March 23, 2020 • 43 mins
George and Danisha talk about how their family prepared and is surviving during the coronavirus pandemic. Home Schooling and creating a schedule is a must. Plus the introduction of the new segment called, "Say it with your chest" where each of them gets a full minute to get anything off their mind that they need to.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Thank you for joining us on the Wife versus the
Expert Surviving your Spouse Coronavirus edition. We are super yes,
surviving Corona with your spouse. Oh, I think you said
surviving your spouse Corona edition. I think that's what you said.
(00:22):
That's the same exactly. No, it's not surviving quarantine with
your loving and devastatingly gorgeous spouse. Okay, thank you guys
for listening to the Wife versus the Expert. The You
guys can always send us an email. Uh, you can
hit us up on Twitter at Denizia Danielle, at George
(00:43):
Rice stir Um. Yeah, and make sure that you guys
subscribe to the pod or the YouTube video however you're
watching it, and make sure you send it out to
a friend and tell them about it. And as my
kids would say, click the notification bell. Ye. So, um,
so this Corona thing, man, Like, how are you feeling
(01:05):
about it? Only you know how I've been feeling, Um, sunsettling.
It's scary, it's weird, it makes you have all kinds
of questions about the future, um and the present. So
I think it's just kind of just the fact that
this could even happen. Um, which neither one of us
(01:27):
have seen during our lifetimes. Is like shocking. Yeah, but
aren't you happy that you have a man who's prepared,
because listen, listen, there are so many times that I
will buy things for for the house, just in case,
make sure we are prepared for any sort of situation.
(01:47):
And my wife is like, George, we don't need that,
blah blah blah. And yesterday I had to go out
for just a second and I was like, oh, man,
I remember, I got mad to go out. But he,
you know, he wants to go out. He's got to
go get more things, have to go save the world
and have to go save our house. He's one of
the shopping horders. By the way, that is a lie.
(02:10):
You how much tissue? We don't have that much tissue
and got a lot. We've got enough for us. We
have a big family. But there's seven, there's seven of
us plus earth, how many people here? How many trips
to the store have you taken since when in the
last two weeks? In the last week, last week, I
am a preparer. Like when I had to go out,
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I remember that I had masks in the garage and
I come back and so I find him, bring him,
bring him back in the house, and she's like, oh
my god, these are mass I'm like, what else did
you expect me to have? You didn't even know you
had them? Though I knew I had masks, masks. I
knew that they were good quality, right, But you didn't
(02:55):
even know when you were buying them the quality of
inn because I bought them over a year ago. Nisian,
What do that mean? Because I was prepared. I am
prepared for natural disasters. I make sure we're have enough water, food,
all these things. And she is she wants to just
have just enough to get through today. We don't have
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to live by that. So how are you feeling with
the whole coronavirus Do you feel like you're prepared? Do
you feel good? I feel blessed really, because there's a
lot of people who aren't, who don't have necessarily the
resources to prepare. They are really like hard up for
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not being able to you know, like pay bills, pay rent,
all this stuff, so and having their family safe or healthy.
So I feel blessed in that regard. But I'm just
all about being prepared and vigilant and not like panicking
because one of the things I think that we've noticed,
and I think that some of you guys have noticed,
(03:56):
is some people don't necessarily take this serious as other
people do. So how do you guys deal with people?
Because my mother, on for one, is not age. She's like,
this is no big deals, it's just the flu blah
blah blah. And I am on the other end of
the spectrum, and so this has become a topic that
we can't even talk about at this point in time. Well, I, uh,
(04:21):
my dad, he's we call him like the wandering man
because he's always wandering, like literally, like he can't stay still.
So the quarantine is going to be a hard thing
for him. But he also is just in his ways,
like the places he goes and where he goes, and
god knows what, he's always doing those things. And he's
not like Mr Washer a million times a day. So
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I worry about him. And he's got like an underlying condition,
he's got diabetes. So and he's older now, he's you know,
six five. He would absolutely kill me if I since
I've announced that. But he's older and that's why he's
older than yeah, no, six five, So if he's he
(05:07):
is my concern. It was initially a little bit of
a challenge getting like Camille, my cousin who's twenty years old,
and Devon who Devin kind of goes along if you
tell her like, don't go outside, She's not gonna go outside.
Camille was like twenty and kind of like, why are
they doing this? This seems so stupid, this is so extra,
(05:27):
and like, you know, couldn't understanding skipping the gym. And
I was like, no, girl, if you go to the gym,
you can't be around us. Like we we are isolating
for real. We're not isolating like ten ten people are less.
We are isolating because if one of us gets sick,
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everybody gets it. It's just disastrous, like it would be.
And we know that we are not in the high
likelihood of people who are going to die. However we
don't want to don't know though, And honestly, every time
they tell us something, it changes and they say, oh,
only old people die. What thirty or four year old die?
You know what I mean? And then it's like dogs
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don't get it, Well, there's a dead dog now, Like
everything they tell us is not okay. So changes. So
here is our here, here, here are our prepping essentials. Well,
I should say mine, you need extra refrigerator space. I
have been asking what I've been talking to to Dnetia
(06:31):
about getting another refrigerator for our house for how long years? Yeah,
and we don't need another. And then as soon as
the corona hit, no, no problem, do we not need
another fruit? Why do we not need another refrigerator because
we stack it up and then all the food doesn't
get eaten. So it's wasteful to me. That's why we
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don't need it. We need we don't have. We need
to have people in the house. We have plenty of food.
Plenty of food another necessity. Weapons are in necessity. I
know that some people are gonn averse. They feel like
people would just do the right thing. I am not
one of those people. I feel like that people will
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do whatever it is that you allow them to do.
And truthfully, now that l A is on lockdown, if
people don't um like at a certain point, there are
people who are not going to be able to unless
the government checks get out like they said. And even
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if they do, then they could be a shortage of food,
shortage of water, shortage of resources. So then and with
the police not arresting people like they are in Philadelphia
in other places like I'm like, yo, you come up
in the rister household, listen getting I'm sorry. I'm sorry,
(07:53):
Actually i'm not, but I think you need a generator.
I'm a generator kind of guy. I would want to
generate here on the house. We what what if we
have an earthquake, corona and an earthquake at the same time.
It just had an earthquake, and you talk like two
days ago, five point five point three or something like that,
and everybody's fine. I'm just saying, everybody's fine. Does everybody
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finding the north Bridge quake? George? Why are you yelling
at me? I'm just asking, man, I'm just saying, we
got one. We got one. I'm sorry, we got one
emergency at a time. Oh oh really, so that's how
it works. Well, I hope, see, I don't. I don't
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hope on these things. I don't hope. I wish. I wish.
I would not be prepared for this. I live by
a wish factor. Um, but Denetia has some other um tips. Um. Well,
I just I just kind of plan from an economics perspective.
That's like my role in the family, you know, he's
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the doomsday prepper and I'm the economic dooms today prepper.
And so a lot of the research I've been doing
was um like how to get this uh in order.
So the first thing that I did was cancel all
of our auto pays, like things that are kind of
silly things that right now are not really applicable, like
(09:20):
gym membership. I don't go to gym right now. I'm
just saying, but if you have it on auto pay,
they're gonna deducted from your account. Yes. Um. And up
until yesterday, I always have and highly recommend like mortgage
and utility payments to be on auto pay. But I
think right now there that's ways that the government is
(09:41):
likely to send help. So I'm pretty sure by April one,
if things continue down the path that they are, there
will be like a mortgage moratorium, um, possibly utility payments.
