December 4, 2025 • 29 mins
Q Parker: Love Story, “FFF” Meaning, 112 Legacy & Forgiveness Talk + More
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What's up this way up with Angela here? And look
who's in the building. Q Parker's here.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
How you feeling?
Speaker 3 (00:08):
And well, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
How good?
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Thank you so much for joining me, and congratulations on
a new project, The Evolution of Romance, Part one.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
And this is part of a trilogy.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah, well, it's not necessarily a trilogy. It's just a
volume series. Okay, this first one is volume one, and
I plan on being in this romance arena for a while,
and so you may get four or five.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Oh okay, I thought you were planning three, but you
don't know yet.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
We're just gonna go until I feel like I've explained
thoroughly the levels of romance.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Has your evolution been?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
So my evolution. You know, I started in this game
as a teenager, and so I've evolved as a man.
I've evolved as a musician. I've grown in a lot
of areas, and so I write about all of those,
those those journeys. But then also romance has also evolved.
Romance looked different in the eighties than it does than
it did in the nineties and so forth, and so
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marrying those two words to get other the evolution of
Q Parker and the evolution of romance. I thought it
was just so fitting to bring some romance back into
the to the markets.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You think romance is different for like we define romance
differently men and women.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
I don't know if we define it differently. I just
think we're always seeking it. I think it's a component
that relationships need, and they're yearning for. Romance. To me,
is it's the cording, it's the dating, it's the it's
the little nothing text that you get in the middle
of the day. It is that that head rub, it's
that that note else, it's all of that. No no, no, no, no,
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I'm saying, it's just those those little subtleties, uh, that
usher in love.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
And it's just it's so different now.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
It is it is. And so my version of the
evolution of romance is to just kind of bring back
those foundational principles of what dating used to feel like.
And you know, I grew up watching the soap operas,
and so I write from a relational type of angle,
but also I leaned into what I used to watch
as a teenager, the soap operas, when it was all
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about affection, love, kissing and holding and everything was soft
and gentle and you know that's what we signed up
for as male R and B artists.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
But also a lot of drama and those soap operas too.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I leave that part out, but again those called for
some good songs too.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Now you're right, what do you think do you think
you were always? Since you grew up watching soap operas? Right,
and you got in this business as a teenager, and
I have to imagine that you saw a lot of
things and even just the way that women reacted to you.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
So were you always?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Do you feel like, even back then you still were
a gentleman? Or do you think that's something you want
to grow into? Nah?
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I mean the way that I was raised. I grew
up in a mother father household, and so I saw
my dad be a gentleman to my mom every day.
My man, my father is a he's a he's small
and statue, but he's so huge. My dad is about
five four and so, but I saw him every day
just where the role of manhood and fatherhood and so
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he was always gentle with my mom. And so we
as children, we portray what we see. And so for me,
when I got into dating, I was always a gentleman.
I always believed in chivalry and charm and all of
those delicate components of what manhood is.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Also, you've also been married for twenty three years. I
have to assume that you're doing something right.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah. Yeah, And I got a real one man who
has grown with me, Charlotte de Parker. Man, she's grown me.
She exercised a lot of patients so that we could
get to these twenty three years, you know, getting married
at twenty five, I was twenty six years old, the
height of one twelve, the peak of our records in
our career. Yeah. She had to be understanding and exercise
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some patience, and so we don't get here without her
being able to exercise those things.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
What is your love story with Charltte de Parker.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Yeah, my love story is my best friend is Wingo.
One of my best friend is Wingo from Jagged Edge.
And so one particular day back in ninety eight or
ninety nine, I did my regular yo where you at?
He said, Yo, I met this The ken Bai Matombo
had this this spa in Buckhead, and my wife and
her twin sister they managed the nails and the facials
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and all that division of the of the location. And
so Wingo was actually there and he's like, yo, pull
up on me. I pulled up. Charlotte ended up doing
my nails and the story began.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Wow I started from that, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
The story began.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
So you immediately was it like an immediate chemistry.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Or kind of I wonst I knew that something was there,
so to the point where I would and we laugh
about this still to this day, I would like intentionally
mess up my nails just so that I could get
another appointment on her book, like two days later. But
I just think from those occurrences, we started to develop
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a liking to each other, and we just kept it
kind of under wraps for about maybe twelve thirteen months
or so until we finally just like, all right, we
can let people know that we're actually dating. And then
we got married after two years.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Wow, that's quick.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, I propose after two years.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Yeah, you knew it.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
You know, there's so much pressure, I think in this industry,
especially in the position that you were in, like you said, it.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Was prime time.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
You're an R and B singer, and sometimes they don't
want you to seem like you're in a relationship or
sure yeah, or not even married.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
You know. You know it, as they say, don't spoil
the fantasy. Yeah, knowing that you are in a relationship,
but you had to it was told to say that
we all single and we're all looking and because of
course the records were portraying that we're all these single individuals.
But I do believe the best way to be an
artist is really be authentic. And we did what we
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thought was the best during that time. But I can
look at a lot, I can look back at some
of those ways we did things, and I'm totally the opposite.
And even as i'm developed artists today, my advice to
them is just be you, be authentically you, and if
some people don't don't like it or can't get with
it, it's all good. It's like billions of people out here.
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Everybody ain't gotta like you, but those who want to
rock with me, I'm cool with y'all exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, you know, you do these summer camps also for
the youth, where you are trying to teach them all
about this business and things that you actually had to
learn along the way to what inspired you to decide
to do that.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Well, so when I look at the next generation, I
want to do my part and making sure that they
have all the tools to be able to have a
career and that's the key word, or career, and don't
treat this industry as a one off something I can
just do over here, then I got three more things
over here to do, but really have the expectancy of
it being a career. And because I started this game
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as a teenager, I entered not fully knowing the business side.
