FULL INTERVIEW: Married To Medicine ‘Sweet Tea’ Explains How Dr. Heavenly Crashed Her Wedding + More
January 23, 2024 • 27 mins
Married To Medicine ‘Sweet Tea’ Explains How Dr. Heavenly Crashed Her Wedding + More
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What's its way for Angela Yee?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I'm Angela Yee And this is exciting because we just
had Doctor Heavenly on and now, sweetie, if I'm married
to Medicine, is here with us? Hey, yep, I'm here
all right? So first season, I'm married to Medicine. You're
the youngest out of all the women on the show.
I am, which you make sure they.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Know I am right, So they make sure they let
me know.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
And you guys are about to film the reunion. Yes,
so how are you feeling.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I'm a little nervous about it.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
I have a lot to get off my chest and
I just want to make sure that I'm heard.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Okay, Yeah. Are you going in there with a game plan? Somewhat?
I can't.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
I can't tell you exactly what the game plan is,
but I will be prepared.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
All right.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
So let's talk about some things that happened, because this
is your first season on the show, and definitely a
lot of storylines.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Let's use that word instead of drama.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
A lot of storylines revolved around certain things that you
had going on. So I just want to make sure
that we clarify certain things. And like we said, Doctor
Heavenly was here the other day, and so just even
you getting onto the show, she did have a hand
in that, Is that correct?
Speaker 1 (01:10):
She did? Okay?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
And I met her at the Jackie's first fifty Shades
of Pink, and her and Jackie both worked and really
wanted me to be a part of the show, and
eventually it came in a fruition and I joined with
that with her encouragement, and you know the opportunity.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
All right.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And then your husband, doctor g would he have been
on the show without you or gone shows more about
the women. So so the reason he's there really is
because of me, is because of it, and I'm there
because of him.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay. He brought me on since he was on the
show previously.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
All right, and so now, of course he was previously
married to Quad. Yes, and so that also happened on
this season. Now, Phaeder invited Quad to your bridal shower,
and you actually reacted in a way I didn't expect
you would like sit next to me. You were very
nice to her. Doctor Heavenly was here. She said, you're
a fan of Quid. Now what were you thinking when
(02:02):
that happened? And why was that your reaction?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
That was my reaction?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Because me and my husband had a conversation about how
when I when I come into this group, he didn't
want me to get into it.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
He didn't want to see his new wife fight with
his ex wife. And because of these women, they're very
strong opinionated. Some people tell lies.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
I just wanted her to sit next to me and
hear from my mouth before anybody else starts to spend
the narrative their way.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
What did you think about Quid when you got to
meet here for the first time.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
And such a such an ung retire it was, it
was It was kind of awkward, but there's no animosity
between her and I. When I sat down I met
with her, I thought she was she was nice. You know,
there's there's nothing like she was married to Gregory years ago.
I met Gregory about a couple of years after the divorce,
so it really shouldn't be an issue.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
So it was no problem. She actually congratulate.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Us on our engagement a couple of months fires so
any think it would be a.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Big deal, right, And also you found out the news
that it was going to be more expensive to have
your wedding. Your reaction was very like what was going
on with that reaction because I didn't know if something
else happened, if it was editing, but what was really
going on.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
A lot was going on. I switched my venue last minute,
and I couldn't get the videographer and all that to
film there, so I had to switch it last minute,
and it was like two days prior, and it came
with like additional space to decorate and that was just
gonna cost me fourteen thousand dollars. So it was just
(03:29):
a lot I was unexpected to pay, Like I had
already lost my deposit on the first venue, and then
I paid for the second au plus additional fourteen thousand
dollars just to decorate the space.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
So I don't know your wedding, I'd be like, we
might got a yeah, right. I. It was just a
lot for me to withstand.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
And then like then I had to meltdown about that,
and then they walked into XYX.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
So it was just like so much happening, Yeah, so much.
I felt like it was just everything piled up against me.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
And that's why I kind of just when you saw
the footage of his bachelor party and he invited did
the stripper to the wedding?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
What did you think about that. Hey, I am.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
A woman that's very confident in my relationship and then
my and my man, and I'm like a.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Half fun, right, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
I had my I had two bachelor parties, one with
the ladies, and I did my own with my my
family and my close friends back in Texas.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Saw the ladies. We saw some massages.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, yeah, so you know, I was like, do you
have fun? But I was like, okay, you did a
little much come out, you know, taking his pants down,
and they're not coming back, come back like you trying
to get that filming you right, I also know their filming,
so it was only so far up. But you know
what I realized, because you are the new one on
(04:44):
the show, people are experienced at having moments. You know,
it's ten seasons in and so for you, this is
your first season. So what did you learn in this
first season when it comes to filming, because I'm sure
certain things you didn't expect or maybe you didn't know
how to to react because a lot of this is
sometimes for TV.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah it is.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
It's been difficult because I'm like, I wait, it didn't
happen like that, you know, but you gotta just roll
with the punches, and I'm learning to turn the negatives
into a positive and I'm just I'm learning about it
every day. It's just it can be tough because I
get frustrated and sometimes I call my pr lady and they're like,
you know, but I'm trying to control my own narrative
(05:25):
on my social media. Yeah, I want people to get
to know me for who I am, because I'm not
just Gregory's wife. You know, I was a woman before that.
I worked for the intelligence community. I was in the
Air Force Reserves. I was a pharmacy tech. I worked
in toxicology, I worked in sleep lab. I did medical records.
I've done so mad. Yeah, like you do put some
(05:47):
respect on my name.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Was there ever a time and you were like I
can't do this anymore? Yes? When? Like when was that?
Speaker 3 (05:55):
I would say, really honestly, after a hole down, I
felt disrespected with him bringing up the ex wife often,
and I just felt like it was intentional, you know.
It was just like the gimmer and my skin, and
then it was like at the batch reread party, it
was just like two days prior to my wedding.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
It's supposed to be happy.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
I'm supposed to be in bliss right now, and I
was like, I just feel like everything's like piling up
on me. And you know, I worked a full time job.
You know, I work at a government job. So it
was just at times like it was just a lot
to just be filming and then going to go find
the clothes and then do the hair and the makeup,
and then you know, working a full time job, planning
a wedding within six months when we actually got married,
(06:32):
it was just so much. And I'm new to Atlanta,
never lived with a man. Like everything was new, new,
new to new.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
So it was just so tough for me.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah, I think people have to take that into consideration
when they're watching too, Yeah, that this is all new
for you. Yes, Now what about you saying that doctor
G is controlling? Did you really say that and do
you feel that way?