They've already changed the property tax deadline. UM. So I
think that there's going to be some sort a moratorium.
But if you haven't on auto pay, they're gonna they're
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gonna take that money. So that was another another thing
that I've been doing. UM. A good friend of mine
was very concerned. Her business is going to be uh
right now obsolete for an untold period of time. I
told her, for for cash purposes, to call her credit
card companies and increased credit card limits possibly. You know,
(10:29):
if if you do have credit card debt, this would
be a great time to uh get those balance transfer
cards and transfer that balance so you're not paying high
interest while you have UM while we have like this
income kind of twilight zone. Another thing that if you
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do own a business. I did this myself. I don't
know how it works out, but they they have what
they call disaster loans through um s b A dot
gov Disaster loans dot SBA, dot GUM. We will put
the link in the description. UM. That one is if
your county is in an emergency zone. UM, they get
(11:12):
a bunch of information for you and they'll get you
get you money. UM. I just found uh like Los
Angeles has micro loans available that get to you within
I think they said three to four weeks and they
are like five dollar loans just to get you who
knows through payroll through whatever, and um, I tweeted. Mark
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Cuban was kind of giving the same advice, and he
was saying, listen before you fire anybody, make sure that
you're pursuing these loans. I put out the link, he
retweeted it, and he said apply now. So if you
don't want to listen to me, maybe you'll listen to
Mark Cuban. But I will strongly recommend that there will
be some aid available for business owners. And so that's
(11:58):
kind of how I've been in planning to survive. And
that's the doomsday prepping that I do. Yeah, okay, that's
good now, doom doomsday. So we have been eliminating people
from coming to our home. That includes people who work
in our house, like anything like that, like the handyman,
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contractor the housekeeper, any of that gown. You can't come
in right now. So then now the question is who's
gonna do all of this work? And that's what we've
been figuring out because especially l A closing, there's only
so much work that you can do at the time
because a lot of stuff is closed, So that that
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puts a premium on family time, puts a premium on
Oh and then kids are out of school. That's where
I was getting at. Kids are out of school. So
l a U s D. If you have a kid
in l a U s D or another public school situation,
and they have a different set up, so they kind
of give the kids a bunch of work and then
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you as a parent have to figure out the time
to do the work and all of that stuff. Whereas
we have we have um kid in college. Uh, she's
off for a second, but then her classes are gonna
be as scheduled times, which is optimal, right, And then
we have an eighth grader whose school who have is
going on from eight thirty in the morning until three
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o'clock in the afternoon like a normal day online, which
I love because you want to make sure that the
kids are you know, like treating it this not like
its summertime, but this is actual school time. So I
think that getting the kids on a schedule is probably
at a premium. Not letting them sleep in until ten
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eleven o'clock in the afternoon, getting them up in the morning,
getting them you know, put it, put on some clothes,
have some breakfast, sit down and talk to each other,
clean up for a minute, and then get to your
school work. But not having them work all day, let
them have some breaks in between, do something creative. Um oh,
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I'll put up the link. I know most of you
guys have probably seen it for a template of a
schedule for the day. So we're doing that along with
putting together a a time days and times for people
to wash their clothes, for people to, you know, like
do some of the housework, because we're using super busy
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running around all the time that we as a family
don't normally do. So what I'm just laughing. I'm just
laughing that we don't do housework. That's funny, but we're
about to because we have to. Well, I grew up
doing housework. Okay, I don't know about you. I did too.
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I didn't even have a dishwasher. So who you think
was a dishwasher? Who do you think? Right here? Well,
that's what happens never. I'm not gonna say that. I
don't even know what you're about to say, but it
was probably something inaccurate. Oh well, Another thing with the
kids being at home that drive Denisia up a wall
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is because Denisia grew up with just Devin. For I
didn't grow up with Devon. Devon was my child, I know,
but I'm saying like it was just her and Devon
for twelve years before I showed up and so no,
George allows that. The problem is this is that George
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allows the children to be wrecking balls in the house
and then says that's because they're boys. And it's not
just because they're boys. It's Devin was a creative. It
was just you. She didn't have anybody to fight with.
Ye she had consequences for breaking things and had respect
for people's property. There's all of that too, their boys.
(16:02):
Does that mean that they should break things? No? No, no,
they shouldn't break things. They do. They broke like six
things in two days. That's not okay, break six things,
yes they did. What what was broken? Romans? His toy,
his tent? His tent is broken? Yes, yes, tent broken anyway,
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he doesn't even he doesn't even know because you're not
paying attention. What else is broken? A lot of things?
A lot of six things. I said, like six things. Yes,
are you doing Are we doing a content check? Because
I can do some content check. I'm just asking. No,
I'm telling you they break things all of the time.
They drew on the refrigerator, the refrigerator. This is what
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I'm saying. That's not the point. You don't draw on refrigerators.
I do agree with that, I do. I do agree
with you should not write on the refrigerator. But this
is not the first time he's written under refrigerator. No, George,
He's written on countless things. Okay, look, look, look, so
that is that just a boy thing? No? No, exactly,
(17:12):
But I'm talking about the I'm talking about the playing ball,
like like they were playing basketball upstairs in their room,
dunking on a little Uh did you take that basketball? Why?
I forgot I was doing something some else when you
told me, like they dunk on a mini goal. All
this stuff, and I just think that this is normal
stuff that boys do, because this is what damages our home.
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This is stuff that I did, but it damages our home.
We have a nice home I'd like to keep. You
just don't like the noise. No, I want to keep
my house nice. I agree. I spent a lot of
money on it. You spent a lot of money on it.
Why would we not have people respect our home. I
do agree that we have to have them, have kids,
anybody else that's in our house respect our house. But
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sometimes I think, why are you making excuses? Not? Sometimes
times I think that there's an un realistic expectation for
like for like neatness and quietness. Well, we're gonna have
a problem with that with quarantine because they're gonna take
their little bucks outside. That's what That's how I was raised.
I don't know about you guys, but I was raised.
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If you're gonna be loud and rambunctious, you go outside.
That's outside. I agree with that. You don't do that,
then you gotta do inside play. How do you do
a rainy day? So so these kids play sports every
day almost they go to school practice to have so
much energy. I took him in the garage to work
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him out, Like at what point push ups? Do what
you gotta do? You gotta go do something else, but
you can't get to you don't get to mess up
the house. I agree, But because where do you expect
him to play when it's raining outside? George? They don't
get to play every day and they'll be okay, they
have too much energy that they need to go in
the garage and do it they need to do. I
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don't know what they need to do, but we get
a treadmill there, I'll put him on a trailer. Getting
no treadmill that they can break? Oh my god, for real?
I hope. I wish I could see comments right now.
Everybody would be agreeing with me. Everybody they ain't getting
on the treadmill, wife expert, they agree with me. There
is no there's no treadmill for the kids. You understand that, right.
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If we got a treadmill, they they don't get on
the treadmill, that would be part of the use of
the tread you're are you joking? I'm serious? Oh my god,
we my gosh. This is what I have to deal with.
And then all of a sudden, in five years, he's
gonna be like you were right. Fact you always say
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I'm right, um after but okay, so that so you
brought up consequences and discipline, right. I grew up in
a time where the answer if the kids not if
they're not doing something, they do something you don't want
them to, you whoop their ass, like like you give
a whooping mm hm. And how did that work out
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for you? It worked great? I stopped doing it. When
when what do you mean? Everybody talks about how bad
you were as a kid. You never stopped, So what
what are you talking about? No? I did, I just
did different things. I just didn't work. No, I just
didn't know what whatever they told me to do, I
stopped doing. I just did something else because I was
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an active kid. I was active. That's not the that
is not the problem you. Being active does not mean
that you can be destructive. What do you want me
to do? If this is why of your kids keep
doing it, you have got to really honestly sit them
down differently. George, Okay, so what is taking about just
because you're active? Oh, he's we're just gonna my my.