And the reality is everybody's not going to sign a
record deal, and so if you're going to be an artist,
you're going to have to be an independent artist. But
as an independent artist, you need to really know how
to navigate properly. And so my summer camp is designed
to do not only nurture their gifts and make sure
that they become great at their talent, but also giving
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them the terminology of understanding contracts and how to pick
a manager, and understanding licensing and royalties and publishing and
copyright and all of those things so that as an
independent artist, you will know what's going on in your business.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah, independent is a wave right now too, because back
then when you started, it wasn't really no independent route
that you could go. But now there's so many more
options to go more straight to the consumer where you
can just have distribution. But that's also confusing for people too.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
I mean, if you don't know, you don't know. And
so even what's crazy, sis is I have been in
this game. Next year it be thirty years, and the
first twenty of my twenty years of my career, I
was signed to a major, and so there was some
components of the game that I didn't even I wasn't
aware of, I'll put it that way. And so as
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I started my independent journey in twenty twelve and then
which was partially independent, but then now present day as
a fully independent artist, I'm now even discovering things and
I'm like, ah, so that's how that went down. Oh really,
when we were doing all that, that was what was happening.
And so as I'm learning more, I'm passing it on
to the next generation because they're going to enter the
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game as an independent artist. And so what I get,
whether it's lessons of success failure, it's my job to
pass it on to this next generation.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Yeah no, because you don't want people to it's more
like a learn from my mistakes type of thing exactly.
And I so one of the things you talk about
at sunset clause is, Yeah, everybody needs to know about that.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
I mean, just any being able to navigate a contract
is just so important because that contract is binding, and
once you sign it and your signature on it, you
have to you just got to go to the end
of it. And it may not be in your best benefit.
You may have signed a way. You're publishing your royalties,
which is your legacy. And we're getting into this game
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so that our grandchildren's children's children's children can be proud
of what they og did right. And the only way
you can do that and get that is through ownership.
And so again, the primary objective of what I do
with my foundation is teaching the importance of ownership.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
How do you feel about signing to a major label again?
Is it something I.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Know some people would say it was the right situation.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
But now that you've gone the independent route, you've you've
been educated through life and through teaching yourself, what do
you think about it?
Speaker 3 (09:40):
I enjoy the independence, I really do. I enjoy I
enjoy it because what's funny is nowadays through independence, your
small team really is label services. So you can all
accart somebody to just do marketing and promotions. You can
hire an expert to do pr hire somebody to do
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social media. So even in my independence, I could still
contract these independent providers.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
AI you can.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Do that, but yeah, you can do that too. However,
I still believe in I still believe in people, which
is why, you know, part of my independent journey is
getting in the car and we ride Azeema and I
we're riding up and down the highways doing in studio interviews.
Like I get calling in and the phones and all
of that. But I like this right here, this is
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how I was raised. I want you not only to
feel my music, but I want you to get a
sense of who I am. So when you're playing my songs,
there's another real component to it, and not that you
would just service the record. They're like, YO, play this song,
yeah anymore, that's my guy, Q Parker. He came here.
We had a great conversation, and I like his song too.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Yeah yeah, no, f ff, let's talk about that because
that's a song.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Yeah you like that song. I do why you like
that song?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I like anything that is ron to the point.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah you know, and I know you're gonna come do
the podcast lip service or something. Yeah, but it also
I think has a deeper meaning than what is on
the surface too, And actually I can appreciate that as well.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Yeah. So Triple Left was created because I feel like
I am a deliverer of I'm a messenger and when
I create, I want to be the voice for men.
But I also want to be the voice for women.
And so a lot of my career has been taking
the vantage point of what women want from men. So fellas,
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we need to do this. Make sure guys you're doing this.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Two women went from men. I want to know a
couple of things.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Well, I think women want presence, they want security, they
want provision, they want to be the one, they want
to be seen, they want to be heard, and they
want to be dealt with gently, right, with soft hands
and soft words, charm, charisma like all of that. Right.
I'm a romance dealer, so I'm really connected to all
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of these things. Right, I've been married twenty three years,
so I know these things. And so part of my
career has been providing information to men what women want.
And rarely is there a forum where women have to
sit down and just listen to the heart of a man, right,
We're in a relationship, right, which goes both ways. We
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give and take, we sacrifice. We give. If I really
love you, I'm willing to give you whatever you want.
If you love me, you should be willing to give
me what I want. And so rarely is there a
conversation where men get to just speak authentically on some
of the things we want from women. And I wanted
to highlight three of those things. And so the song
triple F it is Yo, do you curse on this? Okay?
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So the song is triple F is fucked me, feed me,
and be my fan. And when you listen to the song,
it describes what this means. Obviously, every man wants intimacy.
We can't live without it, so we have to be
We have to have that. That's one of the reasons
why we was here to create, pro create? How you
pro create?
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I gotta say, when people, because you've been married for
so long, right, And is there ever like dry spells where.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Nah, you have It's like rhythm. You have your rhythm right,
and when you understand your rhythm, it ain't necessarily classified
as a dry spell or a hot season or whatever
because you understand your rhythm. And so The first f
is we can't live without it. We men need intimacy.
Feed me. Yeah, I want you to be able to
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cook and feed my stomach, but the more important piece
of that feed is feeding my soul. Men need we
need our souls fed. And then the last one is
be my fans, support me, affirm me. Yeah, you got
it bad go yo, go kill it. Man, great job.
And so then it finishes and said, when women master
these things, men will give you anything you want.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, you know that's important.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
And I want to say that the position that you're
into because like you said, when you met her, you
were at kind of the height, and there's ups and downs,
and there's times that you're disappointed and how things turned out.
There's times that you got to figure out a different
way to move forward. And you need somebody that's going
to be good and supportive through.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
Outderstanding and patience and all of those things. And you know,
just for just for a period in the relationship, have
the man. That's the top line. You know, a lot
of times what the women needs needs are is what
is the driver on how we're able to sustain this relationship,
and men sometimes need, Like I should tell my wife
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what you want from me, I want the same thing
from you, and what you need from me, I need
the same thing. So if you want that text in
the middle of the day, that's just like when thinking
about you, I need that text too.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Yeah, Because sometimes I also feel like sometimes men try
really hard to act like they don't need certain things.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Yeah, that's the post fake Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
And try to seem like they want to be the
ones that's always providing and doing these things for you.
