Respectable Cheating

This week our ladies Tambam and AJ first get into sharing their experience at the 2nd annual Black Effect Festival and afterwards get into the S.I.N.S of the week, which included Latto holding in her fart from her man. Next they move into their main topic about respectfully cheating in a relationship. Tambam and AJ share their experiences in different relationships, and the ladies do not shy away from guilting themselves into being a “Dumb B*tch” too during those times. Lets discuss in the socials below.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeart
Radio and the Black Effect Network.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
Talk Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with
an opinion who talks. What's out?

Speaker 1 (00:17):
Y'all tuning in for a new episode of We Talk Back,
a show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
This is your co host, A J.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Holiday.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
What's up, Tam Bam?

Speaker 1 (00:29):
What's up y'all? I fucking love y'all, Lass so much.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
Calm down, I do. I was trying to make your energy.
I sound excited today.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Yeah, I'm on my rise coffee, my mushroom coffee.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
I'm gonna have me some here in a minute. I
love my mushroom coffee. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (00:50):
Our weekend was great, but wake your ass.

Speaker 2 (00:53):
That's why I'm tired. I'm tied. Listen, I te tied.
That was a lot my body went through this weekend.

Speaker 1 (01:01):
One thing about it. I know my limitations. Tammy be
pushing it, bitch, listen, limit thinking about what I gotta do. Shit,
we had a fun filled weekend. This past weekend was
a Black Effect Podcast Festival, second annual. Okay, yeah, let

(01:22):
per usual. You know, we only got one other to
compare it to, and it was great. You know what
I want to see next year, which I might even
suggest because there was an R and B festival going
on simultaneously, because my homegirl came to the podcast festival
and she left and went to this R and B. Yeah,
we need a stage with some with some music outside
because I don't I don't feel like that whole outside

(01:44):
was open like that last year.

Speaker 2 (01:46):
No, because they had the food vendors all on the
other side. We didn't. It wasn't like that. Yeah, so
it did split the crowd up a bit exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
So that big ass open outside field, they can go
ahead and throw another age out there and throw some music.
Maybe even somebody who already does podcasts can perform their
podcast and do some songs, like maybe like R and
B money to do some ship.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yeah, I think.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
I also think we should move to another city.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
No, I think Atlanta is it. I mean it's not
like maybe another black city like Houston or something like that. Like,
I don't think they should move. They definitely shouldn't have
it in New York. Remember the first one was supposed
to be in New York. I don't think that would
have been a good move.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
I think that should have it as Charlotte, so I
ain't got to travel. Oh that part.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
No, I did suggest that too, So Charlotte. Charlotte definitely
would be lit.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
It's the same thing. Yeah, it would be It would
be a good thing.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
And people from Atlanta would you know, they will travel.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
It's not that far. It's not that far, right.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
Because I spoke to some people and they were alway
from Ohio. Girl, people was flying in for that ship.
But yeah, shout out to a black Effect podcast.

Speaker 2 (02:56):
Network and yeah, okay, so there, we booked a we
booked a party for Sunday emphasis on week and then
this has been said. You know what I'm gonna do?
Talk back?

Speaker 1 (03:09):
Oh, talk back to your ass later. We ain't doing shit,
that said tavy ass right on, Like you went home,
Like that's about right. I would have had to drive
from Atlanta to Charlotte and then back to Charleston.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yeah, that was too much. Ire y'all was like, y'all
have fun. We did have a great time. It was
a good it was a good old time. But now
I'm sleeping for two days straight. You gotta we need
to recuperate. Yeah, but it was good time, good time.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Listen y'all, we did go to the strip club this weekend.

Speaker 2 (03:43):
I'm excited when.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
We go to the strip club, okay, because I only
go like once every ten weeks or some shit.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
You looked excited to go in early, but then about
after twenty minutes to be in there, you looked over it.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
It was I was over, yeah, because I didn't get
the fucking sit down. Bit ch'all was standing up in
that little ass hot box they had.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Oh you was standing while you here. I told you
could sit on my lap.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
Girl, you'd had to throw some ones on the side.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Bitch. I had enough. I can't listen. I had enough one.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
I wasn't one of the ones who threw my one
hundred and then said no more.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
I was like, give me another, give me another, Can
I have another? I know I threw at least six
hundred dollars by myself.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
I kept asking for a stack of one. This bitch
wanted to rotate the hose that was in it. All
of them bitches wanted to rotate the hose. Girl, I
was giving that money out. Just the only one who
said something. I was like, Chola, man, let's rotate these bitches.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
Man new Batch y'all black women, black people. Nuts.

Speaker 1 (04:49):
Dog. I feel like I feel like y'all motherfuckers was
discriminating a little bit.

Speaker 2 (04:54):
On the light skinned girls, not even the lap I
don't know. I I just feel like we've had the
light skined strippers be celebrated since I can remember. I
just wanted some chocolate in there, right, and jocolate is
so nice? Okay, No, no shade to the light skinned strippers.
I mean, in Puerto Rican strippers, they's beautiful too, But

(05:14):
I just wanted to see some chocolates. You know.

Speaker 1 (05:18):
I'm such a data analyst, Like I really be analyzing
the weirdest shit and the weirdest places. All I could
think about was like, damn, this is a whole new,
fresh batch of hoes like.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
They mama probably used to worry.

Speaker 1 (05:31):
I'm talking about the girls that get up on a
pole and do all the things like how do you like,
how do you know you coming from high school to
go do this?

Speaker 2 (05:37):
Like what were you? Were you a dancer in high school?

Speaker 1 (05:40):
Like what was y'all doing to prepare to be swinging
from the ceiling and magic City?

Speaker 2 (05:44):
Okay, how does that happen? They probably learned all that
shit there you think so that they look early twenties
like y'all. Yeah, but they strong, they young, they susceptible
the information. I'm sure they understand learned how to do
it real information very very but listen, I turned around.

(06:07):
This girl. She did something amazing. She bent over and
put her one leg straight up in the air, and
they was like, timmy, look, I turned around, y'all was
a pussy right eye level with my face. I was like,
oh my god, I didn't mean to be that close.
I wasn't like that. I ain't like that. I don't
want that. I'm cool. I'm cool. I'm cool, but I

(06:29):
just have I always wanted to understand the psychology behind
being able to be fully naked in public and not
feel shame or anything.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, that's all I was thinking about.

Speaker 2 (06:47):
Like I'd be feeling shame when my titties a sitting
upright in my dress. I don't know, man, on the
level of is it confidence or is it something else?
That's what I'm trying to understand.

Speaker 1 (07:00):
Like, I mean, they was drinking just as much liquor
as us. So do y'all get drunk to do this?
Do you have to be on drugs to do this
is this really you?

Speaker 2 (07:08):
You know? Right? So I don't know.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
I mean, you watch the movies and you see the
girls they be on cocaine all that shit in the back,
like they gotta get high in order to do their job.
I don't ever want to be doing nothing in life
that I can't do one hundred percent. So I'm pretty
sure there's some women in their sober Yeah.

Speaker 2 (07:23):
They don't do nothing, and then they're just having a great time, yeah,
and they feel empowered or something like that.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
I guess it's two different types of strippers. It's some
that gotta do it and some that you know, do
it because they like.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Maybe we should get a camera behind me and I
be a strip of a day. I'd be the worst
stripper though. I'll be up there doing a robot and ship.
They be like, just been over bit, are you.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
Gonna hear some fucking knees that need oil and bitch
a lot of shit.

Speaker 2 (07:47):
My knees is good.

Speaker 1 (07:48):
It's the hip, is that right, hire that you hear crack?

Speaker 2 (07:51):
So they ain't gonna be able to hear it over
the music. Let's get it to says y'all big Lotto.

Speaker 1 (08:02):
I said, y'all, Ship in front of y'all man, I
sneak downstairs. She's asking, do y'all ship in front of
your man? Or do y'all go in another room? What
should be doing?

Speaker 2 (08:11):
First of all, everybody ain't got no downstairs Lotto, so
some of these motherfuckers got one bathroom. Okay, but listen,
go ahead.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
Now, I was gonna say, yeah, send us some money
for a downstairs. You remember a couple of weeks ago
she sent this girl some money for her rent because
Lotto has said something. And the girl was like, now, Lotto,
everybody don't got that. She was like, oh, I'm sorry.
How much your runners? Right?

Speaker 2 (08:37):
Yeah, we need to down build on.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Top of our ship. We need to upstairs build us
up because the.