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Well, at the time, while I said it, I was
thought I was confining a friend and also like I
was intoxicated, so of course, like my feelings were heightened.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You know, I had been drinking and you know, thinking.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
I'm drinking with a friend, and I just that's what
That's kind of how I felt at the time. But
I think that I did not use the right word.
I think that like he maybe manipulated the situation and
he tried to do as best he could because he
was trying to remind me to set the alarm, and like,
you know, we've already dealt with that.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
He's learned from it. I gotten that ass a little bit,
and you know, and he knows, like you know, that's
that's not okay.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
And we are you know, we're learning, we're growing in
through a relationship, and any issues that we deal with,
we're supposed to overcome come it and move on.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
And you said that doctor Heavenly said that her husband
had cheated on her previously, but she denies that.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, so what was that conversation? So well, really we had.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
That sit down conversation when I was saying Gregory was controlling,
she actually admitted, Like I was like, how do you
deal with conflict?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
And she was like, you know, she told me about a.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
Story and she said that one time Damon came home
late and she hit him outside of him Ryan Pa.
So I'm putting two and two together because she also
told me when Mariah originally said that she that she
had receipts on Damon when he cheated, she said heavily
actually said that she believed him.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
And I said, well, you're supposed to believe. Why would
you believe.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Mariah's supposed to you know, have faith in your man.
And she was all like, you know, shoot, I believed it.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
So she's been trying to get ahead of it. She's
been saying like, oh, you.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Know, if he did, I'm buying some ass like you know,
that's just her getting I just put two and two together,
like said, she.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Didn't find evidence.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
She just believes that she saw or caught him cheating, right,
It's just that somebody else told her that, and she
kind of she.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
Went with She was like she was afraid and she
said that like she was like checking and asking Damon,
like is everything okay? So you know, hey, she's deflecting,
I think, and I think that she pretends like her
relationship is perfect, but we know it it would all
crumble like a chips and hoy cookie.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Well, she always says that her relationship is kind of
off limits when it comes to you know, she'll tell
every thing, but certain things she doesn't want to do.
You think that the show has affected your relationship any
way because it has been stressful.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
It has been stressful.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
I think that this is just another obstacle that we
had to overcome, and it's making us stronger in our relationship,
especially going through all the things that we went through
with like putting our business out in the public, and
then it's just like, you know, he's working on working.
But I think that it's making our relationship better and
(09:30):
I'm hoping that people learn from us. And the whole
point of being on reality TV is just to be real.
Like I signed up to just tell my story. I
didn't come on the show to refute anything that Quad
said or anything. I just wanted to be me and
this is me and my husband tell our story, Like
you know, everybody else has to get their own story.
Hents heavenly why she keeps trying to talk about me
(09:50):
every week?
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Right, You're the fresh meat on the show, right, you
know it does kind of feel like the season is
mostly about you.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
You know, you also uninvited her to your wedding. I
was like, was that real? Because she still managed to
slide in there? So right, and so what how does
she get in? Still? I don't I guess Johnny my
wedding planner.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
He said that she kind of like, uh, he got
distracted and someone called him somewhere.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And then she ended up slipping through the door.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
I didn't actually see it. You know, maybe it maybe
it look like I saw it, but I didn't actually
see it for myself. I saw her on the dance
floor and I told her I was gonna kick her ass.
But right before I was coming into my wedding, I
actually saw her. My dad, we were gonna walk in
the ceremony. I was going through the lobbying and She's like, hey, baby, yeah,
and I was like, ooh, I'm gonna whoop your ass.
I said it just like that, And it's like, she
just admitted to you that she's not friends with any
(10:38):
of the husbands. So it's just like, why are you
Why do you want to come? Your sand is not
gonna work, why do you even want to be there? Recently,
she actually she actually denied, like she denied the RSVP,
like she said she wouldn't attend. But mind you, it's
happened months ago. She's just been trolling meant.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
I mean, shet up a ten seasons. You know, she
has a tactic.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, she's she's keeping it going and yeah, and I
think it's something we could learn from.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Another thing that we talked about was the live that you.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Guys did that turned chaotic, Yeah and so, and I
just want to talk about that up here because that
was a popular topic. But about her mom, she said,
you apologize, but not to her directly, for you know
right right.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
She's actually blocked on my phone right now because she's
been talking about me every week on her YouTube channel.
So it's just like, I don't I don't really, she
hasn't really apologized to me directly.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I've told her that she's done things.
Speaker 3 (11:34):
She's been on this Nation, she's been on a Ricky
Smiley show, she's been saying negative things about me on
her YouTube every week, and she hasn't apologized really for
that directly to me. So I asked her not to
do it, and she did it even more so it's like,
you know, even if she did apologize, I know that
it's not you know, genuine, So I don't feel like
I owe her anything like she does. She's she's been
(11:54):
talking about my family, and it's like, I'm gonna apologize
publicly for me, not really for her.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
What's the way forward?
Speaker 2 (12:01):
You think for you, guys, because that seems the person
that you butt heads with out of everybody the most.
And I know for you, I've seen, like on your
Instagram page, certain things that you've said about real friendships,
and you've learned a lot, a.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
Lot about friendships and not everybody has my best interest,
and I think that's something my mother has been trying
to like warm me, like, not everybody your friend. You
can't trust people, even my friends. And I'm just so nice,
but I have to learn the hard way. And you know,
whenever people show you who they are, you believe them.
And as far as me and her and going forward,
I just hope that she addressed the childhood trauma that
(12:36):
she's gone through and you know, maybe get a teddy bear.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
I don't know, talking to a psychiatrists. Okay, so nothing yet.
Gathering from that. Now another really big topic.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
And look, this is something that I think you know,
you being able to discuss is not an easy thing
to do, and people have to understand that. But it
is also something that a lot of women have to
deal with. And this is you and finding out God, yes,
and fibroids.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Five boards.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
I had five boards, and I had tattoo cysts that
were in my outside my uterine lining. And it's been
very difficult because I've always had pain in my whole life.
Like a lot of women, they have cramps, but I
started having cramps in between my cycles. And one day,
it was like two months before I me and Gregory
got married, I went to the hospital and it was
(13:26):
so I couldn't even walk.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
It got to that point.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
But I've by now I've gotten surgery, and you know,
we're actually trying to have a baby. And I think
that I believe in that scene, I kind of I
didn't understand really what infertile means. And then what that
means is like if you're not able to have a
baby within twelve months like you're, then you're considered infertile.