And a lot of times women don't do that for
men too in a way. I mean, it's a lot
of games people play too, like they're waiting to see
who's going to text you? But God, but I think
in relationships, in courting, what's the rule? Okay, So I
met him, I liked him, we went on a date.
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Should I call him first? Should he call me?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Like?
Speaker 2 (15:15):
How to you know?
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Since it's nonsense, I feel like, go where your heart
says go. If you feel like sending that message, send it.
If you feel like calling, call what you got to lose.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
It's just I think it's harder for people now because
it's so many distractions and it's just so accessible. And
people have told me that, like it's you know, I'm
dating this person, but then he's following this person, he's
liking her pictures, he's here, he's there, And it's just
so easy for somebody to just send a DM or
you know, reconnect with somebody they haven't seen in so long.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
And because of that, which is why I feel like
the romance and the dating and the courting has to
be done, because you know, we're the relationship to be microwave,
put it in for two minutes, is ready, and I'm
about to do it. Well, a relationship needs time, I said.
I said, like, you gotta let that thing marinate, Like
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because when you slow cook anything, it's the right temperature,
you can taste all the seasons, it's tender and like
the meat just falling off the bone, like it's all
those things. And so if you applied that same mindset
to your relationship and understand that if you want it
to be really potent, let it cook for a little while, right,
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And so the first day after you met somebody, you're
not gonna have a revelation like, oh this is the person. No,
take your time, have some phone calls and be so
compelling and be such so connected to that individual that
you can't make him or her stop dming somebody, but
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it'll just happen because we's so connected to each other.
And now I realize that you can provide everything that
I need. And those others who just started falling off.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
You know, keep on loving. That's a standout song on
here too. And I do want to say I felt
like I heard a little Two Occasions.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
You did, you did? That was the goal. One thing
I learned from puff Man is how to give a
song that's already a hit record another life a.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Little nostalgic yeah, on twist exactly.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
And you know, I'm very careful when I do that,
because you want to add to the legacy of the
record and not you know, not take away from it.
And Two Occasions is just such an iconic record. We
needed to make sure. So myself, Rico Love Ghost Kid
we said and were like, all right, we can't make
this a thing until it's really really one of the ones.
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And I feel like we did a great job of
just sprinking just enough. But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you
were right. Okay, you know your r and bl a
little bit.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
It took me a second because I was like, I
had to like, figure, yeah, yeah, and so now I
saw recently also you you've been doing your press for this.
Does it bother you too that people will still be.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Like you from one twelve?
Speaker 3 (18:18):
So it doesn't have to be stated because I'm always
going to be from one twelve and I've worked, I've
worked really really hard to have Q Parker as a
stand alone and even as I've journeyed into this independent,
anytime I open my mouth, you're going to hear one twelve,
one twelve raised me. I am one twelve, we are
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one twelve. We all have contributed to this legacy of
thirty years, and so even as I am Q Parker,
I'm always representing one twelve, So it doesn't bother me.
But I am just working really really hard so that
Q Parker can stand on his own and then, by
the way, he's a founding member of one twelve. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
No, I was just wondering because sometimes it could be irritating,
like when people are always like Angela from the Breakfast,
like I have my own thing now sometimes.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
And you know, and it's just so it's it's difficult
sometimes for people to embrace something new that they have
been accustomed to sing for so long. Uh, and then
they'll try to portray their discomfort onto you. They may
be uncomfortable seeing you now operate outside of the breakfast
breakfast club because they just want you to always be.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Yeah, people like we miss you. I'm like, but happy
you're doing your own thing.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Right right, right, right, it's the same thing.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
You know.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
We love what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
In a good way way because you know, it shows
that it's sometimes it is that coming from something that's
iconic and meant so much to people, and people are
used to seeing you in a space and then you're
doing your own thing. They're happy for you. But the
nostalgia is also like you over there. Yeah, and it
could happen right one day.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I'm never the guy to hinder something nostalgic like that,
you know. I always remain hopeful. And my goal, my
objective is, you know, we all are having singular pursuits
at the moment, and so there's a space where you
can support the brand of one twelve as it is,
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but also some room to support Q Parker. You don't
have to, It doesn't have to be in either, or
it can be both. Yeah, because we are cut from
the same cloth.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, No, we're talking about how, like just I saw
a babe while talking about this recently, how the music
from you know, back then, those concerts and those artists
are the ones that are really selling out shows and
tours right now. It's just something harder for like the
newer artists.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
It's something sweet about that nineties era. Man, Like, I'm
just so glad that I was a part of arguably
one of the dopest eras of hip hop and R
and B. Nobody can ever take that away from me.
When my grandchildren's children's children talk about their GP, they're
gonna be able to go in the museum and see
they GP right there. When you're talking about the legacy
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of hip hop and R and B, you can't mention
hip hop and R and B with our bad Boy.
You can't mention it without Biggie Smalls in one twelve
and just what we were able to do as a
record company and just artists underneath this record company. And
so I'm really proud. I'm really proud of that. But
for me, it's just it's about legacy, and I think
that my legacy will be in a great place in
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terms of what I've done musically with my brothers of
one twelve, but also as Q.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Parker, Threesome is also how you ended the album. I
was like, Okay, what are we talking about here?
Speaker 3 (21:49):
But mission accomplished, mission accomplished.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
But with the soul and your body so well, I
don't know what they really do.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
But that's not what this song was about.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
Yeah, you know, as a songwriter, there's this thing about
just being an eye grabber. And when you look at
the song list, you know I could have put on
that fu Me, feed Me be my Fan and people
would have just went right to that song because why
is Q Parker singing a song talking about me feeding
me be my fan? Why is Q talking about uh threesome?
