September 9, 2025 • 26 mins
Intimate Talks - The Matrix of Reality
In this special solo episode of You vs You: *Intimate Talks— Lex dives deep into the concept of **reality and perception, drawing inspiration from *The Matrix to challenge the belief systems that shape our daily lives. Are we living in a loop, repeating routines without questioning if they serve us? Are our “truths” actually illusions shaped by society, upbringing, and fear?
Through powerful reflections and practical tools, Lex breaks down:
• The difference between needs and wants—and why self-love is the foundation of clarity.
• How questioning your beliefs can help you redefine success, love, and fulfillment.
• The courage it takes to step outside the matrix of routine and limitations to unlock infinite possibilities.
This episode is an invitation to *look in the mirror*, confront your perceptions, and make the daily choices that free you from mental prisons. Whether it’s in relationships, career, or personal growth, Lex challenges you to take the “red pill” and step into a life designed by your own truth.
If you’re ready to bend your reality and step into your power, this episode will leave you inspired to question everything—and love everything.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What if even the negative part is the truth of
what needs to happen?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
What is reality?
Speaker 1 (00:06):
Reality is every billionaire that you hear talk, every financial
expert that you hear talks, says what and the truth
is that we all are that same being. The difference
is one simple thing. Can you have the courage to
look at yourself.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
In the mirror?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
And Welcome to another episode of You Versus You. This
segment I'm calling Intimate Talks. This is where I'm going
to share with you guys some thoughts, ideas and the
way that I see life, how I see success, how
I see career, love, and so many other things about
our everyday life that I would love to share with
you on my thoughts, ideas and honestly my pov on
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how you can live a better life and ultimately win
the battle of you versus You. Now, I'm going to
start with some subjects, but the goal here is that
your comments, your questions get us going into a place
that I can always something that you're looking for. My
goal is to share ideas that can really help you
individually challenge yourself and ultimately get the solutions that you're
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looking for in life and better yourself with that said,
today I want to talk about the Matrix. We all
know the hit movie, We've all seen it, we all
know what it did for Keanu Reeves's career. But the
truth is that we are all living in the matrix.
And what does that mean.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Well, we all have this idea about reality, what is.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Actually happening in our lives, how we are perceiving that,
And because of that reality or this idea of reality
that we have, ninety nine percent of our problems come
from it. And I'll explain that in two ways. One,
the majority of the times that you are upset by
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someone else's actions is because you're perceiving that person's actions
through what you think is your reality.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And do you live your life as it's meant to be?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Meaning this is who I am, this is what my
life is, and anything and anybody that challenges that is
fearful to me. So I'm not going to engage in that.
So I'm going to come into conflict with myself. I'm
going to come into conflict with somebody else. I'm going
to challenge them. I have a right to speak up,
I have a right to be myself. Now, have you
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truly ever asked yourself who you are? What does being
yourself actually mean? And how do you know that you're
being yourself? How do you know that that version of
yourself that you are perceiving and that you're interpreting is
the correct version of yourself? Why do I touch on
this well because so much of the U versus you
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battle is trying to define who you are and what
reality actually means. So if you remember, in the movie
Neo gets presented to options a red pill and a
blue pill. The blue pill was ignorance. In other words,
it's taking a pill that says, why am I going
to challenge the quote unquote reality that I'm living? Why
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am I going to challenge the things that I've been taught?
What am I going to challenge what my parents told
me was right or wrong? Why am I going to
challenge the way that society tells me I look good
or look cool? And now maybe there's some people that say, hey,
there's areas of my life that are such amazing blessings
because I have success, I'm handsome, I'm doing well here,
I have a wife, I have a husband, I have kids. Like,
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why would I challenge that when everything's going good and
other's people that have things going wrong in their lives,
and that ultimately triggers you to try to fix that
because you're like, no, this can't be. It can't be this.
My life can't be this disaster. It can't not have
a job, I cannot have this. So I have to
challenge it. And the real question is why does something
negative that you're perceiving has to be the trigger? What
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if even the negative part is the truth of what
needs to happen? And so what is reality perception? And
that's a mixture of two things, the things that are
happening around you that we sense, right. You smell when
somebody's cooking, you see when the ocean is in in
the ways, you can hear a train coming, you can
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touch this wooden table that I have in front of me.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
And the other one.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Is what you're actually perceiving. You see, all those things
that your senses just picked up could mean something for me,
could mean something different for someone else. So I can
smell somebody cooking something, and for you it might be like, Wow,
that's my favorite meal. It's a nice fish, And for
me it's like, oh, that tastes of fish. It's so disgusting.
