February 5, 2025 • 57 mins
Dive in as Dawn talks about her latest happenings in life and what it means to find your joy.
Plus, NLP & EQ coach Keyonna Monroe joins to discuss "The Crayon Theory Mixer: A Pre-Valentine's Evening For Intentional Singles Pursuing Beyond The Swipe" and why it's importanct of know your primary color when it comes to love.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good morning, good afternoon, good evening.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
You are tuned in to the Vitamin D with Dawn
Day Podcast and I am your host, Dawn Day, here
to get you excited about your life so that you
can live life on purpose and for a purpose. If
this is your first time tuning in and welcome Vitamin D,
it's a point of my name. My name is Dawn,
and you get Vitamin D from the sun. So I'm
here shed light into your life. And I do this
with inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and everyday people
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like you and me, Because if you want to be
better and you want to do better, then you're going
to have to be able.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
To see better.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
So join me on this journey of living our best
lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest
ass at get your vit in.
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Indy right here with me, and get excited about your life.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Well, hello there, I said, hello there. It's been way
too long, way too long. Indeed, m how you doing.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
I'm great. You know.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I recently had somebody I was streaming on live and
they were like, how are you doing doing? I said,
I'm good, I'm grateful, I'm good and they said, well,
how are you doing so good with all of the
disasters and things that are happening.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
And I sat there because.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't want to seem like I'm numb and I'm
forgetting about how so many people have in their lives
have been affected.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
But what I said to them, I said, well, I know.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
There was a lot of stuff that I had been
through and experienced, down to you know, going after a dream,
having a dream deferred, because I once day it is
denied of delay. Sometimes we have a vision of how
we want things to happen, and then whether you believe
in God, the universe or would have you have it
up and just switch some.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Plans and understand the acceptance.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
But I know there was a time that I was
going to have to take a bus to the schooter
and walk to get to my destination.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
And that's not it right now.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And yes, I will say that a lot of things
have been strusted now Mama, husband eating, But you know, like.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I say, when it's a new dawn and it's a
new day, I had the drawer open.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
But with that being said, I am so excited about
this conversation and wanted to be checking in, checking in,
not rushing doing the next thing, but checking in because
I'm so present right now and ready and willing to
give up updates. But I got a guess coming on.
Her name is Keana Monroe. Now she's no stranger to
Vitamin D. I had her on a couple of years ago,
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had to run again, even had to run when I
was on the FM dial. And she specializes in talking
about relationships and communication, not only with other people but
also with yourselves. And because Valentine's Day is right around
the corner, she will be joining in on the show
to discuss her crayon theory mixer she has coming up.
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So I had her on a previous so talking about
the crown theory and how we basically identify ourselves. We
can identify ourselves with the color of a crime, and
if you think about it, we all learn our burst
of color right coming together to put these beautiful images.
But when we talk about relationships, you know how you
can be attracted to somebody but not necessarily be compatible
with them. So she's gonna join me and we're gonna
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dive in and have some things. And let me give
a shout out to some people I see Joni on TikTok.
I see Frankie g on Ig. Who was this on?
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I can't see who was on Facebook? Behave we everywhere?
I got a nick of time. I got l.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Holding it down, LEXI holding it down. So we're gonna
have a conversation, and I want to welcome you guys.
I will open it up for you guys to call
in studio to talk to me. Yes, you will be
able to call in live to talk and we can
have this conversation. But until she comes in, because I
know she just came in for a few jobs and
she texts me. She texts me to say that she's
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getting everything situated. I just want to just remind you
to be in a moment of gratitude, because the more
grateful you are, the more things you have to be
grateful for. And I know everything is not perfect, but
what it is, I mean, anything that's real and good
for you, what is actually perfect. It's like that thing
where you got your things that's again in the gang,
and you have to decide within yourself what you're gonna
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do with that thing. You can stop growing and die
or you can keep growing and live. And I don't
know about you. I'm gonna live and I was talking
to an executive over here, a mentor of mine. His
name is Bill May, and he was taught. I was
telling him and I was like, you know, I was
sharing how I was live streaming, and somebody was like, Dawn,
how are you in an optimistic mood? I was like,
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because everything had been deferred, It's like, yo, it made
me better, it made me learn more. So I'm hoping
that we can learn some things, you know what I'm saying.
Learn some things not only from other people, but most importantly,
learn some things with yourself. Because if you want to
be better and you want to do better, that's what
we're gonna have to be able to see better. You
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feel me, when was the last time you opened your
eyes to see yourself?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
And I mean truly.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Realizing that the playing field ain't always perfect, but knowing
that sometimes it's imperfectly perfect, you know. I think about
when I was in school and we had an arts program,
and so we use ceramic tile and it was all
broken in pieces with all different colors, and so we
were charged with the task to put together a picture.
So all these pieces that didn't look like they were
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supposed to go together we fit them together and we
created something beautiful. And I feel like that's the same
thing that you have to do with your life. You
gotta turn a negative into a positive picture. You have
to be able to take different pieces and put them
together to create the life that you want. Because if
you're not doing it, who will. Don't play with me,
play with yourself. We here for a good time, not
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a long time. Shout out to Miss Marion. She's tuning
in on Facebook. She said, Amen, my name say. There's
no such thing as perfect, but we always can be better.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Because your location is not your destination. You fall down
seven times, you get up a peck. If you can
look up, you can get up. So don't play with me,
play with yourself. But you won't have to take time
to get to know with yourself. You have to get
time to know what environments you can operate in, what
things are gonna hold you back, but most importantly, what
type of situation is gonna prepare you forward. Perhaps the
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things that didn't go your way did not go your
way because you would be complacent, you would be content,
you wouldn't be able to do the service that you
were supposed to do. For others, but most importantly do
for yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
See. I'm a believer that.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
When it's time to go after your dreams, you're feeding yourself.
And once you start feeding yourself, you realize that things
becoming an overflow.
Speaker 5 (06:47):
See.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
You don't want to give from a cup that's half empty.
You want to be so filled up that I won't
even realize that I'm lacking, or that I'm missing or
something is leaving. Because remember we're talking about surplus. I
got this in the studio. It's probably backwards because of
the view, but it says abundance. I'm calling for abundance
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exceedingly beyond in every aspect.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Of my life. And I charge you to do the
same thing too.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Don't say a little, don't say a whole lot, just
say an overflow.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
We overflowing in this season, and I know that this
time can I can? I be real with you.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I always forget what this season or this month really
means for me, and a lot can be said my
mother she transitioned, was I guess like twelve years ago? Now,
hold on, that's twenty twelve years ago in the month
of February, and I was streaming on Live and do
you know, somebody told me that they saw a spirit
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in my house who immediately I jumped up, didn't even
get a chance to really rest it, and I grabbed
the sage, I grabbed a white candle. Everything was lit
up in here, and I forget how she had exited.
You know, I had somebody else come in. They were like, yeah, Dawn,
I can see it.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I was like, what.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
This is a very good friend of mine, one of
my best friends, ell and she was like, oh, I
have an idea.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I said, you do.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
I said, well, are they good or best? She was like, well,
you know, this is a big month for you guys.
And my sister was on the live as well. And
not that I forgot, but you necessarily don't keep in
front of mind. But I was like, oh, this is
the same month my mom transitions. So I mean, I
am a firm believer that I think that people that
have crossed over, people who have transitioned, whether you say
they went to different dimensions, that oftentimes.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
They appear they come in to check in, you know
what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
So I am thinking to myself that perhaps that was
a moment that my mom was here checking in, And
I think for a minute. I got emotional because I
just have to slow down sometimes to realize, Okay, well
what this season is about. But one thing that we
can say where we are, just on the calendar month
that we follow, is that we're in the winter about
to step to spring. So there are a lot of
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things that are starting to reburn. And I want you
to realize that change is inevitable. Yeah, you're gonna have
to go through the darkest moment before you get to
the light.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Right, So maybe that's what it is.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
It's this transformation, this spring cleaning. So while a lot
of things have changed, I'm excited to the fact that
things aren't the same. And I think when you get
so used to being in control of things, you want
things to be.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Follow in order.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
We can get so caught up in blindfolders on that
you can't even see over and beyond. Somebody can look
at you and deliver a message straight to your face
because you so caught up and what you think you
can't even hear what they're saying. Hey, miss Mayan, how
you doing? So let it be a moment of thinking.
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Now I'm trying to figure out, Keanu, what is taking
so long? Oh look, I'm talking smack and she just
poffed in.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
All right, so.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Listen, y'all can't here, y'all can't he here, Keana, I
need for you. Are you going on to you gotta
go live on ig as well. I need you to
pull out your phone. You got your phone set up, baby, Okay,
You're gonna go to Vitamin D with Dawn Day and
(10:17):
I want you to have your phone set up because
you're gonna join me over there and then people let's
on TikTok. They're gonna be able to hear you too,
because I checked your following it. I don't think it
was enough for us to, you know, to come on video,
but they're gonna hear and then we're gonna have a
way if you want to have to call us some questions,
all right, She looked like she moving.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
So I'm gonna do what I do.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
And fill up some space because we just need a
little grace. Put a thumbs up, Keanu. When you've ready, baby,
she said, one minute. But like I said before, if
you was your first time tuning in, I want to
just remind you to be sure to search Vitamin D
with Dawn d A. I on all platforms. Okay, follow
me and make sure that you subscribe to my podcast. Okay,
(11:08):
right now you are getting the unedited live version. Now
every person that's listening is gonna wish they can be here. Now,
I guess it's time for me to introduce my special
guest and she can join in when she can, as
long as the phone is ready. Well, this is the
most important part, the phone. That's that's not it. So
I want to welcome to somebody special. Her name is
Keanu Monroe. She is a coach, I would say, a
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relationship coach like relationship with others, but also having the
relationship with yourself. Now, when I said about beginning of
the podcast, I said that Valentine's Day is right around
the corner, and she specializes in something she calls the
crayon theory. She has an upcoming crayon Theory mixer happening,
and she talks about how we all play a role
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as to what colored crayon we are. And there's a
difference from being attracted to somebody and knowing whether or
not you are compatible.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Do you know where you fit in the mix?
Speaker 2 (12:03):
All right, family, I guess it's time to bring your
own stage without further ado put some hands collapsed in
the social media's I'm talking about on TikTok. I'm talking
to my own Facebook, and of course if you are
tuned in on I.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
G for the one and only one role. Hello, how
are you my darling here?
Speaker 4 (12:30):
I'm here. Okay, So I see the social media. I
have it on my I have it on my right side.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I might have to accept you, but that's that's We're
more focused on having you right here.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I have except did you join my live?
Speaker 2 (12:46):
I'm on live? You have to go live on your phone. See,
that's not important. We got to get to our conversation
to see you. But we're supposed to see you too.
But let's jump in here. Baby, let's let's not before
we with that. You there we go, okay, okay, perfect, Okay,
so we'll stay here. So Keanna family, can y'all hear
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me on TikTok? Throw on hands up? Say how to Keana?
Throw a thumbs up if you can hear Keana. Two, Keana,
you gotta talk.
Speaker 4 (13:15):
I'm here. I am so happy to be here. I
don't know if everybody can see me, but but to
wherever you are, happy New Year.
Speaker 5 (13:23):
I'll be twenty twenty five coming in it.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
And you're still alive and hopefully with everything going on,
we could still thrive.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Come on, you gotta talk that talk to me. You
know I love when we get talked that talk. Listen, listen,
So Keana, you have something special. We're gonna do it.
Speaker 5 (13:39):
We're gonna we're gonna get it done. We're gonna we're
gonna make it through the month.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
Walk welcome February, right, and we're gonna do it as
a community.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
Better together.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Everything is better together.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Isn't it. It's always better together?
