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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the wife versus the expert. I'm the expert,
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So oh that's the way you started off being facetious. Wow,
that didn't sound that didn't sound genuine. That didn't sound genuine.
It is okay, cool. Um. We want to start today
with our two hundred dollar rule. This rule may not
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apply for everybody. Maybe you need a different dollar limit,
because there are times that in our marriage we have
fought about the one thing that everybody else fights about, money, money.
So we have created a rule that way you don't
have to ask the other person to buy every single thing.
But we created a two hundred dollar rule, so if
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I'm gonna buy anything that's over two hundred dollars, you
gotta run it body of the person and vice versa.
So she bought two hundred and one dollars worth of
makeup the other day, So guess who she had to
because because why? It doesn't matter why. I just I
get it. But I'm saying the reason you were buying
into it was because why. I don't know why. Because
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I've been learning how to do like all these different
makeup looks. Like every day I do a new um.
When I say I do what, people are confused. I follow.
I follow a new makeup tutorial to get like new
tips on doing makeup because I've never really done I've
only had like one makeup look and sometimes I vary
it a little bit, but literally I don't do it.
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So I'm like, Okay, well this is a time to
learn a new skill. And George knows how much I
spend to get my makeup done, boy one day and
you wash it off that night, so so he's very
much behind that process. That's because that's a money saver.
It's an investment up front but it's on the back.
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So I ordered two dollars worth of makeup, which is
a lot. I thought I thought about just saying no,
not now, we don't need it, that's extra, just to
just to mess with her. But I was on board.
Oh and I would say this, order makeup through Costco. Really. Yes,
they have like very very very high end high end
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makeup skincare um yeah, Costco online. Okay, cost online, and
I didn't have They have them sometimes in there. But
all of that Costco is hands down the best place
way cheaper. Like if you compare priced side by side
with safora on Costco, it's like unbelievably cheaper. See I
didn't know that. So I can do that for my
skincare regimen. You really do, We really did, Okay, So
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see that's how I got this. Everybody saw that farmer's stand,
so they know you need to be putting some uh
some block up here. What Okay, So this wasn't even
on the topic. But every time I take my shirt off,
whether we're in a pool, shower or whatever, every time, George,
your face is a different color than your than your body.
It's so weird. Who is that? Who says it like
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that you look like a grandma. It's so weird. Boy.
If you act like I got like a body farmers stand,
you do, you're you actually have a whole body farmer's stand.
This part is totally different from here on my arm,
same color this part down. Wow, See that's what happens.
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I mean. So, but anyways, the two rule, you guys
can try it out. It can be It actually is good.
I feel like I don't feel like George has a
thing with being controlled in his marriage, you know, so
he doesn't like to have, you know, have restrictions. But
I feel like he man man right, and I'm telling
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me what to do, right, And I'm a woman, and
I don't like to be told what to do. But
but that's my job. Be submit. We're not even going
to get into that. We are. It's a good way
to work together. So if you buy something individually for yourself,
there's that, But then it's also um, you know, and
it depends like what is your dollar amount if you
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feel comfortable with it a rule a rule a hunter
two hundred dollar rule, and for some people that it
could could be a thousand dollar rule. You never know,
depending on your social we can is to like work
you down, like start you at two hundred and get
you down ten dollars see control um. And that brings
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us to the next thing. H d I Y that um.
This whole coronavirus has taught us things about d I
Y do it yourself because there's certain things that yes,
you do need to outsource because it's a poor use
of your time and your skill because like like me,
trying to fix the toilet is not a good use
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of my time because I can be doing some other
things that could be revenue generating or whatever then fixing
the toilet, because fixing the toilet means I gotta learn
how to fix the toilet and then fix the toilet.
What I completely disagree because we've had this discussion before.
We had a running toilet in our house and George
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called the plumber and a cosmicty dollars to fix the
running toilet. Why did he do that? It literally fixing
the running toilet. I happen to know this from apartment
owning apartment buildings and running selling apartment buildings. Is it's
usually it's the little the little flat thing or the
chain thing or something like that that's making that toilet
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not run properly. But I will say this, there is
so much like to tag on what you're saying about
d I y, there is so much to learn on
YouTube that you can literally put anything in, Like how
to fix the running toilet? I am sure had you
done that, which we weren't in the habit of doing
that before, but like hawd you do? Now we're in
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the habit of doing everything. Like I'm like, how to
how to give yourself a pedicure? How do you how
to do a drive bar blowout? Like I am literally
how to do it drive by? That was funny. I
was like, how to do it drive I would just
say dr bar, dr bar. But like, I'm literally learning
so many different skills that I was previously spending a
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lot of money on just because I was in the
habit of doing that, and now that we're doing that,
I was saying, like, I remember when that came up.