I don't want it around me.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Now.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Your reality my reality are different. Your reality is your perception,
and your perception is your beliefs. And what we consistently
question on you versus you is whose beliefs are you living?
And can you challenge those beliefs to better who you
are every single day, even in the areas of your
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life that seem that they're perfect. See that's the red pill.
The red pill was Neo taking it and saying, I
actually want to know the truth of what's going on here,
And when he started to understand the matrix, he was
able to start bending it and breaking it by just
changing his mindset.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Of what he saw. The truth is, you.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Are a body, a mind of infinite possibilities. There is
humans that have accomplished things that we can't even dream of.
There's humans that we admire that are jumping up in
the air ten feet that are doing all these marvelous things,
that are changing the world with their mind and their inventions.
And the truth is that we all are that same being.
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The difference is some people's beliefs are different, and their
beliefs of their greatness and their capacity to push their
body allowed them to change their perception, and if they
change their perception, they changed their reality. Now, I recently
was watching the Dallas Cowboys documentary on Netflix and Jimmy Johnson,
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the coach of the Dallas Cowboys during their two Super Bowls,
he has something that I thought was incredible, and he said,
let your mind control your body, not your body, control
your mind. And I thought that was so great to
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tell a team of football players who were pushing their
body to the limit. Because the truth is, when they
push their bodies and they're in pain, is their mind
perceiving that moment as pain, perceiving that moment as suffering,
that makes them stop.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
But if their mind.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Pushes through the pain, through an injury, through everything, they
can push the team to become champions. They can push
their team to do plays that nobody else has done.
They can push them so else to become even bigger
and better.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Of a human being that they can be.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Well, those same possibilities that you've seen in football players,
that you see in athletes, that you see in people
like Ellen Musk, and you see in these geniuses of
our times is within you? Now, what the definition and
the result of that greatness that's on everybody's path in
their lives.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
But the possibilities of.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
What you can create and how you can change your
reality are very real to you. To do so, you
have to start looking in the mirror and you have
to make a choice.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
See, the one.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Part about life that is very true to our nature
is that we have endless possibilities. But with endless possibilities
comes the hardest part of being alive, which is every
single day is a set of choices, is a set
of decisions that have to be made in order for
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your path to go one way, to go to the other,
to go back, or to go front. And the majority
of us struggle to make those choices. So we enter
a loop, we enter the matrix. We start living the
same life every single day. We embark on the journey
of our morning. We drink our coffee, we go to work,
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we go home, we see our boyfriend or our girlfriend,
we go to sleep, we see ever. And that is
the routine and the routine, and the routine and the routine.
And maybe you challenge yourself one little bit over here,
maybe by going to the gym. So you start slowly
seeing some body change, But you're in the loop. But
this transformational change that you see and you hear people
talk about all the greats and the motivational speeches and
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all the greats in the health podcast business. What they're
telling you and what they're talking about is one simple thing.
Can you have the courage to look at yourself in
the mirror and challenge what you perceive to be reality?
And in doing that, can you start pinpointing the things
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of your life that are based on a belief system.
Let me give you one that is pretty relatable to
all of us.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Actually, i'll give you two.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Most of the world has been taught we must get married,
that we must find the love of your life.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
We have a whole.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Holiday called Valentine's Day around the idea that you have
to fall in love and that you have to find
a partner.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
In life in order to feel fulfilled.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
So you have a lot of women who have pressure
to find that in a time period because their maternal
clock is running out and they don't want to have
kids too late. And then you have guys who spend
their whole lives searching for the perfect women. And history
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shows that some of the biggest mistakes, some of the
biggest empires in the world have fallen because of love
because of a woman guiding a man the wrong way
and the man being completely devoted to this person in
order to make the wrong choice. Now you might say,
but yeah, but we all need connection, we all need
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to relate to someone.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
I agree.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
I think that's the beautiful part of sharing energy with someone.
What you don't actually need.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Is love. What you need to do is love yourself.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
What you need to do is understand how to accept
every area of yourself. Because when you love yourself, when
you're so comfortable with yourself, you start understanding what you
actually want. See that separation there need I need to
find a girlfriend, I need to get married before I
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need to I want Now of us go through life
chasing what we need. We go and we let our
friends or you know, society influences to buy it back
and I'm like, God, I need that bag, like I
need that mess bag or I need that rolllex. Then
you buy it, you feel unfulfilled because it wasn't generally
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what you want, it wasn't generally what you love. And
so when you learn to love yourself and change the
belief that you need someone else, what happens is you
get clarity, and that clarity allows you to understand what
you want and when you want. And you understand what
you want, then you can attract that and then you
start feeling the connection with someone. I know so many people,
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including myself, that have asked the universe for something or someone.