So like we just I just had my surgery back
in August. I was on ber control for three months
to make sure I heal. So now we are, you know,
(13:52):
actively trying. Now I'm offer control act. So it's mean
it's only been like two three months and I'm not
considered infertile just yet.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
How you haven't fun trying at least I am?
Speaker 2 (14:03):
I mean, that's you know, that's the bonus side of it,
and like what about other things, like IVF is something
you could say, Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
IVF is something that we're gonna consider. I Mean I
kind of look at like being infertile. Everybody's makes it
such a bad thing, but like in my mind, I
believe it's like being in control of your fertility.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
There's so many options out there.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
I mean, God has blessed us with technology and people
have the right knowledge. So I'm in control of my
fertility and we're gonna have our baby.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, And I think that's a positive thing for you
to discuss because a lot of women, especially Black women,
have to deal with fibraids and endometrios is. I have
a coach, a detox actor who actually comes up here
and we talk a lot about fibraids and she's helped
people who I know, because for women to understand that
when you're having these pains are really heavy bleeding, that's
(14:48):
not normal, right, and it's really important to see you
know what it is. And there are also ways that
you can, even without having surgery, be able to you know,
shrink the size of your fibraids or the amount of them.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
So there are things that you can do.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Yes, I'm learning there's like things like ashraganda it's really
good for fertility, and I've.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Been thinking about starting up. I'm not thinking about my
actually working on my medicinal tea line, so I'm thinking about, okay,
doing that.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Positive things you can come out to help with, like
you know, any minstrel pain and all that kind of stuff,
anything to increase you know, your fertility, to chant stapping
the maybe, I'm all for that.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
So I'm just trying to kind of deprogram and like
eat different foods. Yes, exactly. Since filming the show, so
I've been learning a lot about myself and my body.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Yeah, she has this whole waterfast thing that is supposed
to really help you know, people with that and another thing. Okay,
so doctor g he also had to get his sperm tested, yes,
as well, because sometimes we look at it like the women,
but we also have to take into account of.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
The men, right, Yeah, we do. We actually done two
home to us and does that work? You know, I've
never been in a bathroom with them when he did it,
But he came out with the results. It came out
with the results and.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
There was like it was it was twenty min million,
but I told him, like, we need to go to
an actual specialists and just make sure everything is good
because he's afraid, like what if I can't do it?
Speaker 1 (16:12):
You know?
Speaker 3 (16:13):
And that was like we actually took a break within
our relationship for a little bit because he was like,
I want to be able to give you the baby,
like you know, he wants the baby, but he wants
to give me a baby too, So we took a
break and it took a while because of our age difference.
And he's like, well if I'm too old and you know,
I can't go anywhere, but like, you know, you got
to live life.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
I feel like men have it much easier too, because
they don't have the same biological clock.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Right, you're right, they have years old.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
You just had a baby, rapping and narrow, yeah right,
you know they having kids yep, and.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
It's and it's incredible. But do you know these older
men they looking like that, They look like they're in
forty They looking real good. Is he the oldest man
that you've dated, I mean been with before? Yeah, well
I dated someone around the same age. So you like
older men? I do? Why is that? Because I feel that.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
Older men are more ready to settle down and they
live life. And they you know, they looked they looked
at like younger women. They're looking at other younger women
as a benefit, and they're looking for like youthfulness and
you know, bring fun in their life and excitement.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
And with my women my age nowadays, with the way dating,
the dating pool got peetted it.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
So nowadays, I feel like women my age are looking
for men that are just more settled down and you know,
just more experienced, and like why not find that in
the older man?
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Like why not?
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Because like I feel like the men and my age
I had to hold her hand and help them to
their goals.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
And I'm like, no, you know, I'm trying to I'm
trying to sit down somewhere.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
What about your twin My twins she's married someone actually
around her age, like.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Two years alter.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
She feels because you're her sister, and I feel like
she comes to your defense. She does a lot, and
so what is her thoughts, Like when you're talking to
her about everything that's going on.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Man, my sister be ready to fight.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
She'd be ready to fight, but like she's she's been
like like the supporting role. She's been my support system.
This whole time through it. But there's certain things Kensia
can do that I'm like, I still got to deal
these women and say what she want to say and
go home.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
But I still got to deal these women every day.
So it's like, Okay, Candi, shit, go ahead, unleash the knesia.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
I need some back I mean some backup, you know,
because I got to maintain these relationships.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
And so for you and for people in your hometown,
your family, how are they feeling watching your journey?
Speaker 3 (18:31):
You know what, some of my family do try not
to watch it because they get upset with some of
the ladies, especially Heavenly, my mom, like she's not feeling
it at all. But as long as I'm learning from
the ladies, and you know, they're all entrepreneurs, and I
think that we can learn a lot from each other.
But like I think of my parents, they're just kind
(18:51):
of like taking a back seat sometimes and like I
don't need to watch this because yeah, the baby, yeah
yeah yeah, because the women are their age, Like my
parents have been a really young age, so like some
of the women are older my mom my.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Mom's fifty one. Oh well your mom is young, yeah, yeah,
So you know, it's it's kind of hard for her.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
I'm still gonna always be her baby beer, so she
just feels like she's the mama bear, like I need
to come and live me, you know, I think about it.
I put myself in like I look at my little nephew.
He's three, my sister's baby, and I'm like, and I
can't imagine someone my age picking on.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Him, you know. So I guess that's how kind of
how they both feel.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
But you know, your husband is a lot older, so
his circle is gonna be, yeah, a circle. What about
bringing him around your circle.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
We are you know, I kind of struggle with that
at times with some of my friends because they didn't
know how to be you know.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
But I'm actually surrounding my.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
Myself more so with friends that are in age GAT
relationships because it's actually more common than you think.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
I have a lot of.
Speaker 3 (19:48):
Friends that in our age GAT relationship. Like my friend
over here her boyfriend seventeen years older. I mean, this
is what these young women are looking for, Like they're
looking for older men because it's just it ain't where
it's it no more. Especially it's hard, especially in black men.
You know, it's not a lot of men that.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Are making six figures. Have you ever dated out of
your race?
Speaker 3 (20:09):
Yes, I had, and I've always been open. It's just
it just didn't work out for me. I found I
found mine on my I Love my Life in.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
The DMS, and you used to it in his den
went down to the that's it, hey, but it worked
out for you, it did, you know?
Speaker 3 (20:24):
I just hey, I say go after whatever you believe in,
like you never know, just start a conversation, like, you know,
this is techn new technology.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
We met during the time of COVID.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
And during the pandemic, so that was like the easiest
way to communicate with people when I was dating.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
I was like, hey, why not reach out to him
and say, hey, there anybody else you reached out to.