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And it's so funny And when I play, when I
play the album and people see the song list, they'll
go and, oh my god, it's just so romantic and
I love keep on loving and begging da da da threesome?
Are you gonna end the album with a song called threesome?
You just had all this romance And I'm like, did
you listen? Just listen, just keep listening, And by the
by the hook, they're like, oh I get it. It's
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just I called myself way earlier. Yes, it's always just
a deeper meaning. And I take pride as a songwriter
and as a creative to always have the mind working,
because there are levels, as I said earlier, there's the
levels of romance and the truth threesome, in my opinion,
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is having intimate moments mind, body, and soul.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
You know, do you think that being married in a
relationship as long as you were kept you out of
a lot of trouble when you were younger?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Absolutely? Absolutely, I got married young doesn't mean that I
was a saint. But again, I got to give my
wife so much props, man, because my wife is four
years older than me, and so in my twenties she
was already, like in her early thirties, my late twenties
and early thirties, she was already kind of like destined
for what she wanted in a relationship. And I'm still
trying to figure out, you know, who I am, who
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I was at the time. But I just love her
so much because she was patient. She you know, allowed
me the space and grace, grace but also the space
for me to like grow into full manhood. And so
I do believe that everybody has to have the patience
to allow the relationship to really just develop into what
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it ultimately will become.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
And then you can put on the song bag in
case you absolutely some more grace.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Well see this. So the interesting thing about Beg, which
was the first single of this romance evolution of romance,
is we redefined beg and gave beg an acronym bringing
endless gratitude. So this version of big ain't because you
messed up. The song says, this ain't cuz you done
went through my phone. It ain't because none of that.
It's none of that. This big is just we're gonna
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beg for each other because I love you, because you're worthy.
And if both parties are doing this type of begging,
the relationship stays in a healthy place. So it ain't
the old school.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Yeah, it's not the old school.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
You know. It's interesting because sometimes people right from a
space of like for some reason, people also really connect
with music that is more about like painful relationships. But
this is more of a celebration and this is more
of a romance and we need that too, because I
feel like a lot of music that we listen to
now is a lot of like I'm messed up.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
Or yeah, and granted there is messing up is a
part of the I think it's in the equation of
a long lasting relationship, Like Grandma and them don't get
to fifty years without some peaks and valleys, right, And
I think if you live long enough, everybody has to
have about or some bounce with the word forgiveness and grace,
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whether you're gonna have to ask for it or you
got to be on the other end of it, and
you know, the road of forgiveness and all of that,
it's still dual because the person who did the offending
has to show remorse and repent and do all these things.
But the offend did also have some work to do too,
because now if you're gonna really forgive, are you forgetting?
You're gonna do the work that we can actually move forward.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Forgive doesn't mean forget.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Though it done. It doesn't, it doesn't. But if you're
gonna fully forgive, you have to be in a space
where we can continue moving forward.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
Somebody called the other day for advice for the advice segment,
and they were talking about that, like, I don't know
how I can stick this out. You know, my wife
stayed with me, She says, she forgave me, but she's
still giving me a hard time about the cheating that
he did. And I understand both sides of that, because
you can't act like it doesn't hurt you and not
express yourself. And it had been, like I think he said,
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like a year, you know, and sometimes it does.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
It should get like better and better.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Over time, but sometimes it is like people have a
little breakdown and have to bring it.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Back up again.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Well, I think communication This is when communication really really
becomes a thing because when there's infidelity, like I don't
know if the two individuals alone have the tools to
work their way back, And so here's when therapy and
counseling and licensed professionals have to can help you get
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back on the road to recovery. But also understanding that
that ain't just a next day, we're good type of situation.
It takes time, and no one person can say, all right,
it's been long enough, because again you don't know how
it's really really affecting me. There are triggers, and if
there is the case, the therapy help you deal with
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the triggers because we can move on, but the triggers
are going to show themselves tomorrow. Three months down the line,
three years down the line. But if we're having effective communication,
he or she could say, you know, today was a trigger.
How did that make you feel when this happens, Let's
talk through. Come on, yo, come on, I can't sing
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by romance if I don't know all the levels.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
Okay, I like this aspect of it too. That was amazing.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Yeah, that's exactly what I was trying to expect, because
you're right, sometimes we don't have the tools to be
and that's where a licensed professional can help you with
that aspect of it and learning how to talk to
each other, how to express ourselves, how to respond and
all of that.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
You can talk. You can talk through anything if both
parties are willing to have effective communication. And I always
say communication for Claire, not just exchanging words. But my
goal is to make sure you have complete clarity on
what I'm trying to say, and your goal should be
to use the words so that I have complete clarity
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of what you're trying to say.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Man, I really enjoyed this conversation. I have too, and
this project, The Evolution of Romance, Part one, Yes, is
that you can never tell me nothing bad about Q Parker.
I must feel bad about what we're gonna do on
lip service. When you come, let's not going to be bad.
But make sure y'all listen to this. And this is
a real solo album. You don't have it like, you know,
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bogged down with guest appearances.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
It's all you.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I needed it to be like this, this reacclimation, and
this is this re entering back into the game. I
needed everybody to get one hundred percent of Q Parker
Volume one. Now as I go to Volume two, Andy three,
I may bring in some friends and some features and
all that, but Volume one needed to be the romance
deal to himself.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Who are friends of Q Parker?
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Man?
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I have so One thing I learned in my youth,
in my early days, was relationships are key, and so
h in my phone other artists, it's entrepreneurs, it's people
in radio, it's old label executives. I do que Parking
friends and so anybody from the nineties era and after that.
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I'm pretty sure I have a great relationship with him,
personal relationship with him.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
So anyone could pop out, anyone could pop out.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
All right, Well, thank you, I appreciate you for coming
through it. I know we've been working hard on making
this happen. Thank you asimy guys. Thank you saving me.
Thank you guys,
What's up this way up with Angela here? And look
who's in the building. Q Parker's here.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
How you feeling?