Speaker 2 (13:52):
You know when we do stuff alone, think about like
a bundle of sticks. You can take one stick and
be like pop. But if I put a whole much together,
what we gonna do? You can't do nothing with this.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Don't play when we.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Play with your story, it's unbreakable.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
So let's talk, Henna.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Let's talk really quick, because we only have about thirty
We have good forty minutes. Tell us who you are
and give us an idea of what exactly the Creon
theory is.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
Okay to all those who didn't see me last time
and didn't catch me last time. For all those who
only remember when I was a darker hair and I've
gone a little bit blonde per Dawn's request.
Speaker 5 (14:32):
My name is Ki. My name is Kiana Monroe.
Speaker 4 (14:35):
I am a neural linguistics programming practitioner and an emotional intelligence,
codes and behavioral analyst. I specialize in working with individuals
and couples, and especially young people, and helping them unlearn psychological, environmental, systemic,
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and societal conditioning that program stand into limited belief systems,
negative belief systems, and behavioral habits that are rooted in unworthiness.
And we don't want to do that. So a lot
of a lot of things that I talk about when
it comes to people is healing from the inside out.
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We all know that I discussed life matters loving yourself first,
because it does matter, and a really big part of
understanding and learning to love yourself is to know yourself
and to know who you are, not who you were
conditioned to be, not who you were programmed to be,
not who you were molded and shaped into being based
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off of society, based off of the environment you grew
up in, and based off of your family's.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
Desires for you, but you who you are.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
And it's really interesting because not really taking that time
to know who we are also interferes with how we
date and how we choose relationships and what type of
relationship we want.
Speaker 5 (16:08):
And a lot of it.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
Is rooted into the fact that we don't necessarily know
what we want from others because we haven't really learned
how to know what we want within ourselves.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Right about it, Right about it? Girls, say run it that,
Say it again, Say it again? What did you say?
You gotta know what don't play when we play with yourself.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
You have to know what you want within yourself first.
Speaker 5 (16:35):
You have to know.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
I said this last time. I can give clear directions
and navigate people to the center of my heart because
I live there, because.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
I know me.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
I know me, the version of me that I accept,
the version of me that I like, Not the version
of me that society tells me I have to be right.
Not the version of me that's popular to others for handclap,
Not the version of me that makes my parents look good,
that makes you know, society looks good. That mix you know,
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outside that mix, outside viewers champion me. The version of
me that champions for myself and roots for myself. I
am looking to be with somebody who wants to be
with that version of me right, and that allows me
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to be very intentional when it comes to dating, and
that is what I encourage other people to do. So
the Crayon theory is rooted in a lot of inner work.
Speaker 5 (17:39):
It's a speed thinking mixer. It's a pre Valentine's Day mixer.
Speaker 4 (17:44):
And the interesting thing is people are like, oh, it's
a mixer. It's a pre Valentine's saying mixer.
Speaker 5 (17:50):
It's gonna be it's gonna be good, it's gonna be fun.
Speaker 4 (17:52):
Yeah it is, but you are going to learn a
whole lot about yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Okay. So I put the flyer up.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
It says, join us are a fun, sophisticated evening to
discover your true colors and love.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
The Crayon Theory.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
A transformative speed dating experience where authentic connection are cultivated
through understanding oneself, not algorithms. Unlike traditional surface level dating approaches,
the innovation primary color based value system helps identify your
authentically aligned relationship values. Intimate gathering limit is of twenty
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four participants. We're talking twelve men, twelve women. Professional facilitation
by NLP and EQ certified Crayon Theory Coach kenum one wrong,
that's what it is. So learning these colors. Okay, so
we understand that so annoying oneself, you're saying, that is
how we get to know what our crayon color is.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Yeah, because I understand that dating is exhausting for a
lot of people. But a lot of times dating exhausting,
and it's not necessarily because you're doing it wrong.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
It's because you're performing it right. And we spent. We
spend so much too.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
Can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Yeah, no, I'm laughing. Go ahead.
Speaker 4 (19:11):
I was looking onto the other and let me not look,
let me not look at the right.
Speaker 5 (19:15):
To the to the to the phone. But it's it's
because we tend to perform when we date. We give
our representative right.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
We have that long list, basically a resume of what
society says we should want. The type of value man,
the type of value woman. Everyone that checks the box.
We craft all the perfect text messages when texting. You know,
we are we conform, we shrink, we shift to fit
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into the mold of the person that we want.
Speaker 5 (19:50):
To be liked.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
We'll be projecting to be So I had someone on TikTok.
They asked, they said, well, they're a Caucasian. I think
part of me. Nick, he's Nick, you know what I'm saying.
He said, I'm white, so hey, and he know he
said no, not literally the white crown because he didn't know.
He's like, I know, I'm beige, But how do I
tell the color crayon I am? I didn't want to
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say white because I'm like, you know, somebody el say
African American, but do you say white American? Do you
just say white or just say European? Nick is laughing, Okay,
go ahead, So how can we identify what color we
are when we're talking about the crayon theory?
Speaker 4 (20:26):
So what's really interesting is I give an assessment. You
know what, you've been there and you've experienced it for your.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Yes child had me into yours.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Anyway, go ahead, But really what it is is, well,
what are the fun colors?
Speaker 4 (20:42):
So the main.
Speaker 5 (20:43):
Colors are red, yellow, and blue.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Because those are the primary that make every color.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Okay, right, your primary colors make all the colors in
the coloring box.
Speaker 5 (20:56):
Right. And here's the interesting thing.
Speaker 4 (20:59):
When you think about emotions, A lot of times we
don't we don't know how to communicate our emotions. The
best way because we don't understand what the primary emotions are, right,
we can we can tell somebody, Oh, I'm really angry,
I'm really upset, I'm pissed at this person, and when
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I ask, what are you upset about? And it has
to be it has to be something.
Speaker 5 (21:27):
That's unfair and unjust. When you're angry, it.
Speaker 4 (21:29):
Means something has happened that is unfair and unjust. And
a lot of times when people explain things to me,
it's like, Okay, I understand that there are hues, right,
there are there hues of anger there, but deep down
you're hurt, you're sad.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Right, And that's usually the premise of that is even
fear right.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
A lot of times, but even that sometimes can be
on the continuum of like the deeper rooted issue, which
is I am really hurt and I am sad because
what you did make me feel fill in the blank, right,
But being able to put feelings, putting words to feelings
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helps you communicate it better. And when you can communicate
that better, you can have the outcome.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
That you really want.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
What is the outcome that we reach and.
Speaker 4 (22:24):
That's really healthy And I think that that is the
same thing that goes with core values. Right, you can
have hues of of things, meaning surface level dating. You
go and you ask questions about you know, so what
do you do for a living? You know, so what
do you how many.
Speaker 5 (22:41):
Do you do you?
Speaker 4 (22:44):
You know, did you go to school at such and
such or whatever? Those like little surface level questions are
those don't really matter?
Speaker 5 (22:54):
Right.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
I have spent a lot of time, years and years
of working with singles, of working with cups, of working
with group and group settings, and doing a lot of
setting and observation, and what I have come to find
out is that people people don't date asking intentional questions
that are rooted in alignment of who they are, right,
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and the assessment that I have people take once they
register right, it's it's really deeper than they think it is.
That will help me figure out what your color is.
Speaker 5 (23:33):
So that way, when.
Speaker 4 (23:34):
You find out the core value structures, because at the end.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Of the day, can you list a couple for somebody
that may not know about primary colors or what the
core value structures are, just to give an idea.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
So so, so here's here's an example.
Speaker 4 (23:47):
Right, One of the one of the questions that I
ask is what do you value, right, And when I say.
Speaker 5 (23:54):
What do you what do you value? It's what do
you value in life?
Speaker 4 (23:58):
What what is the scope and structure of what it
is that you value? Why do you value that thing? Right?
And then give me a character breakdown of that And
there's no right or wrong answer.
Speaker 5 (24:11):
It just has to be yours right. And if this is.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
The character breakdown of what it is that you value,
and we embody what it is that we value, right,
then as you navigate in life, then this is who
you are. These are your morals, your principles, this is
the foundation that you stand on.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
It was like, this is who I am, This is
who I am.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
And once you know that, then you can start dating
out of alignment of who you are, not what's in
your bank account, not your title, not what your family thinks,
not what society thinks. Like people have to have a
radical level of acceptance and knowledge of who they are
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and how all they want to experience life, Understand what
their non negotiables are that are that's rooted in their value.
Speaker 5 (25:07):
And most of the.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Time people are out here operating as if this is
who I am, this is who I am, But actually
you don't know who you are, So you are navigating
and operating throughout the world as a fake version of yourself,
looking for somebody to fill voids and looking for somebody
to add things to your to your life that you're
not adding to yourself. And you probably don't even like that.
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That's why it don't.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Last right here, because I was Wow.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
And when you talk about radically radical acceptance, what does
that mean and what does that look like?
Speaker 4 (25:45):
Radical acceptance is saying I, this is this is who
I am, this is this is this is what I love.
This is how I want to experience the world. I
don't want to be a mother. I know it's I
know it's popular in the world.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
I know that. That's what you know, society says that.
Speaker 4 (26:04):
You know, I should have you know this many kids
and by this age, I should be doing this with
my life that my parents raised me to be this
type of girl or or you know, woman in.
Speaker 5 (26:16):
Life or so on and so forth.
Speaker 4 (26:18):
You know, this is this is what society says a
good life looks like. This is what society says, you know, uh,
success looks like.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
So basically is understanding what look what success, what what
your life looks like to you versus the perception or
the lens of someone else. So who is the type
of person that should be involved or who would be
who would be the ideal person to attend the Crayon
Theory mixer?
Speaker 1 (26:44):
And again tell us when it is taking place.
Speaker 4 (26:48):
On Friday at the Crosby and As a Hollywood Park
in Inglewood, and it is doors open at six. We
start at six thirty and we go until about ten thirty.
Now it's a speed dating mixer, and you'll also have
a one hour lecture with me. I will help you
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understand your color. I will help you understand your non
negotiables and your why you're that color.
Speaker 5 (27:15):
And then I will help you learn how to communicate.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
I will help you learn how to ask the questions.
Right when it comes to the speed dating, I will
almost coach you. I will kind of coach you along
the way to help you have a better dating experience.
And then once I'm done, I set you free, and
then you can go date and mingle and see, you know,
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see if you find your see if you find your
your colormat.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
But again, is this only like this Creyon theory and
what you're speaking of, is this only ideal for someone
that's in a relationship or not in a relationship, singles
or people in a relationship, is this a process they should.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Go through as well? Like who is the Crayon theory for?
Speaker 4 (27:58):
So for this for this weekend, right for the pre
Valentine's Day mixer, it's for singles.
Speaker 5 (28:05):
It is for singles who you.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
Know, understand how society has shaped their love story and
they want to change the narrative and write it for themselves.
And they want to take the time to be able
to learn that. And they want, you know, they want somebody.
They might want somebody for Valentine's they want a little boo,
but they want to be intentional and they want support.
Speaker 5 (28:29):
With that intention.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
So why do you feel like maple?
Speaker 4 (28:33):
And that's it's a short version, right, This is almost
like a sampler version of what the Crown theory is
because you've been to the workshop, right, you know that
that is that that workshop is informative, and it is
and it can't be a bit intense because.
Speaker 5 (28:51):
Of all of the information that you learn and all
of the unlearning.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Right Okay, and then also what I'm saying too, like
we've been with our workshop, it was very intensive as
not taking so I'm saying the type of person that
wants to get into this, who is serious about knowing
themselves and how they stand in a relationship. Are there
any tips if someone is not able to attend that
can start to look into ways of figuring out what
their color is, to understand what it means to give
someone grace, or just like we were talking earlier, is
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to understand why somebody is the way they are versus
just writing them off from what you see at surface value.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
Book a session with me.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
But again, this is this is a this is a
mini version.
Speaker 5 (29:33):
You know, I do longer workshops after this.
