August 7, 2023 • 57 mins
This week we are joined by Alesha Renee and Charlemagne the God to dig into love, dating and marriage. We dive into Alesha's new scripted audible show "Unleash for Love" and what this scripted series can bring to landscape of audible enjoyment. Charlemagne shares what made him know his wife was "the one" before we dive into the 5 types of men single women most often run into when dating.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision. West coast,
west coast, west coast, and when I say it.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It might be as west as you could get Seattle.
It's that's real way, Seattle, we are finally coming to you. Listen,
you gotta get tickets because I'm telling you right now,
if Mandy and I ever thought about doing a loop
of the show again, that shit far as hell it
is going to take a last air lodge or so shit. Anyway,
The point is I'm only doing.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
It for y'all. That's right.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
So y'all, the Climax Tour is coming to Seeattle.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
That's Washington, right, but not DC.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's the so Willa is Portland peeps and whoever is
like up there to come see you.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yeah, y'all know, I got to pull out a map.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
But Seattle, we are coming to you on September seventh
at the Neptune Theater. Must be sucking some things out there,
cause he's like, O'm gon to Seattle. He cannot wait
to go to Seattle. Hunt And you know what, I'm
going to talk to the people who make the weather machines,
and it's gonna be.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Good weather because I do know that Seattle Ray. What
day of the week is it? It is September one, seventh, Okay,
so here's the team. What's the team?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
The seventh is a Thursday. People like going out on
on Thursday night.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
They do.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
So it's Friday. We barely show up for work, y'all.
Make it a little bit, I would say, call off.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Let's yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, So make sure you go on over to hour
hive dot com and get your tickets now.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, that's her crop sweem me for you. Oh I
thought you had no That's okay. Welcome back, y'all.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Another episode of Horrible Decision, A special episode. We got
big black effect energy in the building. Mandy and I
are sitting with.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Our uncle shar What up, Weezy? What up?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Mandy hoisting around our booty hoole pillow And he's here
today because there's a new podcast out on audible.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Unleasha Love is that right? Four loves? Okay? Four boots Love?
Just you know, I at leashed my fun. I want it.
It's off the leash away from me with Alisha d Yes.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
To be honest with y'all, man, he was like, damn,
what are we gonna talk about? I was like, we're
gonnaet talk about boot.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
So, man, I met leesh Man.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
What year was this two thousand and six five girl?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Yeah, because lesh was one of the new faces on
b T when BT came in with their new faces
and it was Roxy and Terrence J and Leash and
Lamarne and uh, it's yes, And she was hosting a
show on BT.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And this is what I was working with Wendy at
the time. I don't even know I was.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
Working with Wendy. I was working with Wendy and I
was a guest on her show. She was hosting the show,
and we just got cool from there. And then, uh,
she used to do these gumbo at her house, her
apartment and uh in hack Sacary, Jersey.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
The person you met from BT doing a gumbo night. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
When I moved back, when I moved back to New
Jersey in twenty ten, I moved into that apartment complex.
So we were nables. Oh shit, so we she's she
used to cook and I used to have HBO and.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
We watched that's hilarious that the guy. My wife hadn't
moved up here yet, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
So she was still home. So the least had the food.
I had the kid at the cable and it was
a fat change.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Was working for BT, I had to start cutting back
on my budget.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So I was like, because, like, there's not a lot
of platonic friendships like that, and it's tough because men
need more of like a woman's sounding board.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
They don't have.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Female friendships, and sometimes it gets a lot more difficult
when I'm dating men that don't really have women in
their lives that they never had sex with.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
That's the fact. Man.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I'm met, I got friend zoned, and I was like, oh,
we're really friends now, Like Black Jesus is out officially
just a friend. Not only did he tell me about
the sex he had on vacation, bitch, we went together
to get our nails.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
I said, oh god, we're.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Never you know, you wanted a blessing Black Jesus that's
his nickname, and we had it once upon a time,
just one time. Never went again. But he's so fine
and it's so hard for me to be friends with him.
But I'm like, oh, no, like that one night we met,
the day we met, Yeah, you said that sex was good.
(04:29):
How come it was great? We both usually we both
ended up getting back with our partners. We both met
during a like a bad time in our relationships, and
literally a couple of weeks after we both got back
with our partners. You said, did you tell him you
want it more? Or did you know we both got
back with our partners? Yeah, no, I gonna hold you now.
(04:51):
I've literally been like, well, dang, Like I got drunk
with him one time and I was like, well, was
it not good?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Why did we never revisit? And no, it was we
just I think timing of it all.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
And now we've just become friends, and now you're in
the Drake concert together as friends, and I'm just like,
I'm sure he'll still drop some dick off.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I'm more, No, I don't want it now. Like once
we go to get our.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Nil's done and you out here telling me about the
other bitches you're fucking on vacation.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
He said, what, But did he use a color? Is
that why you wouldn't do it? After the name color? Oh?
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Like did he get color is not designed? How they
were designs? Oh?
Speaker 4 (05:25):
How does a man whose nickname is Jesus?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
No?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
One?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Like he's like laying it down good, because as you're
laying in Oh God, Jesus.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
First call, we have nicknames for niggas, were not calling
them their nicknames in the bedroom.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
You like anyone ever had a nickname for you?
Speaker 4 (05:43):
I have no idea. I'll do it the same woman
for twenty five years.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I do not know. Damn. You were probably radio man.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I'll radio man speak about you.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
May know what I mean. Girl, we call women, have
nicknames for the guys and we just.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Okay, mister biggest, Wait, mister bigg mister.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Big, mister big, I don't know. I don't know about
where you might be big, excuse myself. I always who
you got in the group that you're telling me? What's
the last one? I have? Pilot babe?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Before let me I had a pilot babe, but he
asked me not to talk about about the podcast Canada.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I have one that you all love Citizen. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
Yeah, he's yeah, he's but he's probably getting removed because.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Last time he had removed from Canada Pitch.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
No.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I'm like my list said, what did he know?
Speaker 3 (06:43):
I too, like, at least with Love is out right now,
at least would Love is out right now on audible,
But why.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Is he getting removed from your list?
Speaker 5 (06:55):
Because last time he was in we have an understanding
that whenever you're in California, which you need to drop off.
He was in California less than an hour away right now.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
You know how I feel. And he did not drop
off his package. If you know what I mean, and
I'm not talking about you, pa Lesh, that is me.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
So the two niggas that was on my team, including
the one that came back done, we were just in
Vegas together and but you don't even want to know
how the other one got caught.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
You have, bitch.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
He was in one of the backgrounds of one of
your stories. So, bitch, I screenshot at the story. I
didn't en gonna say whuntil we off here, but I said.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Oh, so you was Vegas. That's fine. It wasn't in Vegas,
it was somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
No, she doesn't notice on my whole Well, he just
happened to literally be in the sow screenshot at bitch
your story and said, oh so you were you were
here and didn't tell me.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
He was like, oh, I was only in top six hours.
I know what you're talking about. Bennie hit me up
about that.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Oh, I don't even know if I told ben oh, well,
Bennie knows who he is. Anyways, we give us any library, Yeah,
we give it too many, too many details. Cut him
off because he was in my city and didn't drop
off the din for six hours.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
That's enough time even go about one round.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Thought him in a forty ways. It's here saying, oh
he didn't drop off his package? Heat asked or suck toe?
This is our our question for everybody. This am I
doing or receiving? You have to pick one?
Speaker 5 (08:20):
I would I would like I love receiving ass eating? Okay,
which one are you doing?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Mike the bitch? What nothing?
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I mean?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
You have to pick? It's life or deck talk? So
what I have done?
Speaker 5 (08:35):
If I'm when I'm down there in the neither regions
struggling balls in my mouth, I will just dip down there.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
WHOA, that was more than I thought. Alicia asshole, she said,
she said, I go right.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Now, Okay, when your wife is doing them, because we
know you've talked about but would you prefer though seared
beats being sucked?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Do you like that my tols?
Speaker 3 (09:01):
Me and I don't think I've had my tolds. I've
never had my told.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Do you get pedicures? Yeah, okay, so your feet look
all right?
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Yeah, I felt like the only you didn't even ask
me if I eat ass? He was like, I know,
I've heard you talk about eating ass.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You know, I mean getting yours and you talk about it.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Oh yes, No, I didn't mean it like that. A second.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Wait, wait, wait, wait wait wait, actually speaking of what
is your position for that? Do you hold your legs up?
Or I've never got as you never get all the
nice things she got. Knock it off, sirs, that's my woman.
(09:47):
I've been with it for twenty five years.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
And so there had to be a special time, a moment, anniversary,
a birthday, you're gonna get something, specially.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Your life getting lit. I'm a giver.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
I'm a giver. I like to give more than receive.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Okay, all right, right, maybe y'all do need eater Okay,
all right, all right? Not everybody eats ass in his room? Okay,
as yeah, I said, not everybody.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I mean we all do.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
I'm talking around like, who don't I've been listening to
the podcast.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Stop looking at the like Wolfe because he's vegan. Do
you eat boody wood saking?
Speaker 3 (10:24):
You don't get a bed like that if you don't
eat ass yo, yo, stop it. Minor is fertilizer cleansings,
minor manre manure.
Speaker 4 (10:38):
Said man.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
With the favor thing or something that was anal putting
that song. I was like, that's a little thing you
drens look like but plug like. But what is the minora?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
There is something tonic thing where you put the candle. Yeah, see, bitch,
so I knew it was something.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
It was you.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Yeah, okay, never be able to orgasm or never be able.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
To give one? Oh your bitch, fuck me giving y'all one?
I want one? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I don't care if
I'm mak a nigga come or not. Yeah, I'd rather
like never not like they're.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Really undeserving at this point, Mandy's Mandy's Oh, I'm actually
so I'm going celibate. But we'll talk about that later. Oh,
don't do that to yourself. Oh I know you know
it's for me actually.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But is it? Hold on?
Speaker 5 (11:23):
But when you say I want to unpack that, so
when you say celibate, like, no dick at all.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Oh yeah, I'm still gonna rub one out, okay, because
you got to keep that up. Oh yeah, no, but
I'm not I don't want Jesus celibacy? Is this Bible
Stories with Brianda.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I want, I want, I want no dick right now,
and then I haven't even found men to be attractive.
That's how bad he Mandy is in the middle of
a breakup right or going through one. And I feel
like you're seeing the phases because it depends which we
can walk in. If you just got some dick, you'd
be like, oh girl, but I cut off even twenty
four seven, like I want no dick.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
His name is twenty four seven because he could get
it twenty four to seven, you.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Know, but.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Seventy five.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Okay, So I want to look through your contact list
and just read.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
The the oh I put him, I got a new
nigga that got it?
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Oh girl sliding his dnt even got emoji's real quick? O,
how you got a new nigga? While you celebrate, you
just want to lunch.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
He don't live here, just so if long distance right now,
I'll see them when we get on tour, come off
to area.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Used to write, we're taking a summer. You got it
all right, So here's the Vanilla ship. You never listen.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
This is our sex and News segment. I read this
and I thought it was crazy. Some people are allergic
to COME. Forty thousand women in the US have semeno
plasma hypersensitivity and basically when they have COME on their body,
they get a burning, itching, sensation, redness, and swelling wherever
it lands. So many people think it's an STD and
(13:01):
literally they're just allergic to COME, and doctors have been
thinking it's the condom. They'll think it's anything else. They
think it's someone's beard, and it's literally a semen allergy.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Is it pH because it's not balanced or something.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
No, it's just a semen whether can you imagine, like
right when you need to get pregnant, you're just like
so it's inside and outside the entire body, surface level
skin contact and in turn, and apparently there was the
first woman was diagnosed a decade ago.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Can you imagine?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I mean I would still risk it, I like, so
as long as he scratches my back after like, if
it's gonna be itchy, you know what I mean, you
risk the burning and itching, but I don't have to
look at my back.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I cover it with a shirt. At that's fair.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I like to be nut at all. So I'm just
gonna risk Hey, after you got to scratch my back,
so it just can't be your face. Bro, what if
you have to a podcast? What I'm saying, you could
come on my back only, But what about when you
need to be nutted in?
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Though I don't do that at all, not even with
your main stay.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
He doesn't give me what I did with but there
was some scientific reasons why I did that. But moving forward, no,
I'm not gonna allow that because I don't want no baby.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
I think those women are vampires who were whores when
they were human, and so being that they were a
whores when they were huge their vampires, the seeming affects
him like the sun in the holy water.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
That's what I believe.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
That was the most brilliant idiot's response, that we were
gonna get stood on it and stood on it like that.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
What it is? I mean, I will say I like
that theory. Yeah, I think that it is. For I
think that's karma. It has to be karm. You did
something wrong in your life to now be an adult
and you.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Can't be nutted, can't be nutted on again, but something
so you don't want anywhere near you.
Speaker 5 (14:47):
I think it's this guy before his nuts smelled like
corn nuts. I don't know what that was about. He
smoked a lot of weeds.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
That's like when the when the weave comes out from
Alix presspacket, it smell like that.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Bro, I'm not playing. That's what you corn? That smell
like nuts? Or do nuts smell like cornuts? I think
nuts smell like cornuts.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I think his wait, no, no, no, no, no, which nuts?