Speaker 2 (08:42):
Fuck I used to at some point I was with
my last boyfriend. We were together like four or five years,
and at some point I got comfortable enough to shit.
But in the first maybe two years, no, and it
used to be such a painful experience. I used to
have to like send it. I said, can you gonna

(09:03):
get me some ice cream? Ice cream? Right now? Please
go go, like just trying to get that one fuck
out of the house. I can take a poop and
He finally caught on that I was trying to avoid
like pooping around him, and he had to sit me
down and be like, bro, stop sending me places just

(09:24):
so you can use the bathroom. You're a human, are we, bitch?

Speaker 1 (09:30):
Because I'm still nothing. Maybe I get that from my mama,
Like I feel like she ain't never.

Speaker 2 (09:34):
Poop or.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Excuse me poop or poop in front of my daddy.
Cause I don't even want to say farnt fart for
this bitch to be trying to correct my uh.

Speaker 2 (09:46):
Ain't no internet words as up anyway.

Speaker 1 (09:49):
Yeah, I can't do it, not even far like I
only farn't when I am unconscious, like in my fucking sleep,
I might let one out and it might wait me up,
But I'm not just intentionally letting loose. Fra Once, when I.

Speaker 2 (10:04):
Tell you I stayed at her house one, you feel
like your ruins the intimessey.

Speaker 1 (10:08):
That's what I was about to say, like I had
a friend who I watched her, continued, I mean, just
just a weekend, I'm at her house. She just is sparting,
like letting loose, letting loose, and I'm looking at her, nigga,
and I'm like, yo, like that does to me. I
don't want my man super ripping it off all the
damn time. I don't like it, and close the door
when you're taking a shit.

Speaker 2 (10:28):
I'm cool.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
I don't want to see that, and I don't want
to smell it.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
I don't like man. I almost end up in a
hospital on some shit like that. Me my my ex boyfriend,
not the last one, but the one prior to that.
Me and him in his home his cousin, which was
also a man. We went to the outlets in Myrtle
Beach from Columbia, so that's like what two and a
half hour drive or something like that. We stopped at
McDonald's to get some breakfast. I got the steak bagel

(10:54):
had just come out. I was like, I'm gonna try that, baby,
that shit ball my stuff up. About forty five minutes
to the round, I had to fart so bad, but
there's no way I'm farting in front of these two men,
So I held my fart and by the time we
made it to the beach, I needed to go to
the emergency room. It felt like I was having a
heart attack. Gas was all up in my chest and everything.

(11:17):
We were and we were going to the outlet, and
I knew he was gonna buy me stuff, but I
couldn't even get out the car. I stayed in the
car while they went shopped, and I just laid there
and farted for like forty minutes. This really happened. I
was so miserable. I couldn't move.

Speaker 1 (11:37):
That crazy of some farns just stuck to my body
like that, like I'll wait in ta take a shower.
I'm gonna close the door. And I burned incense like
that kid that cuts the smell immediately, right if I
got to do it while he is home. But I
try to let all my poops and poops out on
this nigga go home.

Speaker 2 (11:57):
I can't do it. Eventually, I had to. Eventually, I
had to just be a human being.

Speaker 1 (12:02):
I can't do it.

Speaker 2 (12:03):
So you never be. You ain't never been. Like, can
you pass me tissue? Like you realized there was no
rong chuck?

Speaker 1 (12:09):
No, actually no, I want to make sure I got
all my things. I don't want to have to do that.

Speaker 2 (12:15):
I don't I don't want to have to, but it
has happened. I'm a cat.

Speaker 1 (12:20):
Cats literally cove it, shut up and hide it. Y'all
fucking dogs. Leave y'all shit out for people to see him. Smell, baby,
give me a row, please out the cabinet, ask it
to me, because what I'm gonna do?

Speaker 2 (12:36):
Shut up? All right? So Diddy's daughter Chance looks so
beautiful attending her prom with Branson Bailey and he is
the younger brother of Chloe and Halle Bailey. And they
looked very beautiful. They looked very like simple and elegant prom.

(12:56):
And one of the comments AJ is there with hard
eyes under the picture, and then right under that there's
a person that says, see how people with actual money
do prom. She didn't need a camel, a ski mask
on a yacht, a step squad to introduce her. Just
be broke as hell and tacky for no reason. Laughing faces.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
I agree, I disagree, I agree.

Speaker 2 (13:22):
Listen, pomp and circumstance your shit, because a lot of
times these young people are a chance. I promise you
Chance and Branson probably been on the yacht. They probably
can go ride a camel on their family vacations. They
at least some of these people don't get to experience
none of that ever in life. Like sometimes prom is
the only time they'll wear a gown in their entire life.

(13:45):
Do it big, baby, do it big. Let your people
celebrate you, because they don't. Because they're rich. They've had
all these expensive, extravagant experiences, and it's just not fair
to judge people who don't get to have that this
one day. They want to feel like the like the
rich people.

Speaker 1 (14:03):
You saying that, but you are the one who has
have been sending me these people proms over done and
talking shit.

Speaker 2 (14:14):
Why I feel so bad?

Speaker 1 (14:16):
I talked shit to you about the jerseys being like
a big gaudy but I wouldn't say I wouldn't either
of them, like, don't do this. This is because this
is for you and you may not get to experience
this again. A lot of these you can see the
project building in the back, you know, Like.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
And that is maybe problem.

Speaker 1 (14:34):
They are in the projects because the parents are not
prioritizing what is actually important. You can say, like this
may be the only time they can do this. That's
not true. Those children got their whole life ahead of them,
you know what I'm saying, Like, why go in debt
for this one event when you already don't fucking have it?
That is the point the people who actually have the
money are doing the simplest of things. And yes they

(14:56):
may have had those other experiences, but this is a
high school PM. Why y'all got horses? Not the one
little girl who had the horse her and her boyfriend.
I know it was fire, that was flies, hell, dress
was regular black. Nice that was and that probably didn't
cost much just to get a horse to pull up
in some cameras. But some of that shit I'm seeing.
They gotta have a lambbo they got Come on, man.

Speaker 2 (15:18):
The dance crew coming out. They'll walk you out.

Speaker 1 (15:21):
I remember seeing a post guy posted asking if he
was wrong because he's co parenting with his son's mom
and the son mom is trying to go all out
for his prom. He she wants to get this, get that,
and the daddy's like, listen, I don't have all that
money to spend on prom, and I don't think it's
wise that you're doing it either. She basically call him

(15:41):
a broke ass nigga.

Speaker 2 (15:42):
That is not cool. He's not a broke ass nigga.

Speaker 1 (15:46):
If he's trying to, like really prioritiz like y'all want
to live it out for this one fucking day. What
happens next week when you're renting you and all this shit,
like what type of money.

Speaker 2 (15:56):
Are you tying to put yourself out? But look, I say,
you put yourself out of your hat.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
But look at the proms and the things that these
kids are having for the for this one day.

Speaker 2 (16:04):
I can appreciate it because they feel very special. They
feel special on this one day. Maybe they ain't never
got to feel like that before.

Speaker 1 (16:12):
It's all for social media. It's all for social media.
It's the parents doing it for social media. It's the
kids doing it for social media. Y'all doing the most
for no reasons. One prom you got college coming up hopefully,
y'all all motherfuckers is going to college?

Speaker 2 (16:24):
What type of.

Speaker 1 (16:25):
Money are the millennials making that they can afford this
type of shit for these kids?

Speaker 2 (16:29):
Because I don't got no kids and not be broken
as hell? What is fucking happening?

Speaker 1 (16:35):
If you wanted to rent a camel tomorrow, you could
rent a camel, sit your ass down.

Speaker 2 (16:40):
And I wouldn't bitch.

Speaker 1 (16:41):
I like furniture and shit like that, like other things
I can have for longer than a day.

Speaker 2 (16:46):
Okay, yeah, I mean I get what I understand exactly
what you're saying. But I can understand why a parents
would want to do the most for their baby on
they one prom. Maybe their mama didn't even get to
go to prom.

Speaker 1 (16:59):
I do like, still wouldn't I'd be exciting when my
like my youngest niece, she's ready for prom just this Saturday,
and I helped her get her dress and all that stuff,
Like that's enough excitement for me, and she's happy. Also,
like all this extra shit is fucking wild to me.
And guess what all you're doing is ready and your
damn daughter to get smashed tonight. Also, and you know

(17:22):
I gave her a car, all the things, she got
everything she need.