Speaker 4 (29:36):
I'm actually going to open it up to do workshops
with me, whether it's group session or you can do
one on ones right where you.
Speaker 5 (29:45):
We go into it on a on a deeper level.
Speaker 4 (29:50):
But this is actually a it's actually fun because it's
a pilot episode. I am shooting this as a pilot
episode for an actual sual.
Speaker 5 (30:00):
Show where people do the work per.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
Episode, instead of doing it as a workshop where it's
super intense, right, I am putting it together as an
actual television series that I am shooting the pilot for,
so people on Saturday get to participate in the pilot
episode of the show of the series, one of the
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interesting is what I did is and you've been to
both of them, right. You've been to the Strategy to
Intimacy and you've also been to the Creon theory workshop.
Speaker 5 (30:37):
You've been to both the intimacy structure.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
That into me is in the number two me, not intimacy,
into me.
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Into me right.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
That workshop is focused on communication, communication style, effective communication,
emotional filters, emotional intel leigence, and intimacy and your intimacy
levels right, because most people don't understand their intimacy level.
So understanding what emotional intelligence is, understanding how it impacts
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the relationship right, and why it's important to be emotionally
intelligent and emotionally available in a relationship right, and then
understanding what your intimacy levels are, how to communicate those
and then again communication, how to do it, how to
do it properly?
Speaker 5 (31:31):
What is your conflict style? How to like DS?
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Is there some things that you can give us? I
know you mentioned the different intimacy levels. I know you
don't want to give everything because that's why somebody needs
to pay for coulching. But for somebody that may be
interested just to get an idea because we have Marian
Jones on Facebook states I've been married for over thirty
four years and happy, but I do think I need
to pass your info along.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
It's important what you are doing.
Speaker 5 (31:57):
Thank you very much. Mary.
Speaker 4 (32:00):
And here's something really really interesting. I have a couple
of friends who are married.
Speaker 5 (32:06):
My friend Belinda.
Speaker 4 (32:07):
Shout out to Belinda, she's been married now for about
for about sixteen seventeen years, and she actually came to
the workshops and she said, you know, I think I
might take acous some of these tips, especially the intimacy
level tips. She learned some things about herself that she
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was able to take into back into her marriage and
she was able to sell my gonna tell her husband them,
but she took it back.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
To her man.
Speaker 4 (32:36):
It was just like, you know, Keanna taught me about this, this, this,
this and that, and I never knew that do I
do them? And does that actually bother you?
Speaker 5 (32:43):
And he's like, hell, yeah it does. So it's not Technically.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
If you did come in and participate in a workshop,
I think that there's a lot that you could learn.
Speaker 5 (32:54):
I think that understanding.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
The core values right is really really important, and then
understand and we.
Speaker 5 (33:03):
Tend to evolve.
Speaker 4 (33:06):
One of the things that's really important that I teach
is how to evolve together.
Speaker 5 (33:11):
And because I've worked with couples before.
Speaker 4 (33:14):
And when I work with couples, I talk to them
about the importance of evolving together so that they.
Speaker 5 (33:20):
Don't grow apart.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
Right. And sometimes when we're in relationships, we get complacent
and we get a little lazy, and we get comfortable
with what's familiar, and we don't realize that our partner
is evolving and growing and that we have to grow
and evolve with them.
Speaker 5 (33:38):
Right.
Speaker 4 (33:40):
So, going back to the going back to the first
question of what can some people learn about the intimacy levels? Right,
one is understanding what they are. So you have emotional intimacy,
which is understanding your emotions, Understanding how to communicate your emotions,
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Understanding that when these emotions come up, how do.
Speaker 5 (34:04):
They impact your body?
Speaker 4 (34:06):
Right?
Speaker 5 (34:06):
What what is the trigger in your.
Speaker 4 (34:08):
Body when you're when you're angry? Right, So here's an example.
When you're angry, do you lash out right?
Speaker 5 (34:16):
Do you shut down? Right? Do you go to the
gym and blow off steam? Right?
Speaker 4 (34:22):
Do you jump on Amazon and go shopping? Do you
do retail therapy when you're sad? Do you shop when
you're depressed? Is that what you do when you're sad?
Do you shut the world out and deal with there
are things on your own? Or do you allow your
helpers to help you in life and.
Speaker 5 (34:40):
You share what's going on with you?
Speaker 4 (34:43):
Right? When you make mistakes and you're you're you're dealing
with with with fear and you're dealing with a mistake,
do you shame yourself? Right? Understanding your emotions and how
they impact you in your in your body? Do you
get anxiety and PA think attacks when when stressed? And
if so, do you shut everybody out? And I can
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do it myself? Right? These are like different things that
you should know and learn and understand when it comes
to your when it comes to yourself, and how do
you manage your emotions when they come up? You know
what I'm saying? Those are those are important. And then
the the other one is intellectual intimacy. And I like
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that because I'm a I'm a.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Safe What does that mean? What is intellectual in intimacy?
Speaker 4 (35:33):
So the best way I describe intellectual intimacy is being
able to know what you like to learn about, know
what stimulates the intellect. Know what stimulates the mind, No,
it stimulates the brain. For example, I love to read.
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I love to be around somebody that can that can
teach me about things that I've always wanted to know
and I don't and I don't know how to do
them right because I'm always researching, I'm always learning something new.
I'm always kind of perfecting my craft and studying and researching.
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That is just something that I do. I love to
read about history, I love to read about culture.
Speaker 5 (36:21):
I love to learn and go and travel.
Speaker 4 (36:24):
That's intimate to me, right, So for a partner, I
think it would be very sexy to be able to
not only communicate to them what I like intellectually, right,
what kind of what, what kind of things I want
to learn about, but to be able to share those
things with me, to learn something new with me. Have
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you ever learned something with your partner that you never
knew about and they never know about and now it's
something that you guys have experienced together.
Speaker 5 (36:59):
And it mays you, it makes you closer.
Speaker 4 (37:04):
Have you ever done that and a part of that
is experienced that it brings me into experiential intimacy, and that.
Speaker 5 (37:10):
Can be a lot of things. You can a lot
of times.
Speaker 4 (37:15):
An experience can be a death, when you experience death
with somebody and you and they're there for you while
you grieve. Right when you experience hardship, when you experience
a storm, when you experience a promotion, when you like,
when you experience something that is like whatever that might be,
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that makes you closer. That's a level of intimacy that
you have with your other person. And the spiritual intimacy
that could be anything, whatever your spiritual belief is.
Speaker 5 (37:47):
It could be.
Speaker 4 (37:47):
Grounding, it could be going to church, it could be meditating,
whatever that is for you, that intimate time that you
do for you, that time with God, right, that time
with your creator, that that that that times just sit
and meditate, that time to go to the beach and
just be one with your spreend, whatever spiritual practice you have.
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That's that's an intimate thing that you do with yourself.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
And to me norm what's inside of things? I mean
you to think about yourself as like a gift or present.
The one thing you want to do is you want
to unwrap it and see what's inside. But I feel
like oftentimes when we're dealing with relationships or even dealing
with ourselves. We are afraid to see what's inside. And
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the very thing that's inside is what makes you you.
The very thing that's in, what's inside is going to
what's going to help you connect with someone else, And wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
You want to know what that connection is made of.
Speaker 4 (38:45):
For yourself?
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Hello? You know it's you know, it's scary.
Speaker 4 (38:49):
You can't you can't find your perfect color out there,
your perfect color match out there if you're out there
painting in somebody else's shades.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Oh, don't play when me play with yourself?
Speaker 4 (39:02):
Well yeah, you know, like like like wanting somebody else's relationship,
like saying all their relationship goes that no one is,
so should be your relationship because no one is you,
no one experienced like you.
Speaker 5 (39:15):
Ten people can experience.
Speaker 4 (39:17):
The same thing ten different ways. Don't you want what
you want in? You? Like your way? I don't want
to experience life everybody else's way. I want to experience
love and a relationship my way. Now, how I was
told to, Now, how I was conditioned to?
Speaker 1 (39:33):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (39:34):
Yeah, so we're talking with Keanu Monroe. Everybody, Yes, she
is an NLP and EQ coach. Here transforming lives and
she has an upcoming mixer entitled the Crayon Theory Mixer.
Will you identify yourself by your primary colors which also
impacts of your relationship with yourself and then also with others.
We know that Valentine's stays around the corner. What shade
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are you coming to the table with. I'm just saying
so with this, Max said, there are going to be
twelve women, twelve men who are going to go through
I guess a dating ground or speed dating with the
tools that you are going to quit with them within
a one hour session. Now the question is I know
that you are doing this for a very special project.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
This will be a pilot.
Speaker 2 (40:17):
Is there any way for anyone that is not in
the state of California, anyone that is not in Englewood?
Will they be able to stream it? Are you offering
a possibility of that?
Speaker 5 (40:26):
Yes, yes I am.
Speaker 4 (40:28):
I will put it up on my YouTube. Details coming.
You know, we got to edit it and all the
other jazzs. But I actually I am considering doing the
Life Matters Podcast special edition Crayon Theory Theory special Edition
style where I will do versions of it online and
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in person. So the interesting thing about this one.
Speaker 5 (40:56):
Is people will people will mix.
Speaker 4 (40:59):
Again, it's snapshot of what an entire season would would be,
and people will mix, people will mingle.
Speaker 5 (41:06):
And the whole point and.
Speaker 4 (41:07):
Purpose of it is this is before people know what
their color is.
Speaker 5 (41:13):
So most of the right, So most of the.
Speaker 4 (41:15):
Time people have the tendency to flirt and lightly ask
questions and get their little representative without having any understanding
of who this person is or why they ask their
typical questions, right, all all of that jazz, and then
they will do the work with.
Speaker 1 (41:36):
Me then and then.
Speaker 4 (41:40):
They will find out what their color is. And here's
the thing. When you do your speed dating, you'll have
a special little pin that will go on or like
a little like a little like a little sticker. I
have stickers, and I have pins just in case people
don't want to puncture their clothes. And you will know
when you do the speed dating ground is this my color?
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Is this? Right?
Speaker 5 (42:03):
For the I'm not going you will know.
Speaker 4 (42:07):
You will know, and the other person will know. And
it's like do you date the person anyway?
Speaker 1 (42:13):
You know?
Speaker 4 (42:13):
Auntie Maya Angelou said, when people show you who.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
They are, believe you to believe them.
Speaker 4 (42:20):
And a lot of times what we see and the
interesting thing is for the show I actually wanted to
play out for the world to see right, for the
audience to see themselves through the participants of knowing that
you have chemistry with somebody, but your values are not
in alignments. But because they look good and because they
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you know, they fit some some of the you know, the.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
Checkbox, the different parts of your body getting excited.
Speaker 4 (42:51):
That don't mean yeah, they look good, then you know
you date them anyway. You date them any and a
lot of times you find this in dating somebody who
says I don't want kids, and you date them anyway, thinking.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
That you can change and they said I don't want them.
Speaker 5 (43:12):
That you can change their mind, or thinking that you
can tolerate.
Speaker 4 (43:17):
You know, they tell you what their lifestyle is. They
don't ever want to be married, and you're like.
Speaker 5 (43:21):
That's because they have been that need.
Speaker 4 (43:23):
No, they're morals and values based off their value structure.
Speaker 5 (43:29):
They don't want it. It's that they don't want it.
Speaker 4 (43:33):
And a part of the acceptance of self is saying
I love me so much that I'm going to release
you with love. I hope you go and find whatever
you're looking for you. Fine, But however, comma, if I
played this game with you, if I'm looking for something serious,
like if I really want something serious, not right away,
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but I'm definitely going down that road, right is I'm gonna.
Speaker 5 (44:02):
I'm gonna let you go be with somebody that wants
what you want.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
Oh my gosh, I just came with something.
Speaker 5 (44:07):
I'm gonna. I'm gonna.