Because nuts about out a nut don't smell either. Rory
said that shot.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
I smell semen? Really demon Is that not the same
motherfucking thing.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
Yeah, but when we said plural, I thought you were
talking about balls, so I got yeah, I want to
you're talking about nuts.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
No, no nut juice semen. Yeah, I was talking about
the nuts. I thought you're talking about mustard nuts. They
always have a smell, y'all.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Don't mind me.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I stay nut as a nut like an orgasm is
a nuts?
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Me? Like, that's almost ghetto, you do, I mean like
ooh nut for me? Like I say nut, I don't
like or the the problem saynt on me?
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I say, though, when I'm when I'm pining from man,
you like, how many nuts you're gonna give me? I
even send the peanut emoji when I'm asking for the nuts.
You know what I'm about. She not lying. I'm not lying.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
For me.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I have to in the nut emoji. I can't. Yeah,
squirrel trying to get her nuts. I'm not mad at it.
I'm not mad at it. We're all trying to try
to get her nutsquirrel baby. The hordrve our sex tip, I.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
Think this is dope. We don't the three segments. Y'all
move like Andy Cohen. Y'all y'all quick with it. I'm like,
oh ships the third second, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Being rushing out. Yeah, I really want to notice. That's
why I skipped around it, because I really want to
know your marriage one.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Like the married sex tip, something that keeps the spicy
and then for you, whether it be solo or dating.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
So let's go with you married sex tip. The marriage
sex tip for me is to never fuck like you're married.
Whatever the stereo typical marriage sex is, don't do that.
Treat it the way you would always treat it if
y'all was just dating.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Kicking it. You know, do you do like staycations and
stuff all the time?
Speaker 4 (16:59):
Vacations? You know, we don't do stay cases, we do
vacation were the same.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Yeah, we was the same.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
Lushit in February with just us.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
That's good.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Yeah, you gotta do that. That's what I'm saying you all.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
You you always got to treat it like you know,
y'all are just dating like y'all are just those two
kids who met who just was always hot and heavy
for each other.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
What's the best marriage advice you've gotten from someone that's
like famous, because you've met so many people in the world, Like,
who's someone famous that's giving you advice?
Speaker 4 (17:27):
Before I was married, Kevin Louds gave me some great advice.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Kevin Lowd said, I cannot tell you to get married,
but I can tell you to find somebody to share
the rest of your life with.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
That's good advice.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
I mean, I already knew who I wanted to be
with for the rest of my life, so that was
the easy call.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
But that what Mayor Deblasio doing you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
No, Mayor de Blasio is literally saying that they're gonna
they're separated, but they're going to stay living together, and they're.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
They're going to be part of Eric Adam.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
But they can but they can date other people because
at this point they've been married for thirty years and
that's the partner. They have dope kids together, they probably
have a lot of assets, and that's his life partner.
But now they're to the place where they can date
others because the job has made him, you know, has
taken away from the love of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
So I was just like my said, it's cheaper to
keep her. We're doing is other people, but I'm not going.
Speaker 4 (18:21):
But one caveat with that. I about to say, caviot,
but that'd be stupid.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
One caveat with that is that she was always a
lesbian before they even got married, like she was, and
she was already in the women before they got married,
So that's open.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
So do you know if they were was she allowed
to deal with women when I don't know.
Speaker 4 (18:41):
I just know she was when they got married way
back in the day.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
She was Hillary, So I'm not gonna lie me And
Weezy was when we were on tour.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
We kind of had that that conversation because we're both
by and I think even if I get in another relationship,
I do still want the like I want to deal
with girls.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
I want to eat some coochie from Tom.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
But now I'm like completely scarred from doing the sex
club thing again threesomes, and I don't know if I
want to share again. And so we literally was like, well,
we both want to deal with women, but how do
we not tell our partner they could deal with women too?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Then if we are both given, you.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Know, that grace to do so, And I'm just like,
I don't know how we're gonna explain it yet, because
you know what's on my mind right now. Kevin Lyle's great,
no offense, but you know Beyonce and jay Z and
that's what you gave us, Alicia.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
Oh that's but you know that's different.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
Though. I think that jay Z did the best work
in that situation because his greatest flex to me is
the work he did on himself as.
Speaker 4 (19:38):
A man and how he evolved as a father, a husband,
and a friend. That's a fact.
Speaker 5 (19:44):
The best advice Kevin Laws gave me his choices leech
is all about damn, we need to talk to him.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah, I would.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Choices, So okay, wait, now we need your single or solo? Yeah,
dating or sex?
Speaker 5 (19:58):
You know, Honestly, for me, everything started to shift when
I was more intentional when I took showers and baths
and I mean, can you ear.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Muffs knock it off? I'm just like my song I
love I take. I take them quite frequently.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
Okay, No, I meant like when I I I certain
this is a completely different podcast, but certain things happened
to me as a child that took my love of
self away.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Right.
Speaker 5 (20:30):
So in order for me to figure out what would
help me get into healthier relationships, I had to figure
out how to relove myself and my person.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Right.
Speaker 5 (20:40):
So it's these legs are long and they're beautiful. Look
at these curves, these like really touching myself and like loving. No,
that's my brand in my body. You understand what I'm saying.
So that's what I meant, like when I'm in the bath,
like bathe myself, look at myself and you know, tune
into how I feel when I touch.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Can you ear muffs? These they still have to be
We need to marry tea right, right, you know what.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I mean. One man I know has told me that
he had like recently lost a lot of weight, and
he was like, I had to really like look at
myself and talk about what I like about my beautiful
because women are always having to hype up their bodies,
but men necessarily can't and unless they're super muscular. One
of the things that wanted that that inspired me to
create Unleashed for Love was just really trying to take
back the narrative as far as like our ownus when
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we're dating, and what that looks like if it's a
good relationship or a bad relationship.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Because I dated a guy while he was inside of
me who spat on me and not in.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
A sexy way, and not in a sexy no, not
in a sexy way, but just like it was an
abusive relationship. I'll put it like that, right, And so
when you go through certain things, you have to learn
how to like, no, I'm a bad bitch, Like look
at these titties, they're still up, these stretch marks. Is
because I got a fat ass, and it's real, Like
all of these things, I know it was abusive. I
don't want to trigger nobody, but I need to know
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how and why the fuck he spit on you in
the in the little set, that's a complete girl.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
That's a that's a that's a different day.
Speaker 5 (22:02):
I was just saying one of when when I think
of back to when I think back to why I
need to love this body better so I don't date
niggas like that.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Again, that's right, you understand what I'm saying. Can we say, yes, girl,
we just.
Speaker 4 (22:23):
Said you want to just start saying colored?
Speaker 2 (22:28):
No?
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Do you say that?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
They had to strike that off of one of the debates,
like from a while, because colored people is not a
word that should be using. You know, that.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
Is crazy.
Speaker 5 (22:42):
I wanted to add to that. Have you ever thought
maybe they were because you you were like, oh, but
the n w a CP is called.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
The National College the National Association Color People.
Speaker 5 (22:50):
Okay, but maybe in that instance it's taking the thing
out of a word and putting some power behind it,
right because behind that organization you have hundred thousands of
dollars you have.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I think it's come back then, color that people was
some of the origination.
Speaker 5 (23:04):
But when he's like, oh, why don't we shift the name,
and I'm like, no, there's power now behind that name
in that situation.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
Actually, after the Civil War, emancipated slaves called themselves colored
people free color as a as a term of racial pride,
so the same way they did dan word, but around
the sixties is when they started referring to themselves as
black and African American. But na's People was founded in
nineteen oh nine, so I guess that's why they're the
National Association Association with the Advancement of Color People.
Speaker 4 (23:31):
I still don't think that's a good.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
Excuse just to say, hey, that's the name we had,
because think about it, they've been changing all types of
shit over the past few years.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
They're bringing out statues, you know what I mean. So
it's just like if one person, now.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
That's my point, So if we if we know colored
people is offensive, then maybe the NAACPC changed their name.
It's a lot of work, you know, and people of
color is just saying it and properly saying it with
proper Grandma.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Well, no, he said color. He said color.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Color, and then he said was like yeah, and matter fact,
Andy wanted to cut We had a comedian coming here,
and I realized some people say it. He's like, you know,
because you'll say stuff like the Mexicans and he was
talking about Latino's person goes and the blacks.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
I don't know if you remember who, and she was like,
we have to cut that out. And I was like,
really I was.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
He was a white man saying the blacks, but also
like and I was like, I'm sorry, that didn't black
the black.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
It is wild to me that niggas don't trigger nothing,
but you say colors and everybody's like what.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
I used to manage a T mobile store And I'll
never forget this man. He came up and he goes,
I'm looking for someone.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Who was helping me. And I was like, oh, do
you know who it was? He was like, it was
the colored gentleman. He's tall colored and I was like, oh,
we don't have color. You have colored.
Speaker 4 (24:42):
I did. I will say I didn't realize color was
so offensive though I didn't.
Speaker 5 (24:45):
Oh yeah, if it comes from someone who historically colored West.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
You know what it is. It's the country thing. It's
the boy. It's like saying boys, you know that's it?
Speaker 3 (24:58):
Or anything, yes, anything in context, anything out of context
can pitch somebody out.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
I could be like, fucking banana. You call me a
banana four?
Speaker 1 (25:07):
You know what I mean? So any word can be.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
But there's I saw Wheezy's comment under your post about
the PPP loan ship with the band. They said the
word bling. That's clearly bling is a term used in
our community. The white people I know about with the PPP.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
They're trying to say for certain things have been so
co opted nowadays, especially in hip hop, Like you don't
really know if they're referencing black people or not. Like
when white people say blank, now it's like they was
doing that shit on Lifestyles of the rich and famous.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
But they don't originate it.
Speaker 5 (25:41):
It comes from us, So they adapted from us and
and and once they get a hold of it, nine
times out of ten they don't mean any good with it.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
When they're referring back to our they would.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Have said jewels, jewelwel anything. I just feel like white
people don't say bling alone. No, and white people like
to say words to you.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
To let you know they damn.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Like in twenty like the I remember, I remember Lifestyles
of the richard famous, Robin Leacher whoever was doing that
short at the time. They would literally say things like Blaine,
are you see these white reporters say blank just because
they're trying to be down.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
They think that's the lingo, it's a panda.
Speaker 5 (26:12):
They pander, yes, because they was talking shit about one
thousand person you.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
And had Pepe pre that was that was some of
your best words.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
That ship, I told them, niggas in twenty twenty. I
told those colors.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
I told them. I told those colors. I told you
that y'all always go ended up in PPP prison.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
That ship was a trap and they say it's gonna
take up to ten years to get everybody.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
I don't think I want to.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Tell y'all how republican. I think I want y'all to
get caught because but I ain't taken it now. I
felt like I was left down. Y'all bet caught because
if you don't don't take that, Bro, I'm gonna be
honest with you. I was so scared the same guy
we paid ours back. But you know, we started studio
three years ago. We fucking used that ship and I
remember Alex and I went to eat one night and
I said, oh wait, we gotta track it. We got
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to make sure they don't think it's the PPP.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
And he was like, Bro, we just about all these
goddamn cares.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
It don't matter. I was so scared to go to jail. Yeah,
because you were trying to live on the side of right.
Not no, mom, not what I've seen. Okay, but the
Horrible Decision is about unleash in love and a lot
of this show that, from what I've heard, is about
women making the right choices.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
So with these niggas, that's possible.
Speaker 5 (27:18):
But I was laughing because we did the same things,
like what you were saying, bandy. We make up names
for you know, the horrible dates and stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
So you would love it. Oh, I know, I know,
I'm gonna love it. Yeah, but I'm also like really
heartbroken and triggered right now with anything you love. So
I'm gonna tune in and you know, have faith. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
I don't like script and stuff too. But before we
get into I do I do. That's why I want
to listen to it too, before we get into it.
What voice do you play? Do you play ancient niggas?
Because I saw Kevin Hart and.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
You number two taking number three? You played yourself? Yeah,
Kevin Cart played himself too. No, he just executive producer. Okay.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
So I know a lot of women feel like marriages angle,
and I think before you know, we start talking about
how many trash before you leave, I want to know
some qualities and some things that your wife has or
that let you know. That doesn't have to do with
the connection you had, because you one great thing that
you do is not just say she's beautiful, she's a
great mom. You talk about how she makes you feel.
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I've heard you say that, But I do want to
know some of the qualities or things she did that let.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
You know marriage was it? Oh? What are the qualities
and things? I know? I mean, she's just a great
colored girl, I mean colored woman. You know. I know.
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It's funny. I was.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
I was having this conversation yesterday. She always made me.
She always made me want to be the best version
of myself. I was actually speaking to a bunch of
kids in Orlando ironically yesterday, and I was telling him, like,
that's what was always my inspiration, Like she was always
my muse, right, because it's like she was such an
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a dope person and she always just made me want
to be better because I didn't want to lose the
number one and I wanted to show her that, like, yo,
I can, I will be successful basically, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 4 (29:18):
So she was just always kind of like my motivation.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
You ever seen that movie, the Facebook movie when Mark
Zuckerberg was like he created Facebook, because he was just
like chasing this one woman, like this one way that
you gotta watch.