Then that person walks in your life and you're questioning
every day if that's the right person. You're questioning, why
doesn't she do this, or why doesn't he do that
for me? And why like I thought, he was always
going to be fun, but he now only wants to
stay home, or she only wants to care about whatever
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her friends, her TikTok. And it comes from that belief
that you needed something. Now, let me give you another one.
How many times have you heard someone say, save your money.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Now?
Speaker 1 (12:16):
The concept of saving the money is storing something of value. Now,
if you come from nothing, you've been taught to save money.
You've been taught that saving money means security. But even
that's just a perception.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
It's a belief system.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Because money this values tomorrow, the currency of your country
has as it happened in so many countries in the
world from one day to the next, is there's a
new government and the money this values and all of
a sudden you had fifteen dollars that are now worth
five cents. Every billionaire that you hear talk, every financial
expert that you hear talk, says, what keep your money
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in motion?
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Why?
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Because you're moving energy, because the consumption and the acquirement
of things is energy. Now, they are belief systems, and
the question comes down to the same thing.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
How many of these belief systems do you.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Have in your life that keep you from growing, that
stop you from reaching your true potential, which is not
this definition of success or this and the other that
we've heard. The true potential is that you open yourself
to the realm of possibilities. That is the secret of life,
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is that you are actually capable of becoming neo. You
can bend the universe however you see fit if you
believe that you can. But in order to believe that,
you need to change the core of who you think
you are and what you actually perceive as reality. And
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you might say, well, lex this sounds amazing, but it
also sounds so confusing. How do I actually start? How
do I actually get going? Here is my process in life.
I start by just working on the things that are
making me uncomfortable. So I might wake up in the morning,
I might get a phone call. That phone call just
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my body reacts, So I write that down. This person
doing this bothered me. I start figuring out why does
it bother me? Then I walk around and let's say
I'm in a meeting and somebody perceives something, somebody says
something to me, Yeah, I write it down. Maybe I
look in the mirror and I'm like, Then go to
the gym today, I write it down. Then I'm walking
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out and I'm like, God, I wish that the air
conditioning on my car worked better. I write it down.
And you might say, why are you writing these things down? Well,
because I'm perceiving them as my reality. And I'll use
the air conditioning as a perfect example. You may say
to yourself, oh, I wish this air was a lot colder.
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But is it a bl blessing as a curse? So
you have that, are you perceiving that to be a blessing?
Because it's a blessing that you have cars. Some people
don't have air in their car, and some people don't
even have a car. And the understanding of accepting that
and knowing that also to the same way that you're
accepting that you have that you can generally manifest the
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growth of another car. But until you are completely perceiving
that situation for what it is, you can't understand what
it is that you actually want. And that happens throughout
our days consistently, And that leads me to the point
of why we are bothered by other humans so much
and how that causes us so much stress on our
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daily life. Well, most of us think that we're right
or wrong, and the idea of fighting right or wrong
makes us one stand up for something. The question is
why do you feel the need to even stand up
for something? Why do you feel the need to have
to prove someone else wrong. Now that doesn't mean that
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you can't be passionate about something that you're building or
doing or creating, but it is the approach of why
you feel the need to fight back in a situation
like in a relationship where you're in a couple and
you know your wife or your husband say something, you
want to get into a fighting yourself.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
This is not going to work. You and I don't
see idle. I.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
You're perceiving the information that person is giving you, and
you're filtering it.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Through your perception, which is your.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Beliefs, and in those moments you need to check yourself
and say, are my beliefs correct? Can I change my perception?
And can I look at that? And it's not about
all but that's going to make that person right. No,
it's about the simple action that doing that in your
mind allows you to question, and in questioning it allows
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you to truly understand your truth.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
From the false.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
And based on that then you can change what you
like in comparison to what you love, what you need
in comparison to what you want. And trust me, life
gets a lot better when you're clear about what you want,
when you are only doing the things you love and
you don't like, and when you can clearly understand was.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Truth or false within yourself, in.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Order to put boundaries around your life, in order to
be able to manage situations with other people and other humans,
and in order to break yourself out of your own box.
I say, every single day of my life, we since
birth have created mental prisons through our perception of the
things that we are living. I was hearing Joe Dispenser
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the other day discussed that fifty percent of what you
remember actually didn't happen the way you remember. Your mind
took all the fragments of this information and process them
through memories and beliefs in order to hallucinate where you
build as your reality. Like think about how crazy that
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idea is, and now think about in your life. I
know I could personally think back of my life multiple
times in my childhood, multiple times in my life where
I've perceived something to be one way and it's actually
been a completely different thing. How many times have you
said something to someone or you call someone like, oh
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my god, I'm so excited to go here and I
can't wait. You called your whatever, your mom or your dad,
and because they are perceiving it a different way, they're like, no,
but you can't go.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
There, and you're like, wait, but this is good, this
is what.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
You wanted me to do. No, And then you get
into a whole argument and you're just like, what the heck?