Speaker 2 (17:27):
Listen, she gonna get. She gonna get smashed in a
regular dress or that fancy dress. So I just wouldn't
get a dolled up Yo.

Speaker 1 (17:35):
It's just too much, man, it's just too much.

Speaker 2 (17:38):
Did you have sex after your prom?

Speaker 1 (17:40):
I didn't go to prom.

Speaker 2 (17:42):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (17:43):
I didn't go to prom because you know, I have
a mom who doesn't see the importance of that type
of shit. She don't think like weddings are necessary, she
don't think baby showers are necessary. She didn't think prom
is necessary. She was like, if you want to go
to prom, you gotta buy your own prom dress. I
didn't hear a prom. Yeah, so what my nieces done? Like,
I make sure I show up for them and I
could see them off the prom because I never.

Speaker 2 (18:05):
Went, I don't do. I regret it.

Speaker 1 (18:08):
Another problem, y'all, my big fucking young ass was talking
to old ass niggas. So these niggas was not in
high school to even go to prom with me. Another
part fast I was just so.

Speaker 2 (18:20):
I was like a prom whore. I went to every nigga.
I went to all the high school's proms with different niggas.
I'm talking about from freshman year up. Like I was
just prom prom prom. I loved it. That was my
favorite pastime in the spring Well, Richland Spring Valley. I'm

(18:42):
going to everybody's prom.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (18:45):
But I used to get the boy to buy my dress.
I've been getting tricked down since fourteen, That's what she said.
Dress because my mom she was like, I'll buy a
dress for your prom. That's it. I can't buy a
dress from every nigga prom in Columbia. So I think

(19:06):
one time I wore the same dress to two different proms.
You got a full mottit. Jac's Penny's finest sort, all right.

Speaker 1 (19:17):
So look, this is some well all of this shit
is stupid internet news. So this post online. It actually
was on Laura le Ross's page. So this girl tweeted
and said this lady on ig posted an engagement photo
and that was the first time she had ever posted
her man. Soon as she posted that shit, the woman

(19:37):
her fiance had been cheating with contacted her and now
they are no longer engaged. Now I gotta been guilty
of that because I don't think when I got engaged.
I think I posted a candid picture of me and
him and you see a ring on my finger. I
never like posted like this my man and had all
the wedding slew of pictures, you know, because I had
gotten engaged this person. I remember one of my homegirls

(19:59):
at the time telling me, oh, my engagement was going
to be real until I post it.

Speaker 2 (20:04):
I'm like, what, what hey? Girl?

Speaker 1 (20:07):
That makes absolutely no fucking sense, because look, I didn't
post it. And the only way y'all know I was
engaged is because I told y'all. Now, what if I
had a slew of pictures of this relationship only to
now not be with the person. That's what happened when
you post all this shit online.

Speaker 2 (20:21):
So you didn't post him at all.

Speaker 1 (20:23):
I had one picture, maybe two, maybe two pictures and
that and he had to initiate that. Any relationship I've
ever been in that work that had any posting, the
man initiated it.

Speaker 2 (20:33):
I don't like doing it.

Speaker 1 (20:34):
I don't like people in my business, and I don't
like bitches coming to me as a woman. Once I
do post my nigga because I'm coming as a sniper
every fucking time.

Speaker 2 (20:43):
Don't come to me as a woman. Please, But why
are you gonna come to her as a sniper? WF
she think that's her man too? Girl?

Speaker 1 (20:49):
Women be knowing if I'm engaged to this man, that
means I'm probably I've probably spent every holiday with.

Speaker 2 (20:54):
Him where you've been at.

Speaker 1 (20:57):
No women be knowing, you know what?

Speaker 2 (21:00):
But sometimes niggas are stealthy liars. I was talking to
this guy and I just was like so smitt with him.
I thought, Okay, this could be a husband. Right. He
was successful, he was handsome. I mean it didn't last
that long, so I probably would have found out eventually,
But I like we had got drunk one night, I
hadn't even slept with him yet, right I was holding

(21:21):
my vagina. Something was just telling me, like, don't rush
into intimacy in that way. Make out, do some heavy petting.
But it never did to do. And one night we
got really drunk together and I said to him, like
I got like a little emotional, and I just told
I thanked him for being a good person, Like I
feel like a lot of men come and try to
take advantage and I just really need good people in

(21:43):
my life, So thank you for being that baby. I
ain't hear from him after that. I didn't know he disappeared.
He disappeared, and then he came back like months later
trying to say something to me, and I was like,
you ghosted me and we were getting along so well,
like why he was like, I'm married, get married, And he.

Speaker 1 (22:05):
Knew you were getting serious with him, like so.

Speaker 2 (22:07):
He just yeah, And I got all emotional and really
telling him. But I let him know upfront that I
was only interested in dating for marriage, so he knew
that from the beginning, but he.

Speaker 1 (22:20):
Didn't on getting that pussy first, and you just was
taking too long. This is the importance of waiting.

Speaker 2 (22:26):
Right, he was gonna be regardless. Yeah, he was gonna
ghost me regardless. But I think he developed a little
bit of a conscience when I was pouring my heart
out to him and then just was like, man, I'm
just gonna go now. Shame.

Speaker 1 (22:41):
So uh, is it true that you don't know somebody
until you live with them, or you don't know him
until you post him on social media?

Speaker 2 (22:49):
You don't know until you post them? Baby? Is that
a whole nothing? So, yes, that's an episode to.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
Be had because I don't I can't imagine and you
know anytime. That is part of the reason that might
be one of the reasons why I don't post. I
don't like people in my business. I'm a very private person.
Even though we talk a whole lot of shit on here,
you still only know what I want you to know. Okay,
So now that is a part of the reason why
I don't like posting people. I remember one time, this

(23:15):
current nigga. Okay, this is when we were together years ago,
a bitch came on my page and only liked a
picture of him.

Speaker 2 (23:27):
Who fuck you playing with? And I'm like, who's this right?
Because you know her? Yeah? Who the fuck? Is this.

Speaker 1 (23:37):
You gotta know this bitch, because why the who the
fuck comes on a bitch page that only like her?

Speaker 2 (23:42):
Nigga? Listen, I went on a bitch page one time
and like all her baby show our pictures with my
ex boyfriends. You petty bitch. Congratulations, bitch, I'm praying for you.
You're probably forever for real now.

Speaker 1 (23:59):
Yes, anyway, post your man when y'all feel like it.
I mean, I don't see the significance of posting relationships
social media is for me. I'd like for it to
be more of some business shit, but you know, people
want to see a life, especially when you.

Speaker 2 (24:14):
Like a puppet public.

Speaker 1 (24:17):
About to say puppet figure, a public figure. You said
it right, exactly, a puppet figure. Yeah. You want to
see you and what you got going on and who
you fucking with? Nah, dang your business. So I mean
she did right, yeah, because when it got serious and
then now she knows what time it is.

Speaker 2 (24:35):
I don't like when people be posting all their relationship everything.
We're having ice cream today, we're doing this, or so
in love and then he just disappeared. No, bitch, you
need to tell us what happens. We've been to every
dinner we've been to every lunch. Now I don't know. No,
I'm fully investigate what happened.

Speaker 1 (24:51):
But how about I can count all the bodies you
done had the last decade. You're not to every man
you've ever been with on your soci your media. I'm
carrying all your body and these the ones we know about, right,
I just.

Speaker 2 (25:08):
Be I be in person with women who can switch
boyfriends like panties like and be really like claiming niggas
publicly so quickly. Who you're talking about me?

Speaker 1 (25:18):
Yeah, y'all, y'all this episode is about.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
Cheating respectfully.

Speaker 1 (25:29):
Man, I love these naggets and niggas live me.

Speaker 2 (25:38):
He was a skill y'all?

Speaker 1 (25:41):
Is there such a thing as respectful cheating? So this
guy who we didn't she didn't find out about any
side bitches until she posted. Maybe, like if if there
was no inkling he was actually cheating at any point,
maybe he was doing respectfully and maybe this one person
he just couldn't keep in line enough to keep the

(26:01):
lie going. But I think that most women are more
disappointed in the embarrassment that they feel when other people
know that they've been cheated on. Right, So is there
such a thing as respectful cheating. Y'all stay tuned for
this week's episode. Will be right back after this commercial.