Speaker 4 (44:09):
I'm gonna give you back to the streets and not
invite you into my I just.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Came up with something.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
If you keep playing with somebody's but, you're sure going
to make an ass of yourself.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
But catch it.
Speaker 2 (44:22):
I said, you better catch it because it's coming in hot.
You keep playing with somebody's but and you're gonna find
yourself in somebody's ass. Yeah, don't play with me, play
with yourself. Okay, Yeah, Yeah, that was good, KNDA, That's
really good. Now I want to open up. I know
based on restrain me. But if you would like to
call in the studio right now eight one eight four
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six one fifty four thirty two, you can join this
live of conversation. I've also included the link if you
like to join us on video or call link Wise,
those who aren't TikTok. You gotta show up on the
FB uh because Kenna you didn't. She's not on her
TikTok right now for us to join that way. So nevertheless,
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we appreciate too. Now one more time, what is the website?
How does someone register? Is this open for anyone to attend?
How can somebody keep up to date us to this
event and then those in the future.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
Thirty enough, I would say we're dealing with growing fo.
Speaker 4 (45:20):
I'm going to open it up very soon. I'm going
to do the next season of Life Matters podcast. I
will do it the Crayon Theory Special Editions, and then
it'll be on I'll allow it to be on on
on YouTube. I'm actually starting a Patreon with it, so
I'll be doing Patreon very soon and that will be
starting the second season and strictly focusing on the crayon Theory.
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You can also go to my website www. Dot keanumonroel
dot com and book a session with me or hang
tight because after the eighth I am going to do
a special announcement of when and I will be opening
up for the Crayon Theory Workshop. And as you know,
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don like you've done the workshop virtually online, which I've
done with a group of people, and everybody kind of
goes through the motions and find out what their color
match is, or I do it in person.
Speaker 5 (46:16):
The interesting thing about doing it in person is that
people come in.
Speaker 4 (46:19):
They mingle a little bit. I've actually had.
Speaker 5 (46:22):
Some people meet their person, like meet their color match.
Speaker 4 (46:26):
In my workshop, I had two couples and I have
a wedding. I didn't go to the wedding because they
did it, you know, they did destination wedding of C's.
Speaker 5 (46:38):
But it does, it does work. I've had people.
Speaker 4 (46:43):
In the workshop saying, you know what, I thought I
was ready to date, but I'm not ready. I think
a lot of the things that I remember her saying,
I think all of the things that I desire in
a person is rooted in like my trauma, and I
am looking I feel like all of the things that
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I've been looking for. Because again, it's a lot of
work I give I give you a lot of work,
and I ask you a lot of questions.
Speaker 5 (47:12):
Right, and it's interactive. It's not just to me talking
as to you. It's it's it's interactive.
Speaker 4 (47:16):
And after peeling back a lot of those layers, and
and and asking you what your non negotiables are, asking
you why if these are your values, how do you
operate in that? Can people around you confirm? Does your
circle of friends represent what it.
Speaker 5 (47:33):
Is that you say you you you value?
Speaker 1 (47:35):
Right?
Speaker 4 (47:37):
One of the things I've asked people is what's your
what's your love language?
Speaker 5 (47:41):
And how do you experience it for yourself?
Speaker 4 (47:44):
Because if words of affirmation is your love language and
you are serious about it, but you talk to yourself
like trash, that's a problem.
Speaker 5 (47:55):
Is it really your love language?
Speaker 4 (47:57):
Do you want to talk to Do you want someone
you require and demand somebody to talk to you in
ways you don't talk to yourself, right, Because if you
don't talk to yourself that way, but you want them
to talk to you that way, Eventually, with time, when
the representative has made it exit, you are going to
talk to that person that way.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
You know when you said you people that are like narcissists.
Speaker 5 (48:21):
All that innership onto the other person.
Speaker 4 (48:24):
Right. If gifts is your love language, how do you
show that to yourself? That's really important. It's it's and
the interesting thing, it's not necessarily about finding a partner.
Speaker 5 (48:40):
I want people to be very.
Speaker 4 (48:41):
Clear that finding somebody is fantastic.
Speaker 5 (48:45):
I want somebody to find.
Speaker 4 (48:49):
A love in this right, But the love that I
want people to discover is the love that they have
for themselves.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
Okay, I got a quick question. I got a question
that came through. I got a question.
Speaker 2 (48:59):
It's not necessary, jan I got a question that came
through on tak time.
Speaker 1 (49:02):
Help me tell me. They said, that's so interesting. This
is from Nick of Time.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
Tell us more about the representative quote unquote, when dating,
say that one more time, tell us more about the representative.
Speaker 1 (49:17):
When dating, everybody.
Speaker 4 (49:20):
Some a lot of times brings their representative when when
when you date, it's trying to ask the right questions, right.
Speaker 5 (49:31):
It is making sure you don't say the wrong saying.
Speaker 4 (49:34):
It's making sure that you know, you don't say too much,
you don't do too much. You don't this you you
you don't want to come off as this way, and
you don't want to come off too sensitive. I'm a
sensitive person, but I don't don't want to show.
Speaker 5 (49:48):
That right away.
Speaker 4 (49:49):
Or you know, I I have ADHD or I have
like because I know I do M I don't mind
sharing that in certain life. But it's it's going on
a date and just asking surface level questions. Also, because
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not only are you afraid to ask the wrong question,
you're afraid to let them see a version of you.
Speaker 5 (50:21):
That they might not like. Hmmm, so right, so you you.
Speaker 4 (50:27):
You show up as a version that's approved right now
and over time, I'll let them. I'll let them see
you know the ugliness, So I'll let them see that
you know, and not necessarily ugliness, that's that's not the
that's actually not the right word. But your quirks, your
unique things about you that make you you. Right. That's
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why I said radical acceptance of oneself is.
Speaker 5 (50:53):
Key, and it's knowing that.
Speaker 4 (50:55):
And my thing is, I'm not going to show up
on a date so that I can and make sure
that this person that checks off all the boxes likes me,
because this is the type of person my mother will like.
Speaker 5 (51:08):
This is the type of person my parents will like.
This is the type of person that if I get
with right, I will be relationship goals, This.
Speaker 4 (51:16):
Will look good on social media, right, I will have
made it right.
Speaker 5 (51:21):
Whatever the fill in the blank.
Speaker 4 (51:24):
So I am going to make sure that I show
up the way I'm supposed to show up. It's almost
like sometimes people treat dating like a job interview.
Speaker 5 (51:33):
It's not a job interview. This, this is some this
is something you're.
Speaker 4 (51:38):
You are out spending your time and money and energy
right to have a conversation to see if somebody is
your purpose partner and if they are in line, if
they are you know, do they know themselves? How they
met themselves? Because like I told you the last time,
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I was so, people can only meet you and connect
to you at the level of which they've connected and
met themselves, right exactly, Like, like how can I how
can I How can I have compassion for you? And
I don't have compassion for myself? How can I learn
how to have patience with you and deep understanding?
Speaker 2 (52:20):
I usually say this in the time when compassion for
somebody else, I'll be like, don't cheat yourself. You better
treat yourself and what that means, don't cheat yourself in
these types of predicaments and these situations. Understand that I
think what you said, there's a fine line between showing
up as your best self and then showing up as
the representative.
Speaker 4 (52:42):
You can show. Yes, here's the thing. You can show
up as your your your your best self.
Speaker 5 (52:48):
But if you know you want some fried chicken. Don't
don't order a.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
Salad you can. You know you've hold I'm not really hungry.
Speaker 4 (53:00):
Yes you are that you are, you only have a
creen juice that dang you hungry?
Speaker 2 (53:07):
You know. I guess that kind of resonated with me
because it's like you want to show up as your
best self.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
But then also I want to be myself.
Speaker 2 (53:14):
But that doesn't mean you being yourself is not showing
you know, your nails, messed up, your hair, your clothes.
Speaker 1 (53:20):
Superficial things.
Speaker 2 (53:21):
But like you said when you talk about getting into me,
how you treat yourself is going to determine how you
treat me, because if you ain't treating yourself good, why
would you treat me any better?
Speaker 5 (53:32):
Don you answered your own questions?
Speaker 1 (53:33):
I know that that's what you're doing with people, Like.
Speaker 4 (53:35):
When you said not going with your nails undone, with
your hair a mess? When when I when I love me,
I care about my gonna do that anyway? I care
about how I look, no matter what it like. You
just so happened to get to go out with me.
Do you understand what I'm saying?
Speaker 5 (53:51):
Don't you get to have breakfast with me?
Speaker 4 (53:55):
But whenever when a breakfast, lunch, cocktails happy. You are
going to get me the way I get myself and
I'm not gonna I'm not gonna look raggedy because I
love me. I will always bring it back to life matters,
loving yourself.
Speaker 2 (54:12):
And you know, just on the other side too. And
I know we got to wrap this up. We're hereting
our our point.
Speaker 4 (54:18):
Also, I think.
Speaker 1 (54:18):
Another thing is to get keep me.
Speaker 2 (54:20):
Dang, I forgot it. It just left my brain.
Speaker 1 (54:24):
Oh oh oh oh.
Speaker 2 (54:26):
Also making room for the other person to show up
as who they are and not trying to change them,
like even dating somebody like you said, if they're not
the type of person that you know, say this may
sound so trivial, okay, but maybe they aren't the individual
that brushes their teeth in the morning and at night.
Speaker 1 (54:45):
That's so surface level.
Speaker 2 (54:46):
But don't come in trying to change that person about
whatever their habit is. I think you can probably inspire them,
but don't come in expecting something different because that's not
the part of their routine. And best belief, if they're
in a performative moment, that's only gonna last for some
of the mone of time.
Speaker 5 (55:01):
Right, here's the thing too.
Speaker 1 (55:03):
Okay, let me wrap this up. We got a minute.
Speaker 5 (55:05):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (55:05):
I always say chemistry is my compatibility, right, and what
here's the thing about. What I'm going to teach other
people how to do when they when they go on this,
when they go to this mixer is how to express
primary love to themselves and to others. And it is
creating a safe space, right and an emotional safe space
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for people to be authentically themselves in your presence, to
be vulnerable, to be transparent without fear of condemnation and judgment.
Speaker 5 (55:37):
Here's the space. This is who I am. Show me
who you are, and let's see if we're aligned.
Speaker 4 (55:41):
And if not, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (55:43):
You look good, You look good.
Speaker 5 (55:45):
Good.
Speaker 4 (55:46):
What I want you to be with who you deserve
and I want you to not trap me and let
me go be with who I deserve out of respect
and love for yourself and out of respect and love
for me.
Speaker 1 (56:00):
All right, Well, then there you have it. Okay.
Speaker 2 (56:02):
So, in case you did not know, I'm talking with
Keana Monroe, who happens to be a NLP and EQ
coach who's hosting the Crayon Theory mixer happening this Friday.
Speaker 1 (56:14):
Is that character. Saturday Saturday.
Speaker 2 (56:16):
Okay, Saturday from six thirty Women's we need some guys
Saturday from six point thirty to ten thirty. Make sure
you follow Keana on all social media. Keana loves Me.
Sign up, get to know yourself and perhaps you can
get to know somebody else. Anything else Keana that you
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would like to share with the people today.
Speaker 5 (56:41):
Love yourself, Love yourself.
Speaker 4 (56:43):
Sorry, sometimes the best way to love yourself is to
be honest.
Speaker 1 (56:46):
Hey, keep in the real so you know, Nanda, Thank
you so much, Kenna.
Speaker 2 (56:52):
I appreciate you, lolcome always. Well there you have it,
beautiful people. That was keanum and make sure you follow
her on all social media. Keana loves Me. I really
appreciate you tuning in online. We get in the hour
mark today. I appreciate you and I love you. If
you'd like to be a guest, or you would like
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A I speaks all right. You know I'm in the
business of making dreams come true and I damn shell
ma't gon forget about mind. So until next time, family,
I always remember you are your greatest ass.