Speaker 3 (00:08):
And well, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
How good?
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Thank you so much for joining me, and congratulations on
a new project, The Evolution of Romance, Part one.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
And this is part of a trilogy.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah, well, it's not necessarily a trilogy. It's just a
volume series. Okay, this first one is volume one, and
I plan on being in this romance arena for a while,
and so you may get four or five.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Oh okay, I thought you were planning three, but you
don't know yet.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
We're just gonna go until I feel like I've explained
thoroughly the levels of romance.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Has your evolution been?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
So my evolution. You know, I started in this game
as a teenager, and so I've evolved as a man.
I've evolved as a musician. I've grown in a lot
of areas, and so I write about all of those,
those those journeys. But then also romance has also evolved.
Romance looked different in the eighties than it does than
it did in the nineties and so forth, and so
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marrying those two words to get other the evolution of
Q Parker and the evolution of romance. I thought it
was just so fitting to bring some romance back into
the to the markets.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You think romance is different for like we define romance
differently men and women.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
I don't know if we define it differently. I just
think we're always seeking it. I think it's a component
that relationships need, and they're yearning for. Romance. To me,
is it's the cording, it's the dating, it's the it's
the little nothing text that you get in the middle
of the day. It is that that head rub, it's
that that note else, it's all of that. No no, no, no, no,
(01:35):
I'm saying, it's just those those little subtleties, uh, that
usher in love.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
And it's just it's so different now.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
It is it is. And so my version of the
evolution of romance is to just kind of bring back
those foundational principles of what dating used to feel like.
And you know, I grew up watching the soap operas,
and so I write from a relational type of angle,
but also I leaned into what I used to watch
as a teenager, the soap operas, when it was all
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about affection, love, kissing and holding and everything was soft
and gentle and you know that's what we signed up
for as male R and B artists.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
But also a lot of drama and those soap operas too.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I leave that part out, but again those called for
some good songs too.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Now you're right, what do you think do you think
you were always? Since you grew up watching soap operas? Right,
and you got in this business as a teenager, and
I have to imagine that you saw a lot of
things and even just the way that women reacted to you.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
So were you always?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Do you feel like, even back then you still were
a gentleman? Or do you think that's something you want
to grow into? Nah?
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I mean the way that I was raised. I grew
up in a mother father household, and so I saw
my dad be a gentleman to my mom every day.
My man, my father is a he's a he's small
and statue, but he's so huge. My dad is about
five four and so, but I saw him every day
just where the role of manhood and fatherhood and so
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he was always gentle with my mom. And so we
as children, we portray what we see. And so for me,
when I got into dating, I was always a gentleman.
I always believed in chivalry and charm and all of
those delicate components of what manhood is.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Also, you've also been married for twenty three years. I
have to assume that you're doing something right.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah. Yeah, And I got a real one man who
has grown with me, Charlotte de Parker. Man, she's grown me.
She exercised a lot of patients so that we could
get to these twenty three years, you know, getting married
at twenty five, I was twenty six years old, the
height of one twelve, the peak of our records in
our career. Yeah. She had to be understanding and exercise
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some patience, and so we don't get here without her
being able to exercise those things.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
What is your love story with Charltte de Parker.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Yeah, my love story is my best friend is Wingo.
One of my best friend is Wingo from Jagged Edge.
And so one particular day back in ninety eight or
ninety nine, I did my regular yo where you at?
He said, Yo, I met this The ken Bai Matombo
had this this spa in Buckhead, and my wife and
her twin sister they managed the nails and the facials
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and all that division of the of the location. And
so Wingo was actually there and he's like, yo, pull
up on me. I pulled up. Charlotte ended up doing
my nails and the story began.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Wow I started from that, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
The story began.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
So you immediately was it like an immediate chemistry.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Or kind of I wonst I knew that something was there,
so to the point where I would and we laugh
about this still to this day, I would like intentionally
mess up my nails just so that I could get
another appointment on her book, like two days later. But
I just think from those occurrences, we started to develop
(04:58):
a liking to each other, and we just kept it
kind of under wraps for about maybe twelve thirteen months
or so until we finally just like, all right, we
can let people know that we're actually dating. And then
we got married after two years.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Wow, that's quick.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah, I propose after two years.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Yeah, you knew it.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
You know, there's so much pressure, I think in this industry,
especially in the position that you were in, like you said, it.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Was prime time.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
You're an R and B singer, and sometimes they don't
want you to seem like you're in a relationship or
sure yeah, or not even married.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
You know. You know it, as they say, don't spoil
the fantasy. Yeah, knowing that you are in a relationship,
but you had to it was told to say that
we all single and we're all looking and because of
course the records were portraying that we're all these single individuals.
But I do believe the best way to be an
artist is really be authentic. And we did what we
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thought was the best during that time. But I can
look at a lot, I can look back at some
of those ways we did things, and I'm totally the opposite.
And even as i'm developed artists today, my advice to
them is just be you, be authentically you, and if
some people don't don't like it or can't get with
it, it's all good. It's like billions of people out here.
(06:12):
Everybody ain't gotta like you, but those who want to
rock with me, I'm cool with y'all exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, you know, you do these summer camps also for
the youth, where you are trying to teach them all
about this business and things that you actually had to
learn along the way to what inspired you to decide
to do that.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Well, so when I look at the next generation, I
want to do my part and making sure that they
have all the tools to be able to have a
career and that's the key word, or career, and don't
treat this industry as a one off something I can
just do over here, then I got three more things
over here to do, but really have the expectancy of
it being a career. And because I started this game
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as a teenager, I entered not fully knowing the business side.