I was like, why didn't you just YouTube it? Or
even when when I fixed the pool pump, Remember the
poolpump was giving an error message and I googled that
error message, found the fix and literally was able to
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fix it with just some silicone, which I know For
a fact, if we would call the pool man, it
would have been hundred dollars plus. So that being said,
go to YouTube to do almost anything. It's like a classroom,
like an almost anything. And maybe everybody's looking at us
like duh, like everybody doing that, but now I'm doing
it for everything. No, everybody doesn't do it. Um okay,
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So oh, teaching Roman. So we have been doing something
to teach Roman. The baby. He'll be twelve months in
like two weeks, right, so apparently what are those books
that you order the author? Oh anyway, yeah, but he's
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got a whole system, right, so he's a baby. I
know that we don't think babies can read and all
this stuff, but apparently they can from reading these books.
And so we have these. She made these handy daddy
signs and we go over them every day for all
the kids. You know, Daddy, Mommy, Devin, that Kayden Payton,
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everybody has a sign. Messed with my flash cards and
they're that large, by the way, for a reason. That's
the that's the size Anderson red sharpie because that's I
attracting to babies. And here's what dad did for math.
Because so this is one that's one because apparently if
you really think about it, um, we teach the number
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one as one, but that's not one. That's actually a
symbol that represents a value. So you see that all
these dots were rolling, all these dots. You see this
is number uh fifty six, this is number four. So
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apparently he's gonna be able to figure this out all
the way until we get to number one hundred, one
hundred dots. Yeah, so it took just so waited to
just so everybody knows how many dots that that is.
That is five thousand and fifty five dots. If if
my math didn't fail me, that we stuck on these
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things on while we were Netflix and chilling. We just
made these little dots flash cards and until three in
the morning, and I was hell attired the next day.
But she had taken a three hour nap so so
so she was just a three hours because a couple
of days ago it was like because you took a
two hour. Now now it's been three hours since the beginning.
So that's one thing that we've been doing. Any of
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that is an option for you that we ordered all
the stuff from from Amazon for like forty bucks it's
very doable. But I think everybody right now is homeschooling
on some level, because that's probably something we would have
been like, oh, we'll take our our son to this class. Again.
This is like do some research things that you can
do yourself. And literally this takes like five ten minutes.
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We're not we're not conducting like classes. It's just when
he's happy and and paying attention, we just go through
flash cards with him. And we haven't seen the results yet.
But um, that's another thing, I mean, finding new ways
to homeschool your kids. I did a zoom call with
my friends, um, with some of my friends for a
birthday the other day, and all of the moms were
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had different viewpoints on what their schools were doing for
their kids and why they thought either they were going
to think about transferring schools, think about requesting reductions intuition,
or doing it themselves. So this is just something to
keep in mind that there are options available on line
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con Academy, but I mean it's probably the favorite. I'm
sure most most parents know about it, but if you don't,
there's also other options on there. Um, and if you're
looking to do your own education, there are Harvard classes
for free. Yes, so if you really interesting cool ones.
So if you're looking to add like a new skill
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during this time, because we've got at least yeah, that's
not for your kids, that's for you. If you thirty
more days like this is a good opportunity to maybe
take a Harvard class online. Yeah. So, so I think
that for us just learning and could really considering non
traditional learning tools and all of that, because we get
so stuck sometimes and the way we learn things and
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how this is supposed to be done. But in reality,
we really want our kids to be what healthy productive
smart people. And smart is not always being able to
it's not always measured in UH standardized test scores. It's
being able to think properly, being able to solve problems,
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figure out answers and come up with solutions yourself. And
then just also, I mean, I think I saw a
meme about it, but I think it's so important to
teach your kids other life skills cooking, gardening, um, you know,
even landscaping. Like we we have been in the habit
of sending our kids to school. And if there's a
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gift that comes out of this, like coronavirus, family time
it's really teaching them other stuff. We play Monopoly games,
which trust me, I use many many opportunities to give
like real estate tips and advice. There's also um if
you have older kids, uh cash Flow UM made by
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the maker of Rich Dad, Poor Dad. It's like advanced
real estate. So it's like almost like advanced Monopoly, but
you learn more advanced concepts and real estate. And I
think it's it's so important to not just bond, but
you know, really give this an opportunity to teach your
children life and not just what we you know, the
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standard core curriculum that we've been teaching our kids. Yeah,
because think about all the things you didn't know when
you got Oh you're not necessarily balanced a check book.