She literally me told me that to go to college,
I get into the college I want, and now she's
saying I can't go to And it's just because that
person perceive something that is not real. It's all perception,
and that happens through every single day of our lives.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
You go to.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
Work every single day, and most people go to work
and are miserable because they're perceiving it as this is
not for me.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
And here's where.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
I conclude and come back to what I said at
the beginning. So many of our times we get challenged
or we start challenging ourselves to be better when we
perceive something to be negative, But then we perceive everything
else to be good, so we.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Don't challenge that.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
So if I'm going good in my job or I'm
making good money, I'm not gonna challenge it. I'm not
gonna like rough the feathers, as they say. If I'm
going good in my restaurant, I'm gonna rough the feathers.
But on the other end, when something bothers me, maybe
I feel fat because I saw my friend Ash, you
know she's so skinny, or he has a six pack
and I don't have a sex back, or oh I
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don't have money to go here, and they're going on
all these But what if it's the opposite. What if
all these things that you're perceiving in a negative way
are actually all positive. What if the job that you're
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in that you think is so miserable is there to
teach you discipline, And that's why it makes you miserable,
because you don't want to wake up out six in
the morning. But until you break the habit of not
waking up in six in the morning and having discipline
on yourself and understanding how to solve those problems, you
won't get to joy. How many times have you walked
into a restaurant and you've gotten a bad attitude from
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a person serving you. But how many times have you
walked into a restaurant and got in, Hi, how are you?
Oh my god, how's your day going? And you're like, wow,
I love this restaurant. I feel at home now. How
many times have you perceived something to be good? You
perceived your relationship to be per perfect.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I have the.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Best girlfriend, or I have the best boyfriend in the world.
They're like this, like this, and all of a sudden
you find out the boyfriend and the girlfriend was cheating,
or you are super happy and that person is miserable.
How many times have you perceived, oh my god, yes,
I'm killing it at my job. I have this money
and all this stuff, And you get into your very
expensive car and you go home, but you are alone,
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and there's someone who has way less money than you
that's enjoying their beer like it's their last beer because
that's actually all they can afford. And you have a
whole lot of liquor in your kitchen and you're miserable,
like this is the reality. There's wealthy people, very successful
people that are miserable. There's people that live in the
middle of the amazons who are happy and joyful because
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their life is exactly how they perceive it'll be. So
here's my challenge. Here is what I challenge you to
do today. You now understand that reality is perception at best,
is a hallucination of thoughts and ideas that you're perceiving
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through your belief system, through your trauma, through your fears
to be something they are. How do you change your perception?
Question your beliefs. I want you to write down a
set of beliefs that you think cause you to mark
something as right or wrong, and I want you to
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start challenging those I want you to look in the
mirror and start figuring out how to transform those areas
of your life by taking the red pill. Welcome to
the matrix. You're in it, not by choice, but by design.
Now the question is do you want to continue to
be the machines or do you want to be Neo
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and Morpheus and be the heroes of the film.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
The choice is yours.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Remember, we live in a world of infinite opportunities that's
left with nothing else but choices. Challenge yourself, redefined who
you are so you can love.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Everything that you do.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Everything And I'm saying everything again because I mean everything,
the tears, the fears, every area of your life.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Love it.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
If you can love it, you can define what you want.
You genuinely don't need anything you want. What do you
want out of life? What do you want life to
give you? What do you want to design? You're in
the matrix. You can bend, you can fly, you can
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like dodge bullets. So if you have that level of superpower,
what do you want? Anything you want you can get.
You just got to set yourself free. And once you
understand how to love everything you do, you start understanding
what you actually want. Then you get the peace, Then
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you get the clarity. Then you get the opportunity to
look at the possibilities of decision making on life from
a place of wholeness, from a place of freedom from
a place that is whole, because the one thing that
I know about myself today is that I'm capable of
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doing anything and everything if I just defined what I
want and what I love. I hope this episode has
inspired you to look deeper and deeper into yourself. I
wanted to start these kind of conversations not as an
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opportunity only for you to follow my way of thinking,
but in hopes that my conversation is my truths lead
you to redefine yourself and your own truths, and therefore
start designing like an architect, the life of your dreams,
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the life you've been hoping for, the life that you've
been fighting for, the life that you know deep inside
of you, it's already here and you're more than capable
of achieving. I want to hear from you, guys. I
want to use this space as an intimate conversation between
you and I to share thoughts, to share ideas, to
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answer questions to the best of our abilities. Again, there
is no right or wrong here. I'm not here to
judge you. I'm not here to put you aside because
you don't think like I think. I'm just here to
conversate and talk to you about these ideas, so please
come and like and share. I'm looking forward to having
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these moments with you. This is actually been an amazing
time spent with you, and thank you for watching you
versus You. Thank you for supporting everything that we're doing here,
and I'm excited to continue our conversations. I'll see you
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What if even the negative part is the truth of
what needs to happen?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
What is reality?