I just know I did meet some people on Clubhouse
because Clubhouse was getting.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Oh you was lit on comoring. I had to get
an invite. I don't even know what's going on in Clubhouse.
More logged back into it and I was like, oh,
it's ahead of time. Yeah, yeah, so some guys on Clubhouse.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
But yeah, but I'm at mine through the DMS, and
you know, I just said something really fun. I can
give you what you want and then you put the baby.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
That's why people feel like, oh, she did this, They
say that on the show, But the truth is, like
you found out what was wrong, right, you know the issues,
and that's not doesn't mean that it's not gonna happen, right,
And it just means that there's more work that you
have to do to make it happy.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
And my husband, I mean he's a doctor of psychiatry
and internal medicine so like, and he's been around the
block for years, Like you know, he wouldn't get divorced
and then be single for all these years and then
make a decision just based off of sole reason me
having a baby to just be with me, like you know,
he of course he knows my medical history.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
We've talked, we have the conversations. We've been together.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
We were three together three years prior to getting married,
so it's been long conversations about this.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
People have to realize that too because they see you
on the show and they think it happened like no, yeah, guys, No.
Speaker 3 (21:55):
We've been talking since twenty twenty of February when we
made an official in twenty twenty one, so we've known
each other this.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
You'll be there would be four years.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Were you concerned about any of the things that Quad
said that she had issues about when it came to him.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Did you guys discuss that.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
No, we never did discuss that, And I don't really
want to go down that road. I mean, her story
is her story, and I know the man who he
is today, and I think that she, you know, she
may have some some some issues with it, but like,
also it is kind of weird that she did reach
out and say, hey, congratulations, and she said she got
butterflies in her stomach.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
So it's just like, I'm really she's been kind of inconsistent.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Would it bother you if she rejoined the show, because
it feels like people are trying to get her to
come back on.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
It wouldn't really bother me, Like, it wouldn't be an issue.
I just would I prefer to leave the past in
the past and let's move forward.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
So you are down to do it another season if
I go back and forth.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
All the time because it was tough filming with Oh
my god, it was so tough film.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
Does it depend on this reunion? I think so.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
I think it's been dependent on the fans too, because
I have so many women that reach out to me.
It's like, you're doing a good job. You know, You're
you know, I'm watching the show because of you.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
And I'm like, wow, really, I'm.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Really making a difference, you know, right, you know, And
I talked, I talked to some of the fans, Like
I saw some of the airport at people DM me
about you know, matriosis and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Right, and if you're going to be doing things, because
I think one of the most important things people have
to realize on a platform like this, you need to
have something that you're selling to, right, you know, And
I think that's important while you have this going on,
at least let me get my business, right.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yes, I want to get my business. Start with the tea.
You know, they call me Sweet Tea on.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
The show, and I love tea. I love I love
drinking tea. So I was like, why not, you know,
have my own medicinal tea line. Maybe get some T shirts,
some tea cups hot.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Right, So you know, I was just like why not.
So this is a great opportunity. And I felt like
it was going to open doors. This is what Heaven
was telling me. It's gonna open the doors, right, And
She's right about that you joined dock to Heavenly University too.
I want my money back. But yeah, like you you know, yeah,
I didn't have to learn that.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
I did not really learn that through her, but like
you know, that's just the obvious. But she was trying
to convince me to join the show.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
So was But now she convinced you she did.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
She did, And I really do feel like once you
get into the groove and figure out it's like a dance,
it is, and once you get into that groove, because
I think right now, it's hard what everybody's.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Weighing in saying things.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
You don't know how things are edited until it comes out.
You don't know what people are saying about you until
you watch the episodes. You know, what was the hardest episode.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
For you to watch? The hardest was the Bachelor Party?
Like that was hard.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Like Sphaedrier actually wanted me to get on the live
on that Sunday and I actually did a green screen,
but I really didn't want to do it because it
was it was very emotional for me seeing me like
break down.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Like that because it is really sister.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
Yeah, it was still real life to me, you know,
And I'm not an actress, like what you see is
what you get, and it was one hundred percent of
me on the show. So I just I didn't like
watching it at all. And me fussing and fighting with
my sister, Yeah that was at but of course, yeah,
I think I think that, like, because she's my twin
(25:09):
and she's the closest to me, you take comfortable. Yeah,
it's the most comfortable. But she always gonna be there
for me, like she's done it to me, so it's like,
you know, we we we know each other, and I
felt safe with her.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
And there was one scene where you were trying on
dresses and everybody did not like that you were being
quote body shamed, but I think you had a great
reaction to that.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Yeah, I actually did not like it either.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
I was actually really upset and actually showed up to
the wine tasting that Toya did for her wine to
get upset. And you know, that's a very intimate moment,
like you know, you usually have your family there and
stuff like that, and I just felt like, whoa, you know,
y'all are kind of you know, body shaming me instead
of like, you know, the comments weren't really.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Endearing, right, you know, it wasn't like, I like the
way this one looks, that's amazing. Maybe if we take
this in here and right.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Yeah, it was just like you know, I felt like
when people see themselves on TV, because I noticed that too,
and a lot like people look way different season one
than they do by like yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
So I'm like, you know, y'all got to keep in mind,
like where did you start out?
Speaker 2 (26:10):
You know, yeah, because it's not easy being on TV
and having people watch you every single week, and then
you're also picking yourself apart.
Speaker 3 (26:16):
Yeah, and it's like you're and you're reliving it over
and over again. You're you know, you're living it and
in real time whenever you're filming, and then it airs
and then everybody has something to say, and then at
the room you got to review everything again, like it's
it's an emotional rollercoaster.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
It has been like I would be lying.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
To you, I said it would wasn't all right, Well,
I mean you look great, so and I know you
have a lot going on today and before you leave
because they said you have to go. But one more thing,
I just want to ask you tell us something positive
that didn't make it on the air, that you would
have liked for people to see.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
I would say the apology I did with my sister.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
I did like a personal apology with her, and you know,
I told her I love her and that you know,
you know me, that's you know, that's not me and
that's not my character. And it hurt me to go
off like that, and she was hurt. And I wish
people see more of like who I am. Also, like
me with my job, I.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Wanted them to see more of that, you know, because
I'm more than just Gregory's wife. I'm you know, I'm
a veteran, I'm a you know, I'm a program coordinator.
I work for the government. Like I wanted to see
more of that.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
So okay, well good, Well, hopefully when you are back
for next season, you'll be able to know what it
is that you need to maneuver and make happen. But
thank you so much for coming, Sweet Tea. Make sure
y'all watch Married to Medicine. Any last things you want
to say.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Just make sure you watch Married to Medicine on Sundays
at nine pm Easter Standard time.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
All right, well, thank you so much. We appreciate you.