Speaker 4 (29:28):
It's actually really good. Ago wasn't the social network. I
might have been called the social but that was his
motivation for starting Facebook. It was as the cut.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
And so that's how I always looked at, uh, you know,
my wife. She was always just my motivation. She always
just believed in me. Like when when Methan Man said
on all I need, you know, rub me on my
back and you know, tell me it'll be okay.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Like she was always that person looking at him.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
You know, I think like they're like that, And I
think there's two differences, right, you could be like you
could do it, babe, and then there's a real belief.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Yes, can I say something about your wife please?
Speaker 5 (30:07):
One of the things that I love about my sister
in love is she is one of the most confident
people I've ever met and really secure. And I say
that because it takes a templar, a particular type of
woman to move in the rooms and the circles that.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
He moves in. And she colored and to be with
the color color that's right here, and her crown never tilts.
Speaker 5 (30:33):
She's always provided a safe space for him to have
healthy relationships with his girlfriends that he loves like sisters.
There were many times I'm not going to get to
and because then I'll start crying. But there were many
times when I was stuck between a rock and a
hard place, and my help came from her.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Wow, I'll say that it came. It came from her.
Speaker 5 (30:50):
I will always give her her flowers every day, whether
whether she's in front of me or not in front
of me.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
And he knows this.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
It is very impressive, rare type of And she's also
attractive and fit one thousand.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Let's start with that. But but we know plenty of
women who are attractive and fit, and that's it. That's
what that's talk about it they'd be So that's why
that's even how beautiful she is.
Speaker 5 (31:13):
I let with the fact that she literally can sit
in a room with I don't care who you name them,
and her crown will never tilt.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Also, like you, I would confidence of security. What she
said is what she will. My wife gives me confidence
and security.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Women aren't too They're like, oh are you like into
the phone? Who are you? That's something and I'm not
trying to like And I mean this because you have
to put it in context. I know what I look like.
Speaker 5 (31:39):
You know, she's never never never made it an issue,
never made it a problem. And like I said anything,
I'm their sister now one thousand per y'all been cool
so that she uh, when she moved down the hall,
well she ran me up in the hallway.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Let me start in a hallway. Uh, I love you.
But he tells the story too.
Speaker 5 (32:01):
You have to get her to tell you the story
off camera obviously, because she she re enacts it and everything.
But like she goes into mode and I'm like, oh,
bit you read and said that gumbo gotta stop.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Gonna stop now, mind you because like all breathe over,
Like we would go to church together. He moved.
Speaker 5 (32:24):
He was like lish, you know, I'm having to you know,
come back, like I want to. You know, where should
I move? And I said, why don't you just move
in my building?
Speaker 1 (32:30):
You know what I mean? Like, so we would go
church together.
Speaker 5 (32:32):
Watch you like we had a standing every Sunday, you know,
date we go out, hey, you know, eat kick it
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
But I would say, where is such and such a
you nurse? Are her name publicly? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (32:44):
Where's your wife. Where's At the time though they were
still just dating, you know, they were still in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
How do you watch that? Am I saying it the
right way? Okay?
Speaker 5 (32:54):
They were, and I'm like, hell, I have to meet her.
There is not a woman walking this earth that would
be okay. We go to church, we pray together, we
eat together, we have a favorite show together.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
But no. She would come though, back and forth, and
so I would say, can you have her come over? Oh?
Speaker 5 (33:09):
Yeah, Alisha, she knows all about you. And I'm like, cool,
I know women, I'm a woman. I need to meet
this woman. So one day I'm going to check my mail,
minding my grandiose business in Melrose Place, our building, I
get ran up on by this woman. She was like,
you're Alicia Renee. And the way she said it, I
wasn't sure if that was a good thing I was.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Or a bad thing. And she was like, I'm such
and such. Charlotmagne is such and such. I said, oh, bitch,
what do you mean? Like that's literally how I greeted her.
And I said, why haven't you come over to my house? Yet?
Speaker 5 (33:45):
And she was standing there like with her mouth and
gape like huh. And I said, he hasn't, don't you
She said, girl. I said, girl, And then we've been
in love ever since.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Oh so she really ran you a I love.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Beauty, bitch.
Speaker 1 (34:00):
No, but but I think it. But she did what
every woman would do.
Speaker 5 (34:04):
She wants to make sure that the woman that spends
so much time with her significant other didn't mean her
family anymore.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
And now we do.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Got to have her on because that's a conversation we
have often about friendships I'm telling between opposite sexes, especially
because one or the other normally is just waiting their turn.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
There is some some people who actually like that person
but their friend zone and just waiting to be the
shoulder for you.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
The crowns a lot, but you.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
Got to have a next level of trusty. It's never believe,
but I think a lot.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
I think a lot of men miss out on like
very fulfilling friendship.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
I agree.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
That's because they might be leading with their dick, think
with their dick. I got way, I got way more
homegirls and friends than I do homeboys.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
I agree, But I know I know women that think
the same way. My best friend will say it, she
has not one platonic male friend.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
She's like, you either going to be a trick or my.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Husband on another thing, I'm either gonna get something out
of you or we're gonna be in a relationship. She
is no male plutonic friends, and she meets all of
my male friends and she is like almost mind blown in.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
So much you get out.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
My daddy fucked me up with that, though, before I go,
my daddy fucked me up with that because when I
was little, When I was little, when I was little,
because I used.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
To always like to hang around the women.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
Right, So I'm little and I'm watching a bell Bib
devout video and it was my sister and my two homegirls,
my two cousins, and they were They're like, oh, you
know this Ronnie's cut and Michael was cheting, this was cuting.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
I'm just trying to be down. I'm young. I'm like, yeah,
that's the chew one. And it was like a record stretch.
They were like, Dad, touch.
Speaker 4 (35:45):
My dad snatched me up. He said, come here, ares
gonna be around you all. He's god damn women.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
And he threw me in the yard with my two cousins,
you know, who were guys, and they just literally treated
me like a football for like two hours. I'm talking
about I was the football. They were throwing me around.
They would catch me to tackle each other.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
It was crazy.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
But then as I got older and started getting into
trouble because I was around a bunch of dudes all
the time. My dad was like, why y'all wouldn't be
aroun all these hard lake niggas all the time? Man,
both find some woman to be around. I'm sitting there
like you you told me when I was young, and
not being around all the women, So I'm crazy.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
You love talking about Dick's all day long. That's just funny.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
It was a fan at a I think it was
at a link up party, shout out to Andre Prower
and the girls like I want to know.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Something so bad. Me and my mom loved Charlette me
so much. I guess they came to see you do
a reading with your book. She's like, is he really gay?
Speaker 4 (36:35):
And I was like, I am very happy?
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (36:38):
So are you very happy?
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Very happy? You're joking? She was like no.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I was like, the booty seemed like if you have
to do outland this ship on the radio for coming
like you really thought that was real and you read.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Why do colored men get labeled gay when they have
that sense of humor? But white guys non colored.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
Kiss each other? Spekyla grab the next a nutsack where
we know why. We don't have to get into the
homophobia within the black community here. Let's not not that.
Let's not it's the same show show Daddy did you?
It is?
Speaker 3 (37:15):
So I can't Yes, all right Unleased with Unleashed for
Love available on audible right now.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
I love y'all, Thank you, We'll be back y'all. Okay,
Mandy found so what I have heard about this show?
Mandy found a list of the five men that women
keep running into when dating.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Okay, this was a viral TikTok video for some Now
y'all know the girls beyond I heard on this show.
Some of them are in there. Okay. So number one, wait,
do you want yea your name?
Speaker 2 (37:51):
No? No, no, So the list is when women are dating,
these are the top five men that we are most
likely and most often to run into.
Speaker 1 (38:02):
Copy and but let's talk about him Number one. I'm
gonna just read through the verse.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
The guy who says he's not ready for a relationship
and wants to do all the relationship thing number two,
not over his ex, refuses to go to therapy. Three,
got a baby on the way, but a'sure. Four The
guy who's perfect gives you conversation, he's attractive, you enjoy
being around him. Two weeks later goes toe you in
no explanation. Five the guy who is in your type.
(38:27):
You give him a chance and then he plays you
in your face?
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Bitch?
Speaker 5 (38:30):
What does it say about me that I've dated for
the See what I too? I've dated everybody with a
baby on the way. I've dated the baby on the way.
We were in a relationship for four months before I
found out that he had a girl six months pregnant.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
What okay?
Speaker 2 (38:43):
So then, let me ask you, because they clearly weren't together.
This was probably someone before you.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
What was your you?
Speaker 2 (38:50):
You debted it like, what was your response to him
finally telling you? I was young and dumb and he
was piping me. Ha ha.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
Let me tell you, good, Dick, I'll make you forget.
Speaker 5 (38:59):
You that getting that young, dumb and full of come.
I'm telling you, but he was one of those guys.
It was one of those early relationships where we're building
together and I'm helping get there he was actually helping
me out of a previous relationship, So that wasn't like
the helping you do what helping me physically apparently get
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over Dick by getting on new Dick, and he was
just my favorite.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
That's where I thought, I was. No, it's well no, no, no,
well yeah again right in the moment.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
No, but in the like maybe you're now you know,
it's very in the moment, like I even realized where
I was like running to just Dick after the relationship
and all the things I got, like the affection, the
laying up, the cuddling, those are actually things I want,
Like I've even realized now, like just Dick, it's only
good wall that's happening, because right after I feel so
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completely empty and unfulfilled, and I'm like this didn't really
make me feel like how in the moment I was
coming and yelling and screaming yes, but right after I
just felt empty.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Yeah it was.
Speaker 5 (40:05):
I think it was just really bad at that time
because I was coming out of an already bad relationship
to a situation where I thought he was I thought
he was one thing. And then, like I said, we
were together for four months and then the pregnancy popped
up in my life. But now I have feelings for you,
and and mind you, they clearly were false feelings, you
know what I mean. He was just a safe space
(40:26):
for me to like recluse to. But now I have
to contend with this woman who's pregnant with your kids
and that dynamic. No, she she did, she did me
and her went at it and and and there's a
lot that you have to swallow because she's pregnant. I'm
not a you know all this the kids for me,
I don't get a fuck what you what you got?
(40:47):
It's just my nigga.
Speaker 1 (40:49):
Now back up, follow that child's boring.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
I wish, I wish I could put you care, make
sure you show up back didn't I couldn't.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
I ain't gonna hold you. I don't think four months
is long enough for me to be with a guy
to deal with drama. That's how young were you? That's fair.
I was really young. I was in college. Yeah, I
was funny.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
We think all these niggas gonna be our, But he
was the guy was dating right right when I got
my start at b ET. So that was challenging too,
you know what I mean, Because it's like, oh, this
is somebody that's with me for me before, like you know,
because during that time, tex Houston was like it was
on like you know, uh, slim thug, we have a
wall Chamelionaire like Houston was, and so now right and
(41:36):
you know, now, like Elle was saying during the New
Faces Search, like all eyes were on us and I
was like the new young black girl.
Speaker 5 (41:44):
But you know, in my mind, but I got something
that's real at home. Meanwhile back at the ranch, he
was fucking everything between everything and everyone.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
So yeah, it's just.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
Presented off back at the ranch as funny as fuck. Now,
let me let me ask you for the for the
first Yes, how do you want dress? Meeting a guy
who is expressing that they don't want a relationship, yet
they want you to cook for him, You're.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
Going on dates. They want you to not date or
talk to anybody out. I want I always want to.
I want to help out with this.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
I had this convo last night with a very close
friend of mine who went on a trip with this
girl recently divorced, and was very clear that like the
divorce was kind of brutal and like he's just having fun.
Speaker 1 (42:25):
The trip was elaborate, but he's a rich nigga.
Speaker 2 (42:31):
Took her on another trip because he had to go
on in for work, and it's very elaborate, and he's like,
this is how I live my life. This is the
type of man I am. He's like, you know, she's
starting to catch feelings. And I don't understand why. I've
been so clear, I've checked in so much. I've done
everything I can to check in, and I'm like, dude,
here's the hard truth. One of my homeboys told me
I was crying about a nigga and I couldn't understand
how he was telling me he didn't want a relationship
(42:52):
but he was doing these things. He was like, Weezy,
that's just how he fucks. He doesn't want a bitch
to leave. He wants you to lay up with him
because he likes that shit, and nothing has to do
with you. You are the woman in place that he's
doing those things with. And I told my friend, I
know that you think that you're not affecting her in
that way, and you were super chill about it, but like,
recognize that your actions do come with emotions for women.
(43:15):
And he was like, how am I supposed to treat someone,
I don't take her to the best restaurant. This is
what I'm gonna fucking eat, period. I'm not gonna stay
at the Fairmont, like this is where what I do.
And I think that, like we are not being real
with ourselves. I actually don't think men are the problem
anymore with the emotional shit, with the cuddling with whatever
it is.
Speaker 1 (43:33):
I think women are not understanding that we're not that special.
Can we split the baby? Yeh.