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My solution would have would have been a whooping. And
Denisia's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no no, we can't do that. I'm like, I'm a
conscious and I'm like I turned out perfectly and and
I so and there's a lot of other people who
are agreeing with the expert right now about what about
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whooping your kids? I mean, I just don't think it works.
I don't. I think it makes a kid probably more aggressive,
and you're teaching them out of fear. I think you
teach them to fear you instead of to make better
decisions about their actions, which is the goal, is that
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they make a different decision than the one that got
them in trouble, but don't sometimes that you need to
learn a lesson like a painful I don't know for
what what is it like? What? What does which lesson?
Does that work with? If I tell you don't come
in at ten o'clock and you I mean, and you
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come in and tend But did that stop you? Yes? Did? No?
It didn't? Yes she did. Do you understand I was
late one time? One time and then when you became
an adult? How how did that translate? What are you talking?
I'm just saying where you did you? Um? But you
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I'm asking you a question. Did you buck up against
authority and structure? Are you kidding me? Right now? Any
of my coaches would would tell you I did not
buck up against authority. I would control. Do you have
a resistance to control only when you're trying to control me? No,
I'm just saying, in period, though, you have a resistance
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to control. For sure. Nobody likes to be right, but
you have a sharp resistance. We're just getting down to
it right now in the in the quarantine talk. Um,
But seriously, you have a a strong resistance to some
being told what to do, period. And I think that's
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probably as a result of you know, you probably not
liking it when you were a kid. I don't think
there's not a person under the sound of our voice.
I don't even I don't even translate things. I don't
even translate the same things that you translate as control
as control. I don't feel like if you're telling me,
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um something that is for my benefit, I'm not like
he's trying to control me. Doesn't even translate. Because you're
super hard and to understand that you don't like that,
that's not how you process it. But but if you
don't like the information that you get, you then dismissed
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that information as as like as like you do or
you or you or you say, oh, I know you're right.
I know that's probably right, but that ain't how I
how I'm doing it, how you that's not me, you
project much, that's you. Yes, yes, oh my god. Or
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maybe this is a situation like our counselor AWL always
says that you are that how your partner is feeling
is usually a reflection of how you are feeling. See
see she gotta pay advant okay, mmm, see see I'm
using that money. I don't know what you're doing with
that money. So she's more of a as you guys
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can see, of a volcano in the situations. Anybody knows her, know,
like you, everybody knows how you feel. Everybody knows when
you're upset. Everybody knows because you'll blow up. Maybe that's
just a I expressed myself. Okay, even she she's self
described like she like she starts out the day like me.
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I started out the day at about one one, at
one out of ten. She starts at a six. And
so you get to tin a lot faster than I get, right,
and that's not a bad thing. Okay, So you're the volcano.
I am the iceberg. I would say that you are
actually the volcano, because the you're the volcano that's actually
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got all the lava stammering and heat it up, and
you don't act like it's not really there. You look
cool and calm on the outside, and then you upped
and go crazy. You're the volcano. Or maybe I'm the
iceberg who's steady and slowed and and just and just
moving along, not a howl lot of ebbs and flows,
but there's a lot going on underneath. I'm just emotionally healthy,
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expressive woman. And you are the train wreck. That's what
that is. Oh, that's funny, train wreck. And the funny
part about it is is that in relationships, you usually
you love at first the fact that somebody is so
different than you and they compliment you in all these ways.
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But then when the relationship really gets into nitty grittys,
you're like, I don't like the way this person handles this.
But then you learned to be like my wife who's
come to see like, wow, like George is way different
than me, and it is way better. It's way better. Yea,
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what is way better the way I do things? That's
what you mean. That is what you meant to say.
I thought you mixed up your words or something. You
meant to say that. I think that you're different than
me and it's way better. Yeah, you're playing he joking.
That's funny. That's a good one. Oh hey, but some coronavirus,
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uh hold up? Quarantine advice is so I normally do
all the cooking in the family, but during during this
corona time, like the other day, I'm recording the podcast,
um and Denisia comes in the door and comes in
with breakfast and I boy, boy, she was got another baby.
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Out of me. Man, No, I was so. I mean
not that she's never done it, but it doesn't happen often.
And I was like, wow, that's the kind of thing
that makes me feel loved, you know what I mean?
Makes and um, she had just got mad at me
the other day for no reason, but reason reason. We
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just talked about this earlier. Um, but that little mill
made everything better. So I would suggest during your quarantine
that you do something nice for your significant other. Yeah,
and then maybe he'll do something nice for you. Maybe
I'll rub your feet if you rub my feet. You
told me even rub my feet like three days ago,
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and it never happened. I am not rubbing your feet period.
Like it's just out of question. You have nerve this woman.
We're sitting on the couch on the on the sectional
and I put my feet on on her and she's like, oh,
get their feet off me. Like two months ago was
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the first time she's ever in our whole relationship ever
said this. His feet have gone really downhills, like they
were always bad, but now they're see like, you should
put them up. You should show you show your foot
in his entirety, And what is row with you? I
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cannot hold and the bad party is then she lies
and it's like, I don't like feet. I'm like, when
the hell did this come up? Je never said it before,
but then in the last two months, I've caught her
rubbing Devon's feet, Damon's feet, Caden's feet, Payton's feet, Woman's feet.
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I haven't rubbed everybody. Yes, you if you rubbed everybody's
damn feet, But then maybe is maybe it's yo feet.
I'm your husband, I'm the one who married to you.
That don't mean, that does not mean man f t
K does not these kids man, he's I don't even anyway.
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I don't like yo feet. You need like eight tea more.
I'm not even gonna talk about you on here in
your cage. I'm not gonna talk about the cliff here, George,
cut it out. You know, my feet are cute. I
do have like a little callous on one of them,
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but my feet are cute. You know that they're not bad.
Otherwise I would a guy with you. I'm like Eddie
Murphy and Boomray. But so stop saying that my my
feet are a problem. Just it's a cliff. You ripped
one of our shots. Your whole foot. It's a cliff.
I did not rip. No, your hole and it's it's ashy,
it's rough, it's jagged, you know, like, what do you
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I'm gonna put my feet up here. We had to
change the rating on the show. So anyways, do something nice.
Hopefully she'll cook for me at at some point in time.
Um but um oh, there's a Oh. I want to
(30:34):
talk super quick about because we're gonna get into our
TV show recommendations all this stuff. But I want to
talk about God's plan versus your plan because I live
in a world where I am I am. I'm an
optimistic realist. I would say you're an optimistic optimists. No,
(30:55):
I just I believe in redemption. I believe because I've
been reading. I was gonna say, because you needed that.
I believe in, uh that God changes things. I believe in.
I don't always look at the present circumstances. I looked
for even little minuscule um changes and say, okay, look
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the minuscule minuscule and notice that that's where the door
for change. Oh, it's with the it's with the road
of a thousand miles starts with one step. Oh gosh,
So when you take a step of step step, and
then all of a sudden you realize you a hundred
miles in and you're like, damn, I'm telling temper sent there.
Then you keep on chugging and denise you. On the
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other hand, she if she can't see it right there
in front of her face, No, no, no, no, it's impossible.