You know how to cook, you know how to clean up,
you know how to like, like you said, garden, you
know how to you know, just fix a door knob.
Just all sorts of things that they may need to
know that they can learn how to problem solve, how
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to make it. You were teaching Damon how to do
pool pork yesterday. Yeah, like teaching them how to grow
ye smoke but yeah smoke, to teach them how to
light light the fire why you clean it a certain way.
All of these things the way they know, the way
that they feel comfortable, because I always love the fact,
like when we go on vacation, like we have we
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go camping some well glamping, I guess because we're in
a cabin. But teaching them stuff like how to tie
up a boat, how to pull it into a dock,
how all of these things the way when they get
older and they have to do these things with their family,
they're not intimidated to do them that They're like, no,
no, no no, I know how to do that. I know
how to start a fire, I know how to do this,
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I know how to do that. I think that that's
the most important thing that you can teach them is
to be courageous and to go out in the world
and do new things. Like I want to learn how
to use a compass good the way I can teach
them how to use it because they'll probably never need it.
How to use a compass good? Yeah, no, but how
navigating with the compass is not just just straightforward like that. See,
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that's exactly what you need to learn how to use
a compass to. I need to learn how to use
a compass good. UM, I'm wondering have people figured out
people with families. I'm not talking about you single you
single people, or your your your new relationship, having newly
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weds with no kids. We're not talking to you. We're
talking about people with kids, parents, parents. How the hell
are you supposed to have a date night during coronavirus.
I mean, I know we kind of have our date walks,
but they're always like agenda. They're not like just hanging out.
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We're always like, we got a baby with us. So
if you guys have any thoughts or how to how
to play in a sexy date night, so get baby
number six. Oh god, I'm joking up, joking, joking, um
during coronavirus, send it to us. Leave a comment. We
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are definitely interested in that. But I want to know
when we get off of stay at home orders, what's
the what are the first three things that you're gonna
do or the three things that you want to do
the most. I want to get back on my gym
program where I go to Orange Theory, I do my
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workout early morning and and then come back and have
the rest of my day. That's a big one is
going to the gym. Um, this Corona has made me
want a gym at home more. That's probably I mean
I could do that, I guess, Yeah, I mean I
would be on board with that. But I do like
to be able to actually not like move the living
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room around, put mat down in there, put a rack,
all those things. You have to make a plan for that.
And then we can put the screen in there too,
so you can watch videos if you want to. Yeah,
I like that. I like that. And then we can
save some of that gym money to it to be
an investment up front but no reason, and then we
can train these churrens here too. Yeah. But I'm just
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thinking we need like an air conditioner because in the
summer would be crazy hot. That's all right, old school,
old school hot. Get that. I want to be comfortable.
It's a workout you're supposed to sweat, but I'm gonna
be comfortable. Wow. The top three things that I want
to do when I when we get off of orders.
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First thing I'm doing when we get off of orders
this I'm not going no damn where because I'm gonna
let y'all test out the waters. Yeah, I wouldn't want
to go to the gym right away. I'm not going new.
We're really like the first month. Now, I'm gonna let
y'all see how this go, and then once once once
y'all either make it or don't make it, and then
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we'll make a decision from there. Uh. The first but
the top thing I want to do is I want
to go to my kids games. No, I want you
to go to the barber first. Your first stop and
the kids first stop is the barber, because that boy
you refuse to d I y, I'm not learning how
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to cut my hair. Did you understand that that you
you sometimes make television appearances and you could just no,
that's an outsource. That is a going to the barber.
Change your mind about that because you I'm telling you,
if you can do it yourself, it will change your
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life in terms of how much time when you go
to the barber. How much time does that take when
you take the kids about two hours exactly. That's a
lot of time actually, like hour and a half. And
you have to do it pretty repeatedly, right, like every
two weeks. That's that's many many hours. Just saying it's
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still take why don't you just try it? I'm not confident,
but if you don't have any Listen, we have another month.
Oh so I can screw my head up and yeah,
nobody would. I can't look worse right now, you know
what I'm saying, Yes it can. How am I supposed
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to record videos with the bad fade? I rather had
this load? I think it would be funny. I'd rather
have this t w A. You trying to do it
yourself is actually thoughtful. I'm telling you it's a good
use of time. She's trying to wear me down. This
is what this woman does when when she's got a
through in opinion of sharpening you, iron sharpens iron when sharpening,
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she has a thought about something. If you have you guys,
ever met anybody who is relentless about it, like they
will not let it go under it. I mean like
she'll bring it up like you know. I think I'm
challenging you, George. I'm challenging you to do this. I
don't have prides arounding this, so today challenge won't work.