Speaker 2 (26:24):
All right, guys, we're back. All right. So, Ninny Leeks
did an interview and she said that there's a such
thing as respectful cheating, and it's when a woman, the
side chick, stays fifty feet away from the main tie.
Just fifty rules. I must have missed that. Ye have
rules fifty feet. They don't take no pictures together, no
babies or anything that happens. And that was pretty much it,

(26:47):
Like she just stays very anonymous who says the rules.
I guess the party's involved. I guess her and not Yanni.
I mean, I don't know if that's I don't know.
They be on again, off again.

Speaker 1 (26:59):
Y'all think you what that got? I mean, was he
not still married when they got together?

Speaker 2 (27:04):
I do not know that part, but I wanted to
discuss that because that seems to be a thing. Now.

Speaker 1 (27:12):
Is there such thing as respectful cheating? Yes, there is
such a thing as respectful cheating. I never want to
know that you cheated. If you I don't. Okay, we
talk about this shit a lot, like being in non
monogamous relationships. I don't really believe in non monogamy, but

(27:32):
I believe in honesty. And if you can't be fucking honest, nigga,
just do it so well that I never know. When
you start producing kids, Okay, I know all your dirt.
At that point, you just produced a whole another human being.
When a bitch is calling the phone, calling the house,
messaging me from your bed.

Speaker 2 (27:55):
Is okay, man to have a side cheek. No, it's
not okay.

Speaker 1 (27:59):
But I don't think that we can go through this
life without ever having access to the opposite sex. And
maybe you and your partner can set a standard like,
look when we married, but when we turn fifty, we're
gonna have some other people. Maybe it's something like that,
but and we know about it. But if you happen

(28:19):
to get your dick and some shit, I don't want
to know about it. I want you to do it,
so I don't want to know about that shit. Like
I don't want to know that you're playing in my face.
I don't want to know that.

Speaker 2 (28:35):
Yeah, I mean, ignorance is bliss, that's what you're basically saying.
But in my opinion, there's no such thing as respectful cheating,
because once you're cheating, you're disrespecting the fuck out of me.
Once you're cheating is disrespect I don't think. Because yeah,
because there's such thing where is twenty twenty four? There's
such thing as open relationships. If that's what you want,

(28:58):
share that with me because I can. I can open up.

Speaker 1 (29:01):
I can open up with your baby already. Men can't
handle the shit they dish. They can't handle it.

Speaker 2 (29:06):
This is true.

Speaker 1 (29:07):
Do I want to not be with my partner because
I know he can't handle me cheating on him?

Speaker 2 (29:13):
Quarterly? You want to respectfully cheat too? Is that what
you're saying? Oh? Absolutely?

Speaker 1 (29:19):
So the thing is you want to respectfully do it
because if I find out I don't leave you because
of cheating, I am a big tit for tatter. Okay, so, motherfucker,
if you tip me, I'm aa tat yourt tat tat
What the fuck? Where movie is that?

Speaker 2 (29:36):
I don't know you? And the movie is that? Y'all?
Tat tat tat what the fuck? I don't know? Y'all,
go in the comments, tell us what the movie that is?
I need y'all to know what if y'all's real, Because
y'all know that movie. What's the movie? I'm not telling
I want them to gage. Okay, they gonna know, or
maybe I'll tell it at the end, but I ain't
gonna tell you now.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
Yeah, So yeah, don't tip me, and I want tat
If you're faithful, I'll be faithful. If I find out
you doing some ships, if you do do some shit, right,
I better never find out about it because I'm not
gonna leave you for jeating.

Speaker 2 (30:08):
I'm listening. Yeah, if you paid for some puzzy, it
gotta listen. If they got pussy, they paid for it,
because listen outside outside, women.

Speaker 1 (30:19):
Just be cheap, okay, is not you?

Speaker 2 (30:23):
You're man for free. You're a man somebody else's man.
Those women want something and they can't have him in
a real way, so they're gonna want tangible things. It
just depends.

Speaker 1 (30:34):
Because if he's a scorpio, he definitely and multiple full
fledged relationships. He is figuring out a way to juggle
his dick between multiple women.

Speaker 2 (30:45):
Oh, I just that scares me so bad because I
just I just be. I have this fear, I really
have this fear, you guys, that I'm gonna end up
on snap you know, that show that come on crime TV.

Speaker 1 (30:56):
No, you're not gonna end up on there.

Speaker 2 (30:57):
I have no idea because you don't play with me
like that because I'm so open and like with the
ships oftentimes that you can just tell me anything. Don't
play with me because well everybody be like, yeah, we
was watching that episode and we talked back and she
said we was gonna be here evidence.

Speaker 1 (31:16):
They're gonna have your ass rerun it on YouTube, just
like the young thug trout Yo, niggas, it's.

Speaker 2 (31:22):
Tuning in every day to me. Just tell me the truth,
you know, because and I'm being.

Speaker 1 (31:27):
There as a witness, like, man, listen, it was it break.
She ain't do it with a body because I didn't
help you hide it with a body.

Speaker 2 (31:39):
Man, Y'll help you hide a body, just so y'all.
So I just don't. I don't believe in cheating, respectfully,
there's no such thing. There's just cheating and you just slick.

Speaker 1 (31:48):
But what how would you feel if your mate actually
came to you and say, hey, I want to I
met this person. You know, you know I wanted that
business trip two weeks ago and I met a really
nice No, I want to say two weeks let's say
four months ago. Okay, I met a woman on a
flight four months ago. You know we have been chatting
up a little bit. You know, sometimes we have problems.

(32:09):
I can't every come I can't always come to the
problem with the problem. So I've been chatting it up
with her, and you know, I want to fuck her.

Speaker 2 (32:19):
How would you take that? All? Right? First, I would
want to exercise the understanding that we have a problem,
but I'm not the problem. Let's attect. Let's discover what
the problem is and attact that. Don't view me as
the problem. There's an issue, right, and let's fix that.
But that's what a coincidence that you met you met
someone four months ago? Because in my DM there's this

(32:44):
guy let him this is just one of them. But
he's been at me for four months and I've been
ignoring him. But he looks great. So if that's what
something you want to explore, we can do that. But
if you're not okay with me exploring, please don't try to.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
You know, Nigga gonna beat you up, Christopher Columbus baby,
because that will be the Nina, the Santa, every and
every other boat there is. So they can't take it,
but I I if it happens, if one night. You know,
this is why I'm a firm believer in Like, you know,

(33:20):
when you you cohabitate with somebody, maybe y'all are married,
living in the same space, don't ever put your nigga out.
There are so many quality women like you literally sending
your man to somebody else's house when you be like,
get out for us. You know, the pigas is very slim,
so it's always a bitch and the cut somewhere right?

Speaker 2 (33:41):
What was that Beyonce song? Exactly let you Go? Exactly?

Speaker 1 (33:47):
That's if I help you build some ship.

Speaker 2 (33:49):
Like what if he's a good dude, Yeah, if he's
a good dude. All right, So what was that movie?
I don't know if y'all saw that movie. It was
with Channon Tatum and the white girl I can't remember.
She real pretty and they were in a car accident
in the snow. They were married, and she lost her
whole memory and she could not remember her husband. And

(34:10):
she eventually remembered that her father had sex with her
homegirl and that's why she ran away. And then she
came back to her mom. Yeah, and she was like, Mom,
how did you not leave him. Why wouldn't you leave him?
Like that's so weak of you not to leave him
for that. And she was like, I analyzed over the
last thirty years, and I realized how much good he

(34:34):
had done, and I couldn't let the one bad mistake
he made outweigh all the good things he had done
throughout our life. And that's why I chose to stay.
And that shit was like so profound for me. I
was like, wait, because a lot of women leave for
that one infraction even though a nigga done provided them.
I mean a man. I gotta stop saying a nigga,

(34:55):
a man has provided them such a good lifestyle and
all these things, and he makes it it's one infraction
and then they leave. But sometimes that's people's deal breakers.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
Yeah, Like I have one of my cousins, I mean,
her baby daddy cheated on her one time girl and
she literally had a whole apartment the next week and
never looked back. She married so a whole other man.

Speaker 2 (35:15):
Now is she happier? I mean, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (35:20):
I just remembered when she first met her baby daddy
and how she was talking about I remember I was
in town and Charleston this was years ago.

Speaker 2 (35:28):
How she was like talking about him.

Speaker 1 (35:30):
She was like, girl, that's my husband, this and that
and third like they didn't get married, but they did
produce a very beautiful young lady and she's about to
graduate from high school now. But one thing, she got
the fuck up out of there, and he had to
me he hasn't recovered.

Speaker 2 (35:45):
Well that worked. They didn't always work.