So that's God, that's not true, that's not true. I
have faith. I have vision, So of course I have faith.
So if you can't have vision with out having faith,
because that would be a waste, you would not it
wouldn't even work because you wouldn't believe your own vision.
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So I have that. George. George takes his optimism to
a new level. Y'all you have never seen like somebody
He'll be like, they're all redeeming factors about Jeffrey Dahmer.
Somebody's sons, somebody loved him, and that that's what I'm saying,
Like he didn't eat everybody. Kind of irrelevant, it's kind
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of irrelate some people. I'm I'm saying that people had
different um interactions with him. Some of those were very negative.
The one the people that he killed an eight and
then you have the inc. But there are some people,
you know, like if George has an experience with a
person that's eighty five percent negative, He'll be like, but
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there's fifteen percent positive for a fact, over and over
and over and over and over and over and over again.
Like he will literally focus on the fifteen at some point.
For me, I'm like, I see the eighty five, I'm
with eighty five is the eighty five, and I'm not
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with the eighty five. So I'm sure the fifteen works
for other people, and maybe that's an eighty five for them,
but it is it's a no goal for me. I
don't discount the message because I don't like the messenger,
so like like for instance, like for instance, Alex Jones,
the Info Wars dude, he's an absolute maniac, crazy man, right,
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but he but the lessons that you can learn from
him are the way he has developed the following, the
way he has monetized his business. Like there are some
things that even with if you take away the crazy,
you can look at it and there are some lessons
that can be gained from that. That that's why I'm
the experts are nothing but lessons for other people. Like
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that is that is their existence on the earth is
to be lessons for other people so they can learn
that this is this is what they are. You are
just a lesson for another person for real. That's a fact.
And and and if they don't, you know, heal themselves.
And there's that. So that being said, you were talking
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about God's plan versus your plan. You're an optimist realist,
and I am h correct, I am an accurate evaluator.
Go ahead. She believes in no redemption. That's not true.
That's not true. If you have stepped on her toes
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you that's not true thirty years ago. M hmm, that's
not true. Don't even say that. Um. But anyways, that
you let's, you know, in relationships and all this stuff.
Let's try to lean on each other in these stressful
times because it's really easy to let finances, kids, homework,
all of this though, breaking things, grocery shopping tear your
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relationship apart, but you know, really try to really lean
into each other. Make sure that even if you both
are working from home, that you're giving each other time,
uh to like you know, like take off and do
stuff with the kids and vice versa. Give the other
person a break. Opportunity to focus and all of that.
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Um yeah, would you agree with that? I would? Okay,
Now it is time for a segment that we want
to do. It's called say it with your chest? Oh yeah,
you about this say it with your chest? Um? I
accidentally used my say it with with with your chest already.
(35:51):
But you can put on a timer right now. Put
on a timer for a minute on say it with
your chest. You get one minute to get whatever it
is all of your chest, but you must stop whenever
the minute is up. What are you doing there? You go?
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I gotta help. I'm doing okay ready, Ansia. I do
not like that you do not rub my feet? My my,
my parents they give each other foot rubs like that's
a I My love language you always talking about some
damn love lane, thank you, my to what I gotta
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do it? My love language is too is like acts
of service? Um yeah, acts of services like super super
high for me because she asked me sometimes George, do
you love me? Or you're happy? I'm like, I'm here?
Are not? Yeah? I'm here Like if I'm not, I
wouldn't be here if I was not happy. So anyways,
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I want you to rub my feet and you rub
everybody else's day m feet, like you can at least
do that for the men that helped provide all of this.
Come on, like rub my feet at least occasionally, like sometimes,
but then you want to put rogue. Come on, man, like,
what makes you think that how you're done? I should
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get like five extra seconds? Could you interrupt me? Do
I respond to you? Know you can know you can't respond.
You you got your own say it with your chesty Okay, go, okay,
are you ready for this? I'm gonna keep in one
on it so I don't like. I'm nervous, um the
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lack of hair cutting that's going on, and I would
like a much higher level of hygiene. Although although you
have done better being that we're quarantined and we're finding
a virus, you are washing yourself a lot more. But
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I would actually really really like it if you cut
your hair, lotioned your body, lotioned your feet, and made
sure that your breath was always pressed in the morning.
And then that is, um what I got to say
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with my chest, kidding me, you're lucky that we can't
respond to say it with your chest. Oh my god,
the propaganda that I see what you did right there.
I'm not gonna respond to it, though, because that's not
the rule. So I'm not gonna do it. We're on
a damn quarantine. I'm gonna get a haircut anyway. YouTube YouTube,
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I am sure there is own hair. Yes, you're gonna
have to. This is the same This is the same woman.
My barber was out of town all this stuff, and
she was like, yeah, you can just go to go
go to anybody. I was like, go to anybody get
your haircut. What the hell is wrong with you? Black
men don't go to anybody to get their haircut, anybody yourself.
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You don't have to go to yourself. And you don't
trust yourself, then what you trust? Anyways? TV show recommendations
for your coronavirus. Uh, spouse, watching family, watching whatever? We
just finished watching. I know everybody else has seen it
at this point in time. Love is Blind. We're talking
(39:36):
about that. All American? We just started that, Yeah, all American.
Shoutout Spencer pay singer Oregon duck um. Uh what else
have we been watching? Oh? You I like you, she
doesn't like you. How is it just okay? Creepy, creepy
killing killing people like dexter for like, I've dealt with
(39:57):
enough of that in real life that I don't need
it in a television show. Oh, Ozark, Ozark comes out,
super quickly, comes out. What's that? Ozark comes out next Friday.
So that's Ozark season three. Super excited about that. Um.
But to go back though, oh yeah, and of course
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we watched This is Us and we watched pretty much
every single, like married show that there is on television,
so we don't watch like Real Housewives and all that stuff.
We actually stopped that because I think it was causing
fights in our relationships. She was like, oh look what
Tani and Susie and and and and the housewives from
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New Jersey Paton? Did we did watch that show? What
was that one? That one in Atlanta with all with
the black couples on own Tandy? You know, I'm talking about,
why are you really looking at me like you have
no clue? We watched all the ones. It was the
dating show and they find love. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
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that was good. What is it called love something? Yeah,
ready to love Love? That was good. Um. And we
watched Married at First Sight all these things, and we
It's funny because we watched these shows and we're dying. Oh,
Love and lock Up, Yes, we watched that. You love
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that show too, don't even try it. You love that?
Understand why you would get with a prisoner. I'm just
gonna keep my mouth shut. Nothing. I can't either. You
got not to do with me. I don't know what
you're talking about with that nothing. Were you writing to
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prisoner or something? No? Oh, you got some secret. I
don't know. No, all my exes doing things except one. Um,
you might be on Love after lock Of. Um. So
Love is Blind though, because this was a show that
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everybody watched on Netflix. I liked it. Dednetia like that.
So what was your take on Love is Blind? Because
initially she thought it was fake because when you look
at the credit, some of them names is different. Yeah,
the names don't match the name on the show. So
I was like, is this scripted and they're pretending into whatever?
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So I don't know. But it's so old. Why are
we talking about Love is Blind? Nobody talks about that anymore. Okay,
so we're gonna talking about that's okay? Well, yeah, you
guys send us your your thoughts or comments or and
all of that for the shows, and you can send
your responses for right now too. I'm mad, I am
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am a d at Unafraid show dot com and we
will get back to you. Um yeah. Peace out,
Thank you for joining us on the Wife versus the
Expert Surviving your Spouse Coronavirus edition. We are super yes,
surviving Corona with your spouse. Oh, I think you said
surviving your spouse Corona edition. I think that's what you said.