Speaker 1 (00:06):
Reality is every billionaire that you hear talk, every financial
expert that you hear talks, says what and the truth
is that we all are that same being. The difference
is one simple thing. Can you have the courage to
look at yourself.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
In the mirror?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
And Welcome to another episode of You Versus You. This
segment I'm calling Intimate Talks. This is where I'm going
to share with you guys some thoughts, ideas and the
way that I see life, how I see success, how
I see career, love, and so many other things about
our everyday life that I would love to share with
you on my thoughts, ideas and honestly my pov on
(00:48):
how you can live a better life and ultimately win
the battle of you versus You. Now, I'm going to
start with some subjects, but the goal here is that
your comments, your questions get us going into a place
that I can always something that you're looking for. My
goal is to share ideas that can really help you
individually challenge yourself and ultimately get the solutions that you're
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looking for in life and better yourself with that said,
today I want to talk about the Matrix. We all
know the hit movie, We've all seen it, we all
know what it did for Keanu Reeves's career. But the
truth is that we are all living in the matrix.
And what does that mean.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Well, we all have this idea about reality, what is.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Actually happening in our lives, how we are perceiving that,
And because of that reality or this idea of reality
that we have, ninety nine percent of our problems come
from it. And I'll explain that in two ways. One,
the majority of the times that you are upset by
(01:51):
someone else's actions is because you're perceiving that person's actions
through what you think is your reality.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And do you live your life as it's meant to be?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Meaning this is who I am, this is what my
life is, and anything and anybody that challenges that is
fearful to me. So I'm not going to engage in that.
So I'm going to come into conflict with myself. I'm
going to come into conflict with somebody else. I'm going
to challenge them. I have a right to speak up,
I have a right to be myself. Now, have you
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truly ever asked yourself who you are? What does being
yourself actually mean? And how do you know that you're
being yourself? How do you know that that version of
yourself that you are perceiving and that you're interpreting is
the correct version of yourself? Why do I touch on
this well because so much of the U versus you
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battle is trying to define who you are and what
reality actually means. So if you remember, in the movie
Neo gets presented to options a red pill and a
blue pill. The blue pill was ignorance. In other words,
it's taking a pill that says, why am I going
to challenge the quote unquote reality that I'm living? Why
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am I going to challenge the things that I've been taught?
What am I going to challenge what my parents told
me was right or wrong? Why am I going to
challenge the way that society tells me I look good
or look cool? And now maybe there's some people that say, hey,
there's areas of my life that are such amazing blessings
because I have success, I'm handsome, I'm doing well here,
I have a wife, I have a husband, I have kids. Like,
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why would I challenge that when everything's going good and
other's people that have things going wrong in their lives,
and that ultimately triggers you to try to fix that
because you're like, no, this can't be. It can't be this.
My life can't be this disaster. It can't not have
a job, I cannot have this. So I have to
challenge it. And the real question is why does something
negative that you're perceiving has to be the trigger? What
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if even the negative part is the truth of what
needs to happen? And so what is reality perception? And
that's a mixture of two things, the things that are
happening around you that we sense, right. You smell when
somebody's cooking, you see when the ocean is in in
the ways, you can hear a train coming, you can
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touch this wooden table that I have in front of me.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
And the other one.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Is what you're actually perceiving. You see, all those things
that your senses just picked up could mean something for me,
could mean something different for someone else. So I can
smell somebody cooking something, and for you it might be like, Wow,
that's my favorite meal. It's a nice fish, And for
me it's like, oh, that tastes of fish. It's so disgusting.
I don't want it around me.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Now.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Your reality my reality are different. Your reality is your perception,
and your perception is your beliefs. And what we consistently
question on you versus you is whose beliefs are you living?
And can you challenge those beliefs to better who you
are every single day, even in the areas of your
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life that seem that they're perfect. See that's the red pill.
The red pill was Neo taking it and saying, I
actually want to know the truth of what's going on here,
And when he started to understand the matrix, he was
able to start bending it and breaking it by just
changing his mindset.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Of what he saw. The truth is, you.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Are a body, a mind of infinite possibilities. There is
humans that have accomplished things that we can't even dream of.