Way up
What's its way for Angela Yee?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I'm Angela Yee And this is exciting because we just
had Doctor Heavenly on and now, sweetie, if I'm married
to Medicine, is here with us? Hey, yep, I'm here
all right? So first season, I'm married to Medicine. You're
the youngest out of all the women on the show.
I am, which you make sure they.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Know I am right, So they make sure they let
me know.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
And you guys are about to film the reunion. Yes,
so how are you feeling.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I'm a little nervous about it.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
I have a lot to get off my chest and
I just want to make sure that I'm heard.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Okay, Yeah. Are you going in there with a game plan? Somewhat?
I can't.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
I can't tell you exactly what the game plan is,
but I will be prepared.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
All right.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
So let's talk about some things that happened, because this
is your first season on the show, and definitely a
lot of storylines.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Let's use that word instead of drama.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
A lot of storylines revolved around certain things that you
had going on. So I just want to make sure
that we clarify certain things. And like we said, Doctor
Heavenly was here the other day, and so just even
you getting onto the show, she did have a hand
in that, Is that correct?
Speaker 1 (01:10):
She did? Okay?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
And I met her at the Jackie's first fifty Shades
of Pink, and her and Jackie both worked and really
wanted me to be a part of the show, and
eventually it came in a fruition and I joined with
that with her encouragement, and you know the opportunity.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
All right.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And then your husband, doctor g would he have been
on the show without you or gone shows more about
the women. So so the reason he's there really is
because of me, is because of it, and I'm there
because of him.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay. He brought me on since he was on the
show previously.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
All right, and so now, of course he was previously
married to Quad. Yes, and so that also happened on
this season. Now, Phaeder invited Quad to your bridal shower,
and you actually reacted in a way I didn't expect
you would like sit next to me. You were very
nice to her. Doctor Heavenly was here. She said, you're
a fan of Quid. Now what were you thinking when
(02:02):
that happened? And why was that your reaction?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
That was my reaction?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Because me and my husband had a conversation about how
when I when I come into this group, he didn't
want me to get into it.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
He didn't want to see his new wife fight with
his ex wife. And because of these women, they're very
strong opinionated. Some people tell lies.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
I just wanted her to sit next to me and
hear from my mouth before anybody else starts to spend
the narrative their way.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
What did you think about Quid when you got to
meet here for the first time.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
And such a such an ung retire it was, it
was It was kind of awkward, but there's no animosity
between her and I. When I sat down I met
with her, I thought she was she was nice. You know,
there's there's nothing like she was married to Gregory years ago.
I met Gregory about a couple of years after the divorce,
so it really shouldn't be an issue.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
So it was no problem. She actually congratulate.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Us on our engagement a couple of months fires so
any think it would be a.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Big deal, right, And also you found out the news
that it was going to be more expensive to have
your wedding. Your reaction was very like what was going
on with that reaction because I didn't know if something
else happened, if it was editing, but what was really
going on.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
A lot was going on. I switched my venue last minute,
and I couldn't get the videographer and all that to
film there, so I had to switch it last minute,
and it was like two days prior, and it came
with like additional space to decorate and that was just
gonna cost me fourteen thousand dollars. So it was just
(03:29):
a lot I was unexpected to pay, Like I had
already lost my deposit on the first venue, and then
I paid for the second au plus additional fourteen thousand
dollars just to decorate the space.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
So I don't know your wedding, I'd be like, we
might got a yeah, right. I. It was just a
lot for me to withstand.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
And then like then I had to meltdown about that,
and then they walked into XYX.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
So it was just like so much happening, Yeah, so much.
I felt like it was just everything piled up against me.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
And that's why I kind of just when you saw
the footage of his bachelor party and he invited did
the stripper to the wedding?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
What did you think about that. Hey, I am.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
A woman that's very confident in my relationship and then
my and my man, and I'm like a.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Half fun, right, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
I had my I had two bachelor parties, one with
the ladies, and I did my own with my my
family and my close friends back in Texas.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Saw the ladies. We saw some massages.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, yeah, so you know, I was like, do you
have fun? But I was like, okay, you did a
little much come out, you know, taking his pants down,
and they're not coming back, come back like you trying
to get that filming you right, I also know their filming,
so it was only so far up. But you know
what I realized, because you are the new one on
(04:44):
the show, people are experienced at having moments. You know,
it's ten seasons in and so for you, this is
your first season. So what did you learn in this
first season when it comes to filming, because I'm sure
certain things you didn't expect or maybe you didn't know
how to to react because a lot of this is
sometimes for TV.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah it is.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
It's been difficult because I'm like, I wait, it didn't
happen like that, you know, but you gotta just roll
with the punches, and I'm learning to turn the negatives
into a positive and I'm just I'm learning about it
every day. It's just it can be tough because I
get frustrated and sometimes I call my pr lady and they're like,
you know, but I'm trying to control my own narrative
(05:25):
on my social media. Yeah, I want people to get
to know me for who I am, because I'm not
just Gregory's wife. You know, I was a woman before that.
I worked for the intelligence community. I was in the
Air Force Reserves. I was a pharmacy tech. I worked
in toxicology, I worked in sleep lab. I did medical records.
I've done so mad. Yeah, like you do put some
(05:47):
respect on my name.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Was there ever a time and you were like I
can't do this anymore? Yes? When? Like when was that?
Speaker 3 (05:55):
I would say, really honestly, after a hole down, I
felt disrespected with him bringing up the ex wife often,
and I just felt like it was intentional, you know.
It was just like the gimmer and my skin, and
then it was like at the batch reread party, it
was just like two days prior to my wedding.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
It's supposed to be happy.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
I'm supposed to be in bliss right now, and I
was like, I just feel like everything's like piling up
on me. And you know, I worked a full time job.
You know, I work at a government job. So it
was just at times like it was just a lot
to just be filming and then going to go find
the clothes and then do the hair and the makeup,
and then you know, working a full time job, planning
a wedding within six months when we actually got married,
(06:32):
it was just so much. And I'm new to Atlanta,
never lived with a man. Like everything was new, new,
new to new.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
So it was just so tough for me.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah, I think people have to take that into consideration
when they're watching too, Yeah, that this is all new
for you. Yes, Now what about you saying that doctor
G is controlling? Did you really say that and do
you feel that way?
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Well, at the time, while I said it, I was
thought I was confining a friend and also like I
was intoxicated, so of course, like my feelings were heightened.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You know, I had been drinking and you know, thinking.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
I'm drinking with a friend, and I just that's what
That's kind of how I felt at the time. But
I think that I did not use the right word.