(00:22):
That's the same exactly. No, it's not surviving quarantine with
your loving and devastatingly gorgeous spouse. Okay, thank you guys
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a friend and tell them about it. And as my
kids would say, click the notification bell. Ye. So, um,
so this Corona thing, man, Like, how are you feeling
(01:05):
about it? Only you know how I've been feeling, Um, sunsettling.
It's scary, it's weird, it makes you have all kinds
of questions about the future, um and the present. So
I think it's just kind of just the fact that
this could even happen. Um, which neither one of us
(01:27):
have seen during our lifetimes. Is like shocking. Yeah, but
aren't you happy that you have a man who's prepared,
because listen, listen, there are so many times that I
will buy things for for the house, just in case,
make sure we are prepared for any sort of situation.
(01:47):
And my wife is like, George, we don't need that,
blah blah blah. And yesterday I had to go out
for just a second and I was like, oh, man,
I remember, I got mad to go out. But he,
you know, he wants to go out. He's got to
go get more things, have to go save the world
and have to go save our house. He's one of
the shopping horders. By the way, that is a lie.
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You how much tissue? We don't have that much tissue
and got a lot. We've got enough for us. We
have a big family. But there's seven, there's seven of
us plus earth, how many people here? How many trips
to the store have you taken since when in the
last two weeks? In the last week, last week, I
am a preparer. Like when I had to go out,
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I remember that I had masks in the garage and
I come back and so I find him, bring him,
bring him back in the house, and she's like, oh
my god, these are mass I'm like, what else did
you expect me to have? You didn't even know you
had them? Though I knew I had masks, masks. I
knew that they were good quality, right, But you didn't
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even know when you were buying them the quality of
inn because I bought them over a year ago. Nisian,
What do that mean? Because I was prepared. I am
prepared for natural disasters. I make sure we're have enough water, food,
all these things. And she is she wants to just
have just enough to get through today. We don't have
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to live by that. So how are you feeling with
the whole coronavirus Do you feel like you're prepared? Do
you feel good? I feel blessed really, because there's a
lot of people who aren't, who don't have necessarily the
resources to prepare. They are really like hard up for
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not being able to you know, like pay bills, pay rent,
all this stuff, so and having their family safe or healthy.
So I feel blessed in that regard. But I'm just
all about being prepared and vigilant and not like panicking
because one of the things I think that we've noticed,
and I think that some of you guys have noticed,
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is some people don't necessarily take this serious as other
people do. So how do you guys deal with people?
Because my mother, on for one, is not age. She's like,
this is no big deals, it's just the flu blah
blah blah. And I am on the other end of
the spectrum, and so this has become a topic that
we can't even talk about at this point in time. Well, I, uh,
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my dad, he's we call him like the wandering man
because he's always wandering, like literally, like he can't stay still.
So the quarantine is going to be a hard thing
for him. But he also is just in his ways,
like the places he goes and where he goes, and
god knows what, he's always doing those things. And he's
not like Mr Washer a million times a day. So
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I worry about him. And he's got like an underlying condition,
he's got diabetes. So and he's older now, he's you know,
six five. He would absolutely kill me if I since
I've announced that. But he's older and that's why he's
older than yeah, no, six five, So if he's he
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is my concern. It was initially a little bit of
a challenge getting like Camille, my cousin who's twenty years old,
and Devon who Devin kind of goes along if you
tell her like, don't go outside, She's not gonna go outside.
Camille was like twenty and kind of like, why are
they doing this? This seems so stupid, this is so extra,
(05:27):
and like, you know, couldn't understanding skipping the gym. And
I was like, no, girl, if you go to the gym,
you can't be around us. Like we we are isolating
for real. We're not isolating like ten ten people are less.
We are isolating because if one of us gets sick,
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everybody gets it. It's just disastrous, like it would be.
And we know that we are not in the high
likelihood of people who are going to die. However we
don't want to don't know though, And honestly, every time
they tell us something, it changes and they say, oh,
only old people die. What thirty or four year old die?
You know what I mean? And then it's like dogs
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don't get it, Well, there's a dead dog now, Like
everything they tell us is not okay. So changes. So
here is our here, here, here are our prepping essentials. Well,
I should say mine, you need extra refrigerator space. I
have been asking what I've been talking to to Dnetia
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about getting another refrigerator for our house for how long years? Yeah,
and we don't need another. And then as soon as
the corona hit, no, no problem, do we not need
another fruit? Why do we not need another refrigerator because
we stack it up and then all the food doesn't
get eaten. So it's wasteful to me. That's why we
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don't need it. We need we don't have. We need
to have people in the house. We have plenty of food.
Plenty of food another necessity. Weapons are in necessity. I
know that some people are gonn averse. They feel like
people would just do the right thing. I am not
one of those people. I feel like that people will
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do whatever it is that you allow them to do.
And truthfully, now that l A is on lockdown, if
people don't um like at a certain point, there are
people who are not going to be able to unless
the government checks get out like they said. And even
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if they do, then they could be a shortage of food,
shortage of water, shortage of resources. So then and with
the police not arresting people like they are in Philadelphia
in other places like I'm like, yo, you come up
in the rister household, listen getting I'm sorry. I'm sorry,
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Actually i'm not, but I think you need a generator.
I'm a generator kind of guy. I would want to
generate here on the house. We what what if we
have an earthquake, corona and an earthquake at the same time.
It just had an earthquake, and you talk like two
days ago, five point five point three or something like that,
and everybody's fine. I'm just saying, everybody's fine. Does everybody
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finding the north Bridge quake? George? Why are you yelling
at me? I'm just asking, man, I'm just saying, we
got one. We got one. I'm sorry, we got one
emergency at a time. Oh oh really, so that's how
it works. Well, I hope, see, I don't. I don't
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hope on these things. I don't hope. I wish. I wish.
I would not be prepared for this. I live by
a wish factor. Um, but Denetia has some other um tips. Um. Well,
I just I just kind of plan from an economics perspective.
That's like my role in the family, you know, he's
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the doomsday prepper and I'm the economic dooms today prepper.
And so a lot of the research I've been doing
was um like how to get this uh in order.
So the first thing that I did was cancel all
of our auto pays, like things that are kind of
silly things that right now are not really applicable, like
(09:20):
gym membership. I don't go to gym right now. I'm
just saying, but if you have it on auto pay,
they're gonna deducted from your account. Yes. Um. And up
until yesterday, I always have and highly recommend like mortgage
and utility payments to be on auto pay. But I
think right now there that's ways that the government is
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likely to send help. So I'm pretty sure by April one,
if things continue down the path that they are, there
will be like a mortgage moratorium, um, possibly utility payments.
They've already changed the property tax deadline. UM. So I
think that there's going to be some sort a moratorium.