And the reality is everybody's not going to sign a
record deal, and so if you're going to be an artist,
you're going to have to be an independent artist. But
as an independent artist, you need to really know how
to navigate properly. And so my summer camp is designed
to do not only nurture their gifts and make sure
that they become great at their talent, but also giving
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them the terminology of understanding contracts and how to pick
a manager, and understanding licensing and royalties and publishing and
copyright and all of those things so that as an
independent artist, you will know what's going on in your business.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah, independent is a wave right now too, because back
then when you started, it wasn't really no independent route
that you could go. But now there's so many more
options to go more straight to the consumer where you
can just have distribution. But that's also confusing for people too.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
I mean, if you don't know, you don't know. And
so even what's crazy, sis is I have been in
this game. Next year it be thirty years, and the
first twenty of my twenty years of my career, I
was signed to a major, and so there was some
components of the game that I didn't even I wasn't
aware of, I'll put it that way. And so as
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I started my independent journey in twenty twelve and then
which was partially independent, but then now present day as
a fully independent artist, I'm now even discovering things and
I'm like, ah, so that's how that went down. Oh really,
when we were doing all that, that was what was happening.
And so as I'm learning more, I'm passing it on
to the next generation because they're going to enter the
(08:30):
game as an independent artist. And so what I get,
whether it's lessons of success failure, it's my job to
pass it on to this next generation.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Yeah no, because you don't want people to it's more
like a learn from my mistakes type of thing exactly.
And I so one of the things you talk about
at sunset clause is, Yeah, everybody needs to know about that.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
I mean, just any being able to navigate a contract
is just so important because that contract is binding, and
once you sign it and your signature on it, you
have to you just got to go to the end
of it. And it may not be in your best benefit.
You may have signed a way. You're publishing your royalties,
which is your legacy. And we're getting into this game
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so that our grandchildren's children's children's children can be proud
of what they og did right. And the only way
you can do that and get that is through ownership.
And so again, the primary objective of what I do
with my foundation is teaching the importance of ownership.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
How do you feel about signing to a major label again?
Is it something I.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Know some people would say it was the right situation.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
But now that you've gone the independent route, you've you've
been educated through life and through teaching yourself, what do
you think about it?
Speaker 3 (09:40):
I enjoy the independence, I really do. I enjoy I
enjoy it because what's funny is nowadays through independence, your
small team really is label services. So you can all
accart somebody to just do marketing and promotions. You can
hire an expert to do pr hire somebody to do
(10:00):
social media. So even in my independence, I could still
contract these independent providers.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
AI you can.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Do that, but yeah, you can do that too. However,
I still believe in I still believe in people, which
is why, you know, part of my independent journey is
getting in the car and we ride Azeema and I
we're riding up and down the highways doing in studio interviews.
Like I get calling in and the phones and all
of that. But I like this right here, this is
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how I was raised. I want you not only to
feel my music, but I want you to get a
sense of who I am. So when you're playing my songs,
there's another real component to it, and not that you
would just service the record. They're like, YO, play this song,
yeah anymore, that's my guy, Q Parker. He came here.
We had a great conversation, and I like his song too.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Yeah yeah, no, f ff, let's talk about that because
that's a song.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Yeah you like that song. I do why you like
that song?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I like anything that is ron to the point.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah you know, and I know you're gonna come do
the podcast lip service or something. Yeah, but it also
I think has a deeper meaning than what is on
the surface too, And actually I can appreciate that as well.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Yeah. So Triple Left was created because I feel like
I am a deliverer of I'm a messenger and when
I create, I want to be the voice for men.
But I also want to be the voice for women.
And so a lot of my career has been taking
the vantage point of what women want from men. So fellas,
(11:32):
we need to do this. Make sure guys you're doing this.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Two women went from men. I want to know a
couple of things.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Well, I think women want presence, they want security, they
want provision, they want to be the one, they want
to be seen, they want to be heard, and they
want to be dealt with gently, right, with soft hands
and soft words, charm, charisma like all of that. Right.
I'm a romance dealer, so I'm really connected to all
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of these things. Right, I've been married twenty three years,
so I know these things. And so part of my
career has been providing information to men what women want.
And rarely is there a forum where women have to
sit down and just listen to the heart of a man, right,
We're in a relationship, right, which goes both ways. We
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give and take, we sacrifice. We give. If I really
love you, I'm willing to give you whatever you want.
If you love me, you should be willing to give
me what I want. And so rarely is there a
conversation where men get to just speak authentically on some
of the things we want from women. And I wanted
to highlight three of those things. And so the song
triple F it is Yo, do you curse on this? Okay?
(12:40):
So the song is triple F is fucked me, feed me,
and be my fan. And when you listen to the song,
it describes what this means. Obviously, every man wants intimacy.
We can't live without it, so we have to be
We have to have that. That's one of the reasons
why we was here to create, pro create? How you
pro create?
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I gotta say, when people, because you've been married for
so long, right, And is there ever like dry spells where.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Nah, you have It's like rhythm. You have your rhythm right,
and when you understand your rhythm, it ain't necessarily classified
as a dry spell or a hot season or whatever
because you understand your rhythm. And so The first f
is we can't live without it. We men need intimacy.
Feed me. Yeah, I want you to be able to
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cook and feed my stomach, but the more important piece
of that feed is feeding my soul. Men need we
need our souls fed. And then the last one is
be my fans, support me, affirm me. Yeah, you got
it bad go yo, go kill it. Man, great job.
And so then it finishes and said, when women master
these things, men will give you anything you want.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, you know that's important.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
And I want to say that the position that you're
into because like you said, when you met her, you
were at kind of the height, and there's ups and downs,
and there's times that you're disappointed and how things turned out.
There's times that you got to figure out a different
way to move forward. And you need somebody that's going
to be good and supportive through.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
Outderstanding and patience and all of those things. And you know,
just for just for a period in the relationship, have
the man. That's the top line. You know, a lot
of times what the women needs needs are is what
is the driver on how we're able to sustain this relationship,
and men sometimes need, Like I should tell my wife
(14:32):
what you want from me, I want the same thing
from you, and what you need from me, I need
the same thing. So if you want that text in
the middle of the day, that's just like when thinking
about you, I need that text too.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Yeah, Because sometimes I also feel like sometimes men try
really hard to act like they don't need certain things.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Yeah, that's the post fake Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
And try to seem like they want to be the
ones that's always providing and doing these things for you.