Speaker 5 (43:39):
What I'll say is is yes, I think that when
I think that when we're honest upfront, like when your
guy friend was honest upfront with this woman and he
was like, this is where I'm, this is where I am,
this is how I'm already moving and showing up in
the world. I'm just simply inviting you along on the journey.
Fair But it's when he's when he's receiving the proceeds
(43:59):
of affection affections towards him and maybe not making sure
that all that stays in balance.
Speaker 1 (44:05):
I think that that's that's when it becomes a problem.
I agree, it does.
Speaker 5 (44:09):
It has constant It doesn't make you okay to receive
you know, me cooking for you and loving on you
and and presenting myself to you as someone who wants
to be in relationship with you. Just because you told
me that you don't want a relationship, it doesn't excuse
you from you need even say hey, I think we
need to spend a little less time together. You know,
(44:30):
to me, I'm not saying I'm not I'm not negating that.
That's why I said I'm gonna split the baby. I've
never heard there is a world where we're gonna split it.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Solomon, No, I get it. Yeah, I'm gonna meet you
in the.
Speaker 5 (44:40):
Middle because yes, you're right, and we as women, that's
where we have our conversations with our girlfriends and we're saying, hey,
not everyone has a Weazy and a Mandy in their life, right.
So it's like, hey, I'm going through and he's making
me feel this. Okay, Well, y'all would say, well, bitch,
keep I think you need to pull back. You're getting
too wrapped up.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
Well, I think that that's the problem with and in
terms of holding men accountable for how they often lead
with that as well, men will make you feel bad
or less than in the same breath because because they
want you to show up for them that way, they'll
also tell you not to continue dating other people.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
I don't want you talking to other people. I don't
want you doing this, Like, there'll be guidelines that they
put into place to make themselves feel better as well,
while also letting you know there's a ceiling for where
we're gonna take this. Well, that's why we have to
be able to say, you know what I am.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I hate fucking the expression of bad bitch, but I'm
an amazing woman, right, you know what I mean? Like,
I'm willing to take the risk of losing whatever it is,
whatever pittance you're bringing my way, to not sacrifice my emotions,
my peace of mind and you know, my emotional stability
and pull that back if you just want to fuck
and go have a great meal and maybe do you
(45:51):
know the occasional trip every once in a while.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
I'm down to do that. I'm woman enough to do that,
right you know. And that means you're not gonna get
ABCD and E from me, because that's what you said,
not ready for I'm gonna be over here with mine.
But we don't do that enough.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
And so I will agree we don't do we part
dating multiple people, well, actually dating maybe you're not fucking
all of them, that's it. But dating, we should, you know,
we should have a man that maybe we just get
drinks with from time, and like, you should be entertaining
because I think my largest problem in the past, you know,
(46:25):
and obviously I could talk to my future self that's
been through so much hurt on this podcast over what
seems to be the modern day situationship is that I
am so into being with one person that I just
kind of, well, hope things will change or we'll just
enjoy being with one instead of prioritizing my actual needs
(46:46):
or not actual needs, actual wants from my future self.
Speaker 5 (46:49):
You know why I connect with that, And this is
one of the reasons why I really love this podcast
more specifically. And I know this podcast doesn't just speak
to women, but I when I first got my start
in the entertainment business, respectability politics was on fifty.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Thousand, right.
Speaker 5 (47:05):
I grew up in the South Southern Baptist and Catholic,
two of the strictest denominations. So a woman like, we
couldn't even wear nail polish, red nail polish until past
a certain age, right, we couldn't wear it's what red
limited right. You know, I couldn't wear a skirt or
even shorts, you know, past my knee and I have
I'm tall, I'm five eight tall. As fun, I have
(47:28):
very long legs, and my my shorts had to be
below my knees or my start freeze girl.
Speaker 1 (47:35):
Hello chance, Hello, Chance, Chance chances.
Speaker 5 (47:40):
But I faund all that to say when I got
into this business, you know, and again post that bad relationship,
that piece of ship relationship that I mentioned previously, you
know you think that that's that time, because those are
I actually started like during my college years. Right, So
when we're in college, when the typical, per average person
is in college, that's their time of exploration. That's time
of like figuring out what they really want and you know,
(48:04):
exploring sex and all these I didn't get to do
that because one how I was raised and then two
now I'm in the public eye. I worked with some
people that as soon as they dipped up with this
person and then this person and this person, they re
labeled all types of names of everything but a child
of God.
Speaker 1 (48:20):
Right, so now at this age, what you say, God again,
what change this celibacy? Everything? The Holy Bible? This episode,
this episode is brought to you by Black Lives Matter
and we praised Jesus Boulevard.
Speaker 5 (48:38):
It's it's it's getting yourself to a place where we
can explore our sexuality, our sensuality in a way that
does not make us feel like if we don't have
this guy or this particular person whatever you know, uh,
your relationship preference is right there next to us, that
we're not still worthy and we're not still sexy, or
(49:01):
we're not still valuable, or we're not still wanted and
being able to show up as your full self.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
I didn't get to have that.
Speaker 5 (49:07):
So hear how freeing you women are on this podcast
enables me to unapologetically show up in whatever type of
dynamic you know, relationship dynamic that I choose to have unapologetically.
So no, it's it's it's really important, like what you're doing,
thank you know, because now you'll hear you know, laur
Harvey without you know, trying I'm definitely not trying to
(49:28):
be smirch her, but people will try to police how
she throws her vagina around.
Speaker 2 (49:31):
And it's like, Yo, men can do whatever all day
every day, and for whatever reason, people think.
Speaker 1 (49:37):
That we want a community penis Huh. I'm actually like
a little surprised with how hard they've come down to
Lori Harvey.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
Are you though a little bit because I kind of
their relationships with most of the men. We mean, they're
all boyfriends, you shake it down.
Speaker 5 (49:54):
Are you really surprised? Well, I guess all these women's bodies. No,
there's nothing surprising. This is surprise, you know what I mean,
Like women's say they don't accept us. Oh no, they're
not hearing what I'm saying. This is actually surprising because
you've got two middle fingers up in the air. You're
successfully doing what you're doing, and you're doing it at
a high level, and you're doing it on your terms,
(50:17):
right whatever, that looks like you're doing it on your terms.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
This is surprising, and this is important. That's why I
wanted to do this show. Thank you. Honestly, I was.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
Very like impressed to hear that, because you know, we
do love to talk about we'll talk about dating and
relationships with sex primarily. But when hearing more about the
show you were doing, I was like, I mean, yeah,
like that's a part of it, right, Like you end
up having sex with someone that you kind of saw
the red flags were like, we all go through that shit.
Speaker 1 (50:45):
Because you're married to how you want your outcome to be.
Speaker 5 (50:47):
And it's like, fuck it, I'm ignoring all these red
flags because I just want to get to the That's
one of the things about Alicia, you know, and Unleash
for Love. She just wants what she wants this as
it pertains to relationships, how she wants it mm hmm,
and when she wants it because she thinks that this
is how she's supposed to show up. That's a lot
like me in real life. There's a lot of things
(51:07):
that I denied myself because I've always had this cookie
cutter image, you know, since the most wild quote unquote
anyone has ever seen me as my time on Guy
Code and Girl Code on MTV.
Speaker 1 (51:19):
I didn't even know. I know you from you see
what I'm.
Speaker 2 (51:21):
Saying, Hey, you wore on another reality show with someone's
friend or something too right?
Speaker 1 (51:25):
No, just Guy Coode and Girl Code on MTV. No,
that's it. Yeah, damn we remember Joe face like that. Yeah, Well,
let's get back in the red flag.
Speaker 2 (51:33):
So here's our home mail for the week. Okay, Hi,
it's me again, not God. I saw that on the
plane over here girl. So I went and told my
boyfriend I was attracted to another man. He gave me
the go ahead, although with much apprehension, to do what
I wanted. I've been seeing that guy one to two
times a week for the past few weeks, and I've
given him head almost every time.
Speaker 1 (51:54):
He may do it right.
Speaker 2 (51:55):
He makes me wear butt plugs when I go meet him,
and we have so many sexual fantasies we want to
fulfill together. But there's another problem. He has a girlfriend
not in an open relationship, so he's cheating to do
this stuff with me. When I asked him why, he
said he was twenty two when he got with her,
and when he got with his thirty year old girlfriend
and he didn't come.
Speaker 1 (52:14):
I think he's always got an excuse this to wat
it cheating.
Speaker 2 (52:16):
Hi, Well, I didn't have time to have fun with
women now, and he loves her and he's not. She's
not up for fun and exciting stuff anymore now. As
I'm a very sexual person. He would like for me
to fulfill him. But whilstein to being with a girlfriend.
I have no issue with him having one, but the
fact that I'm the reason he's cheating is upsetting. I
never thought i'd do this, but I'm into him sexually,
and I find it hard to be into people at all,
(52:37):
so I don't know what to do. I didn't care
about her for a while, and normally I tell him
to eat her out and tell me about the things
they'll do. And it really turns me on when I
think about the fact that she has no idea and
it would hurt her.
Speaker 1 (52:48):
I can't help but feel bad. Please help a hoe out.
What's stop talking though? Is that simple? It's legit, that simple.
Speaker 2 (52:56):
But also the fact that you're like, oh, now I
feel bad for her even though I'm telling him to
fucking eat her out and tell me how it was.
You've also been aroused with the idea of the other
girlfriend wing with, Like I actually think it's adding to
your attraction. First off, the girlfriend you're saying you don't care,
like you only brought your boyfriend up once. The second thing,
(53:18):
I mean, I think it's difficult, right. You obviously have
to have like me, I don't want to do that.
It's not something I would want to do, but if
I was gonna start fucking the nigga, I would at
least take the.
Speaker 1 (53:29):
Approach of fuck her at all. I wouldn't do this,
like I remember back in Lembo thing, either you gonna
do it or you don't. I mean to me, it
sounds like she's actually starting to like him a little bit. Yes,
and now she's mad that there is a girlfriend in
the picture. I agree, that's what it sounds like.
Speaker 2 (53:44):
And unfortunately, because that's where you get some good dick hello,
and that it might be a little tricky with her
current relationship. Okay, you got to go ahead and permission
to have this other sexual relationship.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
It's now sounding like.
Speaker 2 (53:58):
You actually might be starting to I can which it's
a forbidden day, or it's a lot of times it's inevitable. Yeah, right,
if someone is dicking you down right, or you're spending
more time for you to have a boyfriend, which I got,
but you to have a boyfriend for you to still
be seeing this nigga sometimes multiple times a week, she said,
one or two times a week.
Speaker 1 (54:17):
That's a lot when you also have your dude at home.
Speaker 2 (54:20):
You have a primary relationship with somebody, So again, seeing
somebody that often, I don't even see.
Speaker 1 (54:25):
Some one two times a week, yeahs her to me,
That's what I saw that.
Speaker 2 (54:31):
I was like, if I is a relationship, a full relationship,
a relationship that's so often you're in a full re
like that's all the sex I.
Speaker 5 (54:37):
Wud probably because you're just sending a text message saying, hey,
you know, am I coming over today?
Speaker 1 (54:42):
Should I bring the plugs? Like you're not doing going
to do our Thursday thing? Like this is a relations relation.
Speaker 2 (54:49):
If y'all watch TV after too, you really need to
let them go. Let's tell the people where to find you.
Speaker 1 (54:56):
I'm love aside of her. Right when I said that, Sorry,
thanks for listening. We are talking ship. Leave that. Man,
You're a situation. Yeah, not about you? Well, yeah, you
because I am right now, Oh my god, living in
delusion land. Okay, bitch, I was just there.
Speaker 2 (55:16):
We're not here to suaze your guilty contract. I have
somebody else that may dumb ass decisions. Not I don't
want to say a horrible ones. But you know, when
you got a friend, it's not like you're talking shit
about her because you talked about her face our only
mutual friends. She's like, who's just got off the phone
with Lulu. I'm like, girl, she's still talking to that
nigga Like.
Speaker 1 (55:35):
That Lulu and we love making that word. Oh I
told her that too. We literally all said and I
was like listening to tell you come back to fantasy land.
You can find me.
Speaker 5 (55:46):
You can find me on Instagram and I am Alicia
in a and uh more importantly, you can find out
more about any for Love Audible.
Speaker 2 (55:54):
And when you're on Audible, we have our ship dropping
on the same day, y'all. It's my first project that
you're on the twenty and two d J dramas games.
Speaker 1 (56:03):
Said they got all the block. We got the block, y'all. Wayne,
two Chains, t I Pharrell with Bab.
Speaker 2 (56:12):
Tucci, Tucci to Change and Tyler. Tyler was my favorite episode.
Like I worked so hard. It's been a year and
a half. It was like really difficult. It's also not
just like a straight hip hop interview podcast. You'll hear
your executive producer on it too.
Speaker 4 (56:25):
M hm.
Speaker 1 (56:26):
That's that's this. This is my first project being executive producer.
I mean I was, what do you say? Love me
nothing but anyway Audible come on season two? Is that
what I'm here? First and foremost Horrible Patrio, Patreon horrible,
check us out on there. We do town Hall. We
got Bust episode.
Speaker 5 (56:46):
You should always fuck me now, huh A minute ago,
you're gonna be on you want to be on season two?
Speaker 1 (56:51):
You know, I'm just trying to say my plan is horrible.