There's humans that we admire that are jumping up in
the air ten feet that are doing all these marvelous things,
that are changing the world with their mind and their inventions.
And the truth is that we all are that same being.
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The difference is some people's beliefs are different, and their
beliefs of their greatness and their capacity to push their
body allowed them to change their perception, and if they
change their perception, they changed their reality. Now, I recently
was watching the Dallas Cowboys documentary on Netflix and Jimmy Johnson,
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the coach of the Dallas Cowboys during their two Super Bowls,
he has something that I thought was incredible, and he said,
let your mind control your body, not your body, control
your mind. And I thought that was so great to
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tell a team of football players who were pushing their
body to the limit. Because the truth is, when they
push their bodies and they're in pain, is their mind
perceiving that moment as pain, perceiving that moment as suffering,
that makes them stop.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
But if their mind.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Pushes through the pain, through an injury, through everything, they
can push the team to become champions. They can push
their team to do plays that nobody else has done.
They can push them so else to become even bigger
and better.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Of a human being that they can be.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Well, those same possibilities that you've seen in football players,
that you see in athletes, that you see in people
like Ellen Musk, and you see in these geniuses of
our times is within you? Now, what the definition and
the result of that greatness that's on everybody's path in
their lives.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
But the possibilities of.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
What you can create and how you can change your
reality are very real to you. To do so, you
have to start looking in the mirror and you have
to make a choice.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
See, the one.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Part about life that is very true to our nature
is that we have endless possibilities. But with endless possibilities
comes the hardest part of being alive, which is every
single day is a set of choices, is a set
of decisions that have to be made in order for
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your path to go one way, to go to the other,
to go back, or to go front. And the majority
of us struggle to make those choices. So we enter
a loop, we enter the matrix. We start living the
same life every single day. We embark on the journey
of our morning. We drink our coffee, we go to work,
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we go home, we see our boyfriend or our girlfriend,
we go to sleep, we see ever. And that is
the routine and the routine, and the routine and the routine.
And maybe you challenge yourself one little bit over here,
maybe by going to the gym. So you start slowly
seeing some body change, But you're in the loop. But
this transformational change that you see and you hear people
talk about all the greats and the motivational speeches and
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all the greats in the health podcast business. What they're
telling you and what they're talking about is one simple thing.
Can you have the courage to look at yourself in
the mirror and challenge what you perceive to be reality?
And in doing that, can you start pinpointing the things
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of your life that are based on a belief system.
Let me give you one that is pretty relatable to
all of us.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Actually, i'll give you two.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Most of the world has been taught we must get married,
that we must find the love of your life.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
We have a whole.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Holiday called Valentine's Day around the idea that you have
to fall in love and that you have to find
a partner.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
In life in order to feel fulfilled.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
So you have a lot of women who have pressure
to find that in a time period because their maternal
clock is running out and they don't want to have
kids too late. And then you have guys who spend
their whole lives searching for the perfect women. And history
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shows that some of the biggest mistakes, some of the
biggest empires in the world have fallen because of love
because of a woman guiding a man the wrong way
and the man being completely devoted to this person in
order to make the wrong choice. Now you might say,
but yeah, but we all need connection, we all need
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to relate to someone.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
I agree.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
I think that's the beautiful part of sharing energy with someone.
What you don't actually need.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Is love. What you need to do is love yourself.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
What you need to do is understand how to accept
every area of yourself. Because when you love yourself, when
you're so comfortable with yourself, you start understanding what you
actually want. See that separation there need I need to
find a girlfriend, I need to get married before I
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need to I want Now of us go through life
chasing what we need. We go and we let our
friends or you know, society influences to buy it back
and I'm like, God, I need that bag, like I
need that mess bag or I need that rolllex. Then
you buy it, you feel unfulfilled because it wasn't generally
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what you want, it wasn't generally what you love. And
so when you learn to love yourself and change the
belief that you need someone else, what happens is you
get clarity, and that clarity allows you to understand what
you want and when you want. And you understand what
you want, then you can attract that and then you
start feeling the connection with someone. I know so many people,
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including myself, that have asked the universe for something or someone.
Then that person walks in your life and you're questioning
every day if that's the right person. You're questioning, why
doesn't she do this, or why doesn't he do that
for me? And why like I thought, he was always
going to be fun, but he now only wants to
stay home, or she only wants to care about whatever
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her friends, her TikTok. And it comes from that belief
that you needed something. Now, let me give you another one.
How many times have you heard someone say, save your money.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Now?
Speaker 1 (12:16):
The concept of saving the money is storing something of value. Now,
if you come from nothing, you've been taught to save money.