Challenges only work when when pride is involved. Um. Second
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thing is I would like to have a date night,
or at least be able to go to the movies
all by myself. What I like going to the movies
to have a date night or go by myself. You
really want to go by yourself, which is fine because
I would like to go by myself places, but that's
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what I want. I will definitely not be doing anymore
my hand in stone. No, I'm not going in there
and getting a massage where some other coronavirus patient was
laying down and have this lady bending over my face.
I honestly think that we should try to find some
sort of like like get one of those tables and
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have a like a massage table slash facial table. Okay,
you know what I mean. So then we just have
the person kind of come to us and we're only
exposed to that one person, and maybe we saved some money.
But people are looking at this like like these are
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like caviar problems. No, but I'm saying, if you spend money,
I love, it's like my time. Like you go to
the movies for your time, right, one of the things
I like to do is go to a massage for
my time. But now that's not really you know, really
what I want to do. Okay, Well, how about I
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just um or you can you can rip it down.
But then I don't have to be around you. See,
I don't get my time, see exactly so so so
now I think I think about this, so I get
to go to the movie. I'd love to go to
the movies all by myself, so I can come in
here in the man cave be like, babe, I'm gonna
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watch a movie all by myself and not be bothered.
Oh yes, this week, I'm doing it. I'm just saying
it the way. I'm gonna be like kids. But daddy's
not Daddy's not here. Don't bother. No, you gotta do
it when the kids the kids, uh not, everybody's going crazy.
It cannot be during a crazy kid time. It can
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be late night, it can be um, yeah, no problem,
no problem. We don't have our own individual self date night. Um.
And the last thing I want to do is I
want to travel. And granted, um, I don't know if
she's gonna be cool. We're getting on airplanes and all
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that stuff initially, and like I said a month in
the travel Bug, like I'm the one who always wants
to travel. Um, we are considering an RV vacation because
we can still I mean, even if this thing pushes
over into the summertime. We can still self quarantine. We
can still do all of that social distance. We can
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still social distance. Yes, so sorry, physical physical distance not
necessarily social physical physical distancing. We can physical distance and
physically distancing on our vacation. But while we're seeing national monuments,
national parks, hopefully the national parks are open. I mean
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that would that would be the first. We're not planning
anything until we know that part, but that's kind of
what we're thinking. Like the national parks need to be open,
Like I feel like those need to be open because
like people drive through them in their cars. Like you
can limit the amount of you know, there are options
open to national parks. Otherwise we're gonna be like to
see where I'm not going disney World. Too many people,
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too many germs. I love disney World. You wanted to
go to disney World? No way? Okay, So how long before?
Because romans gonna be one, So at some point in
time he's gonna start watching maybe three, I think he
needs to be able to get on some of the stuff.
Maybe three or four. When he's three or four, we'll
do that. We'll see where things are in that time.
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You might have to put him put put him in
like his own like personal his own like personal condom,
like to like, oh my gosh, friends face out and
then be like, hey, here you go. Everybody's got to
wear it. We're gonna put them in as not an
actual condom. But you know what I mean. Never because
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I saw a meme, I'm gonna should I put it up? Yeah? Yeah,
so the one the one I showed you where this is, Hey,
this is not for kids. For the next ten seconds, boom,
there it is, because because you know, that's what dude
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throughout here doing. So if you were single, right, single woman,
no kid or whatever, and you don't like where there's
a lot of people who live in other states, work
in other states, all these things, and they're just they're
all by themselves aside from their friend group. And if
you're dating, how would you handle dating in Corona and
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you and you're and your dude lives, you know, twenty
minutes away. I think dating gets put on pause? Would
you isolate together? Because that's like if we are very,
very very advanced in the relationship, I'd consider that. But
like I mean, I'm saying, like, either engaged you know
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something there, I'd probably isolate together, but not not like
some random so like, so like, how would you handle
to get down? You know when when like you have
your old times where you want to you know, have
some adult time and get and get down. Would you
be would becoming over I'm a virtuous Christian woman, so
there would be no get down. Um, I think you
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had a baby before you get married, So um, how
would you handle it? No? But I'm I mean I
am in a different space now. If I was, I
mean if I was twenty and social distance and became
a thing or physical distance became a thing, it would
really suck when we were kind of in more younger
relationships and not very advanced and that probably not really
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having um, like you'd have like a lot of financial issues.
I don't know, it would be a hard hard time. Yeah, yeah,
because it's because hard hard time. I mean, I don't
even know if I would have anything for dating, but
I'm sure you would be struggling. How would you have been?