Speaker 1 (35:47):
Miserable if you ask me, yeah, well, I feel like
men only learn from hurt, right, So if you actually
want a man to course correct some shit, you gotta leave.

Speaker 2 (35:58):
You gotta leave, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (35:59):
And then maybe he'll get it together and come back,
or maybe he'll learn from the situation with you, and
then he'll go on and treat the next woman.

Speaker 2 (36:08):
But the next woman better. He okay, was.

Speaker 1 (36:10):
Giving a woman a refurbished man. It's okay, Ladies like,
don't It's like you're not building somebody else.

Speaker 2 (36:15):
It's so infuriating to see the nigga that the man
that you wanted to treat you.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
Right, Okay, Drake was better, I said, Okay, Drake, Drake, Drake,
you bad from saying niggas alone. Summons Israel on a
on uh now seeing he like, nah, I get it.
I'm in a rap battle. New bitches is talking about cheating.

(36:43):
I ain't cheating on nobody, committing to nobody. Y'all tell
me love fucking Drake. Okay, I told Tammy earlier, I said, Drake.

Speaker 2 (36:51):
Is not Listen, you are not Drake type. Come about Drake.
He's funny to me. I mean we're getting off topic.
I mean drinking along anyway. So all right, So I
looked up an article. You guys, we love a good article.
I love a good article.

Speaker 1 (37:07):
It's so fucked up from the solar eclips.

Speaker 2 (37:09):
Because she's like, I'm Jesus said, I'm magical, and I
can look at the sun.

Speaker 1 (37:15):
You couldn't see sis, but hold on, the only thing
I can't see is technology.

Speaker 2 (37:20):
I was like, it's my last on. She's like, I
don't know, bitch, I can't even see you. I got
a small.

Speaker 1 (37:26):
If you can't put three fingers on that foet between
that forehead and the.

Speaker 2 (37:29):
Mind, brother, that's brought down low. I got four head,
all right. So I found an article on signs that
your man is cheating. So if y'all think he is cheating, respectfully,
here goes some signs, all right, So he has different
levels of sexual interaction. So if your man used to

(37:52):
wanna sleep with you all the time, and all of
a sudden he's like, I'm tired, that's because his balls
is empty. If he make him money, he's tired.

Speaker 1 (38:02):
If your nigga is playing that he was from all
night and now he come home talk about am Dar
and me playing two K every day and saying his way,
he tired, that's a problem. Two K like the basketball, right,
that's my game. Like if he playing mothers still playing
that ship? I thought they was playing, Like I have
one in my house right now on a motherfucker chest.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
I don't want it on.

Speaker 1 (38:25):
I'd be worthy of the damn four arms swipe that ship. Yeah,
but he still want to fuck you though, absolutely? Okay,
too much sex, please, somebody tell.

Speaker 2 (38:35):
Me me with it.

Speaker 1 (38:37):
I it's not moving, No, But that's what I'm saying.
If he is like at home, he's not that busy,
and he also is not having sex with you, there's a.

Speaker 2 (38:47):
Chance that he's cheating.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
Right, Okay, But if it's a man making money, I'd
rather a busy man than anything.

Speaker 2 (38:54):
I want my man to be busy.

Speaker 1 (38:56):
I want him to have a lot of shit going
on trying to get me a million dollars.

Speaker 2 (39:00):
Absolutely. Absolutely. If we ain't having sex, I'm cool. But
if he turned you down for sex all the time,
that's the problem. Either you done got too fat and.

Speaker 1 (39:08):
He think you Some niggas like that. Bitches like why
I said too fat?

Speaker 2 (39:14):
Too bad? Whatever he likes you ain't that. No, I'm
smiling at your baby mama, and nigga, I'm winning. What
are you talking about? I'm skinny or to something that
he don't like. He's not physically attracted to you anymore.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
That's a whole nother episode because I can't really be
feeling some type of way. I seen a court TV
video one time and the guy was saying how she
doesn't look like who he married. I mean, men are
I won't say men are super visual, but I know
men are predators aside a tide from being very visual,
so it's fair.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
Like they look the same though. That's the crazy part.

Speaker 1 (39:48):
Like your moms were sitting up here now they're down here,
and nigga, you are hips now, why are you talking shit?

Speaker 2 (39:53):
Yeah, don't do me like that wall you were changing together.

Speaker 1 (39:56):
You had to hear when I met you and now
you don't so, but I actually to get no, man,
we I actually go to Turkey, right. I've been looking
on the boss spots, loving them, and you got the
nerve to say something about this role the fuck. Luckily,
my nigga loves rolls. Lick this roll bo rolls.

Speaker 2 (40:16):
Okay, this one is inconsistent explanations. Lyne is much harder
than many people understand, especially constant line to a committed partner.
While liars would do their best to repeat the same
story each time they lie, they usually start to give
inconsistent information when they when they're understressed, or if they're
asked the same question in the way they're not used to.

(40:38):
So a nigga started lying a man A man gets
the lion, Like I was.

Speaker 1 (40:43):
Working later than late and they had the boss man.
That shit was crazy today they had like it was
like the fact went out in the building and then
they had to put on the half masks who and
then I came down there and it was like, it's
those fucking lies on the Clarence Rock somewhere because I'm
not buying them, right, It's all kind of crazy shit.

Speaker 2 (41:06):
Now, don't be offering me no lies?

Speaker 1 (41:07):
Am I ask you no questions, don't lie, and I
really don't ask questions. And I probably enable people to
cheat because I do like to let people do what
the fuck they want to do, so I can see
what you rather do. I know I've said that a
million times, but I mean it like I really just
let people live. I don't be on a nigga neck
and none of that shit and no whulch. You start
feeling different because we know when you're cheating, Okay. Our

(41:29):
bodies tell us when something isn't right. Yes, so if
I feel some way, if I smell some way, I'm
cutting your head off.

Speaker 2 (41:38):
But sometimes men be telling the truth, but it sound
like a lie. You know, give me some time, it'll
be like a lie might sound better than the truth
because the truth sound like a lie. Like did you
ever see that video where the man was pulled over
by the police and he was like, man, talk to
my girl. Man, just talk to my girl, because I
ain't got time for that shit. When I get home,
he put the police on facetide with his girl because

(42:00):
he's like, look, I'm with the police, man, I can't
believe nothing.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
No, you better be with the police are dead. If
it's a case where you didn't come home. Yeah, I
don't understand how women literally be living with men who
don't come home, that.

Speaker 2 (42:14):
Don't come home. Just said the sun beat them home.

Speaker 1 (42:17):
Like he was at your house and didn't go home.

Speaker 2 (42:19):
He don't let the sun beat you home. That's your girl.

Speaker 1 (42:22):
You don't go home, right, and you just take into
that to me, I'm not gonna be home when he
gets there. That's how I do it. Yeah, you wanna
do that type of shit. You gonna be like it's
six o'clock in the morning. Oh, because then that make
you just as bad, and then you.

Speaker 2 (42:37):
Don't have a leg to stand on.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
I don't.

Speaker 2 (42:39):
I don't go high. I don't go high.

Speaker 1 (42:41):
I go to hell every time.

Speaker 2 (42:43):
I'm just sitting in there dark with gospel music playing,
scared of the nigga.

Speaker 1 (42:46):
Like he gonna come in the house, like, oh shit,
hes a kya walker blasted to hide decibels in there,
and he just and I'm sitting in the dark. No,
I ain't gonna be there. I may not be at
another man's house because I do feel like when you cheat,
if you are a woman and you want to get
back I don't feel like giving your pussy to another

(43:08):
man is get back leaving, and leveling up is get
back leaving. And the fucking with a millionaire is get back.
That's the only way men feel the type of way.

Speaker 2 (43:18):
Yeah, but get back.

Speaker 1 (43:20):
Letting somebody else borri your kouchi is not.

Speaker 2 (43:22):
Get back with millionaires. Like it's not just like I said, millionaire.

Speaker 1 (43:27):
Maybe that may be extreme. Just fucking with somebody better
than the man you're with. Let's just say that you
ain't even.

Speaker 2 (43:33):
Gotta be better. All he gotta do is be like
three inches taller than your nigga, and he like.

Speaker 1 (43:37):
Oh hurt, mom, I kill everybody.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
He ain't gotta have no money. He just gotta be
three inches taller. I swear to God, that's all I
gotta be. His dick is bigger.

Speaker 1 (43:51):
They ready to kill everybody, nigga knocking everything over in
the house.