But if you haven't on auto pay, they're gonna they're
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gonna take that money. So that was another another thing
that I've been doing. UM. A good friend of mine
was very concerned. Her business is going to be uh
right now obsolete for an untold period of time. I
told her, for for cash purposes, to call her credit
card companies and increased credit card limits possibly. You know,
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if if you do have credit card debt, this would
be a great time to uh get those balance transfer
cards and transfer that balance so you're not paying high
interest while you have UM while we have like this
income kind of twilight zone. Another thing that if you
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do own a business. I did this myself. I don't
know how it works out, but they they have what
they call disaster loans through um s b A dot
gov Disaster loans dot SBA, dot GUM. We will put
the link in the description. UM. That one is if
your county is in an emergency zone. UM, they get
(11:12):
a bunch of information for you and they'll get you
get you money. UM. I just found uh like Los
Angeles has micro loans available that get to you within
I think they said three to four weeks and they
are like five dollar loans just to get you who
knows through payroll through whatever, and um, I tweeted. Mark
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Cuban was kind of giving the same advice, and he
was saying, listen before you fire anybody, make sure that
you're pursuing these loans. I put out the link, he
retweeted it, and he said apply now. So if you
don't want to listen to me, maybe you'll listen to
Mark Cuban. But I will strongly recommend that there will
be some aid available for business owners. And so that's
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kind of how I've been in planning to survive. And
that's the doomsday prepping that I do. Yeah, okay, that's
good now, doom doomsday. So we have been eliminating people
from coming to our home. That includes people who work
in our house, like anything like that, like the handyman,
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contractor the housekeeper, any of that gown. You can't come
in right now. So then now the question is who's
gonna do all of this work? And that's what we've
been figuring out because especially l A closing, there's only
so much work that you can do at the time
because a lot of stuff is closed, So that that
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puts a premium on family time, puts a premium on
Oh and then kids are out of school. That's where
I was getting at. Kids are out of school. So
l a U s D. If you have a kid
in l a U s D or another public school situation,
and they have a different set up, so they kind
of give the kids a bunch of work and then
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you as a parent have to figure out the time
to do the work and all of that stuff. Whereas
we have we have um kid in college. Uh, she's
off for a second, but then her classes are gonna
be as scheduled times, which is optimal, right, And then
we have an eighth grader whose school who have is
going on from eight thirty in the morning until three
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o'clock in the afternoon like a normal day online, which
I love because you want to make sure that the
kids are you know, like treating it this not like
its summertime, but this is actual school time. So I
think that getting the kids on a schedule is probably
at a premium. Not letting them sleep in until ten
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eleven o'clock in the afternoon, getting them up in the morning,
getting them you know, put it, put on some clothes,
have some breakfast, sit down and talk to each other,
clean up for a minute, and then get to your
school work. But not having them work all day, let
them have some breaks in between, do something creative. Um oh,
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I'll put up the link. I know most of you
guys have probably seen it for a template of a
schedule for the day. So we're doing that along with
putting together a a time days and times for people
to wash their clothes, for people to, you know, like
do some of the housework, because we're using super busy
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running around all the time that we as a family
don't normally do. So what I'm just laughing. I'm just
laughing that we don't do housework. That's funny, but we're
about to because we have to. Well, I grew up
doing housework. Okay, I don't know about you. I did too.
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I didn't even have a dishwasher. So who you think
was a dishwasher? Who do you think? Right here? Well,
that's what happens never. I'm not gonna say that. I
don't even know what you're about to say, but it
was probably something inaccurate. Oh well, Another thing with the
kids being at home that drive Denisia up a wall
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is because Denisia grew up with just Devin. For I
didn't grow up with Devon. Devon was my child, I know,
but I'm saying like it was just her and Devon
for twelve years before I showed up and so no,
George allows that. The problem is this is that George
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allows the children to be wrecking balls in the house
and then says that's because they're boys. And it's not
just because they're boys. It's Devin was a creative. It
was just you. She didn't have anybody to fight with.
Ye she had consequences for breaking things and had respect
for people's property. There's all of that too, their boys.
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Does that mean that they should break things? No? No, no,
they shouldn't break things. They do. They broke like six
things in two days. That's not okay, break six things,
yes they did. What what was broken? Romans? His toy,
his tent? His tent is broken? Yes, yes, tent broken anyway,
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he doesn't even he doesn't even know because you're not
paying attention. What else is broken? A lot of things?
A lot of six things. I said, like six things. Yes,
are you doing Are we doing a content check? Because
I can do some content check. I'm just asking. No,
I'm telling you they break things all of the time.
They drew on the refrigerator, the refrigerator. This is what
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I'm saying. That's not the point. You don't draw on refrigerators.
I do agree with that, I do. I do agree
with you should not write on the refrigerator. But this
is not the first time he's written under refrigerator. No, George,
He's written on countless things. Okay, look, look, look, so
that is that just a boy thing? No? No, exactly,
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But I'm talking about the I'm talking about the playing ball,
like like they were playing basketball upstairs in their room,
dunking on a little Uh did you take that basketball? Why?
I forgot I was doing something some else when you
told me, like they dunk on a mini goal. All
this stuff, and I just think that this is normal
stuff that boys do, because this is what damages our home.
(17:34):
This is stuff that I did, but it damages our home.
We have a nice home I'd like to keep. You
just don't like the noise. No, I want to keep
my house nice. I agree. I spent a lot of
money on it. You spent a lot of money on it.
Why would we not have people respect our home. I
do agree that we have to have them, have kids,
anybody else that's in our house respect our house. But
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sometimes I think, why are you making excuses? Not? Sometimes
times I think that there's an un realistic expectation for
like for like neatness and quietness. Well, we're gonna have
a problem with that with quarantine because they're gonna take
their little bucks outside. That's what That's how I was raised.
I don't know about you guys, but I was raised.
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If you're gonna be loud and rambunctious, you go outside.
That's outside. I agree with that. You don't do that,
then you gotta do inside play. How do you do
a rainy day? So so these kids play sports every
day almost they go to school practice to have so
much energy. I took him in the garage to work
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him out, Like at what point push ups? Do what
you gotta do? You gotta go do something else, but
you can't get to you don't get to mess up
the house. I agree, But because where do you expect
him to play when it's raining outside? George? They don't
get to play every day and they'll be okay, they
have too much energy that they need to go in
the garage and do it they need to do. I
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don't know what they need to do, but we get
a treadmill there, I'll put him on a trailer. Getting
no treadmill that they can break? Oh my god, for real?
I hope. I wish I could see comments right now.
Everybody would be agreeing with me. Everybody they ain't getting
on the treadmill, wife expert, they agree with me. There
is no there's no treadmill for the kids. You understand that, right.
(19:24):
If we got a treadmill, they they don't get on
the treadmill, that would be part of the use of
the tread you're are you joking? I'm serious? Oh my god,
we my gosh. This is what I have to deal with.
And then all of a sudden, in five years, he's
gonna be like you were right. Fact you always say
(19:46):
I'm right, um after but okay, so that so you
brought up consequences and discipline, right. I grew up in
a time where the answer if the kids not if
they're not doing something, they do something you don't want
them to, you whoop their ass, like like you give
a whooping mm hm. And how did that work out
(20:09):
for you? It worked great? I stopped doing it. When
when what do you mean? Everybody talks about how bad
you were as a kid. You never stopped, So what
what are you talking about? No? I did, I just
did different things. I just didn't work. No, I just
didn't know what whatever they told me to do, I
stopped doing. I just did something else because I was
(20:31):
an active kid. I was active. That's not the that
is not the problem you. Being active does not mean
that you can be destructive. What do you want me
to do? If this is why of your kids keep
doing it, you have got to really honestly sit them
down differently. George, Okay, so what is taking about just
because you're active? Oh, he's we're just gonna my my.
(20:53):
My solution would have would have been a whooping. And
Denisia's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no no, we can't do that. I'm like, I'm a
conscious and I'm like I turned out perfectly and and
I so and there's a lot of other people who
are agreeing with the expert right now about what about
(21:14):
whooping your kids? I mean, I just don't think it works.