Hella upset? Are you kidding me? Like, like it was
like a whole week never went went by, So I
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was like, I don't know how I would handle that. Hey, Caden,
what's ubody? It's beep? Okay, cool, all right, We'll be
done in two seconds. Kayda come here? Okay, then come here,
come here. We're doing a wife versus expect just the
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cutest kid ever. Come here, Caden please, Oh now you're shy.
Okay okay. Nothing has given me more joy and happiness
in the whole world than seeing Lebron James try to
get his kids on an Instagram live video where he
was live with Diddy and and his kids are like no, no, no,
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And he was like, come on, man, come on, Brody,
come on, Bryce, whatever, and they were like no, not
And he was like, oh man, these kids too cool
for school. And I was like, oh my god, It's
not just me. I'm not the only corny dad. No.
I was like, damn, even Lebron James can't even get
his kids and videos. But you wouldn't think that necessarily
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based upon the fact that they do TikTok's together, videos together,
all of that stuff like we do. But it is
a struggle. Sometimes it's a fight, and sometimes you gotta
be like, hey, yo, you get into this video like
like I did the other day. Whatever. Hey, sometimes you
gotta participate, um now at this time for everybody's favorite segment,
yours and mine. It's time for what say it with
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your chess? Say it with your chest. I went first
last time Europe. This time, da oh go. I'm gonna
try a different approach. I'm not going to be so
um forceful about it. And we've kind of already touched
on the topic. UM. I believe that, as your spouse
and partner in life, that I have made certain sacrifices
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and adjustments for due to our experience in coronavirus sacrifices
and corona. I'm sorry you are talking anyway, um, I
and I have made efforts to d I Y, and
I am asking you to make those same efforts with
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regard to d I Y. So that would include fixing
things around the house yourself. That would include cutting your
hair yourself. And that would include no, we'll just start that,
we'll leave it there, just fixing things around the house yourself.
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I'd like to see an increased effort there as well
as personal room. And you can stop. You took my
seconds away talking, so that stop stop. Thank you. Um.
And as you know, I can't respond to that. She
just got a chance to rant. Just say it with
her chest, Get it off. Now it's my turn. And
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there's nothing more frustrating and infuriating in the whole ride
world than when you have a conversation in November about
an expense or about anything, and then in April you're
having the same conversation. George, what what what was this
charge in on November four? What? What did we get
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from Costco on November four? I don't know, Like am
I supposed to remember what I got a Costco on
November four? Like at some point in time, like or
if it's something else that's controversial with us. We talked
about it in November, we resolved it. Then why are
you bringing it up again? We already talked about this,
(30:18):
We already came up with a new solution. Let it go.
It's dead just But like I said, Denicia won't lets
stuff go. She'll just keep kicking the dead horse and
kicking it and kicking it and kicking it and kicking
it like Marshall Lynch, over and over and over and over.
Stop stop, you got two extra seconds? Okay, I was boring.
(30:40):
That was born, That was facts. Okay. So the last
thing up is so the opposite of just say it
with your chest when you gotta get something off your chest.
Saying yes, say it with love, so glow style your
your first say it, say it with love. No, you're
up first, Go you can just do thirty secings. You
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look very pretty again. You've been doing your makeup all
this stuff. But but I've been trying to tell her, like,
I don't need all that stuff. I think my wife
is beautiful already. I think she's intelligent, smart, and I've
been thinking, like I kind of want this woman to
be a housewife because she is getting so good at
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these domestic duties that she didn't do very much, and
now she's getting very good at it. I enjoy it,
love her. No, I want my whole minute. Um. So
she's doing all these things. I really like it. Um.
She's just so smart. She's able to like grow things
like literally Proverbs thirty one grow, increase your family, all
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of it stuff, whether it's a love, finances or whatever else.
She has a great job and I appreciate it. Boom,
I'm done. That was sweet, babe. So Hey, y'all already
know what that means. Cavin help me get your dad,
corny dad. Okay, here we go. I would like to
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acknowledge you for taking initiatives a lot better. There's been
certain times where I'd be like, what about to tell
him feed the baby? Can you feed the baby? Doesn't
he's realized the baby is hungry? Why didn't he just
go make it? Or we you know, we know we're
about to put the baby down and go get the bottle.
Blah blah blah. He wasn't doing that, but now he is.
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And sometimes he's like meal planning, like planning ahead and
take this pool of pork off and being very very
consistent with working out and staying on top of our
walks and training Roman, and that takes the load off
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of me. So I greatly, greatly, greatly appreciate that. You're welcome.
M hmm. This is a good week. This is a
good week. Last week we were all like, I don't know,
I don't know about you. Well, that that is marriage.
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