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Set get your
Speaker 3 (57:49):
VIT you right with me, I get excited about your life.
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You are tuned in to the Vitamin D with Dawn
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Speaker 1 (00:32):
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So join me on this journey of living our best
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Speaker 2 (00:48):
Well, hello there, I said, hello there. It's been way
too long, way too long. Indeed, m how you doing.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
I'm great. You know.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I recently had somebody I was streaming on live and
they were like, how are you doing doing? I said,
I'm good, I'm grateful, I'm good and they said, well,
how are you doing so good with all of the
disasters and things that are happening.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
And I sat there because.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't want to seem like I'm numb and I'm
forgetting about how so many people have in their lives
have been affected.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
But what I said to them, I said, well, I know.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
There was a lot of stuff that I had been
through and experienced, down to you know, going after a dream,
having a dream deferred, because I once day it is
denied of delay. Sometimes we have a vision of how
we want things to happen, and then whether you believe
in God, the universe or would have you have it
up and just switch some.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Plans and understand the acceptance.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
But I know there was a time that I was
going to have to take a bus to the schooter
and walk to get to my destination.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
And that's not it right now.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And yes, I will say that a lot of things
have been strusted now Mama, husband eating, But you know, like.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I say, when it's a new dawn and it's a
new day, I had the drawer open.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
But with that being said, I am so excited about
this conversation and wanted to be checking in, checking in,
not rushing doing the next thing, but checking in because
I'm so present right now and ready and willing to
give up updates. But I got a guess coming on.
Her name is Keana Monroe. Now she's no stranger to
Vitamin D. I had her on a couple of years ago,
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had to run again, even had to run when I
was on the FM dial. And she specializes in talking
about relationships and communication, not only with other people but
also with yourselves. And because Valentine's Day is right around
the corner, she will be joining in on the show
to discuss her crayon theory mixer she has coming up.
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So I had her on a previous so talking about
the crown theory and how we basically identify ourselves. We
can identify ourselves with the color of a crime, and
if you think about it, we all learn our burst
of color right coming together to put these beautiful images.
But when we talk about relationships, you know how you
can be attracted to somebody but not necessarily be compatible
with them. So she's gonna join me and we're gonna
(03:23):
dive in and have some things. And let me give
a shout out to some people I see Joni on TikTok.
I see Frankie g on Ig. Who was this on?
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I can't see who was on Facebook? Behave we everywhere?
I got a nick of time. I got l.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Holding it down, LEXI holding it down. So we're gonna
have a conversation, and I want to welcome you guys.
I will open it up for you guys to call
in studio to talk to me. Yes, you will be
able to call in live to talk and we can
have this conversation. But until she comes in, because I
know she just came in for a few jobs and
she texts me. She texts me to say that she's
(04:02):
getting everything situated. I just want to just remind you
to be in a moment of gratitude, because the more
grateful you are, the more things you have to be
grateful for. And I know everything is not perfect, but
what it is, I mean, anything that's real and good
for you, what is actually perfect. It's like that thing
where you got your things that's again in the gang,
and you have to decide within yourself what you're gonna
(04:23):
do with that thing. You can stop growing and die
or you can keep growing and live. And I don't
know about you. I'm gonna live and I was talking
to an executive over here, a mentor of mine. His
name is Bill May, and he was taught. I was
telling him and I was like, you know, I was
sharing how I was live streaming, and somebody was like, Dawn,
how are you in an optimistic mood? I was like,
(04:44):
because everything had been deferred, It's like, yo, it made
me better, it made me learn more. So I'm hoping
that we can learn some things, you know what I'm saying.
Learn some things not only from other people, but most importantly,
learn some things with yourself. Because if you want to
be better and you want to do better, that's what
we're gonna have to be able to see better. You
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feel me, when was the last time you opened your
eyes to see yourself?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
And I mean truly.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Realizing that the playing field ain't always perfect, but knowing
that sometimes it's imperfectly perfect, you know. I think about
when I was in school and we had an arts program,
and so we use ceramic tile and it was all
broken in pieces with all different colors, and so we
were charged with the task to put together a picture.
So all these pieces that didn't look like they were
(05:32):
supposed to go together we fit them together and we
created something beautiful. And I feel like that's the same
thing that you have to do with your life. You
gotta turn a negative into a positive picture. You have
to be able to take different pieces and put them
together to create the life that you want. Because if
you're not doing it, who will. Don't play with me,
play with yourself. We here for a good time, not
(05:54):
a long time. Shout out to Miss Marion. She's tuning
in on Facebook. She said, Amen, my name say. There's
no such thing as perfect, but we always can be better.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Because your location is not your destination. You fall down
seven times, you get up a peck. If you can
look up, you can get up. So don't play with me,
play with yourself. But you won't have to take time
to get to know with yourself. You have to get
time to know what environments you can operate in, what
things are gonna hold you back, but most importantly, what
type of situation is gonna prepare you forward. Perhaps the
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things that didn't go your way did not go your
way because you would be complacent, you would be content,
you wouldn't be able to do the service that you
were supposed to do. For others, but most importantly do
for yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
See. I'm a believer that.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
When it's time to go after your dreams, you're feeding yourself.
And once you start feeding yourself, you realize that things
becoming an overflow.
Speaker 5 (06:47):
See.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
You don't want to give from a cup that's half empty.
You want to be so filled up that I won't
even realize that I'm lacking, or that I'm missing or
something is leaving. Because remember we're talking about surplus. I
got this in the studio. It's probably backwards because of
the view, but it says abundance. I'm calling for abundance
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exceedingly beyond in every aspect.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Of my life. And I charge you to do the
same thing too.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Don't say a little, don't say a whole lot, just
say an overflow.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
We overflowing in this season, and I know that this
time can I can? I be real with you.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I always forget what this season or this month really
means for me, and a lot can be said my
mother she transitioned, was I guess like twelve years ago? Now,
hold on, that's twenty twelve years ago in the month
of February, and I was streaming on Live and do
you know, somebody told me that they saw a spirit
(07:48):
in my house who immediately I jumped up, didn't even
get a chance to really rest it, and I grabbed
the sage, I grabbed a white candle. Everything was lit
up in here, and I forget how she had exited.
You know, I had somebody else come in. They were like, yeah, Dawn,
I can see it.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I was like, what.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
This is a very good friend of mine, one of
my best friends, ell and she was like, oh, I
have an idea.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I said, you do.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
I said, well, are they good or best? She was like, well,
you know, this is a big month for you guys.
And my sister was on the live as well. And
not that I forgot, but you necessarily don't keep in
front of mind. But I was like, oh, this is
the same month my mom transitions. So I mean, I
am a firm believer that I think that people that
have crossed over, people who have transitioned, whether you say
they went to different dimensions, that oftentimes.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
They appear they come in to check in, you know
what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
So I am thinking to myself that perhaps that was
a moment that my mom was here checking in, And
I think for a minute. I got emotional because I
just have to slow down sometimes to realize, Okay, well
what this season is about. But one thing that we
can say where we are, just on the calendar month
that we follow, is that we're in the winter about
to step to spring. So there are a lot of
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things that are starting to reburn. And I want you
to realize that change is inevitable. Yeah, you're gonna have
to go through the darkest moment before you get to
the light.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Right, So maybe that's what it is.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
It's this transformation, this spring cleaning. So while a lot
of things have changed, I'm excited to the fact that
things aren't the same. And I think when you get
so used to being in control of things, you want
things to be.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Follow in order.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
We can get so caught up in blindfolders on that
you can't even see over and beyond. Somebody can look
at you and deliver a message straight to your face
because you so caught up and what you think you
can't even hear what they're saying. Hey, miss Mayan, how
you doing? So let it be a moment of thinking.
(09:46):
Now I'm trying to figure out, Keanu, what is taking
so long? Oh look, I'm talking smack and she just
poffed in.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
All right, so.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Listen, y'all can't here, y'all can't he here, Keana, I
need for you. Are you going on to you gotta
go live on ig as well. I need you to
pull out your phone. You got your phone set up, baby, Okay,
You're gonna go to Vitamin D with Dawn Day and
(10:17):
I want you to have your phone set up because
you're gonna join me over there and then people let's
on TikTok. They're gonna be able to hear you too,
because I checked your following it. I don't think it
was enough for us to, you know, to come on video,
but they're gonna hear and then we're gonna have a
way if you want to have to call us some questions,
all right, She looked like she moving.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
So I'm gonna do what I do.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
And fill up some space because we just need a
little grace. Put a thumbs up, Keanu. When you've ready, baby,
she said, one minute. But like I said before, if
you was your first time tuning in, I want to
just remind you to be sure to search Vitamin D
with Dawn d A. I on all platforms. Okay, follow
me and make sure that you subscribe to my podcast. Okay,
(11:08):
right now you are getting the unedited live version. Now
every person that's listening is gonna wish they can be here. Now,
I guess it's time for me to introduce my special
guest and she can join in when she can, as
long as the phone is ready. Well, this is the
most important part, the phone. That's that's not it. So
I want to welcome to somebody special. Her name is
Keanu Monroe. She is a coach, I would say, a
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relationship coach like relationship with others, but also having the
relationship with yourself. Now, when I said about beginning of
the podcast, I said that Valentine's Day is right around
the corner, and she specializes in something she calls the
crayon theory. She has an upcoming crayon Theory mixer happening,
and she talks about how we all play a role
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as to what colored crayon we are. And there's a
difference from being attracted to somebody and knowing whether or
not you are compatible.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Do you know where you fit in the mix?
Speaker 2 (12:03):
All right, family, I guess it's time to bring your
own stage without further ado put some hands collapsed in
the social media's I'm talking about on TikTok. I'm talking
to my own Facebook, and of course if you are
tuned in on I.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
G for the one and only one role. Hello, how
are you my darling here?
Speaker 4 (12:30):
I'm here. Okay, So I see the social media. I
have it on my I have it on my right side.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I might have to accept you, but that's that's We're
more focused on having you right here.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I have except did you join my live?
Speaker 2 (12:46):
I'm on live? You have to go live on your phone. See,
that's not important. We got to get to our conversation
to see you. But we're supposed to see you too.
But let's jump in here. Baby, let's let's not before
we with that. You there we go, okay, okay, perfect, Okay,
so we'll stay here. So Keanna family, can y'all hear
(13:08):
me on TikTok? Throw on hands up? Say how to Keana?
Throw a thumbs up if you can hear Keana. Two, Keana,
you gotta talk.
Speaker 4 (13:15):
I'm here. I am so happy to be here. I
don't know if everybody can see me, but but to
wherever you are, happy New Year.
Speaker 5 (13:23):
I'll be twenty twenty five coming in it.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
And you're still alive and hopefully with everything going on,
we could still thrive.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Come on, you gotta talk that talk to me. You
know I love when we get talked that talk. Listen, listen,
So Keana, you have something special. We're gonna do it.
Speaker 5 (13:39):
We're gonna we're gonna get it done. We're gonna we're
gonna make it through the month.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
Walk welcome February, right, and we're gonna do it as
a community.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
Better together.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Everything is better together.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Isn't it. It's always better together?
Speaker 2 (13:52):
You know when we do stuff alone, think about like
a bundle of sticks. You can take one stick and
be like pop. But if I put a whole much together,
what we gonna do? You can't do nothing with this.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Don't play when we.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Play with your story, it's unbreakable.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
So let's talk, Henna.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Let's talk really quick, because we only have about thirty
We have good forty minutes. Tell us who you are
and give us an idea of what exactly the Creon
theory is.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
Okay to all those who didn't see me last time
and didn't catch me last time. For all those who
only remember when I was a darker hair and I've
gone a little bit blonde per Dawn's request.
Speaker 5 (14:32):
My name is Ki. My name is Kiana Monroe.