You've been taught that saving money means security. But even
that's just a perception.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
It's a belief system.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Because money this values tomorrow, the currency of your country
has as it happened in so many countries in the
world from one day to the next, is there's a
new government and the money this values and all of
a sudden you had fifteen dollars that are now worth
five cents. Every billionaire that you hear talk, every financial
expert that you hear talk, says, what keep your money
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in motion?
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Why?
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Because you're moving energy, because the consumption and the acquirement
of things is energy. Now, they are belief systems, and
the question comes down to the same thing.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
How many of these belief systems do you.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Have in your life that keep you from growing, that
stop you from reaching your true potential, which is not
this definition of success or this and the other that
we've heard. The true potential is that you open yourself
to the realm of possibilities. That is the secret of life,
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is that you are actually capable of becoming neo. You
can bend the universe however you see fit if you
believe that you can. But in order to believe that,
you need to change the core of who you think
you are and what you actually perceive as reality. And
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you might say, well, lex this sounds amazing, but it
also sounds so confusing. How do I actually start? How
do I actually get going? Here is my process in life.
I start by just working on the things that are
making me uncomfortable. So I might wake up in the morning,
I might get a phone call. That phone call just
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my body reacts, So I write that down. This person
doing this bothered me. I start figuring out why does
it bother me? Then I walk around and let's say
I'm in a meeting and somebody perceives something, somebody says
something to me, Yeah, I write it down. Maybe I
look in the mirror and I'm like, Then go to
the gym today, I write it down. Then I'm walking
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out and I'm like, God, I wish that the air
conditioning on my car worked better. I write it down.
And you might say, why are you writing these things down? Well,
because I'm perceiving them as my reality. And I'll use
the air conditioning as a perfect example. You may say
to yourself, oh, I wish this air was a lot colder.
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But is it a bl blessing as a curse? So
you have that, are you perceiving that to be a blessing?
Because it's a blessing that you have cars. Some people
don't have air in their car, and some people don't
even have a car. And the understanding of accepting that
and knowing that also to the same way that you're
accepting that you have that you can generally manifest the
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growth of another car. But until you are completely perceiving
that situation for what it is, you can't understand what
it is that you actually want. And that happens throughout
our days consistently, And that leads me to the point
of why we are bothered by other humans so much
and how that causes us so much stress on our
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daily life. Well, most of us think that we're right
or wrong, and the idea of fighting right or wrong
makes us one stand up for something. The question is
why do you feel the need to even stand up
for something? Why do you feel the need to have
to prove someone else wrong. Now that doesn't mean that
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you can't be passionate about something that you're building or
doing or creating, but it is the approach of why
you feel the need to fight back in a situation
like in a relationship where you're in a couple and
you know your wife or your husband say something, you
want to get into a fighting yourself.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
This is not going to work. You and I don't
see idle. I.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
You're perceiving the information that person is giving you, and
you're filtering it.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Through your perception, which is your.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Beliefs, and in those moments you need to check yourself
and say, are my beliefs correct? Can I change my perception?
And can I look at that? And it's not about
all but that's going to make that person right. No,
it's about the simple action that doing that in your
mind allows you to question, and in questioning it allows
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you to truly understand your truth.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
From the false.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
And based on that then you can change what you
like in comparison to what you love, what you need
in comparison to what you want. And trust me, life
gets a lot better when you're clear about what you want,
when you are only doing the things you love and
you don't like, and when you can clearly understand was.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Truth or false within yourself, in.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Order to put boundaries around your life, in order to
be able to manage situations with other people and other humans,
and in order to break yourself out of your own box.
I say, every single day of my life, we since
birth have created mental prisons through our perception of the
things that we are living. I was hearing Joe Dispenser
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the other day discussed that fifty percent of what you
remember actually didn't happen the way you remember. Your mind
took all the fragments of this information and process them
through memories and beliefs in order to hallucinate where you
build as your reality. Like think about how crazy that
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idea is, and now think about in your life. I
know I could personally think back of my life multiple
times in my childhood, multiple times in my life where
I've perceived something to be one way and it's actually
been a completely different thing. How many times have you
said something to someone or you call someone like, oh
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my god, I'm so excited to go here and I
can't wait. You called your whatever, your mom or your dad,
and because they are perceiving it a different way, they're like, no,
but you can't go.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
There, and you're like, wait, but this is good, this
is what.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
You wanted me to do. No, And then you get
into a whole argument and you're just like, what the heck?