I think that like he maybe manipulated the situation and
he tried to do as best he could because he
was trying to remind me to set the alarm, and like,
you know, we've already dealt with that.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
He's learned from it. I gotten that ass a little bit,
and you know, and he knows, like you know, that's
that's not okay.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
And we are you know, we're learning, we're growing in
through a relationship, and any issues that we deal with,
we're supposed to overcome come it and move on.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
And you said that doctor Heavenly said that her husband
had cheated on her previously, but she denies that.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, so what was that conversation? So well, really we had.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
That sit down conversation when I was saying Gregory was controlling,
she actually admitted, Like I was like, how do you
deal with conflict?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
And she was like, you know, she told me about a.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
Story and she said that one time Damon came home
late and she hit him outside of him Ryan Pa.
So I'm putting two and two together because she also
told me when Mariah originally said that she that she
had receipts on Damon when he cheated, she said heavily
actually said that she believed him.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
And I said, well, you're supposed to believe. Why would
you believe.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Mariah's supposed to you know, have faith in your man.
And she was all like, you know, shoot, I believed it.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
So she's been trying to get ahead of it. She's
been saying like, oh, you.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Know, if he did, I'm buying some ass like you know,
that's just her getting I just put two and two together,
like said, she.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Didn't find evidence.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
She just believes that she saw or caught him cheating, right,
It's just that somebody else told her that, and she
kind of she.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
Went with She was like she was afraid and she
said that like she was like checking and asking Damon,
like is everything okay? So you know, hey, she's deflecting,
I think, and I think that she pretends like her
relationship is perfect, but we know it it would all
crumble like a chips and hoy cookie.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Well, she always says that her relationship is kind of
off limits when it comes to you know, she'll tell
every thing, but certain things she doesn't want to do.
You think that the show has affected your relationship any
way because it has been stressful.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
It has been stressful.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
I think that this is just another obstacle that we
had to overcome, and it's making us stronger in our relationship,
especially going through all the things that we went through
with like putting our business out in the public, and
then it's just like, you know, he's working on working.
But I think that it's making our relationship better and
(09:30):
I'm hoping that people learn from us. And the whole
point of being on reality TV is just to be real.
Like I signed up to just tell my story. I
didn't come on the show to refute anything that Quad
said or anything. I just wanted to be me and
this is me and my husband tell our story, Like
you know, everybody else has to get their own story.
Hents heavenly why she keeps trying to talk about me
(09:50):
every week?
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Right, You're the fresh meat on the show, right, you
know it does kind of feel like the season is
mostly about you.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
You know, you also uninvited her to your wedding. I
was like, was that real? Because she still managed to
slide in there? So right, and so what how does
she get in? Still? I don't I guess Johnny my
wedding planner.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
He said that she kind of like, uh, he got
distracted and someone called him somewhere.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And then she ended up slipping through the door.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
I didn't actually see it. You know, maybe it maybe
it look like I saw it, but I didn't actually
see it for myself. I saw her on the dance
floor and I told her I was gonna kick her ass.
But right before I was coming into my wedding, I
actually saw her. My dad, we were gonna walk in
the ceremony. I was going through the lobbying and She's like, hey, baby, yeah,
and I was like, ooh, I'm gonna whoop your ass.
I said it just like that, And it's like, she
just admitted to you that she's not friends with any
(10:38):
of the husbands. So it's just like, why are you
Why do you want to come? Your sand is not
gonna work, why do you even want to be there? Recently,
she actually she actually denied, like she denied the RSVP,
like she said she wouldn't attend. But mind you, it's
happened months ago. She's just been trolling meant.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
I mean, shet up a ten seasons. You know, she
has a tactic.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, she's she's keeping it going and yeah, and I
think it's something we could learn from.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Another thing that we talked about was the live that you.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Guys did that turned chaotic, Yeah and so, and I
just want to talk about that up here because that
was a popular topic. But about her mom, she said,
you apologize, but not to her directly, for you know
right right.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
She's actually blocked on my phone right now because she's
been talking about me every week on her YouTube channel.
So it's just like, I don't I don't really, she
hasn't really apologized to me directly.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I've told her that she's done things.
Speaker 3 (11:34):
She's been on this Nation, she's been on a Ricky
Smiley show, she's been saying negative things about me on
her YouTube every week, and she hasn't apologized really for
that directly to me. So I asked her not to
do it, and she did it even more so it's like,
you know, even if she did apologize, I know that
it's not you know, genuine, So I don't feel like
I owe her anything like she does. She's she's been
(11:54):
talking about my family, and it's like, I'm gonna apologize
publicly for me, not really for her.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
What's the way forward?
Speaker 2 (12:01):
You think for you, guys, because that seems the person
that you butt heads with out of everybody the most.
And I know for you, I've seen, like on your
Instagram page, certain things that you've said about real friendships,
and you've learned a lot, a.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
Lot about friendships and not everybody has my best interest,
and I think that's something my mother has been trying
to like warm me, like, not everybody your friend. You
can't trust people, even my friends. And I'm just so nice,
but I have to learn the hard way. And you know,
whenever people show you who they are, you believe them.
And as far as me and her and going forward,
I just hope that she addressed the childhood trauma that
(12:36):
she's gone through and you know, maybe get a teddy bear.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
I don't know, talking to a psychiatrists. Okay, so nothing yet.
Gathering from that. Now another really big topic.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
And look, this is something that I think you know,
you being able to discuss is not an easy thing
to do, and people have to understand that. But it
is also something that a lot of women have to
deal with. And this is you and finding out God, yes,
and fibroids.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Five boards.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
I had five boards, and I had tattoo cysts that
were in my outside my uterine lining. And it's been
very difficult because I've always had pain in my whole life.
Like a lot of women, they have cramps, but I
started having cramps in between my cycles. And one day,
it was like two months before I me and Gregory
got married, I went to the hospital and it was
(13:26):
so I couldn't even walk.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
It got to that point.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
But I've by now I've gotten surgery, and you know,
we're actually trying to have a baby. And I think
that I believe in that scene, I kind of I
didn't understand really what infertile means. And then what that
means is like if you're not able to have a
baby within twelve months like you're, then you're considered infertile.
So like we just I just had my surgery back
in August. I was on ber control for three months
to make sure I heal. So now we are, you know,
(13:52):
actively trying. Now I'm offer control act. So it's mean
it's only been like two three months and I'm not
considered infertile just yet.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
How you haven't fun trying at least I am?