Speaker 4 (14:35):
I am a neural linguistics programming practitioner and an emotional intelligence,
codes and behavioral analyst. I specialize in working with individuals
and couples, and especially young people, and helping them unlearn psychological, environmental, systemic,
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and societal conditioning that program stand into limited belief systems,
negative belief systems, and behavioral habits that are rooted in unworthiness.
And we don't want to do that. So a lot
of a lot of things that I talk about when
it comes to people is healing from the inside out.
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We all know that I discussed life matters loving yourself first,
because it does matter, and a really big part of
understanding and learning to love yourself is to know yourself
and to know who you are, not who you were
conditioned to be, not who you were programmed to be,
not who you were molded and shaped into being based
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off of society, based off of the environment you grew
up in, and based off of your family's.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
Desires for you, but you who you are.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
And it's really interesting because not really taking that time
to know who we are also interferes with how we
date and how we choose relationships and what type of
relationship we want.
Speaker 5 (16:08):
And a lot of it.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
Is rooted into the fact that we don't necessarily know
what we want from others because we haven't really learned
how to know what we want within ourselves.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Right about it, Right about it? Girls, say run it that,
Say it again, Say it again? What did you say?
You gotta know what don't play when we play with yourself.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
You have to know what you want within yourself first.
Speaker 5 (16:35):
You have to know.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
I said this last time. I can give clear directions
and navigate people to the center of my heart because
I live there, because.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
I know me.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
I know me, the version of me that I accept,
the version of me that I like, Not the version
of me that society tells me I have to be right.
Not the version of me that's popular to others for handclap,
Not the version of me that makes my parents look good,
that makes you know, society looks good. That mix you know,
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outside that mix, outside viewers champion me. The version of
me that champions for myself and roots for myself. I
am looking to be with somebody who wants to be
with that version of me right, and that allows me
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to be very intentional when it comes to dating, and
that is what I encourage other people to do. So
the Crayon theory is rooted in a lot of inner work.
Speaker 5 (17:39):
It's a speed thinking mixer. It's a pre Valentine's Day mixer.
Speaker 4 (17:44):
And the interesting thing is people are like, oh, it's
a mixer. It's a pre Valentine's saying mixer.
Speaker 5 (17:50):
It's gonna be it's gonna be good, it's gonna be fun.
Speaker 4 (17:52):
Yeah it is, but you are going to learn a
whole lot about yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Okay. So I put the flyer up.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
It says, join us are a fun, sophisticated evening to
discover your true colors and love.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
The Crayon Theory.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
A transformative speed dating experience where authentic connection are cultivated
through understanding oneself, not algorithms. Unlike traditional surface level dating approaches,
the innovation primary color based value system helps identify your
authentically aligned relationship values. Intimate gathering limit is of twenty
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four participants. We're talking twelve men, twelve women. Professional facilitation
by NLP and EQ certified Crayon Theory Coach kenum one wrong,
that's what it is. So learning these colors. Okay, so
we understand that so annoying oneself, you're saying, that is
how we get to know what our crayon color is.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Yeah, because I understand that dating is exhausting for a
lot of people. But a lot of times dating exhausting,
and it's not necessarily because you're doing it wrong.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
It's because you're performing it right. And we spent. We
spend so much too.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
Can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Yeah, no, I'm laughing. Go ahead.
Speaker 4 (19:11):
I was looking onto the other and let me not look,
let me not look at the right.
Speaker 5 (19:15):
To the to the to the phone. But it's it's
because we tend to perform when we date. We give
our representative right.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
We have that long list, basically a resume of what
society says we should want. The type of value man,
the type of value woman. Everyone that checks the box.
We craft all the perfect text messages when texting. You know,
we are we conform, we shrink, we shift to fit
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into the mold of the person that we want.
Speaker 5 (19:50):
To be liked.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
We'll be projecting to be So I had someone on TikTok.
They asked, they said, well, they're a Caucasian. I think
part of me. Nick, he's Nick, you know what I'm saying.
He said, I'm white, so hey, and he know he
said no, not literally the white crown because he didn't know.
He's like, I know, I'm beige, But how do I
tell the color crayon I am? I didn't want to
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say white because I'm like, you know, somebody el say
African American, but do you say white American? Do you
just say white or just say European? Nick is laughing, Okay,
go ahead, So how can we identify what color we
are when we're talking about the crayon theory?
Speaker 4 (20:26):
So what's really interesting is I give an assessment. You
know what, you've been there and you've experienced it for your.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Yes child had me into yours.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Anyway, go ahead, But really what it is is, well,
what are the fun colors?
Speaker 4 (20:42):
So the main.
Speaker 5 (20:43):
Colors are red, yellow, and blue.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Because those are the primary that make every color.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Okay, right, your primary colors make all the colors in
the coloring box.
Speaker 5 (20:56):
Right. And here's the interesting thing.
Speaker 4 (20:59):
When you think about emotions, A lot of times we
don't we don't know how to communicate our emotions. The
best way because we don't understand what the primary emotions are, right,
we can we can tell somebody, Oh, I'm really angry,
I'm really upset, I'm pissed at this person, and when
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I ask, what are you upset about? And it has
to be it has to be something.
Speaker 5 (21:27):
That's unfair and unjust. When you're angry, it.
Speaker 4 (21:29):
Means something has happened that is unfair and unjust. And
a lot of times when people explain things to me,
it's like, Okay, I understand that there are hues, right,
there are there hues of anger there, but deep down
you're hurt, you're sad.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Right, And that's usually the premise of that is even
fear right.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
A lot of times, but even that sometimes can be
on the continuum of like the deeper rooted issue, which
is I am really hurt and I am sad because
what you did make me feel fill in the blank, right,
But being able to put feelings, putting words to feelings
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helps you communicate it better. And when you can communicate
that better, you can have the outcome.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
That you really want.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
What is the outcome that we reach and.
Speaker 4 (22:24):
That's really healthy And I think that that is the
same thing that goes with core values. Right, you can
have hues of of things, meaning surface level dating. You
go and you ask questions about you know, so what
do you do for a living? You know, so what
do you how many.
Speaker 5 (22:41):
Do you do you?
Speaker 4 (22:44):
You know, did you go to school at such and
such or whatever? Those like little surface level questions are
those don't really matter?
Speaker 5 (22:54):
Right.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
I have spent a lot of time, years and years
of working with singles, of working with cups, of working
with group and group settings, and doing a lot of
setting and observation, and what I have come to find
out is that people people don't date asking intentional questions
that are rooted in alignment of who they are, right,
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and the assessment that I have people take once they
register right, it's it's really deeper than they think it is.
That will help me figure out what your color is.
Speaker 5 (23:33):
So that way, when.
Speaker 4 (23:34):
You find out the core value structures, because at the end.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Of the day, can you list a couple for somebody
that may not know about primary colors or what the
core value structures are, just to give an idea.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
So so, so here's here's an example.
Speaker 4 (23:47):
Right, One of the one of the questions that I
ask is what do you value, right, And when I say.
Speaker 5 (23:54):
What do you what do you value? It's what do
you value in life?
Speaker 4 (23:58):
What what is the scope and structure of what it
is that you value? Why do you value that thing? Right?
And then give me a character breakdown of that And
there's no right or wrong answer.
Speaker 5 (24:11):
It just has to be yours right. And if this is.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
The character breakdown of what it is that you value,
and we embody what it is that we value, right,
then as you navigate in life, then this is who
you are. These are your morals, your principles, this is
the foundation that you stand on.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
It was like, this is who I am, This is
who I am.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
And once you know that, then you can start dating
out of alignment of who you are, not what's in
your bank account, not your title, not what your family thinks,
not what society thinks. Like people have to have a
radical level of acceptance and knowledge of who they are
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and how all they want to experience life, Understand what
their non negotiables are that are that's rooted in their value.
Speaker 5 (25:07):
And most of the.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Time people are out here operating as if this is
who I am, this is who I am, But actually
you don't know who you are, So you are navigating
and operating throughout the world as a fake version of yourself,
looking for somebody to fill voids and looking for somebody
to add things to your to your life that you're
not adding to yourself. And you probably don't even like that.
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That's why it don't.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Last right here, because I was Wow.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
And when you talk about radically radical acceptance, what does
that mean and what does that look like?
Speaker 4 (25:45):
Radical acceptance is saying I, this is this is who
I am, this is this is this is what I love.
This is how I want to experience the world. I
don't want to be a mother. I know it's I
know it's popular in the world.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
I know that. That's what you know, society says that.
Speaker 4 (26:04):
You know, I should have you know this many kids
and by this age, I should be doing this with
my life that my parents raised me to be this
type of girl or or you know, woman in.
Speaker 5 (26:16):
Life or so on and so forth.
Speaker 4 (26:18):
You know, this is this is what society says a
good life looks like. This is what society says, you know, uh,
success looks like.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
So basically is understanding what look what success, what what
your life looks like to you versus the perception or
the lens of someone else. So who is the type
of person that should be involved or who would be
who would be the ideal person to attend the Crayon
Theory mixer?
Speaker 1 (26:44):
And again tell us when it is taking place.
Speaker 4 (26:48):
On Friday at the Crosby and As a Hollywood Park
in Inglewood, and it is doors open at six. We
start at six thirty and we go until about ten thirty.
Now it's a speed dating mixer, and you'll also have
a one hour lecture with me. I will help you
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understand your color. I will help you understand your non
negotiables and your why you're that color.
Speaker 5 (27:15):
And then I will help you learn how to communicate.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
I will help you learn how to ask the questions.
Right when it comes to the speed dating, I will
almost coach you. I will kind of coach you along
the way to help you have a better dating experience.
And then once I'm done, I set you free, and
then you can go date and mingle and see, you know,
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see if you find your see if you find your
your colormat.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
But again, is this only like this Creyon theory and
what you're speaking of, is this only ideal for someone
that's in a relationship or not in a relationship, singles
or people in a relationship, is this a process they should.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Go through as well? Like who is the Crayon theory for?
Speaker 4 (27:58):
So for this for this weekend, right for the pre
Valentine's Day mixer, it's for singles.
Speaker 5 (28:05):
It is for singles who you.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
Know, understand how society has shaped their love story and
they want to change the narrative and write it for themselves.
And they want to take the time to be able
to learn that. And they want, you know, they want somebody.
They might want somebody for Valentine's they want a little boo,
but they want to be intentional and they want support.
Speaker 5 (28:29):
With that intention.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
So why do you feel like maple?
Speaker 4 (28:33):
And that's it's a short version, right, This is almost
like a sampler version of what the Crown theory is
because you've been to the workshop, right, you know that
that is that that workshop is informative, and it is
and it can't be a bit intense because.
Speaker 5 (28:51):
Of all of the information that you learn and all
of the unlearning.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Right Okay, and then also what I'm saying too, like
we've been with our workshop, it was very intensive as
not taking so I'm saying the type of person that
wants to get into this, who is serious about knowing
themselves and how they stand in a relationship. Are there
any tips if someone is not able to attend that
can start to look into ways of figuring out what
their color is, to understand what it means to give
someone grace, or just like we were talking earlier, is
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to understand why somebody is the way they are versus
just writing them off from what you see at surface value.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
Book a session with me.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
But again, this is this is a this is a
mini version.
Speaker 5 (29:33):
You know, I do longer workshops after this.
Speaker 4 (29:36):
I'm actually going to open it up to do workshops
with me, whether it's group session or you can do
one on ones right where you.
Speaker 5 (29:45):
We go into it on a on a deeper level.
Speaker 4 (29:50):
But this is actually a it's actually fun because it's
a pilot episode. I am shooting this as a pilot
episode for an actual sual.
Speaker 5 (30:00):
Show where people do the work per.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
Episode, instead of doing it as a workshop where it's
super intense, right, I am putting it together as an
actual television series that I am shooting the pilot for,
so people on Saturday get to participate in the pilot
episode of the show of the series, one of the
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interesting is what I did is and you've been to
both of them, right. You've been to the Strategy to
Intimacy and you've also been to the Creon theory workshop.