You colored, that's it. You have a new car, you color? Yeah,
out pound pound pound
Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision. West coast,
west coast, west coast, and when I say it.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It might be as west as you could get Seattle.
It's that's real way, Seattle, we are finally coming to you. Listen,
you gotta get tickets because I'm telling you right now,
if Mandy and I ever thought about doing a loop
of the show again, that shit far as hell it
is going to take a last air lodge or so shit. Anyway,
The point is I'm only doing.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
It for y'all. That's right.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
So y'all, the Climax Tour is coming to Seeattle.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
That's Washington, right, but not DC.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's the so Willa is Portland peeps and whoever is
like up there to come see you.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yeah, y'all know, I got to pull out a map.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
But Seattle, we are coming to you on September seventh
at the Neptune Theater. Must be sucking some things out there,
cause he's like, O'm gon to Seattle. He cannot wait
to go to Seattle. Hunt And you know what, I'm
going to talk to the people who make the weather machines,
and it's gonna be.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Good weather because I do know that Seattle Ray. What
day of the week is it? It is September one, seventh, Okay,
so here's the team. What's the team?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
The seventh is a Thursday. People like going out on
on Thursday night.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
They do.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
So it's Friday. We barely show up for work, y'all.
Make it a little bit, I would say, call off.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Let's yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, So make sure you go on over to hour
hive dot com and get your tickets now.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, that's her crop sweem me for you. Oh I
thought you had no That's okay. Welcome back, y'all.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Another episode of Horrible Decision, A special episode. We got
big black effect energy in the building. Mandy and I
are sitting with.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Our uncle shar What up, Weezy? What up?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Mandy hoisting around our booty hoole pillow And he's here
today because there's a new podcast out on audible.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Unleasha Love is that right? Four loves? Okay? Four boots Love?
Just you know, I at leashed my fun. I want it.
It's off the leash away from me with Alisha d Yes.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
To be honest with y'all, man, he was like, damn,
what are we gonna talk about? I was like, we're
gonnaet talk about boot.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
So, man, I met leesh Man.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
What year was this two thousand and six five girl?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Yeah, because lesh was one of the new faces on
b T when BT came in with their new faces
and it was Roxy and Terrence J and Leash and
Lamarne and uh, it's yes, And she was hosting a
show on BT.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And this is what I was working with Wendy at
the time. I don't even know I was.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
Working with Wendy. I was working with Wendy and I
was a guest on her show. She was hosting the show,
and we just got cool from there. And then, uh,
she used to do these gumbo at her house, her
apartment and uh in hack Sacary, Jersey.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
The person you met from BT doing a gumbo night. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
When I moved back, when I moved back to New
Jersey in twenty ten, I moved into that apartment complex.
So we were nables. Oh shit, so we she's she
used to cook and I used to have HBO and.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
We watched that's hilarious that the guy. My wife hadn't
moved up here yet, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
So she was still home. So the least had the food.
I had the kid at the cable and it was
a fat change.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Was working for BT, I had to start cutting back
on my budget.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So I was like, because, like, there's not a lot
of platonic friendships like that, and it's tough because men
need more of like a woman's sounding board.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
They don't have.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Female friendships, and sometimes it gets a lot more difficult
when I'm dating men that don't really have women in
their lives that they never had sex with.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
That's the fact. Man.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I'm met, I got friend zoned, and I was like, oh,
we're really friends now, Like Black Jesus is out officially
just a friend. Not only did he tell me about
the sex he had on vacation, bitch, we went together
to get our nails.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
I said, oh god, we're.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Never you know, you wanted a blessing Black Jesus that's
his nickname, and we had it once upon a time,
just one time. Never went again. But he's so fine
and it's so hard for me to be friends with him.
But I'm like, oh, no, like that one night we met,
the day we met, Yeah, you said that sex was good.
(04:29):
How come it was great? We both usually we both
ended up getting back with our partners. We both met
during a like a bad time in our relationships, and
literally a couple of weeks after we both got back
with our partners. You said, did you tell him you
want it more? Or did you know we both got
back with our partners? Yeah, no, I gonna hold you now.
(04:51):
I've literally been like, well, dang, Like I got drunk
with him one time and I was like, well, was
it not good?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Why did we never revisit? And no, it was we
just I think timing of it all.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
And now we've just become friends, and now you're in
the Drake concert together as friends, and I'm just like,
I'm sure he'll still drop some dick off.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I'm more, No, I don't want it now. Like once
we go to get our.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Nil's done and you out here telling me about the
other bitches you're fucking on vacation.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
He said, what, But did he use a color? Is
that why you wouldn't do it? After the name color? Oh?
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Like did he get color is not designed? How they
were designs? Oh?
Speaker 4 (05:25):
How does a man whose nickname is Jesus?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
No?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
One?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Like he's like laying it down good, because as you're
laying in Oh God, Jesus.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
First call, we have nicknames for niggas, were not calling
them their nicknames in the bedroom.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
You like anyone ever had a nickname for you?
Speaker 4 (05:43):
I have no idea. I'll do it the same woman
for twenty five years.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I do not know. Damn. You were probably radio man.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I'll radio man speak about you.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
May know what I mean. Girl, we call women, have
nicknames for the guys and we just.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Okay, mister biggest, Wait, mister bigg mister.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Big, mister big, I don't know. I don't know about
where you might be big, excuse myself. I always who
you got in the group that you're telling me? What's
the last one? I have? Pilot babe?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Before let me I had a pilot babe, but he
asked me not to talk about about the podcast Canada.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I have one that you all love Citizen. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
Yeah, he's yeah, he's but he's probably getting removed because.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Last time he had removed from Canada Pitch.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
No.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I'm like my list said, what did he know?
Speaker 3 (06:43):
I too, like, at least with Love is out right now,
at least would Love is out right now on audible,
But why.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Is he getting removed from your list?
Speaker 5 (06:55):
Because last time he was in we have an understanding
that whenever you're in California, which you need to drop off.
He was in California less than an hour away right now.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
You know how I feel. And he did not drop
off his package. If you know what I mean, and
I'm not talking about you, pa Lesh, that is me.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
So the two niggas that was on my team, including
the one that came back done, we were just in
Vegas together and but you don't even want to know
how the other one got caught.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
You have, bitch.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
He was in one of the backgrounds of one of
your stories. So, bitch, I screenshot at the story. I
didn't en gonna say whuntil we off here, but I said.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Oh, so you was Vegas. That's fine. It wasn't in Vegas,
it was somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
No, she doesn't notice on my whole Well, he just
happened to literally be in the sow screenshot at bitch
your story and said, oh so you were you were
here and didn't tell me.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
He was like, oh, I was only in top six hours.
I know what you're talking about. Bennie hit me up
about that.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Oh, I don't even know if I told ben oh, well,
Bennie knows who he is. Anyways, we give us any library, Yeah,
we give it too many, too many details. Cut him
off because he was in my city and didn't drop
off the din for six hours.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
That's enough time even go about one round.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Thought him in a forty ways. It's here saying, oh
he didn't drop off his package? Heat asked or suck toe?
This is our our question for everybody. This am I
doing or receiving? You have to pick one?
Speaker 5 (08:20):
I would I would like I love receiving ass eating? Okay,
which one are you doing?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Mike the bitch? What nothing?
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I mean?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
You have to pick? It's life or deck talk? So
what I have done?
Speaker 5 (08:35):
If I'm when I'm down there in the neither regions
struggling balls in my mouth, I will just dip down there.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
WHOA, that was more than I thought. Alicia asshole, she said,
she said, I go right.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Now, Okay, when your wife is doing them, because we
know you've talked about but would you prefer though seared
beats being sucked?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Do you like that my tols?
Speaker 3 (09:01):
Me and I don't think I've had my tolds. I've
never had my told.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Do you get pedicures? Yeah, okay, so your feet look
all right?
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Yeah, I felt like the only you didn't even ask
me if I eat ass? He was like, I know,
I've heard you talk about eating ass.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You know, I mean getting yours and you talk about it.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Oh yes, No, I didn't mean it like that. A second.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Wait, wait, wait, wait wait wait, actually speaking of what
is your position for that? Do you hold your legs up?
Or I've never got as you never get all the
nice things she got. Knock it off, sirs, that's my woman.
(09:47):
I've been with it for twenty five years.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
And so there had to be a special time, a moment, anniversary,
a birthday, you're gonna get something, specially.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Your life getting lit. I'm a giver.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
I'm a giver. I like to give more than receive.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Okay, all right, right, maybe y'all do need eater Okay,
all right, all right? Not everybody eats ass in his room? Okay,
as yeah, I said, not everybody.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I mean we all do.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
I'm talking around like, who don't I've been listening to
the podcast.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Stop looking at the like Wolfe because he's vegan. Do
you eat boody wood saking?
Speaker 3 (10:24):
You don't get a bed like that if you don't
eat ass yo, yo, stop it. Minor is fertilizer cleansings,
minor manre manure.
Speaker 4 (10:38):
Said man.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
With the favor thing or something that was anal putting
that song. I was like, that's a little thing you
drens look like but plug like. But what is the minora?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
There is something tonic thing where you put the candle. Yeah, see, bitch,
so I knew it was something.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
It was you.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Yeah, okay, never be able to orgasm or never be able.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
To give one? Oh your bitch, fuck me giving y'all one?
I want one? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I don't care if
I'm mak a nigga come or not. Yeah, I'd rather
like never not like they're.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Really undeserving at this point, Mandy's Mandy's Oh, I'm actually
so I'm going celibate. But we'll talk about that later. Oh,
don't do that to yourself. Oh I know you know
it's for me actually.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But is it? Hold on?
Speaker 5 (11:23):
But when you say I want to unpack that, so
when you say celibate, like, no dick at all.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Oh yeah, I'm still gonna rub one out, okay, because
you got to keep that up. Oh yeah, no, but
I'm not I don't want Jesus celibacy? Is this Bible
Stories with Brianda.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I want, I want, I want no dick right now,
and then I haven't even found men to be attractive.
That's how bad he Mandy is in the middle of
a breakup right or going through one. And I feel
like you're seeing the phases because it depends which we
can walk in. If you just got some dick, you'd
be like, oh girl, but I cut off even twenty
four seven, like I want no dick.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
His name is twenty four seven because he could get
it twenty four to seven, you.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Know, but.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Seventy five.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Okay, So I want to look through your contact list
and just read.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
The the oh I put him, I got a new
nigga that got it?
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Oh girl sliding his dnt even got emoji's real quick? O,
how you got a new nigga? While you celebrate, you
just want to lunch.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
He don't live here, just so if long distance right now,
I'll see them when we get on tour, come off
to area.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Used to write, we're taking a summer. You got it
all right, So here's the Vanilla ship. You never listen.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
This is our sex and News segment. I read this
and I thought it was crazy. Some people are allergic
to COME. Forty thousand women in the US have semeno
plasma hypersensitivity and basically when they have COME on their body,
they get a burning, itching, sensation, redness, and swelling wherever
it lands. So many people think it's an STD and
(13:01):
literally they're just allergic to COME, and doctors have been
thinking it's the condom. They'll think it's anything else. They
think it's someone's beard, and it's literally a semen allergy.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Is it pH because it's not balanced or something.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
No, it's just a semen whether can you imagine, like
right when you need to get pregnant, you're just like
so it's inside and outside the entire body, surface level
skin contact and in turn, and apparently there was the
first woman was diagnosed a decade ago.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Can you imagine?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I mean I would still risk it, I like, so
as long as he scratches my back after like, if
it's gonna be itchy, you know what I mean, you
risk the burning and itching, but I don't have to
look at my back.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I cover it with a shirt. At that's fair.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I like to be nut at all. So I'm just
gonna risk Hey, after you got to scratch my back,
so it just can't be your face. Bro, what if
you have to a podcast? What I'm saying, you could
come on my back only, But what about when you
need to be nutted in?
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Though I don't do that at all, not even with
your main stay.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
He doesn't give me what I did with but there
was some scientific reasons why I did that. But moving forward, no,
I'm not gonna allow that because I don't want no baby.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
I think those women are vampires who were whores when
they were human, and so being that they were a
whores when they were huge their vampires, the seeming affects
him like the sun in the holy water.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
That's what I believe.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
That was the most brilliant idiot's response, that we were
gonna get stood on it and stood on it like that.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
What it is? I mean, I will say I like
that theory. Yeah, I think that it is. For I
think that's karma. It has to be karm. You did
something wrong in your life to now be an adult
and you.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Can't be nutted, can't be nutted on again, but something
so you don't want anywhere near you.
Speaker 5 (14:47):
I think it's this guy before his nuts smelled like
corn nuts. I don't know what that was about. He
smoked a lot of weeds.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
That's like when the when the weave comes out from
Alix presspacket, it smell like that.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Bro, I'm not playing. That's what you corn? That smell
like nuts? Or do nuts smell like cornuts? I think
nuts smell like cornuts.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I think his wait, no, no, no, no, no, which nuts?