And a lot of times women don't do that for
men too in a way. I mean, it's a lot
of games people play too, like they're waiting to see
who's going to text you? But God, but I think
in relationships, in courting, what's the rule? Okay, So I
met him, I liked him, we went on a date.
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Should I call him first? Should he call me?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Like?
Speaker 2 (15:15):
How to you know?
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Since it's nonsense, I feel like, go where your heart
says go. If you feel like sending that message, send it.
If you feel like calling, call what you got to lose.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
It's just I think it's harder for people now because
it's so many distractions and it's just so accessible. And
people have told me that, like it's you know, I'm
dating this person, but then he's following this person, he's
liking her pictures, he's here, he's there, And it's just
so easy for somebody to just send a DM or
you know, reconnect with somebody they haven't seen in so long.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
And because of that, which is why I feel like
the romance and the dating and the courting has to
be done, because you know, we're the relationship to be microwave,
put it in for two minutes, is ready, and I'm
about to do it. Well, a relationship needs time, I said.
I said, like, you gotta let that thing marinate, Like
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because when you slow cook anything, it's the right temperature,
you can taste all the seasons, it's tender and like
the meat just falling off the bone, like it's all
those things. And so if you applied that same mindset
to your relationship and understand that if you want it
to be really potent, let it cook for a little while, right,
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And so the first day after you met somebody, you're
not gonna have a revelation like, oh this is the person. No,
take your time, have some phone calls and be so
compelling and be such so connected to that individual that
you can't make him or her stop dming somebody, but
(16:53):
it'll just happen because we's so connected to each other.
And now I realize that you can provide everything that
I need. And those others who just started falling off.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
You know, keep on loving. That's a standout song on
here too. And I do want to say I felt
like I heard a little Two Occasions.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
You did, you did? That was the goal. One thing
I learned from puff Man is how to give a
song that's already a hit record another life a.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Little nostalgic yeah, on twist exactly.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
And you know, I'm very careful when I do that,
because you want to add to the legacy of the
record and not you know, not take away from it.
And Two Occasions is just such an iconic record. We
needed to make sure. So myself, Rico Love Ghost Kid
we said and were like, all right, we can't make
this a thing until it's really really one of the ones.
(17:49):
And I feel like we did a great job of
just sprinking just enough. But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you
were right. Okay, you know your r and bl a
little bit.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
It took me a second because I was like, I
had to like, figure, yeah, yeah, and so now I
saw recently also you you've been doing your press for this.
Does it bother you too that people will still be.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Like you from one twelve?
Speaker 3 (18:18):
So it doesn't have to be stated because I'm always
going to be from one twelve and I've worked, I've
worked really really hard to have Q Parker as a
stand alone and even as I've journeyed into this independent,
anytime I open my mouth, you're going to hear one twelve,
one twelve raised me. I am one twelve, we are
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one twelve. We all have contributed to this legacy of
thirty years, and so even as I am Q Parker,
I'm always representing one twelve, So it doesn't bother me.
But I am just working really really hard so that
Q Parker can stand on his own and then, by
the way, he's a founding member of one twelve. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
No, I was just wondering because sometimes it could be irritating,
like when people are always like Angela from the Breakfast,
like I have my own thing now sometimes.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
And you know, and it's just so it's it's difficult
sometimes for people to embrace something new that they have
been accustomed to sing for so long. Uh, and then
they'll try to portray their discomfort onto you. They may
be uncomfortable seeing you now operate outside of the breakfast
breakfast club because they just want you to always be.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Yeah, people like we miss you. I'm like, but happy
you're doing your own thing.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Right right, right, right, it's the same thing.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
You know.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
We love what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
In a good way way because you know, it shows
that it's sometimes it is that coming from something that's
iconic and meant so much to people, and people are
used to seeing you in a space and then you're
doing your own thing. They're happy for you. But the
nostalgia is also like you over there. Yeah, and it
could happen right one day.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I'm never the guy to hinder something nostalgic like that,
you know. I always remain hopeful. And my goal, my
objective is, you know, we all are having singular pursuits
at the moment, and so there's a space where you
can support the brand of one twelve as it is,
(20:27):
but also some room to support Q Parker. You don't
have to, It doesn't have to be in either, or
it can be both. Yeah, because we are cut from
the same cloth.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, No, we're talking about how, like just I saw
a babe while talking about this recently, how the music
from you know, back then, those concerts and those artists
are the ones that are really selling out shows and
tours right now. It's just something harder for like the
newer artists.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
It's something sweet about that nineties era. Man, Like, I'm
just so glad that I was a part of arguably
one of the dopest eras of hip hop and R
and B. Nobody can ever take that away from me.
When my grandchildren's children's children talk about their GP, they're
gonna be able to go in the museum and see
they GP right there. When you're talking about the legacy
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of hip hop and R and B, you can't mention
hip hop and R and B with our bad Boy.
You can't mention it without Biggie Smalls in one twelve
and just what we were able to do as a
record company and just artists underneath this record company. And
so I'm really proud. I'm really proud of that. But
for me, it's just it's about legacy, and I think
that my legacy will be in a great place in
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terms of what I've done musically with my brothers of
one twelve, but also as Q.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Parker, Threesome is also how you ended the album. I
was like, Okay, what are we talking about here?
Speaker 3 (21:49):
But mission accomplished, mission accomplished.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
But with the soul and your body so well, I
don't know what they really do.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
But that's not what this song was about.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
Yeah, you know, as a songwriter, there's this thing about
just being an eye grabber. And when you look at
the song list, you know I could have put on
that fu Me, feed Me be my Fan and people
would have just went right to that song because why
is Q Parker singing a song talking about me feeding
me be my fan? Why is Q talking about uh threesome?
(22:24):
And it's so funny And when I play, when I
play the album and people see the song list, they'll
go and, oh my god, it's just so romantic and
I love keep on loving and begging da da da threesome?