She literally me told me that to go to college,
I get into the college I want, and now she's
saying I can't go to And it's just because that
person perceive something that is not real. It's all perception,
and that happens through every single day of our lives.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
You go to.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
Work every single day, and most people go to work
and are miserable because they're perceiving it as this is
not for me.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
And here's where.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
I conclude and come back to what I said at
the beginning. So many of our times we get challenged
or we start challenging ourselves to be better when we
perceive something to be negative, But then we perceive everything
else to be good, so we.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Don't challenge that.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
So if I'm going good in my job or I'm
making good money, I'm not gonna challenge it. I'm not
gonna like rough the feathers, as they say. If I'm
going good in my restaurant, I'm gonna rough the feathers.
But on the other end, when something bothers me, maybe
I feel fat because I saw my friend Ash, you
know she's so skinny, or he has a six pack
and I don't have a sex back, or oh I
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don't have money to go here, and they're going on
all these But what if it's the opposite. What if
all these things that you're perceiving in a negative way
are actually all positive. What if the job that you're
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in that you think is so miserable is there to
teach you discipline, And that's why it makes you miserable,
because you don't want to wake up out six in
the morning. But until you break the habit of not
waking up in six in the morning and having discipline
on yourself and understanding how to solve those problems, you
won't get to joy. How many times have you walked
into a restaurant and you've gotten a bad attitude from
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a person serving you. But how many times have you
walked into a restaurant and got in, Hi, how are you?
Oh my god, how's your day going? And you're like, wow,
I love this restaurant. I feel at home now. How
many times have you perceived something to be good? You
perceived your relationship to be per perfect.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I have the.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Best girlfriend, or I have the best boyfriend in the world.
They're like this, like this, and all of a sudden
you find out the boyfriend and the girlfriend was cheating,
or you are super happy and that person is miserable.
How many times have you perceived, oh my god, yes,
I'm killing it at my job. I have this money
and all this stuff, And you get into your very
expensive car and you go home, but you are alone,
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and there's someone who has way less money than you
that's enjoying their beer like it's their last beer because
that's actually all they can afford. And you have a
whole lot of liquor in your kitchen and you're miserable,
like this is the reality. There's wealthy people, very successful
people that are miserable. There's people that live in the
middle of the amazons who are happy and joyful because
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their life is exactly how they perceive it'll be. So
here's my challenge. Here is what I challenge you to
do today. You now understand that reality is perception at best,
is a hallucination of thoughts and ideas that you're perceiving
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through your belief system, through your trauma, through your fears
to be something they are. How do you change your perception?
Question your beliefs. I want you to write down a
set of beliefs that you think cause you to mark
something as right or wrong, and I want you to
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start challenging those I want you to look in the
mirror and start figuring out how to transform those areas
of your life by taking the red pill. Welcome to
the matrix. You're in it, not by choice, but by design.
Now the question is do you want to continue to
be the machines or do you want to be Neo
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and Morpheus and be the heroes of the film.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
The choice is yours.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
Remember, we live in a world of infinite opportunities that's
left with nothing else but choices. Challenge yourself, redefined who
you are so you can love.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Everything that you do.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Everything And I'm saying everything again because I mean everything,
the tears, the fears, every area of your life.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Love it.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
If you can love it, you can define what you want.
You genuinely don't need anything you want. What do you
want out of life? What do you want life to
give you? What do you want to design? You're in
the matrix. You can bend, you can fly, you can
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like dodge bullets. So if you have that level of superpower,
what do you want? Anything you want you can get.
You just got to set yourself free. And once you
understand how to love everything you do, you start understanding
what you actually want. Then you get the peace, Then
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you get the clarity. Then you get the opportunity to
look at the possibilities of decision making on life from
a place of wholeness, from a place of freedom from
a place that is whole, because the one thing that
I know about myself today is that I'm capable of
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doing anything and everything if I just defined what I
want and what I love. I hope this episode has
inspired you to look deeper and deeper into yourself. I
wanted to start these kind of conversations not as an
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opportunity only for you to follow my way of thinking,
but in hopes that my conversation is my truths lead
you to redefine yourself and your own truths, and therefore
start designing like an architect, the life of your dreams,
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the life you've been hoping for, the life that you've
been fighting for, the life that you know deep inside
of you, it's already here and you're more than capable
of achieving. I want to hear from you, guys. I
want to use this space as an intimate conversation between
you and I to share thoughts, to share ideas, to
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answer questions to the best of our abilities. Again, there
is no right or wrong here. I'm not here to
judge you. I'm not here to put you aside because
you don't think like I think. I'm just here to
conversate and talk to you about these ideas, so please
come and like and share. I'm looking forward to having
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these moments with you. This is actually been an amazing
time spent with you, and thank you for watching you
versus You. Thank you for supporting everything that we're doing here,
and I'm excited to continue our conversations. I'll see you
next time. You Versus You as a production of Neon
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