Speaker 2 (14:03):
I mean, that's you know, that's the bonus side of it,
and like what about other things, like IVF is something
you could say, Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
IVF is something that we're gonna consider. I Mean I
kind of look at like being infertile. Everybody's makes it
such a bad thing, but like in my mind, I
believe it's like being in control of your fertility.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
There's so many options out there.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
I mean, God has blessed us with technology and people
have the right knowledge. So I'm in control of my
fertility and we're gonna have our baby.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, And I think that's a positive thing for you
to discuss because a lot of women, especially Black women,
have to deal with fibraids and endometrios is. I have
a coach, a detox actor who actually comes up here
and we talk a lot about fibraids and she's helped
people who I know, because for women to understand that
when you're having these pains are really heavy bleeding, that's
(14:48):
not normal, right, and it's really important to see you
know what it is. And there are also ways that
you can, even without having surgery, be able to you know,
shrink the size of your fibraids or the amount of them.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
So there are things that you can do.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Yes, I'm learning there's like things like ashraganda it's really
good for fertility, and I've.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Been thinking about starting up. I'm not thinking about my
actually working on my medicinal tea line, so I'm thinking about, okay,
doing that.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Positive things you can come out to help with, like
you know, any minstrel pain and all that kind of stuff,
anything to increase you know, your fertility, to chant stapping
the maybe, I'm all for that.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
So I'm just trying to kind of deprogram and like
eat different foods. Yes, exactly. Since filming the show, so
I've been learning a lot about myself and my body.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Yeah, she has this whole waterfast thing that is supposed
to really help you know, people with that and another thing. Okay,
so doctor g he also had to get his sperm tested, yes,
as well, because sometimes we look at it like the women,
but we also have to take into account of.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
The men, right, Yeah, we do. We actually done two
home to us and does that work? You know, I've
never been in a bathroom with them when he did it,
But he came out with the results. It came out
with the results and.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
There was like it was it was twenty min million,
but I told him, like, we need to go to
an actual specialists and just make sure everything is good
because he's afraid, like what if I can't do it?
Speaker 1 (16:12):
You know?
Speaker 3 (16:13):
And that was like we actually took a break within
our relationship for a little bit because he was like,
I want to be able to give you the baby,
like you know, he wants the baby, but he wants
to give me a baby too, So we took a
break and it took a while because of our age difference.
And he's like, well if I'm too old and you know,
I can't go anywhere, but like, you know, you got
to live life.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
I feel like men have it much easier too, because
they don't have the same biological clock.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Right, you're right, they have years old.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
You just had a baby, rapping and narrow, yeah right,
you know they having kids yep, and.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
It's and it's incredible. But do you know these older
men they looking like that, They look like they're in
forty They looking real good. Is he the oldest man
that you've dated, I mean been with before? Yeah, well
I dated someone around the same age. So you like
older men? I do? Why is that? Because I feel that.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
Older men are more ready to settle down and they
live life. And they you know, they looked they looked
at like younger women. They're looking at other younger women
as a benefit, and they're looking for like youthfulness and
you know, bring fun in their life and excitement.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
And with my women my age nowadays, with the way dating,
the dating pool got peetted it.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
So nowadays, I feel like women my age are looking
for men that are just more settled down and you know,
just more experienced, and like why not find that in
the older man?
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Like why not?
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Because like I feel like the men and my age
I had to hold her hand and help them to
their goals.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
And I'm like, no, you know, I'm trying to I'm
trying to sit down somewhere.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
What about your twin My twins she's married someone actually
around her age, like.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Two years alter.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
She feels because you're her sister, and I feel like
she comes to your defense. She does a lot, and
so what is her thoughts, Like when you're talking to
her about everything that's going on.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Man, my sister be ready to fight.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
She'd be ready to fight, but like she's she's been
like like the supporting role. She's been my support system.
This whole time through it. But there's certain things Kensia
can do that I'm like, I still got to deal
these women and say what she want to say and
go home.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
But I still got to deal these women every day.
So it's like, Okay, Candi, shit, go ahead, unleash the knesia.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
I need some back I mean some backup, you know,
because I got to maintain these relationships.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
And so for you and for people in your hometown,
your family, how are they feeling watching your journey?
Speaker 3 (18:31):
You know what, some of my family do try not
to watch it because they get upset with some of
the ladies, especially Heavenly, my mom, like she's not feeling
it at all. But as long as I'm learning from
the ladies, and you know, they're all entrepreneurs, and I
think that we can learn a lot from each other.
But like I think of my parents, they're just kind
(18:51):
of like taking a back seat sometimes and like I
don't need to watch this because yeah, the baby, yeah
yeah yeah, because the women are their age, Like my
parents have been a really young age, so like some
of the women are older my mom my.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Mom's fifty one. Oh well your mom is young, yeah, yeah,
So you know, it's it's kind of hard for her.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
I'm still gonna always be her baby beer, so she
just feels like she's the mama bear, like I need
to come and live me, you know, I think about it.
I put myself in like I look at my little nephew.
He's three, my sister's baby, and I'm like, and I
can't imagine someone my age picking on.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Him, you know. So I guess that's how kind of
how they both feel.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
But you know, your husband is a lot older, so
his circle is gonna be, yeah, a circle. What about
bringing him around your circle.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
We are you know, I kind of struggle with that
at times with some of my friends because they didn't
know how to be you know.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
But I'm actually surrounding my.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
Myself more so with friends that are in age GAT
relationships because it's actually more common than you think.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
I have a lot of.
Speaker 3 (19:48):
Friends that in our age GAT relationship. Like my friend
over here her boyfriend seventeen years older. I mean, this
is what these young women are looking for, Like they're
looking for older men because it's just it ain't where
it's it no more. Especially it's hard, especially in black men.
You know, it's not a lot of men that.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Are making six figures. Have you ever dated out of
your race?
Speaker 3 (20:09):
Yes, I had, and I've always been open. It's just
it just didn't work out for me. I found I
found mine on my I Love my Life in.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
The DMS, and you used to it in his den
went down to the that's it, hey, but it worked
out for you, it did, you know?
Speaker 3 (20:24):
I just hey, I say go after whatever you believe in,
like you never know, just start a conversation, like, you know,
this is techn new technology.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
We met during the time of COVID.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
And during the pandemic, so that was like the easiest
way to communicate with people when I was dating.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
I was like, hey, why not reach out to him
and say, hey, there anybody else you reached out to.
I just know I did meet some people on Clubhouse
because Clubhouse was getting.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Oh you was lit on comoring. I had to get
an invite. I don't even know what's going on in Clubhouse.