Because nuts about out a nut don't smell either. Rory
said that shot.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
I smell semen? Really demon Is that not the same
motherfucking thing.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
Yeah, but when we said plural, I thought you were
talking about balls, so I got yeah, I want to
you're talking about nuts.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
No, no nut juice semen. Yeah, I was talking about
the nuts. I thought you're talking about mustard nuts. They
always have a smell, y'all.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Don't mind me.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I stay nut as a nut like an orgasm is
a nuts?
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Me? Like, that's almost ghetto, you do, I mean like
ooh nut for me? Like I say nut, I don't
like or the the problem saynt on me?
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I say, though, when I'm when I'm pining from man,
you like, how many nuts you're gonna give me? I
even send the peanut emoji when I'm asking for the nuts.
You know what I'm about. She not lying. I'm not lying.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
For me.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I have to in the nut emoji. I can't. Yeah,
squirrel trying to get her nuts. I'm not mad at it.
I'm not mad at it. We're all trying to try
to get her nutsquirrel baby. The hordrve our sex tip, I.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
Think this is dope. We don't the three segments. Y'all
move like Andy Cohen. Y'all y'all quick with it. I'm like,
oh ships the third second, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Being rushing out. Yeah, I really want to notice. That's
why I skipped around it, because I really want to
know your marriage one.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Like the married sex tip, something that keeps the spicy
and then for you, whether it be solo or dating.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
So let's go with you married sex tip. The marriage
sex tip for me is to never fuck like you're married.
Whatever the stereo typical marriage sex is, don't do that.
Treat it the way you would always treat it if
y'all was just dating.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Kicking it. You know, do you do like staycations and
stuff all the time?
Speaker 4 (16:59):
Vacations? You know, we don't do stay cases, we do
vacation were the same.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Yeah, we was the same.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
Lushit in February with just us.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
That's good.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Yeah, you gotta do that. That's what I'm saying you all.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
You you always got to treat it like you know,
y'all are just dating like y'all are just those two
kids who met who just was always hot and heavy
for each other.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
What's the best marriage advice you've gotten from someone that's
like famous, because you've met so many people in the world, Like,
who's someone famous that's giving you advice?
Speaker 4 (17:27):
Before I was married, Kevin Louds gave me some great advice.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Kevin Lowd said, I cannot tell you to get married,
but I can tell you to find somebody to share
the rest of your life with.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
That's good advice.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
I mean, I already knew who I wanted to be
with for the rest of my life, so that was
the easy call.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
But that what Mayor Deblasio doing you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
No, Mayor de Blasio is literally saying that they're gonna
they're separated, but they're going to stay living together, and they're.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
They're going to be part of Eric Adam.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
But they can but they can date other people because
at this point they've been married for thirty years and
that's the partner. They have dope kids together, they probably
have a lot of assets, and that's his life partner.
But now they're to the place where they can date
others because the job has made him, you know, has
taken away from the love of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
So I was just like my said, it's cheaper to
keep her. We're doing is other people, but I'm not going.
Speaker 4 (18:21):
But one caveat with that. I about to say, caviot,
but that'd be stupid.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
One caveat with that is that she was always a
lesbian before they even got married, like she was, and
she was already in the women before they got married,
So that's open.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
So do you know if they were was she allowed
to deal with women when I don't know.
Speaker 4 (18:41):
I just know she was when they got married way
back in the day.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
She was Hillary, So I'm not gonna lie me And
Weezy was when we were on tour.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
We kind of had that that conversation because we're both
by and I think even if I get in another relationship,
I do still want the like I want to deal
with girls.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
I want to eat some coochie from Tom.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
But now I'm like completely scarred from doing the sex
club thing again threesomes, and I don't know if I
want to share again. And so we literally was like, well,
we both want to deal with women, but how do
we not tell our partner they could deal with women too?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Then if we are both given, you.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Know, that grace to do so, And I'm just like,
I don't know how we're gonna explain it yet, because
you know what's on my mind right now. Kevin Lyle's great,
no offense, but you know Beyonce and jay Z and
that's what you gave us, Alicia.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
Oh that's but you know that's different.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
Though. I think that jay Z did the best work
in that situation because his greatest flex to me is
the work he did on himself as.
Speaker 4 (19:38):
A man and how he evolved as a father, a husband,
and a friend. That's a fact.
Speaker 5 (19:44):
The best advice Kevin Laws gave me his choices leech
is all about damn, we need to talk to him.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah, I would.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Choices, So okay, wait, now we need your single or solo? Yeah,
dating or sex?
Speaker 5 (19:58):
You know, Honestly, for me, everything started to shift when
I was more intentional when I took showers and baths
and I mean, can you ear.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Muffs knock it off? I'm just like my song I
love I take. I take them quite frequently.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
Okay, No, I meant like when I I I certain
this is a completely different podcast, but certain things happened
to me as a child that took my love of
self away.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Right.
Speaker 5 (20:30):
So in order for me to figure out what would
help me get into healthier relationships, I had to figure
out how to relove myself and my person.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Right.
Speaker 5 (20:40):
So it's these legs are long and they're beautiful. Look
at these curves, these like really touching myself and like loving. No,
that's my brand in my body. You understand what I'm saying.
So that's what I meant, like when I'm in the bath,
like bathe myself, look at myself and you know, tune
into how I feel when I touch.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Can you ear muffs? These they still have to be
We need to marry tea right, right, you know what.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I mean. One man I know has told me that
he had like recently lost a lot of weight, and
he was like, I had to really like look at
myself and talk about what I like about my beautiful
because women are always having to hype up their bodies,
but men necessarily can't and unless they're super muscular. One
of the things that wanted that that inspired me to
create Unleashed for Love was just really trying to take
back the narrative as far as like our ownus when
(21:26):
we're dating, and what that looks like if it's a
good relationship or a bad relationship.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Because I dated a guy while he was inside of
me who spat on me and not in.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
A sexy way, and not in a sexy no, not
in a sexy way, but just like it was an
abusive relationship. I'll put it like that, right, And so
when you go through certain things, you have to learn
how to like, no, I'm a bad bitch, Like look
at these titties, they're still up, these stretch marks. Is
because I got a fat ass, and it's real, Like
all of these things, I know it was abusive. I
don't want to trigger nobody, but I need to know
(21:57):
how and why the fuck he spit on you in
the in the little set, that's a complete girl.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
That's a that's a that's a different day.
Speaker 5 (22:02):
I was just saying one of when when I think
of back to when I think back to why I
need to love this body better so I don't date
niggas like that.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Again, that's right, you understand what I'm saying. Can we say, yes, girl,
we just.
Speaker 4 (22:23):
Said you want to just start saying colored?
Speaker 2 (22:28):
No?
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Do you say that?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
They had to strike that off of one of the debates,
like from a while, because colored people is not a
word that should be using. You know, that.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
Is crazy.
Speaker 5 (22:42):
I wanted to add to that. Have you ever thought
maybe they were because you you were like, oh, but
the n w a CP is called.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
The National College the National Association Color People.
Speaker 5 (22:50):
Okay, but maybe in that instance it's taking the thing
out of a word and putting some power behind it,
right because behind that organization you have hundred thousands of
dollars you have.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I think it's come back then, color that people was
some of the origination.
Speaker 5 (23:04):
But when he's like, oh, why don't we shift the name,
and I'm like, no, there's power now behind that name
in that situation.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
Actually, after the Civil War, emancipated slaves called themselves colored
people free color as a as a term of racial pride,
so the same way they did dan word, but around
the sixties is when they started referring to themselves as
black and African American. But na's People was founded in
nineteen oh nine, so I guess that's why they're the
National Association Association with the Advancement of Color People.
Speaker 4 (23:31):
I still don't think that's a good.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
Excuse just to say, hey, that's the name we had,
because think about it, they've been changing all types of
shit over the past few years.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
They're bringing out statues, you know what I mean. So
it's just like if one person, now.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
That's my point, So if we if we know colored
people is offensive, then maybe the NAACPC changed their name.
It's a lot of work, you know, and people of
color is just saying it and properly saying it with
proper Grandma.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Well, no, he said color. He said color.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Color, and then he said was like yeah, and matter fact,
Andy wanted to cut We had a comedian coming here,
and I realized some people say it. He's like, you know,
because you'll say stuff like the Mexicans and he was
talking about Latino's person goes and the blacks.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
I don't know if you remember who, and she was like,
we have to cut that out. And I was like,
really I was.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
He was a white man saying the blacks, but also
like and I was like, I'm sorry, that didn't black
the black.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
It is wild to me that niggas don't trigger nothing,
but you say colors and everybody's like what.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
I used to manage a T mobile store And I'll
never forget this man. He came up and he goes,
I'm looking for someone.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Who was helping me. And I was like, oh, do
you know who it was? He was like, it was
the colored gentleman. He's tall colored and I was like, oh,
we don't have color. You have colored.
Speaker 4 (24:42):
I did. I will say I didn't realize color was
so offensive though I didn't.
Speaker 5 (24:45):
Oh yeah, if it comes from someone who historically colored West.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
You know what it is. It's the country thing. It's
the boy. It's like saying boys, you know that's it?
Speaker 3 (24:58):
Or anything, yes, anything in context, anything out of context
can pitch somebody out.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
I could be like, fucking banana. You call me a
banana four?
Speaker 1 (25:07):
You know what I mean? So any word can be.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
But there's I saw Wheezy's comment under your post about
the PPP loan ship with the band. They said the
word bling. That's clearly bling is a term used in
our community. The white people I know about with the PPP.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
They're trying to say for certain things have been so
co opted nowadays, especially in hip hop, Like you don't
really know if they're referencing black people or not. Like
when white people say blank, now it's like they was
doing that shit on Lifestyles of the rich and famous.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
But they don't originate it.
Speaker 5 (25:41):
It comes from us, So they adapted from us and
and and once they get a hold of it, nine
times out of ten they don't mean any good with it.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
When they're referring back to our they would.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Have said jewels, jewelwel anything. I just feel like white
people don't say bling alone. No, and white people like
to say words to you.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
To let you know they damn.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Like in twenty like the I remember, I remember Lifestyles
of the richard famous, Robin Leacher whoever was doing that
short at the time. They would literally say things like Blaine,
are you see these white reporters say blank just because
they're trying to be down.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
They think that's the lingo, it's a panda.
Speaker 5 (26:12):
They pander, yes, because they was talking shit about one
thousand person you.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
And had Pepe pre that was that was some of
your best words.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
That ship, I told them, niggas in twenty twenty. I
told those colors.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
I told them. I told those colors. I told you
that y'all always go ended up in PPP prison.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
That ship was a trap and they say it's gonna
take up to ten years to get everybody.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
I don't think I want to.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Tell y'all how republican. I think I want y'all to
get caught because but I ain't taken it now. I
felt like I was left down. Y'all bet caught because
if you don't don't take that, Bro, I'm gonna be
honest with you. I was so scared the same guy
we paid ours back. But you know, we started studio
three years ago. We fucking used that ship and I
remember Alex and I went to eat one night and
I said, oh wait, we gotta track it. We got
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to make sure they don't think it's the PPP.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
And he was like, Bro, we just about all these
goddamn cares.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
It don't matter. I was so scared to go to jail. Yeah,
because you were trying to live on the side of right.
Not no, mom, not what I've seen. Okay, but the
Horrible Decision is about unleash in love and a lot
of this show that, from what I've heard, is about
women making the right choices.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
So with these niggas, that's possible.
Speaker 5 (27:18):
But I was laughing because we did the same things,
like what you were saying, bandy. We make up names
for you know, the horrible dates and stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
So you would love it. Oh, I know, I know,
I'm gonna love it. Yeah, but I'm also like really
heartbroken and triggered right now with anything you love. So
I'm gonna tune in and you know, have faith. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
I don't like script and stuff too. But before we
get into I do I do. That's why I want
to listen to it too, before we get into it.
What voice do you play? Do you play ancient niggas?
Because I saw Kevin Hart and.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
You number two taking number three? You played yourself? Yeah,
Kevin Cart played himself too. No, he just executive producer. Okay.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
So I know a lot of women feel like marriages angle,
and I think before you know, we start talking about
how many trash before you leave, I want to know
some qualities and some things that your wife has or
that let you know. That doesn't have to do with
the connection you had, because you one great thing that
you do is not just say she's beautiful, she's a
great mom. You talk about how she makes you feel.
(28:18):
I've heard you say that, But I do want to
know some of the qualities or things she did that let.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
You know marriage was it? Oh? What are the qualities
and things? I know? I mean, she's just a great
colored girl, I mean colored woman. You know. I know.
(28:44):
It's funny. I was.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
I was having this conversation yesterday. She always made me.
She always made me want to be the best version
of myself. I was actually speaking to a bunch of
kids in Orlando ironically yesterday, and I was telling him, like,
that's what was always my inspiration, Like she was always
my muse, right, because it's like she was such an
(29:05):
a dope person and she always just made me want
to be better because I didn't want to lose the
number one and I wanted to show her that, like, yo,
I can, I will be successful basically, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 4 (29:18):
So she was just always kind of like my motivation.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
You ever seen that movie, the Facebook movie when Mark
Zuckerberg was like he created Facebook, because he was just
like chasing this one woman, like this one way that
you gotta watch.
