. I
If not, it's your lucky day. Um Oh, how do
I shave my vagina when you can't see it? Well? UM,
I think that you know, there's different options for everybody.
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A lot of people have done laser hair removal prior
to having a baby. Um. For me, I just like
kind of wing it and it works out for the best.
I don't know that there's like the best way. I mean,
I've I've had the vagina in the same place for
a long time, so like I just to reach down
there and hope for the best. But I don't. I mean,
I don't think it's like the prettiest it's ever looked.
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But I don't know. Yeah, definitely people miss spots, so
being spoken from a doctor herself is not looking it's
including myself. By the way, some people I know have
like their husbands do it. No way I would trust
my husband was a razor near my vagina. Sorry, not
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gonna happen. I'd rather be spotty. Um. Any tips for
relieving the pressure down there after having the baby. Ice
ice can help with the swelling. The cold helps contract
vessels and tissues so that I can help with the swelling.
It also numbs it a little bit. The ice is
most helpful in the first twenty four hours, so like
beyond that, it's just time. Yeah for me. Yeah, okay,
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well I record the labor all right. So I don't
actually know the answer to this question because I've been
burned because my husband been recorded me, me having the
hemorrhoid baby, the bloody hemorrroid baby. He recorded and then
he sent it out to people, and I was like,
he wasn't like also recording like a production cam, like
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in the right flattering areas. He was like recording the
full thing and like send it to like our parents
that weren't there in the room, and like our friends.
And it wasn't until his assistant texted me, was like, hey,
you should tell Edwin. He's texting out like I don't
know that you want to see it, and I'm like,
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and why are you sending people? And he was like
just this, you can't really see anything. I'm like, you
can see everything. Like I'm still embarrassed with that video,
and it's like on one of our iPad maybe this
is your time to retain side. I don't know, so
that's still up in the air. Um. And will I breastfeed? Um?
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My plan is yes. Um. With my daughter, I breastfed
for seven months and then I still pumped. And with
my son, he immediately was in the nick the nick
you and he would never latch. So I always pumped
with him and it was really, I have to be honest,
it was really hard to consistently pump when he would
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never latch. Um. And so I really don't know. And
to be perfectly honest, I have to ask you about this.
I had my boobs done after my son, and I
don't know if that is going to change anything when
it comes to I was didn't think I was going
to get pregnant again, so I never thought to even
ask those questions like will that change things when it
comes to breastfeeding. It shouldn't you should? Yeah? Should not
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affect it? Okay, So, but but to answer to say
one thing, you know, it's not so much. I mean,
the breastfeeding is good for bonding, but most importantly that
you're giving the baby your milk. So if you need
to pump, you need to pump. Yeah, that's more important.
I mean, that's my plan is to breastfeed. But I
I have learned that beating myself up right after I
have a baby isn't the best thing, and that I
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just have to see what works for us and trust
that whatever my body is letting me do and whatever
the baby wants to do is what's best for us.
And I see, you know, I remember when I was
in the nick you there was a mom next to
me and her son was solely in the nick you
because she was upset that her breastmolk wasn't coming in,
and I'm not. I just remember thinking, wow, you know,
(41:22):
like there's there's a huge problem, like that, this is
not the world's biggest problem. And we take things and
we really make things, you know, hard on ourselves, and
it's like, I know that moment where you're just like
beyond you want things to go a certain way and
you can and this you cannot control it, all right,
And the most important, of course is the baby gets nutrition,
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whatever means. And I tell patients, patients come to me
trying to breastfeed and they asked for antidepressence for breastfeeding,
and I'm like, let it go, you know, just feed
the baby, don't. You've got to enjoy the baby. Otherwise
you're getting so obsessed about this that you're losing sight
of this newborn you have and it's just taking for everything.
So not everybody can do it, and that's okay, And
I think that's the that's that's the thing with with
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parenting and with becoming a mom, Like we're all going
to make mistakes and we're all going to do the
best that we can, and you know, listen to your
gut instinct most of the time, like your motherly instinct
is right, I mean, am I right? Correct? Um? What
would you leave our listeners with one thing? Like, if
they are about to have a baby or they're in
the midst of like a hard pregnancy, what would your
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tippy that it's all worth it, that that you know,
whatever however it goes, it's worth it if it if
it ends up in a C section, it's worth it.
If you end up not breastfeeding, it's okay. If you're
sitting home on your side and someone else has to
take care of the baby for a while because you can't,
it's okay. And at the end of the day, you'll
probably do it again and again because it is worth it.
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At the end of the day, you'll have a seven
five year all that don't appreciate you, park at you,
and actually are the best things that ever happened to you.
So it's amazing. Thank you so much. Thanks for helping
my pleasure. Best of luck to you and guys. I'm
like gone for a bit because I'm like on a
maternity leave ish, I don't know I'm gonna. I say,
I'm gonna be back real quick, but we'll see how
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