Speaker 5 (30:37):
You've been to both the intimacy structure.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
That into me is in the number two me, not intimacy,
into me.
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Into me right.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
That workshop is focused on communication, communication style, effective communication,
emotional filters, emotional intel leigence, and intimacy and your intimacy
levels right, because most people don't understand their intimacy level.
So understanding what emotional intelligence is, understanding how it impacts
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the relationship right, and why it's important to be emotionally
intelligent and emotionally available in a relationship right, and then
understanding what your intimacy levels are, how to communicate those
and then again communication, how to do it, how to
do it properly?
Speaker 5 (31:31):
What is your conflict style? How to like DS?
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Is there some things that you can give us? I
know you mentioned the different intimacy levels. I know you
don't want to give everything because that's why somebody needs
to pay for coulching. But for somebody that may be
interested just to get an idea because we have Marian
Jones on Facebook states I've been married for over thirty
four years and happy, but I do think I need
to pass your info along.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
It's important what you are doing.
Speaker 5 (31:57):
Thank you very much. Mary.
Speaker 4 (32:00):
And here's something really really interesting. I have a couple
of friends who are married.
Speaker 5 (32:06):
My friend Belinda.
Speaker 4 (32:07):
Shout out to Belinda, she's been married now for about
for about sixteen seventeen years, and she actually came to
the workshops and she said, you know, I think I
might take acous some of these tips, especially the intimacy
level tips. She learned some things about herself that she
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was able to take into back into her marriage and
she was able to sell my gonna tell her husband them,
but she took it back.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
To her man.
Speaker 4 (32:36):
It was just like, you know, Keanna taught me about this, this, this,
this and that, and I never knew that do I
do them? And does that actually bother you?
Speaker 5 (32:43):
And he's like, hell, yeah it does. So it's not Technically.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
If you did come in and participate in a workshop,
I think that there's a lot that you could learn.
Speaker 5 (32:54):
I think that understanding.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
The core values right is really really important, and then
understand and we.
Speaker 5 (33:03):
Tend to evolve.
Speaker 4 (33:06):
One of the things that's really important that I teach
is how to evolve together.
Speaker 5 (33:11):
And because I've worked with couples before.
Speaker 4 (33:14):
And when I work with couples, I talk to them
about the importance of evolving together so that they.
Speaker 5 (33:20):
Don't grow apart.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
Right. And sometimes when we're in relationships, we get complacent
and we get a little lazy, and we get comfortable
with what's familiar, and we don't realize that our partner
is evolving and growing and that we have to grow
and evolve with them.
Speaker 5 (33:38):
Right.
Speaker 4 (33:40):
So, going back to the going back to the first
question of what can some people learn about the intimacy levels? Right,
one is understanding what they are. So you have emotional intimacy,
which is understanding your emotions, Understanding how to communicate your emotions,
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Understanding that when these emotions come up, how do.
Speaker 5 (34:04):
They impact your body?
Speaker 4 (34:06):
Right?
Speaker 5 (34:06):
What what is the trigger in your.
Speaker 4 (34:08):
Body when you're when you're angry? Right, So here's an example.
When you're angry, do you lash out right?
Speaker 5 (34:16):
Do you shut down? Right? Do you go to the
gym and blow off steam? Right?
Speaker 4 (34:22):
Do you jump on Amazon and go shopping? Do you
do retail therapy when you're sad? Do you shop when
you're depressed? Is that what you do when you're sad?
Do you shut the world out and deal with there
are things on your own? Or do you allow your
helpers to help you in life and.
Speaker 5 (34:40):
You share what's going on with you?
Speaker 4 (34:43):
Right? When you make mistakes and you're you're you're dealing
with with with fear and you're dealing with a mistake,
do you shame yourself? Right? Understanding your emotions and how
they impact you in your in your body? Do you
get anxiety and PA think attacks when when stressed? And
if so, do you shut everybody out? And I can
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do it myself? Right? These are like different things that
you should know and learn and understand when it comes
to your when it comes to yourself, and how do
you manage your emotions when they come up? You know
what I'm saying? Those are those are important. And then
the the other one is intellectual intimacy. And I like
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that because I'm a I'm a.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Safe What does that mean? What is intellectual in intimacy?
Speaker 4 (35:33):
So the best way I describe intellectual intimacy is being
able to know what you like to learn about, know
what stimulates the intellect. Know what stimulates the mind, No,
it stimulates the brain. For example, I love to read.
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I love to be around somebody that can that can
teach me about things that I've always wanted to know
and I don't and I don't know how to do
them right because I'm always researching, I'm always learning something new.
I'm always kind of perfecting my craft and studying and researching.
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That is just something that I do. I love to
read about history, I love to read about culture.
Speaker 5 (36:21):
I love to learn and go and travel.
Speaker 4 (36:24):
That's intimate to me, right, So for a partner, I
think it would be very sexy to be able to
not only communicate to them what I like intellectually, right,
what kind of what, what kind of things I want
to learn about, but to be able to share those
things with me, to learn something new with me. Have
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you ever learned something with your partner that you never
knew about and they never know about and now it's
something that you guys have experienced together.
Speaker 5 (36:59):
And it mays you, it makes you closer.
Speaker 4 (37:04):
Have you ever done that and a part of that
is experienced that it brings me into experiential intimacy, and that.
Speaker 5 (37:10):
Can be a lot of things. You can a lot
of times.
Speaker 4 (37:15):
An experience can be a death, when you experience death
with somebody and you and they're there for you while
you grieve. Right when you experience hardship, when you experience
a storm, when you experience a promotion, when you like,
when you experience something that is like whatever that might be,
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that makes you closer. That's a level of intimacy that
you have with your other person. And the spiritual intimacy
that could be anything, whatever your spiritual belief is.
Speaker 5 (37:47):
It could be.
Speaker 4 (37:47):
Grounding, it could be going to church, it could be meditating,
whatever that is for you, that intimate time that you
do for you, that time with God, right, that time
with your creator, that that that that times just sit
and meditate, that time to go to the beach and
just be one with your spreend, whatever spiritual practice you have.
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That's that's an intimate thing that you do with yourself.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
And to me norm what's inside of things? I mean
you to think about yourself as like a gift or present.
The one thing you want to do is you want
to unwrap it and see what's inside. But I feel
like oftentimes when we're dealing with relationships or even dealing
with ourselves. We are afraid to see what's inside. And
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the very thing that's inside is what makes you you.
The very thing that's in, what's inside is going to
what's going to help you connect with someone else, And wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
You want to know what that connection is made of.
Speaker 4 (38:45):
For yourself?
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Hello? You know it's you know, it's scary.
Speaker 4 (38:49):
You can't you can't find your perfect color out there,
your perfect color match out there if you're out there
painting in somebody else's shades.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Oh, don't play when me play with yourself?
Speaker 4 (39:02):
Well yeah, you know, like like like wanting somebody else's relationship,
like saying all their relationship goes that no one is,
so should be your relationship because no one is you,
no one experienced like you.
Speaker 5 (39:15):
Ten people can experience.
Speaker 4 (39:17):
The same thing ten different ways. Don't you want what
you want in? You? Like your way? I don't want
to experience life everybody else's way. I want to experience
love and a relationship my way. Now, how I was
told to, Now, how I was conditioned to?
Speaker 1 (39:33):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (39:34):
Yeah, so we're talking with Keanu Monroe. Everybody, Yes, she
is an NLP and EQ coach. Here transforming lives and
she has an upcoming mixer entitled the Crayon Theory Mixer.
Will you identify yourself by your primary colors which also
impacts of your relationship with yourself and then also with others.
We know that Valentine's stays around the corner. What shade
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are you coming to the table with. I'm just saying
so with this, Max said, there are going to be
twelve women, twelve men who are going to go through
I guess a dating ground or speed dating with the
tools that you are going to quit with them within
a one hour session. Now the question is I know
that you are doing this for a very special project.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
This will be a pilot.
Speaker 2 (40:17):
Is there any way for anyone that is not in
the state of California, anyone that is not in Englewood?
Will they be able to stream it? Are you offering
a possibility of that?
Speaker 5 (40:26):
Yes, yes I am.
Speaker 4 (40:28):
I will put it up on my YouTube. Details coming.
You know, we got to edit it and all the
other jazzs. But I actually I am considering doing the
Life Matters Podcast special edition Crayon Theory Theory special Edition
style where I will do versions of it online and
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in person. So the interesting thing about this one.
Speaker 5 (40:56):
Is people will people will mix.
Speaker 4 (40:59):
Again, it's snapshot of what an entire season would would be,
and people will mix, people will mingle.
Speaker 5 (41:06):
And the whole point and.
Speaker 4 (41:07):
Purpose of it is this is before people know what
their color is.
Speaker 5 (41:13):
So most of the right, So most of the.
Speaker 4 (41:15):
Time people have the tendency to flirt and lightly ask
questions and get their little representative without having any understanding
of who this person is or why they ask their
typical questions, right, all all of that jazz, and then
they will do the work with.
Speaker 1 (41:36):
Me then and then.
Speaker 4 (41:40):
They will find out what their color is. And here's
the thing. When you do your speed dating, you'll have
a special little pin that will go on or like
a little like a little like a little sticker. I
have stickers, and I have pins just in case people
don't want to puncture their clothes. And you will know
when you do the speed dating ground is this my color?
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Is this? Right?
Speaker 5 (42:03):
For the I'm not going you will know.
Speaker 4 (42:07):
You will know, and the other person will know. And
it's like do you date the person anyway?
Speaker 1 (42:13):
You know?
Speaker 4 (42:13):
Auntie Maya Angelou said, when people show you who.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
They are, believe you to believe them.
Speaker 4 (42:20):
And a lot of times what we see and the
interesting thing is for the show I actually wanted to
play out for the world to see right, for the
audience to see themselves through the participants of knowing that
you have chemistry with somebody, but your values are not
in alignments. But because they look good and because they
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you know, they fit some some of the you know, the.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
Checkbox, the different parts of your body getting excited.
Speaker 4 (42:51):
That don't mean yeah, they look good, then you know
you date them anyway. You date them any and a
lot of times you find this in dating somebody who
says I don't want kids, and you date them anyway, thinking.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
That you can change and they said I don't want them.
Speaker 5 (43:12):
That you can change their mind, or thinking that you
can tolerate.
Speaker 4 (43:17):
You know, they tell you what their lifestyle is. They
don't ever want to be married, and you're like.
Speaker 5 (43:21):
That's because they have been that need.
Speaker 4 (43:23):
No, they're morals and values based off their value structure.
Speaker 5 (43:29):
They don't want it. It's that they don't want it.
Speaker 4 (43:33):
And a part of the acceptance of self is saying
I love me so much that I'm going to release
you with love. I hope you go and find whatever
you're looking for you. Fine, But however, comma, if I
played this game with you, if I'm looking for something serious,
like if I really want something serious, not right away,
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but I'm definitely going down that road, right is I'm gonna.
Speaker 5 (44:02):
I'm gonna let you go be with somebody that wants
what you want.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
Oh my gosh, I just came with something.
Speaker 5 (44:07):
I'm gonna. I'm gonna.
Speaker 4 (44:09):
I'm gonna give you back to the streets and not
invite you into my I just.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Came up with something.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
If you keep playing with somebody's but, you're sure going
to make an ass of yourself.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
But catch it.
Speaker 2 (44:22):
I said, you better catch it because it's coming in hot.