Speaker 4 (29:28):
It's actually really good. Ago wasn't the social network. I
might have been called the social but that was his
motivation for starting Facebook. It was as the cut.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
And so that's how I always looked at, uh, you know,
my wife. She was always just my motivation. She always
just believed in me. Like when when Methan Man said
on all I need, you know, rub me on my
back and you know, tell me it'll be okay.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Like she was always that person looking at him.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
You know, I think like they're like that, And I
think there's two differences, right, you could be like you
could do it, babe, and then there's a real belief.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Yes, can I say something about your wife please?
Speaker 5 (30:07):
One of the things that I love about my sister
in love is she is one of the most confident
people I've ever met and really secure. And I say
that because it takes a templar, a particular type of
woman to move in the rooms and the circles that.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
He moves in. And she colored and to be with
the color color that's right here, and her crown never tilts.
Speaker 5 (30:33):
She's always provided a safe space for him to have
healthy relationships with his girlfriends that he loves like sisters.
There were many times I'm not going to get to
and because then I'll start crying. But there were many
times when I was stuck between a rock and a
hard place, and my help came from her.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Wow, I'll say that it came. It came from her.
Speaker 5 (30:50):
I will always give her her flowers every day, whether
whether she's in front of me or not in front
of me.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
And he knows this.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
It is very impressive, rare type of And she's also
attractive and fit one thousand.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Let's start with that. But but we know plenty of
women who are attractive and fit, and that's it. That's
what that's talk about it they'd be So that's why
that's even how beautiful she is.
Speaker 5 (31:13):
I let with the fact that she literally can sit
in a room with I don't care who you name them,
and her crown will never tilt.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Also, like you, I would confidence of security. What she
said is what she will. My wife gives me confidence
and security.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Women aren't too They're like, oh are you like into
the phone? Who are you? That's something and I'm not
trying to like And I mean this because you have
to put it in context. I know what I look like.
Speaker 5 (31:39):
You know, she's never never never made it an issue,
never made it a problem. And like I said anything,
I'm their sister now one thousand per y'all been cool
so that she uh, when she moved down the hall,
well she ran me up in the hallway.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Let me start in a hallway. Uh, I love you.
But he tells the story too.
Speaker 5 (32:01):
You have to get her to tell you the story
off camera obviously, because she she re enacts it and everything.
But like she goes into mode and I'm like, oh,
bit you read and said that gumbo gotta stop.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Gonna stop now, mind you because like all breathe over,
Like we would go to church together. He moved.
Speaker 5 (32:24):
He was like lish, you know, I'm having to you know,
come back, like I want to. You know, where should
I move? And I said, why don't you just move
in my building?
Speaker 1 (32:30):
You know what I mean? Like, so we would go
church together.
Speaker 5 (32:32):
Watch you like we had a standing every Sunday, you know,
date we go out, hey, you know, eat kick it
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
But I would say, where is such and such a
you nurse? Are her name publicly? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (32:44):
Where's your wife. Where's At the time though they were
still just dating, you know, they were still in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
How do you watch that? Am I saying it the
right way? Okay?
Speaker 5 (32:54):
They were, and I'm like, hell, I have to meet her.
There is not a woman walking this earth that would
be okay. We go to church, we pray together, we
eat together, we have a favorite show together.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
But no. She would come though, back and forth, and
so I would say, can you have her come over? Oh?
Speaker 5 (33:09):
Yeah, Alisha, she knows all about you. And I'm like, cool,
I know women, I'm a woman. I need to meet
this woman. So one day I'm going to check my mail,
minding my grandiose business in Melrose Place, our building, I
get ran up on by this woman. She was like,
you're Alicia Renee. And the way she said it, I
wasn't sure if that was a good thing I was.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Or a bad thing. And she was like, I'm such
and such. Charlotmagne is such and such. I said, oh, bitch,
what do you mean? Like that's literally how I greeted her.
And I said, why haven't you come over to my house? Yet?
Speaker 5 (33:45):
And she was standing there like with her mouth and
gape like huh. And I said, he hasn't, don't you
She said, girl. I said, girl, And then we've been
in love ever since.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Oh so she really ran you a I love.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Beauty, bitch.
Speaker 1 (34:00):
No, but but I think it. But she did what
every woman would do.
Speaker 5 (34:04):
She wants to make sure that the woman that spends
so much time with her significant other didn't mean her
family anymore.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
And now we do.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Got to have her on because that's a conversation we
have often about friendships I'm telling between opposite sexes, especially
because one or the other normally is just waiting their turn.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
There is some some people who actually like that person
but their friend zone and just waiting to be the
shoulder for you.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
The crowns a lot, but you.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
Got to have a next level of trusty. It's never believe,
but I think a lot.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
I think a lot of men miss out on like
very fulfilling friendship.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
I agree.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
That's because they might be leading with their dick, think
with their dick. I got way, I got way more
homegirls and friends than I do homeboys.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
I agree, But I know I know women that think
the same way. My best friend will say it, she
has not one platonic male friend.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
She's like, you either going to be a trick or my.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Husband on another thing, I'm either gonna get something out
of you or we're gonna be in a relationship. She
is no male plutonic friends, and she meets all of
my male friends and she is like almost mind blown in.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
So much you get out.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
My daddy fucked me up with that, though, before I go,
my daddy fucked me up with that because when I
was little, When I was little, when I was little,
because I used.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
To always like to hang around the women.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
Right, So I'm little and I'm watching a bell Bib
devout video and it was my sister and my two homegirls,
my two cousins, and they were They're like, oh, you
know this Ronnie's cut and Michael was cheting, this was cuting.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
I'm just trying to be down. I'm young. I'm like, yeah,
that's the chew one. And it was like a record stretch.
They were like, Dad, touch.
Speaker 4 (35:45):
My dad snatched me up. He said, come here, ares
gonna be around you all. He's god damn women.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
And he threw me in the yard with my two cousins,
you know, who were guys, and they just literally treated
me like a football for like two hours. I'm talking
about I was the football. They were throwing me around.
They would catch me to tackle each other.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
It was crazy.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
But then as I got older and started getting into
trouble because I was around a bunch of dudes all
the time. My dad was like, why y'all wouldn't be
aroun all these hard lake niggas all the time? Man,
both find some woman to be around. I'm sitting there
like you you told me when I was young, and
not being around all the women, So I'm crazy.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
You love talking about Dick's all day long. That's just funny.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
It was a fan at a I think it was
at a link up party, shout out to Andre Prower
and the girls like I want to know.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Something so bad. Me and my mom loved Charlette me
so much. I guess they came to see you do
a reading with your book. She's like, is he really gay?
Speaker 4 (36:35):
And I was like, I am very happy?
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (36:38):
So are you very happy?
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Very happy? You're joking? She was like no.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I was like, the booty seemed like if you have
to do outland this ship on the radio for coming
like you really thought that was real and you read.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Why do colored men get labeled gay when they have
that sense of humor? But white guys non colored.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
Kiss each other? Spekyla grab the next a nutsack where
we know why. We don't have to get into the
homophobia within the black community here. Let's not not that.
Let's not it's the same show show Daddy did you?
It is?
Speaker 3 (37:15):
So I can't Yes, all right Unleased with Unleashed for
Love available on audible right now.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
I love y'all, Thank you, We'll be back y'all. Okay,
Mandy found so what I have heard about this show?
Mandy found a list of the five men that women
keep running into when dating.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Okay, this was a viral TikTok video for some Now
y'all know the girls beyond I heard on this show.
Some of them are in there. Okay. So number one, wait,
do you want yea your name?
Speaker 2 (37:51):
No? No, no, So the list is when women are dating,
these are the top five men that we are most
likely and most often to run into.
Speaker 1 (38:02):
Copy and but let's talk about him Number one. I'm
gonna just read through the verse.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
The guy who says he's not ready for a relationship
and wants to do all the relationship thing number two,
not over his ex, refuses to go to therapy. Three,
got a baby on the way, but a'sure. Four The
guy who's perfect gives you conversation, he's attractive, you enjoy
being around him. Two weeks later goes toe you in
no explanation. Five the guy who is in your type.
(38:27):
You give him a chance and then he plays you
in your face?
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Bitch?
Speaker 5 (38:30):
What does it say about me that I've dated for
the See what I too? I've dated everybody with a
baby on the way. I've dated the baby on the way.
We were in a relationship for four months before I
found out that he had a girl six months pregnant.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
What okay?
Speaker 2 (38:43):
So then, let me ask you, because they clearly weren't together.
This was probably someone before you.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
What was your you?
Speaker 2 (38:50):
You debted it like, what was your response to him
finally telling you? I was young and dumb and he
was piping me. Ha ha.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
Let me tell you, good, Dick, I'll make you forget.
Speaker 5 (38:59):
You that getting that young, dumb and full of come.
I'm telling you, but he was one of those guys.
It was one of those early relationships where we're building
together and I'm helping get there he was actually helping
me out of a previous relationship, So that wasn't like
the helping you do what helping me physically apparently get
(39:20):
over Dick by getting on new Dick, and he was
just my favorite.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
That's where I thought, I was. No, it's well no, no, no,
well yeah again right in the moment.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
No, but in the like maybe you're now you know,
it's very in the moment, like I even realized where
I was like running to just Dick after the relationship
and all the things I got, like the affection, the
laying up, the cuddling, those are actually things I want,
Like I've even realized now, like just Dick, it's only
good wall that's happening, because right after I feel so
(39:53):
completely empty and unfulfilled, and I'm like this didn't really
make me feel like how in the moment I was
coming and yelling and screaming yes, but right after I
just felt empty.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Yeah it was.
Speaker 5 (40:05):
I think it was just really bad at that time
because I was coming out of an already bad relationship
to a situation where I thought he was I thought
he was one thing. And then, like I said, we
were together for four months and then the pregnancy popped
up in my life. But now I have feelings for you,
and and mind you, they clearly were false feelings, you
know what I mean. He was just a safe space
(40:26):
for me to like recluse to. But now I have
to contend with this woman who's pregnant with your kids
and that dynamic. No, she she did, she did me
and her went at it and and and there's a
lot that you have to swallow because she's pregnant. I'm
not a you know all this the kids for me,
I don't get a fuck what you what you got?
(40:47):
It's just my nigga.
Speaker 1 (40:49):
Now back up, follow that child's boring.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
I wish, I wish I could put you care, make
sure you show up back didn't I couldn't.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
I ain't gonna hold you. I don't think four months
is long enough for me to be with a guy
to deal with drama. That's how young were you? That's fair.
I was really young. I was in college. Yeah, I
was funny.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
We think all these niggas gonna be our, But he
was the guy was dating right right when I got
my start at b ET. So that was challenging too,
you know what I mean, Because it's like, oh, this
is somebody that's with me for me before, like you know,
because during that time, tex Houston was like it was
on like you know, uh, slim thug, we have a
wall Chamelionaire like Houston was, and so now right and
(41:36):
you know, now, like Elle was saying during the New
Faces Search, like all eyes were on us and I
was like the new young black girl.
Speaker 5 (41:44):
But you know, in my mind, but I got something
that's real at home. Meanwhile back at the ranch, he
was fucking everything between everything and everyone.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
So yeah, it's just.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
Presented off back at the ranch as funny as fuck. Now,
let me let me ask you for the for the
first Yes, how do you want dress? Meeting a guy
who is expressing that they don't want a relationship, yet
they want you to cook for him, You're.
Speaker 1 (42:07):
Going on dates. They want you to not date or
talk to anybody out. I want I always want to.
I want to help out with this.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
I had this convo last night with a very close
friend of mine who went on a trip with this
girl recently divorced, and was very clear that like the
divorce was kind of brutal and like he's just having fun.
Speaker 1 (42:25):
The trip was elaborate, but he's a rich nigga.
Speaker 2 (42:31):
Took her on another trip because he had to go
on in for work, and it's very elaborate, and he's like,
this is how I live my life. This is the
type of man I am. He's like, you know, she's
starting to catch feelings. And I don't understand why. I've
been so clear, I've checked in so much. I've done
everything I can to check in, and I'm like, dude,
here's the hard truth. One of my homeboys told me
I was crying about a nigga and I couldn't understand
how he was telling me he didn't want a relationship
(42:52):
but he was doing these things. He was like, Weezy,
that's just how he fucks. He doesn't want a bitch
to leave. He wants you to lay up with him
because he likes that shit, and nothing has to do
with you. You are the woman in place that he's
doing those things with. And I told my friend, I
know that you think that you're not affecting her in
that way, and you were super chill about it, but like,
recognize that your actions do come with emotions for women.
(43:15):
And he was like, how am I supposed to treat someone,
I don't take her to the best restaurant. This is
what I'm gonna fucking eat, period. I'm not gonna stay
at the Fairmont, like this is where what I do.
And I think that, like we are not being real
with ourselves. I actually don't think men are the problem
anymore with the emotional shit, with the cuddling with whatever
it is.
Speaker 1 (43:33):
I think women are not understanding that we're not that special.
Can we split the baby? Yeh.
Speaker 5 (43:39):
What I'll say is is yes, I think that when
I think that when we're honest upfront, like when your
guy friend was honest upfront with this woman and he
was like, this is where I'm, this is where I am,
this is how I'm already moving and showing up in
the world. I'm just simply inviting you along on the journey.