I don't. I think it makes a kid probably more aggressive,
and you're teaching them out of fear. I think you
teach them to fear you instead of to make better
decisions about their actions, which is the goal, is that
(21:37):
they make a different decision than the one that got
them in trouble, but don't sometimes that you need to
learn a lesson like a painful I don't know for
what what is it like? What? What does which lesson?
Does that work with? If I tell you don't come
in at ten o'clock and you I mean, and you
(21:57):
come in and tend But did that stop you? Yes? Did? No?
It didn't? Yes she did. Do you understand I was
late one time? One time and then when you became
an adult? How how did that translate? What are you talking?
I'm just saying where you did you? Um? But you
(22:19):
I'm asking you a question. Did you buck up against
authority and structure? Are you kidding me? Right now? Any
of my coaches would would tell you I did not
buck up against authority. I would control. Do you have
a resistance to control only when you're trying to control me? No,
I'm just saying, in period, though, you have a resistance
(22:41):
to control. For sure. Nobody likes to be right, but
you have a sharp resistance. We're just getting down to
it right now in the in the quarantine talk. Um,
But seriously, you have a a strong resistance to some
being told what to do, period. And I think that's
(23:05):
probably as a result of you know, you probably not
liking it when you were a kid. I don't think
there's not a person under the sound of our voice.
I don't even I don't even translate things. I don't
even translate the same things that you translate as control
as control. I don't feel like if you're telling me,
(23:26):
um something that is for my benefit, I'm not like
he's trying to control me. Doesn't even translate. Because you're
super hard and to understand that you don't like that,
that's not how you process it. But but if you
don't like the information that you get, you then dismissed
(23:47):
that information as as like as like you do or
you or you or you say, oh, I know you're right.
I know that's probably right, but that ain't how I
how I'm doing it, how you that's not me, you
project much, that's you. Yes, yes, oh my god. Or
(24:09):
maybe this is a situation like our counselor AWL always
says that you are that how your partner is feeling
is usually a reflection of how you are feeling. See
see she gotta pay advant okay, mmm, see see I'm
using that money. I don't know what you're doing with
that money. So she's more of a as you guys
(24:32):
can see, of a volcano in the situations. Anybody knows her, know,
like you, everybody knows how you feel. Everybody knows when
you're upset. Everybody knows because you'll blow up. Maybe that's
just a I expressed myself. Okay, even she she's self
described like she like she starts out the day like me.
(24:55):
I started out the day at about one one, at
one out of ten. She starts at a six. And
so you get to tin a lot faster than I get, right,
and that's not a bad thing. Okay, So you're the volcano.
I am the iceberg. I would say that you are
actually the volcano, because the you're the volcano that's actually
(25:17):
got all the lava stammering and heat it up, and
you don't act like it's not really there. You look
cool and calm on the outside, and then you upped
and go crazy. You're the volcano. Or maybe I'm the
iceberg who's steady and slowed and and just and just
moving along, not a howl lot of ebbs and flows,
but there's a lot going on underneath. I'm just emotionally healthy,
(25:42):
expressive woman. And you are the train wreck. That's what
that is. Oh, that's funny, train wreck. And the funny
part about it is is that in relationships, you usually
you love at first the fact that somebody is so
different than you and they compliment you in all these ways.
(26:03):
But then when the relationship really gets into nitty grittys,
you're like, I don't like the way this person handles this.
But then you learned to be like my wife who's
come to see like, wow, like George is way different
than me, and it is way better. It's way better. Yea,
(26:23):
what is way better the way I do things? That's
what you mean. That is what you meant to say.
I thought you mixed up your words or something. You
meant to say that. I think that you're different than
me and it's way better. Yeah, you're playing he joking.
That's funny. That's a good one. Oh hey, but some coronavirus,
(26:45):
uh hold up? Quarantine advice is so I normally do
all the cooking in the family, but during during this
corona time, like the other day, I'm recording the podcast,
um and Denisia comes in the door and comes in
with breakfast and I boy, boy, she was got another baby.
(27:09):
Out of me. Man, No, I was so. I mean
not that she's never done it, but it doesn't happen often.
And I was like, wow, that's the kind of thing
that makes me feel loved, you know what I mean?
Makes and um, she had just got mad at me
the other day for no reason, but reason reason. We
(27:32):
just talked about this earlier. Um, but that little mill
made everything better. So I would suggest during your quarantine
that you do something nice for your significant other. Yeah,
and then maybe he'll do something nice for you. Maybe
I'll rub your feet if you rub my feet. You
told me even rub my feet like three days ago,
(27:53):
and it never happened. I am not rubbing your feet period.
Like it's just out of question. You have nerve this woman.
We're sitting on the couch on the on the sectional
and I put my feet on on her and she's like, oh,
get their feet off me. Like two months ago was
(28:15):
the first time she's ever in our whole relationship ever
said this. His feet have gone really downhills, like they
were always bad, but now they're see like, you should
put them up. You should show you show your foot
in his entirety, And what is row with you? I
(28:39):
cannot hold and the bad party is then she lies
and it's like, I don't like feet. I'm like, when
the hell did this come up? Je never said it before,
but then in the last two months, I've caught her
rubbing Devon's feet, Damon's feet, Caden's feet, Payton's feet, Woman's feet.
(29:00):
I haven't rubbed everybody. Yes, you if you rubbed everybody's
damn feet, But then maybe is maybe it's yo feet.
I'm your husband, I'm the one who married to you.
That don't mean, that does not mean man f t
K does not these kids man, he's I don't even anyway.
(29:25):
I don't like yo feet. You need like eight tea more.
I'm not even gonna talk about you on here in
your cage. I'm not gonna talk about the cliff here, George,
cut it out. You know, my feet are cute. I
do have like a little callous on one of them,
(29:46):
but my feet are cute. You know that they're not bad.
Otherwise I would a guy with you. I'm like Eddie
Murphy and Boomray. But so stop saying that my my
feet are a problem. Just it's a cliff. You ripped
one of our shots. Your whole foot. It's a cliff.
I did not rip. No, your hole and it's it's ashy,
it's rough, it's jagged, you know, like, what do you
(30:11):
I'm gonna put my feet up here. We had to
change the rating on the show. So anyways, do something nice.
Hopefully she'll cook for me at at some point in time.
Um but um oh, there's a Oh. I want to
(30:34):
talk super quick about because we're gonna get into our
TV show recommendations all this stuff. But I want to
talk about God's plan versus your plan because I live
in a world where I am I am. I'm an
optimistic realist. I would say you're an optimistic optimists. No,
(30:55):
I just I believe in redemption. I believe because I've
been reading. I was gonna say, because you needed that.
I believe in, uh that God changes things. I believe in.
I don't always look at the present circumstances. I looked
for even little minuscule um changes and say, okay, look
(31:22):
the minuscule minuscule and notice that that's where the door
for change. Oh, it's with the it's with the road
of a thousand miles starts with one step. Oh gosh,
So when you take a step of step step, and
then all of a sudden you realize you a hundred
miles in and you're like, damn, I'm telling temper sent there.
Then you keep on chugging and denise you. On the
(31:43):
other hand, she if she can't see it right there
in front of her face, No, no, no, no, it's impossible.
So that's God, that's not true, that's not true. I
have faith. I have vision, So of course I have faith.
So if you can't have vision with out having faith,
because that would be a waste, you would not it
wouldn't even work because you wouldn't believe your own vision.