More logged back into it and I was like, oh,
it's ahead of time. Yeah, yeah, so some guys on Clubhouse.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
But yeah, but I'm at mine through the DMS, and
you know, I just said something really fun. I can
give you what you want and then you put the baby.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
That's why people feel like, oh, she did this, They
say that on the show, But the truth is, like
you found out what was wrong, right, you know the issues,
and that's not doesn't mean that it's not gonna happen, right,
And it just means that there's more work that you
have to do to make it happy.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
And my husband, I mean he's a doctor of psychiatry
and internal medicine so like, and he's been around the
block for years, Like you know, he wouldn't get divorced
and then be single for all these years and then
make a decision just based off of sole reason me
having a baby to just be with me, like you know,
he of course he knows my medical history.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
We've talked, we have the conversations. We've been together.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
We were three together three years prior to getting married,
so it's been long conversations about this.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
People have to realize that too because they see you
on the show and they think it happened like no, yeah, guys, No.
Speaker 3 (21:55):
We've been talking since twenty twenty of February when we
made an official in twenty twenty one, so we've known
each other this.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
You'll be there would be four years.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Were you concerned about any of the things that Quad
said that she had issues about when it came to him.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Did you guys discuss that.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
No, we never did discuss that, And I don't really
want to go down that road. I mean, her story
is her story, and I know the man who he
is today, and I think that she, you know, she
may have some some some issues with it, but like,
also it is kind of weird that she did reach
out and say, hey, congratulations, and she said she got
butterflies in her stomach.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
So it's just like, I'm really she's been kind of inconsistent.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Would it bother you if she rejoined the show, because
it feels like people are trying to get her to
come back on.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
It wouldn't really bother me, Like, it wouldn't be an issue.
I just would I prefer to leave the past in
the past and let's move forward.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
So you are down to do it another season if
I go back and forth.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
All the time because it was tough filming with Oh
my god, it was so tough film.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
Does it depend on this reunion? I think so.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
I think it's been dependent on the fans too, because
I have so many women that reach out to me.
It's like, you're doing a good job. You know, You're
you know, I'm watching the show because of you.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
And I'm like, wow, really, I'm.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Really making a difference, you know, right, you know, And
I talked, I talked to some of the fans, Like
I saw some of the airport at people DM me
about you know, matriosis and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Right, and if you're going to be doing things, because
I think one of the most important things people have
to realize on a platform like this, you need to
have something that you're selling to, right, you know, And
I think that's important while you have this going on,
at least let me get my business, right.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yes, I want to get my business. Start with the tea.
You know, they call me Sweet Tea on.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
The show, and I love tea. I love I love
drinking tea. So I was like, why not, you know,
have my own medicinal tea line. Maybe get some T shirts,
some tea cups hot.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Right, So you know, I was just like why not.
So this is a great opportunity. And I felt like
it was going to open doors. This is what Heaven
was telling me. It's gonna open the doors, right, And
She's right about that you joined dock to Heavenly University too.
I want my money back. But yeah, like you you know, yeah,
I didn't have to learn that.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
I did not really learn that through her, but like
you know, that's just the obvious. But she was trying
to convince me to join the show.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
So was But now she convinced you she did.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
She did, And I really do feel like once you
get into the groove and figure out it's like a dance,
it is, and once you get into that groove, because
I think right now, it's hard what everybody's.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Weighing in saying things.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
You don't know how things are edited until it comes out.
You don't know what people are saying about you until
you watch the episodes. You know, what was the hardest episode.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
For you to watch? The hardest was the Bachelor Party?
Like that was hard.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Like Sphaedrier actually wanted me to get on the live
on that Sunday and I actually did a green screen,
but I really didn't want to do it because it
was it was very emotional for me seeing me like
break down.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Like that because it is really sister.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
Yeah, it was still real life to me, you know,
And I'm not an actress, like what you see is
what you get, and it was one hundred percent of
me on the show. So I just I didn't like
watching it at all. And me fussing and fighting with
my sister, Yeah that was at but of course, yeah,
I think I think that, like, because she's my twin
(25:09):
and she's the closest to me, you take comfortable. Yeah,
it's the most comfortable. But she always gonna be there
for me, like she's done it to me, so it's like,
you know, we we we know each other, and I
felt safe with her.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
And there was one scene where you were trying on
dresses and everybody did not like that you were being
quote body shamed, but I think you had a great
reaction to that.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Yeah, I actually did not like it either.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
I was actually really upset and actually showed up to
the wine tasting that Toya did for her wine to
get upset. And you know, that's a very intimate moment,
like you know, you usually have your family there and
stuff like that, and I just felt like, whoa, you know,
y'all are kind of you know, body shaming me instead
of like, you know, the comments weren't really.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Endearing, right, you know, it wasn't like, I like the
way this one looks, that's amazing. Maybe if we take
this in here and right.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Yeah, it was just like you know, I felt like
when people see themselves on TV, because I noticed that too,
and a lot like people look way different season one
than they do by like yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
So I'm like, you know, y'all got to keep in mind,
like where did you start out?
Speaker 2 (26:10):
You know, yeah, because it's not easy being on TV
and having people watch you every single week, and then
you're also picking yourself apart.
Speaker 3 (26:16):
Yeah, and it's like you're and you're reliving it over
and over again. You're you know, you're living it and
in real time whenever you're filming, and then it airs
and then everybody has something to say, and then at
the room you got to review everything again, like it's
it's an emotional rollercoaster.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
It has been like I would be lying.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
To you, I said it would wasn't all right, Well,
I mean you look great, so and I know you
have a lot going on today and before you leave
because they said you have to go. But one more thing,
I just want to ask you tell us something positive
that didn't make it on the air, that you would
have liked for people to see.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
I would say the apology I did with my sister.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
I did like a personal apology with her, and you know,
I told her I love her and that you know,
you know me, that's you know, that's not me and
that's not my character. And it hurt me to go
off like that, and she was hurt. And I wish
people see more of like who I am. Also, like
me with my job, I.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Wanted them to see more of that, you know, because
I'm more than just Gregory's wife. I'm you know, I'm
a veteran, I'm a you know, I'm a program coordinator.
I work for the government. Like I wanted to see
more of that.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
So okay, well good, Well, hopefully when you are back
for next season, you'll be able to know what it
is that you need to maneuver and make happen. But
thank you so much for coming, Sweet Tea. Make sure
y'all watch Married to Medicine. Any last things you want
to say.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Just make sure you watch Married to Medicine on Sundays
at nine pm Easter Standard time.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
All right, well, thank you so much. We appreciate you.
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