Speaker 2 (43:57):
Sorry. The next one is inconsistent expense. Oh yeah yeah,
hotel ship girl, I was. And spending habits can be
a sign that there might be something else going on
with your partner. A big red flat, for example, is
unexplained large cash withdrawals. Hmm, So can I say, like cousin.

(44:18):
I sorry, cousin. Okay. So one of my one of
my close friends.

Speaker 1 (44:23):
Which is also my first cousin, she was talking to
this guy recently and he he flew her out, but
he wouldn't order food the polices they would go, so
you would just she would just.

Speaker 2 (44:34):
Have one meal exactly before I came, order for yourself.

Speaker 1 (44:45):
One meal because somebody else looking at the big.

Speaker 2 (44:47):
Statements that slick.

Speaker 1 (44:51):
That's not slick. It's obvious to the woman you're with,
and right now in this moment, it's one. It was
obvious to her, was what I'm saying. Not obvious to
the woman that's looking at the bank statements. It's obvious
to the woman that you're with.

Speaker 2 (45:05):
Your Oh he was sitting with. He was with someone
he wasn't honest about.

Speaker 1 (45:10):
Yes, So she came to the conclusion that she was like, man,
I think that Nigga married. When she got back home,
she was like, I think he's married, and I'm like, girl,
he probably is, because at what point do you go
visit somebody and they're not eating.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
Y'all go out to eat right, let me taste that
it looks good.

Speaker 1 (45:26):
No, just order something, get your own beggar boy, like
the fuck, let me taste that state.

Speaker 2 (45:35):
Yeah, we got COVID in the building. You order a down,
She's like no, making a twelve bounce yo.

Speaker 1 (45:48):
I would embarrass the dude, like what are you doing?
I would have asked him. I don't like to speculate.
I don't like to assume shit. I asked too many
questions for nigga to lie, Like, just tell me what
it is and let me decide whether or not I
want to deal with it, you know, because once I
know who you are, I can deal with it. But
don't just be lying in my face and not eating,

(46:08):
Like why eat?

Speaker 2 (46:09):
Hungry as hell? Y?

Speaker 1 (46:12):
Yo?

Speaker 2 (46:15):
No, that's why here's a good one. False accusations of cheating.
Have you ever had someone like, oh, you just on
you about doing shit so hard? It's like, what are
you doing? Because why you keep being on me so heavy?
And I ain't even doing nothing.

Speaker 1 (46:27):
You know, I've been in every single relationship I've been in,
I've always felt like, damn, am I doing something to
make men feel insecure? But I've never been with a
man who didn't cheat on me. So the whole time,
you accusing me of some shit because you out here
doing the fucking most. So you just can't fathom in
your mind why I wouldn't be.

Speaker 2 (46:47):
I leave instead. I swear one time we was in
the drive through at bow Jangles. I'm not lying, and
I was like, thank you. He's like, what the fuck?
You smiling in a nigga faith so hard? You're always
smiling in a nigga face. I was like, I was
just being polite. He was passing the food through the window,
Like that's that's a problem. You're doing too much. You

(47:08):
do too fucking much like calming and smiling down. I
was like, this nigga is cheating on meigg That's all
I heard. I can't smile out all I heard window,
That's all I heard. Yeah, damn.

Speaker 1 (47:20):
Like I've said this before, like how my ex like
I would call people babe, and it's no, that's a
problem because you're a boy. That's when I called baby.
I really get that from my mom, Like I'm calling
grown people babe. I'm calling kids babe. When I get
like if I'm at the grocery store in line, I'm like,
think you babe, go on by my business. This nigga
started doing it like intentionally though, like if you don't

(47:42):
use that word, like why are we out at a
restaurant and you like telling the waitress thank you, babe, bitch,
I'll smack across the.

Speaker 2 (47:49):
Under the don't call that bitch babe. That's not your babe.
Don't do that. I don't play that.

Speaker 1 (47:57):
So yeah, I definitely have been accused of cheating, and
I've never cheated.

Speaker 2 (48:01):
Black women don't cheat never. I have never kid. You
share a story where you knew you were being cheated on,
I as the fucking well, like, what happened? What happened? Girl?
What happened?

Speaker 1 (48:16):
I always know I'm being cheating on, cheated on. I
just be wanting the person to be honest. You know
what I'm saying, Like, I remember it so my last relationship,
I was like, you know what, I'm talking with you
no more. I literally it was like a Wednesday. I
think it was Wednesday. My memory is pretty good. It's
like an elephant and the nigga wasn't answering the phone.

(48:39):
Some calling, calling, calling back to back to back to back.
That's not love, y'all. If you got to call somebody
more than one time, that's not like because you're in
love with them, it's actually a form of being possessive
because they saw you call the first time. Some calling, calling, calling, calling, calling, calling,
He's not answering the phone. Okay, I go to sleep.
I couldn't sleep though, so the next morning I woke
up and I went on my little date walk and

(49:00):
he called my phone. I was like, listen, I ain't
fucking with you no more, like this shit over it.
I don't like feeling like that because as a woman,
you have this innate feeling. This this your intuition is
never wrong. And I think men have intuition too, because
I swear to God the times I've been fucking off
a nigga call your phone, like, goddamn, nigga, you smell
me on another nigga did like, what's happening?

Speaker 2 (49:24):
God, I should know.

Speaker 1 (49:25):
I shouldn't fuck you wrong, because I feel like you
start getting like some type of connection with somebody. Yeah,
so they kind of know all of a sudden as
soon as you get to where you go on a
nigga calling the phone, Now you got to act like
you in bed when you're in your car. I don't
know what you're talking about. I've never been there, So
I'm like I'm not fucking with you no more. That

(49:45):
was like a Wednesday, and I feel like maybe it
was like the following Monday. I'm on the phone with him.
He's in waffle house ordering food, right, and I'm like
on the phone with him, and also simultaneously like scrolling
through Instagram, and I saw some they sent me a
request message. So I clicked the request message.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
It's a bitch.

Speaker 1 (50:05):
It's a bitch done sent me a video from my
Nigga's bed from that Wednesday where you weren't answering the phone.
So now I get to see you not answer your phone.
And she's behind the camera and she's like so and
so turn the light off. I gotta go to work tomorrow.
And I'm watching him like leaning on the on the headboard,

(50:28):
like scrolling through the phone. So and it would would
have synced up with the time that I was calling him.
So now I get to see you now.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
Girl.

Speaker 1 (50:35):
When i I'm like this is calling, I was like, oh,
your bitch messaged me. Well that Nigga couldn't even order
this food no more. This bore.

Speaker 2 (50:42):
He started trembling.

Speaker 1 (50:44):
Oh now you're not You're nervous, stand on business, bitch
now you're not hungry, order your pekan waffle, your light
skinned pek and waffle Nigga, and your goddamn grand slam.

Speaker 2 (50:54):
But did you stay with him? I did.

Speaker 1 (51:01):
That's my dumb bitch story for this episode. I definitely
stayed with his ass for at least two more years.

Speaker 2 (51:06):
It's so dumb. You are really dumb for real?

Speaker 1 (51:09):
Okay, even got engaged in all the bullshit. Yeah, my buddy,
the addol sub meta fingers to my old life.

Speaker 2 (51:15):
But probably, and it was a lot of others.

Speaker 1 (51:17):
It wasn't even together, like yet, what's the girl, Realista,
don't got ship on the stories I have from that
one relationship.

Speaker 2 (51:25):
I got others, but from that one, do not compare
yourself to recent because I was like, now, girl, I
was layd in the red rubbing my feet together like
sus now, God damn maw, come on now.

Speaker 1 (51:38):
Some of that shit was like a right outlandish lies outlandish. Yeah,
I ain't never had nobody lied to me like that.

Speaker 2 (51:46):
When I was getting cheated on, somebody else had to
tell me I was in Lola Land, Like why, Nigga,
that's my man, Miami and Miami. Can't nobody tell me
shit about my man, and my friend was like, your
man cheating on you. I'm like, no, what makes you
something like that? You're jealous?

Speaker 1 (52:06):
See, that's why I don't tell a bitch of shit
like you have to find on your own man.

Speaker 2 (52:11):
Because we're so happy, bitch, I flew out because we
were in a long distance relationship. We was doing like
little weird shit. I was like, it's the time zones.
He's just so far away. He's in California. I'm in
South Carolina. It's the time zones. That's why he's sometimes unavailable.
It's not meanwhile, you know.

Speaker 1 (52:28):
Hold.