Fair But it's when he's when he's receiving the proceeds
(43:59):
of affection affections towards him and maybe not making sure
that all that stays in balance.
Speaker 1 (44:05):
I think that that's that's when it becomes a problem.
I agree, it does.
Speaker 5 (44:09):
It has constant It doesn't make you okay to receive
you know, me cooking for you and loving on you
and and presenting myself to you as someone who wants
to be in relationship with you. Just because you told
me that you don't want a relationship, it doesn't excuse
you from you need even say hey, I think we
need to spend a little less time together. You know,
(44:30):
to me, I'm not saying I'm not I'm not negating that.
That's why I said I'm gonna split the baby. I've
never heard there is a world where we're gonna split it.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Solomon, No, I get it. Yeah, I'm gonna meet you
in the.
Speaker 5 (44:40):
Middle because yes, you're right, and we as women, that's
where we have our conversations with our girlfriends and we're saying, hey,
not everyone has a Weazy and a Mandy in their life, right.
So it's like, hey, I'm going through and he's making
me feel this. Okay, Well, y'all would say, well, bitch,
keep I think you need to pull back. You're getting
too wrapped up.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
Well, I think that that's the problem with and in
terms of holding men accountable for how they often lead
with that as well, men will make you feel bad
or less than in the same breath because because they
want you to show up for them that way, they'll
also tell you not to continue dating other people.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
I don't want you talking to other people. I don't
want you doing this, Like, there'll be guidelines that they
put into place to make themselves feel better as well,
while also letting you know there's a ceiling for where
we're gonna take this. Well, that's why we have to
be able to say, you know what I am.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I hate fucking the expression of bad bitch, but I'm
an amazing woman, right, you know what I mean? Like,
I'm willing to take the risk of losing whatever it is,
whatever pittance you're bringing my way, to not sacrifice my emotions,
my peace of mind and you know, my emotional stability
and pull that back if you just want to fuck
and go have a great meal and maybe do you
(45:51):
know the occasional trip every once in a while.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
I'm down to do that. I'm woman enough to do that,
right you know. And that means you're not gonna get
ABCD and E from me, because that's what you said,
not ready for I'm gonna be over here with mine.
But we don't do that enough.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
And so I will agree we don't do we part
dating multiple people, well, actually dating maybe you're not fucking
all of them, that's it. But dating, we should, you know,
we should have a man that maybe we just get
drinks with from time, and like, you should be entertaining
because I think my largest problem in the past, you know,
(46:25):
and obviously I could talk to my future self that's
been through so much hurt on this podcast over what
seems to be the modern day situationship is that I
am so into being with one person that I just
kind of, well, hope things will change or we'll just
enjoy being with one instead of prioritizing my actual needs
(46:46):
or not actual needs, actual wants from my future self.
Speaker 5 (46:49):
You know why I connect with that, And this is
one of the reasons why I really love this podcast
more specifically. And I know this podcast doesn't just speak
to women, but I when I first got my start
in the entertainment business, respectability politics was on fifty.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Thousand, right.
Speaker 5 (47:05):
I grew up in the South Southern Baptist and Catholic,
two of the strictest denominations. So a woman like, we
couldn't even wear nail polish, red nail polish until past
a certain age, right, we couldn't wear it's what red
limited right. You know, I couldn't wear a skirt or
even shorts, you know, past my knee and I have
I'm tall, I'm five eight tall. As fun, I have
(47:28):
very long legs, and my my shorts had to be
below my knees or my start freeze girl.
Speaker 1 (47:35):
Hello chance, Hello, Chance, Chance chances.
Speaker 5 (47:40):
But I faund all that to say when I got
into this business, you know, and again post that bad relationship,
that piece of ship relationship that I mentioned previously, you
know you think that that's that time, because those are
I actually started like during my college years. Right, So
when we're in college, when the typical, per average person
is in college, that's their time of exploration. That's time
of like figuring out what they really want and you know,
(48:04):
exploring sex and all these I didn't get to do
that because one how I was raised and then two
now I'm in the public eye. I worked with some
people that as soon as they dipped up with this
person and then this person and this person, they re
labeled all types of names of everything but a child
of God.
Speaker 1 (48:20):
Right, so now at this age, what you say, God again,
what change this celibacy? Everything? The Holy Bible? This episode,
this episode is brought to you by Black Lives Matter
and we praised Jesus Boulevard.
Speaker 5 (48:38):
It's it's it's getting yourself to a place where we
can explore our sexuality, our sensuality in a way that
does not make us feel like if we don't have
this guy or this particular person whatever you know, uh,
your relationship preference is right there next to us, that
we're not still worthy and we're not still sexy, or
(49:01):
we're not still valuable, or we're not still wanted and
being able to show up as your full self.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
I didn't get to have that.
Speaker 5 (49:07):
So hear how freeing you women are on this podcast
enables me to unapologetically show up in whatever type of
dynamic you know, relationship dynamic that I choose to have unapologetically.
So no, it's it's it's really important, like what you're doing,
thank you know, because now you'll hear you know, laur
Harvey without you know, trying I'm definitely not trying to
(49:28):
be smirch her, but people will try to police how
she throws her vagina around.
Speaker 2 (49:31):
And it's like, Yo, men can do whatever all day
every day, and for whatever reason, people think.
Speaker 1 (49:37):
That we want a community penis Huh. I'm actually like
a little surprised with how hard they've come down to
Lori Harvey.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
Are you though a little bit because I kind of
their relationships with most of the men. We mean, they're
all boyfriends, you shake it down.
Speaker 5 (49:54):
Are you really surprised? Well, I guess all these women's bodies. No,
there's nothing surprising. This is surprise, you know what I mean,
Like women's say they don't accept us. Oh no, they're
not hearing what I'm saying. This is actually surprising because
you've got two middle fingers up in the air. You're
successfully doing what you're doing, and you're doing it at
a high level, and you're doing it on your terms,
(50:17):
right whatever, that looks like you're doing it on your terms.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
This is surprising, and this is important. That's why I
wanted to do this show. Thank you. Honestly, I was.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
Very like impressed to hear that, because you know, we
do love to talk about we'll talk about dating and
relationships with sex primarily. But when hearing more about the
show you were doing, I was like, I mean, yeah,
like that's a part of it, right, Like you end
up having sex with someone that you kind of saw
the red flags were like, we all go through that shit.
Speaker 1 (50:45):
Because you're married to how you want your outcome to be.
Speaker 5 (50:47):
And it's like, fuck it, I'm ignoring all these red
flags because I just want to get to the That's
one of the things about Alicia, you know, and Unleash
for Love. She just wants what she wants this as
it pertains to relationships, how she wants it mm hmm,
and when she wants it because she thinks that this
is how she's supposed to show up. That's a lot
like me in real life. There's a lot of things
(51:07):
that I denied myself because I've always had this cookie
cutter image, you know, since the most wild quote unquote
anyone has ever seen me as my time on Guy
Code and Girl Code on MTV.
Speaker 1 (51:19):
I didn't even know. I know you from you see
what I'm.
Speaker 2 (51:21):
Saying, Hey, you wore on another reality show with someone's
friend or something too right?
Speaker 1 (51:25):
No, just Guy Coode and Girl Code on MTV. No,
that's it. Yeah, damn we remember Joe face like that. Yeah, Well,
let's get back in the red flag.
Speaker 2 (51:33):
So here's our home mail for the week. Okay, Hi,
it's me again, not God. I saw that on the
plane over here girl. So I went and told my
boyfriend I was attracted to another man. He gave me
the go ahead, although with much apprehension, to do what
I wanted. I've been seeing that guy one to two
times a week for the past few weeks, and I've
given him head almost every time.
Speaker 1 (51:54):
He may do it right.
Speaker 2 (51:55):
He makes me wear butt plugs when I go meet him,
and we have so many sexual fantasies we want to
fulfill together. But there's another problem. He has a girlfriend
not in an open relationship, so he's cheating to do
this stuff with me. When I asked him why, he
said he was twenty two when he got with her,
and when he got with his thirty year old girlfriend
and he didn't come.
Speaker 1 (52:14):
I think he's always got an excuse this to wat
it cheating.
Speaker 2 (52:16):
Hi, Well, I didn't have time to have fun with
women now, and he loves her and he's not. She's
not up for fun and exciting stuff anymore now. As
I'm a very sexual person. He would like for me
to fulfill him. But whilstein to being with a girlfriend.
I have no issue with him having one, but the
fact that I'm the reason he's cheating is upsetting. I
never thought i'd do this, but I'm into him sexually,
and I find it hard to be into people at all,
(52:37):
so I don't know what to do. I didn't care
about her for a while, and normally I tell him
to eat her out and tell me about the things
they'll do. And it really turns me on when I
think about the fact that she has no idea and
it would hurt her.
Speaker 1 (52:48):
I can't help but feel bad. Please help a hoe out.
What's stop talking though? Is that simple? It's legit, that simple.
Speaker 2 (52:56):
But also the fact that you're like, oh, now I
feel bad for her even though I'm telling him to
fucking eat her out and tell me how it was.
You've also been aroused with the idea of the other
girlfriend wing with, Like I actually think it's adding to
your attraction. First off, the girlfriend you're saying you don't care,
like you only brought your boyfriend up once. The second thing,
(53:18):
I mean, I think it's difficult, right. You obviously have
to have like me, I don't want to do that.
It's not something I would want to do, but if
I was gonna start fucking the nigga, I would at
least take the.
Speaker 1 (53:29):
Approach of fuck her at all. I wouldn't do this,
like I remember back in Lembo thing, either you gonna
do it or you don't. I mean to me, it
sounds like she's actually starting to like him a little bit. Yes,
and now she's mad that there is a girlfriend in
the picture. I agree, that's what it sounds like.
Speaker 2 (53:44):
And unfortunately, because that's where you get some good dick hello,
and that it might be a little tricky with her
current relationship. Okay, you got to go ahead and permission
to have this other sexual relationship.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
It's now sounding like.
Speaker 2 (53:58):
You actually might be starting to I can which it's
a forbidden day, or it's a lot of times it's inevitable. Yeah, right,
if someone is dicking you down right, or you're spending
more time for you to have a boyfriend, which I got,
but you to have a boyfriend for you to still
be seeing this nigga sometimes multiple times a week, she said,
one or two times a week.
Speaker 1 (54:17):
That's a lot when you also have your dude at home.
Speaker 2 (54:20):
You have a primary relationship with somebody, So again, seeing
somebody that often, I don't even see.
Speaker 1 (54:25):
Some one two times a week, yeahs her to me,
That's what I saw that.
Speaker 2 (54:31):
I was like, if I is a relationship, a full relationship,
a relationship that's so often you're in a full re
like that's all the sex I.
Speaker 5 (54:37):
Wud probably because you're just sending a text message saying, hey,
you know, am I coming over today?
Speaker 1 (54:42):
Should I bring the plugs? Like you're not doing going
to do our Thursday thing? Like this is a relations relation.
Speaker 2 (54:49):
If y'all watch TV after too, you really need to
let them go. Let's tell the people where to find you.
Speaker 1 (54:56):
I'm love aside of her. Right when I said that, Sorry,
thanks for listening. We are talking ship. Leave that. Man,
You're a situation. Yeah, not about you? Well, yeah, you
because I am right now, Oh my god, living in
delusion land. Okay, bitch, I was just there.
Speaker 2 (55:16):
We're not here to suaze your guilty contract. I have
somebody else that may dumb ass decisions. Not I don't
want to say a horrible ones. But you know, when
you got a friend, it's not like you're talking shit
about her because you talked about her face our only
mutual friends. She's like, who's just got off the phone
with Lulu. I'm like, girl, she's still talking to that
nigga Like.
Speaker 1 (55:35):
That Lulu and we love making that word. Oh I
told her that too. We literally all said and I
was like listening to tell you come back to fantasy land.
You can find me.
Speaker 5 (55:46):
You can find me on Instagram and I am Alicia
in a and uh more importantly, you can find out
more about any for Love Audible.
Speaker 2 (55:54):
And when you're on Audible, we have our ship dropping
on the same day, y'all. It's my first project that
you're on the twenty and two d J dramas games.
Speaker 1 (56:03):
Said they got all the block. We got the block, y'all. Wayne,
two Chains, t I Pharrell with Bab.
Speaker 2 (56:12):
Tucci, Tucci to Change and Tyler. Tyler was my favorite episode.
Like I worked so hard. It's been a year and
a half. It was like really difficult. It's also not
just like a straight hip hop interview podcast. You'll hear
your executive producer on it too.
Speaker 4 (56:25):
M hm.
Speaker 1 (56:26):
That's that's this. This is my first project being executive producer.
I mean I was, what do you say? Love me
nothing but anyway Audible come on season two? Is that
what I'm here? First and foremost Horrible Patrio, Patreon horrible,
check us out on there. We do town Hall. We
got Bust episode.
Speaker 5 (56:46):
You should always fuck me now, huh A minute ago,
you're gonna be on you want to be on season two?
Speaker 1 (56:51):
You know, I'm just trying to say my plan is horrible.
You colored, that's it. You have a new car, you color? Yeah,
out pound pound pound
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