(32:06):
So I have that. George. George takes his optimism to
a new level. Y'all you have never seen like somebody
He'll be like, they're all redeeming factors about Jeffrey Dahmer.
Somebody's sons, somebody loved him, and that that's what I'm saying,
Like he didn't eat everybody. Kind of irrelevant, it's kind
(32:28):
of irrelate some people. I'm I'm saying that people had
different um interactions with him. Some of those were very negative.
The one the people that he killed an eight and
then you have the inc. But there are some people,
you know, like if George has an experience with a
person that's eighty five percent negative, He'll be like, but
(32:53):
there's fifteen percent positive for a fact, over and over
and over and over and over and over and over again.
Like he will literally focus on the fifteen at some point.
For me, I'm like, I see the eighty five, I'm
with eighty five is the eighty five, and I'm not
(33:13):
with the eighty five. So I'm sure the fifteen works
for other people, and maybe that's an eighty five for them,
but it is it's a no goal for me. I
don't discount the message because I don't like the messenger,
so like like for instance, like for instance, Alex Jones,
the Info Wars dude, he's an absolute maniac, crazy man, right,
(33:37):
but he but the lessons that you can learn from
him are the way he has developed the following, the
way he has monetized his business. Like there are some
things that even with if you take away the crazy,
you can look at it and there are some lessons
that can be gained from that. That that's why I'm
the experts are nothing but lessons for other people. Like
(34:02):
that is that is their existence on the earth is
to be lessons for other people so they can learn
that this is this is what they are. You are
just a lesson for another person for real. That's a fact.
And and and if they don't, you know, heal themselves.
And there's that. So that being said, you were talking
(34:23):
about God's plan versus your plan. You're an optimist realist,
and I am h correct, I am an accurate evaluator.
Go ahead. She believes in no redemption. That's not true.
That's not true. If you have stepped on her toes
(34:45):
you that's not true thirty years ago. M hmm, that's
not true. Don't even say that. Um. But anyways, that
you let's, you know, in relationships and all this stuff.
Let's try to lean on each other in these stressful
times because it's really easy to let finances, kids, homework,
all of this though, breaking things, grocery shopping tear your
(35:11):
relationship apart, but you know, really try to really lean
into each other. Make sure that even if you both
are working from home, that you're giving each other time,
uh to like you know, like take off and do
stuff with the kids and vice versa. Give the other
person a break. Opportunity to focus and all of that.
(35:31):
Um yeah, would you agree with that? I would? Okay,
Now it is time for a segment that we want
to do. It's called say it with your chest? Oh yeah,
you about this say it with your chest? Um? I
accidentally used my say it with with with your chest already.
(35:51):
But you can put on a timer right now. Put
on a timer for a minute on say it with
your chest. You get one minute to get whatever it
is all of your chest, but you must stop whenever
the minute is up. What are you doing there? You go?
(36:13):
I gotta help. I'm doing okay ready, Ansia. I do
not like that you do not rub my feet? My my,
my parents they give each other foot rubs like that's
a I My love language you always talking about some
damn love lane, thank you, my to what I gotta
(36:36):
do it? My love language is too is like acts
of service? Um yeah, acts of services like super super
high for me because she asked me sometimes George, do
you love me? Or you're happy? I'm like, I'm here?
Are not? Yeah? I'm here Like if I'm not, I
wouldn't be here if I was not happy. So anyways,
(36:56):
I want you to rub my feet and you rub
everybody else's day m feet, like you can at least
do that for the men that helped provide all of this.
Come on, like rub my feet at least occasionally, like sometimes,
but then you want to put rogue. Come on, man, like,
what makes you think that how you're done? I should
(37:20):
get like five extra seconds? Could you interrupt me? Do
I respond to you? Know you can know you can't respond.
You you got your own say it with your chesty Okay, go, okay,
are you ready for this? I'm gonna keep in one
on it so I don't like. I'm nervous, um the
(37:46):
lack of hair cutting that's going on, and I would
like a much higher level of hygiene. Although although you
have done better being that we're quarantined and we're finding
a virus, you are washing yourself a lot more. But
(38:08):
I would actually really really like it if you cut
your hair, lotioned your body, lotioned your feet, and made
sure that your breath was always pressed in the morning.
And then that is, um what I got to say
(38:29):
with my chest, kidding me, you're lucky that we can't
respond to say it with your chest. Oh my god,
the propaganda that I see what you did right there.
I'm not gonna respond to it, though, because that's not
the rule. So I'm not gonna do it. We're on
a damn quarantine. I'm gonna get a haircut anyway. YouTube YouTube,
(38:52):
I am sure there is own hair. Yes, you're gonna
have to. This is the same This is the same woman.
My barber was out of town all this stuff, and
she was like, yeah, you can just go to go
go to anybody. I was like, go to anybody get
your haircut. What the hell is wrong with you? Black
men don't go to anybody to get their haircut, anybody yourself.
(39:15):
You don't have to go to yourself. And you don't
trust yourself, then what you trust? Anyways? TV show recommendations
for your coronavirus. Uh, spouse, watching family, watching whatever? We
just finished watching. I know everybody else has seen it
at this point in time. Love is Blind. We're talking
(39:36):
about that. All American? We just started that, Yeah, all American.
Shoutout Spencer pay singer Oregon duck um. Uh what else
have we been watching? Oh? You I like you, she
doesn't like you. How is it just okay? Creepy, creepy
killing killing people like dexter for like, I've dealt with
(39:57):
enough of that in real life that I don't need
it in a television show. Oh, Ozark, Ozark comes out,
super quickly, comes out. What's that? Ozark comes out next Friday.
So that's Ozark season three. Super excited about that. Um.
But to go back though, oh yeah, and of course
(40:19):
we watched This is Us and we watched pretty much
every single, like married show that there is on television,
so we don't watch like Real Housewives and all that stuff.
We actually stopped that because I think it was causing
fights in our relationships. She was like, oh look what
Tani and Susie and and and and the housewives from
(40:42):
New Jersey Paton? Did we did watch that show? What
was that one? That one in Atlanta with all with
the black couples on own Tandy? You know, I'm talking about,
why are you really looking at me like you have
no clue? We watched all the ones. It was the
dating show and they find love. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
(41:07):
that was good. What is it called love something? Yeah,
ready to love Love? That was good. Um. And we
watched Married at First Sight all these things, and we
It's funny because we watched these shows and we're dying. Oh,
Love and lock Up, Yes, we watched that. You love
(41:30):
that show too, don't even try it. You love that?
Understand why you would get with a prisoner. I'm just
gonna keep my mouth shut. Nothing. I can't either. You
got not to do with me. I don't know what
you're talking about with that nothing. Were you writing to
(41:52):
prisoner or something? No? Oh, you got some secret. I
don't know. No, all my exes doing things except one. Um,
you might be on Love after lock Of. Um. So
Love is Blind though, because this was a show that
(42:12):
everybody watched on Netflix. I liked it. Dednetia like that.
So what was your take on Love is Blind? Because
initially she thought it was fake because when you look
at the credit, some of them names is different. Yeah,
the names don't match the name on the show. So
I was like, is this scripted and they're pretending into whatever?
(42:32):
So I don't know. But it's so old. Why are
we talking about Love is Blind? Nobody talks about that anymore. Okay,
so we're gonna talking about that's okay? Well, yeah, you
guys send us your your thoughts or comments or and
all of that for the shows, and you can send
your responses for right now too. I'm mad, I am
(42:56):
am a d at Unafraid show dot com and we
will get back to you. Um yeah. Peace out,
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