Speaker 2 (52:28):
But then she told me he was cheating on me.
So then I was like, no, he's not. But then
I bought a plane ticket to fly out there, right,
and I came in being like a South Carolina stuff
for white. Oh, let me as soon as I get here,
I'm gonna clean your whole house. That was me, right.
I was in his closet, soaring through his dirty fucking
clothes to wash him, and there was a hole. All right.

(52:49):
That's how y'all gonna know how long ago this was.
It was a photo album that a bitch made for
him of a trip where they went on the wine train.
He was shet and cheating. They went on a wine train, bitch,
and she took all kind of pictures and put it
in a photo album. Let me tell you what I did,

(53:12):
because man, like I was young and I was broken,
he was taking so such good care of me. I
ripped the ship up and put it back in the backroom.

Speaker 1 (53:19):
I've done that to somebody.

Speaker 2 (53:22):
I ripped it up and put it back in the
back I ripped all the pictures, closed them up in
there and put it back like you know how to
they have sleeves. I ripped the picture and put it
back in the sleeve, rip it and put it and
then I didn't say a word. Enjoyed my weekend, went
home with him and went home.

Speaker 1 (53:36):
Did he ever say anything about the pictures? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (53:39):
Like the next week, what is it like? That was
my co worker And that was a work trip and
we was had a morale trip. Not a morale trip,
mos nuts, yo.

Speaker 1 (53:55):
Boy, men won't really try your pictures. It was morown
because we were like we need is a team building,
team building trip? Yo?

Speaker 2 (54:05):
You in just one based Napa Valley had a team
building trip. Okay, you think I'm fucking stupid? That'd be
the thing.

Speaker 1 (54:13):
Man.

Speaker 2 (54:13):
Look, don't tell me no fucking lies. I really don't.

Speaker 1 (54:16):
I don't mind lies. I don't mind liars. I be
mad when a motherfucking think got the leader lie. That's
what gets a minor.

Speaker 2 (54:23):
No, I don't lie to me. Just tell me believable liar.

Speaker 1 (54:28):
But if you're telling traceable lies, I'm like, why, nigga,
why why are you telling traceable lies?

Speaker 2 (54:35):
I'm confused. And I stayed with that man for so long.
I mean, he just cheating the last straw, the final straw.
So he left California, came to Atlanta. Bottom house. We're
young too, this is we're in our twenties. I moved
to Atlanta, I got my own place. I did not
move in with him, and I came to spend the
night with him, but to cry, no, girl, this girl, girl.

Speaker 1 (55:01):
No.

Speaker 2 (55:02):
I still be hurt, girl, I still be trying to
care about him. My damn. He released me, and I
had lived a good life. I think if I would
have just stayed out, just been like just very country
and not knowing nothing and never experienced nothing. So he
did me a favor by doing all that. It was
a condom in the bed That's when I was like, Okay,
this man don't respect me at all. I have to go.

(55:26):
And the bed was made up all nice and neat.
The bed was made up so nice and neat. I
got into bed and felt so like, it's a slug
on my left. It's a slug in the bed, a
whole condom on my left.

Speaker 1 (55:40):
Girl, I've literally been in a man's bed and felt
some shit wrap around my toes.

Speaker 2 (55:45):
You know, you just wrap it, you wrap it unneath,
and then you put your foot up. A whole thumb,
a whole fuck it. You ain't washed these sheets. Yeah
you got me, you made the bed up, but you
had someone else in the bed. You ain't washed these sheets.

Speaker 1 (55:59):
You felthy animal.

Speaker 2 (56:01):
Animal. He used to lie so bad. I know, he
just got tied a lion. It was like in the
other bedroom, it was like some girl women's clothes in
a drawer. It's nothing. It ain't even no furniture.

Speaker 1 (56:11):
Oh, that's his girlfriend. You leaving shit at a man's house,
that's your man.

Speaker 2 (56:14):
That's when it's closed in the drawer. I was like,
who's closing this? Oh? My homeboys girlfriend came over there.
They stayed in the bathroom and then I was like,
it's no bed in that room. They stayed back at yo.
They just lay back there.

Speaker 1 (56:30):
Yo.

Speaker 2 (56:30):
I hate niggas, dog not men, niggas so bad goodness.
So I had to get out of that. But I
think that's the only time I've only had two boyfriends
in my life. Everybody else I ain't claimed these niggas
since these men, no, I think they are all long term,

(56:51):
like long relationship.

Speaker 1 (56:52):
Yeah, I feel and then I double back like I
be with the same mouff fucking people. So I feel
like I might have only had like four relationships. Yeah,
And everybody else in between was just.

Speaker 2 (57:02):
That's not my man, that's not your nigga, your man,
all right. I guess we told our dumbish stories. You
don't have to share one, and we don't have to
get no call up. Have you ever cheated? What clutches pearls?
I am a patron saint, alright, So one time I'm

(57:28):
gonna tell you all the truth. Cause that nigga, I
don't know where he married somewhere. We weren't together technically,
we were still living in the same house, but I
was moving out. The plan was for me to move
out in a couple months, right, So we weren't together.
He went away and there was I went to this bar.

(57:50):
I had like a one night stand with a guy,
and like we had we were already broken up. We
hadn't been sleeping together for a while, and it was
just like dead in the water. We was just in
the same house until we separated, because I mean, it's
not like you break up and you can just move
away like that. You got to separate everything, you know,
got to move Yeah, it's a process.

Speaker 1 (58:12):
Look, I'm still going through a process, and I'm in
a whole nother relationship and still going through a process
right now.

Speaker 2 (58:17):
Right, So he went on a guy's trip to fucking
where they go to fuck girls from the Midic Republic
somewhere like that. So I knew what he was on.
This fine ass Middle Eastern guy, right, and he had
that sharp cut in his area, you know how they
be putting that sharp parting. He was like all suave

(58:38):
and he was like so fine, and we like vibe
so hard. We got junk together in the bar and
then we like went to his house and we were
like kissing off passionately, and it was just like knocking
ship off the walls. Oh my god, y'all, this man
fucked me. It was so bad, so fast.

Speaker 1 (59:00):
I was like, oh, I swear to god. I drove
home crying, Yah, immediately remorse and like when I laughed,
I was like call me. He was like, I don't
have your number.

Speaker 2 (59:16):
I was like, shut the door, bye bye. God. I
just felt so bad, even though we weren't together. I
just felt so terrible about doing that.

Speaker 1 (59:30):
I have never cheated in film. He is lying, I know, bitch.
I said I've never cheated and felt bad about it.
I'm telling the truth because if I actually engaged with
somebody else, I'm done with you.

Speaker 2 (59:44):
We were done. Yeah, I'm with you.

Speaker 1 (59:46):
I don't consider it cheating. I told you a thousand
times that I don't fuck with you no more. We done,
did all therapy, whatever else we you do. I've given
myself permission to sho on you.

Speaker 2 (59:58):
Yeah, it was, it was. I don't consider I still
felt like bad because we still were cohabitating. Oh no,
you know he was probably having forty dollars six all
week here, you know, forty dollars you know over you know,
overseas he was at you know, you know, how they
be having sex with the girls over there, like maybe
all bad bitch's forty dollars HOLLI, you know, like having
a good time. Hey, hey, you know, I know he

(01:00:20):
was having his good time and I just needed to
feel something, you know, But I did not feel nothing.
I did not feel nothing warm, warm fuck me. And
I was like, oh, that is the worst.

Speaker 1 (01:00:35):
Like niggas be wanting somebody would have fat ass, but
you can't even get in there. You can't even get
past the fat ass. You can't get past these time
get off.

Speaker 2 (01:00:47):
So, yeah, something was good.

Speaker 1 (01:00:48):
Would you still be crying in the car?

Speaker 2 (01:00:50):
Oh, you'd be like yep. I probably would have been happier.
I would have been happy or I don't know what
I would have felt. Honestly, I might have still felt
bad about it, but the fact that I did enjoy
would have been like, that is a rap for this nigga.
It was already a rap. By to move all my
shit out of this house. It's over. It was already
a rap. But it was just like kind of sad.
The way I felt. I was like, he wridden, he's winning.

Speaker 1 (01:01:16):
I remember this is in my early twenties, y'all. Again,
from middle Finger to my old life. My boyfriend that
I had from like sixteen to I don't know how
long it'd be the same motherfucking people. Anyway, I remember
I met this guy and we actually we still. I
haven't spoken to him in a few years now, but
when we talked, it is like, all good. But he's

(01:01:37):
in the military. He was stationed in not stationed, but
in Columbia for some training shit. So I yeah, I
linked up with his ass and like we was just
inseparable the month he was in Columbia and my boyfriend
was busting my phone down and I wasn't answering the phone,
and my funny as if I answered the phone with
the nastiest attitude.