You keep playing with somebody's but and you're gonna find
yourself in somebody's ass. Yeah, don't play with me, play
with yourself. Okay, Yeah, Yeah, that was good, KNDA, That's
really good. Now I want to open up. I know
based on restrain me. But if you would like to
call in the studio right now eight one eight four
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six one fifty four thirty two, you can join this
live of conversation. I've also included the link if you
like to join us on video or call link Wise,
those who aren't TikTok. You gotta show up on the
FB uh because Kenna you didn't. She's not on her
TikTok right now for us to join that way. So nevertheless,
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we appreciate too. Now one more time, what is the website?
How does someone register? Is this open for anyone to attend?
How can somebody keep up to date us to this
event and then those in the future.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
Thirty enough, I would say we're dealing with growing fo.
Speaker 4 (45:20):
I'm going to open it up very soon. I'm going
to do the next season of Life Matters podcast. I
will do it the Crayon Theory Special Editions, and then
it'll be on I'll allow it to be on on
on YouTube. I'm actually starting a Patreon with it, so
I'll be doing Patreon very soon and that will be
starting the second season and strictly focusing on the crayon Theory.
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You can also go to my website www. Dot keanumonroel
dot com and book a session with me or hang
tight because after the eighth I am going to do
a special announcement of when and I will be opening
up for the Crayon Theory Workshop. And as you know,
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don like you've done the workshop virtually online, which I've
done with a group of people, and everybody kind of
goes through the motions and find out what their color
match is, or I do it in person.
Speaker 5 (46:16):
The interesting thing about doing it in person is that
people come in.
Speaker 4 (46:19):
They mingle a little bit. I've actually had.
Speaker 5 (46:22):
Some people meet their person, like meet their color match.
Speaker 4 (46:26):
In my workshop, I had two couples and I have
a wedding. I didn't go to the wedding because they
did it, you know, they did destination wedding of C's.
Speaker 5 (46:38):
But it does, it does work. I've had people.
Speaker 4 (46:43):
In the workshop saying, you know what, I thought I
was ready to date, but I'm not ready. I think
a lot of the things that I remember her saying,
I think all of the things that I desire in
a person is rooted in like my trauma, and I
am looking I feel like all of the things that
(47:04):
I've been looking for. Because again, it's a lot of
work I give I give you a lot of work,
and I ask you a lot of questions.
Speaker 5 (47:12):
Right, and it's interactive. It's not just to me talking
as to you. It's it's it's interactive.
Speaker 4 (47:16):
And after peeling back a lot of those layers, and
and and asking you what your non negotiables are, asking
you why if these are your values, how do you
operate in that? Can people around you confirm? Does your
circle of friends represent what it.
Speaker 5 (47:33):
Is that you say you you you value?
Speaker 1 (47:35):
Right?
Speaker 4 (47:37):
One of the things I've asked people is what's your
what's your love language?
Speaker 5 (47:41):
And how do you experience it for yourself?
Speaker 4 (47:44):
Because if words of affirmation is your love language and
you are serious about it, but you talk to yourself
like trash, that's a problem.
Speaker 5 (47:55):
Is it really your love language?
Speaker 4 (47:57):
Do you want to talk to Do you want someone
you require and demand somebody to talk to you in
ways you don't talk to yourself, right, Because if you
don't talk to yourself that way, but you want them
to talk to you that way, Eventually, with time, when
the representative has made it exit, you are going to
talk to that person that way.
Speaker 1 (48:17):
You know when you said you people that are like narcissists.
Speaker 5 (48:21):
All that innership onto the other person.
Speaker 4 (48:24):
Right. If gifts is your love language, how do you
show that to yourself? That's really important. It's it's and
the interesting thing, it's not necessarily about finding a partner.
Speaker 5 (48:40):
I want people to be very.
Speaker 4 (48:41):
Clear that finding somebody is fantastic.
Speaker 5 (48:45):
I want somebody to find.
Speaker 4 (48:49):
A love in this right, But the love that I
want people to discover is the love that they have
for themselves.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
Okay, I got a quick question. I got a question
that came through. I got a question.
Speaker 2 (48:59):
It's not necessary, jan I got a question that came
through on tak time.
Speaker 1 (49:02):
Help me tell me. They said, that's so interesting. This
is from Nick of Time.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
Tell us more about the representative quote unquote, when dating,
say that one more time, tell us more about the representative.
Speaker 1 (49:17):
When dating, everybody.
Speaker 4 (49:20):
Some a lot of times brings their representative when when
when you date, it's trying to ask the right questions, right.
Speaker 5 (49:31):
It is making sure you don't say the wrong saying.
Speaker 4 (49:34):
It's making sure that you know, you don't say too much,
you don't do too much. You don't this you you
you don't want to come off as this way, and
you don't want to come off too sensitive. I'm a
sensitive person, but I don't don't want to show.
Speaker 5 (49:48):
That right away.
Speaker 4 (49:49):
Or you know, I I have ADHD or I have
like because I know I do M I don't mind
sharing that in certain life. But it's it's going on
a date and just asking surface level questions. Also, because
(50:10):
not only are you afraid to ask the wrong question,
you're afraid to let them see a version of you.
Speaker 5 (50:21):
That they might not like. Hmmm, so right, so you you.
Speaker 4 (50:27):
You show up as a version that's approved right now
and over time, I'll let them. I'll let them see
you know the ugliness, So I'll let them see that
you know, and not necessarily ugliness, that's that's not the
that's actually not the right word. But your quirks, your
unique things about you that make you you. Right. That's
(50:49):
why I said radical acceptance of oneself is.
Speaker 5 (50:53):
Key, and it's knowing that.
Speaker 4 (50:55):
And my thing is, I'm not going to show up
on a date so that I can and make sure
that this person that checks off all the boxes likes me,
because this is the type of person my mother will like.
Speaker 5 (51:08):
This is the type of person my parents will like.
This is the type of person that if I get
with right, I will be relationship goals, This.
Speaker 4 (51:16):
Will look good on social media, right, I will have
made it right.
Speaker 5 (51:21):
Whatever the fill in the blank.
Speaker 4 (51:24):
So I am going to make sure that I show
up the way I'm supposed to show up. It's almost
like sometimes people treat dating like a job interview.
Speaker 5 (51:33):
It's not a job interview. This, this is some this
is something you're.
Speaker 4 (51:38):
You are out spending your time and money and energy
right to have a conversation to see if somebody is
your purpose partner and if they are in line, if
they are you know, do they know themselves? How they
met themselves? Because like I told you the last time,
(51:59):
I was so, people can only meet you and connect
to you at the level of which they've connected and
met themselves, right exactly, Like, like how can I how
can I How can I have compassion for you? And
I don't have compassion for myself? How can I learn
how to have patience with you and deep understanding?
Speaker 2 (52:20):
I usually say this in the time when compassion for
somebody else, I'll be like, don't cheat yourself. You better
treat yourself and what that means, don't cheat yourself in
these types of predicaments and these situations. Understand that I
think what you said, there's a fine line between showing
up as your best self and then showing up as
the representative.
Speaker 4 (52:42):
You can show. Yes, here's the thing. You can show
up as your your your your best self.
Speaker 5 (52:48):
But if you know you want some fried chicken. Don't
don't order a.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
Salad you can. You know you've hold I'm not really hungry.
Speaker 4 (53:00):
Yes you are that you are, you only have a
creen juice that dang you hungry?
Speaker 2 (53:07):
You know. I guess that kind of resonated with me
because it's like you want to show up as your
best self.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
But then also I want to be myself.
Speaker 2 (53:14):
But that doesn't mean you being yourself is not showing
you know, your nails, messed up, your hair, your clothes.
Speaker 1 (53:20):
Superficial things.
Speaker 2 (53:21):
But like you said when you talk about getting into me,
how you treat yourself is going to determine how you
treat me, because if you ain't treating yourself good, why
would you treat me any better?
Speaker 5 (53:32):
Don you answered your own questions?
Speaker 1 (53:33):
I know that that's what you're doing with people, Like.
Speaker 4 (53:35):
When you said not going with your nails undone, with
your hair a mess? When when I when I love me,
I care about my gonna do that anyway? I care
about how I look, no matter what it like. You
just so happened to get to go out with me.
Do you understand what I'm saying?
Speaker 5 (53:51):
Don't you get to have breakfast with me?
Speaker 4 (53:55):
But whenever when a breakfast, lunch, cocktails happy. You are
going to get me the way I get myself and
I'm not gonna I'm not gonna look raggedy because I
love me. I will always bring it back to life matters,
loving yourself.
Speaker 2 (54:12):
And you know, just on the other side too. And
I know we got to wrap this up. We're hereting
our our point.
Speaker 4 (54:18):
Also, I think.
Speaker 1 (54:18):
Another thing is to get keep me.
Speaker 2 (54:20):
Dang, I forgot it. It just left my brain.
Speaker 1 (54:24):
Oh oh oh oh.
Speaker 2 (54:26):
Also making room for the other person to show up
as who they are and not trying to change them,
like even dating somebody like you said, if they're not
the type of person that you know, say this may
sound so trivial, okay, but maybe they aren't the individual
that brushes their teeth in the morning and at night.
Speaker 1 (54:45):
That's so surface level.
Speaker 2 (54:46):
But don't come in trying to change that person about
whatever their habit is. I think you can probably inspire them,
but don't come in expecting something different because that's not
the part of their routine. And best belief, if they're
in a performative moment, that's only gonna last for some
of the mone of time.
Speaker 5 (55:01):
Right, here's the thing too.
Speaker 1 (55:03):
Okay, let me wrap this up. We got a minute.
Speaker 5 (55:05):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (55:05):
I always say chemistry is my compatibility, right, and what
here's the thing about. What I'm going to teach other
people how to do when they when they go on this,
when they go to this mixer is how to express
primary love to themselves and to others. And it is
creating a safe space, right and an emotional safe space
(55:26):
for people to be authentically themselves in your presence, to
be vulnerable, to be transparent without fear of condemnation and judgment.
Speaker 5 (55:37):
Here's the space. This is who I am. Show me
who you are, and let's see if we're aligned.
Speaker 4 (55:41):
And if not, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (55:43):
You look good, You look good.
Speaker 5 (55:45):
Good.
Speaker 4 (55:46):
What I want you to be with who you deserve
and I want you to not trap me and let
me go be with who I deserve out of respect
and love for yourself and out of respect and love
for me.
Speaker 1 (56:00):
All right, Well, then there you have it. Okay.
Speaker 2 (56:02):
So, in case you did not know, I'm talking with
Keana Monroe, who happens to be a NLP and EQ
coach who's hosting the Crayon Theory mixer happening this Friday.
Speaker 1 (56:14):
Is that character. Saturday Saturday.
Speaker 2 (56:16):
Okay, Saturday from six thirty Women's we need some guys
Saturday from six point thirty to ten thirty. Make sure
you follow Keana on all social media. Keana loves Me.
Sign up, get to know yourself and perhaps you can
get to know somebody else. Anything else Keana that you
(56:38):
would like to share with the people today.
Speaker 5 (56:41):
Love yourself, Love yourself.
Speaker 4 (56:43):
Sorry, sometimes the best way to love yourself is to
be honest.
Speaker 1 (56:46):
Hey, keep in the real so you know, Nanda, Thank
you so much, Kenna.
Speaker 2 (56:52):
I appreciate you, lolcome always. Well there you have it,
beautiful people. That was keanum and make sure you follow
her on all social media. Keana loves Me. I really
appreciate you tuning in online. We get in the hour
mark today. I appreciate you and I love you. If
you'd like to be a guest, or you would like
(57:13):
to submit a Vitamin D advice letter, I want to
encourage you to send me an email. Vitamin D at
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personal dose of vitamin D.
Speaker 1 (57:32):
That be me, baby.
Speaker 2 (57:33):
You can follow me on all social media. Dawn d
A I speaks all right. You know I'm in the
business of making dreams come true and I damn shell
ma't gon forget about mind. So until next time, family,
I always remember you are your greatest ass.
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Set get your
Speaker 3 (57:49):
VIT you right with me, I get excited about your life.
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