Are you gonna end the album with a song called threesome?
You just had all this romance And I'm like, did
you listen? Just listen, just keep listening, And by the
by the hook, they're like, oh I get it. It's
(22:49):
just I called myself way earlier. Yes, it's always just
a deeper meaning. And I take pride as a songwriter
and as a creative to always have the mind working,
because there are levels, as I said earlier, there's the
levels of romance and the truth threesome, in my opinion,
(23:12):
is having intimate moments mind, body, and soul.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
You know, do you think that being married in a
relationship as long as you were kept you out of
a lot of trouble when you were younger?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Absolutely? Absolutely, I got married young doesn't mean that I
was a saint. But again, I got to give my
wife so much props, man, because my wife is four
years older than me, and so in my twenties she
was already, like in her early thirties, my late twenties
and early thirties, she was already kind of like destined
for what she wanted in a relationship. And I'm still
trying to figure out, you know, who I am, who
(23:45):
I was at the time. But I just love her
so much because she was patient. She you know, allowed
me the space and grace, grace but also the space
for me to like grow into full manhood. And so
I do believe that everybody has to have the patience
to allow the relationship to really just develop into what
(24:06):
it ultimately will become.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
And then you can put on the song bag in
case you absolutely some more grace.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Well see this. So the interesting thing about Beg, which
was the first single of this romance evolution of romance,
is we redefined beg and gave beg an acronym bringing
endless gratitude. So this version of big ain't because you
messed up. The song says, this ain't cuz you done
went through my phone. It ain't because none of that.
It's none of that. This big is just we're gonna
(24:34):
beg for each other because I love you, because you're worthy.
And if both parties are doing this type of begging,
the relationship stays in a healthy place. So it ain't
the old school.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Yeah, it's not the old school.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
You know. It's interesting because sometimes people right from a
space of like for some reason, people also really connect
with music that is more about like painful relationships. But
this is more of a celebration and this is more
of a romance and we need that too, because I
feel like a lot of music that we listen to
now is a lot of like I'm messed up.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
Or yeah, and granted there is messing up is a
part of the I think it's in the equation of
a long lasting relationship, Like Grandma and them don't get
to fifty years without some peaks and valleys, right, And
I think if you live long enough, everybody has to
have about or some bounce with the word forgiveness and grace,
(25:28):
whether you're gonna have to ask for it or you
got to be on the other end of it, and
you know, the road of forgiveness and all of that,
it's still dual because the person who did the offending
has to show remorse and repent and do all these things.
But the offend did also have some work to do too,
because now if you're gonna really forgive, are you forgetting?
You're gonna do the work that we can actually move forward.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Forgive doesn't mean forget.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Though it done. It doesn't, it doesn't. But if you're
gonna fully forgive, you have to be in a space
where we can continue moving forward.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
Somebody called the other day for advice for the advice segment,
and they were talking about that, like, I don't know
how I can stick this out. You know, my wife
stayed with me, She says, she forgave me, but she's
still giving me a hard time about the cheating that
he did. And I understand both sides of that, because
you can't act like it doesn't hurt you and not
express yourself. And it had been, like I think he said,
(26:19):
like a year, you know, and sometimes it does.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
It should get like better and better.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Over time, but sometimes it is like people have a
little breakdown and have to bring it.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Back up again.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Well, I think communication This is when communication really really
becomes a thing because when there's infidelity, like I don't
know if the two individuals alone have the tools to
work their way back, And so here's when therapy and
counseling and licensed professionals have to can help you get
(26:49):
back on the road to recovery. But also understanding that
that ain't just a next day, we're good type of situation.
It takes time, and no one person can say, all right,
it's been long enough, because again you don't know how
it's really really affecting me. There are triggers, and if
there is the case, the therapy help you deal with
(27:09):
the triggers because we can move on, but the triggers
are going to show themselves tomorrow. Three months down the line,
three years down the line. But if we're having effective communication,
he or she could say, you know, today was a trigger.
How did that make you feel when this happens, Let's
talk through. Come on, yo, come on, I can't sing
(27:30):
by romance if I don't know all the levels.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
Okay, I like this aspect of it too. That was amazing.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Yeah, that's exactly what I was trying to expect, because
you're right, sometimes we don't have the tools to be
and that's where a licensed professional can help you with
that aspect of it and learning how to talk to
each other, how to express ourselves, how to respond and
all of that.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
You can talk. You can talk through anything if both
parties are willing to have effective communication. And I always
say communication for Claire, not just exchanging words. But my
goal is to make sure you have complete clarity on
what I'm trying to say, and your goal should be
to use the words so that I have complete clarity
(28:11):
of what you're trying to say.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Man, I really enjoyed this conversation. I have too, and
this project, The Evolution of Romance, Part one, Yes, is
that you can never tell me nothing bad about Q Parker.
I must feel bad about what we're gonna do on
lip service. When you come, let's not going to be bad.
But make sure y'all listen to this. And this is
a real solo album. You don't have it like, you know,
(28:35):
bogged down with guest appearances.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
It's all you.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I needed it to be like this, this reacclimation, and
this is this re entering back into the game. I
needed everybody to get one hundred percent of Q Parker
Volume one. Now as I go to Volume two, Andy three,
I may bring in some friends and some features and
all that, but Volume one needed to be the romance
deal to himself.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Who are friends of Q Parker?
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Man?
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I have so One thing I learned in my youth,
in my early days, was relationships are key, and so
h in my phone other artists, it's entrepreneurs, it's people
in radio, it's old label executives. I do que Parking
friends and so anybody from the nineties era and after that.
(29:18):
I'm pretty sure I have a great relationship with him,
personal relationship with him.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
So anyone could pop out, anyone could pop out.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
All right, Well, thank you, I appreciate you for coming
through it. I know we've been working hard on making
this happen. Thank you asimy guys. Thank you saving me.
Thank you guys,
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