Speaker 2 (01:01:59):
Girl, why was in birthday? That's how I wrapped up.
I was in this other person way. It was your man,
y'all was still together.

Speaker 1 (01:02:08):
Yes, it was his birthday.

Speaker 2 (01:02:09):
Oh wow, I don't know. Well you that's all right,
thank you for tuning in. You forget it, you're fucking
another day. You're you're sleeping with another man? Is your
man's birthday? He like, damn, you forgot my birthday?

Speaker 1 (01:02:26):
See this be the thing, right, This is why whenever
I do a little sum So maybe just hanging out
with somebody or actually engaging in sex. I don't feel
bad because I already caught you cheating. I lit it slide.
I didn't leave. I didn't cheat back, right, But now
I'm over all this ship and this then now this
is when I'm moving on. So he had already done
a whole bunch of shit. I just didn't leave. So

(01:02:49):
we even now, right, But why didn't Because I just
don't think like cheating.

Speaker 2 (01:02:53):
Is the all n be all?

Speaker 1 (01:02:54):
You know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (01:02:55):
It was you forgot a nigger birthday? Was it being
like a whole a whole slewis shit?

Speaker 1 (01:03:01):
And at that time I was in a relationship with
somebody where I felt like I was a breadwinner, like
I swear to guy, y'all I was. I feel like
I was a millionaire in my twenties. I had so
much money in back I don't know what the fuck
is my money?

Speaker 2 (01:03:15):
Oh my god, don't even get on that. Cause when
I was living in England, I was like making so
much money, where's my money? And I was just so
reckless with my money. I was like just paying for friendships,
like girl.

Speaker 1 (01:03:26):
You get came, I'm taking this nigga on vacation.

Speaker 2 (01:03:29):
I'm the man doing all that shit.

Speaker 1 (01:03:31):
I'm the man, and you cheat on me. Okay, you're
not the man.

Speaker 2 (01:03:35):
You'll still never be the man. You know if you are, If.

Speaker 1 (01:03:39):
You're not being a man in a relationship, and now
your girl is wearing a wearing a.

Speaker 2 (01:03:43):
Pussy and a dick, how you wearing a dick? Y'all?

Speaker 1 (01:03:46):
My mom would be saying that that's why I got
that from. That's bad, right, Yeah, you can't listen.

Speaker 2 (01:03:51):
Even if he don't make as much money as you,
he's still the man. He's still the man, is he?

Speaker 1 (01:03:59):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:04:01):
I guess no, y'all.

Speaker 1 (01:04:03):
Make sure y'all wearing the pantsy y, our relationship make
you a woman.

Speaker 2 (01:04:05):
But money isn't the only way to wear the paint
we live in. I know women who make more money
than they man, and they man still is the hell.

Speaker 1 (01:04:13):
I'm not gonna be doing all the things, and you're
still cheating.

Speaker 2 (01:04:16):
But he had he provides value in other ways.

Speaker 1 (01:04:19):
This same nigga hacked my computer. This motherfucker did not
even have a high school diploma. But he's an evil genius,
like he would sit up in a laboratory like Jill
not the science guy and like shit pinky and the
brain type ass do. But he literally hacked my computer
and this is like a long ass time ago, So

(01:04:40):
how do you even know how to do this shit?
Nigga had a children horse on my computer and anytime
I would type my password into anything, it would automatically
send him an email.

Speaker 2 (01:04:50):
Yeah, bitch, I see what you're doing.

Speaker 1 (01:04:54):
Well. I remember one time I came to my apartment
that he's up and visiting me in my apartment.

Speaker 2 (01:04:59):
I'm coming home from work.

Speaker 1 (01:05:00):
He's at my apartment. This nigga, I went through all
my like I had like his college trunk which I
still have in storage that I need to burn, just
burn a whole True, it's so much incriminating. No, it's
some incriminating shit in there. It's some incriminating shit in
this trunk.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
You know what. He went through that trunk and found
my list up of everybody. He found a list, and
he was mad that he wasn't one on the list.
He was mad he wasn't at the top of the list.

Speaker 1 (01:05:33):
I'm like, I wasn't a virgin like niggas listed based
on who I've had.

Speaker 2 (01:05:37):
Sex with you. You weren't my first? Oh, he thought
it was listening. I don't know what he thought, but I.

Speaker 1 (01:05:43):
Was honest when I'm like, listen, you looking at a
ship that's not for your eyes one And that list
is not based on like good divad or no shit
like that. It's just from my first to now you somewhirst. Anyway, Look,
this is my twenties. It wasn't no nigga was turning pages.

(01:06:04):
Don't play with me like you have the most of
your sex in your twenties, right, absolutely, especially.

Speaker 2 (01:06:10):
If you went to college.

Speaker 1 (01:06:11):
You really no reason, no reason. Ain't nobody buying no bags.
Ain't nobody paying no bills. You need a wash machine,
ain't doing that. They ain't doing ship but smiling your face.

Speaker 2 (01:06:22):
Yeah you're like, what's up?

Speaker 1 (01:06:24):
But now these young girl today a tumble we rolled
past my bitches, prairie dogs that like this is ry there.

Speaker 2 (01:06:33):
I don't have nothing going on, So.

Speaker 1 (01:06:36):
God send me somebody Jesus every day, all right, we
will cheat a right not cheat in this big age nowadays?

Speaker 2 (01:06:45):
What's the last last?

Speaker 1 (01:06:46):
My last last is communicate with your partner. Talk to
your partner, put down rules. I mean, like every single
thing you could think of from cheating, from other people
from cleaning, Okay, everything, Just write it all down and
have a discussion to make sure that the person you're with,

(01:07:07):
y'all on the same page. You know what I'm saying, because,
like you said, there's no respectful cheating. But for me,
there is such thing as respectful cheating. Right if it
happens to happen, maybe we had an argument, you end
up at a bar, you end up having a white
one night said with a bitch strap up, And I
don't ever have to know about it because you don't
bring home an SCD and you don't bring home a kid.

Speaker 2 (01:07:27):
That's all you really can ask for from another Oh
that's all you can ask or there's the bare minimum
of things to ask.

Speaker 1 (01:07:34):
Girl, I'm being realistic at this page. I'm telling you,
I'm just being really.

Speaker 2 (01:07:39):
Is like alternative facts. It's the same thing like if
you're cheating, you're deceitful. You can't be deceitful respectfully. Just
be honest, Just be honest.

Speaker 1 (01:07:51):
But we ask men to be honest all the time,
but are we actually in the mental state to accept
honesty because for men, for men, they think that when
they're honest they can still have you. But sometimes when
you're honest, I still make a choice to leave you.
So just because you tell the truth doesn't mean I'm mistake.

(01:08:12):
And in their minds, they feel like if I tell
the truth, they'll stay. So that's why they lie because
they know you gonna leave.

Speaker 2 (01:08:20):
Right, Okay, they're gonna tell me the truth. Like, just
be honest, be real, because some people are not gonna leave.
A lot of women ain't gonna leave, you know.

Speaker 1 (01:08:34):
I feel like a lot of men don't leave. Men
have been cheated on and they don't leave. But like
I said before, and it actually we're viral. If you
cheat on the man and he keeps you, bitch, you
better leave. You better, you better leave, because he gonna
make you pay every day of that relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:08:53):
Cheated on him.

Speaker 1 (01:08:54):
He may not even Actually I would prefer for you
to actually go out and cheat, then to want to
have periodic arguments with me about what may or may
not have trans transpired. Yeah, I would prefer that leave
me or go cheat on me and get it over with.
Don't be harassing me in the fucking relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:09:13):
Dog. You can't try to.

Speaker 1 (01:09:14):
Keep me hostage here and we have sex and have
a good night and have a good day, maybe even
on vacation. As soon as we get back, you on
some bullshit about what happened a month ago.

Speaker 2 (01:09:25):
Nah, I'm not doing it.

Speaker 1 (01:09:26):
Leave me this because I'm like a nigga like y'all get.

Speaker 2 (01:09:32):
He's ow day. I don't care.

Speaker 1 (01:09:37):
I don't care, don't do that, don't give no money away,
give it all right, you guys?

Speaker 2 (01:09:41):
All right? Listen, all right, y'all, hit hit him with it.

Speaker 1 (01:09:46):
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